Alignment With Jenn - 5 HABITS TO BECOME SPIRITUALLY ATTRACTIVE ✨ The Woman Who Shifts Any Room

Episode Date: June 12, 2026

 Want to explore coaching with Jenn? DM the word "PODCAST" on Instagram → @alignmentwithjennYou know her — the woman who walks into a room and the whole field reorganizes around her. She's not the loudest or the most polished. She isn't performing, proving, or chasing. But something about her pulls people in.In this episode, I break down what spiritual attractiveness actually is — and the science and spiritual physics underneath it. We get into why your aura is really your nervous system field, how emotional contagion makes people "catch your weather," the Kabbalistic vessel concept (the clearer your vessel, the more Light moves through you), and why neediness shrinks your field while wholeness expands it. Then I give you the 5 qualities of a spiritually attractive woman and the exact practices to embody them.You'll learn:- Why magnetism is coherence, not performance — and how your nervous system introduces you before you speak- The micro-signals (eyes, breath, voice, posture) that broadcast wholeness or neediness- The spiritual physics of becoming a clear vessel so more Light radiates through you- The 5 qualities — presence, wholeness, heart energy, authenticity, devotion — and how to live them- How to regulate before any room, date, or sales call so you enter as the source, not the seeker WORK WITH ME: Ready to effortlessly live your dream life? Message me the word "PODCAST" on Instagram to learn more about my deep-dive coaching program, The Infinite Experience. NEW: 7-Day Money Block Detox: "Everything I Touch Turns to Gold" rewires your subconscious mind and nervous system so abundance flows naturally → https://jenn-ditzhazy.mykajabi.com/offers/PE995nM2/checkout

Hello and welcome to this episode of the Alignment with Jen podcast. Today we are going to be talking all about becoming extremely spiritually attractive. I love this topic because I think with social media, there's so much emphasis on looks and plastic surgery and there's like this whole new trend of looks maxing. And I personally think that people are completely missing what actually attraction is and what actually makes somebody attractive. And that's what I want to talk about in this episode, I want to talk about what actually makes you energetically, spiritually attractive, because frankly, that's what we are actually attracted to. Looks are amazing, looks are beautiful, right? They're expressions of a person, but there can be the most beautiful person in the world,

and you cannot be attracted to them if spiritually and energetically, they are not in a place that feels really good. The woman who walks into a room and is able to shift the field with her energy is extremely spiritually attractive. She's the person that people want to have a conversation with, right? People want to ask for her phone number. Maybe they want to just, you know, keep being friends with her. What makes someone that kind of person that people want to connect with? I don't believe it really has very much to do with looks. I think it has so much more to do with the energetic essence of a person. And I want to share with you how you can actually utilize that in your life to attract in more amazing people into your life. So what does it mean to be spiritually attractive?

It doesn't mean to be drop dead gorgeous or a runway model or anything like that. What it actually means is to be in a coherent state. Man, and as I said that, I felt all this energy come down. Spiritual attractiveness, it's not about performance. It's about being in alignment with who you say you are and who you actually are. It's this element of authenticity. And what I mean by coherence, I've talked about this in some previous episodes, is our energetic field is felt by everyone that we interact with on an unconscious level. And when we are in an incoherent state, what happens is it creates these waves that are very, very, very jagged and uncomfortable. And people can feel that. So incoherent states would be like stress, anxiety,

fear, frustration. Those states are felt by other people. What's really interesting, is I just saw this video the other day about how dogs can actually sense this as well. And they can sense it through the hormones and how people smell, but as well as the energy. Dogs are so in tune to energy. And what happens is dogs will often go, and this was like a scientific study that they did, to the most anxious person in the room because they'll want to like help them calm down. And so the dog will actually be able to feel it. The same is true for people.

