40ish - Unfiltered - Face fuzz and plump boobs

Episode Date: March 18, 2025

This is the sidekick show to 40ish where we dish all the feedback from the week's episode diving into your comments, emails, DMs, and the social media buzz about the latest 40ish dilemmas. This week on the podcast, what does one do about peachy face fuzz? The listeners passionately feedback about M&S (Middle and Safe? Or knicker nirvana?) and Nicole’s boobs are taking over the world.  Want more 40ish in your life? Of course you do! Hit that follow and subscribe button, and let's get this conversation going! We would love to hear from you! To share your feedback, dilemmas, rants, funny stories or general complaints about midlife please be in touch at: Email [e-mail] Instagram https://www.instagram.com/40ish.podcast  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@40ish.podcast Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/share/DVQWb6y2vesgeHEK/?mibextid=LQQJ4d  To order our book HAVE YOU TRIED THIS?” click here  https://www.amazon.co.uk/Have-You-Tried-This-Only/dp/1801293139/ref=sr_1_2?crid=1O7EA4ZF1O5CS&keywords=have+you+tried+this&qid=1699449028&sprefix=have+you+tried+%2Caps%2C125&sr=8-2 Go to ZOE.com to find out what ZOE Membership could do for you. You can use the exclusive code 40ISH10 to get 10% off membership. As a ZOE member, you’ll get an at-home test kit and personalized nutrition program to help you make smarter food choices that support your gut. Use 40ISH10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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don't we? And the more embarrassing and awful they are, the more we enjoy them. I don't mean that in a mean way. I just mean that it's so nice to know that we're all in a midlife space together. Yeah. Right? We're all messing it up. We're all trying to put it back together. We're all trying to keep our shit together. I'm still thinking about the lady who flashed her whole right tit to the DHL delivery driver last week. Oh, if you didn't listen to that, that was on last week's episode of Unfiltered. So please go back and listen to it. She won the midlife meltdown of the week.

She won the midlife meltdown. I think I might win this week with mine. Oh, you won't. I might. Okay. Come on. It's sensitive. It's a sensitive subject. It is Nicole. You don't give me that

face. You wouldn't bring something. I am bringing it. And you know why I'm bringing it? Because I always feel like if something happens to you, you're never alone. Like it always happens to other people too. 100%. I'm bringing it. It is sunny this week. It is finally sunny. And that is winner winner chicken dinner. I couldn't be happier about the Sun. Combined with the Sun I got given a magnifying mirror for my birthday so I could do my makeup because I'm blind now that I'm 47 I can't see a thing and this magnifying mirror that I stick on my own mirror is brilliant. The combination of the sun and the magnifying a mirror has caused

me to see that essentially I once was a partially attractive woman and I am now James and the giant peach. James and the giant peach. I feel like there is fuzz on my face. Okay. Have you seen this fuzz? Have you seen it and noticed it and just not mentioned it to me? And don't lie. No, because I'm too busy de-hairing my own face. Do you ever look at me in the sunlight and be like, she's a little fuzzy. And then I think, ah yeah, that's all I do all day. I think, wow, she used to be such a partially attractive woman. Now she's just James and the giant peach.

Do you feel like I once was a nectarine smooth but now you're a peach fuzzy? No. Okay. And then I thought, oh yeah, I'm imagining it. It's not there. I think this mirror is not working for you. And I know you love it. And I know you because you've been going on about it and it is causing it's causing issues. Okay. So now this, this, this realization has brought me to the next train of thought, which is like, you know, I get served those weird face. I don't even know what they're called. I want to say tweezers, razor. Oh no, no,

no, no. What is it? What's that thing called? A micro blade. I saw like cat farmer using one. And I was like, I feel like that's just shaving your face. Cause every time I see them online and obviously then you just get served them constantly. Well now we're all going to get served them. So thank you Lauren. But you know it's like um it looks like a long toothpick with a little blade. I'm like you're just rebranding a razor for women. This is just a razor. I don't want to put a blade onto my face. Also I just feel like that would make the situation a lot worse. And then there's those really weird women they're're not even like women, they're girls, they're like 20 and they put talcum powder all over their face so it shows up. No that's spray, the spray and it turns into a talcum powder.

