A Lot On Your Plate - S5 Ep18: Facebook Marketplace, Depop Wars & 2024 Best Bits

Episode Date: December 31, 2024

This week on ALOYP we chat about both yours and our achievements, proud moments and small or big wins of 2024! We also discuss Facebook Marketplace, Depop wars & how to choose your bridesmaids. What would you do / what have you done? Share your thoughts with us💬 P.S. Happy New Year when it comes, we hope 2025 is full of love, health & happiness💖 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Happy Tuesday to you. Happy Tuesday. Happy New Year's Eve. everybody. It's the last day of 2024. We're going into a gorgeous fresh new year, surviving and thriving. How do you feel about New Year? Um, good. I don't enjoy going out New Year's Eve that much. Um, but do you get, um, that sort of anxious way that people get on New Year's Eve 1st of January? Possibly when I used to work in a corporate job, yeah. for me now

it kind of just rolls over pretty much I look forward now to a bit of time off because usually in the world that I work in at the moment November, December is a very busy time yeah you're busy I just don't really feel

the pressures New Year though like I know a lot of people feel have I done enough have I achieved enough all that I just think be at peace with what you've done and for that there are 2020 24th and it's over.

Is that going to happen again this year? I hope not. CBA. I hope not. But I just think, be at peace for what you've done, what you've achieved, you're doing great, sweetie, and start again in the next year. Yeah. Just like we say about when you're a certain age to the next,

you wake up, it's literally just another day. You don't have to have January 1st to have a fresh start. I do know it is a good time, though, because you have such a big chunk of time off work that you go into it feeling fresh, and it is a good time to reset certain things. but, no, I don't feel anxious. I don't feel like we all should feel anxious at all.

No, I do think was good, which we used to say back in earlier seasons, was the keeping a note in your phone of small wins. Yeah. And looking back on that, when you are seeing all this stuff online and you're feeling a little bit shit about yourself, you look back and you think, you know what I did achieve so much? And I did that, I was in Dubai last year, and I kept a note throughout my whole phone

because I felt shit the year before. purely because of what I saw online and I read it back to myself and I thought oh my God I cannot believe what I've achieved this year and it all seems to just merge into one yeah but when you look at it you're like

wow you just look at the big things that's the problem with this life really in this silly little life so we asked you guys to share your uplifting stories with us or anything that you're proud of whether it's big or small

that you've done this year that you can share with us so we can share with our listeners and hopefully just to have a nice feel good episode sounds perfect we've also got a couple of juicy dilemmas as well yeah to read out because over on Patreon we have such good dilemmas guys

like we try our best to keep them in the main but we don't want the episodes just to be fully about that because obviously we want our usual catch-up and what a lot on your plate's all about but yeah please join us over there because if you like listening to other people's dilemmas, then we really digress on there.

It pops off. Yeah. So, do you want to start with a dilemma first? So we've had something similar, like, to this before. Me and my partner are going a few trips slash holidays every year. We have no kids, so it's become a thing for us to enjoy your life. My partner's mom and her husband find it quite acceptable to book the same holiday at the same time. While we do get on now, major issues in the past.

I still don't think this is normal and how do I politely tell them to fuck off and not want to come with us every single fucking time we've honestly been about five holidays together in the last two years by the way we are 35 and they are in their 60s also the mother-in-law can be very overpowering and a royal pain in the arsh

all advice welcome what I find strange about that and how it differs from the last one they're booking after they've obviously shared what holiday they've booked rather than booking it together that's weird

but how do you see can you not guys I have to don't understand why you're not relaying this to your partner getting him to do that I think he's parents

I know say to say to him I want some alone time with you what surely he doesn't want them there as well I think as well

it's important to think about how she's saying that she's overpowering in a bit much because that makes a difference too it's not as if she's just an easy go and you don't really know she's there half the time

and if you've not got on in the past you will have such trigger buttons for her yeah do you know what I mean like you probably won't even do anything that bad and you're thinking I could fucking murder you

yep I think you need to put on the partner that's my advice you're triggering me again I just that's how I feel just daily with everything and everyone I think you're actually as much as you're relaxed and loving life

and holiday, I actually think you're a bit more intolerant in a way of people because you're together so much. Yeah. Do you know what I mean? Like it's kind of like... You just don't bite your tongue a little bit. Yeah. But being around anyone because you're just together the whole time.

