Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard - David Sedaris #6

Episode Date: August 17, 2026

David Sedaris (The Land and Its People, Happy-Go-Lucky, Calypso) is a bestselling author, humorist, and celebrated storyteller. David joins Armchair Expert to discuss discovering his name in the Epstein files, crossing state lines after midnight to have a tumor removed, and feeding it to a snapping turtle. David and Dax talk about testing and rewriting his essays onstage, giving relatives veto power over his stories, and evolving from writing about life’s biggest moments to writing about almost nothing. David explains why talking to strangers creates real connection, how treating words as violence distorts actual harm, and why comedy should be as tasteless as possible.Take printer ink off your back to school list with HP Smart Tank | https://hp.com/SmartTank Check Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds: https://www.allstate.com/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome, welcome, welcome to armchair expert. I'm Dach Shepherd and I'm here with Monica Padman. Hi. Hi. Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. Ding, ding. Six time. It's our most.

That's our most, right? He's our most. And he's our most favorite. We love David Sedaris, my parisocial friend. That's right. Your paris social and social. And kind of real friend. David is an author, a comedian, and a humorist.

His books are Me Talk Pretty One Day, Santa Land. Diaries Calypso Naked, Happy Go Lucky. And he has a new book that is out now called The Land in Its People. I have read it. I love it. We love it. He does a reading for us. He does some reading for us.

Please enjoy David Sedaris. He's an out of check. How are you? Hello. Good to see you. How nice see you. Oh, yeah. Of course.

There's a downstairs. I was here last time. Do I have right here? Yeah, that's your spot. Oh, we knew you were going to come in the best outfit. I tried to do something fun back. That's as fun. It's really fun as it gets.

Are those board shorts? What is that? That's a term for like swimwear that's like for surfers, board shorts. No, no, no. There are these Walter von Burenbank. I have a problem with his last name. But he's this Dutch guy. Okay.

But I was in San Francisco the other day. And he made, it was like a ladies house coat. for men with this fabric. But the fabric is linen mixed with polyester. And I wore the jacket thing. And I was so sweaty. Oh, yeah. It's hot.

It wouldn't work from my book tour because you're in a store. And then there are a lot of people in there. And then it gets hot. So anyway. But that's so cute, though. But you got the shorts instead. But the lady's house coat was pretty good. That is good.

I'm confused, though. Did you buy the lady's house coat and then have those shorts made? No, no, no. They have the shorts, too. I don't mind being sweaty on the bottom. Yeah, sure, sure, sure. Yeah. But I don't want to go into the bookstore and then be like wet with sweat.

Yeah. Totally. Do you pose for photos with people in the signings? Never. With a smile, he said. For the listener. Yeah. Otherwise, it's all you do.

Right. So I could either sign somebody's book and talk to them or have my picture taken. Sometimes I'm in the airport and someone says, can we get a selfie? I say, uh, no. I say, but this person here can take our picture. I say, oh, I ran into my cousin in the airport. Can you take a picture of us? And they're always happy to do it.

But the selfie thing, I don't know that there's anything about contemporary life that is more puzzling to me. That when you see somebody, you know the way you are, let's say, in front of a mirror when you're alone? Yeah. To be that way in public. And when I see people and they're doing the angle of their head and all of that in public, I just feel like, it would be like a nightmare about being on a toilet in public. Yeah, but you just get used to. It's like the way of the world.

This is how these people are making money. Yes. Sometimes when I'm on the bus in England, I'll look over people's shoulder and they're on Instagram, and all their friends look just like them. I know. Everyone is starting to look like one thing. So I was one time on a TV show with Ashton, Cotry.

You know who he is. You know what he looks like. Yeah. So at one point, we're sitting in a pickup truck. we're about to film a scene and he goes, oh, you know, the fucking network asked us

if we could take like a couple like selfies while we're working. I was like, yeah, okay, great. And he just so cavaliery, like holds the camera down

at his hips and starts shooting up at us. There's only like a three degree angle where I look good. It's definitely above. But he has the freedom to shoot any angle he wants. And he shows on him like, yeah, you look incredible in all these photos. And I look like a monster.

Can you imagine that kind of freedom though. Yeah, I don't care. Aim the picture anywhere. Mounted down my shoes and shoot straight up in my nose. It'll look great. I think that's how a stick insect would feel. Good from any angle. Something has happened since you were last year. I can't imagine it has gotten to you. But maybe it has because you're on tour currently and are often arm cherries in the audience, right? You tell me. Yeah. Yeah, which is lovely. Has it gotten back to you this parisocial thing, my obsession with you? Parassocial. What does that mean? That is this like, faux sense of intimacy you can have because you consume like a podcast all the time. You're with them.

It's about their lives. And you feel you're very confused because you know so much about them. And you're kind of living with them in your car and private. And it feels genuinely like a relationship. And so over the last year, I think since you've been here, I have become obsessive about I listen to you every single night. I've listened to some of the books like five times now. Every single night for a half hour before I go to sleep. I'm re-listening to all the things. And I've been growing more and more, like, entrenched in these fantasies where I'm going to be with you in Normandy or somewhere. And I think, I would get along so well with you and your friends and all these conversations.

I'm like, oh, yeah, I could fit in perfectly. And I came and I had to admit to Monica, I'm like, oh, I'm having this thing people have described that was so abstract to me. But now I really have it. I have a deep ache when I'm listening that I'm not with you on tour or in your. Europe or something. It's tricky because he does know you. He does know. Yeah, this was very confusing, but how does this that land with you? I feel that towards people, certain people. Do you? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Alan Bennett. Who's that? He is a national treasure in England. Most people here, if they know him, it's because he wrote The Madness of King George, but he's written lots of plays.

He started off with a group called Beyond the Fringe, and then he's written novellas and plays and movies. he releases his diaries and he reads them. And it's his voice that I listen to him. He did a series called Talking Hads. I can listen to it any time. I'm so happy you know what feeling I'm describing. And doesn't it kind of hurt that you're not involved? Is there a sadness?

Well, what scares me is there was an antique store around the corner from my house in London. And I know the owners. And I would go in and they'd say, you just missed Alan. Oh. He left two minutes ago. So I've always just missed him. And now he's in his 90s and he sounds very, very frail. And I know people, he's the kind of fellow if you write to him, he writes you back.

Oh, really? So have you written to him? No, no, no. I'm just afraid I'll miss him. I don't want to miss him. I don't want to impose myself on him. But he would love to meet you. He knows who I am, which was surprising to me.

But I'm on the BBC. And so he probably heard me there. I mean, there's a million reasons. Why? Okay, but what's funny, and this is what I've been kind of trying to work. through on the show when it comes up is like, I have your number. I have your address. It's just this very weird zone. It's like my desire to reach out to you is nightly. Like I hear something and I've heard it 25 times but this time I like it. And then I'm like, oh yeah, this would be so annoying.

And I just am policing myself. Really? I've never thought of you as a pest. I mean, I was in England and you were in New York and I was like, damn it. I'm going to miss him because that would have been really nice, you know, to have you over, to go out or do something. Does that author, writer that you just mentioned, I guess the diaries are what makes it parisocial, right? Like, I'm not going to have that with Dotsiefsky. I know I can't hang out with he and Ralskalnikov. Like, it's all imaginary. But because your work is so much about your real life, I think that's why this whole parissocial thing happens. Is it his work that's like about his own life that you can just see yourself joining? He's written some personal essays that

about his own life, but it's the diaries mainly. And I listen to them over and over and over, and I can listen any year of his diary anytime. His latest series of diaries came out. Hadn't come out in the United States yet, but I'm going to England in a few weeks. And I can get it there, but I really want the audio. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But he's very frail now, and I'm afraid that it's somebody else reading it. I don't know what I would do. Well, I'll just read it myself, but I've heard him so many times I can read it in his voice. Yeah, right, right, right.

Do you have an approach with your diary or do you even care? What are you generally writing down? Well, today my schedule is kind of crazy. But normally what I would do is get up in the morning and first thing I do is writing my diary. And I'm on a tour so often I go down to breakfast and I write in my diary on my tour.

But today, because I have to worry about getting my steps in, So I got up at six and I walked like four miles and then Hughes with me. So we had breakfast together. So then my friend Alyssa, my publicist, brought me here and I said, oh, you know what? Can I sit in the back seat? Because I just needed to write in my diary. And it was a lot of just what happened. And then I saw my note about Miss Young.

In Miss Young, I checked in for my flight yesterday in San Francisco and I had an agent, who checked me in. This black woman, and she was maybe 60 years old, and she was missing two teeth, and her name was Miss Young, and that was on her tag. And I said, I got to say, I said, I love that. I love that I don't know your first name, and that you're Miss Young. And so we talked about that, just about how everyone calls each other by their first name now. And I said, one thing I hate is when I board the plane, and the gate agent says, welcome Mr. Taylor.

You know, welcome Miss Baxter. welcome Mr. David because they're afraid to pronounce Cedaris. And so they're just being lazy and they're making it look like it's a typo. And I know it's not a typo. And nobody cares if you say, can you help me pronounce your name? Sure. How do you know? Nobody cares about that.

Right. I'm happy to do it. And it's just laziness on their part. But it's not about me. So I'm not going to stop the boarding process to say, show me where it says that. But you've done that when they bring your meal. You've asked to look at the manifest. Miss Young was in complete agreement.

I just shared such a nice moment with Miss Young. So that's what made yesterday memorable. You know, like more memorable than the book signing I did. Yeah. More memorable than the people I met at the book signing was just because I had a real connection with Miss Young. Yeah, yeah. If you had heard her first name, do you think it would have ruined it?

Do you think it would have ruined the illusion? Yeah. I mean, if her name did. tag said Danielle, then it wouldn't have been special. Because everyone else just had their first name on their tag. Oh, so she was doing something unique. Yeah. I didn't get that part.

Oh, me either. Oh, interesting. Because sometimes in a situation like that, it's just a one-way street. They call you Mr. Sedaris and then their name tag says Deborah. And then it feels wrong. You're being familiar and they're being unfamiliar. Well, partly too, because in so many professional situations now, the people who work there are 10 times better dress than the people who are the customers. You know, you get into a car and the driver's wearing a suit and tie, you know, when you see people like getting in the back seat, you know, with swim shorts on, you know, and a T-shirt over it.

And so they're Mr. Duncan. Yeah. And then the driver is how, you know, so it just seems uneven to me. bathing suit. I know. And the chip and I fucking tucks. Yeah. Okay, another curiosity I had that struck me, spring and fall, you do about 100 cities

in your talking tour. Your hair is always really kind of camped. It's really tight and cut. And I thought you're not traveling with a barber. Are you constantly in a position where you're in a new town trying to find some kind of barber that you could trust? How are you maintaining your short haircut on this tour? I will go to anyone to get my haircut.

If there was a guy with a blow torch on the side of the road, I'd go. What I find in New York now is all the barbers are from Azerbaijan. Oh, really? And so I wrote an essay about it because I'm in the Epstein files. You are not? I'm in the Epstein files. You are? Yeah, I am.

For some reason, Jeffrey Epstein emailed somebody an article from the New York Times that was, I don't know, 2004 or something. And it was about a bookstore in Paris where I'd done a reading. And so it mentioned my name. Oh, my God. And they mentioned Don DeLillo's name and a couple other Tony Morrison's name, right? Oh, shit. And so I'm in there. So I went to get a haircut.

And I said to the woman, I said, you know, I just found out today that I'm in the Epstein files. And she said, what? Like, she spoke like 17 words of English. And I'm like, fuck. You know, like I needed her to have a reaction. To have a reaction. Yeah.

So to me, getting a haircut is simply about. the conversation. My hair is one important. You never regretted one. No. No. Because again, it would just be funny. And well, I wrote about this. I went to a barber in Tokyo and he

had shit on his hands. No. And I could see it. Like a little smear of shit on his hands. And every time he raised the scissors, I was like Oh. And you were like, I'm not getting up. I'm not leaving. And he didn't speak any English. And And I used all my Japanese, you know, but I don't have. There's no way you're going to do shit on your hands.

There's no way you practice. Excuse me, sir. I happen to notice you have defecation on your phalanjis. And he's a lovely guy. Oh, no. And I just. Could you smell it? Oh, my God.

Every time he raised the scissors. Oh, fuck, David. Every time he raised the scissors to my face, I could smell it. I'm shocked. You didn't just get up and leave. I didn't want to embarrass him. I didn't want to. This is where you're a mixed.

Messages. Yes, I think we're all full of contradictions, but one is like you tell this guy on a bus in England to turn or a train to turn his radio off. You'll do that, but you won't sit to the man who is shit on his hand. Getting dangerously close to your eye. I just realized that I am late for an appointment or I don't know what you would say. But you know, when I go to a barber, they just use a shaver on my head. So I say on the number two. And maybe he thought I said the. Then he goes, oh, that's already done. The number two scissor cuts I already have number two. He's like, okay, if you really want that. Oh no. Would you be open to a barber saying like because I think this happens to women a lot. Like a woman will go into the beauty salon

and she'll be like, oh, I'm so tired of this look. And then that hairstylist gets to go like, well, would you like to try something new and then they get to get creative? If someone pitched you that one of these barbershops, like if you ever thought about doing something new, would you let them go wild? just to see what it turned out.

Yeah, it would depend on the person. Like, I met somebody the other day, and I bought something that, gosh, I would not have otherwise bought, and he didn't give me the hard sell. It wasn't like that. I just liked him. And I walked into a store, and he didn't say, welcome in. He didn't say, how's your day going so far? Within a minute, he used the word boyfriend.

Within a minute, I knew so much about him. Yeah. And I just liked him so much that I bought this crazy shirt that I wouldn't, it just felt like part of our relationship for me to get this. So a barber could say, let's shave your head. Right. And if it was the right barber, I'd say, yeah, let. Yeah, yeah. Do you remember, I'm old enough, so I remember this, when you would go into a barber shop and the barber would have penthouse magazine and sometimes hustler magazine on the tape.

It was like a real men's space, you know. And I remember getting haircuts and I was in Toronto and the guy said, where do you live? And I said, Paris. And he said, what's that French pussy like? No. Like they would talk like that. Yeah. Yeah.

Filthy. Oh, my God. Filthy. As if they're anatomically different. Wow. You should have made something crazy up. They're sideways. After a certain age, you feel like you've taken steps back to say.

say like, oh, you know, like, what, you know, that pussy is fine, you know, that is so tight. Whatever the words are, I don't know. And they're just looking at you. You don't even know what's really preferred, right? But then you feel like, really, I've come this far to go back because this jerk. But then if you said, I would have no idea, I've never, I can't tell you anything about it. And I actually can't tell you about French dick either. because the only dick that I'm getting right now is my boyfriend and he's American.

