A Lot On Your Plate - S5 Ep16: Nesting Era, Christmas Traditions & do you get married for the wrong reasons?

Episode Date: December 17, 2024

This week on ALOYP Zoe catches us up on what she's been up to. From teeth and Cookie updates to roaming around Bucharest, she's got lots to tell us! Jess also thinks she's in her nesting area (!!) and can't stop her hands from cleaning...there's a first for everything. We also have some really interesting feedback from our listeners on last weeks relationship dilemma so make sure to stay tuned and share your thoughts with us. We love hearing from you💖 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Which camera am I looking at? Middle one? Hello. Let's just mail and weave. Hello, how are you? Are you organised for Christmas? I'm not good one thing. have you not?

No, hardly. I might be of one thing but I don't have majority of my thing Yeah I still need to buy for my grandparents and my mum's husband

You've got everything else? Yeah That's organised That's very organised I don't have A lot of stuff for Jace I don't have anything for my mum

My brother I don't really have much At the moment Yeah The issue is I don't know What to buy for people Yeah same For the people that I've got left

I'm like So I'm just like shopping around Aimlessly Even though we did that brilliant gift guide that should have completely given us all the ideas in the world it still left us non-complete

I'm getting a few ideas now so I think I'll probably complete this week do you know what it is as well I ordered a lot over Black Friday and it's still not arrived there's people having issues with postage yeah it's always a bit delayed from Black Friday to the one at the volume yeah and I also bought a lot from Etsy

few bits and bobs like Christmas presents and then some presents for my friend who's had a baby and my friend who's got a new home. So those things, I guess, do take time. They're getting bets done to them. Yeah, and I really hope they're alive. But yeah, with Etsy, you've got to be organised at the start of the month if you want it personalized anyway.

Yeah, so. Anyway, what's on today's episode? Here we go, the big moment. Orel on your plates, what I've been up to, listeners' dilemmas, got quite a few of them. And then Christmas traditions. Yay. I look forward to that.

I'm not ready any of that yet. They're really good. I feel like I want more transitions with myself. Same. When I was reading it, I was thinking I wish my family was like that. It's nothing going to happen. But, no, I mean, in the sense of I just kind of wish I spent my Christmas day with a big family and don't really do that because... No, I know.

Broken homes. But also, I haven't spent a Christmas day with my mum or dad in years just because I live up here. Now, yeah. Yeah. You make your own traditions. Well, you will make your own. I absolutely will, yeah. There you go.

Do you know one thing I won't be doing is Elf on the fucking shelf, guys. We've just been talking about that. CBA. CBA? Who's got the time? I think it was fine when you were just sitting them on a lamp or in the bookshelf or, like, hiding under the pillow or something. But now folk are like arch and craft. And who's the better TikTok mum?

Like, it's a competition. Too much. Too much, guys. I'm not putting that pressure on myself. I said to Richard, I'm not doing that. He went, I can't wait for that. I went, well, that's perfect. So that's your job going forward.

And do it, like, three times then run out on ideas, me like, help. And I was telling Zoe, I said it on my Instagram. And my mum then sent me an elf on the shelf in the post the following day. Yes, she does. So thanks for that, Mum. It actually is sat on my fireplace. Was that, like, I know you said you're not going, but you should. So here's one.

It was a piss take, yeah. Yeah. Anyway, so Shall we start with What's been on like your plate? You've been everywhere And I've not asked you one single question purposely

Because I'm excited to hear it on the pod Okay, fine, I'll tell you So I was in Bucharest Yay! In fact, first to address The Teeth Update Oh yeah I've got my embezzeline in

It's quite uncomfortable I will say that But it's just getting used to it I think you speak well with it be there. I feel like I've got a bit of a lisp. Sly. Sometimes.

Very slight. Sometimes. But I feel like when you have emvisaline in, it makes your mouth look fuller. Which is the goal? And your teeth look straighter. Yeah. Even though your teeth were straight, but you know what I mean? Mm-hmm.

It's kind of, it makes it like one big tooth. And shiny. So yeah, I went and got my embezaline put on yesterday. And it was a seamless process. That's all I can say about it. Just, I didn't really know what. point the wee bits get put on because I didn't really feel it. Yeah. Obviously I could

feel stuff was getting done to my teeth but it didn't really feel like N was getting like attached as such until I was putting these in and then they're easy enough to get out and in. I just don't like the slivery string that comes with it. You're never going to like that there were you.

And what I think will happen is I'll eat less snacks. It's going to be which is a bonus. Yeah, that definitely happens. I mean, I'm not really one to speak about it because it didn't happen for me because I didn't keep them in for longer than two weeks. I actually did try to put them in the night right. You told me that. Did he? Yeah. And I woke up in the night, well, in the morning and they were on the bed. And you don't remember taking them out? No, I took them out because I was in that much pain.

Yeah. I must have just been like, get this. I'm like that with eye masks as well. Yeah. I don't think I could sleep with that. Hair turbines launched off. Anything like that. I'm like, get off. Because it's restrictive. Yeah. And you can't get like comfort. comfortable with things. People that use mouth tape. Could never. I would die for a start because of my, because of my breathing.

The nose doesn't work. It doesn't work. So it's just terrible for me. And I've been reading that, you, so they say online, that you will become ugly if you mouth breathe for your whole life. So I'm like fantastic. It's just what we need. Yeah, excellent, can't we?

So yeah, I mean, they're in. And I don't know how long exactly they're going to take, but I've got five weeks of ones to change change them every week and then I'm back in January end of January and then I think

I think it's when we get to 20 weeks we look at what the progress has been and if we need to keep going or not that's right yeah which is what about five months so I think it will be anything between maybe five and nine if you're really good with it

then you might be fine after five but nine times out of ten from anyone that I know that I've had it, they always continue it for a lot longer than they say. I know. Just brace yourself for that. For me, it's more just the constant in and out. Yeah.

And when they're in, I'm just getting used to them being there still. And even when I go to take a sip of water, I'm like, I don't know how to work. Yeah, you'll get used to it. I know. I couldn't even have a cup of tea. You can't chew gum. That's the one that I'm annoyed. Mints.

You can maybe take a mint, but then even then you're not meant to. And then I'm a bit worried. I think I'll be even more paranoid about my breath because of these. Well, honestly, Richard uses this solution every night with his braces because he's had Invisaline but he's really good with his retainer

and they just, they just discoloured. He's got new ones now because they were that bad. But he said that every morning when he takes back they make him feel sick because they smell and, oh, I just hate that. I know, I already feel a bit like that, take them out this morning. Yeah.

