Relentless | EP 6 | The Confidante
00:00 This is an I-Heart podcast, guaranteed human. Word travels fast within the Wisconsin gay community. Most people are connected by a few degrees of separation. Paul's arrest was big news. It was obviously very juicy gossip and people were talking about it because, first of all, it's a gay community. We're going to talk about stuff like that. And it is just such a crazy bonker story.
00:29 That's Matt Rolsey. he and Paul were mutuals. They would see each other at bars and like each other's Facebook posts. But they weren't particularly close. So when someone texted Matt a picture of Paul's mugshot, he was a little curious. I probably reached out to him shortly after I found out.
00:49 I did want to learn more about it. Matt messaged Paul asking what was going on. He didn't know what to expect, or if Paul could even reply. As far as he knew, Paul might still be in jail. To Matt's surprise, Paul responded. You see, after Paul's arrest, he got out of jail on $5,000 bond. Now, a month later, Paul was out in the world awaiting trial.
01:21 But he wasn't exactly Mr. Popular. So when Matt invited Paul over to his house, Paul gladly accepted. I was super shocked when he actually came over and just, immediately started telling me everything. Matt didn't know it at the time, but what Paul was about to tell him would change the course of this entire case. The thing is,
01:46 this is like very calculated, very sick. This is like they have either a lifetime movie or a true crime episode on something like that one of the two. It just doesn't, you didn't kill anybody. It's never going to make a podcast. I'm Andrea Gunning, and this is Betrayal, season six. Episode 6. Relentless.
02:24 Matt lives on a quiet street in Milwaukee with his husband and their dogs. Instead of asking Paul out for drinks, I just asked him to come over. By this point, Paul was pretty much blacklisted. Everyone knew what he'd done, and no one was giving him the time of day, except for Matt. So it made sense that Paul wanted to talk. The two of them set a date for a random way. Wednesday in February.
02:52 Hello. How are you doing? How are you? Paul made himself at home. He kicked off his shoes and took off his bomber jacket. Good to see you. Matt's two French bulldogs ran up and started playing with Paul. Hello. Hello? Hello? Would you like some wine? Sure. What kind of just peanut ratio? They opened the bottle Paul brought. Matt already had chips and salsa out on the kitchen island.
03:20 It was all very casual. Paul and Matt just stood around in the kitchen. Matt's husband Dave was there too to say hello. They were all sipping drinks, petting the dogs. And then, Paul cut to the chase. You just one thing. And I would tell the same thing to anyone. You have to prove to me you're not recording me.
03:43 I don't even know where my phone is. Good. And I usually have my Apple watch on, but I don't know where that is. Positive? It's upstairs. I do know where it is it is upstairs. And my phone is in my office. Okay.
03:57 This was true. Matt didn't have any of his devices on him. But what he did have were home security cameras in every room. Our security cameras, they're very visible. But I had no reason to think that he would tell me anything at all. He'd half expected Paul to not want to talk about his case. But within minutes, of getting to Matt's house, Paul started talking.
04:24 Long story short, I, fine, yeah, I made some mistakes. I did some things I shouldn't have done that were mean and manipulative, whatever you want to call it. And it's not that I'm like, I'm not proud of it. It's just like, you know, I kind of freaked out a little. And, you know, I wasn't going to say that over Messenger, because there's a narrative that I have to abide by over anything that's typed, okay?
04:57 Because I'm not pleading guilty. That's for fucking sure. Matt could not believe what he was hearing. Once he started spilling the beans, I was shocked. He could feel the presence of the camera in the corner of the room. Clearly, Paul didn't notice it. I didn't want him to realize what I was thinking, which was like, oh my God, this is major.
05:21 He doesn't realize what he's doing right now. Matt's husband excused himself, and Matt and Paul decided to settle in. They took their snacks and wine into the living room, and they sat down on the couch. Paul faced Matt, unaware of the camera filming behind him. Hey, wait, can I get it dark in here? I'll like some lights off.
05:46 That's too dark. Perfect. Do you want me to just tell you the whole story? The thing is, is this is like very calculated, very sick. This is like they have either a lifetime movie or a true crime episode on something like that, one of the two.
