A Bit of Optimism - Rob Lowe Names Names: The Power of ‘Screw It’

Episode Date: September 23, 2025

Hey Optimists! We’re taking a little hiatus, but exciting things are coming your way! We’ll be back on October 21 with some amazing new episodes that we can’t wait to share. In the meantime, take care of yourself, enjoy the little moments, and remember—good things are just around the corner.See you soon!- Team Simon _____________________We don’t usually look to Hollywood for lessons in career longevity. But it might be the perfect place to study it. Few industries move faster or cast people aside more quickly, and yet Rob Lowe has spent more than four decades defying those odds. His story isn’t just about surviving fame—it’s about overcoming adversity, finding joy in the work, and proving that authenticity is the only path to a career that lasts.Across his career, Rob has navigated the highs of teen idol stardom, the lows of very public failures, and the challenge of reinventing himself again and again—all while staying relevant and true to himself. His secret? A willingness to take risks, embrace failure, and laugh at himself along the way.Rob and I dive into Rob’s philosophy of resilience, authenticity, and joy. He shares how humiliations turned into lessons, why not taking yourself too seriously is a strength, and how authenticity has become the ultimate currency in today’s culture.You can also see Rob hosting the fourth season of The Floor, airing September 24th on FOX.]This is A Bit of Optimism. 

So you decide to do a sock and dance for the opening of the Oscars. Can't dance, really. Okay, okay. I mean, I didn't get footloose for a reason. For a reason, right. And it doesn't go well, is what you're saying? It doesn't go well. It doesn't go well.

There was an open letter to the academy the next day, signed by like Paul Newman and Gregory Peck. And like, this was an affront to our sensibility. I mean, I looked out in the audience and I saw it was the night Barry Levinson won 10 Academy Awards for Rain Man and I literally saw him mouth what the fuck didn't go well to borrow a line from Heidi Klum in Hollywood one day you're in and the next you're out

but not for Rob Lowe he has been a fixture since the 1980s and has had decades worth of iconic roles, from St. Elmo's Fire to the Outsiders, to the West Wing to Parks and Rec. In an industry that chews him up and spits him out, how has Rob Lowe stayed relevant for so long? It's not just his good looks, and yes, he is very good-looking. It's something else. The real secret to Rob's longevity is something more powerful. As he puts it, he's got a serious case of the fuck-its.

He likes taking risks, knowing full well that they don't always work out. But the thrill of doing something new is exactly the thing that has helped him find opportunities where others don't. In addition to the movies and TV shows, he's also the host of the podcast literally with Rob Lowe and is host of The Floor, which airs its fourth season on September 24th on Fox. This is a bit of optimism. How old were you when you got famous, young, very young? The first time, because then it came and then went. Oh, really?

Yeah, because I got famous as a teen idol. Right. And then it didn't work. And what was the thing that put you on the map? It was a sitcom called A New Kind of Family, and I was 15. and so you know you're the you're like the you were on the cover of teen beat yeah all that all that stuff bop teen beat so something about like maybe just because i'm just a fucking old pervert there's something about oh wait i just put it together and bob wait i just put that together in this

moment the minute you said pervert immediately i understood teen i had never made that association team beat you've just are they kidding with that But you were on the cover. That's worse. She bop. No, no, I get it. But you were on the cover. That's the worst part.

Oh, yeah. You were the team. I was a beat. I was a cover boy at 15. Yeah. And then had a early midlife crisis at 17, 16 and 17 didn't work because they hired only 18-year-olds to play younger because of child labor loss. And how long you had worked on a set. And I just didn't work for two and a half years.

and I thought my career was over. And then I got the outsiders and that was a whole other level of fame. That's movie. That's movie. And that started it, yeah. Yeah. Because you, there's a, I have a friend,

you're pretty, you're relatively grounded. Like, relatively. I mean, I'll go with relatively. It's relatively, relatively, because I have a friend who has a theory that when people achieve fame, any kind of growth that they have ceases. Oh, I have that theory.

It's true. And so, like, child actors are screwed because they stop growing and they think everybody says yes to you is normal. Yes, whenever I, that's 100% true. Unless you do a ton of work on yourself, you're frozen in amber. Right. The minute you get famous. Yes, that's true.

Absolutely true. So when people achieve adult fame, they're a little more grounded because they know where they came from, hopefully. And they, they've, well, and they also have experienced just by, virtue of time. They've experienced more life. But your career is kind of amazing because you have, and this is a credit to you, you have been able to remain relevant for forever. I mean, you were part of the Brat Pack back in the day. Yep. Mid-80s. Mid-80s.

Early 80s, yeah. You know, John Hughes and that crew. Yep. I mean, that's my childhood. I grew up watching all of your movies. and I think I watched the documentary I watched Brad Pack Talk with Andrew McCarthy and to your credit and Demi's credit like you guys

like didn't get sucked into it and it wasn't you maintained careers and relevance up until now he didn't let that define us in a way what like was there a strategy to remain current like what is it that makes one actor be able to survive for decades

and another actor be a blip in time, no fault of their own, just like they're super hot for a while, and then they're just not. Sure. It's not that they're not talented, it's not that they're not good, it's not that they're bad people, it's not that they're hard to work with, it's just that they have their moment and then they don't. Yeah. It's, I mean,

actors are products, you know, to some degree. Same as singers, sing with you. Yeah. So what is it, was it, was it luck? Was it something you did differently than other actors that helped you that you're still working and people still love you and stop you on the streets

and all the rest of it and not nostalgically no not nostalgic in fact the thing that I love the most is when like a group of 14 year olds come up yeah

because they've seen the outsiders and like or they've watched Parks and Rec or you know whatever being relevant is so was it something you did or was you just like thanking your lucky stars every day

that it kind of worked out it's like anything else you put yourself in a position to get lucky right so one of the things is that i've i've i've always been a risk taker and so if something's interesting to me i'll do it and and so for example when i did the west wing that was at a time when if you had come from movies and god forbid you'd been in movies but maybe you were in a sort of mini downturn which i was you definitely if you did a TV series you were admitting defeat defeat

right and and there were I mean I've talked to people you could go from TV to movies but you'd never go to movies to TV never yeah yeah yeah and then and I remember you know when after I did it guys like William Peterson big movie crew to live and die in L.A he did CSI and Kiefer who said I saw you on Westphing

was like okay maybe I'll do television you did 24 So I'm not saying I blazed any trail, but when people see somebody do it, all of a sudden, the stigma comes off of it. But I was able to do it because I just didn't care. And I was like, I've always had a healthy case of the fuckets. Yeah. And that really helps. And then the other thing is I'm naturally curious. Mm-hmm.

