Dear Chelsea - Fangirling with Adam Scott

Episode Date: August 13, 2026

Adam Scott joins Chelsea to discuss his borderline-overboard fandom of Robert DeNiro, smoking in bars in the 90’s, and how to lock down your dream girl.  Then: A couple has never spent a night away from their kids. Online dating has destroyed one woman’s ability to flirt.  And a daughter wonders whether she should reconnect with her MAGA mom. * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at [e-mail] * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees.  This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all.  Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Yes. Yes. They are adorable. with arm and arm and arm. And I met them for the first time. My brother has been married for a few years, but I never met them. And because they were living elsewhere. It's been sort of an immigration nightmare situation, right?

Is that done? Yes, it is. That's amazing. So that's great. And they were lovely and so sweet. Yes, it's so nice to see my brother married with children. It's so sweet. He found the lid to his pot, Catherine.

Isn't that sweet? I know. I remember we did a minisode with him or we did an episode with him way back. in the day. And I think he had just started dating her maybe, or it was early days. Oh, yeah, yeah. Yeah. They told me some funny stories. And my sister lives right by them. So she's really helping out. And that's really cute. And I like, yeah, it's just one big happy family. Oh, I'm glad. Over at the handler household. Did you see, speaking of New York City, did you see this thing that Mom Donnie did to, like, help people meet their love? No. What did he do? So someone posted, like,

you know, Mom, Donnie's doing all this cool stuff, like, oh, Mom, Donnie, help with this and this and this, and this guy posted, like, I'm supposed to be having a date with the love of my life here at this library, da-da-da-da-da in Brooklyn. And so Mom Donnie not only responded to it, he, like, reposted it and he's like scheduling little cute events and stuff. That's really cute. He must have picked that up from my matchmaking online. He's copying you. Oh, he's always copying me. Mom Donnie's doing good things in New York City. I know. It's actually really exciting. Yes. I did the pivot podcast with Kara Swisher this week that I think airs tomorrow. And she does this thing at the end called predictions. And I predicted that Abdul Al-Sayed will win Michigan.

That's my prediction. That's my political prediction. And my also political prediction is that Mitch McConnell is dead. And I like the news that we got about, I don't know how this will be received, but who really gives a shit? That Brad Pitt is back on the sauce. I mean, I mean, honestly, if you quit drinking to get your family back and they don't come back, then why are you quitting drinking? And they remove your name? And seven years is the period. of time that we've spoken about at length that it's time to move into a new phase. And if I get one more thing on my fucking algorithm about this fucking lunar eclipse and this what the next 12 years of hell are going to be like and Pisces.

My algorithm is like you're walking into a fire pit of hell. It's actually saying you're walking away from it. But it's just so annoying all day long. I'm like, I can't hear anything more about these eclipses. It's just too much. I can hear about bad news and bad things coming. But like just shifting and all these tarot card readers. How did these even start coming up on my algorithm?

I blame Yamanika. It's because of me. It's witch talk. And Yomaniqa, because she's all about it, you know. Yeah. Are you guys? Also, by the way, if you haven't listened to what you're the problem with Yomaniqa, that's our latest. That's our latest offering here at the Dear Chelsea Network. We have a new podcast called You're the Problem with Yomaniqa.

So please support her and listen and download and subscribe. And she's so funny. fun. It she is, and it's such a fun podcast. I've actually really enjoying it, even though I have to listen to it. It's your job right now. It's Tango K. Eskucharlo. Yes. Okay, we are introducing a very special guest. You know him from Severance, Parks and Rec, party down, and more. And his new movie is The Whisper Man, which is out on Netflix now, which is fucking awesome. And has my other boyfriend in it, Robert De Niro. Please welcome Adam Scott. Are we good to go, Brad? Because I'm ready to rumble and Adam's ready to rumble. I sure am. Is this a good spot for it? Is this appropriate? It's not appropriate actually. We need you to take your hands off of that. Sorry. Okay, we live in a very sense, we're living during a very sensitive. We're actually living in a very desensitized time. We went from very sensitive to desensitized. Right, right. Everything's fine. It sure is. Your hair as usual looks magnificent. Are you happy with it?

I'm fine with it. I just watched, as long as you're fine with it. I just had the pleasure of watching him get his hair quaffed in my kitchen. So I liked that. Dry bar situation. It's just impressive to see a head of hair like this. I know you talk about your hair a lot. People ask you about your hair a lot. People ask me about my hair. Do you get self-conscious about it? You know, I'm just grateful at this age that I have hair. So I'm fine with it. Because if I'm talking about my hair, I don't have to talk about something else. Like the fact that you look so much like Tom Cruise? That's right. How does that make you feel? Did I look like Tom Cruise?

First of all, do you think? Do you think? Do you think? Do you think? I'm sorry, I started the sentence first. I think I think I look like Tom Cruise. Yes. You do?

Yes. Interesting. And do you? I mean, it's a huge compliment, first of all. I understand why people have said it. But people used to say it all the time, like a long time ago. and then it sort of stopped. So I wonder if there's an era of Tom Cruise

where we kind of like matched up for a couple of years. And I don't know. I don't know culturally why it happened at a particular time. But I would take it as a huge compliment. Yeah. Do you think that you and Tom Cruise have similar running styles? Well, I would hope so because he's like the best cinematic runner of all time. Yeah.

Is that what he's known for his run? He's known for his stunts, right? which include running. Yes, but he's also known for, like if you seem born on the 4th of July, remember that movie? Yeah. Like, he's known for his performances as well.

Well, right, right, right, of course. He's known for his acting. He's a good actor. He's known for a plethora of things. The thing about his running is that I don't think I've ever dedicated as much of myself to anything as he does to running.

Like, his running is like top-notch. Really? No one's ever, don't you think if you, his running in Mission Impossible movies, he is putting absolutely everything he has into those, uh, those runs. Well, he must, he probably, do you run on the side in real life? No. You only run in severance. That's right. Because that's pretty much the only time I've seen you run.

Oh, in your new movie The Whisper Man, you run also. Yes, I do. But that's different because in severance, it's really like, it's very, uh, it's always in the same space. You're always in a hallway, right? And it's a lot of it. We spend a lot of time shooting those sequences. So it's, and I don't like train for it or whatever, which I probably should. Yeah, and I feel like Tom Cruise is training.

Oh, 100%. Like he's probably got a running coach and a running style coach. Like to run so he doesn't look like an asshole. And you don't look like an asshole when you run either. Sounds like you were kind of saying I look like an asshole. I thought it was going to sound like that as well, which is why I followed it up with you saying that you're not bad at running. Didn't look like an asshole.

Well, I think that like his running, if he did the running that I do, he could do it and then work a full day after, no problem, whereas I'm like depleted and the like bananas and Gatorade after I do it. Right, right. Well, first of all, I want to congratulate you on your body of work, Adam. Thanks. You have a huge, it's a really impressive body of work. And you have a new movie, The Whisper Man, which has also, I want to talk about all the people that you've been working. working with lately. Yeah.

Because it's a pretty impressive roster. Thanks. On Severance, you get to work with Terturo. And these are people who I'm talking about only the people that have been legends for a long time. Never mind all of the other people we get to see you interact with. John Ture, Christopher Walkins in there, Patricia Arquette, all legendary people. And in this movie, you get to work with De Niro.