Like, I don't know what happens. I think that would have opened up an incredible conversation. It could. Depending on the person. I'm here, barber, so you just said that. And then I would go, yeah, I guess I'd imagine French penises are not circumcised, right? That would be really good. No, you're on to something.

Right, exactly. Yeah, you're on Terra firmer. We can go somewhere. But that's you interested in. everything. Yeah, exactly. You're hoping that this is a very open-minded bar. The guy asking about the French pussy is probably not going to continue. I think he's going to stop talking at that point. But my problem now is everyone's from Azerbaijan and they speak 15. You know, when you speak to them, they're like, oh, don't make me. It's like when I go for a pedic, I've gone for two. My sister Amy

took me and then I took my friend Dawn for pedicure. And the women were like, oh, don't make me. I know. And so I felt like it was wasted money because I was just sitting there and I wasn't talking to anybody. Yeah. I guess that brings me to another one of my questions. Because your work is mostly about your real life travels, do you ever panic that you are going to run out of material?

Do you feel that sense of like, I don't know how much longer I'm going to be bumping and interesting people at assigning? Do you have any anxiety about that? One of the essays in my book is I got bitten by. dog, right? Now, if I got bitten by a dog again, I'd be like, fuck, I already wrote about it. I can't use it anymore. Right. So that would be a worthless biting. Yeah. Because I think you and I have the same thing. I don't write about it, but I love telling stories. And often, I'm like mid-disaster, like something's going terribly wrong. And then I just get that little moment where I'm like, oh, yeah, this is going to be a

story. And then I can kind of enjoy the rest of it because I know I'll be telling this. And I'm almost just grateful for this situation. Yeah. I think it's a neat way to reframe your life if you know you're just out there trying to get amusing stories for everyone. To me, what's unfortunate, last week, I spent 12 hours in the Nashville airport. And I heard other people talking when we boarded the plane at 8 o'clock and they said, we were supposed to leave at 8.30. And then in 8.30, they said, well, it's going to be a 10 minute late. And then they said there was a part missing on the plane. And they said they would call mechanics to come and look at it. And then we waited on the plane. And they said, we're going back to the gate and we got off the gate and then they said, oh my God, it's a boring problem.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's a boring problem that nobody wants to hear. And that makes suffering it that much worse. True. Because it's so boring. And there wasn't anything interesting about the day. Yeah, it's just one complaint. It's just when I was at the airport for too long, basically. Well, then I got to Denver and my luggage had gone to St. Louis. Oh, no. And I had to talk to the guy at the luggage office. And he said, if we open your suitcase, what are we going to find in it? To be cute?

Or he really wanted to know? How do they know it's my suitcase? I mean, I had a tag on it. But I said, well, if you open it up, I said, you'll find a Berberie dopkin. I said, it's plaid, but not their iconic plaid. And I'm so... So gay. It's not going to leap out as Burberry.

There I caught it. It won't be super obvious. Oh, man. But that was the only interesting part of the day. I mean, that's the only part of the day worth talking about. Worth noting. And you'll scribble that down somewhere. That'll get scribbled down in my diary.

Back to the dirty magazines. I haven't had the pleasure of going into a barbershop that had the hustlers and stuff. But one of my first jobs at 15 is I worked for this race shop. And I worked. with like all 30 to 45 year old mechanics. And I was 15. And it was like a dive into the deep end experience with male culture. Like they were immediately joking about fucking me and stuff.

And I was like, oh my God, this is extreme. And then yeah, in the bathroom at work in the shop, they had a stack of the nastiest. I mean, it made Playboy look like Hallmark. You could really see inside of everyone in these. And I was 15. And so I would go to the bathroom like two, three times a shift. I didn't have access to that kind of material. And I was just constantly in there looking at those things.

See, now you can go in there and take pictures with your phone and then have them at home. That's definitely more hygienic. Those magazines are just... Oh, it's terrible. I know what the other men were doing with... Yeah, covered in Greece. They were in there for a reason. But I wonder, though, because I don't know this, but does that male culture, is it alive and well? I'm trying to figure that out, too, because I also moved from Detroit to El.

So here when I'm around and I get to be around from friends of ours, 15 to 17 year old boys, I have access to like a group of them where I get to see them interact. And they do seem so much nicer than boys were when I was that age. And they seem way less perverted and insatiable for all that. But again, I don't know if that's because I'm in L.A. and I'm looking at kids from West L.A. Do you have any sense? No, I don't. But, you know, when I go to the barber in England and when I go to the barber in France, it's not that way.

You don't have those magazines. Have you been watching Half Man? I watched the first episode. I love it. And I was trying to tell Monica, what I love is how accurate they got, how weird us little boys are. Boys are so fucking weird. There's a period. I just think we're so strange.

Everyone's got to get their dicks out all the time. And boys are sword fighting. They have this thing and they're just not sure. They have a sense that it's supposed to be being used, but they don't know what for. So just all this weirdness. comes out. I love it in the movie Bridesmaids with one of the characters. She has sons and she talks about how disgusting they are. Yeah. And their sheet cracked in half. Did you ever find any naked men magazines when you were a kid? No. I found nudist magazines. And it was interesting

because nudist magazines, right, it's families being naked together. Right. So those are naked children. Yeah. So I thought, Like if you had old nudist magazines in your house, could that be considered child pornography? Oh, interesting. No one in the nudist magazine meets your gaze, right? So no one's looking at you. They're playing volleyball or they're cooking hot dogs or something. But for pornography to work, there has to be an engagement.

And some implication of like sexuality, yeah, as opposed to like, we got to get these dogs off the grill and into these kids' mouths. Everyone's starving. The nudity is just secondary. But I wondered about that. I do wonder, because someone's taking those pictures. If it's a magazine you can purchase, how could it be... How could you ever get in trouble? I have looked at nudist magazine.

I mean, the only ones have ever seen were old. Well, think about these photograph magazines your father collected. They had people under 18 nude in them sometimes. He was wanting to take one. Yeah, like, gosh, photography today or, you know, magazines like that. that used to come out in the 1960s and 70s. Yeah. Yeah, it's really curious if, like,

you have something that was of the era fine that is now here. I bring this up all the time, not because I want anyone to go in blackface. I don't think anyone should go in blackface. But when these photos emerge of people in blackface in the 80s, I think it's really important to remember. There was a major motion picture that was in 3,000 theaters called Soul Man about this lead character pretending to be black to go to college.

and he was in full black body. And that was at the Cineplex in 88. So, yeah, if someone that same year went to Halloween, clearly the culture at that time, it seemed completely fine. It was like a major motion picture. It's so hard to imagine right now, but that really happened in my lifetime and no one cared. When all those pictures of politicians being in Blackface came forward,

I wrote something that when I was a kid, like you would dress as a Native American. But it wasn't like you felt like you were getting away with anything. thing. Yeah, exactly. It's almost like you had no ideas for a costume. That was kind of like, well, fuck, I guess I'll go as a chief. But I think that's hard for people now to conceive of, but we're doing something now that is going to be in consens, I mean, in the future, but we can't even guess what it is. We're sitting here in this room. We can't even guess what it is. We're doing something deplorable right now. Yeah. Yeah. It's crazy. And even trying to imagine,

like, oh, is it drinking water from a can? Yeah, exactly. Is it? Is it? Is it books with paper? Yeah, I know. Okay, so I've been on this kind of tirade of, or not even a tirade, people just ask me what I listen to. Because everyone knows I listen to something to go to bed. I've been telling everyone, you know, I've been this year of listening to you every single night. And when I'm encouraging people to do this, the way I hook them on you is I tell them the story of the tortoise. Or no, it wasn't a tortoise, it was a snapper turtle that you developed this relationship with.

And I think it's kind of my favorite story of yours in that. I think it encapsulates exactly who you are as a human being. So I just want to walk through that a little bit with people. In short, you bought this wonderful place, the sea section on the island. What's the island? Emerald Isle. Emerald Isle. And you thought this would be a great place for my family to gather.

And then you started doing that. But once you were there gathering with your family, you're like, I don't want to be in this house. All these people, you take a walk. And then what happens you discover this turtle under a bridge? There's just a canal there. And it's just filled with snapping turtles. and with water turtles too, but they're massive snapping turtles, like the size of your suitcase. Oh, God.

And their face is intense, right? The actual beach on the fingers. Yeah, there was one in particular that had a tumor on its head. Yeah. And that was the one you really felt affection towards, right? Yeah. Because the other ones, you know, you know the one with the tumor on it. It's like he's wearing a hat.

Yeah. A hat. But out of the steps, you started noticing people who are feeding them garbage, like Ruffles, potato chips. And you were like, they got to eat something better than this. They can't be designed for that. Well, I was feeding them raw hot dogs, which I don't know how much better that is. But they'll eat anything.

You know, the snapping turtle is just going to eat it and then think later. Was that a piece of human shit? And I don't think anything can be too disgusting for them. They'll eat whatever. They don't care. But you started feeding it like, I don't know, do you do some chicken livers too, maybe? Yeah, chicken legs, chicken backs. Yeah, I know you were on tour and then you discovered you had this.

Lipoma tumor? Tell people what a lipoma is. I was in Paris one day and I noticed it seemed to pop up overnight. It was like half a devil's egg under my skin right above my hip and I went to a doctor and he said, oh, it's a lipoma. And I said, is it going to get any bigger? And he said, probably not. And I said, why? I don't know. Why don't trees touch the sky? Which I thought was such a good answer. And he said, there's no need to get it removed. He made me feel vain for wanting to get it removed. And then I went to a doctor in North Carolina, and I said, can we cut this out? And he said, yeah, definitely.

And I said, because I want to feed it to a snapping term. There we go. But do you remember where that idea came or just felt very natural? I just finished this essay about why some people want to feed wildlife and why it's not important to other people at all. I know people who never occurs to them, right? It's me. I don't. Oh, really?

Never think about it. I never go to Central Park without food and I feed squirrels. And then I started feeding birds. And then not long ago, I started feeding crows. It's fascinating to have a new creature to feed. Yeah, right? And they love hard boiled eggs. The crows do?

Yeah. Okay. We're feeding crows too. Oh, you do? What do you feed yours? We've tried every single thing. I was putting out like really nice lunch meats for them and stuff. Kristen was trying different berries and stuff.

They love dog treats. That's a big one. I think they're real smelly, those dog treats. Yeah. They love peanuts in their shell. That's what I heard, but ours don't care about that. Raw chicken breast. Raw chicken breast.

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roadside assistance plans provided by Allstate Motor Club, Inc. an all state affiliate. Yeah, so what's great about the two camps is there's people who want to feed animals. And it's not just that the people who don't want to feed animals, don't want to feed animals. They feel vehemently that you should not feed animals. To not want to is to put you immediately in the camp of like, you shouldn't feed animals, right? It's very vitriolic. But it's also, like, it's easy for you to say, you're not doing anything.

Don't I mean? Like you don't have to hard-boiled eggs. You don't have to get them. It's lazy. Fill a Ziploc bag with damp paper towels to wash your hands. When you go to Hyde Park, it's just a few blocks from my house in London, and crows recognize 100 human faces. Yeah.

And the second day you go, they're there. And you look like a warlock. You know, all of a sudden you got 30 crows dancing in front of you on the street. What power. And it's just fun. Yeah. And it opens a whole new world. But another world just got open because we have a pasture behind our house and this shepherd was keeping his rams there.

This is in England, right? Yeah. And rams are just assholes. Anyway, he's not having sheep anymore. So our pasture was empty. Someone in the village looking for a place to keep their donkeys. We have donkeys now in our pasture. Oh, that's cute.

So it's a whole new, a whole new things to feed and get to know. I'm really excited about that. You're the don't feed the animals person, right? I went to the park with him. He didn't feed a single squirrel. And I thought, oh, he's embarrassed. If I go through a trash can because I'm looking for something shiny or just something I can use for one reason or another, he'll walk ahead. And if I'm picking up trash, he'll walk ahead.

So I was surprised. I thought, oh, he cares what people think more than I do. But I had this lipoma. And then I thought, you know, people who get their legs amputated, right? Alligators would love to eat a leg. It's wasted, yeah. Yeah. And instead, and this doctor said, I cannot give you anything I cut out of your body.

Do you know why? I don't know why. I don't quite understand it either. I know, like, I think they're under the guise of it would be a liability issue, but what's the liability? But a lot of dentists won't even give you teeth anymore. That's mine. Right. Someone told me it had to do with flesh eating bacteria.

Yeah, bacteria. Oh, okay. I could see that. But I bitched about it one night on stage, and this woman came up afterwards and El Paso, Texas and said, I'll cut that out of you. And I'll give it to you to keep. No. She's like, meet me in the bathroom? She was a doctor, not a surgeon.

And she said, I'll cut you open if it's above my, I don't usually like this word, pay grade. I'll stitch you back up and send you on your way, but it shouldn't be a problem. And so after my show, it was like 2 o'clock in the morning or 1 o'clock in the morning after the book, Sunny. She drove me across state lines into New Mexico. It's a great place. What? To a clinic. And there were a couple other people that came with us.

And it was really simple. And she cut it out of me. And then I went to her house, hung out later. I didn't sleep at all and went back to my hotel. She shipped it on ice to one of my sisters. And she brought it to the beach. But months have gone by, right? You're kind of anticipating this for a month.

You know you have this delicious lipoma sitting on ice. And you're so excited to get home and feed it to this. And it didn't amount to much. Yeah, yeah. And you were going to feed it to the snapper. Hopefully, that had his own tumor, right? Right. And then I was told that that one died.

Oh. Because my brother and my niece are down there a lot. And they said, Godzilla, turned out lots of people had different names for this snapping number. So I fed it to a different one. But it appreciated it. I hate to give away. My family and I, because I told you, I also listened to it with my dog. a lot. We often lay down, and that's part of our routine, so listen to one of your stories.

But the story ends with you saying, you know, that's the great thing about turtles is they'll eat it and barely think that. Whereas a dog, if you feed it a human turtle, it'll eat it. But then it'll give you a look that says, fuck. Is that a tumor? I mean, what a fucking. But a turtle doesn't even give it a second thought. But to me, it was. It was. Just about waste. Yeah. So many of our waste-related rules are just lawsuit stuff. Trying to avoid lawsuits.

Right. You can't give somebody if all these hamburgers are left at the end of the night. You can't give it away to people because they might, blah, blah, blah. But you can give it to an alligator. They're not litigious alligators. Or there's all kinds of creatures. You give it to dogs or cats. Yeah.

I don't understand why. And it says you dumb rules in place. Do we agree, though? There are a couple of good policies against feeding animals when it comes to, like, extremely dangerous animals, right? Like, you wouldn't encourage anyone to feed a polar bear and get them more comfortable with your backyard, right? No.

Or bears. Lions. Coyotes, I was about to say. There was a scenario down the street where a woman was feeding these coyotes. And then, yeah, more and more and more came. The one got run over. And it's like a whole to do. That's also my sister's theory, right?

