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Episode Date: December 5, 2025

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It's going to feel better when it's over. And you know this. You know this. You know that when you get done doing the hard thing, it's going to feel better. Your standard has to live inside of you. It has to be in your heart. It has to be in your blood.

And it has to be in your soul. And it has to be the way that you live. You cannot live any other way if you want to be great. It's about how you move. when no one's watching. It's about how you work when you're not going to get applause. It's not about what you do on Instagram. It's about what you do in reality.

If you want to be great, you have to be willing to prepare, prepare, and prepare. And when a cat has talent, they think they can just walk out there and do what they do with their talent until they meet a cat that's prepared. Because that is life, my friends. Life is not supposed to be easy. Life is not supposed to be predictable. Life is supposed to be hard and difficult. Come with sets of challenges and unknowns,

and it is our job to solve these things. And if we can build resiliency, we can push through the hardship. It is your ability to suffer a setback and then bounce back quicker. It is your ability to create forward momentum, even when things are not favorable, even when the odds are stacked against you, and the potential for a positive outcome is lower than normal. When you make mistakes, they add up.

They add up. One mistake compounds and leads to another, which leads to another, and they can lead you to a downward spiral of destruction. You know what else adds up? The positive things. Small sacrifices that you make to do things right. The daily discipline required to get you where you want to get to. Those little positive things add up too.

Here's the question, why don't we do them? Why don't we do them? It's because they add up slowly. If you can get through to doing things that you hate to do, on the other side is greatness. I think a lot of personal growth is training yourself on how you respond to hard. The more I think about it as a competitive landscape

as I'm clear on what this path is supposed to look like and these rocks and these dragons are things that I'm going to have to slay along the way to get the princess or get the treasure. I get happier about the harder it is because I know that no one else will follow. Man, why am I not doing this for myself? Because that is the number one purpose in life

is to better oneself. You don't have enough time. And no one does. No one has enough time. It's a finite commodity. And we're all running out of time. And that is why we can't waste any time. Can't waste time sitting around and doing nothing,

can't waste time scrolling through social media, you can't waste time. In fact, what you need to do every chance you get is you need to make time. You need to make time. You need to get up earlier. How can you move faster with more efficiency and maximum effectiveness?

Get that sense of urgency and go get after it. get after it. I tell the same thing to anybody, no matter what your field is, if you really want it that bad, you'll make it happen, you know? It's not your choice to decide. This is something that I shouldn't have dealt with. I don't want to deal with it. I shouldn't be dealing with it. If it's happened to you, it's happened to you and that's it. You're dealing with it. It wasn't your choice, but it's your responsibility as a person. If you want to be better, if you want to be better, to take that loss and to let it propel you forward. You have no fucking idea how great you are because you are using such minimal minimal of what you have figure out what you want ignore the

opinions of others do so much work it would be unreasonable that you fail realize it never mattered to begin with help others once you get there you've already achieved the things you said would make you successful we all have dreams i had when i was younger so i figured the best place to make those dreams are in isolation. So I walked into isolation as Dave the guidance. But I walked out of isolation as guidance. When you become a savage is in isolation. That's what your mind changes.

That's what your focus changes. Your dedication changes. Gain focus. Isolation is the key to strengthen your mind. You know, one way of looking at unhappiness is people who are in one way or another in a tunnel. They say, the only way to live is this way. They're not happy with it, but it seems the only way. I've got to love this person, though it's not making me happy.

I've got to do this job, though it's a prison. I've got to live in this place, though I don't like it. You know, we can unpick some of those things and say, really? Is that absolutely necessary? Human beings are brilliant at building themselves cages and throwing away the key. We are built to constantly compare ourselves to other people. We're always thinking of what the other person has how we are in relation to them.

Are we getting as much attention as that other person? This started off when we were children. Are we getting more attention than our siblings from our parents? So we're continually comparing ourselves in rank and power and status to the people around us. For the most part, our thinking is born of obsession and usually wrapped up in a whole lot of jump from the outside. Past things, things that we project into the future, stuff we saw on TV, stuff that we heard on the internet something somebody said to us. Most of our thinking is not serving us because it doesn't come

from stillness. It's a form of activity, not actual. I want them to come up against the point where they're going to give up and quit and they're going to sit there and nobody else is giving up and quitting and they're going to go all in more and they're going to start believing what there's something on the other side of that emotion. They're going to believe that there's something past the story of their past because they're stretching themselves out of the known and it takes a tremendous amount of awareness, repetition, information, model building, sharing, understanding, experiencing to finally have a person get to the point where they just let go. You better be real careful with the words that you tell yourself because that right there,

how you view yourself, how you talk to yourself, how you look in the mirror and how you perceive yourself, that's the same way you're going to see the world, the same way you're going to talk to the world, and the same thing you're going to get out of the world. So you better be real careful on the story you tell yourself on how you feel about yourself. Otherwise, what are you going to expect? The origin of wisdom, according to the Greeks, was know thyself, right? And I believe that very firmly, that knowledge about who you are is an end in itself and will help you in so many ways become that human being that I think we all have the potential to become. The first and most important thing is that you have to

understand that if 95% of who you are is a set of unconscious programs, then the first step is lighting a match in a dark place. If you want to become someone else, you've got to become aware of who you are. How you can change your circumstances by changing your attitude. Your attitude towards life will determine what you get if you're avoidant and hostile towards people. A hostile person will tend to create hostility around it. Revelation is very clear. Revelation is very clear. Revelation is very eminent revelation is what's being revealed to you what's right in front of your eyes if only you stop thinking but I told myself the guy that hires me is gonna be proud he picked me so what do you gotta do you got to show up every day and

what happened is I was on this path here's that path right there it just glows and all of a sudden people start jumping off the guy over time kids drugs failure doesn't matter excuses I don't care what it is but if you stay on that path and people are jumping off, you show up and guess what happens? You become the oldest gang of the team. I think that you don't suffer less. You suffer differently. And the most important thing is if you're not alone.

