A Lot On Your Plate - S6 Ep24: The Sex Is Amazing... But He’s a Red Flag

Episode Date: October 7, 2025

This week we’re coming to you from London baby! 🇬🇧 Recorded from the Apple Podcast Studio, we’re giving you our London recs and the low down on our hotel toilet that washes your bum and vulva 🙃Zoe fills us in on her trip to the South of France, and we get into the world of kinks after Jess finds a girl making money from farting online 💨Plus, we’ve got dating dilemmas - would you date someone who’s slept with prostitutes, or overlook red flags because the sex is amazing? 👀And remember you can sign up to Patreon for an extra episode every week plus bonus vlog-style content, competitions, group chat, early access to tickets and looooads more! 💖 patreon.com/ALotOnYourPlate Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Tuesday Podpiggies. Happy Tuesday live and direct from London Apple Podcast Studios. I'm like wondering where my cameras. I know like... We're recording on iPhones today, guys. It's a bit different than usual, we haven't got the centralised camera. So...

I feel like it's very like 2025, like edgy hip. Egy way. All that edgy way. All that edgy way. We don't need the cat. We don't fucking need up next to do. Yeah, bye, Murray. Ted and on this, we can say it today, so we do need them.

So for the next two episodes, we will be recording here because we have our lovely guest in next week. Izzy is coming on the show who are really excited for. Izzy Utterson, if you don't follow her on socials, you should right now because she is our wellness queen that we're going to suck all of the information out of that pretty little brain of hers. Absolutely. Why not?

All in good time for the new year or the winter when we're all feeling a little bit dull and we want a bit of a glow up and that'll be good It's hard to get yourself out there in the winter months Couldn't agree more Especially in Glasgow

It's dark and grey And wet, rainy You know yesterday we landed in London And Zoe was asking me the night before Like what am I packing And I was like, I'm going to pack this coat And blah blah And I want to get there

I want to buy this, this, this All getting ready for winter We landed to 18 degrees And it was hot like it was a hot 18 You know and the sun's on you And it's fucking piping hot Yeah it was gorgeous But then, you know, when you're a bit like, okay, I'm over this now.

Yeah. I need that bit of, like, Great Western Road weather. I also think when you're taking your bags everywhere, like you're hot and bothered anyway, never mind with the sun. Yeah. Because London is hot and sticky. But anyway, we're here and we're having a great time. And on today's episode, we're going to talk about lots of different dilemmas that you guys have sent in.

Thank you so much for sending them in. As we always say, we are not experts. We try our very best and we're just giving you our humble opinion from two girls that are in your own. holds every single week exactly and people trust us now you're trustworthy I just think everyone's got difference of opinions when we put our clips out on socials and you see the poll it's really interesting to see how many people disagree not necessarily with us but there's always like three options yeah you think one I think one and there's a lot of people take the other

yeah so it's it's interesting like we say everyone's different the world would be boring if not although I think the one that I looked at recently because I voted on it myself was at the Harryport and Taylor Swift one. And what I will tell you is most people clicked, but they don't like both. And I thought that was very telling. I honestly, that doesn't surprise me though, Zoe. Does it not?

No. Not at all, actually. So I'm just leading the hate train. I don't think it's a hate train. You just don't like it, and that's Fairfox. No, I know. People don't like you not liking things, though. When they love it. Mm-hmm. I get that. I get that. Which is fair, like if someone said the theatre's a load of shite, I'd be like, you're a liar.

Well, Sunday roast gate, a friend of mine went to my favourite roast place. Didn't enjoy? She did. She did enjoy it, but they didn't have Yorkshire's on the menu. Something had happened in the kitchen. No, we can't be even though. I agree. Oh my God.

That is such a shame because when I so holler from the rooftops of something that I love, you just cannot control it. You cannot control consistency. And it's not that it was bad. I'm just saying, like, if I'm going for a roast house, So the Yorkie is the main event. Oh, I think so.

And the gravy. I would do Yorkshire pudding with most meals actually. I mean, I don't, but I would happily do that. You know, Toad in the Hole? Yeah. Is that a Scottish... Like, I know it's an English thing, but do you have that up here? Like, did you have that as you were a kid?

No, I don't know that I've ever had that. Explain that to me. It literally is just sausages inside a Yorkie. but baked and then it's sliced. Sometimes, and then I make it with caramelised onion. And what I did at Christmas, which I'm actually going to do probably again, was I use my leftover pigs in blankets in between Christmas to New Year and pop them into the Yorkshire batter, let it cook.

It's giving sausage roll. It is giving sausage roll, yeah, but the batter is different. It's not like flaky pastry. It's like doughy, isn't it? So that's a really good one to make, by the way, with some nice red onion gravy. Tawed in the hall. Yes. Mash, peas.

Mm. or broccoli or would you have beans or no vegetable no I would have I would have peas and broccoli with my mash I know

bit of sweet corn maybe maybe I just love sweet corn you really do don't you I do love sweet corn anyway let's tell them about our day yesterday what's been a lot on our plate

in London so far we went to Falo which is a really gorgeous restaurant pretty in the centre of like Soho area I would say. I went before and sat at the chef's table,

which was really interesting because there was a lot of testosterone going on. Yeah, it's an open kitchen. It's really cool. But brilliant food, seasonal. You can have a small place. They're really known for their burger. And we had a lovely time, didn't we? And we could have sank about 20.

