1-on-1 with DP – 93.7 The Ticket KNTK - We need to love each other: May 25th, 10am

Episode Date: May 25, 2022

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It's time to go one-on-one with D.P. Coming at you live from the Coppull Chevrolet GMC Studios, here is your host, Derek Pearson, presented by Beatrice Bakery, on 93-7 The Ticket and the Ticketfm.com. Wednesday morning, May 25th, 2022. Thanks for joining, sitting with me, this hour of radio. 424-664-6-8-5, Sartterhamming, text on Honda, Lincoln Hotline. You can follow us on the Sartarhamamund, live video stream, Facebook, YouTube, Twitch, and Twitter Live.

Anybody who knows me knows that things hit me hard. Things hit me hard. I'm way too emotional for my own good, but that passion is kind of who I am. So I'm not going to be an authentic. part of why I wasn't going to come in today was because my heart was heavy. I did not want to have conversations that they aren't fun sometimes.

They aren't fun sometimes. And in putting together the show last night, all that I wanted to do was to focus on sports. That's what I wanted to do. But I kept being drawn to something else and then it hit me that the reason why we love sports is that one, it's a bit of an escape for some, for most. No, for some, for some. But it's the people. It's the people that we fall in love with, like the stories.

the lessons learned, the successes, the growth, the progression, right, the potential being witnessed, right, that in the little league and the high school and the A.U. And the college, it's young people who have taken just potential and worked their way through to some level of success and a greater. good for all of us. Because we know that when young people excel in our space, representing us, speaking for us, playing for us, that we all become better for it. And that's why we invest so much in it. That's why we invest so much in to athletics is because it betters our homes, our community, our schools, our businesses, our lives, our hearts, right? Our hearts are affected

by young people just excelling and getting better and growing up. That's why we love sports. You know, that really is like that you can't program it. You can't just do, hear all the boxes you check and then it works out perfectly. That's not how it works. But what you do is you control the controllables. You control the controllables. And you go through and you say, at least I'm going to remove.

some of the things that get in the way of their success. Like, that's coaching. That's teaching. That's parenting. Like, that's parenting is that we can't live the lives for them. But what we do is we set things in place and we try to direct them to spaces that are safe for them, good for them, positive for them, so that we will be better. Because we all want our kids to have a better life and better existence than we at.

That's parent rule number one. You want them to do better. than you did. You want them to live and experience things that you didn't experience. Pride and joy, one of the beauty of watching my daughter grow is that she will not have to make the mistakes I made because I made them for her. And then her mission now is that my grandson won't ever have to make the mistakes that she made.

Right? Because he's got, he's got grandpa. He's got grandma, you know, he's got dad to say, let me help you. that's way more dangerous than it should be for you, right? Don't go to the stove. Stay away from the fireplace. Don't ride your bike in the street. Put a helmet on when you're playing football.

Wear a mouth guard so you don't get concussed. We're a knee pad so that you don't ruin your knees. Bandage up, pad up, equip up, focus, think. Don't use your head in that space. Like don't put your head down to tackle. control your pitches, don't slide recklessly into it. We do all of these things

so that these young people can grow with the slightest bit of more safety around them. More boundary. Right, more boundary. And it's all love, right? It's all love. That's why we, like, 90,000 will show up rooting for the sons of Nebraska.

And the greatest stories in Nebraska football are the kids from Nebraska who grew up in it and who aspired to and dreamed and worked and efforted to wear the uniform one day and to do that. To live out the potential of an eight-year-old kid who decided one day that he was, you know, when he went on the playground of the elementary schools

in the state of Nebraska, to mimic Johnny Rogers or Eric Crouch or Scott Frost or Irvin Friar or Mike Roseir, right? It was somebody that they wanted to aspire to and that we were going to be better for it. As a coach, it's my job to make sure that I try to reduce injury to my players.

One, by teaching them how to do things that are going to need to do safely. Safely. Right? And there are kids who want to put their head down and tackle people. It's my job to say, no, nope, nope, nope, nope, we're smarter now. we're smarter now than we were do better and that's the my angelo quote do the best you can for as long as you can however you can until you know better and once you know better do better once you know better

and as a coach and as a parent right i invite parents into the space because i want them to be on the same page with me when it comes to what's best for your child. And I asked them, what safety measures do you want to make sure that your kid understand when they play for me? Right. We go, we have the football clinic. We explain tackling. We don't want them to risk their neck and their spine and their brain, their precious brain, right? Because sometimes they're underdeveloped, under-perform, under-developed, they're not ready for the things that life will throw at them. So we put safety rules in effect. We know that as a culture, as a society, that we need to put safety rules in effect.

