A Lot On Your Plate - Is Emotional Cheating Worse Than A One Night Stand?

Episode Date: April 28, 2026

Hey piggies 🐷💖 This week we’re catching up after our lovely trip away to Islay. We also chat about some exciting new openings coming soon to Scotland, before getting into a big conversation about cheating, relationships and what really crosses the line.We discuss whether an emotional connection is worse than a drunken shag, and read some of your stories, from micro-cheating to catching your partner in bed with someone else…Got a story or dilemma you’d like to share? Pop us a DM on socials or email [e-mail]!And remember you can sign up to Patreon for an extra episode every week plus bonus vlog-style content, competitions, group chat, early access to tickets and looooads more! See you there piggies 💖 patreon.com/ALotOnYourPlate Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Tuesday, we are back again in your air holes. How are? Did you have a lovely week? Do you want to take a breath? No, that was good from me, all in water. Happy Tuesday, welcome back. The sun is shining today. Really feels like spring.

An iced coffee was collected and consumed. On route. We usually love a coffee or tea from Alan, but we decided to go ice today. A wee iced one? Yep. I'm actually freezing. It's freezing outside.

It's not that bad. season. I'm actually off to London this weekend, guys, so I'll update you all next week, but it's going to be 18 degrees down there. Feel really looking. That's summer. Going to be a tourist. That's like the height of summer.

Yeah. I think. Especially in Scotland. Put my wee feet up. I think we've got 17 degrees here on Friday. That's high summer in Scotland. The junkies are going to be tapsaf. Tapas!

And you know what? I don't blame them. I don't blame them. If you're warned on the streets, you might as well get the tap half. We actually went to Ireland at the weekend. We did. It was Tapsaf weather there. I can't quite say that in my accent.

Try that again. Tap, taff. In Isla. It was lovely whether we were lucky with that. We were very lucky with that. Really good. I can't believe how quickly we got there. 25 minutes.

Up and Dund. That was actually quicker than the Belfast route, you know. As soon as you were up and flat, you were going back down. You had time to Mung Janelle Tunucks. And we'd a great time. It's a very slow-paced. Island. Yep.

And I think if you enjoy that sort of Scottish, beautiful... Beachy's nature. Animals. Lots of wildlife. Love the wildlife. Let's list the things we see. Right. Seals.

Seals. Went to Portner Haven and saw all the seals. Mountain goats. In the singing sands. Yep. And they were just counting about. We actually stopped the car because we're like, what the fuck is that on that roof over there?

Yeah. And then we'd realized that they'd been around us at the side of the roads for the last five minutes, but they're all disguised in the mountains. Camouflage in the mountains. We got out of the car because we actually wanted to go and see the sunset. Yeah. And we were told that there's a very south of the island

on the west coast. There was the American monument or Macca Bay that you could go and see the sunset. But we were told by a waiter in a restaurant that we went to to go to Singing Sands and it was beautiful that sky was like all purple and pinks it was like a lighthouse there

all the mountain goats but it was just kind of just round so you couldn't quite see the sun setting Yeah so it missed it Yeah but it was still beautiful That was nice We saw rabbits round about there as well Yeah we did

Hoping about There was red deer But we didn't actually get to see any of those But fun fact right Between Ireland There's another Scottish island called Jura You might have heard of it from the whiskey, the Jura whiskey

it's everywhere in the supermarkets, but it's a seven-minute ferry from Isla to Jura, right? There's only, don't quote me on these exact numbers, but between 180 to 200 people that live on the island. Yeah. And there are more red deer

that live there than humans, and I think it's something in its thousands, maybe like 10 to 20,000 deer. Yes. It's over 10,000, I'm sure. Yeah. that are on and I swear I read a fact somewhere that it's the only island maybe not in the world

but maybe Europe where an animal that size outweighs humans yeah bigger than humans outweighs humans yeah that's amazing yeah I like that as well it's meant to be beautiful but we woke up in the morning we were going to go

because everyone said you need to go but basically because our flight back with Logan Air was on the evening of the Sunday we decided to, but we could only stay there for like an hour and get the ferry back because the limited timetables on the Sunday. So we decided to drive up to the Dura viewpoint where there was a distillery that you used to work with. Boonehaven.

Boonehaven. Lots of distilleries on the island if people are into that. I think there's about nine whiskey distilleries on the island. They all look pretty cool. So cool. Like they're quite well done ones if you know what I mean. Yeah. All meant to have like really nice cafes inside them as well.

I think one knows, it wasn't really the right time for us to do whiskey distillery at all because of Jensen to be honest. As I would have done it and I've done my fair share of them, you've done a couple as well. Yeah. But I do think once you've done one, like you kind of get the gist of it and we're not mad whiskey lovers. But definitely recommend it. There was also gin, rum distilleries, beer distilleries on the island. But anyway, yeah, so definitely recommend if you have enough time to go to Jura and go and see that and explore, especially if it's a nice day. we got some gorgeous weather.

We did get gorgeous weather. And what else we got was a gorgeous range rover discovery to drive. So we did. It's a change from the money. It's the Another Place Hotel Group that I've bought over Mackie Hotel. The Macri. The Macri, sorry, yeah, I keep that getting confused with the Macca Bay. And Land Rover have basically partnered with them to give any of their guests to rent a Land Rover for the day.

There's a defender. there was a discovery. So when we got there, we already had like a little sea rented from the airport and they were like, oh, you've got the discovery all weekend. We were like, what the fuck?

I didn't bring my license. And no one had ever driven it before. And so he was like, holy shit, all I'm used to was driving my minnie down that M-704. But I was good at driving that, I think. You're amazing. We love one now actually.

Do you? Do you? I know. Pathetic. So nice. So we did that. We got to go and see lots of beaches, the West Coast.

obviously so nice. There was some beautiful beaches out in that way. And then we went to a place called the oyster shed where we got some beautiful fish. We really wanted crab but that sold out. I had a half a lobster. What does that have again? A salmon sandwich.

Smoked sandwich. And mackerel patty. Oh, yes. That was good. And of course I had oysters which I struggled with. I don't like them. Nah, it's fair. I think we're saying that now.

I'm putting it out there and I don't eat it again. I don't like an oyster. The texture is rank. Yeah. It's like a bossack. Yeah. You had a big in and of. It was massive.

A big bow. The woman even said to us, don't just swallow it, chew it, enjoy the flavor. By the way, that's, for anyone, listen to this. They said to us chew the oyster. I've always chewed mine, at least twice, right? I've tried to do the whole inner one and I'm like, what is the fucking point of this? Well, then you don't taste anything, surely? If you don't chew it.