That's the best cocktail I'm going to say I've ever had. I'm going to say it's up there too. rubarb and custard cocktail and it's one of those cocktails right where they've clearly put the thin thinnest rim glass into a freezer took it out rolled it in like rubarb sugar dust the thickest crispest ice cubes it was perfect it was tremendous

it didn't taste like a cocktail and a good way you could have just drank it and I love rhubarb and custard what a combination same same gorgeous so we had a lot of them those. Although we weren't. No, I wasn't. No, I think we only had two, three drinks in there. Did we? Yeah. Then we went and did some shopping. I wasn't successful for me.

No, I bought a T-shirt from Unicle, that was it, and it's not even nice. You don't even like it, do you? It's a weird fit. We went down Regent Street. And actually, we just walked to Apple Podcast Studios this morning, and it's up near Kings Cross, because I was just saying here that I actually used to work around this area, but it's so more developed than I remember. I have been to this area before in the past couple years but it's just getting better and better and it's called Coal Drops Yard

so if you are getting the train to London and you don't want to go to the hustle and bustle of Oxford Street and you just want to go to some really good shops I'm talking like Coz Space and K, Uniclo Offspring and other stories is there

Yeah and it looks like there's going to be tons more being built Well that's like one side That's like the left side when we were walking up the way But all along the right side was like Scaffable that like yellow fake wall thing. Yeah, scaffolding.

Yeah. So that's obviously all going to be something as well. And you've got Dishoum, Caravan, we went to Gail's Bakery just there, got some gorgeous toast and coffee and matcha. There's loads around here anyway, and it's easy for you just to hop on the train if you're going from Kings Cross,

because I think from Scotland you can go to Houston or Kings Cross, can you? Yeah, I think you can choose between them, actually, yeah. And where I'm from in Leicester, it's literally a 51-minute train from Kings Cross to Leicester City Station Centre. Lester City Centre Station I didn't even notice that

Did you know? I'm just used to I always do let you know Zay when I listen back to the episode The things that I say That I think is correct It's only when I listen back They'll see the time I don't realise I would probably say that again Because sometimes I'm like you said that totally opposite way

So me Fuck my life I think our listeners And I mean you can tell us if we're wrong In fact don't but I think they probably just hear it right now as well do you reckon because when I listen back I'm like what on earth am I talking about but it always makes enough sense

yeah but anyway yeah we're also staying in the Londoner which is what a hotel that is I agree right and I would have said that it was my favourite yeah I would have said it was my favourite hotel that I've stayed in so far I mean there's a lot of quote nicer hotels here like the Corinthia if you're rich as hell and a savoy there's loads of ones like that

that I could imagine are exquisite Glen Eagles type five star service but London was still wasn't cheap it's a great location it's still always perfect but we've been quite let down a bit from the reception service haven't we like it's really like three times last night no answer which I'm all for them

not answering the first time like you're maybe busy right but three times and then then asked for dental kits like We just used a toothbrush and toothpaste, brought to the room because I forgot mine. Three times we had to ask for that. They just didn't ever bring it. So we went to bed with fucking garlic breast. Too much information because they thought I've not brushed my teeth at night does actually.

We feel sick. But we had no choice because it was too late to go to a shopper in. Yeah. And then we had to ask for it twice again this morning. Like it just didn't ever appear. And then the food last night, which was expensive for what it was, we just had like a little bottle of pasta and a Caesar salad. 50 quid.

And it was also cold when it came. So I don't know. No, my pasta was the spicest thing that's ever touched my lips. It was too spicy. No, but I mean, temperature. Was yours cold? Yeah. I know a salad's meant to be cold, but the chips are Baltic and chicken.

Anyway, right over. But apart from that, the toilet is something I've never known in my life. You open the bathroom door, right, and the toilet seat comes up. Automatically. The pan is heated. And there's buttons next day if you want your arsoil washed. I literally sat in the, you know, the main toilet's downstairs in the bar in the reception area

and had my vagina and my bum I washed and dried and I thought this is excellent water time but also I was wondering though what I was wondering

though Zoe was if I press this button am I just recycling that toilet water and then it was too late it was happening no I'll be sick

but it was warm yeah so that's not the same then but where does it come from because the toilet water has still touched everything no but there must be like a system in there like a filter yeah because I cleaned it in the room this morning

did you well I thought I just wanted to try it so I clicked the front thinking it was clean my vagina vulva your vulva but it was still hitting the back passage I think you needed to move a bit back I know I was kind of trying to like wiggle

you're where you now jet watch wiggling get the right of bit you know also So just to caveat that, like my bum and vulva isn't dirty. Head rush. I just wanted to try it. And then I dried it, right, but I still wiped.

Yeah, I still wiped. Because I was like a little bit damp. Yeah, I felt. But then also I didn't realize there was a stop button. Yeah, yeah, it just keeps going. So I thought it would stop after like the wee splash of cleanliness, you know? So I think I just had it on for too long. There's nothing worse when you go to the toilet and there's splash back.