Probably the most difficult thing in all our experiences and certainly in the experience of pain or loss or suffering or ache is not to be alone. Each time I feel anger at my sibling or my mother or friends. friend for saying something that I misinterpreted, I go, that's your ego speaking. These people weren't saying something that was personal. You just have your ego, which is always getting in your way. Question it. You see, the moment your life will change is the moment that you turn your reasons of why you can't

into your reasons of why you can. You learn to love yourself in the context of your relationships with others. It's interactive. You do do, you need a good amount of self-awareness, but you also need to be in relationships because it's people who help you become more aware. It's simple. Knowledge, experience, wisdom.

Philosophy, initiate that philosophy, master it. Mind, body, soul, thinking, doing, being. Learning with your head, applying with your hands, knowing it by heart. And this is the journey of knowledge. because when you learn that information and you really study it, you are going to begin to see the world differently because your brain is changing.

Imperfection stalks us. I don't think we will ever overcome it. And indeed the quest to be immortal, to be free of blemishes, to be always correct, to say and feel always the appropriate thing is in itself a form of madness and wrongness. And I think that we best accommodate ourselves

to the conditions of life. By accepting in an a priori way that we are flawed, those around us will be flawed, we will make errors, those around us will make errors. We are largely in the dark, therefore we need to go easy on ourselves and be generous towards others. If I could stay connected to the emotions of my future all day long, there's no way I would be looking for when it would be happening. How could I look for when it would be happening if I feel like it's happening? I wouldn't look anymore, which means I wouldn't be separate from it. And that's when you start creating that. So that somebody else tells you,

I too have gone through this. That's why we read books that inspire us from other people who have also lost and found their way back and saw the light again and they created new hope and reconnected with someone and allow themselves to love again and have another child and start another business, whatever it is. You know, you go through it,

but you have a sense that there is, that thing called going through it and that you can come out of it on the other side, that there is hope. You want to love life. You want to love fate. And what fate means, things happen to you can't control. You didn't control who your parents are. You didn't control what city you were born into, what school you went into.

You didn't control whether you were born rich or poor, right? There's much you can't control. That's fate. Accept it for what it is. Stop whining and stop going. I want something else. Embrace your world, your life. Our fear of death is probably the greatest influence in our behavior.

Revelation is literally like, it's not something very mystical. It's look at what's right in front of you. Most of the times if there's a crisis, if we just stop and open our eyes, the path is revealed right in front of us. If you think about the human experience, what really matters? is not so much your grades or the job that you have. All of these are mean schools.

They are a means to an end, right? But if you ask a human being to share with you the moments in life that they're most grateful for, all of those moments often deal with inner states. It's falling in love. It's carrying your first child in your arm. It's the joy of accomplishing your first big win. And all of these, all of these are states of happiness, states of joy, states of human connectivity.

Power begins from within. If you're aware of who you are, if you're aware of what you're good at, what you're not good at, if you're able to see how emotions kind of govern your life, if you can learn what your weaknesses are and how to control them,

you can't ever get complete control, but awareness is almost enough. You know, like if I resist change, if I resist getting out of my comfort zone, How many things in your life have you missed out on because you resisted it? I believe our lives are controlled by one force, decisions. I certainly believe in force greater than myself. Call it God, if you will, grace, whatever you want to call it, the universe.

But I also believe it gives us choices. And the decisions we make control us much more than the conditions we meet. It's not the conditions that your decisions. Decisions of what to believe, decisions what to do, decision is what to give. I say to people, think about, you know, look back 10 years ago, 5 years ago, 15 years ago, and think of a decision you made, that if you would have made a different decision, you'd have a totally different life today. If you turn around and you confront the suffering voluntarily,

you'll find out that you are way tougher than you think. It's not that life is better than you think. Life is as harsh as you think. It might even be worse, but you are way tougher than you think if you turn around and confront it. Humility to recognize, you know, what got you here won't get you there as the saying goes, right? And to say at some point, if you really want to change and are really stuck, I know nothing. I'm letting go of everything. And I'm sort of going to relearn as like that with a childlike mind.

