A Lot On Your Plate - S5 Ep10: Are work romances the real deal or just excitement?

Episode Date: November 5, 2024

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Happy Tuesday. Welcome back. Yeah, to the best podcasts in the world. Yaha. I feel about out of sorts We just had a mad moment there We abused all of The abused, sorry, we've abused Graham

We've had too many e-numbers this morning Have we'd any? No Sadly not Anyway Thanks to everyone for your responses on social Yeah To our polls

It was kind of like an unofficial Feedback form Yeah It really helps us make sure we keep things up to date with the podcast, giving you things that you want to hear, want to see, and just makes us know that we're on the right track, you know? And from the feedback, it very much seemed that way. So that's fantastic.

But what was apparent was you guys absolutely love hearing other listeners' dilemmas where we're giving our advice or you guys sending your advice and also just some funny stories of people as well. So we're definitely going to mix that more up when we ask each other what's been on a plate. We're going to always finish where possible with a listener's dilemma or something. So please send them in. Don't be shy.

It's always anonymous. So much so, actually, Zoe. I've got to tell you this. That there's been multiple times where I've read out dilemmas or funny stories. And a friend has messaged me saying, you do realize that was me, don't you? And I had no idea. I would have had no idea. Oh, like you've just not taken note of who's same to end?

I don't give a shit. I don't look at the people's profiles. I would never be like, oh, my God, let me see what they look like. like so don't ever worry it's not it's completely safe with us and we would never judge anyway so it's kind of like see if you're getting your fanny wax they're not looking at your fanny exactly they're kind of like that they're just doing the job so that is it and we'll always be there for you if you need so yeah please keep sending them in we love to hear it absolutely so today we're going to talk about what's been a lot on our plate we need to do a bit of an outfit breakdown because

people have been asking that, we keep forgetting. Yeah. We've also got an exciting update on the Christmas event. Maybe I got my way. Maybe. And then we're going to finish with a lot of listeners' messages. So some dilemmas, some funny stories, just a bit of a mix. And then over on Patreon this week, we're going to do an Amazon hall.

Oh, wow. Just like bits that you need. Yeah. I find if I see someone doing Amazon haul, I instantly need to go on it and buy stuff. I can't help myself. And then we're going to chat. through what people would do if they won the lottery. Yes, in

terms of a service, not an item. Yeah. So that's this week for a lot on your plate. Love it so much. Other bits and bobs too, but I also have some Christmas Day outing suggestions as well for you guys, only a few. But if you listen to last week's Patreon, we

discussed a very extremely overpriced venue that we wish we could attend. But I'm having Christmas Day out this year for many reasons, and I asked on my stories, and I've got some good suggestions for you if you're interested in that or if you want to revert back to this episode in the future, if your Glasgow-based, that is. Absolutely. Right, well, we'll start with outfits.

Let's do it. I mean, good luck to me in the next few weeks, but we'll give it a shot. I think that's a nice outfit. It looks better than it does on camera. Let me tell you that, for something. I don't look cute today, Marie, and it's your fault. It's always money for fun. I think we'll change it too far now. Yeah, we are. Love you. He's crying. He is.

Right, let's start with you then, sis. Fine. You've always got some nice nitwere going on, so where's his bro? I do, I love nightmare. So, no shock, this is A-SOS, but it's Top Shop. It's actually the same as the green one I had on a couple weeks ago. Yep. But it's kind of like a creamy.

Would you say there's a hint of pink in that? Yeah, I would say it's a nice, buttery, creamy. That's quite rogue for me, because I don't actually wear pink, really. jeans I've had a lot of questions about their collusion what I will tell you is for the big bum girls like me these are really good they're baggy yeah and I find it hard to get a baggy or not no thanks okay um they're really baggy on like the bum

the front very loose fit yeah and then the shoes adidas spezzials I do have these in brown if you're thinking of the same did I need to buy these no I didn't but these are khaki with a silver chrome stripe oh is that silver i thought it was like a grey matte live nice yeah like them quite nice so anyway that's me earrings i got these little gold hoops when we were in nashville yep very handy the next ones along are just ashtra to me you and um face is just my own made well is where your earrings were from so it is where's your foundation from we get that ass a lot

my foundation um I've got house labs on today Lady Gaga's brand yeah would recommend what shade oh fuck I don't know I want to get back you in that one um but I did get it we were in Nashville again and Sephora I got shade matched however I picked the exact shade that she matched me too so you did you said that yeah love it so I've got that with Vieve concealer and I did put a bit of flawless filter on first today nice I thought I could have been a glow. No foundation, but I need to... Sadly.

Son in. Anyway, what about you? Today, I'm wearing a two-piece brown from a brand called Book Mason, which was in America. It's a gorgeous shop that I think I spoke about. Can you get that here? Can you get it online? Not sure.

Maybe, yeah. Maybe they shipped to the UK. High quality. It was an investment, but when I tried it on in L.A., I thought, you know what, I'm going to get quite a lot of use out of this. being preggers. And I'm severely out of breath and got major indigestion

and heartburn this week. So just feeling in an uncomfortable state this week. Deep breaths. Yeah, I'm struggling, not gonna lie. My trainers, I couldn't tell you. Adidas, they're from end. They're like the Burgundy and sort of. They're gazelles.

They're saying, Wade. I don't know what they are, but you can see them on the YouTube. On the YouTube. My necklace is from Monica Vanada. It's like a little locket. My earrings are from Lines and Current and Irish Small Business. Love them so much.

