Dear Chelsea - Good Grief with Sara Bareilles
Episode Date: September 10, 2026Sara Bareilles joins Chelsea to talk about transmissions from her muses, wondering if it’s crazy to write a song about Anderson Cooper, and how gratitude can come from grief. Then: A fling... with a bartender gets political. A musician sees too many open roads in front of her. And a daughter struggles with her grief over her father’s death - but can she find a way to celebrate his life? * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at DearChelseaPodcast@gmail.com * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees. This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all. Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Have you ever been there?
Prescott, Arizona?
No, is that a lake that you were on?
There is a lake up there.
Certainly wasn't the ocean, right?
No, no.
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Was it Lake America?
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Lake.
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Yeah.
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You don't have to do that either.
That's like having a newborn.
Yeah.
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No.
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Burrellas. Is that how am I saying appropriately? My mean last name.
are tricky. I just want to call everyone by their first name. I think that's, that's the agreement of
society. Yeah. We mostly do that. I know, but sometimes, I just feel like as an interviewer,
you really have to say everything right. Totally. You know, you really do. It's like a level of respect
and respectability. You know what I mean? I totally hear you. It's kind of how I feel about language.
I find myself to be a little bit of a, maybe you're like this. I'm a grammarian a little bit.
I don't, I get annoyed when people are lazy with language.
Uh-huh.
You know, not like I-L-Y or your I-M-O or stuff like that.
I don't care about that.
Shortcuts, but I don't like words that are like slippery into like slipping.
Like when people say anyways, I find that lazy.
Anyways.
With a Z.
It's like, where's the Z from?
And, you know, normal people are just like, why are you even listening to that?
Like, who cares?
Shut up, but I can't shut up about it.
I can't shut up about it.
The woman, I'm working on a new musical.
Her name's Meg Wallitzer, and she wrote this book called The Interestings,
and she is so exacting about her language, and it is so funny because I'm,
I wouldn't say I'm a grammarian.
I'm learning that term.
I love it, though.
She definitely is, and it's like, she'll be like, he said it, it was plural.
He said the word plural.
And he needs, we need that word to be singular.
And I'm just like, I have at it, man, go tell them.
But I don't think people care as much.
People don't care, and it's a really actually quite obnoxious quality to have to constantly be, like, irritated by that or correcting people is even more obnoxious.
So I try not to do that.
So I was dating a guy that used the term anyways a few times.
And then finally I was like, you got to, you got to put a pick in that.
Totally.
I'm like, just skip the word all together.
Like, just move on to the next thought.
We don't even need that.
We don't even need a conjoinder.
You're right.
It's not.
Okay.
I can't remember the last time I've heard the word conjoiner.
I don't even know if that's a word.
I love it.
Okay.
This is your new album, which is so beautiful.
You are so beautiful.
Like, your voice is magical.
Thank you so much.
Thank you.
And it's called good grief.
And it's about grief.
Yeah.
And there's a lot of grief in here.
Yes.
And it's, I listened to yesterday, I had, I got some annoying news.
And I went outside at like 4 o'clock in the afternoon.
I have my bedroom.
and just like put it on my phone and lay down.
And I listened to it.
And I just thought, wow, this is going to help so many people who are going through something.
And not only that, it's beautiful music because you always are producing beautiful music.
But this is your first studio album in seven years?
Yeah.
Yeah.
I haven't made anything since 2019.
That was the last time I was on tour as well.
Yeah.
I kind of average a long time between records.
I'm definitely not someone who I don't turn it right around.
And because I work in other mediums like that I work in theater and I've done some TV and stuff.
So it's like I am doing other projects as well.
But it just takes me a long time.
And when the pandemic hit, I just had nothing to say for a long time.
I just felt stunned.
I just couldn't.
And I was in such bad shape like mental health-wise and just so much.
And lost a friend in 2020 and then lost another friend two years ago.
And there was just so much grief.
I just didn't have anything to say about it.
And then I had a lot to say about it.
And then here we are.
So when you feel like you're ready to start writing, what happens?
Is it like an all-day thing?
Are you just to start vomiting out all of your ideas?
Is this?
It runs the gamut.
I would say that I'm not someone who has, like, there's lots of artists I know that
have like a very regimented practice where they're like I write from these like these are my
office hours kind of thing I'm not that way I'm just too lazy and want to do what I want to do
so I'm really more I respond to sort of feeling moved to write but I would say that this record
maybe more than any other record I've had prior was is full of like transmissions like I just I was
walking home from the grocery store and had you know my hands full of grocery bags and had to
put them down on the street and was like had to sing into my phone because there was like a song
arriving. That's very unusual for me. That's not my normal. There just was a lot of like communing
with something bigger than me for this for this record. Yeah. That's beautiful. Yeah. It felt it feels
right. It feels right for like the like the message of this record. It's like about very dear friends.
It's about infertility. It's about grief of country. It's about, you know, just lost like a
a lot of ache and trying to like thread in a little bit of hope as well. Mostly ache,
a little bit of hope. Well, also the conversation you had with Anderson Cooper, which was really
beautiful. You played him the song that you had written after you had seen the interview with him
Stephen Colbert. And Stephen Colbert was talking about his loss. Yes. Right. And so you wrote a song
based on watching that interview. Yes. I just listened to their podcast. I just listened to that
episode of Anderson's podcast.
And I was walking around Brooklyn, which is where I live.
And I was just so moved by how vivid the, I don't know, I was so moved by these two men
sharing in this really deep and intimate way and like seemingly not holding anything back
and talking about their grief.
I just thought it was really incredible.
And I didn't know that about Stephen's past that he lost his dad.
brothers in a plane crash and he was 10 years old and how much it changed their family dynamic
and changed his mother and I just his sharing about that was so and Anderson's talked a lot about
the loss in his life as well I just found that really moving so then I wrote them a song and then I was
like is this weird is this weird this might be weird I don't know but I and then I sent it to
them and they were both very gracious about it but I was like it might be a little weird
Well, you played it for Anderson and he was very emotional.
Very moved, yes, totally.
And Stephen also was really kind about it.
And I think they were both excited at the idea that some little ripple they put out turned into something else.
That like it's so interesting to think about how art moves like that, that a conversation can turn into a piece of music.
