a16z Podcast - How to Be Free: Shaka Senghor, Oprah Winfrey, Ben Horowitz

Episode Date: September 5, 2025

Taken from The Oprah Podcast, this special episode brings together Shaka Senghor, a16z cofounder Ben Horowitz, and Oprah Winfrey for a powerful conversation on resilience and transformation.Shaka, a resilience expert, motivational speaker, and bestselling author of Writing My Wrongs, shares his journey from incarceration to redemption along with insights from his new book, How to Be Free. Full of hard-earned wisdom and practical tools, it’s a guide for anyone seeking freedom in their own life.Timecodes: 0:00 Introduction 1:30 Shaka’s Journey: From Prison to Freedom4:10 The Power of Narrative and Mindset6:10 Active Journaling & Writing My Wrongs8:45 Escaping Life’s Hidden Prisons10:00 The Role of Forgiveness16:40 Healing Family Relationships21:00 Unconditional Forgiveness & True Freedom22:40 Resilience as a Spiritual Principle24:15 Mentorship & Meeting Ben Horowitz28:55 Lessons on Success and Failure30:20 The Meaning of a Pardon31:50 Life After Prison: Finding Joy in Freedom32:30 Advice for Listeners: How to Begin Your Own Journey35:15 Closing Thoughts Resources: Find Shaka on X: https://x.com/ShakaSenghoFind Ben on X: https://x.com/bhorowitzFind Oprah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oprahpodcast/Listen to the full podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/0tEVrfNp92a7lbjDe6GMLIhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-oprah-podcast/id1782960381 Stay Updated: Let us know what you think: https://ratethispodcast.com/a16zFind a16z on Twitter: https://twitter.com/a16zFind a16z on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/a16zSubscribe on your favorite podcast app: https://a16z.simplecast.com/Follow our host: https://x.com/eriktorenbergPlease note that the content here is for informational purposes only; should NOT be taken as legal, business, tax, or investment advice or be used to evaluate any investment or security; and is not directed at any investors or potential investors in any a16z fund. a16z and its affiliates may maintain investments in the companies discussed. For more details please see a16z.com/disclosures.

Today, we're sharing a conversation from the Oprah podcast with author Shaka Sankor about his new book, How to Be Free. He and Oprah talk about escaping life's hidden prisons, the power of forgiveness, and what true freedom feels like. A16Z co-founder Ben Horowitz also joins to reflect on Shaka's journey and its lessons for leadership and growth. Let's get into it. Hey there, everybody.

I am so glad to meet up with you here on the Oprah podcast. And it is always my great hope that the conversations that you see here or listen to here can serve to open or expand the aperture of your life. And on this episode, I really hope we do that because we're exploring this question. What does it mean to be truly free? what would that look like and more importantly more importantly what would it feel like inside yourself for you and consider asking yourself what is holding you back from pure freedom I'm here with best-selling author Shaka Sankor welcome back to the tea house I'm so excited to be here and thanks so much for having me 10 years 10 years our 10 year anniversary it's incredible yeah let me

tell everyone listening and watching that Shaka and I first met here 10 years ago, and as we were saying coming in, a lot of living has happened with both of us since then. When I first met Shaka Sincor, it had been about six years since he got out of prison after serving 19 years, many of them in solitary confinement for killing a young man when Shaka himself was just 19. It is one of my most memorable interviews ever. We talked about but his trouble life that led to that fateful day. You just had an aha there. There.

Yeah. Yeah. What Shaka has achieved in this decade since that conversation is truly extraordinary. His book, Writing My Wrongs, became a New York Times bestseller. He landed and left a high-powered corporate job, started his own business, even collaborated with the rapper Nas on a hit song. His new book, How to Be Free. is a must read for anybody looking to manifest their own vision of freedom.

What's your advice to anyone who is stuck needing to forgive or be forgiven? With How to Be Free, Shaka has written a workbook filled with hard-earned life lessons and practical exercises that he uses, and you can too, to liberate both body and mind. Ooh, I love that. I fell in love with my mind. I love this question of being free. So I want to dive right into it because it's your newest book, How to Be Free, How to Be Free, A Proven Guide to Escaping Life's Hidden Prisons. I saw this title and I thought, whoa, how to be free.

