A Bit of Optimism - The Smartest Way To Be Stupid with comedian Matthew Broussard
Episode Date: November 11, 2025If you feel stupid while learning something new, you’re doing it right. But if you keep doing the same thing over and over hoping it’ll suddenly make sense - that’s on you. The trick isn’t to ...push harder; it’s to find a new teacher, a new explanation, a new way in.That’s exactly how Matthew Broussard approaches comedy - and everything else. A stand-up comedian, math nerd, and former financial analyst, Matthew is obsessed with learning and cracking the formula behind how things work. He treats every joke like an equation, testing, refining, and solving for laughter.He’s the creator of Monday Punday, a puzzle webcomic and app, and has been featured on The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon, Conan and Comedy Central’s Roast Battle. He’s also made appearances on The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel and The Mindy Project. His storytelling, including his viral tales about his mother-in-law, proves that logic and vulnerability can live in the same sentence.In this episode, we explore the overlap between comedy and leadership—the art of experimenting, iterating, and connecting through honesty. We talk about the hidden work beneath success, the difference between purpose and perfection, and why laughter might just be the purest form of optimism.This is A Bit of Optimism.---------------------------This episode is brought to you by the Porsche USA Macan---------------------------Check out Matthew’s Youtube page for his full comedy special “Hyperbolic”: https://www.youtube.com/@mondaypunday---------------------------
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My love for math and my love for comedy and science, I don't think they're separate entities.
I was not an artist by training.
I think an artist creates things whose value is measured subjectively.
Stand-up comedy specifically sits at an odd intersection in that you could almost not qualify
as art because every decision I make is focused grouped in real time.
It's empirical.
It's extremely empirical.
I think that was my draw to it.
And instant results.
Instantly.
Like math.
The solution is revealed in that most.
And comedy, the solution is revealed in that moment.
Hypothesis, conclusion, in a heartbeat.
In a heartbeat.
In a heartbeat.
I was surprised when I invited a comedian on the show
that we would spend so much time talking about math.
But it's to be expected.
Matthew Broussard is a former financial analyst who, let's just say,
got forced into stand-up comedy.
I found his work on Instagram a whole bunch of years ago and am a huge fan.
He's also the creator of Monday Punday,
the official name of his channel.
name of his channel that is chock full of comedy and, thank goodness, not much math.
This nerd at heart taught me an invaluable life lesson.
At various times, we all feel stupid, which very often results in us actually believing
we're stupid.
I, for one, always thought that I was bad at math.
But as Matthew explained it to me, I'm not stupid.
I was just taught badly.
In this episode, we talk about curiosity, finding good teachers, and mothers.
This is a bit of optimism.
This episode is brought to you by Porsche and their new Macon.
And when they reached out to us and asked if I would be comfortable to talk about the new Porsche
McCann, well, let's just say I already owned one.
That's actually my car.
So the simple answer was yes.
So I discovered you on the Instagram.
Because comedians pop up in my feed, apparently.
The algorithm knows I like funny things.
And so you were randomly thrust into my day.
And I went down the Matthew Broussard rabbit hole.
Like you like one and all of a sudden...
I'm in your face.
An hour later, I'm like, shit, I should start work.
You are exceptionally smart.
Thank you. I appreciate it.
I have to imagine that somebody has said to you at some point,
you're too smart to be a comedian.
What are you doing with your life?
my parents have definitely said that i was i've i've yeah my my parents didn't want me to pursue
comedy i was told from a very young age that i had above average math skills specifically
and that was a very employable skill to have and that that skill was luckily fostered quite
strongly and I was able to learn. I was also very curious. I was pretty self-motivated with it.
I went to college for it. And it really wasn't until I tried an open mic that I even conceived
of the notion that I could do anything else with my life besides use math. Math to make money.
Because you talk about math principles in your comedy sometimes. So we know that you know
math. You also seem to like science and you have an exceptional grasp of other things. I guess it's
part of memory, you just, I mean, I mean, we were having coffee before, you know, before when
you arrived, and we're talking about the oxidization of coffee in a metal container. I mean,
the fact that we're having this conversation is ridiculous, you know? Yeah. And it went beyond
tastes better, not in metal. You know, like, the point is, is I'm so curious how
you picked the path of greater risk. More joy, perhaps. That's a question, I guess. Yes.
thank you like is this a conversation about do the thing you have aptitude for versus follow your
follow your dreams and follow your passions i so i was i think more pragmatic about it than most
i had my first job out of college i was working uh as a financial analyst but not not to the
not wall street like easy hours not the craziest pay nine to five i made spreadsheets for the most
part. I didn't feel a sense of pride in what I did. It was it was private wealth management. My job
was to make rich people richer and I didn't have a product they created. So some part of me felt a
little empty doing that. Perhaps if I had been an engineer or a coder and there was an actual
product I was creating. I could have taken more pride in that. But I started doing open mics and
I saw just just for fun. Just for fun. Well, I mean, I thought wouldn't it be cool to do this
full time, but I knew the odds were very low. And I said, let's try it. And the information was
muddled at first, but there was an overall positive trend that I might have been towards the
higher end of aptitude for a beginner. And I told myself, just keep noting where you stand
against the ranks and how that extrapolates towards a career in this. But hold on for dear life
to the career path you've worked very hard to have because I was still young, but stepping away from
that could hurt and I mean I could never potentially get back to the same right level that I was
on on track for so you were parallel pathing it until one much as I could until one path revealed that
this is a risk worth taking yes well what actually happened was comedy cost me my job in finance so I was
kind of burning the candle at both ends and oh uh through uh some mistakes on my parts and
comedy happens late at night if you're an open mic guy yes and in California and trying to trying to
do more and more. And it was because comedy was going fairly well that I was trying to move and
trying to do more than I should have been doing. I ended up fairly losing my job. And that was the
worst day of my life. I think it was October 4th, 2013. I was in California. I didn't have a place
to live. I was saying with a friend, everything I was in my car and had to figure out like what I was
going to do. And I said, well, this is, you know, my bank account is now my shot clock. So let's
really go for it. And honestly, not that harrowing. Things kind of worked out within like two
months. I started booking college gigs. I'm always fascinated by people who, I mean, show business
is a hard business. And I'm curious if the internet has made it easier or harder for you, because
yes, exposure is easier. I mean, case in point, here we are because of the interwebs, because of
social media, but at the same time, there is so much. There's so many open mic night,
you know, little, some talent too. There's some talented people, but there's, so
is it better, or worse, or just different challenges? There's a lot to it's unpacked. Their
comedy is, stand-up comedy is the beauty of it is there's low barrier to entry. The horror of it
is there's low barrier to entry. Right. Meaning you are fighting through
swarms of people. An actor at least goes through acting school and has some audition process.