You know, it's just interesting.
Well, I did cry all the way through listening to your conversation with Anderson Cooper.
So I didn't write any songs about it.
I did.
It was very moving.
Yeah.
Tomorrow.
Yeah.
So what do you think now that you've written this record and on the subject of grief
and like getting through those two difficult situations, your most recent, you know,
your two friends who you just spoke about, what do you, like, what do you have to say about
grief that you didn't say in the songs, like on a personal level?
Oh, man.
I mean...
A lot of it's there.
But I guess what I would say is sort of like what the title encapsulates is that like I think I have always been a little bit afraid of grief and afraid of my own like sort of the dark corners.
Like I think it's not comfortable, you know, it's painful to go to those places.
But I have, of course I wish I had my friends again.
but I almost wouldn't change the experience of the loss in my life because it has changed me so much for the better.
And I am more of who I hope I will continue to become because of how painful the experience of losing them has been.
Does that make sense?
Like I wouldn't wish it on anybody, but like I don't know.
I'm just, I'm so grateful to have learned so much from the losing.
It's just like I've learned so much presence, so much ability to, it's just so clarifying.
Mortality is such an incredible teacher and watching friends, which I know we all have this in some capacity, friends or family, who have had to meet that edge that like we all pretend we're not going to get there, but we're all like walk in that way.
And to watch them like meet that edge of themselves with so much bravery.
I don't know. It's very, it's just, it's life-changing.
I can totally relate to what you're saying about finding gratitude in the dark.
To be in such a low place and to be able to be gracious and grateful for either whether it's the time that you had with a person or with the knowledge of the impact that they had on your life or vice versa.
But to find gratitude in those moments is kind of one of these skills.
I think as women especially, we start to realize that how that works and to, you know, instead of
fighting the pain, welcoming the pain and like bringing it in and treating yourself like not like a
fish that's swimming upstream, but that's turning and going with the current. Like these are the
circumstances and this is how I can level up. Yes. And meet this moment as like a strong,
powerful force. Yeah, totally. And I think that's, it's really meaningful, you know,
when you can talk about it in this way,
in a retrospective way,
after what you've experienced.
Because so many people get stuck in grief.
And we have so many people that call into this podcast about really heavy stuff.
And they get stuck with it.
And, you know, people lose their parents, of course.
And they can't get past that stuckness.
And so I think conversations like this are really helpful to understand,
You know, like, A, it's helpful to believe in everything.
You know what I mean?
Like, it's helpful to believe.
Yeah.
It's just like a higher vibration to believe.
Yes.
That, you know, once somebody's here and energy doesn't die, it just converts to something
else.
Totally.
You can't kill energy.
So somebody's going somewhere else.
Yeah.
But there's still, why not believe in all of the good stuff you can believe in?
Yeah.
I feel Andrea Gibson is this incredible poet.
And I was involved in this documentary about Andrea and their wife Meg called Come See Me in the Good Light.
And I have learned so much from Andrea.
Yeah.
And Andrea passed away a year and a half ago.
It is so special.
And one of the things that Andrea says is that to die is to be reincarnated in the people you love while they're still living.
And I just think it is so when I really reflect on that and I think about,
my best friends who are gone now.
And the number of times I am sort of living for them and in honor of them and because
of them like doing something that I think Gavin would want me to do or a way he might
have lived.
I just think that so we just, the reverberations are infinite.
And we just like the, our impact on this life is still here, you know, long after we,
after we go. I want to go back to what you said about the transmissions and sort of getting songs
as downloads. I know you said that doesn't happen a lot for you, but that is something you hear,
especially with musicians. I know Tori Amos has talked about that. A lot of different people have
talked about that. I was like, I sat down on the piano. It already existed and it came through me.
Do you think that has anything to do with sort of like gifts that your friends that past are sending
to you? Does it feel just like you're tapping into
some sort of universal intelligence, like, what does that feel like?
I like the tone of voice that you're using right now.
It's very sensual.
It's very radio-friendly.
Very radio-friendly.
It's such big.
It's very soothing.
I was like, oh, I got lost in your words.
I'm trying to lull you.
Yes.
I think that is my experience of music in general, that, like, my personal philosophy is
kind of just that it's not, it doesn't really belong to me or to,
We're just like the little portals that these ideas, these muses, they're just floating around
and they're looking for the open door.
I definitely feel that like there's been a couple of times, this one that I'm, there's
a song called Just a Kid that I wrote for my friend Chad.
And I'm like, it's hard for me to feel like that wasn't something he was kind of, it was
so immediate.
That's when I put the groceries bags down and started singing into my phone.
And I made a demo of this song and I sent it to his girlfriend who, you know,
who had taken care of him all through the last months of his life,
this wonderful woman.
I sent it to her and I was like,
this just came through.
I hope you like it.
It's about Chad, of course.
And she told me after the fact that I had sent it to her on their, like,
secret anniversary.
They had, like, one anniversary and then they had this other one that they were,
and she was like, are you going to figure out how to give me a gift today?
And, like, that's what happened.
I just, you know, coincidence.
yeah, sure, maybe, but also what if?
You know, like, isn't it more interesting and more fun to believe that there's all these,
the complexity and the layers of, like, who knows, there's magic?
There is, there is magic.
Yeah, there is magic.
And it's important, especially now in the, like, reality that we're all living in to remember that.
I think.
And that, you know, you got to look for it sometimes a little bit harder.
Yeah.
But you got married this year.
I did.
Last year.
Last year.
Yeah, October of last year.
How did that happen?
I met this guy, Joe Tippett, 10 years ago, and we like, yeah, 10 years in.
We just, it was funny because I'm 40.
You were together for 10 years?
Yeah.
10 years and then you got married.
And then we got married.
Oh, yeah.
It's a long engagement.
I know.
And we were engaged for like two and a half years, too.
I like a long engagement.
Yeah, I would get engaged just to be engaged.
Amen. Sure.
And then every year, my philosophy is you get engaged in every year.
every year you get re-engaged.
And so that there's always a wedding on the horizon.
Sure.
Great.
For me, I don't need the wedding.
I just want the constant re-up.
Yeah.
If you get renewed.
You know what I mean?
Yeah.