Yeah. And I know you've been around the block and you've worked with lots of cool people. What is it like on being on a regular. set and that is, you know, where you're the main character of a show and these people are supporting that, you know? It's not something I get used to. And I think that, I think it's different, like my kids have grown up now in Los Angeles and grown up around show business. So to them, I don't know how big of a deal, something like that is, kind of growing up adjacent to and all their

friend, some of their friends, parents are in showbiz and stuff. For me, I grew up in Northern California in a, in a small town where, I mean, it may as well have been in Milwaukee or something. Like, there's so, so disconnected from show business that, like, I kept my ambition to be an actor a secret till I was, like, 17 years old, because it was so embarrassing that I wanted to, you know, Like it sounded ridiculous, but it's all I thought about, all I cared about were like movies and movie stars and television and stuff. So someone like Robert De Niro and getting to be in this movie with him was so crazy because he's so fundamental to the reasons that I wanted to do this in the first place. So I guess the incredibly long answer to your simple question is it's still kind of blowing my mind. And Tataro and Patricia and Christopher Walken, it's still wild to me.

And I'm not, I don't think I'll ever get used to it. But don't you think at this point in your career you're more prepared for it than ever? Like if it had happened earlier in your career, do you think, first of all, I don't want you to get pigeonholed because you're, playing a widow. In Severance, you're a widow and in The Whisper Man, you're a widow. So we have to make sure that this doesn't become a recurring thing. It stops here. It stops here. It stops here. It stops here. It stops here at Dear Chelsea. That's right. So you play a widow in both of these movies. In this movie with De Niro, it's a fucking awesome thriller. You move back to the town where your wife is from. And De Niro is playing your father. Yeah. And there are a lot, I think there's a lot of, for me, as a viewer,

there are a lot of similarities in your ability. I guess it's your emotional availability that I'm impressed by as watching you. Because you are really like, I know the opening scene, which is very hard to get out of your mind from severance, you know, when you're sitting in that car and you're hysterically crying, and then you walk in and you see something shift. And that is also like, you know, I was just telling him how you feel when you watch it. Like as soon as you go up in that elevator, there's something that shifts from the viewer. So what you're doing is super compelling to even have that impact. And obviously the direction and everything involved in that really lends itself to transporting you to a different place. And I was telling you, it took me a while to get into Severance because it is such a different frequency that you're in when you watch that show.

So I'm very curious to see, like, to hear about how you handle that, like, emotional, kind of changing your presence in the scene. because of what you're playing, the character you're playing. Like, how does one tap into that? Like, how do you do that? Like, going from one to the other? Yes. Like, there's a different look in your eye, and there's a different way that you're walking slightly.

Is that all intentional? Yeah, I mean, it was, it took a lot of kind of trial and error, because, you know, when we were starting, the scripts were great, and it was this whole different world and everything. But then you're there, and we're kind of starting from scratch, and Ben was really kind of guiding us

to find this world and find the particular tone of this world, and it was a lot of experimenting and trying different stuff to see what would work. And when it came to my character, when we were kind of zeroing in on, it was important, because it's not like two characters.

It sort of is, but it is the same person. It's just two different sections of the same person. So it had to feel, like the same guy, but just like different versions. So for me, the biggest difference ended up being just like life experience. And so you go down in the elevator and it was almost like just scooping out life experience because one of them is 40-some odd years old and the other one's like for all intents and purposes like two and a half years old. You have a certain, you're, you know,

the severance procedure leaves you with. certain abilities and awareness about certain things. To understand that you're thirsty or that you have to go get a drink. Yeah, you know how to like, yeah, get yourself food or satiate or whatever. But they've never experienced sleep. They've never experienced, you know, the sky or whatever. So there's a bunch of, and your life experiences scooped out. So it was kind of like a math problem and going from one to the other and the elevator

ended up being, like you said, like there's something just behind the eyes that shifts because it's just a completely different life experience, a completely different kind of realm of awareness. And I sort of, just to try, always trying to kind of, you know, you try and make something personal. And so kind of a starting point for me was when we were starting out, I was just like, okay, maybe my, the iny is everything I like about myself. Like, sometimes I can be charming or personable or optimistic. Like if I'm in the right situation and I kind of can reflect back on how I behaved, I can sometimes feel that way.

And then the outy could be everything I have disdain for about myself, bad posture, kind of a pessimist, antisocial, you know, all those things that you are constantly pushing up against. and that character, that side of the character has sort of indulged himself in all of the things that that have kind of kept him from moving on from this horrible period. Anyway, I heard you on Amy Poller's podcast, Good Hang, where you were talking about the beginning state, like just all of the different things that you've worked on, all the big hits you've had. And you were talking about losing out that role to Michael C. Hall in six feet,

under. It was between him and Michael C. Hall, which I thought was a fascinating story. Great tidbit. And then watching Michael C. Hall have all that success was six feet under. And you guys were talking about one of the times you got really close to something big. And that you didn't make that and that you couldn't imagine ever being in that after seeing Michael C. Hall in it. And I would say the same thing to you about Severance. Like no one could play that role but you. And what you're saying about this lends itself to supporting all of that. Because this is, like, I wouldn't even imagine reading that script and understanding what was happening. Yeah, yeah.

Didn't you have to have a lot of conversations about it, or did you not? Well, when I first heard the idea, it was way before there was even a script around, Ben just kind of told me the idea about like, you go to work and you don't know who you are in the outside world, you only know what's there. And then when you leave work, you have no idea what you did at work. And I just thought that was such a cool idea. So I couldn't, I couldn't get that. It sounds like a really good Twilight Zone episode or something, you know. But yes, as we kind of dove in and got more and more detail about not only the circumstances of the procedure, but the company and the lore and all of that stuff, yes, it was constant questions.

And Dan Erickson, who created the show, was around and he could sort of explain things. And he has an answer for everything and just kind of thought everything through. So, yeah, it was a lot of his dent. It's a lot of information and everything that you see and hear on that show is there for a reason and has a lot, it has a story behind it. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it's pretty fascinating. It really makes you think.

Mm-hmm. It really makes you focus and it really makes you think. We were saying that this is one of the shows you have to watch and your phone really has to be away. Right. You can't be dittling. Yeah. You can't be dittling yourself and you can't be dittling your phone. Get Bell Pure Fiber Internet with Crave, Netflix, and Disney Plus from $94 a month.

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Yeah, I don't think she was an American Pie, but I still like that. Haven't looked it up. Haven't looked it up. She was prominent around the same time. Yeah. Then Mary Steenberg. Why are you guys talking to me? I'm worried.

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life. I mean, everyone has always amazing things to say about you. I know you a little bit, and you are definitely one of the good guys. That's the reputation you have. That's very, very nice of you say. So you and your family should be proud of yourself. Thank you. But when you're dealing with that kind of level of emotion, which you do in severance as well, but especially in The Whisper Man and you're dealing with that, like, what are you tapping into? I mean, the thing I thought was interesting about the script and kind of James Ashcroft, who directed it as something he was really interested in, too, is that this is a single dad who's kind of struggling. He wasn't the one, his wife was really the one who did the lion's share of parenting. And now here he is, and he's trying his best to connect with his son and provide for his son.