Exactly. I think that's just more of like a class thing, you know, that people just think they're the bollocks because they try and swallow an oyster into one. I think so as well. It's like, come on, just do the right thing. I also just feel like when I see some of my oysters at their table,

I'm like, get the fucking patty or haggis bonbons, you weirdo. It's not that enjoyable. It was just because I don't like them. I personally liked it, but I just see it as an aphrodisiac so I'm like, I'm going to go home and I'm going to be horny. Wasn't. I was next to you all day, bed.

Did you don't do anything weird in the bedroom, did I? You didn't? Usually you lean over me to think I'm jensen and I'm falling off the bed. You were quite, you're out like a light. Breathing down your neck. Catching flies on that. Was I? I went to the toilet one time and I put the light on so I could see a wee bit

and you were kind of half hanging off the bed with your mouth open. Sprawled out. Bless me, I can't breathe through my nose as it is, so. No, you can. I'm a mouth breather. I say, well, I say, well, time. If mouth tape becomes a serious thing where we've all got to do it, I'd be dead. I think it is.

No, I know, but if everyone's like, you must mouth tape. Yeah, it's not an option. I'll be dead. But is that not the point? Isn't it to help the structure of your face? Breathe through your nose or... I can't take enough air into my lungs through my nose. You'd think it with the size of these nostrils.

It's not possible. It's really narrow up here. It's really narrow up here, very long. charging and in charge down here. That's where I'm wide. It was wide all over, to be fair my nose, but it's wide up there. No, I've got something else to say. Say it.

Everyone waves to each other and Ila. Oh, fuck, we forgot about that. When you're driving by, everyone waves through the car. Just a little hand up. You would say thanks if someone was passing. But I was getting quite stressed when I missed it because I thought they were going to thank him a bitch.

Yeah. So I was like, really. But thankfully, you don't see a lot of cars or else your hand would be tired. We went to a place called Port Ellen where we were going to go. and see the seals and I shit you not guys we didn't see one single human being no there was a lack of civilisation

but we had heard that people just go and buy holiday homes on there and then leave we'll be only come back and visit their parents yes kind of became quite a quiet area apparently beautiful gorgeous views yeah I think the best views were up at boonahavin because you could see juror and it was like sea and mountains and a bit of beach. Yeah. Whereas the other ones were more just like

like the view was just never ending sea. Yeah. We also saw loads of sheep and lambs. So many lambs. We saved a lamb. So it was crying her eyes out. No, I was actually crying by the way.

Yeah. Like full on crying. Tears, streaming. Because we were driving up the long road back to the hotel and there was sheep and lamb at both sides of the road. Jess was like that wee lambs

like stuck out of the what do you call them? fence, the kind of metal fence and it was literally, what was it like barging itself, trying to get through like the weak wire holes in the fence, uh-huh, through the wire. You could tell it was stuck because its

mum was the other side of it like following it up and down, like no to nose and he just couldn't get back in. I don't know how the hell he got out. Don't know, there must be a hole somewhere else. And it was about to get dark. Yeah, it was about to get dark and Jess was like we need to stop and help this lamb in. So you get out and just tried to chase it up towards

gate we realised we could then open the gate. Yeah. And then I get out to try and direct it in but then we realised I was making it go back the way. Yeah. So I get back in the car and you're chased up and eventually but by the way this was over a period of what I'm going to say is 10, 15 minutes. Yeah. Because it kept running back and forth.

Because it kept like really headbutton into it because he was terrified of me. Yeah, exactly. I thought I was going to hurt him. So when he kept like honestly headbutting his way, jamming his head into the wire. No, it was like, no. I'm trying to help you. The crying came when they were really, you. United. No. It was going

back, bah, to the group of people but obviously mum wasn't in the group. She was still trying to help him. But then they saw each other and they ran towards each other and then like, the wee lamb rubbed against the mum. It was actually heartbreaking. I've not stopped thinking about it. So we've decided she's going to be

vegan and all. Honestly, I'm close. Actually, I'm close because I kept looking at them and thinking that's just horrendous. And then the next day we saw loads of other cute lambs again and wanted a big number 23 on it. thought. I can't bear it.

That's probably the fucking date that you're getting taken away. No, it was just the number of the lamb. But does they need a number? If nothing's happening to it. Why is it? It gets spray paint my number on it. We also saw Highland Cows.

Loads of them. They were really fluffy and lovely. We saw horses. Yeah. We saw donkeys. Yeah. We saw two pterodactals fly by the car. We were honestly like,

what the fuck was that? Looking back, I think. it was just geese. They were just humongous. They were right above the car and you looked massive but there was a bit of colour through them. And they were flying side by side

they got the ones with the really long necks and it was just like something you see out of a movie. We're driving down a road with nothing either side the road's going on for ages and these big birds just swoop in front of us and we're like wow. There was a lot of like

film like moments I feel when you see the animals and no one else is there and you're the only car in the road and we were just stopping to have a right good look at them right so what we've got in today's episode now that we've done our catch-up new openings because we forgot last week silly us and then we're going to talk about kind of cheating stories we asked

could you move on from cheating and what would you find harder drunken shag or an emotional connection for example long text and conversations a deep connection a bit of back and forth maybe some meetups, which I guess some people would say is not physically cheating.

I think it is. I think it is. But that's the question we ask. I don't think it is. I know it is. We know. It's facts. We'll tell you the percentage of what we got from that when we get onto it. And then we've got a couple of good dilemmas to finish off of. It's a lovely wee episode.

It is a nice wee episode. It is a nice way. That you're getting 15 minutes in. Right. New openings. I'm ready. I'm sat. I'm waiting. The IV. Asia is coming to Glasgow.

Yep, I keep forgetting about that. Yeah. Do we know where that's going? It's going to be near where Anker line is. Okay. That's great. Yep. Yep.

If you don't know what the Ivy Asia is, think about the Ivy but leveled up. There's one in Manchester. There's a few in London. They're so beautiful inside. The aesthetics are incredible. This is going to be a perfect night for you to go out with the girls for a boozy dinner before going out. I was going to say, is it not a bit more like nighttime cocktail dressing? see before a night out vibe.

Yeah. Love that. Then we get, we're getting, we are getting a flat iron. Do you know I've never been there? I thought you had. No. I think about with Jason. Plan to go and we change to something else.

Right. Never been. That's going to, coming to West George Street, I believe. Flat iron is a very, when I lived in London it was, there wasn't many of them at all. There might have been one or two. But it's a very great value for money. Steak. Yeah.

Good steak. You get, like it's a very minimal menu. To be fair, it might have changed over the years. It's quite relaxed dining, isn't it? Like benches and things? Yeah, very relaxed dining. When I was in London, it was 10 pounds. 10 quid for a steak and fries.