No. It's not, is there? We're all friends here. There's nothing worse. It really bothers me, that. But also, do you know what else bothers me? See, when you're in a public toilet and the flush is an automatic thing,

which I love because I don't want to touch things, right? Yeah. But sometimes it just goes off whilst you're on the toilet. Yes. That splashback, you don't need my fucking arso's soaking. But someday else you shank. No. No.

The thing for me is that heated toilet seat, because honestly a freezing cold toilet seat gives me a urine infection. So see if I had that, like see when I get a house one day, I'm getting a heated toilet seat. Yeah. That's worth it for me. I couldn't agree more. I sat on it. I was like, oh, fine.

But I think when you sit on a freezing one and you're really bursion if a peat does give you that, like. You sort of freeze up though, don't you? Maybe that's why you tense up as you pee? Yeah, like a chill feeling. Yeah. That gives me an infection. Honestly, anyway. Heated toilet seat and a poo stool, winning at life.

Oh God, absolutely. But I would say the hotel's nice in the way that, see, like, the kinty, I know what that I've ever been. But that's like fancy posh, whereas I would say the Londoners, like, a really good standard of hotel, but still quite like dark and moody and, like, yeah, like ever sort of vibe, if you know what I mean, rather than being like, oh, because even at Glen Eagles, you know, sometimes you feel like, I'm a bit out of place here.

Yeah, but that's, Glen Eagle's rich is a different kind of rich. But the current in London must be even higher than that. That's what I mean. I think they're people that are like, own oil. You've got Glen Eagles which are like... Old money. Old money. They all have horses, gorgeous, gorgeous, gorgeous. And then you've got the Londoner, which is, I don't know,

it's right smack bang in the middle of Leicester Square. So the location isn't like gorgeous, but it's such a fantastic location, which I love. I think a lot of businesses would put their staff up there. And I think it's also for maybe like younger people, I'm talking to average, who like want a really nice stay. Exactly, because we've missed out that there's a spa included in your stay and the spa is amazing.

You can just like the nice swim, the sauna, the steam, gorgeous lounging beds around. That's what I love, like the pool I could actually leave, but I love just lying next to it in an indoor spa and it feels quite hot. It's just nice and chill. But you can hear the water. Yeah. Wow. Your music. A bit of smoothie to you.

Or maybe a cheeky wine. Cheeky wine? Maybe. Spah wow. What else we're going to do then? So we're going to meet our friend Molly tonight. No, sorry, we've not said the most important part. Oh, shit, of course.

Jess got my tickets to go and see six. Where's six? That was brilliant. It was so funny. Because I didn't know what six was, and I don't know if anybody would have understood the Catherine of Aragon reference straight after that conversation.

Right, okay, yeah, the connection. Yes, so six is a musical about Henry the Eighth, six wives. Yeah. I'll let you continue. 30 kid And they basically just It's quite short

Like it was what 80 minutes with no interval 80 minutes no interval Which I did like But I think after it Because we're not used to us It felt short Agree

But they basically Each wife Has like a song To kind of tell their story But they're It's like a They are in concert to us It's like a band of six

And they're all dressed up in crazy outfits So they're saying They're like performing live The way they are technically But it's like a they're doing a competition with each other on who had it the worst. Yes, correct.

So then they've all got their own songs and they've got their group songs, but it's all very, like, witty and... Oh, it's so funny. It was just so funny. I would say... I didn't realize it was going to be funny, though, by the way. I didn't. Like, see, even though I knew the songs,

I had no idea that there was no acting or anything. Nothing. And they also didn't move from that same spot. I know they are acting, but you know what I mean? I didn't realize it wasn't actually showing you the story, and it was just actually those six girls. girls that were in it. And the set didn't change.

No, no caution changes, no sets. It was literally the six of them and then four band members were playing live behind them, like a concert would be. Yeah. It was set up with that, but it was so good. I really enjoyed it. Oh, it was so funny. The wife that he married...

Anna. Anna. Was it Anna? Not Amblin. Anne? Anne. She was the German wife that he... Oh right, sorry, I thought you went the girl the green on.

She was great, that was Ambelin. She was like the most iconic wife, wasn't she? Right, okay. I think she was the first one to be be beheaded. Yeah, that's right. Yeah. But, and then my great, great, great, great, great, great, great, great, great, great, great, great, great, grandma's dog's wife's wife, was Catherine of Aragon, who was the most insignificant, as they were saying, wife, but she was also beheaded. Yeah.

But she was the one with a really long ponytail, too. Yeah. She was, I think. She was the one that was a bit slutty in that, wasn't she? Bit slutty, yeah. The guys just wanted her for a shag. and then we're interested in us. Yeah, it's all really

to stand to be together at this point. It's all making sense to me now. Honestly, see when people ask you a dream job, like, it really would... Where's just going? No, we're back to the good show. If somebody wants to do my dream job, I want to be a prostitute.

Just get your show at the end of the street, you have no bother. No, but I would actually, honestly, it would be to be such good singer that that would be your job, like, to be part of a show and sing like that. I just think that's amazing. Amber Davies is going to be the Elle Woods, Ineagely Blonde.