And he is, he's having a hard time. I mean, he's doing it, but it is a struggle. And in the midst of trying to do this right and figure out how to do this, his son disappears. So I thought that was interesting that it wasn't like some idyllic version of single parenthood. And then that you've seen a lot. I've seen a lot in movies where everything's great and perfect. Things couldn't be going better. And then this tragedy strikes.

Things are a bit of a struggle out of the gate. And so this horrible thing that happens couldn't have come at a worse time. You know, working with MJ with this kid who, this wonderful actor who played my son, was really wonderful. and he was so available. And being a parent, you know, especially working with someone who's 10 years old, I believe he was 10 years old when we made the movie. I miss that age so much with my kids. They're 19 and 17 now. So they're essentially adults.

So working with him and remembering what it was like to have, you know, 10 year old and an 8 year old or whatever was really, really, it was easy to kind of tap. into that and feel those kind of feelings and that anxiety and the constant worry you have for this kid. I mean, that never goes away, but at that age,

it's a particularly tender, tender time. It doesn't go away? No. You're always worried for your children. Oh my God. Every time my kids leave the house, it's like, oh my God,

it's embarrassing. It's like, be careful fucking driving. Like, Jesus Christ, don't, like, be late. Don't fucking drive 60 miles an hour down a neighbor. Like, don't just slow down and be careful. Don't look at your fun, you know, all that stuff. Do your kids respect you? Oh, my God.

No. That would be the worst thing to have kids that don't respect you. At all. Like, I did not respect my parents at all. Of course not. As soon as I met them, I'm like, uh-uh. Yeah. No thanks.

And the teenage years, like, I mean, I don't want, I would never want to put, I wouldn't, the karma that I'm due for the way I treated my parents would come full circle, that I was like, there's no way I can have children because it will just be hell. Oh my God. I was such an asshole. I remember my mom would, if I had like dirty dishes in the sink, she would ask me over and over again, do your dish, and I would just ignore it. She would bring the dishes into my room and put them on my bed,

and I would just take them, put them on the floor, and I wouldn't do it. Like, what an asshole. Yeah, that is an assort. What a shit. Do you have brothers and sisters? I had an older brother and sister, yeah. So you were the youngest. Yeah.

So yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, we're the worst ones. I'm the youngest of my family as well, yeah. How many brothers and sisters? Five, there's six of us all together. So I was number six. So nobody was even trying to get me to do dishes. They were like, just shut the fuck up for two seconds, please.

You have like a free pass. They were like, if you could just go in your room and be quiet for an hour, we're fine. We'll do your dishes for you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So how does your, what, tell me about parenting. I want to know, like, what has surprised you? What has surprised you about your wife becoming a mother? I know it's been a long time.

Or maybe what surprises you about your wife being a mother that you didn't know about her before you had children. Anything? I think that she's incredible and I don't think it's a surprise necessarily that she was, or is, I'm thinking about the kids being really little right now. How adept she was right out of the gate for being a parent and was really the person I followed. I really kind of looked to her to figure out how to do this. It's really hard. It's a lot of really, it's really complicated and hard, particularly as they get older. But I always had her as a role model for parenting, truly.

She took the lead in the beginning. Yeah, I mean, I guess it depends on what kind of aspect of it you're talking about. But yeah, I would always follow Naomi's lead. I think she is an incredible parent. And any, we have incredible, our kids are incredible people. And like I said, they're like grownups now. It's so crazy. And they are incredible people.

And I entirely credit her with that. I'm lucky that I grew up with great parents as well. But I'm consistently still just, blown away by what an incredible, incredible mother, she has been and still is. You think that's just being a female instinctually, like having a maternal instinct? I think that's part of it, but I think she's, she has a real emotional availability, really, really perceptive and intellectually, she's brilliant. And I think that really comes in handy, too.

Like she's always five steps ahead of all three of us. So I guess the next question is, does she respect you? That's a great question. Which we're going to need to ask her. You've got to get her in here to find out. How did you two meet? We met at Cat and a Fiddle. Do you remember that bar?

Oh, yes. On sunset? Yeah, of course. Where you could smoke outside. Yes, yeah. I used to go there with all the comedians, cat and the fiddle. Yeah. Totally.

After what club were? Well, there were all these, like, little clubs that weren't, like, the main clubs, like, comedy store and improv that were over on outside of town. Like, there was, like, mixed nuts, which was on Pico and LaBreya. But there was clubs over there, like, I forget some of the names of them, but there's always these small little rooms where you could go up. Yes, that's right. And then go.

Like more east. Uh-huh. Yeah, east into, like, yeah. Yeah, we met there because everyone smoked back then, and that was the best bar. You could go in and play darts, but you could go outside and smoke. People are smoking is back, by the way. I know. are smoking. I can't believe it.

Dude, it's everywhere. I just don't understand. It's like we've lost all information. Because the kids love the 90s. I know. Is that what it is? Well, here's the thing, is that vaping obviously took hold for a while, but then everyone came down so hard on vaping that all these kids were addicted to nicotine. They're like, okay, I guess we can't vape anymore. May as well just go to the source. Right. And it looks cooler. So let's just start smoking.

it's crazy. You're right. It's everywhere. Were you ever a smoker? Yeah, of course. Of course. I've done everything. Oh my God. It was the best. But yeah, I don't smoke anymore because I'm too old to smoke. Like it's cool. You know, in Europe once in a while I'll have a cigarette because I don't believe you can get cancer there. And if I'm on vacation and other people are smoking or figure, you know, okay. But I never go, I don't smoke here. I would just, I just find cigarettes to be gross in the way that you should have. I think probably were similar ages. Okay, so back to how you met your wife. Did you just throw in a piece of nicotine gum while we're talking about nicotine, by the way? Okay.

Yeah. Just wanted to clock that. I haven't smoked a cigarette probably in 12 years or something. Okay, so you were a smoker too. I sure was. I loved it. Yeah. Oh, my God.

An actor in the 90s in Los Angeles. I can see it. Yes. What else would you do? You run your fingers through your hair and smoke a cigarette and deliberate and deliberate over how you're going to deliver a scene. You should see my headshots from like 1995. Oh, I can only imagine.

I mean, I auditioned for all the scream movies and I know what you did, all that stuff I was here trying to, you know, get something. Yeah. And so it was that whole skeet-or-rich and that whole era of like actors. Yeah, we had Dave Franco on recently who was telling us that you were together

when you guys met the Pope. Yeah. Yeah. Isn't that crazy? Yeah, it's crazy. one of those Pope trips? No, he hasn't requested me yet. You should meet the Pope.

Did you get requested? I mean, I got invited. I thought it was fake. That's a request. I guess. That's what Dave said too. He was like, I couldn't believe. We couldn't believe we were going to meet him.

It was strange, but, you know, whatever. Interesting. I'm more interested, though, in your wife and the cat and the fiddle. Cat and the fiddle. Okay, so we met at the cat and the fiddle. I saw her from across the bar, that outside area. Remember that big fountain? Yeah, of course.

Yes. I was like, I want to meet her. And my friend, I was doing a play in the midst of doing a play. And the friend I was with in the play, he was like, I know her friend. And he was a Brit. And he walks over to his friend that they knew each other from the UK. And she introduces me to Naomi. And Naomi is like nice to meet you.

