WHOA That's Good Podcast - Our Funniest TMI Stories + Saying What No One Else Says | Sadie Robertson Huff | Sisters & Friends

Episode Date: June 27, 2022

There's never a dull second with Laney Rene and Sadie Robertson Huff, and you'll see right away why they're best friends! They hold nothing back as they relive some of their funniest and most embarrassing moments. Sadie reveals how she treated her acne and what she thinks about drinking and conforming to the world. They also dive into how to get past embarrassment, finding freedom from body image issues, fighting with friends, and what to do if you're in a verbally abusive relationship.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What's up friends and welcome back to another episode of Sisters and Friends Podcasts. Y'all this one is I'm actually scared. I'm scared because I have taken this too far already by inviting my very best friend on the podcast. So whatever happens in the next 40 minutes or so, just prepare yourself. Because there might be a lot of stuff you might have turned your brain cells off to listen to. But there's also going to be some stuff you need to turn it on here. Because this girl has some wisdom. I mean, she's a well-it wisdom. She knows scripture more than most people that I know.

That's fat, probably more than anyone that I know, R-A, to me. She loves the word. She breathes the word. She sings the word. Lives the word, writes the word, all the things. And so, yeah, we're pretty goofy and silly, but also, we are two people who love Jesus with all our heart. And so, I hope that you get some of that.

It's gonna be a great conversation. Welcome, Laney Renee. Thank you for having me. Laney Renee, my greatest honor. Thank you. I never really used to pick in anymore. You don't just turn around. Lenny Renee, no.

Lenny Renee, so we were just talking and laughing because we have like a million names for each other. So I'm like, okay, say Lenny, not Lenny, not Lenny, not Linda. Because I got you anything. So we were kind of reminiscing on all the names that we've had and it really started with big dip. I was big dip and you were little dip. Little dip and big dip. That started because our friendship necklaces. We had friendship necklaces. We also had fake boyfriend's. They were this big. Okay, but again context, context. We didn't have real Context context We just both of us were break up and we were like we were heartbroken We just met we'll tell you that story, but we had literally just met right fresh off of two breakups

And we became best friends so fast and then it was like three weeks after we met and we were I think I'm trying to like cheer you up Or something and you got me a little boyfriend. Yeah, I got you a little boyfriend I was like, hey, it's okay. Well, I just love doing it with my friends too. And then we saw our friendship necklaces and it was like the big dipper and the little dipper. And so we bought it and we got each other big dipper and little dipper.

And then that lasted for a while. And then we moved on to Sinda, Linda, Sude and Looney. You know, we need new nicknames for each other. Yeah, when our moms, we need a little bit mature name, you know. Linda and Sinda was pretty good.

We could be big mama and little mama. My little baby. Big mama, look on it. Wait, what was the name that, what was the name that Ronnie was gonna call me? It was like, Susu. Yeah. I'm Susu. You're so silly, and I'm Lulu. Okay, that's right, I know, just call me. It's like, Siu Siu. Siu Siu. Yeah.

I'm Siu Siu. You're so sweet. And I'm Lula. Oh, that's right, I know, that's Lula. That's cute. So our daughter is, if you don't know, because we're gonna reference in probably a lot, obviously my daughter's honey.

Most of y'all probably know that who listened to this podcast. And then Lanny's daughter's name is Ronnie. And Ronnie and honey are the cutest. They're so cute. We're biased. And if your mom's so sorry to tell you that they're the cutest little kids. Oh, we have the cutest kids.'re so cute. We're biased. And if your mom's so sorry to tell you that they're the cutest little kids.

Oh, we have the cutest kids. And they're awesome. And it's so fun because now they're both walking. I know. Ronnie, whenever Ronnie saw Honey today, she literally walked up and just gave her a big old kiss on the lips. So cute.

I already saw Honey taking off and then Ronnie following her and I was like, oh boy, that's trouble. Yeah, I don't know if Honey should be the leader of this friendship yet. I already killed that way about Ronnie. Last thing on the way here and I was like oh boy that's trouble. I don't know if honey you should be the leader of this friendship. Yeah. I already feel that way about Ronnie. Last thing on the way here I was praying over here I was like you'd be a good example. You'd be kind. You're gentle. We did that through your heart.

No grabbing ears, no grabbing eyes. We did. I know. Because we know some stupid stuff. Okay so I took this to Instagram because obviously I wanted us to have a conversation. I've interviewed you before, but I wanted us to have a conversation because people are really interested in our friendship. And they have a lot of questions for us, and so on Instagram, when I posted, I got all over the map questions. Like, funny questions because we are pretty goofy, like I mentioned, and that also got like super serious questions

because we've been vulnerable about stuff that we've gone through So I thought we'd start with some fun questions Just so people can get like a picture of our friendship But the first question was what is your favorite memory of each other? And I thought we could take this two ways one being like our actual favorite memory and then one being our funniest Okay, are you going first and by going first? Okay, I can go first Okay, and then I'll go and I'll go sweet Okay, and then you go sweet and am I going first? Okay, I can go first for fun. Okay. And then I'll go sweet. Okay, and then you go sweet and then I'll go sweet.

Okay, so this is actually really funny because like I could go a million different ways with this because we have so many funny stories. But I'm going to go with this one because this is before I really knew you which is why it makes it funnier. Hey guys, once we knew each other, we probably should have had maybe could have been embarrassed by like, how did it look? I thought it would be nice, but it wasn't because we knew each other.