Living my purpose, knowing what my purpose is, if there's a why, I could handle anything. If I'm not a purpose, if I've got a reason, bigger than myself, bigger than the circumstance I'm living in, bigger than whatever's in front of me, when I have a purpose, I could make it through anything. Pain is pleasure. You've got to make the connection between the physical and the mental. When you work out, it's painful. Well, you know that when you're exercising, when you're running or you're working out, whatever. it hurts, but it leads to something pleasurable. I'd really master this principle of neutrality, which is to go to that place that's not either happy or sad or good or bad or negative or positive. I would call it that spiritual center,

that center of all wisdom, you know, the source, and then really get clear about, okay, what's that that I'm going to create? around me. A purpose is really like a why. Why am I alive? Why am I on this earth? What is my purpose on this planet? Love is the most powerful purpose we can have. There is a nick out there in the world that I call the hustle me. It says that it's about hard work, that it's about working harder than the competition. It's about busting your back for a hundred hours a week. You can hustle or you can surrender into your inner space and I'm a big fan of surrendering into your inner space. The most important decision you can make above any on the face of the earth is deciding that no

matter what happens in your life, no matter what happens, you're going to live in a beautiful state. This mass, you know, fear that that's going around is just, it's not just this physical threat and virus, it's this virus of the mind. Make no mistake about it. Like, The first noble truth of Buddhism, life is suffering. This is true, and it's worse than that, because it's suffering contaminated by malevolence. That's the baseline. But the optimistic part is that you are so damn tough

you can actually not only deal with that, you can improve it. Each project, each thing that you do in life, you have to kind of create that feeling in the gut like, oh, I don't know if I'm going to be able to pull it off. You've got to feel a little bit of that nervousness and that excitement and that sense. sense of I've got to build it now.

What you're going through is temporary and that what's permanent is how you feel. What's permanent is your attitude. You could still be joyful. You could still be happy. You could still be blessed. You have more of a probability of it shifting by shifting your attitude. It means a beautiful state is that you're going to be happy. But that's only what?

Or you're going to feel creative. or you're going to be passionate, or you're going to be an awe of something, or you're going to feel love. Any state that's a beautiful state is really the core essence of who you are without fear. Same thing with your mind as you ask a question, you start focusing on that, and if you just focus on fear and everything that's wrong in the world, that's all you see because your brain is always deleting stuff because there's a billion stimuli that we could focus on

and what gets through that filter that's not deleted are the things that you care about, things that you ask questions about. And so if you're just focusing on the fear, you're not seeing, you become very myopic on, you feel like that's the whole world, and you're not focusing on opportunity, you're not focusing on what you'd be grateful for,

you know, or all these to be amazing blessings and fortunes in your life, and that becomes reality. You're born pure and fresh and vulnerable and spontaneous and in the moment, and slowly through life experiences and your caregivers, you get loaded with a lot of baggage. And I think one of the goals of life is how much of that baggage can you cut away before you leave this planet.

And I do believe, I think the fact that we're armed for the task is even more true than the fact that life is catastrophe, contaminated by malevolence. We're stronger than things are terrible. And it's not naive optimism. Very different thing. It's like, no, things are terrible. They're brutal.

And you are so damn tough, you can't believe it. What surrendering means is to accept, to own, and to be without judgment about it. By surrendering and accepting and embracing, then I get to love me as I am, love whatever the situation is as it is. I don't have to like something to love it. We tend to become addicted to or very comfortable with the feelings associated with who we think we are. Know yourself in the circumstances that create certain feelings about who you think you are, right? So you think yourself as a loser. You really do.

That's why you keep doing, you can't win. Every time you set yourself up to win, you choose not to. To me, failure in life is not having money. It's not realizing your potential. you're 60 years old and you said, I could have been this and I never did it. That's like the worst thought I think anybody can have. And you don't think about it in the moment

because your life is okay, but you've got to wake up and understand that there's an urgency here and that if you're not practicing something now, if you're not aware, if you don't have a path towards something better, you're rotting on the vine and that day of reckoning will come

at some point and it will be painful. You're not going to feel that suddenly it'll be slow, but it'll come and it won't be good. Life is short. We don't know how short it's going to do. So my thing is why wait, right? Why wait? Why not just decide?

My question to you today, my friends, are, and really, I want you to think about this a little bit. I want you to take your time to really meditate on this. Why are you doing the thing that you're doing? All of us want to feel inspired. We all want to feel like we're a part of something bigger than ourselves. We all want to have some sort of physical and psychological safety, whether it's at home or work.

And at the end of the day, every human being on the planet wants the feeling that I can provide for myself and my family. There's nobility and work. I think dreams are fine. Like, it's fun in the fantasize. But I think it's also important to just be honest about what dreams are. is that they're fantasies, they're fun. And so I prefer to kind of take more of a present approach

of like, okay, let's pay attention to like, how does this feel right now? How does the work make you feel now? Because I think if you pay attention to that, that's actually what makes great things happen in your life. And I realize frustration is suffering. I get frustrated, you know? I get concerned, you know, worried sometimes.

I go, okay, that's suffering. Where's it coming? What am I stressed about? What are I concerned about? And what I immediately do is I realize stressful thought, since I've seen Christian G, I kind of traded one thing. What I really do now is I dig in, and I notice that the only time you have stress or suffer

is when you believe a stressful thought. My thing is like, as long as I try my best, as long as I attempt it, then, you know, that's not failing. Because there's a lot of people in life, whether it's in their personal life or in their business life, and they sit on the sideline, they're like, man, I don't have the resources I can't build a business, or I'm not old enough, I don't have the knowledge, or I'm too old, that I can't build a business.