Isn't that one of the core things that we all are striving for? And what made you write this? Because 10 years ago, you wrote a book called Writing My Wrongs, which I just love that title. And how to be free, you've been free now, for how many years? Coming up on 15 years. So it's really amazing to even think about that part of my journey after spending 19 years to now be 15 years, this side of freedom.

And to be able to live this experience is really what inspired the book. Yeah. And you were inspired because you have conversations with other people and you realize there are many people who are, are not like you. They hadn't been to a real prison, hadn't been incarcerated behind bars, but are incarcerated in their own self-imposed bars.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, you know, it's been one of the most incredible parts of my journey is to think about what does it even mean to be free? And obviously, I had the kind of very real experience of being physically incarcerated.

But what came up for me was that I was free before I ever got out of prison. I was actually free before I even knew I was getting out of prison. prison. But I was also incarcerated before I went in because I had bought into a narrative that my life could only have very limited outcomes. And so when I got out and I started... Okay, so let's start with that. Yeah. You were incarcerated before you went into prison. Absolutely. Tell us what that means. Yeah. So the mindset that I embrace, this narrative that my life can only have two outcomes, I would be dead or in jail before I was 21. And so I lived within this very limited belief about... That was its own incarceration.

That was my own prison, the own hidden prison. And so I began to live my life through that lens, and it produced that outcome. I ended up being that environment. And then when I had this awakening, you know, I was doing this journal and just really trying to ask this question, like, how did I end up here? And what's next for me? And this was how many years into your imprisonment and into your incarceration? This was roughly about eight or nine years in. I was in solitary confinement.

and really coming to terms with what my life had become. And I started journaling and just asking these hard questions, how did I end up here? And what I discovered was that all these things had happened early in my childhood, the trauma, the abuse, the violence, and most importantly was the narrative that I embraced. And also the choices that you made as a result of that narrative. Absolutely, absolutely.

And that was one of the most powerful things, is that if I can choose based on this negative narrative and create these negative outcomes, What would happen if I chose positive narrative and started to live my life with those outcomes in mind? Because you could really physically see that for yourself when you're journaling and solitary confinement. You have a lot of time.

Yeah, yeah. And you were able to absolutely go through the patterns that had put you exactly where you were. Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah, and it was steps. And it was steps like any other thing that you want to build out, there are steps you have to take.

And I took steps that led me to prison. So I was like, necessary to lead me out of it and lead me up into the greatest sense of what it means to be free. And that journaling really opened up all the possibilities because I fell in love with my mind. Ooh, I love that. I fell in love with my mind. And so long before you were actually let out of the walls of the prison, you felt that you had liberated yourself within the walls of the prison.

Tell us about that. Yeah, what I discovered in that space was that I can go wherever I wanted to go in my mind and they could take me to places far beyond the prisons. But more importantly, what it did is it showed me that there's still possibility. You still have a life left. And if you can dream, you can actually achieve it. Like it was really like, even though it's one of those things we hear all the time, you know, conceive it, dream it, believe it, and it happened, it really became a mantra for me. And I just started writing down, here's what I want to happen in my life.

And I've realized that writing it down was just part of it. And I encourage people to journal, but it's also active journaling. What are the steps that I'm going to take to make this become reality? So active journaling, so give us an example. You would write down. So I wrote down that I wanted to finish something. Because what I learned during my journaling is I had never completed anything. I never graduated high school.

I never followed up going to the military. I always started things but never finished anything. So one of the first things for me was you have to complete something. And that something was writing a book. And I gave myself a very defined timeline to do it. 30 days, you have to write a book. And that was the action step. And what I said to myself, when I wrote that down,

if I finished this book in 30 days, my life can be anything that I imagine it to be. And I did it. And that's how writing my wrongs came. That was the beginning of, of my writing journey, which led to writing my wrongs, eventually. Yes, yes. And so I want to say that I think that this book, How to Be Free,

a proven guide to escaping life's hidden prisons, is a guide for anybody looking to tear down their own self-imposed barriers to getting free. And you write on page four, how to be free, that prison, you say, prison is designed to break you. you. The walls, you say, the rules, the routine. It's all meant to just strip you down until you forget who you are. And what you discovered is that the most powerful prisons aren't the ones made of concrete and steel, but they're the ones that we carry with us that are built from our anger and our shame and our trauma and our self-doubt. So is that why you wanted to write this book?