You get renewed.
Because then everybody's a little bit on their tippy chores more.
Is the contract getting extended?
Exactly.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So that way nobody gets too cozy.
Yeah, that's right.
That's right.
So how do you decide after 10 year?
Have you always wanted to be married?
You know, it's funny.
Is that like, okay, when I was,
when I was young, when I was like, I don't know, in my teens, I was like, I'm going to be married at 26 and start kids at 28. And then of course, life is like, doesn't do anything that you think it's going to do. And then I had this big career and this very fulfilling artistic life and frankly, relationships that like didn't make me think about getting married. And then...
That's funny. And then I was in this relationship with Joe.
And there was just something, which was hard.
Like it was hard one.
That's something we talked about at the wedding in our vows,
is that everything about our collaboration is like a hard one.
We like had to grow up for each other and we had to like really learn how to be partners.
Like I think I've been someone's girlfriend before, but I've never been someone's partner.
And now he's like my family.
And that feels really good.
But I don't, I didn't know.
I was like, do I need to get married?
Probably not.
But I had a great time at my wedding.
Do I need another one?
No, probably not.
I mean, whether we end up together or not.
I don't know.
It's impossible to know.
But like, it's really, I, as someone who's had so much anxiety in my life,
I can't believe that I stood in front of.
my friends and family and said, yes, I promise I'm going to be with you and did not have any
like subtle butterflies of like, maybe I shouldn't do that. Maybe I should leave. Maybe what if I
don't like it? You know, I just didn't have anything of that. You don't strike me as somebody,
have you worked out your anxiety? I am currently working out. Lexapro and I are in great shape.
I was going to say, you are giving ethereal.
Thank you.
Yeah.
Wouldn't you agree?
I agree.
I agree.
You're ethereal.
I did do a, I did a mask this one.
I'm talking about your spirit.
Okay.
Your spirit is ethereal.
Thank you.
You are.
You're like, you're a gift the way you're talking about your own music in such generous
ways is to hear an artist talk about their talent in such a generous way that it's, you know,
that you're a vessel.
And I love, I love to hear that, you know, it's nice.
It's nicer than hearing, I did that, I wrote that, I did this, I did this, you know.
So that's really refreshing.
So what did you guys do for your wedding?
Where'd you have it?
We got married upstate New York.
Yeah.
Had a little like dairy farm up there.
I could see that.
I could see that for sure.
And we sort of, it was beautiful.
It was so beautiful.
Yeah.
We just, it wasn't a huge wedding, but it was like 180 people or something like that.
That's big.
Yeah, it was big, but not like, you know, five.
I didn't have Madison Square Garden.
I didn't.
I don't know that many people.
But yeah, we...
How many people do we know?
That's a good...
I know.
If I invited everyone I knew,
I don't think it would be that many.
I mean, but we do know lots of people.
Like, I know lots and lots of people.
But don't you?
I mean, yeah, but would they expect to come to my wedding now?
No.
No.
You want them also?
No.
Yeah.
No.
But, yeah, it was great.
It was so...
It was so us.
It was just, my mom has.
It's actually the only con, this is like the only conversation I've ever had where I'm like,
you're making marriage sound very appealing.
Oh, I love this.
Like I'm like, this is wonderful.
This sounds like something fun I'd like to try.
I feel like if it's not, this is something I love about my husband, which is just like,
if it's not, it's our, it's ours to design.
You know what I mean?
Like, and if it doesn't, there's no like, this is how you do.
marriage, you just have to like figure it out. And it's like a, it's an investment in a long
form negotiation. It's like that's what we are. We're just like in collaboration trying to figure
out do we like our life right now together and what needs changing and do I like you. Some days,
the answer is no. But yeah, I'm so happy to say that I had a great time at the wedding. I couldn't
believe it. It's that you are surrounded with so much love. And.
so much like hope and optimism it's really sweet yeah that sounds really nice what do you think
what do you admire most about your husband i admire his sobriety he's been sober 10 years um and it's
something that i really guys met then well no no oh okay we were very drunk when we hooked up for the
first time i thought it was going to be annoying i thought his sobriety would be like
like a real problem.
Are you not sober?
I'm not sober and I love to drink.
Yes.
Me too.
And I thought I was going to have a real ish with that.
And it turns out it's like one of my favorite things about him.
I'm so proud of him.
Oh.
Yeah.
And he's also a very, you know, in terms of someone who's sober, like being around people
drinking, like he would never want to change someone's behavior or have somebody not drink
because he doesn't.
He's just really dedicated to.
his sobriety and I really appreciate that about him. So I really admire that. And I really admire
his passion. He's like voracious about everything, about art, about music, about theater, about
poetry. When I met him, I was like, oh, you're a dumb jock. Like, you're cute and you're, like,
I really want to have sex with you, but like you are a ding-dong. And he's one of the smartest
people I know. Politics. We had an hour-long conversation this morning about politics that just
went on and on. And I don't agree with him about everything either. And I really appreciate that.
It's just like, he really is himself. And I think it allows me to really be myself. And that
feels very safe. Are you into astrology at all? Yeah, but I don't know that much about it.
Me neither. Yeah. What are your, what's your son? I'm a Sagittarius. Okay. Okay. And he's a Pisces.
I'm a Pisces. Yeah. I don't know what it means. I think Pisces and Sagittarius, like, get along.
They do. They do. They do. Pice is.
in Scorpio, Pisces and Sagittarius.
I don't know.
I'm also Pisces.
Oh, you're both Pisces?
Oh, great.
And same signs tend to like each other, too?
I don't know.
Is it a Pisces thing?
Because I have a lot of Pisces in my family.
And none of us are similar to each other.
So it doesn't really track for me.
I'm the crying Pisces.
You are not the crying Pisces.
Is that somebody cries a lot?
Frequently.
Yeah.
Really?
Yeah.
I'm the crying Sagittarius.
Great.
Do you cry on?
Oh.
When was the last time you cried?
Maybe like the day before yesterday.
Do you remember what you were crying about?
Oh, yeah.
I was crying, first of all, from just fatigue.
I'm just tired.
I'm thankfully working a lot right now, but it is, it's a lot.
And then I was just crying.
I was having like a little grief spike.