Hopefully, musicians have to have the aptitude to play an instrument or sing.
Anyone can do it. And now anyone can post it online.
Comedy is like anyone can stand on the stage and perform.
Yes. And there's also no training for comedy besides getting on stage and performing.
There's no school or class you can go to. You have to be good. You have to be on stage a lot.
But to be on stage a lot, you have to be good. So it's a very difficult track to get started in.
The internet, though, the interesting thing with the internet was I was very fortunate in the early days of my stand-up.
I was favored by the industry, Comedy Central, Conan.
I got put on a lot of shows, which was nice.
It didn't translate into having a fan base.
Those are the waning days of media, not for me at least.
Some luck, some recognition, but I wasn't selling a ton of tickets off of that.
Social media wasn't the way comedians were exposed back then.
And then the pandemic hit, and then that was really the end of that.
Those things don't make stars anymore.
I've never been on Netflix.
That might be a route, but even that's becoming less of a sure thing.
Things changed for me on the business end when during the pandemic, I realized Comedy Central was asleep at the wheel in terms of copyright issues.
So I went back.
I took my half hour.
I took my cone and set.
I took every set I did on television.
You pulled that footage off of YouTube and started cutting it up into Instagram reels
and TikToks, and that's when people started knowing my comedy and sharing my comedy and
recognizing me. So it was an interesting lesson. And rather than feeling defeated by this,
looking at it as an opportunity to use that footage to, you know, I believed in this thing
I'd already done. And then I thought maybe if I can just get people to see this, I could start
making an audience for myself. And that, that worked to an extent. To an extent. Why is it
and obviously, that's where the wheat and the chaff separate because you get more likes,
you get more forwards, the algorithm favors you, you'll do better. You'll get a, you'll get a
following. I have a theory, which I'm, that I think comedians make great actors. You know, you look at
people who, with backgrounds and comedy that became great actors, you know, Jim Carrey,
Rob Williams, Robin Williams, Jamie Fox, these are comedians. Michael Keaton. Michael Keaton,
really? Was he really? Was he really? Yes.
Tom Hanks started doing comedy
Not a stand-up
But that was his
So all of these
Especially the ones who did stand-up
Michael Keaton didn't know
Especially ones who do stand-up
I think they have the ability
To become great actors
Because they get
This is my theory
Because
Vulnerability and humiliation
Are something they're attuned to
Like they have been
Every comedian has bombed
Every comedian has been humiliated
Every comedian has stood there
Knowing that it is going
Incredibly badly
And you have to finish your set
and what a great actor has to tap into
is the ability to be that vulnerable
that sort of to persevere
and comedians just have a good training
to be good actors.
Comment.
Can I disagree?
Of course. It's a theory.
It's a great theory.
The theories are to be tested.
I think you're right and the beauty of comedy
is the humiliation, is the vulnerability.
I really don't think great comedy
can last very long.
without that, without that typically yet vulnerability that makes other people feel less
alone. Here's what I think separates stand-up comedy, potentially and potentially why I'm not
as good of an actor because of being a stand-up comedian. If you were giving someone a massage
and they were just completely silent, would you know what you were doing? You might be good
at it. You might not. What if they were telling you that's the spot, go harder there, and even
moaning or going, ow, when you hit bad spots? Which person do you think you would give a better
to the vocal one.
I like, if I can be a bit long-winded here, my love for math and my love for comedy
and science, I don't think they're separate entities.
I was not an artist by training.
I think an artist creates things whose value is measured subjectively.
Stand-up comedy specifically sits at an odd intersection in that you could almost not
qualified as art because every decision I make is focused grouped and
real time. It's empirical. It's extremely empirical. I think that was my draw to it. And instant
instantly. Like math, the solution is revealed in that moment. Yes. And comedy, the solution is
revealed in that moment. Hypothesis, conclusion, in a heartbeat. In a heartbeat. And then you can
iterate endlessly. I didn't, I'll change the same word. Yep. I'll change one word. And I'll try
three different words in the same joke and go, okay, based on a lot of data, noisy data, but data,
I know this word is the funniest and that's not the whole process obviously you have to trust yourself more than that because there's too many variables but that process is really wonderful to me and I think it allows maybe not most artistically inclined people to be somewhat better at stand-up because someone tells you when you're good and bad.
The reason I struggle with acting, especially film acting, is because I don't know what I'm doing well or poorly and when my brain hears silence it panics and thinks it's doing something wrong.
I think theater actors, the other side of that is standard comedians and theater actors
also have had lots of time knowing when they're doing well and knowing when they're doing poorly
and then it starts to become craft.
Yes, and unconscious competence, the highest level of before.
Right.
Yes.
So that's very neat to me.
And just looking at it more of a science and empirical feedback loop.
Little end narcissism, not big end narcissism, but there's a little end narcissism to that.
right, which is feed me, feed me, feed me, right?
I think a lot, yeah.
I think a constant need for validation, yeah.
And is that an insecurity or is that, is it a bug or a feature?
Oh, both.
Yeah, I think if I could properly validate myself without external sources,
I don't think I would need to do stand-up comedy.
I think it's a need for validation.
I think it's a whole, and I think it's probably common.
in other entertainers
and potentially even business people?
Would you agree that is something on your side?
Some of them, I think the ones that are more money-driven,
the ones that I've met
that are very, very money-money-driven,
for them, the amount of money that they can achieve
or the stock price they can drive, whatever it is,
is a direct validation that they're good, smart, et cetera,
even though there may or may not be that correlation.
It's the only yardstick they can find.
And it's an empirical yardstick,
and it's a measurable yardstick
it's a yardstick
that they can hold up
to somebody else
and be like
see
right
and somebody goes
I disagree
they're like
but you're wrong
because here's what it says
on the spreadsheet
yes
so
so this plays to the
trope
that comedians are all
a little broken
yes
yeah
I don't I think that's
but broken is maybe
overstating it
overstating it
but but the
but that need
for that need for
that need for external
validation. But who doesn't have that? I guess it's just, is the need for validation higher than the
fear of failure? And I guess for comedians, that's because I think a lot of people, I guess a lot
of people are very afraid of stand-up, but to me, the result was so juicy that it was worth
falling on my face. Right. Right. Yeah. The benefits outray the risks, which is why you do it.
