Absolute Motivation - End Laziness and Find Motivation: Wake Up with Empowering Speeches

Episode Date: December 18, 2024

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You're never, ever, ever, ever going to feel like doing the things you need to do in order to have what you want. You're always going to need to push yourself. You're always going to need to parent yourself. So what is the net advice on this? What is the bottom line? The bottom line is no one's coming. No one. No one's coming to push you.

No one's coming to tell you to turn the TV off. No one's coming to tell you to get out the door and exercise. Nobody's coming to write the business plan for you. It's up for you. And because you're only ever going to do the things that you feel like doing right now or that feel good right now, unless you understand that you've got to parent yourself, you've got to push yourself. You're not going to make your dreams come true.

You're just not. We're not wired that way. You weren't born that way. You weren't that way when you were growing up, and you're certainly not that way as an adult. And there's a tremendous amount of liberation that comes when you accept the fact that you're always going to need to give yourself a push.

Quicker you could focus on how to fix it. The quicker you can learn from your failure, the quicker you can anchor those emotions, those feelings. That's when knowledge becomes wisdom. Information, we can all get it. There's more information out now than ever before in history. So, knowledge is easy to find in today's world. Information, easy to find.

Wisdom? Ha, that's hard to come by. Because wisdom is when you take knowledge, take information, put it into play, get your ass kicked in some places, learn from your mistakes, learn from the pain, and power through. So, again, this is what I want you to think about. I don't care where you are. If you hold a grudge shorter than anybody else, go shorter.

If you rebound from a failure quicker than anyone you know, rebound quicker. Successful people rebound fast. And while they're rebounding, they're actually learning from the horrible experience they had. Transform the experience. Transform the experience from something you call a failure, something painful into, wow, I got that one out of the way. I learned from it. I know what to do next. Need something else that's going to get you off the hook.

And it has to be that core belief system in your life. A belief system that you put in place when you were emotionally sober. And you said to yourself, I'm making a pledge. I do and believe that which moves me towards my life. goals period not when it's convenient always and that becomes a guiding light in my life if the guiding light in your life is that you only do and believe that which moves you towards your goals when you get into that loop of beating yourself up and thinking that you're worthless or that you're never gonna make it remember

that belief does not serve you and you don't do things that don't serve you Limiting belief that I'm not good enough, I'm not smart enough, I'm too young, I'm too old. Somehow we have information and experiences that says this is real. But what does that really mean? What it means is not only does it affect what we do or don't do, but it affects the lens by which we're seeing the world. We only see the world through the lens of our empowering beliefs or disempowering belief. So imagine if you had a lens, whether it's on your camera or on your glasses, and

and all of a sudden you put a coating on it to take out all the blue light, you're not going to see the world the same. All the blue light is gone while limiting beliefs or empowering positive beliefs do the exact same thing. Responsibility to me is it's about understanding and knowing that you have the power to control your destiny, that it's about living your life from a place of creation, that most people go through life doing what I call living their lives as volunteer victims.

When you take responsibility for your life, it's about knowing that you have to develop yourself, that you don't get in life what you want, you get in life what you are. You have to develop your mind, you have to develop your skills, you have to have a talent, ability, that you are cultivating so that you can create value

for the world with what it is you have, with your gift. But that's where it starts. It starts with a willingness to persist long after it's boring. It starts with the ability to focus on your end customer, long after you're exhausted. It starts with the ability to think about those people that you really want to serve when you're scared

and have no idea how you're gonna pull it off. But you chose to believe that you could do it. You chose to believe that. And because you chose to believe that, you were able to achieve excellence. Going out and doing the hard things, to see how much of your people potential you can actuate, pursuing greatness in a very specific direction, is, I believe,

