This Past Weekend - #584 - Retired Las Vegas Police Sgt.

Episode Date: May 23, 2025

Christopher Curtis is a retired police sergeant who spent 20+ years with the Las Vegas Metropolitan Police Department. In his career he was also a designated crisis and hostage negotiator.  Sgt. Christopher Curtis joins Theo to talk about what really goes on when someone is detained, how race relations affect both sides of law enforcement, and the intense situations he found himself in as a crisis negotiator.  ------------------------------------------------ Tour Dates! https://theovon.com/tour New Merch: https://www.theovonstore.com ------------------------------------------------- Sponsored By: Celsius: Go to the Celsius Amazon store to check out all of their flavors. #CELSIUSBrandPartner #CELSIUSLiveFit https://amzn.to/3HbAtPJ Morgan and Morgan: Morgan & Morgan: Visit https://forthepeople.com/THEO to see if you might have a case. Morgan and Morgan. America's Largest Injury Law Firm. Valor Recovery: To learn more about Valor Recovery please visit them at https://valorrecoverycoaching.com or email them at [e-mail] ------------------------------------------------- Music: “Shine” by Bishop Gunn Bishop Gunn - Shine ------------------------------------------------ Submit your funny videos, TikToks, questions and topics you'd like to hear on the podcast to: [e-mail] Hit the Hotline: [phone] Video Hotline for Theo Upload here: https://www.theovon.com/fan-upload Send mail to: This Past Weekend 1906 Glen Echo Rd PO Box #159359 Nashville, TN 37215 ------------------------------------------------ Find Theo: Website: https://theovon.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/theovon Facebook: https://facebook.com/theovon Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thispastweekend Twitter: https://twitter.com/theovon YouTube: https://youtube.com/theovon Clips Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheoVonClips Shorts Channel: https://bit.ly/3ClUj8z ------------------------------------------------ Producer: Zach https://www.instagram.com/zachdpowers Producer: Trevyn https://www.instagram.com/trevyn.s/  Producer: Nick https://www.instagram.com/realnickdavis/ Producer: Colin https://www.instagram.com/colin_reiner/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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He was born and raised in Queens, New York, before spending 20 years on the force in Las Vegas where he pretty much saw it all. Today's guest is LVPD's finest, Christopher Curtis. And I will find a song I will sing it just for you Okay, sitting here today, retired police officer. Sergeant. Sorry. And is that a, that's a. That's a thing with police, yeah.

It's a faux pas. A little bit, yeah. For she, yes sir. All right. Sir, yes sir. Retired police sergeant. It's a faux pas. A little bit, yeah. Yes, sir. Sir, yes, sir. Retired police sergeant from the Las Vegas. Metropolitan Police Department. Las Vegas Metropolitan Police Department.

You did 25 years of service. Well, I did 21 plus, and then I bought some of the time. A guy actually bought my time out to go work for him afterwards. In Nevada, you can do that. So you can, so if you're a police officer and you still have so many years left on your lease, or what is it called?

To collect your retirement. Okay, right, okay, so you want to get to your pension. Right, so you can buy it yourself, but what happened was I was one of the first people, because there was a guy in the private sector, you ever heard of the company Zappos? Zappos, the shoes? Yeah, the shoes.

So the guy Tony Hsieh, who passed away some time ago, he was a billionaire. Yeah, he had one foot in the grave. That's an old Zappos guy in a dog-jack. I won't tell that joke anymore. He was revitalizing downtown Las Vegas, and he was investing $350 million into it. And he heard about me doing some innovative things down there.

And through a friend, he asked to meet me at a bar. And so we meet at this bar. And I'm like, this Tony Shay? And he says, he told me about the project. And he's like, would you like to come work for me? I was like, I'm not old enough to retire. And I don't have the time. And he said, can you buy?

How much does it cost? And I said, I have to get back to you. But I knew it was a significant six figure number. And I got back to him with a number, and he wrote the check. And so I had like 21 years on April Fool's Day of 2013, I retired. So he paid your to so. He bought it.

So if you want to collect a retirement, you have to do at least a certain amount of time. You get vested in the state system. Got it. So to make it worthwhile, to make it a significant amount of money, you want to do at least a certain amount of time you get vested in the state system got it So what to make it worthwhile to make it a significant amount of money you want to do at least 25 years I mean 20 years you could do it by 25 years and 30 years the money's pretty nice Yeah And so to get to 25 at the time he wanted me to retire

Needed to buy it and it was six figures and he wrote the check Wow and so in within like a couple days you were Done. No what I I've kind of was strategic about it and I planned it out and I wanted to see exactly what his process was and he was a very very smart guy and a very forward thinking guy so we kind of planned behind the scenes how to work it out and so I had enough time to set everything up and then April Fool's Day I retired. Wow. And he paid off, how many years did he pay off off so it turned out to be like maybe like Three and a half almost four years basically four years. Yeah, and at that point you started working for him at that part I started working for him. Yeah, so I had my full police retirement, and then I had a significant salary from him So that was nice living in Vegas still at that time. I was still living in Vegas I had to because I had to be kind of working in that project downtown. Can I give you something actually? I brought something for you. Yeah, sure I'm a fan man. I really like what you do, Can I give you something? Actually, I brought something for you. Yeah, sure. I think so. You know, I'm a fan, man.

I really like what you do and I think you're awesome. I figured I could give you something, a Vegas souvenir. So open that up. Okay. Scoot up a coaster. Oh, this is a beverage coaster. Police managers, supervisor association, Las Vegas Metro. Badge, huh? Now open it up.

OK. And look at the back. Ooh, gang boy. Commemorative only, thank god. Yeah, so you don't go out and start jacking people. Yeah, dude. Yeah, I wanted you to have a badge, man. And so then you can just put it on this little thing.

Oh, thanks, bro. And then you can just put it in one of your places, man. You do a lot of really a badge, man. And so then you can just put it on this little thing. Oh, thanks, bro. And you can just put it in one of your places, man. You do a lot of really cool stuff, man. When I came into town, man, and the people I talked to, small group of people, everyone really thinks very, very highly of you, man. I watched your stuff. You're a good dude, man.

Well, thanks, Chris, man. I appreciate you saying that. Dude, that's awesome. Yeah, because we need to- You gotta put it back in the thing in order to hold it in that. Oh, that's fair. Yeah, God.

That's shit. Yeah, and I worked in zoning for a little bit, so... Sorry, that should have made sense. Um, dude, that's awesome, man. Thank you very much. Yeah, we have a nice little collection of some neat stuff that people have given us. This would be perfect. Well, now you've got a badge. Yeah. That's very, very thoughtful of you. Thank you.

Thank you, man. Yeah, and thank you for your service, too. Right on. Um, dude, I'll tell you a story. So one time I'm at the University of Tennessee football game and some guy, and he was like a drunk guy and he was like, he just kept making sounds like that and just like, you could breathe, but he wasn't great at it. You know,

he put on some weight or whatever and he was a sheriff or something, you know? And, uh, I was like, I need to get on stage and use the restroom. He's like, Oh, well if anybody gives you any problems, just show them that he gave me his sheriff's badge, right? In a little pamphlet, it comes in like a little wallet. So I'm downstairs, dude, right? Things start kind of like, people start getting weird down there,

like there's some stuff kind of popping off in a tunnel. And so I pull this thing out, dude, and I show it up in the air, right? And now there's other police officers come up and they're looking at each other and they're looking at me, right? And uh. How old were you?

Oh, this was probably eight months ago. And then, yeah, and then the lady pushed me up against the wall for having a fake identification, being a fake police officer. But they didn't know they recognized you? She did, she didn't want any bullshit. I guess she recognized. I was not an Oficient of the law you were just the old line with a badge

Yeah, and she's like this kind of shit is too much. So anyway, just be careful where you use um where you use a Badgerie, you know So so what did you do for Tony's his CA? Tony Shay Tony Shay so for Tony he's a he was revitalizing downtown and he wanted to create like an ambassador, you know, those ambassadors that kind of give out directions or eyes for the police and he wanted someone that knew the area. So I like hired like 60 people and they just walked around the air because it was pretty high crime rate back then. In fact, what's interesting is I had worked a double homicide on Fremont, like maybe about six months before he approached me.

It was pretty bad down there at one point, for a long time. When I first hired on in 92, it was like, if you wanted a cop to learn how to be a really good street cop, you would wanna work downtown on Fremont. So basically, to answer your question, it was to have these ambassador people

who wore like yellow shirts, and very welcoming to people who were looking for directions because there was an infrastructure of people that were working and living down there and he was trying to build that because he had residential businesses and all kinds of stuff and in not having the police, he wanted to have a civilian group of people

that could interact with people and make them feel safe. Yeah, I guess it's like a business person and a connector like him, you think of those types of things and you start to see the value in them. How did Tony Shea die? So I'm not very comfortable speaking about specifically how he died. I know there was an incident where there was a fire

and he was inside the fire and I believed it was related to something about being inside the building with the fire. One side, cause I wasn't with the company when that happened. That was sometime after the company. And you know, it got to a point where after I retired and I had, throughout the years of dealing with so much death and all the craziness on the police department, I just tuned everything out. I really didn't engage with people if it wasn't a positive experience.

And then it became a point where I was just like a solitary person. So I wasn't really very intimately involved in the details to how he died, but that's kind of like the gist of it. Got it. So we see how you finished The Force, then how did it start? Like how did it first start that you decided to become,

join The Force in Las Vegas? I was a Marine. So when I was 17, I joined the Marine Corps. And this was 1987 that I went into the Marine Corps. Parris Island, 3rd Battalion, I Company, super hardcore. And my dad was in law enforcement too. And I cannot overstate the importance of having a strong male role model in your life.

My father, I genuflect to that man. He died in 2017. And what I can say is that I dad, I wanted to do everything like my dad. So my dad was in the military, my dad was in the army, but I wanted to be a Marine and my dad was in law enforcement. So while I was in the Marine Corps, you know, I was on embassy duty. I ended up on embassy duty, which is like one of the best, most challenging duties in the Marine Corps, if you go to the right countries. And I was in Belgrade, it was actually when I was in Caracas. When I was in Caracas, there was a-

And it's Venezuela? In Caracas, Venezuela, there was an economics officer who took a liking to me. And he knew I wanted to go into law enforcement. He said to me, he said, in the 90s, the economy in Vegas is going to explode. I got on a plane and within like a couple weeks, flew and took the test, and then I ended up in the academy in 92. Wow.

Dude, I bet the streets were hot in 92, were they? It was crazy. It was the wild, wild west. Vegas was the wild, wild west. If you, you know, everyone says that their department is the best. I'm going to say that Las Vegas policing, especially in the nineties,

I call it the golden era of policing, which is phenomenal. I mean, you really got to understand the psyche of the human being because so many people come to Vegas to do whatever crazy thing they want to do and you got to interact with people on that level and it teaches you a lot about people. Is that more a more fun place to be in law enforcement, do you feel like? Like I know that's a strange word probably to use with policing but is that a more entertaining place? It is. It is because you deal with everything they deal with in LA, everything they deal with in New York and then Vegas is just

this you know they say New York is a city that never sleeps. It kind of, I'm a New Yorker, it kind of does. Vegas never sleeps. Vegas can't sleep because it's coked up. Yes, for sure, or meth, coke or meth. Did meth, was meth a little bit popping? It is because you know the area commands that you, the area command that you work would kind of define what drug you would deal with primarily. Got it.

And so there was a time where I was working in the Northeast and they used to call them, it was called Frank area now, they used to be David area, they called them Frankites or Davidites because they'd be up just tweaking out doing stuff on trailers and everything and You know there was a transition for me in my life because I was a straight-edge guy and I'd look down on drugs and I didn't have a lot of I Guess empathy for people who were using drugs And now I've completely learned the opposite. You know?

Oh yeah, I bet you, I'm gonna keep your first hand right in front of those people all the time. I got to see, like, I would go to a single wide trailer at 3 a.m., ladies completely tweaked out of her mind. And her kids are awake, all nasty, you know, crying, the neighbors have called, spaghetti sauce on the walls.

And I'd be pissed at the mother. And what happened throughout my career is I ended up seeing that little girl that I was trying to protect becoming the parent of a kid in the same type of situation. It's just cyclical, you know? And then for the police to be judgmental, I found that to be incredibly disheartening for me. And in fact, if there's anything I think back in my life,

it is if ever I treated another human being improperly or if I didn't spend time with my children when I could have spent time with my children. You know, it makes me get emotional sometimes when I can think of specific situations. They all tell you a story, man. There was one time where I took a little girl from her mom. And this is in Vegas?

This is in Vegas. Oh yeah, all my police stuff is in Vegas. There was one time that she was, the mom was completely took off, she was slamming speed and she was just up and just doing all kinds of stuff and the neighbors was at some point called. Yeah, and you're slamming speed is injecting it?

Yeah, it's injecting it. Okay. And so I go there and I remember I had to take the little girl from her mom. And this girl was crying in such a way, I recorded this, that it was almost as if someone was literally, though I wasn't, pulling her heart out of her body. Now mind you, that's a kid who loves their mom

no matter what. You love your parent in spite of, right? And I'll always remember in my mind that I have to learn to look at other people, not only the way that I'd wanna be treated, but through the experiences that I've had. That's how I look at people now. You know, once you get older,

you can start to get emotional about just the simplest of things. Oh yeah, hell yeah, Jesus. Most of this podcast is like that. Yeah, it's funny the little things that'll trigger things that you didn't have or things you admire so much or even a word sometimes that a phrase somebody will use and it'll just like well you up with emotion.

Well, I do think it's interesting for people in police, fire departments, those types of jobs where yes, I'm sure you develop a lot of empathy for people in police, fire departments, those types of jobs where, yes, I'm sure you develop a lot of empathy, but then also you are put under an unrealistic amount of stress. A lot of officers are, I would assume. It seems like to me, from the discussions I've had,

that a lot of people get put under stress that they're not really even as a human equipped to deal with. So then at that point, it's probably tough for you to engage your best feelings and your best empathy at moments when you're under stress, and then you also have to look out for your own survival. I'm not debating you with it, I'm just saying, I'm sure it's quite a juxtaposition, you know?

It is. When you first start out in Vegas, what are some things that you saw? So from- Anything that stands out, you know? So from a crime perspective, or from just the culture of policing perspective? Let's start with the crime perspective? So from a crime perspective or from just a culture of policing perspective? Let's start with the crime perspective. So from the crime perspective, drugs are one of the most, I mean drugs and alcohol, okay?

Because drugs and alcohol kind of run hand in hand when it comes to the challenges that I would run into. The drug scene in Vegas was either it was crack or it was speed. And like I said before before depending on the area Come in and you went and I would go on Fremont because I worked Fremont primarily the first part of my career And I'd see these young girls hooked on crack Prostituting Fremont Street, then you would see guys who came into town to party in Vegas They you know gambled the casinos downtown and then they want to come and pick up these girls.

They get trick rolled. I mean, it's just this incredible web of vice that occurred, and it was like Gotham City. And what's trick rolled? Is that that thing where somebody sends you that video or whatever? No, so trick rolled is when a girl, a prostitute, ends up getting you in a hotel room, either drugs you

or steals your money and rolls you. So the guy's the trick, and they roll him for his money. And they do it very seriously. Okay, like a finesse kind of. Yeah, sometimes it's finesse, sometimes it's with drugs. I mean, there are a lot of different ways that that could potentially happen. The act of a person commercially exchanging sex,

robbing or stealing from their sex buying client known as a trick, got it. I got it. Okay, yeah, I thought it was something that a sushi joint too. I'm like, damn, that shit, I don't like it. I don't know, yes, yeah, I thought it was some of the sushi joint too. I'm like damn, I shoulda like it. I don't know, yes, make sure you cook it first. Like would you bust into some like wild parties?

Like would you bust in and people have been up for days? Would you bust in and people were so bummed that you were ruining the party that ever happened? You know, the thing was not so necessarily bummed. It was that the people felt like it was in Vegas, like come on cop, we should be able to do this. I mean like why are you you know bothering us right now? Like not they wouldn't even be mad It was almost like a joke or people who wouldn't want to try to pay you off or stuff like that

But the funny thing is that when I was talking about the girls doing the trick rolls and stuff like and everything These people were a lot of times close to my age. So I would see these you know Do you know this, the guy's name is, he was a famous poker player. I can't remember his name. I pulled him over one time and he was completely cracked out of it. He's dead now, so it's not me.