Is that her, yeah, her investigative work? I don't have total confirmation on what she was feeding. My sister has figured this all out. I got to say, I'm afraid to say, if I lived in a place and there were coyotes, you'd feed them. I'd probably think, hmm, I wonder what they want to eat. You feed the foxes. Yeah.

Which everyone does in England, right, in your area? No, not necessarily. There are a lot of people who, right. I know people who throw scraps in their yard and then maybe they'll be gone, but there was this fox. She was eating out of my hand. Oh, my God. in England. Eating out of my hand.

And you're not worried about that. No one had seen anything like it. Nobody. People were shocked at this fox, right? And then our neighbors, they have chickens, they paid someone to shoot her while he and I were in the United States, right? The fox? Yeah.

And then I thought, naively, well, maybe there'll be another one. No. But Hugh just saw a fox in our pasture that has babies. So I'm thinking maybe. Because if you can get those babies, if you can get them eating. Yeah. Domesticate those, maybe. Yeah. Oh, God.

Whenever you see, like, people who have foxes for pets, they are gleeful almost and they're affectionate in and they lay on their backs and they seem to be smiling. But at the same time, they're like, I got to get out of here. You know, like all wild animals. Yeah, there are animals. I got to get out of here. A woman came last night to get a book sign. She has a squirrel.

And I said, does it get in your linen? because hide nuts in your food and your linen comes. She says, yeah. But now it has the second floor of their house. But it comes down every morning and jumps in their bed at 6 o'clock to wake them up. Oh, my God. And they let it out. And it comes back.

It'll just go out for like two hours and then like like a cat. Ready to come back. Wow. Yeah. They're real smart we found out. We've constantly do these lists of the smartest animals. And they're always on there, shockingly. They can live to be 20, squirrel.

Really? Did you grow up with pets? I forget this. Dogs and cats, hamsters. Regular variety. We've had you on enough times and now I've read every single thing you've written. Do you think about how you've changed as a writer? Because I kind of was going backwards. So I got really conscious of how much the earlier stuff is different than the modern stuff.

I'm wondering if you're like even think about that or you've noticed how your writings changed. I'm very aware of it. Yeah. So how would you explain the evolution, how it's changed? To me, a difference would be like my second book was called Naked. And I was under a deadline to write it. It was before I started going on tour. Yeah, yeah.

So none of those essays was read before a live audience until the book came out. And everything in it is twice as long as it should be. Everything in it is you see somebody straining for a laugh and like elbowing you and the ribs. Get it. Get it. It's awful. It's just awful. When people can't see the difference between that and then the last book, I'm like, what am I here for if you can't see the difference?

Also, it's a difference. That second book, if you were meeting somebody for the first time and they didn't know anything about you, you would say these were big moments in your life. So I wrote about big moments in my life. But now I write really about nothing. Yeah, small moments. I think you're one of the only weird hybrids we have that you're somewhere between a stand-up and a writer, I think. And I wonder if you agree with that, which is stand-ups write a thing in the morning or even they have a kernel of an idea. They go out, they try it a little bit on stage.

They take the feedback from that. They work it a little more. There's this really back-and-forth process of having the audience help guide them, which is unique to stand-up. But because you have been doing these lecture tours for years and years and years, when you say you're working in a kind of a similar format, there's a couple of your live readings like On Calypso that I said, if you put it into AI and you had it AI analyze, are there more laughs per second in this than there is this Chappelle's stand-up piece?

You are blowing some stand-ups off the stage just laughs per second. You're really this weird hybrid. And do you think about that part at all? Reading things out loud and then going back to the room and rewriting them, that piece that I wrote about feeding animals, my biggest laugh in it came from during Q&A. No one asked about that piece, but sometimes before the questions come, I've just run in my mouth. And I was talking about the relationship between blue jays and squirrels. Whenever you see a squirrel, you're likely to see a blue jay. Oh.

And blue jays get up in the tree and they watch squirrels bury their food and then they go steal it. Oh, wonderful. Right. And Blue Jays eat baby squirrels. Oh. And squirrels eat Blue Jays and baby blue jays. They're a two-person circle of life. And so I found myself saying on stage that I love that given how now we'll cancel somebody

over an Instagram post, it's nice to know that amongst certain animals eating each other's babies is not a deal breaker. You know, like you'll still hang out with each other. It's still a symbiotic relationship. And so I wouldn't have thought. that at my desk, but I set it on stage and people laughed really hard and then I put it in the piece. So that happens. And another thing that happens is that I read something out loud and then people come up and they said, oh, I had a similar experience or, oh, this thing happened to me.

And so I can stitch it. I don't then say it happened to me. You know, I'll give them credit, but that can help it grow as well. Okay. The other arc I notice is, and this is not unique to you, I think this is the arc of most people, which is like, you're kind of nicer now. You're beautifully agitated a lot, which is a source of a lot of your funniest stories. But you have a different disposition, would you agree? And which makes sense, because you were kind of a late starter and you didn't know if this was going to work out for so long. So you had accumulated a lot of living at the bottom of the barrel issues you would have,

but you're less angry. Is that a fair? I don't even know that angry is the right word. Right. Can you feel that you've got. lighter as a person over the last 30 years? I don't have anything really to complain about. Nobody is telling me that I can't write.

Nobody's telling me I can't put a book out. I mean, you know, sometimes you'll submit something to an editor and they'll be like, no, not because it's poorly written, but because you said something that they think is insensitive. But they're not saying you can never write again. They can say change it. And I say, fuck all y'all. Yeah, exactly.

Because I read that on stage and I know it gets a huge laugh. Yeah. And you're just coward. Yes, yes. But I don't really have that much to complain about, but I'm angry about a lot of things. Like, I'm angry about, don't you just hate it when, and again, I know how petty this sounds. So you go to the hotel, because I'm going to a hotel. I started this tour April 1st.

Oh, wow. And you go to a hotel and then they run up to open the trunk of the car so they can get your luggage out. And if someone touches your luggage, you got to tip them. That's a rule. I know. I know. Yeah. So fine. Here's $10 for taking my suitcase out of the back of the car. And then they say, we'll send it right up to the room. And I say, no, I'll bring it up to the room myself because I don't want to have to wait for it. No, it's already on the way up. And then it's like, okay, that's $20 more. And that feels like, again, if I were going out of town one weekend per year, You're checking into a hotel every day.

Yeah. I'm not that person who says, yeah, sorry, I don't have any cash on me. Because I go and I find the ATM that will let me have $5 bills and then $10 and I pick them and I constantly have my money ready and have it down. And you just bucked me over for tomorrow. I think a lot of this is just like how frequently you travel. If you only hear how was your flight, how was your trip, welcome in. You only hear that twice a year. It's not even going to register.

But it's the repetition that starts driving you mad, I think. And so my issue with the bag thing when we pull up to a hotel, I'm fine with tipping. In fact, it's like a thing I get off on. I just, I don't need that. I can handle this bag. I don't want to be separated from it. It has my journal in it. This is all these reasons why I don't want a bunch of different people getting it to the room.

And it seems insane because I can manage it. So I have a couple built-in ones that work so perfectly. If I'm with my children, I go, no, no, they got to learn to handle that. their own business. Thank you. Right. So they go, oh, cool. He's trying to teach his kids not be brats. And the other thing you can say, this one works so well, David, is they go to grab my thing and I go, oh, I'll take it. My mother would be so disappointed if I didn't carry my own stuff. And then they go, oh, okay, yeah, he's just trying to like live up to what his mom expects of him. So it takes all of us out of the equation. Like, if you got beef with somebody, it's my mom or if you got beef with

something, it's my kids. It's not me. Okay, you're going to your room and you don't have that much time. You can't take a shower. On a trip like this, yesterday I got him from the airport. And I had 15 minutes before I had to leave for the bookstore. Stressful. And so I had to take a shower. I can't be waiting for you to bring me my luggage. I don't have that amount of time.

And then I get off on tipping people too. But then it's like I told you. I tip that guy for opening the trunk of the car, basically. Yeah. So again, and I know people have to make a living. And when you complain about that, people are like, you're a dick, you know, but if it's your life and if you're traveling constantly, that's the thing, too. I'm in Vancouver the other day. This car meets me at the airport. And he says, how was your flight?

I said, you're better than that. I said, you know, that's a nothing question. And I said, I, you're better than that. And I had the best conversation with this guy. Did you? Oh, my goodness. After that. Yeah. Because I said, you're not opening a door with that question. And I say, my flight's fine. And you say, perfect or whatever. And then, yeah. We're done.

It's a cold attack. And even when I was in the airport, 12 hours, how is your flight? I'm not going to, because I say I was in the, oh, poor you. Oh, yeah, travel these days, these airliners. I was in a car last month. And the guy said, I think we met once before. I was in Cleveland. And I took you to such and such.

I had my computer. And I said, oh, right, you've got three sisters. And you, like I've written down. I remember him, I would have been a little bit of phrase. Right, right. And all the stuff that I had written in my diary about him. But he was a completely interesting guy. Yeah.

I had this driver a while ago. He was divorced. And he said, we're driving. And it's like a four-hour car ride. And we're somewhere in the Midwest. And he said, do you want to go to lunch? You know, which just wouldn't happen. And he said, I know this drive-in.

And he said, it's clown-themed. Oh, a diner. It's clown-themed diner. That's perfect for you. Anyway, so we went, because it was just so unheard of for a driver to say, like, do you want to have lunch? Yeah. My schedule that day, I couldn't think of anything better than to go to a clown-themed diner. With a stranger.

Yeah. With this guy who wants to do stand-up and I didn't have to fake laugh or anything like that. Yeah, yeah. Do you ever feel stuck in those situations? Like, you're at this diner with this. person, you're not worried like, I'm going to want to go. And how will I get out of this? Or how will I tell him? It's time for us to go. I would get really in my head about that. Oh, I didn't worry about that. Again, I think because, and this is my hunch is like, you're kind of always on the hunt for a story, right? Like, this is your business.

You write about stuff. So any situations potentially fought or for work, you can always frame it that way. This guy who I travel with sometimes, lovely guy, but he wouldn't ever think to talk. to the guy driving the car to the airport. We never think to do it. We were in the Midwest, and the weather was just horrible. And there were no flights. All the flights from the airport were canceled. So he said, we got to get a private plane. We got a private plane. And it sat like 10 people. And I said, let's bring eight people with us. That's nice. Because no one's leaving here, but if you said to people, you know, I can get you to Louisville, Kentucky, I bet some people. And he said, no, they might talk too much.

And I'm forever angry at myself for not saying it doesn't matter if they talk too much. Because it would be such a nice story for those people. Of course. When these guys came up and next thing we do, we were on a private plane. Because most people don't get to ride in a private plane. No, never. And it was going to cost the same amount regardless. Yeah.

So why not? You would have given them a story for their entire life. Bring people with you. But anyway, it comes down to waste again. Yeah. Why are you going to waste that tumor? Yeah. It would make this Godzilla's

There's hungry turtles out there. I joined Kristen. She had a press junket down in Cancun one time. This is years and years ago, probably 15 years ago. And we went down there and so I have nothing to do all day, but they've given her a driver. And then I have a friend who was just in Cancun. He's like, oh, you got to go to this one restaurant. It's this old, old restaurant.

It's legendary. It's super nice. So I asked the driver in the morning like, hey, do you think you could take me to this restaurant? I say, oh, you're going to love that restaurant. It's the most famous restaurant in town. I go, okay, right. So I'm going to meet him at noon.

And then the whole ride of the restaurant, the guy's like, I take a lot of people this restaurant. He's going to tell me about the restaurant. And then as we pull up, I said, you've eaten here, yeah? And he goes, oh, no, no, I've never eaten here. And I go, oh, well, come on in. Let's eat here. And he's like, no, no, no. Absolutely.

Come on, dude. If you've never eaten here and you've come here a bunch, now, let's go. So I have lunch with this guy. And it's super fun. And then when we get out, he very much wants to, like, reciprocate. So he's like, anything I can do for you that you want, that was just. so nice. And I go, yeah, I want to see where everyone that works at these hotels lives. Like, I see the presentation, but I want to see like, where do you all live and what's going on? He's like,

oh, great. Yeah, I'll take you to where I live. And so we're driving around in this little neighborhood. And then he goes, oh, yeah, my girlfriend lives right up here. And I go, oh, cool. And he goes, can we say hi to her? I go, yeah, absolutely. So then we pull into this, you know, it's a little cinder block house about the size of this studio. And we kind of just walk. because it's his girlfriend. And she's like in a sports bra and like, whatever. She's not dressed for company, let's just say. So they start speaking in Spanish.

And you can tell she's so confused. Like, why is this tall white dude in my house? And then he goes, oh, she really would like a photo with you. Can she have a photo? And I go, yeah, yeah. Absolutely. So I don't know how this happened, David, but somehow the photo was I sat in the chair by the computer and I thought she was going to stand next to me.

And then she just kind of sat on my knee. And so now I'm in this photo with a Mexican girl and a. sports bra in a small house and I came back to the hotel I said to Chris and I go hunt potentially a photo may emerge that looks very very guilty I don't know how I ended up in this photo but I did take a photo with a woman in a sports bra I never learned to drive a car and so I've never been in a car by myself do you have to drive oh yeah but it's like with you being in a car I mean I can see how somebody listening would be like fuck all y'all you know like oh I wish I I had a driver, but it's like when you go on tour, so a car is going to meet you at the airport and take you to the hotel.

You can't do the job without it. No, it's not a stretch limo. Yeah, right. But it's a car service. But if you were renting a car and you're just driving it, you're guaranteed, you know, unless you get a flat tire or something, there's not going to be anything to talk about. But there's a potential there to have a really nice conversation with a stranger and to learn something. To me, that's what it's all about, is to touch somebody to get evidence that they're a person. Yeah.

And then they get evidence of that, of you as well. Yeah, yeah. I love it. Tell me about the evolution of everyone in your stories is real life people in your life. And I think, of course, you're hardest on yourself. You expose all of your own warts the most. But also, you just tell it like it is between you and Hugh. You'll tell it like it is with your sisters and your brothers and your dad and your mom.

How has that evolved at the beginning? Would people get mad at you? What's the unspoken rules about how you write about people? Well, my brother, like for instance, we had an argument about something in 2016. And then he said he didn't want me to write anything about him. Anyway, it took a long time to get beyond our argument. Like, it wasn't worth estrangement. Yeah, right.

I wouldn't say we were ever a strain, but I would say maybe it was strained for a few years. He's a lot younger than you? Yeah. How much younger? 11 years. And then I had a show in Raleigh, and everything I read featured him. And he came? Oh, yeah, and he was so happy.