Yeah. Okay, so when Lennie and I first met, we met on winner jam tour and she was back up dancing. Hip hop, like, so cool. I know, flex. It's like one of those like, me and Christian always laugh, cause we go weird flex, but okay.

That's not even a weird flex, that's like a true flex. So you were a hip-hop dancer and I was like, I want to be her friend. So, I became her friend but you were going through a serious breakup at the time and that guy was on the tour and you all did a five-year awkward situation. Now, only when we see on the tour but you all danced together. Really awkward. Okay, so I was like, how can it be a good friend and one of the things I was like I have to do every night is I was going to like go to the ramp that you were

scooting down because when he was wearing these skates and the last dance that they did and she went out to scoot down and I didn't want this guy to have to help her up because who wants to hold the guys hand and just broke out with like no one. So I was like I'm going to go down there so I can't hold your hands. It was all sweet. It was all really sweet like kind of I remember I would listen for the last of the girl who you're singing for a song and I would like sprint there and so I get there one night and you're scooting down the ramp and I would never forget your face. You were like, oh, it was like a, oh, something just happened. I was like, are you okay? You're like, something sent me, something just happened, something just happened. There's a nail, there's a nail, like you didn't know what was happening. I don't know,

but did you even know what it was? I just knew us sliding down and that is something. You know, like in the butt hole. Like, what do I do? Yes, it's just like, I was in roller skates. Like, it was just not. I heard the moment. She's like, kind of panicky, you know, because like something is in your butt.

And like, the security guard's right there and he's trying to help you. But you're like, no, like, don't look, it gets to my butt. And then I'm like, all right, come on. And I like grab her hand. And like, we're literally running while she's in skates. I'm like, drag her down the greener.

And okay, keep in mind, there's like over 100 people on winter jams. So there's multiple people backstage watching us run while we're both screaming and I'm dragging her in skates to the room. And then she's like, just get to the room and I don't know her super well. And she's like, get it out, get it out. And it pulls your pants down. And there is a nail in her butt and I'm like oh my gosh and I'm just thinking to myself like what do I do because you know a movie sometimes you're like not supposed to get the thing out because they're like bleeds like crazy if it was rusted like there was like 50% that was like don't pull

this nail out of her butt and then there is 50% that was like pull the nail out. But you were like, get in and out of this. I did that so much. That was so much. I did not even think about it. No. And also it was in that you don't even take a picture of it.

So I was like, thank you for your ever buying. I even know her. Super well yet. And I was like, your photo. And then I did. Oh my god. That's what it looks like no it doesn't look that bad it doesn't look that bad for this because of the

flash so that I grab the nail arm around long story short we get the nail out you were fine you were up to I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I have, I to, I flew home. And I got it checked out. Oh, you don't look at it. Oh, you were like, it's good. You were fine. You were fine. It was that big of a deal. But it was just like the funniest. It was so funny.

It was so funny. Hi, Panic Alert. And like, we didn't know each other. And it like involved a butt. Maybe that's why though. People are always like, how did you all become friends so fast? I think it was that. When I looked back on the time I were a friend, Jen.

I really needed a friend to be honest. I always say this. We're really crazy around each other, but I'm not like that around other people. I'm really not. I have other friends that I'm goofy around, but there's a different level with you. I don't know how to recreate that with someone else. I just still think you can. I think it's those moments. That we've built upon.

That just, yeah. And like, great, and we were on a tour together for three months, 46 cities, and we literally like traveled American together for three months, so we can know each other. That's a very unique situation. Yeah, you don't really do that. You don't really get to know someone like that.

We literally spent every day together, every hour breakfast, well, we miss breakfast, but lunch, dinner, midnight snack. We ate all things. We gained like 30 pounds. We literally did. I'm not like that's not a joke y'all. We ate a whole thing of Halo top. In every one, we didn't share it. We didn show you guys until like way later. We were like, we should share. We were like, we should share. Oh gosh, that was hilarious. But it was an honest moment though,

because I still remember that one photo shoot. All the pictures were from behind. And you were like, lame. Do you remember that? You were like, you're like, you're but looks really big. I was like, my, my, looks really big. I hope to.

I hope to. Out. But I needed it. I really needed to see each other. I really needed that. I'm sure you needed to help ourselves. I mean, we were, but it was just like, halo top, palatarsha's stupid stuff.

Yeah, we weren't making wise decisions. We were doing really good in our spiritual life. So, we're actually great. But physically, we weren't working out. We weren't eating well, you know, all the things. And we'll get to that later. Yeah, I'll tell you a funny image. Yeah, we'll tell you a funny image.

Okay, do you have a funny memory or do you know? Okay, funny memory. So the first thing that came to my mind was, whenever to say he had this like reoccurring issue, is she gonna figure out how to help it? How to make it go away and um and so at the first, I don't even know how to tell this. I guess I can tell this. I hate what those people know. I don't even know how to tell this. So anyways, I was in a season of really loving frozen grapes. Frozen grapes were like my thing.