He was driving? No, he was in the passenger seat. Stu Unger? Stu Unger, yeah, Stu Unger. I pulled Stu, he was in the passenger seat. Stu Unger? Yeah, Stu Unger. I pulled Stu Unger over. He was in the passenger side of a car. The driver was this dude who I knew was a dealer completely cracked out of his mind. And Stu tried to play me as I was standing at the passenger side of the car to try to get me to let him go knowing that the car was full of all kinds of stuff. Now

in Vegas, I can tell you that, without telling you that, on both hands, I've run into easily five to 10 B.A. List people involved in very, very compromising situations. And I know that happens in LA, but the Vegas stuff is really superseded. It's almost always some kind of sex prostitute drug type thing.

And I was like 21, 22 years old, and I was interacting with people who I had no idea that I would be interacting with them on that type of level. Like were there times you get called to hotel rooms? Like I'm just trying to think of like, take me on like a specific call if you can. Um, so. And you don't, I'm not saying name celebrities,

I don't need that, but I'm just saying like, yeah, take me on like a call where things are like, you know, I'm just kind of curious as to the level of, like just the things you would see, because it's Vegas, you know, it's the craziest place on earth. So here's a story, and it's a sad story. And sorry, do I sound demanding about that?

No, not at all. I'm good. I mean, that's kind of why I came, right? My hearing is kind of sensitive today, too. I don't know why, I think I'm just tired. So working downtown, I got a call once. So you guys walk the beat down there? What do you guys do?

Vehicle deckers? That's one of the things, you don't really walk as much in Vegas. Everyone really drives a car. And I could talk about that a little bit later, because I think full patrol is kind of important. But I remember one time going to, there was this movie theater called the Flick Movie Theater.

It was right on Fremont Street. And I remember going in and going to a hotel, they would comp us our dinner, so we'd get a comp and go eat dinner at one of the hotels. I remember meeting the security guard, he gave me a comp, I went, ate dinner. And then I got out, you're talking about foot patrol, I got out to walk my food off about an hour or so later,

and I go in the Flick Motel, and it was one of those triple X kind of movie theater. And the same security guard that gave me the comp was getting a blow job from a young guy in one of the back seats in his uniform. Wow, compendianer, huh? So he's just sitting in the back in a bow job? And what do you do?

Do you go in there, are you wearing shades? Are you hiding in the distance? What are you doing? No, no, so I hated having to do that because I was a rookie at the time and you walk in there and your boots are sticky because you know, all the kind of disgusting. Which is kind of gross,

you probably don't clean the place up. There it is right there. Oh, the flick, you can still see the, yep, that flick. Yep. And were there live sex shows in there? No, there weren't. There was a movie theater, but they would want the rookies to walk through it

so that stuff like that wouldn't happen. Right. But what was weird was that this guy felt he was comfortable enough to go in in his uniform and get a blow job, you know, in a movie theater. Yeah. Like not even take his uniform off and go inside. And that was like that wild west mentality.

Vegas, on that same street, maybe a couple of weeks later, and this would happen frequently, I got a call of a person not answering their door at their hotel room. Go up to the hotel room, security with the passkey. Open the door. They open the door. This dude was butt naked on the bed,

completely bloated. He was, we say 419, which is the code for a dead body, completely dead. He, I think Rigger had, he might have started turning purple, if I recall, but he was definitely dead. And he had a picture of his family on the nightstand. So, fast forward to the end of what happened, was this guy came to Vegas on a, on the nightstand.

So fast forward to the end of what happened, was this guy came to Vegas on a conference or something like that. He has a beautiful family, picks up a hooker, tries to have sex with her, heart pops, and he dies, she leaves him, and she leaves with all of his stuff. And then that's the legacy that he leaves for his family.

And it was almost like it was movie-like because on the nightstand, I carried a picture of his family and put it on the nightstand. And then I can see his dead fat body with little pee-pee sticking out. And he's on the, and his kids with his wife picture is right there. And you think about that kind of stuff. Like, see, when we talk about this police thing, I think that death is the recurring theme. And it gets scary, because you see so much.

I would look at a dead body and I'd be like, did that guy realize that that was the last time he was gonna put on those underwear? Was that the last time that he realized that he was gonna do that? Brush his teeth, put lotion on his limbs or whatever. Yeah. Yeah, dude, that's crazy.

Yeah, sometimes I think, I have a moment each day kind of where it's like, sometimes it is kind of putting on your socks. You're like, what if this is the last day? You know, I think that's one of the moments you're kind of suiting up for the day. I love moments like that. Yeah, what is that kind of, I guess if you see a lot of death,

how does that change your perspective? Or do you think it does for officers or even just you personally? One time I was on a call where a guy hung himself and I was second to arrive and there was another cop in there and the guy was there. He had cut him down but left the ligature around his neck because they didn't want to make sure that it was actually a suicide and the guy was just dead and the cop was there playing with the guys because a lot of people in Vegas have those video poker, little handheld video poker things.

I mean, because this was a repeat they were doing on their phone. And the cop was just sitting there, he was just talking to me like, and the guy was dead there. I'm talking about stuff from the beginning of my career more so. Because I think that that really kind of formulated

how my mind looked at death. And it's evolved some, but those things stand on my mind. And I was like, how's this cop sitting here playing this video game? And I was like, that's why he's playing the video game. Right. That's why he's playing the video game, because he's got to sit up here with this guy.

He's an escape. Yeah, what do you want to do, sit here and look and keep taking the guy's pulse? Or yeah, it would be crazy if he's sitting there doing anything else besides trying to occupy his brain? You know, that same time period in my career, it also taught me a lot about what we do with our loved ones at the last moment.

There was a recall. On domestics, you get a lot of recalls. There was this lady. Okay, and on domestics, you mean by? Domestic violence, yes. Domestic violence, and there was a recall, you said. It's a recall. A lot of times you end up having to go back

to the same address multiple times. Okay, so that's a recall. So we got recall you end up having to go back to the same address multiple times. Okay, so that's a recall. So we got a recall back out to so-and-so. And I remember it was really, really pretty. Kind of, I'm guessing it, because I was maybe in my early 20s, I'm going to guess this lady was about 30 something. Really, really pretty, light-skinned black lady. And she had some kids and she had recently been divorced.

And so she got the two kids. she was a son and a daughter. Daughter was about 14 and the son was about maybe nine. I'm just guessing these ages. And I remember these kids would like be so mean to their mom because the divorce caused them to pick sides because the mom ended up with custody of the kids. And the dad was a pretty violent guy and she would always call if he was coming through.

And I remember going and the kids were just so mean to their mom. After maybe a third recall, there was a call to the residence, I was just about to get off on graveyard, of gunfire. And I showed up and the mom was laying on the sidewalk, shot in the face by the dad. And the kids were screaming,

my mom, what am I gonna do without my mom? I mean, just screaming. You can feel that go through your whole body, and you have to remain professional. And in my mind I'm saying, but you never said that to her when she was alive. I didn't say that to them, because these kids are going through trauma. Why didn't you say that to them that to her when she was alive. I didn't say that to them because these kids are going through trauma. Why didn't you say that to them, to her when she was alive?

So when I talk to people about policing, it's nice to tell stories, but is there a lesson that I can learn from this? If someone watches, that's why I really like you, man, because people relate to you, dude. And there's some kid or someone watching this That's like maybe going through something and if they can take that away that you know what I'm gonna say I love you, or I'm gonna hold back Yelling and being rude to you just cuz I'm having a bad day then this you know to me is a win Yeah, I think it's hard for children to learn that I think one of the things that I think I know I don't have any children I've been a child, but I don't have any children,. I think one of the things that I think, and I don't have any children, I've been a child,

but I don't have any children, but I think one of the things is, nobody teaches you kind of how, you know, a lot of times to interact, you know, how to express your feelings. Like, and I think a kid, you kind of feel like they just are going to know those things naturally, you know, how to talk to their parents.

I mean, I think parents probably talk about how to speak to your mother, how to speak to your father. But I think sometimes there is this missing element sometimes of like how to feel, what a feeling is. You know, like kids may be confused. They may think something's anxiety for a lot and it's really just a feeling. You know, it's like, I think some of that,

I think there's a missing piece of education there. And I'm not even blaming it on parents or anything. I think it's just a part of our, maybe our culture that could be more expanded upon. And maybe even the classes in school. I know it sounds crazy. No, it doesn't. It sounds real.

Yeah, but if somebody would've told me in school how to recognize if one of my friends might be struggling, right? Yes. Or how to like, approach an issue if there's some type of thing goes on or if somebody's, like how I'm feeling about shit, I think that could have been super helpful. I agree 100% and as we get older,

I think that we learn how to do it better, but there's so many young people suffering. And you know, I hate to use the term bullying because it sounds kind of corny, but like I don't like bullying in any way, shape or form. There's someone going through something so difficult, we have no idea how, you know that saying that says, be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a very hard battle.

I don't go to Vegas as much. I go to Vegas a couple of times out of the year for just different things. Because obviously I still have some roots there, but even being a New Yorker, I spent so many years there. The last time I went to Vegas, maybe it was last time, my daughter picked me up, right? My oldest daughter picked me up. She's amazing.

All my kids are amazing, but my oldest daughter picked me up and she says, we coming back from the airport and we drive by this apartment community. And without even thinking- By an apartment community? Yeah, by apartment community. And without even thinking, I was like, oh, because when you're a cop, you're like, okay, that happened there, that happened there, that's all you think about.

And I remember I said, I told her the story that there was this pizza delivery guy. His girlfriend went to pick him up from work and she rode on him on his last delivery. And these guys come out from the bushes and rob and shoot and kill him. I was the first to arrive. I get there and this girl grabs my arm and she's saying, wake him up. Wake him up.

And do you know, in the Bible there's a story where this woman walks by, I'm not saying that I'm Jesus by any shape, but when the woman touched Jesus and he said he felt, you know, he instantly turned and knew that he was touched. There's power that goes to people when they're going through things. And like, that's why I feel like being a cop for that long, I don't know that the human psyche is meant to be able to deal with going through that. It's like you go to work, you're like, okay, give me a conflict. Okay, I'm done with that one. Give me another conflict. All right, I'm ready. Give me another conflict. I go to lunch, then I go home and got to deal with my own conflict. You know what I'm saying? And you have to go to lunch, dude. What kind of lunch goes with a homicide or a burning?

You know, like, yeah, oh yeah, I'll have nuggets after a burning. Like, but then you still have to eat, right? But it's like, yeah, you see fucking Ron, he's having, you know, eight pack of nuggets, and it's like, dude, calm down, you fucking had four drownings this morning, and you're out here just nuggeting up. Yeah, I can't even imagine, I would be so, it'd be crazy to see a pairing menu for crimes,

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he got called to a scene and the mother's in the yard saying, I think my son is thinking of committing suicide. They look in the doorway, the guy takes his own life with a shotgun, shoots himself in the head. Now he has to go back, now he's standing there talking to the mother when it happens. She's saying, now this happened. So he has this thing with the mother,

he still has to go inside and make sure everything's okay. Like is that exactly what happened? Who knows if somebody's still in there with a weapon? You just don't know. He can't get the door open because the body's right there. He finally is able to get it open, maneuver, and part of the matter from the guy's head falls down the back of his shirt

Disgusting. So now he just still has to deal with the other he has to fill out reports It's four hours before he even gets to think about and the whole time he has like, you know, but yeah I just you guys are like the drain of society. You guys have to be this catch-all in this. You have so many responsibilities. It's tough, it really is. You know, there's a story that you just told me reminded me of, and again, it's a nexus too about how we treat humans. What's a nexus mean?

Nexus is like a connection too. So when one thing connects to another thing. Okay. So the story that you told me reminded me of this story where I negotiated this guy. So I get a call. I was a sergeant actually at the time. So I ended up negotiating because I was part of this crisis intervention team. So I go from Southeast Area Command all the way to downtown.

It was Valentine's Day, February 14th. A lot of people end up attempting or committing, we'll say 405, our term for that, unliving themselves is 405. They 405 on these holidays or at cemeteries sometimes. But this guy's on Fremont Street, about 14th and Fremont, walking up and down, and he's got a gun in his hand.

And so they pull me into the scene, they put me in a car, and I'm like, the guy was like maybe about 12 or 13 feet that way when we first drove by. I'm like, dang on, bro, you're gonna drive me this close? You're so close. But they end up pulling behind his, because it was really kind of a haphazard thing, because the patrol officer just pulled up on him.

No one called. I think the guy just, the patrol officer pulls up, so the perimeter was set up kind of weird. So we pull up, and I get to a safe distance behind, and so I start on the PA talking to the guy. So you're the negotiator. Yeah, so I'm talking to the guy. You're the responsible one.

I'm the responsible one, right? Okay. And so I'm saying to him, and then I look at the guy, he looks kind of Latino, so then I start saying, I said, so I'm talking to the guy. You're the responsible one. I'm the responsible one, right? And so I'm saying to him, and then I look at the guy, he looks kind of Latino. So then I start saying, I said, maybe I'll say it in Spanish. So then in Spanish, I start giving, you know, saying to him, listen, you know, giving him the whole thing, right?

And he keeps starting to raise the fire. And I keep going like this because all, you know, these guys, you know, officers with their rifles on him and officers, and I'm like, this guy's gonna get, and I can see him talking to him. And then one time he lifts, they light him up. So we all just run across the street, and these weird things happen

when you're in a very critical situation like that. I remember one of the first things I noticed was that his pinky was shot off. And when I first got up to him, so we get the scene, calm down, and then I see also in his boot he had a derringer, a little small 22 derringer. The gun that he had was not real.

It was a replica firearm, if I recall. It was a pellet, something like that. This is what's called suicide by cop. I don't know if you're familiar with that term. Now I am, and now I totally understand it. They trick you into shooting him. Right, because they don't want to do it themselves. What?

Yes, well some people because, remember for religious reasons, they feel like if they kill themselves, that's the last act that they committed. Or some people just don't have, I guess, I don't want to say courage. It's ballsy to unallow yourself. Yes, it is.

So 405 is a serious thing. So those are some replica firearms. It was legit. I shot a guy with one of those are some replica firearms. It was legit. I shot a guy with one of those, by the way. Yeah. That's a six hour, right? I have a six hour. Oh, yeah.

I kind of prefer a Glock. Yeah, it's a personal preference. You know, I have a few different guns. My favorite gun is my AR pistol, though. But I mean, I'm not a big gun person, but I strongly believe in protecting mine. Yeah. Oh for sure That's why I like living in a state where you can um you where you can have a weapon. Yeah, it's nice So in that instance say you're you're just good. You're you're talking to somebody. It's a hostage negotiation situation, right?

Yes, but you know, let me just tell you one other part of that story. I'm gonna tell you forgive me Yeah, no one. Um, so what happened was we had to go to coroner inquest for that. And we all go and we tell them. You had to go to what? It's called the coroner's inquest where everyone gives testimony. Okay. Is that the same day? No, no, no. It's some time after because homicide has to collect them their information and everything.

And mind you, you know, this is some weekly. So this lady, after all the officers and everyone testify, this lady walks in, no one knows who she is. And she's in like this kind of like plain Jane kind of outfit and she walks up to the front and it's almost like a movie scene because it's all quiet because I didn't know who she was. And she gets up, they swear in or whatever, and she says,

I just want you to know that while you guys were on the police side, this person was my brother. I'm not here to try to defend his behavior. I just came so officially, you know that someone loved him. And then she got up and she left. And so to me, it's like, you never know what someone's going through in life when you go in, you know, with the whole road rage thing or whatever, you know, like maybe that person, let me cut them a little bit of slack, you know? Let me cut them a little bit slack.

And I mean, I'm raising my hand. I'm very, very guilty. Oh, for sure. All of us are. I don't think, it doesn't sound like we're trying, like you're trying to exclude yourself. It's just like, yeah, it's funny you get so active and so animated, it's hard to sometimes have that control.