But again, the laughs that he got were his laughs. People weren't laughing at him. They laughed at the things he said that he knows are funny, but he's not going to get up on stage and do it. Yes. He's not a writer. So he's learned to enjoy that, probably through getting to experience the live show. I think when he said, I don't want you writing. I knew what he meant.

He was afraid I was going to write certain things about him. To make him look stupid or something. No, no, just identify him in a way that, you know, if you have a business, people are just so quick to then... Write you off. Yeah. But he's such a wonderful character in your life because he's 11 years younger than you. And he is the prototypical Raleigh dude, right? He did perfect in that situation.

He and your father were best friends. Like he said, that's my best friend when he was dying. Paul can speak to men in a way that I can't. Right. You know, he can just speak their language. He's very colorful in the way, unless you're putting words in his mouth. He also has a very unique way of communicating. He's got tons of brilliant little sayings and colloquial things, right?

Plus, he had a floor sanding business. So he was hanging out with people from the country. You know, if there's grass on feel up like, you know, people who say stuff like that. He's got an ear and he's always known what's funny. Has there ever been tension, though, where people really didn't like it and they confronted you about it? Or has everyone made peace with it? I give it to them first and say, is there anything you want me to change or get rid of? And how often do they flag something?

I'm trying to think. I bet it's the same ratio of our show. We let people cut out anything they want to cut out. And I bet it's one in ten. interviews where someone does have something they want cut out. I mean, most of the people who have said to me, I don't want you writing anything about. I wouldn't have written it anyway.

They're flattering themselves. It's just not interesting. It's the same way that quite often if someone comes to get a book signed and they say, I've got a funny story to tell you, it's not funny. But if you're just having a conversation, sometimes they'll say things that are just amazing. You just hit the right. Because they're just being themselves, they're not trying.

Yeah. So did you date a lot before Hugh? Because I feel like dates must have been hard. No. I had a boyfriend before I met Hugh that I was with for six years. And then, oh, I had like a little awkward rebound after that. But it was before I had published anything. And then I met Hugh.

Okay. Because I was like, people must just constantly, I can just imagine these dates where they're trying to prove to you. that they're so funny, and that would be miserable. Well, I think it would be hard to date somebody. Period. It would be hard to date somebody, period. But like if you all of a sudden went on the dating, you know, people knew who you were. Right.

Yeah. It's hard. No, you know that everything that happens in bed, they might tell a tabloid at some point. So you're like, wow, you got to keep that in the back of my mind. So you really feel like you could trust a person's never going to do that. And I've never written anything about, you know, even my ex-boyfriend. I've never written anything about our sex life. I've never written anything about Hugh or sex life.

Yeah, you know the line you don't want to cross. Yeah, I think the most info you've ever given us about you and Hugh's sex life is Tiffany called you one time and said there's a man that wants to fuck her up the ass with a strap on. And do you know if ambassol reduces anal pain? And you said, you're asking the wrong person. And then she said, well, put Hugh on. He said, it's still the wrong house. Call someone else. That's one thing.

You never want to know that about someone. Your sister, you never want to know about your sister's sex life. You said in the fact that it was for money shouldn't matter, but it did. I got curious about your sleep sketch. now that I've read so much of your stuff. Because so many of your stories will involve a walk that starts at 1 a.m. in New York, or you're working on something at the house in England at 3 in the morning. Do you have a normal thing?

Does it evolve a lot? Yeah, I mean, it changes a lot. Like in England, quite often, I'll go out at midnight and I'll walk to the train station and pick up trash. It's like, I don't know, two-hour walk maybe. And then I come home and I'm up for a while. So, you know, I'll go to bed at three and wake up at 10. And do you have any guilt?

Do you care about what your sleep schedule is? Do you just follow whatever your desire is? Like, I want to go for a walk right now and I'll wake up when I wake up. Yeah, I just became free a couple of days ago because the past almost four years, then let's say I wake up at 10. My duolingo XP boost would expire at noon. Oh. So that would only give me like just under two hours. And then I have to cash in the NXP boost.

And because I needed to be in the top three in the Diamond League, that takes me an hour. Oh, right? And then I said to somebody 10 days ago at a bookstore, I said, does anybody know how to turn off the leaderboard for Duolingo? And this woman said, I can do that for you. Oh. And turned it off. And now I have no idea what league I'm in. I have no idea my ranking.

I was competing against people who maybe don't even exist. Yeah. And it was ruling my life. Oh, wow. And so now, Duolingo says, I want you to do this, this, and this today. And it might take 15 minutes. It might take 20 minutes. And I say, you got it.

And I'm free. I mean, it was ruling my life. This is one of my questions is Duolingo. So people that have read your previous books or have even listened to episodes that we've all done together, You were deeply addicted to your Fitbit, which then turned into your Apple Watch, in this commitment to get 10 miles a day, which is how many steps? Like 20,000 or something? More than that, probably. Let's see.

30,000. What's 10 miles? 10 miles. Well, let's see. I've walked almost five miles today. Stepwise, I'm at 10,000. So like 20,000. Okay.

Yeah. Nice. Okay. Yeah. So that was your obsession. And that was taking up a huge chunk of your day. and then came Duolingo, and that has its same weird addictive properties. Why is it that that thing has ensnared you in the same way as the fitbed?

Well, I had to be in the top three, right? A normal person might, and it's complicated, but a normal person might have 300 extra points at the end of the week. I would have 27,000. Oh, my God. And what it meant, too, is that I'd go back to it in the evening. And so after a while, you weren't even learning anymore. But the problem was that I would do it.

I'd go to the airport and I'd do it at the airport, you know, if I was on tour. And then I'd do it walking home from the fitness center when I was in New York or walking. And then I was that person on the street with a device in his hand looking down. And I was so ashamed of myself being that person. And that's what I'm free of. You had become what we call an addiction cross-addicted. You're now using your duolingo and your fucking. and steps obsession all the same time.

Stay tuned for more armchair expert, if you dare. Do you care or do you explore what's going on, why you're susceptible to that? Well, let's start with do you admit and acknowledge this as peculiar behavior? Yes. Okay, great. Because I know so many people who do Duolingo and they do it like my friend Dave, like, oh, I did what they asked me to, and now I'm.

I don't care about being in the top, whatever. But again, if I was spending an hour and a half a day and if my German was like, oh, my God, your German's perfect. Yes. It might be different. But the way to get points is to have a conversation. You can have the same conversation over and over and over and over and over. Right.

And then you're getting 180 points a pop. And that's what I was doing. That's where the money's at. So you would admit the goal of being fluent in a language. which is kind of secondary to this weird point structure you've been roped into. And do we just think it's the addictive brain or do you have a different explanation? No, it's an addictive brain. That's all we're trying to do is plug something in that won't kill us.

But what's interesting to me is that there's something coming. Something's coming my way. And I can't begin to guess what it is. But it's like before someone gave me a fitbed, it never occurred to me that I would have to walk like that. And before someone turned me on to do a lingo, I had no idea. So it's not over. Yeah, yeah. It'll just move to something else.

But I cannot right now tell you, I haven't been introduced to it yet, but it's going to be awful. Do you think it's amusing or annoying for our partners? Because Kristen seems to roll it out in dinner party conversations as it's kind of amusing, which is she has seen me be addicted to the weirdest stuff. I had a phase where it was toothpicks, right? It was tea tree oil toothpicks, but I wanted the strongest tea tree oil. I was getting them from Australia where they have like probably an illegal level of tea tree oil that would be permitted here. And I chewed them so much that I started to get scabs around the corner of my mouth.

It was like deteriorating my skin. And then I switched to halls, mental lptus. I got addicted to those for a while. I was eating a family pack a day. I'd have to go to CVS once a day and get my family pack. And, you know, she just gets to sit on the sidelines and watch this madness. And it'll just be like four months of this. And then I finally get my arms around that.

And then a new one just pops up. Hugh hated Duolingo. But no, I'll do the same. Like my brother gave me these little lozenges and stuff. Then I have to have 15 packs of them. Were they minty? No, they were very medical tasting. Yeah, I like that.

Yeah. And then it's all about that. And then it goes away and then something else takes its place. I wonder what it's going to be. We're both ex-smokers. Have you ever considered getting re-addicted to nicotine? Because there's so many safe delivery systems now. No, I feel free.

You do. It feels so free not to be dependent on cigarettes and not to be dependent on alcohol. And I feel that free like I'm released from Duolingo. And again, I'm still, I'm learning more now. Because of turning off the leaderboard. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Point system got taken away.

But that's so funny to me because all it did was, take that. All she had to do was remove that and then all of a sudden you're like, oh, I'm good now. Instead of ruminating, oh, do I want to get back on the leaderboard? Like, that's addiction. I feel like, like, oh, I kind of want to go back to it. I want to see if I can. That's crazy to me that she's just like, yeah, I removed it and now you're good. Well, I asked her to remove it. And then I don't know if it's because I'm on a book tour. And so I don't need to be number one on dualingo to feel good about myself. Sure. Self-esteem. You know, that I'm getting rewarded. for my book.

Yeah. Have they approached you about being an ambassador to the product or a paid spokesperson? Because you're now right about it so much. I feel like they should employ you. I think not because I write about it in a cautionary way. Okay. Another thing, and I know this is all annoying to be armchair, psychologized from afar. But I wondered if the C-section and the art collection are subtle.

that'll fuck used to your dad. Meaning your dad always promised the family you guys get a vacation house on Emerald and he never delivered on that. And you got to deliver on that while he was alive. And then he also loved paintings and collected a bunch of artwork. And then you got to do that, but you got to collect kind of real artwork. And when it comes to the artwork,

like I remember I was in Greece with my dad and we were in this tourist town. And then my dad's like, this guy, I might buy one of his paintings. He said, it'll really escalate in value. And I said, Dad, there's that guy in every town this size in the world. Like, his work is never going to escalate in value. My father would never give me that. He would never give me that, like the artwork that he bought in Raleigh.

There was that in every town the size of Raleigh. Don't what I mean? Like, it doesn't mean that it's not. There's nothing special or unique about it. Yeah, but because he didn't get out and he didn't go to museums and he didn't. read things and look at things. He didn't know that. And also, he didn't want to spend the money. Right. And there are people who will, gosh, there's this Salman Tour. I bought a Salmintour painting, who's this fellow from Pakistan, and gee, you can't even touch his stuff now. And I just got some

early on. And two museums have borrowed it so far. But I don't do that too often. But I don't buy things as an investment. But my father, I would say, you know, like I went to art school. Like, this has been an interest of mine since I was 14. I think I know more than you do. But just someone not giving you that is so frustrating. Yeah, not saying, yeah, you're right. It is frustrating. And that the beach house, he would go to the beach and he'd say, what do you say? We'd get a house on the beach. And we were so excited. And we'd get a real estate agent and go look at places. And there was always a reason that we didn't get it. Instead, we was going to put a bar in the basement.

And we fell for it again and again and again. As adults, we all went to the beach. We hadn't been together with the beach in a long time. And then the third day I was there, Hugh made an appointment with the real estate agent. And we bid on a house. And by the fourth day, we had a house. And my father was like, you can't do that. You know, what about the roof?

And I said, if the roof needs replacing, I'll replace the roof. I'm not going to let it stop me. Yeah, you're just like closing the loop on the things he left open. But you didn't ask about the air. How old's the air conditioner? I said, don't care. Yeah. Yeah.

You had a reader, a guest that wrote you a letter and said, I want to come to a live show, but I have Tourette's. A woman? Yeah. And you said, of course, come to the show. And then she was sitting in the front row? What ended up happening? I saw you talking about a talk show, but I knew there you had to stop short of what was probably happening. She said, I have Tourette's and I want to come to your show, but I don't want to be the show.

And I was a little bit insulted because I know when there's some with Tourette's. in the audience. You know, you figure it out pretty quickly. Yeah. Right. At first you're like thrown and then you think, oh, no, it's somebody with Tourette's. So she came and she was in wheelchair and she sat in the front row. Fuck you. Fuck you. Fuck you. Fuck you fat. You know, the guy at the BAFTA Award.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I was stunned by the ignorance that came out of that. People, well, he should have said, why didn't he say strawberry? Because he has Tourette. Yeah. And he's got to say the most offensive. thing possible, right? That's what the condition is. Yeah. And so when she called me and I wasn't offended and least bit because you knew the situation. That's what she's going to. That's what she has to call me. So this is fascinating because I had a

different take, which is simply there are some things that you have that preclude you from going places and that's just how life is. And it's like when men become trans women, they accept out of the gates, I'm going to be a woman, but I'll never give birth. That's just off the table. Right. So my she was like, I'm so sorry. The one thing you can't do when you have Tourette's is attend a televised fucking performance where there's going to be black folks on stage. Guess what? You have to recuse yourself from that situation. But his movie was nominated. I know. That was the tricky thing. So it was like his big night. Then they should have had him backstage so he could experience the night. But we got the exact outcome we were always going to get. So why did we do that? I don't know. I guess I was more

inclined like this is somebody's special night. Do you know what I mean? Well, a lot of people, but we elevated one person's special night among 10. I don't think we can prioritize one person over 20. Okay. How about this? Okay. Here we go.

You can come. We're going to put a sock in your mouth like five times. Yeah. Okay. We're going to put a sock in your mouth. Anytime marginalized people on stage, you got to put a ball gang on. Yeah. Maybe that's a way.

I mean, it could be a happy. Do you imagine they cut to the audience. There's two people at bulk. And you start putting together the people. piece. Like, wow, every time there's a marginalized person on stage, those persons have their ball gag on. Because I guess I was thinking of it, too, like, let's say that it was somebody who was quadriplegic. Like, well, no, we'd have to put a ramp on, you know, so better than you not come. But instead, now we would build the ramp. You know, we would never think, well, you

have to stay home. Right. Right. I see both because I agree that, like, should Michael be Jordan, does he have to stand up there and pretend like that's not happening? He's not happening when the NWord is being shouted at him. Yeah, it's just like his right against him. Right. It's just to me at some point you look at a utilitarian way. Like how many people were made uncomfortable versus how many got to live out their dream. I was given an award by the BBC like a month after that.

And then the guy got up there, the host and he said, a BBC award show, what could go wrong? You have agreed. I've shamelessly asked you to read something from the new book, a very short one that I love. But before we do that, I just want to kind of publicly fillate you over. I think the story that I am most in love with that I've listened to the most time, and I think I told you my kids like the most too, which scared me the first time I heard it with my kids in bed, is Lady Marmalade. You say Marmalade.