the only thing that will make people happy. So when I look at depression, anxiety, all on the rise, all rampant, people feeling lost, not knowing what they want to do, where they want to be, the answer is, decide you're going to be extraordinary at something, because it gives you more energy than it takes, but get that thing in your life and then go after it with everything you have, with total disregard for balance, that you pour yourself into it in a way, you give yourself over to it. And I think we have one more bifurcation. You've got the family, which provides a similar sense of deep fulfillment, and I think that's a perfectly valid choice. And then on this side,

you've got an equal lack of balance. All in totally committed, do or die, I would give myself over to this thing that I'm building, right? And that's where I'm at. I believe that all of us have a responsibility that we want to live a life that will outlive us, the work that you're doing. There are people that you will never meet whose lives that you transform, that you're living a life that will outlive you. But because of something you say or you interrupt that story of being hopeless and powerless and. and not wanting to be here anymore. And because they took the time to watch, you create an experience.

Oliver Windor Holmes said that once a man and woman's mind has been expanded with an idea, concept, or experience, it could never be satisfied to going back to where it was. And so at the end of the program, at the end of one of your presentations, there are people who their lives will be transformed, and they will become a pivotal. pencil as Mother Teresa would say in the hand of God and started writing a new chapter with their lives.

I almost made it. But, screw, but. We all have that. We all have something. We're all different. We all have unique circumstances, but the people who make the difference are the ones that stay in the game and have a process to get through the game. When you wake up in the morning, your willpower is strongest. When you wake up in the morning, you've got a full well of mental focus, and we know that focus in our world is even more valuable than intelligence. You've got the world to yourself. There's no crowds. You can think, you can plan, you can care for yourself in a world where so many people are so depleted.

The impact I want to have in the world is for everybody to be able to face who they are. You can put your life on a billboard. You are not ashamed of what life made you, what you helped life make you. No longer ashamed of. Stop judging yourself against other people who have hidden it better than you. I want you to realize that this world, life is one big head game. And once you learn to play the head game, it's no longer a game anymore at all. You can start living your life.

The only thing that got me out of bed was shame. So you have to understand. to understand that people had not misidentified me. This is not a story of someone who was born extraordinary. People just couldn't see it, that I was secretly this amazing person who was just waiting for their opportunity to shine. This was somebody who was lazy-ass, had no idea what they were going to do with their life. I had no idea how I was going to pull it off. I was absolutely terrified. Every time I looked in the mirror, I saw me staring back. And I knew how lazy I was. I knew how afraid I was.

I knew how insecure I was. I knew that at my core, I wanted people to like me, and I was terrified that they had every reason in the world not to like me. But instead of becoming someone who was worthy of self-respect, I was trying to create the illusion that I was something, because that seemed like I could do it fast, instead of just buckling down and doing the hard-ass work of becoming somebody new. In the race of life, life's not going to give you a glass of water.

when you're thirsty. You work on mental callousing on a daily basis because you're, you know, your brain, your mind, like your brain isn't the muscle so much, you will lose it. You will lose the ability to suffer in the worst of times if you come out of it for too long. Because I had one failed misunderstanding, I believed that my talent and intelligence were fixed traits. I was born a certain way, and life was about making the most of what I'd been born with. What I did not yet understand

is the reason humans are the ultimate apex predator is because we are the ultimate adaptation machine. You have to watch who's speaking into you. You've got to begin to monitor your mind, and you've got to begin to literally be proactively in programming yourself to success. Be not conformed to this world. Be it transformed by the renewing of your mind.

You've got to take responsibility to make that happen. And as you begin to do that, you'll begin to see some incredible changes in your life. I understand now when Earl Nightingale said, all of us are self-made, but only the successful will admit it. As you begin to look at your dreams and look at your goals, write this down, make no your vitamin.

See, most people stop short of their dreams. stop short of their dreams and park and get off the highway of life because of the rejections of life. You will always be rejected. It's no big deal. I can't feel said rejection is a myth. It's not like what somebody says no and then they slap you. You need to be clear what it is you really want. I always tell people, you know, not only what you want, but why you want it.

