A Lot On Your Plate - S4 Ep20: It's not goodbye, it's see you...on Patreon

Episode Date: June 25, 2024

It's our last episode of season 4, can you believe it??? We caught up on our week, touched on our upcoming summer plans and read through some more of our lovely listeners messages! If you don't want to be without us for 6 (ish) weeks, then head over to Patreon where we will be with our regular weekly bonus eps. Have an amazing summer!! lots of love, Jess & Zoe x  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hi guys! Happy Tuesday! It's the final episode. How sad are you? So sad, Jess and Zoe, we're going to miss you so much. Well, you won't miss us if you're on Patreon because we're still continuing for the next six weeks. So please head to the link in our bio and subscribe. I'm just kidding. No, actually, I'm not fucking kidding. That is actually what's happening. But also, six weeks is not a long time. No, it's not. Unless we brighten your week of every. week which we probably do. And in that six weeks we've got our live show at Dukert Social. There's not any tickets left for that unfortunately if you didn't manage to get one. However

any time we get a wee spare cancellation or whatever we'll put it on the stories. Yeah we are getting a few refunds because people's plans change but we'll be meeting over 500 of you so that's exciting isn't it? I need to know and clarify on that day if anyone's been to all three events. I'm sure they have. Although saying that, I didn't meet many people from, oh, I mean, that's hard to say though, isn't it? Because the one that we did at Wonder Bar for the two, three nights, two nights, two nights. We didn't really get to meet everyone individually because we're on stage the whole time, but at the brunch, we sat and met everyone. We were there with you. We hugged every single soul in that building. Although I don't remember because I was pushed.

Oh yeah. But it's going to be fun. Can he wait. I canny wait. Can we see you there if he misses But if not you can you can join us And the conversations will continue Over the course of the next six to Well we're thinking six weeks But we don't know a definite date when we're back But you guys know what we're like

We usually come back around August time don't we Yeah We need to get all our holiday plans out the way first Yeah Although most of them are actually after that I know Fuck But we're going to continue the pod while we're away as well

Absolutely change it up a bit Yeah anyway what you've been up to what's been a lot on your plate I feel like I've not asked you that in ages I know we don't really ask that anymore because we've been topic specific the last few weeks and we haven't got a spit or swallow so not doing that this week

so what's been a lot on my plate if you are on Patreon you know last week that I had like a a half an hour meltdown about how flipping tired and hormonal I was and I still feel the same to be honest no I'm feeling a bit better the past two days actually um so yeah i'll keep you informed on that but just just woman shit you know but we all go through it feeling much more happier and positive today yay and yesterday it was a good day my alarm went

off and i woke up and i thought oh not another day another day on this planet and then i got out of bed and i thought fucking hell feel good feel great had a coffee i think it's very chirpy at the moment what today right now and I feel good it's that cup of tea Alan's made me it's great I'm not actually

had any money and I'm excited because it's the last episode and I can have a holiday got two weeks to go till the sun did I say that in last week's Patreon

yeah I need some sun guys so that's lovely so about D San Sebastian incoming when's your next holes New Yorker in a few weeks

everyone's in New York at the moment it's just making me so jealous I know but it's concerning me because the weather doesn't look that good. It looks very up and down.

It is a bit like that though there. You'll have some good days. Are you there for a full week? Actually, eight days randomly. Oh, that's nice. And you're flying from Glasgow, Edinburgh? I think it's Glasgow, Edinburgh. That's handy. I think that's one of the only places you can really get a regular flight now. To New Yorker?

Yep. Mm. Are you flying with? Sleazy jet, probably. Yeah. I honestly will do anything in my power to avoid Brian here. But I love nothing more than their social media. Please tell me follow their TikTok. No, I don't but I do see some of them.

Now I don't know if I'm flying with to make me nervous. No, I think it's sleazy jet. In fact, it might be Jet 2. Jet 2 is iconic. I think it's Jet 2. I love it.

Because I feel like we ended up actually booking it as a package, which, by the way, I'm not for. Yeah, Jet 2 holidays. It gives me an ick. It's giving me Jess Glynn. You know, you know. There's just a thing about package ologies

for me that's the ick. Why is that, though? Just because it's so old school I know, teletext holidays, remember them? Yeah. It's giving that sort of vibe. But do you know what? Remember when we booked Miami a few years back?

We never ended up going because of COVID. But the only way, an affordable way for us to do it at the time, was a package holiday with, was it? Was it at love holidays? I think it was. To be fair, I always find the hotel I want and then I'll check if it's on a package website and if it is, you've won a watch.

And you're at all protected. I know, true. But anyway, I think it might be. be jet too. A wee jet to Jess Glen Holiday. Love it. Any of a bloody wait. So yeah, feeling a bit more chirpy. And holiday in a couple of weeks.

I'm going to go to Edinburgh this Friday and just, you know, have a little look around the shops and have a proper like holiday shop. Because we've discussed this before, but I hate nothing more than a sale. And the sale start in July. Yeah, I've started to see a few things coming already, I think. Have you? No. So hopefully I miss that But then the annoying part is

And I'll buy stuff And they're all going to sale Like a week later But honestly I think it's worth Which I don't want to shit Through the rail Especially as horror It's like hell on earth

So I'm going to go to Edinburgh And go basically just stay in the St James Quarter and do that And then I was in Belfast At the weekend just there For my dad I wrote in the Patreon chat But I surprised my

