40ish - Unfiltered - Broken freezers, broccoli salad & Bras of death

Episode Date: March 11, 2025

This is the sidekick show to 40ish where we dish all the feedback from the week's episode diving into your comments, emails, DMs, and the social media buzz about the latest 40ish dilemmas. This week on the podcast, Nicole’s broken freezer drama has her fuming. Lauren’s Costco obsession reaches new heights  (cling film & foil trays anyone?) Meanwhile, our Hey, Siri discussion has caused absolute mayhem for the listeners. Plus “The bras of death” and one listener shares the very questionable gifts given to her by a friend.   Want more 40ish in your life? Of course you do! Hit that follow and subscribe button, and let's get this conversation going! We would love to hear from you! To share your feedback, dilemmas, rants, funny stories or general complaints about midlife please be in touch at: Email [e-mail] Instagram https://www.instagram.com/40ish.podcast  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@40ish.podcast Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/share/DVQWb6y2vesgeHEK/?mibextid=LQQJ4d  To order our book HAVE YOU TRIED THIS?” click here  https://www.amazon.co.uk/Have-You-Tried-This-Only/dp/1801293139/ref=sr_1_2?crid=1O7EA4ZF1O5CS&keywords=have+you+tried+this&qid=1699449028&sprefix=have+you+tried+%2Caps%2C125&sr=8-2 Go to ZOE.com to find out what ZOE Membership could do for you. You can use the exclusive code 40ISH10 to get 10% off membership. As a ZOE member, you’ll get an at-home test kit and personalized nutrition program to help you make smarter food choices that support your gut. Use 40ISH10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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This episode is sponsored by Zoe. Hello everybody. Welcome to 40ish Unfiltered. I'm Nicole Goodman. And I'm Laura Mishcon. This is the sidekick show to 40ish. It's where we dish the feedback. Yeah.

What you guys have got to say. We look at your DMs, your comments, the stuff you say on TikTok and all the social media buzz about the latest 40ish dilemmas. And we also have a new part of the show where we talk about our midlife meltdown or midlife moan of the week. Oh yeah, we want yours. We get one from Lauren, you get one from me, we want yours. Oh yeah, we want them. And then at the end of the show,

we decide who's the winner. Who is the moaniest midlifer here? I've won one, you've won one. Let's see if the listener can win one this week. What are you bringing today as your midlife moan? It's not sexy and it's not exciting and it is probably the most mundane thing but my freezer has broken again. My freezer breaks probably on average every eight weeks. Can I just put

this out there you might need a new freezer? We do need a new freezer, we do, but it's insured and domestic and general say that as long as they can fix the problem they won't give us a new freezer. So what you have to do, because I had this situation with my dryer, is that you have to get the engineer to say and write down this is now unfixable. Okay. And it's done. But what makes me laugh is I now know all of the Siemens engineers that they send out. Of course you do. I mean Steve, my tumble dryer engineer, we were basically engaged by the time we got a new dryer. It was like the dryer was our baby. He'd come, he'd visit, he'd fix, he'd sort it, it would break again. Steve would come back and eventually Steve and I decided

together the dryer just was no more. Well there's two guys so depending on who comes we'll see. I've met one of the guys. Yeah of course you have because you're always at my house. They are all a delight because he's always at my house. Yeah. And you're always at my house. Yeah. Anyway so the fridge freezer breaks. breaks. And I find these the most annoying parts of the mental load. Well, the freezer's the worst because then what the fuck do you do? The freezer isn't the worst. It is. It isn't. Because you've got to eat everything.

