40ish - Nip Slips Bowel Pics and Jacket Potatoes

Episode Date: July 17, 2025

This week on 40ish, things get a little… exposed. Literally. A listener shares a pool party nip slip in Ibiza that was witnessed by her ex, a teenager with a phone, and an 81-year-old with very good eyesight. Meanwhile, Nicole is wrestling with her Glastonbury FOMO (or is it actually JOMO?), and Lauren can only recall one thing from her own Glasto days - a jacket potato she ate in 1997. Iconic. A listener wants to know the rules on family WhatsApp groups after a dilemma that involves a colonoscopy and a very public family overshare (why, Dad… just, why?) It’s classic 40ish mayhem: inappropriate stories, unexpected life lessons, and enough second-hand embarrassment to make you grateful you stayed home. To buy tickets for our live show in October click here: https://cheerfulearful.podlifeevents.com/festival/40ish---live-from-cheerful-earful-podcast-festival-16-oct-2025-tickets?clientside_routing=true We love to hear from you! To share your feedback, dilemmas, rants, funny stories or general complaints about midlife please be in touch at: Email [e-mail] Instagram https://www.instagram.com/40ish.podcast  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@40ish.podcast Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/share/DVQWb6y2vesgeHEK/?mibextid=LQQJ4d  To order our book HAVE YOU TRIED THIS?” click here  https://www.amazon.co.uk/Have-You-Tried-This-Only/dp/1801293139/ref=sr_1_2?crid=1O7EA4ZF1O5CS&keywords=have+you+tried+this&qid=1699449028&sprefix=have+you+tried+%2Caps%2C125&sr=8-2 Get 10% off Daily30+ today. Go to zoe.com/daily30 and use promo code 40ISH10 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Head to zoe.com forward slash daily 30 and use the code 40ish10 for 10% off. Plus you'll get a free bright yellow Zoe tin and a magnetic scoop. That's 40ish10 at zoe.com forward slash daily 30. Hello everybody. Welcome to 40ish. I'm Nicole Goodman. And I'm Lauren Mishcon. This is the

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club which is a great show by the way if you haven't listened to it and you get bonus content so come and join us. And that is exclusively on Apple Podcasts. So yeah I know what you're going to ask me. Well then I don't have to ask you do I? I'm at 40ish moment of the week. Well it happened the other day in my kitchen. Yep. I, you know, I used to sing to my dog Barker. I used to do shows for him. I used to sing for him. He got deaf and blind in his old age, which was probably lucky for him because he didn't have to see the performances. But I've done no shows. Maybe he wasn't deaf and blind. He was just pretending.

I've done no shows for the puppy. I haven't started performing for her yet. So as I was making dinner, I thought I would play, her name's Beba, so I thought I would play her some Justin Bieber. She's not named after Justin Bieber, by the way, but I just thought it would be funny. And it's also not spelled the same way. No, it's not. But I thought, you know, I'd just play her

some Justin Bieber. You thought it'd be funny? Yeah, so we- You thought she'd laugh? Yeah, so we kicked off with Baby, because she's a baby, and I sang it to her. And I think she enjoyed it. What's the, I don't know the song Baby.

Justin Bieber's original song from when he was 14. Baby, baby, baby, oh, I like baby. But I sang Bieber, I sang her name. I think she enjoyed it. Anyway, I carried on cooking, Spotify carried on playing, Zach came down to the kitchen, gave me like the most filthy look. Were you still dancing to her at this point?

I wasn't dancing, I was just chopping. I wasn't, I'd finished the show. So why did he give you a dirty look if you were just standing there? I think because of what was playing. Was it still Justin Bieber? It was a bit of Bieber, yeah. And then- You've always been-

You've always been a fan. You've always been a fan. I've always been a fan. I'm not ashamed of that. Anyway, he gave me a look, we didn't say anything, and then we all sat down to dinner, and he said to the table, I came down to the kitchen earlier, mum was cooking, and she was playing music,

and it was really jarring. Huh. I was like, what do you mean? Mum doesn't listen to music. It was really jarring. It was really weird. They were like, what was she listening to? What was she listening to?