So. You want to do different things. I've never done TV kind of thing. Never done a podcast. Right. You know? Right. never a book you know like when I wrote my first book people were like well you can't write a memoir

because that's another thing people do when it's over right or when they need money right and I was like well it's neither for me yeah and I don't care what people think because I think I have something to say and I'm on my third book when where did you develop the case of the fuckets like where did it come from like was it instilled in you and your parents or did you like did you survive the career near death experience and realized you survived so you'll be okay kind of thing if you talk to my family particularly my brothers they say they'll tell you I always had it yeah and I think where are you in the pecking order I'm the oldest okay I mean I think I've always had um a lack of fear around like sort of ambition audaciousness lack of fear how it was

whatever flavor you want to describe. It's that same ingredient I think I kind of was born with. So give me an example of something that at a risk you took and it didn't work out. And it was like, oh, well, give me one. Just give me one. I got a bad one. Agreeing to do a song and dance number

to open the Academy Awards. Disaster. I wish you had talked to me before that. I could have advised you against that. What would you have said? Other than it's a horrible idea. idea. Okay, so can you sing and dance? Let's start there. I'm an actor who sings. Okay, so you're a double threat. I can sing as well as Russell Crow. Let's put it that way. No disrespect to

Russell Crow at all. But not, I mean, I think I, I mean, Kiefer Sutherland tour is a band. I think I could go up and do a duet with him. Okay, so you decide. I mean, I'm no Bacon Brothers. So, so you decide to do a sock and dance for the opening of the Oscars. Can't dance. really okay okay i mean i didn't get footloose for a reason for a reason right and it doesn't go well is what you're saying doesn't go well doesn't go well that there was an open letter to the academy the next day signed by like paul newman and gregory peck and like this was an affront to our sensibility how d i mean i looked i looked out in the audience and i saw all it was the night barry Levinson won 10 Academy Awards for Rain Man.

Yeah. And I literally saw him, mouth, what the fuck? Didn't go well. Okay. So you come upstage. You're fully aware of what happened. Here's the other part. You got to have, there's a reason why a lot of actors are egomaniacs and self-centered

narcissists, because you have to have a little bit of that to inoculate yourself. to the indignities that happened daily in a career where you're marked to market every single day. Right. So that part of me was like, fuck Barry Levinson. What does he know? Do you know what I mean? And then so you go, you go backstage and then you sit there and you're in the green room.

And there's Lucille Ball telling you that you're a wonderful dancer and singer. She's making fun of you. No, she loved it. Oh, really? She, no, she legitimately... But she's also comedy genius. God damn it. I always thought she liked it.

Fuck. You've totally rewritten my own history, Simon. The history I tell myself is that... Lucille Ball loved me. Everybody hated it except Lucille Ball. Yeah. Now, it's just everybody hated it including Lucille Ball. No, she loved it because she's a comedy genius.

God damn it. She legitimately loved it. Young man. So Lucille Ball. loved it. But, okay, so once you, and then you read the open letter that it's an affront to the academy and all our sensibilities. So is, is that a humbling? Or do you have a sense of humor about it? Like, this is what I want to understand, which is, I want to understand, like, if there are these peaks and valleys and, you know, you have a healthy narcissism, or unhealthy, that-

I think diagnosed as a benevolent narcissist. Is that a diagnosis? Well, that's what Rashida Jones says. And I think she's actually a learned woman. Okay. So you're, you're never let narcissists, which means that you can take these situations and do you, do you actually, does it hurt or is it funny? Both. Simultaneously? Yes. So is that the reason that you've been able to maintain a career for so long is because you have a,

as, as healthy as your ego is, you also get that it's a, it's a joke, it's a game. 100%. Like you're a caricature of yourself at times. well that's why when um like one of my favorite things that i've ever done was the comedy central roast of myself right it's brutal why do people agree to that well see that's just the thing is like like like why would so i told Cheryl i said they've come to me your wife Cheryl yeah my wife Cheryl they've cut they came to me like four years in a row and i was like i'm not doing that and then i remember Justin Bieber did it and he is a huge star I was like you know what if Justin Bieber can do

it. I can do it. And competition. Right. And fear, I mean, public, right? It's everything you, right, you've said about me. And, and Cheryl goes, you can't, I won't let you do it. You're going to, you're going to be humiliated, nationalized. That ship has sailed. That's what I said. I remember said to her. And she goes, well, are they at least going to pay you? I go, yeah, they're going to pay me over a million dollars. She goes, oh, you're doing it. Everybody's got a price. Everyone has a price. What's the price of humiliation?

Turns out it's about a million dollars. It's about a million dollars for about five hours work. Yeah. I would put up with a lot for that. I mean, who among us? So, but that said, I've never had more fun. Never. Never.