Absolutely. You know, on my journey, when I put writing my wrongs, people would come up to share stuff with me that they said they had never shared before, a child who committed suicide, a dysfunctional marriage, a failure at job. And they would say something about having a conversation really opened them up and liberated them. And so I started just kind of interrogating this idea of like what keeps people locked in place. And these things just kept coming back, grief, shame, anger. And forgiveness. And the inability to forgive. And the more I kept coming back to that, I started to see it in people from all walks of life, which was the thing that was mind-blowing to me.

Because, you know, we come with these narratives where we think we got people's, other people's lives figured out, oh, they're successful, so they can't have problems. Yeah. They're wealthy. They can't have problems. They're this, they're that.

And then you started to talk to people, and you realize we all have it. You know, we all have things that we're working through. And sometimes we're not even aware that, you know, we're working through them. And that everybody is just here doing the best they know-how at any given moment. So I know that forgiveness for you has become like a healing agent in your life.

And you received it from, you write this in writing my wrongs of God, mother of the young man, that you had shot and killed, and that's what landed you in prison. You also gave forgiveness to the man who killed your younger brother, Sherrod. What's your advice to anyone who is stuck needing to forgive or be forgiven? that that part of my journey has been so profound because you know when you receive forgiveness you forget that sometime in life you may have to forgive someone and it can be so complex it's not it's not an easy thing you know my brother was murdered in uh 2021 and it was heartbreaking because my gut reaction was all the negative things that come with losing a loved one

and then I thought about this person's soul like what led him down that path and it was really having empathy and compassion for his journey because I had my own experience so it was carrying the duality of guilt while trying to grieve and then reconciling that

through what have I been teaching in the world. Whatever I've been saying to people all along and now it comes front and center in my own life and I think that's the power of what this book is really about is that true freedom doesn't come without the work you're always going to be confronted with the work.

You're always going to have a thing to challenge you to think broader about what it is that you're sharing in the world. And I think people always miss the point of forgiveness because you really do it for yourself. Absolutely. You do it to free yourself so that you're not carrying around this ball of anger, this grudge, this need to revenge, you release it.

So it doesn't mean you now want to go sit and have a meal with the man who shot your brother, it means you're able to find some peace in it. Absolutely. Yeah, because, I mean, that was the gut reaction, was the anger. You know, the gut reaction of my family, which is natural to be upset,

to be heartbreaking. We want to get you. Heartbroken, yeah. And so now it's like, okay, do I want to carry that for the next 20, 30 years? Do I want to show that as, you know, as I moved through life? You know, I have a young son.

I have mentees. I have people who look up to me. How do I navigate that? that, you know, for me. And, you know, it's a heavy weight to carry to have that level of anger just hanging over your head. So when you were 17, you were shot by a man named Terrence. Yeah. And I think this is so remarkable. You write about receiving a letter from Terrant 32 years later. What does it say about the weight or the burden that he reached out all those decades later? It is one of the most powerful and complex experiences I've ever had in my life.

When I first got the letter, there was a full range of emotions that went through my mind because I never really saw this guy's face. That shooting was our only encounter, which was about 30 seconds. And I didn't realize that that inability to see this guy's face had haunted me all these years and how he came about even knowing who I was. But that guy shooting you is what sent you on another path because that's when you went and got your own gun. Yeah.

It was the cycle. Yeah. You know, and when I got that letter, you know, I bristled up. My body just tinsed up with all the anger. Where were you? What was going on in your life? I was actually home. I was at home in L.A.

And, you know, I was outside and it's beautiful, sunny. And, you know, I opened the letter and I was just like, whoa. Like, and all the things, that moment came flashing back. And then I was like, I got to see this guy's face. So I got on a computer and I looked him up because he's still in prison. And just seeing his face, like, it felt like. the weight of the world came off my shoulders. Really?

