40ish - Face Blind, Feline Rescue and 6-7

Episode Date: November 18, 2025

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that's the powerful backing of Amex conditions apply He probably thought Oh she's a cool mum He might have done I mean You know what I'll let you think that He sounds awful

He sits up furbles And he's taken to sleeping on my pillow With his bum in my face He hates being touched And doesn't accept any form of perfection Sounds like she's in a bad marriage It sounds like an absolute bastard. It does.

It means the ice is turned off. Oh, I see. I think it's quite self-explanatory. Right. Ice off. Yeah. It's like, fuck off. That's what I mean.

Hello, everybody. Welcome to 40. I'm Nicole Goodman. And I'm Lauren Mishcom. This is the podcast where we tackle the delights of midlife we dive into news your stories your dilemmas your rants and problems and moans and indeed share our own we've basically just needed a place to vent didn't we because our husbands are sick to death of us and also they're not really listening so we thought we just put it out

on a public platform so you know people can listen at will or not the choice is theirs unfortunately the husbands have to listen they don't well by law it's not by law it is it's not by law that they have to listen it's part of the marriage contract it isn't i don't think it is yours is written in hebrew as was mine so you don't actually know what the fuck's on there could be anything it could literally say anything yeah maybe we should get that shit translated at some point well i i mean i have we should i did look into it slightly at one point i think before i got married and actually it's quite it's good deal for women you know i'm actually going to look it up on chat GPT now.

Should I tell you one of the things under Jewish law that is a thing? Go on. It actually says it that sexually you should satisfy your wife before yourself. Mm-hmm. That is a thing. And secondly, if you are as a man considering changing your job, for example, going from cattle herding to sheep farming, you have to consult your wife before you change your job. This is part of the law.

No, but we don't. But that's not in our business. Because we're not expected to work because we're too busy at home, breeding. With our 12 children. And also, because we are spiritually just naturally hired to God, we don't really have to go to synagogue or do anything. The men have to do all of that. So we actually have quite a good deal. Translate the Catuba.

It's going to be quite boring, I think. Well, there might be some funny things in it that we can actually take home. And any juice in there? Sure. Oh, it wants me to upload it. I can't do that because it's rolled up in a scroll

somewhere in a loft where's yours? It's in the safe is it? That's very sweet like it's precious why is that sweet that you like keep it

locked up and safe well actually our safe is currently broken so it's not locked up or safe okay brilliant it's just in the safe great

yeah it's just in an open swinging cupboard no no it's an actual safe okay Can I suggest you don't put anything of actual value in there until it's fixed? Oh, be my wife according to the, I will work for you, honour you, support you and provide for you, as is the custom of Jewish husbands who work for, honour, support and provide for their wives faithfully.

Lovely. That's sweet. That is great. I'm down with that. Does it say anything about helping on PacoCardo or anything about listening to moaning? Or anything about listening to podcasts? No. if your wife hosts too.

Well, they've both broken that. Oh, funnily enough, yeah. In the third paragraph, it doesn't. Shame. If you've got something to share with us, big or small, we would love to hear it. Please be part of the show. Email us at hello at fortiesh.comco.uk.

Or you can DM us. I went to a party and... When did you go to a party in between Monday and now? No, this was on Saturday. I write, yeah. And as seems to be my life, I can't go to a party ever without bumping into one of your friends. I just can't, I can't go anywhere. They're everywhere.

They're omnipresent. So I, you know, imagine if I behaved badly or I like turned up in my pajamas, it would get back to you. I mean, I'd tell you anyway, but it would get back to you because... It would get back to me because you would tell me. That's what I just said. I would tell you. But I always, always see one of your friends. No.