I do remember when I was in London a lot for work, most people I worked with were always going there, but I just feel like I just never fell into the time when they were going. Yeah. I really don't think I've been. I've not been for a long time, but I hope it's still as good as it was. Peter Pilgrims is coming to Glasgow. I was meant to go on the trip to Naples with them.

I wasn't able to go, but Pizza Pilgrims was my place that I went after meetings when I lived in London in the east. There was the main one in Shortwich. Again, it's expanded over the years. It was really good back there and I hope it's still good now. But it's going into the old Ting Thai caravan, which I can't still believe has gone. Why did Tingtai go from the city centre? Yeah, true, by the way, because it's absolutely heaving. Heaving.

In the West End. Such a cool spot to go to like after work. dinner as well. But it's still on Great Western Road. But even that, I wouldn't, I don't think I would go to that one. We got a takeaway from at that time, mind? Yeah. Tintai tell us, why you did that? Must have just not been doing well. Not true. Can't be. It's a wee hidden bit at that, I think. Yeah. I feel like not many people are walking up that street as such. They are now though, Zoe, because since the fires at Central Station, the only way you can get from near where Akiko is back to pass the train station is down that road.

I bet you those bars around that run that hidden lane are heaving. Right. Makes sense. Yeah. A shame. Anyway, so Peter Pilgrims. Siz, I'm excited to tell you this. Pizza, Siz, pizza, it's coming to Merchant City.

I saw something another day, right? I didn't quite engage in it, but I just saw a sign. Yeah. And it was like people are buzzing. It's coming to Glasgow and I didn't see the rest of it. And I thought, right, so it's West End. I know it's south side now. So now it's coming to the city center.

as well. I fucking love serious pizza. Well, I think so. I mean... No, it is. It is. Is it? Okay. But anyway, I also saw on Instagram yesterday there's a new coffee shop coming called to the south side called Morning Rush. Looks so cool. I like that name. Really cool, isn't it? And the branding's so sick.

Kudos in Finiston is expanding. They've bought the place next door. So it's going to have a lot more seating, which is good. Really hard. Really needed. We all want to go there. So opening in, they hope it's going to be opening in June. Fun. And then when I was there.

there, the unit next door was being having worked on to it. And apparently Kelvin Grove Cafe have bought that over and it's going to be, I think, a Spanish tapas place which will be amazing because Kelvin Grove's so good. A wee tapas place? Interesting, yep. Chelentano's

which is, was near where the tenants, beer factory is. Yeah. Right, it's a bit out of the way. Duke Street. Great, yeah, yeah. Great restaurant. It's been closed for a long time. It's moving into the new art house hotel, which, if you haven't seen, looks the bollocks. The dog bollocks.

So cool. It's giving cooler Soho House vibes. Yeah. More artsy. I think it's going to be a really nice addition to the city centre, but that's going to be on Bath Street. Nice. Lane 7. Do you know what that is?

Yes. Ballardshire? Yeah. Yeah. I think so. There's a big one in Leicester. Isn't there one in St. James Quarter? Yes.

That's right. It's going to be a big one coming to Central. It's really cool. It's a big one boozy vibe. Think golfang. Yeah. This is a good one. Cross Basket Castle have finally launched the renders of their new spa.

That's opening very soon. That looks unbelievable, Jeff. So good. So nice to be able to have a spa and that sort of castle vibe somewhere that's not a million miles away from city centre as well. I know. But also I feel like it makes something like that. that in that location, it'll be so much more successful. Yeah.

Because for people like us, when it's 10 minutes along the road, and overnight sometimes feels a bit silly when it's so close to home. Do you know what I mean by that? But you could have a spa day. Whereas now there's a spats, like, yeah, there's a reason I'm going there. Yeah. Love it. I'm still really want to try a Sunday Rosa Trocaderoes there.

I haven't managed that yet. This is another few things that I read that a little bit further afield. Paisley Museum. Oh, for fuck. See it. It's undergoing a 68 million pound. innovation, which is opening this year. You'll be there.

I'll be there. I bloody love a museum. I didn't know that Paisley... Is this right before I say this? But Paisley is in like the Paisley print. The little Paisley logos that you get on like Paul Smith and like mod clothing and stuff. It's from Paisley?

No idea. Is that right, guys? Yeah, the Paisley pattern. Yeah, it came from there. What the flying fuck? Yeah, there was another, there was a huge company called J.P. course from Paisley.

Wow. Guys, I didn't know that. Up the fucking Paisley. Didn't know that. Up the fucking Paisley. And did you know? Another thing while I'm at it, another museum that I went to

was the Jute Museum in Dundee. Did you know like the Jute rugs? Like rugs that you get that are like big woven ones. I just have loads of the runners in my house from like Dunell. That material, jute was from Dundee.

We provide a lot of goodness, I think. Not so much anymore these days, but it was like a huge, huge thing back in the olden times. Everyone worked for these factories. Didn't the guy who invent the TV, was he not Scottish? Probably. I think he was. It's full of legends. I think he was.

There you go. From Helensborough? He invented the TV? Yeah. Right. Interesting. Brains and patter up here. I want to know who invented bread.

So you can thank them. Yeah. I want to thank whoever invented bread. invented baking in general. When I was, I was risking a scrambled egg this morning in my many weird thoughts

and I thought to myself, who the fuck ever cracked an egg and then thought, I know, I'm going to mix this with flour, right? Because flowers also,

you need to make that. Put it together with loads of the shit, sugar, you also need to make that. And then put it, and then heat it up and it rises into a cake.

Who thought of that? Geniuses. I'm going to say meady, baby. Pizza dough bases. I just find that sort of shit genius. It's science. Anyway, George Square is reopening in September

2026. Guarantee that won't be opening until 20227. But yeah, it's finally reopening. Have you seen this, Zoe? Center Parks is coming to Scotland. I've seen it. It's coming to the borders, not far from where Richard's from. 700 lodges and a water park in 2029. That's goody for her.

ever wants to go there. That would be so good. It's so expensive to go to Centrebarks, I am no going to Centre Parks. Would you not want to go to Centre Parks? No. Why not? Because of kids? I just don't think that's for me.

I'm only saying that because you like doing like fun kid shit. I know, but that's more like it's just a boogie holiday park, isn't it? Yeah. It's a boogie buttlands. Yes. And I loved Butlins in my day. I loved Butlins in my day. I loved Butlins in my day.

Thanks Jerry Quinn for taking me there. But did you go to Portland's in England? Putlins? Yeah. Every summer with my dad's for a while. Did you? Yeah. Skagness and all that.