I know this is simplistic, but most people just don't do the blocking and tackling of their life. When you're not sure what you're going to do, you're going to hesitate. And hesitation kills momentum. And momentum is what makes a sports team win. It's what makes an athlete, a business person win. When you get momentum, it takes enormous energy to get a rocket out of our gravitational pull of the Earth. But out the solar system is easy.

Once it has momentum, it takes less fuel, less energy. Starting a relationship, starting a business, changing your body, it takes so much in the beginning. But once you get going, it's actually really easy. Live in a dominant culture that is designed to destroy your sense of self, to connect with this power that you have. this power that you have within yourself to handle where you are. All of us, if you're really going for something extraordinary, I think all of us are going to

fail at least as much as we succeed, maybe more. And so fearing the low moments is not the right way to think about it. Re-contextualize that failure as a learning opportunity. Earn people's respect, not command it, earn people's respect by getting back up on your feet. And if you rebound quickly with energy and enthusiasm. Even if some people take the opportunity to kick you while you're down, in the long run, people will gravitate towards you because they see that you're real, you're not posing. To me, make no, you're a vitamin. Get excited about it. No, why? Because

every time someone says no, that brings you another step to a yes. You're getting closer. Trust me, you will win if you don't quit. You'll You will win if you don't quit. Even a broke clock is right twice a day. Earning respect, you're going to be getting so good at something that you can't be denied. And this is one of those things that I say without judgment. I'm not saying that you're not talented. I'm not saying that you haven't demonstrated competence.

But I am saying that if you can be ignored, the only way out of that is to continue to get better, get to the point show it so many times that it is just self-evident. When something happens to you, you don't deny it. You defy it. And I was defiant, that I'm going to beat this, I'm going to handle this, that there are people who many times when something happens to them, that they embrace it from a place of fear, and it takes them out. And Elsie Robinson said,

things may happen to you and things will happen around you, but the most important things, the things that happen in you. Why, like if you had to boil it down, why did most people fail? Got it locked? The answer is they never started. The moment we switch on that system for alert or for emergency, we alter ourselves in some way,

and all of that response that we have to an environment that we perceive as threatening or dangerous pretty much causes us to move out of balance. And when you're out of balance, you're in survival. When you're in survival, you want to rush to get things done. You can't be present. You believe everything equal to the feeling of fear or hostility because information is relevant to you in that emotional state.

So, watching people then that they have some type of control over that, That that sympathetic response, that emergency system that switches on, is preparing you for something you can't predict. That's an unknown, something you can't control. That survival system causes us to move more into our animal nature. So short term it's great, but you keep doing it over and over again, you start becoming more and more conditioned to that rush of energy. So teaching people how to self-regulate, teaching them how to move back into the present moment, teaching them that they can shorten their responses.

It's really not that you react. I mean, we all react. The question is, how long are you going to react for? Because if you keep that reaction going then, then you can't perceive any change in your environment. You won't have any ability to heal. So you become more affected by your environment. I really believe that it's about getting them to understand

that you will be happy and fulfilled if you do whatever you do in your life off your own steam. You know, I think that's for me that the single biggest learning is like, don't look for shortcuts, don't look for people to give you handouts, like go figure it out for yourself because that is what will make you the most satisfied, happy person that you can be. Now, the reason that most people never start is because they don't think that they're going to get a result from their actions. And then that's going to come down to a belief

that they believe about themselves. I don't have the natural talent. I wasn't born at the right time or in the right neighborhood. My parents didn't teach me that. The hard thing is taking the first step. Everything else is just persistence. If you want to be great,

you want to be baddest ever at which you do, you can be misunderstood by everybody because you're going to be so obsessed and so driven to get there. who it takes. It takes every second of your life. Anybody says balance? Yeah, balance is important for a lot of people. It is. But if you want to go to that edge where people do not like you, don't understand you, question everything you do, you've arrived. When you are misunderstood to the point where people think you're psycho and you're nuts and you're this and that,