Foundation today I'm wearing, weirdly I've been wearing Patrick Tar, which I bought in Sephora, but I've swapped it and I'm wearing the merit minimalist foundation stick in shade Bisk. And it is the perfect, perfect, perfect match to my skin I've ever used. It's so easy. I think it's going to be one of those foundation sticks that I use throughout motherhood. You know, it's one of them where it's just draw it on your face. Merit is very much a simple, easy, no-make-up-make-up brand. I have worked with them before in the past.

And they sent me a recent PR package and it had that shade in. And when I saw it, I thought, how do they know what shade I am? Because it was months ago I worked with them. And it was bang on. That's nice. So when a brand makes note of things like that, I think. And they gave me their foundation brush within the pack. And I haven't used that before.

And that's lovely, like really stubby, blunt. You know, they work that one. What people call that dense? Yes. really nice bronzer I'm using Veeve today

shade medium blush I'm using the hourglass pinky blush with a little bit of the makeup by Mario finish me off and then hourglass

Spanish concealer going yes that's it today guys and hair is in massive need of a bit of bleach

so I'm booked in my jack in a couple weeks thank fuck for that nails are still fills they are tragic as tragic can be. Who's your gel went?

Bitter off last night, Zoe. I can't do it anymore. Just I've given up. It is satisfying, biting it off. One came off. This is the problem. One come off on the thumb. That's it, see ya.

No, I do. You all off. You need to have all nails or no nails. It's annoying me at the moment. But anyway, right, so that's a little update for you. I hope you like that, because another feedback that we got was please share more makeup and products,

and we would definitely do that. We actually do that every single week over on Patreon. But, I said that really weird then, Patreon. But please, we will either join us over there or we will continue to do the odd thing in here as well. We've just got a lot to pack into an hour, you know what I mean? I know it's difficult. It's hard.

It is difficult. Right. Let's start. Do you want to do a lot on your plates? Okay. Yeah? Or do you want to do... No, let's do the Christmas thing.

All right. He-he-he. And I wish I couldn't do it. And it actually sounds like that from last week's episode that this was coming, but I promise you, hand on high, it wasn't. We just had a really good meeting yesterday. We went to the venue and then Courtney, who we're dealing with, was like, oh, by the way, you can absolutely have more people.

So we were like, what? Yeah, and I thought. What, another session? She was like, no, not another session, but just more people. So we're buzzing our tits off about that. I'll leave it over to you, Zoe. So basically, for the Christmas market, there's two. sentence six until seven 30 eight until nine 30 what we can do is offer more

tickets for both settings so there'll be an extra 160 per sitting so that you see 320 three hundred and twenty quick maths failed extra tickets going live for the Christmas markets and they'll be live this Friday just to let you know but aren't we having a little bit of a change up with the timings as well right so also They'll come for the setting that you're booked in, but there's no real rush to leave. To leave. If that makes sense. Let's say you're booked in at six.

You don't need to be there dead on six, but you need to come in between your time frame, basically. It kind of keep the flow of humans. Correct. But what we weren't aware of is weather dependent, of course, well, no, actually, that doesn't matter because they're going to have it covered. But it's a huge 300 seating outdoor area at the back where. We're going to have entertainment, food. It's covered with heaters where once you've been to the market, you can go outside, have your drink, your food.

There's a lot more food options there than we thought as well. And you can go and sit with your family or your friends, whoever. Knit back in if you want to. But, yeah, once your time starts gone, so let's say you came at six and then you went outside at nine, you can't then come back in because the second sitting's already in. Does that make sense? But you can hang about outside.

There'll be other small businesses out there too. Yeah, there is. There'll be small businesses, food trucks, as just said, entertainment, drinks, there's a bar out there, there'll be heaters. So I would just say come wrapped up if you want to kind of hang about and make a night of it. Yeah. So that if you're outside, you're not Bloody Baltic.

And you can bring your dogs, and there is also a photo booth there as well. There's about three or four other interactive stalls. And we've got some demonstrations and presentations within each one and a half hour slots from multiple different brands, which we will share with you once you're there. and tell you what time. So if you want to hover around at the stage area for 10, 20 minutes and watch them,

you can do that. It's not just a literal walk-in shop. And walk-home. But I do think you're going to be definitely using up that one-and-a-half hour inside and then go and get your food at the end and go and sit outside and enjoy it for the rest. Yeah, we'll be hovering around all that good stuff.

Yes, so that's exciting. And we're also talking about the second night as well, getting some things organised for that, which is going to be so fun. So, yeah, both nights are going to be exciting. didn't get tickets for the market and you are coming to the second night we highly encourage you come to the first both of our mothers are going to be there helping out polly is finally coming to an event it's about time polly to be honest i know so she's excited so you get to meet

her and we'll also bring them both to the christmas market to the christmas party maybe get them on stage maybe after goods yes and bring all of your bad confessions to santa claus on the second night have you being a naughty girl or a naughty boy yeah okay so wow what a treat for you all

who what's been a lot on your plate then past week so I've had a busy weekends you've been booked and busy it's exhausting to watch it was exhausting but it also wasn't if that makes sense

because I haven't done much on weekends like that for a long time and that was my life for years quite enjoyable yeah so I'm so about breath guys I'm really struggling I don't know how it affects that you can't there's a baby inside me taking of all my organs

I genuinely just feel this week I'm feeling pregnant I'm looking pregnant I booked him from a 4D scan so that's next week I'm excited to see that same how weird is that going to be like a little face like you're moving alone yeah I'll give you a quick bump date then because I know some of you guys want to hear some of this I'm talking

25 weeks by the time this comes out. I'm feeling good in terms of energy levels, but I'm feeling indigestion and quite heavy, sore in parts. Started the yoga. I did that. I did Pilates yesterday for the first time, reformer Pilates with two other girls that I know, actually Laura Porter, who we speak about sometimes.