I've seen that show before, because my mum's actually done it years ago. My mum did. Was your mum Mell? No. I don't know who she was in it, actually. Anyway, she'd probably fucking shouting at the screen, sorry, Mom. But I saw Amber Davies in The Great Gatsby. show and she was unbelievable

so I think she'll be a great audience yeah do you what really fucking annoys me by the way people always comment on her TikToks like give someone else a chance she's always been in it but she literally came out of Love Island and didn't do a show for years yeah well just because you went and love it and you kind of get

apart I know if anything I feel like the theatre bosses and that would be like no so you'd probably had to really push her way in do you know what I mean yeah I think so too I think she's doing really well for herself

she looks fantastic I'll definitely will see that and it's a tour right so it's coming to Scotland yeah probably will so we wouldn't actually necessarily need to be here oh I'd like to go and watch that

I'd also like to see 13 going on 30 but is that one it just should have been kept as a movie yeah it's quite random the girl that does magic at the musicals radio stations in that that will where's Prada is that a musical

yeah it's quite shit yeah I think I remember you saying that but the film looks good what about Miranda Priestley was so as character yeah because what's her real name again Merrill Street she was with Anna Winter at the fashion week and she said to Anna this is my first fashion show

but she was saying it in the voice and so I was like okay maybe Anna is actually in the film or she went there in character I'm not sure right okay but I just thought this is so cool I really hope they don't butcher that film because it's such an iconic film I put that on quite often as like a background film

you know what I mean wholesome comfort movie also sometimes I need a bit of motivation getting the devil wears pride on but what I will say is what I will say is at the end of Devil We's Prada I have always had this feeling like

I need more I need there's something missing like I need to know what happens next yeah because she's quite clearly going to be a boss bitch yeah and Hathaway I'm talking about here but you don't see that part so I do think it will be nice to see

the flip of that. And then she just waves by as she just sees it one time, doesn't she? But sometimes that is why the ending to a film's so good because it's like, well, you don't actually need to know what happens next. You just use your imagination. What needed to happen happened?

Yeah. Like she fucked it off because she was an arshould. That's all that really needed to happen, do you know what I mean? But then she wasn't really an arsho. Talking of our souls, I would love to know if Anna Wintor is one. Because she scares me. Because I know Miranda Precii is based off Anna Wintor. Like, it's meant to be that person.

But Anna, she does, she has that sort of image, very iconic, the sunglasses, but I would love to know if people really act like they do to Anna in real life like they do in Devil Wears Prada to Meryl Streep. Yeah, Merrill Streep's one of my favourite actors, you know that? I should say actress. Yeah, she's amazing. Harding Tom Hanks up there. I was watching Emma a little clip of Nicole Kidman and a new thing she's brought out of Netflix.

And I actually thought to myself what brilliant actress she is. She's really good as well. So many people are. Leonardo DiCaprio is amazing. I just sort of think... I mean, I know they get enough credit from like the paycheck, right? And like the life that leads.

But acting's fucking difficult. I don't think people understand how hard acting is to make it seem so real. Because all you need to do is watch a drama soap such as EastEnders versus an Oscar-winning movie and look at the difference of how everybody... Let's say there's a scene around all the people around a table.

Every single one of them have to be... doing the exact thing in the right moment right facial expressions but for me it's also how do you like for six months they're filming a film how do you live life in between that and not as that character well that's what happened to was it heath ledger or did he become like he became so they said someone else said it as well what's his name i did Elvis played Elvis gorgeous guy blonde and I know you're all shouting

through the headphones right now he started talking in the accent he couldn't get out of the accent but what they do say is if they want to be fully in the zone

they have to live something Butler Austin Butler is that him maybe yeah I think so and they have to sort of be in the zone else if they come out of it

they have to sort of be that person to play it fully who else does that a lot is Tom Hardy it's a type of acting it's called something is it method acting

I mean that would make sense it's I also think Tom Cruise does it as well they've been quite open about it but they for you to become a character but it can be really dark and hard on their mental health especially when Heath Ledger played the Joker in Batman well yeah if you're quite a difficult character

yeah and you sort of take on their miseries and issues I think that's an amazing film The Dark Night I watched it recently didn't he die at the very end of that he didn't see it oh you're joking That's terrible. How tragic's that? He didn't see the full film together.

So how did they end that then? Did they have to have people doing... Well, no, because all the film is done, but it's then that... It takes the months for it to all actually come into, like, the production of it. So he didn't see it being finished. But you know, that's the same as Elton John wrote the music for a Divalvish Prada musical.

So we did. Quite impressed. Anyway, I didn't come away from that being like singing anything. like nothing caught my oh interesting okay anyway but he is a really bad vision now so he actually struggles to watch musical like he can't really see the musical as a full thing either because his vision's really bad right I think that's so sad it is sad he's quite old now he is and he still looks fabulous darling fabulous darling when I went to see him a couple years ago in the hydro I remember my dad's saying like I think you're going to be disappointed

because you listen to his music like I actually really like Helton John and he was like and you've never heard him yeah you're listening to him young yeah and when you see him you might be about like oh and he was the exact same

was he? Yeah I was like Jerry you were wrong you hate her I thought that about Stevie Nix actually when I went to watch her and I thought she sounded brilliant but this was a good few years ago now I went to see her last year though

and she was still amazing was she? Yeah she just spoke a lot you know like oldies want to chat so she wanted to chat a lot through the concert but I liked it because I liked hearing her story whereas I think I probably said this in the podcast at time but Adam I went to my brother

and he turned around to the woman behind us and was like going to shut the fuck up because they kept talking they were like we're not here to hear her talk I'm like but you must be a massive fan to pay to come see someone like that when they are old you know what I mean

anyway anyhow I've also been a niece I'm back from niece by the way about that. Nice, London, Lisbon. So we're halfway, we're halfway through the trips, the mad two weeks at the moment.