Do you get a rush out of speaking publicly? Is that like, you must enjoy it. I think any, but I think
there's no avoiding the adrenaline standing in front of huge audiences sometimes there's no avoiding
the enjoyment of the adrenaline and I think what separates the good ones from the mediocre ones
is for some that adrenaline translates into fear and anxiety and for the good ones we've learned
to translate the adrenaline into presence and energy and focus and it's all about you so the
adrenaline is my friend yes it makes me better at what I do
but I mean of course of course it feels good nobody can deny that and of course I like it when I get it
the question is do I need it and I don't what is the part of what you do that is the most
satisfying so I am driven the the hard thing for my work is it and when you make the difference
between sort of the the the scientist and the artist you know the empirical versus the
subjective, which is, though I have empirical metrics, you know, I have views of videos and I have
forwards and I have, you know, book sales and those things are indicators to me. But the thing that
drives me is impact. What means the most to me is that I'm undoing everything Jack Welch ever
did. Like, I want to reverse everything that man broke in capitalism. The why? Yeah. Yeah. But like
I have a, I have a, I'm chipping away, you know, and, and, like, the people that drive me
and inspire me, so like, the, all the founding members of the American women's suffrage
movement, all died before the first woman voted. None of them, none of them, none of them,
none of them lived to see a woman vote. What I'm, what, the reason that inspires me is they still
never gave up. It was never in their grasp, yet they continued because their metric was
momentum, not result. They obviously wanted the result. They would have preferred it happened
in their lifetime. Of course, we know all these things. But the ability to measure momentum and
have the peace of mind to know that upon my death, others will take this torch and continue
without me, and that means my work was worth it. That to me is super inspiring. That's very
noble. That's really wonderful. I think my ego is too strong that I need to see it and get credit
for anything I'm a part of. So I'm not a good person. But that's lovely. It's like generational
starships. I read a lot about, like in sci-fi, it's like a common thing in sci-fi, a spaceship will
take off towards whatever other star and the original habitants know they will die before it gets
there. But the children, their children's children might see the new world. Don't get me wrong.
And there's no nobility here.
I like instant gratification.
I like results.
Like, you know, I like all those things.
You know, it's not an either or, it's a both.
And the mindset, the infinite mindset that's required to have that has some very different standards,
which is, I have no choice but to rely on people, need people, trust people.
I have no choice.
I can't be a lone wolf.
It just, then it would never work.
Right.
And so, and again, not better or worse.
And I think the opportunity for all of us is to understand where we're selfishly driven, totally fine, and where we're not.
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hit another car that's how steep this this road is that I'm going up where's my
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This is ridiculous.
I'm just like looking straight down at the ground.
This is so ridiculous.
It's wild.
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It's so wild.
That was incredible.
I'm not going to lie.
I thought the whole thing was a farce and it's not.
Like you said, the grip.
I feel like there's these claws or like a spider,
how it sort of just grabs whatever it can as it's coming up or down.
That's super cool.
You did a great job there.
Oh, thank you very much.
Do you still do math?
Yes.
Like for fun?
I tutor.
Oh.
Which is great.
At what level?
I'm lucky.
There's this volunteer organization I work through.
College.
So I greedily go for kind of the classes at very much the end of my range.
Because those are more fun than going back to the earlier stuff.
But a college, a lot of like engineers, calculus, calculus,
Calc 2, Calc 3, linear algebra.
Wow.
Those are the fun stuff.
I'm trying to do something.
I think it's like maybe like a partial differential equations this semester.
And I'm like really having to catch up between sessions on stuff I didn't learn that well the first time.
It is amazing how opposite we are.
You don't like math?
I don't dislike it.
I don't have an instinct for it.
Like I can, I can, I never, I'm very proud of this actually.
I've managed to go through all of high school and college and never took.
calculus. So I don't know anything about calculus. I don't know what it is. I understand algebra.
I understand geometry. And trigonometry, you start to lose me. Trigonometry sucks. There's some bad
stops along the way. It's like a series. There's going to be episodes that are duds, but you look at it
in its entirety. Calculus I know nothing about. Calculus is a function. The function is you put in X,
you get a Y, right? And you can get a curve with that, right? Yeah. Calculus is just, well, how steep is
that curve. That's it. And what's the practical application of calculus? The steepness of a curve would
represent the, oftentimes the speed. If position, you're looking at position, the steepness is the
speed. So the application is physics and things like that? Physics, a lot of, I mean, physics,
chemistry, a lot of stuff. Finance and then speed and then acceleration, if you take another,
if you go another level deeper, it's acceleration. But if you reverse that process, if you have
the graph of speed, then you take the area underneath it and that gives you the distance. That's
That's basically calculus in a nutshell.
I have to say that's interesting.
Now, I could really, this is what I'm really passionate about.
If I could restart and didn't have to do comedy and wanted to do another dream, it's that
math education is, we're doing it very wrong.
What good mathematicians, I believe, possess is the ability to hold big pictures in their
mind and manipulate them, which is a good gift, and it gives people.
some abilities, but what I think is needed is just making those pictures. Those pictures don't
exist. Those videos don't exist. There's concepts I learned in college that I thought I knew and I went
to the process and I struggled to learn them and I applied them. And then now, 20 years later,
I'll see a 10-second video on YouTube. And I go, that's what that was? That's what was happening?
You never showed me that. You never showed me in three dimensions with colors and moving images
what was happening. And now that I see that, everything I did is unlocked. If you just had those
visuals, not everyone's going to understand math, but if you had the proper, we're teaching math
with a static image drawn on a chalkboard. It should be done by the people at Pixar. It should be
dimensions of time, three dimensions of space. And we're limiting to zero dimensions of time,
two dimensions of space. Here's what I'm taking away from this. This is, and light bulbs are going
off, right? And now I realize we're actually more alike, which is,
What you and I both do is we take complex ideas and we make them that people understand
it either so that you have clarity or you can find the humor in the thing, right?
Because it's the kind of the same thing, right?
Which is you're pointing out the absurdities of life, the absurdities of your mom, and it's
presented in a way, like what makes a great comedian from an okay comedian is that you're
presenting in a way that I can relate to the story, which is why I find it funny.
It's not just the story, right?
It's not just the funny thing that happened.
The telling of it matters.
And math and adjacent subjects have always been, for those who have the math mind, quote unquote.
It never occurred to me that it was just being taught badly.
That if you taught me math the way you tell jokes or the way I explain an idea.
Because people think that I'm joking when I say this,
but I think of myself as an idiot.
And I mean that 100%.
There is not an ironic,
nothing, there's nothing ironic about that,
which is as a kid with ADHD in high school,
I struggle to read, I struggle to study.