She was one of them. And a girl called Heather, who owns Niche Browco. So I don't really know either of them that well, but Zoe does. But they were both there, and they do like a one-to-one session, so we just hopped in, so we just divide the course by three. It's nice. So we did that yesterday

It was really nice on my back Lots of cat cow You know all that Like stretch Oh it was really nice And I bought My first purchase

Of an actual item That we need You know Yeah And I'll say this really quickly But I really was looking into Sort of like The thing that you put

By side of your bed I'm laughing because I don't know What the terminology Is that thing you need For the baby You sleep in beside your bed You know that thing? I don't want to call it a cart.

Guys, fuck knows. But anyway, I've got a Moses basket from my cousin. She's got me a beautiful one from Zara. She was like, I'm going to give it you. It was only used it like four times. Yeah, it's so cute. It's so nice. It's going to look perfect with the nursery,

which I've created a whole mood board on Pinterest, which I'll share with you guys one day. But for the side of my bed, I think I'm going to go with the snooze pod for. If that means anything to you, then there you go. It means nothing to me, but it looks really good. It's like the side of it comes down. It's next you so you can just roll and settle.

Anyway, it was 300 quid on John Lewis. And I thought, fucking now. I'll add this to the list of things to maybe request. People put money towards for a baby shower or me and Richard purchase it. I had a little scroll on Facebook Marketplace. There was a nearly new one in Motherwell, which is where Zoe's from. And it was like 60 quits. And you know, in the background, you can see the person's house.

It just looked lovely. And I don't know. It just looked nice. And I thought, fucking hell, 60 quid. That's a bargain. It's exactly what I want. So he goes, well, showing me the girl, and she's like, I know her. So I was like, really?

I was like, can you message her for me? Yeah, so I just messaged her and done deal. And she's actually said, how sweet is this? Like she'll keep it for me until I'm ready. I know. Because I don't have any space in my gaff. You could actually do that, to be fair. Yeah, I maybe won't take the piss, but I'll maybe ask her for just a few more weeks.

But how sweet is that? I thought that's really nice. You'd as well doing that because, see, as long as you've got, like, I don't know, whether you put a new mattress in it or... I'll get a new mattress, definitely. Obviously you're going to use different blankets and sheets and shit So it's not A baby doesn't use things for long

But also don't you think that's bad for the I don't mean even like eco-friendly but bad for the planet Surely where's she going to put that If everyone had that attitude That 300 pound humongous Beds just go into shit No I know it's absolutely I might just take it off her

And save myself 240 quids Absolutely I think that's perfect So Facebook marketplace has loads of stuff on there And I also sent the girls a couple of things I want a baby carrier and I want like a motion chair thing. I think you definitely need that motion chair thing. That's cute, isn't it?

Everyone has that from what I see. I think that's good to fling the baby in and then just leave them to it. Fling it in. You deal with yourself for half an hour and let me wash my hair. So that is bump date for you. I love it. What I've been up to Friday night I went to that Glen Eagle was Halloween House party thing. I told you about on Patreon's episode.

It was brilliant, it was probably far better than I ever thought it was going to be. The girl that you posted really got me though. Who? The one that was just standing our leg up. Oh yeah? Did you think that was me? Obviously not.

Oh, you're no getting your leg up there. That's going to say! How does someone just do? I think she was meant to be like the exorcist, isn't she? But like how does one just stand in that position with her leg up? She was there for a long time as well, you know? Just staring you out. I was off, you know.

Holding her leg to her ear? Yeah. and just like putting it around like her back on the floor and crawling a bit like the ring you know when she calls out the TV she was doing that there was lots of people dressed up but what I will say is I'm actually dead the invite said glamorous but nowhere in the email did it say I don't think anyway that it was 1920s actually fancy dress Richard did not dress up in the slightest he wore chinos a t-shirt and a hat he was the only person there without fancy dress and he walked in like you're fucking kidding me were you a fancy dress no

but I had a blazer on and you know really nice like um I don't say flapper but you know

the sea quinny trousers that you get around Christmas time they're all lacy mish not even lacy

it's just like a chainy almost from Zah yes I put them under it so it looked really nice that was giving 1920s flackas

I got away with it and had a black bow of my hair but he we both didn't look as like over dressed as other people sorry as good as other people there was a brass band DJ it was amazing there was just so many the food was incredible I got to go upstairs because in Glen Eagles it's members only isn't it so you can only go in the spence I'm talking townhouse here by the way in Edinburgh and upstairs was nice yeah had really good fun Saturday chilled went out in Glasgow in the evening for a friend's 30th I went to The Alchemist, which I've never been to in Glasgow before.

I've been to it over the UK over the years for years. Really buzzy. Was it? Yeah? Next to Flight Club, George Square. Well, I'm quite happy to hear that. High, really loud music. The cocktails, again, you know, they're very...