And then she's like, I have to go. And she just left because she. did not, she heard I was an actor and immediately was like, no way, and just left. Smart. Smart. But then I got my friend to talk to his friend and get them to come to the play we were in. It was down at the Taper, downtown, the Mark Taper Forum. And they came to that play, and it was on closing night.

And afterwards, there was like a closing night party, and that's where we started chatting. and we went to an after party at Amanda Donahoe's house. Do you remember that actor? Amanda Donahawk? Yeah, yeah. You would recognize her. And I don't know how it ended up at her house because she was not in the play.

But we were in the backyard and there was a golden retriever. And just the three of us sat there for like three hours just talking. The dog did not talk, but Naomi and I did. Thank you for that conversation. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And thank you to the last question. listeners and thanking you on their behalf for the clarification. No talking dogs.

The viewers and the listeners. This is also on Netflix so people can watch you and see your hair. Believe me, if the dog talked, that would have been the headline. Yeah. Well, that, yeah, exactly. Yeah, of course. I met my wife. And now you guys run a production company together.

You have a production company. You work together. Yep. How long have you guys been working together? We've been working together since like 2012, about. Wow. Yeah. It's been a while.

That's nice. Yeah. Right? Yeah. It's great. I mean, we did it sort of out of necessity. We made this series of specials for Adult Swim where we recreated opening credit sequences for 80s television shows, shot for shot. We made these opening credit sequences.

So, and I was directing them. She was producing them and we created it together. So we needed to come up with a company, and we came up with a name and did everything. And then it went really well working together because you never know how that's going to. It could be dicey. But it ended up being great. And so we just kept going and kept doing it. And we're now going on like over 10 years.

It's wild. Get Bell Pure Fiber Internet with Crave Netflix and Disney Plus from $94 a month. Price guaranteed for two years on internet with a two-year term and auto pay. Visit bell.ca for details and to check availability. Bell. Connection is everything. Hey, Portlandia fans. Carrie Brownstein and Fred Armisen here. You know us, or rather you know them, Tony and Candace, Nina and Lance, Spike, and yes, The Chicken. We've played a lot of iconic characters over the years, but today we're showing up as ourselves to tell you about Podlandia, AEO, rewatch, our brand new podcast. Each week, we'll revisit an episode of Portlandia from the very

beginning, breaking down the sketches, exploring the backstories of our most iconic characters, revisiting the Portland locations you know and love, and opening up about our creative process. How did any of this get made? Why do we think that was a good idea? We're ready to talk about it. And we'll also be joined by the people who helped bring it all to life. Guestrars, collaborators, and friends, including director Jonathan Chrysall, the mayor himself, Kyle McLaughlin, legendary musician Amy Mann, and many more. Kyle is going for it here. You fully improvised, not just words, but a song, a melody.

I thought he was going to write. I thought you were all going to write a song. I remember you thinking that. Listen to Podlandia. Ayo rewatch on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. On Solita, we share the messy stories of traveling alone as a woman. Your duolingo is not going to come back to you when a man is inside of you. Oh no. I'm Julie Pinero, and I travel by myself because it's a rare space where I can say yes without asking anyone else first.

I'm on a mission to reclaim the word solita, trading the pity for possibility. Every time I tried to be alone, I kept meeting people, and they were like, you smiled at us. Not a lot of people smile around here. I can wait four hours for the next bus, or this random dude is offering me a ride on his motorcycle. It's when you're alone that you're most receptive to the world as it is and not the lies you're sold about it. So whether you're a solo travel veteran or you're too nervous to book your first trip,

I hope you listen to Solita on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, this is Hayes-Davenport. And Sean Clements. We host the podcast Hollywood Handbook. Every episode we're trying to help our guests improve their careers by mainly focusing on how they can help us improve our careers. famously super accessible so you can easily jump into any of our 650 episodes and understand what's

going on. We recommend some of our recent episodes with Ben Stillard. The definition of what is a movie has kind of changed anywhere too, right? What do you think it is now? It's images and words being spoken, captured by some sort of technology. Danny McBride. He loves Nova. Oh, that's fantastic. And you make it on, you make your own. That's great. I call him Terro Reed. It's a good name. They're all named after cast members of American Pie. Yeah. Oh, gotcha. I call, I don't, I never looked up if she was in this, but I call him Leachie Sobieski. Yeah, I don't think she was an American Pie, but I still like that. Haven't looked it up. Haven't looked it up. She was prominent around the same time. Yeah. Then Mary Steenberg.

Why are you guys talking to me? I'm worried. Why are you talking so down to me that you think I don't understand your little play play game? I just really, I get it. I'm trying to set you up for success here. Listen to Hollywood Hand. book on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. So let me turn that question about parenting back to you. Yeah. Has there, what was the most surprising thing that you found out about yourself as a parent? You know, what's interesting is that when you, there's a weird, and it's all cliched.

Everything isn't going to say is a cliche because everything that, I know it always sounds cliche when people talk about parenting. but when you're raising kids, whatever age the kid is at, you are immediately start flashing back to memories when you were at that age and you start remembering things. And maybe it's part of a process

of just trying to empathize with the kids and trying to see the world through their eyes. But for whatever reason, I was kind of flashing back to everything in my life, growing up as a kid. And I'm glad that happened because it's good to be able to kind of see yourself through the, and you really kind of start to see whatever patterns you may not want to repeat with your

kids. In a parenting sense? Yeah. And I guess the thing, from thinking about what would surprise me, I guess, I mean, there's the cliched thing of you never knew you could love something. so much, which is totally true. I think that I've just been consistently surprised and sort of amazed at them and the people that they've become and the young woman and young man that they are now, because you don't have much perspective on it until you really have to step back because you know

you're in the midst of it. And so you don't see them. growing. It's just happening. And it's not until you look at a photo or whatever and really step back. And then to really step back and kind of see them as formed people now is something that never stops kind of amazing me. And if I take pride in anything, it's that. It's that they've, that they've turned out all right and turned out to be terrific people. Are they in the business? My daughter is an incredible actor in theater at school, and my son has no interest whatsoever. Yeah, I had a boyfriend who once described it as wondrous. He said the word wondrous, and I had never heard anyone use that word before in a sentence.

With the kids growing up and stuff, yeah. With regard to just having children and seeing these little versions of yourself. Yeah. And then seeing them kind of just gather all of the information and tools that life has to offer, some of which you provide. some that they get on their own independent of you and that they come together and they form their own opinions and then they become these little people with their own opinions. And sometimes those opinions are different than yours. And you're like, hey, wait, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, what's going on here? Yeah. So, and especially in a town like this, because raising kids in L.A.

cannot be easy. No. I mean, I'm, I don't, yeah, that's just seems like. Why do you say that? Just seems like it's too much industry, too much. Yeah. You know, I feel that way as an adult when I spend too much time in L.A. So I can only imagine as a parent how it must feel to have so much exposure. I mean, it's good to have the exposure because it kind of lessens your or mitigates your la la la about it, your attitude. But also at the same time, it's very rarefied. Yes. It's not really representative of the real world.

That's right. That's right. I wish, I mean, if you want to have a career in show business, I think it's beneficial to grow. up and show business because then it's completely demystified. Yeah. And because I'm still nervous around Robert De Niro or whoever. But if you grow up in it, like I would imagine if my daughter ends up wanting to pursue a career and show business, she's going to have a leg up, not because of being, you know, a nepo baby or whatever.