Because I was able to humanize this guy, and he was no longer this boogeyman that just kind of hid in the shadows of my past. So how did he find you, and why did he write you? So he found me because another guy was reading my book in prison and passed it on to him, he started reading it, and he was like, oh, my God, this is the guy I shot, and here's what the outcomes of his life was as a result of that moment.

And he took so much responsibility for that moment, and I still have complete agency over that decision, but I understand how he would arrive at how one incident can spiral somebody into, you know, an incident that changed their life. That's right, because that incident caused you to start carrying a weapon yourself and everything that resulted from that. Yeah. So is it true that you've not written him back yet?

So I started writing it, and then I didn't finish it. And then I put it up and I was like, you know, I don't owe him a letter. You know, and I think that's one of the things about forgiveness, you know, not about him. It was really about me. And what I realized was like, what matters in my life today? Who are the people around me today that matter that I can't forgive and build deeper relationships with? And he wasn't one of them. And I'm okay with that. You know, I've forgiven him and, you know, I hope for the best life outcomes for him. But I didn't feel it was necessary for me to follow through with writing that letter. But you had started to write a letter. I did start to write it. And what did

you want to say at that time? Well, I wanted to say thank you for finally revealing your face. I thought that was really, really important part of my journey and that I appreciated him. Because you didn't even realize how haunted you were by not knowing. Yeah. Because he really is then the boogeyman. Yeah, it's really a ghost.

It was just like a phantom. And just to have an courage to say I'm sorry, I imagine an environment that he's in because I've been there. It's not the easiest environment to be apologetic or to say you was wrong about something. And, you know, 32 years later.

Or you admit anything. Yeah. Yeah. Because it's not even encouraged in that environment. And so I thought that was brave of him, you know, and that's what I would have said. I thought that was brave step to take. And knowing that, you know, he's very vulnerable to even reach out because I still have a lot of influence in that environment.

And he didn't know how healed I am or where I'm at my journey. So just the courage to say, you know, I'm going to say, I'm apologize to this guy who can potentially do me harm. You know, I thought that was courageous. But you haven't responded to his. his letter, but you do say that that letter helped you in the healing process with your own mother. How? Yeah. Yeah, I actually wrote my mother a letter and it was...

So he wrote you a letter and then you thought you write your mother. Yeah, I wrote my mother letter. And, you know, my mother and I had a very complex relationship, you know, going back to all the things that I had written about before and what I learned most about forgiveness is great. Yes, I just want to share with this audience. I'm going to bring it up because it is in the book. It's certainly in writing my wrong. that that seminal moment for me was when you walked into the kitchen as a nine-year-old boy with your report card and your mom throws a pot of whatever she was cooking at you. And in that moment, everything changed for you, you know?

One time I was coming home from school, I was like a smart kid and the family. And so my grades was like the thing that I was most proud of. And so came home, super excited to... How old are you? I'm probably in the fourth grade, so I'm assuming, like, eight now. Eight, I'm not sure yet. And I came in and she was at the kitchen sink watching dishes. And I was like, you know, Ma, I got this score on my test.

And she rolled around and threw a pot with, like, such force that it broke the towels on the wall. That's a life-shattering moment when you think about it. Devastating. That's a life-shattering moment when you think about being an eight-year-old or nine-year-old coming home and saying, mom, look at my grades. So you've had a volatile relationship with your mom over the years. It took her 17 years to come to visit you when you were incarcerated. And after you get the letter from Terrence, who shot you and sent you on a spiraling path

downward, you then are moved to free yourself to write your mother. Yeah. And so when I sat down to write the letter, I thought, I had forgiven my mother. You know, my mother came to see me on that visit. I was like, you know what? Mom, I forgive you. I moved on.

Well, what I realized is that I was holding on to this idea that my forgiveness would somehow change her, which would in turn change our relationships. And so that little boy part of me that just wanted to be nurtured by my mother, I thought I can change that. And it wasn't a child. This is such a good point that you're making.

Yeah. And if you're going to forgive with conditions in play, it's really not forgiveness. It's really not forgiveness. Yeah, and I learned it through a conversation with my older brother. We were talking, and he just said to me, you know, I forgave mama, and then she did this again. And I forgave her. And it just struck me, and I was like, whoa, I've done the same thing.