I've heard you pronounce it Marmalade. I think that I was taking it from the song. Yeah, from the La Belle song. Yeah, but for people who haven't read it and it's in Happy Go Lucky, it's the most incredible story, in my opinion, because it has every single thing. It's an exploration of how kind of bizarre your father was, and that many times kind of creepy and perverted. In particular, there was a time where you had a stomach ache,

and he suggested perhaps you have hemorrhoids. He was suspicious. You had hemorrhoids. God knows why. I don't think those are comorbidities, but he implores you to bend over the sink, and he starts studying your anus, and you say he's studying it in the way that could only be described

as someone might look at a gem. So, you know, this is a weird activity. Yeah. But he's also not a predator and he's not an abuser. He's just this weird middle ground of like, we don't know what we file this person under, right? And that is how people are. They're weird. It's not binary.

They're not like totally bad or not. It's like, it's even harder. It's like, is dad weird or not? But then, of course, Tiffany, who has her own struggles, she ends up accusing your father of having molested her. And she's uncovered repressed memories, but she's not sure what they. are. And what you do so beautifully, and I think the reason you can explore all of it in a way that's not terribly offensive. And even you say, I recognize that in an error of Me Too, what I'm about to say is hard, but we didn't believe her. And I just, I don't know why that makes me so

happy to hear you be honest about how families are. Families are so unique. You know, they're not your relation with the rest of the world. There's things that are fine within a family And there's this weird magical relationship between siblings where it's like we are the meanness to each other. Your sister walks down with a Zit and you're like, whoa, you have a fucking Zit. You know, like you're just so cruel. And then you also kill for them and defend them. And it's just a very specific and unique experience being in a family. And the honesty that you bring to that, I just left that thing going, man, you tackled everything that was hard.

And we come out of it, me going like, yeah, he knows what it's like to be in a family. family. That's what it's like to be in a family. That's the experience right there. And I just love it so much. I've gotten so many letters from people who have a Tiffany in their family. And they understand how hard it can be. Because there were certain people who were like, you're a disgusting person. You know, you turned your back on your sister. But they don't quite understand. You know, Tiffany called my dad at one point and enlisted a friend to tape the conversation and said, do you think I'm sexy? She thought, yeah, trying to entrap him. Oh, no.

And then when Tiffany died, he never seemed terribly upset about it. I never saw him cry. He said she had a rotten life and that was it. A lot of people always assume that if someone in your family kills themselves that you're overcome with guilt. Like someone just asked me that last night, you feel guilty? And I said, for what? For so many people who were mentally ill who wind up killing themselves, I don't know. You'd have to think pretty highly of yourself that you could stop.

I also think you and I as a gift have the model of addiction, which is we know what it's like to be in a state of mind where nobody can really interfere. You're on your mission. And either you will get sick and tired of being sick and tired or you won't. But no one else is going to interfere with that. And I think once you understand that, it's easier for you to apply it to people and have a little healthier distance from it and not the illusion that you can fix it. sometimes be like, I can't be around it, you know? Mm-hmm. That's the reality of mental illness.

Yeah, if you don't have anyone in your life who's experienced it, you wouldn't know. Like, yeah, sometimes you have to walk away from that person, which does sound really mean, but or you will die. It's a survival mechanism sometimes to walk away. I mean, I'm sure my father, you know, from Tiffany calling and accusing him of, you know, again, like my dad was a creep. Just because your creep doesn't mean you're a pedophile. It doesn't help your case any.

Right, right, right. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, yeah. There's some inconvenient history here. Okay, so if you're open to it, I would love for you to read Punching Down. Sure. Let's see. Here we go.

Gosh, I haven't read this. Well, I read it on stage when I recorded the audiobook, and I think that was the last time. I haven't read it out loud on the book tour. When I first moved to New York in 1990, I knew a total of five people. They all had lives of their own. I couldn't just plot myself down and demand their attention. So I signed up for a once-a-week class, taught at the West Side YMCA, hoping I could make a friend or two there. Writing Funny, the course was called, and it was taught by a British woman named Frida Garmaze.

It was maybe in her mid-60s at the time, and it published several books. What are the rules of comedy writing? She asked at the start of our first session, I put my hand up. You should never make fun of anyone who has less power than you. Frida looked at me with a combination of disgust and pity. Where on earth did you get that idea? She asked, I groped for an answer. The village voice, maybe.

No, no, no, she said. The only rule in comedy is that. that you should always be as tasteless as possible. I think about that moment a lot, especially now when the phrase punching down has become ubiquitous. It's a worse crime a comic or humor writer can commit, at least according to the people who now decide such things, meaning people on X who determine based, I suppose, on your photo

and a wild guess of your net worth who you can and cannot make jokes about. Words we are now regularly reminded are violence. Silences as well. I read not long ago that capitalism is violence, as is misgendering someone. Ignoring someone is violence, but so too is paying attention to them. A friend recently called on one of her assistants to deliver a statistic during a business meeting and was later charged with casual violence. Apparently, Deborah needed to give advance warning that she was going to ask a

question, one that might possibly put her employee, someone who was well paid to know stuff and be able to spew it forth on the spot. Who are these hot house flowers all so easily and consistently wounded? People whose parents never hit them. That's her. People who don't know what real pain is, but still want to throw the word around. When I was a child, a slap across the face was too minor to qualify as casual violence, it was simply what you got for talking back or holding everyone up. It never hurt all that much. What stung was the swiftness of it, the surprise. Who knew my mother could move so fast, like someone belted in the martial arts? I don't feel like it traumatized me to be knocked around a little. Blood was rarely drawn, no limbs were broken. Could my parents have made

their point without resorting to violence? Probably. But it would have taken more time. And with six kids to dress and get out the door, that was a precious commodity. I see parents now who worry they're being abusive if they don't spend at least an hour putting their child to bed. An hour, I said to my sister, Amy, do you remember ever once being tucked in? Can you imagine mom and dad reading to us or singing? Can you imagine them kissing us? Oh, she said, stop. And look at us, we're fine.

We can handle stuff. We never get offended by anything. Part of this is that there were so many of us. A child needs brothers and sisters, the more the better. Good siblings will press your favorite doll's face onto a red-hot barbecue, then steal the money, the tooth fairy left under your pillow. They'll deposit things inside of you when you're four. Then sleep with your boyfriend, 12 years later.

We'll, in short, prepare you to live in the real world. Better still, they'll dilute the eye of Sauron-like attention given to an only child. My mother couldn't remember our names half the time, much less care whether we felt anxious or depressed. One of the worst things that's happened to us as a country is that people are having fewer kids than they did in the past. Sure, it's good for the environment. Fewer people means less demand for resources. The problem is that single children receive a freakish amount of love and attention. Most graduate at least 12 times before leaving high school. Their every move is recorded and celebrated and it gives them an outside sense of their own importance. Our parents thought we were

okay at best. And I think that really helped us in the long run. As someone now, if they have kids and they're pretty much guaranteed to use the word amazing, as in I have an amazing six-year-old daughter. Amazing because she just discovered a cure for MS. Or because she speaks three words of Spanish. I always want to ask. I mean, just how low have you set that bar? The solution isn't for every couple to start having five kids, but maybe for one chosen couple to have five, and the other four couples to go without. Either have a full litter you can't dote on or nothing at all. If our schools are a mess, it's in large part due to these parents who think their kids are special, who get mad if you contradict their brilliance, if you give them a bad grade or, God forbid,

try to take their phones away. Had one of my teachers told my mother that I was acting up in class, she'd have said, thank you so much for letting me know. Then she'd have come to wherever I was in front of the TV or at the side of the TV, making my way to the front of it, and slapped my sister Gretchen so hard her eyes would have crossed. What was that for? Gretchen would have asked, oops, wrong kid, my mother would have said. Then she'd have slapped me twice as hard to make up for my mistake. I was in Los Angeles not long ago. Staying at a hotel in Bell Air, houses in that neighborhood start at $20 million, so of course there are no sidewalks. You wouldn't want the wrong people wandering it. So I was on the far edge of a winding

street, Porsches and BMWs racing by when I saw a van-sized private school bus pull up in front of a gated mansion. A mother ushered her child age seven or so through the door as I passed. I walked on for another five minutes before turning back, surprised to see that the school bus hadn't moved in the time I'd been gone. Rather, it was where I had left it, the engine idling, the mother still at the door, mewing over the sound of her crying child, well, atticus, honey, where do you want to sit? So the bus driver, and all these kids had to wait until this one woman's son was happy with his seat. I think that if you don't want to spank or slap your child, that is fine your decision. But that other people should be completely allowed to.

Not higglety-pigglety, but in this situation, the driver had every right to yank Atticus into whichever seat was empty saying, shut the fuck up, we're leaving. Children now are like animals who have no natural predators left. Had I arrived at my elementary school with a bleeding head wound, explaining that my father had just thrown me out of his moving car because I was teasing my sister, the teacher would have handed me a band-aid saying, well, I hope you learned a lesson. Now even a scratch on the back of your hand could get your parents locked up for abuse. And children know this. In a London park one afternoon, I saw a woman glaring into the distance to where three kids, age, to nine were breaking branches off a tree. Hey, you boys, she shouted, stop doing that. You can't talk to us, the ringleader shouted back. And he was right. At least legally, according to the law, the woman was

bullying. I was in a crowded restaurant one night and saw this four-year-old running back and forth across the candlelit dining room. Her parents charmed. This, as servers were carrying heavy trays of hot food. I kept waiting for the manager to say something, but they're all afraid now of being condemned on social media. She didn't seem innately horrible, this girl, but I think we'd all been better off had someone said, you sit down right now. In this case, though, it was really the parents who needed to be hit. Ditto, the couple, I saw the next morning at breakfast. They came with two kids, age maybe four and six, and each of them was watching a different program on an iPad. Neither had headphones on, and the high-pitched voices of the cartoon characters,

let's go see what the letter M is up to. It was super disturbing. If this was a sports bar of the sort with billboard-sized TVs and loud music playing at the same time, it might have been different. But it was the restaurant of a nice hotel, one that, offered room service. Did the parents know that this is not their house, I wondered? Thinking, finally, of a couple I saw on the subway in Yokohama once.

Their 18-month-old son was with them. And when the boy wanted to look out the window, his mother removed his shoes, took a towel out of her bag, and spread it upon the seat so that he could stand on it. Just before we reached their station, the woman pulled out a small spray bottle, along with the paper napkin and clean the kids' handprints off the glass. So actually, maybe that's a solution. You have a child or two, and then send them off to be raised in Japan until they're 18 or so and have learned proper manners. When they return and you tell them how absolutely awesome and special they are, they will look at you in blank, not understanding and thus not believing a word of it.

So good. So good and so true. Okay, you got to go. I adore you. It's so fun when you come. I just wanted to update you on something. Another one of my very favorite stories of yours is talking about what we call when we do the prompt foreign objects and bodies, which is what nurses and doctors call, anyone who sticks something up their ass. And you have the funniest story about the explanation is always I slip and fell.

And that your theory is you could be. What are you holding at the top of the Empire State building stairs? Oh, gosh, I could be holding. It's not a rolling pin, is it? It's like a candle-obber or something. I could be holding two candles. We could get Delta in here. She has this whole thing memorized as well.

But the point is you're holding a ton of stuff, and you're pretty certain that if you fell down all 96 flights of the stairs, when you stood up, you would not have a candle stuck in your rectum. But I just wanted you to know that we do a prompt now. So about once every three months, people submit stories. of foreign objects and body. And we've now just had our third one comes out. Incredible.

Friday. And you would be fast. I do encourage you to listen to these. It's all nurses and doctors telling the stories. And we've heard some that would make your head spin. There are some. Next week, in fact, the one that's coming out is the woman was calling about one story. And just as a side note, because I always ask them, like, how many have you seen?

They've all seen 40 or 50 of these. It's always men. There's almost never been a woman. No, women don't do that. That's why it was a sidebar. She goes, well, we did have one woman once. And she was a furry. She identified as a furry who was a cat.

And when she came in, she had to admit she had wanted to experience what it's like to have a litter of kittens. To birth kittens. And she had put three kittens in her vagina. And they scratched her off. Well, we don't know what happened in there. We don't. But she did die. She passed from it.

Before she could hear the pussy, John. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. It's like, where do we want? We know we're using pussy. Are we going to use it for the cats of the vagina? There's just so much right there. And then one that would make your husband, too, is another one told us.

Another woman. Came in. She had put three razor blades in her vagina and then super glued her labia shut. Huh. Yeah. So she arrives. She announces this. They send her up to surgery.

In the meantime, nurse reads her chart. and discovers she has Moons. And when you have Moons, there's a very specific protocol for the doctors because they don't want to give you the payoff you're looking for. So you have to be kind of disinterested, not a lot of follow-up questions, don't offer more services.

If they'll try to get you to feed them and do all this stuff and you have to resist. So the woman comes out of surgery, so they don't want her to stay because they know she wants to be there forever. So they're going to discharge her in an hour. She calls the family, come get them an hour. So she got basically an hour in there.

The woman who had been admitted said, can I work on my homework while I'm waiting to get picked up? And the nurse thought, well, how bad could this be? She goes to her book bag that was in a closet. She gets out the one folder she needs. She said she shook it upside down. She got a pen that she felt safe about. Gave it to her. She left, got back to her nurse station.

And in five minutes, the bell rang. She went in there and she said, what's going on? She said, I swallowed a razor blade. And she goes, where did you get the razor blade? and she held up her binder, and she had put a hole at the top of it and hid razor blades in the binder. Isn't that crazy? Wow. I was signing books.

I met a woman, a dentist a couple weeks ago. I said, do you see a lot of thrush? It's a bacterial disease that turns your tongue white. And she said, occasionally, she said, but what I notice more often is bruising in the backs of women's throats, particularly on February 15th. Yes. No. No. And I said, I didn't know that the back of the throat could brooves. She said, oh, quite clearly. And there are like spots on the back of the throat when it bruises. And she said, other times I'll notice it. And I'll say, what did you do last night? And a woman will say, celebrated my husband's birthday or my boyfriend's birthday. But why don't we know this? Yeah. Because if you were going to go to the dentist tomorrow, wouldn't you be like, not? today. Yeah. Dick bruises in the back of my mouth.

Exactly. Oh my God. Can you imagine like somebody doing that? I mean, there must be people who have done that before. Yes. Nurses and doctors pretty regularly. Now they're seeing every single imaginable thing. Like if you can think about it, they've seen it.

People like to shock. I mean, that's also a big majority of us just really like shock value. But I feel like so many of the things people put up their ass and they do it again And again, I feel like if you're a doctor, you could say, you know what? I got people who are in car accidents. You're just going to have to wait until what time, if it's today, if it's not today, because you put a horseshoe up your ass. Like something that isn't even conducive.

Oh, yeah. Oh, David, we've now heard people put like whole propane tanks up their ass where now they can't operate on it because there's an hazardous explosive. Like they got to get the bomb unit in there. But the thing that makes me sympathetic, the reason I'm so compassionate is, And it's more than half of the stories start with what, Monica? The wife was out of town. More than half are the wife was out of town is the first bit of information you get.