You know? Yeah. And self-control is such a huge thing, but God, that's hard to sometimes have that control. And self-control is such a huge thing, but God, that's a powerful moment. I just wanted you to know that somebody loved this person. Yes, it was deep, man. Yeah, because otherwise you just see this person and a lot of times you don't even know their story. You just pull up somebody's deceased,

somebody's killed someone, somebody's tried to take their own life. What's that moment when you're negotiating, right? And you were, so, or do you have a weapon on the person you don't have a weapon on? You're kind of... No, so, so negotiation happens in a lot of ways. That's not, that's a typical way. Because it's from a negotiation team. They set up a command center, the whole nine yards, you're very far back. I mean, sometimes you don't get on the phone for maybe an hour. You could be two hours later.

That situation was a very critical situation where they needed someone who had training on the scene. So what's kind of fun that I've been able to deal with those kinds and also the kind where you're in the tactical operations center. So, you know, another one of those kind of dynamic situations was the guy who was inside, had a gun, his neighbor called, and I was negotiating. And it's called a face to face, but it's really we weren't really face to face because we don't do face to face.

It's like, it's incredibly dangerous. But I was actually in patrol at the time. And I was the first to arrive and I ended up getting a rapport with this guy and I talked to him and talked to him. And we I developed, you know, I want to getting a rapport with this guy and I talked to him and talked to him and We I developed you know I want to say like in the guy, you know and understanding what he was going through He's going through and they you know, usually like three things, you know, it's a health issue Loneliness of the you know family loss and a financial issue or a medical issue

It's any one of various things and he was going through like maybe all of those things and I remember talking to him And I'm like, and he says, you know what? We got to a point where he said, you know, I'm gonna come out, but I wanna come out and I wanna talk to you. Will you walk me to the ambulance? Cause I told him he was gonna go to the ambulance

and get transported. And I did that. And I stayed with him at the ambulance. The ambulance people come out to me and they say, hey officer, you might wanna come see this. I go inside and inside of his drawer stacks of kitty porn mm-hmm stacks of it Dang now mind you I would talk this guy out of four or five in right You talking from out of one alive in himself, and then now you're like look what I've done

You know it's really is that the thing that's like I kept this person alive It's like you have this really kind of do out like this. It's really like if I had my choice I was able to walk up on somebody and over the Wild West I would probably you know You write it's a very difficult difficult situation to be in and you know when you talk to a person For extended periods of time it's called Stockholm and you ever heard of Stockholm syndrome Stockholm syndrome. Yeah, let's bring it up Let me read the definition of it. It I always hear it and I even say it. And I thought of it.

Originally it was people from Norway that got lost or whatever I think. But let me think. It was a banker. Stockholm syndrome is what'd you say? It's a bank robbery thing. Oh, it's a bank robbery thing. Stockholm syndrome is a psychological response

where a hostage or victim develops positive feelings or emotional attachment to their captor or abuser, often as a coping mechanism during prolonged captivity or abusive situations. So it's kind of like marriage or whatever, but it's like very severe. And that's just a joke. But yeah, so psychological. So that's interesting. Speaking of like that kind of thing, you hear a lot about child trafficking. You hear a lot about trafficking. That is a buzzword right now for sure. Did you see a ton of that kind of stuff, or is some of that,

cause I'm not saying it doesn't happen, I know that there's a lot of things like that, but is there a lot, is some of that just heightened, cause we hear about it every single day now. Did you see a lot of that sort of thing, or what do you see? So, okay, define child from your definition of child.

That's a great question. So I guess you would think of, right, did you see a lot of pedophilia or did you see more like people just trafficking, like prostitution type of that being run by pimps? Like what did you see, what kind of? Those things were separate, kind of separate, right? The pedophilia, you'd see familial stuff like that,

or you would see that guy that had the pictures inside the room. It wasn't a person running females. One time I was actually with the Cops TV show for this. In this episode, they couldn't air because we drove into the desert because a vagrant had found a campsite, and there was a person who was living there and this guy, and I'm gonna assume it was a guy

because we never caught him, bought all of these pornographic magazines. This is scary, man. He cut little kids' faces out of other regular magazines and pasted the little kids' faces on all these explicit magazines. So this is the type of person you think would be like a serial kidnapper, like whatever.

And the cops didn't end up airing it, and I'm sure why, because it was incredibly graphic, and creatively weird and disgusting at the same time. And we never ever caught the guy. Never caught him. Where was the campsite like? It was just a disgusting campsite in the desert area. Because Vegas has a lot of desert areas.

So especially if you go to the northwest area, and vagrants kind of hang out there, kind of a little near Nellis Air Force Base. Like jugs of pee pee, stuff like that? Like just stuff like food, stuff sitting around? It's like somebody just... Exactly like that. Old cans like stuff like food, stuff sitting around, it's like somebody just. Exactly like that, you know, old cans, beer bottles, soda bottles, there was like a sleeping bag

and stuff like that. That's so bizarre. Yeah. So that's kind of like as far as like a perverted type of thing you see. And it's kind of crazy, like, it's crazy what happens mentally to people that they, that that becomes something for them?

You know, like what sickness happens inside of them, you know, and a lot of that you hear too is cyclical, I think, right? Yeah, it is, and you know, that's one of the things that I, so yeah, so that the one that was molested ends up molesting. Yeah, is that true? Let's look up what percentage of people that get molested

end up becoming molesters. And I don't know if that's the right terminology, but you always hear that. So let me see if I can get a little bit of information with that right now. Trevin, if you have something, just wonder if that's fact or fiction. I think it would probably be significant.

There is widespread belief in a cycle of child sexual abuse, but little empirical evidence for this belief. The aims were to identify perpetrators of such abuse who had been victims of pedophilia and or incest in order to ascertain whether subjects who had been victims become perpetrators. The results among 747 males,

the risk of becoming a perpetrator was positively correlated with reported sexual abuse victim experiences. The overall rate of having been a victim was 35% for perpetrators and 11% for non-perpetrators. Of the 96 females, 43% have been victims, but only one was a perpetrator. A high percentage of male subjects abused in childhood by a female relative became perpetrators.

That's interesting. Having been a victim was a strong predictor of becoming a perpetrator, as was an index of parental loss in childhood. Wow. Mm-hmm. The data supports the notion of a victim to victim cycle in a minority of male perpetrators, but not among the female victims studied. That's interesting that some of them also, but having become a victim of strong, um, an index of parental loss, that, that sometimes you,

you do that if you lost a parent. Yeah that's interesting I don't even know why that would happen. Huh just kind of interesting you always hear that you know that it happens a lot of male and then you see there it happens a lot of males but not as much in females. What in Vegas yeah you run across uh you know everybody's there to have the craziest time. Yes. Right everybody's there to have the craziest time. Everybody's there to have bonkers times. And there's tons of prostitution, sex work, girls who are just partying for money.

I mean, there's everything there. The prostitution in Vegas is just off the meter. A lot of people think that it's legal in Vegas. It's not legal in Vegas. It's legal a little bit north in Nye County. You can go to the, there's a chicken ranch and there's other places that people can go. But in Vegas, it's illegal.

It's a misdemeanor, but it's still illegal. But inside the clubs, inside the casinos, I mean, there's tons of girls who are working. And most of them, not most of them, a lot of them work for pimps. Oh, they do? A lot of them do. What's that kind of connection?

Would you see that sometimes? Like, does the pimp come and drop them off? Does the pimp put them, a lot of them work for pimps. Oh, they do? A lot of them do. What's that kind of connection? Would you see that sometimes? Like does the pimp come and drop them off? Does the pimp put them, does he like uber pool them or whatever? Like how do they get the hook, the women down to the strip or whatever? Is the pimp down there? So there's a thing,

well, pimps a lot of times from a pimp perspective, they have a stable of women and they'll go from place to place to place. Like they'll go to Miami and bring their girls to Miami to work. They'll bring their girls to New York or Vegas or whatever. And these girls are called, I don't like the terminology, but they're called carpet holes,

or holes that actually work inside of casinos. And they'll walk inside the casino on the carpet, and they'll go make the money, come back and give it to the pimp. Then you have the lower level prostitutes, which are the ones that work the tracks. And a track is a place where it's known for prostitution, and Vegas and every other major city has tracks. And lower level pimps will drop their girls off

on the tracks, and then they'll walk the track and make their money. Then you have the ones that are the call girls who work out of the books, and they're the most high level females that a person can interact with. The people who drop some off of the tracks, what kind of vehicles do pimps drive?

Do they still drive these crazy classy cars? Do they drive a van? So, you know, I'm retired, so now it may have changed, but I can tell you that in the time when I was working, their cars stood out. It wasn't like the 1970s pimp mobile type vehicles But you would see the nicer, you know escalades or whatever types of vehicles But you could we would know because I mean if you're on a boulder highway, which is a really really Kind of seedy area, especially where the track is by five points boulder highway. It's called it's called boulder highway five points

Yeah, because it's five points of the city intersect at that location and Highway it's called? It's called Boulder Highway Five Points, yeah. Because five points of the city intersect at that location and that's a track, it's still a track. Okay, let's see that, Boulder Highway Five Points. Yeah, because sometimes I go, I'll drive just to see what places are still popping. Yeah, sure brother. And...

A lot of the pimps, are they, what types of guys are they? Black men, are they Asian men? Black men. It is. Black males are mostly pimps. So that's more of a black culture thing. It is. You didn't know that? I've seen, I've thought that because the pimps that I've met, I've only maybe met three pimps,

but two and a half of them, or one of them was mixed, but two of them were full, or potentially full black. But even in rap culture, you can hear people talk about Pym culture. Oh yeah. So it's like very, it's very clear that that's a subculture of. I just didn't know if it was also Chinese

or Russian type of thing, you know? Do you see a lot of that Vietnamese stuff? No, not, in my career, I didn't see that. But in New York, I know that, you know, the Russians have a lock on a lot of different vices in New York. That didn't really translate into Vegas as much. At a certain point, do you let the women trick? Do you let them do whatever they got to do out there?

I mean, you just want to make sure they're safe? At a certain point, if you know the crime is going to go on, if it's a kind of a fluid crime that happens regularly, is there more of a idea like, okay, we just want this to happen safely, or is it more of an idea of like, we want to stop this? So, that's a very good question. So, there's only so much you could do, right?

So, the primary responsibility for a patrol officer is to respond to calls for service. So, I'm gonna speak to when I was a patrol officer. And I'm talking about prostitution. Right, for prostitution. So, I mean, you see two or three prostitutes walking up and down the street. I mean, you can only stop one.

But most of the time they would, if they saw the patrol car, they would just keep walking. And if I hung out in the area long enough, they would realize that no trick is going to stop and pick them up. So you could affect it like that, but then you get a call for service, and then you got to leave, and then they're

going to be back doing exactly what they want to do. Was it a crime that I was really super concerned about? No, it wasn't. But it looks bad when I'm part of the responsible party of keeping that area safe. And you know if you have a prostitution situation going on either something else is going to occur you know connected to that there's either she's gonna get beat up or she's gonna rob steal his money a lot of times they would do that to guys if they felt like they could take their money because they

weren't the guy wouldn't report it to the police that would happen for low level for people who wanted to buy drugs too you would get these kids from the Midwest to come there or they're in Vegas okay we go down on fre, let's go buy some whatever they want to buy and I'm going to fill in the blank of whatever drug it could be. And they would just rob them. They would give them whatever and they'd say go, call the police if you want and then what are they going to do? They're not going to call the police.

And then you got all of this crap going on and it looks bad. It's like why are tax dollars paying for the police if we're not going to keep the area clear? So I think to answer your question, what I would do mostly is I would leave the prostitutes alone with the exception of interacting with them to say, hey, it's time to clear out. Do officers respond to in casino activities

or do in casino security respond to those so that it's not a public thing? Right, so the casino security are pretty high level. They're pretty well trained. They handle what they can, but they can't arrest anyone. So if it's a felony, we have to come and take care of it. For most misdemeanors, a lot of times they would give a person a warning.

I got called to casinos a lot of times for a lot of different things. I mean, because people get drunk, high. I told you if we have dead bodies, obviously the police have to respond to dead bodies. That's crazy. Oh yeah, but in a lot of times people die in these casinos. What do they die, overdoses probably? A lot of times it's overdoses.

Really? And is it a lot of times just people doing cocaine by themselves? What is it you think? So let me speak to the things I can specifically remember. So sometimes it's been just over-partying, over-exertion of their heart, and it could be a combination of using drugs, trying to have some sex that they weren't capable of doing, but a lot of times it's an over-exertion and trying to put too much in a weekend

and thinking that Vegas is gonna be the panacea to whatever they've had going on in their life back in Minnesota, and it wasn't. Yeah. Was there ever like a murder in a casino? A murder in a casino? No, I've never ever responded to a murder in a casino. I've responded to a lot of different murders.

But in the Petrocas Pass, a lot of times those murders were either a robbery. The really sad ones were obviously the domestic violence ones. But the casinos, they did a pretty decent job of, the ones, the casinos that I dealt with, of kind of monitoring their clientele. They've done, Vegas, because you get issues like that and then people are not going to come back to your casino.

Vegas is run by money. And most of the directors of these casinos are people who were prior, who were cops before. Oh, that's true. It's just like, yeah, people that lobby and people that work in Congress, like you're only so far from the other side. It's like, once you know so much about being an officer, at a certain point, the criminals might hire you

because you know so much about being an officer. It's like, so many things are kind of simpatico like that. What about, did prostitutes offer cop stuff a lot? Does that happen or no? Yeah, there were some cops that have gotten in trouble for getting some prostitution stuff on the side. And that's another thing, is that, do you ever heard the term badge bunnies? So it's not just prostitutes, it's just a lot of times women in general would offer police, you know, sex or whatever.

Sex or sexual activities, yeah. Actually, activities. Oh yeah, a lot of the chicks over by, we had a. Sexual activities, yeah. Activity. Oh yeah, a lot of the chicks over by, we had a footlocker bus, a lot of chicks over there was always trying to slurp on the cops or whatever. Yeah, one of my TAC officers, the guys who would teach you when you're in academy said, this badge will get you a whole bunch of coochie,

but one coochie will take that badge away. Damn. And it's true. And would a lot of officers still like, whatever, this is part of my? I had a Cofland Tiger. This dude was super squared away. I mean, tall, good looking,

I mean straight out of central casting. And I'm definitely not gonna say his name. I had a ton of respect for this guy. For sure. In fact, I think he was good enough to almost play professional baseball, if I recall. I was his boss at the time, and he goes on a call, and this girl, he was supposed to take a burglary report, if I recall, and he ends up hooking up with the girl, and realizes

that he screwed up. And so, and the girl was, I guess, having feelings for him, and so like, how, he ends up going and putting like a hoodie on and going and trying to buy the morning after pill at a convenience store or whatever, or CVS, wherever you can buy the morning after pill. And he had called me and said, hey, I'm not feeling well, can I get off early? And I just, this guy, he was so sharp, I was like,

yeah, go ahead, go home. And so he tells the girl he wants her to take the morning after pill, and then she ends up calling the police. Calling the police, and then it turns into, and he lost his job over it. And then there's a video of him, this is like a married guy with a hoodie on,

going in and buying a morning after pill. And it was that temptation. Story involving me. I went on a call, it was a loud music call, and it was all these girls that came in drunk from a party, all really hot girls, and it was like three of us on the call and we told them to turn the music down. And this beautiful girl looks at me and she says,

and they're like, oh, she got her navel pierced. She got her navel pierced. And I was like, oh, cool. And she says, and they're like, oh, she got her navel pierced. She got her navel pierced. And I was like, oh, cool. And she goes like this, she goes, look, and pulled the dress up, no panties on, and showed me her navel piercing. Yeah. That kind of stuff happens.

And what do you do? I'm just kidding. Can you look or not? Of course, I mean, she was standing right there. I just said, no, we're gonna leave. You gotta be professional and you gotta go. But you're gonna get that kind of stuff all the time. I mean, there was a time, I mean, you write people tickets,

they track you down and you wanna meet up or connect or whatever. There are people who just have a thing for police. Is it hard to say no to that type of thing now at some points? No, because you get off shift. I mean, you get off shift and you can, you know, meet the person after.