It was Father's Day weekend But basically if you followed me for years You'll probably remember That I used to go on holiday With my dad and my cousin To my dad's brother and his daughter and we call it

like Ted's on tour and we go somewhere random in Europe so we've been to Munich Bulgaria Switzerland we did book Budapest but then COVID hit

and then my cousin Kelly had a baby so just life comes out you things just changed and then me and my dad I talked my dad's Dublin last year with Guinness remember when I went with Guinness

on that trip so he loved it so much he was saying to me like love to go back just me and you away again so I was like Daddy daughter time

yeah we'll do Belfast because again it's sort of it's island Northern Ireland and you'll never he's ever been and I thought you'll really enjoy it

because remember he used to be a Guinness collector so a lot of the Guinness original memorabilia is in some of the pubs there so I'd like him to see it but what he didn't know and what my uncle didn't know

is me and my cousin Kelly had planned to surprise them for my uncle's 60th it was also Father's Day weekend so she was celebrating it for him and it was my cousin Kelly's birthday so we were celebrating three things

and maybe a belated 60th for my dad which we couldn't do four years ago and we turned up in the pub with all the Guinness memorabilia in it's called the Duke of York most people will know about it if you go in Belfast and yeah and they were and my uncle was like oh my god that's Jess and then he turned around and saw his brother and it was just so lovely they were like hi you buddy and they were like looking oh that's so cute my dad was so made up honestly like my dad is very much like me like we thrive in social situations we just love being around more people the better and not saying that me and my dad

wouldn't have had an amazing time we would have but it was just he knew upon that point it was going to be boozy especially when that's something you used to do as I thought as well yeah what's the word nostalgic exactly and just because there was I thought there was no reason why

and we're in the taxi from the airport on the way to it and Kelly was texting me like we're in this pub and the taxi driver was like oh it's really unusual we're seeing a dad and daughter going away on a weekend together like that's really nice and I was like yeah it's father's day weekend and my dad was like oh we know usually mate like it's max brother and my niece that go along but we've just not done it for years have we jess and

I'm sitting there thinking in 10 minutes time oh it was so good it worked out perfect because you were quite worried that one of them was posted on facebook run you my dad is a Facebook worker loves Facebook everything goes on it and like any status I thought it was going to tag himself into the airport um no but it worked out perfect it was very boozy I was spewing my actual guts up all day Saturday. It was so bad. I had a pepperoni pizza the night before. And I'll be honest with you,

that's my least favorite takeaway pizza. But it was the only thing. And I didn't even want it. Anyway, I had like three slices of that. And now I'm scarred for life. You know, when it comes up the next day and I can taste that oily. So that wasn't ideal.

Can I keep up with origins? Restaurant-wise, went to a couple of places. I went to a place called St. George Market, which is open on the weekends, which I highly recommend and they do this thing called the Belfast Bap and it's

if you look at on YouTube it's like and I'm not exaggerating it's that size of every single thing like sausage bacon egg hash brown black pudding

white pudding it's pretty sickly but I obviously was spewing at the thought so I went for an assai bowl genuinely I wasn't doing it for health but my dad was just like

love get that to fuck and I was like no but dad I genuinely can only drink orange juice and he's like what is wrong with you

I'm like I'm just just hanging out of my eyes. And then I went to a nice place called The Pocket for Brunch, which is quite popular. I went there last time. Really recommend that. And just in Belfast in general, if you've been,

or if you've not been, I cannot recommend it to you enough. It's less than 25-minute flight from Glasgow or Edinburgh. Oh, I think. It's really cheap to get there. I think it's like £30. I recommend a hotel called The Bullet if you can stay there. Oh, I know.

Uh-huh. But it's a really good central location, but we've got an Airbnb. be um and all the pubs uh the thirsty goat the dirty onion uh the harp bar and the national they're all near each other all live music constantly really recommend all four and you know who comes up with names for some of these dirty onion the dirty onion dirty goat and do you know what else i did zerry on the sunday which again i highly recommend didn't plan a Father's Day roast dinner, we just, we messed up with that one.

So my dad was really, and my uncle were really interested in doing the whole tour of the Troubles in Northern Ireland. So we had something called a black cab tour. Is that what the film Belfast is all of that? Yes. I quite enjoyed that film. Yes. And you have, you could do a tour bus. You could do an open top tour bus of it or you could do like a coach tour.

But if you do a black cab tour, they're more of the, well, anyone that does them are, they're all loads. locals, they're guys that grew up in that area at the time, it's probably best to try and get somebody that isn't, like, strongly president or Catholic. So they're not trying to educate you on it based on one side of it. Yeah. But anyway, we went to the peace wall. We just went to all the areas, looked at all the memorials, and it was just really interesting. My dad and loved that. Fascinated by it. So I do really recommend that. And last but not least, I went to my favorite jewelry shop, which is called Lines and Current. You know, this necklace that I've wore for years and I've got it tattooed on me, I love it that much. Well... What was that over there? Lines and Currant is a Northern Irish jewelry brand, yeah. Interesting.

They've got a warehouse, but they're actually stocked in a shop called Born and Bread. So, really recommend, and then I bought myself these earrings. Yeah, they're really nice, I've been noticing them. Be gorgeous, aren't they? Quite expensive, but it's... I'm allergic to nickel, so I need to have gold-plated stuff. But they're a nice, like... Dumpy shape.

Yeah, like size and shape. to not be too much but also you've not got a studding quite subtle so if you're pretty I'm quite pretty but I was going to lead on nicely to that jewellery brand

that sent us some stuff so we had some jewellery sent to us from a brand called Vestito I'm a Scottish-based I think they are yeah they might be Glasgow based and sorry you put a nice picture of it

into our patron chat and we had a discount code and is it Pod Pigs 20 Pod Pigs 20 we'll get you 20% off that's lovely and we'll pop their Instagram handle in

bio of the description of this episode so thank you so much for that that's really kind I would like to give me the joy please or treat yourself yes anyway enough of me

blabbing on what have you been up to well what's been a lot on your plate back to the roots I went far and wide at the weekend I went to Glenn Cole the Glen

the Glen the Valley the valley we like that don't we i went to glen co on friday and i went to a little lodge and it was really to celebrate me and jesus four year anniversary congratulations the big four um and it was lovely had a great time it's a long drive though yeah two and a half yeah it was but two and a half but we'd actually put in an aldi in glencoe it was actually fort william naldi was in because we thought we'll go there get all our barbecue food because it had to be a new barbecue rather than like

Was it cold again? The lodges I went to Yeah Riverbeds. That's it. Quite a popular one I think. They've been known for quite a while haven't they? I think they were maybe one of the first to do that sort of like we round cabin thing with the hot tub and stuff. Anyway we went up to the shop got all the stuff the barbecue so that took us about three hours to get there and we were stuck behind a bus at one point on those winding roads and I thought Jason was just going to drive us off the side of the hill. He was getting so angry and I

I was like, there's nothing you can do about it. Literally, nada. Nada, nada. Anyway, did that, then went to the lodge and just chilled, really. Just had a chill time in the hot tub. I can only do that for a wee while. Yeah.

