Are You A Charlotte? - Mints, Chlamydia, and Talking Dirty with Not Skinny Not Fat host Amanda Hirsch (S3 E6 "Are We Sluts?")

Episode Date: November 26, 2025

Kristin reveals her thoughts on Charlotte sleeping with ... THAT guy! Find out what the crew thought was funny that Kristin DID NOT. Also: a minty trick, a “What? I’m a bartender and I&rsq...uo;m cute” moment, and why we love it!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Starting point is 00:02:38 get your favorite shows. Hi, I'm Kristen Davis, and I want to know, are you a Charlotte? Hello, everybody. Welcome back to Are You a Charlotte. This is part two with Amanda Hersh, re-watching, are we sluts? And she is the host of not skinny but not fat. Welcome back. Here we go. So you filmed only your stuff. So all this other stuff is being filmed.
Starting point is 00:03:09 So at the time, were you reading their scenes? Yes, yes. We would get the script. You know, we would get the first script. When you're working, you're in the middle of it, you get the script. And it's the first version. And it may not be, you know, what ends up being filmed, right? You'd get the script.
Starting point is 00:03:26 We would all, like, rush home to read it or read it at lunch or whatever. We'd be so excited, right? Like, what's going to happen? Then we would have a read-through with everybody because Michael Patrick's very, very old school. So he wants to see what jokes work, where the slow parts are. You know, it's very a performative type of a read-through where, like, if your jokes don't hit, they get cut. Which I still am trying to explain to the young actors who, played my children, and then just like that.
Starting point is 00:03:54 I'm like, you guys have to like perform, okay? Because I don't want your stuff to get cut. Oh, like you still did that on and just like that. Oh, yeah, yeah. Oh, yeah. But it grew, it grew and grew and grew. Like in the olden days, we would do it in this writer's room upstairs at Silver Cup. Do you know Silver Cup studios? Yeah, yeah.
Starting point is 00:04:12 So, you know, it's like that old bread factory. It's very vertical building. It's not a normal sound stage. And upstairs is where the writers were. So we'd go up there at lunchtime. We'd be working. We would only have an hour. hour. We'd go up there. We'd be in this little writer's room. No one from HBO would come. It was
Starting point is 00:04:27 like very low key, but it was just us, our writers, our actors, reading quick, quick, quick to see what works, right? And then later on, there might be, the writers would meet after the read-through and discuss what worked, what didn't work, what stands out to them, what they want to tweak, you know, or maybe just throw out whole storylines, right? Like they might, we might, we would time it. So if it was over, a storyline might get cut. Yeah. And then they'd rewrite so you'd get the next script. And then they might rewrite again before you film it. So there'd be a little bit of time that you get to kind of process what your character's doing and you might, you know, get to potentially change it. I remember this read through where this man is shouting, you know, you fucking, I went to Cynthia, right? When I got the script and I was like, I do not like this storyline. I don't want to. do it. I don't like it. And she was like, it's hysterical. You've got to do it. And I was like, no, I don't like it. I think it's so over the top. And, you know, not fair for Charlotte to get
Starting point is 00:05:34 to have to be called these names. Like, I was just very in it. Do you know what I'm saying? Like, not objective at all. And so we go to the read through and everyone laughs so hard that I'm like, oh, no. You know, definitely going to have to do it. You know. And Nicole Halofsena was directing this episode. Do you know who she is? No. She's very, very cool indie film writer and director who were just really lucky that we got. She also did a lot of parks and rec. Like at the time, she's done all these films with Emily Mortimer. She did a film with Jennifer Anderson. I can't remember all the names right now, but you would know them. They're very character-driven, like intimate films, you know, very kind of real, very, very real. She was directing. And
Starting point is 00:06:21 When we go to do this scene with this guy whose name I've just blocked out. I'm sorry, actor. But, you know, we're filming and they film his side first, right? So you know how they, you know, they're doing close-ups and whatnot. And we're really, really close to each other. We have like a tiny set. Oh, like you have to be there. Oh, yes.
Starting point is 00:06:40 During his time, too. Even if they're not, because they're not showing you. We never aren't there. You know what I'm saying? We would never do that. We would never do that. That's like not cool on our set. That's like faking it.