Right? Speeding, seatbelts, you know. Let's put safety devices in the car. Why? Because, you know, quite frankly, the human factor is a little wonky. We're not perfect. We understand we're not perfect. So we protect ourselves from ourselves.

All the time. Food. The rules and regulations. for it. Right? Who can make it? Who can sell it? Who can produce it? We have rules in place for broadcast. Who can control the airways? There's only 15,000 people who can go through the FCC

and control it. This is why people went and got podcast because they're less regulated. But that doesn't mean that they're not regulated. They're just less regulated. Now, for safety, you understand it in this space. It's regulated, fully regulated and responsible and accountable. The higher you go in coaching,

the more certifications and regulations you have to deal with. It's a coach. If you're going to coach Little League, you have to go through certification now. Why? Because we figured out that we need to vet the people who are taking care of our young people.

For football, you can't be a Little League coach in some places in the country without having six levels of certification that you understand the game, that you're in it for the right reason, that you understand safety protocols, and we'll follow them. And we'll follow them. Because as a parent, if you went out there, and let me tell you, this is the thing that we deal with on a regular basis,

that as a parent, I invite parents to practices and work out. Because I'm confident in what I do and how I do it. And if any parent sees, hey, coach, they're tackling what their hands. heads. I would want that in my space. I would want to know that I'm not taking care of the kids so I can get better at night. I'll do right by them. And my responsibility is to take care of your kids for you.

Safety protocols, making sure that the people who drive the buses are insured and vetted and trained, right? We make sure of that. I have to know the game of football. I have to know them the game of basketball. my rule as my number one priority is not to win games it is to deliver the young people back home safely to the parents ideally i've added some joy and some information some knowledge and some success but mission one is to return your child to you better than i got them that's good

that's what that's what all this is right that's my job and if the official the official who are there, like the caretakers, is to make sure that the kids are playing the game safely. Fowls in its presence and penalties were set for you to follow rules and then move within those rules, right? You're not allowed to hit somebody in the head anymore. Why? Because we know that's not good for you.

And for young people, we need to be more vocal about it. So it's become a part of the training now. We understand. Change the way you tackle. Change the way you block. change the way you come into games, change the way you leave the games, change the way you enjoy the game.

Why? Because we're smarter now than we were. We have more information now than we are. And it breaks my heart. It breaks my heart. Like, I don't want to talk about this today. It breaks my heart to have to say, can we take care of our kids?

And they're our kids. I use the phrase, our kids. those aren't somebody's kids those are our kids those are our kids as a coach and i'm speaking as a coach i've got kids all over this country none of them mine by birth or by DNA but they're my kids i have to coach them and love them like my kids and then deliver them back to you in full better than i found them and i don't know why anything less is successful It's mentally lazy to go into the politics of it because we know that folks have been programmed and reprogrammed to just spew nonsense. But our kids are the focus.

And we're missing out on all the potential. We don't know what those young people would have grown up to be, but we sure should have fought to make sure that they got there. and it shouldn't require for somebody to say, what if it's your kids? They are your kids. They're all of our kids. Don't be that person. Don't be the person.

Don't say it and don't accept it. Don't accept it. RICO's kids are my kids. Anything they need, I got. That's how this works. That's how this works. There are several listeners that understand exactly what I'm saying right now. I love your kids the way I love my own kids.

And you understand it. And I'm saying it because I mean it and I live it. It's true. I live it. I can't go through and not feel the pain of anybody going through what they've gone through. And the fact that folks are getting numb to it and that their automatic response and recall is to recoil is to go into some political spew. No. No.

Is what is your reaction to what happened yesterday love or not? if your response to this was to go into some political discussion, don't. Don't. Do me a favor. Do me a favor. Don't. Go into thinking about these young people and these families, all of our young people and all of our families and all of our communities. All of them, we shouldn't have to say, what if that happened here?

Because here is just next if you don't fix it. You think those folks that sent those kids to because you think they thought that was what yesterday was going to be? No, no, that was somebody else's problem. Except it's been our problem all along. Listen, Lincoln? Lincoln, Nebraska. You, whoever you are, whoever you are, you now know better. Do better.

