A Lot On Your Plate - S6 Ep27: Sexting, Sleeping With The Boss & Jess’ Big News

Episode Date: October 28, 2025

This week we’re giving you the run down of our recent makeup & beauty faves plus some lovely PR gifts. Jess also shares some big news...Then it’s time for some juuuuicy dilemmas & stories!! From sexting while doing the school run, to sleeping with your manager and all the drama that comes with work flings… especially with Christmas nights out on the way 👀We’re also talking about keeping photos of your ex - do you keep them for memories or delete and move on?And remember you can sign up to Patreon for an extra episode every week plus bonus vlog-style content, competitions, group chat, early access to tickets and looooads more! 💖 patreon.com/ALotOnYourPlate Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Tuesday? No, you start. No, you start. No, you start. That's how we start the episode most Tuesdays. So happy fucking Tuesday. Happy fucking Tuesday. You just come around so quick.

Do you know what I mean? Not long left until we leave you for the break. How many weeks is it till Christmas by this? By the time this episode comes out, which I would imagine will be in the 28th of, bloody hell. Two months, less than. Buzzing. So from this episode today, you've got us for another four Tuesdays, I think. Month.

It's just say you've got us for another month. Another month. That's a long time. Then we're vlogging. We are weekly vlogging all over Christmas. all over a new year and then we're back to business in the studio. That's correct, isn't it?

Sounds perfect to me. Yeah, we need a bit of a break. Although we don't mind doing the vlog. I think that'd be quite nice because, you know, it's just 20 minutes each of our day and we'll piece it together. Because we've got to have a lot to update you on. It's going to be good.

And we'll end up a big high with the markets. We hope you've all got your tickets, by the way. Can't wait to see you there. Christmas time. Missile towel and wine. We've just been planning some exciting things for it. Fun. It's not just going to be a market.

It's going to be good vibes, you know. And people said to us last year, this is the first, it tends to be the first actively Christmas thing that you will do to get you right in the mood for it. Get you in the spirit. Yeah. Christmas spirit. Everyone's cozy. You can either have like a little hot chocolate or a mauled wine

or some nice loaded Christmas fries and you can go around shopping all the stalls you've got music, you've got vibes, you've got gifts, it's warm and toasty in there but it's also a bit frosty outside. I hope it is GWR weather. That would be lovely.

That would be lovely. Anyway, on today's episode, we have a couple of product recommendations to tell you some things that we've been kind of gifted. Look at, is it? I know, it's very cute. Because on last week's Patreon, and we did a whole, pretty much whole app

of new product, things that we love. Product of the week. But I actually have something that I want to shout about so much, right? Have you watched the new Victoria Beckham documentary on Netflix? Not yet, but I will. Love that. It's very good. I think she's very misunderstood.

I like her a lot. Nothing made me laugh more than when she was in the David Beckham one and they said about an upbringing and she said she got driving to school and a fucking... Tell the truth. Tell the truth. Which just seems funny from that. I thought that was funny.

Yeah, I like her a lot. Anyway, got me thinking, because you may have heard on the vlog that we went to go and try the Augustus Gloop, Augustus Bader, slash Victoria Beckham Foundation, which is £104 or something like that apart, which I simply couldn't bring myself to buy, and I never would. Never say never. But it wasn't as good for that, to be honest.

I need life-changing shit for that. Like really good, but not worth £100. pounds. But what I think it is, it's got skincare properties that's maybe within it, is probably due to the price, I'm guessing. Well, Augustus Gloops. It's expensive. And it's a skincare if you think about that, though. So they were

never going to partner my brand and have a cheap product because they are not cheap. Do you know what I mean? I think she's done really well for herself. That's what the whole point of the season's about is the fact that she's come from a pop group. Yes, it was the biggest pop group in the world but she was always labelled, you're a pop star, you're a wag, you don't

fit into this fashion space. Of course, she's coming along thinking she's a fashion designer. That's kind of the anger that it's about. And it's all her prepping for Fashion Week. Yeah, I don't feel she actually gets a lot of positive chat around her. Honestly, wait till you watch it, Zoe. You will be shook to your living core of some of the things that people were allowed to say on TV back then about women

and how it was just completely brushed under the carpet. And actually looking back now, thinking how much that would have hurt her feelings. Yeah, I'm definitely going to watch it And she mentions about getting weighed on TV After she'd just given birth as well And she just said she was like, we're all having a laugh at the time But actually when you look back, it was so wrong Yeah

So wrong. Anyway, my whole product of the week was And I've said this to you, I've text you about it saying, Zoe, you need to get it Is her creamy waterline eyeliner? Now I've bloody got my makeup bag out I bet you won't be able to find it When I watch the documentary I swear she speaks about it in development stages

She's sat with someone, she's like, it needs to be the perfect shade of nude. The makeup product that I love is her creamy white waterline liner. Right. Okay, so something that we probably don't all think about wearing, right? No, I feel like that was a thing when you used to get her makeup then back the day, but I've not thought about it since. Now, this is just the most perfect, how do I describe it? You got it on right now? Yeah, but it's probably fell off now.