I couldn't learn by rote.
And so I still got to pass high school.
So you have two options.
Fail or figure it out.
So what I learned to do,
was be really good at asking questions,
get really good at listening.
I had to attend class.
I couldn't cut school because if I cut...
And when I was in college,
I had to choose professors
who were good at explaining
because I could never rely on the book
to catch up.
Yeah.
Right?
And that skill of learning to survive
and turn my ADHD into an advantage
rather than a deficit
gave me this capacity in the future,
which is when I hear complex things
that people are trying to explain to me,
I have no fear. I can't have any fear. It's a survival thing. It's not a courage thing. I have no fear to say, I don't understand. Can you explain it differently? And then they'll try again. I'll say, is this what you're trying to say? And I'll say it in simple terms that I can understand. Yeah. And I go backwards and forwards and backwards and forwards until I be like, and I'm drawing little pictures and using metaphors and analogies simply because my little brain is trying to understand this complex thing that you're trying to explain to me. And eventually I understand it because I've boiled it down to something very, very simple.
So simple that not only do I understand it, but I can then tell somebody else, and then they go, got it.
And I get all the credit, which is not fair, for being the explicit, but I was just trying to understand the complex thing in the first place.
And where it fails is when the person is trying to explain it to me and they can't, then I can't understand it because I don't have that analytical kind of mind that just understands sort of math and equations.
No, no. People don't understand it quickly. This is, I think, the great myth of people who...
No, no, people do.
People can do math in their heads very easily.
No, no.
I, like, this was said by someone else.
I think it was said by Matt Parker of stand-up math.
But he said that we all, anyone who studies math is constantly bombarded by frustration,
but you embrace the frustration, you know that you're going to feel pain and you're going to feel anger.
And then in one moment, all of those negative feelings are going to snap to positive feelings.
And that's the moment of understanding.
and what people who pursue any kind of field of study
know is that you have to look it in the face and not back down.
That's the moment where...
Where can you adjust?
So, like, when I look at financial information, like, for the company, right?
I always ask the finance person, show me a chart and a graph.
Like, show me, I want to see the visual.
I want to see the trend.
I want to see the profit and loss done in pretty pictures
because then I can understand it.
when you just show me huge spreadsheets of number,
I just gloss over.
Sure.
I struggle.
But some people, like, they look at those huge spreadsheets,
and they're like, ah, you're one of those people.
No, I mean, well, the analog for me would be,
I'm constantly trying to learn new things in math,
and the first read will always make, I'll feel like an idiot.
But I know, like, you should feel stupid.
Feeling stupid is part of it.
And admit that you're stupid.
Admit you don't know.
And I will look at one thing reading, go,
I don't like that.
And I'll look up seven different ways of explaining it.
Until the seventh one, I'm like, this time I get it.
And I'll also have to read it over and over again.
I don't think that it's necessarily some people just inherently get it.
They're just willing to admit they're stupid.
And like you're saying, I love it, keep simplifying it until there's one aspect of it you get.
And then what's the next thing you can add to that?
What you just said was absolute genius.
No, no, no, no.
Give me too much.
No, no, no, no.
What you just said was absolute genius, which is a profound, like, which is what we do when we feel stupid is we, is we
watch or read the same thing over and over and over again to try to understand it each time
blaming ourselves for being stupid. What you're saying is, and this is the genius, show me
seven different ways to explain it until I understand it, right? Which is whether it's a leadership
concept or a financial concept or a scientific concept or any kind of concept that you're
struggling with, it's okay to feel stupid, it's okay to maybe reread it once or twice, but
then go seek out. And this is where the internet is the greatest gift.
It's wonderful.
Which is you can go down a YouTube rabbit hole and have, and you can start, you can hit play and be like, eh, yeah, and you can play until somebody, somebody, it makes sense to you.
And then you'll understand this difficult concept.
And by feeling a little less stupid in that moment from that explanation, A, you're learning how you learn.
But B, now you have the grit because you're not, you're not blaming.
The patience and the humility.
Because here's what we're doing, right?
I feel stupid.
It becomes a, it becomes a story to ourselves.
I am stupid
and then you just
I don't do math
I don't understand math
I'm no good at math
what the story should be
is I have yet to find somebody
who can explain math
in a way to me
that I can understand it
that is the correct mindset
plus some patience
plus rereading it
I like
people thought that we were going to be funny
the the
we have Matthew Brousard
and we're going to talk about learning
but no but this is
I never want anybody
to feel dumb again.
This is going to be my mantra.
I'm going to say...
Or we're all dumb.
We all feel dumb all the time.
But the mantra is
don't blame yourself,
blame the way you're being taught.
Yes.
And have patience with those teaching.
And then you're talking about communication.
There's two...
Learning takes someone
who's patient enough to learn
and somebody who's patient enough to teach.
And again, I'm very familiar with concepts
can you tell me a different way?
Can you tell me a different way?
Can you tell me a different way?
Because what might unlock it for me?
might not for another person.
I've been doing something lately that's been
something I didn't do in college.
I'm sorry, the internet comment.
I think about that so often of when I was in college
and I was trying to understand a concept
and one of my harder classes.
Singular value decomposition, let's say that one,
because it sounds smart.
The only thing I could do was go to Wikipedia
and read the page for it.
You know who wrote that page?
My professor.
My professors in college wrote all the Wikipedia pages
for the concepts we were learning
because it wasn't widely shared
knowledge at that point. Now if I wanted to understand that, there's seven YouTube videos I could
watch. And perhaps the fifth one is when I really get it, because they did a good job with the
visuals. I've also been reading math textbooks just to learn things I've always wanted to learn
at a snail's pace, but something I didn't realize was I thought I was just not good at reading
math textbooks because I'll read one page, think I get it, and the second page, my brain goes
to mush. Like the endurance over two pages, it's like when you're bad at swimming and you try to
swim you get across the pool you're like that was easy and then you can't make it to the next wall
and then I talked to someone who is a math PhD they go that's how it is one page a day is a great rate
it's just that hard wow and and the people who accomplish it forget how hard it was or want you to
think they're smart and it's that hard for everyone I feel that way about comedy every every
line I have that makes the crowd laugh feels like a miracle and it's like I think how rarely
I write two jokes in the same day yeah like every every punchline you're
hear is one day of my life, and that was the accomplishment for that day. Even if it's just
like three words, they get like a chuckle. It's such a, it's, what's, what's, who's famous
line, if you saw the work put into it, it would not be impressive at all. Yeah, yeah. I think for me,
maybe for other standups, maybe not, it's just not an easy process. It's laborious, but that's
what it takes to make something that's, uh, engaging. And I, I imagine you feel the same way about
your work. It's just, uh, it's not easy. It's, it's, it's, my process is, it's, it's, my process is
a little different. I'm curious, are you good at crowd work? Like, no. Okay. No, I need to learn how to listen
better. I think that's the problem. Okay. Because the people who are good at crowd work when they're good at it,
it's a thing to behold. It's cool. It's a thing to behold. They have, it's, that's, that's like a
real zen state. You have to be calm. You have to make the crowd feel like they're okay. You have
to take what they're saying, know when to ask another question or know when you have enough stuff
to put together and when to have emotional responses, when to try to be clever, when to just
try to repeat back what's happening. I would love to be better at it. One thing that I love
about your work is, first of all, super vulnerable. Like, you share things. I don't know if they're
jokes or if they're true, because I know there's some truth, but I also know that, you know, when you
get on a good idea, you can play with it. But I just watched a bit about your inability to please
your wife. That is 100% true.