And so I had gone to the store and I'd got a fresh batch of grapes and put them in the freezer. And I came home and I was looking for my grapes and I couldn't find them. And I was like, what happened to my frozen grapes? And I got a saiyah because we like shared food and everything in the house and She just started to laugh. I always tell them, it's one of those moments where like you do something and you hope no one ever finds a Sound and you're totally perfectly okay with never telling anyone till you die. Yeah, it was that moment

So do you want to tell everyone your issue? die. Yeah. It was that moment. So do you want to tell everyone your issue? Okay, okay, so here's the big, okay, if you do not like bathroom talk like literally turn this off or skip the next three minutes. Yeah. If hearts aren't funny. It's heart funny. Like this is this song is not for you. Over your head. Like wait. Just fast forward like five minutes. Also, if you're my mother-in-law do not listen to this. Like mother-in-law grandma, like you just skip over. you will not believe that I'm about to say what I'm about to say but hey this is sisters and friends this is a different kind of podcast like we're saying the stuff that no one says and I'm not like yeah okay all it's said through all shoes I don't anyone out there has ever had a head Roy okay I can't even say

it without laughing but they are not a fun okay and they're probably way more calming than anyone wants to admit Well nothing was working for me okay nothing in the CVS aisle was getting done My little at home remedy and See what we got here first and grades Yeah, first and then from then on now, I've just never seen first and I'm never I'm never I'm not family hasn't either they all they all know Oh Gosh okay, and look this is actually good piece of advice. This is where that's good off tape like unscripted This is like really good advice though.

If you have a problem with that, and it's not getting the job done, why don't you just go buy some grapes, save the money, and go buy some grapes. It actually does help. And yeah, it's like, you know, moving on, moving on. Okay, that's actually really good though,

because this is showing you why we're so close. This is because we know everything about each other and I think when people think like they know everything about each other, like they're thinking like, oh, all the worst things in our life we've ever done. And that's true too. Like, we know like our testimonies as well. But it's also like knowing the silly stuff. Yeah.

Like, I think that's what makes life fun. Yeah. And I mean, lady and I would literally actually have a question about this, which we'll get to. But somebody asked about this which we'll get to, but somebody asked about how we got past letting acne get us down and how do we overcome it because I had talked about it showing with acne and you didn't ever really have bad skin or anything. But I remember like, literally we'd go to bed at night and I would be sitting there like, why is my skin like this? I get so mad and like, you were just there through all of it.

So we saw each other really like vulnerable It's a very sweet laugh, but it's sweet. Like it's true and now like you know, we've overcome this silly things that have to do with just growing up Yeah, but now we're in our own silly stages of like the humbling of parenthood It's very humbling and all the selfie both had poop and pee all over us and multiple times in the past year Yeah, spit up whatever babies crying. We had to leave lunches with people like sorry the selfie booth had poop and pee all over us and multiple times in the past year. Yeah. Spit up, whatever. Baby's crying and we had to leave lunches with people like, sorry.

It's so true. I'm gonna cooperate. So this like, that was like literally the other day I was like, gosh, I'm so like, you feel the sense of like, almost embarrassment and they're like, oh, why am I embarrassed? Yeah. I had to catch myself like in moments like that. Sorry, not trying to get too serious. No, it's true. I like that. Sorry, not trying to get too serious.

No, it's true. I like that. That's the key point. It's like life is humbling a lot of times. And I think our first instinct is to get embarrassed. But the truth is, we all have those situations come up. Just like I said, I know that's embarrassing. And no one would ever say that.

I can't remember. I just did. But how many people go through that? So many people. And we get embarrassed for the thing is that like aren't really that embarrassing, you know? Like when I do something silly and we're like, oh my or something there's nobody cares. Yeah, that day you're like, oh my gosh, I was so giddy like, you didn't even think about it. And I was like, I in my head, I was like, oh gosh, like honey's being so good.

Yeah, no, oh gosh. It's gonna be good. It's just a kid. Yeah. Like giving ourselves a grace that we give other people, you know, just like's being so good. Yeah, no, oh gosh. Honey, be good. You know? Yeah. Like giving ourselves a grace that we give other people, you know, just like reminding ourselves of that. Well, obviously we have a lot of favorite memories

together and that might take too long to even go through. But I think one of my favorite memories just with you is literally just every night we spent living together. I mean, we just had so much fun. We just kept life fun. And I think that that is a actual intentional thing you have to do in life. I've realized like after moving away from you, me and Christian are really fun people, but like you gotta keep it fun.

I agree. You gotta like choose to dance. You gotta choose to turn on music sometimes and it's not always just gonna be fun. And we were really intentional about that. And maybe we didn't realize it at the time that we were being intentional, but we were. That's so true. I literally took Clayton this morning on the way here. I was like, this is so good for me

because I need to like, I'm so excited. My soul is so excited because I know we're together. We have so much fun and like we laugh so hard. And I need, not that, like you said, not that me and Clayton don't have fun, but like, there's another level of like, I can feel myself like, when I see you're like,

enter into that like, child like, Julie, and like, goofiness, and it does like a part of me is like, coming back to life, you know, and I feel like friends like that, like they're just so, I don't have any. I'm trying to find. I have great friends, yeah. But I feel like there's certain people that you don't have any. I'm tired to find. I have great friends, but I feel like there's certain people

that you just kind of like. It's hard to find. I'm realizing how to find that with other friendships. I am finding that, like there's so many incredible friends and we're so goofy, but it takes time and it takes you being willing to be. I was gonna say, it's me. It's me letting down that wall.

Like, okay, I can like be my real goofy self right now and yeah, I accept me And so that's the thing like for those let's say like you don't have to go on a big tour with somebody You know, I just been having a day with somebody. It's really not that like essentially what we're saying is It's literally being the person that does the funny thing and let someone into it like it's being the person that says like Oh my gosh my face is breaking out like crazy. Like, this is ridiculous. I'm gonna figure out something funny to do and like figure it out. Like, remember, I think I put like egg whites on it one time. Like, you know, why not?