Always. At a party? Always. anyway so this lady turns around to me do you find that annoying or do you quite like that because it's a piece of me the problem is this this woman turned around and she went hi Lauren and I went hi and I'm thinking I'm thinking I don't know her no but you are a bit rubbish I've never seen you before in my life yeah and she said it's me Mandy we have met a few times before you your face is completely blank you've actually met you have met Mandy a few

times. And I then realized, and I really did realize that in this moment, I said to her, I'm really not being rude. I'm so sorry. I think I've just worked out that I am completely face blind. If you said to me, Mandy, you know, Mandy and Adam, I'd be like, yep, Mandy and Adam, I know exactly who you mean? But if you showed me a picture and said, who is this person? I'd be like, I have no clue. I have never seen them before. I said, I'm really sorry. I do this all the time. You would have made a terrible hairdresser. I know. But you know, sometimes we'll be somewhere and you'll be like oh it's her we sat next to her at that dinner or we had a meeting with him and i'll be like oh yeah you don't remember anybody right so mandi do not take offense

no and then you know then i saw her husband and i was like oh hi and i said i'm really i'm not being rude i just did not recognize her but did you recognize him because he's bleached his hair i did recognize him with bleached hair well because when they were together it made much more sense i got it and then i saw them later on they only work as a pair of I mean, I got it, I got it. And then I saw them later together at the party and he was like, who are you? Who are you again? I was like, don't be mean.

I just, it's not personal. I just do this all the time. But once I got that into my head, I was like, this is a real problem for me. And I've obviously had it. Yeah. And I've obviously had it forever. You've gone through the world without it being a problem. I haven't because quite often people will say hello to me and I will say hi back like I

know them, but really I don't know who they are. I have no idea who they are. I'm just faking, faking it. I have no clue. It's like they're a stranger to me. I find that really worrying. Don't you find it but worrying? Do you think this is a midlife thing? Would think I've always had this? You've always been rubbish with remembering people. But to be fair, you've only known me since I was 40-ish, so, ha-ha, no plan-intended, but maybe I wasn't like this at 25. Maybe I remembered everybody. But I don't anymore. Did you remember everybody or do you not remember?

I don't remember. I don't remember. I don't remember. Yes, I'm aware of that. Let me tell you something about Adam and Mandy. Yeah. Okay. They listen to this show on the reg.

Yes. They love this show. Yes, I'm aware of that. They listen to it together. It's very sweet. Yes, I'm aware of that because later in the evening, at a party. Adam turned around and said Are you alright? And I said, I'm fine. Why?

And he said because last time you were at a party you were having a problem with your period and a dress and I was like, oh my God. And then you just think I forgot that he listens to the show and then I said to him, it's fine, I haven't got my period this weekend. And I just thought, why am I even sharing that information? With a stranger, yeah.

I know, it was very, it was very. But also then you think like, we sit in this studio James is usually in the other room he's not here today so you just think like oh he's the only one that he is it maybe Ariela if she's like walking past

you actually just don't think about the wider public who are listening to this show that know these intimate details of your life and then we are pretty careful about what we share are we I don't think we're careful enough but it's only your period like who gives a shit

I know but then Ollie sort of sidled up that's never good that's never good and Adam was like you know, your wife's so great and did, I don't have podcasts and you should be really proud of her. And he was like, I am I am very proud of her, but he doesn't listen to, he doesn't listen to the show.

If Ollie listened to the show... Oh no, I wouldn't be able to do the show. I don't think he'd be that proud. Oh, do you know what I did the other day? You know, back to the 6-7 thing. This was fantastic. because she's getting really annoyed now that I'm telling everyone what I did on parents' evening

and if you didn't hear the show based on parents' evening with every single teacher I managed to get in the words six, seven to every teacher even if it didn't fit into the sentence that made it even funnier and my daughter was cringing,

she hated it, it was absolutely fantastic. And the other day I dropped her at the bus stop in the morning and there's always this kid that sits at the bus stop he goes to her school and he's like in year 12 or 30s

he's quite a bit older than her and they never speak to each other but it's so weird. They've sat at the same bus stop. like four years and I never have seen them have a conversation. I said to do you ever speak to her? She goes, sometimes, sometimes. Anyway, so she got out

and she hadn't shut the door. So I rolled down the door, I said, you haven't shut the door? He was sat right there. I said, six, seven, you haven't shut the door. Anyway, so she like shuts the door. And then I turn around and as I was driving back up past the bus stop, I round the window down. I went, six, seven.

And the kid, the third, like, in year 13. He thought it was hilarious. Of course he did. She did not. Yeah. She probably spoke to you for a month after that. Yeah, but it's like, he probably thought, oh, she's a cool mum. He might have done it.

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Yeah. I don't believe you. I don't know what you're going to say, but sure. What? Making lists. I mean, it's not. You make lists? Yeah.