06:03 It just doesn't, you didn't kill anybody. It's never going to make a podcast episode. Maybe I wanted if I would have got away with all this. But I'm serious? Well, no, not literally. Because that's like extra great. No, I wouldn't tell me one. In the moment, Matt just played along.
06:21 The mindset I was in was just like, if he's going to tell me anything, I'm going to have to make him comfortable. But the whole night, Matt was thinking about the security camera in the corner of the room. Paul took Matt back to the very beginning. Long story short, I've known Carl since I was 20. When I met Carl, he was super overweight. That was before he got gastric sleeve surgery in 2020. You got gastric sleeve right? He did.
06:53 We did a whole transformation. There was a reason Paul brought up Carl's weight. It was why he'd rejected Carl when they first met. We were good friends and he liked me. But I wasn't into him like that at the time. In Paul's mind, Carl was strictly friend zoned. That was until 10 years later when Carl dropped 150 pounds. This was right around the time Paul's boyfriend Corey died,
07:21 and Carl broke up with Adam. The two of them were there for each other, and suddenly, Paul started to feel attracted to Carl. In the summer of 2022, they started hooking up. Before long, Paul wanted more. I was really, like, attracted to him. Like, we started fooling around. Went to a couple Cubs games, took a lot of pictures.
07:42 Then, fast forward, October, I told it. him, hey, I have feelings for you. What do you think about taking it to the next level? Like, are you interested in that? What are you looking for? Or whatever. By this point, Carl didn't want to date Paul. He told him he wanted to stay friends.
08:00 Obviously, I was like sad to hear that. But at the same time, I was like, well, okay, I can't hate you. This sounds like so far he's been very upfront. He was. No, and he didn't do any wrong. Paul was disappointed, but wasn't angry. He said he understood. Then, about a month later, something changed.
08:21 November 9th of 2022, I remember the date. I get this call from him, and he's like, yeah, like, I didn't want to, like, make you feel bad or anything, but, like, I need to get this conversation over with, but, like, I made it official with this other person. That person was Drew. I'm really sorry, but, like, I'm really sorry, but you're still like my best friend, you know, and then I just was crying.
08:49 Oh, yeah, that's true. I mean, when you have a impression on somebody, it is like the worst. I hate it. Yeah, no. It's not easy for anyone. The thing was, the mistake I made, well, series, but like I didn't give myself any kind of space or deal with it in a healthy way. Even though Carl didn't want to date, he was still invested in his friendship with Paul.
09:14 which made Paul feel like maybe he still had a chance. So I was like, I'm going to sabotage this like you would never believe. Phase one of his plan was keeping Carl busy, so he didn't have as much time to see Drew. I would like book up his calendar. And we did a lot of things together throughout November, December, or whatever. But as the months passed, Carl and Drew kept getting closer. I was just so irritated and I was like, well, okay, I'm not. going to like do everything I can to get in the way.
09:48 That's when Paul initiated phase two. This plan involved Carl's ex-boyfriend Adam. I knew that Adam was in jail. He was nervous for Adam to get out of jail in a couple months. So this is all going on November, December, 2022. And I knew, oh, it's only about three more months before Adam gets out of jail. Oh, he has a crazy ex-boyfriend. He's in the middle of developing a new relationship.
10:14 Is it crazy or is you should have mess? Oh, both a little bit. And I was like, well, okay, this is interesting. I might as well exploit the fact that he's getting out of jail in a couple months and figure out a way to derail this new relationship that Carl's in. And it'll be easy to, because I have like kind of a crazy memory where I remembered certain, like, intimate details of their relationship. I knew certain things to say over, like, text and things like that.
10:49 And I just, like, sent some messages where he totally thought Adam was trying to mess with the current relationship. He mentioned things like the Valentine's Day card, Adam sent Carl from jail, the story about Carl and Adam going to White Castle together, or even the infamous baseball hat. These were all things Carl told Paul in the months of, after his breakup. But the details were so small. Carl had forgotten he'd shared them. He could have never guessed
11:18 that they would become Paul's ammunition. My whole goal was I wanted to drive the new guy, like, so crazy. But meanwhile, I still hung out with them a lot. And, like, I acted totally nice, like, sociopathically. That does sound extra fucked out. It was.