We feel it as well. But typically we're not going toward the most anxious person. person in the room. Typically, we are drawn to the most coherent person in the room, the person who's in a coherent state, which is happiness, joy, love, peace, calm, right, regulated nervous system. We're very drawn to that because it makes us feel safe. It makes us feel good. Our state, how we hold ourselves, our physiological state, right? Our energy communicates a lot to other people. What's interesting is when we are in that regulated state, it actually influences our body language as well, right? Our body language will typically be more open. Our face will be more relaxed. Our breathing will be more expanded. Our

eyes will be softer versus like when we are in a more anxious and contracted state, you know, our arms might be in. We might be covering our torso a little bit or our arms are crossed or maybe we're kind of hunched in or our, you know, we're like giving a little bit of a skeptical gaze or something, right? that's a little extreme or our jaw is clenched. Those kinds of things are the physical representation of what's actually going on energetically. And so when we can shift energetically, we can shift the way that we're actually able to show up and the presence that we carry with us. And this people feel it. This is why two people, one person can completely copy another person's piece of content that did really well and it will not do well for them because it's like a piece of paper with nothing behind it.

There's no energetic backing. The energy is 99%. The 1% is what you're actually experiencing in the physical. And so being attractive, spiritually attractive is all about that 99%. It's who you are energetically. And we cannot fake energy. We can't pretend it to be something that we're not energetically. So part of the reason that people become very energetic. and spiritually attractive is because our states, our emotional states are contagious to other people. When we are around someone, energy will move from high to low. So if you are around someone who's in a low vibrational state, say you go to an event and you sit by somebody and they're in a really low vibe state, you feel that, right? It almost kind of feels like your energy is being drawn away because

it actually is. And we want to strengthen our energy so much so that way that doesn't happen. but when we are able to have really elevated energy to protect our energy to create boundaries around our energy, to have that higher frequency energy, it is contagious and other people really, really feel it. And they want to be around you. That leads to more business deals. It leads to more being asked out. It leads to better friendships, right? It expands our entire life. Energy, who we are energetically is a massively important aspect of our lives, if not everything because it determines what we attract and who we attract. And if you notice you're attracting a lot of people that you really don't want to be attracting, that's something you got to

look at on the inside, right? If you keep attracting partners who don't treat you well, it doesn't mean that you don't treat people well, but it means that part of you believes that's what you are meant to attract. Okay. So noticing what you are attracting. If you attract a lot of people you absolutely adore, you're probably operating in a lot of of that positive energy, right? Another piece of this equation as well is our micro signals. So as I've talked about in previous episodes, our nervous system is constantly scanning for information. It's noticing these micro expressions that happen in one 25th of a second on someone's face. And what's crazy is we know if someone is, you know, trustworthy very, very quickly,

or if somebody is, if something feels a little bit off very quickly, because we're scanning for these quick micro expressions, it might just be this flicker of an expression that makes us feel like, okay, there's something incongruent here. We're not consciously thinking this, but we're unconsciously knowing it. And when we are truly in alignment, right, we are the same on the inside as we are on the outside. When we are an authentic expression of ourselves, that is more attractive because everything lines up, right? The cues that we're sending out, these micro expressions that we're sending out,

our eye contact, our tone, I noticed that as people grow on their spiritual path, their faces will change, their voices will change. Even Dr. Joe has done studies, and he'll share about this at his retreats, that over a week of meditation, six, eight hours a day,

I don't really know exactly, of meditation, people's faces will actually change. That's because their energy is changing. Right? And matter follows energy. Our physical matter, what we feel like, what we're experiencing physically, any physical ailments or symptoms are the result of energy. The energy always comes first. Okay. And so when you spend a week in meditation or you do a lot of spiritual work on yourself, you change energetically and your face will actually change. Your voice will actually change.

You know, if you look at photos of me from even five years ago, I look like a completely different person because I've done a lot of spiritual work on myself. And I don't know. I think it's pretty cool. I feel more attractive in my mid-30s than I did in my early 20s when society says you're more attractive because energetically, I probably am. Spiritually, I am, right? Attractiveness is not dependent on age. It is dependent on your energy. It's dependent on who you are spiritually. And that's spiritual coherence within your system. Now that we've kind of talked about the basis of this, let's talk about what it actually looks like to be spiritually attractive and how to become spiritually very attractive to people. This is like just your energy draws people to you, essentially. People are just drawn to your energy and they want to be around you and they treat you well and they like you. I think it's kind of what everybody wants. So know that you are a vessel for the light. Your soul is a vessel and it's meant. to be filled with the light of the universe, the light of the creator. When you pour into yourself