I think all of that is can only take you so far. If you're really, if you really want something that's going to last, you have to have the goods and the chops or whatever. And in many cases, you have to work even harder to put yourself. Yeah, that's true. Right. I know plenty of people that have had that. It's like, oh, they rejected because, oh, that's so-and-so's daughter.

We can't hire that person. You know, it's like there's, it's not like it's all sunshine and roses over in that department. Totally. But you at least are, once you're kind of there doing something, you're not going to be completely freaked out by everything. By the way, did you just hear my dog talk? My dog just talked.

What did he say? He just, it was a last. out snore, but he, I think there was a syllable in there. I believe so. I think he said, I can't. He can't with me. He's like, I can't. I think, I think so.

Enough from this guy. I think that's what he said. I got that vibe when I came in earlier. Yeah, yeah. Were you nervous when you did your scene with De Niro or had you had done anything with him prior to The Whisper Man? No, I was nervous the whole time. I did not get used to being around him at all.

Do you know him? I don't. I mean, I've, no. I don't know him. Have you met him? I fucking love him. I mean, I, I, it's the best. Who doesn't love Robert De Niro? I know. First of all, he's like 80 years old and he's got his shit together. Like, he's fucking chugging along in that movie. Yeah. Yeah, he shows some like physical. I was like, oh, look at him. I know, man. Pretty spry, like a spring chicken. Yeah. I just like his attitude. I like that he calls out bullshit all the time. And also- I like that he calls out Trump too.

Yeah, I love that. Who doesn't love that? I mean, it goes off. You know, we need more people doing that in his position. But yeah, I'm obsessed with Robert De Niro. I've found him. I've seen every single movie he's ever been in. And it's nice. I feel like we're in living during a time where he's more accessible than he was like in the 70s and 80s before, you know, because he was like, you know, actors like that were harder to see.

Yeah. And now they're more pervasive. Like they take on more jobs. The movies are TV. TV is the movies, that kind of thing. Yeah. So what, how did you handle your nerves with him? Well, just for some background.

I would cut pictures of Robert De Niro out of like Premier Magazine and put them in my locker. I had them on my wall in my bedroom. Tricky. I even, tricky is right. I even took a picture of him. Remember the tattoos in Cape Fear? I had a picture of him on the CD tray that came out of my CD player. So the hymn from Cape Fear would come out at you.

when the tray opened. I was like, people would be like, what are you doing? Like, you need to calm down about Robert, Robert De Niro. So I,

you know, when you're there with the person and they're talking to you and everything they're doing is so fundamental. Like, you know, like you said,

you've seen everything that he's done. So it's so strange to actually be there. And then have to, work and and not make a fool of yourself. Like, are you the type of person that wants him to respect you? Or are you trying to get him to like you?

Or are you the type of person that, like, wants to make him laugh? I'm, I just want to make sure the scenes are working and I'm doing my part there. That's it. That's it. Because everything else, it's Robert De Niro. He's one of the great actors that we've ever had. one of the greatest actors we've ever, ever had. So I'm not going to dance around and try and get him to like me.

It's way too intimidating to do that. In fact, there was one time when I was talking to Naomi on the phone, and I was like, hey, so I was thinking, I have this question about the Irishman, and I wanted to ask Bob about it. And I think tomorrow we're working together, I think I might find a chance to approach him. And there's this thing I've been wondering about.

And she's like, Adam, you are starring in a movie with him. You're not like an extra or you have one scene. You can ask him about the Irishman. What are you doing? I'm like, yeah, you're right. I'm in the thing with him. And so I did. I asked him about the Irishman and he was like, yeah, great.

And he's actually such a sweet, accessible person is what you come to find out. So it was lovely, but I never, ever got used to it. Well, you know, I know you did like podcasts on YouTube, like some other bands, right? Springsteen, did you do? We did that. We did U2, REM, Talking Heads, and Springsteen. So four of those. Yeah.

Because Robert Jenner would be a good subject matter for a podcast also. Oh, yeah, you're right. I mean, for film buffs, that people would love that. So, okay, out of those four bands, who is your, I just gave you your next podcast idea, you're welcome. Thank you. So out of those four bands, do you have a favorite out of? R.E.M. Really?

Yeah, they're my favorite. Out of all of them. Oh, yeah. Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Were you in a video with R.E.M? Yeah, I was an extra in a video of theirs. Oh, really?

We like one tick, like the chance to go be in the video on the radio, me and my friends, and drove down here and did that like in 1992, I believe. How many REM concerts have you been to? Man, a lot. I've saw them so many times. I think they're the best American band. Wow, that's quite an endorsement. I know.

Good. Right? Are you not a fan? You seem surprised that I'm not a not a fan. I just, they're not my. I love Springsteen. I love you too. I like R.E.M.

I've just never been like an Uber fan of R&M. But was the podcast? I mean, we're the generation that grew up with all those fans, right? Well, yeah. Springsteen I came into later in life because somebody took me to a Springsteen concert in Oslo, Norway. And I was like, what the fuck? Holy shit. It's incredible.

I cannot believe this man. He is the coolest of all time. He's another one, you know, who speaks up. And I love that. It's like all these old guys. The fact that his tour right now, he's going around and he's talking about. Have you seen him recently perform? I saw him like three years ago.

It was amazing. Yeah. He's like he's 75, I think now. 75. Yeah, 75. And he performs for three hours. And you two, you've seen a bunch, right? It's nice to see all these kind of old guys up there fucking rocking it out and like showing

people how it's done. Yeah. And also emblematic of. the fact that we obviously have access to medicines and treatments that we didn't many, many years ago. That these guys are like out there blowing it up and dancing. It's pretty cool. But when I remember seeing Bruce Springsteen for the first time, I've seen you two a bunch

of times. And talking heads, I love the talking heads. Yeah. I don't think I ever saw them in concert. I didn't either. Oh, you didn't? Well, they broke up like in like 1989 or something like that. So it was, no, I never did, unfortunately.

I've seen David Byrne though. He's incredible. Yeah, he's still kicking it. Yeah. He's kicking it around and he's having a resurgence. It's amazing. It's a great show to see him, see him perform, yeah. Yeah, yeah, that music is so evocative.

Like, Talking Head specifically takes you to a time. Totally. Like, Bruce Springsteen is like, you know, his library is so long. Yeah. And so is you too's that there's songs that hit you for certain times. But Talking Heads like takes you to the moment wherever you were when you heard that. Like mid-80s. And R-E-M, too.

R-E-M, for sure. I remember all of that. Get Bell Pure Fiber Internet with Crave Netflix and Disney Plus from $94 a month. Price guaranteed for two years on internet with a two-year term and auto pay credit. Visit bell.ca for details and to check availability. Bell, connection is everything. Hey, Portlandia fans. Carrie Brownstein and Fred Armisen here.

You know us or rather you know them. Tony and Candice, Nina and Lance, Spike and yes, the chicken. We've played a lot of iconic characters over the years, but today we're showing up as ourselves to tell you about podcast. AOL rewatch, our brand new podcast. Each week, we'll revisit an episode of Portlandia from the very beginning, breaking down the sketches, exploring the backstories of our most iconic characters, revisiting the Portland locations you know and love,

and opening up about our creative process. How did any of this get made? Why do we think that was a good idea? We're ready to talk about it. And we'll also be joined by the people who helped bring it all to life. Guest stars, collaborators, and friends, including director Jonathan Chrysler, the mayor himself, Kyle McLaugh. Jacqueline, legendary musician Amy Mann, and many more.