No, but I feel like I can kind of see it when you point it out. Now, for tired-eyed girlies, especially when you're looking a bit red on that, I get really red waterline. It's really good. So it's the perfect shade. I think she only does the one shade of it. Love it. Love it, love it, love it. I've got the Knicks one. I've had the Charlotte Tilbury one, I'm sure.

Nothing beats this shade. Right, okay. Okay, so go buy it because it's fricking good. Buy it, she's telling you to buy it. Yeah, I'm telling you to buy that. Fair enough. Are we open our PR? Yeah.

Zoe. Let's start, actually. I'll make sure... Let's start at a very beginning. A very good place to start. So, a few episodes ago, we spoke about Zoe not washing her makeup brushes. We had lots of messages

and some comments on the video of people saying this brand. So, of course, they obviously saw the tags. I had no idea that happened. I know you didn't. Because it came to the office. office and I collected it and bought it in for you. This would be a great experiment to do on the podcast, but we probably haven't got the time today. However, there is a brand called I-So-clean.

I have never seen this brand in my entire life. I'm just going to be honest, but this was recommended to us a lot. It is the professional brush cleaner and removes grit and grime in 60 seconds. We've also been given this. It's a, it looks like a bit of a science test tube. It does. And I think what you do is you put your makeup brush on it. You leave it in the test tube and it comes up and shows you all of the shite that's on it. No. Look on the YouTube if you look in.

There's a leaflet in it. No. What's lurking in your beauty kit? Makeup kits are a bacteria breeding ground. E. coli, fungi, staph infection and dead skin can all be found lurking on your makeup tools. But the question is why let them? So it just shows you step one to step four of how you can prove what your

is in your makeup brushes. Then we've got this really cute little flannel thing for each of us and then we have the clear skin clean brush spray and I don't know what this one is as well I think it's just different maybe scent aloe leaf extract

how cool is that so anyway I'm going to give it a bash well no sorry you need to go and give it a bash oh no okay no you should say please go and do it and let us all know because I don't think we've got one each I think we've got one each of the panel

but not one of each of these so maybe you take one I take one they're just different formulas or something so we'll link that on our newsletter guys but thank you so much for the recommendations thank you for tagging us in the stories because in return we have been given

some nice products to try love it and I always I always use my own shampoo and stuff when I wash them I do yeah I use like the I use the avian know, you know, the oil one that lifts all the oil and stuff. I don't use my expensive stuff.

Yeah, because I feel like that kind of removes oil. And it seems fine. I haven't broke out or anything using it, but I'd imagine that there's better things to use on new brushes. We also got saying the Zip Halo. And if you don't know what that is, it's an advanced skin care device. I just think that's amazing.

It lifts its scopes. It smooths, it makes you clear And it glows, it's got dual waveform technology So it like kind of like vibrates and pulls your skin Have you ever had, you know your face gym facials like you have? Yeah, it's exactly like that And it makes your mouth go like, yep Like pulls your lips away

So, confession, I already have one I had one about Oh my God, way over a year ago now they sent me one because it's the same brand as current body so you know it's going to be good and I had to stop using it because I was pregnant

so I haven't used it since therefore we have been given too so I think I'll be sweet and kind and maybe give this away to one of our patron listeners or I could maybe give it away at the Christmas market what do you think?

I think we should do it as our next patron giveaway cute, cute idea very cute so I'm going to start using mine now because I'm jealous and I now want to start using it with my shark beauty mask

fucking Ellen will not recognise you I know but yeah these are meant to be really good you know some people are really religious with them and what it does is it has a skincare routine within it so it beeps and clicks every time you need to use it and you connect to the app

and the app will tell you what to do basically which program to do each day and then you just follow them on the video of what to do and what movement to do it I think like lymphatic but with currents going through your skin to lift tighten I like that though because I feel like see when you use

the like our skinny confidential thing which I've been using quite a bit by the way me too but I'm like am I doing this right like I want something to thought it's just an ice roller I know but I like that you can follow something with that yeah so thank you so much for those PR that's very friendly oh this is the gel that you need to put onto it

to activate it and your skin so you can't rub it over your skin and like right okay I've only get one of them no there's another one somewhere we've got a couple of questions been asked and we've also got a lot of dilemmas on today's episode. Right, I've got a big one for you. Oh, exciting.