I get a bit bored and restless and hot and bothered. Did you take a book or did you? No, I didn't take a book. The book thing's gone, guys. It will come back on holiday. I'll come back in holiday, absolutely. But what I will say is just, a slight change of topic for a second

as I started that coat of thorns and I read like two chapters and I never ever went back to it and that's just not a good sign just can't get into it but it was on a flight so maybe I'm just I need to try again anyway went in the hot tub did the barbecue

the food took ages you're waiting on well you're just waiting on the coals to turn white and I just don't know if maybe they weren't all fully white and we put it on about too soon and then it just took ages She's maybe a bit wearier, but you know that way?

We need to get better at that. I mean, Jason was in full control. I was just sitting back and relaxing. Anyway, absolutely. And then we just watched first half of the game and then watched Love Island. Very chill night. But I'm happy with that.

Jamies on. Feet up. Love it. Bar of chocolate. I got my dairy milk. Did you? I got a big one. Not a Mackey's.

I thought, fuck it, I'll get the big dairy milk. Not a Mackey's. Got that in the way back, though. Did you? Because we stopped at Luss again. on the way back for lunch. By the way, did we speak about that in the main last week? Can't remember, but I'm saying Mackey's chocolate

because Zoe was talking about how much she loves it and she's found her newfound love for it. That was in the Patreon one last week we caught up. Yeah, Mackey's chocolate. I just didn't know it was a thing. Can you get that in normal shops? Yes.

What like is? Yeah. I've just never, see when I go for chocolate, I just look at like the... But they're bigger bars though. So maybe go to a bit in the supermarket where it's bigger. Smaller. Yeah.

All right, okay, bigger bits. Yeah. I just look for that purple dairy milk packaging. Do you what I mean? I just bypass everything else, go to the one and only. See, I'm more of a Galaxy girl over there, dairy milk, you know. Are you? Right, okay, interesting.

I do like Galaxy. And every time I eat it, I think, fuck, I remember how good that is. Yeah. Not I forget how good it is. It's got that creamy taste to it. But what I will say is I do really love dairy milk, uh, marvelous creations or fruit and nut. I think that's beautiful chocolate, but I like things with textures in it.

I like fruit and nut. a lot and I like dairy milk crunchy bits so it's like a crunchy bit the crunchy bits you can get an actual bar of that anyway so just child Julie but what I will say is if anyone's going

anything like that up in that direction you need to take midgy spray a midgy candle any midgy repellent you can possibly have take that with you because I was not prepared I've got bites from head to toe I was saying this as early actually when I did the NC 500 and we did that in

end May June time and apparently the midges are really bad in the summer all that way the only place that there was swarms of midgies when we opened up our camper van was Glencoe so it must be quite bad there I mean thinking about it I don't know why I was shocked and didn't actually think before I went because you'd think maybe the riverbeds would maybe have emailed you

and said like listen I know provided you with something for the price of those bloody beds well there was a wee spray in the room but it was like the one you just obviously put on your skin right I was a bit like well I don't want to put that in my face and neck and all that I don't mean I'd put some on like before I put my jammies on because I was like I'm not going to sleep and getting eating alive but I did anyway but to be fair they are literally sitting on the river I know it's making me itchy as well but the wee lodgies literally do sit on the river

hence the name river meds so what are you expecting like you're in amongst trees yeah I think we might have mentioned this before the best midgy spray that is out there is apparently the avon your dress sales avon yeah we've said that before haven't we it has to try that I think it's still a thing I'm not really sure but yeah so definitely think that mosquito yeah just insect repellent

yeah is midgie a mosquito is it just like a smaller version I don't know but they're all fucking annoying but what I hate about things like that is once I think or notice something like that I feel like they're crawling on me I can't really get it out of my heads and the only thing the only negative I have to say

is about the shower. Yeah. I was really affected by this. The shower was in the toilet which I know it usually is right but in that wee room there was a toilet, a sink that you could hardly fit your hands in it was tiny. Fair enough you're in a wee one room cabin thing and then the toilet roll holder and it had a plastic bit over it that you would like almost like a wee door yeah a wee thing you would cover the toilet roll with and I was like what's that for and then realised, is there not a shower in here and looked up and it was just in a corner?

So it's protecting it, there's toilet water and getting wet. So you protect that from it getting wet, which it got soggy anyway. But you basically stood where a guy would stand to pee. Okay. To get your shower. You know what I'm like with things like that? I was just like... That's all part

and parcel of that little cabin experience though that you pay fucking £700 for a night. Well luckily I didn't pay that but by the way it usually is. It is. Wait until you get a deal. I remember when I first moved up here years ago and it was back then it was free 400 pound

it was cheaper to stay Glen Eagles a night than it was Riverbeds. No I know and it's not now. And Richard told me to get fucked. Well similar I managed to get it for and I know this is still quite a lot but like I wanted to just I was a special occasion. And it was like about 300 odd which I'm so close to saying

I still don't think it's even worth that but it's not that it's not worth it. It just has a lot of money and you could do so much more with your money. But if that's your kind of thing, then you would think it's worth it. And so many people replied to my stories being like, how cute are they? And I was like, so many people have came here. So people must pay it. Of course.

No, they do, because it's usually sold out, I think. Yeah, no. But I do like the thought of these things. Jason loves, like, the water and a hot tub and stuff. So, like, he likes having that. But I think deep down, I just like a hotel. Yeah, I love a hotel. But, like, a spa and a pool.

And you just know everything's really clean. And don't get me wrong. They were really clean, but just the thought of the ants in like, I don't know, that's a shower situation. But that is what you're paying for there, isn't it? You meant to be out in the wild. Ah, you're paying to get eaten alive by midges, absolutely. But apart from that, I've not really been up to anything else. Like, I've had quite a busy week with work.