It was so fun. And they eviscerated. Our good friend Maria Shriver, I invited. And she sat there and they, there's a look if you you can you can watch it on netflix to this day or wherever the hell it is the look of horror on maria shriver's face as i'm getting i'm so going to dissected i wish i'd watch this as prep it's so brutal but it's so where did you learn that was that did that come from being punched in the face a few times and learning like was that natural or did you what

i'm getting at what i'm getting it is can the rest of us learn you you are you are you are you know black belt jujitsu you know your ability to weather the punches and the question i'm asking the reason i'm going down this path is can the rest of us learn to withstand humiliation and i don't want to say you know failures but sort of like failures failures failures they wrote an open letter simon paul newman wrote an open letter okay so how did the rest of us learn to build the muscle of humiliation to who withstand humiliation of failure because ultimately it's good for growth growth mental health and and and career longevity so I want to know where it came from I mean I think it's competitiveness like I'm down but I'm not out right you see it with athletes all the time literally they're down

by X amount of points or but what's going through your head when you're down because because the difference between a great athlete and a and just a very talented athlete is the mental game not the physical game. Well, it's like somebody in shoot, they say what makes great shooters is they forget the last bad shot. Yeah. So, I mean, they literally are impervious to the fact that they've gone 0 for 18. Yeah.

They get the ball. They're not going, oh, I, I, I, what if I go over 19? They're not. I mean, that's, that's a real thing. I've been talking, I've been talking about this thing recently. I heard this guy talking about, he wanted to understand what makes the best tennis players, the best tennis players. And what he discovered is the top five, or always in the top five.

And like the next 20, 25, or, or, like, the next 20, like circulating in the 20-35. So what he's asking is, like, what distinguishes the top five from everybody else? It's not diet, it's not discipline, it's not training. All those things are equals. What he discovered was the top five tennis players love the game. They love the game.

So when they have a great shot, like they'll win the point and they'll say to themselves, oh, I love this game. And if they miss the point, they go, missed it this time, but just you wait. And what that does is it reduces stress and saves energy. And so individually, it doesn't do very much, but over the course of an entire game, what it does by the end, they have more energy and they have lower stress. And so they can win at the end because they're just so much more relaxed and have much more physical energy than their opponent who's stressed out and tense and all the rest of it and tight.

And so I'm wondering if it's something similar to that, which is when you get on your heels, when you win, you're like, I freaking love my life. I love my career. I love this crazy business. And when you get hit on your heels, you go like, oh, that suck, but I'm coming. Like, is it the same, do you have the same joy? That's what it feels like. That's exactly what it feels like. That's what goes through my mind, what you just described.

So that to me is learnable, but that to me is also to see it done in a career that's not athletics. Because athletics, it's immediate. Point, point, point, point, game done, right? I find it more interesting in what you're doing because it's less. immediate. And you have to actually, because those down periods can last weeks, months. Years. Years. And to be able to maintain that attitude of I'm coming back and be able to look past the fact that it's been a year and you've been out of work. There was a time in my career where I hadn't been, do you remember these things called magazines? Do you remember those when those were out? Yeah.

So there was a time when I hadn't been on the cover of a magazine, which is, you know, as silly as it sounds, a great barometer of your cachet in your industry. Yeah. And I had been on a magazine cover in 10 years. Maybe. And I was like, I'm back. I'll be back. And then it was. And then there was another five or six year period. Not. And then back again. And I always wanted to be on the cover of Vanity Fair because that really meant something. That was when I came up, that was only the biggest stars. Got on the cover of Vanity Fair. And I never got it. Never, never, never, never got it. And not only did I not get that, I didn't get very many at all. And then I ended up getting the cover of Vanity Fair. And it wasn't for acting. It was for my writing. It was that they excerpted my first book.

And that, which I always took kind of, talk about you can have all your plans, but the universe has something else. Like, if you had told me, you're never going to get the cover of Vanity Fair as an actor, but you're going to get it as an author. I'd have been like, what? Yeah. But that's what happened. So, but it was still the attitude of I'll be back. I'll be back, as Arnold would say. But I am fascinated by this, because you come from an industry where the egos are fascinating.

Fascinating. Fascinating. My point is, is you could make a study. You're one of the very few actors who's had a career across so many decades that you, I'm very curious how the industry has changed. When you were an A-lister with all the magazines and paparazzi following you around then versus now, Like, what has changed of the personalities? What does it take to stay in this business?

What does it take to get into this business? Has anything changed? The people who made it then, could they make it now? The people who made it now, could they have made it then? This is a five-hour podcast question. And I'm happy to go into it because... I'm fascinated by it. Okay, well...

For me, I'm a culture guy, and I'm so curious how the culture has changed of show business. So in no particular order, because I'm not sure of the things I'm going to talk. about which is more important yeah so I'm just going to start talk go today the audience is interested in you to the extent that they like you and are invested in you are as a person as a as a as a as a person as a as a brand is your your thing So compare that to when people loved Paul Newman or Marlon Brando or Lillian Gish. They didn't know fuck all about any of those people. No parisocial relationships.

Nothing. By the way, if you wanted to see them outside of what you paid in a movie or a TV show, maybe, maybe you saw them at the Oscars or the Emmys. today they if you're not and really what it is is it's so audiences need audiences need authenticity today they value authenticity above all else all else so before they were they were actors they had a job now you have a you have a brand you're managing and that makes that makes it sound is that right yeah but it makes yes but that phraseology through no fault of your own makes it sound more icky than it is because when you realize what's underneath it

is people in a world where literally you don't even know what the truth is anymore if you get a whiff of authenticity that is huge to people because you're the same

on camera than you are of camera talking to you now like you and I should have shooting the shit before we turn the camera it's the same the same cadence it's the same personality you don't turn it on for the cameras. I mean, this is what you see is what you get. Is that what you mean?

100%. And that has always been my, a little bit of my secret sauce. It doesn't always work in my favor. I won't name names, but people can do the math. I came up with a bunch of guys all about the same time, same looks, same level of talent. And one became a gigantic, gigantic, iconic movie star. But the way that that person did it is, they were a different person in private than they were in public. And I've just... Which works for a while. Which I just can't...

First of all, I don't want to live like that. Yeah, yeah. But like, I just couldn't do it. Do you know what I mean? The reason I keep scraping this, why I'm fascinated by this, is less about Hollywood, but more that I see that Hollywood and sort of show business is an exaggeration for real life.