Because your mouse obviously all like minging from sleeping Yeah, she's giving me a good sweat. They did feel sore this morning but that's because that will have been the longest I've had them in. Yeah. And I was sleeping quite a while I went to sleep early last night

because I'm a new mum and all that. I was tired. So it must have been about nine hours in fact longer than 10 hours I had them in. So they were quite sore. They feel okay now. Good.

But yeah, if anyone's thinking about it I would recommend I'm already thinking fuck me, I'm going to be gorgeous. You already are? I did have a thought of like my teeth are straight what I'm doing only because it's getting used to it but you've got such big teeth as well

like make sure you don't go too big with your bonding at the end I don't think I'll get much bonding because it was more either get bonding and build the sides out or do this and bring them out so most of it I've got two wee hooks at the front and then most of mine are actually on my back teeth because that's the ones that need pulled

yeah out of the way basically described it like my mouth is currently like a square but it needs to be more like rounded. Okay. Which made a lot of sense he also said I spoke well when I was speaking about it the last time he listened and said I sounded like what I was talking about.

I do, understand it. Anyway that's my teeth update. Anyone's any questions hit me off and I'll ask him. I'll ask Andrew. Next update's Cookie. Cookie. Does I speak about this on Yes, very very very very brief at the end. Yeah. So Cookie

is a divest. which I'm like fair fucks I want you have a personality hen right but stop nose diving the Christmas tree I was thinking to Zoe about it in the car I can't believe how young you get puppies by the way no I know it was nine weeks when you get her and you can get them from eight weeks

yeah typically I think you do get them about eight weeks but I only said that to Zoe because I've not said on the main podcast yet but I did on Patreon but Winnie which I'm sure you've seen on Instagram I've got a kitten and you get, I got Winnie at 17 weeks, but you can, because she's a pedigree breed, they, good breeder, should I say, tend to only give them cats away at 12 weeks when they're like litter box trained, scratch post trained, etc.

But you can get the majority of kittens at eight weeks. And I just thought that dogs, because they're a bit more temperamental and, you know. You maybe get them in the eye a bit more trained. Yeah, I thought that dogs would be, you can get them until like at least 12. no. Wow. You get them when they don't know

a fucking thing yeah that's crazy but you know why that is probably because they are hard work much more than a kitten oh you couldn't

and like a breeder couldn't train like six dogs no you physically couldn't you need two sets of eyes on her at all times unless she's sleeping

and when she's sleeping I think you are just so perfect and cute and I love you so much I've got scotchies everywhere but that's just the

puppy stage isn't it I know and she likes to buy everything and she does have like we squint teeth the vet said at the side so her teed

and will be even worse probably so I do keep trying to be like she doesn't know she's been bad yeah patient I mean I'm being patient obviously but in my head

I'm thinking she is cute and she sleeps well through the night which is the main thing and her great training her aren't you yeah never done it before

and we just thought it would be good to have a dog that maybe doesn't need to sleep in your bed so that if someone else is looking after her and you've been getting

quite bad allergies as well haven't you Yeah, I have kept in the conclusion I don't think I'm allergic to her. Okay. I think I'm fine. Okay, good. I think what was that one about then? Oh.

And I think my eyes were getting puffy because I hadn't slept that night and I was rubbing them. And I probably, if... That's always going to irritate you, isn't it? Well, exactly, if I'm pure touching a dog and then my eyes. Like, even if you're not allergic,

it's probably going to annoy your eyes, because I was, like, really rubbing. But no, I don't think I'm allergic. Like, I'm still choked up, but I was like that when I was away and I wasn't with her, obviously. I think I've just got a cold. Yeah.

So that's a positive because I do have my face in her neck and all that. Yeah. And I'm fine. Smelling her because she smells so good. Yeah. Although she's starting to smell like a dog. Yeah. I think you need a wee bath.

Yeah. But you can't use anything on her for a wee while. You see if we were to bath or it just needs to be water. Oh, I've got it. No soap to anything. That's the positive of cats, house cats. My cats smell so good. Clean themselves.

And even though they've got fishy little breath, like Winnie's neck, honestly I could sniff it all day. I'm obsessed. They smell so delicious. but I can't imagine I know cat piss stinks when you go into a vet that's what you smell

it's cat wee and it's so potent but with dogs they just have that sort of like outdoor wet smell yeah they do and they don't really groom themselves that much

like cats do they're very prim and proper but dogs are like a mucky pop yeah they don't get up yeah boiling fox shit in that she does a poo and wants to eat it after

and I don't do that eat sick and they eat their own sick yeah I'm like stop didn't that's ming but when I first got her like I think some of you girls have said in the chat in my other pals as well were like

can't wait to smell her breath and even on the first day of getting and I was like not one part of me wants to smell your breath oh I love breath no I do I love smelling breath obviously that sounds really strange not human breath but baby breath no puppy breath kitten breath

no none of it I love it I don't like mouth things no I mean I know that's very niche what I've just said Yeah, I think more people might be amazing I absolutely love smelling Richard's breath His breath smells perfect Honestly It can, it can't It does, it can't

It sounds of nothing How I don't know because he's just perfect Any tips No But he obviously would not say the same about me No I think I can actually confirm he doesn't No he definitely doesn't

Yeah Anyway That's the cookie update She's a terror but she's perfect I love her good I like just having her there as soon as she's trained

she can sit here yes we need to get her in do we allow dogs in the studio yes thumbs up for money she'll just sit live a wee bed can come in she can be there every week

I then thought she'd call her piggy Piggy I don't think Jason liked that I think I did put that out there cookie cookie's cute cookie's cute and she looks a bit like

outmeal and raising cookie Louise said she looks like a burnt marshmallow and I think that's perfect He does Miss her But I don't call Winnie Winnie now Of course I don't You would never

She's dinky Little dinky girl I don't have any names for cookie yet But I'm quite a I call you by your name type of person Yeah Yeah no She's dinky or

She's had loads Yeah there'll be a long list Yeah Froggy She's like a little frog She got like an overbite She does on the side she's got like a little

buck teeth yeah she's just so pretty honestly when I posted her online she broke the internet I swear to God I was like how do you get so much attention sis

she's perfect people are like shook by her perfectness and I'm like I am the same but she's got such a girl face that I think when a cat looks really pretty people are like

you can tell she's a girl and the amount of people that messaged me the same thing they said the same about Owen and Wilson as well I'm not a cat person, but... Well, that's what I see. But I love yours. Yeah.

So you like cats then. Like, you just obviously look at those cats in the street that are like, right. No, that's different. There's a lot of nice cats out there. Yeah. Anyway. So, tell us about Bucharest.