I was shooting at a Kiko again. Yeah, the good tree of lunches. Shout out to Harry. He said, can I get a shout out. He does. Shout out, Harry. You have the best lunch spot in the whole of Glasgow. No, yeah, actually does.

and that's it really just loads of work bits on I'm trying to think if I've eaten anywhere different this week but oh we went somewhere nice last night we went out for dinner we did we went to August house yes just across from Sugo if anyone doesn't know where it is in Glasgow but I've been there a couple times before to be fair

we went not long after it opened and it's kind of like small plates I feel like it's quite good for if you're having drinks you know you don't want a big meal and you just don't want to share few wee bits yeah because we got what like deep fried cauliflower we had cauliflower wings with like a buffalo sauce they were really good and pickles and then we had chips with gotcha jang sauce spring onion we had the chicken salt and pepper chicken katsu burgers two wee mini burgers it was like curry curry alioli alioli i don't know how to say that word the only thing is with that sort of flavor and they always put coriander in it i just don't

like coriander but it was nice it was nice and what was the other thing we had a feta and watermelon salad iconic I've never had that combination before if you've never had water metton watermelon chunks with feta mint if you like it you can put a bit of tahine

you know the lovely sprinkly dressing on tajin tajin but it's tahin I know so good and a nice healthier snack for a refreshing summer salad balsamic glaze with a bit of rocket We also had Arrancini

Enduya Enduya Arancini with crispy leeks Now A Kiko got me into crispy leeks If you get in a Kiko bowl You need to give you the option To have crispy onions or crispy leeks

Go for crispy leeks But they did them on top of this arachini It was really good It was lovely cocktails And then we went downstairs Because they do this movie night thing Every Wednesday Yeah it was so cute

They do it every single Wednesday by the way I didn't know that all through Christmas then it's all Christmas films and then because it was June obviously it's June right now

they did they were doing like a wedding bridal head do thing because a lot of people have their weddings in June July so we watched Bride Wars

it was so good I've not seen that film for years you forget we bits of films like that don't you that you've not seen in a while but it was cute and we got popcorn

it was nice and they had a cocktail yeah it was lovely So I think usually if you book that, it's £10 a ticket and you get your ticket, obviously, for your film. You get a welcome cocktail and you get nachos and popcorn. Amazing. Lovely wee night. And then we went across to Blue Dog.

I've never been there before and that was on our list of places to go if you were an older, as we've said before. You're older and you want to go to bars with older-ish crowds. I honestly thought I was really taken back by that. I thought Blue Dog was going to be Brue Dog vibes Like quite old man pubby Not in a bad way I just thought it was going to be like a sports bar

Really really busy in there And just Quite like rowdy Yeah But not at all It's actually still quite August house vibes It is it's a gorgeous venue So nice

And it would be perfect for a date night in there I think at the weekend You'd either out for a sophisticated cocktail with your pals Or you're on a wee date and it was quite quiet in there but I would imagine well quite a few people messages and said go to Blue Dog when we put on our story where could we go to do a cocktail roll and they said there so yeah

guys I'd definitely recommend checking that out and it's in such a good location because from there on you could go and continue on to other bars but yeah really really liked it there and it was Scotland was playing they drew 1-1 by the time this comes out hopefully to the next round who knows I'm not sure I've got much hope for that And then next Friday

Because we're not going to catch up with you But me, I'm taking Zoe to Lester again So what we'll do Zoe Is we'll do our little vlog again And we'll post it on Patreon We have vloggers Because me, Zoe and my friend Rebecca are going down And basically my mum

Is moved to house I might have mentioned this last season But she's finally got a lovely big house And my stepdad is an engineer So he's really great with designing things So he's designed a whole amazing garden for them. It's got like an outside I think it's a bar area

or something. I don't know, but apparently it's amazing. Sounds fancy. My step-uncle, my stepdad has also bless his heart, recovered from cancer recently, has had the all-clear. So we're having a bit of like a double celebration. My mom was like housewarming

slash celebration of life. So it's going to be amazing. There's over 60 of us and Zoe's coming down. Over sexy? Yeah. And I said to Zoe, you're going to meet like all my aunties uncles my godparents and just loads of people are going to be there

and all my friends it's going to be so cool Richard's come in I couldn't believe you had another godparent for me so he was fearing about that but you'll love her so again I'm really looking forward to it and we're going to have pizzas my mum's going to make a big spread

so it's going to be fun I hope it's really nice weather as well yeah and my mum also said thank you so much to everyone that followed her by the way last week she's really taken back by it like my mum's like someone that expresses pure excitement over like text messages and stuff but she was

honestly blown away and over the moon so yeah she's really happy she deserves it I'm actually going to London after that I'm going to go from Leicester to London to see my friend my friend's Abby yep she lives there now all the way down there

so I'm going to go there for a couple nights you should go she lives in Clapham doesn't she yeah so I'm going to stay with her on the Sunday night and then I booked as a hotel for the Monday night both of you yeah we'll both stay in the hotel where you stay in which hotel 100 in shoreditch because her works in shoreditch as well so it's just easy and then i'll just work there please not sure yet okay so can i recommend two places to you absolutely so i recommend if you go in clapham she'll probably know about it because she lives down that way but as teca in clapham in clapham where i went with mark was so good from mexican yeah i've heard of that actually maybe from you yeah there's one in chelsea but there's a new one in clapham so i don't know how far away it is from abby's house and if you go to shore to Eat in Manteca. Manteca, okay. So good.

It's got like a, no, maybe I won't say this because you weren't like it. It's got like a wooden pig's head outside the front. All right, sold. Fucking hell. Get me there. It's really nice. It is so good in there. Right.

But to be fair, a lot of my favourite restaurants are in Shoreditch area. We'll be quite often staying in that area. Yeah. When we go, but Abby, if you're listening to this live when it's out, can you note them down? Oh, she'll know about them. So that's what I'm going to be doing and then I get back on the Tuesday and go on holiday and Sunday.

So you do. Chaos. And you're away on the Tuesday. Where am I going? San Sebastian. Guys, did I tell you lot that I'm actually going wireless with my sister? I don't know if I did.