A little grief spike.
There is a project I'm working on that,
is really exciting and I really thought it was going to look a certain way,
meaning that I would be like in it.
And it doesn't look like it's going to work that way.
And I'm just bummed.
I'm just grieving.
Oh.
I'm just grieving.
Because I want to have a baby.
And that's also not happening.
I was like it's hard.
And I've been trying for years and it's like hard.
And so there's just a little grief spike in a little moment.
I like calling in a grief spike because that is.
That is what it feels.
Like a wave.
Like a spike feels correct.
Yeah.
I definitely, I mean, I have them all the time.
But I mean, I cry about literally anything.
What do you want me to cry about?
I was trying to think of when the last time I cried was.
But I can't think of it.
But I know.
I cry from exhaustion usually.
Like I get so tired.
Like what you're saying, I totally relate to that where I'm like,
I have to do this.
And then you're like, why did I go out last night when I have all this to do?
You know.
Yeah. So stupid shit.
Yeah.
It more upsets me than real stuff because I feel like I have to be strong.
You know what I mean?
For others.
Totally.
Yeah.
Totally.
Yeah. Do you feel that way?
Yes.
And like the real, the truth is that in some way you do.
Like you are the center of a certain kind of solar system.
Like you are the centerpiece of something that is built around you.
And so there is a kind of expectation and pressure that comes with.
that that's just real. I mean, it's, we all have that to some degree in our lives. And
yeah, sometimes it gets overwhelming. I don't know. I relate to that.
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Yeah, sometimes the biggest news stories of the day are.
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Yes, but whether it's the latest with J-Lo and Ben,
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and there are always a plenty.
And so many new relationship titles, we have names and phrases
for different types of relationships these days.
Yeah, so I'll stay away from the trends.
I'm not exactly dating these days,
but listen to us on Amy and T.J.
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We do advice on this show.
We give advice.
So I want to ask you if it could be your best advice that you've been given or the worst advice you've been given.
Or it can be both.
Oh.
I don't know if it's someone who's given me this advice, but I think just telling the truth is the best advice I could.
give or receive. I just think you have to find a way to tell the truth in a like with kindness.
I love that. I totally agree with you. I couldn't. I just like, I really have no, I think there is a
level of integrity that comes with telling the truth too. And I really don't understand why so many
people have an issue with being front facing. I couldn't agree more. I have no patience for the,
for like lack of transparency. Yeah, it's a waste. Like your family rules that you
hosted the other day that I just reread them. I'm just like, oh, this is everything to me.
I've just like, this is, let me just lay it out for you the way it actually is. I loved that.
Oh, thank you. Yeah. My family loved it too.
I like, I just think that like, you know, conflict avoidance is such a, it's just a waste of
everyone's time and it's untrue. And when someone isn't true to you or telling the truth,
And you don't even have to know the person.
Like it's integrity to be truthful to a stranger, you know, who needs the truth in that moment or whatever's happening.
Like it's so intentionally kind.
Yes, I totally agree.
And it's so craven when people don't have the ability to be direct.
It feels very weak.
Yes.
Yes.
And it's just like we don't have time for that anymore, you know?
No, totally.
We don't have time for that.
Look at what happens when people just lie all the time.
time. Just look at it. Yeah, I'm not up for it. I don't want it. Have you ever had to get rid of
a toxic relationship? Yeah. In a conflict, like, in a, with a conflict. Yes, I have. I've had,
I mean, I've had professional relationships that have ended, but I've also had personal
relationships, not like even romantic ones, but those two. But yeah, I've had like friendships
that didn't, like, survive the growing up. Yeah.
And that of just being like, I have too many wonderful friends in my life to like continue to make space for, you know, something that doesn't have reciprocity in it.
Right.
Like being someone's friend, I think is an investment.
And like, like on both sides.
Like you have to just really care about the relationship.
And yeah, I've had some of those.
I didn't have any big blowups or anything,
but I did have like emails.
Yeah, right, right, right.
It's just interesting how we go through life
and at different times in our life
handle different things like that, you know,
because I was very explosive when I was younger.
Before I got therapy, you know, calmed the fuck down.
I just was always at a tent.
Yeah.
It was like, blah, blah, blah, blah.
And everything was a huge argument.
Right.
And like to learn how to be graceful
and to go with the flow
and even circling back to going with the flow with grief,
it's like stop resisting the reality of the situation.
If something isn't working,
it's more adults to just call it as you see it without the drama,
without the yelling.
You don't need to yell because the minute you're yelling,
you've lost control of the situation anyway.
You don't strike me as somebody who yells a lot.
Oh my God.
When Joe and I first were together,
we had these crazy arguments in a way where I was like,
I don't even, I don't never, I've never heard.
that sound come out of my mouth before.
Like yelling at each other and we had one, we had like maybe two arguments like that.
And after the second one, I was like, I'm never doing that again.
Whatever this is.
And I think we just had so much feeling for each other and no tools to communicate.
Thank God for our couple's therapist who like helped us eventually figure out like how to talk to each other.
When we would get tight.
It was like when we both got tight, we were fully defended and there was just like it,
was explosive, totally. But yeah, you learn how to navigate that. You're like, yeah, big feelings,
man. Yeah. Doesn't mean you have to like, you know, punch a wall or whatever. Yeah, I was,
I saw an ex-boyfriend recently and he was like, do you remember the fights we used to get into? I'm like,
I'm so embarrassed about our behavior together, you know, especially when you pair up with somebody
who's just toxic. And you're put toxic together. It's not one person's fault or the other. It's
the combo platter of you and whatever drugs we were using at that time. And I was like, I don't even want
to talk. He's like, do you remember? I'm like, don't. I just like, let's move on. We're past it. We're
friends. We moved on. Like, I don't even want to be reminded of that. And he's like, but it's funny now
because we're both so different. I'm like, it's still not funny. It's still so shameful.
Just to think that there's a version of you that could act that way. Yeah, totally.
You know, like the versions of ourselves, like, I think that's one of the most fun things about
growing up is like, and getting older is being able to like look at your younger self and be like,
Oh, you baby.
You're a little baby.
You're a little jealous baby.
Was the car late?
Did they not pick you up on time?
You're so upset.