And I always tell people I'd much rather be in the trenches. I much rather be on the field than sitting on the sideline, wasting time and thinking, man, I can't do that. What are you really seeking after? Right? What do you really want? What hole in you? What missing part of you or what sore spot in you is healed by the pursuit of your goals? You need the problems because that's what generates the meaning.

And if you don't have the meaning, then, you know, everything just feels pointless. You're like, well, why do anything? So you need that meaning, you know, it comes back to what I was saying about the stories that we wrap around our positive and negative experiences. You know, that meaning is what creates those powerful stories that pushes us forward and, you know, makes us feel like our life is well lived. I realize, and all I had to do is have my phone to be stressed, if that's true, my happiness is so cheap because what are the chances of everybody doing exactly what you think they should do the right way every day so the antidote to suffering the antidote lost less than ever is appreciation i always tell people trade your expectation for appreciation the whole life changes

the best leaders are actually the best followers the best leaders never think that they're the final that the buck stops with them they always believe that they're in service to something bigger themselves. The majority of not only entrepreneurs but human beings like we start off we can't. Like the majority of people are like oh you can't do this because this this this this and this and it's like humans are very disempowering creatures like if we don't catch our thoughts if we don't catch your patterns if we don't catch the things that come out of our mouth that they're negative like we need to switch that. What really matters is the relationships with the people in their life. If you don't have people close to you to share them with or to support or help support you

pretty much anything will eventually feel empty. Don't confuse humility with meekness. Humility is being open to the ideas of others. Your happiness will never last, as long as it's got expectation like it. What I did was, at the end, realize, I made the decision with the most important decision I believe of your life,

and I'm not going to suffer anymore. Life's too short to suffer, and I'm going to live in a beautiful state every day. And the way I do it is, I catch myself when I start to be. get that sense of stress, I let it go, and I see the idea of mom. Me, self-confidence is measured, and there should be a degree of doubt. When we talk about building one self-confidence, I think the mistake that we make is that we look inside.

I think the reality is when we try to build our self-confidence, we should be looking to our friends, we should be nursing our relationships. When I'm looking to build my self-confidence, the question is, who around me do I need to take care of? Success is not you saying how much money you have in a bank account. It's about who you are and how you show up in the world and how you show up for yourself. Forget about everybody else. How you show up for yourself. I honor your opinion.

I will listen to good feedback, but I don't care if you think I'm a good person, and bad person, successful, and failure. It's not for you to decide for me to decide. They'll complain about being burnt out or they'll complain about being tired. And I don't think necessarily in every case that we're burnt out or tired because we're doing too much. But maybe we're doing too little of the things that really matter that make us feel alive. The only way that change is going to take place is if you see the evidence of the collapse right in front of you. I think the challenge is that people have to wake up.

And the question is, how uncomfortable do you have to become before you make up your mind to change something? In life I don't lose, I only win or learn. Like, if people can realize, like, so many people think, like, they've lost. But, like, if you just pull one piece of information that's good, whether it's a different perspective, extracting knowledge, a different way to go about life, a different way to not fall in your face. Like, that's winning. Appreciation, love, and joy, destroy stuff.

You can't be grateful and angry simultaneously. It's possible. You can't be worried, fearful, and grateful simultaneously. So I tell people gratitude is one of the emotions to cultivate that will destroy. this stuff. Things are going well, you're happy. When things aren't going well, you're sad. But when you learn how to self-regulate and create more coherence in your brain and heart,

then you're no longer dependent on your outer world controlling your mood. The biggest and baddest people are handicapped and crippled by the limiting beliefs, the things that they tell themselves, and that's why I say the biggest disability is a bad mindset. It's not this body. There is how ideal to care. Fear is a figment of our imagination, right? Fear is created because of expectations. Firstly, once you have an expectation of yourself and you say,

hey, I don't need to have this expectation, I'm just living life as a play. It's a game, it's music, it's fun and joy. So I'm doing it for the fun and the joy, so I am enjoying along the ride. Like, I'm not going to kill myself if I don't get there one day. Like, it's not, it doesn't define me. It's there only so I have something to chase.

My goal is not to make everything absolutely equal that not a time in my relationship, to amount of time I spend in the gym, to another time that I'm working on my career. But maybe the goal is like an orchestra. You know, each instrument, they don't necessarily had equal time, that they come together in a way that creates art, you know, a symphony.

Choice is a gift that's always there. You can choose what you focus on, or what you focus on is what you're gonna experience. You can focus on things that make you suffer, or you can focus on things that make you grateful. And of the two, gratitude is the better approach. It's not some man be, family, positive thinking, approach it's intelligent because when you're in a good state you can solve the problem

and like so many people are trying to seek validation from other people they're trying to be working on relationships with girls or trying to you know seek validation from other things and instagram and materialistic things and when the biggest relationship that they should be working on is one within themselves in fact you begin to realize how you think and feel begins to produce effects in your outer life now you start believing more you're the creator of your life and less of the victim of your life. Now, that isn't something that you take one bite of and swallow when it's all over. It's a process of repattering.