The washing machine is the worst. Come on, that is the most impactful appliance to break. It's annoying, but there is always, I hate to say it, the laundrette. I find the worst the dishwasher. No I don't want to wash up! But you can, you're not gonna start washing all of the clothes in the sink. You're just not going to do that. No you're not, but you could go to the laundrette if you have to. You could but that is a right ball ache. That is a right ball ache. You can just wash up dishes and also the stuff that... my freezer breaks so much I now don't put a lot in my freezer

because last time when we came back from holiday and it had broken I had to chuck so much meat and food. I hate it. It's like just allergic to it. Can't do that. Anyway this is actually not my moan of the week. Oh what's the moan? The moan is that I call up domestic in general, I get an authorization number. It's so annoying. It's the most annoying thing to have to do. You wait in a queue, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. Then they were like, oh, you can do this online. But then I go online and it's in my husband's account and he never knows his password. I don't know why he doesn't just keep the same password everywhere, because that's what I do. You could break into my whole life. Yeah, of course.

Most women say. Right. But his is always different and he never keeps a record of anything. So it's always a guessing game. Wow. So I can never get in anyway. So I had to make the phone call. I hate making phone calls, as you know. Anyway, so I get the authorization code. Then I call Siemens.

And that was on Monday. And they said, oh, we've just had a cancellation for this Thursday which that wow winning I mean I could not believe my luck yeah three days normally you have to wait up to two weeks yeah without a freezer yeah right anyway so this Thursday it just so happens I'm taking my mom somewhere in town and I can't change it. It's not something that I can shift and I'm going out early with her. So I go into the office, my husband's working and I said, great news, Siemens can come on Thursday. Let me guess the punchline of this. I said they can come between seven and nine p.m. Yeah. Or you can have a morning slot. And he says, I've got a tennis match. Am I

right? He actually said, no, I can't do Thursday. I've got a tennis lesson. Yeah. Yeah. A tennis lesson. So I said, well, how about you move the tennis lesson and we get the freezer fixed? How about that? No, because in men's worlds everything they do is absolutely in stone, in concrete, in that diary. It doesn't get moved or cancelled because life happens. It doesn't. But the look on his face, Laura, when I said that and he goes, uh, no. like the disbelief, I can't move the lesson. Tell us when else they can do. I'm actually not going to ask because I know it's going to be in three weeks time. I'm not going to be without a freezer because you've got a tennis isn't just text the coach and ask him to move it. He

couldn't get his head. I said, you know what? I'm not even asking you. I'm just booking it and you're gonna have to be here. Good for you! Thanks. I'm only sitting here with you today because I had to have a similar conversation. Is this your midlife moan? It wasn't but then if it is it's the same moan. Oh then you can't do that but let's hear the moan and then you give us your other moan. Okay the moan is small child woke up this morning unwell, temperature headache bless him bless him very sad so took him out of his uniform popped him in bed with some alcohol I love that he got dressed to go to school. Full uniform, rucksack on the back, water bottle ready

actually really unwell. Like a trooper. Oh yeah listen in my house yeah you know unless you're bleeding out your eyeballs. You're going to school. The kid was definitely not well. So he got himself back into bed fast asleep like, shit, kind of got to go to Apple to record our show, go to work, do my actual job. Yeah. Husband. I know it doesn't seem like work, but.

It kind of is. Yeah. It's like how we earn a living. Yeah. Husband, well, I don't know what you expect me to do. I'm playing tennis at two. Like, you know, it's. I'm playing tennis at two. It's Wednesday. I was just about to say... It's Wednesday. Let's give this context.

We're in the middle of the working week. And also, let's just say he has a job, like a proper serious job. He's not retired. No. He's not unemployed. No. He has a job. Yeah, he does. So to me, don't know about you, but to me, it feels like a bit of a luxury. Yeah. Yeah. I'm playing, I'm playing, you know, imagine if I said to him, oh, no, I'm not, I'm not picking anyone up from school and not cooking dinner tonight because I'm playing tennis at four. And by the way, that's not, it's not up for moving.