I thought you've mentioned that. Oh, fucking hell. There's so much kicking off in the break that we're having coming up. But yeah, I'm actually going to Wireless festival for three days with my 15-year-old sister. And she said to me, She gave me the whole list of like the, what's it called, the lineup.

Obviously, I'm just at that stage now where I'm not cool. I don't know who they all are. She's like, you know who Doja Cat is? I was like, yeah, but I don't really give a fuck. But I went, who do you actually want to go and see, Zara? Because I don't think I've got three days in me. I know she loves London. She's got a thing about Camden.

She wants to live there. So I was like, look, why don't we have a day in Camden? Yeah. And we can go and see some sites rather than just going three days hard at a festival. I don't really want to do that either. I'm sure she doesn't. And she went, I want to go and see... So bear in mind she's 15

and all these people on this list that I've never heard of. I thought she'd give me a list of all these names. She went, I want to see Sean Paul. When you choose Athabasca University's online MBA program, you'll get more. Experience more flexibility to pursue your degree

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Find out how at Athabaskiu.cau.cau.ca.com slash flexible MBA. Oh, I'm buzzing my tits off. Sean DePaul. So I'm buzzing. So I want to see Sean Paul. I don't think she'd know who that was. Yeah, that's quite a good one to be fair. Honestly, if you've seen that TikTok going around of like saying texting you and the sister is like texting a boy that's not interested in you I literally sent to my wee sister I text her 10 times no reply and then I'll get a message to and watch your Disney plus password and I'm like oh thanks for the text

hello Jessica and Amy Ted's and then we're just talking she's like yes no okay okay okay okay true yes okay okay okay BRB okay it's actually mind them and it's it affects me well that'll be quite fun and then you can actually enjoy London a bit more than you expected. Yeah. But that would be nice. A bit of bonding time with the sis, you know.

Absolutely. Also, do you know what I wanted to share that I thought I had, have I spoke about Tupperware before on here? Okay, now. Maybe. You're ick for us Tupperware? Yeah, maybe I've shared it before, right.

But what I wanted to say is, how can something, Tupperware being the something, make you feel so icky, but also so put together. the same time yeah so you're talking about like you're feeling organized and prepped but the fact that you're reheating food no it's not even that I'll tell you exactly what it is right okay when I go into the office no when I go into the office I've been quite

prepared to take my lunches I just like to know what I'm eating and it does make me feel accomplished I'm like I've got my shit together here we go the walk from my actual office in that building to the kitchen fridge holding a little little tupperware. Holding my tupperware with the baby wheel sitting the top. It's just not okay. And people are seeing me do it and do you know what else I thought about is the same? Even though it's such a thing and everyone does

it, having your own water bottle? Do you know what I mean though? No. It's like being so prepared is kind of giving like camping mum. With a backpack. It's just getting organised and I don't want to spend £15 on my lunch today. And I'll continue to do it. I love prepping my lunch.

Like, I really feel like I've got my shit together. No one is looking at you. Do you know, are you looking at everyone else? With that I'm thinking, oh, brother, eh, brother. I'd like to say never, but I could never say never. No, actually I don't. I think fucking hell they're organised. But I just thought it was the walk with, like, do you know what it was?

I had a few things. Yeah. So I had, like, a big Tupperware, and then I had a wee round one on top. And then I had my baby bell, baby bell balancing the top of that. And then I had, like, my wee saucer shut on. I just felt like I had like a wee pile like walking. to the strategy I just felt like a dick

I should have to share that I'm sure people will feel the same way anyway so Anywho we want to say thank you again because honestly we can't explain the past two episodes of just we're changing people's lives

honestly We are inspirational characters to this world And aside from the messages of people sending us their side to it or saying thanks whatnot We've also had people saying things like, I've sent a letter or I've sent a text. Yeah.

And we've both agreed that we're going to do X, Y, Z. And that is fantastic news to hear. And I'm certain if there's people out there that haven't messaged us and have done these things or it's made them feel a type of way. Yeah. That's just really nice to hear. So we've got quite a few messages more to read out, but a bit more different. Not all the ones saying how fantastic me are. just maybe some more that you can relate to because we know how much you loved it

yeah so hi girls i just want to comment on the girl at the end of the last podcast whose husband had cheated so do you guys remember that we said she was feeling a type of way because she forgave him after he was downloaded tinder yeah although i admire her for her commitment to the vows i also believe that the for better or for worse part is very toxic i'm not prepared to stay in a toxic relationship and ruin my life, not saying this is one, just because of a line I said during a social, societal construct marriage. Right. However, I have been slightly in these girls' shoes and I know it's not as black and white

as to cut your partner off when they made a mistake, particularly if it's not a full-blown affair. It's hard to talk to your friends and family about it too, as you don't want it to seem like a pushover or think badly of your partner when they are also not in your relationship. you're constantly struggling between drawing a firm boundary but also not throwing an otherwise great relationship away. Esther Perrell, maybe I've said that name right, is a psychotherapist who's done a famous TED talk

about rethinking infidelity, which really helped me. I'm not saying if it happened again, I might not think differently, but you can only judge things by where you're at in the present. Having a very frank and uncomfortable conversation with my partner after really helped me when we were trying to work out what went wrong and how we got here. This helped and also seeing his remorse and self-reflection afterwards. She is not alone. That is good to hear.

I think that one's just so hard to know what you would do until you're in that situation. So it's difficult to give advice on. Yeah, of course. And obviously, like, we would... I know we were very on the fence with it and she'd made that decision. Listen, if my friend tech came to me and said,

so-and-so's down on Tinder, of course, as your friend, maybe you would a way you would, initially we'd probably be like oh what the fuck what a dick like yeah you deserve better but she's privately done it and he went to therapy whatever i think you have to take a step back sometimes and understand like there are reasons why people do things and again i believe people deserve a second chance depending on the circumstances so maybe those people listen to that episode that might have been like oh i'd fucking write off then that that's fine but she chose to forgive him yeah and if that's

the decision she decided to do that that's the right one for her. Definitely. It's really hard when we don't know any person personally when they write in, do you know what I mean? Yeah, we don't know the ins and outs of the relationship either.