You don't have to try to do it on duty. Oh, so you could still do it at off duty. It depends on what kind of situation it is. There were guys, now there are cops who have banged the white, they will, this happened, stories happen more than once where a guy, a cop arrests a guy, the husband for domestic violence, and hooks up with the wife.

No. That's happened more than once. What's that called? Is there a felony? I mean, a bad business. I mean, it's just, it's really bad business. I mean, it's- I mean, I was wondering if there's a term for that.

Yeah, it's bad. It's a very, very bad thing. What are some of the, I heard you talk about suicide earlier with the guy, or maybe it was drug use where it was Valentine's Day. The Valentine's Day guy. Is that a scary time? Like what's like one of the most dangerous holidays?

New Year's Eve. Really? I didn't like working New Year's Eve because so many people shoot guns in the air and all kinds of stuff like that. And I remember one on a call one time. A lot of it's Mexican people I think. I'm not saying any.

And whites. Well, the story that I went to is a lady, what goes up must come down. Someone shot a gun up and bullet came down and was right in her boob. Yeah. So that's a cautionary tale to people who go out and shoot on Valentine's Day.

Of course we didn't catch the guy, but yeah. So I didn't, and New Year's Eve, it's just people getting wild and drunk and fighting. The one time a person spit in my face was on New Year's Eve. A woman. What do you do then? It was tough. I was about to retire, man.

And this girl was just incredibly drunk. She couldn't go into the casino. We ended up getting her into custody. My officers got her into custody. And I'm trying to calm her down face to face. And she just spit right in my face, man. I'm telling you, it took everything. I saw my whole career. spit right in my face, man. I'm telling you, it took everything.

I saw my whole career, Madison. And she ended up getting booked on that, because that's a crime, obviously. And we went to court, and she was dressed up completely nice, and they offered her a deal, if I would agree to her getting the deal. And I gave her the deal, man. Gave her the deal.

It's people get drunk and do stupid things, man. It sucked. Not only does the smell and all that other stuff suck, but what sucks is being humiliated on Fremont Street on New Year's Eve in front of thousands of people and seeing people laughing at you for being spit upon. It sucked, man. It really did. But to me, you gotta learn to forgive, man.

Yeah, well you're out there though in moments. Like, yes you do. It's really, but you gotta, you know, to me, you gotta learn to forgive, man. Yeah, well you're out there though in moments, like yes you do, it's really, it's interesting, because I feel like we're at this juxtaposition sometimes in society where it's like, you know, yes, you wanna treat people with respect, yes, you want people to, you know, you wanna believe that all people are good, but then it also, it starts to be like,

it feels like the bad stuff is winning sometimes. But I don't think that all people are good. I think that we are human that are capable of doing things that we don't even know that we're capable of doing. I have this thought that if placed in the right or wrong circumstance, a person that you would think would not do a certain thing would do that certain thing.

That's the thing about being human. That's the beauty of free will to some degree, in my opinion, right? There's that famous case where someone was giving someone an order like through a wall or something. Can you find it really quick? Oh, and they were asking to shock, and yeah, I think I know which case you're talking about,

and the person, yeah, they shock. Yeah, the Milgram Experience. In 1961, a series of social psychology experiments were conducted by Yale University psychologist, Stanley Milgram, who intended to measure the willingness of study participants to obey an authority figure, who instructed them to perform acts conflicting with their personal conscience.

Participants were led to believe that they were assisting a fictitious experiment in which they had to administer electric shocks to a learner, which was another person. These fake electric shocks gradually increased to levels that would have been fatal had they been real. What about the McDonald's one? Are you familiar with the McDonald's case, the police case where the guy... Craziest thing I've ever heard. And just because he thought it was a cop, they were willing to go to that degree.

This is the craziest thing that ever happened. The strip search phone call scam was a series of incidents mostly occurring in rural areas of the US that extended over a period of at least 10 years, starting in 1994. The incidents involved a man calling a restaurant or grocery store, and oftentimes it was a McDonald's, claiming to be a police officer,

and then convincing managers to conduct strip searches of employees and to perform other bizarre and humiliating acts on behalf of the police. I'm sorry to laugh, but the shit is unreal. Yes. With every hoax, a male caller who identified himself as a police officer would contact a manager or supervisor and would solicit their help in detaining an employee or customer who was suspected of a crime, such as a theft or drug possession. He would then provide a generic description of the suspect, like, oh, it's a female employee, et cetera,

which the manager would recognize, and then he would ask the manager to search the suspected person. So basically, he's had a guy calling up McDonald's. Eventually the caller would have groomed the manager to the point where they would do almost anything asked by the caller, such as spanking, kissing, inappropriate touching, oral sex,

and even sexual assault and rape. Many of the incidents would last hours. I'm sorry, man, this is not funny. I don't know what, I think there's something about it that many of this is fucking crazy, I think, right? It's psycho. It's crazy, okay, good. Many of the incidents would last hours

before either of the participants of the strip search realized the call was a hoax or by the intervention of a bystander. Do you know what even came, is it even crazier? This became a form of porn that became super popular. Really? Yes, where they were having, they were just filming it exactly like that.

God. Yeah, I did a deep dive on this whole thing. Yeah, this thing is fascinating. Yeah, basically they would call, they would have the manager, they would get the manager on the phone and they'd be like, yeah, I'm calling with the police.

We have security camera footage that one of your employees has been stealing. They would give a description of the employee. Then the manager would bring the employee into the back room with the police, alleged police officer still on the phone, and be like, OK, yeah, I need you to have the employee take off their shirt, right?

Yes. And a lot of times, the person might have access to the cameras in the in the McDonald's or in the restaurant so they can actually watch this somewhere afar, right? Yeah. So, but anyway, they'd be like, yeah, now have the person lift up their arms, have them take off their bra, their pants or whatever, spread their leg. And you have this fucking crazy, you have a manager at McDonald's and an employee at McDonald's and other butlers looking at each other's

private parts for something they didn't even say what they stole a lot of times. What are they gonna, like, you know. And one of them was a husband and wife. The male manager and the female was a husband and wife. That's the best, yeah. The lady was like, oh my God, because she was the manager, she's like, it's busy today, I have to get back to work.

She's like, let me call my husband, who I trust. Yes. And let him do it. To come down here and finish this examination of this female employee. So now you have the husband of the McDonald's manager sitting there, strip searching a female employee who's done nothing. The whole time there's a cop on the phone.

It's been a couple hours now. And at one point they told the girl, the woman I believe to blow job the man. So now you have somebody who allegedly stole from McDonald's, blowing the boyfriend of a man. I just, sorry, this is crazy. I don't understand how they could go that far. And then at a certain point,

the janitor literally gets on the phone. Yeah, this is the part right here. On February 2003, a phone calls me to a McDonald's in, I'm sorry, man, this shit, in Hinesville, Georgia. The female manager who believes she was speaking to a police officer who was with the director of operations for the restaurant's upper management, that she believes she was speaking to.

Took a female employee into the women's bathroom and strip searched her. She also brought in a 55 year old male janitor who conducted a body cavity search of the woman to uncover hidden drugs. Yeah, it's just crazy. And then the janitor, I think it was a different instance, but the janitor got on the phone one time and was like, oh, this guy's just screwing around. Yeah. And hung up the phone.

So then people were just standing there naked and like, what the fuck just happened? God, this is crazy that this was such a huge thing that happened. Can you imagine that? And it started, I couldn't believe it was true. I could not believe it was true. And it started when you were saying about the authority,

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or still sticks with you? This one is tough, man. So the call comes out, and this was a swing shift call. So it's usually right before, you know, after three p.m., swing shift's three p.m. until about one a.m. So the night hours about nine to 11 are the hours that things really pop off.

So this call comes out where these guys are screaming on the phone, my brother's been shot, my brother's been shot, my brother's been shot. It happened at the Circle K. So I drive up to the address of where it is and these two guys are on the sidewalk just wailing, like freaked out.

I know that's true. That's why it's hard for me to watch TV shows, but these guys are truly in trauma. And they're wailing. And I could see the car where they're talking about it. They're like, my brother, my brother, my brother. And I go to the car and I get to the window and I see this, like, this guy had a lot of hair.

It was all matted and mushed and you can tell that he wasn't moving. And I opened and his face was just, because he had been shot in the head, his face was just mush. And it was just all this nasty purple blood and everything. So I closed the door and I go in, I talked to the brothers and they tell me

that they were driving by the Circle K and that someone shot at them. And I was like, it just didn't make a lot of sense to me that the entry wound was in the back of the head and there's no entry in the window of the car. What turns out is it was three brothers in the car and the brother in the back seat was playing with the gun and he put it to his brother's head joking around

and he pulled the trigger and shot and killed his brother. And so in that short period of time, the two alive brothers have to figure out a story because this happened very, very quickly. And I remember when I, because the brothers ended up confessing to this, is the trauma of killing your brother and then having to make up a story about it

and having to deal with that grief. One of the most wild, crazy things, because you do have, it was an accident, but it's negligence, but. Right, but the biggest crime is that he has to almost deal with this burden of killing his own brother. It almost sounds Shakespearean or something. It is. And you know, playing with guns is another thing

because one of the first calls I ever had to translate on was because we have AAA, well, I don't say we because I don't live there anymore, but in Vegas they have AAA baseball and they had a AAA team. This guy had Tommy John surgery and a Dominican guy had Tommy John. And so he was partying with his friends,

they brought some girls over. And he was playing with a gun and shot this young girl and she was probably like 19 years old, killed her. And I walk into the, I walk upstairs, I walk into the apartment and the girl, her eyes were open and she was just to the side like this. And the guy is just like, he's completely freaked out. And he's thinking about his career, right? And so he didn't speak English. I'm translating to him in Spanish

and I'm like, the stupidity again of playing with a freaking gun. You just life is done. You know, you're done. Your career is what you're thinking about right now. How do you live with that? Don't even think about the legal stuff that you have to go through. Living with the fact that you took this 18 or 19 year old girl's life because you wanted to show off and play with their guns. So there's another lesson. It's like, do not play with frigging guns.

And they're not toys. They're really not toys. And so many people do. So many people do. It's ridiculous, dude. I would not, yeah, we had a kid in high school and um there was I guess kids playing poker together and he was mess with the gun and shot up shot himself there were two brothers in our town and one of them they were playing Russian roulette together and they were idiots

I'll be honest they were dumb not smart guys and one of them shot himself. I mean, what a weird moment. Then you're sitting, you're the brother, like what even, we could have played a no, we could have played hoops or something. You know, just like, it's heartbreaking, man. Responsible gun ownership is good, but you know, when it comes to playing with guns

or showing off with guns, I mean, it's just one of the stupidest things that you can possibly do. Have you ever been involved in a shooting? Yes, I have. In fact, I was mentioning earlier, I was involved in two. I was a sergeant on nine. You were a sergeant on nine shootings?

On nine different shootings, yeah. So I've intimately... And a shooting means somebody shot somebody, or it means somebody shot an officer, or it means an officer shot someone? It can mean any of those. But the ones I was involved in, the one that I was specifically with references, this interesting story was a cop buddy of mine, this mom was taking her kids out and having one of the kids like make a commotion and then the rest of the kids

would steal stuff and run out. So my buddy had a warrant for- At a grocery store? Like more like those Target type places. Got it. My buddy had a warrant for one of the people in the family and he asked me to go with them to serve it. It was an arrest warrant. So we get to the apartment community and he thinks he sees one of the guys involved in this thing.

And the guy I remember, he had on these red cargo shorts, white t-shirt, wife beater. And he goes, that's the guy. So there's a thing that we do is we call contact cover, where one officer does all the talking and the other one covers to make sure that the person's not doing anything. Oh, okay, so the guy up front can feel comfortable knowing that the guy behind him, his sole purpose is just to see if this dude

tries to make a single move. Yep, it's called contact cover. And so I was the cover officer. And as I'm looking at the guy, I see in his cargo pocket the outline of a gun. And so our code for gun is 413. So I give 413 to him, to the officer. So my guy sees it and he's like, oh shoot

So the guy was being a note so that we suggest people know people maybe people and the guy was being a maybe maybe Person like maybe I'll comply and that maybe people we want to get them in custody So I made the choice that I knew I could tell it was the gun so I made the choice that I went and I grabbed it and This guy yanked away from me and he got away and so the foot pursuit starts and he reaches into his cargo pocket and I'm running after him, gun drawn, and this was around 4.35 o'clock in Vegas,

so it's still very light outside. And I'm running after him and he keeps turning around and looking at me and I keep saying, if you pull that gun out of your pocket, I'm screaming, if you pull that gun, if you pull that, and then he pulled the gun and I lit him up. I remember after I shot that, you know, he does a somersault and everyone in this place is screaming.

At the target? At the apartment complex? At the apartment complex, everyone's screaming and this place was kind of anti-police. They're like, oh, he shot that guy, he shot that guy. And the guy's mom came out. She was one of the first people to come out. He lived.

It turned out that it was a replica gun. It wasn't even a real gun. Replica, it was a replica that looked like a firearm. It was not even a real weapon. It was not a fireable weapon, it was a replica. That is even dumber than anything. Well, it makes sense. But actually it's a blessing, man, it dumber than anything. Well, it makes sense. But actually it's a blessing then, it was.

It makes sense, it makes sense. It makes sense to you, why, sorry. Because a lot of those guys, they'll rob people with them. Oh, I see. Or someone, you know, and he's a gang member and so a lot of times they'll flash those or if they have the inability to get something,

that's better than nothing. But it was just a incredibly, and it became a race thing, which was really weird because I'm not white, but the media portrays things a certain way, and it flips the source. Was it a black perpetrator? Yes. Okay.

Yes, he was, he is, he's still alive. Wow, and do you choose at that point, are you trying to maim somebody, or are you trying to just slow them down? No, no, it was shoot to incapacitate? Are you trying to maim somebody trying to just slow? No, no, it was shoot to impact incapacitate. We're taught to shoot center mass But again, do you are you do you train running at full speed through the park? I mean, this is a whole bunch of different dynamic that come into play Yeah, that's got to be kind of fascinating with a lot of rate. Yeah, there's so much racial stuff surrounding

police and policing What does that look like from the inside? What's that? Because if you were, if there was a black group and you got accused and you're Dominican? No, I'm half black, half white. Oh, you are? Okay. So you're black and white.

Well, actually both of my parents are kind of mixed. So I guess I'm, but I'm considering myself black. But I speak Spanish because I learned to speak Spanish as an adult. That was an intent of mine. I respect cultures, I think that. And I lived in another country that spoke Spanish, so I felt that if you go into another country and learn their language. I think that makes good sense.

It just helps you probably too. 100%. Yeah, and probably help you so much in your service, in your, you know, because immediately you can relate with somebody else. Yes. On a level that a lot of people wouldn't be able to. Yeah, what is race, what is that profile,

what is that, like, there's so much racial stuff that revolves around the police all the time. Does that get uncomfortable out there on the streets? What is it like? It's really interesting because, you know, a lot of people, being a white cop is really, really difficult, a white male cop, because so often the default is that you did it because I'm this race

and you're white. And I was around cops for 20 plus years. And I can only think of one instance, one instance where there was an overtly racial thing that occurred and it was a comment that was made in a briefing room. But as far as the treating of a person, because they were a certain race, I've never seen that. And I'm hypersensitive to that kind of stuff. I study that, in fact, I taught it for a while.

What is that called? So some people call it diversity. My class was called human, and I called it the sole search warrant. And I think that we all have biases. All of us have biases. Oh, for sure. And I think that you as a comedian know

that part of those biases is what makes a lot of comedy funny. And most black comedians, the first thing that they talk about is how black people are a certain way and white people are a certain way. I mean, that's just kind of how we are. But we get along and it works. But in policing to default, that because one person is

one color and another person is another color, is the wrong way to look at it. I mean, this whole thing that happened with George Floyd, I mean, we're talking billions of dollars and people who were, the cities were destroyed and all that. I have yet to see a piece of evidence that Derek Chauvin did that because George Floyd is black. I haven't seen that.