Everything's exaggerated. Yes. And I think lots of people live, lives where who they are publicly and who they are privately and who they are at work and who they are at home are, we're all slightly different, of course. Yes. You have to be. But there are some who are very different. And I think the concept of authenticity is something that we want at work. We want from our friends. We want from our companies. And we're pushing it. And so I like looking at Hollywood for the lessons because everything is so exaggerated. It makes the lessons

easier to see. So you see somebody who's so diametrically different publicly than they are privately, like what happens here and why does it crash? And what kind of skills does it take to live an authentic life? And so is it just flexing the muscle of learning to withstand humiliation? Is it what we were saying before, which is love of life, joie de vivre, like, I love this and don't worry, I'll be back tomorrow. Is it that kind of grit? Like, I'm trying to discern the lessons. It's all of that. And then the other part is, owning your flaws and being aware of what your blind spots are

and realizing that those can also be your superpowers how do you define authenticity when you say authentic you say that the audience these days the people are looking for an authentic personality what does that even mean the term is so overused you know what it is it's like what's the classic thing is what is what is porn how do you describe it you know it you know it when you see it that's not enough

Or like, what is modern art you know it when you see? Yeah, but that's, that's a, that, that, that is an answer people give because they are struggling to find the words to find it. If you can see something, you can define it. If we know what it is and we know what it isn't, then we, then we should be able to like, like, is the Sistine Chapel modern art, clearly not. But what if it's a feeling? Because it's a feel. It is a feel. It's a feel.

I, when you're with somebody. How do you know a dog's a dog? You know it when you see it? No. It's furry. But you're not getting a feeling off the dog. You're going to get a feeling off the dog. What we're talking about is a feel.

Okay, so what's the feeling? Like, how can we tell people be authentic if we can't tell them what to do? I can tell you exactly, do not self-edit, which is practical shit that I have had to learn. So what does self-editing mean? So if I have, like in this conversation, if I have an instinct, something funny, I'm saying it, I'm thinking it and saying it before I've even registered that it's going to happen. as opposed to, I haven't even thought about it. It came from somewhere, and I just blurted it out.

I've lived parts of my life where in a talk show format, I wouldn't say anything until I had thought of it. How's that going to play? Is that off the topic we're on? Is it too mean? All of those things, I don't have any of them anymore. When did that go away? When David Letterman fucked me. Yeah, when I did.

an appearance on David Letterman and he fucked me he he there's a thing called a pre-interview right do you know what a pre-interview is where you and and I get it I have it now being a podcast host I don't have this because I invite really good people

I don't have to I don't have a machine where I have to have fill time but if you do you you're going to run up against people have nothing to say right and so as a protection mechanism these talk shows have a pre-interview process you get some actors another ass from a hole in the ground They don't know what the fuck they're doing

They've got to promote a movie They're boring They can only they're funny if somebody writes for them And now you've got to be out So they have a pre-interview where You kind of agree on what the stories are going to be And if they say this, you're going to say that And they do a little bit canned

Totally can't Yeah totally can't Yeah and we can tell 100%. Yeah it's like comedians doing bits Instead of answering questions So I And we did it

And Letterman's Public producer was Like obsessed with a story that I told them that I knew was stupid, but they were like, say that story. Make sure you tell that story. Dave loves that story. I'm like, I mean, I'm thinking to myself, I'm having this instinct as a, this is not a good story. I don't even get it. The only reason I mentioned this story is because they put me through a two and a half hour pre-interview for an interview

that might be three minutes long. And by the way, the message of that is, you're boring. you have nothing to say keep talking eventually we're going to get to a story that's worthy of the great David Letterman right so I come out and I'm and they've got me

do you remember the Warner Brothers cartoons when like Bugs Bunny would fuck Porky Pigs head up so much they'd pack different suitcases on top of them and spin him around and then he'd walk right off of a out of a window of a hotel and fall to his death that was me they're like here do

this, take that, and remember this. If Dave says this, you say that. And remember the one story about that, and then I'm out there. I tell the story. It's a long story. And they're like, really tell the story. I tell the story. And by the way, the story was about going camping with my dad. And we had to fly on a plane and a bush plane. And they let me fly it. And I put us in a in a loop. And that was it. There was no end. It was nothing. I finished the story to crickets, which I kind of knew were coming. dead long dead air silence and letterman looks at me and goes you know what you seem like a good kid after the show you'll come up in my office and we're going to work on that story

fuck me wow and so was it what I learned from that yeah is I'm going to trust my instincts I'm going to say what I want yeah when I want yeah because it couldn't have gone worse checking the boxes. Right. So even if you trust your own instincts and it fails, you're still at ground zero. And it turns out,

guess what? I've got good instincts. Yeah. Because guess what? You can't be a good actor without good instincts. Yeah. Can't.

Can't. Cannot. It's what we work with. So you learn from the humiliation to say, you know what, I'm going to trust my instinct and tell my own stories.

That's right. And so how do we, teach someone to trust their gut without having to get to the point where they get? So have you been able to teach your kids? Have you been able to teach your friends how to develop this muscle other than trust me, this is what happened to me. Don't make the same mistake. I mean, it's like, for example, if I were talking to a CEO of a company. Yeah. And it was about like, how can I be better talking at a retreat or how can I be better in interviews, right? Which, I would say highlight your fears, your flaws, what you, like, the very thing that you don't want to talk about is the very thing that you need to talk about that makes you interesting and makes you relatable.

And, you know, I think that get off script, do something unexpected. Just an unexpected. By telling, first of all, it takes courage. A friend of mine, so the word vulnerability and being vulnerable is now overused to the point where I'm not even sure anybody knows what it means. And worse, to many people, the word vulnerable is equated with weakness. That's right. My friend, I love this.

She doesn't use the word vulnerable. For all the reasons, she hates the word. She uses the word available, which I've really taken to, which is make yourself available, right? Like, make yourself available. Show people that you're available to talk about your mistakes, that you're available emotionally, that you're available, you know, to show your humility. And the courage it takes to be available, to make yourself available, because to be unavailable is nothing but. walls and smoke screens. Okay, so let's talk about something that's adjacent to that. Like, people always say, the thing I like about Rob is he doesn't take himself seriously.