She was listening to Justin Bieber. And then they were all surprised. He ratted you out. He ratted me out. And then there was a whole conversation at the table about how Justin Bieber had had a baby and no one else at the table knew this information apart from me.

Which I think is weird, because it was big news at the time. I didn't know either. What? You didn't know that him and Hayley had a baby? No. Called Jack? No.

Why would I know? I've got enough going on. I've got a lot going on. It was big news at the time. Listen, I have two teenagers, I have a full on job, I'm trying to play paddle every day, I go to the gym, I have a lot to do. Okay? I'm not up to date

on what Justin Bieber is or is not doing. I don't care. You don't care? I'm like very up to speed with Justin and Hailey. You're very up to speed on pop culture in general. I'm invested in Justin and Hailey's marriage. It's not going through the best patch right now and I really am rooting for them. How do you know? How do I know?

According to Entertainment Tonight. Because it's all over the Tonight. It's everywhere. Because it's all over the place. He's got some issues. What are his issues? Well, he's got some mental health issues. Some people are saying he's got a drug problem, but I'm not saying that

because I don't know if that's true or not. What else do you wanna know? It's my most fortieth thing that I'm 47 and I'm overly invested in Justin Bieber's marriage, is that my problem? That could be a problem. I think you've uncovered it yourself. You don't need me to chime in, do you? Also, when I was at the doctor's surgery the other day, she asked me my date of birth. I told her, first of March. She said, oh my god, my birthday too. And I said, do you know

who else's birthday it is? Who shares both our birthdays? She went, yes, Justin Bieber. I was like, yes. With birthday triplets. Me, Justin and the girl at the doctor's receptionist. Look how happy you are with yourself. I didn't know that you shared a birthday with Justin. Well, now you do. I feel like this is escalating because- We're kindred spirits. Because now I've just realized

you've named the dog after him. No, I haven't named her after him. Well, you have. Her name is Beba. But it's not spelt the same. It's spelt like the shop from the 60s. Yeah. Okay, it sounds very similar. It sounds the same.

Yep. And now you're singing songs by Justin Bieber to Beba. Yeah, it sounds very similar. It sounds the same. Yep. And now you're singing songs by Justin Bieber to Bieber. Yeah, I am, yeah. I want her to be a fan. Yeah. She may be, she may not be. And now, you know, you're sharing birthdays and he's going through a drug problem

and he's just had a bit. Like there's a lot. Allegedly, allegedly. I've just been given a lot of Justin Bieber information. Well now you're up to speed. When I don't give a fuck. Okay. Like literally, can't even tell you how little of a fuck

I give about Justin Bieber. I don't wish him harm. I just don't have the head space for Justin Bieber. I understand. I just, I got worried about what I'm making for dinner tonight. I get it, I get it. I do too by the way, I get it. You feel about Justin Bieber how I feel about Oasis

and the reunion concert. Just like, you couldn't pay me to go. That is low. That is low. Why is it low? I don't love them. Because no one asked you. I have no interest in them.

No one asked you. I've got tickets, I had a spare ticket, I didn't ask you. No, I know. So there's no need for the negativity. Just no need for it. Not bringing you into it, there's no need. I negativity. Just no need for it not bringing you into it It's no need I just have no what you did is you brought Justin Bieber here to me I did to our show I did to our listeners. Yeah, so I you know, I had to chime in

There was no need to bring our aces into I'm sorry. That was a step too far It was a low blow. It was it Also, just be happy for me that I got the tickets and I'm really excited about going. I'm delighted. I'm going in like four weeks. Great. I am really.