Experimental. Yeah. Lots of smoke and shit going on. Really cool. Liked it in there. They did some good mocktails for me. And then on Sunday, I went to Don Costanzo before for some pasta, which haven't been to for ages

and I love it there so much had the arabiazza and some potatoes and then on Sunday we went to Edinburgh again but more haymarket area to a place called Fava F-A-V-A

maybe I'm saying that right it's like a Greek restaurant Richard's sister's choice it was okay perfect it was okay that's the job wouldn't return

correct it was nice yeah not everywhere's going to blow Yami That's just life. Do you know what? I'm going to be completely honest with you as well. I wasn't majorly hungry when I got there.

Right. And I was really struggling with my indigestion as well. So I was feeling a bit uncomfortable. And then I've been having some weird craving for pumpkin cats curry the past two days. I'm going to make it tonight homemade. But I had one from Salt in Hamilton, which was so good. And then Richard picked me at one from Akiko yesterday for my lunch, which was chef's kiss. Did you enjoy it?

Loved every bite. I'm really in the mood for not necessarily chicken cats. but I want pumpkin catsu curry. Pumpkin catsu is underrated. It is. It's so good. Just Wagamama do it as well? They might.

They actually might because I'm sure that's where I first tried it because remember I was vegetarian for a while. Yes. That's what I had at that time. So they must have because back in the day, that's the only place I knew way to go for a catsoo curry. And Richard bought me the Krispy Leaks from Makiko as well. So when I got home, it was in the bag on the side with the crispy leaks.

I was like, this is just amazing. Baby was happy. That's all the time. quite a bit guys love that what about you Zoe well on Saturday I went through to Brayhead with Jason Brayhead's right Jason and he needed a few of bits because he was going out Saturday night to an engagement party and Brayhead please um why was it Brayhead I wanted to look at Apple store wow weird I know I wanted to try the headphones on okay I wanted a shot yeah thoughts really liked him I went they going on

Santa's list? Well, I might have a wee look for Black Friday. Yeah. Do they do that? Apple do do Black Friday? But like curries and that doing, you get them there. True. Yeah. So I thought I might get a wee try these because I've heard the noise cance and all that's good, which I don't know if I'm into that. Yeah, because it can make you a bit out of sync and you balance

a bit off. Yeah. Anyway. So, and also there's a pre-markingberry head. There's not one in Silverburn. Couldn't be arsed with town. What I always say is about over-the-head headphones. It's a big fuck off to anyone coming up to talk to you. It's like, don't talk to me. And you think that's an issue for me? No, I think it's good for you.

No, I know. That's what I mean. I think. So it's like, when they're in your little ear, like little buds, no one can see them. And you're about like, oh, sorry. In the gym especially. If they're over the head, you ain't messing with no one with over the head headphones, are you? You're actually correct, I need you get them immediately.

Anyway, we went to Brayhead and then we wanted something for lunch. Right. But there's nothing in there, like, also, obviously I'm on my fitness and well-being and health journey, so I was like, I can't eat anything in here. We did get a few smoothie though And then I remember Juicy was in there

And I was fucking raging Is that where Juicy is now Because juicy's no longer It's silver ban Was it ever Was it always Brayhead? No it was Silver Bad

Was it right And then You're correct it was Was in Brayhead as well Oh right Or instead of not sure Anyway it got a nice wee smoothie And then

We ended up in Bar and Tender For lunch And the West End Never been And I'll tell you why because I kind of fancied more like pub lunch because you can just get a bit of everything couldn't really think of anywhere to go

as we're passing through town and then I remembered that I'd seen on bar and tenders' Instagram or somewhere that they also do steak frets for a terror now know how loads of places are doing this? So I phoned up, got a table for like 10 minutes time and they do the £10 steak frets

up until 4pm on a Saturday as well That is so good. That's really good. So is it just steak and fries? Steak and fries. Peppercorn sauce and you can double up for 20 pounds. So Jason doubled up, you get double the steak. Brilliant.

A drink, or no? Not in the price, but we just did a week Coke zero. Yeah. That's amazing. It was a steak good quality, was it nice? Lovely. I would recommend it a lot. I'm not really a massive steak girl, right?

But I feel like steak frites I enjoy because it's maybe a bit thinner meat. Yeah. Maybe a bit. Like a flank steak or something It's called some I can't remember now Anyway that's what I did on Saturday Sunday I went for a nice roast with my friend Lindsay Just the Cricklewood and Bottle

It's okay Oh that was Sorry Cricklewood but that was probably one of the worst Sunday roast I've ever had It's changed though It looks so good from your pictures And that was not what I was served Right so it also wasn't what we were served The last time we were there a couple months ago

It's upgraded again Cricklewood has the biggest Sorry if you're not from around these ends but Crickwood is in Bothwell it has the complete potential to be a cute wee place a proper English pub vibe that I crave so much because it's beautiful inside

it's got a lot of parking it's in a gorgeous like bottles nice It's got like a fireplace and it and it just like cozy, wholesome vines and the general menu is quite nice but when I went for that Sunday Rose sadly I won't go back now but your dinner look lovely

It was nice Okay It was really good Maybe I'll give it a second shot then see even if you went no and didn't get the roast because the main options are really good and the starters are nice I had to agis bonbons obviously

stunning did patty on the menu as well and I was like what the fuck do I get because that's the food starters anyway I went I actually got a dessert as well by the way bloody hell no I know my fitness pal

now you did that no I was aff on Sunday I said to Richard I'm having a day off by the way because I can't be a slave to my Apple Watch for every day no I need to have one day off the watch

oh she do Of course you do This thing Ew Anyway I got like a It was like a jam and cream Roly Polly they call it with custard But it's like a

Like an old school one A swirl roll Yeah Yeah With custard and like jam In the bowl as well Oh my God It was really good

You should maybe give it another shot No I will definitely I'll try to convince Richard Because he hated it as well Yeah I know that is a shame I'm not like wow that was so good But it kind of

I just want a place local that we can just be like, do you fancy going there for dinner? What about cut? Does cut do Sunday roast? I think they do. Cuts too, like I feel like I need a nice to go there. Yeah, I agree. I agree. And then on Monday we had a nice day with the girls. We went to homegrown garden centre.

