40ish - DJ Daddy, Dog Groomers and The Surprise Co-host

Episode Date: March 3, 2026

This week on 40ish: James stands in for Nicole bringing a whole new male perspective on 40-something life. Lauren asks why is everyone on loudspeaker all the time and why is it always on the Tube? And James gives a thorough rundown of his supplement regime. (Thrilling). One listener shares her dilemma being married to a midlifer who has been reborn as DJ “Daddy” and listener Sarah delivers possibly the most 40ish moment of all: hiding her partner’s birthday cake so well she forgot to give it to him… only to rediscover it three weeks out of date. It’s 40ish - but with added testosterone. (We wish you a speedy recovery, Nicole)  Get in touch! Email [e-mail] Instagram https://www.instagram.com/40ish.podcast  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@40ish.podcast Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/share/DVQWb6y2vesgeHEK/?mibextid=LQQJ4d  To order our book HAVE YOU TRIED THIS?” click here  https://www.amazon.co.uk/Have-You-Tried-This-Only/dp/1801293139/ref=sr_1_2?crid=1O7EA4ZF1O5CS&keywords=have+you+tried+this&qid=1699449028&sprefix=have+you+tried+%2Caps%2C125&sr=8-2 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Many promotions are available both in-store and online, though some may vary. Oh, it's like a little bit awkward. But now we just know that the show's going to be full of it. So we just kind of, the pegging scene, that was a stretch. Yeah, there's levels and that might be. And an underground worker, a lady, she sat on the bench next to me, and she just watched videos of loudspeaker, actually at work. Very, very, very.

Firstly, partner has developed a new hobby, and I don't know how to say this kindly, but it is ruining my life. He is now a DJ. Hello, everybody. Welcome to 40-ish. I'm Lauren Mishcon. And I'm James Alexander. That's where we tackle the chaos of being 40-something every week, diving into all things mid-life, the news, your story to dilemmas,

and of course bringing you our own mess and the challenges of navigating mid-life. From the Monday into the ridiculous, here we figure out how to survive mid-life together, one rant, crisis, and or meltdown at a time. Yeah, and do you know that you can subscribe to this show on Apple Podcasts? I mean, I knew that, but we should have. hell everyone at home that they should be able to do that too. You will get early access, add free listening across both this show and self-care club

and bonus content and if you want to see James in action, you can watch this video on Spotify or YouTube. Or, yeah, listen. Yeah. On any other podcast platform. Yeah, that as well. That too, yes. Yeah, yeah.

And you can be in touch if you've got something to share. We would love to hear from you. Please email hello at 40ish.com.com. or DM us on the old Instagram. Great. How did I do? You did good so far. Fabulous, let's go. So Nicole's not here.

She's not. She's post-operative. She is. I have seen her. And? Well, she looked a little vulnerable on the sofa and it did make me a bit sad. She wasn't, she's not her normal perky self yet. She was, she was bantering me?

Was she? Yeah. That's good. Maybe she was trying to make herself feel better. I think she has moments where she feels like okay and she's a bit bored and then moments when she's quite tired. She's going to cut all of this out. Probably. Nicole always says it's also editing this show. So it's like a surprise podcast for her. Do you think she's annoyed that she's not here? Yes. Yes, very much. This is not going to sit well.

I know. But the show must go on. The show must go on. And also, we're sending our love to you, Nicole, for a speedy recovery. I'm going to see you after this. I've brought you a little. present. It's in the handbag. We sent flowers. I know you did. They were very beautiful and she was very touched. Ariella sent flowers. She was very, very touched. No, just say you sent flowers. Well, I signed it off. Okay, well done. Technically. Okay, well done. So tell me, James, what is the most 40-ish thing that has happened to you this week? Well, it was actually happened today. And I had another one, which is fine, because we'll use it for some other time. Maybe I'll even be on next week. It depends if she's back or not, but...