You know, just like, yeah, things that, oh, God.
I mean, I was once, he was telling a story.
I lost my Envisaline once.
And I was flipping the fuck out about my Envisaline.
And he was like, you were stomping around the room.
And I did this with my one friend when we were in Bali once too
when I couldn't find my Envisaline.
Like, I had this attachment to it.
All right, Envisaline.
It's just crazy.
Like, what is wrong with me?
And first of all,
Envisaline is so annoying
because it's fucking invisible.
So you can always,
you always lose it.
And then you can,
it's in the name.
But as soon as he brought up the invisible,
I'm like, don't, don't, don't, don't,
not ready.
I'd rather have it just play.
Like, you know what I mean?
Like, when you go to heaven
or whatever the fuck happens, you know,
I'm going to choose to believe
that we get a nice recording
of all of our good deeds.
And a couple highlight reels, you know, about things that we, behaviors we were able to
overcome.
Yeah.
Overcome is a good word.
Yes.
Yes.
That.
I also feel like we have to be able to laugh at ourselves.
Like when we go, when we go berserk, like you have to be able to laugh at it because
it's so silly when you get a little, if you get a little, if you can laugh at it, that is
another thing that Joe actually does for me that I, you know.
It took me a while to like appreciate it.
But now he helps me laugh at myself and I am so much more relaxed because I can be really tight.
You know, just like, I'm type A.
I'm a control freak.
I have a lot going on.
And it's just really easy to get into this tight idea that like what I'm doing is really important and it's really, you know, and it's helpful to have a way to be like, but also, do you want an ice cream sandwich?
Like, you know, just also.
Yeah.
The world's not going to end.
Yeah, I like that.
I could use a little of that in my life.
It's painful.
I'll tell you it's painful at first when you're like, don't make fun of me right now.
Right. And then now I can really laugh at it.
Yeah.
And it's helpful.
Do you want me to make fun of you?
Yeah, I like it.
I can take that.
I like being made fun of.
Oh, I don't.
Yeah.
I'm not type A, I don't think.
So I think type A has an issue with that.
Yeah.
I'm type A for about an hour.
And then that's it.
And once I get my shit together, I'm like, all right, let's...
Oh, amazing.
I think so.
I don't really think I'm typing.
No, I don't think so.
I think you want to get shit done and like you...
But you're not like, oh, everything has to be the certain specific way.
No.
But if things...
And once I get annoyed, then I'm like...
And it's hard to pull me back.
I have a lot of feeling that like I probably know the right way to do everything.
I'm just like, right, let me do it.
See, I don't have that at all.
I'm like, please let someone else do it.
Oh, good.
Whatever I can farm out to other people, please.
Like, I don't think I could do anything the right way.
No, I need more of that.
That's funny.
Yeah.
Should we take some callers?
Let's do it.
Yeah.
Our first one is just a write-in.
Okay, great.
It's our one drink question.
So it's just a shorty.
Use your ex-pro for this, okay?
Yeah.
I already did, baby.
So Lucinda says, dear Chelsea, in my neighborhood, there's a bartender who I help out with bodily
needs from time to time when he's stressed at work.
But he's a Trump supporter.
And though I didn't know this at the beginning of our relationship, quote unquote, it has come
to light. Now I see every drop of coded language. As much as I try to parry, I must admit the tension
adds to the fun. That said, I have an opportunity to say things that might help him think more.
Should I continue my Trumpy trist, Lucinda? I don't know. I mean, I think if you can handle it,
you can handle it. I can't handle that. I wouldn't be able to handle that. I mean, if it's just sex,
I mean, it's just sex. I mean, why not? Men use women for sex all the time. I think that's fine.
I don't have a problem with that. And the Trump supporter, it's a lot. It's a
like, that's you call.
Yeah.
I mean, it's not for me.
Not in this moment.
No.
I would be a lot to forgive for me, too.
Also, I guess I wonder, is there, are there places where she's not saying what she thinks?
Because, like, if she can pinpoint places where, like, she's not showing up fully because
she knows that there's, like, divergence there, that would be something I would keep an eye on.
Like, she's keeping quiet on certain things.
Yeah.
But does it matter if that's not a relationship?
I don't know.
If you start hearing coded language, if she says that she's like, I don't know how you
unhear that.
You're just like, I don't know, I don't want to be around someone who's like, you know what
I mean?
It's almost like propaganda.
A little bit.
Yeah.
Yeah, that can permeate into your brain whether you're aware of it or not in that sense,
you mean?
Yeah.
It's like a boner killer for me to like if you would hear a man say derogatory things about
women or other people or what, like that just, I wouldn't be able to
be excited about that.
No.
No.
So, but it's a personal choice.
Exactly.
For you, like if you're fine with a, you know, go ahead.
Do I, would I do that?
No.
I can't fuck a Trump supporter.
That's just not on my, that's not on my jacket.
So we've got three would not do, but you do you.
You do you.
Would not do, you do you.
Yeah.
But have a great time.
See later.
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Hey there, everybody. Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes here from the Amy and T.J. podcast. Yes, we cover the biggest news stories of the day every day. But we also love diving into relationships and the conversations everyone seems to be having around them. Yeah, sometimes the biggest news stories of the day are about relationships, not secretly, but still openly rooting for J-Lo and Ben.
Yes, but whether it's the latest with Jailu and Ben or Taylor Swift and Travis Kelsey's in Dea and Tom Holland, or you know what?
Even those Love Island couples after the villa.
We are here to discuss all of life's relationship questions and there are always a plenty.
And so many new relationship titles, we have names and phrases for different types of relationships these days.
Yeah, so I'll stay away from the trends.
I'm not exactly dating these days, but listen to us on Amy and.
and TJ on the IHard Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your podcasts.
Dear honies, this is goodbye.
In February of 2024, celebrated illustrator and children's book author Patra Mather's and her husband Michael
mailed letters to dozens of friends and family members to let them know that they had died
by suicide.
By the time you get this letter, both Petra and I will be dead.
Next stop, Wonderland.
Patra and Michael were by all accounts, healthy, happy, and in love.
Why did they do it?
And what did it do to the people they left behind?
I would have given a million reasons to not leave this world had I known.
I keep coming back to I truly hope that Petro was a thousand percent on board with the plan.