So I was like, well, are we actually going to have to have a discussion here about, I need to go to actual work. Our child, the one we made together. Yeah. You are 50% responsible for. Anyway, he's at home. OK. He's OK. OK. Yeah. Oh, so he came through. He did in the end. Yeah. You know, it's like how can you honestly think that the tennis match slash lesson is more important than the freezer being fixed or You going to work. How is this in their world?

appropriate Well, I guess my name is the same as your moan. That's the moan. Well I hope the listeners is better than ours. So our show where we were talking about Siri, where I taught you, you were like, Siri doesn't work. And I was like, because you have to say, Siri still doesn't work. Hey Siri. FYI, Siri still doesn't work. It's caused some issues.

Right. Okay. I've had some people, I had a woman come up to me in the gym this morning and say to me, I was listening to your podcast, the Hey Siri podcast, and every time, I've just said it and my phone's flashing, every time you said Hey Siri, my phone stopped and it stopped the podcast because Siri, it activated Siri. Okay, well, this seems to have been a problem for more than one person. But why are they recognising my voice?

We actually had a voice note in. Oh, I love it. I I'm gonna play it for you. Um, you don't know me, but currently, you've probably got overwhelmed by this, currently listening to your podcast from today in hysterics whilst I never use Siri, but my car is going mental at every time you say Siri. I've got so many alarms set for random times now that yeah, thanks guys. But I'm going to use Siri more because I didn't realise you had to say hey. Lauren, you are educating the nation with something technical. Who knew?

Nobody, nobody knew. Right, and Catherine said, listening to today's podcast whilst driving, laughing at the Ninja Creamy, the Siri chat is hilarious until every time you say, hey Siri, my Siri popped up on the car screen. It was very confused. Yeah, that's what this woman in the gym said to me today. We've just said it again. I'm sorry.

We'll stop talking about it now. But when you say, hey Siri, my phone, it's not activating my phone. Mind you, I just said, hey Siri, and it didn't activate my phone. It's rubbish, I'm telling you, it doesn't work. It does work, it does work. Hey Siri. No, stop with the Siri now, these poor listeners.

We also. I'm sorry to anybody whose phone has stopped. We've also had some Costco feedback. Remember we were talking about Costco? Yeah. A couple of weeks ago. So someone wrote in and said, I'm loving this saucepan chat. I've had a set of circulon pans for many years which are awesome. You can even put them in the dishwasher. I got them from Costco and they are still available online. Vicky. Thanks Vicky. But you didn't like the

circulon pans? No I haven't got a circulon and mine were not from Costco. Oh so this is an actual piece of advice about pans because I still haven't got the pans. And more love for Costco. So thanks Vicky I might actually look into those. I think we should, you know what we should do? What? I'm excited already. You know what I'm gonna say don't you? We could go on a little trip to Costco. We could go on a little trip to Costco. Yeah, a little saucepan trip. And maybe go and get these pans. We could film it. We could film it. We could record live from Costco.

I would actually love to do that. We could do a live podcast show from Costco and people could come with like the little hot dogs and the croissants. And their little life hacks. Like come on, what's your midlife life hack whilst in Costco? Like what's your best Costco purchase? What's the one thing you come here for that you cannot do without? I'll start this off, I'll start the ball rolling here, foil and cling film. Unreal, unbeatable. To be honest with you, you actually don't need to get that at Costco. It lasts forever. So big. I've just had my sister living with us and she loves a bit of cling film. Let me tell you, she loves a bit of cling film. To the point where I was actually having to take the cling film out of her hands and say, use a Tupperware, it's much

more sustainable and she goes, oh I can never find the lids and I can't this and I can't that. She can't bear the Tupperwares and the lids and everything else. And it was driving me mad. We were going through cling film like I needed it from Costco basically. You know what you should buy her for her birthday. Some cling film. No the unsexy present ever. Those like beeswax covers those beeswax squares so they are re they're like cling film but they're obviously reusable and much more friendly for the environment. My mother-in-law has ones that look like shower caps. Oh okay they're very good. They're not great for the environment. My mother-in-law has ones that look like shower caps.