11:36 Yes. But I was really good at it. I was like, like, you're so sweet. Like, you're so much nicer than, like, Adam and I even hung out with Drew when I won plenty of times and I like completely like just turn it off and put on the act and then I started getting to a point where I had smoothed their number both of their numbers and I would call like don't you're going to judge me I don't whatever I don't care but like I would call tow trucks plumbers locks miss I even call a limo
12:06 service but then I called an emergency vet so a pet ambulance showed up one night and then A pet ambulance? Whatever you want to call it? I've never even heard of a dog ambulance. How did you get a dog ambulance? I just told them to get them to come out or whatever. But that was just one call. Okay.
12:24 I tell you three dogs, they don't just come. Let me just get more intense, so I want to tell you. So then I hired six people. Okay, yeah, okay, let's talk about that. So, this is really crazy. So I had a network. Almost circle back to this. I had a team of a team of sick bitches.
12:46 So I paid people to do numerous things over the course of the eight months. Like I started the harassment pretty much right when Drew moved to Kenosha. It was six months into the relationship. They wanted to lie to themselves and fucking say that they aren't moving too fast even though they are. So. Well, I could give some insight into the name. I have real rage. Okay, yeah.
13:15 Sorry, I do. I wouldn't, like, if I could have kept doing shit, I would have, like, put Vizine in his fucking stir fry. Wait, what does that do? Kills you. Oh. How did you know that? I googled all that.
13:29 Oh, my God. But, like, because I just want to fucking kill him. You heard his tone of voice shift. when he started to talk about how much he hated Drew. Mm-hmm. It is a window to actual genuine hatred. Yeah, I mean, he was pounding the couch in rage. In between bouts of, like, laughing about it,
13:53 the way he's talking about this stuff, I just felt like he was absolutely out of control. The soundtrack to your October. From spooky podcasts and chilling playlists to non-stop Halloween radio and more. We have all the thrills and chills you're craving this season. Press Play. I'm Melissa Jeltson, and in my new podcast, what happened to her,
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16:55 I'm a journalist who covers the criminal legal system. And over my career, I've heard account after account of prosecutorial misconduct, story after story of injustice. But I've never heard a story quite like this. The more I kept reading that stuff, I thought, man, there's more red flags that just kept coming up over and over. We'll hypnotize him to strengthen that memory. So he went into a good france. I really didn't believe any of it was real.
17:29 And I was like, well, they're going to figure out this is not me. They're going to do their police job. Listen to examined the backfire effect on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts for wherever you get your podcasts. Matt invited Paul over. Curious, what Paul might tell him. But as the night went on, it became clear. The whole situation with Carl and Paul was so much darker than he'd ever imagined.
18:01 Paul was obsessed. And there was only one thing getting between him and Carl. Carl's new boyfriend, Drew. Why are you so mad at this guy? Because I just wanted Carl to myself. Okay. But don't be mad at this guy. I know, but he's so fucking ugly.
18:17 He never ever like him. No, not because he's ugly, but because of, like, Carl's. She's ugly and Carl has a fucking retarded decision. So anyways, but I'll go on. So then I hired people. Paul admitted he'd paid people to help him with the harassment. Remember that call to dispatch? The one where someone pretended to be Carl,
18:39 saying Drew was hurting the dogs. I'm just wondering if I could have a police. officer out to my address. My boyfriend was, like, caught hitting my dog. Paul had recruited someone to make that call, and the date of it was very intentional. I had someone who I know has a drug problem, and I then mowed them money on their anniversary, November 4th of 2023 when they had been dating for a year or whatever, because I was like, I don't want them to have fun. I don't want them to have fun. I don't want them to have a little. good animal show. I was like,
19:16 I want to ruin their day. Why do you know this guy? Just people have hooked up what's over the years. Okay. So I... This is getting a class here. As Paul continued with his story, he opened a fresh bag of chips.