It does. You know. I went out with a friend for lunch. Yeah. And 10 minutes into lunch, I realized that what we'd been discussing the entire time was our vitamin and supplement regime

in order to keep ourselves vaguely moving. That is very, very blinged. Yeah, I thought it was. What are you taking out of interest? Well, I've actually sent it to him just a moment ago. Oh, a list. I shouldn't need to look it up, should I?

No. I think you've actually openly mocked me for one of these items in the past. I've seen the mushroom gummies. So AG1, which is what you mock me for. Age 1, yeah, that's basically a scam. But I do, Natalie and I take it every single day. Yeah. And I do think psychosomatically it is part of mentally paying attention to what you put in your body from the moment you wake up.

Okay. So maybe that's the function. Because it's green? It's green. and like you you wake drink it when you wake up and therefore you're immediately thinking about positively doing good things for yourself and your body and therefore it makes it feel a bit like later on at 11 o'clock instead of eating a bag of crisps you sort of feel like is that a sensible thing to do i started the day so well with my greens yeah maybe that's what it does maybe above

anything else okay um i have creatine yeah which is i know about that i don't take it but yeah yeah Absolutely superb. I thought it was for bodybuilders, if I'm honest. No, it's not. Mentally superb. Okay. Stifeness and joints. Yeah.

Superb. NMN, which without going into it too deeply, is an NAD1 precursor thing. Very trendy. Very trendy. I take it because, as I'm sure you can imagine, I listen to too many podcasts. Yeah.

That seems to be the most popular thing that people talk about. So, Aging's a problem. We've got told that at a wellness festival, this girl who was all of about 23, selling NAD1. She wasn't. She was 61.

That was the whole point. She came and told us aging was an issue. I said, you know it's not an issue. You know it's just like life. You know you're supposed to get old and die. That's kind of how it works. I'd like to make it to old in good condition and then die.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. As opposed to creaking into my late age. That's my plan. I don't want to be 120. No, neither do I. I'm quite happy to go in my mid-80. Yeah, that's all right. Before everything really feels apart.

I just like everything to be working when I get there and not slowly decline over the next 20 years. Yeah, the declines a bad bit. Yeah, that's it. Okay, that's already quite a lot. Zuki. Sorry, what? Collagen, marine collagen.

You're taking collagen now. 12,000 milligrams a day. Right. Of whatever the right one is. Fishy jam. You know, there's a right one. And the wrong one, marine collagen, whatever that is. And it's like a goop.

Yeah, fishy jam. Natalie and I both on that as well. I think for, different reasons, but apparently the collagen, I mean, it's made my hair grow back. Yeah, I can see. But very good for joints, apparently. Apparently. I'm taking Lions Main, which I've been taking for like a year and a half now.

Yeah. Which I really believe helps, although I don't know if it helps, but I believe it helps. Yeah, I think it does. And magnesium. For sleep. Gammies. Just general all round, think the whole smush together. And I've AI chat GPT checked that stack.

And it's quite happy with it. Okay. It does say AG1 is a little bit of an expensive thing you could probably replace with a multivitamin that would do the same thing. You could. We got sponsored by them. Then we found out by AG1. It's not a scam. Well, I've told you all the reasons it might not be, even if it is.

I know, well, it's a placebo. Yeah. You like it. You're enjoying it. So there is my most middle age of feelings. That is discussing with a buddy of mine who we used to discuss adventures and what crazy stuff we were going to do next. Yeah. Now you talk about us up.

Now we talk about what's keeping us alive. Okay. So there. Okay. There you go. Do you want to know mine? Yeah, what you got. I went to the West End yesterday on the tube.

It wasn't an exciting trip. Yes. I was going to the gynecologist. You know what? We'll bypass that because it's you here and not Nicole. Are you sure? We can if you like. No, you know what?

We won't. Cold hands? Finally enough, it was a non-examination visit. I remained fully closed. The gynecological chat seems like something you could do over the phone. It was exactly that. Right. A chat.

Yeah. Anyway, I realize that I now have zero tolerance for people who use their phone on loudspeaker on the tube. Oh, oh no. Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. No, no, no, I'm wrong. No, no, you are 100% right. Thank you. I have family issues with that.