Let me just try it. Like, I'm all of the fun remedies. I tried. But your skin looks absolutely amazing. I've come through. So I'll tell you for those who are wondering what I did for my skin. I did a lot of things. I've tried it all and not really anything was working for me.

Literally when Lundy and I lived together, I tried it all. I had like that light at one point. It was like zapping my face when I like did all kinds. I went to so many different dermatologists. I did facials. I just went too much money doing everything that wasn't working. And so finally, I was just like, I don't even know if I gave up or what I did.

But I was like really like intentional about like sticking with the same thing. And I remember my mom's and my mom was like, the more you do like the worse it's gonna get. Like if you keep adding more products, if you keep like buying like face masks at the store, like you just have to be really careful what you put on your skin. And so I started using my mom's line of products Which is like very clean and I always told my mom that mom know this is not good to clear my acne I remember you saying that this one works for people with clear skin Yeah, and she said no, Sadie it actually will clear your acne you just have to stick with it

So I did and it did also realize I was like super low in vitamin D Which is like just ran oh faster.. I take vitamin D clear my skin and now though like I've gotten to the place where my skin is like Like really good. It has like a good collection of stuff And I drink a liquid IV every single day. I do too Yeah, yeah, yeah, and liquid it really helps it actually helps my wrinkles I like your skin looks good. Yeah, and lick my face. I've got it really helps.

It actually helps my wrinkles. I'm like forehead. I've noticed that I'm like, I feel like, what's just hydration, but I feel like it definitely helps. Oh it definitely helps. Yeah, and I'm really bad at drinking water. So I think that helps. And I love the taste.

Yeah, me too. Like this is not an app at all. If you would like to sponsor me and you're listening after I'm setting this up guys, I'd probably just lost that sponsorship. But I would love to be a star. I know, I drink liquid IV every day and also wear sunscreen every day.

My honey's pediatrician has a skincare line called Refine Beauty, also not an ad. I just like her and she's really cool and she did a skincare line and she has, I use a lot of her products But her sunscreen I put it on under it's a tin and moisture. I was under my makeup and it makes it glowy So there's some tricks I'm only saying that because I know acne is a huge drug. I mean it is hard

So I'm asked what's the biggest personality difference between us? Hmm interesting question. I think I Go ahead. You yeah I feel like I was actually thinking this this morning because I was thinking about just our friendship and like my like our strengths and weaknesses not a bad way, but like how what makes us strong Yeah, and I was thinking because we were talking about something earlier, and my head went to, we can't do it. Yeah.

And your head went to, well, we can do it. Yeah, that's true. We do it all the time. And I think my strength sometimes is like slow-ness. Yeah. Kind of, I can like be... That's true. I'll be quicker to be still and wait.

Whereas I need also the, no, let's go. Like, you can do this. And I think we kind of like, I feel like we balance each other in that because there have been times where like, I feel like I've been like hesitant to do something and I can almost qualify it as like, oh, I'm praying about it.

And you're like, well, just do it, you know? And I feel like we all kind of like, I needed that friend in my life and you've been that way. From the beginning. I needed someone to say, you need to pray about that. Take a rest, you know? Like, yeah. I'm not, I wouldn't say rash,

because I am very like, I think through things, but I am very quick, like let's get it going Let's get it done. Let's do this fast because I just like to see things move Yeah, and I have a hard time being still and you're really getting it being still But you're really good at moving. Yeah That is really true. That's true. I think another thing that Laney and I are good at we're both in that. We're sixes on the end of your year. So we're both kind of skeptical of people which can be a heart being and also a good thing because I think we're wise about who we open up to who we don't. But one thing I was going to say is you have a little bit more

like you're good at the heart stuff like you're really good at empathy and compassion like heart stuff and as opposed to I'm kind of like too practical sometimes from all good and I feel like I'm like thinking through things a lot more and you kind of bring me towards more like soft feelings and you help me like do the hard thing. Yes, I do. I'll have a comforts, touch and talk and literally be in like that was great like that's all awesome and we needed that. Yeah. And and lady was more like to anybody like feeling it hurt like do you think that was okay that I said that you know and I'm like

yes that was great you know so I honestly don't know if I would have stuck out the ending the relationship that I was in too before if you had not well I really like because I needed somebody to come in with like a strength and be like, no, no. And then that's when I was able to hear truth from that point on. So that's good. And this is a good thing to know about friendship guys is that like when biotechs about two are better than one, for if like one man falls, you like can pick them up.

That's why it's so important that it's two individual people Not two people trying to be the same person. That's a marriage to it's in friendship It's like the differences that you have actually are a huge strength to the friendship And that's why you need to people who are different who are operating in their own strengths So that it's better than one person because if we were both like each other Then if you were like wanting to be like yeah, I'd be like well if that makes you feel good yeah you know no way shape or form are you doing that yeah yeah I was actually thinking about this this like not I was thinking about this the other day and just like friendship I didn't know we're gonna talk about this but um I read

in Matthew where like Jesus is telling the disciples that he is like going to be crucified and he's going to raise you down on third day. And Peter like tells him like, no, no, like not you, like that will not happen to you, you know, and kind of rebukes what Jesus said. And then Jesus turns him and says, get behind me Satan. And I was like, man, like went on a red that I was like, I think that's kind of like the flattering friend that we can all, like almost, it's easy to fall into, because you love your friends so much.