I never used to. I never used to. Okay. It's new. It's new. And you know what? What? It's really helpful.

Yeah, I know. Yeah, I know. It's really helpful. I live on my list. But sometimes the things on the list give me a bit of anxiety and it's always. always because it's a phone call. Like I've got a phone Siemens, right? That is on my list. I had to phone Sky yesterday. Oh. I had to phone three times before I got a human being who understood what I was asking. But it's that? Yeah. That's what gives me the anxiety because I can't

bold to go through it. No. No. Password. Remember your password? I'm never going to remember my password. Like I'll just give you my address. And then you'll find me. Just find me. I'll give you my postcode, my surname. That is bad. I'll just give you my address. That's what I'm saying. I'll just give you my postcode. That is That all I can give you. Are you the named account holder? I don't know. Yeah. You check.

I might be. Yeah. And they're like, what's your policy number? I don't know. And I'm never going to know. And I'm not going to scroll through my emails to find out. Just find it through my postcode. You know?

It's shit like that. I can't bother with it. I have lists. No, you know, the notes app that everyone has. You can't download that. It's just automatically on your phone. Is it? Are you asking me or?

No, no. No, I know it's there automatically. No, you don't. You're not sure. You're not sure. I think it comes with the iPhone because I wouldn't download that. I think it's just there. And something happened.

I had a horrible glitch with my phone about two years ago and it disappeared. And I actually for about an hour didn't know what or where or who I was or what I was supposed to do in life. Because my to-do list had gone. Can I give you a hack? Yeah. That notes is on your laptop. No, it had something had gone and it was completely gone. Have you ever used it on your laptop?

Yes. It was gone from the cloud. It was gone from the laptop. it was gone and I didn't know and Ollie kept saying the whole notes thing had gone my note had deleted my to-do list on notes had deleted and I couldn't get it back and only was like the thing is if you've forgotten to do something and it is really important it will come up like someone will remind you I'm like you are missing the point I am rudderless I am at sea I am I can I tell you something you've already you've already told us this have I yeah what do you mean when what do you

mean when? I don't know the date, but you have already told us this was one of your 40-ish things. It was a really traumatic moment of my life. Yeah, I live on my to-do list. So you say to me, I've just started making this. This is like you've just started your period. It's like, what? What? What do you mean? No, no, like, I might write things down occasionally, but I've now got a to-do list. And let me tell you something, that cool Siemens is going to stay on there for a long time because, like, I just can't. I just can't, maybe I'll just do it today and get it off my list. Absolutely. It's my daughter's birthday in a couple of weeks. She will not. She will not confirm what she wants to do. I thought she's telling you a sleepover. There's a big party now.

So she's not sure and she doesn't know and she might invite some girls to sleep over but she might not and she's like and then she says to me so she sends me her birthday. I said can you send me your birthday list? Yes. Okay. So she sends me her birthday list. So then but there's no like links to anything. She's like wants this road phone case. You know what that is? I've never seen. Basically, you can clip a lip gloss to it. It's very cute. Oh, yeah, I do know exactly that. Yes. Yes. And she wants like Victoria's Secret's pajamas and just stuff, right? So I said to her, the thing is, she's very specific. So says, could you send me the link? Can you send me the link? Can you send me the link? Can you send me the link? Can you send me the link? Could you send me the link? Could you send me the link? Could you send me a surprise? I want this or this or this? I want that. Okay, fine. And then about two hours days I said, oh, can you send me the link to the road phone case? I don't want to get it wrong. So she's like, I would like a surprise. Yes and no. Hmm. Hard to surprise. I want to get the things that you really want, you know. Not the things that you don't want. Yeah. Yeah. Max has told me that if he's 21, if I dare make him a Christmas stocking this Christmas, he's going to put all of it in the bin, like on principle.

Why? It's like, why? Why can't you just be a big kid? He's like, okay, this is the deal. He is a fully grown adult. He's been through uni. He's working. He said, this is the deal. I will still come up to your bed and get in bed in the morning with everybody together. Take it. Take it. But I'm not having a stocking. I'm like, what if I just put like cash in the stocking? Because last year I did like a galaxy bar with a five pound note, sell a tape to it. You know. And he was like, no, you are not allowed. What is he ever going to get for a five apart from a pack of Percy pigs? I know. But I thought, I don't want to buy, I can't buy him the shit that you normally put in little kid stockings. So I thought I'd rather just give him the fiber. But that's not a sudden thing.