I mean, like, does she want that out there?
I understand that you don't mind.
I understand that you don't mind having it out there.
There's two players in this game.
She was a very good sport about that.
For a while, I was like, can we talk about this?
She was like, oh, that's a lot.
And then I think at one point she was just like, you know what?
It's a good thing to share with people who feel the same way,
both men and women who struggle with that.
And it might make people feel more comfortable about themselves
and more comfortable in the relationship,
so it's a good thing to share with people.
Yeah.
I love vulnerable.
I love, to me, it's my favorite part about comedy is when you can share something
that you're embarrassed by, and now instead of being embarrassed by it, you feel a sense
of community with other people who feel that.
Or you, you've, even if that doesn't work, then you've made people who don't have that
vulnerability feel better about themselves for not having it.
Right, right.
So everyone wins.
But it is, it is the quintessential court jest, court jester, right, which is, I'm going to say
the thing that everybody's thinking, but I'm going to make it okay.
I'm going to make it okay.
Make people feel less alone.
I have to believe that a lot of your bits started conversations that were for good.
And it's only because your work, I'm astonished how often you are so vulnerable,
whether it's about yourself, your upbringing, even talking about, you know,
racism in some of, and hot topics, you'll go there.
And I just find it very impressive.
I've so enjoyed, and I kind of remember how long ago it was when I first discovered your work.
But I, I, I, your work is getting, for whatever it's worth.
It's getting better and better and better.
Thank you.
I really appreciate that.
Yeah.
Thank you.
That's very kind.
Was that always, were you always that kid that didn't mind being embarrassed?
That didn't mind being embarrassed.
So how did you learn it?
Kind of through stand-up.
Early on in stand-up, I was just trying.
When I started, I wanted to be brash and offensive because I thought that was cool.
Andrew Dice Clay style.
Yeah.
And I kind of realized later that was more, that was not me being tough and edgy.
That was me actually being weak and insecure, needing to put others down.
to feel some sense of superiority.
Did it get laughs?
Sometimes, sometimes, in front of other people
who liked that.
Of all people, James Comey's memoir was,
it really shaped me.
There was one chapter.
I can't imagine a less funny person
than former FBI director James Comey,
but he had, I think it goes to speak of how not funny
people can sometimes have the best observations about comedy.
He had a whole chapter talking about the sense of humor of the three presidents he worked
under, which is Bush, Bush, Jr., Obama, and Trump.
And he said, all three were notably funny guys, very funny people.
Bush, Jr. and Trump would often make laughter at the expense of others, which did not
equate to good leadership versus Obama would make jokes at the expense of himself.
which would uplift others
and bring out the best in them.
So, sure.
Maybe.
But anyway, moving on.
Moving on.
Ignoring the politics of that.
Ignoring the politics of the comment.
I get it.
The idea that, and that was also, for me,
a great thing of a learning experience in that
if there's going to be a victim to the joke,
why not me?
I'm the consenting party.
Right.
It's fun for everyone.
It's a victimless crime.
Yeah.
And not just victimless.
It helps other people.
I think I somewhat possess a bit of status that a comedian wouldn't typically possess.
You take a picture of a comedian.
You often think of like a dirt bag, someone down and out.
I've had, I think to see me take a tumble is maybe a little more satisfying.
Right.
Because I started falling from a little higher.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So do you remember the first joke, the first risk you took at self-deprecation, this new style?
Do you remember it?
Yeah, I was doing jokes about looking like an 80s villain, and it was getting a laugh.
And then people came up to me after the show, and you get a lot of great feedback from just drunk people.
Not just empirical feedback during the show, but drunk people will come up and just really say blunt things.
And some guy was just like, yeah, you look like a douchebag, and I didn't like you.
And then you started talking about looking like 80s villain.
I'm like, oh, this guy's not bad.
And I'm like, what if we just, what if we, instead of trying to do that with tricks, just say exactly what he's saying?
and I think I was at Sacred Heart College
and I was doing a show and I just said
I look like a douchebag
I'm guessing you already didn't like me
before I started talking
and that was like oh I'm cutting straight
to the chase there
I'm acknowledging what they think of me
before they've even put it together themselves
and now
they're more malleable
because I've kind of
maybe subverted their expectations
and shown awareness
that they're like
you take the reins actually
if you're on top of things
maybe you know what you're doing
we'll let you you've taken yourself down a peg in a way that we find satisfying um yeah keep going
huh and now it's and and does your mom know the way you talk about her yes uh she's uh fortunately
very uh she doesn't mind it she sounds like an absolute caricature
i've i've barely painted the picture with my stand-up of how how well she is i've included
the parts that are uh digestible uh she likes
She doesn't mind anything.
The basic part was the, I don't know if you saw the airport story.
Oh, I saw the airport story.
I can't stress how true that story is.
Do you want to tell the airport story for those who haven't seen it on the YouTube?
I'll give the introduction.
I was dropping her up at the airport and had to shortly thereafter come back and pick her up.
She went to check in.
They were giving her trouble over paperwork for bringing a dog in the plane.
She forgot the word, I swear to God, she forgot the word manager and said,
let me speak to your master and that was that was where the story starts yeah um she
signed off on that i said are you can i talk about that and say she said yeah it's funny
it is funny yeah i'm like you're you sure about that she was like yeah the one thing she doesn't
like is the birthday card which i recommend uh i can't do it here but yeah a birthday card she sent to my
my wife um i i said mom this this note's really funny i'm going to read it on stage she goes
sure no one's going to laugh and then she saw me do it live and people laugh it almost
every sentence as I read it verbatim.