Kyle is going for it here. You fully improvised, not just words, but a song, a melody. I thought he was going to write. I thought you were going to write a song. I remember you thinking that. Listen to Podlandia. Ayo, rewatch on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, this is Hayes Davenport.

And Sean Clements. We host the podcast, Hollywood Handbook. Every episode we're trying to help our guests improve their careers by mainly focusing on how they can help us improve our careers. The show is famously super accessible so you can easily jump into any of our 650 episodes and understand what's going on. We recommend some of our recent episodes with Ben Stiller. The definition of what is a movie has kind of changed anywhere too, right?

What do you think it is now? It's images and words being spoken, captured by some sort of technology. Danny McBride. He loves Hove. Oh, that's fantastic. And you make it on, you make your own. That's great. I call him tarot read.

It's a good name. They're all named after cast members of American Pie. Yeah. Oh, gotcha. I call, I don't, I never looked up if she was in this, but I call him Leachie Sobieski. Yeah. I don't think she was an American Pie, but I still liked that. Haven't looked it up.

She was prominent around the same time. Yeah. Then Mary Steenbergin. Why are you guys talking to me? I'm worried. I'm worried. Why are you talking so down to me that you think I don't understand your little play, play game? I just really.

I get it. trying to set you up for success here. Listen to Hollywood Handbook on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. On Solita, we share the messy stories of traveling alone as a woman. Your duolingo is not going to come back to you when a man is inside of you. Oh, no. I'm Julie Pinheiro, and I travel by myself because it's a rare space where I can say yes without asking anyone else first. I'm on a mission to reclaim the word solita, trading the pity for possibility.

Every time I tried to be alone, I kept meeting people, and they were like, you smiled at us. Not a lot of people smile around here. I can wait four hours for the next bus, or this random dude is offering me a ride on his motorcycle. It's when you're alone that you're most receptive to the world as it is, and not the lies you're sold about it. So whether you're a solo travel veteran or you're too nervous to book your. your first trip. I hope you listen to Solita on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Are we ready for some callers? We're so ready. Okay, great. All right. Have you been to therapy out of them? You can wait on those because we'll have one that's just an

email. Oh, okay. We'll like save your hair like a couple more minutes. You could also put them on like this out of it. You don't want to ruin your cough. Don't think I hadn't already thought about it. one year. Well, this is just a quickie. This is our one drink question. B says, I'm trying to convince my best friends a couple to go on vacation to Mexico

with us this summer. The problem is they have not spent one night with both of them away from their kids. Their kids are seven and eight. They can afford a sitter. How do we convince them to take some time away being adults?

B. They're seven and eight? Seven and eight? And they've never been away from their kids? Oh my God. They have to do that. They have to. Yeah.

They have to. do. I think, you know what might help is if they find an example of someone that does that often. Like once a month, they take a couple days away from their kids or every few months or whatever it is and present it to them as, doesn't this look fun? Also, there's so much like information available to support the idea of taking breaks from your children makes you a better parent. Yes. I also think the kids want a break from their parents. Like, they love going and having a sit or come or grandma grandpa or whoever it is. It's fun and different. It's also just, it's just a good system and healthy, like, boundary to get into so that you're not, seven or eight years old, like, you're going

into, like, obviously their family is a codependent family. Like, you can't avoid being codependent with your family. That's just the way it works. But you want to teach these kids, you know, like some sort of independence and not have it go on to where they're 14 or 15 and they've never had a sleepover. I had a friend who had a 15-year-old who had never slept over somebody else's house. Apparently, like, sleepovers have kind of gone away, which makes me so smart.

About their kids, you know, getting molested, which is reasonable. But hopefully you can, I mean, that is a reasonable fear, but it's not, like, it shouldn't be your only thing, you know, you're driving for us. I mean, you can live a little. You can make, have people that are going to be with your kids that you know and trust.

Right. So it doesn't have to. Live a little. Get molested. Like, you can live a little. Get out there. Get out there. You're going to get out there at some point.

No, our kids did sleepovers all the time. And at some point, those kids are going to go to camp or whatever. Like, they have to get away from their parents. It doesn't sound like it's a good first step. I mean, yeah, just tell them it's a fully endorsed plan by all parties you spoke to. Yes, yes. Leave your kids for a week or whatever, a few days. That's right.

Well, Perry says online dating broke me. Dear Chelsea, big fan of the show, even bigger fan of Doug, I need some advice on how to push myself out of the habits I've developed from online dating. I'm 28 and I've been living in Montreal for 10 years. I've been technically single for about four and a half years, overcompensating for several years of serial monogamy. I love my life and I'm very fulfilled with my friendships and career. So after a long hiatus of single girl style dating, a long-term situation ship, and admittedly a fear of commitment, I've decided I'm officially ready to start looking for something serious. Here's the issue. I've been online dating since I was 16. Sorry, Mom and Dad. Oh, there's a whole generation of people just like you.

And it seriously impacted my ability to initiate interactions with people who interest me in person. I'm quite extroverted and I'm generally pretty good at going after what I want. This definitely comes through when I'm swiping and I never hesitate to ask someone to meet for drinks when a bit of interest has sparked. But if I meet someone out in the world, even if we're flirting, I have completely lost my nerve to take the next step of asking them for their number or to go on a date. I know this likely stems from a fear of rejection, which is a much bigger blow face-to-face than it is over the apps, not to mention that everyone I talk to on the apps has already shown interest before we start talking. But I want to open this door for myself, as natural chemistry is everything.

I'd love to be able to confidently ask people out when I meet them face-to-face. I love any advice you can give me. I've had a crush on a guy at my gym for months. And even though we're already chatting, I always get tongue-tied before I can take the next step, Perry. Oh, this is so fun. This is so fun. There's nothing like creating a new habit, first of all. Hi, how are you?

Hi. Nice to see you. I'm stunned to be here. Oh, well, we're happy you're here. This is our special guest, Adam Scott's here today. Hi. Hi. Nice to meet you.

How's it going? You didn't expect that. Yeah. Okay. First of all, this is the perfect way to start is to go up to this guy in the gym and say exactly what you said to us in a shorter way. Just to say, listen, I am trying to break my habit of only, online dating and actually working on my skill set about initiating. And so you can say yes or you can

say no, but I am just practicing right now. I've been noticing you for the last few months, however you want to phrase it, but use that guy as your first step in and use that storyline as your intro or entre or entry. I'm not sure which word I'm thinking of right now. But to get into this situation because you can form a new habit into like you know i people say 28 days i think it's like fewer than that i think you can really form new habits in six or seven times like i think if you really do something and you make yourself do it it's it's not that hard you're just you've just been trained online like you just kind of have to unlearn that behavior but it's really also empowering regardless of what the response is to go up to someone and say something like that and it's going to

become its own kind of intoxicating thing for you to do. Don't you think, Adam, I mean, you probably haven't experienced online dating ever because you've been with your wife. Isn't that crazy? But that's, consider yourself lucky. Well, most people, most marriages these days are, it's people who met online, right? And apps and stuff. I mean, I think if you went up to him and said what Chelsea just said, he would be so psyched. I mean, first of all, it would be so flattering. But secondly, it's so refreshing that someone would say something that would just be up front like that because everyone's hiding behind the apps these days. And keep that in mind. Like you're not the only person that's experiencing these like this app like dating lifestyle.