It's a process of re-wiring. It's a process of re-conditioning. It's a process of self-reflection and awareness and changing your beliefs. All that matters in the world we live in today, outside your belief systems, is your ability to add value. Fast forward all the way to when we're taking our last breaths. and at that time nobody's opinions

or our fears none of that's going to matter what's going to matter is how we lived how we loved how we laughed how we learned my notion of human well-being is really open-ended

I don't think we understand what the horizon is if in fact there is one for kind of ultimate flourishing of conscious minds we have a pretty good sense of what we don't want and our right not to want

We don't want to be terrorized and depressed. The generic situation we want to find ourselves in more and more is to effortlessly cooperate with creative and happy strangers. There's 7 billion of us. We need institutions and laws and norms and ways of thinking that take the friction out of pleasurable and non-paranoid interaction with strangers. It's not just about having five, you know, five,

so close friends who have your back, right? I mean, clearly, we're all on the same team on some basic level. And if we can't figure out how to build a civilization where everyone thrives to some degree, we'll have the world we currently have. We're in a situation now where I think it's reasonable to worry that our default state of partisanship and tribalism

and rational fear of the incompatible aims of other groups and other people is unsustainable in the presence of more and more destructive technology. I just think we have to get our act together psychologically and socially in a way that we haven't yet. Philanthropy is, when it's telescopic in this way, when you're just signing a check, you're not necessarily connected to the good you're doing.

And I can imagine someone doing immense good in the world by signing very large checks, but not actually internalizing the gratification of that. Some level we have to be aware of the possibility of rowing in two boats simultaneously. It's what the effects are in the world of how we're living. So we want to have a good impact on others. We actually want our conscious states

of psychological pain and pleasure to be mapped in some rational way to the kinds of effects we're having. Having our belief, map onto reality to some degree is obviously good because if they're not you're just bumping into hard objects your map is completely wrong you are bound to suffer right so we have to be in a situation where radical ignorance can't be bliss may be useful to have a slightly delusional self-serving bias right to think you're coming off better than you are well like it may give you more

enthusiasm for your life more confidence That's one friniscals. So I think we want our beliefs to be true in some basic sense. And therefore, we want to be open to new evidence and better arguments perpetually. If you close yourself off, if you say, well, listen, I'm done. I'm done thinking about reality. And I know what's true. Then again, when more data comes in, you know, when something's surprising,

when one of your intuition is true to be faulty, if you can't error correct, again, you're just going to fall out of alignment with what's going on in the world and what other people think is true. So really the only mechanism we have to do that is human conversation. We have to be open to having other people point out errors in our thinking. And in the conversation we have with ourselves, we have to do like what. We have to be continually open to the possibility that we might be wrong. And in fact, we're very likely to be wrong a lot of the time. And so then, you know, then hence the virtue of getting educated and surrounding yourself with smart people and reading good books and just exposing yourself to the kinds of lessons that other people have learned over, you know, thousands of years and are learning in real time.

Most of what people care about can be thought of as a skill. I mean, well-being is a skill, not suffering unnecessarily as a skill. regulating noticing your emotional life and regulating negative emotion is a skill. So, you know, I have a meditation app and meditation as a skill. It's a very useful one. And I'm spending a lot of time teaching what's now referred to as mindfulness meditation. And the moment you begin practicing mindfulness, which is just learning to pay close attention to the nature of your experience,

not adding anything to your experience, you're just noticing what it's like to be you moment. moment but in a way that is not reactive you're not grasping it what's pleasant or pushing what's unpleasant away let's say you have the fear of public speaking right so you've got to go down on stage and you feel anxiety the the usual the default state of someone who doesn't want to have that experience is to try to figure is one to you know in advance worry about that experience and the anxiety is kindled just by the mere thought of what you have to do then once you feel the butterflies, you are at war with them.

I mean, first, you notice that anxiety isn't even that unpleasant. I mean, it's so close to excitement in its actual physiology that really the difference between excitement and anxiety is more or less just the framing. It's just the story you're telling yourself. You know, if you felt these tingles and this, you know, slightly adrenalineized response right before, you know, you're about to go on a roller coaster, that's part of why you're going on the roller coaster. You like that experience, right? But the fact that you feel that way when you're about to have an interview or you're about to, you know, walk out on stage, that's

intolerable. The sense of self for most of us is not a feeling that we're identical with our bodies. Most people don't feel identical with their physical bodies. They feel like their passengers inside their bodies. Like my body's down here. Like these are my hands, these are my legs. You know, I obviously care about these things. You know, if, you know, I, you know, this is these are my pains and pleasures are coming from, but I'm up here in the head. So much of what we're thinking is making us miserable, right? So much of it is unpleasant, so much of it is causing anxiety. You look at your to-do list, you got 50 things on it.

You just feel like, oh, my, the day is not long enough. This is the state we're in. And the obverse of that is when we're really just connecting with life in a joyful, creative, beautiful way. Like when you look out the window and it's the most beautiful sunset ever and you are just looking at the sunset, right? You're not like you're fully connected with its beauty. Those are all moments where you're losing this sense of self. You're not really aware of losing the sense of self in those moments. You're not really aware of what is freeing about those moments and you can't do it in other

circumstances. What's what's happening for people, most people, is that they're waiting for the world to give them a good enough reason to just be present. And to be present so fully that they lose their sense of self. They're no longer behind their face, you know, just waiting for something good to happen. Or figuring out how to change the experience enough so that, again, they can stop. They're no longer at war. I mean, to a greater or lesser degree, we're always, at war. We're always fighting something.