So we did, yeah. Had some brunch, had we wandered about, and then we went a walk round in Palair. Yeah. Two rounds we done. Yeah. Again, quite local to me and Zoe, but homegrown garden centre is just a really

boozy garden centre. Not as boogie as I'd say a silverbird. in the sense of the actual layout and merchandise. I think it's a bit more, did I say it? Modern. Classy or the silver birch? I agree. It's a bit more modern.

It's, you can just tell it's like fresh and new. Yeah. And the cafe, the chef in there is amazing. The food's really good. The food is really good. It's very fancy. You know, you get all the little pansies on top of your avocado toast and all that nonsense. And these clubbers and that you just peck off.

It is actually just such a nice presentation. And the cake selections. Highly recommend, and they've got some lovely Christmas stuff in there and outdoor stuff. Two. Yeah, we liked it in there, didn't we? So did that, and that's really... What? I wasn't going to mention it, but I decided I will because I want the praise.

What? As if you weren't going to mention it. I know, but I said that I don't actually really give a fuck about these things, but... People give a fuck, are we? What everyone should know from the person who could not run, I got my P.B. For a 5K on Monday. Marie, let's clap

Also, what's the more most important part about this is? Nobody asked me to go to the gym No, you got up when, did it? Was it on your plan to run a 5K? No. No? I'll explain to you, right?

So I got up on Sunday, I decided I'm going to the gym tomorrow morning because I always wait for my first workout with Richard and if it's not on a Monday I can still go at the gym like I'm allowed to go on my own fucking accord do you know what I mean? Yeah.

So I thought I'm getting up, I'm going and I'm just going to do it I run because it helps to get my steps in as well. yeah so I put on my story like just joking like going without instruction from and then tagged Richard so he messaged me saying do you want me to tell you something to do and I was like well I was just going to run but if you want me to follow something fine because I need to do one on Thursday as well anyway so he sent me one and it was just to run for 30 minutes don't stop and then do eight bursts of like kind of like sprinting and it but you still don't stop we just

slow down the run yeah love that I'm not sure I would say I'm man eight bursts of sprinting. You definitely picked up the pace. But I picked up the pace because I then decided I want to try and get 5K in this 30 minutes. And can you tell everybody how much you increased your 5K by?

Right, so I got 5K on Monday in 30 minutes, 30 something seconds, right? But let's just say 30-30 for ease. The last time I ran a 5K was with you, Park Run, when we visited hell. And I was 34 minutes,

55 seconds, was it not? Yep. That's four minutes, 20 seconds I shaved off. Shaved, gone back. Do you understand how good that is? Yeah, actually. Good, I'm glad to you know that. Richard was like, he's so happy.

And I was like, honestly, I'm not that bothered, but I'm glad I got my steps in you. Yeah, but you are, because that's showing you that your fitness levels are increasing and you're not as... But I really did push myself. See, because I then made that target, I kept looking at my watch and I kept him to put the speed up, and then I was like, fuck, I'm going to actually fly off this treadmill.

I think it's definitely good to, track your performance as well, like we always say in terms of people that manage their weight and you're doing all this exercise because you're just thinking that's going to help you. But when you're actually tracking your fitness levels and seeing that increasing, it actually keeps you wanting to continue going. I think for me

it's actually more, I'm not that bothered about what the achievement is. Yeah. But I think in a sense of like I don't care if it takes me 40 minutes so on a 5K I'm still trying to that. Exactly, yeah. And I think everyone should feel that way to an extent. But for me it's actually more that I need to realize that I'm probably

fitter than what I push myself to. So, like, I can do a 5K in 30 minutes, but I just... Mindset up. Yeah. Yeah. So it's more that for me, I would say. Yeah.

Rather than, the number doesn't really matter. It's just about me making sure that I'm actually pushing myself to... Euphobicity. Yeah. Like that. Anyway, so that was my achievement of the week, so I'll probably not run again

until maybe 2026. Not true. That's my one a year 5K done. No, not true. No, no, I need to do it in Thursday in the morning. Do you? Not 5K but it's some fucking 200 metres 10 times then fucking 10 minutes off

and then another 500 metres 40 times something like that You know how it goes You are enjoying it secretly No I'm enjoying it I'm stronger and I can tell I can feel it Oh that's good Oh yeah

I love that Zoe that's really really nice Anyway that's really all I have to tell you Okay So shall we go into our listeners dilemmas Yep let's do Which one shall we start Because we've got a fucking belt of a one. We have.

We've got a belter. I think let's start with more of like a funny, we want your thoughts on this. Right, Zoe, I've got a scenario for you. You're in a car crash. It's not your fault. Your car is in bits and you're majorly stressed out. What are you going to do?

Probably phone you. Great. Well, maybe don't do that, but the correct answer is to call up answer is to call our friends at Watermans, obviously. What, so they can sort my car and everything? Yep, you don't even have to phone your insurance company. Watermans will sort it all for you. What if I have to miss work and can't earn my money?