What the fuck? Is that? I don't want to listen to your conversation in whatever language it is. It's listening to watching videos, listening to conversations. The worst I can't bear is the phone calls on loudspeaker. That's what I'm talking about. The phone calls on loudspeaker. I had one woman. I shit you not. Is that an age thing or is that a decency thing? I don't think my kids mind. I cannot stand it. Had one woman with a load of carrier bags at her feet. She was on the phone to her mother. She talked her mother through every

single item in the bag. Yeah, well, I picked up some chicken breasts and then I've got some carrots and you know that thing you like. You know that, no, not that one, mum. You know the other one and I've got that one. But didn't have this one. I'm like, shut, shut up. Just show her when you get home. Yeah, I wouldn't

and that's not for me. I'd have been raging. But it's not just youngsters. But do you do what I do? Do you silently boil inside? Yes. And you do a lot of tusking and that sort of stuff. I do a lot of staring. Yes.

Like disapproving staring. But I leave it there. Yeah, I don't speak. No. Not that way. And then on the way back, there was delay on the Northern Line. There was no tube for 12 minutes. And I sat there and an underground worker, a lady,

she sat on the bench next to me. And she just watched videos on loudspeaker. Oh, no. I was like, you're actually at work. No, no. Firstly, secondly, shut up. Yeah. Was it good videos?

I couldn't see. I could just hear the timid noise from the phone. That noise I hate more. If it was like high fidelity sound, you might get away with it. It's the part noises you hear. It's not okay. It's not okay with me. So there you go.

That's what it is. We've got some feedback, James. Oh. Well, I can take this feedback because I feel like, even though people don't normally see me the other side, I'm curious to know. Okay, here it is. Hi, ladies.

Well, today it's ladies and gentlemen. Good. Right. Maybe you could start a new segment, Is it normal to? Like your try on knickers question. Someone wrote in about, is it normal to try it on knickers.

Mine is, is it normal to fall asleep during a facial? On Monday, I treated myself, she says in capital letters, for my birthday, to a couple of treatments with my normal beauty lady.

No four seasons mini break from my birthday, sadly. That was a bit of a dig at Nicole, because she went to the four seasons for her birthday. She had a very nice time. Must be nice. Yeah. I'm not going and it's my birthday on the weekend.

After a back treatment slash massage, I turned over for a facial and I counted at least three occasions where I woke myself up with a snoring snort. That's a bit embarrassed. That was quite embarrassed. When it got to the bit where she put the soaked pads on my eyes and left me alone for five minutes,

at which point I could have a lovely nap, I suddenly had the most full bladder and I spent the whole time wondering when she was going to come back in the room to finish the facial so I could go home and have a wee. I went from not needing a wee at all to being desperate for a wee in the time it took her to tip her out the door which kind of ruined the relaxation bit. At the end of the treatment I felt that I had to acknowledge the sleeping slash snorting. So I apologised and laughed it off. My beauty lady said it must be because I felt so comfortable with her. I've been going to have for 20 years.

But I'm pretty sure I've fallen asleep at other facials in random spas. not sure if it's just me, a 40-ish thing, or absolutely normal. Lucy. P.S. I loved the Wuthering Heights segment this morning. So funny. I went last night with my two teenagers. The bit where she plays with herself behind a craggy rock, and then he finds her and licks her fingers

was a bit weird to watch with my two daughters next to me, but a bit like snoring through the facial, they smiled and laughed through the embarrassment. That's definitely worse than being in the spa. Yes. You don't watch that with your mum. No. Do you?

There's a lot that I'm, again, as I'm getting older, realizing watching certain films with my parents growing up and as a kid not understanding what the thing was. And you were oblivious at the time, or you knew it was a little bit. You knew it wasn't really, you weren't supposed to be watching it. But it wasn't as terribly vivid as understanding, for example, that bit of Wuthering Heights.