I can't wait to hear what about it. I've not got much to tell you. The only thing I will tell you is we were sitting in Annex. By the way, see if you're ever thinking of going to Nies slash Can slash On Teab. Well, Cannes specifically actually. Make sure the latest you go in the year

is September weekend. so like 24th or whatever of September because we caught all of the beach clubs and everything on their last two days so if you went after that there would be none of the beach clubs across the front or like the shows at dinner and things at that are all finished so don't do that we were really lucky because that was not intentional

so if we went one week later we got up anyway we were sitting in Annex having our dinner and there was these two guys next to us and it is very like people pay for your meals over there for women it's I mean we'll take it but it's weird and they sent a bottle of shardney over right and obviously like fucking could have been champagne

but anyway we didn't break breath to them at all my two pals just turned around and said thanks for the wine still no conversation they eventually left like an hour later we'd finish her meal we were just sitting drinking and then we asked for the bill they'd paid for it what the hell they'd paid for like our first

drowned her drinks and our full meal. Finescing at its finest. All we had to pay for was like a drink each. So that honestly must have saved because these places are expensive. Like when you have a meal and drinks. Probably like 300 euros. What?

And honestly, didn't even speak to them not a split second of conversation. Like, what is that about? It's got to be a king. Yes, I think it's an ego thing. Like it's very, I think rich guys at that just want to be like, yeah, I was paying for women's dinner.

isn't that? Yeah, it's got to be some sort of money finessing kink. Talking of kinks, I sent Zoe a video on Instagram and you're seeing you reply to me to be fair saying, no way. I don't know what you're talking about it. The fart girl. Right, I've came across,

unsure how my algorithm has found this, but I'm here for it, okay? There is a whole group of girlies. I think like only fans, there's so many kinks, and we all know that. but there's this one girl that farts she's quite attractive but she farts in things like bags

or anyway she she just meant it's like an urn in a bedroom I don't ever know and she picks up the lynch goes hi granddad squats

puts a lid on and goes bye right I was on it's just so weird thinking that the comments would be like you're disgusting or that's cruel it was just all guys like

baby that is so hard do it again I'm like what is with people people have a kink now of a girl farting and anyway I had to keep checking because the fart sounded too wet and too like theatrical to be real and she's now found three other girlies that do the same sort of kink on only fans

I'm going to have to try and find her Instagram and share it because she was simply iconic right and then all of them are in jacuzzi's together and they're all just doing fighting competitions like Hugo I go and you can see the bubbles they're all real but this one particular girlie is a gassy girly she can do some beasts maybe that's something I could win at in like

let's actually start her calling just start doing it well when we were looking at what to order last night there was fucking French onion soup bearing of mind it was like what half nine and we'd had like lunch but it wasn't really loads of food when you think about it and then obviously it was ages later and Jess said I might get the French honey suit and I thought

no because you would be up farting all night would you would and it be sinking I was a bit gassy last night I was that actually yeah no you did have you farted as long I just don't understand you have no fear of farting around anyone but Richard and to me I'm just yeah you're so opposite aren't you yeah but then

very split opinions on it I guess also last night I was saying to know last night was my first well this trip is my first trip away from Jensen and honestly Han on Hartguer is I've been

totally fine this morning I woke up to be fair I did miss him a bit but you're used to waking up to him right next I miss him a lot of course but because I'm keeping myself busy I kind of feel I was always travelling here there and everywhere so I almost feel like

back to my old self weirdly Anyway Me and Zoe obviously were in a bed together last night. Twice, I woke up, right? Zoe rustled in the bed. I woke myself up by panicking.

I'm literally picking her up from the side of the bed, trying to lift her up because I'm imaging that it's Jensen rolling off the bed, right? And I'm like, and you turn around, you're like, okay. I just instantly knew what was going on. Did you? Yeah. And then I think maybe an hour later,

I did something again. I think I was, you said I was tapping you. I think you just kind of gave me like a tap. Then I thought, you wouldn't do, I don't know why you'd do that to Jensen. I wouldn't, but usually I'd do it to Richard. And he goes to me, like, I do it most nights, and I go, Richard, Richard, where's Jensen? And I'll knock him and he'll go, babe, he's in his car, relax.