Right. Mm-hmm. We went all the way to Wales one time and we got lost and it took 10 hours. Anyway, I'll never forget it. But yeah, it's just that to me. But the thing is, maybe I'm wrong because that's just what I see. Do you know what I mean? It's just put in with those sort of places and it's like, what would I be going there for?

Yeah. But maybe if I had kids or if those are big family things, going, those kids involved, it would be all right. I never mean centre parks, to be honest. No. I think it is, like, you're talking thousands of pounds to take your wains there. But by the way, that's going to bring in some jobs. Some jobs.

And people to Scotland. Yeah. So there you go. It's a good thing. Oh, it's incredible. And what a perfect location for it as well. Yeah. I think it'd be amazing to have a theme park here as well.

And that feels like a holiday. Yeah. Because it's still maybe an hour or two away for a lot of people. Yeah. Also, we do have a theme park. I know you're going to say that M&D's. I went there the other day, you know, on my own. With Jensen.

Yeah, I was walking around Stratclide Park and I really needed a pee. So I thought it was the school holidays as well, school boy era. Oh, fuck, right. I was voicnoting you on the way back, I remember. That's right, I forgot about this. But then I went in and, do you know what? It's not that bad. It is, you know, it's...

Do you know what? It's not that bad, but you know what it is? It wasn't, Sammy. It was part of it. It needs... But see, like, on a Saturday, not in the school holidays. Yeah. Because I've done the same pop time and I'm out of walk and whatever.

Or sometimes, there be amusements, whatever. But it's dead and it needs, something needs to bring it back. Maybe we can then. I went in and I paid four pounds and put him in the soft play because I was in there and I thought, you know what, why not? Honestly, I had the nicest little experience. Jensen made a little friend. He was like 10 years old with his sister.

They just took him around everywhere. He was thriving. And I thought, this is just perfect. Yeah. And then we had the little slots machines. I actually went up to his parents afterwards and told them that they did a fantastic job of their son because he was just. just so sweet and gorgeous.

That's nice. They didn't give a shit. Oh, right. And it was one of them situations where I was like, okay. I felt like Miss Honey. Yeah, and then they thought, who are you? You know what they tell me? You know what they told his parents and they're like, get out?

I was like, okay. But you know what it is? Do you remember there was an accident in M&D's in the actual theme park but? Uh-huh. No. And what? People fell off at 8th. Sorry, I told you that that happened the week that I was moving to Motherwell.

Richard had just signed for Motherwell front of the newspapers. I was going to say, baby, that was probably. probably quite a while ago. It was 2016, front of the newspapers everywhere in the UK, roller coaster crashes at M&D's Motherwell. And I had people messaging me like, never had of this place in my life and now you're moving there. Yeah, you caused the riot.

So I don't know if that's just a bit of a knock-on effect, kind of like Alton Towers, I'd imagine, but it comes back. Do you remember that Alton Towers accident? Oh, my God. Really puts you off rides, isn't it? Yeah. I'm glad my adult sickness came, because that's my excuse, not that I'm a shrieked like.

Anyway. Anyway, that just seemed apart for you. So we'll get back to Emondies. Sorry, Emmondies. But I'm talking like a theme part like Alton Towers or Drayton Manor within the hills of the Highland. In a way, though, I don't really think you should ruin the beauty of it. But I just think it would be beautiful. It would be amazing to be able to do that.

I think if we're playing like roller coaster tycoon again, you would absolutely love to do that in the hills. Yeah. Isn't Universal Studios coming to London? have been saying that for a while. I'm against that. Why is that then? Just because Paris is not so far? I just feel like it's not as magical when it's on your doorstep. No, I do agree on you that one. Do you know what I mean?

Yeah. Because you've got Disney World, which is Florida, etc. And then you've got Disneyland, which is Paris. What's this going to be Disney Town? I'm sure. You can't take it down any further. I read the other day that the Disney Castle in Paris has changed now and it's frozen. It's now become frozen. They've made a frozen land within Disney Paris, so I'm not sure if they've now made the castle, the frozen castle.

I know that they make it frozen themed for like the performance at night. Right, okay. But it might have became the frozen castle because the frozen world has opened over there. Guys, what's a good age for me to take Jens to Disney? Because I'm desperate to go, but I think I'm desperate to go for more for myself. It depends what you want from it. Like, for example, take him now.

see his reactions, that's cute. But he won't remember it, but I think that's fine. I don't think that matters all sick. No, it doesn't. I don't remember all those... I don't remember last week. It's a running joke with my family that I remember, sweet fuck all. But if you told me a story, but somebody 10 year ago,

I remember every day. It's the way I consume things. Anyway, I see all those TikToks and things and it's like, yeah, they won't remember it, but you will. Exactly. So I thought it's time leaving twosos. But it's more about you'll remember how special it was for them

yeah okay they won't but their eyes lighting up at the parade and seeing all the characters and seeing the fireworks and the lights and streaming on the rides and all that that's still special for you so I think can take them any time true our friend Beck's went and took her son he would have been about 18 months at the time yeah and she said same

sort of thing but that's where he was really he got really into toy story and loads of characters probably just understanding like characters a bit more yeah see in the minute Jens's not really into anything like that Maybe give it a few months. You could maybe go...

I'm not going to go this year. Next year you would enjoy it then probably. Maybe when he's like two or three. But anyway, you guys let me know like when do you think it's a good age to take him? I feel like there's an in-between age. Like now they would react really well so it's fun for you and it's really cute.

Yeah. Whereas I feel like maybe more towards like five, six, seven. They might still not remember much but they might also be a bit like can't go on half of it. Like there's probably kind of awkward

What about the height restrictions? Awkward in between age with height restrictions, yeah. Because I think someone who said to me, like, wait until they're like three because they can go on a lot more rides. Mm-hmm. Not sure about the kind of baby rides, but you've got that awkward age when you're a kid.

Yeah. And you're trying to go on your tiptoes and all that. And see, when you become an adult, you realize that's dangerous. Yeah. Because there's a reason you need to be a certain height. Whereas I'm going on my tiptoe's putting hats on, pure stretch of my neck and all that. You can't even fit in the thing.

You could fall out it. Yeah. I love Tower of Terror. That's a buzz. I loved that. That feeling in your belly, they want to be sick. So good. But they're upside down and the back force really throws me now.

I come out at Green. I would genuinely have to pay for fast track or whatever it's called. I could not wait in all those cues. Dend you out with all those screaming kids. Are you kidding me? I do that when I've been. I've got fast track. But they change it now that it's like you're limited.