Right and then you can see every single little fluff and then they shave it all off. What is that? Why are they doing that? I reckon that would very quickly become a daily task. They're shaving their foreheads. So what I'm saying is like, does one just live with the fuzz? Yes. One lives with the fuzz? Yeah. Because the fuzz is only in your magnifying mirror when the sun is shining. Yeah. Luckily, you live in a very dull dreary country. Thank God. The sun rarely shines. But the thing is, you know Ollie had his eyes lasered so he can see everything. So what if he like wakes up in bed with you on a summer's morning and turns over and he's like, oh my

god, why am I married to a peach? I think there's worse things to be married to than a peach. I don't. He could say... It could be like a kiwi. That's worse. Well there's worse things than fruit. You know, why am I married to... But I don't want this this Nicole what I'm saying is my moan is I don't want this well here you are so you can resist it and

apparently you are resisting she don't want it don't want it so who wants it apparently the struggle is in the resistance can you find me one middle-aged woman who does want this you could just get it waxed. Don't be ridiculous. Why? Because it's like white tiny bit of down. Okay so let it go then. Sorry. Let it go. You are not winning. I haven't even heard the listeners. I haven't read it. I don't know. No, this is not a thing. It's a thing. It's like when the sun shines and you can see the dust on certain things in your kitchen. Oh yeah, when your windows look so dirty in the spring.

Yeah, but actually when the sun isn't shining it's fine. So basically what you're saying is it's fine as long as I don't move to a nice country. I don't move to Australia. I think no, that is not what I'm saying. What are you saying? What I'm saying is you are still a very attractive woman. Thanks. And this is fine.

And this is as much of an issue. Yeah. To me. Yeah. That you thought my putting on weight was last week. But you could lose the weight. I can't like not grow fuzz. You can. Yes you can. How? No you grow it but you can remove it. Do you remove it? I don't remove fuzz. I haven't really noticed. Have I got fuzz? I haven't looked. I'll have a look later if you want. I mean I do have to wax my upper lip and my eyebrows, facial hair. It's not the same. It's not the same. I'm just saying I do remove facial hair. Okay, well I'm not happy and I'm sharing it. Okay, well you know what I'm not happy about? What? This is mine now. Go on. I have a new menopausal symptom.

Another? You're running the full gauntlet. So special. I mean, it was like, wow, we need to give one woman every single symptom. And also we need to make sure this woman can't resolve it with estrogen. Wow. Okay. I'm excited to hear one that I haven't heard before. Well I did start talking about it last week. Go on. My boobs. Oh we're back to the boobs. My boobs are still killing me. You know when you're very, very due on and you feel like you're about to

explode? It's the same as the first few weeks of pregnancy. It's like, don't go near my nipples. Oh my God, my boobs. Yeah. Yeah, totally. How many people do you say don't go near my nipples to? Well, only my husband and also any children who belong to me. How long does he go near your nipples? That's none of your concern. Also, I'm not pregnant. So it's not relevant. You know when your kids are little and you're pregnant and they cuddle you and you're like, I can't even just ask you that. Well, that is where I'm at. I had to double bra this morning. Okay, double bra. Wow. Double bra. And then I have to wear the bras that are like, I can't forget underwear. I mean, just forget it. That is now a thing of the past.

This sounds like a lot of estrogen. I think it might be a lot of estrogen, but then I thought I was, I thought I was due on. Yeah. So I thought I was getting my period. And also I was feeling very bloated. That might be the weight gain. That might be why a trouser's not getting up. Right. And so I really felt like I was getting a period. Yeah. I mean, it looked like I was getting a period. It felt like I was getting a period. My mood was presenting like I was getting a period. Everything was pointing towards me getting a period. Maybe you're getting a period.

I was praying for a period. I mean, there wasn't one part of my day where I didn't think about and pray to get a period. You ever been there? Yeah, of course I've been there. Desperate just for that bleed. Yeah, of course I've been there. Every minute, every time I go to the loo, please say I've got my period. I actually prayed to God this morning.