I put all these conditions around it without even interrogating how she even got to become the woman that she was. And so I was like, you know, if I'm going to get to this deep sense of forgiveness, I just got to know her story. And if she's willing to go on that journey with me, the possibilities are infinite. And so we went on that journey and we spent time together. We talked deeply. And my mother shared things with me that was heartbreaking. Yeah, just to think about what her young life was. And I don't think we do enough of that when it comes to our parents, right?

There are heroes. Yeah, we just say this term, hurt people, hurt people. but you don't realize what the hurt was like for those people. Yeah, yeah. And so when my mother, she was willing to open up and she just shared all these things that she had went through, the abuses, the assaults on her body, and she was willing to really share that with me.

And I thought it was one of the most powerful things that she could ever do. And so I wrote her to let her, just letting her know how much I appreciated her opening up in that way. And it just allowed me to see her. And it kind of reversed the kind of dynamics in our relationship where I feel more parental. I feel more like I want to protect that little girl that didn't get protected,

who became that woman that hurt her own kids. And so, you know, that's the power of, like, what real forgiveness is. And will you remove all the expectations that someone will become different or that somehow is for them? That's true freedom. That's true freedom. And it's like I have so much grace for her. I have so much joy whenever we're together and when we're not.

I have grace and enjoy when it's going good and when it's not and it's fine, you know? So that's really the meaning of unconditional. Absolutely. Meaning I'm going to forgive you, I'm going to love you, regardless of what you do. And you have to just say... That's hard, though.

That's hard, Chaga. But you know why it's hard is because the hidden part of it is we still have these conditions, right? And the conditions are... I'm going to do this, but what I want is for you to change. Yeah, and if you don't change. just don't hurt me again.

The reality is that the people that you forgive can possibly hurt you again. And then you have to decide, okay, do I want to go back into that door again? You know, and that's the complex things with, especially with parental relationships. Yes. Because it's just your parents, you know,

or your children. And that means that old things can be brought up over and over. They can be triggering. But once I release the things, the things that used to trigger me, I'm just like, that's hurt. That ain't got anything to do with me, you know?

Well, don't you think, too, when you can't forgive without conditions being placed upon the forgiveness, that it's really challenging to experience true joy. Absolutely. Isn't it? Yeah, and I mean, joy is one of the great markers of freedom. That's right. How do you really show up in your life? And, you know, what are the things that feel pleasant in your spirit and in your being? And you can't have that if you're holding on to anger and you're holding on to.

to shame for things that don't even no longer exist. I think that's a great line. Joy is one of the great markers of freedom. Absolutely. And I also know that you believe, and you talk about this in how to be free, that resilience is a spiritual principle. Explain that.

Yeah, I mean, you think about how we got here. Like, we were born through a resilient effort. The biological makeup of how a sperm reaches an egg, like there's a fight there. Yeah. Yeah, people get into this kind of comparative Olympics where they're like, well, I didn't have it as hard as you. And so I'm not as resilient as you. And I'm like, I didn't go into prison

knowing I was resilient. You know, I was faced with adversity that forced me to make a decision of how do I want to live my life? Do I want to forge a head or do I want to just quit? And what I knew was embedded in my DNA was resistance and struggle and to overcome adversity. And we all have that. We're born with it. We, you know, sometimes we give it up. We give up agency over how we're going to take a stance on something we believe or care about. But it's so spiritual. And it's the thing about life, you know, as I just mentioned, like, you don't get to the other side of these things

without having to work for it. Forgiveness, I had to work for that. You know, that idea that people are redeemable, the creator said, you know what, let's see how much you really believe at. I want to put the person who shot you right back in your face. I want to put the person who shot your brother right back in your face. What do you really believe? And that's the spiritual nature of like really working through something that's very tough.

And the opposite of that is I could have went right back into the anger. I could have shrunk right back into the space that didn't allow me to be happy and joyful. And that's the hidden part of the prisons. I know you believe in mentors because you are one to so many people. And one of the great mentors in your life has Ben Horowitz, who is a very well-known venture capitalist in Silicon Valley and one of the founders of the legendary farm, Andresen Horowitz, and you write about his instrumental guidance in your life. Now, some of you may know Ben is the author of two New York Times bestsellers,

the hard thing about hard things, and what you do is who you are. Ben is joining us via Zoom. Welcome. Hi, Ben. Hey, Oprah. How are you? Good to see you, Chaka.