Then he has to keep showing me the monitor. But for some reason, I just constantly envision that he's, like, next to us or on me or whatever. So it's really quite something. But anyway, that was quite funny. Also, thank God I'm quite a, like, I stay still when I'm sleeping. Yeah. So, like, that must have been the only twice that I've jerked about it or did you fucking slap me on. night. I know. My aura ring said that I had a really good sleep. It said I had seven

seven and a half hours which to some people doesn't sound a lot but it is when you don't see an awful lot but it's the actual broken sleep. Was that broken or not? There was one and it was when I woke up obviously that did that. That is quite good because I mean I got up twice for a pee. Like I would never have. I didn't hear you at all. I would never have an unbroken sleep. No. And also we were saying last night because I had to pump my babies a little bit to try and keep my supply up and there's quite a lot of milk that's coming out of me which my supply is dipped massively right and i was putting it down the sink and we were just like what how devastating is this but you know if you like sell your

farts i was saying so last night like surely there's some sort of app that i can just sell this breast milk to instead of binning it big protein guys or some kink on only fans i could get got a lot for that golden delicious stuff and i think you could have been rich farts in a bag and some breast milk in a bag there's a lot of things that could come from this conversation anyway let's get into some dilemmas let's get into it the last thing that I'll say before we go into dilemmas is back to the niece can trip I would really recommend for a girl's trip for one and Medusa the kind of like dinner club place we were going to book it and then I was typical me was like as it a bit done like people have been going there for years as it a bit

gimmicky whatever we ended up going there after Annex because there wasn't a show Annex it finished and it was amazing so like if you are going you're not sure what kind of place to go for dinner slash show definitely Medusa and what about the other place

Lagaretta Lagarete Lagarets that way it is we got the boat over well you need to get the boat over if anyone's ever doing that because nobody tells you this right that we had saw on TikTok luckily please hold on

like make sure you're holding on because there's no life jackets like none of that shit which thank God right because you're kind of dressed nice and that right so you don't want on but it's chaos there was people coming off and like really complaining to the staff

seriously saying what saying that like they were soaked because we got like a bit splash but like nothing made nothing to care about whereas some were coming off and like their whole back was like soaking wet like drenched and a woman was complaining she'd like a wee fendy bag and like

Dior heels on and all that's obviously like quite bougie She was like flapping her passport about like saying how well it was But I do think it's for me it was more like they should be saying like make sure you're holding on yeah because me and Abby were facing we were sitting at the front of the boat facing backwards the direction so we were facing Lindsay Louise and our bums like weren't touching the seat like see like every time it overshund we were like coming off Like me and Louise kept headbutton. I can just image it right now.

It was absolutely hilarious. Like that was like the peak of my trip. It was hilarious. Yeah. But definitely go to Lagary because it was so much fun. Like everyone gets up dancing on the table. And you said you need to go to the latest sitting though. Yeah, go to like I think it's three or half three.

Yeah. Because it's just so fun. Like the music's amazing. The staff all get involved. Everyone's on the tables. And it's such a good age. range. Yeah.

Like, I would say we were probably, like, closest to the youngest. Okay. Like, there was a lot of, like, older women, older men. I like that, though. Very good for people watching also. I bet. Big yachts and that kind of about. Yeah.

Anyway, definitely recommend for a girl's trip. And Antibs? And Tebes? Love it. And they're all so easy to get to. Yeah. Like, don't waste your time. It's shite. the beach clubs and like clubby dinners and everything are there yeah so there's more to do for a girl's trip and because the airport's in nice that on the last day we went antib which was halfway to nice spent like four hours there what did you do with the cases there's loads of those city lockers you just oh that's real it was like a pound for an hour oh that's bad so it costs it 25 quid for like four hours all of our bags to be in there oh that's brilliant then walked around sat and got lunch at shays jewels was well nice yeah and then got a taxi from antib's into nice

and then spent like another four or five hours in there just walking around sitting getting a drinking whatever and then it was quite a good mix and an apartment was huge I'll try and find the link for the apartment Was that on Airbnb? It was on booking.com but it was

an Airbnb essentially yeah it was right at the top of like four sheds of stairs so that was quite... Wow yeah my legs are sure like from up dancing and all the stairwalk but it was such a big apartment loads of space really nice and it was on the streets of like all the shops and everything so well good location

Oh, that's brilliant. Everything just felt dead close. And I feel like you struggle with that a lot. Yeah, you feel like, especially when you've just been Ibiza because it's fucking miles away. Yeah, I really loved Antibes. It was gorgeous. Yeah, I'd love to go back and stay there and go with my family, I think.

Yeah, there's loads of other little nice. Because Antibes is massive. The part that you went to where it's like all the locals. It was just the old time nearly we were in. Yeah, but then you've got the Hotel Eden down there. You've got the Millionaires Bay at the bottom. It's all classes Antibs, but you do need a scooter or a car probably. but anyway

that was my girls trip girls trip girls trip right dilemmas let's go let's go I'm not heard them so this is going to be interesting