It's like one pair ride and things like that. Like it used to be fast track got you just, you went in the fast track queue at everything whenever you pleased. But now it's like, I remember one time in Florida to book time slots on the app of when you used your fast track for rides. And then when we went to Paris last year,

I'm sure it was you got to do it like one time, repair ride. But see when you get to the end of the night and everyone's watching fireworks, see straight after the fireworks, you can do like single rider. So you just wrap it on and off all the ones. like. And what about the Disney breakfast? They're meant to be really nice as well. Not done then.

Like that. Talking of parks, is it Siam Park in Tenerife, the Water Park? I got fast track for that and it was one of the best days I've ever done. That's the only reason you could get me to Tenerife is to go to Siam Park. It's so good, Zoe. It's amazing. So, we asked, if your partner cheated on you, what would be worse? And by the way, we know both are really bad. It's just what would hurt you the most. What would you find it the hardest to move on with? What would you feel would traumatise you the most? We know that both would. So with about over 2,000 votes, by the way. So this is a big reflection.

90% said emotional connection and 10% said a drunken shag. Really? Mm-hmm. I would love to know their reasonings about that drinking shag, by the way. Well, there's a few. So someone said, an emotional connection 100%,

but this really had me thinking, A drunken shag would obviously also hurt But when you deep it, I feel I get why people have said it can be worse Like as if everything you have built with a partner is worth throwing away over a random person and pointless shag Who, let's be honest, they probably didn't even find attractive because they couldn't see straight Just so zero respect, control and moral intelligence And an emotional connection means there's at least a reason Even if it stings with a drunken shag there's generally not one

Other than being horny, lull So it probably cuts deeper for different reasons to think someone threw their life away with you just because must be a sore one. That's what I think as well. Yeah. I do get why it's... I mean, it doesn't need to be a competition of what's worse, but I get that either way it's really fucking shit.

Yeah. So one of our male pod pigs who we hear from quite a lot. We love him. Replied saying, Girls aren't much better, I'm afraid. Boys are just really stupid and do it in ridiculous ways. I agree. Which, by the way, I know that.

I just use the funny thing for the stupid. saying listen, sandy men are rats, but it was aimed at men and women this question. He also said it would be interesting to know what people consider cheating. That's clearly full-blown cheating, but I've seen a massive rise in the last few years of what I think you'd call micro-cheating. Right. Not just the odd bit of flirting, but more targeted, entertaining people, they shouldn't, continuing contact with people who are showing an interest. I do think this tends to be more online than in-person. But in-person is usually with total strangers.

mega suggestive but a massive know if anything is suggested each person I know that does this is very loyal and usually vocal about it and with this I don't just mean the usual idiot guys like in replying the fine emoji they shouldn't I wonder if you'd get a different answer if you said this was a question from a female than a male

I agree with that I do I do think there's a lot of people in relationships that would only probably leave if they said if someone said to them he shagged someone else

Whereas if you said they're liking girls' photos have messaged a couple of my pals have reacted to some of the stories I see them talk to people in nights out that a lot of people be like it's not really actually doing anything but to me it's just as bad

I think any sort of disrespect is all in the same bracket I don't think it matters to what extent it is I think maybe yeah you could potentially proceed in the relationship if you called it out and saw that it stopped how do you feel about like

photos and things of other people and I was like well I just wouldn't bother what my like and a guy's pick unless they're a friend obviously yeah or someone you know or work with or whatever but what are you liking a picture for yeah to me the reasons that you're showing that you're interested agree or it's like a bit such as he said a bit suggestive like oh well it's just showing that the doors are open there to continue a conversation because if yeah you responded you're kind of giving that gateway to them to think ah, I could reply here Yeah, exactly

They're interested in me Yeah, let me just test the waters here I If I, if me as a girl If a boyfriend of someone liked my picture I would be thinking Who wasn't your friend?

Yeah, who wasn't my friend Sorry, yeah Yeah, because like all of Jason's Pals pictures obviously Yeah, and they're boys They're not necessarily my friends But they're his pals So it's a mutual thing

They do the same but yeah if it was a girl who I just know of or just realized that well listen it depends on the pictures Zoe if you put up a picture a selfie of you in flipping Barcelona in your bikini yeah and Jason's pal like that story I'll be a bit like weird a story yeah yeah I'd find that weird I find story likes almost a tiny bit worse because a story like is a It comes as a message as well. Yeah.

Like no one could, like Jason or Rich for example wouldn't be able to openly see that their powers like that picture. Exactly. But on a post, yeah, I don't imagine friends with like partners would like maybe quite a suggestive bikini pick or whatever, right? But if someone likes my picture who's got a girlfriend, I'm like, that's so disrespectful to that girl.

Yeah. So I wouldn't ever want to be with someone that was doing that and then people having thoughts about that. Yeah. Yeah. So yeah, that is an interesting one. Talking on things about nights out though I guess there's people that are bit different here

there's certain girls that would hate even their guy to speak to another girl, random girl Listen it's not nice But I would speak to a guy in a bar I would do Yeah I think there's a difference between I don't mean like I would approach them and be like Hey exactly they spoke to me

I ain't gonna then shrug my shoulder on and go sorry I've got a boyfriend I find that strange. Me too. I would engage in the conversation, especially if I was in a group situation and then my friends were speaking to people. I wouldn't be then, I would definitely let them know that I have a partner

if the question was ever asked. But I'm ever going to be like, guys, just to let you all know that I'm with somebody so don't hit on me. Yeah, exactly. That's weird. I think we're at that age that naturally on a night out,

you might end up in conversation with someone of the opposite sex and it's not that they're trying to get into your pants. And also, we can have a platonic relationship with a guy like that. It's not trying to make it so weird. I know there's people that think differently, but it is possible to be able to just have a conversation with somebody.

And on the flip side, I wouldn't want Jason to be that person either. No. What, his pals are maybe single or chatting to a girl, and he's not even allowed to engage with a pal. Then you think my boyfriend's a weirdo. Yeah. I would rather you give in a conversation. You're the way, though.

Because you're the one stopping it. It's not allowing it. Yeah. I know. And I just think. But I guess it could also be like a track record of that person. I know. Like, let's say they have been caught out and they're like, you know what,

I'm like going to tempt myself with talking to one of the person because I know what I'm like, I'm trying to change, fair enough. I think that all just comes down to you're with someone who you clearly don't trust. Yeah. End of story. And if it is because they've got a track record then, and you can't continue to trust them, then I just wouldn't be with them then. Yeah.