Hey, bro. So, Ben, I'm going to ask you to tell me, the story of how you in Shaka first met. I think I have something to do with that, actually. You did. You did. So you were screening belief. Yeah. And you screened it in Silicon Valley. Yeah, I'd done a series on religions all over the world, and I was screening it. You had been gracious enough to interview me in Silicon Valley. Yeah. So because I had to interview you, I was terrified just because you're really good at interviewing. And so I thought, okay, that this is hope she doesn't judge me and then I got like you know maybe I could ask you a few

questions about interviewing beforehand and and that would help me and you said something it was really insightful you said you know I always ask people before I interview them what their intention is and then if they have to trust me to get that intention she says I'll give you an example and the example was you know you said I just had this guy on my show Super Sol Sunday. He had tattoos, dreadlocks, big muscles. He's a real scary guy. He just got out of prison.

And I asked him before the interview, I said, you know, I'll help you get your intention, but you have to tell me what it is. And he said, well, my intention is that, you know, people won't be judged by the very worst thing that happens in their life. That people can be redeemed. And so then you proceeded to tell about the interview, and it was a story that you just mentioned. That still makes me want to tear up.

And I told my wife, Felicia, who you know, and she got very excited. So she reached out to your team, got the galley for his book. And so we read the book, and then the next thing I know, she says, oh, you know, I Facebook message Shaka, and, you know, he's going to come over to dinner tomorrow night. And I was like, are you crazy? Did you read that book?

I was like, that guy was the prison. He's a prison gang member. And so I said, look, we reset it at a restroom. You know, we'll go to a restaurant. Don't bring him to the house, Felicia. We could just go home. Don't invite him to the house. So then she goes, okay, and we moved it to a restaurant.

And then we meet, and it was really, I'd say, a little bit shocking for me because in talking to him, he actually sounded like, you know, I worked with CEOs all day. He sounded like a really, really advanced CEO. Like, he knew all about, like, psychology, motivations. systems, how they work together, how you get to the truth. And I was like, wow, I could learn a lot from this guy about how he thinks about these things. And then actually the other thing that was very insightful to me or like shocking, which I really wanted to know the answer to was, you know, there's this thing about solitary confinement, which it's very bad.

There's big movements against it because, you know, you go crazy after like two weeks in there. He was in it for seven years. and like no question he came out like better than when he went in and i was so interested i was like how did that happen like what happened and it's actually the story of this book which is it's when he rewrote his own narrative it's when he finally had the time and space to do that and that was just so because so much of achievement and building something great is being able to get to your own truth, and be comfortable with that. His truth was so scary and dark.

I know. And to be able to use solitary confinement, that confinement, to actually explore his inner world that way, and to be truthful with himself about the result is what's so fascinating and what's so fascinating about the first book, writing my wrongs and what's so fascinating now about how to be free, that you were able to really tap into what that looks and feels like even before he was let go. Right. You say Ben taught you an important lesson about failure.

What is that? Yeah. So, you know, Ben and I, we talk a lot about success. And I remember asking what does success mean? And he said to me, it's a series of smart decisions in a step by step. And I ended up asking that question again recently. And he was like, it's the same thing with failure. It's a series of steps taking an opposite direction.

And I was like, whoa. Because, you know, it's like we can think about the steps toward something positive and progressive, but we don't also always think about failure as, it's a series of things that you also do. Felon to show up, felon to be curious, felon to follow through. All these things are steps that lead in one very clear direction. You're going to fail. And that was just, it was so mind-blowing to hear that his perspective on it. I think it was so mind-blowing is that you told Felicia, this guy's a real criminal.

Don't invite him to the house. And now you guys are like best buddies. Well, thank you, Ben, for joining us. Thank you for being a part of it. Thank you. Thank you. So you've been out of prison now for 15 years, as we said at the beginning of this conversation. And almost as long as you were inside prison.