And it's like, oh, I'll just like flatter them in this moment. No, no, that wouldn't have to you. But like, maybe we're actually steering them away from like what God has called them to do. If that makes sense. So I just thought that was really interesting because it was like Peter was so close to Jesus in that moment and then he was like, get behind me.

That's what you have always been like. You're about that passage because right before that is whatever Peter is like a firmman who he is. It's whenever Peter actually realized who Jesus was. He calls out who Jesus is and Jesus in return tells Peter like like this is who you are you're gonna be church all the time Then Jesus like okay now that we know each other. Yeah, let me tell you like the heart of truth Yeah, this is like I'm actually gonna get a crucifixal stuff and then Peter's like no Yeah, it will never happen to you

And then he's like give a high-miss say it. Because you have to be willing to do what the fathers get to do. And that's so true. There is that tendency for us to just flattered, to want to just go with it, because it'll make our friends feel better. But man, to really let truth be the base of your friendship and the student into what's best for their life.

We've had moments where we've had some hard truth moments of like, hey, what are you doing? What are you thinking? You know, all that. Quite a lot. Someone actually asked, like, they said, do you guys ever get invites? How do you move on? How do you get to the place to be honest with your friends? And I was like, yes, we do. And I actually think that is also what we have such a strong friendship. It's because we have gotten in some fights. We've gotten to silly arguments. Like we used to call each other an old married couple because we'd be driving down the road.

I'm like, why do you drive like that? Like just like dumb stuff, you know? Or like clean up your mess to your head. You don't take the lint off the window. I was just thinking about the lint. They never changed the lint. The lint. On the dryer. And I was like, y'all, this They never changed the length. The length. The dryer.

And I was like, y'all, this is where I closed on dry. I didn't know. I genuinely didn't know. See, that's why she needed just the hard drink. She just didn't know. But yeah, we had like, but then we also had like big, bigger fights. Like literal like, hey, I'm not happy with what you're doing or whatever. Yeah.

One of those was around Christian. Like, you did not want me to date Christian. I understood why, not because of Christian, but because of where I was at. And we had a come together, cry it out, talk months later. And that was really hard. How do you move on?

I think that, well, I think first of all, I think it's good to have fights in your friendship because I think that means you care. We even had not a fight, but we had an honest conversation with you all a few weeks ago, with something like Christian did. You need to be honest and all about. But that's okay because that need to happen. And how you move on is you just love people. It's like family. You fight with your siblings probably. You know, I have a fight with your mom but like you love them so much

that you know that nothing that is done and like a fight or an argument is gonna change what you feel about them at the end and you end it well I mean we've never had a fight where we haven't at the end been like I love you I'm for you I hear you maybe I don't agree with you but I'm with you you know yeah So I think you know you honor each other with your words, you're careful even in speaking the truth, but you also just love each other and you just give the grace that you know each other deserves.

And I mean that day that we had recently where Christian was upset and we all had this conversation. I mean like part of me is just so embarrassed because I'm like, oh, I hate that that happened. But at the same time, like I know y'all love us so much and now y''re all here. And it also makes us closer.

Yeah. It was just a growing moment, I think, even with, like, as couples, it was like, oh, not that we've never had that before, but I think that those are sweet moments. Because it's just your reminder of, OK, we're going to talk about stuff. You don't have to hide anything. You know, we are in it forever. Like, we're going talk about stuff. Like, you don't have to hide anything. You know, we are in it forever.

Like, we're gonna be friends forever. I know that, you know. It's what makes friends family. Yeah. And you're able to have hard conversations and move on. Yeah. And that's like how we see y'all. You guys are family.

Like we're saying, Ron is gonna call me Aunt Sue. And Sue, Sue and Aunt Lou,. Like, it's just family. And I don't think that you could call a friend family unless you've opened up to them. And like, you've been through some stuff. Yeah. And some stuff because you've been through stuff with your family.

And so, yeah, we fought. Yeah, we've had little ones in big ones and we've gotten through it all. And that's what's made us feel like when people meet us, they're like, oh, like, what was your childhood like? Like, what are you met five years ago? You know, but at the time I was like a year ago,

now we've known each other for five years, which is a blessing. We have some time under our belt, but it feels like way longer because we've been through so much. I've been through so much more like life things, things that will like stay with me forever with you. Like, I was even thinking like, even with Clayton, like he's my husband, there are things that more like life things, that will like stay with me forever with you. Like I was even thinking like even with Clayton,

like he's my husband, there are things that you saw me through and knew me through that he just never will, you know? He knows me in other ways, but like it's just, when you had. I'm turning points. Yeah, we did, my life changed, you know? We really did, so fun.

All right, let's see some other questions that we got So we did go to question about body image and I felt that this would be a good one to talk about because yeah We joke about we games so much weight Friends and we did but then came from a place of actually freedom freedom and so basically whenever I met Lani Do you care if it's all the fruit story? Oh? Okay, so no she had gotten sent to her own winner jam a box of like chocolate cover whenever I met Lani, do you care if it's all the fruit story? Oh, I don't care. Okay, so she had gotten sent to her own winner jam a box of like chocolate covered fruit. She was like, hey, do you want this?

And I was like, for to, yeah, but like, you don't want it? And you were like, no, like, I don't eat desserts or something. And I was like, this is not dessert. This is fruit covered in chocolate which is also my fruit. It's relatively healthy. Yeah and you were like no like I haven't eaten sweets for how many years at the time. It have been like I think like 13 or maybe 10 years.