Now can I speak to the tactics? I can of course speak to the tactics. Right, but right, was race involved or was it just a guy maybe who didn't use the best tactics in the moment, who was probably also Scared who knows what was going on. I don't know exactly what he testified. I studied that case. You did I did what did he? What did Chauvin say so looked at so I can tell you that so here were the factors and this is a big can of

Worms for us to open up, but I'll speak to some specifics Because you know there now there's a push that he should be released, right? I've seen that recently. I've seen that. But you're a police officer, you've been a sergeant. Yes, so I'll tell you my thoughts on it. You wanna talk to that about that? For sure, in your black and white.

Yeah, exactly. So we can have. All right, so I'll tell you, here's my take on it. Because I have cops who say, oh yeah, he was wrongly convicted, he was wrongly convicted. I say, okay, let's just set that aside for a second. You roll up on that scene, and Chauvin has his knee on Floyd's neck.

Tell me what you're gonna do at that point. And he's not moving. What are you gonna do? And every one of them says, of course I'm gonna tell them to get off. So I said, then we need to start from that point about the sanctity of a person's life. Let's forget about the fact that George Floyd was likely

on a very high levels of fentanyl, which was proven and all that other stuff. But we're the professionals. Right. We're the professionals. Right, like at what point does the governor inside of you not activate or trigger that it's like, okay, I have to go here from policing to being human, you know? Why can't policing be human?

You know what I'm saying? I'll give you an example, Theo. Check this out, right? Judge me on this really quickly, okay? This is a typical car stop. I pull you over, Sergeant Curtis, Vaughn Police Department. The reason I pulled you over is because you were speeding, license registration, and proof of insurance, please.

Grade me on that. A, B, C, D. I would say B. Okay, you give me a B on that. Yeah, A to B. A to B, A to B, okay. So now you go to a restaurant. I come up to your table, I'm like, hello, Mr. Vaughn, my name's Christopher. I'd like to tell, A to B, okay. So now you go to a restaurant, I come up to your table,

I'm like, hello, Mr. Vaughn, my name's Christopher. I'd like to tell you about our specials today. We got a chicken, we have a fish, and we have a new- Tiramisu. Grate me on that as your server. A to B. So I'll tell you, I would not give that server an A to B. And most servers are gonna come to you and be a lot more congenial than I was tell you, I would not give that server an A to B. And most servers are gonna come to you

and be a lot more congenial than I was to you. Yeah, probably, a little more energetic. A little more energetic, a little more congenial. And shouldn't policing be even better? How about this? How you doing, Sergeant Curtis, Vaughn Police Department? I know this is probably not what you wanna be doing right now, but I just wanna explain something to you.

We had a little kid almost get hit the other day, and we're pulling people over just to warn them to slow down a bit. If you give me a license registration proof insurance, I'll try to get you out here as quickly as possible. I'm sure that you probably have something else more important to do. I just wanted to let you know that I'm here to help.

That was maybe what, 30 more seconds of words? Yeah, I'm on a date now. Yeah, but it changes the whole, it changes the energy. You see it changes the whole thing. But this mechanics has changed. So what happened with this, let's go back to what we were talking about with Chauvin and George Floyd, right?

When I watched the video, you definitely can see that George Floyd was having some issue with being claustrophobic and getting inside the vehicle, okay? Now, we're not saying that it's made for comfort and if you get arrested, it's not going to be a fun experience. But can we be a little bit different? One cop said, I'll put the window down, I'll put the window down.

And you can even see Floyd saying, I'll do the countdown. Let me count down before I get inside the car. Is it possible? Is it possible for us, especially if the person's handcuffed, to reach down into a degree of humanity to another human being and say, you know what? Take a deep breath. I'll count with you. Can we get you in the car then?

Let me tell you my name. My name is Sergeant Curtis. I don't want to hurt you. Look at me in my face, look at me. Take a deep breath, my man. Okay, I see you're breathing a little bit better now. You're going to be going to jail, and you got to get in the car,

but you got to work with me. Now granted, I'm talking in an air conditioned place. I slept in a great hotel last night, and it's a lot easier than being in the field, but I've been in the field. You know, I've been in the field, and I've made mistakes, but we got to be better than kneeling on a person's neck for that period of time.

So the specifics of what he was convicted for, I know that we could pull it up and look at it. One of the charges I believe he was convicted for was involuntary second degree murder, right? I don't believe it was in, I don't believe he was trying to kill George Floyd. I don't believe he was trying to kill him. But could his behavior have contributed to it? Possibly, you're still kneeling on a person's neck for that period of time.

Yeah. Yeah, it's interesting. And then you're like thinking of what all is going around the environment at that moment. If people are, do you get caught in a, almost in, because you're a human, you're still a human, right? And if you, do you get caught in some weird

flight or freeze thing? 100%, you're 100% right. Because if you listen to the tape, there's a guy on the side that's yelling at Chauvin. He said, look what you're doing, get off that man's thing. And then what happens is, then it becomes a battle between the officer and this other person. I'm standing my ground and you're yelling at me and I'm the officer here and nine minutes or six minutes or whatever minutes it was is really a mere seconds because I'm locked into this as opposed to focusing on this person. That's why bystanders to me, if you wanna be a bystander, stand back, record,

but don't be yelling, you're not helping the situation. That ruins a lot of things I think. It does. But then also it's like you wouldn't have, it's fascinating. All the things that go on in that moment and how equipped are police officers, how equipped are human beings

to deal with all of that at once. So now you're being recorded, you're in control, you're scared for your own safety, you should be scared for the safety of your perpetrator or the person that you're putting under arrest, you know. It just, it's, I don't know how a human system even figures all that out. Sometimes you don't and we see what happens when you don't. That's why mental health awareness is so important for police.

It's so, so important and not to be stuck in that, that just police ecosystem and have other things to do. Cause that's what happened with that, in my opinion, that's what happened with that Chauvin thing. Is what? That he got locked into, I'm the officer. Cause police have this thing called ask, tell, make. Ask, tell, make. You ask them to do it, they don't do it.

You tell them to do it, then you make them do it. Got it. But that model only works sometimes. There is a model, so the father of modern day policing is a guy named Sir Robert Peel. Back in the 1800s, he created the first modern policing in England. Sir Robert Peel, known as the father of modern policing

for establishing the first modern police force in London. That's why they call police Bobbies, because of after him. Oh, Robert, yeah, Bobby Peel. Known as Bobbies or Peelers. How did Peel perform policing? Go ahead. So what he did was really interesting. He created this thing where it was the principles

of policing that really the policing should be modeled after, I think that you could probably pull those up, the nine principles of policing that really the policing should be modeled after. I think that you could probably pull those up, the nine principles of policing. But one of them that I find interesting and that I've always had is he talks about persuasion, advice, and warning. I remember because of P-A-W, persuasion, advice, and warning.

So while modern day police have asked, tell, make, Peel talked of this thing called persuasion, advice, and warning. So is there a possibility I could persuade this person? And obviously, if it's a dynamic situation and I gotta take care of business, then I have ask, tell, make always in my pocket, right? I got a big tool belt.

But is persuasion, advice, warning something else I can put in my belt? Can I potentially persuade this person? This time it's often on the police officer side. Persuasion. Can I give him some advice? Listen to me, sir, listen, if you don't, the other officers are going to come here and they're going to make it more difficult. Don't you see that I'm working with you and we can work together and get this thing done. We can do this together. Warning, if the other officers come and I step back, then they're going to be a lot different than I am. This is just another

tool that the police can put in their belt so that we don't have to get into this situation. I bet you if Derek was to be able to go back and think back, I bet you he would have done things differently, in my opinion. Yeah, I'm sure you kind of, what did he say? Did he, what was his testimony?

What were the key points from his testimony from Derek Chauvin's? Did he have, did he take the stand? He decided not to testify in his own defense, exercising his fifth amendment right. Hmm, wonder why they made that choice. Because you would think, oh, I don't know. But he's got the federal case,

and he's got the state stuff. And I think he has another case running concurrently for a tax evasion as well. So he had a whole bunch of different things going on. And I'm not saying that he was guilty of any of all of those things. No, I think you're just looking at what happened, but it is fascinating how that turned into a racial thing though as well. And I say that all the time.

Yeah. Which, which, which case had that? Can we definitely say that it was race? Which one is very difficult to find that case. And just cause if you call, well, what percentage of officers, I thought this, I thought that, well, each police department should have five different races at it and you call and then that you get that race to come, right? Then that way nobody could ever say that again.

Yeah, but you know, I mean, that would be absolutely ridiculous. But it's like, is that what we should, is that, you know, I think it's that because I don't agree with that model because I think that that separates us more and more. But you go to any bar in downtown Nashville and you're gonna find people of all different races sitting around and you might engage with a person. It takes us back away from the content of one's character. I don't, you know, what people call racism,

I think that it's more bias because. I agree. It's much more bias than it is racism. I give you an example. I was in the Vegas airport. This guy's walking in front of me. His pants are like sagging down and you could see his underwear.

What was really interesting was it was like this really interesting floral print and his socks matched his underwear. And I had a beer or two, so I was mess with the guy I was walking by. I said, oh man, I said, dang, them underwear, nice, they look good with them. And he turned around, he was like, who you talking to, like, da, da, da, da, da, da, da,

I mean, going off, and then a TSA agent comes up and is like, what's the matter, and he said, hey, he's talking about my, and I was, this was me in civilian clothes, he said, he's talking about my underwear. And the agent, the TSA agent said, well, they do match your socks, and the guy gets pissed off and walks away. Now you can agent says, well, they do match your socks.

And the guy gets pissed off and walks away. Now you can picture this situation happening, right? Now, when you picture the situation happening, did you think it was a black guy? I don't know. At first when you said pants sagging, I did. There you go. But then when you said matching with the,

and black people like to match, so I thought that as well. Floral print, then I started to think maybe it was like a white guy from maybe Milwaukee or something, or Toledo or something trying to celebrate. But the point in the story, and it was a black dude, but the point in the story is that we have biases to behavior, it wasn't because of the person's skin color. And then what happens is,

if we create a squad of police that says, just because you're black, that means you're going to respond to black people. What if that doesn't necessarily, what if you don't? Oh, I don't think it'll work. I'm just trying to think, how do you get the racial issues out of it?

Because yeah, at a certain point you do get to like, I don't know, I don't see as much racism. Like I grew up in the South, you know, when you'd hear some people's dads, they would just sit there and just say the N word or and call people f**ks or whatever. And just like, they would say a lot of racist jokes. That was it.

You know, that was a lot of what you'd hear. But I don't even hear that s**t anymore, dude. Like I'm not saying it doesn't exist. But I think- It's because people are scared to say it. It's because they're scared they're gonna- That could be true. But I don't even hear that shit anymore, dude. Like I'm not saying it doesn't exist. But I think- It's because people are scared to say it. It's because they're scared they're gonna hear it. That could be true. But I think people, I think more people now,

I don't think that there's more racism than there used to be. I think sometimes there is a fear of some black cultures in areas because I think people probably want to be safe and they fear that some of those areas don't have a lot of safety. But I don't know that that's true and I also don't know It kind of that that kind of bums me out sometimes because it's like well

I would like to go support probably more like black owned businesses and see them in certain areas probably But I think there's some times where I'm just probably afraid It's like I don't want to risk my safety today to do that. In a predominantly black neighborhood. Right. And that may sound racist saying that. That doesn't sound right. Well, I don't know why would that sound racist? Yeah. Why would that sound racist? Okay. Name me three major cities where you think there's

a lot of crime. Three major cities that have a lot. Oh yeah. Memphis. Okay. New Orleans, probably. Los Angeles. Okay. And cities in the world. Oh yeah, Memphis. Okay. New Orleans probably, Los Angeles. Okay. And cities have more crime. Yes, they do have more crime. Okay, how about, what about Chicago?

Chicago. Chicago. Now, when you think about that crime, do you think of it as black crime? I think maybe in some areas. So you probably do, because you hear a lot about Chicago black crime. You hear that term a lot.

I'll show you something. Can you pull up, heyjackass.com? Have you heard of this? Mm-mm. Heyjackass.com. This is a guy who tracks every single shooting that occurs in Chicago by the minute, where it occurs, by race and time. So I was going to-

How would he do it? I was going to- He's like the Santa of bullets or whatever. How did he get it all done? You said Santa of bullets. Or like, how's he doing it all in one night? Hold on bullets or whatever. How does he get it all done? Santa of bullets? Or like, how's he doing it all in one night? Hold on, before you look, before you look,

how many people do you think have been shot? Just shot? Shot in Chicago? I'm going to get this right, I bet. I would say, 41 people. 41 people shot in Chicago until March, right? A deceased or just shot?

Just shot. Oh, just shot, I would say 71. 71. All right, take a look. This is cool. Oh, total shot, 87. So for year total, look at year total. Year to date, 80, 330 total shots.

So that means 330 people have been shot and we're not even, how does a mayor have a job if that many people get shot? Now, look at it by race. 75% black, 18.8% Hispanic, 6.4% white or other. So there's more shooting between with blacks and Hispanics than whites, or of the three black leads, 75%. And this is only Chicago. But do you, so why do you think this is, right?

Because you've seen, you've been on the streets, I mean, this was Las Vegas, which probably has more of a Latino population as well, huh? It does. Why do you think this is? Is it just a financial thing? Is it a culture thing? Is it, because you start to think that so,

like, the weird thing about crime is, it starts to become part of a culture. So you're saying a lot of very, very interesting things, and I'll speak to the first one first. Why do I think it is? I think it's because, okay, let me speak to the specific question. Why is it that it happens in black culture?

Is that the question? Yeah, I mean, I think about it. It's like, yeah, well, it starts to seem like, well, that's become part of the culture. And so it's just too risky. It's like, I wanna. Okay, I think it's part of the subculture. Oh, that's a better term.

I think it's part of the subculture. Yeah, yeah, that's what I mean. That's a better term, yeah. Sometimes I don't know all the words. It's part of a subculture. It's part of the subculture. Yeah, yeah, that's what I mean. That's a better term, yeah. Sometimes I don't know all the words. It's part of the subculture. It's part of the subculture. And so I'll tell you why it happens, is because not enough people call it out.

It's okay for rappers to come and be in places and celebrate it when rap culture has become so celebrated when rap culture has become so openly violent, not only towards each other and gangs, for gang versus gang, but towards women, and that is not called out. That's where people who have a voice need to stand up and say, no, young man, that's not appropriate, that doesn't work. When I spoke to you in the beginning,

I said I cannot overstate the importance of my father being in my life, but for that fact, I was able to reach the degree of just basic, and I'm not gonna say success, I'm content with what I have. But for me having both of my parents in my life for such a significant time, a lot of these kids don't. A lot of them do not.

And the fact that that's not called out, and that, you know, and I don't want to turn this into a political conversation, but I have very strong feelings about the fact that there's so many people in a certain group that don't say, that is not acceptable behavior. We're not gonna condone that. You must act and behave differently, otherwise we can't hang here.

And until that happens, that's going to just be a continuous cycle. Yeah, the media, I mean, you can't, you couldn't say that there's a black crime problem. You know, it's like the media is very- There is a black crime problem. There is. But you can't, yeah, the media seems like they never would say that, you know? And the media is kind of what people absorb, you know? But I think now you're able to have people who have come out of black culture and are trying I think there's I think there are good leaders out there who are saying it. You know I think that

Hopefully it's gonna change to you know culture because the shitty part is it's like yeah, I had a friend and She had the she had like a hat store and she wanted me to come by and I was like, I, it's just that's too, I don't want to be in that area. I don't want to be in there. Don't blame you. But to be like, I don't want to shop, you know, it just kind of sucks, you know, like shit like that kind of sucks. Self preservation is a thing.

Right. That's the first thing. And it's the best thing. It's like, I'm not going to fucking risk my life to get a fucking fitted, you know? Yeah. At the same time, it would be nice to, you know, it's like, and that's not everywhere. And that's, but it's like, yeah, that kind of shit sucks, dude. You wish that shit would go away because it fucking sucks.

And it makes cities bad, man. Like New Orleans has a lot of that murder over there, a lot of black on black murder. And it makes you not want to be around certain, like it makes you just not be able to relax and enjoy yourself. We're at 300 and some people have been shot and there's a mayor who still has a job. So being an officer and being a sergeant, what effect can the mayor really have on the crime in an area? So the mayor, so we didn't have a unique situation in Las Vegas where we didn't report to the

mayor. Our sheriff was an elected official. So the police in Las Vegas didn't have to worry about politics with the mayor. The sheriff was almost every single time a police officer before. And in fact, the former sheriff who was the governor now was one of my sergeants. He understood policing.