And she goes, why are they laughing?
I don't like this.
What are they laughing at?
I had to explain to her.
I'm like, they're not laughing at you.
They're laughing at the vulnerability at you
saying things we all think, but keep to ourselves.
Yeah.
What's next?
What's the ambition?
I'm not ambitious enough.
Do you have vision or do you just keep doing the thing you love
and it keeps going in the right direction?
I'm not good about all the things you profess,
which I don't have the infinite game.
I just have the next special and wanting to just kind of
branch out a little bit at a time.
Perhaps I'd be farther along if I had a bigger vision.
What do we mean even be farther along?
Like, like, what does that even mean?
Be on TV, be on a TV show and bigger crowds.
Is that a thing? But is that, I mean, it's like, but you don't want to act.
I would love, I love acting.
I just find it challenging.
Okay, okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. I would, my, I mean, my dream was to do stand
up and put out specials. Okay. And I've really accomplished most of that. I could,
there's room, but if I, if I, if I, if I, if me,
when I started, saw where I am now, they'd be like, you're doing it.
I'd love to be on a sitcom.
That's always been my dream.
Okay.
Because those perhaps shaped my life more than stand-up did, and I shouldn't admit that,
but like 30 Rock, Parks and Rec, community, and then cartoons, Futurama, Adventure
Time, those things hold such real estate in my heart.
So to be involved with any of those would be the other, like the other box to check.
And obviously, I want to keep making specials.
That would be really cool to keep putting out long-form stand-up content.
Is stand-up comedy, could you ever walk away from it?
I don't think so.
I really like it.
I really like the feedback from people and getting to go up there and say things and feeling less alone.
I think our phones make us feel very, very isolated.
It's this synthetic connection, these empty calories of human interaction that make us feel more depleted afterwards.
The human-to-human part of it, I'd,
feel starved.
It's kind of a last frontier, right?
I mean, where you can interact with each other.
And when I say into each other, I mean, it's up and down, you know, it's comedian to
audience, but it's also audience to audience.
We laugh next to each other.
We look at each other.
We elbow each other.
We point.
You know, it's a, it's different than theater.
Theater is a very lonely experience because you sit by yourself.
Nobody can see you because you can't see anybody.
You can only see the back of people's heads.
The script is set.
The script is set.
And so it's very.
very different than theater.
And to your point,
which is where we come for entertainment
and we do put our phones away
and we have a couple drinks
and we're forced to have a couple drinks
and forced to order some food.
Because that's the business model.
And it is,
I don't think comedy is going away
and I don't think live comedy is going away.
Yeah, I don't think live anything is going away.
I don't think anything's,
we just don't have the substitute for,
we think that,
because we can look at something
and hear something,
but it's the same of just even being here in person
versus a Zoom, it's just more dimensions.
It is more dimensions.
What's next for you?
How do you look at growth and?
So I, I, and how do you balance growth
with already feeling like you've done enough?
Okay, there's multiple questions there.
I think of my work like an iceberg, right?
So when I was starting,
and I was just an idiot with an idea,
like literally, accomplished nothing.
No books, no TED Talks, no nothing.
Nobody knew who I was.
Nobody knew my ideas.
All I had was a theory of what the world could be like
and what business could be like,
which is basically an iceberg completely submerged.
I'm the only one that can see it.
And like the ability to explain it to a couple of people,
so they go, oh, yeah,
it's kind of like a tiny bit of iceberg sticking up.
And so when people pay me compliments,
what they're looking is what they can see above the ocean.
when I think about what work I have to do
I still can only see what's beneath the ocean
and so no matter what I've done or accomplished
people will say nice things to me
look at all the things you've done
and I'm sort of always a little bit
sort of like taken aback
because I don't think about it
because what I think is like
oh I still have so much to do
you know and it's kind of like
the way you talked about feeling stupid with the math
which is I like learning curves
I like difficult problems
I like problems I struggle to wrap
my head around. I like finding different angles to it. And to me, what the iceberg represents is
I still haven't cracked. I haven't cracked it yet. I've just sort of made some steps towards it.
But for me, it's all about what still lies beneath. And like I said, undoing everything Jack Welch
did, that's a real freaking, that's a job, right? So that's how I think about career and sort of
accomplishment. But I also have a very, very different way of going about
sort of my whole life, every performance review I ever had in every job I ever had,
every single one of them said you're unfocused.
And I believed it because everybody kept telling me, even growing up, studying, you're so unfocused.
And my work is semi-a-biographical.
It's me trying to solve my own problems.
And so the discovery of things like the Y and the discovery of things like the Infinite Game
helped me understand
that I am actually one of the most focused people I know
I'm just focused on a different horizon
than most people.
And so the way I would describe it is
most people are obsessed with the route.
I'm obsessed with the destination, right?
For example, you walk outside your front door
and you see your neighbor packing their car
and you say to your neighbor, where are you going?
They go vacation.
And you go, cool, where are you going?
They said vacation.
I'm like, no, no, no, no. Where are you going? I told you vacation. And you're like, fine. How are you going to get to this vacation? And they're going to, they say, well, I'm going to take 95. I'm going to drive 150 miles a day until I get there. And what they're telling you is the route. And that's what most people have. I'm going to get this kind of job. I'm going to make this amount of money. This is my career path. They have fixed roots, but not 100% clarity of where they're going. Right? And so the root is everything.
have been very different, which is, let's say we're in California now, where are you going, New
York? How are you going to get there? Don't know. And so it's very opportunistic. And so when a lot of
people, for example, they're offered a job that pays more money, they're like, I'll take that one.
It pays more money. And I go, well, will that one help me get to New York? No. Well, then I'm
going to turn that one down. And so I realized where so many people are focused on the route,
I'm completely agnostic.
And if you're focused on the route, that means you're agnostic on the destination.
And I know too many people who spend a whole life climbing a ladder
only to get to the end to discover they climbed the wrong ladder.
This ties back to calculus.
Say more.
Okay.
Multivirval calculus and then the class called optimization, I think about this a lot.
You're trying to find the highest point.
That's what optimization is.
You can walk north or west, right?
You're just trying to pick based on two directions.
Where's the highest point?
Let's say you're walking on a hilly field at night and it's foggy.
So you can't see when you're at the top.
You're going to know when you're at the top because your feet are going to be flat on the ground.
Maybe you're at the bottom, but you're going to, right?
So what is the search algorithm?
Your search algorithm is you're going to walk around.
And when it feels steep, you can feel your ankles bend a lot.
You walk in the direction of the steepness.
The more steep it is, the longer of a step you take.