Do you think of him as having killed her?
Yes, I do.
I hold Michael responsible for my mother's staff.
I'm Leon Nafok.
And I'm Alice Gregory.
Together we set out to interview everyone who got one of Patriot and Michael's letters
as one married couple trying to understand another.
Listen to Death of an Artist on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
On Big Lives, we take a single cultural icon.
People like Jane Fonda, George Michael, Richard Pryor.
And we pull apart the story behind the image.
And we do this by digging through the BBC's vast archive.
We're talking iconic moments in broadcast history.
I'm not just a boxer. I'm educating.
I can talk all week on millions of subjects.
And forgotten interviews that change how we see these giants of our culture.
Well, if changing the system from the ground up is revolutionary, then I'm revolutionary.
We're here for the messy, the brilliant, the human version of our heroes.
I mean, when I go on stage, I like to dress the slutty as possible
because it makes me dance better for some reason.
I'm Emmanuel Jochi.
I'm Kai Wright.
And this is Big Lives.
Listen to Big Lives on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get podcasts.
Our first caller today is Mandy.
So Mandy says, Dear Chelsea, a few years ago, my dad passed away fairly suddenly.
He had congestive heart failure that we always knew would take him one day.
But his weekly trips to the hospital, mostly as a result of insomnia and anxiety,
brought on a boy who cried wolf feel.
So when he was hospitalized for the final time and started to decline rapidly,
I had just landed in Maui for a family vacation and was in denial that the end was near.
I didn't make it home in time to say goodbye.
As a result, I have deep shame and guilt with the circumstances surrounding his death.
I talked to him multiple times a day when he was hospitalized and nearly every day prior to that.
He knew I loved him very much, but I get so upset thinking about him dying alone without the
comforts of my sister and me.
I'm hardly able to look at photos of him and definitely cannot watch videos of him or listen
to my saved voicemails from him without turning into an absolute.
mess, which is typically frowned upon when out in public. Thus, I generally compartmentalize my grief
and stuff it down, hardly ever allowing myself to think about him. My kids were five and eight
when he passed, and were definitely old enough to have a meaningful relationship with him.
I want to keep his memory alive and preserve the special moments they shared with him,
but I have a hard time seeing or hearing his voice and keeping my composure. Any advice is greatly
appreciated Mandy. Mandy. Mandy. And thank you guys for having me. This is our special guest, Sarah
Barbara Berlis.
Hi, Mandy.
Hi, Sarah.
Did I say that right?
It's so nice.
You did.
You nailed it.
Oh, honey, you have to forgive yourself.
You have to give yourself some grace.
The first thing that he would say to you is forgive yourself.
He does not want you to suffer in this way.
He doesn't.
I know this.
Nobody wants that for you.
And you're beating yourself up over something that you can't change and it happened.
And it's okay.
It's okay.
You have to start living with the light and spirit of.
of him and looking at videos and looking at photos. You have to bring him back into your life in that
loving way and you have to forgive yourself. Don't you guys agree? Absolutely. I couldn't agree.
Nobody wants you to suffer this way, certainly not your father. I also feel something that I have
learned about grief is that it must be witnessed. And in order for you to relate to
to the grief differently, you have to share it. And I think, take it or leave it, but I think you
should share it with your kids. And I think you should create a little ceremony and talk about your dad.
And you guys bring out a picture of him and put on his favorite music and just make your own
little ritual that holds space for the loss of him and the love of him, which are,
in equal measure.
And there is nothing you could have done differently, you know?
Like the choices that were made, were the choices that were made.
And there's no right or wrong there.
But I totally agree.
The forgiveness is first and then share that grief, baby.
Share it.
Because people can hold it with you and you'll feel closer to him and you'll feel closer to
yourself and to your kids and your family.
the more you just allow yourself to really feel it.
Yeah, I love that idea of doing that with your kids.
Absolutely.
And as soon as you start to let this out, and it's going to come out.
And it's going to be like a little bit much for you to handle.
And it's going to be beautiful also, you know,
and it's going to be a great lesson for your kids to see you deal with that
and let it happen.
And for them to also join you in that is going to be really good for.
the rest of their lives to see that you can work through something and difficult emotions
and you can share it and you don't have to bottle it up and you don't have to look away
and put the picture or the videos away because of your own guilt. Like there's no room for any guilt
here. Your father loves you and loves you. You know, so like invoke him in everything that you're
doing to honor him instead of pushing him away because he doesn't want that either. He wants to be
with you. So let him in. Totally. Thank you. I appreciate that. You guys, I didn't expect to come on here
and just, like, immediately start crying. So I apologize. That's okay. No, that's okay. Please don't apologize.
I think what you said is really beautiful. I think it can be right under the surface, even though,
like, obviously, you know, you're not crying every single day. It's been a few years, but like,
if it's right under the surface, then it is something to, like, work through. And set yourself
some times to like, okay, I'm going to have some quiet time. I have an hour tonight. And like, you know,
after you do the ceremony with your kids, like take some more times, maybe it's even once a week
to go through those voicemails and go through pictures and spend time with him. The other thing I would
recommend is the light between us, Laurel and Jackson. I think that would be a good book for you
to read because she talks about continuing the conversation with our loved ones after their past and
forgiveness that can happen undoing of guilt and shame after the person has passed.
And Sarah and I were just having a conversation.
So listen to this episode of the podcast because she was talking about transmission and with
her songwriting and her friend that had passed away.
And it's a really beautiful reminder when you read that book to ask for a sign from
your loved one like your dad.
Ask him for something that only you and him would know about.
And I promise you it will show up.
He will show up.
My sign with my mom is oranges when they're out of place.
I love that.
So, like, just ask for it.
And I promise you.
And then you, and then it becomes a living thing.
Like, you're pushing him away.
Bring him back, you know?
And you just have grace for yourself because this is a huge opportunity to show your children something really valuable about life.
I don't know if you guys have seen the movie Coco, but my dad was full Mexican.
I'm half Mexican.
And so every November we celebrate the day de los Murphos.