You know, there's always this like, you know, you're always noticing something wrong, you're feeling uncomfortable in your body, you're reacting to something that somebody did or you thought they did. The moments where you really feel good are moments where you, you, there isn't a coming to rest, right, where it's not about the past or future. You know, it's not even about, it's not about half a second ago, and it's not about half a second from now. And the ultimate version of that is to entails the dropping of this sense of self. For me, flourishing is a matter of spending your time pleasantly and happily and creatively.

Every moment when someone asks you, well, you know, that last hour, that last day, that last week, that last year, do you feel good about that? Was that a good use of your time? that remembering self, that retrospective gesture, that's where people worry about things like meaning. And the remembering self is the self that you're talking to when you say, you know, are you satisfied with your life, whether you're asking yourself or someone's asking you.

The answers that are available in those moments really determine whether or not somebody has a kind of global life satisfaction, and whether they have meaning. But the experiencing self, the self that is just going moment to moment, feeling pains and pleasure and just dealing with this very short time horizon,

I think that is, that's fundamentally our real self. Use of negative imagination where you think of all of the bad things that haven't happened to you. So if you're just, you know, if you're stuck in traffic, driving to the job that you don't like,

and you're frustrated, you can think of all the things that could happen to you, right, that haven't. And if any one of them happened to you, you would consider your prayers answered if you could just be returned to this moment. Right, like you haven't been diagnosed with cancer, right? You've got two young kids say,

you know, you want to live to see them grow up, and you could be the guy who today is going to find out you've got two months to live. That's just more thinking, but it can have a profound effect. You can reframe your experience in a way that doesn't actually change anything material about your circumstance, and it can let the light in. A lot of times I think people have this misconception that, you know, if you practice something in the morning, people say to me, you know,

Don't know, if I practice meditation for 10 minutes every morning, is that going to affect my life? Yes, but what are you doing the remaining 23 hours and 50 minutes? If you're doing things that counteract what you're doing in the morning, then it doesn't help. exercise or 10 minutes and morning and the rest of the day eating, you know, fish and chips and drinking beer and pizza laying in the couch, it's not going to help. So the people I work with have kind of changed over the years. And I would say in the last two, three years, the people I've worked with, what they really want to know is I think they've come to the realization that they know very little about the mind.

They're experts in their areas, but they know very little about the mind and they really want to understand the mind better so that they can leverage their mind to be even better at what they do. All of them want to leverage themselves better, and they feel like they have a lack of understanding of how their mind works. So two things here, one is wanting to a quick fix to learning. You know, I spoke yesterday in Munich to a group of entrepreneurs, and one guy asked me, so in this, is there a quick fix to having more energy in life? I'm like, there's no quick fix in life. That's the first thing you have to understand. And I think technology trains us to think they're quick fixes.

So I can go on my phone. I live in New York City. Last week, I went on Amazon, ordered something at 10.30 at night, and the next morning, at 8 o'clock in the morning, FedEx buzzed my door, and it was there. That's crazy. Right. So I can get things instantaneously through technology. And then, because we're so trained to getting things as soon as we want them, that we apply that to our life. And we think that, yeah, we can change over night.

And then people out there selling hacks. Does this hack? Does that hack? How are we going to hack this? how we're going to hack business, how we're going to hack the mind, how we're going to hack the body. But it doesn't work that way. You have a child. And your child is growing slowly and learning slowly.

There's no way to hack your child. Can you make your three-year-old boy, right? You have a three-year-old boy learn. Walk faster, learn triple integrals by tomorrow. Why don't you hack them? It doesn't work, right? And then why as adults do we think we can hack everything? It's not sustainable.

And then the other thing about being a teacher is that, you know, That's another thing that's being sold out there, besides hacking, it's like, you know, let me certify you to be a yoga teacher. Let me certify you to be a life coach. I know you're 19 years old and you've never had any experiences in life, nor have you done, achieved anything that pushed you beyond the limits of your imagination. But let me certify you as a life coach after a three-day weekend program. And I think when you go with the idea that I'm going to learn something and then take that content and teach it, you never really do. learn when I went to the monastery and to learn from my guru I went purely to be a student first of all I went there with the knowledge that I knew nothing I wanted

to learn from him and then once I learned from him my goal was to strive to implement everything as best as possible I have zero intent to teach right and that and I feel when you take that approach you learn the best and some of the people that I work with purely have that approach then zero intention to teach, they just really want to learn. And so when you go there with that intention, then you learn really well. Like we were chatting earlier, you know,

if someone wants to learn martial arts, they want to learn the quick, swirled 360 Kung Fu kick in the air or something. You know, no one wants to go and do the hard work. And that's all about the quick fix. You know, how can I get from A to B as quickly as possible? And it's not only by training the body, it's about training the mind too, right?

The mind needs to adjust and the mind is like a muscle. It needs to reshape itself to be able to take on a new way of thinking and a new way of behaving and progressively hold that new shape. And that only comes through repetition and patience and slow, hard work of doing the same thing over and over again. And I think so many teachers out there are selling quick fixes. And because they have never been trained themselves properly. So they've got a quick fix learning to get from A to Bs. So then they go and teach a quick way to get for me to be.