So the top ranking law enforcement person understood policing. And I think that that became a very effective model where you don't have to report to a mayor. That mayor is dealing with politics and the police chief has to report to that mayor. So how do we affect this situation? It's not the police that are going to fix it. I mean, in the media they can put a bandaid on it and put cops on dots and corners and do stuff like that. But we have to say, fathers have to be in households.

They have to raise their kids. I can tell you in the beginning when we started speaking, I said, if I was, one of the other things I said that affected me is the times that I didn't spend with my children when I could have, where I was either working or being selfish and doing something on my own, whatever. Fathers have to be involved in those lives.

Otherwise, those young men are gonna continue to do the same exact thing in New Orleans, in Memphis, in Chicago. Everyone else says, we should be screaming at the top of our lungs when we see that 300 something people were shot in one city. And that's okay. How is that okay?

It's not. But then you'll see people protesting about this or protesting about that and claim to really care about humanity. But before we're done with this podcast, there is going to be at least two or three and maybe 10 people that are going to shop across all these different cities. But you know what we don't, you know, there's a saying that says all men are hypocrites. Most deny it, I myself admit it. And I do. I admit I'm a hypocrite. My life is good, Theo, if I really, really cared,

if I really, really cared, and this is an honest submission, then maybe I would, as a retiree with all the time I have, maybe find one of these Chicago kids and spend time with them and do something. And maybe at some point in my life, I will. But I think that we have to call out our own hypocrisy in life and say that

we as Americans love our lives the way they are. These people protesting all these places, they're getting a latte at Starbucks right afterwards, to call out our own hypocrisy in life and say that we as Americans love our lives the way they are. These people protesting all these places, they're getting a latte at Starbucks right afterwards, getting on TikTok and sending out videos and claiming that they're revolutionaries. They're not revolutionaries. There are no real revolutionaries right now. And thanks for sharing, dude. I know that, you know, I appreciate you sharing.

Forgive me for preaching, man. Now, I don't know if we sound preachy, you know, I think it's okay. You know, like, like two of my black friends got killed in drive-by shootings in New Orleans like in the past eight years. And they didn't catch the guys that did it. Actually, one of the guys that did, one of them they did catch the guy that did it. But just like it was like just bullshit in the city, just fucking shooting, you know? And it starts to get sad, it starts to get like, I don't know, like people ask me now,

what should I do when I'm in New Orleans? And I say, you know, these are places to go, but don't go in these areas. You know, it kind of fucking sucks. It's like, but what I was thinking was, we had a guy named Richard Reeves on, and he said, well, one of the problems these days is there's not a lot of young male role models is there's not a lot of young male role models.

Yes. There's not a lot of young male role models. And he said a lot of men used to be teachers, and don't have a lot of male teachers anymore. He said a lot of men were Boy Scout and Cub Scout leaders, troop leaders. There was more, I guess, more young men used to be involved in the church, right?

So you had, and obviously some of this shit got haywire and some of those people got molested or whatever, but outside of that, there's just not a lot of, a lot of male role models. And so it's like, how do we start to become male role models in our community, right? Did you, did you, did you mean just male role models or did you mean black male role models? I just meant male, I think male role models. His, his work is just looking at, it's the, uh, the founding president of the American Institute for Boys and Men. Uh, he's the author of several books, including a Boys and Men,

Why the Modern Male is Struggling, Why It Matters and What to Do About It. His was just saying that, yeah, it used to be like, so to become, if you have spare time to become a baseball coach, to do the big brother program, if you can commit the time to it be like, so to become, if you have spare time, to become a baseball coach, to do the Big Brother program if you can commit the time to it, like, cause it takes like a lot of real time to do those things. And it really kind of just put me on notice,

like, yeah, how do I create something that's, or just give back to like, you know, since I don't have any children yet, how do you be a part of that, you know? Cause I think some of our men too, this is something that I believe is happening, is our men are still being really young. It's like we don't have to grow up.

It's true. It's very true. And look, I'm still trying to not be grown up, but I gotta fucking grow up, dude, because they're coming after me or whatever. Who's coming after you? Nobody is, but my mom's like, what are we doing? You know, like, are we getting,

are you gonna get a family or what's gonna go on? Do you want a family? I think so, dude, because I think I would miss out on it You know, I'd like to have a son be a good dad Make my wife happy or whatever until she gets fucking all what stop what's stopping you? Huh? What's stopping? Dude, I haven't even met my wife yet. First of all, and I'm gonna be fucking I got some shit to tell her when I do Meet her. I'll tell you you pray for her. Huh? Yeah, I do pray about it. Do you pray for her specifically? No, I haven't prayed for her specifically,

but I do pray, that's a good point. I guess I'm- She's alive, so if she's alive, maybe a good prayer would be, you know what, because just think, she's doing something right this second. Just think, if you started to fervently pray for that specific person,

you'd be building her before she even gets to you, bro. Wow. Yeah, it's like creating when you get to make your own person on NBA 2K or whatever. You know what I'm talking about? The spiritual side though. Yeah, totally. Yeah, yeah. I got you.

Yeah, I got you. But yeah, I made a list of like, you know, things I would like, but then it's like, I don't want to get too locked in, but that's a good call, man. And just pray that God, you know, I have been praying that God gives me the, just the ability to lean more into becoming who I need to be to be in that situation, you know. May I ask you a semi-personal question? Yeah. Is the reason why, maybe holding you back a little bit, the fact that you still like

dating multiple women or like being, you don't want to lock down, you kind of really want to experience more? Well, I think, you know, I've thought about that. I'd like, I don't know, it's been hard with work. It's like, work is my biggest relationship. I mean, when I have a free moment, I'm working, I just, I like it. You know, when I'm planning or I'm thinking,

what could I do? And not even just work, but like, how could I start to do like work that is more given back to the community? Like, you know, but you start to think of like, okay Well, what like what can I create now that could really be part of something cool or help people? And I think we all think like that But but yeah, so just any facet of like what can I create while I'm still have some creativity in me? You know and then as far as dating like I try to put myself out there, you know,

I'm not on the apps, but I'll meet girls, go on dates, you know, I'm pretty brave to be like, oh, let's meet up for a coffee or let's grab a dinner or something like that. I feel like I'm kind of tired of running around, to be honest. I think it's kind of leaves out of your system a little bit. It does.

Yeah. So that's kind of where I feel like I'm at. Cool. And then it's like you get into an age range where you're like, OK, well, you know, it's kind of tough. Sometimes some people have children. But once you realize that, you're like, OK, well, I never thought about it if I would

date somebody with children, you know? So then you start to think about that and learn different little things and stuff. We're sleeping in the same bed with a person. Does that bother you? Yeah, that bothers me. A lot of times I don't like it that much, but. So maybe that's something that you could find

in common with a person. And maybe your intimacy comes together to a certain space, and you still have enough space to be apart from each other. And if they have, if at the jump, if they're cool with that, maybe that's something that you can start off from that point. Cause some people don't like to sleep together. You heard of sleep divorce?

You never heard of sleep divorce? No, but I would love if my wife had her own room. Yeah. Sleep divorce is where people don't sleep in the same bed, but they maintain an intimate relationship and then their relationships actually flourish. And I don't like to call it sleep divorce. I like to call it like solitary intimacy. Like where you're cool being by yourself and you're cool being by yourself when we come together whenever just some stuff to throw No, I think it's neat. I think there's stuff like that relationships are kind of evolving and stuff, too

I think people are figuring out kind of what works for them I think sometimes I've been afraid to maybe even say what I feel like if I'll be like hey I'd love it if my if I could have a separate bedroom than my wife You know and if we wanted you know my, if I could have a separate bedroom than my wife, you know? And if we want it, you know, like then we could have our own rooms. I think that that's the most awesome thing possible. And that would be fine. Yeah.

So, but I think for, for years you get caught on this idea like, Oh, that's going to be crazy to say to somebody, you know, but then I think as time goes on, you're like, ah, nothing's really that crazy. You just have to say it and see if somebody else is OK with it. You know? You've talked a lot about policing and how to police. That seems like to be something that you care about. Has policing changed a lot over the years, do you feel like?

Yes. Because of technology and the advent of cameras and everyone. When I came on the police department, people defaulted to the police being right. Now people default a lot of times to the police having questions about the police behavior and it's fair because a lot of things have occurred that would make people question that. So it's changed in the sense that people always have the cameras out. Obviously, police now all have body cams. So things are documented and memorialized in a digital format that we didn't necessarily

have before. And I think it's essential when a person can take away a person's freedom or take away a person's life that it's documented. I got a ticket. I got a ticket. First ticket in my life. I got it in July. Oh, really?

It was a trippiest story. And it made me realize what people have to go through. And so check this out. So in Florida, I have a house in Florida, and I was riding my e-bike on the beach, just pedaling. There was a plastic cup. I pick up the plastic cup, and I ride my e-bike over to throw it away,

and I turn around and I use my throttle to go back. All of a sudden, this buggy with lights and siren comes screeching up on me on the beach and this cop jumps out. First thing he says to me is, I need you to get off the bike and I need to see your license. Those are his words as soon as he stops me.

And I don't know if he was intimidated by me or what and I was like, oh, you're not gonna get any problems out of me? I said, listen, I said I'm a retired cop, I'm cool. I'm not gonna do anything to you. This is. Oh, you guys are right there. That's the cop.

Is that Shawn Kingston? He does look like Shawn, an older version of Shawn Kingston. Yeah, yeah. He was sweating. I mean, he was, look like, I just can't even explain how stressed out he was over me riding my electric bike on the beach and He wrote me a ticket. Mm-hmm and so I was like

you know what I'm gonna ride this whole thing out because I want to see what it feels like from the side of because I gave Out a lot of tickets. I want to see what I went to court and everything I had to go before judge there were people in there for like felonies and everything else. And I went through the whole process and paid my taxes. And it was disappointing to me that at this day and age that there are still police that don't, that the first thing they say to you out of their mouth is, get off the bike, I need to see your license. It goes back to what I was saying to you before about,

when I just told you how I interact, I prefer a person to interact. Why not do that? Well, I think, but now in some instances, things are manic and the situation has escalated already, right? Like sometimes it's already, things are insane. Like if a guy's shooting or something,

it's different. Sure, I mean, you're gonna be, yeah. But you're saying just walking up person to person, what is the daily interaction like? Yeah, why, the daily interaction like? Every single interaction from the police should be something that should be friendly and almost as I'm the servant, because we are, we're supposed to be servants, even if a person makes a mistake, come on, bro. Oh, I look, I love that idea.

I love the idea that that's what keeps it, what keeps that from happening then, because then you would almost want to be able to check each day, okay, how is this officer doing today? Are they going to be able to manage to be out there in this field? Or are they getting paid enough to be able to take care of themselves to get massages or ice baths? Things that people need though that to de-stress them. Dude, I go get a massage. It'll change the way I talk to my mother on the phone. It's like. I love that concept.

But it's like, yeah, it seems like we would be able to take care of these people more who are really the sieves of our society that are like drain, they're the capture, they're the catch of the drain. I like that analogy. To me, I think it would actually make policing less stressful if the police interaction from the police side is that entree into being so kind and polite from the very beginning of the stop.

Because you're not going to get into that many arguments with people because most people are like, dang on it. I've written tickets to people that are like, thank you. You know, because, and I'm not saying that I was great at doing it. There were a lot of cops who know how to talk and act that way. And it's usually when you get older, it's just that this, if everything looks like a nail, well if you have a hammer,

everything looks like a nail or whatever, if the hammer's your only tool, then everything looks like a nail. And that's the only way that you deal with things, is hammering it in. As opposed to trying other methods, make that tool belt bigger. Yeah, I mean I've learned that in my own life, man.

I've really showed up with a hammer a lot of times. I'm trying to have less of it. And it's been getting better, oddly. I just find little moments where I'm like, I've tried that so many times, waiting for somebody to act a certain way towards me instead of just acting that way. Fuck, that's a fucking,

I've spent a lot of my life waiting. Oh, I'm just gonna wait for you to act this way towards me because I deserve that if that's the way it's supposed to be or something and not in like a way of like praise or anything like that, but just even something simple, like a relationship, work relationship, or even with family, I'm gonna wait, you know? Instead of like, I'm gonna wait for you to hold my hand

instead of me just holding your hand type shit, you know? That, and that's deep, man. You know, the way that you adjust, evolve, and treat people, and I learned this very interesting story when I first hired on the police squad, and it's race incident here. I was coming on Graveyard, this is downtown, there's a foot pursuit, swing swing shift gets the guy in custody

The sergeant I was an officer time sergeant calls me over and asked me to transport the guy I get there and the guys leaking And he a black dude He's pissed and two officers that took him to the custody white one of the officers was a guy Who was a senior field training officer and he was about to go to SWAT and I'm this rookie rookie I come over and the black dude, his eye is leaking. And they call medical and medical comes while I'm sitting there and the sergeant says, hey, you take him because, you know, he figured he, the guy would feel more comfortable with me

because the guy was saying, oh, they just roughed me up. So I get the guy. So this is the important part. The FTO has his handcuffs on the suspect. What you're supposed to do is conduct a pat down, go through the whole process, put your handcuffs on the person, and then transfer him to the car. I didn't want to offend the FTO by making it seem like I didn't trust his pat down. So I put my cuffs on the guy.

I take the guy and the and I'm getting ready to put in my car and the ambulance lady says he can't go straight to jail. You got to take him over to UMC, which is the hospital because they got to sew that up. Take them over to UMC. We go there. The doctor says I got to unhand cuff his hand and cuff him to the gurney. And I'm talking to this dude and I'm just like vibing with him, and like, I just, I felt kind of bad for him. Like, he just was like, you know, you look at a person who just dejected, like their life sucked, and he was being booked for running.

You know, they were trying to stop him, and he was running, right? And he's leaking, he's like, this dude was just like, his life was sucked. So we get down to the hospital, they sew him up, I recuff him, bring him to the jail, CCDC, the detention center, county detention center. I get him inside, before we get there,

the guy said, he was John Doe at that point, so if the person doesn't tell us their name, we book him as John Doe. The dude says to me, he goes, you know what man, you've been cool to me, I'm gonna tell you my name. He tells me his name. I put it into the computer.

My computer starts going crazy. All this information pops up and his warrant pops up. Dispatcher says, ask me if I'm clear for the information. He's wanted by the FBI murder by burning. I get him down to the jail. Yes, chef, that's crazy. The CO is one of my boys and he goes, screaming, he's like, Chris, what the hell?

He's yelling. He comes back, this big, huge knife the guy had on him the whole time. Big, big knife. You didn't check him. I didn't check him because I didn't wanna offend the FTO. And the dude says to me, as he walks by when they brought him out,

because he got booked on the digital charge, he says, he said, you know, if you weren't kind to me as he walks by when they brought him out because he got booked on the discharge he says he said you know if you weren't kind to me the way that you were I could have done you in the hospital and I would have done you me being kind and polite to that guy saved my life from that stupid rookie mistake that I made yeah I'm sure like yeah I mean I I don't know what it's like I don't know what it's like how I don't know what it's like. How do you make sure that an officer, when they leave out for the day each day, is in the best state that they can be in

to be these liaisons between right and wrong in the world? And that's what, it's like, how best can we take care of these people? I feel like if we can afford to give money to other places, we should give it, it poured into these people. It should be expensive. It should be a well-paid job. And I'm not saying that it isn't, but it should be, you know, I feel like these are the fucking... A lot of other shit's easy, dude.

You should also incentivize officers with more than 10 years to go back to patrol. One of the challenges that happens is you get cops that want to go through the ranks, they get work in specialized units and then never go back to patrol, and then in patrol. Oh, so they get disconnected. They get disconnected from patrol. They don't have young guys teaching young guys,

and it's usually the older wisdom that is what helps policing. Because I remember, I was in the knucklehead when I was young. I know I made a lot of mistakes. Oh yeah. Oh God, yeah, dude. So how do you get it to become a hostage negotiator?

Because that's what you became. So, right, so that's a specialized unit, specialized training. You can keep your primary responsibility because what happens is you end up being on call. And that sucked. Because you would be in the middle of something and you'd get a call out.