So there you go. Shove that in your pipe and smoke it whilst I sit here and put my summer Fridays on. Me and my ex owned a flat together. We'd been together for five years and lived together three. We'd planned to go travelling after I finished uni but found out my mum had cancer and she was going through treatment. She's all good now. Woohoo. So obviously I wanted to stay in Scotland until she got the all clear. He started saying he wasn't sure he could wait, questioning how long I'd wait around for her to get the all clear. Bearing in mind, he'd been in my family for five years. Obviously a dick move and I was questioning his morals. Should have left then, to be honest. But we were trying to be. to work things out. I went to stay with my parents for a few days. Just took a wee suitcase. My whole life was still in the flat. I was away for seven nights, but had been back two of those.

We spoke all the time still together. He went on a work night out and I was at my parents still. And he stopped replying around 10pm, but I could see from his location he was at home. I was worried thinking he'd been so drunk and he choked on his sick or something. So I went round Saturday morning. Oh my God. And when I walked in, he came running into the hall, bollock naked with a look on his face and I just knew. I knew a girl from his work. He was her manager. Was in my bed, in my flat, surrounded by all of my stuff that clothes all over the living room floor. It was gross. Apparently, he was so drunk after a few beers, he didn't know what he was doing. He shagged a girl in my bed while I was worried sick about my

mum and our relationship, not something I can move on from. So the next day, I packed all my shit and left. I was so ill over it but life is great now moral of the story men are rats also I know it's both of their faults and he was the one in a relationship but she was literally stepping over

my hair curler to get into my bed madness no I can't tell you what I would do if I walked in on that what would you do I can't believe people have had to deal with it like I cannot believe people have walked in

on their current partner shagging someone else tell us guys this has this happened to you like I can't believe People witness that with their own eyes. I honestly, I don't, I couldn't tell you what I would do. I don't know. That image would never leave your brain either.

I think it's a shame because you do sometimes feel like girls stay quite troubled from relationships and part of you. Even as a girl's kind of like, let it go. You're never going to find happiness if you keep like a hold of that. But if it was that, how could you? But do you know what I always say is, thank God that happened because you see it so blatantly in your face. no way you could come back from that. No. So they've done you a favour.

You've done yourself a favour from catching them in the act. Because if you hadn't caught them in the act, can you imagine that he would have brushed that completely? Just the carpet. The lies. Yeah. Yeah.

How would she have ever found out? What would I do? That is a question. I would love to say, turn around and walk out. I don't know, you know. I would love to say that, would I do that, I'm not sure. Listen, I'm not aggressive, right? No, I'm not.

But I do, I think because you'd see red, wouldn't you? I don't know if I would rag that bitch by a hair out of the bed. Thank I would. Get his head and bash it together. And then leave, I don't know what I would do. I don't think I'd be able to control my emotions of the rage. No, I know. Also, I'd probably be so shocked that I would have to just,

oh God, I don't know. I don't know if the shock would make me just turn around and leave and slam the door, but then I would be on the other side of the door like, what the flying fuck have I just seen? Because, or I would drag them both and put them both out the door. Naked, that would be brilliant. That would be iconic. Just you stay there and decide what you're going to do with each other.

But also, my sarcasm is quite good in the situation, so I feel like I would just be like, do you want to just continue? What a wee condom? Yeah. Sorry to interrupt. Yeah, I'll just wait through there. You can get your stuff tidy up and then you can get the fuck out of my house. Thanks, thanks for your patience.

Like I would love it to be that. You'd love to be able to do that. But it's just whether, I think, the shock you just have no idea what you would do, but fuck me. But please let us know, guys, what have you done in that situation? I honestly think that's fucking... Have you been able to contain yourself or have you so read? No, that's horrendous. It's been over 10 years since I was in this situation.

but I'd say emotional is so much worse than sexual cheating. Call it women's intuition, but I think you just know when something is happening. I swore I would never be the girl that went through a phone, but I had to know for sure, and it was there in black and white. They had been messaging for months talking about the life they would have together and how he would get rid of me. Oh, no. Then when I confronted him, he gaslit the whole situation

and put the blame on me for him going elsewhere. I was out the minute I found it. I don't think there is any way back from it. The trust is completely broken. Just be mad enough to say you're checked out and stop wasting everyone's time energy. But imagine seeing that as well. That really hurts my heart. I just can't comprehend this happens to people. I know. Because I just, I remember, you know, being in past situations being like, I think they're seeing someone else as well by the way or shag someone at the weekend and you're a bit

kind of like, oh, that's a bit of shit. Like, I thought we were maybe going somewhere. Yeah. But it's never been like a deep dagger to the heart. Do you know what I mean? I think that's terrible. Here's one. In reply to your story, my boyfriend of six years went on a night out with his pals shagged a random girl at afters.

He told the girl a fake name, a fake Instagram, and all of his pals went along with it so she didn't actually catch on that he was in actually a relationship. The girl obviously did some digging. We love it. The next day and saw photos of me on his Facebook.

I then got the dreaded, hi girl, I'm so sorry to message you message. Oh no. I knew cheating was something I could never get over, so I drove up to his house. I threw the key I had of his at him, walked back to my car, blocked him and his family and friends on everything and never spoke to him again. The year that followed was the hardest year of my life, but I'm so glad I stuck to my guns, I knew I deserved more. I'm now happily engaged with a beautiful baby boy. Side note, I've seen a recent photo of my ex, and he now has the worst receded known to man. So I like to think that karma got him in the end, even his hair line is trying to be.

trying to leave him. Love the Pog girlies. See, I love that. I love that. Just cut them off. They don't get to try and grovel or explain or anything just. That's brilliant. You don't even have the chance. That's a sign of a queen. I could never do that. Well, I would like to think again. I'd like to think I could. I know. You just don't know, do you? Because I would love to be that person's man. Yeah. But, you know, going back to the message before of the girl that said that she isn't proud of going through someone's phone, but the intuition and like I want female intuition. I genuinely think there's no problem with going through somebody's device,

whether that's like an Apple Watch, iPad or phone, if you seriously have done your digging and investigating of like, I know something's happening here. They're being a bit distant. Yeah. I can tell they're lying. You can just tell. I feel like we're always right. And what's the worst that's going to happen? You're going to find the messages that you know is happening. Or you've got your answer. Or you're going to find nothing and you won't do it again. And you just think, oh, I'm so stupid. But I genuinely don't think there is anything wrong with that. I just think what is wrong with it is going through someone's phone

when you don't have anything to be suss about. Just regularly for the shits and giggles to make sure your man's not up to anything when you shouldn't feel that way. And you just absolutely just going crazy yourself over something. Yeah. I agree with that. Yeah. Yeah.