You know, they don't understand this old traditional path or slowly learning and developing yourself all over a period of time is what really creates mastery in a certain level. You get used to being comfortable. And that's the problem, right? You know, you stay in an apartment for long enough, you stay in a city for long enough.

You're comfortable. You know where to go by your milk, your bread. You know, your surroundings. You get comfortable. You get used to it. And, you know, one of the biggest teachings he taught me is about awareness in the mind. You're not the mind, rather your pure awareness traveling through different areas of the mind. And your goal is to take your awareness from your conscious mind, move it through the conscious mind,

through the subconscious, into the super conscious areas of the mind, which is the most refined areas of your mind to experience deeper in the states, and ultimately self-realization, God realization. But awareness travels in the mind, but when you get stuck, in a certain place and you get used to your surroundings and your comforts. Your external environment is a reflection of how your awareness is working in your mind. That means your awareness is stuck in a particular area of the mind because there's really no separation between your inner state and your outer state.

And what he was teaching me is that by moving me around, making sure I never got comfortable long enough one place to stay attached, he was teaching me that to not allow my awareness to get stuck in a particular area of mine and in a particular area of the mine and stay in a rut, and that I could actually prime, break my awareness free from the particular area of the mic, really grab whole of it and take it deep within myself

and experience deeper states of mind in. Right, I mean, if you go on most people's timelines, a lot of people's timesline, it's amazing, you can scroll through and it's just a thousand, that's a thousand posts, and it's 99, nine pictures of themselves, selfies. And I think so. And I think social media has made people extremely selfish.

And all people think about is themselves. You know, here's what I'm doing. Look at me here. Look at me there. You know, and you look at also public figures and celebrities and influences. They constantly post pictures of themselves and they're amazing life traveling all around the world. And you know, I see, and I know some of these people and they never post pictures of their

students or, you know, who's following them. It's always about them. Nobody spends time with themselves. And when I say to people, to say this to people, they go like, oh, I have alone time. Every evening when I walk my dog for half an hour, that's my alone time. And you're like, no, that's walking your dog. When I'm at the gym working out, that's my alone time.

And I'm like, no, that's being at the gym. Alone time is you sitting down in a chair at home or on the floor, cross-legged, you know, no music, no journal, no podcast, your eyes close, and spending time in contemplating. in a reflection, not meditation, but in actual reflection. And really having a conversation with yourself, the same way we're having a conversation, getting to know each other and each other's opinions and thoughts,

you have a conversation with yourself. And people don't do that, right? They don't spend any time doing that. And if you don't spend any time doing that, how would you know what's important in your life? Where are you struggling? And what you need to focus on next and what you need to work on.

You're so busy from the moment you, from the moment the alarm rings, they reach over to the side table, grab their phone, turn off the alarm, look at all the notifications, and then start stroking that phone. This is how people get pledged in the morning, stroking their phone. And then every 10 years, someone has a quote-unquote midlife crisis when they realize that they're living the life that they've never contemplated, they've never planned, they're not connected with, right?

And then that's kind of life. And then you're on your deathbed looking back saying, what did I do? Why did I value these things? and they're wondering why, and it's because they never spent the time in solitude with themselves. Do the work now, so you can spend the rest of your life living a life that's in alignment with your purpose. Once you figure out what you want, what your purpose and life is, then you can spend the rest of your life living a life in alignment with that purpose.

And, you know, talking about deathbed, you know, when my guru was dying, one of the last things he said on his deathbed was, what an amazing life I would not have traded it for anything in the world. What an amazing life, I would not have traded it for anything in the world. Now, what words to hear from a dying man? To be able to look back on your life and say, that was freaking spectacular. So when you're so determined,

when you're so clear what you want in life, and you're so determined to get it, and you're willing to give up everything and everyone for it. Then you're living a life in alignment with your purpose, and then you can spend the rest of your life in sync with who you are, as opposed to chasing so many different things around you that sparkle, whether it's, you know,

I want to be like that person and I want to do this, and that sounds fascinating, maybe I'll try that for a few years. You know, you meet kids nowadays that are 18, 19, 20 years old when you ask them, what do you want to do? What are you studying at university? Oh, I think I'll do science for a year and, you know, and then I might major in this, but I was also thinking I might take a year off, you know,

and travel a little bit, and then come back and I'm not sure maybe I'll do arts. I'm kind of interested in this topic. I mean you not know what you want to do. It's, you know, we have one life. You didn't get a second shot at this. Get clear what you want. Everyone has got three things wrong.

The number one is I'm not enough. The second one is I'm different so I can't connect. And the third is I really want something like freedom from depression or success, but it's not available. But I'm Not Enough is the biggest. And if we look at the key addiction, shopping, binging on food, binging on alcohol, binging on drugs, sex, sex especially, born.

All of those things come from a feeling of emptiness inside because we're taught, oh, you feel a feeling? Why don't you eat some doughnuts or go into eBay and buy it? Or Amazon, buy something, or have a drink. And our feelings are the most real thing we have. And we push them down. We find all this stuff to buy, or eat, or drink or take to keep us, like John Lennon said, comfortably numb.