I hate that as much as I hate the vulnerable thing, because I do take myself. If I'm not going to take myself seriously, who the fuck is going to take it? You're not a caricature. No, but you know what I mean, but they use it all the time, but what they're saying is I'm willing to discuss and not hide my flaws yeah i hate the phrase he doesn't take himself seriously yeah to the contrary bro take it was really i mean i've worked on myself i i i'm not running nilly willy around the fucking world but but the notion of self being self deprecating let's talk about that too because again if you watch all all that my heroes would go on talk shows and be so funny about themselves

Bert Reynolds fucking Kennedy's press you ever see John Kennedy's press conferences oh they're amazing they're like one man shows he gets up there

and he's making he's taking the pit like the English would say taking the piss out of himself that to me is so much more attractive than someone is trying to show you how cool they are

all the time and I think it's relatable I mean because we're all bundled it's much more relatable when people are deprecating or at least willing to point out their flaws because we're all bundles of insecurity. We're all imperfect. And when somebody presents themselves as perfect, it actually makes them

very difficult to relate to. Yes. You know, where when somebody shows us... Well, because we also know we also know it's not true. Going back to, yeah, so you know it's not authentic. Yeah. You immediately know, well, they're not authentic. Okay. So going back to what it takes to be authentic. So being authentic means willing to make yourself available, willing to show who the real you is. And that means talking about mistakes, fears, anxieties. I mean, you, and I think having a healthy sense of humor about oneself is a sign of great self-confidence, not the opposite. Remember, we all went to school with the kid who could dish it out but couldn't take it.

Yes. And I have great respect for the kids who can dish it out and who can take it. Same. Right? And that's right. When you see, I'm just thinking of some like Peyton Manning. Yeah. Or you see these athletes, you see certain athletes who get into a broadcast.

booth and they're just kind of because they're they're scared and they're trying to be perfect and they have an image to maintain and whatever and then you get a guy like Peyton manning you just like making fun of his forehead making fun of himself and like as well I wasn't exactly the most nimble guy in the pocket but this guy over here like that's you we love that we love that kind of stuff and I think that the great entertainers and the great public figures always knew that And my guess is that's something that everybody could could learn from a little bit. Is there a line, though, because we live in a world where authenticity, and now I'm putting it in their quotes, is performative, right? Where there's some social media influencer or just somebody on social media.

Oh, yeah, the fake man of the people stuff. Not just fake man of the people, but like, but just the like, how many takes do I take talking about how I'm struggling with my. dot, dot, dot, dot, you know? Yep. And it's like, like, where, how do we? By the way, if I were, if I were running straight, inauthentic man of the people game on you, which is the thing, I would have showed up not only without the makeup and hair people, but I would have showed up making sure you are very well aware that I'm, I'm such,

dude, I'm just a regular guy, man. I'm, I'm a man of the people, dude. I'm, I didn't, I'm not even sure I brushed my teeth today. I could have run that one on you. Yeah. It's all, it's complete bullshit. Yeah. It's just a different type of bullshit.

Yeah. Has social media kind of lost the plot? Is it just become our new entertainment? Is it just the new theater? Where it started off as people telling their real stories. And now it's people telling the real stories, ish, but it's scripted, it's lit, it's angled, it's, you know, I know where to put the, is it like, everybody, like, everybody knows what their angles are. Everybody knows to lift the camera.

a little high. Everybody knows to put the light behind the photographer. Like, everybody knows the basics. Some people know more than the basics. My favorite is watching people pose for selfies on the street. And like every single person now knows what only we used to know. Right. You know, like the Olson twins when they, you know what they did famously, they created the prune. Do you know what prune? Men don't have to do it, but gals, if you get your picture taken and you see, people say say cheese. I don't get that. Never meant. He, that doesn't, but if you go prune, you see prune, you get, you get cheekbones, the perfect. You get trot pout and cheekbones.

See, the fact that I know this and I'm willing to share it openly, you're like the magician revealing the secrets. Well, I have, I have, I have, I, and you know what I have red carpet looks. I've got man of the people. I've got blue steel and I've got iconic. You have names for them. Yeah. Can you? Right now. Yeah.

Man of the people, please. man of the people's when you see like tom cruise at the rope at the line like reaching out to sign thousands of autograph that's he's doing man of the people okay and then and then and then and then blue steel is like is red carpet you got your angles you're doing your angles step and repeat yeah you're you've got rob over here rob over here it's that one you want to show the watch that they've lent you yeah and you know you need to show that because otherwise you're not getting a watchline. So the question is, how do you get your hand up here?

So it has to be you're caught mid, mid move like this. That's a good, that's, that's, that's iconic. Yeah. Also looking up and off is always, the presidential photographs are always hopefully looking off to the horizon, but the horizon's not down here. Horizon's up there. So you're looking up to the horizon. And so yeah, those are the three.

The best is I told Chris Pratt that with mutual friends who, And early on when he was just becoming a movie star, he literally called me, he calls me a rollo. Rolo, I'm in the car. I'm on the way of the car. What are the three? What are the three again? Man of the people. I kind of, and what's the other?

I go blues here. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, thanks, Rolo. But this is the point, which is you understand it's an industry, it's a game. It's a game. There's a goof. There's a role to play. Yes.