19:31 So I called him and I'm like, can you make a false police report for me on a spoof number with a voice changer? How much should you pay them for this? It's probably a 50 bucks. Oh, that's so sad because he probably wanted the drugs, right? He wanted opioids. But I'm like, say that this is Carl Bryan.
19:51 My boyfriend, Andrew Condon, is choking my dogs and hitting my dogs and abusing them. And I want to remove from the property. This call became a smoking gun in the case against Adam because everyone thought it sounded just like him. Even Carl believed it was him. But the similarity between Adam's voice and the caller's voice, that was a total coincidence. Also, what I looked out with was the guy from Appleton that I told you about, the one that made the dogs report, has like the exact same voice as fucking Adam. On the police report or whatever, it sounded exactly the same as Adam's voice.
20:31 And Carl was like, that's Adam's voice. So I was like, oh, this is great. Carl totally buys this. Then Paul brought up an incident from September, 2023, when someone called Drew's work and made fake child abuse. allegations. I have a co-worker. If he was gay and he flirted with me, but I hung out with him for the sole purpose of like this shit. I hadn't come over, didn't even fool around with them, didn't do anything, didn't pay him. I had him do a call to Carl's boyfriend, Drew, his work, because he works for Quicktruth in Kenosha. His location is right next to a high school. So I had him pose and like
21:12 use a voice changer and pretend to be a parent. And I just had him say all this crazy stuff. Like, I'm just worried because one of your employees is here, you know, picks up my son after school and leaves in a red car and this is the license plate because I knew the license plate. So I had them do that and make a false claim. This incident tested Carl and Drew's relationship. But as you know, Drew's stuck by Carl.
21:38 They continued reporting incidents to the police and keeping a low profile. Paul was pissed. I didn't like the fact that they were trying to, like, just be happy boyfriends and get back to their life. I think that's the root of this whole situation. Yeah, exactly. But then I was just like, I'll be damned if they're going to, like, be happy. The harassment wasn't breaking up Carl and Drew. So Paul decided to up the ante.
22:04 This is when he started sending extortion messages. And eventually, messages that made it look like Carl was cheating on Drew. And by the way, in this next section, Paul refers to Drew only as Iowa, because that's where Drew's from. I wanted to paint the picture to Iowa, that Carl, the one I have a crush on, is cheating on him with not only me, but other people too. So, but then what did that do with your relationship or friendship with Carl? Oh, it actually got better because Iowa was believing all this stuff that I was doing. Wait, so how would that make your relationship with Carl then? Well, because he needed a shoulder to cry on because, you know, Iowa...
22:43 But wouldn't he put it together that you fabricated... No, because he was so brainwashed by that point that it was all at him because of certain things that I did in the past in certain, like, connections. Oh! So, then finally, where I fucked up, okay, and I'll admit I was stupid. For the very first time in this whole story... I paid one other person to make another report. that Drew was unhinged and intoxicated and had like a knife.
23:14 My boyfriend Andrew Condon has a knife. The police searched and like Drew was like naked and bed in the middle of the night. He had to work early and like I just got satisfaction out of the fact that they like came in and searched Drew and were like, Drew like we need to come out and search you. And like he was so mad and everything. And I was just like good. I'm ruining their night. There was a reason Paul chose that particular.
23:38 moment to take things further. I was mad that they had a good New Year's together. And I was just like, they don't deserve to be happy. By this point, Matt and Paul had been talking for an hour. It was like all of this was just everyday gossip to Paul. He laid back on the couch and let one of the dogs
23:58 curl up in his lap. He smiled and swirled his wine. Then, Matt decided to steer the conversation a bit more. So I feel guilty saying this, I've never been to therapy. But are you in therapy? Yeah. Okay.