If it starts to flatten out, then you're near the top.
That is what we do mathematically.
The steepness, again, that's the slope and calculus.
That is actually the math of it.
The problem is, what if there's another hill next to you that's higher?
You need to wander off the hill to potentially find the highest point.
You need to be able to go off that path and potentially explore other ones.
So are you finding a local optimum or a global optimum?
I think a lot about that when we're, and what we're optimizing for, what we're trying to maximize.
Sometimes we look at, we're talking earlier about the empirical feedback if we say, oh, these results mean I'm doing well. I'm getting a lot of views on my Instagram reels. That's an indicator that I'm doing well. What if you get it wrong? A lot of people do. What if I'm doing well because I'm, what if you flip it, those views are the measure. And now you do everything you can to optimize that. You're going to do a lot of things that are clickbaity things. Bad things. Just not in the intention of what you wanted to create originally. Right. And you're, you're, you're
optimizing, you're seeing higher and higher numbers, and you think that means you're doing
better, but you have to kind of like get the, like you're saying, the destination in mind.
Right.
Not, not the path.
So you are more visionary than you give yourself credit because you won't do anything just for the view.
I try to keep, I try to, I will obviously be corrupted by all of these things because I will
look at the data, but I will try to reorient back towards what are you trying to make.
Right.
And that's just what I deem a quality product based on, I hope the crowd laughs and as long as I
believe in it, that's what I'd like to keep making.
This is an interesting question, right?
Which is for, and I think a comedian is a metaphor for a lot of people, right?
Which is, I want to do something and I want to be rewarded very quickly to know that I'm good.
And social media can hijack and corrupt that system.
Yes.
Which we know, right?
Because of measurement.
It's the same feedback loop, and it's instantaneous.
You get a like, you get a forward, whatever it is, you get a view, right?
It's the same thing as a laugh.
It's instantaneous.
and the comedian who's obsessed with the laugh
to the point of hurting themselves or hurting others
versus having a point of view or some morality
so what system do you have
to not be hijacked by the click
the like the view
the laugh's permitted even you're right because even your act can be even in the room
be corrupted by just trying to make those people laugh as hard as you can
and you want to do better than the comic before you
and you're willing to do things
that aren't your own standards.
So what checks and balances are there
to ensure that yes, you're getting more laughs for minute,
but there is a framework within which you're willing to operate
and you're not willing to go outside,
even if you could get a bigger laugh?
Esoterically, my own moral compass, my own standards, right?
That's harder to measure, though.
More concretely, the respect of my peers
and making other comics laugh.
The respect of the peers that you respect.
Yes.
Medians had a moment where someone goes,
hey, great joke.
You're like, thanks.
And you look at who says it.
You're like, I should cut that joke.
So it's the respect of the peers you respect.
Uh-huh.
The, yeah, the people you look up to liking what you do.
You can also, you can't make that your whole thing.
Right.
Because that can also be an unstable solution to this equation.
Right.
Because now you're serving.
their moral compass, their needs, their taste, not yourself.
At the expense of the crowd and at the expense of your career.
Which is the equivalent of I'm going to do what my boss likes.
I mean, again, this all translates to math for me.
You have three different outputs, right?
Respect of your peers, laughs for a minute, and let's say career success.
And you need to put weighted coefficients in front of each one of them
and then maximize that balanced equation.
And then how do you factor in the hard-to-measure your own moral compass?
the one that you refer to is the esoteric one
that's harder but because that can also
is that just gut is that just feeling is that gut and feeling
is that your wife coming going like revisit your earlier self
and what your what your old standards were but also don't be so precious
you don't I don't owe things to my 25 year old self he didn't have better taste than I do now
see this is now this is where math fails me sure which is which is we both acknowledge
that the, that the esoteric, the intangible, the ethereal thing matters, but it's harder to measure.
Nobody else can see it but you.
How do you ensure that that thing has the correct weighting, which should be quite a high rating?
Waiting, I mean, it should have quite a high weighting.
Because we see it in the world, which is when stock price and profit and revenue are the only metric,
we see ethical fading happening all over the place because the weighting is like I believe in objectivity
I don't know I don't know I will steal one page from a great comedian named Mike Lawrence who said something to the effect of
in comedy you're as successful as the biggest thing you say no to and saying no to things is really
starting to really value the moments I say I don't want to do that because I don't like that that's not what I represent and that's
a corruption of what I'm trying to do, and I'm going to say no to maybe it's a branded deal
or maybe it's a comedy festival somewhere.
I guess saying no to things also, that isn't answering your question, but like saying no
oftentimes for principled reasons is a really good exercise.
But do you have an answer?
How?
I'm also curious because I feel like we're losing our souls, a lot of us, through that
ethical fade.
Can I do an experiment?
Please.
I may be able,
this may or may not work.
Love the scientific method.
Tell me
a festival, a joke,
anything that you were involved in
your comedy career
that you absolutely loved
that if everything you ever did
from this point on
was like that thing,
you'd be the happiest person alive.
my gut instinct is when I did Conan for the first time I was very proud of the material I chose
and I was going to be happy either way because I did it and then it had a pretty big positive
response which was just icing on the cake so having both those things go away do
doing the set I wanted to do with no restrictions without having to to to dumb it down or
water it down in any way and then also getting rewarded for that that was that was one of my
happiest moments in comedy, if that answers it.
But you've done things before that you were proud of.
You've done things where you had control over the set.
You've done things that had a bump, you know, maybe even a bigger bump than Conan.
What was it about that experience that stands out from all the ones that are very similar
with very similar metrics that makes you want to talk about it now?
It was early.
It wasn't my first, but it was early.
It was a show where a lot of comics I really respected were.
were booked for. So when I saw who did it, I'm like, those are people I want to be like. Those
are people who are pushing comedy to new places. I also got to do a set that probably would
have been very much rejected by any other late night booker. And I was surprised that Conan allowed
I said Volvo eight times in a row. And that was neat to me. The joke had information that people
learn. People learn things that they didn't know from it while I think getting decently high
lapse per minute. Probably to really answer your question, because it was the first time I did that
and it paid off. And I feel like I've tried to do that every time since. And then I think maybe
if there's another time, my set from 2021, I was wearing a denim shirt with floral embroidering
on the back. That's the only way I can distinguish the set. But I also did material that was
bold for the time in terms of politically being more honest at a time where that could potentially
get me in trouble and saying how I really felt in a way that I think other people agree with
but we're afraid to say. And again, I put it out there knowing it might not make a splash at all,
but it also might really connect. And I felt it connecting as a result.