Yeah I mean you had like a strong yeah and I think at some points probably within the 13 years there was health in there, but other times there was unhealthy. And I remember I opened up to you about how I was unhealthy in a relationship that I was in. And first, several different reasons was way under-eating and way over-working out because of some of the comments that this guy had said to me. And yours came from a different place, from childhood stuff. And we both decided we were going to go on a journey of freedom together and hold each other to that. And we really did. Yeah. And it was a, it was a beautiful thing. It felt very free. You want to speak to that a little bit?

I wasn't saying it lasted. Like, I told Clayton the other day, I have never been more free. Yeah. In my, like, mid, like, even just the mental part of it, but with eating and just lifestyle health, I've never felt more free in my soul about it. I don't think about it. It's just, I'm free. It lasted. And I think a lot of that started that day. It was just like, didn't I eat it that day?

I ate it. I ate it together. And I think it just took that first action step. And the reason I wasn't eating it was because, in my mind, it was like, I had struggled with my weight as a child. And so I think it was just like, oh no, what if I chunk up again? What if I, you know, and then that was so tied to my identity at the time, and I got to be fit,

and I got to be all these things. But I think I've just come, even even after being married and having a husband who speaks truth over me and life over me, it reminds me like that he loves me. Like just so much more than my body, but just that he loves me and letting that love sink in. I like, I'm so free. I'm so free. I feel free to eat and enjoy and even just physically, I think I'm in the best, like I feel the healthiest.

Yeah. You look healthy. I feel healthy. But it's just like, it's amazing what just law, like we'll do, like, because even with like eating, it was always, oh, don't touch that or don't eat that. And the Bible says like the strength of sin is the law. And so anything I think we put a law on, we obviously like want it more, you know, but like letting God's love and his freedom and like the blood of Jesus covered that

thing specifically is the only thing that really lasts, you know. And I feel like the blood of Jesus has completely covered that area of my life to where like even if I feel a tinge of like Oh, I can that doesn't mean I don't hear I Doesn't mean I don't wake up sometimes my pants don't fit and I like oh gosh. Oh, no Yeah, you know, but I but I come back like the grip of grace and the grip of truth has like held me so much stronger and like It's lasted and I think that's just a testament of God's love and his freedom when he like sets us free. We're free indeed, you know?

We're so free. I love that. Who the sons of free is free and yeah. And that word is so true. Like that is so true. It lasted. It was an indeed moment. And I think our first, you know, when we talked about it,

yeah, it became like a freedom in what we ate, but it was more than that. It was a freedom in like who we were. You know, like we are actually worth a lot more than our body, you know, worth more than our image. Our image is actually worth more than even that. Our image is made in the image of God. And like who we are is what we need a value

and what we need a feed and all that and yeah like that day I was gonna eat strawberry covered whatever chocolate But you know it was it was just a lot more than that was more than the Halo top It was more than the tips and it was all so much more than that It was the conversations we are. It was the freedom that we were long through. It was holding each other to that It was playing basketball as our workout going Going to, we did the dance class. Like, what was that class called? Oh, it was kind of Zoom up and not.

It was like a hip hop Zoom, but it was always so funny. Okay, you wanna know how funny it is? You also have hip hop Zoom up with an actual hip hop girl. This is what happened. Almost every class they ever joined together. They come out to me, Lanny. They look at Lanny and be like, you are so good. Like,

oh my gosh, did you do the pop in the past? Well, I said, look at me and they say, we're so good. You can't. Every time I'm like, dang it. I thought I was crashing it. But there is no. You're just actually getting that and you worked really hard to do so good at that. But anyways, like it was freedom all around, like mentally, physically, spiritually. And yeah, then we walked in two relationships with our husbands free. And now like, yeah, Anyways, like it was freedom all around like mentally physically spiritually and yeah Then we walked in two relationships with our husbands free and now like yeah Definitely having a husband who speaks that over me is so empowering and so amazing and keeps me steady as well But I love that it happened before we met our men

Like it wasn't a guy's affirmation that made us feel free It was what we found in the Lord and what we held each other accountable to. And that is a beautiful thing. So, girls like maybe it was a guy that beat you down, you know, with his words as far as like for your health, maybe it was a childhood wound that beat you down with your health, whatever. But don't look for that affirmation in a guy or in another girl, like telling you that you're awesome or you're fit or you look skinny today, but truly finding that anger than who God says that you are and who he created you to be, is really gonna be the thing that makes you free and D.

That's what says, who the sun sets free is free and D. Not who your husband says free. Who no world says free, who your friend says free, who in-stream sets free, it's who God says free is free and D. And that's why we sit here today,

years later and say we haven't had that spiral again. We haven't had those thoughts. And yeah, that isn't me and that the enemy doesn't so a lot of you, you know. I mean, one thing for me after I had honey was I had like a really bad skin condition breakout. And so I started eating gluten free, so I lost a ton of weight.

And then I was just not feeling good all around. So I just didn't eat a lot and then I was working out because it made me feel better. And people started getting worried about me. I was like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no that mentality that no matter where I am on the scale, I'm just free, man. I'm not worried about it. This is not my identity. This is not my thought pattern. This is not consuming. I remember when we talked about eating disorder at the time, and we were like, how do you define that? And it was like, over excessive thought pattern about what you're eating. And we were like, well, they just-

I used to play in my day around whatever I eat, or not go hang out with people because I didn't want to eat that You know to avoid eating honestly. I wish I didn't have to eat which is so messed up because God gave us food to enjoy and to fuel and to like everybody's strength and Yeah, yeah, so good. I'm so grateful for that Um also on that note someone did ask about like if you're in a verbally abusive relationship with a guy what to do.