I'm in desperate need of some advice I'm 26 and three months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of six and a half years he cheated on me around two years ago and never changed after gaslight men to staying learned that the hard way

we also had a dog and a house etc prior to that relationship I had the boyfriend for when I was 14 to 19 so basically I've never been single I'm definitely ready to start to move on for my ex and recently downloaded hinge when I was drunk with the girls and started chatting to one guy I found myself getting attached way too fast because I'm so used to be in a relationship and absolutely freaked out of the idea of a date I'm quite an introvert and always have been so nervous about meeting you people like that I really don't know what to do or what I want but I'm bored and want to

enjoy being single for the first time ever thanks in advance I'm just going to say you've answered your own question that I think that as well you know what you need to do you just need to find the confidence to do it yeah just find the confidence to go on dates and you're just going to need to tell your shit but then this is where it's difficult right because I know she's saying

she does fall fast and gets way too attached there's nothing bad with that nothing wrong with that sorry I feel like there's such a balance that we were talking to a friend about this as well such a balance of like wanting to have fun dating but not wanting to get into anything serious but I really don't think you should ever stop yourself from going with someone you

like just because you're so like oh I don't want anything yeah like you don't want to miss any opportunity like a chance to be with someone that you really get along with or have a good time with it because when you become single I can't really relate to this because I've been with someone for so long now I know me too and I haven't most of my 20s I was with somebody but I think knowing me now she was 26 right yeah I think if you meet someone when you out of a relationship and everything all the box are ticking and you're like this i want there's so much of this guy that i like yeah compared to the ex but now it's not the right time it is a real shame isn't it because you don't want to miss that opportunity and it's not necessarily their fault that

you're in that situation and i also feel like these opportunities like from what we hear and what the kind of general consensus is don't really come around very often i know so it's kind i guess if i think if that was me i don't think i would give it up but i think i would just take it really slowly so that I could really like I wouldn't shut them off but I wouldn't be totally opposed to like I wouldn't be like sleeping around at anything

but maybe just going on a couple of dates early on just to kind of sense the vibe but then would you feel bad about that if you did like them though well I would maybe just communicate with them maybe know what you want to do if you like them enough you'll know you don't want to say

anyone else yeah I would definitely communicate with him and just say maybe not on the first day because you don't want it to seem too deep but maybe a couple ones in it you can maybe sense if he likes you or whatnot you can maybe just say look I do

really like where this is going but I hope that you can understand that I'm just out of a long term relationship and I would really appreciate that we can take this slow I don't want to commit to anything I don't want any you don't come with any baggage but you just don't really want to have to answer

to anybody just yet you're still trying to figure out what life is like single and who you are now after so long and if he's a good person he will 100% understand depending on what his situation is as well and what he wants

because maybe they'll be happy to take it slow as well also I feel like you just need to really differentiate do you just want the company like are you just so used to company and like chat with a boy chat with a man

that you just want someone and it could be anyone I think you almost need to kind of work on that with yourself to know that would I actually want a life of this person I'm just enjoying that I've got someone there I agree I think that really helps yeah because I do think especially when you're younger

I don't think I would feel like this now because I can't be asking on my phone but when you're younger one of the hardest parts especially if you don't live with them is a small talk I'm texting is losing the constant someone to text yeah okay yeah like right now we roll their eyes at that

yeah see when you're younger you wanted to text someone yeah that's so true actually and that's kind of what you miss because you're so used to being on your phone chatting like every minute of every day but now if I was single I couldn't be asked with that small tall chat oh my god but it's definitely

like become an older thing that you feel that way and almost like see when you're younger like you felt you didn't you text them back like that's what you broke up with people for like can't be I talk to you all the time it's too much yeah I'm so definitely do you know what I totally

great with you lull but no I think you have answered your own question I think you know you need to take it slow and you want to go and do it date just to have a bit of fun like yeah you're an introvert I'm probably quite introverse reading the dating department but you just need to go for it see once you went on one or two dates you'll probably find it fun

I find the confidence of some girl that go on dates every single week are simply amazing me too I don't know if I could do that but I don't know who I am as a 34-year-old, almost 35-year-old, single woman. No, I know. I don't know what I would do, especially now with a child. Like, what, I don't even know what I would do. I know.

Can I remember my child? I'm actually, um, a friend of mine is actually speaking to somebody and they've been speaking for a long time. She's aware that this person has a child and she has done, she's known this for a long time. But they've never mentioned it. Wow, really? And it's now starting to bother her.

well yeah it would bother me but they've never they haven't actually they don't live anywhere near each other but I think I also understand the other side of it because if you haven't been dating because you haven't essentially met yet if as a mom would I want to tell them about somebody so huge in my life when I haven't actually met them I don't really want to let them know an insight into them because you feel protective I guess it could have actually be for a nice reason like that versus hiding their child. Yeah, very true actually. See also

as well. See, obviously they're single, they've got a kid. There's no reason for that kid to be involved in that relationship for a good few years if they don't want them to be. Yeah, I'd really like to hear from some of our listeners because I could imagine there's quite a lot of people that listen to this that may be our single

parents. How have you told the next person you're dating or I don't know, maybe you told them than they flaked. Yeah. How did you come across that, whether you told a guy, girl, whatever? Or did you hide it from them for a long period of time?

Or did you tell them from the get-go because you don't want to waste your time? Yeah. How soon did you then start dating and introduce your child in the relationship? Yeah, let us know on that because I know a lot of people do struggle with that and especially if they are with someone now,

they think, well, I don't know what I'd do now if I was single, no one will want me. I just think it's real. A lot of the time, people with kids don't want to introduce a new partner to their kids until they're way down the line. You know it's serious. They know it's worth it because they want to obviously protect their kids, right? Which I think that, by the sounds of it, is a great route to go down.