Any house move progress, Jess? Yes. Tell us all. I'm sure some of you've maybe gathered this over the recent weeks, but yeah, there's been a lot happening for us in the background, and we have found our dream home. There you go. And it was fucking stressful.

Let me tell you. It was so strong. stressful. People are right. Moving house. Well, I've not even done that part yet, but the whole process, bloody Nora, just the way it is in Scotland, it's so tough. And thank God my mum was actually up of the week that I was selling my house, my flat, because we needed it to look amazing. Obviously, I had all the people come and take pictures and I had back to back, back to back viewings of, um, my fat for three days. And it was just a lot. That's a lot. But yes, it's been sold and I have a moving day officially before Christmas. It's all actually been

very smooth because who I've sold to and who I'm buying from, there's just no chain. Yeah. So if you're not, if you're like new into, um, buying a property, how it will work is if you are already an existing property, you are, you are in such a good position if you are a first time buyer actually and a cash buyer because there's no chain below you you're not having to wait to somebody blah blah blah but this is the first time we're moving out of a bought property into another bought property so for us to be able to move in before Christmas which is quite unheard of really for this the timeframe that we've done it in it's been so fast there's no chain their side and there's no chain our side so actually it's going to hopefully be smooth and so fast so good really

it's been I don't think there's anything that would happen now that would change that though no it's been pretty seamless and all of the people that I've worked with they've all been sort of tied in with one another so it's been absolutely fantastic no notes no complaints and yeah regarding my house it's just amazing guys I can't wait to I'll document obviously a little bit of it and I'll definitely share some stuff over on Patreon in the break because it will be happening when we're on the break so that's what's been going on in my life and it is the week of our Christmas markets but we'll manage it's fine I've got a lot of family coming up to help with Jensen and things around that time so it's going to be amazing and yeah let's just say

it has my dream kitchen I mean it needs some work the whole house needs decorative work but it's definitely a very movable in property where the space you want appliances you want yeah it's night and day it's just going to be so good it's going to be great for summer honestly I've dreamed about this for ages and it's finally happening I can finally host I can finally sit to eat my dinner at a table, which I probably won't. I'll probably still eat it on my lap. Let's face it. No, I see you do that with human.

Yeah. But I do have like a couple of, oh, I just can't go. I love it so, so much. I went to go and see it again with my family that they came up, my dad came up and I got to have a second view in. And I think when you go into a property the first time and you know when you fall in love with it. That's what I will say actually.

It's like a nervous love because you don't know if it can be yours. That was exactly it. So my advice would be to anyone that's buying a house. and you're doing lots of viewings, please don't just buy something for the sake of it. We went to view a few and I tell you now, when you know, and whoever you're viewing it with, if you're buying it with somebody.

We both stepped foot in it and both was like, this is it. We just knew, I just knew it was it. But I think when you get that feeling you get it. I've never known someone to get that feeling and not get the property though. Oh, I see what you mean, I actually get it. Yeah. Like I genuinely haven't.

because, well, I don't know if it's a case of when you then go see something else, it's almost like it's then meant for you because you didn't get the last one. True. So I think your mindset changes, but I've never known someone to totally miss out on their dream home. That's very true. Yeah. That's four you won't go by, yeah. Absolutely.

Just can't wait. How exciting. Can't wait to have my friends over. I can't wait to host. I'll never be able to there. I'll tell you that for nothing. You absolutely won't. It's a perfect place to work from as well if you ever need to.

We don't want to go into the office. Love it. It's just going to be so brilliant. It's going to be brilliant for Richard as well in terms of his work. And it's going to be a great summer house. It's going to be a perfect place for Jensen to go up. I mean, it's not massive. It's only one bedroom more than what we're currently in,

but it's just the perfect family home. And I really hope that we will stay there for a long time, if not forever. Yeah, there's one more bedroom, but there's other, more rooms in general. Yeah, downstairs, definitely. Like you're dine and you've got a bigger kitchen. You've got wee nooks and can't about. I've got a garden. What a life.

A garden. What a life. I've got my own driveway. Oh, honestly, it's a dream. It's a dream come true, and I've got a real fire. Fuck, this is what I mean, it's before Christmas. Yeah, because you've got a fire place in a flat, but ney fire. Yeah, it's a cut off at the gas.

Do you know what? I've never looked at actually getting that fixed, and it is something that I wanted to do, but then, you know, bloody heating Sergeant Major over there. He never wants the heating on, so God forbid, would ever be have fire on. No, you'd never have that fire on. I probably wouldn't be allowed to have that real fire on anyway. Not that and they'll be on ever.