Everyone in your age and younger and older is also dealing with the same thing. So it's going to be refreshing for him too. And it really doesn't matter what anybody says. This is an exercise for you. even if he says no, I doubt he will, honestly, unless he's got a girlfriend or a wife or something, which, you know, then fine. But even if he does say no, who gives a shit? There's a, you know what I mean? Like, you're going to get used to the idea of, like, it's more about you empowering yourself and, like, making that move than about what is, like, the end game and the response that you get.

Yeah, that's all. Very good advice. I think I've just gotten into the habit of if I do take interest in someone in person, kind of, you know, laying the groundwork, but waiting for them to make that final move. That's lame because I used to be like that too, but it's like who, we don't have time for that. Yeah, who has that time? We're only here for a short period of time. Like, you got to go after what you want. And here's something that I always do that might help you. I always just think on behalf of all women when I'm doing something like that, when I'm being like, you know, like doing something that kind of scares me.

I'm like, I want all women to feel this way. I want to empower all women with the move that I'm making. So like think of all women when you do this. Like you're not just helping yourself. You're kind of setting an example for anyone who might see you do it, even though I'm sure you don't want an audience. You know, like it just kind of think about it as like an energetic vibe that you're setting the tone for. And that you're kind of helping other people like level up to the moment too.

And, you know, think about like going up to people. That's just a stronger move anyway than hiding behind a screen. I think that's such great advice. And going into it. thinking if he says no or who gives a shit that's not the point of it the point of it is to just inject yourself into the world a little more and whether this particular person has the reaction you want or not it it's not about that it's about you know the next one will you know it's about getting yourself out there and like chelsea said kind of shifting your habits a little bit yeah yeah

I think once, you know, if I get to the point where I reach two or three rejections and realize it's like really not as terrifying or as devastating as it sounds like it will be, I'll probably really settle into my comfort zone with it. But I think using that approach in general and just kind of being really upfront about wanting to get outside of the online dating space is a really good approach because I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling this way. No, you're definitely not. And also, I wanted to just tell you a quick story. I had this, what you're talking about. Like me, I was shy, which I'm sure hard for many people to believe. But I was in Whistler. This was many years ago.

And there was a group of guys sitting at a table. And I was with my friend's daughter. She was like 16 years old at the time. And it was just me and her. And there was a group of guys. And there was one guy that I was like, oh, this guy is cute. And then we got up from the table and we're leaving the restaurant. And I said to the 16-year-old girl, I'm like, that guy was cute.

And she goes, let's go back. And I'm like, no, I'm not doing that. I'm like, they know who I am. I'm not going back to a group of men and saying you. Yeah. And she goes, I'll do it. And so she went back. And she's like, oh, he's married.

And I was like, I can't believe a 16-year-old just did something that I should have been doing, you know? I was 40-something at the time. And I was like, I just remembered in that moment. I was like, no, next time I'm saying something. That's great. So. And remember, like, the ask is not like, hey, do you want to fall in love and get married? Right.

You want to grab coffee? Yeah. Totally. Yeah. The big fear isn't finding out that they're in relationships. I actually did find out that this guy was single and then it became scarier because I knew that a rejection, like, wouldn't be because he was married? Because that doesn't scare me. I'm not afraid of, you know, like finding out, oh, you know, he's already committed.

Like, that doesn't feel like a rejection, like being told, no, I'm not interested in you. So that kind of, as much as that seemed like it would be a step forward. forward kind of felt like a step back. But here's another thing about rejection. I think you should look at rejection. You just have to flip the switch of the way you're looking through things. Flip it upside down. Like, think about the opposite. Every rejection is closer to getting what you want. Right? That's true. Say you get rejected by five guys to meet the person that you're going to marry. Wouldn't you want to get there faster? Yeah. That's a good point. I mean, there are only so many people in Montreal. Yeah. There's a lot of people in Montreal. You're going to be fine. You're beautiful.

You have a great spirit. It's all. good. All good vibes. Spread the good vibes and do it. And report back. Let us know what happens. I will. I will. Absolutely. And you'll never know if you don't, if you don't ask, if you don't give a shot. That is very true. And yeah, if only we're in a place where I could have, you know, a glass of wine before. But it would be funny to have a glass of wine and then go to the gym just for the purpose of asking him out on a date. That's something I would do. I am certain that would really be be helpful for my appeal. Awesome.

Thank you, Perry. Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. Nice to meet you. Bye. Bye. That's cute. Cutey.

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Question mark. Dear Chelsea. I've been at war with myself since January 29th of this year. That was the day I blew up at my mother over the phone and called her a hypocrite and a fascist and said I never wanted to talk to her again. I'm 53 and my mother is 85. She's right or die maga and in complete denial of any facts provided by me or anyone else. She's so far in the cult, she doesn't think he lies, like at all. Oh my God.

During his first term, she kept a framed picture of Trump and Melania in her living room. She's never done that with any other president. She's largely steered clear of initiating political conversations with me, but it's hard to avoid discussing Trump when she asks how I've been because I'm so overwhelmed by all the terrible things he's doing. After the invasion of Minnesota and the killing of Renee Good and Alex Preti, I was sure Mom's position on Trump would have changed. In that final conversation, when I asked if she still supports him, she said, yes. I'm not proud of this, but I lost my shit. I told her she would have supported her Jewish neighbors being hauled away if she had lived in Germany in the 30s. I told her she would have supported Japanese internment camps.

Both events, we discussed at length when I was a child, with her stating how awful these were. Her values have shifted, and it's very hard to tolerate. In case, she's thinking she's lost her marbles. That's not the case. She's sharp as a tech. Now that a few months have passed, I think I've made a mistake. Yes, her position is hypocritical and immoral, but she's my 85-year-old mother who has maybe 10 years left on this earth.

As a mother, she's great, always loving and supportive. She's been a doting grandmother to my two kids. The war with myself is. Should I apologize and resume our relationship or do I continue to refuse to normalize her repugnant views? Either option feels terrible, but I don't want to lose these final years with her. Chelsea, what would you do in my position? Jeannie. Hi, Jeannie.

Hi. Hi. This is Adam Scott, our special guest. Hi. Oh, my gosh. Hi. How you doing? I'm okay.

Yeah. I feel for you. You're not alone at all. I mean, we get people calling in about this stuff all the time. I think what I've come to realize in the recent weeks is that I think you should treat her, even though she's got, she's with it mentally. You have to treat like MAGA people like they have mental illness. Like you have to think of it like a mental illness. They're part of a cult and they've been tricked.