If they don't have a punch up before then. You see, that negativity doesn't belong here. It's possible. You know it's possible. You know I used to cut his hair. Whose? Liam's. I don't know which is which though,

interchangeable to me. Suddenly she's so up to date on Justin Bieber and the baby and the drug problem and the pop culture, but now you don't know who Liam Gallagher is. I know who he is, but I don't know which one it is. Well you don't know who he is then. Then you don't know who he is. Was he the one that was married to Nicole Appleton?

Yes. Okay. I used to do her hair too. Did you? Yep. And was he a dick or was he a nice human being? What was her sister's name? I used to do her hair too.

The other Appleton sister. No, not Melanie Black. That's the other one. Not Chasnay. Loved Chasnay. The other one. Nicole and... Natalie.

Natalie. They were very nice. Were they? Very nice. They were all very nice. They seemed cool. They were all very nice. Did you ever meet Chasney. Nicole and Natalie. They were very nice. Were they? Very nice. They were all very nice. They seemed cool. They were all very nice. Did you ever meet Chasney? She's my favourite. You know I didn't actually. It was just after All Saints' Days. Oh. I mean actually I loved all four of them. I also love Melanie. Anyway I went to their home quite a few times just telling you I'd cut his hair quite a lot. And? And? And what? Share some more information. Well, he was very nice. And then it was really funny

because when I've told you this story before. You haven't actually. I've never told you that I used to cut Liam Gallagher's hair. I cannot tell you how many people, when the Oasis tickets went on sale, how many people sent me a message saying, oh, have you still got an in with Liam Gallagher? It's like, no.

No, don't be. Can you compute 55 tickets? I don't, it was years ago. Yeah. I still had to stand in line like everybody else. On a bright- Virtual line. Yeah.

Yeah, internet line. Yeah. Anyway. What's the story? Yeah. What's the story? Morning Glory. What story? About Liam Gallagher.

Wow. I don't know, you throw me with Justin Bieber. The thing is, I haven't written down anything about Liam Gallagher, so it's not in the script. So you don't remember? We just seem to be here. Anyway, I do remember. So I was cutting his hair, blah, blah, blah. He had quite long hair at the time, I remember. Yeah, well he had long bits here and it was short here and it was all long hair and you know.

Shaggy. Yeah, shaggy. It was quite a haircut. Did you do that haircut? Yes. Did you create that haircut? No, I didn't create it. I wish you'd said you had.

Okay, I did. I created it. Yeah. And I bumped into, we went to the pub one night because he lives near this pub. And I walked in and I was with a group of people and he was in there. And when I tell you, he came running up to me,

gave me a massive hug. He's like, Nicole, how are you? How's it going? Come and have a drink. And he was so friendly. And my mates that I was with, their mouth was just on the floor like, how is, what's that?

What's going on? You know? I'm like, yeah, yeah, I know him, yeah. Yeah, he's my friend. Yeah, it was actually quite embarrassing. No, it was quite fun. It was a little bit. It was quite fun.

Anyway, talking of Liam Gallagher, this has got nothing to do with my 40ish moment but I'm going to try and make it seamlessly link. My 40ish moment this week is Glastonbury. Okay. Did you go? I didn't go. Have you ever been?

No, have you? Twice. I know it doesn't seem very on brand for me. It doesn't. I know, I understand that. Did you go the year of the mud? I went one year in the sun and one year in the mud, yes. All my mates went the year of the mud.

Both. And let me tell you something, every year, when Glastonbury comes up, they talk about the year of the mud and they talk about, oh, and they lost the tent. The same story arises every fucking year. And for some reason I wasn't there. No one can remember why I wasn't there. No one knows why I wasn't there. It's a mystery why I wasn't there no one can remember why I wasn't there no one knows why I wasn't there it's a mystery why I wasn't there

but I have to hear about them all being there and I wasn't there. FOMO. So look at you Justin Bieber of FOMO like what's happening? I'm so young. It's like you've taken a pill to age you by 10 years. I know a 30 something pill. So Glastonbury, yes. Firstly, Adam was obsessed with Glastonbury this year. Like when I say obsessed, I could not get him away from the TV. Who was he watching? Who was he into?