as the feminine, you strengthen your vessel. And a stronger vessel is able to hold more light. So light is blessings. It's love, it's abundance. It's all of the things that you want to manifest in your life. All of the juicy feelings that you want to feel. All of the amazing things, the fulfillment. And when you pour into yourself, when you take care of yourself, you do two things. Not only do you strengthen your vessel so spiritually you are more attractive, but you also communicate unconsciously to other people. I am valuable. I am high value because we take care of things that are valuable, right? I talk to so many women and something that often they'll talk about is, you know, like if I don't get dressed and, you know, I stay in my yoga pants all day for too many days in a row and I don't do my hair and my

makeup, I don't feel as good. And that's because we unconsciously know when we put that effort, into ourselves. It's not just about feeling and looking our best, but it's about actually pouring into ourselves. So taking care of ourselves. And a pattern I see with so many women I work with because I work with so many really high achieving women is that they prioritize everybody else and everything else, right? They prioritize their families. They prioritize their careers. They prioritize their friendships. They prioritize what their next door neighbor needs. over themselves. And this creates this imbalance because a strong vessel draws in everything that she needs. She draws in all of these blessings. But if you're not taking care of yourself,

if you're saying everybody else is more important than me by neglecting your own needs, by not making time for yourself, for your skincare routine, right, for yourself to go to the gym, for these things that matter to you, you're unconsciously communicating that you don't feel as valuable is all these other things that you're putting time into. It kind of sounds harsh, but it's the truth. Notice where you place your attention and your energy is what you value. So notice if you are not making time for yourself, you are not valuing yourself as much as you could. And so flipping that relationship is really going to help not only you feel better, but it's going to make you more spiritually attractive. This is why there was a book, this must have been in like the 2000s, but it was like men love bitches.

And the reason that book was so popular is not because men love bitches, but is because people love people who pour into themselves because it elevates your value. We love when people take care of themselves unconsciously because it communicates value. If you get a brand new car and it's the nicest car you've ever bought and it is beautiful and you love it, you typically take really good care of it versus if you bought like an old car that's about to die and is already dirty anyway. I think that's all say on that. Another thing that makes you a spiritually attractive is not being needy. Neediness shrinks your vessel. It shrinks your ability to receive what you need. It shrinks your field. And wholeness expands it. So what do I mean by that? Wholeness is essentially knowing that

you are whole and complete as you are. Yes, there are things that you probably want to work on and change, but knowing on a soul level that you are fundamentally worthy of the things that you want, worthy and deserving and you don't have to prove yourself. You don't have to earn this level of worthiness and this level of wholeness. When we become needy, what it is is it's essentially saying, and you can be needy of anything. You can be needy of love. You can be needy of other people. You can be needy of approval. You can be needy of people to like your content and follow you and all that kind of stuff. But what neediness does is it's very repelling because it unconsciously says, like I don't feel whole on my own. And because I don't feel whole on my own, I need you to show me

that I'm whole. And it feels like this yucky energy, like this unconscious taking energy. This is why some people get so turned off by sales, right? Because it can feel really, really needy. And if somebody really needs the sale, then it feels needy. It feels like they want something from you. Versus wholeness is like, you know what? I know because of my connection to the universe to the creator that I'm going to be provided for. I have this absolute certainty. I have this absolute faith. And so it's cool if you buy my product or not. It doesn't really change it for me because I know all of my abundance comes from the universe anyway. I don't really care if you want to go out with me again. I'd like to go out with you. Right. You're cool. But if you don't, that's fine too.

Because I know that the right person is coming for me. I always say this to my best friend of that. Basically, I think the only thing that we need to do is just have faith. I think that's the reason we're here is just to have faith that we are provided for that we are taking care of and everything just works out. There's this Deepak Trooper book and it's called the seven spiritual laws of success. It's a really, really good book. And in it, he talks about detachment. And I love the way that he talks about it in that book. And what he says is that basically for you to receive anything in the universe, you have to let go of your attachment to it. It's significantly harder for us to receive things when we're so attached and we're so gripping of them because we're vibrating at a different frequency.