Especially because it's your mother-in-law as well. You've got to kind of be careful what you say. There's a bit of like a respect barrier going on. Yeah. Well, I guess should be to an extent. Anyway, I think put on your partner That's all I can say about that one

This made me laugh I put my wee girl's pepper pig kitchen On Marketplace for £5 and stated It was just to put in the wee ones bank I had someone message asking if all the bits were in it Like seriously it's a fucking fibre If there's a spoon miss it doesn't really matter Maybe they were wanting to gift it for Christmas or something

I fucking love When people do those videos are the worst things they've seen on Facebook marketplace or you know how Jules who we used to work with at Isle Paradise he always does them and it's like the things people have called them or it's a mirror and you can see people trying to like not be in it but their toes

and all that. I also love it. The depop was as well. The Instagram where it's about deep up responses really brilliant. Hey girlies what would your advice be on picking bridesmaids got so many gorgeous special friends and don't want anyone to feel left out. Would you be put off

if certain folk didn't pick you to be theirs? your thoughts on how many to have how would you approach not having someone who everyone would likely expect you to have etc I do think that's quite a hard thing for people my advice honestly would be if you've got so many friends

but have a sister just have had or have like your friend that is your best friend and everyone knows it's your one best friend and a sister or a partner's sister I would just have them what I personally think I will do if ever get married and it's that sort of wedding

that I do have bridesmaids as have a small couple as my bride's maid but still have all my best pals there in the morning yeah I was thinking that like have a bridal party yeah but you don't all need the dresses you don't all need to spend the money on things you're like I don't need to get your hair and makeup done and all that I would just have a select couple of them

it's similar to the guy isn't it the guy have the groomsman but only the best man is kind of like his made of honour, if you like. Yeah, like they play a part. Yeah. Because there's all of my close friends I want around me at that time if I was to do it like that.

But I'm not having 15 bridesmaids. So that's maybe quite a good option. And by the sounds of things, you love your friends so much and if you've all got that sort of mutual respect and understanding for one another, your friends will understand. They'll get it.

I know exactly. Just say to them like, listen, I want you all there as my bridesmaids if you take them all for dinner and just say, this is not me giving you all I want you all to be my bride's me but I want you to be part of my bridal party

I have selected two people because finances are a tie and I can't afford to pay for 15 of you and I just want you to all know that this doesn't mean like someone's more special than anyone else is just what works for me

God forbid they will all understand you'd like to think anyway I know what I think's also key here to understand to understand. I'm sure. So many people feel the same. The chances of them wanting to be a bridesmaid are probably less than wanting to be.

People just want to enjoy your day. They don't want the pressures. You don't want to have to get up at 6th of the morning to get their hair and makeup done. They just want to celebrate you. They're not bothered but being a bridesmaid. I've never been a bride's maid. I've never been a bridesmaid. That speaks volumes.

I've been a bridesmaid a couple of times and it's been quite chill vibes. Like one was to my mum. I was my mum's graderide made. Yeah me and my cousin and I was then a bride's made to the same cousin

So you're not any of your friends But then again none of my friends had been married So that's why I think like that I guess And then with Jason's sister Because I was quite new on the scene But obviously it's an adult relationship So I was in the bridal suite with her The night before

And with her bride made Got my hair and makeup and everything done But I wasn't like I was like a bridesmaid without the dress Yeah But it's good because we were Maybe a year down the line or a year and a half down the line

you don't know like what I'm all in your fucking pictures and then I'm packed out Hindus but I'm not really yeah but also the Hindus that I've been to a lot of them haven't had bridesmaids

no I think just a bridal party in general is a great idea like that's it just allows you to avoid the stress of 10 outfits 10 this 10 that

here's quite a good a lot on your plate being written in go it's from someone called Adversity Fitness and it says the fact that Zoe doesn't turn up to PT I don't know what you're talking about I'm on well

Listen I've been with him for About 16 weeks now And only I think on the day cancelled twice That's good going Guys don't we think Zoe looks skinny I'm not any skinnier But you are

Visibly slimmer Absolutely You are. You actually are. Everything fits the same. Your face is different. It's the mouth. It's the brace situation.