Every single thing that he could possibly watch, he was watching. And he was like, now he had FOMO. But my point was with Glastonbury is that I actually knew nobody. Unless it was like Rod Stewart or Portishead and like really old bands and the Scissor Sisters. No, but like the newer bands.

I just didn't know. We've had the Charlie XCX conversation already. Well, this is like in the Charlie XCX vibe. There was a woman called Jade. She was on. Jade from Little Mix. Is it Jade from Little Mix? Might be.

No, I don't think it was. Well, her name was Jade. Yeah. Anyway, there was this whole, she was like performing in front of hundreds of thousands. She was on the main stage. There was a big build up and this whole speech of thanks and thanks for supporting me

and thanks for being there for me. It might have been, I didn't see her, but it might have been her. And thanks for this whole speech of thanks and thanks for supporting me and thanks for being there for me and thanks for this whole thing of like obviously she's had some amazing career and she's got like an amazing support. Maybe it was her. I had no idea. And she's like and it was right at the end of her set and she's like I think we all know that there's one song that I haven't sung yet and it it was obviously her big song. So I thought, oh, obviously I'll know it. Cause it's gonna be like her flagship song. And everyone's going, yeah, like can't wait for the song. She starts singing this song.

What was the song? Not a fucking clue what this song was. Oh well I'll know by the song. No, I don't think you will know. No I will, I do know her music. I do. You're looking at me like I'm mad, but I actually do. I'm actually looking at you like

this is not very supportive. I'm sorry, it's just not. Okay, Jade, who else didn't you know? No, and I'm watching thousands and thousands and thousands and thousands of people singing along to this song that everyone knows. Everyone knows this song. It was like when I was in the producers at the theater,

I will never forget it, and everyone is crying with laughter and I just did not find the producers funny. I was the only one sat in the theater not laughing. Oh my God, my favorite. I'm not discussing it again because it was quite traumatic and I was like, what the fuck is everyone laughing about? It was like that, what the fuck is everyone singing? My son is partly called Max because of max b alistar

Because it's my favorite look. I don't know what's gone on. I don't know what's going on Is that you've taken today, but some support over there would be nice. I'm sorry I also I Caught it at the Rod Stewart set and I thought oh Like a suit though. So did I am the green one? Of course at the pink one. I was looking at him and then he put on Keith Richards and then he put on Lulu and I was watching with my niece who's 11 and she had no clue who these people were and I was looking

at my brother-in-law and he's 50 and I was like do you know what I honestly feel like these people they're in their mid late 70, they're kind of like the last generation who actually knew how to have proper fun. Like fun! Tons of marriages, drugs, rock and roll, smoke, boozed, lived, partied, played concerts, travelled the world. Like, they have lived. They've lived. They didn't worry about fucking supplements and social anxiety and TikTok.

They just lived. I mean that was a very long intro. It really was. Should we get on with the questions? Did we talk about Liam Gallagher? How did we get there? How did we get there? Oh Justin Bieber. Justin Bieber, yeah. Let's go to the questions, but before we go into the questions, a very quick disclaimer. We're not doctors. We're not healthcare professionals. We're not on the pyramid stage. So if there is an issue that you are seriously struggling with, please contact a qualified expert. What's our first question today Nicole Goodman?