Is it Romania? Yeah, Romania. Well, me and Rich were talking about last night, and I was, um, I couldn't work out if it was Romania and he was like, yeah, it definitely is. Yeah, Romania. So that's the first time I've been there. Yeah. And that part of the globe.

But it was really nice. I enjoyed it. I do think what would you do if it wasn't Christmas maybe? Because there's a lot of markets, Christmas markets. Yeah. And if they weren't there, I don't know what you would do. But actually you can do a couple of big day trips from Bucharest that are like two hours away, say, which we didn't do because it's like you were only there for a few days.

which I'm sure it's like Dracula's Castle and like other things that probably people would be quite interested in and then I think there's a really nice wee village up a hill somewhere that you can hike Right, okay, so it's nice weather you'll do that Yeah, I think people hike it in summer And maybe ski when it's really cold

Which it was? No, it was freezing Oh Like cold, a bit colder than here Similar weather it is probably though But I think maybe get a summer So there's things like that you could do If you went maybe not at Christmas

but at Christmas time there was really good markets like a couple dotted about like a nice be old town we went go-karting which I was about like why we come to another country to do something we could do at home but it was fucking unreal was it? I loved it I was obsessed with it we did two rounds

and I wanted to do more I loved it the first time it was me Jason I think two other people two other girls I came second Jason came first and the second time I think I came fifth it was like me and four guys But I started at the back See once you start at the back It's quite hard to not beat the back

So you're actually in a go-cart Yeah and an indoor helmet and everything on And you could go fast I want to do it again I want to go to the one that's here And did you crash into anything? I didn't touch a single thing

I was quite good Wow But I think because when I know I'm going too fast down the corner I'll break with his guys I just like fuck it Yeah because I don't want a skirt

Yeah I don't want to fucking skirt I just want to go gently round the corner Peaches, America My princess But I was still going fast Fucking loved it

And you know what they had there Grape Fanta You love grape juice I've never had that until Nashville And I fucking love it Can you get that here? Probably in one of the American candy shops Oh yeah

I'm going to look for that It was a glass cold bottle of a grape fata It was fucking unbelievable Had that my break in between the two sessions It really riled me up for the second one You know Ooh, sugar rush

I'm ready, get that fucking helmet on me Although what I will say is when to put the helmet on I was like an instant I feel trapped Yeah, cluster five bit Talk yourself out of it and I did, that was fine I just went to size up the next time because I thought it was quite tight

Yeah I couldn't get it off it on Anyway, that was really good I would recommend it was called VMAX If you go there It's like 20 minutes, half an hour Out with the sort of centre bit we were staying in But the Uber's nibbing our buttons over there

Really? We got like a 20 men at Uber and it was something like 5 pound Brilliant Like the exchange rate Because they've got their own currency Lee, L-E-I think it is Right

And it's like For every pound you get like six of theirs So everything's quite cheap to us Which was good Then we went to Thirm Hundreds of people We know I'm talking about Solve for Tococ

The Big Mass of Spa And it's known for that now You could go to Bookeress for that alone I would say that was like the big indoor swimming bath which we all know I'm not in indoor swimming or swimming really in general because germs and that

someone said to me it looks at a bowl of human soup but I didn't see that after I left and I thought thank fuck I'd have sat on the bed the whole time when I saw your picture I thought surely you're not liking this I did think that right but I loved it were they all naked in that

no no nakedness okay we're not doing that so inside it had the big mass of like indoor pool bit which got a bar in it it's got like three jacuzzis in it the bars got like the wee stools in the water but even they were like such a good size that you could perch without feeling like you had to like

and could you drink alcohol? Yeah really? There's an apparel spritz in there my goodness I know Jason had like a Amaretto and Coke or something I was like alright getting pushed so that was the indoor bit and then you could go out a wee like revolving door

to outdoors from there and that was obviously the really themey like heated that jacuzes in it as well and obviously in summer you can like sunbathing it out there too it's fucking freezing and then it's got a couple kind of salt baths inside as well I mean it's stung the life out of my legs

my newly shaved legs and then there's just like beds all around like really comfy loungers really comfy like wee round beds like a wee roof over them like proper spasta proper like boozy spa but obviously it's quite touristy

so you do have like it's busy and there's the girls with like the full set of makeup on get pictures and the pool and all that but because it's new and everything's so clean and like it's really like health focused it takes away from like the touristy part if you know what I mean because then it has like five different restaurants in it

oh yeah indoors it's got like one big seating area but it's got like one big seating area but it's got like four or five different bits so they had like a pokey bowl section they had a sushi section sushi I can't really say that now and then they had burgers and steak they had like Thai food hundreds of stuff fresh juices

pastries well like quite bougie yeah and then upstairs they had like a million different sauna rooms sawn and steam rooms they had an ice bath up there there's infrared light beds you can get a massage

like it's bogey and then they've got the flumes the flumes you can go into another bit where the kids are yeah and that was all the water slides fucking loved it we were in there constantly that sounds amazing

I went down every single one so you could spend all day there we were there for eight hours brilliant and you were there at night as well I saw it's good to be there when it turns night because they put all the lights on and I do usually think all this stuff is a bit gimmicky

and I'm not relented but see just because it's new as I said it's so clean. It's new? Yeah, it's new. Sorry, I didn't know that. What's it called? Thirm.

Firm. I don't know how you would usually spell Thurm, if that's a word, but it's getting to eat then. I'm sure. But I think just because, yeah, it's so new and even the lockers, everything was, like, pristine clean.

Nice. It makes it enjoyable and not, like, on your trip, like, touching things. Although you do need to, I took flatflops with me, but Jason had to buy some and someone stole them. So we had to buy them again. He's walking around you street like, ooh.

But that was so good, he fucking loved it. You know, he's like, loves the water. That sounds really fun. Yeah, I'd love that. Like, I would actually go back for that. So the bit that you were in is that adults only? The indoor bit, I think, maybe adults only, but there was a couple of, like, newborns. So I think it's maybe you can have your, like, not-anoying child in there.

Right. But, like, people kind of run around in it. I only saw two new babies. That was it. Is you eat anything good? Is the food good there? I don't really know what the food is there. Quite hearty?