why are you in the gym at 1 o'clock in the morning? You will never understand what is wrong with me. It's not when people don't understand you anymore, you're in that spot of obsession and drive. I don't want to talk to you, man, because you're not going to get it. I don't want you to get it. A really big, scary topic for people, but it is like it absolutely paralyzes people. And I don't know how to explain to you that until you've been to the depths of the canyon of despair, like that's where the learning and the growth comes from and you come to back so much stronger on the other side and if you haven't done that then you haven't failed then

there was no point and but I do feel like you get to a point later in your career for anyone the stakes get higher it gets tougher and if you haven't been through some really shuddy times and endured you will not have the intestinal fortitude to handle it life's beauty and its fragility are interwoven. So for every single person, the normal experience of life is that we're going to have illness, we're going to have loss, we're going to have breakups. And so when we force ourselves to always be positive, we're not living in the world as it is. We're living in the world as we wish it to be. In other words, forced positivity is not helpful. Force positivity is denial. Force positivity is avoidance.

Force positivity is gaslighting yourself. It's basically pretending to yourself that your inner experience is not valid and trying to paper over your inner experience with something else because the culture tells us to. So our difficult thoughts, emotions and stories are actually normal. They are part of our body and psychology's way of adapting to grit, to looking up, for things that might be going wrong. We have around 16,000 spoken forths every single day, many more thousand that course through our mind. You're operating from a place of hustling with your emotions actually takes resources,

and so you're not able to then bring yourself in a way that's breathing and centered into your experience. So what's the difference? And he said, if you're interested, you'll do what's convenient. You'll come up with stories and excuses and reasons why you can't. And we'll use your education as an excuse. You'll use your stories and excuse. You'll use all of that as your reasons why you can't. He says, but if you're committed, you will do whatever it takes.

You'll let go of your stories. You'll let go of your excuses. You'll let go of all the reasons you currently have that are formulating your identity of yourself. And you'll learn how to let that go. go and become who you are destined to become. The only belief that matters is that you can learn anything. The only thing I want to know, who are you willing to become and what's the price you're willing to pay to get there.

You can use a simple trick. The moment you feel yourself hesitate, the moment you've got one of those moments where you've got to step outside of your comfort zone and you've got to lean into your passion and you've got to really take some risks and you've got to feel the fear and you got to do it anyway, that's the moment where you just will just look. woke up and now you got a decision to make. Are you going to drift back into the habits or are you going to awaken your prefrontal cortex and drive forward and focus and do something new?

We have two voices in our mind and boy I know they're fucking true. I've heard them. I hear them now. And the real, it's that one voice. That voice I used to love the fucking hear that we love to hear. It's that soft motherfucker. It's okay. It's that calling voice.

You want to be hugged and nurtured. That says, it's going to be okay. Well, there's another motherfuckin' voice that wakes you up in the middle of the night. It's not your girlfriend. It's not your boyfriend. It's that demon fucking voice. You're not good enough. You've got to work fucking harder.

You haven't put enough time in. It's that voice you want to run away from. It's that voice you don't want to hear. But guess what? It's that voice you need to fucking listen to you. Should I quit? Should I give in? I'm constantly, I spent the first five years daily contemplating quitting. It wasn't fun. And there's just a part of you, I think, and anything you're doing when you're struggling, is this really for me? Is this my destiny? Should I be doing this? We misread failure from some sign. You know, is this a sign I shouldn't be doing it? You know, is this a sign I am, you know, not cut out for this? Instead of looking for signs that you can win, right? And so I spent the first five years literally trying to find, ways to quit, trying to find ways to get out, struggling and struggling and struggling. I believe the very meaning of life is to find out how many skills you can acquire that have

utility and then put that utility to the test in service of someone else. I've worked my ass off for this set of skills. They are unique to me and they help other people. And in being able to help other people with something that I worked very hard for, I feel good about myself. And I will make you guys one promise right here today. The game you're playing, please listen to this. The game that you're playing is not success. The game that you're playing is not money.