And you think these poor men have been waiting. They're almost always older men too. I spent 10 days at the medical examiner's office in Phoenix. And they take a picture of everyone who comes in. And the wife's out of town. Yes. The husband dresses in her clothes, autoerotic affixiation, accidentally dies. So the wife has no idea, comes back.

husband's dead in the closet, hung himself, dressed, like not dressed like not fooling anybody. Yeah. Right. With panty hose on and a bra and a wig and then hanging dead in the closet. It's horrible. But nobody, I wrote about that on a radio story once and they cut it out. Nobody talks about it's an epidemic. Like it never occurred to me.

I had to read about it because it never occurred to me. Oh, I know. I'll hang myself. Right. You know, while masturbating, and that should be fun. It wouldn't occur to me. It's not obvious to me.

And maybe they don't talk about it because they don't want people doing it. Right. But so many people do it, and they just do it a little bit too long. So when I'm reading the newspaper and it's an obituary for like a 17, 18, 19, 20, or even an older,

and there's no cause of death. Death's where your mind goes to. Yeah. I think. Yeah, they were in panty hos of Brazil. Yeah. But it's because they have kinks that they feel embarrassed. they can't tell their partner or do.

It makes me sad all of them. Yeah. So then they wait until they're out of town and then they die. Yeah. Not the moral is a wife should never go out of town. Literally, that's what you're like, oh, God. It's the women's fault. If you're over 50, you cannot leave your over 50-year-old husband at home. God knows what you'll come home to.

David, I adore you. I just want to join your life. I want to retire and then just go on the road with you and be dawn and just help with the book signings or something. So just that offers on the table if you ever. If she wants to sit out sometime and you just need a right hand man for free. Well, you know what? I'm coming back.

I have a show in Pasadena in the fall. Oh, you do? Okay. I would love to be your assistant. I'm going to need somebody to go down that line. Okay, I would love that. That would be fun. Yes, I would love that.

Okay. I adore you. I know. You're just the best. My first parasorce relationship and real life relationship. It's confusing and exhilarating. So I can't wait for you to come back. Okay.

Oh, everybody get the land and it's. It's people. It's fucking brilliant. As are all of them, 15 in a row that are brilliant is incredible. The land is people, it's out now. Get it. He is an armchair expert, but he makes mistakes all the time.

They got Monica's here. She's got to let them have the facts. Well, well, well, well. Hello, Dachshepard. We're back, baby. We're back. Did you have any anxiety? about coming back.

Yeah. I wouldn't say I had anxiety. Like, I didn't have nerves. Okay. But I did have, I did have, you know, an existential crisis. Oh, wow. This is great. Let's get, we're starting right away with a crisis.

What was it? Well, I just, we didn't do fact checks, obviously. Yeah. This summer. It's been two months. I haven't seen you in two months. Yeah, darns and ears. Almost exactly.

Two months. Yeah. And that's, we don't normally do that. We do fact. Yeah. We haven't had two months quote off in over eight years. No. And even when we do summers, we still do fact checks remote.

Right. So. Already rookie mistake, out of practice. I left my spray inside. Can I quickly grab that? Yeah, we'll make it. I won't make it. I'll be right back.

That's okay. We're going to have some stutters. We're going to have some stutters. Some clumsy moments. I hope the audience is okay with that. I will say for people who I ran into so many arm cherries this summer, it was so lovely. All over the world. Literally all over the world.

And often they would say, we're really, we want the fact checks back. Well, that's nice. And it was very nice. And so I thank you. Anywho, okay, my existential crisis. Yeah, please. I have still been editing, which maybe this is why. I've still been connected.

I'm still seeing us. I'm still doing some things. Yeah. But normally I'm antsy. I'm ready to be back. I am like feeling nervous that maybe you don't want to be back and, you know, all of that. Yeah. I got to tell you.

It flipped on you. I don't know what happened this summer, but I really enjoyed the time. Oh, lovely. Like really too much. Okay. This is really fun and unexpected because I think we had reverse, reverse experiences. Okay. Yeah, we need to talk about it.

I mean, of course, I'm happy to be back and I love this job. It's so lucky. Honestly, I thought that throughout the whole summer, I just kept thinking, ma'am, this life. Like, what is going on that I have this job that's allowing me to have months off and enjoy that time. Yeah. And like, yeah, I was just filled with gratitude.

But I, you know, when you wake up and you're like, oh, just five more minutes? Yes, yeah. You had a five more minutes feeling. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So first and foremost, I had an awesome summer. There's no two ways about it.

I had awesome summer. So many wonderful memories. Got to see so many different people. Yeah. Truly great. Also, yeah, we didn't. And I didn't even at it, right? Yeah.

So I literally could pretend I don't have a job. Yeah, and we didn't talk, really. Like, we didn't have much face-to-face interaction at all this supper. We just text. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And so it was peculiar for me. It really was because I have this whole fantasy about being retired and unemployed. Yes, yes, yes.

And I will say after about four or five weeks, and the first thing I thought is like something would happen. And I would be like, oh, I want to talk about it on the fact chat. I know. I know. So that's lovely. That's a great feeling to have. Like, oh, I very much miss getting to hash stuff out with Monica.

Yes, I agree. And then there was more existential stuff happening, which was like, oh, wow. So, okay, so this is what it really looks like. And I guess my best comparison. And by the way, I know I'll change my mind 40 more times. Of course. But just currently today, what I felt like is I, I have quit caffeine in the past.

And I think maybe the longest would be like three months. And for sure I felt the benefits of it in that I was just way calmer. I was not in a rush to get everywhere. I have far less dustups with other motorists. Oh, interesting. And I was like, oh, wow, this is what it's like to be, you know, content moving through the world. But after about three months of it, I was like, I don't enjoy being on planet Earth as much. being content.

Yeah. I'm a little. I know. Like I just need a ton of stimulation. I know. And so I don't know. I have no conclusion. Just I knew I was like, huh, could I sit at this house indefinitely just because it's pretty and there's nature?

I don't know. I don't know. Which then that makes me really scared. Well, why? It's okay. Because it's such a promising finish line. and it's so aspirational. And in my mind, it, like, is one thing.

And then to relearn the lesson you learn in life all the time, which is just like, no, no, inactivity's not the road. And stagnation's not the route to happiness. And expectations are not good. Right, right, right, right. Yeah, they are, you just, they're always going to fall short of an expectation. Yeah, it was just a little bit like, huh. Now, there was a lot of compounding factors that else.

added into that analysis. Do you feel okay to talk about it? Yeah, I will just say in a nutshell, last year was of course so exciting to be in Nashville. No one had ever spent a summer on the lake I had. Yeah. So everyone was just like at a 10 last year. But now kids are older. They're a teenager. Yeah. And everyone had a good time. But people wanted to come home. You know, Like, in fact, Kristen and Lincoln came home for a few days. Yeah. Which then, of course, I mean, that's so complicated for me because I have this big fantasy that everyone's going to love this place.

And I want everyone to love it as much as me. And I'm like, well, hold on. Why are people going back to? Yeah. Yeah. That's hard. That's very hard. And then reckoning with like, okay, wow.

So just forget retirement. And let's forget eight years from now. Just next summer. Yeah. I don't think next summer will have the shape that this summer has. which is fine. And yeah, I probably won't be posted up there for that long interrupted period for some foreseeable time.

Yeah. And that's okay. But also it's a year away. We don't know what it's going to look like. We don't. Because last year, of course, I'm like, yeah, we're going to live there for a moment. We're going to sit there in that Eden. We're moving there.

And just be so delighted. Yeah. Which might come around again. Who knows? Maybe next summer everyone will be like, we really want to. Who knows? And only one of us in the group is 51 years old. So it's like one of us is also at a different life stage.

That's right. But even you're saying, even for you. Well, again, I can't I can't really parse out which part is which. Of course. I just know that I have more questions. Yeah. Than I had last year at the end of summer, which I'm kind of fine with. And then so then I got back Monday night at like 11 o'clock at night.

And I didn't want to leave. You know, I didn't want. In fact, they all came back six days before me. Yes. We'd always been planning on staying to the date. I stayed. But then the girls were like, I don't want to get back and start school the next day, which is totally fair. Yeah.

And I had scheduled two different friendship hangs during that time, really insanely special. Both of them were so fucking wonderful. But I wasn't dying to get back. And then I woke up here yesterday. And I was like, hmm, pretty good. You can't beat the weather here, man. I know. I mean, the weather in summer for it to be 82 and it's like there's no humidity.

And I was just. I have a grievance. Everyone in L.A. I'm seeing, you know, they're posting and they're like, it's so hot. Like everyone's, I'm like, guys, you do not understand heat. Yeah. Yeah. Because I was in the heat bubble of Europe.

You were in some of it too, right? Yeah. I was in Paris when everyone was dying. Yeah, yeah. And I was in Hungary. Yeah. And it was insane. It was 100 degrees.

every day in very high humidity. So it was like, it felt life threatening. And in the south, it's just a different kind of heat. It just is. I was just there and I was like, oh, like, and I love the heat and it was oppressive. And I, and not even close to the same like temperature as it is here. It is technically cooler there, but it is not. And you are swimming through the air. So LA, you guys, we need to relax. Like we have it so good here. It's crazy. Yeah. And it's, and It pretty much never gets, it gets ugly at the, in September. Yeah. But that's about.

Yeah. Yeah. I don't know. So yeah. And then I went hiking this morning and, uh, I was like, yeah, this place is, it's beautiful. It is. I'm just immune to it because I've been here for 30 years. Yeah.

But if you're gone for two months, I'm like, yeah, it's objectively beautiful here. I know. The weather's objectively really nice. And my little corner of this city is incredible. Yeah. And I had my hard shell tacos last night. I was like, oh, that's right. I love it here.

I love it. This is really funny that we had a reversal kind of. Well, it is funny. Sometimes you have to get away to have the gratitude for what, you know, sometimes you got to lose it to know what you have. What do they say? Distance makes the heart grow farther. It does.

It does. And it does. I mean, even like being in Europe, which was. So fun. Oh, my God. I had such a good time. Paris and London. But then, you know, you do.

You realize things that you take for granted at home, home being the United States. Like, you do realize like, oh, yeah, like, man, they have no urgency. Like, I, I'm, like, going to miss my flight. That's never happened. And it has nothing to do with me. It's because they're just standing there. Sure. So, you know, you go, yes, with a lot of fantasy about leaving your life and like this beautiful other experience.

And you can ride it for a long time. Yeah, you can. You know, like the same no matter where you're at, there you are. Yep. But that is actually, I think, true, but delayed. Yeah. You get reprieves from it. Yeah.

Like there are full weeks, if you get, if you're lucky enough to go to Europe where you're like, oh, yeah, man, I'm European. I'm like, I drink cappuccino all day. Like, you really can, you can snap into thinking you're someone different. But then ultimately, it creeps back in. Well, it's really funny because so Elizabeth and Andy are in Bordeaux. I think I told you. And they've moved there. Yes, they've moved there for a year and maybe more.

Yeah. And I mean, I would definitely urge people to listen to their podcast because it's like funny to hear. they're of course having a great time and it's beautiful and they love it. But moving somewhere is so different from having a vacation. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And hearing the kind of struggles is interesting and does make you feel grateful for like home. Home is meaningful. To me, I've always said that.

And I think sometimes I get like prickly when other people want to leave you. Yeah, sure. And yeah. But man, it was a good summer. It was a good summer. I went a lot of places, but I also had a lot of good time at home. Well, let's attempt to go chronologically, I think. Okay.

Oh, wait, can I say one really, really the most important thing that happened this summer? Yes. My brother had a baby. Yes. Oh, my God. Yes, just weeks ago. Yeah. Yeah.

His name is Memphis. Oh, it is. I only heard the nickname, which is so cute. Is he. Why is his nickname Fizzy? It's so cute Because it was Memphis to Fizz From Memphis

Okay Fizz And then Fizz turned to Fizzy Uh-huh And your dad's only calling him Fizzy Already right Fizzy. He wants to start a podcast called Fizzy and Me

Or he just walks around and talks And I was like, okay, well Just seems like I'm in I'm in I said He said it's a 50-50 split I said, that's a pretty good deal considering he's not going to do anything or edit or exactly.

But then my dad made a good point though. He said, well, they're there to see him. And I was like, that actually is true. That's solid. Yeah. But he's so, so sweet. I got to meet him last week and he's so small. How much did he weigh when he was born?

Seven something. Okay, so it's a good size. Yeah. And then he's back up in wait. He's doing great. He has great Padman hair. Also, Emily, his wife. wife also has great hair. Memphis has a lot of good stuff going on. I'm jealous. He already has

much more hair than I do from the photo I saw. He has a lot of hair. Yeah. He's really nice. Anyway, that was, that's like, that's a big deal for the family. Everyone's very happy and healthy and good. Is it so fun to watch your parents be grandparents? Oh my gosh. It's so, it's so heartwarming. It's like very sweet. I love it. There's a buck coming. I can feel it. Appearance. They're going to get no break. Okay, I don't even want to say it because I feel bad saying it. It's so cute and endearing.

It is. Yeah, yeah, of course, of course. It is. I feel bad saying this. Like, I feel like I probably shouldn't say it. Okay. Because my mom's so sensitive. You get annoyed sometimes.

It was it? No, no. Actually, it's just the baby voice is hard for me. Oh, sure. Okay, great. Yeah, yeah. That's all I want to say. Okay, great.

And that's a standard, that's a well-worn grievance for people. Like we all have baby. We all do a little voice around little babies. Yeah. But, ooh, like it just, and maybe it's also just, I didn't know that was coming. And it doesn't feel familiar. Like in some deep recess of your brain, it's not how she spoke to you. Well, that's what I said.

Yeah. I said, I don't remember this. Okay. So you brought it up a little bit gently. I don't know if it was gentle. But when I first heard. it. I like snapped my head over at Neil and I was like, oh my God. And he was like, did he roll his eye? Like, did you guys share a knowing look? Well, my mom, because she is the already the best grandma, she lived with them for the first two and a half weeks to help.

And she bonded so quickly with Memphis. Yeah, busy. And he, yeah, when my mom holds him, he just immediately, like, is calm and seems. Yeah, that's nothing better than being held by grandma. I know. He loves his gorgeous. Grandma. It's really cute and so I'm so happy for her. Yeah, yeah. And my dad and all of us. But like, their voice is just wild. Do you can you, do you think you couldn't do it?

Yes, I can do it, but I won't do it. You're not going to do it. You do it for me obviously? Oh, you won't do it for me off the air. I won't because I actually feel guilty. Like, I know. She feels sweet and connected. Yeah.

And so it feels like so mean that I care about that. I actually don't care about it, but I do bristle every time. Well, she's calling attention to herself. Yeah, and she should be able to. Of course, but your kind of primary wound is the calling attention to yourself. And she doesn't call attention to herself in life. No, I would say that would be one of my criticisms of her. I'd like to see her shinier.