It's just a feature at this point. But that's the update, guys. Yeah, there's been a lot going on and it's happened so quick, hasn't it? Yeah, because, I mean, when was that? You said you were thinking about doing it next year a couple months ago? Yeah.

That was never going to happen, though. If anyone's picked up and in, Majes, things don't take long. I definitely, that's my personality trait. If you want something, I want it now. I may be like that too. But, do you know what I will say is, it was one of those houses where they definitely don't come up very often. A lot of people have said this about this house.

It's the style of house, these sort of older builds, whatever, that've got a bit more character, they don't come up often. So even if you're not at the final stage of like, let's look now, if it comes up, you need to give it a bash. If you love it, it's worth trying to get it. You've got your own room. Can you wait? That room, by the way.

I want Groovy Check wallpaper. Yes, I used to love Groovy Check. I think bring it back. Forever Friends, Playboy. What were those bears? Forever Friends. Carebear. Oh.

Too young for you? Maybe. I do know what a care bear is, yeah. That's what I was thinking of. But I was thinking of theme rooms that I've had. I think I just had Groovy Chick. Oh no, then I had like Betty Boop going on. Playboy.

I'm going to say, how Friday is that that we all had a Playboy bedroom? You know. You actually think about it. And then what I had, Audrey Hepburn. That's so weird my sister's into her at the moment. Yeah, I love her. And she, what age were you? Um, yeah, probably like, mid-teens.

She's really into, like, old movies, jazz music. Brex of Tiffany's is one of my favourite films. She says the same thing. Yeah, it's one of my favorite films. That's cute, Zoe. But it had wallpaper of Audrey Hepburn all over it. Black and white. Yeah, yeah.

Remember it was a thing. People got, had like that or Marley Monroe or... Yeah, I love Marley and Monroe. And you had, like, a picture of her in the wall. I wonder the white teens go through that face. I know. The iconic picture over though, you know, with the cigarette thing, the hair all up, perils and that.

It's such a weird thing. Why have I got your face all over my bedroom wall? As teenagers, we used to all fascinate by people and you'd hope that you were like their biggest fan. I was a bit like that with Justin Timberlake for a very short period of time. I wanted to be his number one fan. And I was obsessed with the fact that we had the same initials

and I thought that that means that I'm his biggest fan though because he's got the same name as me. No, I don't think I was like that with a celebrity as such I know Audrey Hepburn is Was, she's deed Was, but not in a pop culture way Okay Do you get what I mean?

Yeah, I do get what you mean But no like singers or anything I don't think I was really overly Obsessed with I did like Spice Girls They're a little bit too See, I was seven when they came out though I'm on the cusp for Space Girls

one years old. Yeah. It's like I know them, I know their songs whatever, but it wasn't in the band I was bopping to. It was girls aloud

I was bopping to. I loved them as well. Sound of the underground. I sang that at talent show once. That was a great song. It wasn't in the school talent show. I sang that at Butlins in the talent show

and I sang it holding a bit of paper over my face to the full audience on the stage on the mic and I sang monotone the whole time, no surprise there. And I came second,

not first, and everyone was human. Zoe, I need to know, right? What was your, you need to actually mum miss? What was your favourite song when you were a baby or when you're a kid? What did you listen to? What did you love?

What was your first CD? The one thing I really, really remember is being in my dining room and my first house with my mum and sing and reach for the serge and it was the party song. So see, when I was going to like parties of people that I went to, it might have been nursery,

it might have been school, that was the song. Okay. And you danced, you did the actions. You were reaching. Did you ever dance to five Did you ever dance to five? D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D. I don't know what you're singing.

I know I'm working on the same with this feeling The better things are coming my way Yeah, yeah, that's? And if the sun is shine, there's no meaning But our things will be around in the end. Get on up. When you're down, baby. I'm trying to think of the dance community to say,

take a good look. Right. Yeah, but let me ask my mom these questions because I don't know. So I know the answer to those two, right. So the song that I used to love in my car seat, you know, when you're kids and you can start dancing, you did your bop, was apparently, in all the early 90s kids will know this. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, there's no limit.