Right, next up. Just a message to say, thank you for the last couple of episodes, especially Ep 18. So that's the first one. I have been with my boyfriend for eight years and we just got a house, moved in together in December.

It's been a big life change, of course, but I've honestly found living with him great and I've loved even the simple things like having dinner together after work or the gym. although I have felt that we have become a lot less touchy-feely and feel like her sex life has suffered I have been putting it down to both having a lot going on

with moving in and both been really busy with work since listening to last week's episode I have since spoken to my boyfriend and brought up my feelings to which he has voiced his. We have both agreed to make sure we make time to go on little dates and compliment each other and just generally make more of an effort and I feel like it has already made such a

difference. I have been too shy to message but I love the podcast and stay one. I feel like this was too important for me not to share and also to thank you both for being so open and honest and your own experiences oh that's lovely and she is coming to the dot guard social name yeah we'll see there come and make yourself known sister

see that is just as simple as a conversation yeah totally move it progress I don't know if this bit made it into the episode 18 but we did also briefly touch on like mobile phones and iPads in the bedroom yeah

and I think a really good tip as well it is and we all do it, we all spend so much time on these distractions but maybe saying to each other let's have an hour free without our phone and let's just have a chat or watch a movie together in the bedroom or whatnot because we're all just to sit and distract ourselves on these phones we scroll ticks off hours before you know it's midnight

you can't be asked to have sex let alone have a conversation I know I just hate when I realised that the last thing I did at night was like put my phone down the first thing I did when I wake up to put my phone up do you know what somebody said to me once which is I've been trying to do. Try your best to wake up and I know you pick up your phone

because you're turning your alarm off most of the time but put it straight back and then get up, go to toilet make yourself a coffee spend a good 10, 15 minutes just doing your shit and then check your phone if you need to but I hate that we even having to say that

because it's such an awful habit that us millennials are in. Well our manager Becky she doesn't keep her phone in a bedroom she has a phone policy didn't she? For you, he's an alarm clock. Amazing. I just don't know if I would have...

I don't trust the alarm clock. I was just going to say that. I don't trust the alarm clock. But why? Everyone else did that for years. What if the batteries died or something? That was you slept in. But do you really sleep in much?

No. Like there's only the odd day. Like when we go to box in the morning, that's earlier than we are used to getting up. So we would sleep in that day. Yeah. The alarm didn't go off. Yeah.

But apart from that, I feel like it's fine. Anyway, a message about having an ex on instance. here we go just want to give my experience of having an ex on Instagram my ex of almost eight years broke up with me on the same week as the first COVID lockdown what a week

looking terrible time on that skip forward a few months later and I started seeing a guy two months in I tagged him something on Instagram one day this new guy I was seen asked me who so-and-so was I said it was my ex and asked why he told me started watching his stories

every day since I'd recently tag him. This new guy then got so freaked out about it that he ended it with me a few days later. Oh, you're joking. After that, I'd leave my ex from Instagram. So I'm in favour of glitian exes from social media. This is the thing. Yeah, but that's only if your Instagram is private. If you've got an open Instagram, your ex could still stalk you and then stalk that person. No, I know, absolutely. But I do think, like, that guy's obviously been scared off by that and that's a shame. Well, he's not the one for you anyway. If that's scared you all.

then you're an absolute wuss mate get a grip sorry no i think i agree with you actually wait it doesn't end there oh the same ex a week later showed up to my parents house saying he'd made a mistake and left me a letter that i've never read how how how could you not read that please does she burn it is she going to keep it for like years to come i don't know if she put the eyes emoji after that. I wonder how long ago this was. Read it, read it, read it. Send it us.

Let us read it out. We'll read it and then let you know. Get your mum to open it, take a picture. Send it us and we'll let you know if it's worth it. I'm intrigued by that. Hi, girlie. Just listen to the latest episode and wanted to say, oh, your previous episode was my favourite by far.

Jess, I really look up to you. And to hear you get emotion, I cannot explain what it did for me. Have just moved to Australia and I'm listening to your podcast. it makes me feel like I'm catching up with friends from home but currently here on my own working some stuff out it just made me feel better about life and soothe my soul to see you so vulnerable when you're such a bright, beautiful, positive girl

and it made me much more kinder towards myself and accepting so me being sad has made you feel me. I fucking love it honey no it's cause you're emotional and raw yeah sad oh that's really lovely that's really nice oh well I hope you're figuring things out in Australia it's a long way to go and figure stuff out and I hope you're not running away from your problems

and you're there to do it for yourself because that can be quite difficult and quite isolating going all that way when you're trying to figure stuff out and what could you really go one way or another can't it? Yeah but I really appreciate message that's really nice thank you so much right we've got another one on cheating

go for it right just listened to today's episode and thought I'd put my tuppensworth in on cheating how I dealt with the arsh piece and how I found out so apologies might be a bit long. We're here for it. So I was married to my ex for six in about years. He was

military and so him working away with something I was fairly used to. He got deployed for what was supposed to be four days and turned out to be six weeks during which I was changing jobs and you couldn't really tell me what he was doing so it was a tad stressful. When he came back he started talking about a female colleague a lot. Alright. Here we go.

She was married with kids so I found it a bit random that she was texting my husband on weekends and asked him to stop as I felt it was disrespectful when they were at work together all week as well. as the weeks and months went on it didn't end and I was gaslit very badly he finally ended up committing adultery with her a week

before my birthday and then again a month or show later I found out because her husband found her phone screenshoted some fairly graphic messages... Who, her husband? The other woman's husband found her phone, screenshoted some fairly graphic messages found me on Facebook Messenger and sent it to me

I'll never forgive him either because he actively knew he was about to change my life. Fair point. If it was me, I'd make the pair of them go into their workplaces and confess all. They'd done it on work time. Ooh. That's not okay, is it?