Well, they'll get you that money back too. Sorted. Okay, I feel less embarrassed about being re-rended now. A lovely listener message saying, Ginnles, I need to ask you as a random question and see if you or the listeners have this. So I won't comment on who. I'll keep them anonymous as they are my friends

I should just put them in it Anyway But I went to a friend's house And asked where her charger was She leaned over and said It's in my junk drawer And I was like Where? What drawer?

She explained and showed me her Junk drawer She had the most random bunch of shite in this drawer I swear to Jesus She had paper clips Bobbles, a tampon Old parking tickets

A pencil Chocolate, Parasetimal And the list goes on It was the shite of all shite I said What the hell is this drawer, she said, oh, it's just my junk drawer. Am I the only person who doesn't have a junk drawer? Please help. Yeah, you are. In this day and age, maybe not, because I don't have

a junk drawer anymore. No, me neither. But growing up, there was always a junk drawer. Do you know what I would like to know, by the way, and I think this is quite important? Does your friend have a family? Yeah. Because if I think about it, every house when I was younger, so like my house, obviously, I'm the child in that situation. All my friend's houses, again, they're the child in the situation. They all had junk drawers. And is it something that you accumulate as an adult when you've got kids?

A family, possibly, yeah. And it's just like, it's a lot of shit. You're trying to just, there's shit everywhere. A lot of letters. There's all the draw where there's, like, loads of letters in, isn't there? Yeah. I actually have a file now of important documents where it's like council tax, renewal, car insurance,

you know, pension so they're in like a file but that was all organised when I moved into the now house I'm in but previously they were definitely all in a box under my bed growing up there was pens

paper clips sewing things measuring tape like a we rolled up measuring tape things like that anything that was just miscellaneous is that what you call it

there's just not a place for it yeah feel that actually a couple of my kitchen drawers they're not organised enough for me but the one that's got like tablets and stuff in like I then find we've got like a roll of you know labels that you would put on a parcel yeah like a roll of that in there

cellar tape like just bits that you need but where are they supposed to live true we'd make like a station redrawl wouldn't you I've also got a little basket of like pills and shit like that Lemsips, paracetamols, antihistamines. I've got a lack of storage for bits. Right.

I feel like I need to make more use of my whole cupboard. I think because I like everything to be so... No, that doesn't live there. I'm like, no, but I need to find a place for these things to live because I then just get rid of them. Yeah. And I need these things. Yeah, the baskets with the little labels on, don't you?

I'd fucking thrive off that, wouldn't I really. Get yourself to B&M? Oh, you need to drag me. out there. But I think the answer to your question is that's a very common thing. Do you know what? The answer to your question is I'm shocked that you've never come across a drunk jaw before.

Drunk draw, yeah, until now. Because that was a staple in many households. Let us know, yeah, let us know if you've all got one. There's something quite nostalgic and wholesome about it. Yeah, I agree. I miss it. I'm just going to make a chaos when I get home. Fucking get it all in one drawer. create a jungle intentionally.

Right, this one's a funny one. I was honestly wetting myself at this as one of... I don't know where to start, where to send my story, so I was sent on here. Basically, it was my great Nana's birthday, so me and my nan went to visit her grave to put flowers down. We were just speaking normally until we got to the grave,

and my nana looked at me dead in the eye and said, do you want to whisper gold? I thought it was a weird request, but I confidently leant over and whispered the word gold to my dead Nana's grave walking away walking away my Nana said Are you sure you don't want to whisper gold

Only for her to pull out a whisper gold chocolate bar I confidently bent over that grave And whispered the word gold to my dead great nana And the whole time she was offering me a chocolate Why didn't she say anything when I was whispering to the grave? I fucking love that, honestly. Wow. Why would Nan say anything?

She wasn't looked at a granddaughter like, is she alright? Cold. Oh, it really tickled me this morning that. That is fucking funny about you. Thank you for that. She said it happened five years ago and she still just makes her piss all the time. What I think so funny about. When someone else does something, what the other person's thinking.

Like, it's kind of similar, you know how the guys who think they can just convince a girl that something's theirs when it's not. Yeah. Like, I need to understand why the other people in situations don't just say, like, what the fuck are you doing? Or do they just not notice? Maybe they just don't like confrontation if it's awkward, they're like, I'll leave them to that. I do find, I think we've spoken this before, I do that thing where someone. Someone will say, have you seen that film? Or you know how so-and-so from the film?

And I'm like, yeah. And then I realize, like... I have no idea what you're talking about. I feel like it's kind of like that. So they're like, you know where it's near the big azda on the roundabout? I'm like, yeah, not a fucking clue. Or street names? I'm like, yeah, I know where you are.

On Gordon Street, the left. Yeah, I know exactly where you mean. Not a clue. But then you realize, like, you're actually... I'm like, I've just lied now. I'm in a hole of, like, I need to go at a place. Like what it is? And I don't know where I'm going.

You just can't be asked or just keep going in when they're trying to tell you over now. I don't need to explain to me. Yeah. Yeah. But it's kind of similar. Like people just pretend they don't witness something or they don't see something. Yeah. Just think that was weird.