And then the first song that you sing karaoke to was, this is so random but I was fascinated with this song Must be the reason why I'm king in my castle Must be the reason why I'm taking my bopper Always been a bit of a 90s dance Yeah No that's not my household at all

But then I used to listen to old school Madonna We said that before like a prayer Whitney Houston And then you'd have five steps Well what I also remember is or my dad used to drive to school because we stayed at my dad

did a longer drive to school and we used to listen to the carpenters love them so that's probably what he would say yeah but we're talking like I'm 5, 6 at this point a baby in a car sheet

I'd be shocked if anyone remembers that your mum were 100% like look at Jensen he's fascinated with that one song at the moment I'll remember that song for the rest of my life because it was what shut him up

I don't know, but I will ask her You should, your mum will know Or your dad will know She might have forgot She might get confused between you and Adam But there will be a song But you bopped too I know because we're close in the age

So it might be just a mix Of things Yes But no that's an interesting question All of us tell you what your song is Let us know A box up And you can tell us what your

Childhood songs are You're bops But then again You always have the songs That your mum used to Listen to and enjoy herself I know it's quite arranged And that was like Simply Red or Luther Vandross.

My dad used to like a lot of reggae and things like that and house. I always just remember Chris Moyle was being blasted on when I was going to school. He was the Radio 1 DJ at the time. Who was the Radio 1 DJ? No, because you were saying that. So what's his face and you used to go on your drive to school. You're in Cameron and on Clyde 1? That's so funny.

Not Radio 1 was it? No, Clyde 1. Radio 1's Chris Moyles. He would have been probably around when you were young as well He was on it for years Yeah, he was I know what he's up to these days He said it was something else I'm sure

Do you remember that program The Big Breakfast as well What's the redhead guy called? He used to be the TV presenter He used to go out with Amanda Holden God You Chris Evans

I know everyone was shouting that through the pod as well Chris Evans and Mr. Blobby and then you've got No, do you know I was on a TV show On Top of the Pops I've told you this before

Saturday show Is it a Scottish show It might have been it was Did you ever remember There was what were their name Sam and Sam and Tom or something like that And it was two guys

They were kind of like an aunt in deck But only children's TV All right And the Saturday show was like I was just in the audience But it was like people got gunged and things. Oh yeah.

Like that kind of one. TV shows. Yeah, that was funny too, actually. There was also a dating show that I used to watch and I really want someone to try and tell me what it was but it was where they would push them in the pool.

They would all line up and then someone would just push them. Well, that's quite traumatic. That was way... I was young then, so you wouldn't have been born, I would imagine. I remember that being on my TV. Do you know, I think it's weird

that you were on this earth for six years and I wasn't even on this earth yet? Wild. I was at school. That's weird. That is strange, isn't it? And you know, it's funny, since having a child as well, like,

I always think about him looking at the wallpaper in his crib, right? And I'd be like, you would never ever remember that. But then my mom showed me a photo, a camcorder DVD of me walking around my very, very first home, which were only in for 18 months of my life. and I'm playing with my mum's jewelry box and there's the curtains and were you alive

when people used to get like the border a wallpaper border but have it at the top around the rim of the room rather around the middle anyway so it was that listen I would have never ever remembered this pattern in my entire life but when I looked it

I was like oh my God you'd recognise it I was like I remember that I remember that I remember that in the room I remember everything but I would never remember it unless I'd seen it so it triggers something in your brain That's the way I remember things, though.

My brain doesn't remember things without a trigger. That's interesting. Without a reminder. This crazy world you love in his brains. And my nan has given me, my nan gave me all of my story children's books. They're like paper thin and I've now read them to Jensen. And this morning I said to Rich, it was called Fergus's holiday or something. It was a little dog.

And I was like, oh my God, I look, flick through it. I was like, I remember all this being read to me. And I looked at the back and the price was $2.99. And Rich was like, price of a book now. I was like, no, it isn't. That'd be 1299. I picked up all the other children's books that we had that were new and they were like $7.99, 899. I was like, that's mad.

Pure nostalgia guys. It evolves. But yeah, and I do think to myself, he'll never remember that, but one day some trigger and he'll be like, I remember that pattern. Definitely, I do think it's a reminder thing. Or that picture. Like, he sits and stares at that wallpaper a lot. Like somebody come and take me out of this fucking cot. Yeah.

Anyway, so, groovy chick wallpaper then? Absolutely, and I want the wee water thing as well. The wee water thing? Add the wee water machine. You know, like a water dispensing machine with the big plastic bit on the top and you push the thing back into a cup? No.

You do know what I mean, though. Or like a slushy machine? No, like say you went into like a doctor surgery or... Oh yeah? You want them in your room? The big blue. Was it a groovy chick one?

Yeah, but it was a mini one. Oh my God, I don't need to see a picture for it to flagging. We've got a dilemma about sexting. You ready? I'm so ready for this. Listening to this week's episode, the dick pick issue is funny. From the right person, I actually don't mind it at all.