I thought it before that. You got your brace. I said that to you the other day. When I came around your house, I was like, you look slim. You do. If it's because I'm a big fucking elephant or I'm just looking at you

and I'm like, wow. I think you're looking at a body without a bump and think it's skinny. No, it's the jaw. My mum even mess is just saying you look slim. But I do have a good jaw. Yeah, but she's not said,

we've been doing this for two years. She's never called you skinny. Thanks very much Polly for never addressing it before What I mean is obviously there's a clear difference Take a compliment bitch Okay take a compliment Right then let's Let's make it nice and posy-woosy

Let's bring up the vibes Do the tune And for that I can't do it This is what I mean Scottish people can't do that Yeah you can I can't

You need to do it Well what is it What do they say again And for that The 2024 season is over Yeah that's exactly Something like that Anyway

I thought marrying My best friend Was my high of the year Until I got the little blue line up here Wow You're a poet And you didn't know it So are you

Why That is a thing That is a phrase, though. I know, but you just said it back. What? Continue. That's really cute. Congratulations.

Saying no to things is good for you. I honestly could not agree any more if I tried. I would say no to everything if it was acceptable. Saying no feels so good. Especially when it's a no with a full stop. I can be simply savage sometimes. But it is more of a, I used to, and I've said this before, give a big, long-winded excuse why I wasn't going to something.

And I had to remember that people don't, most people don't give a fuck about hearing the excuse. Yeah. And you're also giving yourself anxiety when you do that. I think it was a book I read called The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck. And there's also another similar one of like the subtle artists of not giving a fuck. And they really promote you trying to say no and how much better your life is

when you just say, no, I'm sorry, I can't make it as opposed to, I can't make it tonight because blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Just say no and you will feel fantastic. And more so than likely, that person will apply like, no worries. Yeah, exactly.

And you're like, oh my God, I just didn't want to go. I don't need to give you an excuse. And if someone did say why, that would just make me say I don't want to. Yeah, then you can just be like, well, then you can give your reason and if you need to.

Yeah. I'm not feeling too good. I don't want to come. Met my Irish boyfriend travelling in Bali. Two months of time, he's moving to Glasgow. He's going to have the best time of his life. Irish and Glasgow. What a combo, by the way.

What a combination. There's quite a lot of Irish here, isn't there? We had a discussion from our friend Molly. She messaged me saying, Jess, Dublin or Belfast? She was going on a girl's trip. And I cannot promote Belfast more if I tried. I know obviously it's completely different countries in a sense,

but if you're wanting that sort of Irish experience, I personally am a massive Northern Ireland fan. I love Belfast so much. I've not been to it either. Have you not? Zoe, it's a 25-minute flight. It's the shock of the century. Or a ferry.

It's some crazy behaviour. Guys, if you're looking for a city break, that's cheap, because obviously Dublin's the Euro. Belfast is bloody brilliant. I need to get there. But I'm not really into, I'll put that out there. I'm not really into the 24-hour thing. For what, sorry?

Well, actually, it's not 24-hour. It's going there and back on the same day. Oh, I'm not done that. But a lot of people are doing it just now. Are they? Yeah, and I don't think I'm really into that because I just don't think I would want to be shown up to the airport pushed. Oh, so you're staying a night, you mean?

Yeah, I think I would need a night. Oh, I definitely, you definitely need a night there Because Belfast is so fun at night But everyone's going leading back The same day, the day's ash Mm-hmm It seems to be a thing, a trends My boyfriend and I have 10 years

Bought our first flat together And are slowly renovating it together That's lovely Completed my first triathlon Jesus Christ What is that? Consest of Swem and Saken and Running Fuck that Renovated my house and turned 30

This is the same girl by the way So completed my first triathlon renovated my house and turned 30. It's okay to not have your life figured out at 30. Everyone has their own pace. Exactly. And if you listened to Patreon last week, we said that is something we really want to discuss next season is the fear of turning 30 and how there's nothing to worry about at all.

Solo traveling to South Korea had the most amazing time felt fully present and content. Love that. Feeling present. South Korea? South Korea. Wow. Light to go there, I think. The fashion's meant to be incredible.

And the skincare. Yeah, clean skin care, unreal. Moved abroad with her two-year-old and loving it. Oh, wonder why they went to? I know I want more. Give us more. Oh, I wonder if she went like with the whole family? Like, everyone's went.