Starting point is 00:06:52 That's like faking it. Yeah. And like not nice to the actors. You know what I'm saying? The other actors, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Not cool. And also because in a bed scene, your shoulder, you're physically so close that that would pretty much be impossible to film without, you know, both people, right?
Starting point is 00:07:09 So for some reason they do his side first, which is not also totally cool. Like you're supposed to do the people who are in the show all the time first because like when you're fresh or whatever. But obviously, I'm just reacting to him, you know. And I think it had to do with how, I think at this point, Charlotte does not have an entire apartment still. I have, like, two walls that they would move from my bedroom. And occasionally we see outside my bedroom, but mostly we just see my bedroom. Do you know what I mean?
Starting point is 00:07:38 Yeah, it's, I have not expanded into my beautiful apartment that is coming. Obviously, I haven't, I don't have a trade apartment yet. But, you know, I just have like two, two. walls and a lamp and a bed and a little bedside table and one picture of this woman falling through water. It's kind of a dark, interesting image. Anyway, I'm there. Nicole is there. This dude is there. I've never met this guy. You know what I'm saying? It's one of the- When he wasn't at the table read? I don't think he was. I mean, if he was, I don't remember. It's possible that he was. Sometimes they wouldn't have been cast yet. Got you. So somebody else
Starting point is 00:08:14 would do his reader's part. Right. Like we would usually have a reader, a male reader. and a female reader for any parts that weren't cast yet. And also, Michael Patrick usually reads the stage directions, which is adorable. So the guy's there, and Nicole, her only direction for him is like, shout louder, louder, really shout it in her face. And I'm like, oh, my God, Nicole, it's bad enough. Like, why? And so he's just shout, just so loud.
Starting point is 00:08:45 Oh, my God. Like literally just right next to me. Like you fucking bitch, you fucking whore over and over again, for how many hours? I mean, probably not that long. Like I'd say a couple hours for him and then a couple hours for me, you know? Like long enough. Let's put it that way. Then we go to lunch.
Starting point is 00:09:03 He asks me if his girlfriend can come to lunch. And I'm like, uh, no. He goes, because I'm finished. So maybe she could watch for the rest of the day. I'm like, yeah, no. No. Because when we're doing a bedroom scene, it's a closed set, right? So, like, no extra people can come.
Starting point is 00:09:23 And also, I wasn't done acting. Jury B. So we go to lunch, we come back. I'm so cranky, right? I'm super cranky. And we come back and it's on me. And the camera's like, you know, right my face. And Nicole's like, make bigger faces.
Starting point is 00:09:38 My God, Nicole. I mean, every time I see her, I remind her of this, she doesn't remember. But, you know, that was her direct. for both of us was like bigger. Like everyone just thought this was so funny. I don't really think it's that funny. Wait, now I'm trying to think if your face, I feel like your face was very like upset,
Starting point is 00:09:57 prudy Charlotte. You know what I mean? It wasn't like, like it was it supposed to be crazier? Like were you supposed to be like, I have no idea what she wanted. You were like off put. Of course. Yes.
Starting point is 00:10:10 That was the vibe. Yes. I mean, I was unclear myself on what she wanted. You know what I mean? mean like what what how big of a face can i make like in bed with the dude shouting at me like i don't i don't know so i that's really all i could think about when i was watching it i still feel i still feel like i am in that moment when i'm watching it yeah yeah because it is strange i've never really had that happen to me in life thank god because i would be out of there okay
Starting point is 00:10:40 well i was thinking about it when i was watching i was like okay like people for sure have that right people like to be I guess people like to be called names like it's not it's it's like pretty I'm assuming normal and everyone has their like bedroom preferences yes but usually I think the the whole vibe uh you know especially today is like you got to talk about it right you have to have agreement you have to like right you have to like you have to like kink it out talk about it have the have the other person be down or not or whatever but here was this special situation that I feel like maybe is a little fantastical which is that he didn't know he was doing it I know which is super interesting and I didn't remember that either yeah where he didn't know he was doing it and like
Starting point is 00:11:30 which was sweet then when he tried not to do it like it was sweet yeah and it was sweet at the dinner I hadn't remember the dinner either I didn't really know I remember the scene where I'm the coffee shop scene where, you know, they're like, what did you do? And I'm like, oh, well, you know, and I flashed back, you know, I remember that. And I remember just thinking, like, I remember feeling me, Kristen, that I would have been, this was one of the times where I kind of felt like I would have been more angry. But this is also the time where they would always say to me, like, Charlotte does not get angry. And I would just be like, why, you guys?