Hi ladies, love the pod, long time listener. Hi! We have just returned from a long weekend away in Ibiza to celebrate my friend's 50th. Fun! There was a pool party on the last night. There was also tequila. I wore a halterneck swimsuit that used to fit in 2019. Cut to me diving in with misplaced confidence

and popping back up like a champagne cork only to realize about a minute later that one breast was fully out. Oh, okay. It was witnessed by, amongst others, A, my ex from 1997, B, the birthday girl's dad who's 81. C, the birthday girl's teenage son holding a phone

and an unreadable expression that could have been anything from traumatized to knowing he has recorded TikTok gold. Oh. She must have one good boob. Believe me when I tell you that my tit is less than titillating at 49 but now we are all home and sober I'm spiraling. I don't want to draw more attention to it

but I'm questioning whether to ask my friend to check her son's phone and get him to delete anything he may have recorded or if she'd be offended that I even suggested he would do such a thing what would you do? Firstly of the, who do you think is the worst person to have seen the tit? Oh, the teen, the teenage son. Cause the ex from 97 has seen it before. Yeah, but not seen it since. The 81 year old. Yeah, that's true. The 81 year old, did he see it? He might have cataracts. He might have needed glasses. And also he probably would have enjoyed it. Yeah, give him a little thrill yeah and he's also an adult be like oh okay it popped out but the teenage boy be telling all his mates

he's probably delighted with himself that he's seen or or not because she said it's less than titillating I mean I feel quite divided about this question on one hand as my friend always used to say to me, a pair of tits is a pair of tits, once you've seen one pair you've seen them all. Fair comment. I don't agree with that. I don't agree with that. Just breasts. Whatever. On the other hand, would I want my friend's teenage son seeing one or both of my bosoms. Probably not, no.

Not ideal. Well, you wouldn't go out of your way for them to see it, would you? But then on the other hand, would- Also, can I just, can we just stop that for a second? Let's just pedal back one minute. Yeah. Diving into a swimming pool.

Yeah. I mean, I never come up with my top still intact, ever. Ever. Interesting. Ever. Interesting. Ever. I don't- I mean, as in, like, I would even be underwater, like, fixing my top.

Yeah. So she must have known that was gonna happen, especially if it was a swimsuit that used to fit her in 2019. I've only had that problem when I wear a strapless swimsuit. If it's got straps, they stay inside. Yeah, but sometimes it comes up the other end, but I'm not wearing a bikini I'm wearing a strapless swimsuit often it will especially if you're in the sea what it will just pop down

Yes, and that's that's problematic Also, my husband has a really fun game if we're in the pool of swimming under the water and then pulling my swimsuit down He really thinks that's very funny because he's 12. Yeah, that's not in a public place. I'm more thinking like, how would my teenage sons feel if they saw one of my friend's bosoms in a pool? They wouldn't be thrilled. I think it depends on the teenage son. They wouldn't film it.

Also, they wouldn't film it. No way. And they're not going to do anything with it, on the teenage son. They wouldn't film it. Also, they wouldn't film it. No way. And they're not going to do anything with it, are they? Because it's not an 18 year old's bosom. No. It's a 49 year old bosom. I know you say a pair of tits is a pair of tits, but that is different. It is different. It is different. My boobs and my daughter's boobs are different. Would I be offended if my friend asked me to look through one of my son's phones to see if there was a photo or a video of her boobs on it?

Would I be offended? I actually think I would be offended. I just let, yeah, let it go. Everyone else was drinking tequila. It's a 50th. Just let it stay in Ibiza. It's just a boob. Well, it hasn't stayed in Ibiza so so she needs to figure out how she can... She needs to dial it back. She's spiraling. She needs to dial it back. Yeah. You need to like speak to a mate to get your head around it that it's actually okay and Lauren is right. Perotism.

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It's just started today. Have you ever been? Yes. How many times? What's it got to do with you? Where we going with this depends what you're about to tell me. I'm just interested. I have been a couple of times to Wimbledon. Did you like it? I love Wimbledon. I don't know why I haven't been recently. You can't get tickets. It's impossible. I've never been to Wimbledon. But you got offered... where are you going with this? Like you've got like

cheeky look on your face. No! You got offered some tickets last year or the year before or something. I did. Yeah, you got like some final or something. You got like cheeky look on your face. You got offered some tickets last year or the year before or something. Yeah, you got like some final or something. You got like really good tickets or someone was going. No, Ollie always goes. He takes Josh, doesn't take me. I've never been. And I feel like, I'm in my 40s, it feels like a really 40ish thing to go to Wimbledon. I feel like I should be going, but I don't really care about the tennis. So I guess my question is... It's such a lovely sport to watch.