I think there's definitely, there was quite a few meaty-looking things going on at the market. But I think that can just be at markets anyway. Christmas markets, yeah. Yeah, but dinner, I had sushi one night and moving out. I had pizza one day, like just easy things. See, when I'm away, especially just by Jason

I'm only eating because I'm hungry You don't really focus it around the food So I'm like the opposite My trips are based around the food I do look on TikTok and all that For like restaurants that people recommend Yeah, brunch and stuff That is the places we went

Yeah But it wasn't like I didn't eat anything specific That was like wow that was a meal It was just nice But I get sick of eating out Even for three days I'm bored of eating out

I want at home cook me now I get sick of the thought of food It's like what do you want to eat nothing Like, I don't want to eat, but I know I need to. Because when you do city breaks and stuff, I do feel like you focus your days around breakfast, lunch, dinner. You do? And it's been like, oh, I know, I know. We did go to the place the first night called Kong, which I'd seen loads of people talk about.

And on a weekend, they do, like, entertainment and stuff as well. Kind of like the place we went in Amsterdam. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Which I think would be really good, but we were there on a Wednesday. And the food was nice. So I would recommend that, to be fair. I wanted to go to the Van Gogh Museum. Not to a cafe.

Oh. But the coup was so long. We walked past it twice in two different days. The queue was right down the street. And I thought, I only want to go here because, like, people have said to go, but I actually don't really care about Van Gogh. Yeah.

Or Van Gogh. Or Picasso. They're all shite. Fuck them. Fuck all that. You know what I mean? So we didn't go in there, but if you're there, people say it's good, so fucking why not?

I forgot the bookstore I went to. Yes, tell us. Massive. Hundreds and thousands of books. books. Loved it. Because you're a bookworm now. Yeah, I was looking around like,

I'm such a geek. I'm trying to be that person, but really, I was thinking I've got a good bookstore though. I was thinking, though, I've got a candle anyway. True. Very flipping true. I did actually get my mom a wee Christmas present on there. What did you get? Well, I'm not telling you because you'll hear.

True. You need you wait, Suzanne. Yeah, Suzanne. But you'll like it. It's very you. Oh. I'll tell you after. That's nice. Anyway, apart from that, all I've done is put my tree up.

That's it. an argument every year with a real tree once it's up we're fine I do think Jason will win next year with a fake tree though cookie doesn't change her ways Yeah I love fake trees but I do like the look of a real tree

Yeah And I love the fact that mine's pre-lit It's so easy Is it? Yeah No lights haven't to put on No Yeah lights areabolic

And also I wouldn't have lights String lights with the kitten I've seen some horror stories Yeah there's a few times that we're like barricade in the tree with just like bags for life full of like other Christmas bits and that and like an Amazon box and shit

which is annoying because it's an eyesore and she keeps like managing and like she just dives and hopes that she'll make it through somewhere. Right. And sometimes she does and then I'll look under I need to pull everything away, look under and the fucking lights around her neck and I'm like, they're round her neck

and she's biting them and I'm like how's that enjoyable please? Guys buying your own house and flat can be so stressful. So stressful. And I feel like as adults were just supposed to know all this stuff. Did you know that it's considered one of the most stressful things you can ever do

in your life? I can believe that, by the way, all the paperwork, lawyers and all that. It's too much. It's a total mind field. Well, don't worry, I have a solution that will make everything feel easier. Just let our sponsors, Watermans, handle it all.

Well, they pack my boxes too. Not quite, Lizzie. But they'll definitely take care of everything else. Perfect. Talking of utility, I got my utility room done. Yeah, no, what's been a lot in your play? I spoke too much. Buzzing.

I've got a dishwasher now and a tumble dryer. Have they ever been off? No. Not once. A tumble dryer maybe. With that one, it's a condenser, which I didn't know, there was three different types of tumble dryers. This is boring chat, but it's adulting stuff.

I don't know that either. This is the one where you have to empty the tray with the water. Yeah. Because I can't have it connected leaving. house, all that. Anyway, when you put it on for about an hour, when you get it out, it's still steamy. So you feel like it's damp, but it's not. You just let it dry, air dry for a minute. The steam obviously is like, poof. And then within seconds, it feels a lot drier than what you think it is when you initially put your hand in. You're like, it isn't working. So that's

fine. Dishwasher is game changing. The only frustrating thing is, obviously, it's not in my kitchen, so I have to carry the stuff. It's not that bad, but I like to rinse the plates first in the sink. And then you kind of need to do that, though. It's like, what's the point? But anyway, that definitely will save arguments. You'll probably just find over time, though, say you just had a quick dinner

and you only had like one pot and a cup of plates, you might be like almost as well just wash these. No, totally, yeah. But when you've got, like, maybe people over or when, like, baby stuff and all that and you get loads of different dishes, then the dishwasher is really helpful. Quite a lot of people reply to my story

say things to me like, the tumble dry is going to be a game changer when you've got a baby. Because you can all the socks and the baby grows and stuff in And apparently there's just tons of washing when you have a child, newborn, anyway. Well, yeah, because I think you changed them quite a lot in the one day, don't you?

Yeah, we'll soon now. So that's that done. They were in my house for like a full week because when they got there, basically, they were like, you need a plumber, you need an electrician, things weren't as easy as we thought. Yeah. The wiring from the previous owner

was not as easy as we thought. So we had to get all that done. Winnie was absolutely loving life. She is the biggest flirt you've ever met. Wilson slept under the quilt. Like her mother? her mother and Wilson was under the quilt for a full week, bless him, sweating, like he's so timid, I know, poor thing, there's a lot of change for him. So I'm buzzing

that's done then we're going to start on the nursery, I think I need to get the, I'm getting panelling done first, we need to get the damp issue probably sorted if that's extreme as we think it is and then we can get moving on that. But physically what's been a lot my plate. I went to Opo and Boy, which I haven't spoke about it on here before, but they were at our market. So Opo and Boy is a new bakery. They also make preserves as well, like pickles and cookies. I don't know that either. So they're based in Morris Park, which is just on the M8 and inside there, there you can get brunch at a place in there. There's loads of like rude cookies based bakeries in there. Is that really? There's a bag like,

Two lows. Fully or something called. Yeah, it's right next to the door to that. Right. Inflate, that's it. Never know that. So I went in and collected the cookies at like 7pm on Friday. I thought this would be a nice treat.

You have to pre-order them at the moment. They are starting to do deliveries. And I first tried them at Shatlero Sunday Market. Yeah. Because We Knob sell them. We Knob came to our Christmas market as well, and they also sold them there. So I thought, I'm going to try and try their bakery. And guys, I shit you not.

They are, without a doubt, not only is it just the coolest, coolest branding. and they've got such a great business idea but they are the highest quality best tasting cookies I've had in a long, long, long, long, long, long time. Wow, better than those M&S ones. Oh, yeah. Like, I think this is with those M&S ones that I love that flavour combination.

Yeah. And I think they taste amazing, but these are thicker. I think I sat and chatted to the couple and I really like their story as well there. One of them's from Canada. No, scrap that. She's not from Canada.