And you have to go. And you have to go. Because there's not many of you. No, and you need a team to assemble. On rare occasions, you can call out. So they'll put out an opening, and every department is different, but they'll put out an, you know,

there's an opening and then you interview for it. And then you, how well you're doing the interview, you get selected. And I was the young, at the time, I was the youngest ever to be selected on the team. And that was a phenomenal experience. And so once you're on the young, at the time, I was the youngest ever to be selected on the team. And that was a phenomenal experience. And so once you're on the team, you know, you get your, you know, your phones, then you had pagers too, and you get your gear, your jacket and everything, and you just

start responding to calls, you know, obviously, obviously, after training, start responding to call outs. And it's, if anything on the department weighs on you, it's talking to a person for a significant amount of time or listening to a person talk to for a significant amount of time, being part of the team, and then the person does themself. Because hostage negotiation isn't really a good term for it. It's more of a crisis negotiator.

Because most of the time that we do it, it would be from a person in crisis, a person that wants to 405, as we said earlier. Who's considering unalloying themselves. Yeah, take me through a scenario like that. it would be from a person in crisis, a person at once to 405, as we said earlier. Who's considered unallowed in themselves. Unallowed in themselves, yeah. Yeah, take me through a scenario like that. Okay, so an actual situation or, okay, so,

this is, this one was deep, and I wasn't the primary on this one, and this is a story that resonates, and they even tell us in the class now, a guy who just, life was horrific. He had a terminal illness. He had a, and I wasn't, when I was younger, I didn't realize how many people have back issues

and their back pain is just suffering and they don't wanna live anymore. And so I think what he had was cancer. He had a back issue that was just causing him severe, severe pain, and his wife left him because it was a whole bunch of issues and he had financial issues for all these things that he was going through.

So what happens is you assemble a team. There's a primary, there's a secondary. The primary is a person that talks to the person and they're on the phone. Their sole focus is to talk to the person. Talk to the person that's in crisis. That's in crisis. The secondary is the person that is monitoring the primary

and getting information from the rest of the team. And the team can vary, but two positions that are really important is the intel liaison, which is the person that tells the background of the person, the person's this age, they were married this amount of time, all the intel that you can possibly get on the person, right?

Then you have the tactical liaison person, because you have a SWAT team that's assembled as well, because you may have to potentially breach or go inside of the residence. So tactically you have to know, have this place been evacuated? Have you, are there weapons inside? Has this person done this before? So the TAC and the intel person feed this information to the secondary. The secondary can write notes and feed it.

Then you have a scribe who scribes all this information. So the case that I was talking to you about was this person who had gone through this thing. He was going through this thing. And it was a newer negotiator that was on as the primary. And after all this time of talking this guy and against knowing the guy says I Know exactly what you're doing and you really suck at it and then shot himself in the head Said you really suck at it that was the last thing that he said It would kind of suck though if that you're considering on alive in yourself you get on with the negotiator and he's just horrible at it. You're like, oh God, like, yeah, dude, that's crazy.

That's a mic drop, bro. Yeah, it is. And that person had to live with that. You know, that's their record on the department is that. Were they really good at it though? And the person just didn't know it. Because anybody could say that, that could be an asshole move, you know? It can be, and part of part of it was that because I mean how is it and what is good, right?

How is it and what is good? Because I mean I actually brought a scenario that I was going to work through with you if you wanted to try to be a negotiator. So basically this is pretty cool man because this is, I put this together, which is a composite of a few different negotiator things, and I'm gonna be, I'm gonna tell you, you're gonna be the primary. And so here's the situation.

I can read it or you can read it on what the situation is. And actually, I'll read it to you, like as if you just showed up at the scene that you just rolled up, all right? All right, Theo, you're gonna be the primary in this one, okay? The got it. The subject's name is Michael Brady. He goes by Mike. The background intel we have is he's a middle school biology teacher for the last 14 years. He's a youth pastor at a local Christian

church for the last seven years. He's 47 years old and he's a white male. He's been married for 18 years. His wife's name is Carol Brady. She's 46 years old. They have one son. His name is Bobby Brady. He's nine years old. Today, Michael was put on administrative leave for school when sexual assault detectives came to the school on an anonymous tip.

He allegedly impregnated a 14-year-old student. Her name is Pamela Phillips. Mike Brady is currently barricaded inside the residence. We got the call because Mike came home, told his wife to get out of the house as she entered, and as he entered an upstairs bedroom and shut the door, he appeared to be holding a firearm. He is currently barricaded inside the residence. Your personal observation, Theo, is that as you pulled up to the scene, you see a young boy in a baseball uniform

talking to detectives and he's crying hysterically. Presumably this is the son Bobby. Okay? Tactical intel. There are two known firearms. There's a shotgun inside, 45 caliber automatic pistol. SWAT has arrived And they set up the inner perimeter neighboring houses have been evacuated You can ask me three questions, and then I'm gonna begin as though. I'm Mike and you're gonna talk to me Okay, I asked you three questions. You asked me three questions to get some information to get started about the case. Yep, okay Is it based on the Brady bunch at all a little bit? I used that because I knew I'd remember those names Okay, damn, that's one of my questions. Um, let me think that one Is it based on the Brady bunch at all a little bit? I used that because I knew I'd remember those names. Okay. Okay.

Damn, that's one of my questions. Let me think. That one you can throw us out. You can ask me three questions that pertain to it because you're going to go online and when you go online it's going to be pretty intense. Okay, so I'm going to go online. You're going to be talking to me and I'm Mike Brady. Okay.

You're the primary. Has Mike ever committed any priors? Prior crimes with young women? Prior assault charges charges? Nope. He has his record is completely clean. Okay How tall is he? Interesting question. He's six foot even Okay, and Is he on any medication? Very good question. He is, he takes a sleeping pill to sleep. He has a sleeping issue. Ooh.

Okay, sir. Hello? Hey, Mike. Yeah, who's this? This is Theo, actually. I'm the, I'm working, I'm here today, man. Just- I really screwed up, didn here today, man.

I really screwed up, didn't I, man? I think it seems like you've had a tough day. I have had a tough day, but I mean, I screwed up this time, didn't I? I think you're probably gonna have to answer some questions, you know, but I think everything's gonna be okay, man. How's it gonna be okay? This girl's pregnant, man.

I mean, how am I gonna face anyone after this? Well, I think you're gonna have to... Her dad's gonna be pissed, yeah. I mean, yeah, people are gonna be upset. I'm not thinking about her dad, I'm thinking about my family. Okay, people are gonna... Yeah, it's gonna be... Yeah, man, it sucks. It does suck.

But here we are. Yeah. I mean, how am I gonna face my son? Your son's pretty upset right now. Yeah, he is. Of course he is. I knocked up a 14 year old girl. I'm a youth pastor in a church. I teach at a school.

My life is over. Give me a good reason why I shouldn't just put this thing to my head and blow my brains out. Cause your son's life is still around and That's not what he needs right now You're probably right about that, but you know, I mean, how can I face him man? I Think you call him first Call him and say what what would you say in that situation? I don't know. I don't know I would say I

Would tell him the truth. I would say I messed up and You think that's the answer to tell him I messed up. I know I messed up. I think it's part of it I know you know you did but he probably doesn't know what's going on. He doesn't. Is he out there right now? Yeah. You want me to put him on? Would you? Yeah.

Okay. How do you feel? How do you think you did? Was that intense? It is intense. It is intense. Fuck, it's intense. Cause you're like, is now,

even if you get to that part, is he just going to tell the son goodbye? Exactly. See, you are super wise, brother. That's exactly why we wouldn't put the son on the phone. Because that's exactly what he would likely do. He would try, he would likely, and so this is why we train. This is why we train.

So a couple of other things, right? When we said son, that was a good opportunity for you to do what? Identify his son by name, Bobby. Because isn't Bobby different than saying son? It's different, right? My wife, that was opportunity, and I knew that. And you better-

No, no, no, look, use it as an instructional. Use it as an instructional, it's very interesting. But that's when you say Carol, right? Yeah, Carol, yeah. But what I like is that you humanize the situation, right? That's the thing, again, is where you get the feel, where like, he's talking to a person that he could potentially relate to. And you create that kind of, that air about the situation

where you would get all the cops and be just completely freaked out or completely militaristic, you know? And I like that you kind of humanize the whole situation. And this is obviously super condensed. I know, well the fascinating thing to me is, yeah, when you realize the gravitas of this, like you think it's easy, and then even this is a placebo,

even in that you're like, I don't have the answer right now, and if I don't get this right, what happens? And then I'm starting to learn as I think about it too, I'm like, well, it's not about you anymore, it's about your son. And then that kind of makes me sad. Then it's like, now suddenly I feel more feelings. So I'm like, well, shit, now I'm doing this really

for the son. And I didn't even realize that until that moment, even though like you could be trained for that, it's like until that's said, and it's a real moment and you can picture the son and you, God, dude, it's like, it's just it's a real moment and you can picture the Sun and you God dude It's like it's just scary and then at some points you might agree that the guy it might be best if he Let's God just I don't know. Is that crazy to say that? I don't know. I don't know. It is crazy

I don't think it's normal there So there are a lot of people who if not from obviously from not a from official police But there are people anything in their own Mind would say I wouldn't want to live if that was the case, right? Right, so I so I'll tell you a situation that I dealt with and I sent a some audio for it It was a guy named Michael Chevalier. This was a big case in Vegas. So here's what happened So the call comes out I'm a sergeant at the time, right? Swing shift.

So it's still light outside. The call comes out that a lady is talking on the phone to her friend and the friend hears the struggle and then all of a sudden the line goes dead. She calls 911 and obviously we get dispatchal and sergeants when we hear certain calls, we're like, that's something I should roll to. We don't have to, but that's a call I should roll to.

I happen to be close enough to where the two officers, so it's one of those apartment communities where it's one floor, two floors, then there's a top floor, and then there's an apartment all the way down here. So the officers, I pull in the parking lot and I see my officers walking to the door, then all of a sudden I see the door open and the officers pull out their gun and fall back

to try to get away from whatever was going on at the door. I hear them on the radio, 413, subject has a 413. The subject came to the door with his arm around the female and the firearm to the female. I have my car in the parking lot. Then obviously code red, that means only emergency traffic. All the officers come. We get into the front of my car and I have a dry erase and I'm on the hood of my car pointing out

where I want my officers to go and how we're gonna deal with the situation. One of my officers at the time, really sharp guy, he says, hey Sarge, I got my rifle. In case he comes out, let me go over to this pizzeria right here and I can engage him if he comes out with the gun. Great lesson, if one of your subordinates has a great idea,

be very quick to listen and learn from them because he was a great idea. Because the second that he gets over there, Chevalier comes out and starts shooting at us. Wow. We all go down, my guy engages Chevalier at the door and he hits the door frame and all this wood and everything hits Chevalier and Chevalier goes back inside the house. I'm like, I gotta call in.

There was no time, no negotiators had not been around, nothing, so if I call him, he's not gonna be shooting, he's not gonna be heard anyway. So I get in and I start having a conversation with Chevalier and we develop a rapport. Interestingly, I was able to record a segment of this conversation. I'll play this, we'll play the conversation and then I will tell you the nuances of the

conversation that occurred, the aftermath of it and how deep negotiations can be. Okay, cool. Yeah, tee that up there Trev. I like to keep my word. And I know you do. And I remember that you said that if you get back on the phone with me that you and I can work this out. Can we if we come

to some type of agreement and I'm a man of my word I think the great that they will come to will be released in the hostage and perfectly she will be on I like what you're talking I like what you're talking about. I like what you're talking about. And that peaceful agreement is the route that we gotta go down. Oh, SWAT team is here. Christopher, I want you to tell the SWAT team to move away from the front of the door. I want you to tell them to move them now.

I want you to tell them to move them now. Michael, can I tell you what's happening? I want you to tell them to move away from the door. Okay, Michael, can I tell you what's happening? Okay, Michael, can I tell you something? Yes, Michael, that's absolutely fine. Listen to me. Let me just say, what's going on. Remember before I remember, remember before I remember what Michael Michael, remember before I explained to you what was going on. We're going to call 911 and have this... Okay, so let me give you some background on this, okay?

I still get like really amped when just listening to that again because it takes me right back there. So Michael and I had been speaking for a while and the situation seemed like it was pretty much calm. Negotiators were arriving, SWAT team had arrived and they were setting up in their position. At that point Michael freaked out when he saw the SWAT team because you see the SWAT team in their greens and their rifles and you know that at some point if you have a hostage that something's likely going to happen it's not gonna be good for you.

Ultimately, the decision was made to go to condition two. Condition two is when my job is to talk Michael in front of a window so they can shoot and kill him. So there is this interesting element to talking to a person that you are talking into their own demise. Wow. Talking to a dead person, essentially. That ended up not happening.

What happened was, through electronic means, we were able to find out that Michael was doing things to the female. The decision was made to do an explosive breach into the apartment and then take Michael out. Because Michael had been raping her. And now I'm condensing this because this is a very long drawn out process. Got it. And he kidnapped the woman?

Yeah, he did. She had her door open, she was out talking to her friend and he grabbed her and pulled her inside. Got it. Pulled her inside. Yeah. Ladies just out there talking. Unreal.

So ultimately after Swat goes in and kills him, she's laying right there. If you talk about PTSD or what a person has to go through, it's absolutely horrific. But let me talk about the nuance of language. If you watched what Michael was saying, mind you, the team is listening and watching every single word that a person says. There's one very, very interesting part of

his conversation where he says, the hostage. Now again, we would always want to change that to back to saying the person's name, but I didn't get a chance to do that. And I did at other points in it. But what he says is, she were relieved and perfectly, and he stops that perfectly, and she will be released unharmed. So why did he stop it perfectly? He stopped that perfectly because he knew that he was doing things that she was not perfect.

Our minds and our language are so intimately connected. And when you get to understand, see where he says release of the hostage? He says, Our minds and our language are so intimately connected. And when you get to understand, see where he says release of the hostage? He says, play that, again, that part, just back it up a second or two. Release of the hostage, and perfectly, she won't be unharmed, but.

You see, he stopped, and he flipped it, because he knew that she wasn't perfect. He knew he was doing horrific things to her. And we listen to these types of things because we have to make a decision. How long do we wait before we go inside? Like, is he just sitting there or is he actually doing that horrific thing?

Yeah, could she lose her life? Yeah, you have to make choices. And in becoming a negotiator, even in your own life, you're very, very careful with your own word choice. And often I'll find myself when I speak to people, there are certain words that I don't use. I just have excised them from my vocabulary. And it's about, and positivity is also like when I said sleep divorce, like I've caught

myself because I don't like to attribute divorce to something that could potentially be positive. I almost, I don't almost, I commit myself to utilizing the positive form of speech whenever I possibly can. And it's incredibly important. It changes a lot of things. Especially when you're into. Give me an example of that. So I don't use the word problem.

Like I say challenge. Because then you look at things as a problem. Like who wants to see a problem? I'd like to see a challenge, because if you overcome it, then it's just a challenge. You can almost always, if there's a negative connotation to something, even when you go out with your mom to dinner,

if you think about and listen to the words that you speak, you can almost always a positive way that you could flip it. Back in the day, I- Wow. It really is. It's fun too, when you think about taking that much. Yeah, it does seem fun, because then it kind of adds a little bit of a challenge

to your own, how you're communicating. And the crazy thing is, you know who hears us the most? Us. Yes, yes. And it means you care about what comes out of your mouth. You know, back in the day I wrote a dating book called Mac Tactics. Really?

I did, it was called Mac Tactics, the science of seduction meets the art of hostage negotiation. In 2005 I wrote a dating book called Mac Tactics. Really? I did, it was called Mac Tactics, The Science of Seduction Meets The Art of Hostage Negotiation. In 2005 I wrote this book and it was about utilizing, the, yeah there it is, it's about utilizing language in the day. Ooh. Yeah.

Is it helpful? Yeah, how would a hostage negotiator, what are you telling if I'm talking to a lady? So it's interesting because it was more about, so Mac, I changed Mac from what most people think Mac is and I changed it to method, action, confidence, and knowledge. I co-wrote it with my boy Rob Wiser.