24:13 Do you ever get a good therapist? Yeah, I mean, it's just like talking to you. You know, it's like talking to anyone. I can identify things about myself pretty well. It's just... Like it feels too strong for you to be able to overcome and do it. Yeah, and I have a disconnect where when I have, like, jealousy, I'm kind of sociopathic about it,
24:35 where it's like, it's just like any kind of moral compass or any kind of logic just sort of goes out the window where it's like if it was legal to shove glass into like his boyfriend's eyes or something or paralyzed him from the waist down. I would do it. And I would just be like, hey, Matt, let's get dinner. Let's go to St. Antina. It's where you want. And maybe not that bad, but like you get the point.
24:59 On the inside, Matt was stunned. But he kept his cool. He knew that was the only way to keep Paul talking. I understand it because I know you well and I don't want to be super well, but I get that we're like that part of your brain, which seems like if I'm going to be hurt, other people are going to be hurt. You're just all right.
25:20 So you explain that better than like anyone. Like if someone pisses me off on level one, I want to punish them on level six. Yeah, you don't want to be like your brain's not going to let that happen all, you know. If it was legal, I'd paralyzing. Would you paralyze him before you put glass in his eyes? I wouldn't kill him. The whole point of not killing him.
25:44 It's a big suffering. Yeah. Maybe you'd save that out loud in a mirror. Mm-hmm. And you'll be like, oh, man. I have to say, you were masterful. It was a delicate dance that you were doing, of keeping it casual, holding him to account
26:02 when you're like, well, I don't feel like that's right. Like, I'm never really exactly, fake with him. That's what was confusing to me too about why he would even tell me because I've never been particularly nice to him, but then he came in there, he was ready to tell me anyway. It's like he didn't comprehend the serious, serious shit he was in. Like did something wrong, I know. Right. And I know that you know that on paper, right? No, I know it emotionally, regardless of how I feel. Okay. I realize and I acknowledge that
26:36 someone doesn't deserve to pay the price just because they rejected me. I understand where that's hurtful. Thing is, you wanted this guy and you were hurting. And I was relentless because I couldn't accept the reality of his decision. I mean, Paul, let's say you didn't get caught. How long away it was advising, you know, like, how... That's what my mom said. Okay, but like...
27:04 So you told her, you know. Yeah. but I knew I had to stop but what I would have done if I wouldn't have been caught I would have figured out a different way to be Yeah, better way
27:16 Maybe if the technology thing was over I would have bought drugs or something and I would have like Crushed him up and put him in his car or like done something evil I would have taken it to every extent Right Right
27:30 Because that was relentless When it did your mom know about any of that before you got arrested Or did you just have to tell the phone? In the middle of their conversation, as Paul was confessing to serious crimes, he paused to take out his phone. He held out a photo for Matt to see. This is me and Carl at Michael's wedding. It's a cute picture.
27:57 Then Paul pulled up a photo of Drew. He's in the middle. Look at him. I still look better than he does. I mean, I'm not. saying I'm perfect and not. Regardless, why does it... So let's just say this guy was ugly as shit.
28:14 It doesn't matter what the reason is. You don't have to explain it. He likes that guy. Sorry. I'm not blaming you. It's just like, I don't know why you have this like, you have this like, like, itch to do it. Sorry. You're charged, like, felonies.
28:30 Like, you didn't mean me talking about how ugly this guy is. Fine. Fine. Fine. It had now been several hours, and Matt was reaching a breaking point. He was finally pushing back on Paul, and Paul took notice. You're making me feel worse because you're pointing out reality. I made mistakes, and I get it, but this is like you're like a yo-yo.
28:56 In between, like, the anger that I can see that you can't control. And then giving me the service is like, I understand. I still fucked up. But then... But I'm still not over the jealousy. But then you're like yo-yo back to being obsessive. Like, let me find pictures.
29:13 Yeah, because I can still feel both emotions at the same time. Yeah, it's true. Like, I believe you know it was wrong. Of course I do. But I also believe you don't care. I don't. Right.
29:25 Yeah, you want to know why I don't? You want to know why I don't? Because of the fact that... It's not like I've physically injured anyone. I psychologically bullied that. But who really cares? Because everything's so fucking great in his life. Because everything's just so peachy-king in his life.
29:44 It pisses me off that, oh, someone can just reject you, but, like, have things going well in their life and, like, be on a mentally good track and have a boyfriend that's mentally fucking healthy and blah, blah, blah, blah. It's like, I get really upset, and I just get really, no one's not happy for you. You know, you don't have to be.