She's from New Zealand. And he had a sort of twang to his accent. I went, oh, where are you from? And he says, I'm from London. I thought, no, you sound South African to me. And he goes, can you hear South African? I said, yeah. And he said that either he was, had family there or he worked with a lot of South African. So he had this sort of twang. They spent a lot of time in the Highlands of Scotland last year because it reminded her a lot of New Zealand. So when they

had this, they worked on cruise ships. Love it. Right. So then they were like, right, we want to move somewhere together. So they decided to move to Scotland. And then that was in June just there. And then thought, we love baking. So they started baking, these amazing cookies, got that unit in Morris Park, and they've just flying. Love that. So I just think, you know what? That's so sick.

Like, it's a brand new business. Started in June, just a couple that wanted to just do something different with their life. So I would definitely try and support them because I just think they were just so good and everything was great quality. So I highly recommend them. My school there, I need Jason Love a Cookie. Yeah, you would really like it. And I would maybe do it when they started doing deliveries, which is going to be in the next

month or so. The chocolate orange one, unreal. but you don't like chocolate orange do you no I do I just preferment okay I'd never seen what chocolate anything yeah then I went to a place for Sunday Rose called the old house arms

old house arms in East Coeur Bride again really recommend it gave me the nice English country cozy pub vibes that I so crave sat next to a fire there was cauliflower cheese there was more than just

broccoli on the plate there was all different times of vegetables, yorkshire pudding, beef and chicken was on the option, which is always a good sign. Love. Nice gravy, great starters, good price and yeah, really nice, recommend you to go there. And then I also went to a place called the Real One. Clever name. The Real One.

It's a, I think it's Chinese cafe, a Chinese cafe, but somewhere in China that they are from a town, beginning with G, that it's like specialised in that food, and it's very authentic. spicy as fuck, I'm going to tell you that now. And when I went in there, it was more casual than I imagined. We booked it on a Saturday night. And I went in, I was like, oh, okay, this is very casual. But you're just setting in the kitchen? Yeah, pretty much.

And they have like a counter, and it's just not presented in any way. It's just super duper authentic. But quite like that. The dumplings were incredible. They did these ragu flat noodles, so good, very spicy. and this sort of special fried rice which was again so good bring your own booze

£2.50 a head and they obviously don't have the licence and so they just do that so I recommend there as well but if I would say if you go and get those dishes that I've just said ask them to do it mild I would need to go back and do that

because me and Richard would our stomachs were in bits after yeah I can't handle space like that you wouldn't have liked it but I also thought I'd read out when we're talking about food a couple of messages

about the Mitch and a Star restaurant that I spoke about. It was called Lutton Klum. Lung Klum. I really struggled to pronounce that word. But anyway, that is the restaurant that I was speaking about. And I had a few, quite a few of you messaged me, like, if this is the restaurant you're saying, absolutely fucking go.

Right. Like, don't care about the money. It is a once in a lifetime treat. It is a phenomenal experience. I think one person said to me that they did stay overnight and they said that part wasn't worth it there's far more superior places to stay in the late district but definitely do the tasting menu

it will blow you away so yeah we were meant to go on our baby moon two weeks ago it never happened and I don't know how and when we're going to do it now so we might have to go in January because I'm struggling for time to be honest for us to both get away

and January is going to be a really busy time for Rich with being a personal trainer by the way so and then obviously the babies will be coming any time after that

okay and the baby's setting then yeah so that is something that I still definitely want to do because you guys as same as Zoe

has fully convinced me that that's what should be done I think should be yeah absolutely why not do you know what to be fair

people it's all relative isn't it people would probably spend four 500 quid to go on a city break for the weekend

for both you maybe more but if that's something that we can't we're not able to do or don't want to do spending the same amount of money on something that is relative to you in your sense of enjoyment absolutely then why not why not well i'd say enjoyment for me maybe not for richard just getting brought along um so yeah might rain check on that one but i'll need to see availability anyway um emotionally i would say This week's been quite tough for me actually, like mentally and just, I don't know if it's like the blues of the shows and just everything that we were doing. The fact that I'm in the midst of like third trimester and I'm feeling sore, I'm really tired.

But yeah, I'm struggling a lot with the fact that I've only got a few weeks left of the life as I know it. Yeah. It's definitely, it's like I'm almost feeling guilty for not feeling mega excited. I still feel, if anything, quite nervous. I think if you asked about, everyone would feel the same. But that's not what I'm sensing on Instagram. But that's the problem. I know.

And when I look at all these other moms to be, and I know this is the problem, and I know loads of you will relate, but I look at some of these people that are not, that I've just recently found out they're pregnant, and they're already so far ahead with things that they've bought and their excitement. And I'm like, do I feel guilty that I don't feel that way?

I'm just not I'm not I don't think that's just not the type of person you are though true but you're not the type of person

to plan something or find out something and then be organised for it no I'm very last minute and that's fine what I will say is I'm very much

in my nesting era that's a thing I was saying in my group chat like what's the science behind that because I was screwing my fucking cutlery draw last week

like I was honest think with the new dishwasher I was putting everything through it so I was sterilising everything I was like this is amazing But then I was cleaning the draw

Rich came back and was like, what are you doing? I was like, I don't know. I don't know, but all I want to do is I want to clean. I'm loving it. And I was knackered after. But for some reason,

even though this is your most uncomfortable heaviest time, you still just find the energy to do this shit. Why would you want to bring a child which comes with a lot of extra stuff getting already?

Clotted house. You want to make space for it. No, but. You want everything. to be exactly where it's meant to be, it works, it's easy, it's efficient so that when you're bringing the... It makes it easier for you. Yeah. It makes so much sense.

And a lot of people have said to me like, you don't need to get the nursery sorted soon and I'm like, I know I actually don't, but I want to because if I don't do it before... I think it'll make your life easy. I won't have that done. I won't do it at all. Yeah. So that part is something that maybe you're stressing me out because I'm a bit like, fuck. You don't need the nursery because they don't need to sleep in there or they won't be

sleeping in there for a while. No. It's more the space of the stuff. But I do think... it would be good to have it so that that's your room with the baby. Yeah. Like you can kind of try and keep that a bit separate at times. Like if you're trying to get them settled or you're changing them, whatever, you can always do it in there.

I'm also going to keep the bed for the six months. I've decided. Okay. The spare bed just so we can have like people sleep and stuff. Yeah. But yeah, I just think I'm feeling like I felt like I'm not wanting to do an awful lot. I've sat in the same spot for two days under an electric blanket, feeling really demotivated.