You would need some support, wouldn't you really? Well, I mean, it depends on, maybe it's work circumstances. But I would love that. I'd love to move to Spain. We also asked for in this sort of positive if anyone learned any lessons and had advice to give. So someone wrote in

Stop trying hard to be friends with someone who doesn't put in the effort focus on those around you who spread the love I agree with that Cut them off Cut the bitches off You know Cutthroat

I agree Then again I could do better at replying to some of my pals So I try my hardest You're like On paper A shit pal, but not Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha Ha ha

Ha ha You know What I'm just stroking the hair Like Do you know what I mean Buy that Yeah No I do

I'm not denying it But you're not You're absolutely I'm just clarifying You're actually not a shit friend What's whatever If you need me In the darkest

I'm there No absolutely But if you If you're wanting me to reply to your text straight away then, it's the look of the door. Yes, whether you're available that day or not. And if your text arrived on that day and you weren't available, then just please text again. 100%.

And hope that you're available like that day. I know. Listen, you heard my boyfriend say from his own mouth that he's muted and archived and he doesn't get a response. That is just don't take offense. I actually chose to become your manager just to get text back. Anyway, moving on. Biggest achievement, raising my child, it's hard work, but so rewarding. Watching them grow into a toddler and it's been the best age yet.

I gave it work for one year to raise my child and the time together is worth it over the money. And my advice, as you get older, you learn not to care what others think. Very true. Your happiness is a priority. 2025 will be challenging but the best yet. Love to hear it. It is true, isn't it? The older that you get, you really do really not care.

I think it's not that you don't care. I think you've just got more important things to care about. Really? Like, your responsibilities get more and more as you get older. You don't have time to care about what you're saying about your hair. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. Like, your priorities are changing.

So I think people probably still care to an extent, but it's just it can't, like, be your focus. Yeah. The same. I really, really don't care about negative things. It's like, Zoe and I, like, obviously having the podcast, you hear things and what people can say about you and stuff. And I genuinely really, you know what I'm like, I don't want to hear it. Zoe's like, if somebody sent something in, I'm like, don't send it.

I really don't want to know. I don't want to hear it. I don't give a shit because it will upset me. So I really try and protect my energy and my bubble of like this, just stay in my own. lane sort of thing and focus on things that matter because the moment I allow some negativity to creep in, then this is relevant to anyone, not just in somebody that puts their life out there like us, but I do think if you allow that to really dwell and you think about it, it can seriously ruin your day. Yeah, it definitely does. And last year, like, there was, you know,

there's things that I'd read and I, it ruined my day, like, got me so upset. And I think to myself, why do I care about what irrelevant people? Because I don't. Yeah. And from that moment on, seriously, nothing will ever get past this wall into my brain. No, you are good that way, but as I would rather know. I cannot get over that, Zoe. I've tried to tell her, tried to shake her. If something's been said about you, I'm like, Zoe, you're a bad bitch. I don't know if I care, though.

I'm more like trying self-reflect and make sure I'm not what they say. But you're not? But also, I like to know what they're saying. Why, though? Are you sleep better? No, I think it's just nosiness. But then will that make you feel nice about yourself? I don't think it really affects me emotionally.

God, it would me. Nothing anyone else said would upset me. Because I do think it's on you, not me. 100%. Like, I think I'm quite good at that, but I just like to know. And I think the more that you actually really deep it and you think about it, I could never honestly sit there and say something horrible about someone that I didn't know. No, like isn't.

and spend my time spouting hate on something that actually I shouldn't even be given my energy to. No, I just think it's laughable because I'm like you're paying the bills, so keep going. No, I agree with you, sorry. But yeah, that is just a bit of advice

for something that maybe me being in like my nearly mid-30s, I was seriously, seriously, seriously, don't allow it to let me care because I ain't changing for no one. I think I would only care if I partially agreed. or kind of understood why someone was saying something about me, I would be like, do you know what, actually,

I have said something about that before. Maybe I shouldn't. Like, I would take it on board, but I'm not like, oh my God, you've hurt me. But how much more respect would you have that person actually messaged you directly? Oh, 100%. And said, look, you've offended me, upset me, or whatever. Whether you're in this sort of role or whatever in life. I've heard.

I just tell you how they feel. Yeah. If you, that's how I genuinely believe that. If you've got a friend that's upset you, don't go and bitch about them to your friends in another group chat. No. Just go straight to the person and say, listen, you really upset me. And I really respect people that have to do that to me as well. I'm like, I'm really sorry.

Absolutely. Never meant to upset you. Let's just move on from this as adults. That's maturing. Yeah. Some people just don't seem to do that. No. Which stays more about them.