30:07 My stepdad said something that really resonated with me. He's like, are you sorry for what you did? Or are you sorry that you got caught? I'm sorry that I got caught. I'm sorry for what I did. And I think you know that. The soundtrack to your October. From spooky podcasts and chilling playlists to non-stop Halloween radio and more.
31:05 We have all the thrills and chills you're craving this season. Press play. I'm Melissa Jeltson, and in my new podcast, what happened to her, I'm bringing you new stories and conversations every week. Stories about women whose deaths were too quickly ruled as suicide. She was starting to get worried and get scared for her safety. Stories of survival. The only difference between me and her, frankly, was a little bit of luck,
31:39 because by all rights, I should be dead. Cases that everyone else called closed. They can't convict her, right? Like, she has so much evidence. These stories all start in the same place, with a woman failed by a system that didn't believe her, that didn't protect her, that didn't see her. No child should ever experience that.
32:00 And we were babies. She did all of these brave things and came out and spoke about it, and he got a year. You never know who that devil is because he's wearing the disguise. Sometimes it's a police uniform. Listen to what happened to her on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Hamza. And I'm Martin.
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33:13 My name is Josie Duffy Rice. I'm a journalist who covers the criminal legal system. And over my career, I've heard account after account of prosecutorial misconduct, story after story of injustice. But I've never heard a story quite like this. The more I kept reading that stuff, I thought, man, there's more red flags that just kept coming up over and over. will hypnotize him to strengthen that memory. So he went into a good france.
33:47 I really didn't believe any of it was real. And I was like, well, they're going to figure out this is not me. They're going to do their police job. Listen to Examine the Backfire Effect on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. It was now after 10 p.m. Paul and Matt had been talking for nearly three hours. Matt remained on alert, perched on the edge of the couch, never taking his eyes off Paul. But Paul made himself comfortable. He was wrapped in a blanket, curled up with Matt's dog.
34:25 Matt turned the conversation to Paul's legal case. Let's break it down. The fact of the matter is you're charged with felonies. Paul had been charged with three counts of felony stalking. He also had a misdemeanor charge for making a false statement to police. Those charges meant he could face up to 11 years and three months in prison. The goal is to get him either drop down to misdemeanors or worst case. If I'm charged with this stuff, that it be a probationary thing. I'm sure you'll just get probation. Yeah, exactly.
35:02 Really honestly, probably what you need is probation. I don't see. I personally, I hope it's a long probation. Thanks Paul, you clearly need it Okay Like what else is gonna stop you I mean
35:18 No, I'm listening And again, I'm sympathizing I feel like you're looking down to me Well, I am not for three families Okay, but you don't have to like I'm not looking But you can tell me From an outsider looking at
35:34 Do you think it was horrible What I did? And that's fine if you do I don't really care But like do you think Let me answer it this way. If that happened to you, would you think it was horrible? Yeah, I'd want to kill him, you know?
35:49 Yeah, I get it. You would think it's horrible. So why are you asking me if I would think it was horrible? I was just asking. Of course it's horrible. Yeah. You know what I feel the most guilty, though, about now, and I'm being honest, this isn't live service.
36:04 What I actually feel really like was the most horrible thing that I did was the fact that I, the phone call about trying to get him in trouble at work is just horrible. He's referring to something he mentioned earlier. The call to Drew's job when he had someone make fake child abuse allegations to try to get Drew fired. I still feel bad about, like, to me, character-wise, like, I actually feel bad. Why bad, though? Like, what makes you feel bad about that? Because that's really fucked up, like, to try to get someone fired from their.