Put your politics down and do right for our young people. do listen i've been in those buildings all my life i can't count on my hands and feet the number of times i had to squash a situation because i knew that my job was to take care of our young people i'll tell the story uh in virginia in virginia uh two a days and barry thompson will vouch to this and we'll talk to them tomorrow. But I would always talk about what can we do for our young people today that helps them be the best version of themselves later on. Right.

And people, some people will say, well, that's, you know, that's far reaching. No, it's not. No, it's not. As a matter of fact, if you're an adult in this space, that's your responsibility one. Cut the BS, that's responsibility one. And so we're practicing, and there's a parent who had gotten into an angry, space about his young man and his place in the program. Now, we practiced on, we had a practice field that was away from the main stadium and away

from the roads. So in order to get back to our practice facility, it had to be purposeful, right? But I would invite parents to come and see, because if you want to know how your kids doing, be present. Don't ask for a report. Be present. And I'm asking you all to be present right now. be present.

And so what I hear is somebody yelling from a distance, but it's moving to the head coach. Where are you? I'm coming to see you. Now, all of my, my grown-up tendency is activated. It's activated. It's uncomfortable and uncommon movement,

which is, again, a thing that we understand. We understand how people normally move when they're in a good place and space. We know what it looks like. We know what it sounds like. Right? You're watching football. You know when somebody's doing something that you've never seen before. And your eyes are drawn to it.

Right. So in this space, as a coach, my responsibility is for the safety of the kids. What I provide is consistency, guidance, and love. Consistency, guidance, love. So here's the voice and the voice. shatters all of those things and it shatters the comfortable movement of the practice and what's going on. Now, there are people who are ignoring it because they are not familiar and they don't understand.

So I pivot and get in a full sprint to run the 80 yards plus the other 80 yards to find out where this thing is coming from and what it is. And I meet him in the space. I meet him in the space just adjacent to the practice facility. Why? Because I don't want it in, I don't want it in the room. And I ask him by name,

how you doing, brother? I just came to, I asked you, how you doing? I asked you how you doing, man. I'm pissed. What's on your mind? Now, I won't describe the rest of the event because what was required was,

for me to keep him separate and calm him down. Keep him away from the space that he was at it with the purpose that he had. And it wasn't for anything other than to do right for the people in the space. I was actually doing him a favor. I was actually doing him a favor. Because I said, whatever you want for your son, this ain't it. And whatever happens from this ain't it. Whatever result you're trying to get, you're not going to get it.

by coming in angry and on on on fire so let's talk let's talk first and then if you're still mad at the end of this we'll have another discussion why because that's what we're here to do we're not here for the chaos we're not here for the drama we're not here for the pain we're not here for it my job was to love the parent love the kids enough to get in front of it and then to detonate. Now, I'll tell you, full endangerment, because I don't know if he has a gun, I don't know if he has a weapon.

He did. He did. But he didn't tell me that until after the fact. And he turned around and drove home. Now, I was then putting in another situation where I have to tell people in authority what happened. Right? but all with I'm good

and that we need to make changes so that that never happened again. Now that man, that invited me to his son's graduation party two years later. And thank me for saving his life and and.

Listen, folks. All I'm asking is that when we talk about this thing, remember this, man, I hate going, going, going, full blaze on this, but I got it. Love requires action.

I'm telling you I'm a love prince guy. I can't, I can't live any other way. Love requires action. If you love people, you love a thing, you have to be active in that love for it. You can't say I love it and do nothing. Action, whatever thing you're going to do has to have love attached to it or it's not good.

Our reaction in response to this should be, to be active for good. Active for love in love of the young people and love of the grown people who are in those spaces who share those spaces for our greater good. We know that teachers have their hands full,

they're underpaid and underappreciated. Let's not put more on them than that. But what I would say is this, stop putting nonsense into your love, into your good, into your parents, into your kids, into your community, into your schools. Stop putting the nonsense into it.

Look, this is all venom and poison until you stop it from getting into your space. Stop allowing people to poison your soup. Your kids should be safe. Our kids should be safe. And whatever, if your natural inclination is to immediately go, well, what about no, stop it.

What I'm saying to you is this. Do something actively today that says that you love our kids. Whatever that is. Whatever that is. And whether it's a thank you to the people who raise your kids and educate your kids and who coach your kids or the people who stand outside the door or the people who in the community who watch out for the kids when they come home from school. Why? Because you want them safe and protected.

if you love them, not only say that you love them, but show them that you love them. And whatever way that is, but I'm telling you, keep the venom and the poison out of it. Not necessary, not required, and not good for our kids.

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