Oh okay they're very good. They're not great for the environment. These are actually like reusable. So your top tip, your top purchase in Costco is foil and cling film. And foil trays. For when I'm making like a dirty roast and by dirty roast I mean like a big joint of lamb where there's a really sticky sauce and there ain't no way that shit is coming off your baking tin so you just want it in a foil tray. I know they're terrible for the environment but once in a while they save me basically they save my marriage even if they don't save the planet because no one wants to wash that shit up. Oh well you stole mine. Oh is that what you're gonna say? Yeah foil trays I was gonna say foil trays I was a bit scared to say foil trays because I know how unsustainable that is.

I know, but we've acknowledged. But also, I'll tell you what else I bought in Costco once and I was actually with you. What? I bought a pair of Supergas. Oh yeah, I bought them too. And they were like £29. I've got the same ones. And then my daughter borrowed them for school and I never saw them again.

I have to say they're not that comfortable. Super... Supergars! Don't be ridiculous. Well they're in my cupboard, I keep forgetting... Well can I have them then? Yeah. Because I've lost mine. You can have them. Can I? Also, shout out to the broccoli salad. Well, the broccoli salad at Costco is sometimes amazing, but then one of my best friends pointed out to me once, they're always ever so slightly on the turn. And you know what? You can't untaste that shit. They're not, but you have to eat it that day. You can't save it. She's right. Even though, even if the date tells you, you've got four days in that puppy, you do not.

You'd never have four days in a salad that's already pre-chopped. You've got to eat it that day. That's the pre-chopped. You've got to eat it that day. That's the rule with the broccoli salad. But if you're entertaining in big droves, you're not going to go that morning to Costco, are you? Well. If you're doing a lunch. No, not if you're doing a lunch.

Because you're not really going to serve the broccoli salad for dinner. That is a lunch thing. I have actually have served it as a side for dinner. You have? I have, yeah. Only in summer though, surely. Yeah, it went down a treat. Yeah, people love it. It's a proud pleaser.

George also wrote in, he said, having listened to yesterday's episode, I fully understand Lauren's lack of self-control in Costco. I am banned in our house from going because the bill is always double and I get too distracted in the cleaning product aisles. I wonder if there is a support group for Costco hoarders. We should have a Costco appreciation day. Yeah we fucking should George. In Costco. In Costco. Why don't you just go to the coffee shop. This is what you could do Lauren. You could do your live event. Well on my own. Yeah in Costco in the

coffee shop. Apparently their food is fabulous and they do the longest hot dog in the whole wide world. Or is that IKEA? It's absolutely gross the hot dog in Costco. I'm sorry they need to up their cafeteria game. But also because the food is so good in Costco. Why is the cafeteria so terrible? I'm surprised. It's awful. Is it really? Yeah it's like Spain service station. Not even Spain. Why Spain? Because that's actually all right. Spain? Why Spain? Because that's actually alright. Like somewhere dodgy service station slash airport. Spain is not, can we just say we don't think Spain is dodgy. No not Spain itself, I'm talking like a petrol station food in a dodgy place. It's really gross. I've never eaten there so you don't want to do your live event there. I don't think that

the catering is up to standard for me. Okay great. It's not classy enough. The broccoli salad is. Yeah or maybe if they did a sandwich platter or the sushi platter. They do do a sandwich platter. Even the pizza's there. Their sushi platter is weird. It is weird I agree it doesn't taste like proper sushi. Because it isn't and they have weird flavors in there. Yeah I agree I don't buy the Costco sushi. That's the only thing I wouldn't buy from there. The sushi. You'd buy everything else. Everything else. I'm not going to buy cheese because I don't like cheese. I always buy the cheese. I bought a cheese tower at Christmas.

Their baked goods are somewhat very pleasing. I don't know why I said it that way. Their cookies, their brownies. I don't even like I said it that way. They're cookies, they're brownies, I don't even like brownies particularly that much. They're red velvet cake. I mean, their baked goods are off the scale. I like the mini cinnamon bites. They are dreamy. What about the pretzels? Like they're round and they're salted and then in like the filling is peanut butter.