I mean, he hasn't just suddenly gone from. eight years old to 21. I know. I will find a few little bits. I reckon he'll be upset if he doesn't have a stock. Of course he'll be upset. So you'll say that. I'll stick a deodorant in.

Deodorant. Yeah. Some razor blades. Stuff he needs, you know, like bits and pieces that he needs that he can't throw away. No wonder he doesn't want the stocking. Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. into our dilemma. Yeah.

Before we do a very quick disclaimer, we're not doctors or healthcare professionals. If there's an issue you're seriously struggling with, please contact a qualified expert. This is from Hannah. Yeah, I, Lauren and Nicole. I rescued a cat in September, or more accurately, I was emotionally blackmailed into rescuing a cat by my kids

who saw him online and said, he looks sad, he just needs love. Oh. Well, I've given him love. I've given him expensive food, a scratch post, lyr, organic litter, and a level of patience that I didn't even extend to my first marriage. And I'll, yeah, but you can with animals.

I've got so much more patience for my dog than any other being in my house. And I'll be honest, I hate him. He glares at me, he meows loudly at all hours, he attacks my ankles at 3 a.m. The house smells faintly a fish. My sofa looks like it's been through a shredder. He sounds awful. He sits up furbles and he's taken to sleeping on my pillow with his bum in my face. Oh, God.

He hates being touched and doesn't accept any form of affection. Sounds like just in a bad marriage. Sounds like an absolute bastard. He does. But sometimes, just to mess with me will purr next to me and then randomly bite me. Oh. I'd be so. upset. Every time someone asks how it's going, I say, oh, he's settling in really nicely.

But I have spent a few evenings alone, Googling, is it unethical to re-home something that already was re-homed? I am seriously considering giving him back to the rescue home and telling the kids he was run over. What would you do? And also, she says, do you want him? No, I'm fucking going. Do I want him? What's she going to do? This is a nightmare. I couldn't because this would just ruin my home life.

It's ruining her home life. She just really doesn't like the cat. No, but the cat doesn't sound very likable. No. The cat sounds quite unhappy. Does it? Do you think? He glares, he meows loudly, he smells faintly of fish.

He all smells faintly a fish. He'll smell fervables. He'll do that. He'll do that. He'll do that. sleeping on her pillow with the bum and he hates being touched maybe she's not getting a lot out of this relationship maybe the cat needs a therapist you know what I mean like this is the the cat's been rehomed right it's probably a traumatized cat it might be yeah it might be that's why it probably

doesn't like being touched and it's not very affectionate and then just randomly bites her I had a friend who had a cat like this and it was very beautiful and you go to touch you should be like oh no don't touch don't touch him he'll attack you you're like well what the why are you letting this thing share her home with you see my dog can be really moody she's very very very good to look at but it's mainly with the eyes not with dogs though no i mean she's moody with the eyes no but she's when it comes to dogs she's really really not she's not a fan she's not a fan i think she thinks she's human she's not a dog dog dog she's a people dog she's not a dog's not a dog's no my dog's a dog dog's she just wants to be with dogs yeah yeah yeah

what are you going to do Hannah I would I would re-home the cat would you yeah what'd you tell the kids oh the kids the kids love the cat I'd be like

the cat's a fucking asshole forget it that's what I'd say I don't know that go down very well no I don't know it's a shame about the kids

the kids is a stumbling block yeah the kids is a stumbling block do the kids love the cat I'm guessing they do because if they hated him she'd just be like we all hate him he's going

but they love him Hannah get rid of the cat just get rid of the cat I'm sorry we're going to get so many cat lovers writing in like really hating well the cat's making her unhappy and it's her home and I think she just needs to like claim back her house

or maybe just find a really kind soul who's happy to take on an emotionally damaged cat this is why I don't get a second dog this is exactly why Why? Because of this. What if you get an asshole dog?

And then it just ruins your home. What a rescue dog, you mean? No. But, you know, I'm of the school of thought that you don't make asshole dogs and asshole children. You only have asshole owners and asshole parents. Like, you know, they are what you make them. They come as a clean slate, the kids and the animals. Like, you have to do the job of the training and everything else.