And I mean, if you're dating him, I would strongly encourage you to get out of the relationship. Verbal abuse is just as damaging as any abuse in those words can be knives to your heart. And I mean let him get the help he needs. Yeah. Don't sit in that. If you are the verbal abuse or go get the help that you need to work through the anger, the rage, or the manipulation in your heart,

that is a serious situation. And I just, I think that for me, I would always play it off of, well, I mean, he never hit me. But gosh, it felt like you didn't, you know? Yeah. I didn't even know that some of it was like verbal abuse. You know, I just didn't recognize it,

but I think what helped me was getting around people who knew what was true and reminding me what was true. And also like even if there wasn't somebody at the time around me listening to sermons, that were true. Like I needed like the replacement of what was, okay, if that's not true, well, I'm really confused now, honestly, because you've listened to that so much. Now let me like go, I need to listen to some truth

and like get that in my mind and my heart. And it's like when people say like, you say, oh, this guy's my best friend, you know, well, it's self, because it erases that whenever they're getting somebody. And then if you look at it you're like, does he actually treat me like any best friend I've ever had has? No! No! My best friend would never say that to me. And like he'll have to say I wouldn't tell you the truth, but my best friend would never say it like that. It would never be that abusive. It would be love. It would be loving. And Christian is my best friend and

he talks to me like a best friend. And like yes, we've had hard conversations, but that man loves me. Yeah. He cares for my heart and he does not want to hurt it. And so, yeah, like, definitely wait for the manager to hear your heart. And he loves it. Yeah, that's insane. Yeah.

We get so many and we get to know you found out our princess. Um, okay. Okay, I thought this was a really good one. Because we actually have some different opinions on this and I thought this would be great. Because I've never talked about this publicly anywhere. But someone said, is it hard for you not to conform to the world drinking style watching the Kardashians?

Well, it's like, I don't even care. Like if you are cherishing, it's just great. But really, I want to talk to you about the drinking and style and we don't even care. If you are cherished, it's great. But really, I want to talk about the drinking and style. And we don't have different opinions, but like drinking, like you don't drink, I do sometimes. So like talking about that, because is it hard for me to not conform to the world? I don't think it's hard for me to not conform to the world because of how much abundance we have in Christ.

You know, like, I'm not tempted by what the world has because I'd have all a need. I know you feel the same way. We don't need what the world has. We have more in here. But when it comes to conversations like drinking, we go about it sometimes a different way. But we're pretty much on the same page. Yeah. Different opinions. But you want to talk about your thoughts on that? Honestly, I didn't grow up But we're pretty much on the same page. Yeah. You have a different opinion. Yeah. But you want to talk about your thoughts on that? Honestly, I didn't grow up around it. I grew up with a very strong background of like, you know, not my parents, but generations

on like drinking was bad. Yeah. And so then it was like, they grew up kind of under that and they've come out of that. And now I think we're at a very healthy place of it with it. But for me, it's just not been something I'm drawn towards. I've tried it. And it's just not really been my thing. I'd rather have a piece of cake.

I'm looking for the calories if we're talking about just health or something, but I do feel like because there was a little bit of like, it was in family history, I've had to kind of like change my mind about it. I think as a kid, I would see someone drinking be like, oh my gosh, that's bad. You know, or like if my friends' parents were drinking, it was bad and I don't feel that way.

I think anything that you're enslaved to, anything that keeps you bondage, it could be, it could be donuts for you. It could be too much Netflix. It could be Instagram. Like it could be literally anything that you attach yourself to. And now it's caused you to sin and keep you

from the life that God has for you. Like that's when it's like, oh, it's not good for you, but my biggest issue with drinking now is like, I don't like it when people push drinks. It's like, can someone who, you know, someone doesn't eat cake, you're not like, oh yeah, eat cake, eat the cake. And you like, but people who drink can sometimes be,

you're not this way, but sometimes they can be pushy. And I think it's like, you need to let people just let it be. Like if it's that big of a deal to you that someone drinks, well maybe you should observe why you're drinking. You know? Why is it a big deal? Yeah, I agree. I don't like when people also are drinking, like, I don't like how the mom culture is like,

oh, I can't wait till the guys the gods want at the end of the day Yeah, like because I've been to the day like I don't want it to be dependent on that So that's what I'm saying. Yes, I don't want anything to replace what God is and not like yeah And so like an idol and like nothing needs to be an idol like that You know nothing needs to be like a coping mechanism other than God like yeah Stuff can be done with God. Like if I got a lord and I'm like, hey God, like I've had a stressful day like whatever

and get out to Jesus, then I happen to have a God's wife and I'm like, great. But like it's not like at least not what I'm looking for. And I love me so like whatever you're a slave to, like that's what you need to really look at. Like what do you in bondage to for me? I don't drink often at all because I have seen it in an unhealthy way as well, but different than you.

Not in an unhealthy way of like, oh, that's bad in an unhealthy way of like overuse. And for me, like knowing that in our family line, there's alcoholism in life. I would never want that to happen to me or never want that to get in the way. So I very, very, very rarely drink. I'll have a glass of wine on a date with Christian. We're every now and then with some friends. But it's not like a regular thing for me because that's how I protect my heart from knowing that.