Yeah. And I hear you recently applied for a pardon. Yes. For the first time. What would a pardon mean for you? now that you are already free and you're writing books about how to be free so what would a pardon mean?

You know, when I first put in the pardon, I thought it would just be a symbolic gesture. Yeah. And what I realized recently, every time that the mail comes and I'm out looking for that letter is that I've wanted it more than I had given myself permission to believe.

And what it means for me is that I'm now back part of the tribe. When you have a felony on your record, you're exile. And even when you're as successful as I've become over this last 15 years, there's still things that come up that's kind of like that. Slap on a hand reminder of this is who you were and this is who we'll always think you are. And, you know, when I was filling out that paperwork, I had delayed it for a long time.

I was like, oh, maybe I get a lawyer to do it, et cetera. And I was like, you know what, you have to do it. And, you know, I've sat, I've carved out the time to do it. And so for me, it's like just getting granted that. would mean I'm back a part of the tribe. This is a question I probably should have asked you at the beginning of this conversation because I think that for most people who think of someone who's been incarcerated and incarcerated for 19 years and incarcerated on, you know, been in solitary confinement,

that the moment you are released from prison, you would, experience freedom in a way that we can't even imagine, you know. I still think of people that I know who are on death row who haven't seen a moon. Yeah, yeah. And haven't seen the stars. And I would just think, wow, everything in life would just feel like freedom, freedom, freedom, freedom. And yet, when I read how to be free, I recognize that there's so many people who are released and are still imprisoned once they're released.

Absolutely, absolutely. Yes. And, you know, for me, I still have that feeling as if I walked out the first day. You do? I marvel at life. I am so in love with life. I'm in love with the details of life. I'm fascinated by so many things.

I'm curious about so many things. Anthony Ray Hinton, who wrote The Sun Does Shine, said that when he came out, rain meant so much to him just to be able to feel the rain. All the details. I love it. And I think it's part of, you know, when I wrote this book, because I want people to go back into that feeling. Because I think we get caught up in the mundane of life

and we forget about the beauty of nature. We forget about the beauty of a casual walk with a friend. We forget about, like, really experiencing food, not just for nourishment, but as a real experience. We forget about, like, what joy is, you know? It's going back to Ben, like, we have these moments where we're just like, do, let's grab this vinyl and listen to music and talk about the details of art

that went into creating this. piece of work. And so to me, it's like every day is a day of freedom. So for someone who's listening to us today, watching us today, and they want to begin the journey for themselves to be free, they should do what? They should start journaling. I would say that's my number one out of everything else. Like meditation is incredible, practice and mindfulness. Those things take a little bit of work. But journaling is something that we all have access to, even with technology. Like if Donnie just sat down and looked at and asked the question, how do you? did I get here.

Yes. It's the same question that you asked. You were in solitary confinement asking it. But asking the question, y'all, wherever you are in your life, of how did I get here and being able to relate to your own story like choice by choice by choice that put you here, I mean, allows you to see, look at all you've endured. Yeah. Yeah.

And even keeping that gratitude journal, you know, like what is the most magic thing that's happened to me today? and that's something that keeps me so grounded and it helps me get through like those tough moments, right? So when I was going through everything with my brother, I was like, I was just writing, you know, I was writing letters to the perpetrator. I was just writing out my thoughts.

Like, how do I really feel? Like, what's living inside my being right now? And then what am I thankful for? You know, what is the thing that brought me a sense of joy today? Yeah. You know, what does that thing look like? The payoff of that is so great, you know, especially when you come back days later,

you move through life, you can start forgetting about, like, how many things did I do this week? That was amazing. It's easy to just move through those things and forget about them. But I try to take it all in. Oh, I do too, and I write down the Godwinks, because you really forget the things that, you know, the things that other people call coincidences or serendipity or whatever,

where you just go, like, wow, how did that thing happen? Yeah. If you don't write it down, you'll forget it. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Absolutely. Thank you for this book. Thank you.

Thank you, Shaka. and thank you for being here today. Thank you, Ben. Thank you for zooming in with us. Shaka's book is How to Be Free, and it's available September 9th, wherever books are sold. To all of you listening and watching,

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