Oh, you always have those in a plastic jar in your kitchen. Like if you're having a party, that is untrue. If you've had a party, it depends who's coming because I have a friend who's very allergic to nuts. Okay. But when she's not coming, yes, I do always have them when they are in your kitchen. Like I'm diving my hair. They're a nightmare. They are so more. I can't be around them. It's the combination of the salt, the crunch and the peanut butter. Yeah. Oh my God. That's so good. I've never bought them. I've only ever had them in your house. The perfect bite. It is. Anyway. Anyway. Anyway, let's, let's cut to a break and come back with some more feedback. Lauren, you know me and you know when it comes to answering

the listeners dilemmas and when it comes to answering the listeners' dilemmas and when it comes to food, I always trust my gut. And I also trust Zoe, the leading size and nutrition company. All the nutritionists that we've spoken to on Self Care Club have highlighted just how much misleading information is out there when it comes to food. Things like the claims that you see on packaging that say things like low sugar or nothing artificial. These are often assigned to actually avoid these foods. Ever noticed a health claim on fresh fruit? No, never.

Right, well you get my point. So it's completely understandable why there's so much distrust and wondering who you should turn to for accurate information. Well, it's very simple. It's not a dilemma for us. We use Zoe. Backed by one of the world's largest microbiome databases and most scientifically advanced at-home gut health tests, Zoey gives you proven science whenever you need it. Go to zoey.com and find out what Zoey membership could do for you. And because you listen to 40ish, you can use the exclusive code 40ish10 at checkout to get 10% off membership.

As a Zoe member, you'll get an at-home test kit and personalized nutrition program to help you make smarter food choices that support your gut. That's z-o-e dot com. Use code 40ish10 at checkout. Trust your gut. Trust Zoe. Check out Trust Your Gut, Trust Zoe. So, what other feedback have we had? A lady, her name is Viggen wrote in, she said, I love the show. I only recently discovered it. It's like I'm sitting there with my girlfriends

having a good old chat, rant, gossip, moan. I'm so happy that you feel this way because that was when we started to build the show out and decide what it was we wanted. We both said didn't we? We just want people to feel like they're sitting with their girlfriends. Yeah. Having a good old rant. Yeah so I'm pleased that's translated. She said I find myself laughing out loud while listening. Thank you. Good. Anyway she goes on to say you were talking about bras and how uncomfortable they are. Oh my god

as soon as you mentioned it it made me conscious of mine. I immediately unhooked it and could finally breathe and use my lungs at their full capacity. Yeah, I hate you. They're anti-feminist bras. That's just the end of it. At home, when I don't wear a bra, I wear a bralette crop top thing. I'm not sure what they're called. Well, I think they are called like a bralette. Or a sports bra. Or a crop top thing. Yeah, bralette. It's not called a crop top thing. That is not how they market it in M&S. They are called a bralette. That is correct. She's correct. Well I think the bralettes are more for like very young girls who were before they wear a bra. Like a 12 year old. Or very perimenopausal women who think bras are anti-feminist. I'm not wearing a bralette. I'm wearing a sports bra.

I'm not wearing a bralette. I'm wearing a sports bra. You think that's the same thing? I do. I don't. Because a bralette would not support. Thank you. Yeah, I get it. I get it. She says I... You'll be pleased to know I'm now wearing two bras. Why? That's another story. Okay, let's finish this one and then you can tell me why you're wearing double bra.

I find I can't completely go without one because I'm afraid of knocking someone out while I'm walking past. Yeah, I'm with you, B. Oh, oh, she's got a tip here. Oh, by the way, if you've got the latest software on your devices, you don't have to say, hey, Siri. You can just say Siri. No need to say the hey.