I said, please. Dear God, it's me Margaret. Please just give me a period. I will feel so much better if I have a bleed. God, it's me Margaret. Please, please just give me a period. I will feel so much better if I have a bleed. But maybe it's coming. Maybe you're just going to get the motherfucker of all periods. No period. Maybe you should have kept that red dress. There is no period. No period is coming. There's no sign of it. Apart from period period constant period pains and my boobs like are about to explode okay there is no period i hope i'm not pregnant the weight gain and still boobs i don't know but the weight gain and still boobs you know just saying how could i be pregnant i don't know

i've got a coil i can't be pregnant it happens i mean it's very unlikely especially when you're 48 and i haven't had a period in what that doesn that doesn't matter. No one needs to know that. Anyway. Yeah. I was leaving my yoga class this morning. Yes, I went to a yoga class again this morning. So not on brand, but okay. Maybe it's a new brand. Yeah, I'm not buying it. Maybe. I'm not buying this shit for a second.

This very, very menopausal, sore-boobed woman needs something other than weightlifting. Maybe. Maybe, but you are just not Namaste. It's just not in your... I need Namaste. You need it, but it's just not who you are. Anyway, as I was walking downstairs after this lovely yoga class, the yoga teacher, I didn't even know why I was telling the yoga teacher, why did I tell the yoga teacher? I don't even know her very well, but he's done a couple of her classes. I started telling her about my boobs. You're telling the well, but he's done a couple of her classes, I started telling her about my boobs. You're telling the nation, so it's clearly a thing.

And I said to her, yeah, but you know, we're sitting in a small room, you don't think anyone's actually listening. They are, they're listening. I started telling her about the double bra situation. Right. And I said, my boobs are just about to take over the world. I don't know what to do with them. And she said, such a yoga teacher response.

She goes, how wonderful., such a yoga teacher response. She goes, how wonderful. She goes, such a fucking yoga teacher response. I mean, it really is. Who's in her thirties. Oh yeah. Fuck off. A monthly cycle with your fun monthly cycle. Where you know where you're at

and your period's gonna come when you expect it. And you could still get pregnant. Yup. She said, how wonderful, I would love it if my boobs were taking over the world's hat to wear two bras. I'm like, you know, it didn't even occur to me to enjoy it. Didn't even cross my mind to think that this was a good thing.

But you're not saying they're bigger, you're just saying they're hurting. They are bigger, no, they are so plump and big. This is estrogen my friend. They are like watermelons. Yeah great. I'm so here for that. We were when we were on holiday a few weeks ago. Ollie was like your boobs are big now. I was like yeah, I's because I'm fatter. Just keep on with the double bra. You have to get one of those M&S. You're going to get an M&S minimizer. I used to have minimizers. That was all I had.

I would never. You used to minimize and I used to gossard wonder bra. In fact, we had a lot of feedback about Raps and Spanses. Have we? Yeah. Let's hear it. Maybe we'll cut to a break and come back with our MMS feedback. Hello everybody. If you are enjoying this episode, could we please request that you share it with a friend who you think could do with a laugh? We would be so grateful. Thank you so much. And also if you're really loving it, please rate and review it. Lauren, you know me and you know when it comes to answering the listeners dilemmas and when it comes to food, I always trust

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print viral jeans, all of this. People have got a lot to say about M&S, more than they have to say on many subjects. I mean, this went on and on and on. I have just bought two pairs of the £19.50 high-waisted jeggings that Kate Middleton is always wearing. Game changer. They're fabulous. Hold on. What? High-wa? Jegging's. Jegging's. Oh, they look like jeans. Jean leggings. I don't know how I feel about them. She says, game changer, they're fabulous. I'm five foot four, I got extra short

and they are the right length. Honestly, these retailers seem to think that British women are giants. They do, they do. I'm 46 and I want to channel Winkleman rather than my 64 year old auntie Bev. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. But... No, but Winkleman in traitors. Yeah, Winkleman in traitors totally with a slight Scottish

tilt to the wardrobe. Yeah, yeah. But they are very good for my mum uniform of a blazer and skinny trousers. Skinny, by the way, yes, I know I'm stuck in 2008. Now, because you know I love to do my research. Yeah. I had a look into these M&S 1950 jeggings. Yeah. And I will tell you, they come in eight colorways. Yeah. Eight. And they have had. Jeggings though. Yeah. How can they come in eight different colorways? They do. If they're supposed to be jeans. Well, they come in eight colorways. What should we tell you? Talk to M&S about it. Well, what are the colors? colors? They must be like a dark wash. Indigo, dark, light, but then there's like cream, black, taupe, biscuit, car key. Biscuit? Yeah. I reckon Jackie would go for biscuit. They have had 11,000 reviews these checkings. Right. I'm just saying they are the popular. But what are the