Starting point is 00:12:12 Like, who doesn't get angry? And why wouldn't Charlotte, who literally has, like, the most lofty ideals, right? Like, her idea of romance and all of the things that she wants are so specific and beautifully etched in her own mind. Why wouldn't she be angry when things don't live up to that, you know? Right. It took me a good, good, I think it was only after the marriage and things starting to fall apart that they would be like, now you can get angry. And I'd just be like, thank God, people.
Starting point is 00:12:45 Jesus. But does it make sense to you in retrospect? Like, why? I get it in some ways in that like she, Charlotte is very different from the other girls, right? And so it's trying to kind of etch out each character's kind of area, you know? And Miranda is kind of, I don't know if angry is the right word. It's kind of a simple word to use for her. But, you know, definitely much more quick to be like, you did.
Starting point is 00:13:11 And I get that Charlotte's not going to be, I guess there was an innocence that they wanted maybe, you know, that I maybe Kristen didn't have, right? So that was a way to kind of go towards that kind of an innocent reaction as opposed to like, how dare you? You know what I mean? Like I would be much more like, what the fuck? Like, did that?
Starting point is 00:13:32 What is that? You know, I would call them on it, I think, right away. Because it would just be strange, right? but there's an innocence and I guess it was a way to get to the innocence and stay in the innocence I guess but sometimes when I look back on it
Starting point is 00:13:49 I do feel like there could have been like a wider range of a yeah I get you yeah but I'm nitpicking A decade ago a decade ago I was on the trail of one of the
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Starting point is 00:18:48 I have a question about the sex scenes. Yeah. Like, because this sex. Was it technical? Was there an intimacy coordinator? Definitely no. Definitely not. We didn't have them.
Starting point is 00:19:00 But, like, there were sex scenes, like with this guy, which I don't know. like, we're not meant to see this crazy chemistry, right, with you and him. Right. It's literally just like this kind of vibe. Like, that's what we're saying. Right. So, like, were those, like, choices? Because obviously there are, you know, people that you have chemistry with where I remember
Starting point is 00:19:24 that Charlotte gets on top sometimes. She's, like, feeling herself. I mean, thank God, right? I thought about that watching this. I'm like, God, this is just the most boring sex ever. Right. So that's what I wondered about too. I was like, I wonder if it's like there are the guys that because she doesn't even look like she's enjoying it.
Starting point is 00:19:42 I mean, not at all. Not at all. If she was enjoying it, then like call me a name. Like let's say that's whatever. Yeah, maybe she does try a lot of stuff, but not that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I know what you're saying. So was that a choice?
Starting point is 00:19:56 Why would she be into it if she's just like being like literally just pounded with no vibes? I'm with you. I'm with you 100%. It was, I think, a challenge of the show, right? And again, this comes back to the ABCD storylines. So when you're thinking about that, you know, really economical use of the time of the show, right? We've got this very kind of in-depth storyline with Aden without sex, right? Like so much incredible kissing, as you appropriately said,
Starting point is 00:20:26 like it's so good to watch them kiss, you know? And there's a lot of kind of quiet moments with them and everything. Then we've got the Samantha storyline, which really, if you think about it, it's told very succinctly, you know, but also really interesting moments of her being silent and feeling that judgment in the elevator, right? But really quick. Then we've got more time happening with Stephen Miranda, which is needed, right? She's got to go through her body count list. She's got to discuss chlamydia with him. Now, yes, go to the doctor.
Starting point is 00:20:56 She's got to call the guys. Steve's got to have his whole, like, you know, I'm cute and I'm a bartender moment. Like there's a lot. It's pretty in depth, right? So that means Charlotte, they're not going to have time. You know what I mean? And there were scenes in the past before this. And it was part of the reason I was so thankful.