And if you play a role with a nudge and a wink, this is the secret to longevity, which is take it seriously, you take it seriously, but not, but not too seriously. Well, you know, it's not self-important. It's not self-important. And the other thing is, like, I see, there's another, there's another thing that actors do where they go, they want you to think like, you know, I didn't do up this tie because, you know, I'm, I'm above all this. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

You know, this, this premiere that I've flown to France to do. Yeah. And this tucks. Yeah. That I've either bought or I'm rented or had fitted. Yeah. but I'm above all I'm kind of above it

and you can tell you know why because my ties lose see just so you know it's all bullshit it's more bullshit than doing your fucking tie-up you you are going back to that tennis now everybody is out there Googling I'm going to get a phone call from

Joaquin Phoenix immediately that tennis analogy is premier bro you know you're there you know you're there I know you're there everybody knows you're there you don't mind pissing people off

you don't mind pissing people off or do they or do they just know that you're having fun they have to listen if somebody if the shoe were on the other foot I'd be like I fucking love dude I if you're just making being made fun of your relevant

bro I'm watching family because we can't make fun of Lily and Gish just dead can't make fun of dead people okay fine bad example okay so I'm trying to okay I don't got a surface so I'm watching Family Guy with my boys

they're probably 10 and 11 Dad you got to watch family guy you got a family guy funny show ever I watch it's not the first episode I watch but it's funny it's really funny show

and I'm watching it and then there's an episode where Stewie the crazy little baby goes to Hollywood and he's in a makeup chair and this flamboyant man is doing his makeup

and the scene begins with Stewie going oh please just let me do one more can I do one more? And then make a guy goes, of course, you can do one more. And he goes, Roblo.

And he goes, straight. And she goes, no. I never would have known it to look at him. And I thought it was the great, it's amazing. And I called Seth McFarland. And I go, dude, that's the funny. And we became friends. And I've done a bunch of family guys.

And we've worked together a bunch. But he's gotten a lot of phone calls that were, how dare you how dare you how dare you but to be made fun of means you're you're relevant you're in the zeit guys because nobody makes fun of people unless they're you're making fun of the has-beenness of them you know yeah i'm not taking which is which is which is mean spirit i can take a fake-ass shot at wakene phoenix because he's one of my favorite actors right so my favorite actors is one of the greatest actors we ever had right he can still do his tie up but he's great actor yeah if you weren't in show business what would you be doing i may not be in show business after this interview

that's that's true you didn't go to college you do you like that could not be more clear he clearly did not go to college no no you yeah he didn't oh oh yeah but the the the i don't mean it in a in a mean way no i know i mean just like i'm like serious like you have been an actor your whole life like what else could you do nothing nothing like if this doesn't work out oh bro i can't change a light bulb if this doesn't work out this is it for me my dad used to say when I was 12

he used to say tons of supportive shit like this you either better grow up to be a movie star or a prince and royal family wasn't available oh I tried go on princess Stephanie I dated her for like five years five months whatever felt like five years I tried

I was like You tried Prince I'm not cut out for it I would have liked the diplomatic community that would have been great to have the pouch that you can put shit in

all over the work and park wherever you want just like in a red light get out no bill for it what was it a lot of long late dinners with people

that you don't want to be with and nobody works but you have long late dinners with people who don't be with Is there anybody else I can trash in this podcast? I mean, this is the episode we can call it, the one where Rob Blow trashes everybody

whoever, yeah. Am I trashing? No, you're not. We're having fun. Okay. And we're pointing, we're doing authenticity. We're doing authenticity. We're pointing out the obvious.

We're pointing out the things that everybody already knows. That's the thing. I think that's what authenticity is, right? Yes. Which is like, why are you presenting to be perfect? We all know you're not. Yes. Like we, because we're not.

Like, we all know, we all know that every. everybody else tied the tie for their tuxedo, we all know that you didn't. Like, it's a, like either a stylist told you that would look cool, you decided it would look cool, or it's an affectation. Or maybe it's really your personality and you don't want to be at the thing

and you're begrudgingly there. Which is a thing. I get that. You know? And all you want to be as an actor, but your contract says you've got to go and that's real for people. You've got to go do the press. I have respect and empathy for that. There's a lot of actors who They've begrudgingly go on the talk shows.

I have total respect and empathy for people who are not. They're not marketers. And they're not comfortable in that lane. And I understand that. I really, really do. But I also understand it's a part of the job. So for me, it's way, like meeting people on the street. I love people.

I love meeting them. I love talking to them. It's way easier for me to take a picture, to say hello, then to say I'm sorry I don't take pictures yes I've seen people do that to kids in a wheelchair yeah I've seen it with my own eyes and when I go

what's that about they say if I make an exception here I have to make an exception for everybody and I've just made a rule I am not taking pictures with people I'll say hello to them I have a conversation with them and like at the end of the day

take the fucking picture and move on do you want to hear the best story I heard I just heard this last night so Paul McCartney arguably one of the most famous people in the world right no one's Beatles proof as he said it's amazing that's what he said yeah no one's Beatles proof

and people come up to him they muster up the courage to come up to him and back in the day before there were cell phones you know can I take a picture with you can I take a picture of you and he would always say the same thing I'm terribly sorry I'm happy to talk to you I'm happy to chat but I don't take pictures

if they take one it'll it'll be madness It'll be a feeding friend. Yes. And totally understand that. Right. And he just, as a rule, Paul McCartney doesn't take pictures. September 11th happens. And he's down there and there's some firemen.

And he goes down to them and says, thank you to them. And they say, can we have a picture? And he says, of course. Right. And there's a restaurant that wanted his picture and he, they, he wouldn't take a picture. But he gave them the picture of him with the fireman, right? He's at the restaurant and somebody comes over to him. the timet says, Mr. McCartney, it's my wife's birthday.

All she would love, she's a huge fan. Please, can she have his, her picture with you? You know? He goes, I'm sorry, I don't take pictures. He goes, but your picture is there. That's with fireman. I took that with fireman, but I'm sorry, I don't take pictures. I'm terribly sorry.

I appreciate you asking, but I'm sorry, I don't take pictures. Paul McCartney gets up to walk out of the restaurant, walks over the table, and sings her happy birthday. Okay? That is better. that is better than a picture that is a story that's amazing there's something about a photo it's irrefutable evidence that you can share with everybody of the mole i get why people want photos no no i have photos like i don't get starstruck with many people but there are some that i really and by the way i did

one with paul the last time i saw paul was at his the last concert and he just showed up to the vi i said I said, please, and it's in my last book. It's a picture of me standing there. And he's got the look of like, get it over with, but I made it. But it's your picture. You know what? And here's the thing is.