reviews? Oh people love them. All right. They're wild for them. So that's that. I could see your mum in those in my mum's because she's very tiny. Your mom. Someone else said M&S is like an inverse Zara. In Zara, you pick something up not sure but it's life changing when you put it on. M&S looks amazing, should be amazing, but somehow just isn't. I think I agree with that. There's always like, it's like what you said about their shoes. It's always just a degree off. Two degrees off. Yeah. Let's make an amazing pair of shoes and then fuck it up by 2%. Yeah, but I find that with a lot of their things apart from their lingerie. Yeah. Well that, that came into it. Love their clothes, always shop there, have loads of their clothes and shoes. Well, okay. Sorry about the shoes. I'm not trusting you there.

Someone else said very underrated. They are on the most part classy. The only issue is lack of slim fit for men. Okay. Good feedback. I also don't care about the slim fit for men. Well, men care. I know, but I don't need to care about that. I've got enough to care about. That's true. Best knickers. Absolutely.

They are the best knickers. You know what else can even compete. Actually, I say that, I don't wear their knickers. I do. Of course you do. You are such an M&S underwear kind of person. I am such an M&S slut. Someone else said I am 44 and I still feel too young to wear M&S.

I agree. I've only just realised, I sort of like peaked my head above the parapet and I'm like, okay, maybe I'll start looking at this now. There are some haters as well. Come on. Middle aged, middle English, middle class. Yup. I think so.

And then this one. M&S might as well stand for middle and safe. That is brilliant. There was some statistic that a ridiculous number of people, like 98% of the population, have at least one item of M&S underwear. Was it started by like a Mr. Marks and a Mr. Spencers? I did actually know this entire story. You know that's the sort of thing I would know. And I can't remember.

It must have been. It's like Selfridges was started by Mr. Selfridge. I don't know about the M&S background. I'm not sure. Probably yes. But if anyone knows... It was St Michael, wasn't it, to begin with. But it's not now and it hasn't been for a long time. I don't know. And it's now annoying me that I don't know, but I'm sure I could Google it. But I'm not going to. It's like H&M.

Yeah. Was it Henny's and Moritz? Mr Henny's? Mr Mr. Moritz? Mrs. Henny's? Mrs. Moritz? Definitely wasn't Mrs. was it? Wish it was but it just wasn't was it? I don't think so. No. And then we got a little bit of feedback. Remember quite a few weeks ago we were talking about Facebook marketplace? Yes. And the selling. And how people are weird and annoying. Yes. So someone wrote in with their story, this is my most amusing Facebook marketplace sale. A really cute good condition GLTC book trolley with a cat face. You know like this? Yeah I know exactly what she's talking about. A guy turns up to collect it within an hour of

listing it and while he's making the bank transfer on the doorstep, I said, I'm sure your toddler will love this. And he tells me he has no kids. It's for his cat to play in and be pulled around in. Nuts. No. Yes. No. That was what she said. Oh, no. I would do that for Miley, my dog.

No, you fucking wouldn't. You would do many things for Miley, but you wouldn't pull her around in a book trolley with a dog face on it. You wouldn't. You wouldn't. And if you did, you have to find a new podcast partner. No. Why? Because it's weird. Why is it weird? To pull your dog around in a trolley? Unless it's paraplegic. And if so, have it put down. End of story. Blimey. I know there's a woman, do you know the woman in Brent Cross who always pushes her Yorkshire Terrier around in a buggy?

No. She's completely bats. Like you can tell she's one of those very, very, very special mad women. She's always in some form of animal print hat, earrings, mad hair and she pushes a baby, pink baby buggy with a Yorkshire terrier in it. She's like her. Listen, if I get any more menopausal symptoms, I might be her. I'll have you put down. I think that's where we're going. Really? I don't know. This menopause kicking my ass. I'm kicking my ass.