So my husband and I separated last summer. Not divorced yet, I should add, and we were getting on okay until recently. We text occasionally to check in in family members like my daughter and his dad. etc. So we have some friends, two groups. My husband and his two best mates. Let's call them Joe and Steve. The guys have a little group chat and out of that I've become very close to their partners, let's say Linda and Jenny. And we have our own little group chat as well. The girls have been there for me through my separation and we've got quite close. Joe and Jenny have separated now too and Steve and Linda almost split but they've found swinging and it saved their relationship.

Recently I had a child free night so text my friend Linda and asked if she wanted to catch up. She said yeah, come over. We're having a drink in the house. But just letting you know your husband's here having a beer with Steve. Where's just going to go? I said that was fine, booked a taxi and headed over. She then started suggesting that if I came over, all four of us could get together upstairs. I laughed off and said, no thanks, but said, before I get in this taxi, please tell me you're not serious. No reply.

I text again, babes, I need clearance. Tell me I'm just coming for a wine and nothing else. no reply so I cancelled the taxi and got ready for bed then her partner Steve Facebook messaged me hurry up and get here so I can fuck you and two photos of my husband shagging his bird my friend Linda she'd even gone and put a schoolgirl checked skirt

and knee-high socks on for the occasion what does one do now with this situation so your pals chagged your ex-man but her man's involved Was she with him at this point? Was she with her husband at this point? No. They've split.

So the pal said if you feel okay to still come over and have a wine whilst your ex is here, you're more than welcome to come. She's then said, not a problem, I'm fine with that. Right. But then the pal responded saying all four of us could go upstairs and she's thought, wait, are you joking or serious? No reply. So then she's got her jammies on and she's off to her bed.

And then the husband, not her husband. not her ex the actual husband of the lassie has message to say come over so I can fuck you and then sent a picture

of the other two fucking each other holy shit which in turn is her ex-man in her house yeah so technically a husband

correct I just fear I can't move forward with that friendship are you kidding because you have just shagged my ex-husband yeah I'm sorry that's strange

and whether or not, because this is obviously the couple that I've got into the swinging to save the relationship but I just feel like you didn't need to swing with my ex and you're also not really saving our relationship in terms of our friendship you've just fucked that up and you're also fucking up her and her exes relationship as well because they still communicate for family reasons she said

so now she's not going to want to speak to him and be civil with him because he's just shagged her pal. Yeah. That's the messiest thing I've ever heard. messy but... I think you need to remove yourself from that girl group chat, I'm afraid or you just be pals with the other girl separately

Yeah because that's a bit She's the one too many wines I fear and she's made a bad decision I wonder what she said about it after the next day I know but I'm also feeling like we've all got husbands and I feel as a kid may be involved

I don't know if it's just her daughter or if it's her and the exes daughter but we're obviously of a good age but at least our age and above I would imagine right Yeah. So you just shouldn't be letting an extra, one wee extra wine

make you shaggy your pals ex-husbands, you know what I mean? Guys, do any of you swing? Let's just put it out there. Does anyone swing? Just to be honest, it's all anonymous. Do you swing with your pals? Wow.

Or has it ever been suggested that you swing together? A wee couple's holiday and somebody's thought, I'm just going to fucking say it. Yeah. Just put it out there. Because I told you I asked Richard, didn't I? after reading that thing on Facebook

in the Glasgow Girls Club of people saying that their partner has suggested it. No, I thought, thank you to all. And I said... Yeah, and I said to Richard, would you ever consider that? And obviously he was a bit taken back like, why are you asking me this question?

I explained the situation and he was very much like, well, I don't know, like if you wanted to sort of thing. And I was like, well, no, I don't think I do. But I knew he would say that though. I kind of knew he would have that reaction. I don't think he'd be like point blank, no.

But I don't think he would ever. suggest it either. No. I think he'd be like, well, if that's what you wanted to do, then we could consider. I was like, no, no, no. I just read it on a forum and I'm really interested to know, like, if I ever asked you that question, what would you say? Yeah, I think a lot of guys in the moment of being asked the question would say,

if you want, and a sort of like lad lad... I reckon most men would definitely be up for it. Like, shagging experience, like, why would I ever say not at that? She's giving me a whole pass here. But I feel like if it actually came to it a lot, less would go through with it. There's no way Jason wants to see me shagging someone else. No, but it might be with another woman.

I wouldn't want to say that either. You want her? No. Because he jokes that he thinks I'm a lesbian. With me? No, he just says like I act and dress like one. And because he sees me like stalking and zooming into like girls' abs and that on my Instagram, he thinks he's a lesbian.

And what I try and say is that's what girls do. Yes. Girls love good-looking girls. but it's not in a I don't want to shag you it's just in that I appreciate you and your beauty

and your body and your style and whatever if you call Jason zooming into men's abs you'd be a bit like bro bro what are you doing

yeah I would be but then I'd also be like you're jealous so I don't think he would be into that actually from those comments alone but you know what you never know

you never know and I do think I get the impression as we've said before it comes with age so like your relationships Maybe needing a bit of a spice up. Your kids are older, they've moved out

and you're thinking like our sex life is a bit shit now, why don't we get someone else involved? I'll be giving you a call in 10 years, us. Oh, I'll have had all the work's done by then. I'll be swinging for the lamp and everything. Can't wait.

Dress me up. Can't wait to move to both ends in. Right. My ex-fiance and I had been together for 10 years, six months from the wedding he called it off, claiming he was struggling with his mental health and it was all getting too much. He moved out of our house to work on this.

But I found out a month later from his best pal that he'd actually been cheated on me with a girl he'd met on a night out and it had been going on for months. The girl had mutual friends so she'd started showing up at things me and him were both at but of course I never thought anything of it

and was completely oblivious to what was going on behind my back. Oh, that's awful by the way. Fuck all wrong with his mental health just a shite bag that couldn't admit he'd fucked up. I moved out of our house and she moved in two days later. No, I'm sick.

Two and a half years later, they are still together. I'm happily single and grateful to have never set eyes on either of them since. Oh, do you know what, though? I know exactly what you're going to say. I know. I know you know what I'm going to say. If you're going to do it, at least make it fucking worth it. Exactly.

If you really like someone, be with them, marry them, stay with them. Yeah. Don't just ruin everything for a little drunken shag. Yep, exactly. They're both to tell me that you met someone else. Exactly that. I think as well in that situation, I feel like I would feel quite,

it would help me to know that it wasn't me. Yeah. So like he's not, he's not a drunken shag because I'm not giving enough or he doesn't actually like me that much or he fantased someone a night out. He's cheated on me because

he's found a connection with her. It's not the like, I'm... Do you get what I mean by that? Yes. I know obviously something's still missing. with me. But it's more that, like, I wasn't the problem. It's just that you found someone else that actually

does work for you. Correct. It wasn't just good for a short time. Yeah. My exter drunk in one night's stand and cheated on me. I found out because I got a hey girlie text. I chose to forgive him because I felt like he was in a bad place mentally and he was truly sorry. And I really believed it would never happen again.