Rob is like really the, I mean, Rob is the NYU dude, super smart, he's my boy. Like I was the content guy. And so method, action, confidence, knowledge, and all of those were what we called the pillars of power. And conversation was incredibly important as far as method was concerned. And minimal encouragers,

so you know what a minimal encourager is? So minimal encourager and paraphrasing are two things that negotiators learn to master. So a minimal encourager, when I'm looking at you, how you're like shaking your head like that, you're naturally encouraging me to continue on with my speech.

We have verbal minimal encouragers as well. Like when a person's speaking, you're like, mm-hmm, okay, yeah. So when you learn to naturally incorporate those things into your speech, it really encourages a person to open up. And if you're a good listener, you can hear everything that a person wants to say to you. And paraphrasing is when you listen to what a person says, and then you say it back to them in a slightly different format, adding positives if necessary,

which really shows them that you're listening. And in dating, that's an incredibly effective method of building a bond between two people. Really? 100%. Let's try it. Okay, so if you, so, how do we do it?

So here's how we do it. Like tell me about what your day was like yesterday. A small segment of your day. Yeah, yesterday I went to, yeah, I went to watch some music and I was pretty tired. Probably stayed up a little later than I should have, but had a pretty good time, you know? So when you were going out yesterday, is it because you were tired because you were having fun

or was it because you just didn't have enough rest? Oh, I see what you're doing. So you're saying the same thing? I'm saying back to you, it shows that I'm listening and that I care about what the outcome was. Usually minimal encouragement, I mean, you have to- Right, because then I feel

a little bit more, okay, this is nice, this is fun, this is worth our time. Yeah, and it gives you time to just kind of build a person's trust in sharing with you. Conversation and listening are two very, very important things. Not to be overbearing in your conversation and listening to the other person and showing that you're listening. Negotiators are very good listeners. So me doing that exercise with you, I had an idea that you were gonna be kind of good at it.

Most people don't even get, first of all, they don't have the confidence to even try it. I was very pleased that you were willing to try it. But I had this thing about it because you're like very, very relatable. I have a thing that I think that you would be a good negotiator. I think that you have at your core

the ability to be a really good negotiator. I thought about this movie where they call you Mr. Relatable, the primary, where like, it was not even really you. It's like a person who was like a younger you that was like a person who was a standup comic. The guy goes to the show and decides he wants to 405 because he's just done with life, but you he just related with you and that you negotiate him out of doing it, and the police see you doing it, and then your arc is that you realize that

in negotiating with people, how much it relates to things that you've been through in your own life. Mm. Do they have, that almost sounds like a movie that I bet somebody would, not exactly, but I bet, yeah, a negotiator, and they're really channeling things

that are going on in their own lives. It happens to us. It does? It 100% happens to us. But most of us don't have the natural relatability that you have. I mean, I don't have any need to blow smoke, right? I really like you.

I think you're dope. Yeah, no, thanks man. Yeah, look, I appreciate it. But your relatability level is off the meter with all races of people, with all genders of people. I don't know if you relate it to yourself as well as you relate to other people, which might be an interesting element.

Oh, that's interesting. That might be even part of the element of Mr. Relatable, the primary, but there's something there, and I think that you could definitely be a negotiator. The primary. The primary. That's a cool name for something. The primary, there you go, man.

Imagine that. You tuck the guy out, someone gets it on video that you did it, and the police are reaching out to you to handle these high level negotiations and you're trying to make your career work. You can do it, man. Thanks, man, that's some nice thoughts. And just, so that's a nice thing you can do.

If you're talking with a woman, pay attention and share stuff that they said back to them to create comfortability. Yeah, because a lot of times, it's guys we don't necessarily list. Like sometimes they're- No, in the beginning, especially you're just doing your best. It's like you're trying to survive.

It's almost like you're treading water. It's like, I know I'm swimming, but I'm really just, you know, trying to stay alive at this moment. And open-ended questions. You know, this is an excellent open-ended question. And how did that make you feel? Hmm? That's an excellent question and be sincere about it like this the stuff that I'm selling is not I'm not trying to sell it This is the stuff that I'm sharing that really matters

Asking up and like how did that make you feel like if the girl that you go on a date with you She's like, oh my goodness, it's gonna be forever to get here The uber driver kept looking at me. It looked like my boo was popping up, but I get it. But how did that make you feel? Yeah, how do you feel about it? Yeah, I'm okay with it. Actually just kind of Because sometimes you need somebody to put you you get all soiled Do you need somebody to put you back in the pot? You know like sometimes I'll be frantic as we have but everything's fine You're like yeah, everything's fine. It's like fucking you know I'll get caught down to you know I'll get caught Going upstream and I don't really don't need to you know

What else is I thinking about? Oh, there's that famous case in Las Vegas of the shooter, right? Yeah. There's a lot of conspiracy theories about that. Was that a real thing? Oh yeah, it was real. I know some of the cops that entered.

And one of my cop buddies pulled a guy off the street and drove him to the hospital and dropped him off. I mean, one of my closest cop buddies did that. And I actually even got a recording of him telling me about that, because I use it in a training class that I had, but that situation, that 100% happened. Wow. Yeah, that was real.

Yeah. That's unbelievable, huh? Yeah, that was, wow, man, just to show you, and you know, I wear this thing, it says, Momento Mori, which means you remember you will die, because you don't know when you're gonna die. Can happen at any time, man. And that's the messed up thing about cop work

is that it's always at either the forefront or the back of your mind. You know, you think about it. Like, when it was crazy, when the driver picked me up today in the black vehicle, and it's just, cops think like this. I was like, is this really, this guy not setting me up? Right, this is legit.

Like, you know, you have this like a paranoia thing that goes around in your mind about like, if a person walks into a restaurant, we always sit with our back to the door. It becomes uncomfortable sometimes. Yeah. Well not with our back to the door, facing the door. So, but yeah, because I guess you develop, it's not really a paranoia as much as it is a

preservation really. It is, self-preservation, because seeing death on those levels, it's a trip. Does doing police work, sergeant work, a negotiation work, does it wear down your compassion, or does it build it over time, do you think? Oh, that's such a good question.

For me, in the immediate, you kind of build up this thick skin where you don't. For me, showing emotion is still a challenge for me in life. I get emotional. And you sometimes will see that there'll be tears that come well up in my eye, but I don't want to let them fall down. Oh, yeah.

So it's tough. But to answer your question, I think that while you're doing it, thick skin, as you get older, you become more like that, you know, I really feel what you're going through. You know, I wish that I could, and I don't like to say I wish, there's a way that I could help you. My goal is to figure out how I can do that. One of my lieutenants, I think you guys have the audio on this, one of my lieutenants, 405ed,

and there's audio of it. This is a horrific, horrific story. Las Vegas cop shot wife and five-year-old son before taking his own, before unaliving himself. Yes, so this guy was my lieutenant and you can play the audio if you want and he tells everything right here and I'll have to give you a little background afterwards.

Okay. 911, what's the address of your emergency? Hi. And what's the problem? Tell me exactly what happened. My name is Hans Walters. I work for Las Vegas Metropolitan Police Department. I just shot and killed my son Max and my wife Michelle and I killed her because she's

in such chronic pain from her neck and back and on more medicines and she's not going to survive and we were both seeing therapists and psychologists in Boulder City. His name is ****. And I feel terrible for doing it. OK, and you? OK, voice out. Please don't interrupt me.

Please? OK. I've also set the house on fire. And if the fire department comes to my house, because there's a fire hydrant right in front of my house, I'm going to open fire on them. So I have to wait until the house is burning and then I'm going to shoot myself, okay? So I don't ask me any questions. This is real. This isn't a joke. The fire alarm is in the background because I set the garage and the bedroom on fire.

My wife's in the bedroom, I shot her in the head. My son, unfortunately, isn't in the room watching Oswald and I shot him in the head too. And forgive me for my sins. Please don't call back, thank you. Oh my God. So Hans was my lieutenant and- Really? For a period of time, yeah. He was my lieutenant for a period of time.

And he was one of the most soft-spoken, polite- Every time he would talk to you, he would say please and thank you. Total family man. Not- wasn't a go out after work drinker type guy, everything. And the time that I knew him was about his wife and his son Max. I remember there was a time, that's him right there, and that's his wife. She was a cop at one time. And I remember there was a time when he was my lieutenant, he would go take time off to go take care of her. And he would put me to take care of the lieutenant paperwork.

And he was always just very pleased and thank you. And he was just, I mean, it's so weird for me to be able to say that one of the most kind, soft-spoken people to me and to the other people that he interacted with, which was so wild. So his wife had some significant medical challenges. And when I was younger, as I said before, I didn't understand how suffering from pain can be so debilitating for a person. Now this is what's really interesting.

In this situation, Hans walked outside after he shot his wife and his son. And he didn't get shot, the police didn't shoot him. And I believe that he wanted it to be a suicide by cop. And that's the only reason I can muster as to why he would walk outside. But they didn't shoot him and he went inside and then he 405'd. What's interesting is I told you as I listened to the conversation, I listened to the language, what he says is he says, please forgive me. What would a person

normally say? Would you just say, please forgive me? Or would you say God forgive me? But in my mind, I feel like potentially why you feel you're a negotiator now. Why did he nice use the word God? Because he'd done some things that were bad that God wouldn't forgive him for. There you go, brother. See, you get this stuff, man. You really get this stuff. And that's why that word did not come out of his mouth.

What a horrific situation. But let me tell you something, man. There are some people under those circumstances who don't want anyone else to raise their kid. Can I speak to why he did that? I don't know, but I can tell you that I do have experience with a person who's just something like that. And I sent you, there's no audio of this,

but I did send a file of this case, Timothy Blackburn. I was a negotiator on the team at this time, and my team got the call out from Blackburn. I did not negotiate with an FBI agent who was connected with Blackburn. Negotiated. Quick story of what Blackburn did. Blackburn committed a robbery of a vault in Vegas. A million plus dollars.

A million plus dollars he got away with, but he got caught. So Blackburn, that's Blackburn right there. Ooh, he's Asian. Yeah. Blackburn got caught. Yeah. Blackburn got caught. What did you think he was?

Blackburn? Yeah. Probably white got caught. Yeah, Blackburn got caught. What did you think he was? What did you think he was? Blackburn? Yeah. Probably white or black. Yeah. Well, so he got caught. He's in the North Las Vegas, one of the North Las Vegas detention, whatever, because it was a federal crime. And his wife breaks him out of the jail.

He escapes. She put a screwdriver in her hair. They unleaded it and he escapes. Dude, I love them. There's a manhunt for them, okay? It was like one of the biggest manhunts in Vegas. And they kept telling us that we're gonna catch them at some point, we're gonna catch them, there's a reward.

They find him barricaded in one of those Daily Suite hotels, okay? This story's trippy. He doesn't wanna talk to anyone on the my negotiation team, he wants to talk to the FBI agent who arrested him. This FBI agent had said when blackburn said am I looking at much time? He said your probation officer hasn't been born yet And um so

Black burn is in there and it's talking, you know the FBI agent can you know hear the kids in the background and Blackburn, it's like he was with his family. He was a family guy. So SWAT is set up on the house and they're figuring out whether or when to breach. Time is on our side, but here's what happens. A cop I know is on the outer perimeter, a patrol officer. He's got his shotgun, he's moved from one position to the other, slinging his shotgun, his shotgun goes off.

Blackburn thinks that SWAT is making an entry. It was just the guy had an accident, negligent discharge. Blackburn then summarily shoots his wife, kid, and himself. SWAT goes in just as he's doing that and shoot Blackburn as he's falling to the ground. And even in the testimony that the SWAT officer says, you know, I shot a dead man, because he killed him. Because Blackburn was saying stuff like,

I don't want to visit my kid through a plexiglass. And he was of the mindset that no one else is going to raise my kid or be with my woman. And knowing that there are people like that. And that is a very, I have to walk very carefully when I say these things, because this is very sensitive information. I'm only speaking from my perspective and the information that I have in hopes that it could help someone else in the future that if you find yourself in a situation, God forbid, where

there's a degree of you feel like you can't go on without a person, you can, and everyone has a sanctity life and should be able to go on. It's just, in my opinion, not the way to go. Yeah, it's crazy to think of all the little pieces of all the little avenues of things you would never think need to be information or that you would glean from an officer, a sergeant, a detective, a hostage negotiator. But the simple fact that you're saying based on my information, if you are unaliving yourself, you shouldn't unalive other people with you,

because that's not the way to go. It's just, I don't even know who else even, yeah, I mean, that's an easy thing just to say, but you're saying it based on information that you've seen, you know? Yeah. Yeah, I think we talked, man, thank you so much today, Chris, for joining me. I think a lot, it's like, it's just interesting you start to get even more of a scope of like, just what fills up the minds and the histories and the timelines of officers, of people that are there to serve, you know, people that are to protect, and how do they manage all that?

Cut people's slack too, cut people's slack. You're driving on the road, you're in a restaurant, cut people's slack. You could just really avoid so much stuff by taking a deep breath and making a different decision, and not bullying people, man. And all of that stuff can lead to a person doing some bull crap, like some of the stuff

that we see when people barricade and want to 405 them. Yeah, because once somebody goes over the edge, they're over the edge. They're over the edge. At that point, the original plateau doesn't matter to them anymore. The original gradient of things doesn't matter.

You know when I drive, I carry something in my center console that will address a road rage situation. And it's not what you think. I carry a clown nose. Really? A red clown nose. And if I see a person driving crazy, I really do this deal. I really do this.

I put the clown nose on myself. And my only rule is I cannot take the clown nose off. Because I know that I'm not going to yell and scream at a person while I have the clown nose on myself, and my only rule is I cannot take the clown nose off because I know that I'm not going to yell and scream at a person while I have the clown nose on, and if I take the clown nose off, I'm being a clown. You will not believe how many times that has stopped me from acting like an idiot, and it's just such a stupid, basic, simple way to avoid road rage. Because I'll tell you, the thing that will get the average citizen in trouble, two things.

One is a domestic violence situation, and the number two thing is something that they do driving, drinking, or acting like an idiot in a road rage. Those are the two things. Those are the top two? Say them one more time. So domestic, get into a situation, because domestic is brother to brother.

I've been to so many calls. One time I went to a call, a brother got out of the military, he was on leave from the military, they got drunk, they got into a fight. A domestic, it's a mandatory arrest. So that's an average citizen. who's on leave from the military, they got drunk, they got into a fight, a semestich. It's a mandatory arrest. So that's an average citizen. And you lose your right to carry a firearm then.

That's a misdemeanor. And then the other thing is some kind of driving, road rage, battery situation that a person gets to, or drinking and driving. Those are the top, top? So you call it three, because if you want to say drinking and driving or road raging and getting into a situation

where you end up getting into a fight with someone. Those three things are the civilian things that happen all the time. If you can control those things, plummet. Oh, it's already gonna be super safe? Yes. Man, Christopher Curtis, thanks so much for hanging out, dude. I gotta take my mom to eat or I would chat a little more.

No, I'm down, brother. I mean, I really appreciate it. It was an awesome experience. Great to tell your team hanging out, dude. I gotta take my mom to eat or I would chat a little more. No, I'm down, brother. I mean, I really appreciate it. It was an awesome experience. Great to tell you, your team is phenomenal, brother. You got a really cool team, man. Oh, thank you, dude. Yeah, I feel really lucky, you know?

I think we did a good job today of like, kind of learning about some stuff. And also some of it is just like getting into the psyche of seeing what it's like to go through the minds of someone who's gone through your life. And then, yeah, how do you best try to manage it? And then what can we even expect out of people, you know, who aren't able to manage their emotions and mental...

The fatigue wears on them, you know, and they're not able to manage it. But they're still required to be at work. You know, it's like, it's a huge asking. It's a huge fucking undertaking. It is, but this is good stuff and I hope that it helps officers and civilians alike. Yeah, well it's just great to have this conversation, man, and we learn more as we go.

Christopher Curtis, thank you so much, dude. You rock, man. Yeah, I appreciate it. I love that hat, dude. Mi serrote. My people, papa. There, in the fight. In the fight. Yeah, this piece of mind I found, I can feel it in my bones.

But it's gonna take a little.