Sorry, but it's still no excuse to put your dog round in a book trolley. I just don't think that's the worst thing I've ever heard. I really don't. And he obviously loves his cat and maybe he's very lonely. You know what? If he behaves like this, he's going to remain very lonely. Maybe that's why. Yeah.

We don't really have a meltdown, do we? But we have had so many lovely emails coming in. And if you want to email us about anything to share with us what you've got from the show or something that you want to share with us, a moan, a rant, whatever, it doesn't matter. We just want to hear from you. Hello at 40ish.co co dot uk And this is from Katie and she says hello Lauren and Nicole or Nicole and Lauren. I just wanted to say how much I'm enjoying your show Thank you, Katie. I'm 34 and recently feel a bit anxious about getting older. So Lauren I feel anxious about it and I'm 47 and you know, there's a lot to be anxious about so So yeah, you're you yeah you're in the peak. Listen, the menopause isn't amazing I'll be honest but the only other side of not getting older is not getting older so. Yeah but like really enjoy being 34

because 34 is amazing. You know what I wasn't having such an amazing time at 34. I had two very very little children I found it really hard. I had two very, very little children. I found it really hard. I really enjoyed it. And listening to you both is a reminder that life and fun does not end at 40. No, it doesn't. Oh, god, it doesn't. Wow. For some reason, I decided to listen to the show from the beginning and I'm nearly caught

up. I just listened to the episode where you discuss the period massage and husband's buying tampons. Oh. Do you remember? Yeah, I do. That really enraged me. And was reminded of an incident from 2021. Basically, there was a video on Instagram, if you haven't heard this show,

where the husband was massaging the woman's hips throughout her bleed. And he was like topless and gorgeous. And so was she. And she was stunning. And it just fucked me up. Because my husband barely says hello some days. Rather than knowing what I need massage wise.

I had been dating my now husband for a year when I tested positive for COVID. As we lived on opposite sides of London, he invited me to his flat to self-isolate. We ordered a Sainsbury's shop and when it arrived, lots of things were wrong or missing, including my tampons, except they weren't missing. My husband put them in the dried goods because he thought they were boxes of spices. Oh my god she attached a picture. Yes she did. My girlfriend remarked afterwards that a tampon could be useful in absorbing excess liquid in cooking. I've yet to try this but have a nice day. Love, Katie. Thank you, Katie. Wow, he'd obviously never lived with a woman before. No he hadn't but he does now. He does now. Listen he unpacked the shopping

so points. Points awarded to him. No fuck that what is with you? She had Covid. She had Covid. She was ill. Yeah. I'll assume he has two arms and two legs and he's perfectly capable of doing that. Do you know what I really want to know? Let's not reward men with a fucking medal for putting the milk in the fridge that doesn't help it at all. Do you know what I want to know now now that they are married yeah have been for some years and she doesn't have covid and she's not self-isolating and there isn't the romance of being shacked up together in his flat on the other side of London does he still unpack the shopping or is he like oh know, she's also 34 and people have come out of your generation and it is a

little bit my generation. I'm a year younger than Nicole, but I'm in a separate older generation to her. General. Oh, what you're saying is she's married to a young, probably married to someone of her own-ish age and so he understands things like, yeah, unpacking shopping, people with penises can do that too. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Those men sound great. My husband does unpack the shopping.

Does he? Yeah, if I'm not there, yeah. If you're not there. Yeah. I heard it. I heard it. I heard it. If I'm hospitalised, my husband does it.

He does unpack the shopping. He also empties the dishwasher. This morning, this was classic. Apart from the Tupperware, as previously discussed. I come in from the gym and it's like 20 past eight. All the kids had gone off to school and I noticed that the dishwasher had actually, in fact, been emptied. Wow. So I said, oh, the dishwasher's been emptied. He goes, yeah, I did it. Brilliant. Okay. And I carried on and I was making my breakfast and he goes,

aren't you just so happy that you've come home and the dishwasher's emptied and you didn't expect that, did you? You didn't expect it to all be emptied, all be done and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, aren't I wonderful? And I'm like, you know what? It is not a big deal that you emptied the dishwasher. I said thank you, you're not getting anything else from me like a fucking medal, because quite frankly, it's not so amazing that you emptied the dishwasher. Get over yourself. He was basically expecting for you to strip off there and then in the kitchen in thanks and reward. I think he was.