However, an unsolicited one from a random, not so good. You should both chat about sexting situationships, words, not picks. I'm in this situation right now and it's the most fun of how. had in ages. Also, I'm 43 next week. The 40s are wild. In the last month, I've been asked out by a 29-year-old footballer and a 50-year-old businessman. So we said, tell us some of the sexing chart right now. She said, so sometimes I'm right into it and the mood is right. Other times I'm sat in the car, eating snacks and waiting to collect my daughter from a club, then texting back like, hmm, yes, I'm doing. X, X, X, X. What's funny as I'm actually quite shy, but honestly,

get into it and it's someone you're really attracted to it's great fun also if the guy has had a few drinks you really find out what his kinks are and it's enlightening no do you know what this reminds me of when you read a sort of sexy book yeah because you're just reading sexual words and you're getting off on it yeah you like the old sexy book don't you yeah i do but i don't know if i could sext hmm i don't think i could say that i'm doing anything like i couldn't be like Say it. Like, oh yeah, baby, I'm just putting my hand down and ready to, you know, rubber-dub. Like, I couldn't say anything like that.

Imagine typing that out? I don't know. What about phone sex? No. I used to have a lot of friends that were well into that, you know? No, I'm out. And they would actually do bits as are on the phone. No.

Yeah, I know a lot of people that I like that. And they bloody love it. I think it, I think go for it. No, so do that. Especially through a long-distance relationship. I can imagine that being quite, quite good. No, I don't think it does it for me. It's a bit of an imagination.

It's the talking for me. I'd burst out laughing I would, piss myself. So, that. I guess what she's saying, though, like the right person or like, if someone's quite, if you're talking to someone, quite early stages and they're like that could it kind of probe you to be quite like that maybe oh so she's 43 i think when i'm 43 when i find that embarrassing i would probably like no no exactly yeah let's go for it it's not even embarrassing it's just more i mean embarrassing for me yeah like

not for not for her i'm kind of me yeah doing it yeah or like thinking i'm being sexy and i'm really probably not i know oh my god i just don't think imagine if you imagine if you were sexing the back and I'm just like yeah it's just not doing it for me though I need I need more no just describe it describe what you're doing to yourself and you'd be like um chat g-tis can you help me with my texting please give me a really filthy response people must have such fun so much fun the issue is when if you did the chat cheap routine and you left that big dash and you'd be fucked the m-dash orgasm Orgatum

I think I think what's funny there is what she's saying is she's just picking a door up from school and she's like yeah baby no it's like oh hi hen just get in the back

no I love it anyway anyone send us in your sex in chat tell us do you get off on it do you do it have you received it

and you're like oh my goodness have you tried to do it and you've cringed and you've stopped Or have been rejected, he did not go on board. And you're like, block.

Or have you actually, you know, rubber-dub-dub. I'd appreciate a guy like trying. Like I feel like over-trap, not sex and as such, but like have a bit of flirty banter. Like, we jokes here and there are fine if we're at that stage. I don't want you to never, like, act as if you would never want to talk. touch me. Yeah. You don't need to say anything sexual but we like, what's the word, innuendos. Yeah.

Leading to that. That's just bad and I'm fine with that. It's just a line for me of fear. I started sleeping with my manager who doesn't want to lead me on but the sex says fire emoji. With her boss. Love that. Skiffing 50 shades. I'm here for 50. have to say, do you know me? I mean, as long as if he's not got a wife. Or and also, he's saying he doesn't want to lead you on,

but just don't get led on then. But is she catching feelings? Maybe. Easier said than done though, isn't it? Especially if the sex is really good, it's a bit like, I would imagine it would be very hard to not catch feelings. At what point you're going to want to stop? if you'd enjoy in what's happening.

And also having to see him every single day, a man in power, probably a guy in a suit. It's attractive. Yeah. You're sleeping with him. It's probably on the hush, hush. I would imagine it would be on the hush hush. That makes it exciting.

Yes. For the issue that you have, I don't really know where this is going to end up for you because either it stops and you mutually agree with it and both of you do and you're fine with it. Yeah. Then are you okay to still continue to work and see him every single day? would you be okay with him trying to tell you what to do

when you've been inside you, inside you? I don't know how I deal with that. I know. And then will this effect if rumours go around the office and then maybe you're a slight favouritism or do you really want people speaking about it? Do you think this is realistic going to be good for you? Because...

Well, we know that answer's no to that. But what happens if they end up both going, I like you, you like me, let's be together, would you then still be able to work there? Is it that sort of workplace where you two are allowed to be together? Yeah. Answer that. For me I would be thinking,

would I be sleeping with you if you weren't my manager? I hardly doubt that, Zoe. Most people meet your work. But what I mean is, like, if you met them on a night out, would you want to sleep with them? Are you attracted to him? Probably not.