Absolutely. Guys, buying your own house and flat can be so stressful. So stressful And I feel like as adults We're just supposed to know all this stuff Did you know that it's considered One of the most stressful things You can ever do in your life

I can believe that by the way All the paperwork lawyers and all that It's too much It's a total mind field Well don't worry I have a solution that will make Everything feel easier Just let our sponsors

Watermans handle it all Well they pack my boxes too Not quite Lizzie But they'll definitely take care Of everything else Perfect Ran a 10K and got a PB Well, friggin' done

Must be nice Yeah, must be nice I've still went no further than five It's been a long time From hating running to finishing And loving the GSR 10K And planning the half for next year You go, sister

Watch GSR Couldn't tell you Great Scottish Run That's the one I answered it myself Open to my own little salon room In my garden And ran my first ever 10K

And 1.12 I think it's so cool that people open their own little shop in their garden. Yeah. How convenient's that? Put your little slippers on. I know. Off to work. It's just like you're a little place. I know, a little sanctuary.

This person's wrote, IVF worked and three weeks away from a baby being due. Six years in the making. Congratulations. That's frigging wonderful news. What a lovely miracle. We had some nice messages sent in as well. I quit my job and got a one-way flight to Australia

to see this part of the world. totally out of character for me as I've worked full-time non-stop since the age of 17. Can't believe I didn't do this sooner. I've been enjoying it so much and if it wasn't for my friends and family back home, I'd be staying here for good.

I still listen to the pod weekly and feel left out not being able to come to the events. Do what makes you happy and don't stress about settling down. I'm not now, not sure I ever want to, lo. Fear fuck, do you hen. Don't stress? If you go there and I'll come back. You love Australia, don't you?

I do love Australia, yeah. Remember that time when you told me on the podcast that you're moving there? that lasted. When you panicked me and decided to announce to everybody it was actually six months of travelling which by the way

just to let you know was to be before I was 30 I've still got a year and a half you've got a dog now you've got priorities sister I never thought of that I've tied myself down

finally went to counselling for anxiety and panic attacks caused by my previous job I'm so much better now and would never have got my current job which I love otherwise I do think Things are getting more normalised when it comes to, like, therapy and stuff, right?

But I do think if you feel that way, you need to speak to someone because it can actually affect your life long term. Like she just said she wouldn't have got that job if she wasn't better. Especially speaking to someone impartial to your life as well. Someone that doesn't know anything about you. That's what you'll pay for, you're paying for, isn't it? If someone that doesn't know anything about you so they can't have any emotional attachment. I feel nothing but respect for sure.

someone if they told me they were going to therapy. Someone close to us has got started going and they said it's been life-changing for that. I have no negative connotations with that whatsoever. No, not at all. But I think back in the day, like years ago when someone told you that they'll go into it, you'd probably, you would

you were made to think that there was something wrong with them almost, if that makes sense. Yeah, there's an issue. And yeah, there's still an issue you need to get fixed by going, but it doesn't need to be like a deep, unsolvable issue. It's just like you need to switch your mindset. Yeah, and also, Sometimes there doesn't need to be an issue.

Sometimes you just maybe want to talk about something and, I don't know, let go of things. I know. It's just, it's a good thing. I think fucking do it. If you think about it, give it a try. I would definitely, definitely consider therapy. Well, I consider doing it from a claustrophobia,

so you did. Travelling panic attack anxiety thing. And I spoke to one of my mum's friends who does like behavioral therapy. And that really helped me. But if I felt that, like, tense feeling that I got before, I would definitely speak to someone. Yeah.

Because it stops you from wanting to do things. Also, a lot of people's work offer it, so you'd as well speak to your work first and you can get it through your work. Someone close to me went through their work and they got four sessions through their work. Yeah. So it was game-changing.

Absolutely. Definitely worth speaking to someone at work if that's how you feel. I just want to read this out because this is funny. I got this sent to me on Just Just Food. but they wrote Oh my God, JJF, based on your recommendation I've just had my first English roast in Firehouse in Manchester Holy good grief

I feel like I've gone through some sort of spiritual awakening How shit a Scottish roast laughing my ass off Sis I told you And Jolly actually texts me when I was in London saying Please go for a roast and tell me if it's any good Or if Jess just missy's home Listen, it's not my fault She goes and have a roast at Soho house every time she goes to London

Honey, you go into the wrong places No, I know that is true You need to go to where I tell you to go and you've not done it. Listen up, bitch. Listen up, bitch. Started uni at 36, something I never thought I'd do, loving it. I fucking love that. I wonder what she's studying.

Watching my dad recover back to full health after a scary time health-wise and major operation. Oh, I love that. That's positive. Got a degree at age 508. Slay! Fucking sleigh, sis. I wonder what in? I wonder what in?