Tell me an early specific happy childhood memory, something I can relive with you. Not like we went
to my grandparents every weekend, but something specific that I can relive with you.
I went at 21, 23 in my 5K on a road race. I've been running a lot and the road race happened to be
right in my neighborhood. So I knew the path.
I'd run it most days, and I went a best time on a course that I was very familiar with.
So, I was in middle school.
Like, of all the things you did that you could have told me, what was it about this run that?
I worked really hard for it, and I got a result I wanted.
And also might have just dipped under one of my rivals, PRs or something like that.
So there's a competitor, you are, you are competitive.
Yes.
Any other
outside of
comedy?
Anything stand out?
From my childhood?
Childhood or even your
financial analyst career.
A happy, happy moment.
Just something you loved being a part of,
something you absolutely love being a part of.
I do,
I draw and I sculpts a little bit,
but I rarely step out of the boundaries
of those two media.
But I really liked,
I made the sword from Adventure Time.
I really like Adventure Time.
And I looked up a tutorial and I got poster board and made like a really big sword and
took days to make and lots of cutting and painting and stenciling.
And when it came out, it was the biggest piece of art I've ever made.
It was large and that was really fun and just a weird thing to do and no one pushing me
to do it and no real reason to do it.
And I did it.
Okay. So here's a thread. What's interesting in all three of those things required a lot of work, right? And it required a lot of self-motivation. And there was no particular pressure on you for any of those things other than yourself, right? It's 100% driven by you and the hard work that you're going to do is going to make that set good or bad. And in each one of those cases, you're willing to do the work to the point where you find great satisfaction and that you did it your way and you did it for yourself. You said it was my personal best.
for this run that it, you know, this, it was, it was, it was, it was, there was a, it was, there was a
learning curve that got you there. And in all of those, there was, there was absolutely
accomplishment. But you, it's not like, it seems to me that you're not trying to
accomplish just for the sake of accomplishment. You're not driven simply to win or be
the best or outdo others. It's you like, I think the reason you like a metric, it's a
validation not of you or how good you are or how smart you are or how funny you are.
it's a validation of the work was worth it.
Right?
And I think even the way you talk to me about calculus,
which is, and the way you talk about,
find somebody who explains it to you in a way that you can understand,
find a better teacher.
You're not dumb.
You just need to find a better teacher,
which is, it's not just about grit.
Because I think the way a lot of people talk about hard work
is just about grind.
You're not talking about grinding.
You're talking about being smart the way you learn,
and if you accomplish something,
all of that effort of learning is worth it.
And that, to me, is the interesting dichotomy,
which is, yes, you like the validation
and yes, you like the laughs permitting, yes, all of that.
But all of that is actually a recognition
of the hard work that you've done.
You even talked about the quotes that you've made here,
which is if you knew how hard it was to get here,
if you knew the effort that it took to get here,
you'd be very unimpressed by whatever the quote was.
And even the way you talk to me about, like, you love tutoring because you want to teach people in a way that helps them access something.
And when they get the A on the exam or the B or whatever it is, they're striving for it.
When they understand the concept right there in front of me, that's the best moment.
When they go, oh, that's it.
It's the epiphany, right?
And it's whatever the spark is that goes, that was worth it.
The ethereal part for you seems to be in the bullpark of, you will know that you've done good work for yourself when,
the when whatever the world's metrics are look at you and go that's good well done well look at your time
and that will inspire you to want to keep learning keep pushing keep doing more um because you'll discover
that that it's not the it's not the it's not the result that becomes intoxicating it's
earning the result it's doing the hard work to get the result that becomes intoxicating yes
which is the difference between what you're doing and winning lotteries yeah i feel
That was very astute. That felt very good to hear you say all of that. Thank you. Can I note a way in which I think we're actually kind of different? And I want to see if we could reconcile this. Yeah. And then I have to conclude, but yes. Okay. I was watching your thing about bios and people putting their biographies. Yeah. And you said, I want to be, how did you phrase it? It's not how I want to be recognized? Yes. You want to be recognized for yourself and not for your work? The thing that I said was too many people confuse their ideas.
identity with their job or their accomplishments.
And you can easily see it when you read someone's bio,
when it says CEO of or Oscar-winning actor, blah, blah, blah.
And they're telling you a position they hold
or an accomplishment they had 20 years ago.
The problem is those people suffer from identity crises.
Like without the job, without the responsibility,
they literally have an identity crisis.
And so I'm fine with accomplishment
and I'm fine with ranks and position,
but that's not your identity.
And so when I write my bios, I put who I am, then what I've done, optimist and author of.
So I want to know, because no matter what I don't do, I'll always be that.
That's wonderful.
What advice do you give people who are told don't give up on your day job?
Don't.
Don't hold on to it as long as you can because that's going to be what makes you interesting.
You think being a musician or an actor is what makes you interesting.
No, the part of you people want to hear about is those salad days and when you struggled.
So I would say you are building who you are as a person through that struggle.
And money is a real thing and you need to have a way to pay your bills because if you become financially desperate, your art will be compromised instantly.
Yeah.
Any life hacks that you have that help you be more efficient, more productive, personally, professionally, anything that you, any tricks that you've learned along the way that are now?
Yes.
Biggest one for me is I subscribe to Gabor Mates.
kind of musings about ADHD, that it's a lack of ability to validate yourself, not a lack of
focus. So one thing that really helps me every day is when I sit down, I have a to-do list,
and I write a list of all the things I'm doing well. And they don't just have to be work anything.
Am I recycling? Am I exercising? Am I stretching every day? Am I creative? What all of it?
Nothing backhanded. Well, at least I'm not doing a bad. No, no, no. I'm doing well at you're
doing great is the name of the document. You're doing great. Is the name of the document. Write all those
things out, then start writing my to-do list. And not only will you enter that task with momentum
of feeling good about yourself, the thing you're always driving towards is that validation.
You'll already have that and you work better when you like yourself. Everyone thinks they work
better when they hate themselves. No, when you like yourselves, when it feels fun and you feel good
about yourself, you do your best work. You also then start to get that Pavlovian rush that when I sit
to open my computer, I'm already feeling good because I know it's coming. And then I don't dread
starting my day. I look forward to it. That's been a huge hack for me. Genius. Thank you. I've
sold it for many people. I'm going to start that one. Matthew, I could talk to you forever. What an
absolute joy to meet you. This is great. It was super fun. And it, like I said, kind of a personal
throw because I've gotten to know you so well from your videos. It's really, really fun to sit
across from you. I know your voice so well. Yeah. Thank you.
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