She's reserved. Yeah, yeah. So maybe that's part of it. It's like, oh, my God, she's uninhibited because of this little sweet baby. She's filled with the confidence of love. I know. It's so nice. It is. But I just really don't remember it.

And she's like, busy. Okay, all right. It's not that. It's not that. It's not that. It is specific. Could you ask Neil to do a little sly recording just so I can hear it? No, I have a recording of it.

I'm not going to play it. For me, though, you will. After the show? I just feel like it's public. I feel like it's humiliating. Well, I'm not asking you to do it on here. No, I mean, between you and I want to know what this is. I mean, now I'm dying to hear with the voice.

I know. I know. I know. so bad. But it's so nice. And like, I feel conflicted and bad about it. And she's a great grandma. But I don't even remember it with my brother. I was there. You were right. Yeah. So I, that's why it's like, oh, this feels brand new and I don't get it. Well, she said it's not. Maybe it's reflective of a time of her life now. Maybe, but she said she did that with us. Oh, she did. Yeah. But you're calling. I, I just.

Don't. My body does not recognize it. Yeah. And it's rejecting it. Okay. Understood. Anyway. The immune system's deployed. And you, hey, everyone's very happy. Okay. Great. Great. Great. Great. Great. Okay. Okay. Beginning of summer. Let's time travel. Okay. So I think the first, well, first of all, Idaho was so spectacular. Oh, yeah. You went with the Kimmel's. Went with the Kimmel's. Ike was a new guest this year, Baron Holtz. We love Ike. Who was so much fun. He's ever. And what a. perfect fit for that scene. So tons of fun with I. Just a really perfect time there. Flew to Budapest. And I think my first morning at the hotel, so the Richardson's were there a day before us at the hotel. And I come down for breakfast the first morning we're there. We had gotten in

really late the night before. My family's not up yet. And I go downstairs. Well, Molly's already there with one of the girls. I can't remember which. And as soon as I sit down, she goes, your friend's here. And I go what? She goes, your friend is at the hotel, Schwarzenegger. And so I look out the window of the restaurant in the hotel,

and there's a little sliver of sidewalk where there's tables. And sure now, Schwarzenegger's out there playing chess. Yeah. With what appears to be some kind of security. Okay. A person I've never seen. And just refresh people's memory.

You love it. 20 years ago. I got invited on a motorcycle ride with him. We got along really well. I started going and bringing him out on stage as he was fundraising. This escalated to me literally watching a movie with him at his home next to him while he was in a bathrobe. Okay. Like that's the level of knowing him.

You knew it. I knew. You spent some time with that. Okay. So I see him and I'm so excited. I haven't seen him in, I don't know, 15, 20 years. And so I go out to the little sidewalk where he's sitting. And I notice pretty quickly as I'm approaching the back of him, there is a dude pushing himself through the little FICA plants because he's seeing him from the sidewalk.

Okay. And he's actively trying to get his attention. And he's about two feet away with his head through bushes, this bogey. So he's already kind of ignoring that energy. Okay. Yeah. And now I come up on the left side of him from behind. and I go, Arnold, how's it going?

And he doesn't look up at me at all. He just keeps staring at the chestboard. And like the bodyguard kind of looks at me. And now I go like, oh, yeah, he's kind of in protection mode. He's like blocking out. That guy, me, whatever. Yeah. I put my hand on his shoulder.

A real big swing. But it's not because I know him. Did you say it's Dax? So I put my hand on my shoulder on his shoulder. I go, Arnold, it's Dax. And I keep thinking he's going to go like, oh, oh, my God, didn't know that it was you. How are you doing? What are you doing in Budapest?

You know, like, I, that's coming. Yeah. Now I have my hand on his shoulder and I'm saying it's Dax. He still does not move his eyes from the chestboard at all. And now the bodyguard is starting to wonder, is this a problem? Yep. Arnold clearly doesn't know this guy. Arnold doesn't want.

He's big. I'm a big gentleman. And I'm manhandling now, Swords and Higger. And he gives me this kind of crazy look. And now I kind of assess of now we're getting into some tricky situation. Like the bodyguard's getting nervous. He will not look at me in. And I just go, all right.

Take care. And I walk inside. And I sit down and I think Molly watched the whole thing. And I go, yeah, dude, he either is in such a protective mode that he literally blocked me out. Or he doesn't have, he doesn't remember me at all. Or option three. hit me. He's really into the chess game. And that takes so much concentration. I touched him. I mean, I grabbed his shoulder. I don't think that

one was likely. It's got to be one of the first two. Well, I'm not ruling it out. Okay. Now, so I'm having a huge laugh at this. Like, kind of how embarrassing. So I eat breakfast, whatever. I think it's kind of funny. Then slowly my family starts trickling. And now Eric's here. Now the whole gang is at breakfast. Yeah. And an hour goes by or something. And now he's, now he's walking. He's entered the rest of the restaurant. He's now walking through. And he walks right by our table. And now I think, okay, now he's not playing chess. The other guy's not there. He's looking forward. And I'm with Kristen. Right. Maybe he has forgotten me, but I bet he knows who Kristen Bell is. That's my assumption.

And so as he's walking by the table, I give it another. No. Yeah, I give it another shot. Because it's a little, Monica, it's a little nuts to me that he doesn't remember me. Did you put your hands? I couldn't. I was seated. I was seated. I was seated. And he was walking. by. Okay. Now as he's walking by, I go, I go, Arnold, I will embarrass you I'm so scared. I go, Arnold, it's Dax and Kristen. I throw Kristen's name in the mix, you know? Yeah. And now he just goes, oh, yeah, how you doing? And then he just cruises out. Okay, so he at least. But he didn't. There was nothing. I think he was like, now we're inside this hotel. So now I think he's being a little more civil to the riffraff that's trying to get his attention. And so he just, again, he just

cruises out. I see him like two or three more times in the week that we are there. And I don't even fucking try, right? Yeah, but you said your name. Yeah, I don't, Monica, I don't know. I don't know what was going on. How's your ego? It's totally fine. That's good. If anything, it helps answer the question, why he's not come on the show when we've been invited him and he's gone to other places. I'm like, I don't think he remembers that he knows me, which is fine because I still have all my memories of knowing him. Maybe you should send him an email and be like, hey, this is what's going on. This is what's going on. It kind of hurts my feelings a little.

And you could make it up to me by coming on my podcast. You know, set some, make, do some guilt trips. I mean, the man has had a life of being famous. Yes. And Swartzinger. I mean, he's so Swartzeninger. Who are we just? It's like the biggest star ever, you know?

Talking. Who do we just have on that was in a movie with him and was talking about this? Oh, oh. Um, no, it was, um, it was Alan, Richson. They have, they have the Christmas movie coming out. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. He said that.

Like, it's just another level of fame and he's pretty. He's great at it. And his description of how he was was not the description I was met with, but who cares. I have no like, no, I have a zero. No, I know. Frustration with them or judgment or any of the stuff. I'm like, yeah, dude, this dude's life. It's like he's fucking trying to play chess and a guy's crawling through bushes.

And it's been that way for the last 50 years of his life or whatever. More than just being famous. He was also a politician. I mean, it's just literally everyone knows him. Yes. I don't know. It's just interesting that you're like, again, back to me evaluating how long I want to do any one thing. I'm like, man, he's been doing this for a long time.

There's a lot of his life has been at hotels in other countries trying to stay busy until he goes to work. And then probably not wanting to be at work, but then getting home and being like, I don't want to be here either. You know, I don't know. It's just an interesting life that I got to observe. So that was one funny thing that happened right out of the gate. That is funny. Stay tuned for more armchair expert if you dare. There's a ding, ding, ding.

What is it? Okay. Because this is for Sedaris. Oh, wonderful. Our friend. And there's a fact that is a ding, ding, ding. Oh, wow. Okay.

which is can you get a stomach ache from hemorrhoids? Right, because the father thought the source of his stomach ache might be hemorrhoids, even though the boy didn't express there was any hemorrhoids. And the answer is no. A stomach ache is not a direct symptom of hemorrhoids. Hemorrhoids are swollen veins localized strictly in the lower rectum and anus. However, they often share a common root cause, such as severe constipation or straining, that can trigger both anal discomfort and abdominal cramping.

at the same time. Now, this is a ding, ding, ding. So why don't you share why this is a ding, ding, ding? Okay, so I did not have constipation. I had a hanness the first few days I was traveling after Idaho. And yeah, I had my first hemorrhoid. And let me tell you, I did not enjoy it whatsoever. I see, I think I have a pretty good sense of humor about the things that go on with my body,

be it my dead toenails or whatever. this I was like no thank you and is that because you got worried it had to do with age well sure I'm like oh my god is this my future right have we reached the age where this like I'm gonna battle this yeah in rapid succession it's that then it's like I really got a curb my toilet use I cannot sit there and watch yeah Instagram videos exactly for 45 minutes they weren't about this I know and I had just been like yeah that's not happening to me but I'm like okay I got a I need all new hygiene around this. Okay.

And then just the feeling is hurt. I hate it. I hate it. What did it feel? When I touched it, I didn't even like touching it. Really? No, and you know, I like to touch everything.

Yeah, did it touch? I was just like. I feel like. Yeah, like a bubble. But like soft or? Well, the initial, I don't know. It just, I don't really want to go. How far up is it?

It's around the edge of, it's a, yeah, it's a swollen vein that is now coming out. It's coming out. And you can't tell if it's part of your, you can't tell if it's part of your name or if it's coming from inside. Right. But it was different. And I was like, oh, Lord, this vacation is all about walking. Yeah. For 10 hours a day.

Yeah. And walking doesn't feel great. I have a question. So did. So let's say you're just on the toilet. Let's just say this. I took a picture of it when it first happened. I'm like, oh, my God.

What is going on down there? I got to take a picture. Do you want me to put on the TV? Oh my God. Throw it up there. And I looked at it and it made me immediately depressed. Oh. I hated how it looked.

And I was like, oh, my God. I want to take a flame thrower to my whole butt cheek area. I'm like, I'm disgusting and I, and I'm disgusting. And I looked at the picture and then I erased it. Wow. I don't want to see that ever again. Okay. Now, when, when did you notice you have?

had it. You were on the toilet and you were like, out. Yeah, I white. Okay. And it was sensitive and I felt something. Oh. Yeah. So. And then ultimately, as you know, then Kristen went into a local pharmacy and bought amory cream for me. Preparation H in a different language, but you can't mistake the labeling and the packaging. Thank God. Right. You know, you can see what Preparation H looks like in your head.

I think it has a plus on it. Yeah, and it's like yellow with blue square in the middle. all it's very memorable. Okay. It's he and grandma and grandpa's medicine cabinet, you know? I didn't. You didn't. No. The Padman's never had any hemorrhoid action.

I've never. Look at that. Right. Isn't that classic? We're looking at the picture of the preparation age. Yeah, big yellow box with a nice blue rectangle and ointment in yellow as well. So she got that for me. And I was like, God bless you.

I would be so embarrassed buying that. Really? In public, because everyone looking at me would know I have a hemorrhoid. Right. Right. And so I was like, you know, hon, there's going to be a story now that you have hemorrhoids. Right. But there wasn't.

There wasn't, but then I made one. Yeah. Then you, yeah, there is going to be a story because you made just one. I made a tabloidy article on AI. Yeah. And it did such a good job. Like, I don't know if you spent any time looking at it. at that post.

I did because at first I thought I was like, what, what? The things it did in the corner, like it did it just like those tabloids where it's like a little box. It's like Kristen's five tips for whatever, you know, like. That is pretty. Yeah, this is the one they made. It's up here. You can't tell the difference between that and though.

And in fact, oh, it's on the lower bottom. What's in Kristen's basket? Okay. See on the very bottom next to the picture of the bridge. It says, what's in Kristen's basket? Oh, I see. Yeah. Because that's what they do in those things.

Like, what's in Kristen's basket? Sure. Anyways, I thought it was so funny. I made it just for us. I know. Well, yeah. And then I saw how funny it was. And then I was like, no, I'm going to definitely post this because we got such a laugh out of it.

Yeah. I mean, did it work? The ointment? Insofar as it reduced the symptoms of it. It didn't make it go away right away. It eventually, by the way, it's gone. Okay, cool. It's very gone.

There was a longer period, maybe the last. few weeks so there was like I'm going to say like a marble feeling on my somewhere between a marble and a BB. Okay. And now that's completely gone. And I'm so delighted. And I spent too long on the toilet again today. I was like, here we go.

As soon as it's gone. I know. I spent, you know, back in L.A. reading Instagram. I think you should reduce your time on the toilet. I have to. I have to. Yep. That's a must.

Yeah. So that was my first one. And I don't recommend them. Okay. Yeah. Don't recommend. But that was a crazy ding, ding, ding. Yes, it was for Cedaris.

So that is cool. That was Sim. One thing that was nice is that David did give me some wrecks, some Paris and London wrecks. Okay. He emailed me. So he had a little bit of an email exchange about recommendations. You and who? David Cedaris.

Oh, okay. And it was nice. He has great recommendations. For shopping mostly? Yes, for shopping. He gave me some restaurant recommendations too. So his favorite store is Egg in London. Uh-huh.

Is this where he's getting taxidermy and stuff? No, it's a clothing store. Oh, okay. So when I was in London, I kept thinking I got to go to Egg. I got to go to Egg. This is a store that is a must from David. And then I kept pushing him, pushing and pushing. And so the last day, the day we're leaving, I was like, I'm going to Egg.

So I wake up, I walk over there. It's not close. And it's closed. Oh, no. It was closed that day. No. So I peaked inside. Closed that day.

It was clothes that day. I peaked inside and it did have cute looking things. It did. Your style? I mean, he is really out there you'd acknowledge. He's one deviation beyond you with the daringness of this. He has a lot of daring clothes. He was priest rolls and shit, you know, in dress.

dresses and yes he does it just looked like flowy pretty clothes okay um so i have to go back um i was on the cutest little street and i that was a sad part of the trip um that he didn't get to go to egg but speaking of his fashion yes david's yes one of the facts is who made his shorts that he's wearing in the episode oh uh-huh and it's walter von berendonk very hard last name B-E-I-R-E-N-D-O-N-C-K No, I wouldn't even try it Yeah, I'd say pass

On that name I just was touching my hair And it reminded me of something very important I got to talk about Okay, right, right So we had Taryn Eggerton Incredible episode Such a good episode

And he is obviously extremely attractive Exquisite. Truly exquisite. When he left all of us, the three of us were like, oh boy. Yeah. Oh, boy. Powerful.