When I really, really need something, I'm living in the lack of the fact that I don't have it. Versus when I can let go and be like, yeah, it's cool if you want to go out with me. It's cool if you don't, whatever. I'm detached from it, right? And that's a very spiritually attractive quality because it comes from this place of wholeness, of knowing I'm whole and complete as I am. I know I'll be provided for. So let's end with the five qualities of a spiritually attractive woman.

Okay. So what makes a woman very spiritually attractive besides the things we've talked about? So number one is presence. So when we are very dysregulated, when we are anxious, when we're in that mode, it's hard for us to be present because we're focused on this, that, and the other. But when somebody, when you have a conversation with somebody and they are truly present with you, it feels amazing. It's so attractive.

It is such a beautiful quality. And what often happens is as women, we are constantly monitoring. You know, this isn't always the case, but it's something that I've seen to be very common. We're monitoring for what people think of us. Oh, you know, did that sound stupid? Was that an okay thing to say? You know, what is this person thinking? What are they like?

We're monitoring all these things outside of us. And that makes us not as present. It's almost like this quiet comes over people when somebody is really present with them. Because our deepest desire as people is just to feel seen and to feel heard. And so when you can be really, really present with someone, it is so attractive. And they don't know why, but they're like, dang, I just want to spend more time with that person. That person is amazing. And it can literally be, you don't say anything, you're just listening, but you're actually truly

listening. You're not pretending to be present and then over here writing your grocery list. You're actually present with them. Practice it. I promise you will be blown away. If you sell anything, when you are present with your customer, watch out. Your sales are going to go up. Because presence allows you to notice these subtle changes, these subtle cues, these subtle things that people say. And it allows you to actually connect with people. And that's what people really, really want. So the second one is wholeness. She doesn't need everybody to agree that she's good enough. She doesn't need other people's approval. She doesn't need him to text her back for her to feel good enough or worthy or whole. She knows she's innately whole and she doesn't need anything to prove it. She knows she's whole

because on a soul level she's connected to this greater force than her. And so she knows she's whole and complete. She doesn't need to be any different than she is. That doesn't mean that she can't grow and change and evolve. She knows that she is whole, that there's this wholeness to her. She's not trying to get anything. She's not trying to perform. She's not trying to make anything happen or orchestrate the result. She's just allowing it to happen because she knows that she will be provided for as she needs. The third one is heart energy or warmth. A lot of society to day is really living in our heads, right? We're thinking, we're doing a lot of analyzing. We're doing a lot of survival, you know, beta brainwave stuff. But when we can drop our energy into our heart and feel

this warmth, feel this connection for people, that actually expands our energy field and people feel it. They feel this coherence in our system when we are in our hearts, when we are focused and our energy comes from our hearts. It allows us to not be as armored or defensive. We're not crossing our arms. We're actually open to connection. We're open to other people. We're more generous, more, more loving. This warmth goes a long way. So another quality of a spiritually attractive woman is authenticity. She is actually who she says she is. She's not trying to perform. She's not trying to be anything that she's not. She's actually authentically herself. She's not hiding. She's not pretending to be someone that she's not. She's not watering down her interest. She's not so

uncomfortable with other people's judgments that she can't voice her own opinions. She's not shapeshifting based on the room that she's in. She's just who she is. People can take it or leave it, and that's okay with her. One of my friends the other day said to me, he's like, I'm actually so, so, so grateful that people don't like me now. And I was like, that's interesting. Tell me more. And he was like, well, he's like, I used to be such a people pleaser. He's like that it would drive me nuts that people wouldn't like me. And so everybody liked me, right? Because I would make sure they liked me. And he's like, now it just shows me how much I've grown when people don't like me because I actually let them not like me because they're seeing me for who I really am. And he's like,