Yes. You didn't quite get it. No. You know what I mean? Yeah. Not quite. Yeah. I watch industry.

Do you ever watch industry? I do not. Okay, it's quite graphic. It's about shocks, stocks and shares and trading. But it's not really. It's not really. It's a soap in stock market. No, it's kind of like very dark shit happens in that show.

Like bad, bad stuff. You know, you can imagine. What's it on? BBC, actually. You know, there's a little like drugs. So not that dark. No, it's dark. Drugs, insider trading, pegging, all sorts of things.

Just sounds like the city. I used to work in the city. Was it like that? Yeah, pretty much. Okay. I watch it with Max, and there's a lot of very graphic sex. I mean, they don't, they don't, they don't shield you from any of it. Yeah.

And we both sort of sit there watching it, and I just go, Max, cover your eyes. Oh, that's even worse, though. Oh, it's like a little bit awkward. Yeah, that is horrendous. know that the show's going to be full of it so we just kind of the pegging scene that was a stretch yeah there's the levels and that might be that that that's a lined cross yeah i thought is it okay to watch this man go and get out this enormous thing from the drawer i don't know but here we are it'll be fine it would have been worse if he'd have gone ha ha ha mum it reminds me of that

oh oh yeah oh mom what is that can you split dad said he likes this Is this what he's talking about? It would have been horrendous. We're going to dive into a dilemma. Would you like to do the disclaimer as the special guest co-host? I feel like it would, yeah. Go on then.

Just before we do dive into the dilemmas, just a quick disclaimer. As you may or may not be aware, we are not doctors or healthcare professionals. No, no. if you're seriously struggling, not even please, definitely contact a qualified expert because what is about to follow should be considered some advice, but not the advice, is probably the way of putting it.

Well, let's see how your advice is. Let's go. Okay. Hi, Lauren and Nicole. Actually, it's hi, Lauren and James today. So rude. Getting a bit sick of not being acknowledged, but that's fine. I understand.

My partner has developed a new hobby and I don't know how to say this kindly but it is ruining my life. He is now a DJ. This started innocently enough. He bought some headphones, then a mixing controller. I'm sure it's called a mixing desk.

It is. Thank you. I feel so cool right now. Then suddenly our dining room previously used for eating became the studio. He has DJ software. He has playlists. He has and I cannot

stress this enough, a DJ name. As all good DJs do. I'm not allowed to tell you the DJ name because he made me promise, but I will say it contains the word daddy, which I personally feel is a crime. I already love this. At first it was fine, it was cute. He'd have a little mix, not his head press buttons, but now it is escalated. He doesn't just listen to music anymore.

He listens to it analytically. We can't hear a song in the car. He says, oof, that transition was lazy. Yeah, go on. Calvin Harris is apparently not trying hard enough for him. He also insists on playing me his mixes. He will stand there going, wait for it, wait for it, and then press a button and look at me like he has cured a disease,

and I have to react very excitedly. If I don't react enough, he looks hurt. If I react too much, he says, it's just a rough version. We had friends over last weekend. He said, do you guys mind if I jump on for 10 minutes? He was on for an hour and 15. At one point, our friend Paul asked me quietly, is this his actual job now?

I love him. I want him to have joy. I don't want to crush his creative spirit, but I also want to eat dinner without being asked, what kind of vibe are you going for tonight? So my question is, do I continue pretending that he's the next David Getter, or do I gently tell him that his one fan is tired and would like the dining room back? And also, at what point does a hobby become a personality? this is from Mrs. Married to the music, your pants.

Oh, well, I was DJ once upon the time. What was your DJ name? Well, let's start with that. I didn't have a DJ name. Oh, that's not cool. Well, I used to think it was cool. Oh, so just not have a name. Yeah.

So how did they intro you? They didn't, because I used to do functions and weddings and bar mitzvahs and that sort of thing. Oh, okay, so it was just your name. It's not like, tonight. It's DJ James. But do people call you DJ James? Yes, that's exactly what people used to. And as a part of DJ James.