Starting point is 00:21:13 I knew at this point that Trey was coming, you know, that I was like on the way to getting what Charlotte thought she wanted, you know? And there were a lot of guys that had to come on that road, as we know. And there were sometimes where I would have a sex. scene that was kind of like, but a bump, you know, like a joke, you know, like I remember with the widow guy, the guy that I hit with the flowers in the funeral, you know, at the funeral, that sex scene was like so ick and nothing. And the camera just pans by us and she's got a voiceover that connects it.
Starting point is 00:21:50 Like it's such a blah thing. And I hate to do those. I mean, I think everyone hates to do those, you know? Like where it's like gratuitous and it doesn't have like a place. I mean, it's hard to say gratuitous in our show, right? Which is called Sex in the City, right? Like, we know that it's part of it and we know that it's part of the storytelling
Starting point is 00:22:10 that you have to show just the basic and that there's maybe some other thing that's coming. Like I think with Charlotte, we don't have time to really investigate this. Like I said, because it's the other characters that are taking time. And I know that it's a stop on the way. And I feel like they were trying to show
Starting point is 00:22:30 all of the crazy things that could happen on the way that you're looking for the person, right? And then you finally find the person, you're like, oh, thank God, you know. Like, she'd been through a lot. You know, it was a lot of pies in the face type situation. Right. Which is true for all of our characters, right?
Starting point is 00:22:45 Like we always were having, that was part of the gig, right? That you would have to have those embarrassing moments. But I never really necessarily enjoyed that, you know? Yeah. I don't know that any of us did. I don't want to speak for the others. But like, it's a little bit hard to do.
Starting point is 00:23:00 Yeah. But I think we understood the bigger point, right? Which is like we're trying to get somewhere, we're trying to tell these stories. We're trying to be free about it. You know, like not precious. But as an actor, it's hard sometimes to do that. So this was one of them for you. Yeah, I didn't like it.
Starting point is 00:23:22 Didn't like it at all. But also because like I don't even know do that guy, do we kiss? I mean, there's less required of you for those. Do you know what I'm saying? Right, right, right. Just to be like breathed on. I don't love being breathed on. So I always wonder about that.
Starting point is 00:23:38 You know? I do know. Like there's a lot of things you don't think about. You know? I think about it. Yeah. I just had Brittany Snow on the show and she did hunting wives with Malin and they were so good. Yeah, yeah.
Starting point is 00:23:53 So she literally said they got sick from too many breathmen. because they're because they're women and it's true we care to like smell good it's so true it's so true people pleasy and whatever she said that both of them were o-dying on mince to the point where they got like physically ill because I was like no like I want to smell good for you and I want to you know what I mean they're like no stop eating mince we had our camera crew had a box of mince on the front of their camera so like the camera would be very close right and And so there was just like alt-oids were like right there because that's how much we needed them. But did you have experiences with even like guest actors like this guy breathing on you
Starting point is 00:24:40 where you were like, ugh? Or did they OD on Mintz because they cared more? I don't remember if this guy OD'd on Mintz because all I remember was just like really just being like, get me out of here, please. And I'm sorry. It's not really professional that I'm saying that, but it is the truth at the time, especially. And I still remember it because I never liked the storyline and then everyone liked it but me. You know what I mean? It was just one of those awkward things. And I remember
Starting point is 00:25:10 I can't remember. I mean, I do, I remember another guy early on in the show because it was very much a role reversal that the guys would kind of come through as the girlfriend type parts, right? Like that a guy would just show up on set and you're just in bed with them. Like that's not a normal guy part. Do you know what I mean? Right. Right. Right. Yeah. So they would be just a little thrown off like, how do I do this? And we would have to try to make it okay and whatever. And I would do my best. And then sometimes I just didn't do that well. And this would be one of them. And then the widower storyline, that was a whole long storyline. So it wasn't like Kurt, Kurt, that actor. I was not upset with Kurt. I just didn't love that one sex scene. And I think I had to come in at like 11 p.m. to film it also. So I was cranky about that, you know. I can't believe you remember that. I remember when... Really? You remember, like, what time you had to come to...