Because you have to. And these guys, nothing is. But there's a level of celebrity that is, it's otherworldly of which he is one of that. Yeah, the other one was Redford I did it with. Yeah. Where I was like, I just, I don't give a shit. I'm taking itself with it.

But I think it's fun when celebrities are starstruck by celebrities. Yes. It's like, we are the world. They're all like, what? Like, they're all looking around. My favorite documentary is an amazing documentary. Why was Dan Aykroyd there? That's what I say.

I could have been there. I was, I'm going to go, I'm sorry, it's 1985. Yeah, you were, you were, hello? I know. The fuck. It really made me request, like, really. And we know you can sing. And we know I can fake sing.

Yeah. And there's no bigger Springs team. I was in the cut. I was like, but then again, Madonna wasn't there either. Were you, were you in, were you at the Emmys? Because they. That was the American Music Award. Oh, was the American, okay.

So, because they were all there because... Dan Aykroyd wasn't at the American Music Awards. I still don't know why... Was he supplying the drugs? It never, they never touched upon it in the documentary why Dan Aykroyd was there. No. Does Dan Aykroyd know why Dan Aykroyd was there? Maybe it's a blue...

He does have Blues Brothers. That's a real thing. And he can sing. He's the Blues Brothers. There's a real, like, sold-out arenas. That's true. Okay. I'll give him that.

Yeah. And it was up the time. I feel better about myself. Okay. Thank you. Yeah, that's right. You didn't have a blues brothers type. film and you weren't selling out arenas for your singing.

I was fake playing the saxophone and San Amos Fire at that very time. Did you at least take some training of where to put your fingers or were you literally just making up or whatever? A little bit of both. A little bit of both. I'm always fascinated how much effort celebrities or actors, not celebrities, actors put in for a part like you have to learn the violin and you can tell if they're getting it, they're just making up.

And now with AI, you don't need to do any of it. It's true. Have you done fighting scenes? Sure, lots of them. Like, are you good, like, how many skills do you have? I have, oh, dude, I... That you never thought you would have. Can I tell you?

Can you sword fight? Can you shoot a gun? My abilities are literally a mile wide and an inch deep. Like, I've played so many doctors. Like, if you were to, God forbid, have a medical emergency right now, I could, I'm almost certain I could almost save your life. I mean, just before we turned on the cameras, there was some smoke across the street. And you literally said, I've played a fireman, don't worry, it's okay.

It's white smoke. Yeah. I mean, you literally, you literally did the, I played a doctor on TV. And that's the beauty of what I get to do is I learned so much. I have, I have a lot of knowledge. No, actually, I legit want to know. I want to know the skills you have. We know you can act.

We know you can, we know you can play other people. Shoot guns, ride horses. You know, I could put the fucking, I was watching Mission Impossible. Like, oh, they got put the pen in his. long to let the air I in. They did it. I'm like, I've done like rescue people. What skills do you have that are applicable in the outside world that you learn because of a film or a TV show? So riding a horse, got it. You could ride a horse not on screen. Shooting a gun, great. You could shoot, you could, could you pick up a gun, assemble it and shoot it. Yes. Blindfolded.

Okay. That's a skill. I could, um, if you were to tie me up, which I know later, we'll talk later um if you're if you're if you're if you're if you're to if you're to time my hands behind my back and tie my feet and throw me into the deep end of your pool I could survive that's good like a navy seal I played a funny baloney Navy SEALs yeah and they so they so you went through the training for a few days yeah you did a little bit of buds yeah totally so I can do I can do I can do I can do a lot of what's a ring pickup they don't do them anymore they're too violent even for the Navy SEals but they you you would surface in the middle of nowhere and you would tread water and put your arm in a in like a sea thing and then they as zodiac would come ripping down

and would catch you and just flip you up into the that sounds awful is or in the navy seas only do it once what you do in the movie you're doing it 14 times what movie was this that you played a a terrible movie called the finest hour before Chris Pratt cornered the market on right on entertainment military entertainment um I I there were only very few Navy SEAL movies and and like I would go to buds and they'd like, I love your movie. I'm like, it's the only, it's really, there's only been two Navy SEAL movies. It was bad, called the finest hour, bad. But I, but again, the gift of that movie was that I got to learn a lot about that world and make a lot of friends in that world and have a little footprint in that world. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's really

one of the best things about the crazy life, which is you get to meet some amazing, amazing people. Yes. Yeah, for sure. Yeah, who's, who, so Paul McCartney is one of the highlights of your career meeting, Paul McCartney. Carrie Grant, you know, all those, Mick. I mean, you get to meet your heroes. There are very few people that I have an attitude. They always say don't meet your heroes, though.

I would say don't get to know your heroes. Okay. Meeting is one thing. Okay. Like I'm friendly-ish with Bruce, Springsteen. He's my favorite. He's my guy. Right.

And it's gotten, like, I know him enough now. Like, I don't, like, it's like, you just it's you don't even saying it's like it's hard it's hard to like cry when he's singing the river when you're going to go pizza with him later you know what i'm saying it's like gets hard i just i need everybody needs to be a fan of somebody ruins the magic it's like i remember the first time there was this magic trick that i loved super simple card trick that a friend of mine used to do and i begged him to i begged him to teach me so i could do it for other people he said he quizzed me why do you want to learn it i said i want to learn it because i want to give

other people to the feeling that you gave me he's like that's a good reason i'll teach it to you and he taught me the trick and it completely ruined it because it's not magic it's just a trick and now that I knew the trick it I've lost I lost the magic don't lose the magic right and I think this is and I think this is to your point which is you can meet your heroes just don't get to know your heroes because it turns out they're people and and it you said the song loses its magic because you know the person yeah some people can transcend it because all all of something or someone is a magical thing. Yes.

The best. And you never want to lose all because that that's jaded. Yes. Yes. I'm definitely not jaded. I mean, it's weird. I'm cynical, but I'm not jaded. Is that even possible?