But then the feelings regroup and come back, because they've always got a job to do. You've got to feel the feeling until it no longer requires to be felt. You can't eat it or drink it or shop it away, but we're all tall that we can and should. It starts with yourself, man. You've got to start diving into those things that you're afraid of. You don't gain confidence by a group.

going to a spot that makes you feel good. What gives you confidence not being afraid, it's overcoming the fear. They've not overcome them every day, but facing them, and facing them, facing them pretty soon like this, know what man, this is where it's that. It's not in that comfort zone.

It's in the discomfort zone is where my conference is getting built. That's where it's getting built. But people want to, they want an easier answer. There has to be an easier way. It's not. You have to face yourself. So many people live to be 100 years old,

and they die miserable, having everything, because they never examined. I call it my live autopsy. You never examine this. Happiness, peace, enlightenment. It's all up here, man. Everybody's got a story. We don't share it on social media.

We share our nice life on social media. We all have a dungeon. Mental toughness isn't something that you sample. It's something that you live in every day. Whenever hardness comes, and you don't know what it is. It may be different for you than this for me. Right, you go back to your insecurities. And then when you go back to your insecurities,

you then look for comfort within those insecurities. And we all look for that cookie that your mom used to give you when you were sad, when you were sick. We look for our wife or our husband. We look for comfort. It's in those moments. You must retrain your mind to think differently. We all have these feelings in our bodies, in our minds, in our souls.

I act on mind. A lot of us who are afraid of something, we allow our minds to choose the path at least resist us, so we go a different route. Mindset is a neurological muscle. We have. It's not placebo. not placebo, it's a real muscle, neural activity.

When that unites, it's called the willpower. You can really connect with that into any part of the brain. We thought of will is somewhere there. It's not over there, it's right over here, it's a muscle. And you are able to go with that will, a power, is the center in the brain, prefrontal cortex. Going into the brain stem, the brain stem is about survival. But because we live every day in a very controlled environment like the world where we live in with heat

The cold sedentary lifestyles going into the car We got it all controlled by our thinking not by our feeling anymore Not the nature is coming to us anymore does the deeper parts the old brain The reptilian brain brain brain stem and the limbic system is not being lived anymore. It's a All there, the food is in the supermarket, you don't need to find it. But the dangers are still there. When the dangers come like inflammation, causing inflammation, then we don't know how to tap into those deeper parts of the brain.

Because we were thinking all the time. Thus, 25% of our blood flow goes into this thinking brain. How to deal with stress on your body? Just by using your mind. And stress on your body could be caused by biological stress, physical stress, emotional stress, any stress. But in the end it is cell biological stress. And we have a possible connection between our will and the part of our brain which is dealing internally just through the mind, using the mind with stress, with the result of stress.

Where normally we get into depression or anxiety, fear, trauma, PTSD, psychosis, all those things, it's because we don't have a hold on those key components of those autonomous processes. Autonomous is outside of the will, now it's inside of the will shown in the brain scan and that to regulate your mood or the emotion itself. To bring people to the awareness

that they are in control over their beautiful emotions through their beautiful mind. And a lot of people are suffering in this world. That we have an ability to tap into the deepest part of the brain and solve all the matters related to mental disorders and having no control. And there is no pill, no medicine involved. It's your own awareness, your own power.

The cold makes your mind still. You cannot picnic, you cannot think about your, or about your mortgage. Making money, very nice, great. But I don't want pills, I don't want medicine, I want happiness, strength and health. If you are happy, how much money do you need? Because in the end, love is the greatest power in the universe.

If you are in love with somebody, then you fly! You just, nobody can stop you. So that love is the biggest one. And that love you got not. love you got not only for your woman you got it also for your children you got it for and we should have it for nature because then you don't even need to respect you love it you're not gonna damage it and we lost that because we lost the connection we should not be in the individualized through schooling to become a tough motherfucker hitting with the elbows to the

others because you got it compete and you become strong therein that's not strength that is aggression. Strength is where we help each other to become the best of ourselves. Fear only exists because we are too much into our time space, little area, narrowed consciousness. And when it is narrowed consciousness in the future things will happen wherein you will have to go to another part of the brain to solve the matter at that moment. Those are the life lessons. But it's a life lesson. It is too narrowed, so that's why the fear comes in. And the fear says only one thing, go to me and find out why I'm here. It's a signal, like pain is a signal.

Psychologically, fear is there. You call this merciless but righteous. So that's it. And it's always there. You can always depend. And always, you are able to tap into the depth of yourself by going through the initial reflexes of the cold coming out upon you. And then suddenly you get that deep peace and deep power. To learn to own your own minds, because it's beautiful.

Then you sense a power and you become powerful, you become proud, and you are a protector, and you live in harmony with nature around you, inside, outside, same thing. Our energy doesn't need so much to survive and to be. We got so much more energy. And we naturally give that. For that, we first have to know who we are. And for that, we need that control.

And for that, we are into the science to show everybody as it. Have the courage to go through fear. Find out who you really are and heal as many as you can. Find your real power. It's much more than we thought. Once again, I'm a dropout from school. I'm teaching professors and doctors all over the world. I got a holistic view. And the holistic view comes from nature. Nature knows more than we have stated in books. You've gotten into our minds, narrowing us down. And thus, it is able to be corrupted. The soul cannot be corrupted. That's who we are. That is the power I wish we're everybody to find. I have the courage to go through fear. Find out who you really are. And heal as many as you can.