Can you go to Wimbledon if you're not really invested in the outcome of the matches? You can do what you like. You're an adult. You're 40ish. Or do you think it's like a waste of time? Yeah. You do. Wimbledon is really expensive.

But can't you just go for the experience of going to Wimbledon? You don't want to see a game? No, I mean, I would obviously see the games, but I don't really care about the games. But is it fun to just dress up, have the strawberries and cream, have a Pimms and sit with everyone and go woo and do this with your head every time the ball moves across the court? And then see like all the celebs that are there. Is it fun? We used to sleep outside. Max is doing that tonight. Is he? Yeah. And then you used to

we used to go there about 5pm. Yeah. With a sleeping bag. Yeah. And then we would stay there all night and then the doors open at like 7am and then you get the tickets. He was going to go last night but Wimbledon put out a thing saying it used to be 11,000 people cut off, now it's 9,000 and they were advising everyone not to come because it was just too hot. So he's pushed it a day, but he is going to camp outside Wimbledon tonight. Oh, it's so fun.

Like I could never do that now. No, obviously. Because you know, my back. Like pillow pillows. Yeah. Like you're sleeping on the pillow. So it's so fun. And then what we used to do is at the end of the day,

we would never get on center court because we were never there early enough. And by the time we got there, and we would be there like 15 hours early, there was a massive queue. But at the end of the day, we used to stand outside center court when people were leaving,

we were like, oh, can we just grab your tickets? I don't even know if you can do that because it's probably all digital now. Yeah, it is. And we always used to get outside Centre Court when people were leaving, we were like, Oh, can we just grab your tickets? I don't even know if you can do that because it's probably all digital now. And we always used to get on Centre Court at the end of the day and we used to see some great matches. Yeah. I just feel like- It's an amazing, it's an amazing day out. I just, that's what I'm saying. I feel like at my age- Oh, let's try. We'll never get tickets now. Next year. The other place I really want to go because I am so 40ish and you will not want to come. You're so welcome to come.

I know exactly where you're gonna say. Where? The Chelsea Flower Show. Yes, I'm desperate to go. I've never been. How well do I know you? So well. And you know this year.

I'm not going with you. This year I watched it on TV. I watched it on TV. I could not give. I'll go with my mum. All right, great. I watched it on TV this year. I was so invested in the gold winner of the garden. I just thought this is really up my street. Why have I never been? There's just things Nicole, there's

things. I know. I agree with you. I agree with you. And it's like not that I wanted to go to Glastonbury, I didn't. But you know, it's like I want to want to go. Loads of my mates are going to Love Supreme this weekend. I don't know what that is. It's another music festival, but more for our age group. And Adam said to me, do you want to go? I was like, I want to want to go, but I don't want to go.

I'm really, really happy I did Glastonbury when I did it. But I mean, at the time, and we're talking the late 90s, we got in there by bunking over a wall. I mean, that's how long ago it was. You could not do that nowadays. So, but just the tent, like, just, no. I couldn't. But I would go if I could like stay in a Winnebago.

You know, if I could do it comfortably, happily I would go. It's the crowds. It's too peoply for me now. It's too peoply, it's too everything-y. I know, but I'm glad I did it, I don't want to do it again. So what you're basically saying is you want to want to go to these things, but really you don't want to go to these things because it's all a bit of an effort. Yeah. I know. And that is really faulty-ish. It is, isn't it? Yeah. And I am with you.

But there are some things, it's like, I wouldn't say it's bucket list things, but there's just things at my age where I feel like I should have done that by now. One of those things is Wimbledon. Have you ever been up to the London Marathon? Yes, because my husband ran it. That's a great day. Yeah. It's not Wimbledon.