I got my legal team in place that day and filed for a divorce a week later. Name another party on my papers as well. This is normally not advised because it can drag the process out, but I wasn't backing down. The process was horrible, but I was fairly clinical with it. I knew I could never forgive him. I'm a petty bitch. I'd bring it up if he knew that. I'd bring it up if he did.

didn't wash of dishes and I knew I was worth more. I think the better pill for me that was that other woman stayed with her husband and neither my ex-husband or her ever faced any sort of repercussions. Do you know what his repercussion was though? Losing her? No I know. That is true but I think her point is and what upset her is that they

both work together and that's not appropriate in a workplace. No. What she's saying is they didn't ever get any repercussions from the military quite the opposite in fact because her ex is never off the TV, social media and is a poster boy for his unit much to my sheer disgust she said

he's now engaged with someone new a year and a bit after her divorce Who the man is? Yeah. Oh, you joking. She said the social media presence, etc. is hard because I cannot get away from him fully and he will know that and be enjoying it.

Ew. Yeah. Wonder who that is then? I know. So there's another thing about cheating and a marriage. I feel like she did the right thing. No, she totally did.

And again, you know, if she forgave him, it sounds like he would have done it again anyway. I know. I get why she finds it difficult, though, because it's like he's now moved on engaged with someone else. Yep. And the other woman still with her husband, he's obviously forgiven her.

And it's like she's kind of came out the worst in this in her mind right now. But from an outside point of it, you're not. That's what I'm just about to say. You've gained and this is only the beginning for you. Absolutely. 100%. It might not seem like that right now, but this is the path for you.

And you're on to bigger and better things, honey pie. Hey, girls, absolutely love the pod and have been an OG pod pig. Seeing you girls thrive is like watching my own friends succeed. I bloody love it. We like girls like you. That's nice. The Epps the past couple of weeks have hit me different. I just had to reach out with this.

It's a long one so I apologise in advance for the ramble. It's in multiples. So I've been single for four years, roughly, following the breakdown of an almost four and a half year relationship during COVID lockdown one. In brackets, it's giving PTSD. To begin with, my ex had just had initiated he had fallen out of love with me via text. Who does this? Are we 14? Total pig, I know, as we had a mortgage, which we shared and lovely life to outsiders looking in.

We worked in the same place, so I doubted the sincerity of this, as it felt random, impulsive and very sudden, almost like a knee-jerk reaction to a situation that was perhaps being spoken about at work. He said he wasn't cheating and that there was no one else when I asked him outright and that I just need an excuse to end the relationship. I didn't. The audacity, though. My gut was telling me something was off. I moved out and we put the house up for sale.

Following the sale of the house, a trusted work source informed me that my ex was messaging multiple women in capitals at our work and had been cheating on me physically with a woman who I found in our home after we separated. He promised me they were just friends.

It was all a lie. I left the situation dignified and just sent him a closing message. this is giving you vibes saying that I knew he had lied and about this other woman and that I hoped and prayed that he trusts future women

with more respect in class than he has me that's a nice thing to say isn't it I feel like I hope you treat future women rather than like bringing them down she's like you know

we deserve better pigs than you a total asshole of a man however this has taught me endless amounts about myself and my own resilience and character I often feel that in order to fully understand yourself and grow as a person that heartbreak of the sorrest kind is often very much needed

and I can honestly say that four years down the line I've got my gorgeous flat, have been promoted twice at work and I'm genuinely thriving. Karma works in mysterious ways as he is very much still in the place I left him. To anyone going through similar and struggling to see the wood for the trees,

time is the greatest healer and better things are coming your way. Love that. What a strong woman. Really nice and I honestly would love to try and be that dignified if I had to end a relationship. that definitely takes a lot yeah definitely we've got a message

about revenge go on right funny story about when my first boyfriend broke my heart at 17 I like when it's younger because it's like Jesse

the type of heartbreak that hurts so bad I was absolutely devastated that feeling it's horrible he came over to drop my stuff I'd left his house and I was uncontrollably sobbing

whilst my mum listened at the stairs what he was saying to me. I asked if he wanted his jumper back and he said no, keep them. As soon as he left, my mum said, right, down here now and bring the jumpers. She had a pair of scissors and some matches waiting. We went out into the back garden and we took it and turned as to cut into the back of the jumpers, cutting them up into pieces. We then set fire to them and it was honestly the best therapy and core memory ever. My stepdad came home to us making a fire in the garden and asked what the hell we were doing. She sent him inside and told him it was therapy. I still thank

her now for making me feel so much better and she said, said she would never forgive that shit bag for breaking her baby's heart. P.S. This same boy came crawling back years later and I pied him as I was talking to my partner who I'm still with now eight years later. I've heard through friends he was absolutely devastated when he found out I had bought a house and I'm now having a baby. Well, snooze you lose prick. I was a catch.

She is a catch. I just loved that her mum did that. They would never want to see you heartbroken and they would do anything to be like, right? I know. They've got years of experience and they're going to. and be like, right, let's do this together and they cut up that top.

I love that. So, we're going to end the episode, but we're going to do a bit of a Q&A. So should we maybe ask a couple of questions then carry it on into the Patreon? Yeah. I think that's quite nice because we asked on our stories to ask us any...

Before we wrap up, is it anything? Yeah. Any questions outstanding and you'd like to answer to it? So we'll do like five, ten minutes on this and then we'll carry on. Okay, doc. Boss. Okay, boss.

Right, what should we begin with? I know. We had a really nice message from our lovely male listener, so let's read this out. What I want to hear is, I'd love to know two things. Zoe wasn't unknown. Nobody had a clue why Jess had picked her. Yeah, maybe not in your world, must have? Here of us all, Jess fans, trying to work out why and trying to work out why she'd pick her. Did we like her, question mark? Who was this theatre-loving, straight-talking girl? So, back to my original point. What's Chase? for Zoe since she's agreed to be on the pod

now that we all love you and know who you are everyone fucking knows who Zoe Quinn is what's change for me's people actually know how fucking funny I'm as a person I think that's valid no come on seriously what's changed for you since doing the podcast well quite a lot probably

go on well I feel like my career has changed I don't know that I would be doing the job that I'm doing right now if I didn't do this and I know they're not really connected well they're not connected but this was part of the reason that I considered going self-employed because obviously this takes up a lot of time and energy and it was too much working a 95 and I traveled quite a lot so it was quite difficult for us sometimes so that's changed um what else has changed I don't know I feel like um