I know more. We want more. That's like my mum. She got a psychology degree at... well she's still doing it yeah so like sexily so next year she'll be fully qualified but it's been a four-year course yeah love that for her

wanted to send along a message if that's okay this year after being dismissed by a GP my husband fought to get second and third opinions for a mole we thought was suspicious turns out it was stage due cancerous melanoma he needed two operations to remove all of the cancer in his lymph nodes which was tough but we were so lucky to have everything removed

and for him to get it all clear. After a horrendous five-month period of stress, knowing my babies could grow up with, could maybe not grow up with their daddy, I get to live with him here. It's just an overwhelming feeling of happiness. A reminder to check your moles girls and fight if you think there is a bigger problem,

even if it means going private like we had to. I'm happy to see the back of 2024 and start a fresh next year. I love the pod and thank you girls for giving me a bit of a light-hearted listening when things were tough. Have a wonderful Christmas break. I think that's very important, isn't it?

Definitely fight if you think something's not right. It's just such a hard balance between like am I being dramatic? Yeah. Or has something wrong here? This is quite a hard one for me. I know you said to keep it uplifting so I'll keep it short and start with the bad promise it bends positive.

I lost one of my bestest best friends very tragically in an accident this year. Whilst I won't dwell on that, one positive thing that has come out of a total heartbreak and tragedy is bringing all the people around me that I love so dearly closer together and my friendship group whilst it was already strong

has grown even stronger and closer it's also brought back so many old friends together and rekindled old friendships it's made me realise in 2024 that this precious life is too short we need to say yes more and do all the little trips and dinner dates

and everything of the people we love because we never know when it'll be taken away from us tell everyone around you that you love them I never thought I'd believe in this year without one of my most treasured friends but I know she will be looking down on us trying our best lives as she did sending lots of love to both

and best wishes for 20-25. Oh, that's lovely. Tragic is so hard. I know. But she's losing somebody so suddenly as well and so young. And it's like when they leave, it's like bringing everybody together it's something that they've created in a way.

Yeah, like that shouldn't happen for that to happen, but it does kind of bring light in a dark time. And everyone's together because of how much she was loved. Yeah. And you can talk about all the amazing things that she did. I think it's quite magical actually when you, when you... It's like the silver light.

It's like the presence of yourself when you're no longer here. Yeah, like Bersweet. Yeah. Lovely. I appreciate people writing and things like that. Yeah, it definitely would make you appreciate life, isn't it?

And like the small things and just know that you've only got this one life especially because it's just so short. So short. You never know. Zoe, I'm going to ask you, what would your advice be? What was your highlight of this year?

and what would you advise you'd give to anybody for 2025? Oh, fuck, right. These are the sort of things we should prepare. Yeah. Well, one highlight obviously needs to be cookie. Yes. The dog I always wanted has been achieved. Yeah.

And she's here. Another achievement is probably... It's probably how much our podcast has grown. Yeah. We've got her own studio now. we've done more amazing events more people love us than before what else it's quite hard to think

I've not been writing a list this year but I did last year what else we've done I mean business is going well this is thriving so that's an achievement but yeah just typical things really everyone's healthy and happy yeah biggest piece of advice would be I think for me this year probably isn't to compare because I think I spoke about that at the start of the year

once I was really in the depth of have my own business and you think it's so hard to look around you and be like fuck I should be doing that but I'm actually out the other end of that now like even my Instagram page for Quinn Management

I'm not posted on it since June which is terrible right but equally it's because you can't do at all I don't need any more clients right now yeah and I do think for a business yeah like a business like mine the main purpose of a social media account

is to attract more business and right now I can't take that so I'm not looking at it's a negative And you've got any goals for 2025 Sort of my bladder problems I don't know Travel more typical things Get my finances in order

Get a pension Yeah I need a pension back my life Shit like that Just annoying shit Are things probably quite hard to think? Can I give you a piece of advice? Yeah.

I think 20, 25. I know exactly what we're going to say. Well, then you know it yourself. What am I going to say? Stop me so hard myself. Yeah. I knew you were going to say that. Yeah.

About my appearance, though. Yeah, I know. Because you're beautiful. It's my motivation. But you've got it there. Also, I say that. It doesn't actually motivate me either. How can someone want change so much and do fuck all about it?