I'm just saying it's a great day, it's a great atmosphere, it's a great thing to experience. It was a great atmosphere and it was quite fun. I mean, not that fun, the training leading up to it and then his recovery afterwards that was a bit of a ball ache. They're trying. More for him than for me but are you sure? Are you sure? But yeah done that. I've done that. That's a fun day. What about Ascot? Have you ever been to Ascot? I've got no interest in Ascot. Not even for the outfit? I can see you in a hat. I'm not good in a hat. Don't believe that. A fascinator you'd be good in. No. Do you mean, what are you on? No. Yeah. I could actually visualise one on you now. No. Rousebrook pink. Stop it. How dare you dressing me up like a doll. I don't want to wear a fascinator. They're not,

they are not my vibe You have to I want to ask it there. I know I think I'd make one. That's so I Would I'd glue some weird shit together and wear it on my head just see if anyone said nothing You know, I would do that sort of thing We're gonna glue it with we're gonna glue like it's gonna be gone. No, but what do that sort of thing. What are you gonna glue it with? What are you gonna glue, like, get some like- The glue gone. No, but what are you gonna, what are you, look, I'm not going to cut Ascot with you.

I'm not. We should be invited to Ascot. We should go as kick-ass podcasters. We should go. I don't even know when it is. I think it's happened. It's just happened. Oh, it's finished. Last week.

Oh, it's finished. Yeah. Yeah. There's a lot of things happening and we're not doing any of them. We're not. What are we doing? We're stuck in this studio talking to each other talking about all the things we should be doing. That's what we're doing. Next year we're doing all of those things. You don't have to come to the flower show. I'll come to Ascot and Wimbledon though. Okay. I mean I don't really want to go to either of them

but I'll go just as active. Yeah same. Okay. Same. But also if it's a bit hot and I can't be bothered then we won't go. Let's go on to our second question. Hi Lauren and Nicole, please can we talk about family WhatsApp groups? What are the basic rules? about family WhatsApp groups. What are the basic rules? My dad, he's 74, bless him, uploaded his entire colonoscopy report to the entire family WhatsApp group, including actual photos. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Not content with that horror, he followed it up with a message that just said, the passages are all clear folks. I was mid-lunch my cousin reacted with a thumbs up my aunt asked

if the doctor was the same one she'd used in 2016 is this normal do other families over share? Are you one of big WhatsApp group? I'm on two one with my husband's family and one with my family. Okay so you're on the group. I'm on two, one with my husband's family and one with my family. Okay, so you're on the group. So I'm on one with my extended family. So my dad's brother, wife, my cousins, I think there's like 17 of us on this group. Wow, big group. Yeah, there's quite a lot of us on this group. And then I'm on another one that's just me, the four of us, my sister and my parents, there's seven of us. And on neither group would a colonoscopy report be present? I mean, my initial instinct is no,

I don't think this is normal. But also I don't know if other families overshare because I only know about my own. But why couldn't he have just written the all clear folks? Why do we need the report? He obviously really wanted to tell everyone. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know this dad but I can see that it's a bit weird. I mean we definitely don't overshare on the big big family group it's more like happy birthday it's more to arrange family dinners my dad says Shabbat Shalom every Friday so everyone says Shabbat Shalom to each other which

is really sweet I love that it's it's just a very sweet place. So you're right it's not normal I don't think other families overshare but I could be completely wrong. Because you only know what you know. You only know what you know, what's normal for your family but the fact that she's even questioning it, obviously this is not normal for her, for them, for that group. Right? Yeah, just say dad. No thanks. Yeah. Or dad, don't put the report up there it's weird. Or just a thumbs up to the family group and then a message to dad dad. I don't know if you're still on the Valium slash fentanyl but next time no. It's a no. It's a no from me.