I've said this before maybe a bit more confident I agree with that A bit more out there A bit more Feisty I've always been like that So that's something And then I think just in general

Like I think Just a different avenue of our friendship Isn't it? Should we touch? Doink But apart from that I feel like everything else is just kind of the same

But it's just I don't know I agree It feels quite normal to me now, so it's maybe not as easy for me to think for changes anymore. And like we've said before, I think you have to remember that maybe from the beginning, we've still

just two girls in a, I know we've got producers and stuff, but we are still two girls having a chat for an hour. That's not changed. We're not in front of more and more people each week. The listeners do increase, but we're still blissfully unaware of that. Yes, each week we look at the numbers and it gets bigger and better and we're like, whoa,

but until you actually see it in the flesh like we did at the Christmas thing, we were both really taken back by that. And that was still a very small venue for the demand of what we could have done. Yeah. So it's not until we actually meet you all face to face. I think you really realise how much it impacts people, how much you know about us and we help a lot of people as well,

which we are unaware of. I know. And I do also think when we first thought about doing it, like not once did we ever think or discuss it becoming a thing the way it has. and not once did it ever occur in me that someone would stop me and say oh my God I love the podcast like that thought literally and didn't ever go through my mind

so like that's a big change because I'm quite I don't know if I would say socially awkward I think that's dramatic yeah but it's not really something I ever saw for myself do you know what I mean and I think the dynamic between you because his next question he's wrote like obviously he's asked like why a picture whatnot but we all know that now

why that is but tell us why well because you're different to me so I think it's important that if I do a podcast with someone that's more level headed or less chaos it would be too much there's a lot of podcast jurors out there that are very

yin and yang and it works because not everybody can relate to one person they can relate to us both in different ways and they may see more of themselves in you or me or a mix but I just think if there was two of me it would just be horrendous and I mean if there was

to me, there'd be no listeners, part of my cell listening back. That's not true, Zoe. Boring? That's not true. You're not boring at all. You're flog as fuck. You're actually right. And secondly, all of us pog pigs now, no, it's only a matter of time before our Jess takes

over TV screens. I'm not sure about that. But in all seriousness, how does it feel from now to now, from now to now when you gambled and kicked off this podcast? Did you ever realise it would grow this much? And did you deep down know the potential you had? Honestly, no. That's what I mean.

we didn't ever no i still remember zoe like i still remember this is so funny i want to say this you the day i was on a big walk get a long walk i do from udingston to hamilton yeah and it takes about an hour and me and zoui had planned it all and it was really really quick like graham our old producer like it was very a fast thing it was like he was building a studio he wanted to try this you wanted to try it and overnight thing yeah and i was like right zoe so we'd never even met graham and simon at that point so he was like right we're going to go in and we're going to called her first episode. I met G

when I sat down in front of them to the cord. Yeah. And I text the group chat and we text the group chat basically saying when I'm doing a podcast and they were a bit taken back like what?

You and Zoe? And it was just very much it wasn't like they weren't supportive but they were a bit like confused because it was so out of character for you and I still remember asking you were like Jess like no

why me and I was like no Zoe I think it would be really good I think you're like at the time you were just helping me with bits and bobs. You went like my full brain manager at that point but it was I was like come on like this is how I want to grow just yes and just get people understanding my personality but I think you really help that and we can make

this but never did I think it would become what it is no so the answer to that question is seriously no and sometimes we worry about content and things that will you know how long the longevity of a podcast because let's be honest we can't have it forever maybe we can't but really I'll start be sitting here when I meet you I don't know about you

I will I will if you will but I don't know if I don't know you just don't know do you and I hope and we've never really

had a difficult difficulty thinking what to chat about no because there's just things in life that you can go and know about and also

we're coming up for two years and honestly we said this a little bit before about Patreon but you know we had to think

of ways to grow and stuff and with the Patreon and this is expensive to do and we still have never taken any money from it and made a profit and that's how much we genuinely enjoy it but we wouldn't be able to do it without our Patreon listeners

and we honestly hand on heart are so grateful to anyone that signs up to that because this podcast even the main episode wouldn't be able to continue without that and yeah just really the support means an awful lot to us and we do hope that you get your £3.50 worth because we do

it's a graft book we really enjoy it don't we absolutely it's like a wee couple hours of chat we don't chat apart from this anymore we do you don't know we don't shut up day in day out I know exhausting I know listen she misses me when I'm not there you said you text me say miss you the other day and honestly it took me a long time we replied to me in capital saying no I miss you

and about 20 exclamation marks. I thought, fucking get up there. I know, because a few times I typed like, oh, or like, ooh, don't say that.

And then I thought, sometimes you just need to be nice. So you didn't mean it? No, I did mean it, but I don't know that I need to tell you. Like, I can feel it, but it doesn't need to be spoken about. Oh, I'm sorry.

Do you know what she gets angry about, though? Like, if I don't post enough for one of my way, she's like, you didn't post enough for my liking, like, I don't know where you are, I don't know what you're doing. Well, I can't see your,

location anymore. She just, she misses me because... You've turned it off and you pretend you don't. I didn't turn it off so away. Yeah. I haven't turned my friends off. I wouldn't lie to you. Well, you can fix it after this. But do you know what it is? I actually can't see anyone on it either. Must be broke. But the reason is when you're away, like obviously I'll text you if like I need you ask you something or need to tell you something or whatever. But I don't want to be like, hey, how's your day? But I do want to know what you're up to. Snake.

So I'm like, can you post please? I guess we just need to say thanks very much for all the support in season four It's been a journey Four seasons And thank you so much to our lovely new producers Hope you can hear that in the back there Thank you for making our dreams come true

With our gorgeous setup And just being so on the ball with everything Absolutely Couldn't do it about you It's been brilliant So I guess if you're not joining us in Patreon We'll see you in season five Have a gorgeous summer, everyone

Remember who the fuck you are Have great memories Your boss bitches And boss boys Live in the moment And we love you so much And if you need is we're in on DMs And don't take no shit from no one

No, no one Love you Okay thanks for listening Bye