36:39 job. Not the fact that you were trying to terrorize parents that thought maybe their kids could be getting picked out. I probably went to like soccer practice two days later and forgot about it. So I don't really think. I don't have kids, but I can imagine. I hate kids anyway. What would you do if like I come over sometime? And like I bring like a side dish and like wine. And then all of a sudden like I have like in my little. like serene. She's like, you see like, Vizim. Well, we all know you're not going to let us see a syringe, which is also why I'll be pouring the drinks
37:20 and also any wine you bring over must be sealed. Oh my God. Because you're fucking crazy. I mean... As Paul spoke, he kept calmly petting one of Matt's dogs. Man, can I ever watch the dogs? Mm-hmm. I will put vising in you because you can't break my heart because you're a punk. I mean, a dog could break your heart.
37:53 I don't want you to fall off the couch, honey. You know, you're in good care. Oh, yes. He hugged the dog close and nuzzled his face. But suddenly, something pulled his focus. Oh, man, where's my phone? I don't know why. Is that going to be more evidence?
38:13 Evidence. Yeah. They probably got all they need. They probably get all they need. They probably get all they need before they talk to you. You're so mean. Oh, my God. I mean...
38:24 You really think I'm, like, terrible. But I can tell you think I'm bad. Oh. I know you do. Look at me when I see this? Yes. Oh. Anyone would think all this shit you did?
38:39 It wasn't good. At least we're all alive here. There was no Vizine. There was no. And look, that's legitimately positive. Yeah. I mean, we were a step away. Right.
38:56 If you didn't catch that, let me repeat it. Paul said they were a step away from Vizine being involved. Then, he immediately brushed it off as a joke. I asked Matt about this moment. The way that he speaks about Thysine, what do you make of that? It was one of the things that night that made it a lot more serious for me. And I don't know if that's something he'd actually do, but he brings it up multiple times and then laughed about it.
39:28 That part of the conversation, it was definitely put me on a higher alert and made me feel like, oh, this could be even more serious than all the stuff he was already doing. I would like super scared. At what point are you like this person just needs to get out of my house? For as scared as I was, I realized how valuable this could be for justice, and I was going to let him stay there for as long as he was willing to talk. But around the four-hour mark, the night began to wind down.
40:01 Either way, Matt, keep this conversation between us. I mean, what am I going to say that people don't rethink? Well, no, but this is actually serious because, like, do you, please do not. Keep this between us. Keep the things that I talk to about my whole case situation between us. Why is it like a thing that you have to, like, gossip about me? Someone we know got arrested and it is very juicy, Paul. If somebody you knew got arrested, you wouldn't just not talk about it.
40:34 Matt asked Paul. if someone asked him what they talked about, what should he say? Paul was prepared. I have a good answer. But will you lie, though? If this lie is believable. Yeah, it is.
40:51 You never met Russell. Yeah, you did. You did. I don't remember. I went. He didn't that job. How was this Russell person involved in the lie? Because he was one of the people I hired.
41:03 So you can say that Russell, because he's like into a lot of IT stuff, whatever, and without talking about any of the other stuff I told you, or people I hired without talking about any other details, just say, according to Paul, Russell spoofed his IP address. Wait, so am I, like, implicating somebody? I've already had someone else do that for me. I don't want to... Well, yeah, but you know what? No, but you're not implicating someone. You said that.
41:36 Yeah. You're not doing that. You're not saying you believe me. You could even, like, joke or you could even, like, talk shit. Like, you probably will. Hopefully the jury buys to that. Soon after this, Paul headed home. In the recording, you can see him walking away smiling.
41:52 As if this were the end of any other casual hang. We'll get together again soon. Yeah, for us, who else? What us better. Thanks for coming. Thanks. Night. As Paul left, Matt's husband Dave came upstairs.
42:14 Dave had no idea what had been discussed that night, what details Paul had shared. I was exhausted. I couldn't tell him. But Matt didn't need to because they had everything on video. Dave could watch the entire evening back. So when Matt went to bed... He stayed up all night watching the entire four and a half hours. And in watching the video, Dave,
42:39 could see that every moment of Matt and Paul's conversation was crystal clear. We have everything. On the next episode, the confession tape becomes evidence. Is this a real Paul with his mask off and I'm finally seeing him for the first time? But if you think Paul's crimes are over, you're wrong. Paul asked him, like, how much would you charge to kill someone? And Joseph said, so I told him, well, it would be. $200,000 in gold coin.
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