Starting point is 00:26:04 Well, it's because I was mad about it and because also they had... It's one of those scenes. Like, if you have a scene that they can move, they'll move it. Like, your schedule changes many times. I don't know how many... I'm sure you go through this with scheduling actors. Like, you think you have the day off and then you don't have the day off because they're moving your scene around.
Starting point is 00:26:22 It's like the end of the day thing where, like, they might have filmed a whole other day. Like, let's say they'll film a Sarah all day. and then they have got to do her turnaround, right, for her hours. So they'll send her home and they'll bring someone else in to film, say, the sex scene with Kurt because it's just one scene and you maybe don't have to work in the morning. Are you following me? So it's like pieces and puzzles that they're moving around, but it doesn't necessarily make it easy on the other actor who has to come in at 11 p.m. or whatever, right,
Starting point is 00:26:55 to shoot like a sex scene. And you can't be like, I can't. Because that's like the only thing that you're doing at that time is the show. So you're available whenever they need you. Well, they own you. And also like in our world, I mean, you really have to think about, you know, the group. Like you are part of a group and the group is important and the production is important. And, you know, you have to be a team player or that's not great.
Starting point is 00:27:24 You know what I mean? Like it's important, I think. I think that it's nice. people to know because we see the glam side of what acting is and like the red carpets and the and the and the the the the fancy stuff right and I think that a lot of people don't know that it's like it's it's it's you know it's a hard job like like I mean yes and no yes and no yes but like if you're filming out in the cold you're filming out in the cold oh yeah and you're cold and you can't you can't wear a different clothes it's like it's true it's true like it's not like it's not like
Starting point is 00:27:59 you're, because you're Kristen Davis, you're not going to be cold. Like, you and the extra are both out in the cold. Like, and the hours, I mean, seven, yeah, I mean, you're not coal mining, I know. Right. But you're also not like, you know. I think it seems very coddled and it's not necessarily very cold. That's really your point. And I think that is valid.
Starting point is 00:28:22 I mean, I think it's still, you know, a crazy fantasy job to have, right? Like, and there's so many amazing things about it. And for all of us, you know, we live, you know, to act, right? Like, that's what we feel passionate about. And that's really the key to everything, as you were saying about your own, you know, what you've created. Like, you created it because you loved it, right? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:28:43 So you will do, you will do all of those things. And I think as actors, I mean, I don't know if this is still true today, but certainly when I was coming up, you didn't expect to be coddled, you know? Like, like all of that was kind of surprising in a way. All of us, I think, thought we were going to do plays and, you know, you're doing eight shows a week and it's like, you know, hard. You know what I'm saying? Like, like, theater is, you know, you're out there alone. You got to perform.
Starting point is 00:29:13 You're not, there's no coddling. It's not possible to coddle you in theater, right? In a way. But then I think when you get film jobs or TV jobs, you're just like, whoa, what? You know, like the excitement part is so much that you're, you're, you're, you're just. just like, I'm going to, I'm going to save her every moment. And then after a while, it does get to be like, wow, my knees are shaking. I'm freezing.
Starting point is 00:29:38 Could we get a space heater? Yeah, could we get a space heater. Right. But also, I think that's back to what we talked about a little bit too in the beginning is that, you know, in the beginning of the show, we didn't want, we didn't want to take the fantasy away. And so we, like, people say like, oh, it must be so much fun, the clothes. And, you know, you're walking down the street.
Starting point is 00:29:59 And it was, right? But also, like, we're walking down the street at 5 a.m. And people are screaming at us from cars and we're freezing and you can see our breath, but you're not supposed to see our breath because it's supposed to be summer. And so, you know, like weird things, right? Like weird, the physical reality of filming the show was sometimes hard. But we always felt like we should, you know, protect that, that the viewers didn't necessarily need to know that.
Starting point is 00:30:26 But now we kind of can't, right? Like the, I think everyone knows so much more. But I also feel, I also feel like I want people to just be able to escape into the show and love it, you know? Right. And not think about all of the things I'm telling you. I think mostly people don't. Like, I feel like with sex in the city, people are more thinking, like, character-wise. Like, is this cringe?