Anything to save that little bit of breath after wearing the bras of death. Anyway that was my little rant. Thank you for reading it. Love from a new superfan. Oh I'm so happy you're a superfan. And thanks for the tip. Thanks for writing in. I'm going to try that now Vy. Siri. It worked. It did work. Did everyone hear the ping? It did work. Hey Siri. It works both. It works both. Okay. That's cool. It works both. Why are you wearing two bras? Two sports bras. Today I had to go to, no, I'm not now. When I went to do yoga this morning. Yeah. Cause

you know. What a flex. That is a flex. At 7am I was in a yoga class this morning. I'm so winning at life, right? Yeah, yeah, you're winning. I am winning. Yeah, great, good. I had to go in two bras though. That's not so winning.

Why? Because my boobs are just taking over the world. I don't know what is happening with them. I really don't know. But, and even in the two bras, I was still busting out of them. What? They're growing? They're so painted. Well, it doesn't matter. Now that we're here, we don't need to be here. Oh, I see. We've gone there, but now suddenly you're shy.

You know what? Yes. Okay. All right. I'll move on. That is exactly what happened. I'll move on. I just suddenly remembered, like on Self Care Care Club we are a female dominated audience. Yes, so here we're not. You don't want to talk about your breasts in a 50% male space. Yeah. Okay. I don't know if it's 50%. You've totally made that up. I have, but there's a definitely... There's a larger audience of men on this show than there is on our other show. And also they don't have these problems so they don't need to know about it right?

No and I'm sure some men want to sit here and listen to two women talking about their breasts but that is not what this show is. Okay let's move on. Yet more people have written in with their middle-aged Spice Girl names. Is that still going on? It's still happening. I am so happy this was like a drunk conversation with my girlfriends when we were in Amsterdam just having a laugh. I am so pleased that this has caught on. Well I mean we've basically got the S Club 7 of New Spice Girl, Middle Age Spice Girl names. Say that again. You've got like the S Club 7. Yeah. Because there's loads of them. Yeah. You know like a big band. The thing is that the S Club 7 crew when they started were kids. Yeah. Well they're not middle age. Oh I know. Actually I know is that the S Club 7 crew when they started were kids. Yeah. They're

not middle aged. Oh no, actually I know one of the S Club 7 crew. You do? We bumped into her the other day and you didn't recognise her. I mean when I say I didn't recognise her I literally came out and you were like do you know who that was? I'm not saying it was and I was like no, just some random woman. You were like that was da da da. It's like no it wasn't. You were like no it was. I mean I've never seen someone so incognito in my life. Well that's good for her though. She's just in her local high street doing some shopping.

She was like in disguise. She was like when Michael McIntyre dresses up as someone and goes into someone's house. She was not in disguise. I did not recognize her. Because I recognized her. I had a whole chat with her. You had a whole chit-lag.

But I know her. Yes but I know her. You had a whole yap at the bagel counter. We did, talked about our kids, where they were at school, what was going on. I was like who is this random woman? She's not random. She's yapping too. Anyway, middle-aged Spice Girl names are you ready? Yeah. Crochet Spice. Is that Nina? Is that my friend Nina? I have no idea. She's always crocheting. No she was at the what were we talking about? She was there that night. Yeah. She was boho spice. Incontinence spice. Oh, that's not a good one. Sorry. Please see her pelvic health practitioner. I reckon I could beat all of these. Over-stimulated spice. Yup. This one's my personal favourite. Reusable bags in reusable bags hoarding spice

She's my girl. Oh my god. Oh my god. I have a problem with this Yeah, we all have a problem with it. You don't have a problem with this. I do I need to see that immediately I need photographic evidence of you hoarding anything not only well to be perfectly honest. No, don't kill the dream They are being hoarded in my house, but it's more Ollie's thing than mine. I would bin the whole fucking lot. You know what I'm like. I've been there. That's what I mean.

I can't. This is so off-brand. He's got a great passion for the bag. So have I. Adam and I. Ollie and I. Yeah. You're the same fucking person.