And something, a big fear of mine is that by not talking about him with my kids, they'll eventually
just forget his memory. And I don't want to forget the sound of his voice or the sound of his laugh. But again,
at the same time, it's just been so painful. But I like what you said, Catherine, about like setting aside
that time. Because oftentimes I'm like, oh, I should listen to a voicemail or I should watch that one
video that I really love of him. And then I'm like, no, I have a dinner tonight where I don't want my eyes to be all
puffy. You're like, I've already done my makeup. So it's pretty inconvenient to start crying out of nowhere.
So I'll just like save it and just keep like pushing it off, pushing it off.
I really like what you said about setting inside that time and creating those rituals so that I won't forget what he sounds like, but also my kids who were so young.
But definitely old enough to know him and remember him, I don't want them to forget him either.
Yeah, absolutely.
Yeah.
And you will get to a point like once you've purged enough and listen to that stuff enough that you will be able to smile and laugh when you hear his voice and look at his pictures.
Totally. Well, thank you guys. Really appreciate you taking the time.
Thank you, Andy. I appreciate you calling in. Sorry for your loss. Thank you. Take care.
Thanks.
Coker. I know. That is one of those things that will make me cry anytime as hearing a song from Coco.
Oh, yeah. I love that. That'll get you. Oh, yeah, yeah. I forgot that movie. That was it wasn't, when was that? A few years ago?
That was a few years ago. Yeah, maybe. Quite a few years ago, I think.
Something? The thing that bumps me so much about when people call in about that, like, we've had this before and it's like usually a parent, right? Where they can't, they're stuck, stuck. We were talking about it. And it's the opposite of what our parents want for us. Like they don't want us to suffer in the aftermath of their death. Yeah. That's not what anybody wants for anyone. Like they're gone. They're in it, they're in a better place. You have to believe that. You know, like so it's like self-flagellation basically is all. It's all. It's all. You know, it's alludeulation basically. It's all.
your accomplishment is like you're making yourself, you know, you're placing all the blame.
You want to blame someone. And so you're like, okay, I have to blame myself if you have no one else
to blame. Right. Well, our next caller is Heaven. Heaven. Heaven. Heaven. Oh, wow. Yes.
She's from New York. And she says, Dear Chelsea, my name is Heaven. I'm turning 29 in August.
I live in Brooklyn and I'm facing an overwhelming abundance of paths I could go down.
I grew up as that music girl.
Leads in all my high school productions, performing in child professional shows in other local theaters.
My entire personality was music.
During my 20s, I strayed away from my purpose and was living my life more as a party girl,
still having pop-up performances at 72-hour parties until about three years ago.
After many psychedelic journeys, I realized there's only one thing on this earth for me,
and I need to buckle down and get serious about this purpose and gift.
So here we are in 2026.
I finally have been receiving all these messages as to how to fall into alignment with my end goal and share my voice with the world.
One, I'm feeling beaten down by the cheesy and inauthentic ways we have to promote ourselves on Instagram to be acknowledged by the algorithm, which I'm having no luck in.
I'm learning how to produce, which is a masochistic endeavor.
It feels like I'm staring into a window of my life and it's locked and I can't get in.
Two, I know this is so 29 of me, but now that I'm finally embracing music as a real career, I feel overwhelmed by the option.
and don't know the order of operations to invest in.
I want to be a producer.
I'm working so hard at being a rock star.
I could see myself going back to Broadway if I buckled down.
I could pursue voice acting or demo work.
With all these options, how do I know what to invest in first?
Wow.
Hi, Heaven.
Hi, Heaven.
This is our special guest, Sarah Borellis.
There's hi.
Hi.
Sounds like you have a big, bright future ahead of you.
Thank you.
Yeah.
I don't know, where do you begin? Where does one begin? I mean, Sarah, you're a jack of all trades. You do lots of different stuff.
Same girl, same. So you know what I hear in your writing is that I don't know if you're entirely clear on where you really want to go. When you say your purpose is music, tell me more. Just tell me more first.
So I've been singing since I was three. It's the thing that brings me the most catharsis and also like altruistic joy when transferring that and giving that to other people helps me as like therapy, songwriting especially. And there's, I'm sure I know you relate with all of your like musicals and what you do, but like there's just that feeling you get when you're singing and the vibrations and it's like pushing out and you could just like, I don't know, it's like other world.
And I know that you're so right when you were saying like, you don't really like know exactly how to like form that into like a specific path. Yeah. And I think yeah, that's where I'm, that's where I'm at. Yeah. I mean, first I would say that you don't necessarily have to choose one. You like doing voiceover work is not going to cancel out something else. But I think there is a world like I have. I have.
My partner has ADHD.
I have a lot of best friends that have a lot of ADHD.
And there is something that have...
Do you have ADHD?
Yes.
Yes.
That's what I hear in your message is that you're stuck in the sort of hurricane of
possibility.
So you're not making any singular decision.
And that is something that you can literally pick any one of those paths.
But you just have to, you know, get,
beyond the decision making because you can stay there forever.
You can say in that like, should I or shouldn't I?
And I also think medicinal, like medicine for this like inability to choose, like around performance, at least, is performing.
If you love that feeling of singing for people, put yourself in in spaces where you get to do that.
And there will be more and more clarity that comes from that.
And I don't know if that means joining a choir or volunteering somewhere or like there are places
where you can exercise that that aren't just book a Broadway show.
Do you know what I mean?
Like you can utilize that part of yourself, whether you're doing, you know, songwriting
or just singing or any and all of the above.
But I think action, actually putting yourself in motion is going to be really clarifying,
I think.
Thank you.
But I don't know.
I think so too.
It sounds like you know.
I think, I know.
It sounds like you do know.
It sounds like you're a doctor and I'm the doctor in office.
So move over.
I, yeah, I think you should just, you need to take a step in one direction and then don't rule anything out.
But just start, I agree with everything, Sarah said.
She's absolutely right on the money.
A, to spot your ADHD, which I wouldn't have.
But I think you just have to start taking steps in one direction.
Like, okay, pursue a voiceover, you know, career.
What are you going to have to do to do that?
You can do you. And then, and then you know what you love. That's the first thing. You know what you love to do.