We'll let that slip. Cold. God. I'm currently 12 weeks pregnant with my first baby and although working with children most of my life and knowing the horror stories about posting your child online at this moment. I don't feel comfortable with pictures of my baby going online once baby arrives. I've been slowly mentioning this into conversations with my family, but the only issue I've had is my brother saying to me,

while you've posted my children on your social media. I feel like I'm being a bit of a fraud, but my response was he never once set that boundary with me, and if he ever asked me to delete any posts, I'd do it immediately, as I would respect their wishes. Does it sound like I'm being unreasonable? I feel like since being pregnant and seen a lot more about this online, it's heightening my anxiety even more

and I'm just constantly thinking about this and the what ifs when this issue does end up coming around what's your thoughts on that because you are obviously I mean I'm not saying that's what you're thinking about the whole time but I thought you will have beginning didn't it? Yeah I'm still undecided

definitely but I completely agree with her if her brother never set the boundaries then fair enough however like she says there's a lot more awareness around it now and I will always ask any friend if I want to post their child on just Jess food. Just said

not so much. I actually don't because it's a private account. I know I've got a lot of followers on there and it probably doesn't make any difference. But for example, Finley, who's our friend's son, I asked her a few weeks ago if I could share a picture of him on Just Jess. And she was like, of course. Yeah. But I'm just conscious that

there's a lot of people that I don't know that follow me. So I just wanted to just make sure that was okay. And I think that's probably the correct thing to do with anyone. going forward, if you've got a public account. Yeah. But for me personally, you know me, I'm not fuss. You know if you posted my child on Instagram,

I feel like if you know I'm not posting them online, then I believe that you wouldn't do that. You'd be like, well, Jess doesn't do it, so I'm not going to do it. Jess doesn't show her child, so you're not going to show my child, are you? Probably at the same time, like I'm going to be taking pictures you're away constantly and would I actually just stick a story up maybe

but would you if you know I didn't show them but I maybe just wouldn't yeah because you're so used to just flinging a story up correct it maybe would be different at the time because I maybe would be aware of it but my thought right now would be like I'd maybe forget a wee bit I don't know I suppose if you weren't posting them at all it would be quite thing

so maybe I would but what I will say my opinion is if you're posting your kid post them if you're not don't post them an emoji over their face please yeah that guys I really don't like that I'm just going to say that outright what is the point in posting your baby lying on you with an outfit on

but putting a big love heart over their face we can't see anything anyway so just don't post that it's the family photos of you with you and your partner and your two kids and it's like happy birthday to Rosie, your daughter and then there's a big lover over a face and don't post it online why are you doing that

she can't see it for one because she's two and the second one no one, what's it for? No one can see I don't get it just to prove a point that you don't show your kid online I don't get it I understand covering people's faces of kids that haven't had your consent to post them online and you're posting your child in a group

and you're covering their faces Fairfox but of your own I just think that's weird I won't post it or have a close friends of people that you trust and just share it on there? I think this is issue though people still go to social media for validation. Yeah. You're so desperate to post.

I don't mean this is like what's the word I'm looking for it, savage as it sounds, but you're so desperate to post for validation about your kids and the big birthday set up you put on for them, but you don't want people to see your kid. Just don't post it then. Another thing as well as maybe pressures of parents where they feel like they may be doing to post something about their child and they haven't never done it and then they share it and then they cover it or people say they're never with their kid no I am you just don't see it because I don't post it yeah it's just the downward spiral of social media really is the end result

of this whole conversation really into it yeah so I don't think she needs to worry and get herself anxious especially in this stage really important stage of her pregnancy where her hormones and emotions are all over the place anyway but you do whatever you feel rights for your child it's your boundaries you set the boundaries don't listen to no one fucking else don't feel guilty about what your brother said he's your brother he's going to say stuff to you to wind you up but if he never set that boundary with you in the first place then i won't worry about it and going forward do what i do ask your friend's consent if you can want to share their kid online yeah i could be very good advice so that was quite in sense there but you guys let us know what you think on that subject

because i think there's a lot of talk around posting children online on social media and whatever, how you use your Instagram to your ability and your boundaries. Let us know what you do. Quite controversial. What works for you. So let us know what you do. It'd be quite interesting. Absolutely. Right.

Next one. I am in a long-term relationship and recently started to have feelings for someone at my work who is married. You fucker. I think he likes me too. We started messaging more and he would call me about work issues rather than just email me and we would end up talking for ages. We went on a few work nights out together

and would always end up the last ones there. Nothing ever happened and we have never spoken about our feelings. Interesting. I would never cheat on my boyfriend. But my feelings for him were getting stronger. I didn't tell anyone about it but eventually I messaged one of my friends about it

telling her everything. My boyfriend then read my text and saw the messages. He was on my phone for something else and just took the opportunity, I think. He was so devastated and I feel so guilty even though I've not done anything wrong technically I also know that he is really hurt but I now feel angry that he read my messages

and broke my trust with that I should be able to talk to someone through a friend in private it's been a week since this happened and I think we both want to work through it but I can't obviously turn off my feelings for this guy I think if it was the other way around I would break up with my boyfriend but he doesn't want to do that

I just feel so much guilt because he's had a lot on his play excuse the pun and I've made him feel worse I'm so sorry for the ramble I just don't want to tell my other friends as me and my boyfriend have the same friend group

oh shit that is a pickle you're in there sis right I think firstly it's really great that you have admitted that

if it was the other way around you would how you would behave so I think it's good that you're having some empathy for your boyfriend because you feel sorry for him because you think fuck you know he's not

breaking up with me and this. I would him. I don't know if I could get over it, but he wants to work through it. So I think that's amazing that he's doing that and, you know, giving you a shot. The question really is, you still work there and your feelings for this guy are only going to get stronger if you continue doing what you're doing. So you need to either break it off with this guy, which is hard because I know you've never voiced your feelings for one another, but it's probably obvious. Yeah, like there's technically nothing to break off, but you need to pull back.