Clearly they've been tricked. If she was teaching you about the Holocaust and Japanese internment camps, she's been tricked. just like all of these people have been tricked into thinking that this person cares about them. So even though it's so hard to compartmentalize that, I think you should just really think of it like, oh, she's a victim of a scheme, you know, like she's chosen, even though she has free will. Like, I mean, she has chosen to be in this group of people, but you have to look at it like it's mental illness. And you can't, you just have to because if you want this relationship with your mother, I completely understand. Why wouldn't you? You know, I think you just have to go to her. I don't know

that you have to apologize per se. I think you should go to her with like love and and be like, listen, you're really, you're old. You're my mother. I need to, I mean, you're not your old. You're going to tie. But, you know, like, I want us to spend time with each other. You've been a wonderful mother. I know we don't agree on this stuff. And I think it's the best thing we can do is just to not discuss it and really focus on just having a loving, caring relationship. and not bring up politics. And I know that's really hard right now, but I think you can do it because it's your mom. You know, you could talk about your family. You could talk about your kids. Do you have kids? Yes, I have two teenagers. Okay, great. So there's plenty to talk about, right?

Yes. You know what? Now that you framed it like that, like she's been tricked, like sometimes the elderly do get bamboozles. If I can, if I can look at her that way, I think I can manage to be calm. Yeah. Okay. And just not talk about it. I think that that's our only course of action. I know how tricky it is, though, because it's, I think back to like George W. Bush or Reagan or George Bush Sr.

And back to back then, I had friends that were Republicans back in those days. And it was so much simpler. It was a political. It was a disagreement. on politics. And so when people now are like, it's just, it's just a disagreement. Why is it such a big deal? It is different, though.

It's a disagreement about fundamental truths and about reality. So I know how, how this, how hard this is for you. And I'm sure it is so difficult to separate it from, because it's so ingrained in everything, because what all the MAGA followers have been duped into is so fundamental and is so wide-reaching. But I think what Chelsea said is exactly right. It's just a matter of zeroing in on the things that you can talk about and just focusing in on that. And it is true. She has been tricked.

And a lot of older folks have been, a lot of older folks who are. Omega have been kind of pulled into this thing and taken advantage of it. So you don't think I'll be compromising my values? No. No. Okay. It's your mother. It's your mom and she's older and she's not going to be around for a while.

I don't think you're compromising your values. I really respect that. You're asking that? Because I feel like I think about that stuff a lot too. It's like, oh, no, it's your mother. It's not like a guy you're dating. And you know what I mean? Yeah, yeah.

It's not like that. This is, you don't have a choice who your parents are. and this happened to your mother. This happened to your mother. That's how you have to think about it. This mental illness happened to her. So if she were mentally ill, how would you react to that?

You wouldn't cut off ties with her. You would be really supportive in every way you could be. You don't have to be supportive of her politics, but just be supportive of her as an individual and provide the love and caring and don't wait for her to get it because she's probably not going to get it.

There's not going to be anything that's going to happen. that's going to change her mind. Even when he goes down, she's still probably going to feel the same way. So don't like let go of that if you can and work on letting go of that. Like that's a good kind of mantra for you to like say let go of that.

Don't hold on to this hope. I have those feelings all the time about like these people. What are these people going to do when the emperor has no clothes? Obviously he has no clothes. We're watching it happen in real time. They're never going to get it. They're never going to say we were wrong. I mean, some people will, but most people are not going to say it. You know what I mean?

Yeah. I get that you're principled and I get that it's making you sick. It makes anyone who doesn't feel that way sick. You know, we're all dealing with this in our lives. But just focus on her being your mother and just think of her as really sick. So, because initially my impulse was to write, you know, a very educational letter and cite sources and give her the information about how these migrants are being treated. and just provide lots of evidence that maybe I could change her mind. But I think what you're saying is it's not worth it. There's nothing I can or anyone can say at this point. No. What Trump has tapped into is like a different part of the brain than logic and reasoning. Exactly.

It's fair. It's something totally else. It's like your amygdala. It's your fear of component. That's it. Everyone's like working off a fear. But just divorce yourself from the idea that she's going to ever get it. Don't waste your time. It's your time is probably better.

spent doing other things like showing up for the people in your life that do feel the same way you do and like doubling down on love and kindness for strangers and the people who are being affected by these terrible policies. That's what I try to focus on when I get really angry is like, okay, flip that anger into positivity. So I think, you know, I think you're going to be good and you're going to be happier if you just make nice with her and make peace with her. I think just pick up the phone, say, hey, mom, I regret losing my temper. I've been thinking about this for several months. And I do think I made a mistake.

I would like to just moving forward not talk about politics. Let's just focus on family and resume our relationship. Something like to that effect. I don't even know if you need to say that you made a mistake. I think you just say, I love you and I miss you. Yes. And can we just resume our relationship? Yeah. Be sweet and be funny if you can. Be like, I love you. I missed you. And like, you know, I don't know what your relationship is like, but be cute and short. I don't think you even get into the political stuff right now. If it comes up again, just say, hey, you know what? We don't agree on this. And like, I'm really focused on. I just want to spend as much quality time with you as possible. So let's talk about the kids or what's going on with you in your life. You know, that's not political. When it when the situation,

presents itself, then you can say something. But not prematurely. I don't want you to reactivate that. I think you just go in with love and that's hard to deny. I think that's smart. Okay, this helps so much. You don't even know how much sleep I've been losing. I'm sure.

It's horrible. So I really appreciate you. You know, Chelsea, you're so wise. I just, thank you. And Adam's not, oh my gosh, I can't believe I'm talking to you. Anyway, but thank you so much. And I'll let you get to your next caller. Thank you.

Jeannie. Nice to meet you. Hi, Jeannie. Okay. I will. All right. Bye. Bye.

Thank you. Oh, we really helped her. Yeah. You know, I feel like it all comes down to, I think the number one hat trick of Trump's is that, and it's fundamental that he turned the truth into a political position. He's convinced everyone that the truth is a far left radical political position. So when presented, like if she wrote up a bunch of evidence, like she said to you, it's just going to be seen as propaganda. Yes, exactly.

You know? Right. Right. But it's nice when people are really, not when they're tormented, but when you can really actually help them, you know, like come to a, because all you really need is on outside perspective, I believe, with any situation. You need someone who's not involved in your life to kind of give you some feedback. because no one else, you know, no one's going to steer you wrong unless you're completely a malevolent person trying to ruin people's lives. Okay, Adam, I love talking to you. I'm so glad you're here. Me too.

Oh, I got your DM. You asked me that you were like, I sent you a video. Yeah, it didn't play. I couldn't see what it said. I didn't even know I sent you a video. So that was news to me. It was probably telling you how great you were in severance or something. I do a lot of video messaging because I feel like I like to bring. that back. I feel like we've lost the art of that. But you guys can see Adam right here on Netflix. You can watch The Whisper Man with De Niro. And another one of my favorites, Michelle Mon-Anne is in it as well.

And Adam plays DeNiro's son in this movie. And Michael Keaton's in it too. And Michael Keaton's in it too. And Michael Keaton's in it. Oh, I don't want to give that away. I thought that was a giveaway. Is that a secret? Well, isn't it? I don't know. I guess it's not anymore. Okay. Well, Michael Keaton's in the movie too. Okay, there you go. I'm just so glad, Chelsea, because we've run into each other a bunch over the years and you're always so kind and so cool and funny and I'm a fan of yours regardless. So I'm glad we finally got to like sit down and chat. It was really great. Oh, likewise. I feel the same way about you. Thank you. Thanks, Adam. If you want advice from Chelsea, write in to Dear Chelsea Podcast at gmail.com.

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