It makes zero sense to me. I have to live it with you every day. I know, it's tough times out there. It really is. I don't mean that in a negative. I just think that you need to understand that you're beautiful and you don't see it a lot. You don't quite do that?

Yeah, and it's annoying. I'll take that on, thanks. You said that to me last time when I gave you a rant in M&S. I don't think I've been as bad recently Do you know what it is? Winter I thrive Because the jumpers are on Nobody sees anything

I feel comfortable Some are fucking hate Yeah a lot of people feel that way then Yeah But next year will be different Sexpacking all that But will that make you happy Imagine I did up for a buff

it might happen it will with fucking next to the chain we'll tell you that for nothing but I don't know I think just typical shit really I don't really want to say cliche things but that's just life

yeah what about you 24 you you achieved a lot in 2024 now I'm going to sound crazy because I'm not going to

tell my own advice but I didn't write down what I achieved this year so for me it's flew by and I'm struggling to I'm struggling to remember what I did but all I'm going to say is podcast for a start has definitely taken over

a good 60% of probably our week now which has grown massively from the very little that it was a couple years ago the first half of the year I was in my definite focusing on myself fitness journey which I always wanted to do and I was really proud of some of the stuff I achieved half a marathon,

travel to some really nice places that I've ticked off my list as well, which I keep forgetting about. Like San Sebastian feels like a lifetime ago without... No, I know. Definitely up there on the list. Nashville was up there on the list.

And although the experiences that I've done in the second half of the year are different to how I expected because of obvious reasons, I still had an amazing time and I really proved to myself that I can still do these things no matter what life throws at you.

Yeah. I'm also really proud of myself of how I've carried a child, which sounds quite extreme, but from someone that could never, ever imagine that happening to them. No, I know. And you do just deal with it. I think you've dealt with it really well. I've done a lot of panic attacks by now. Yeah, I just think I'm quite proud of myself in that sense,

especially when I don't have a lot of family support around me and things and everything that I feared up to now I'm living and it's not as bad as I thought and do you think that as like once you're in it it's different 100% yeah there's so many things that you fear the fears are different when you're actually doing it

yeah there's so many things that lingo that I say and things that I've heard in the past but sort of brushed over yeah that I can promise you once you're in it it makes sense and I'd be quite intrigued to listen back to the episode when I tell you all like how I was feeling in the first trimester because you do kind of forget about it. If I hadn't wrote that down, I would have forgot about that.

Yeah. And I know that this third trimester and this feelings that I'm feeling right now, if I haven't documented it on this podcast, which is great for us and people to listen back to, you forget about it. I forget about the birth that I'm so nervous for and I'm sure newborn stage will fly by

and I'll wish there was small again. Yeah. Like even though it feels like a bigger thing than anything you've dealt with before, the feelings still work the same way. But you still deal with it, move past, I don't forget about it. Yeah, like, this two shall pass.

Like, everything will... Regardless of how extreme it feels at the same. Obviously, I experienced loss. I know it's Owen, but like that was a really, really, like, dark time for me for like a while. Yeah, that's a shit time. Sounds weird saying a few weeks, but it really set me back in what should have been the happiest time of my life.

Yeah. But the upside of that is Winnie. Like, she's just amazing. Yeah Who encouraged you guys to get get all pants please I know because they're crazy Divas Yeah

But even just Even though my whole family home It sounds so strange I know because it's pets But when they're house cats And that feels like your safe sanctuary My whole home life feels very different To how I pictured it

Just a few months back Yeah Like I've got a lot of renovation things happening And I know I've got a few months left Of me and Richard as I know But for 2025, I'm really looking forward to seeing myself go into being a mum. I hope I'll be the best mum that I can be. And I know I will be.

Oh, absolutely, I'll say that. But my advice to anyone would be, whatever life throws at you, when you least expect it, you can deal with it. Yeah. And you will definitely come out of the other side. And I don't mean that as if it's something negative has happened. If it's just something that you least expected like becoming pregnant or losing someone, one that you love or something, things do get easier and things you can adjust and it will be amazing for you. Definitely. So yeah, 2024 for me was just, it was just not how I quote

unquote planned. In my head, it was the year that I would travel the world and I would go on that solo trip and almost like find myself before I could potentially plan for a family. But that wasn't what had on the cards for me and that's fine. I'm so glad it happened this way. No, I know. Because you know what? You were never going to wake up one day and say that. So travelling done, ticked off, I'm ready. That was just not going to happen. This was the year that I was doing that. This was always going to happen at some point unexpectedly for you. Yeah. And I'm so, so, so, so glad it happened that way. Like, I'm grateful. It is kind of what I'm basically trying to say in a long window way. I'm really grateful for the way things come at you in life.