And then you have lovely dogs. You've got to put the effort in in the beginning. Then you get a lifetime. of reward and joy and happiness but she's not getting that get rid of the cat yeah get rid of it oh your meltdowns your car key oh my god i couldn't leave my house yesterday you i did offer to come over and i said you tell the listeners what happened i was supposed to be coming over to you and i had my laptop and everything else at the door actually i had a nail appointment first and then i was coming to you and I had everything by the door and I was all ready and laptop charge

and da-da-da-da-da and I pressed the key to unlock the car nothing try again nothing I thought okay I'll be a big girl about this so I took the thing off the key and I tried to do it manually with an actual key no no and it's an electric car so I couldn't even unplug it no just dead so tried to call my husband couldn't get hold of him did not know what to do thought okay YouTube YouTube will help me you know how at our age We don't use YouTube for entertainment. We use it to fix things. I've actually gone one step ahead of YouTube.

Oh, you'll just chat GPT at all. Because it will give you the exact link on YouTube. But what I wanted was a video. No, but that's what chat GPT will just, it basically scours the internet and gives you the exact place to go. Oh, well, I watched two separate YouTube videos about how to prize open this car key to change the battery. And these men were like, you just put a thing in here and you put the here and it flips off. it never

it never just flips off what what no you won't I find another man hey let me help you with a thing you just put the thing and it flips off

I'm like no it's not it's not flipping all I don't know what to do and they're working and you don't even need a screwdriver you just use the end of the key

and you put it in here I'm like no why no and you know it caused a little bit of a meltdown and then I couldn't

I was trapped you weren't trapped and then I said to you oh shall I come to you you wrote back no I really wasn't feeling well at all yesterday had like a migraine I felt terrible it was just it just put my whole day out because I was on a trajectory yeah I know I just was stuck I know I know I know and

then it puts the week out weirdly they just put everything out anyway Ollie called me back he was like FaceTime me immediately and show me the key and show me what you're doing I was like oh so patronising he's like just FaceTime me immediately so he facetimes he's like right go in the kitchen get this knife put it here give it a wiggle and wait it bloody worked as soon as he showed me at work I hate him when they fix it I know and then he was like I think it's the connectors try this and if not just change the battery change the battery and it worked

but they didn't say that on YouTube no they didn't but anyway I still needed him to help me wiggle a knife that was annoying I had this thing the other day basically my ice box in my fridge yeah it just it just kept saying ice off what's that mean sounds like a cuss

it means the ice is turned off oh I see I think it's quite self-explanatory ice off yeah it's like fuck off that's what I mean might as well have said that yeah and I had eight people coming for dinner

you needed ice I needed ice yeah right anyway I could not get this fucker to work I'm on chat GPT it's like oh it's a Siemens blur blah blah I even took a photo of the FND number I put it into chat GPT goes oh I know the exact model and it's giving me all the list of structures you need to take

the ice out and then you look up to the right or no you press the black button where's the black button oh thank you so much for clarifying I'm so sorry I forgot that oh it's to the right it's not to the right it's not there oh no you're right it's not to the right it's to the left like where is this black button there's no black button then I just got a knife and I kind of stuck it into the ice thing and I just had a little wiggle no what was it something pinged up oh shit and then I really couldn't get the ice tray back in. Oh, dear. Yeah.

And then yesterday, I realized that the ice tray is now working again. But because the thing that I clipped sprung up, the lever, some lever, I can't get it back in. Whoops. So now every time I go and use the water or the ice machine, the door flips open. Brilliant. And as well done. He's like, why is the floor? Why is the door flipping?

I mean, I said, I really don't know. I must call Siemens. I've no idea. I've no idea how that happened, Adam. It wasn't me, fiddling with a knife. No. Because I got fucked off with it and fucked up with chat GPD. No, no, it wasn't me.

Yeah. So now I got to call Siemens. Is that your meltdown? Back to the thing that I hate most in the world, which is making phone calls. Yeah, yeah. You've always hated that, though. Hate it.

You've always had a thing about it. I don't know. Which is weird because you clearly don't have a problem talking. So what's the deal? I don't know. It's weird. It's a weird anomaly with you that. What? Making phone calls?