Fast forward another four years we broke up as we grew apart. And since the breakup, I found out he probably cheated on me again as he moved on within a month with a girl. he was friends with. We were together for nine years and I had another girl tell me he had tried it on with her a year prior to the breakup. In hindsight there was a lot of shady behaviour

that I chose to ignore because I really did think I trusted him. Just my experience, on reflection, I would never forgive any sort of cheating behaviour again. Fair, fair sense. Three to six months affair right after we got engaged. Found out by checking his phone.

Not my proudest moment, but after months of him acting weird, being cold and distant, telling me there's nothing wrong and I was overacting. I felt I had no choice. We'd been together for 10 years and I was madly in love but there was no way we could move past it. Once that trust and respect is broken there's no putting it back together again but it turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me because I, it led me to my angel of a boyfriend now and couldn't be happy. Ah. See girlies everything works out in the end and everything happens

for a reason. So if you are going through this right now you will, you absolutely will see light at the end of the tunnel and you well better things are coming your way let me fucking tell you that now so shake yourself look at the room and tell yourself you're gorgeous okay absolutely right

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With pets. With pets. I think that's such a good topic to talk about though. It is. Because it's a tough one. So many people in that situation, but we'll dissect that over there. Right, so this one. Hi, girls. I love the podcast. Thank you for everything you do.

That's nice. That's really cute. I've been struggling with this for a while and I would love your input. I briefly dated a guy for about 10 months. It was intense. It was passionate. and I've never loved anyone so much before. Oof.

But around July, he decided that we are better off as friends, and so we are that. We are just best friends. I love him so very much still, but just as a friend. Are you sure? Right, okay. He's in the UK and I'm in Canada. So we still call every day

and only see him in person once in a while for work. Around October, I started dating and met the most incredible man that I am beginning to fall in love with. Oh. As you can imagine, he has a problem with me having a guy best friend that I've slept with before. He's the most mature guy, but it still makes him uncomfortable. And although he would never ask me to end my friendship, I know it affects him.

What are your thoughts? What should I do? Do I end my friendship? I'll still have to work with him. It would hurt me and I'd miss him, but I don't want to end my relationship. And boyfriend already said he can't deal with the three of us being friends. Help please and thank you again. Oh.

Okay. That's complicated. It is complicated, right, but... I can understand where the boyfriend's coming from. I can. For me, I just think the daily phone calls are a bit much. Yes. I'm not speaking to anyone on the phone daily.

I'm not, not even like my best mate. No. You? No. Well, saying that we talk all day every day. I mean, we speak via text, but when you phone me, I think someone's died. Yeah. That probably is the case.

But I just, I think it's acceptable to just pull back a bit. Yes. I think you're right. I don't think you should end the friendship. And as you said, your boyfriend probably doesn't necessarily want to ask you to do that either. But I think you could say, look, I get that, you know, we're really close and it wasn't always a friendship. So it is quite uncomfortable. Sure.

But I wouldn't want them not in my life at all because we genuinely are just best pals now. Yeah. But I can appreciate not speaking to him as often. I just don't think it sounds like a typical friendship, but it just seems like there's a lot of emotional baggage around this. Like are you, you felt differently you wanted more and are you kind of keeping them there just because you can't let go of those feelings?

Ask yourself if they turn around tomorrow and said, I want to be with you, would you drop everything for him? That's a question. Would you? And I think the answer would be yes. However, I don't think that that means that you can't continue friendship, though, at all. I just think you need to choose your priorities, draw back slightly, trying to keep things a little bit more professional, minimise a daily phone call.

Don't do it overnight. Don't make it an overnight thing where it can cause friction between you. Just draw back slightly and kind of show your new partner that you are respecting his choices and just say, like, I really want to show you that this is a friendship. And while you're doing that, it will probably feel more like that because your feelings will grow and prioritise to your new partner. Yeah.

And I think as well, I wonder if this guy has got a partner. Yeah. Because I'm feeling like he doesn't. Yeah. And when he does, you're going to get dropped. Yeah.

Like that. Yeah. Yeah, you will. You're not getting daily phone calls from him and he's getting a message. He's telling me that for nothing. I don't think they'd probably do. Maybe they're calling him work there.

If they work together, Maybe, but I think she said it in a sense of that's them keeping in touch. Yeah. I just think you can naturally, see as a friend, girl to girl, boy to boy, when someone gets a partner, you do notice them fall away a bit and that's natural and you expect it because they're spending their time with someone a lot. They're not available for a phone call, they're not available to text you back instantly. They're busy, they're outdoing things with someone.

versus she's sitting in their flat watching a movie when they're on their phone anyway. So I feel like if you want to kind of get away from speaking to him as often but not sure how then that's all you need to say. You just need to say, sorry I'm watching a movie with so-and-so tonight. What if you know if you're with this guy? Yeah.

He probably does, to be fair. But the boyfriend just probably doesn't feel, I guess, like the most important man in your life, which is what you want to. But he isn't feeling very secure in his relationship with you at the moment. And I think especially in a new relationship, the feeling you should feel, is like I'm the only person they care about in a very balanced, healthy way

but when you're the new girl to the boy, you want to feel like the only girl they care about. Vice versa, and he's just not going to feel like that at the moment. Yep. But I do agree with what you've said, I think we're holding

on because there is actually feelings there and we've just, we've did that thing where we've put it to the back of our mind and we're now believing our own lie. Yeah. Of you only like and was a friend. Because to me, you can just never, if you ever reach the more than a friend level,

you never come back from that. Correct. In my opinion. Like I wonder if, are you getting like your emotional needs from, from him that you're not getting in the new relationship? Like, is there something that you're getting from your friend that you feel like you're lacking in your new relationship?

Like, ask yourself that. Is that what you're craving so much? Or is it just the lust and how much you really, really felt for him, do you think you can get that with your new partner? Mm-hmm. I personally don't think you're allowing yourself to get to that point, though, because you're still so deeply involved with your friend.

I agree with that. Yeah. And I think you've just accepted the way to keep him in your life is on his terms of friendship, and that's not actually what you wanted. So you should have cut him off then. Yeah. But you've not, so I feel like now you need to not cut off,

but sort of down. pull back a bit. Yep. Well, let us know how that goes, please. And I'll hope that helped. Yep. That hard truth there, but you know, that's what we're here for. Anyway, let us know any more dilemmas. We've got a few more over on side dish.

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