and I really believe that what's for you will not go by you and what's meant to be will be and whatever you've gone through this year whether you've had heartbreak, loss, learn from it and grow from it and I do strongly believe that you will become a better person from the experiences that you're having right now

you will thrive in whatever. Yeah. Keeps die of ancestors. That's what we see. And also another good point as well is friendships. like make sure you keep people around you that make you feel good and positive

and as I was saying earlier like protect that energy of your bubble don't let anything creep in that could make you feel shit about yourself because if you have good people around you you just because you radiate some different energy all the time so wonder how you're still so positive and uplifting you're around me

99.9% of the time because we're yin and yang and you're not actually a negative person I'm not I'm not you're not trust me I wouldn't have you in my life if you were sometimes it's draining Is anyone writing that down Do anyone accorded that? You're not negative

Sometimes what you say is draining In the sense of like I'm drained listening to you Still talk about you Talk about you being shit When I strongly disagree But there's nothing I can say To make you feel different

So that's where it's a bit like Right Yeah so there's no point in this conversation Because I have nothing to give back yeah no I get that but it's not I like to just say it out loud

I don't even need a response but you're the type of person like if I've got like a if I'm feeling a because don't know what I'm a positive person but I also sit and say things to you and I'm like Zoe like this is this and you're always like right

let's just change the narrative here yeah so it works our friendship works should we touch again yeah I hope you had a lovely 2024.

Hope you have a good year. 2025 you're becoming an auntie. You become a dog mom. And now an auntie. Anyway, thank you so much again for your wonderful support. Without you guys, we wouldn't have this podcast. Absolutely not. We're thankful so much to the guys here at Up Next Studios as well without their support

and how amazing they've been with all of the editing and just this amazing wonderful studio and putting. up with our shit every single week, which they secretly love. We love you so much and all of the bans that we'd like to give you. We are really looking forward to next year. I know this season's not over yet, but we are, you know, things are going to be a little bit different and we really appreciate your patience with whatever we decide that's going to be and we know we know that you'll understand. But also thank you so much to our Patreon listeners as well. Patreon is where our side dish episodes are now on a Friday

which I know we speak about quite a lot on every episode but for you guys without your support as well we wouldn't physically be able to actually have this studio space and deliver the main episode no we wouldn't couldn't thank you also so much to our sponsors at Watermans as well that sponsored this season so far if you are looking to sponsors or you want to send us anything

then please do we'll deliberate between one another. Me and Zoe are low rangers now. We are managing ourselves at the moment. And thanks to Becky, who's watched us through season five. Yes, thank you Becky so much. And what else do we say? We just hope you all to have a wonderful Christmas and new year. Put your feet up, relax, eat all the food. We want to know what you've eaten, what's been a lot on your plate. And write down anything in your little notes you want to tell us next year. Like always, our DMs are always open. You can always, it's always anonymous. Messages. You can, you can If you're on Patreon, you can direct messages on there as well.

We want you to all have a podcast note on your phone the way we do. Yeah. Because we all write in that, like, oh, need to remember and say that, or that's a good idea or whatever. You should all make that too. And then if you see something, a new opening or something happens to you, you want to tell us about, or you're reading a new book that you want us to recommend to people, write it all down. I probably want us to buy them. You've probably thought and then we'll buy it.

and try it. Topic suggestions as well as a really important one. Like we obviously think about, yeah, guess. We know there's a chunk of guess that you really, really want and trust me, we're working on it.

But if there's topics that you want to discuss, like next year, we've already told you a few on the Patreon episode of what we want to do. We want to talk about Hindu dramas, worries about 10 and 30, anything. We're here for you as your online friends,

but also we will get our listeners involved. So we've got a whole community of people that we can like-minded, community. So as always I'll just mimic Jesse's thank you's as I like to do. But you've said it. I feel the same. Thanks to you all for your love and support through 2024. We love you. We appreciate it.

And next week we're going to share a Patreon episode. So if you're not on there you're getting a little extra from us. Yeah. For free. We have to decide which one to give you though because they're all really good. We just, we need a couple weeks off. The guys need a couple weeks off so we'll fill the gap with that and then we'll be back. Right, enjoy your celebrations tonight, everyone and we'll see you in the flip. Happy New Year. Happy New Year. Bye!