I think that's awesome. I think that's really cool to really appreciate it when people don't like you because there's always going to be people who don't like you. Right. On this podcast, I get all these really lovely comments. And then once in a while I'll get a comment like la la la la la, right? Something I don't kind of ridiculous or whatever. I just like, it just kind of makes me chuckle and like giggle a little bit because I'm like, it doesn't matter how much you pour into something, how much you love something, how much you give. There's always going to be people who don't like you no matter who you are, right? There's people who don't like Mother Teresa, who is one of the historically best people who ever live basically, like one of those giving people. People don't like her. You're never going

to please everyone and setting that as your goal is insane. So you might as well be your authentic self and actually attract people who authentically like you, don't like this orchestrated, made up version of you that you have to keep pretending to be anyway. And then we've got devotion. So the spiritually attractive woman moves from devotion, meaning she does things because she loves them. She moves. It's almost like imagine this current of love and she's moving because of this current of love.

She's following the things in her life that she loves because she loves them. And that is so attractive. I was at the same dinner party I was at last night. And there's this woman that I met and she hosts events locally in San Diego. And I thought she was so cool. And I told her, I was like, I want to be your friend. We should hang out because she was talking all about her business and she obviously loves it. And I loved that energy of somebody who's so passionate, who's so dedicated, who's so devoted,

who loves what she does. And she's following that path of what she loves. And she said something similar to what I've said. said when somebody asked her how she started her business and she's like, I don't know, she's like, I did yoga teacher training and then I just started getting all of these, you know, people who wanted to work with me because she loves it, right? And it made sense to me because I see how she talks about it. She's so lit up. So follow those things in your life that you really, really love. So how to strengthen your spiritual attractiveness. So number one is regulate. Let's talk about if you're

at an event, okay, what you can do. So one is regulate before you enter the So oftentimes people will go into an event trying to get something. They're like, oh, I hope a cute guy asks me out. I hope I find someone, you know, to come my customer, whatever. No, that is that needy attached energy and it pushes things away. So regulate, calm your nervous system, tell yourself, I am whole and complete as I am. I'm good, right? I'm good. I don't need anything from any of these people, but I'm excited to connect with them, and that's it. That's where I'm going to leave that, okay? Regulate before you enter a room. Bring your best self to the table. And when you feel like you can't stay regulated anymore, when you feel like you're kind of getting needy, like,

ooh, I want some attention. I've been there. You leave that party. You go home. You don't stay trying to get something, get something. That's not an attractive, spiritually attractive energy. You're never going to miss out when you're in that. energy. You're going to miss out being in that energy. So leave. Don't stay the entire time. Let yourself have that boundary with yourself. The second one to strengthen this is clear the heavy frequencies. So the heaviest frequencies are shame, resentment, blame, guilt, those heavy, heavy frequencies that we can carry for lifetimes. Clearing those and doing that work to clear them is going to elevate your energy. It's going to elevate your frequency.

and it's going to allow you to show up as that most authentic version of you, right? So those fears, those doubts that are preventing you from going after what you really want, working through those is going to make you so spiritually attractive, right? You see how none of this has anything to do with how you look or what you wear? Those are all distractions because that's the 1%. They're important. They matter. You want to look good, right? You want to take care of yourself, but it's the inner, the inner that matters so much more. If you like help with any of this that we've talked about today, send me the message podcast on Instagram. My Instagram's at Alignment with Jen. And I will send you a five minute video about my community where I guide

you through all of this on such a deeper level. Right. In this podcast, if you like this podcast, this is a little scratch of the surface of everything we can do together. So let me give you a couple more of these. Number three is practice pleasure. Just following your joy, right? Following your bliss, like what I talked about earlier, when you follow what makes you happy, you are happy. I know, as crazy as that sounds, right? Instead of following what we think is what we're supposed to do, follow what makes you happy. And then the final one is stop auditioning. So stop trying to perform or be something and just be who you authentically are.

That is one of the most spiritually attractive things that you can do. If you got nothing else from this episode, the most important part about being spiritual, attractive is just being authentic. Because what happens is when you are you, the people, you send out this light, this signal energetically, and the people that are here to be in your life can actually see that signal. But when you're inauthentic, you mask that light and they can't see you for who you're really meant to be. So I hope you loved this episode. I will see you in the next one. Please follow and like and all of the things so I can continue to make these episodes for you. And I appreciate you and thank you for being here.