Yeah. Did you do that voice? A lot of the time. Oh, I love that. There would be a fairly significant amount of time spent bedroom DJ. Right. Like it was quite a hobby thing, including the mixing with your hand in the air to no one. Big important thing.

Why is that? Because you emulate the big boys. Is that what they do? You know like when you're a kid, well, when you're a kid and your kids playing football in the garden. Yeah. They score a goal. Yeah. They still run off and celebrate.

They do full celebrations. But there's no fans there. No, no. So it's the same sort of thing. Okay. You'd always get a, thank you, Mill Hill on the way out, you know. So I can imagine he probably does that when he packs everything up. you Norfantz, he's saying.

Thank you, Norfans. I mean, he's got a problem. Were you married at the time? No, I met my wife. I was at the tail end of my DJing. So when she first came over to your flat? No, decks went out, decks were gone. Although I did, so I still had decks.

But they used to get bought out and put away. Right. There are some people, like this chap sounds like he's on the way to, where it becomes a sort of permanent installation in the dining room. Which is awkward. And the bit where she says, where she's talking about a lazy Calvin Harris

and listening to music in the car. Like I empathise with that because, do you? Well, if you listen to a podcast, you are much more aware of what's gone into making that podcast. Yes, I am. Because you make podcasts. The music, the transitions, the la la la.

Even if you are an amateur DJ, Yeah. You're dialed into hearing that stuff. Back bits giving her the ick. Yeah. And I understand it because, but it's odd actually because what she's specifically icking about there is, is the fact that he's developing some level of specialism, which I argue is.

Okay. Yeah, my problem with this is the dining room. Go and rent yourself an office in North Hans of all places for 100,000. 50 quid. The garage. Lock your stuff away in there. When you want to go and DJ, go and DJ.

Yeah. Don't subject your wife or, or get some gigs. Learn some money from it. There you go. I think the key to this is, I'm speaking as a wife now, leave the house. Yes. Like, whatever your hobby is, leave the house. What she doesn't say here is how old they are.

Well, they've definitely in their 40s, aren't they? I would say. Yeah, I mean. That's the problem with it. Hence why his evening is daddy. But you'd expect if they had, yes, but grown up kids you'd think might get involved with this. Yeah, they might. They might.

So they either have very young children or left the nesters. If they're left the nesters and this guy is in his 50s, we got a problem. But again, just don't do it in front of me, you know? Like, Ollie plays tennis. What if he got really, really good? And? I still don't want him DJing in my dining room. But what if he got really,

really good. Okay, and I've got my in-laws for dinner and there's Olly on the decks in the dining room and I'm serving chicken. I can so see that. No, the joy of men's hobbies is they go and do their hobbies and they leave you alone. Then they come back, they've done their hobby, they've had a nice time, you're happy that they've gone and they've come back. So just remove yourself from the house. Yes. My advice to her would be, okay, yes, it's a bit tragic, but encourage him to, yeah, the gigs is a great idea because then you can actually be a real DJ. Are they?

Where should he start? Just go to a pub. Oh. Pubs put DJs in Friday night, Saturday nights. Even some restaurants now have noticed. They pay nothing. Yeah, 20, 30 quid in the evening for a new upcoming DJ. But at least then he can say I'm getting paid for it.

He's also out the house. Yeah. The flip side of that is if you, and take this for the ladies amongst you want to know this as a top tip. Yeah. If you want to kill something like this off. Yeah. You know what you do? What?

Take it up. Take up yourself. Oh, yeah. With him. Yeah. Give yourself a DJ name. Yeah. Like DJ Mummy.

Oh, yeah. And lean into it. And you've only got to play the game for a couple of weeks. And eventually it'll be like, okay, enough's enough. I'm moving on to the next thing. So if you want to kill it, which I'd advise against, by the way, because he's clearly fond of this. She says I want him to have joy.