Starting point is 00:30:52 Is this not cringe? Like, you know, is this happening today? Is it not? That's more of what I'm saying. so luckily they don't, they're not into like that, those small stuff. I agree. I agree. And I think for me rewatching, I definitely feel, um, pulled in, you know, to the storyline
Starting point is 00:31:09 in a way that I don't even know if I was. I mean, I certainly watched the show when we made it, but it would be like a rough cut that I would see on a VHS tape, you know, before it aired on HBO. And I probably would not watch it on HBO. I don't think unless someone invited me over or something, you know what I mean, like a friend. but I didn't I didn't I wasn't able to look at it objectively at the time you know wow so that's probably so nice for you now like so cathartic no oh yeah I mean yeah I don't know if it's cathartic necessarily it's more just like amazing I feel very very you know just odd every time I see things that I didn't see before and all the details of the work and the writing and the writing and the production and the clothes and the I mean there's so I get to enjoy it like a viewer I guess
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Starting point is 00:36:59 sexual partners are called romantic slash good kissers and right and women are called sluts right that is not fair or good but is that still happening that's a good question i feel like in the hookup culture of today it might not be but i don't know if i know so here is what I would base my answer off of is like a love island. Okay. Yeah, I've never seen it. Tell me. Okay. So that's a dating show where they're all like in bikinis and on an island, whatever. Right. And I feel like they talk about body count. And this is like, you know, and they talk about body count. They all say their numbers. And I don't think that it's, there's like bias there in the love island world. Nice. So they just talk freely. Yeah, they talk freely. Like what's your body count? Like they have challenges. Like it's a whole.
Starting point is 00:37:51 whole thing. Wow. Um, and that's, you know, but it's the new, you know, kind of generation of being super open, super out there and like not giving a, I wonder though, do people ask, do people even, like, I feel like that's something you ask like when you're in a relationship. I think so too. I mean. You know, and that it's just like of interest like, oh, wait, like how many, you know. Yeah. People do ask on first dates. I know from friends. Like people do want to know about past relationships, but past sex, like, what does that matter? No, I don't think it does. I don't think, I don't, I, I, I, I, no one's asked me in a long time.
Starting point is 00:38:33 Like, how many guys? Like, why would you ask that? Totally. Yes. I think that would be a red flag if someone asked that early on, you know? That would be a red flag. But I kind of love how in the show that question is posed because, at that time, women would probably be called sluts for it.
Starting point is 00:38:55 Oh, definitely. Definitely. But you girls were owning it. And even Charlotte, in her prudy way, was getting down. Like, she wasn't not having the sex, even though she was like, she wanted to call it making love and whatever the hell. But, like, she was still doing it. Oh, yeah. You know, at the end of the show, the first show, we made a book called Kiss and Telf. And on the last page of Kiss and Tell is like a timeline with the guys.
Starting point is 00:39:27 So each character has all the guys they had sex with. And guess who had the most? You did? Yes. Wait. This book was like what went between you guys? It was like. No, it was a book in the world that you could buy.
Starting point is 00:39:43 Really? It's a very cool book. Yeah. I don't know if it's still in print or not. We should find one. It's a great book. It's got like it was in, you know, obviously merch is like a whole thing now right where you know there's merch to do with everything but back in
Starting point is 00:39:58 the day it wasn't so much so and we also were on HBO right so we weren't trying to like put out t-shirts and stuff like that you know but this book was really beautiful sarah was involved with it um it had like pink faux alligator and it said kiss and tell on it and it had a bunch of you know kind of beautiful PR stills but also some behind the scenes stuff. It had a section about a section for each character, like a chapter. And then I think there's a chapter on costumes maybe or, you know, different things. It was, it was kind of innocent and kind of adorable way. And then you had the most. Yeah. That's crazy. I was shocked. Like more than Samantha. I know. I was shocked. I don't know how it happened. I don't know how it happened.
Starting point is 00:40:45 We have to go and count guys. We have to find the book. We definitely. We have to verify this information. I know. I know. The girls would be like, look, you have the most. Thank you for being with us. Oh, my God. Yes. Thank you. Thank you so much. On this week's episode of next chapter, I, TDJ, sit down with Denzel Washington, a two-time Academy Award-winning actor and cultural icon. And I don't take any credit for it. I just didn't put me first. I just put God first and he's carried me.
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