If you took the work excitement manager boss out of the equation and then that might help you if you're feeling like, eke, what am I going to do here? You know? I know, but then you're saying that. People end up liking each other at work because they kind of know a bit more about them as opposed to just visual, like on a night out.

Yeah, totally. I think it can be either way. Yeah. I think if you're just, if you're worried at a way that's going to end up, then ask yourself these questions because it might help you. Find your path, you know? I need to know about work romances.

Listen, it's party season. You've got Christmas nights out coming up. Yeah. Tell me now who you do you fancy at work. Do you fancy your boss? Do you fancy your friend? Is there someone that you think likes you and you don't like them or vice versa?

Mm-hmm. Is there a new person at work, or are you the new person? Come on, give me the goss. Give us the goss. I need to know. In the run up to the Christmas party, what's the office goss? We're not in an office anymore. We're a two-man band.

Give us the office goss. Who's shagging who? You've got new goss. Listen, it's all anonymous here. We are just your friends, but we need to know. We need to know the chat. And then after your Christmas parties next season, I want to know what the fuck went down.

Yeah, let us know what you're guessing, predicting, and then we need to know what actually happened. Yep. Tell me your office scandals. Speaking of scandals. What's your thoughts on people still having photos of their exes saved to their camera rolls? Scandalous. Not asked.

Listen. I ain't going through 65,000 photos in my eye cloud to get rid of my exes. his face. In fact, they don't exist because my iPhone and ICloud didn't exist with my ex-man. But if I did, can I be bothered? Can I be bothered deleting him off my Instagram feed as well? Would I want to erase that person from my entire life? How about if I look sexy as hell in that photo with them? It's a difficult one. I'm not ashamed of my past and no one should be ashamed to delete someone completely unless it did you so dirty. But that's just my view. Some People are like, get, wipe them to fuck.

They were awful. Or I don't want the next person seeing them. It was quite a close time since we split up. So I'd rather them not know anything about my past. But I don't know. What do you think, Zoe? I'm not one for really caring much about the past either. For me, it's more like, see on things like plane journeys,

lying in bed at night. Sometimes you maybe are looking through your photos. Yeah. Especially on a plane. I looked through all my photos from the start on a plane. And also when your iPhone now flashes up with a year ago. Exactly. And I feel like that's why I would, again, I've not really been in this situation as like an adult, really.

I mean, I was an adult, but like I thought and felt very differently back then. But I do think because of the way the iPhone especially works now with these memories popping up. and the way that I look through my phone for videos for things and I'll sit and scroll on the plane I don't think it would be appropriate to have them on there when I'm like sitting scrolling through my but we're looking at them together but how far back would you have to go?

I guess this is like circumstantial isn't it but I go right back to the start my camera rolling my phone and look through them on the plane do you? Because I delete all my photos I don't want mine so I do that so like I could be back like six years which would be before me and Jason and then if you swipe by

this is not you personally but anyone listening if you then swiped by your partner's girlfriend or boyfriend would that bother you like if you sat next something

you swipe and then there's them two together would you be like but would you just accept okay well they were together at one point but I think when you're this far and a relationship part of me is like I would just ask loads of questions yeah same like where were you what were you doing did you like her then did you think of me at the time or what yeah like I didn't know who you were just I don't care did you think about me

I would want to know like and did you have a good day that day or were they all right like were you all ready about did you go home and have like real nice sex and stuff and then make it to the breakfast I only think you think like this when you're in it and having for a while plus you've not actually went through that whereas if it actually happened how Would you feel? Do you know what I mean? Sometimes I think this girl who don't do ourselves favours do where we just ask all the wrong questions. It's all quite like hypothetical for us

because it's not happened. Getting toxic. I guess people see a camera roll as like a memory box. But listen if you went on to my Facebook and went back, you'd see everything. No, so yeah, I don't have anything like that. Do you not? Imagine all the photo albums used to upload after a night out.

No, I don't really do that that much. Oh, did you not? No. That's what we did back then. We did do that but it didn't really involve my boyfriends It was my friends Really? What?