If you want to kill it, DJ Mummy needs to make her debut appearance. And she can lean in hard and, do the thank you Northampton as she puts dinner down on the table that sort of thing is genius yeah but the nice way about it is encourage him to go and get some gigs I'd like that advice James there you go that's very good let's go to a break and we're going to come back with our meltdowns okay I don't know if you remember but last week I told you that the dog who stinks yes I was taking her to the groomers yes Nicole was like I told you to take it to the groomers months ago booked her into the groomers 75 quid they wanted we've discussed this all already on the show

Yes. Okay, whatever I said. That is a fine price to pay to not have this whole smelly nanny in your face with your own bed. Take her to the groomers. Drive home, 15 minutes later. The phone rings. Hello, Mrs. Michkon. Please can you come pick your dog up immediately?

Oh my God, what's happened? We can't cope with her. She is so hysterical. She's scratched the groomer accidentally. She is trying to jump off the table. I am worried about the stress on her heart. I said, I don't mean to be funny. It's just a bath.

Like she's not going to have a heart attack. No, no, no. We cannot and will not groom her. Pick her up now. Oh. Right. So I come in to pick up this sopping wet animal on the floor. She said, I've tried my best to dry her with the house.

She said, are you sure she's a golden retriever? It's like, what a chutzpah? I said, yeah, I am sure she's a golden retriever. The line's been bred since the 1930s. She said, well, I've been doing this job for 20 years. I have never met such a neurotic golden retriever in my life. Normally they just lie down and go to sleep while they're being groomed. You should have desensitized her early on.

I said she's only 10 months old. You should have been bringing her in here for months. It's too late now and literally threw me out. She didn't even charge me. Just threw me out. Is this local? Yeah. And Barker used to go there.

Local? No, not that one in the road. But Barker used to go to this groomer. In fact, Miley, Nicole's dog goes to this groomer they're perfectly good groomers apparently my dog's just a fucking neurotic yep it's really

embarrassing and not on brand for me not on brand for you would now be a good time to bring up the fact that this savage animal wrecked my rug is that same one it's the same dog also not on brand for you I haven't got a new one never seen you come in here and chew things no but I'm not a puppy

I'm not teething this is true this is true I'm not that destructive. Well, there's not really much you can do at this point. Well, there actually is. Sedate the dog before? No, I'm not doing that. There actually is.

There actually is another woman who I was told about, very local to me, who is a behaviourist slash groomer, and she offers a series of desensitizing kind to dogs, get used to grooming courses. That sounds cheap. I don't know. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. This is the best bit.

She's invited me for a meat and treat. I get it. I see what she did. It's clever. And at that point, we'll tell me what she charges. And how long it's going to take before she can even take a pair of scissors to her. When she brings out the Fortnam of Mason dog biscuits, you'll know what you're in for. She used to work in the city and she's giving it all up.

Phone your mortgage company before you go. And now she's retrained. And she's got this whole flashy website, this whole certification thing. this whole thing. I mean, who's given out that certificate? The dog. Oh, it's called like the fear-free method or something. I feel like I could write me a certificate.

You could write me the certificate, but I don't know the method. Does she? I don't know. Okay. So she, are you sure she's not one of those people that's just like, I'm really good with dogs? I mean,

she's got a really good website and the dogs look very nice. Yeah, of course they do on the website. They have really well groomed. I bet she's never met half of them. I don't know. So I'm going around, we're going around just so she can, the first session is a sniff around the salon and a biscuit.

Okay. That's a session. I mean, I can't. You don't even get told how much that session is or that's free. That's free. That's free. That's just to like reel you in,

basically. I'm keen to know where this progresses to. I'm so embarrassed that I have to go and do this with my dog. Because, you know, it's just a bath. Teddy is, is, do we swear on her? Yeah, we do, yeah. An absolute shit bag when he goes to the groomer. Is he?

He's there a long time. Yeah. He's got full on doodle coat. Yeah. He requires a lot of brush. And he's not happy. Like when I walk down the high street with him, he won't walk on the same side of the road as the groomer.