Is that because of the weather, Christmas is coming, I'm winding down. I'm just feeling a little bit sorry for myself in a way. And it's like I'm, it's like I'm getting annoyed with myself that I'm not getting up being active. I'm like, I feel like I'm letting myself down, even though I shouldn't feel that way. But because I'm like, I should be doing all this yoga and because that's, I feel amazing when I do that yoga once a week. I feel like I should be doing that every day or I should be going out and getting walks. But I just can't be asked. I can't be asked, it hurts me to walk

If you can't be asked you don't want to do it, you don't need to do it I know Nobody's expecting you do it apart from yourself And then you look in the mirror and I'm like, I don't even recognise myself anymore I'm like, what the fuck I think you just need to try And I can't say in how you feel I can't relate

But if you try and twisting on it It was just so that it's like I'm growing a human Not even that though Because everyone can say that to you But you feel different You feel that you look different This that and the next thing

and you're scared that you're losing this life you've got right now but see actually I would look at it in 10 weeks or so you're going to have that back I know you're going to have a baby and all these other different things but then you're on the journey to be back to yourself you're actually closer and I don't see it that way I see it as like my whole but not you as a person

loads of things change because you're going to have someone to look after but you as a person things that are annoying you like the energy levels No, the heartburn I can't wait for that to get to fuck Yeah, like all of that You're actually closer to getting all that back Yeah, no, I know I know, I know, no

It's just, I suppose a lot of people It's just past the process You're sitting in your head and you're thinking Oh my God, in 10 weeks' time My life as I know it And me is the person that I knew That era of me is gone And she is gone, she will be gone forever

I will be a new woman Looking after something that I love so much And do you know what set me off actually was my Spotify rapped, right? And I have not listened to Spotify in ages and that was the one thing that made me think, oh my God, I was a Spotify addict. I don't listen to podcasts now.

I have not listened to my music playlist in so long. So my Spotify rap came on and obviously it's all like house music because I was training, I was doing a lot of running. Yeah. And I'm listening to it thinking, that is not me anymore. I do not know that this person

that listened to that music. But you will do that again? I'm fucking better. You well, though? Because it's like, that was only me back in February. I know, but you're just, you're not going to feel like this when the time comes

because you're going to love this baby so much. No, I know. Like, I think you're scared that people get scared at this point because they're not going to be that person again, but you are because you'll feel like a better person, your baby. Yeah, you'll feel like... That's how everyone feels. Yeah, you feel like a new person.

I've read a lot of people online, they say things like, I am accepting that I'm a different person now, but I like this version of me. Yeah, exactly. And I do think I'll be that person. It's just so scary to think that I've got a few weeks left of the life of just looking after me. I know.

And I'm feeling guilty that I'm not like, yay, I'm buzzing because I'm not. I'm nervous as fuck. I'm so nervous about the birth as well. I sometimes have this feeling in my head and I'm thinking, there's only one way this baby's getting out and I can't believe that I have to do that. I actually can't believe I have to give birth to a child. I know. I can't have nothing competency for that one. Hypnobirving is definitely working, but my God.

We'll get a couple more sessions of that. Yeah. So maybe you're in that sort of pleasantly surprised the first session, then you get the second one, you're like, okay, I've not moved forward as much I think, but you will the next time. And everyone does it. I know we can do it, and everyone, oh, anyway. Yeah, it's just, there's a lot going on in my head at the moment.

I'm like, I, I'm not, I'm scared. I'm scared. I'm fucking scared. I'm fucking scared, help. I'm scared, and the hormones are real. Good God. It doesn't help as well that a few of my friends have just. kind of baby and they're all sharing their amazing stories with me but it sounds a lot yeah it sounds great but also see me it's very much like this is the best that's ever happened to me but yeah yeah

anyway we had a few messages of people sending in their feedback about the marriage dilemma because I know a lot of people feel that way where they're in a long-term relationship and they want something and the partner doesn't yeah vice versa um and we both said our opinion as did Richard but we said at the end of the episode like our opinion isn't gospel we both aren't married we both haven't craved that

or put that sort of ultimatum on our partner so we've not failed how she's failed yeah so it's important that we get other people's opinion or anyone that's been in that position so I thought I'd read out a few comforting messages for you because it's nice to hear from other piggies so this was on Patreon we had a couple of piggies reply on here saying listen to the part regarding marriage chat good points and I do think a lot of

people get married for the wrong reasons aka insta weddings etc no hate however I do think it's super important from a legal perspective which isn't that romantic which isn't that romantic hence why everyone fluffs it up with nice things my partner and I have been together for 10 years we've built a whole life together saved together just bought a house spend every day together know each other inside and out so it would break my heart if one day something happens to either of us and we weren't in charge of one of those wishes or from a money perspective didn't inherit each of our assets. This becomes even more important with kids. I know there's things you can put in place of a marriage,

but it just isn't the same. I also love a good wedding. I love looking at my parents and grandparents' wedding picks and videos. It doesn't have to be a grand affair that costs the earth. Completely agree on that. And somebody else replied, I really enjoy the discussion today, especially with a male perspective too. I think her partner is being quite unfair.

After 11 years together, you know if you are open to marriage or kids at some point in the future. I totally get and appreciate it might not be the right time just now or he isn't ready for those things at the moment but I think there needs to be a clear conversation confirming if he's actually open to those things at all. If he's absolutely sure he doesn't

it's only fair to communicate that to the person you love and share a life with if he is open to them giving his partner assurance that he's on the same page even if it's not right at this moment in time shouldn't be an uncomfortable conversation to have. I can be with that too. And you know what?

people were kind of saying all of those similar things that, you know, this person here said that she was in the same position as her. She said, to share my perspective on Tuesday's Poddilemma, I've been with my now husband for 13 years and I'm 31. But he didn't propose until our 10 year anniversary. And before that point, I felt like it was never going to happen. I told myself, if I wasn't married by the time I was 30, that I'd have to consider whether we wanted different things and whether I'd have to make some massive decisions after spending such a chunk of my life for someone. To quote, his wedding speech, he was never really sold on the idea of marriage and didn't believe

in it or see why it was so important to me. And as more of our friends got engaged and married and we were asked, are you next? I think he realised it was a compromise he was willing to make to make me happy. It's hard for me to say if it hadn't have happened by now that I would have made any big decision to end our relationship. But I do think at this stage, unless he's secretly already planning it, that you should have an idea whether it's going to ever happen or not. and basically just saying that she basically saying that he said it was the best day of his life

and I was speaking to Richard about it last night because I was telling him like oh we've had some feedback on what we discussed and he was like he totally gets all that but what he said an important point is so if you love someone so much and you know you're going to split with them because they want to marry you like

so you just wanted to get married in the first place then it doesn't matter who you go out with you just want to get married. Yeah. And I was like, yeah, I suppose I get that. I says, but if you flip the narrative as well, that person is then also giving up something that that's important to them to stay with you,

which is not get married. So one of you is sacrificing something you believe in. So yeah, it's a difficult one. I think that's where the compromise comes in, though. It's like you get married, but just not to a big scale then. Yeah. Or you get married in a way that works for both of you. Because actually the legal part,