Yeah. I don't know what that is. No. Because you like making phone because you're like, let's just call them. I do, yeah. Yeah. And I always think, wow, she's so brazen. Just to pick up the phone?

I find that so brave. You're of the wrong generation for that attitude. My daughter said to me the other day, oh my God, you're such a millennial. Like, as in a cuss because I'm so old. I'm like, I'm actually not a millennial. No. I'm actually Gen X. Yeah.

She's like, what's her? I'm like, it's the one older than millennial. She's like, looked at me horrified. Yeah, like, oh my God, you're so old. Yeah. Yeah. I know. Terrible, right?

Is that your meltdown? Yeah. Okay. We've got one from a listener as well. It's from Gia. She says, hi ladies. Longtime listener, first time writing in. But I want to have a moan about how hard it is to look after yourself after 45.

Oh, my God. And it is exactly 45. It is exactly 45. I am also a fan of self-care club, so I do all the stuff. In the last few months... Lauren doesn't. No, I don't do all the stuff. In the last few months, I bought vitamins, a foam roller and a gratitude journal, and I am not

joking, I have now lost all three due to my brain fog and my household general mess. I also downloaded a mindfulness app, but I feel like I'm failing when I don't do it and meet the daily target. I spent 100 quid on skincare, and I still look like someone who hasn't slept properly since John Major was Prime Minister. Also, I'm tired. I can't be fafed with it all. I just want to watch maths

and have a cup of tea with caffeine. Thank you, Gia. We know. And we agree. Maybe you don't agree. But I get her. I get how she's feeling.

Apart from the household mess. I don't do household mess. But the rest I relate to. You didn't download a mindfulness app. I would never download a mindfulness app. Exactly. Because I know I wouldn't do it. So I don't need to set myself up to fail.

I would never download a mindfulness app. To be honest, it's a struggle for me to download any app, so regardless of the content. But, no, it isn't. No, I can download it. I went out with a friend of mine last night for dinner. She was saying how she's basically a complete technophobe. And she runs her own interior design business. I'm like, you've got to sort that out.

Yeah. So she's like, well, maybe in the car on the way home, you can upload some of these photos to my Instagram and said, or maybe I sit down with you and teach you how to do it. Yeah. She's like, oh, I don't know. I don't know. I'm like, you have to. I said, Lauren was also a complete technophobe.

Yeah. She's much better nowadays because she has to be better. Yeah. I said, you just have to be. You, you, there are no options now. I went out for dinner with my friend a few weeks ago and she, for some very strange and very foolish reason, put me in charge of all of her social media. That was a while ago.

Yeah, I didn't really want to be in charge. And then at this dinner, she was like, do you know what? I've just decided I need to delete everything. I want to delete my Twitter. I want to delete Instagram. I want to delete. I want to delete every single thing, but I don't know how to. I was like, give me your phone.

And I was the tech expert, and I felt very cool. Did you actually delete it? Yep. I sorted everything out for her. Did you? Yeah. Good for you. You didn't delete anything else.

No, I didn't. You managed it all. I did manage it all. Why did she want to delete it all? She's just sick of it. She just doesn't want it in her life. Good for her. Yeah.

In fact, I was thinking the other day, none of my friends are on social media. None of my best friends are on social media. They don't even have accounts. Which is weird, right? Or maybe I'm the weirdo. I think it's much cooler not to have social media nowadays than it is to have it. I really do.

So it's a good thing I speak to them. Otherwise, I'd have no idea what's going on in their lives. Well, that is a good thing that you have to speak to them. I know. On the telephone. You know what drives me nuts is that when I go, when I see a friend for dinner, they'll be like, oh, I feel like I've caught up with you,

I listen to the podcast. Or I feel like I've caught up with you because I was watching your reels. I'm like, well, that's not you catching up with me. I'm not actually telling you what's going on in my life. I'm telling you what, I'm telling you stupid shit for the podcast. It's fine,

because when I catch up with one of your friends, he knows my whole menstrual cycle. So that's handy, isn't it? I've got nothing I need to share with him because he already knows everything there is to know about me. I'm seeing here on Saturday. I shall mention it. Yeah.

Great. Can't wait. Right, that's it. That's it. That's all you're getting today, okay? It's enough. Let's go. A fine off.

Have a lovely, lovely week. Everybody will see you on Thursday.