No, neither would barker. Like a husky pulling a sled. That's why I stopped going there. He would sit his ass on the paper and won't go in. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. puzzle him. No, I won't allow it. And I won't allow them to put them in the cage. It's the cages that they don't like. That's why Barker didn't like him.

I don't trust these people. I don't either. Maybe we should retrain as dog groomers. I'll give you a certificate. Thanks. I'll put some AI dogs on my website. I'll change my dining room into a salon. Love it. What's your meltdown of the week? I have a new thing that's really grinding my gears. Oh yeah. I feel like this is something that would never normally get brought up on 40-ish, but I guess that's part of OK because that's why I'm here. Yeah.

I'm going to talk about LinkedIn. Oh, okay. I like to talk about LinkedIn. I hate it. I cannot cope with the level of AI slop that is going out on LinkedIn. Okay. I stubbed my toe this morning. Here's four things I learned about leadership.

As a result of stubbing my toe. That sort of post does my absolute brain in. Okay. I was flicking through LinkedIn. Another post, another post, another post. I realized like 10 in a row were AI slop. Was I'm leaning into this. Jumped on chat, GPT.

Great. Write me a post about what I learned from sharing my friend. friends, AI slop posts on LinkedIn. Yeah. Six things I learned. Yeah. Go. Yeah.

It spat out some AI slop. Yeah. I pasted it into my LinkedIn. Yeah. Got an AI photo of more AI slop to go with the AI thing. Posted it on my LinkedIn. My biggest post for quite some time on LinkedIn. Is it?

And what I, what I, what I, oh, I've just realized by saying this, anyone that is now looking on my LinkedIn, I don't use it very much. So the biggest post for a while is not really a thing. But feel free to. connect me on there. I can't bear the AI slot that is starting to appear in any form of social media. I'm starting to notice people write Facebook posts and Instagram comments written by, I mean, I know these people.

You've never said those words in your life. Some of these people who I know, I'm like, you are not that educated. You don't even know that word. You do not have those words in your vocabulary. Yeah. Where are you pulling this from? Yeah. That is my,

I can't cope with it at the moment. People are getting very dumb. People are using it to write birthday cards. All sorts. If you cannot write a birthday card to your friend without using Chap GPD or AI, you've got a problem. Are you an essay writer in a birthday card?

Not an essay and also it depends who it is. And there are a lot of people who don't like an essay in a birthday card. A good buddy. I would say it is more than happy birthday, have a nice day. Okay. So yeah, an essay,

no, a novelette maybe. Oh, novelette. A good paragraph, yeah. Natalie's like a trilogy. Right. It comes in three cards. Oh, that's cute. Full reflection of the last 12 months of my life. Oh, but that shows thought and care. I'm a happy birthday fond of regards.

Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. That's fine. I agree. People are getting very dumb. Yeah. They don't actually use their own brains anymore. And they're getting stupider. Ironically, the people that don't use it are smart and as still smart. Yes. I use AI every day, but I don't let it be me in its output.

It shouldn't be me because it's not you. I don't know you. So that's a lot of people. Also LinkedIn, I can't be getting. No, I'm really going to. I don't get it. It seems to be like, hey everybody, guess what, I got a promotion. Oh, well done. Well, many congratulations on your promotion. Then just goes on and on and on. Look out for my post on LinkedIn later today. I guested on one of my podcast shows today. Here are the five things I learned about podcasting. Here's what I learned about podcasting. When I podcast producing guesting or someone else's show.

It feels to me like a whole site for people blowing smoke up each other's asses. At their own asses to begin with. And then other people blow it up there. Oh, really proud of you. Really pleasurable to see this journey conclude for you. They don't give a fuck. You don't even know who this person is. They don't care.

And it always starts with so delighted to announce. It's like, I don't care. I don't care. Right. We've had some feedback. Do you want to read it? No, not feedback, sorry. We've got another one, haven't we?

It's a listener meltdown. Yes. Go, go! I'm going to change the opening so that it's appropriate for us all. Okay. Hey, gang. Great, because it said, hi, girls. But again, we're not all girls today.