We are the same person. They're even, I'm sorry to say it, they're even categorized into large, medium, small, gift bags and wine bags. Oh my god. I know. But there's enough of them to be categorized, that's what I'm saying to you. Oh my god. I'm that, maybe he's that spice girl. I think we need to come up with a better reusable bags in reusable bags. Hoarding spice. I love that. Because the thing is I don't really hoard. I know you think I do but I don't. Okay. I don't. I don't think you hoard. You collect. No I don't. What do I collect? Things just collect. Yeah things do collect. You know what I realised yesterday the reason why things collect is because every single member of my household is messy, naturally messy. We're all messy. So difficult.

It is. To compute that. It is. Yeah. But it's also difficult to live with. But I am also naturally messy. I just tidy up after myself because I actually can't cope with mess. It makes me feel very unsettled. Yeah. So that's why I collect. things do collect in my house.

They breed. They breed. Early night spice. Yeah, could be that. I literally could be, not crochet spice, because even I don't crochet. Men on pause spice. I like the pun.

Yeah, men on pause. Men on pause spice. Yeah. Karen spice. That could pause spice. Yeah. Karen spice. That could be that. Decaf spice. Well, not that, but you should be that. Laura was having a whole go at me, weren't you? I was having a go. It was just a gentle suggestion. It wasn't gentle. It wasn't gentle. It wasn't firm. It was like, maybe you should lay off the coffee, is what you said. I don't think that's particularly gentle.

I don't think it's doing much for you. No. And how many coffees do you have a day? And maybe you should just have less. And maybe you should just cut it down. And maybe you should just stop them. Maybe you should have the first one at 11. It was not gentle.

The answer to how many coffees did you have a day was like, was so many. It wasn't even a number. And then you sort of came around to like, was so many. It wasn't even a number. And then you sort of came around to like, well, maybe I just won't have the first two before 7am. No, I didn't say before 7am. How much caffeine is in your system? Before 7am. I didn't say that.

Meanwhile, she's sitting here recording with a coffee. Yeah, I love coffee. You know, I'm trying to and then I said to you, I'm trying to cut out sugar and I can't do sugar and caffeine at the same time. You go. Yes, you can. But I don't have the sweet tooth that you have. I can have one thing and then I'm like done. I don't appreciate the like, oh my God, I've had one now I have to have more. That's not I'm not, it's not my makeup. I just don't do that. No, I know.

So that's why I can't put myself in that head space. But also to give up two things that you love in one go is a bit, it's a little bit mean. You could just switch to a decap or just cut down to, I don't know how many I have. I could do all of those. To a number. Listen, I could do all of those things.

Okay. There's many things that you could do as well. It's so true. Right. But I'm not suffering with an issue right now. Well I am for many issues but not one that I've brought to the car journey. I only said it in part, I was talking about me being feeling anxious. Yeah. I only said it in passing. I just thought it was an easy little life hack you could try to see if it helped. you could try to see if it helped. I know and I appreciate it slash I don't appreciate it and I'm also I know that you're right but I'm also going to

ignore it. Okay that's your choice as a grown adult living in a democratic country. What's our listener meltdown this week? Our listener meltdown. I'm 40 and I got a gift from Teemu from a friend I've known for 10 plus years. Right, stop. Have you ever bought from Teemu? Yes. Or received from Teemu? Not received, yes bought. Neither. I have done neither.

Have you been on Teemu? I have heard have done neither. Have you been on TeeMoo? I have heard of TeeMoo. Have you been on it? No. Because it's a very frantic app. Okay, no. It's like you need 10 minutes before you actually get into the site

because there's so many pop-ups and offers and discounts. And then you, I'm telling you now now every single time you get to the checkout none of those 10 minute of pop-ups have been applied at the checkout okay I don't know what happens there and it honestly takes a good few minutes to get past all of that shit okay the vibe I get from Timmu is that it makes Shine look Sheen. It's Sheen on steroids. Okay, it makes Sheen look like Harrods. That's the vibe I'm getting from Timmu. It's like the car boot sale of shopping. Yes, it's definitely, it doesn't, it's not more upscale than Sheen. I would say they were definitely on a par, but it's much more hectic, frantic, chaotic than Sheen I would say they were definitely on a par but it's much more hectic frantic chaotic

than Sheen. So she's 40 and she's got a gift from Tiimu. There's an E in the middle of the word. Well yours is incorrect. I don't want to shop there anyway. So she's 40, She's got a gift from Tmoo from a friend that she's known for over 10 years. It was a faux distressed tin sign that says a nice woman and a grumpy old man live here and a t-shirt that says shit show supervisor. I mean what the fuck she, these were my Christmas gifts. Oh my God. Well, I think the problem with this is that what's the background to it? There are so many problems with this. A nice woman and a grumpy old man live here.