I've never thought about it in that from that girl's perspective. before. Same. And Rich said that, didn't he? That guy said to him when he's on a plane, he knows this family are safe. Which is strange. I know there is other things in place you can put in like a will and there's loads of other things you can do. But if you don't have a will, if something happened to any of us, our partners aren't this person who anything would go to or have a saying? Who would it go to? Our parents. That's right, yeah. But then I would like to think my mom would give it to Rich and she would. That's just something that may be...

No, I know, but not everyone's in that position and you don't... Yeah. You can't guarantee them. So you know, my child though? Surely it would go to my child now? Yeah, it wouldn't. It wouldn't go to my mom if I had a child. Yeah, I think so.

But they're not old enough, so... I'm not sure on that one. But yeah, I do think... Maybe we'll ask our friends at Watermans. On that one. Watermans will be able to tell us that. No, but that is some interesting points. We had loads more, by the way, but I do think it's just the answer to all of these is you need to compromise your partner if you want to be together and stay happy.

Yes. Agree, agree, agree. Right, well, we do a few Christmas traditions and then do the rest of a lot on your plates on site. Yeah, because you've got a really good dilemma that somebody sent into us about sex in their relationship, comparing it to friends, and sadly we wouldn't have time on the main. So we'll move that over to the bonus. But we had some really good traditions that you guys are, that you. you do every year and it's made me jealous. I'm going to let you read them out. Okay. So you put on our story and asked you guys what is your favorite Christmas traditions whether you love them or whether

you hate them. So we've got quite a few here so I'm going to read you some. I'm excited. A Chinese on Christmas Eve? I quite like that. Same. Kind of sets you up for like it's a complete opposite of your Christmas meal, you know what I mean? Yeah and it's setting you off for the binge that you're about to have for the next week. A lot of people have a Chinese on Christmas Day as well. They go out for it, don't they? Yeah, I can't relate to that one. Christmas quiz after dinner with a 20 pound voucher for the winner. I like that.

I love that. Absolutely needing to be dressed up for dinner in your living room. Now, there's a lot of people against this. They want to stay in their PJs all day. But I did dress up once and go out for dinner and I loved it. Yeah. I loved it. I felt really glam and I just felt like it was a really special day.

and everyone there was the same. Yeah. And sometimes when you're slavering away in the kitchen all day, it's actually quite nice. Well, I do anyway, but it's quite nice to go and get ready. So I'm going to make the effort to do that this year. I like, I always get ready. Because you're going to people's houses, aren't you?

I'm going elsewhere, but I still got ready in my mum's house when I left there. We were having dinner there. But see the actual chunk of time, getting ready, hate. I don't want to be getting ready. I want to be enjoying the festivities. I want to be like in the living room of cheese and wine or I want to be still giving and getting presents. Like I want to be doing the Christmas stuff

I want to be getting ready. Very true. I want to be drying my hair for half an hour. There's quite a few of these. Get drunk as soon as you open your eyes, Christmas morning. 4 a.m. vodka. I don't know. I love a box viz though.

I don't really love a box viz. Do you not? I don't love the taste of it. I think I'd prefer it with apple juice. That's quite nice. But I don't want to do it and ruin an apple juice but I might try it like an apple tizer. Ooh.

With a boseco. I'm just something there's Oz. Heads Up is always played on Christmas night and always leaves everyone belly laughing. Heads up. Oh, that's the one when you use the phone. I like games. I do like games on Christmas. I would love to see the stats of the app downloads

of heads up around this time of year. Because it will get deleted and read downloaded. Yeah, I always delete it. Same. Do you know what games are quite good when we've got them? It's a blow-up, like reindeer antlers. Yeah. And you throw the hooks?

Yeah, that's quite a good one. Somebody messages about the serial box game And they were like, is this, I think this is quite niche, but they don't know if other families do it. But I have heard about this because it's quite big where I live. Right. Have you heard about it? Is it when you keep cutting it down? Yeah.

I have seen people do that, but I've never done it. So if anyone wants a game that's free, you get your family together and you get an empty cereal box. And then you have to put your hands behind you back and pick it up with your mouth, basically, any way that you can. But every time that someone picks it up, you cut a bit off. Yeah. So it's getting thinner. there and then obviously the most flexible person tends to be the person that can get it off the floor

like you can like almost stick your tongue on it and pick it up with your tongue when it's like flat I'm assuming you can you have to be standing at all times unsure on that one obviously you need to be leading over the legs really wide open and they're bending you could lie down and pick it up no matter how small it was probably

so you can't use your hands your hands always have to be behind you you wouldn't be able to get up if you yeah Venoms on Christmas morning good God card games with my family on New Year's Day, best members of my dad are, do you know what?

I saw another good message as well, actually. Somebody said that every year they have to get a secret Santa each other of, sorry, they have to buy a secret Santa for something that their mom would have liked. Their mom sadly passed away, but they still buy something for their mom. They're all open together as if she's there. Oh, that's cute. And that little silly things. I love that.

That's nice. And then I saw someone else say that they do this joke where they have to buy the shittest thing off Facebook. marketplace and then they all open it and whoever's the most weirdest and shittest wins and then Kaylee who was on our pod she said that they started doing a tradition of wearing buying the shittest t-shirt and they have to wear it for the day I love these um Christmas morning bacon rolls and books fizz Christmas Eve picky tea open one present and watch a film together um yeah this was it we buy a secret Santa based on something that my mom would have liked we've had everything from Turkish delights to Nicorette sprays keeps it with us

lol polaroid photos of the kids for each day of the countdown until christmas wrapping presents in strange shape so it's harder for the guest to guess it's harder for them to guess what it is I love this it's great fun that's funny that's good um fresh prawns from the sea and not the supermarket in your starter is a must love a prawn cocktail do you yeah do I do love it and a couple years ago, my family were up from England and my cousin's a chef. Yeah. And he made the Christmas dinner and it was big massive prawns for starter. It was great.

Oh, wow. With a shell on or not? Yeah. Oh my God. Langusteens. Yeah. My God. Always a new game for Christmas day. Santa always buys as a board game for Christmas. I love games. It's from Santa.