The game that you're playing is brain chemistry. It's about fulfillment. The only thing ultimately that's ever going to matter in your life is how you feel about yourself when you're by yourself. I think everybody has fear all wrong. People have so many theories about fear. They talk about, oh, well, I'm afraid of success. No, I'm afraid of failure.

I'm afraid of intimacy. I'm afraid of heights. I'm afraid of this. I'm afraid of that. I'm afraid of the other thing. There's actually only two fears. Only two. Life is about persuading people.

Life is about influencing people. And fear is the invisible force that will make you ineffective at that. It will stop you. Impossible is not a fact. It's an opinion. Things are impossible until somebody does it. But most people have strategies available,

or they could get them or you could create them. But the problem is you've got a story. And your story is why it isn't working. Oh, I've got this great idea, but I just don't know if it's the right time. And I say, yeah, you know, you're right. The recession, it's huge. You should weigh.

Those dreams, yeah, put them on hold. That's right. You should, you should say, you know, you should say, you're right. stay in that job you can't stand just a little bit long you get college bills to pay I mean you know what you're doing it's fine you're busy right you know that's right you know exactly what you want and the only thing that you need to do is to admit it now this may sound weird because I know most of you came in here because you're like I know what I want I'm here at success I'm trying to figure it out I'm talking

about something bigger much bigger what's the decision you You already know, I could go backstage now. There's something you've been hesitating on. There's a contact you need to make, isn't there? There's a job you need to quit. There's a relationship you need to engage in. Maybe there's a relationship you need to leave. I don't know what it is, but I know there's a decision that you need to make to take you

to the next level, just like I know that's true for me. Because decisions shape our destiny when they're backed up by some massive ass action. Okay, but you can't take the action if you don't decide. People avoid being desperate. the fact they come here tonight and they're down they're not where they want to be financially the relationships aren't what they want maybe they're in a desperate place and you might think that's a negative thing but when you're in a desperate place you take the best actions desperation is a great place to be those of you that are achieving one of the reasons the achievement is slowed down

is you've allowed yourself to feel less desperate when you were broke and starting your business or when you are brand new in your relationship when you remove desperation all this bullshit creeps into your life where you think you have to have the perfect plan and look at you're look the perfect way and have the perfect thoughts and be all zen and perfect. What you need is to be desperate. And one of the things I emphasize that changing is not easy, that changing your life, changing habits, reinventing yourself, picking yourself up after life has knocked you flat on your back.

I've got to say when life knocked you down, try and land on your back because if you can look up, you could get up. Well, that sounds cute, but that's not easy. So I've got to dig in and got to fight more. Because at the end of the day, life is a fight for territory. And once you stop fighting for what you want, what you don't want will automatically take over. And so it's a fight. It's a challenge in life every day.

And what we have to do is embrace it. What we have to do is see it as a project to be worked on it. I read something once that I lived by, said in life you will always be faced with a series of God-ordained opportunities brilliantly disguised as problems and challenges. And if that's the game that we're playing, if I can construct my belief system, if I can choose at any moment,

believe something that's more empowering than I was believing the moment before, and that that will actually find its way into my actions, allow me to do things that I couldn't do the moment before. any moment, you can choose to believe something new about yourself. Now the weird thing about belief is as soon as you change that belief it becomes true. Turn your wounds into wisdom. You will be wounded many times in your life.

You'll make mistakes. Some people will call them failures. But I have learned that failure is really God's way of saying, excuse me, you're moving in the wrong direction. Partly because you have something valuable to bring into the world. It's the thing about being an individual. As an individual, you have a light that you have to bring into the world. And that if you don't bring it into the world, the world is a dimmer place.