I'm doing anything with them I spent my whole life my pals Yeah, okay Yeah My boyfriends were Boyfriend was We had the same group So

Yeah A lot I mean it uploaded like profile pictures of And stuff like that But all of them got deleted Every time we split up Yeah okay fine Got it

Because at that age at that time you split up with someone the first thing you did was remove them for your MSN name or your BBM status that was just the way it was then that's so true actually so I'm just not in that position and never would be now whereas if me and Jason split up

I don't know if I think we spoke about this on the podcast before would you delete pictures of Jason when we were speaking about memory boxes mind that's right yeah that's it I don't know if I would now it's a very different you've got childish relationships and you've got adult relationships and I think when you go out to your adult ones you just view it very differently so I want to ask this this girl the question that sent this in or guy would you

feel different than if those photos are still on their Instagram and Facebook but they're in the camera roll to me that's no different one of them's a public matter so for everyone to see and the other one is just private but probably because you can't be asking it rid of them and what about physical printed photos like I say I've got them in my memory boxes so is that a problem for some people yes I think so but to answer a question I don't know if I find it um bad but it just depends on how long ago that was and also the situation um let's say I'd split up from someone a year ago and then I got with someone else and then he's I don't know I actually don't know the answer to that one I'm not sure I don't know that's a difficult one it's very circumstantial

I don't think it's nice but I personally don't feel that I would want to to wipe away something that has been in my life or maybe shaped me in a certain way to find the person that I'm with and delete it unless they were a real fucker and I can't even bear to see the sight of them

see ya erased I think it depends how your relationship ends yep I think if you yeah if they really hurt you you'd be like bye I don't want any of these memories but see if you got with someone

and they were really honest about it was a difficult break up, which is what would probably happen as an adult now. You're going to be honest about your past relationship, how you've ended up here, why you're single, if you've ever been with someone, if you've not, blah, blah, blah. So I feel like if I then knew that someone had like a tough relationship,

they had great timescale, but just wasn't working. I don't know if I'd be bothered at the pictures because I'd be like, but what about if he'd got dumped by her? And still had pictures. See, then I would probably think that's about weird. Yeah, same. I'd be like, you still love her. I guess it's like your photos are there for memories

Why do you want memories You're a past man Who you obviously didn't work out with What's the reason What is a reason But what is the reason though To look back on Why do you look back on in our relationship

You shouldn't really want to No, you're right I think it's more of a case If I just can't be fucked to delete it Because then it's gone forever But I don't need it anymore how do you know you might get back with them one day

I wouldn't know you never know that happens to a lot of people and then you get back and you're like I did it all those pictures of us in our rage happened to be five times

I could imagine that happens to be part of the process yeah in a young relationship yeah yeah definitely but I always think that

as well like if you have a chat with someone or you have an argument and you're like you sort of block them or you delete the whole chat and it's like

fuck up everything we've just spoke about is just gone or our pictures have gone from our chat, fuck! It's gone forever! I don't think I have to keep printouts. So for me, a printout, right, is so, so long ago that I don't have them anywhere else.

I think you're niche in that department. Yeah. With the layers and stuff. I think that's niche. A lot of people agreed with me. Just going to say that. I think I'm just not that bothered.

It's not that deep. For me, it's... I do agree with you. It's what I said in the episode weeks ago, like, for me to pass that down to give to someone about my life, I like that. I would love nothing more to know

about my great, great-grandma's ex-man, next man, next man. Tell me everything, I want to know it all. No, I do absolutely know what you mean. I want a picture, I want to see them. What do they look like then? La-la-la-la. I guess the conclusion here is,

with the memory box thing, the X's in the photo albums, camera or whatever, I think it's only an issue if they still seem bothered by them Listen, if Richard was really bothered by it and we were in some sort of relationship where he really felt uncomfortable

Of course I would get rid of it No, I mean like your new person still hung up on their ex Oh So it'd be like he would have an issue With you keep my letter if you talked about him a lot That would be an issue though That's what I mean though

Yeah, it would be an issue I think it was all very dependent on Their thoughts and feelings and where they're at right now about their ex. And also that memory box is in the loft. It's not like I'm sitting there at night crying over this letter written to me 18 years ago. That's what I mean though.

I think it's very dependent on how they feel about their ex now. Are they just on their phone or in their memory box because they can't be arse dealing with them deleting them, they'd never look at them, who cares, whatever? Or is it that they don't want to delete them in case we get back together or I don't want to delete the memories because I love her and whatever? No, not at all.

like you say I think it totally depends on how you feel about it and what they feel about it and I can only speak from a personal and tell you I couldn't give a flying fork lovely way to end this week's it watch you eh hope we enjoyed it a few of debates there let us know what you think we'll put up question boxes

more people just need to just give less of fuck they do about life. It's not that deep, guys. No, I couldn't agree with more. I'm deep, but I'm not that deep. Does that make sense? Not as deep, Lucy.

Yeah. Life's not that deep. As we say, the zoom out method. Zoom out. Zoom out and look how insignificant you are. And then zoom back in. Right, bye, focus. See you next.

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