Husband and I do Christmas Eve drinks in our local which, to be fair, that was what I used to do always do. Lester, and then we go back home and open the present's piss. Oh, this is cute. We each do a Christmas act of kindness and then we all share what we did on the 25th. That's nice, I like that. That's lovely, isn't it?

Makes you think, what can I do this month? That's really nice. A cucumber in our stocking, don't even ask. Jesus, I will not ask. Interesting. We've had the tradition of on my mum's, or buys as Christmas PJs every year. It's really cute.

Lots of PJs. Homemade mince pies for travellers arriving on Christmas Eve. Party food and wine when decorating the tree. Tree, chef's kiss. Getting absolutely rat ass on Christmas Eve. I know it's a bit wild

but someone's got to do it. Add that like going out and Christmas Eve back in the day, it was sunbuzz. Now this is great. I've seen this a lot. Few people have said this that their dad goes down to check

if Santa's arrived but makes you wait at the top of the stairs or makes you wait on the stairs in size order. So you must have done that when you were a kid. Yeah. And I'm just going to go and check if Santa's been and you're all patiently waiting and he's like, okay, he's been, you can come down.

My mom without fail until we moved out. Yeah. And actually, I think we went over last year. She still had it. Had footsteps down the stairs. What, like flower footsteps? Yeah, from all of our bedroom doors, like without fail. Oh.

My tradition would have been the Christmas Eve box or Christmas Eve present and also for a good few years when we used to hide my Christmas presents so it was like a present hunt as opposed to it being under the tree that was the biggest thrill for me in the morning we didn't ever do it under the tree really

it was more like until Ben came at my mum's Christmas morning my stuff was in one couch and Adams was on the other yeah so it was like that was your couch and that was mine but we used to always because my cousins like my family used to come to bananas every Christmas when they lived abroad when we were all younger

and it's my cousins birthday on Christmas Eve. And we used to always, the whole family, got a pant of mine every Christmas Eve. Oh, nice. And we loved that. It's giving your family. Yeah.

Do you know what else is really funny? Richard is such a Christmas wrapping paper, dad. That black bin bag is out. The moment you even start putting your hand on the present, it's like, right, all the wrapping paper in the bin. Yeah. Jason's about like that as well, actually, but I'm thankful. We watch Home Alone too as a family on Christmas Eve and eat homemade Christmas

biscuits. A lot of home all into its best. We buy a new Christmas tree decoration every year has to remind us of the year that we've had. I like that. That's nice. Bit like a fridge magnet collection but with your Christmas decorations. We do buy a Christmas decoration everywhere we go. Do you?

Yeah. I love that. Every holiday we go and we'll get a Christmas decoration. We, my family and cousins and auntie have a takeaway on Christmas Eve and open my granny's presents with her as she lives alone. We also do a white elephant present exchange. The rule is we have to buy secondhand from eBay or Facebook

Marketplace. It's basically a competition of who can find the best shit of the day. Yeah, that one. I like the funny ones. Yeah. Lots of people saying things like taking pictures of themselves on the tree with the kids every single year. So every single year you look back at how much your child grows or yourself or whatnot. But yeah, love that.

I wouldn't like that if I was growing as well in the picture. I know, yeah, geez Louise. Is there any traditions that you are going to try and start? with my child I mean I am 100% going to be using I'm writing to Santa

I will be using that honestly all the time I'm going to tell Santa I'm calling Santa If you're not good Do you know Santa doesn't bring presents to people who aren't good You'll get coal in your stock this year then I mean

that definitely works I think So Well definitely does In terms of traditions I'll probably do the Christmas Eve thing I know that there's a lot of like Christmas Eve boxes around at the moment which Alan was telling us before we started like it's becoming a little bit excessive

but I did always open one present before and I thought that was really cute I used to get excited for that I'm just really looking forward to actually watching all the Christmas films again with them when they get excited Disney PJs

but I just want to try and remember try and make them remember that Christmas is not just about gifts and all And I think that's important that we put that into our children because it just, or then it just feels like so much pressure that the kids are going to school. It's like, well, so-and-so we've got this for this and this and this.

It's not just about that. It's about spending time with your family and just being present, not presents. Absolutely. I think I would do the pantomime thing because me and Jason do go to a partner mine every year. I like that. And I think I would like to do that if I had kids as well. Maybe Christmas Eve as such, but in December, it is Christmas saying I like that. Yeah.

And then I'd probably do the same like fresh jammies or Christmas Eve going down to Christmas morning And I like that idea that you said about duff tree experience Going to chop your own tree I think I'd quite like to do that if I had a real tree There's just loads of wee things that aren't necessarily As you said like haven't they spend loads of money Or buy extra gifts

It's just like wee things that you associate with Christmas Maybe I'll get them to do an act of kindness every day for the December I said of their advent calendar It's like what did you do kind today And then they write it down what they did for someone on what they said to someone. It can even be I told my friend at school she looked nice

or like her bono in hair or something. Oh my God, that's so cute. Yeah, that's nice. And on Christmas Day it's like, this is how amazing you were and why you deserve this big fuck off iPad. Then you're a car.

Yeah. I like that. I'm going to do that. Write that down so you don't forget. A kindness advent calendar. That's cute, yeah. You put your note of what you did in and in return you get a chocolate.

Because you can buy those advent calendars that are just material. Yeah, and then you just... That's reminded me. My nana used to have that. A material advent calendar. There was always wee chocolates in it. Yeah, it's just wee pockets.

At the back of the door, they put their little note in of what they did. And then on Christmas, we don't read them as parents, and on Christmas Day, we read them, and that would make you so emotional. No, you lot of them out, and she'll have done it. She would have drawn a smile face, or a shite. Yeah. And you've given on all these fucking presents and she doesn't. Because this day, it's like, suckers. Did fuck all.

Give me my gifts. I'm going to encourage that. Anyway, we've babbled, babbled, babbled. Head over to us the bonus and join us for some very juicy dilemmas. We've got a lot this week. We'll be back Christmas Eve where we're going to talk all about your New Year's resolutions and things that you did this year that made you feel really good. We want to hear about it.

Want it to be an inspiring episode. We don't want it to make anyone feel like shaked. We want it to feel like you're going into the new year and a positive, fantastic note. And we want you to inspire us and tell us all the things you did, whether it's small, big, little acts of king, anything that you did and what you've achieved or what you'd like to achieve in 2025, please let us know and we'll do it

and hopefully it sets you off to a fantastic start. Okay, sounds perfect. Thanks for watching, Leston. Bye!