But I'm also not legalistic about it to where I'm like, I'm never gonna do it because whatever, just protect my heart. And I love how Levi Lusco said in a podcast recently it's like drink whenever you're happy not like whenever you're sad because you know you normally like won't overdo it and you're not looking for that for something it's like a celebration thing yeah it's kind of the way that I look at it in some sense but yeah and I have accountability like I've opened up to you about some of the thoughts I have around it. I've opened up to Christian. I talked to him about all the time. Christian doesn't drink at all. He's like taste, you know?

Yeah, which I don't eat. But having his accountability, I've opened up to another friend of mine who's always with me, stuff. I'm like, I never want to get like comment with this. And so she's with me. You know, like, having having accountability if you are worried like hey This one's in my family. I don't ever want to get to this white. It's a good thing to open up Yeah, and I think accountability is just healthy. Yeah general with anything. Yeah, anything that you're you be anything Just having somebody that is a little bit like you give them okay, you can speak into my life Yeah, we all need that around us. Yeah, so good Last question someone someone said,

anyone outside of your friendship, ever judge your friendship? And I put that in there because, yeah. Like, I do a lot more people than we know. I don't know. They're judging us right now. They're listening to this. Yeah.

They've already judged us. But yeah, I mean, I think we had a lot of people judge our friendship online. Just be with that, we were just like so stupid, you know? Which, we kinda were. I also think like looking back, I'm like, we probably were a lot. Oh yeah.

For a while. We've really, really toned it down. I think you gave us like three days together. We might get back up there close. We get three dangerous levels. But, yes. Yeah, I mean, the answer is yes. The answer is yes.

And I'm gonna go step further assuming that you were probably wondering, do we care? Yeah. Yeah. Why didn't you say no? Like, no. We don't care. But we do care.

In the sense of like, we do not care that people don't just say, we'll not change how we act as far as like, we are so going to be goofy, we are so easy. Yeah. We don't care if you just throw me outside. Like if you were like, something like that. It'd be like someone like, on an Instagram that was like, you're not funny, I would be like, okay, bye. Like, I'm following you.

I mean, like, I don't care. Like, I am funny funny so that's okay. You know what? That would not bother me. But if it's like a friend that has judges, which we've had, who thought we were a little bit extra, we cared. We did care about that.

Yeah, we did work. We toned it down. Maybe we should have. We should have. Maybe a little. And that could have been more honoring of the situation. Yeah, I think so. I think so.

I've gone back and apologized to one person that I knew. And that's good. And it was really good and we're very close now. Yeah, so I wanted to put that in there because I'm like, yes. And we did acknowledge that. And we could have turned it down. And we also could have been more inviting. Like mom, I agree.

We could have been more inviting. Because I think whenever you're so close with someone, it's very easy to just like reference everything and we also could have been more inviting, like mom. I agree. We could have been more inviting. Yeah. Because I think whenever you're so close with someone, it's very easy to just like reference everything to them or like inside joke. And like, that's not cool to do in front of a lot of people. You know, it was hard not to do because we were so close. Yeah.

But I still think being respectful of everybody else in the room and making sure if you're gonna do something funny or like tell a joke, make sure it includes everyone in the room. Like that's like a really, I agree. That's just a gracious thing to do. I mean, that's community. It's like not being built on one person

and being built on community. And then, but if someone judges you outside of your group who's just like thinks that you're dumb, it doesn't matter. I think you just have to ask yourself, is there an opinion one that you value and like, you know? I saw this video on Sadie and Leney. We had an answer to the cat caught it Sadie and Leney.

We do. We do. We're actually going to revive it. So get ready. We might have already revived it, but it just comes out. So if you're an audio-evolver, thank you for sticking with us for the past. Thank you. Thank you.

But I was laughing because, first of all, the videos are just two of us friends being crazy. But I was laughing so hard because we were getting unfollowed by people. And we made a video about it. And we were like, because we caught everybody's cousins, because like the K, like 40K, 40 cousins, we were dumb. And we were like, well, while we've been off the ground, we have seen that we've lost some cousin,

and that is not what family does. I was like, I can't even call the outlet that. That's not hilarious. It's really funny. I agree. That is so funny. Well, lady, it's been fun chatting. Like we always do.

But with the cameras around and a microphone. And for those who listen, I hope that you know, you laughed because that is the big part of friendship. And being sisters and friends is laughing and being goofy, but also, I hope that you were inspired and encouraged and I hope that one obviously, Laney, preached his truth and she pulled out some scriptures and gave out good truth and I think we gave you all some good advice to you, but I also hope that you can just listen this and let the relationship in itself speak to your life Maybe you can model some friendships off of the structure that we've been able to build. How we get it?

Perfect. No, but we're pretty willing to admit the times that we have it and Thank you for the questions that you ask. I think Laney will have to be a regular on this podcast I feel like it does see is Requirement of being on the socials and friends podcast regularly. So if you had to do this conversation, let us know. And please, please keep asking us questions, DM, do whatever, because we would love to answer more. Even if you want to send it to Insadia Lani,

we'll try to revive that page. We don't live in the same place anymore, which is hard. And that's why we don't do the page anymore, it's because we don't live in the same place. And we have kids and that's why we don't do the page anymore It's because we don't live in the same place and we have kids and we're very little bit harder But uh, man our hearts are still so for each other and what each other is doing and we're so pretty goofy under all the all the facade I love you. This is awesome. Thanks for having me on. Absolutely.