Thank you for keeping me entertained with your fabulous podcast. You're welcome. That sounds like she listens to both. of them. Yes, you're right. I'd bring up the fact that self-care club is another one of your podcast, but I know some people get very upset when we talk about the other one, so we'll leave that there. Some people only listen

to Self Care Club and will not listen to this one. And get crossed, the other one even exists. Oh, one actually did get cross. We are being distracted. Let's go back. I thought I'd share with you my 40-ish moment of the week. I'm 41 in three weeks. That's just 40, not even 40-ish. Yeah. At 44, I feel like you were a young and

Yeah. My partner's birthday was four weeks ago. His birthday was on the Thursday, and we were going away for the weekend for a few days. So I bought a small cake a few days before and hid it in a rarely used cupboard until his birthday. Okay. Seems okay so far.

Yeah. Fast forward to today when he asked me, where's the big saucepan with all the handles? To which I respond, in the corner cupboard. He then opens the door and asks, what's this while holding up his birthday cake. I hid it so well, I forgot to actually give it to him. And it's now three weeks out of date and in the bin.

Happy 40s, lots of love, loyal listener, Sarah. Oh, Sarah. Welcome to 40s, because this sort of shit is just going to happen to you over and over and over again. And more and more and more frequently. Oh, yeah. Yeah, it really will. Until the point where you go up the stairs, don't really know why you've gone up the stairs, you open the fridge,

but why have you opened the fridge? You'll be pleased to know, Sarah. There is a point, however, that you start giggling at yourself at it happening, so it doesn't become quite so alarming. I kind of have to, you know. It's the only way around it. I read this whole thing the other day

that said that apparently women in perimenopause have more car accidents? More car accidents than there are other women counterparts who have three times as many accidents as men. Was that the stat? The stat was you lose spatial awareness. and more spatial awareness and concentration and you just don't really you know can you imagine if i'd have just said that to nicole she would have been glaring at me across the desk well i actually sent her the article

because she failed to tell me about a third little ding that she'd got into recently just a ding she was like did i tell you about that i was like no she said i seem to be doing this a lot and she said i think I think now I think the common denominator is me. I'm a key, maybe. Natalie, who I'm sure is listening to this, maybe now might be the time for you to come to the same realisation. Oh, does she have a little ding? Well, she has a lot of other people's falters.

Oh, okay. A lot. Okay, right. Getting quite expensive. Oh, okay. Okay, I actually only used to do that when I was pregnant. Really? What, that was your thing?

Yeah. Some people eat pickles and ice cream. Yeah. I reversed into a box. Pollard in waitros. Oh, excellent. I crushed into someone's bum, yeah. Only you weren't pregnant.

Not ideal. Not ideal, but also not a problem anymore. Protect the baby? I mean, it was barely a baby at this point. But, yeah, not a problem anymore. Yeah. So that's fine. Well, how do you think that show's gone?

Your first co-hosted show? Well, I quite enjoyed myself. Did you? I feel like I could do this again. Do you? Yeah. Well, let's see how next week goes. Hopefully she doesn't come back.

He doesn't. With love, with love, because I'm sure you're enjoying editing this as well. I don't know if she is enjoying editing it. Probably won't enjoy editing it. She will. She'll be having a right chuckle. Because she never gets to actually watch the show. I said that.

I said, wouldn't it be quite fun to listen to this show as like a punter? Yeah, normally she's going to be busy critiquing herself. Like when I edit myself, I watch more of myself than I watch of the show, if that makes sense. Whereas now she gets an opportunity to objectively. And who knows? She maybe even learned something and thought, oh, maybe we'll do that like that. She might not like my performance

and she might be like, right, when I come back. It's me and James. It's me and James. Because I'll do a better job. I can see that happening. Yeah, I can see that happening. Anyway, we'll sign off for this week. Thanks for having me.

Oh, you are so welcome. It's been like, great fun. Thanks for coming on 40-ish. You're welcome. With your male perspective of life. See you soon, listeners. To do-Doo.