No, no, I think so. I think, and it goes right back to where we started, which is you have joy. You have unbridled joy for life. You have unbridled joy for your career, for your craft. You have fun. And you take it seriously. but and think what you teach us and this is what I'm getting from you

and what I'm learning from you just can be very serious about something and have a lot of fun with something simultaneously you can take life very seriously because life is serious and you can have a lot of fun with it and you can have the struggles and you can talk about your fuck-ups

and you can talk about your own demons and you can have fun in all of that as well there's absurdity in all the struggle and there's realness in all the fun like when I talk about drugs and alcohol and there's nothing more serious than that. There's nothing more serious than if you know someone who's suffering,

really suffering with drugs and alcohol. It's as serious as anything out there. And when I talk, share, speak around the country, which I do a lot, they're a big time laughs, big time in that. Because if you can find humor in that, you can find humor at anything. And there are plenty of people who can,

talk very movingly and and you get a lot from it and you're crying the whole time that's not why I got put here I got put here for to to inject a different thing into the conversation and and it's taken me a lot of years to to learn it and to learn that like to the extent that anybody has a secret sauce I think maybe that's that's mine. Stephen Colbert says, you know, you can't, you can't be angry or sad when you're laughing. I mean, literally, you know, the most difficult times where we're struggling or in sad, if somebody can make a joke, like humor matters, it's a salve, you know, it's a balm, you know, like, and you can't be angry and you can't be sad when you're laughing.

I remember we talked to, it's so weird that my grandmother keeps coming up in our talks, But when you were on my podcast, we talked about my grandmother. And I'm just remembering when she passed away, I was blessed to be at her bedside. And when she finally passed away, there's that moment like, oh, now what happens? And a new nurse came in and looked at me. And literally, over my grandmother's not even still warm body, produced a pen and paper. I said, could I get your autograph? She's handing it over my dead grandmother's body.

And I remember going, yeah, I don't sign in pen. What are you going to do, right? You can get angry, but you have to see the, but this is the point. This is one of the things that I really, I really appreciate about you, which is you see the absurdity of life and the joy of life woven in. It's part of it, right? Like, it's all woven. It's a tapestry.

And it's all for fun. And I think this is what authenticity is. And I think the reason you don't get in trouble when you say some of the things you do is because people know it's just, it's life. And you're just pointing at it. I'm never saying anything it isn't. I mean, like anybody,

I'm capable of saying things that aren't true. I'm capable of lying. All the things that human beings do because we're flawed. But when I'm doing that thing, it's, I'm, everybody knows that. You just having fun. When they know that I'm right.

But the other thing that about longevity and like, you know, I did television when movie people didn't do television, like I host a game show. That would be career death. Like, and I'm sure there are probably some actors. I don't think Daniel Day Lewis is looking to do a game show. Well, but what I, when they came to me with it, the reason I did it was I had just come off of doing a one-man show, being in front of a live audience with stakes, like actual, it's live to tape, there's no second tape, there's a hundred regular folks that you have to interact, or you don't know what they're going to say, you know what, it's a free shot on goal all the time, there's money at stake that changes people's lives. and you're the quarterback going do we need to be funny now do we need to be to embrace the drama oh do i do have to reset how much money we played and it's all happening all at once live in this

enormous set and it is so exciting it's so exciting and it's not at all what i thought it would be and yet it's more than i thought it would be and it's it's an error it's a part of entertainment that I'd never been in. But this is, this is, so we talked about this. So you were a movie actor where it was career death to do TV, you did TV. You're a movie and TV actor where it's considered sort of career death to now do a game show. What is the reason you take these pretty extreme pivots where the common sense of the industry is you probably shouldn't try that? Like what is the appeal of doing something so out of, you know, sort of off the game plan of the career?

Well, I like to think that I, because I can smell bullshit a mile away, I can, and I hate artifice and pretension. So if you take those things out, then all of a sudden you're not judging a game show negatively. and I know what it means to people. Like, people watch the floor in a way that they don't watch anything else I've ever done. I have eight-year-olds watching with their parents. I love that. That does not happen.

They're not all getting together to watch euphoria. Right. Right. They're not. And the parents aren't there watching the summer I got pretty or whatever the fuck. We live in a world in which everybody goes to their separate room to watch their TV shows. And rare are the shows that a family comes together

and sits on a couch and watches together. And when I get that, and I get it all the time, that means a lot to me. Rob Lo, you are uniting families. I'm bringing back the family. You're bringing back the family. One quiz show at a time. One quiz show at a time. Doing the Lord's work.

That's right. Of all the characters you've played, who's your dream intern? Who's your CEO and who's getting fired? Oh, wow. Dream intern? Chris Traeger, Parks and Recreation. Who's your CEO? I'm going with Sam Seabor.

He was running the White House, effectively. Who's getting fired? Oh, 100% my character I played in Californication. Eddie Nero. He's getting fired. He's going to HR immediately. You've worked with your son. What's one piece of advice you'd give someone about working with family?

Do it whenever you can. It's the greatest gift. The shorthand, the pride. Is it strange playing a character with your son playing a character? Yes. Because, I mean. Yes, very much so. And then you can't help yourself.

And also just accept the fact that you lean into the fact that you're still dad. Like his thing is he calls, he, we'd never call me dad on the set. It was always Rob, Rob, Rob, Rob, Rob, Rob. As if I was, as if everybody didn't know. I want to go, hey, they know. Right. But we would be in a scene and I would just be. thinking, I don't like his hair like that.

He needs a haircut. Do you have any like... Can help yourself? Yeah, I can't help myself. Or like, I'd be like, I think he needs to engage his core the way he's standing here. So, and then we ended up writing that into the show. Unstable, still streaming on Netflix.

Two seasons available. Anything that you've learned, career or personal that just help you get through the day make life a little easier? Mm. Hmm. Live in gratitude, manage expectations.

Yours or other peoples? Mine. Rob, such a joy. So fun. You're so fun. Thanks for coming on. I appreciate it. That was great. Thank you. A bit of optimism is brought to you by the Optimism Company

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