You know when you know, don't you? Yeah. So he's also married. Now, I think this conversation with him is going to have to be face to face because you don't want then his wife to then possibly go through his phone and read something when, like you say,

nothing's happened, cause her a load of shit. He might also say, like, I'm so sorry. You've got the wrong end of the stick? Yeah. Which. Ooh. Probably isn't going to happen. happen, but listen, you know how it is with him. You've got feelings for him and you are

probably convinced that he's got feelings for you. Personally, I would have a conversation saying, look, listen, I'm going to be completely honest with you. I'm getting feelings for you. I want to work things out with my partner and this is now clouding everything. For me to be able to move forward with my partner, this can't continue. I want to be your friend, but whatever this is when we stay late after work events, this has got to end. I'm also conscious that it's probably going to go a bit step two further one day and I don't want to mess it up unless unless unless you do have super strong feelings for him then then maybe you need to actually have a well with yourself I kind of feel like

you only want to stay with your partner because you feel sorry for him now she hasn't really gone into that has she really she hasn't really told as much how she feels about him you obviously feel really guilty and really bad and because he's like heartbroken about at you then have that sort of like, no, this is what I want. I feel really bad, I'm sorry. But you wouldn't have been stopping anything with this guy if your boyfriend hadn't seen on your phone. Correct.

How far would you have allowed this to go? You're she also... She did say she would never cheat on her boyfriend, though. Yeah, but I'm going to be controversial here and say, I think you have cheated to an extent. You're messing someone else. Yeah, it's not... She's not messaging him in any way saying anything about their feelings, though.

Yeah, no. She's on his message. a friend telling her that she's got feelings for him yeah but you're speaking a lot more not only about work stuff what she said he's also said at the end of nights out they've stayed much later she's saying they talk about work stuff but over the phone not on email right but you're using a reason to speak to this person like you're aware that you're speaking more than you should be you've also stayed to the end of the night with him alone many of times she said so you in your mind I know that you're thinking like we'll stay back to spend more time together and she said

herself she would split up with her partner over this so you obviously look at it is close enough to cheating yeah so it's fine saying you wouldn't go and bloody shag him but you're still we were saying this a random kiss with a stranger isn't as bad as a deep emotional connection someone I'd be really hurt I'd be really hurt by that if I read if I read that Richard had feelings for another woman, he was messing a friend by it, and I speak to them all the time and they don't know how I feel.

Oh my God, that'll kill me. Kill me inside. I would end it. I would never be able to get, I would never be able to move past that. Especially at work. That's a tough one. I know.

Because then you're going to have anxiety and I'm going to work every single day. It's a hard one. Because I understand the situation you're in. It's like, is this worth me ending my relationship? I don't even know if this guy feels anything for me. is it exciting for you are you maybe lacking something in your current relationship

it's not really how you want to go into a relationship either no exactly you don't want to necessarily get with someone that's then cheated on their wife with you yeah which I know happens though like life happens things like that happens people have stronger feelings for others it is just life and it's not wrong by the way if you feel this way no it's not wrong

I just think you need to take time to work out what you want to feel guilty just in the sense of because you've upset him. Yes. But you don't really agree with you've got caught in a sense. Yeah. And you still enjoy this other guy. And maybe the only reason you've let it get to this

is because you're not fulfilled in your current relationship. Yeah. I think you need to take that time so that you're not clouded by guilt or excitement or like watching your partner be upset. Because that can, like, when you think about younger relationships, you're like, I just don't want to upset them. And then someone crying, you're like, okay, fine, let's work through it. work through it. Like it changes the way you feel. So I think you just need to take time

in it. And it's nice that he wants to work things out. But equally I'm like, will this come up again in the future, for some alcohol or will he trust that you go to work every single day? Will it become a little bit of annoying that you're having to constantly reassure this person because you've broken his trust? You also can't have him be like, I'd like you to get a new job or for you to feel like you have to say, I'll look for a new job. Like that's just not going to work. No. My advice, bottom line, would be Going forward from here Do what Zoe said

Think about what you want to do Be aware that something like that Can just be excitement clouds in your version And the grass is not always greener But it could be if you're not happy Exactly God it's a hard one isn't it That's

Anyway You've not said your Christmas places Oh okay quickly quickly about this up So Christmas Day places Suggestions The Bovi The Dakota Nice.

The buttery, which was two fat ladies. The buttery. Yep. Don't know that. Merchant steak, the exchange, which is the new place above Kong. The Grofner Cafe, Ashton Lane. Miller and Carter came up a lot. Crossbasket Castle, mini grill.

And that was all the ones that I looked at. I thought, okay, they're looking more like roast vibes for me. Okay. There were three on there that I've wished. fall down. I'm not going to tell you which one I'm going to, but there's one in particular that I've inquired about. Lovely. People were messaging me a lot about Ho Wong. If that's your vibe on Christmas Day, then Fairfox, but I don't want to have a Chinese on Christmas Day, but I know a lot of people do. A lot of people do. They love it. So Ho Wong came up a lot. If

that's your vibe, then go for it. But it's not mine. Lovely. I need turkey with all the trimmings and a pile of roast tatties. Yeah. Hold some cozy vibes and all that. Yep. Gorgeous. So there you go. I hope that helped.

I will tag them on an Instagram story for you. Maybe over on JustJess Food actually because that's where I asked it originally. Yes. Okay. Bill, thanks so much for listening and if you see you on Patreon, we'll be talking about Amazon and lottery wins what you would do with your money. Oh yeah. Have a lovely week.

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