And that's a bad thing because when the world is a dim place, it can get very, very, very dark. You need to take care of yourself because you're in the best position to do that. When you want to succeed, as bad as you want to breathe, young man, then you will be successful in any area of your life. I truly believe that thoughts are the greatest vehicle to change power and success in the world. Everything begins with us. Hard thing to accept, but in our lives, we are getting out of our life right now exactly what we believe we're worthy of, exactly what we think we deserve. Our life is a direct reflection of our identity, which is the thoughts, concepts, beliefs, values, and worth we hold true to be about ourselves. And so as hard as it is to accept, we're getting out of life right now what we believe we're worth.

Fighting yourself to maintain positivity is the hardest fight you ever going to have. And it's like that struggle to just stay my course, to, you know, be the person in the world that I wanted to be no matter what people said. I started to call it offensive positivity. Weak people are a problem in general. And I don't mean physically weak. I mean cowardly, let's say, and deceitful, because I'm thinking it more in terms of moral weakness. Don't make your pathway, if you don't pick a forthright and useful and noble pathway through life, then you'll become bitter and too hurt by the tragedy of existence,

and then you tend to seek your revenge wherever you can get it, and that's not good. You have to figure out if you're stuck is, are you the kind of person that is guilty of needing, wanting, waiting for external forces, people, an event, some outside force to kick you in the ass that will finally do the stuff that you've been dreaming about doing. I want to tell you something. No one's coming. No one. Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life because you become what you believe.

If you can be still long enough in all of your endeavor. the good times, the hard times, to connect yourself to the source, I call it God, you can call it whatever you want, to the force, nature, Allah, the power. If you can connect yourself to the source and allow the energy that is your personality, your life force to be connected to the greater force, anything is possible for you. Responsibility for it. That you make it happen, that you don't give up, that you don't take any objection or disappointment or defeats personally that you keep on keeping on that you don't decide that I can't make it because you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel

that you realize that's a part of the program and here's something you've got to resolve say this to yourself every day see as long as you're breathing you got a shot at your dream that's the way I resolve say this please it's not over till I will the victim mindset it is real in the sense that There are definitely people in the world that have a hardest situation than others. That's fact. There's no debating that point, that there are people who have it

are harder than other people. And in our small bubbles, our hardship feels like the worst thing that could ever happen. And that's the craziest thing about pain is that you only think pain is bad when you're really going through it. And we compare our pain with other people's pain. So the reason why,

why I encourage people to get out of that mindset is because that's just a one-way ticket to a lifelong commitment to sadness, disappointment, lethargy, complacency, and feeling stuck and lost. There's nothing gained out of feeling sorry for yourself. And we believe we're worth it because of these patterns and our identity. The highest level is to choose the emotions

we want to experience and to begin to run patterns that serve us and eliminate the ones who move us further from them. Life. Life is an openness. Death is closing, isn't it? Death is a closure. Life is a possibility. If you're just alive, everything is open. This all people are doing to themselves. I like this guy. I don't like that guy. This is somebody I love. That's somebody I hate. This is belongs to me. This doesn't belong to me. They're just killing themselves, step by step. They are planning to die in installments. If you want to live, here you are.

You must make up your mind. Whether you want to live or you want to die. You want to know the certainty of death in life. This is called belief. This is called belonging. This is called identification. Because you are trying to find the certainty of death in the seamless process of life.

Not weakness, vulnerability. That's a whole different thing. To admit to the fact that you're vulnerable, that's a form of courage, that's not a form of weakness, but that leads you to take whatever steps are necessary to deal with that properly. It isn't some facade that you're invulnerable. No one is invulnerable by any stretch of the imagination.

And to stand up and face that is the best route that you have. Where other people are seeing a failure or a setback, or even a little problem, you want to look for the gold. Truth and you will survive everything, everything. You will survive everything if you can live your life from the point of view of truth.