Firstly, rude. Rude, and also, listen, I'm really sorry to anyone who has them, but I can't be doing with faux distress tin signs that say anything at all. Just don't have that tacky shit in your house. But also, they're being really rude about her husband. Yeah, yeah, that's problematic.

That's a big, and then the shit show supervisor. I mean, if you got me a t-shirt that said, shit show supervisor, I mean, it may be true on Sundays, but I wouldn't appreciate wearing it on a t-shirt. I would expect you to strangle me with that t-shirt. I mean, it's just so rude. Thank you for telling me that my life is a shit show. I'm aware. And I'm also aware that I'm the one supervising it. I love the fact that you think I don know that. Like I'm oblivious. To the point where I need to wear it on a t-shirt. I mean, what is that?

What the hell? What is that? That feels very loaded. So not only are these gifts cheap and tacky, but also offensive. On every level, they are, I think, the worst gifts I've ever heard of. This person is not your friend! But also, they've gone on Teemu, you know, nothing really good lives on Teemu.

That's what I mean, you don't shop for anyone, anything. Not a present, not a gift. I have bought a couple of things on Teemu before. There's no one that I don't like enough to shop for them on Teemu. That's not true. You're just not gonna sell on air, but that's not true. Then I wouldn't shop for them. Yeah. Period. Yeah. Why is she even wasting... I find this... I would be... I wouldn't be able to get past the a nice woman and a grumpy

old man live here because it's like well now you hate my husband, now it's out there, that's not cool. I mean is she supposed to say thank you? Yeah, no she doesn't have to do anything. Don't say thank you. Throw them in the bin. No, take them to the charity shop, don't throw them in the bin but like this she's not your friend. Who's gonna buy it? I tell you what she should throw in the bin to her friend. Oh. Bin off the friend. I'd like some more background in this relationship. Yeah what have you done to this friend to make her buy you these awful presents? Well with this friend to make up Iunie's awful present? Well, maybe this friend is jealous of her or maybe there's definitely a backstory here.

Yeah, I want more. We want more. And maybe there is no backstory, which is why this was so shocking. And what have you done with the gifts? What have you done with the gifts? We need more info. We need more info, please. Who's winning then? Oh. This woman. She's winning. She's definitely winning. We were

moaning about our husbands playing tennis. It's annoying but it's not as awful as this. Well we don't need the tennis to get in the middle of life. No, but I also would prefer the tennis to receiving these sorts of gifts from teaming. Anyway, she is the winner. She's definitely the winner. Listen, we just cannot get enough of your feedback and your emails and your rants and your everythings. They make our day, so just keep them coming. Oh, it's absolutely fabulous. Listen, we get so much feedback, we made a second show out of it. We've had to. We're delighted. So keep sharing the love, please. We love hearing from you. We will be back on

Thursday with the main show of 40ish. If you want to be in touch, hello at 40ish.co.uk. That's 40ish.co.uk. Or you can just message us on our socials, mainly Instagram, because Lauren and I don't really know how to use this. I do sometimes. Sometimes she's a bit better on email. She's better on email if you want, Lauren. FYI. If you want to talk about Nicole's boobs, DM it. See you on Thursday. Hi, I'm Grace, host of Red Run True Crime podcast. These cases focus on the true victims of crime. Why not jump in at episode 114, the tragic murder of Jasmine and Aliyah. The main suspect in this case gave an extremely bizarre interview to a number of press reporters whilst he was

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