You just said it so beautifully. So like that's, you're going to do everything to do that. Make that your
career and make that of your living. And that can look in all the different ways that you stated, all the
different options. But just move in the direction of go get yourself, you know, how are you going to get
auditions? Do you have a voiceover agent? Do you have somebody who's going to help you perform you,
like where are you going to perform your music? You know, you have to start making a plan.
and just doing these things and then living that life, you know?
Like, I think sometimes we do get lost in the plans, you know?
Like, and then before you know it, you're like, wait, wait, wait a second.
This is now, you know, four more years go by.
So you just have to start doing what you love and start taking the steps that are going
to get you to actually have all of those things.
And because anything is possible.
You're right.
Like I don't really specifically have to choose.
They're kind of all in the same vein.
As long as I like don't get lost in the decision paralysis.
at all. Yeah, I think that's right. This is also a place where writing stuff down might be really
helpful. I know for me, when I've written down like, okay, here's what I want my life to look like,
or the new job or the whatever to look like in five years, that kind of always comes to fruition.
You get really specific, talk about exactly what you want things to look like. And you might
get there in a different way than you are imagining it. But there's something really powerful in
writing down, like, here's what I want my life to look like in X amount of time.
Yeah.
I really also liked what you, Sarah, what you said about just, like, go to the places that
you could do this.
And I think that a lot of what's been coming up for me is, like, play, have fun.
Yes.
Because, like, what is it other than, like, having fun?
And, like, so, like, I'll go to, like, jam nights and stuff.
Like, there's so many things here in New York, like, to be a part of, like.
And so, yeah, like, going to a dance class.
There's like a sapphic dance class for like, you know, gay girls, you know? And like we can go out there and just like learn a little dance routine and kind of like get into that creativity and yeah, just having more fun maybe. Yeah. And I think that like especially in the music industry, there is no harm in diversifying your skill sets, your crafts, like the things you've been familiar with. The people I get suspect up for the people that are like, I'm also a like I'm a life coach and a chef.
Share it.
I'm a Majong coach.
But I think if you're pursuing, you know, creative expression in all the different ways it shows up, yeah, enjoy.
Enjoy the fact that you have gifts to share and that you like sharing them.
That's amazing.
Yeah, that is a gift in it itself.
Totally.
Wow.
Thank you guys so much.
I am completely like starstruck in like all of the ways right now.
It's not even funny.
Well, good. You have no excuses now. You got advice from the people you.
Thank you. I think I could shout out my band real quick.
Sure. They call her heaven. I'm everywhere. Spotify, Apple Music. It's like Joan Jet Blondie style.
Oh, cute. I like that. That's a great title. They call her heaven.
Thanks, heaven. Thank you. Thank you.
Bye. Bye.
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Oh, that was good spotting.
Good on you for spotting that ADHD.
I was like, wow.
I have, I just like the people I love the most all have it.
When you, how long did you do waitress for on Broadway?
I was in it for a few different like little stints that the first one was 12 weeks,
then I did 10 weeks and then I did like six weeks or something.
And did you like that schedule on Broadway?
Oh, I loved it.
Yeah.
What I'll say about being on Broadway, the only thing that I don't like about it is there is a low-grade anxiety
about getting sick all the time.
Yeah.
Like that you're just always worried, like, am I going to be healthy enough to do the show?
And, you know, yeah, so it adjusts your lifestyle.
You're just like, you're kind of just living, working to do the show, to be able to do the show,
which I love doing.
But it's like a little tickle in your throat.
You're like, okay.
How many times do you know how many times you had to, did you miss any shows?
I did miss a few shows.
Yeah, there was one show where I, my voice disappeared in the middle of a song.
song. Like I just, I could feel it starting to go. I could just feel it starting and I almost,
I couldn't get through the song by the end of the song. And then I left at intermission. And at intermission,
my understudy, shout out to Steph Torrens. She might, my understudy Stephanie Torrens went on and I was
like, I'm not doing act too. It was horrifying. And I have, and I've had a time where like I had
family fly in to see the show and to see my performance. And they were there for one night and I
couldn't go on. It was just, and they were so sweet about it. But it was just, you can't.
If it ain't there, I know.
You can't do anything about it.
What about O'Mary?
Would you do that?
Oh my God, hilarious.
Yeah, totally.
Yeah, that would be good.
Oh, my God, it's so funny.
You should play Mary Todd Lincoln.
Yeah.
I love that.
Oh, yeah.
Oh, yeah.
It's so fun to see all the different people doing it.
I know.
They really cracked a cool code with that one.
Yeah.
I'm so happy for all of them.
Oh, yeah.
Yeah.
Have you seen it?
Yeah.
I think I saw it right in the beginning.
Yeah.
I've seen it now a few times.
I haven't, I need to go back and see it, actually.
Well, it's coming to L.A.
Oh, it is?
Yeah, yeah.
Oh, okay.
Well, then I'll see it again.
Alaska Thunderfuck.
I've never seen a play in L.A.
That's not true.
It can't be true.
We were just talking about this on the way here, actually, about, like, just theater
culture in L.A. is just not as robust.
It's not that it doesn't exist.
Yes.
But it's just not, like, it's not top of mind for people in a way that, like, it's so
identified with New York City.
It's just like, yeah, Broadway.
I know.
You go to New York and you're like, oh, okay, I've got to go see a play.
Yeah.
You go to London and you're like, I've got to go see a play.
Well, Sarah, it's been a pleasure of talking to you.
I'm so happy to see you both.
I'm so happy.
Congratulations on being married.
Congratulations on your new album.
Thank you.
Good grief.
Everybody can download that.
Or they can go to your music.
Well, they can buy tickets.
You're going on tour.
I am going on tour.
So they can go to your...
They can't buy tickets because it's sold out, which is a great thing to say.
But you know what I can say?
That's awesome.
It's awesome.
I'm going to come.
Even though it's sold out, I'm going to insert myself.
I know a guy.
But I will say that we made a beautiful film called Good Grief.
That is like a companion piece to the record that was about the making of the music.
So that comes out September 2nd.
So people can buy tickets.
They can go to my website and check that out and get tickets to go see this film,
which is not the same as seeing the concert, but, you know, they can see something.
And they can access your music wherever they want.
Yes.
Right?
Yeah, you do you on all the platforms.
Not for us, but you do you.
Okay.
Thank you, Sarah.
Thank you.
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