But what happens if the guy or the girl has kids both sides? So you've both got children similar ages. Would you introduce them sooner? Or do you still keep it long? Maybe sooner because we're kind of in the same boat. I think you would do it sooner because you both have the same feelings so you would only want to do it if you both felt the same way

so it's a bit more like okay we clearly feel the same but I think you should tell someone you've got a kid but I don't think it should be a massive part of the conversation in ways because if they're not going to be part of the relationship for a while why does it really matter no way and I don't mean the kid doesn't matter I just mean it shouldn't be an off-put because they're actually not going to be involved for a while anyway yeah

like it's still just about me and you like I would only see them when my ex-partners got my kids yeah because that's when you're going to have to organise you dating aren't you? Yeah exactly so even though it's a massive thing the kids not necessarily involved for a while so all you need to know is are they against kids or not that's really all we need to suss out at the beginning of a few

but I think you should say I don't think you'd not mention it I agree I think that's a bit odd because I was speaking to a guy friend of mine actually and they were going to go on a date and he did say but she's got a child and I would prefer that

I'd prefer not to have that in that situation and I was like why why does that bother you and he was like because in his head his ideal situation would be to meet somebody and start a family together together yeah

but then you also have people that are like it doesn't bother them or they also have children or they don't want them and this is perfect to be a step-mom step-five I know. It's a difficult one. And then you've also got to consider you as well the exes. I know. What's their situation? Was it a bad breakup?

Well, they hate the fact that you're introducing them because it's still their child. And also are they going to be, like are they going to give you grief for being like the new girlfriend or boyfriend? It's a messy one. That's a funny one. Right, another dating one. Been seeing a guy for two months.

The sex has been incredible and we just click in that department. We also laugh like so much it's mad and can be truly together. However, my gut is telling me to be wary. He has a bit of a revolving eye when we went out and who he follows on Instagram is quite questionable. Loads of thirst trap girls. Good for them, they look insane, but it does question as this 34-year-old man trapped in a 22-year-old brain. He has also been honest and said he's slept with prostitutes in the past. Lovely. Why does this give me such an ick in my stomach? I just can't face heartbreak again

down the line, but I've never felt more alive and sexy when we get jiggy. How do I play this out, ladies, should I go with my gut? Wow, I love that. Oh, okay, so are they still seeing each other? Yeah. Okay, I'll go first. Go for it. I think a lot of men out there who are single,

and he's been really open with you, I like that. He's been open with you what's happened. I don't like what he's done. That would probably turn me off a little. Yeah. But the fact that he's told you, I quite like that, I think. think when you become official I would expect and hope I'd maybe hope that he would unfollow all these quote thirst trap girlies yeah um the wandering eye is definitely

why your gut is screaming red flag I think especially in the early stages you know what what's he looking about for but I'll be honest you know if I'm out and about and I spot someone hot man or woman I always have a little cheeky look I think like everyone people watches like everyone is like I would say to Jason fucking all well hot girl just walked in here Zach same like I do but then weird would I say that if it was a guy in a dating stage no I wouldn't no very true because you feel comfortable with them I'm saying that because like yeah I want you to tell me you find her hot because not threatened yes I don't think actually perve on men and women together yeah exactly I don't think you're going to go and get more like because

you're with me so I do think in that sort of stage I don't think the wandering eye because there's a difference between appreciating someone and having a wandering eye that's true actually is when it's doing something it shouldn't be doing and are they wandering I'm back yeah I don't know I feel like I don't know you know I do feel like everyone has a past and they absolutely can change I'm all for that I'm all for second chances and I'm all for people changing I strongly believe that actually but I think your gut is saying something and I would also say to you trust you got I do think trust you got in this one also I feel like

the really like fiery sex and everything yeah it can be there in normal good relationships as well but it's all given quite toxic toxic sex is number one priority being sex is number one priority for him yeah I think when you have that sort of fiery

any sort of fiery passion in a relationship that gut might also be a bit of lust is over spilling inside you that you just feel like is maybe all too good to be true. I do think have a conversation though. Yeah. Like I think have an honest conversation of saying

I love like how like good sex, how much good sex we have. I love that we can have such a laugh together. But is there more than that here? Or is that kind of all there is? And maybe like I don't know how far down the line you are and also. Is it they have a good laugh together?

Yeah, like what kind of conversations you have. But I think if I was wondering, the impression I'm getting is you're both aiming for this to go further because you're wondering if you should go further so I would just have a conversation about that and say like this is what I want in a relationship yeah I want like good sex and to have a laugh

and to socialise together or whatever but can you also give me X, Y and Z because right now I feel like maybe that's all you care about but the reality is in most cases this fiery passion as soon as you become official a few years down the line it won't be like that and we'll look for it elsewhere yeah it won't it won't be like that let's be honest we all have that at the beginning that is definitely but then it all just change because life happens

and it's not as exciting as it was in the beginning it's just different you've become more in love with somebody yeah you've become a life partner your relationship just evolves evolves yeah so you need to take that into consideration as well is this going to be going on for forever or who knows have that conversation definitely communication is key agree okay guys I hope you enjoyed that episode we are now going to roll these over because we've got a few more into Patreoni

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