Yeah. But you know what, I actually would be so happy if I came home the dishwasher was empty. I was happy but I need to like massage his ego for 10 minutes about the dishwasher. Well, but just the more you encourage, like it's like with a puppy, the more you encourage them with these things, the more you give them a treat. When they do a good thing, they do more of the good thing, less of the bad thing. We've got two two bits of feedback that I just I had to share. I had to share. This was so sweet. Are you ready? Ready. Good afternoon to you too. This is for Nicole as I know Lauren won't read this because she sent it on Instagram.

Love it. Ironically, I did read it. Did you tell her or did you just ignore her? You know what? You'd ignored it since Friday. I'd ignored it. Yeah. I'd ignored it. You.

How do you know you didn't ignore it? I don't ignore things. I didn't even know it was there, but I saw it. No, I don't ignore. You ignore. It hadn't been read, but it made me laugh. Oh, it hadn't been read? No. Oh, so I hadn't ignored it. You hadn't seen it. Okay, so let's start this again. I hadn't ignored it. No, you hadn't seen it. I hadn't read it.

I didn't know how. You'd missed it because you're normally very like quick to see a message and reply, but we'd both not seen it. Okay. Or read it. Was it Friday, did you say? Yeah, Friday. I'd had a very busy weekend. Yeah, you did have a very busy weekend. Anyway, I happened to see it. So that made me laugh. This is for Nicole, because I know Lauren won't read this. That's brilliant. Yeah. Obviously a big listener of the show. Yeah. I wanted to say a massive thank you. Oh, you're welcome. I live in Portugal. And over the last four weeks, I've been doing three hour round trips from my home in Bergale to Farrow for my radiotherapy treatments.

I was diagnosed with stage one breast cancer, had a lumpectomy and now radiotherapy. I have a crispy tit but only two treatments left. You two have made me laugh out loud in the car. I'm sure I look like a nutter. Keep doing what you do. I will continue to listen. P.S. Can you tell everyone who listens to check those boobs?

Men too. Early detection is imperative to get a great outcome like mine. Love Sharon. Oh Sharon! Love it! Sharon, I am so delighted that you are, your treatment is going well and that you are doing well and I am so, so tickled pink that we get to keep you company on that journey. That is an incredibly humbling email. I'm so happy to

get that. And I'm so proud of Lauren for reading it. I know, I was proud of myself. Yeah, so there you go Sharon, you never know. Some lucky person. Some miracles do happen. But did you actually reply to her? I totally did. Did you? Actually, Sharon told me that she has now finished her treatments and she is about to go to New Zealand to visit some family. Oh, congratulations. Congratulations, Sharon. And I hope that you are investing in lots of lovely self-care

for yourself because you deserve it. Yeah. So we're ending on that today rather than a meltdown. That is our show. That's how our unfiltered this week. We'll be back on Thursday with another show. Now remember, if you want to be in touch, the email is hello at 40ish40ish.co.uk. Hello at 40ish.co.uk. Please be in touch. We love hearing from you. You can DM us on Instagram.

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I balled it up, so it's fine that you didn't hear me say it. But I think that was the first thing I said. OK, I can't hear anything over your huge boobs. They're absorbing all the noise in the room. I'm dazzled by them. They're distracting me. noise in the room. I'm dazzled by them. They're distracting me. Put another bra on! You know I could put... I'm having to sleep in a bra.

Oh my god! Yes, they are so painful! I'm very sorry. Are you though? I am! Are you? Yeah. Just need a period. You know that's just... the highlight of this whole episode is I just

need a period. Special. So special. You love that. See you on Thursday. Bye. Hi, I'm Grace, host of Red Run True Crime podcast. These cases focus on the true victims of crime. Why not jump in at episode 114, the tragic murder of Jasmine and Aliyah. The main suspect in this case gave an extremely bizarre interview to a number of press reporters whilst he was drunk and reportedly high. He speaks about an awful lot on camera and has this completely inappropriate laughing and chuckling response when talking about the case. He may even have thought he was going to get away with the double murder he'd been accused of, but what he didn't know was that two undercover officers were on their way to catch

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