And, you know. No wonder he has always booked auditions. Oh, my God. Like in person, he's so magnetic and, yeah, you fall in love with him. Casting couch. If I were, if I were a casting director, I would casting couch. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And, you know, we did this interview a while ago, and it was so good and memorable.

and we've been talking about it. And I go to edit it. And my hair looks. You said this. So bad. Through your eyes. No. No.

It is horrible. What's going up? Because you told me this. Yeah, I texted you. I said. And when I was flying back two nights ago, I was like, I got to get back into the headspace of the show. I'm going to watch. So I downloaded from YouTube that episode.

And I watched it on the plane ride back. And it was midway through the episode before. I remembered you said there was some wrong with your hair because I didn't see anything wrong with your hair. And then even after you said it looks so terrible, I'm looking at it. I'm like, what part is she talking about? Walk me through exactly what was the infraction. I think mid interview, though. I think I did redo it.

Okay. So it looks a little better in the second half than it does the beginning. Uh-huh. But it, I just, I guess I just threw it up. Okay. And in the mirror, it must have looked. So your hair looks so cute. What are you talking about?

Let me find first. I guess maybe that's when it occurred in me. You said it was wrong. And I'm like, I don't, I don't see what she's saying. It's voluminous. 24 minutes in only. Yeah, I want like, let's look at like six minutes in. Now, first of all, this still isn't great.

I think it looks great. Oh, look at my stupid face. Okay. Oh, you know, and you look so cute. What's going on? Okay. I just am so embarrassed. What would be really fun to be able to, like, astro travel into other people's eyes?

I am dying to see what you're seeing. Are you at all curious to see what I'm seeing? Yeah. Because I'm assured that they're dramatically different things we're seeing. Yeah. Oh, Jess. Oh, my God. I'm sorry.

Can you do like six minutes in? Yeah, I'm trying to find. Okay. I guess I felt very. disappointed when I turned this on and I see this very handsome man and charming man. By the way, very nice per- like he was looking at me a lot. A ton. It made me like him so much.

Me too. He was very engaged with looking at me. And then, so then I'm like, ew, like this is what he's seeing. And he's seeing gross bad hair. So really quick. Rob. Okay. I found it.

It is a little messy. Thank you. This photo before we move on. Yeah. Do you think Monica looks less good there? No, I think her hair looks great there. I don't think that's fine. And do you think she looks cute?

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Ew. Okay. Well, now, now he is. This is correct. And look at my face.

He, well, he paused it. That was the best of that section that I could find. Okay. So this is the issue. Not the best you look. No. No. Yes.

The clearest image of a close up of you. That's the best I look. Yeah, Monica, I'm not. Look at it. It's crazy looking. It's not up. It like something happened. The ponytail fell a bit and back.

Yeah. Okay. Now, real quick question. Take that down. This is like looking at the hemorrhoid. Okay. Yeah. I just fucking.

fucking couldn't erase that fast enough. Yeah. Now, I would suggest that this is a very healthy side of you. It didn't cross your mind like, oh, we're interviewing this guy today. He's a babe. I want to look great. Well, this is all wrapped into what I want to talk about. Okay, great.

One is I'm sure I looked in the mirror. It's hard to get ready without doing that. I must look in the mirror and thought like, oh, like, fine. Yeah, fine. Maybe on the walkover, my hair fell down a little or something. You're bouncing. It's downhill. Maybe like boom, boom.

Boom, boom, boom, right all right. But I also, I did know we were interviewing. Okay, not good either. Take these down. What are we doing? Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Turned on Rob.

I was just back there trying to find a good image. I've been happy the last two months. I haven't had to deal with this. I don't look at yourself, yeah. Well, yeah. So I did know we were interviewing him, obviously. and I do know he's attractive. And so when I was editing this and he's there and he's looking at me and he's being so charming

and all I could think is what is wrong with me, like exactly what you just said, what is wrong with me that I didn't like get dual extra that morning. Yeah, I think that might be what's right with you. It isn't because. Well, because you didn't like the resolve. Yeah. But I think, like let's say you never saw yourself. great life for me yeah but then that would be ideal you didn't like overthink it you weren't

stressed about how you looked you came and did your job and then that was over had you not seen it yeah that would be a very healthy way to go through life that is generally how i go that is how that's the that's the dream but it's not because like okay it wouldn't have hurt for me to just like the problem is let me get macro for one second okay do you ever have this thought i i i I have this thought often, which is like, you think you look so different day to day. You don't. You look like yourself and everyone knows what you look like. And all this huge chasm between how you looked on Monday and Friday is in your head.

You can't look that different. Well, no. But I experience that all the time. I'm like, good Christ. Also see comments. Like, who he's age, you know. It was like sometimes I'm like, oh, it looks like I got hit by a truck. I don't know what happened between Monday and Tuesday.

But clearly, I kind of look that different. And you can't really look that different. Well, you don't look different to me because I see you every day. This is the first time he's ever seeing me. Yeah. So he thinks that's what I look like. And you're saying that is what I... Well, I'm saying that you see some big difference in how you look on that day and I do not.

As I'm assuming, you probably don't see a big difference in how I look day to day. But I do. If I'm trying... Okay. All right. I'm a single person out in the... universe. And I don't actually think he's a single person. I don't know. But if he is, that's interesting. Hold on that. Do you think he's not single? I do think he's not single.

Because of research you've done independently, post-meeting him. I did look something up. Okay. Oh, I love this. Okay. You did a little dig. Dig-dig. Dig-dig. Dig-dig. All for not, because how could he possibly have any interest? You have no idea what he likes. Let's start there. You don't even know what his aesthetic is. Well, I know humans' eyes. And if they're looking at that girl's hair, okay, you're like, she doesn't give a fuck. Well, and then maybe that's cool. Yeah.

Okay, that's the only hope. Okay. Is that he. This girl's chill as fuck. Yeah. That's a good luck. The problem is. Look at Orna.

Yeah. Now, her hair looks rad, but it's not because she fashioned it that way. She's just tossing it here and there and it keeps landing in very sexy shapes. And I go, yeah, look at this wild. She's like a wild animal. She's confident. She's like she's in the forest. Yeah.

Yeah. And I was also in the forest, but not in an or no way. So I love that you did some research. I want to let him know a little bit more about this. Yeah, come on. No, I just looked him up. Yeah, where do you go? What do you?

Google? You went to Google and you just typed in his name? or do you write his single? No, I didn't write his single. You just write his name. Okay. So I had a friend in town and I said, oh, we just interviewed Haren Egerton. And I said, he is shockingly a track.

You blow your groin apart. Yes. And I was like, it's wild. Like, you need to listen to this one or watch it. Yeah. And she was like, oh, yeah. Isn't he dating Alex Cooper? And I was like, wait.

Perfect. No. She's married and is having a baby? Yeah, I was like, no, she's married. And he was like, oh, yeah, no. Alex, and I said, Earl, he can't be dating her either because she's dating Tom Brady. Oh, wow, really? Yes.

Oh, exciting. And then she was like, oh, wait, no, it's this person. I'm not going to say who it is. Okay. And then I looked that person up. And I was like, oh. Is she Indian? No.

Okay. Not even close. She's a honky? I wouldn't say that. A cracker? She's not Lebanese. Okay. I can feel you.

So, um, anywho. Okay. So I was like, whoa. Okay. Yeah. So he's understandably in a relationship. And that made me feel better because I was like, well, then I wasn't available anyway. Like, I mean, he wasn't available anyway.

So not putting my best. best foot forward is actually fine. It is very respectful of his new relationship. But I did think like, why am I so opposed to like getting ready? And even today, I was like, okay, we're back. Like, I should like do my hair. Then I thought, ugh. This is just too much.

Like, it's too much effort. Well, look, it could be one and two things. One is you have a very healthy relationship with it all. Yeah. Which is like, I look how I look. Let's go. That would be great. That's, yeah.

But if it's, if it's, if it's vestigial shit from you not putting yourself out there. I know. Like it would be some kind of declaration that you're trying. Right. Like, is it. And then that's the old stuff that's like. Is it a self protective mechanism? I don't know.

I wonder. I wonder too. What's wonder? This is the first time I've wondered. You know what's so funny. I'm definitely more likely to get like ready for a female guest that I think is fashionable. Yes. Definitely.

Yes. Yes. So. Which goes to kind of. Which one does it prove? That point. I'm always making that. Like,

we're all doing it for our gender. Oh, yeah. Exactly. I also have to, I mean, I knew that he was hot, but I did not know the level. You can't know.

No. You got to be in person. Did not know until in person and seeing his, like, twinkly eyes. Yeah. Even just the way he moves and thinks about things, the way reposition.

So smart. Yeah, very, very smart. And thoughtful. We're in law. talking about his child. I mean, talking about his vulnerability.

I mean, come on. I know. I know. It was so. And he's not very masculine. You must have been fucking flooding the basements on that one. I don't like that that's something you're putting out there. He is masculine.

He is masculine. No, but the fact that he was saying, and I'm quoting, he said when it gets into the tropey masculine things, I just don't have them. And for you, that would be like, ooh, swing.

To me, that is masculine. That's very confident. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Anyway, obviously. Obviously, I ruined that. Well, I don't. I don't know, but I'll be back. I text him this morning.

You did? I did. And I said, I did. Did you not tell him a new? Because I watched the episode on the plane. Uh-huh. As I said. And I just said, hey, man, I'm really grateful that you rescheduled.

I think it's such a great episode. Yeah. Also, by the way, that was something that was incredibly kind. He had, he was sick. His movie was like long out. Yeah. Yeah. He was just to like, let me make good on this.

It was. Yeah. Yeah. He has integrity. I know, he's so hot. What are we going to do about my hair? Let's do some facts. Okay.

Because we have so much more. Okay. Oh, this is a fact. Because it's, well, it's a ding, ding, ding fact. We talk about feeding animals in this episode with Cedaris. Yeah, because he loves to feed animals. Yeah. I brought it up like 10 times in this two-month vacation.

I found myself telling lots of people about it. That he feeds. Well, because we have so many deer in our yard. in other animals. And yeah, I just found myself going, oh, one of my favorite things about Sedaris is he's like, yeah, I feed animals. I know everyone says you're not supposed to be,

but I don't care. I want to feed him. And I love that about him. He needs to be careful because guess what? What? There's a coyote in Atwater. His name's Wiley. Perfect.

Yep. And he chases everyone. He's chasing people and kids, and it's because someone's feeding him. Mm-hmm. So don't do that. Okay. Okay.

All right. Keep doing it, David. And no. And it's also a ding, ding, ding for you guys acting like these coyotes aren't scared of little girls like me. Uh-huh. Okay. Wiley is not scared. No.

But he might be months away from moving into someone's house and fully domesticated. God. Get that rabies vax on them. Um, okay. What are board shorts? Board shorts are long, quick drying swim shorts built for surfing and board sports. They feature a flat, non-elastic fixed waistband with, the lace-up tie, no inner mesh lining, and a strong four-way stretch fabric to prevent rash

and stay secure in heavy waves. No mesh. Yeah, no mesh is interesting. Well, I guess they're differentiating that from the swim trunk. Yeah, I grew up on board shorts, and when I switched to a shorter swim short with a mesh, a liner, I've grown to love that. And I really can't imagine now going back to a board short with no liner. Why do they do that?

I don't know. Okay. You know, sometimes these answers just lead to more questions. That's right. Okay, the turtle, snapper turtle story is in Calypso. Oh, the doctor said to him that he couldn't give the patients anything they've cut out of the body. Yeah. Okay.

Now. Is that a law or that was just his personal? Exactly. So I looked that up. A doctor or hospital often refuses to give a patient or remove body part due to a standard biohazard disposal policy. They need for pathology testing and liability concerns, though patients legally own their tissue in many places and can sometimes request it back.

So it says in most regions, such as the U.S., no federal law bans keeping your own surgically removed body parts, though a few states have specific restrictions. Okay. So it says patients routinely signed consent, seating tissue, rights to the hospital for research or disposal. Okay? You can refuse to sign those specific release waivers and formally request the tissue,

so you may need to jump through administrative hurdles or sign liability releases. Yeah. I mean, I wish I guess, I don't know why, I guess I wish I had my wisdom teeth. Oh, really? I had a dude dad pulled out of my lip, as you recall, Ryan had the same one. He did let me take a picture of him holding it with tweezers, which is, great because it looked identical to a merichino cherry. Right.

So did Ryan's. Right. And that's as close as I've gotten. Yeah. But you wouldn't want your hemorrhoid. I don't ever want to see anything associated with that again. Yeah, yeah. I actually don't understand.

I did a lot of research on hemorrhoids while I had one. Uh-huh. And it did talk about, and again, I don't know if there's medically sound. There's just something I came across about certain times that put a rubber band around it. The way they castrate cows and dogs. And then it just falls off. No, did you try it? No, but it crossed my mind.

Like, I got to get some braces, rubber bands. Oh, those teeny ones. Yeah. Oh, ow. Oh, my God. Do you imagine doing that yourself there, laying on your back in bed, trying to fucking do a ponytail holder on your hemorrhoid?

I mean, it doesn't even make sense. It just wasn't mean it falls off. If it went out long enough, I probably would have tried it. Yeah. It can't fall off. Then you just have a huge. open wound. Well, no, because when you put the rubber band around it, like when they castrate cows and stuff, it just from where the circulation stopped, it just seals itself

off and closes it. For real, that part's real. Okay. I'm not recommending that anyone do it, but that is what happens. Okay. Okay. You said squirrels are always on smartest animal lists. Which was an exaggeration. It was on two of our lists that we read back in the day. Okay. Yeah. With dolphin, sentient, or. or whatever. Yeah, well, I'm back on sentientmedia.org. Okay. 30 most intelligent animals in the world might surprise you.

Okay. Now we got, I'm going fast. Okay. In first to 30 or 30? First. Humans. Yeah. Interesting.

Dolphins, ravens, pigs, chimpanzees, elephants. Again, all right. I mean, I'm reminded how much I disagree with the pig and chimpanzee. Pigs are. Yeah. Chimps can do, I mean, gorillas can do sign language. What are we talking about a pig? No.

All right, anyways. Go. Okay. African gray parrots, octopuses, bonobos, rats, pigeons, crows. Pigeons. Listen. Now you're making me read. Frequently regarded as the rats of the sky.

Pigeons are often thought of as a nuisance. The reality, however, is that pigeons are extremely intelligent. In an experiment, pigeons were trained to differentiate between Picasso and Monet painting, something they had no problem learning. That is wild. They were then able to apply what they learned to distinguish between works they had not previously been shown

telling the difference between the expressionist and cubist artist. That's wild. That's cool. Dogs, number 13. Cats, horses. Squirrels, number 16. Ding, ding, ding.

Says they display their intelligence through deception. When they think they're being watched, they'll pretend to bury nuts and seeds while hiding the actual food under their arms. Oh, cool. Oh, playful. Yeah.

Them's good. Bees, ants, orcas, wolves, deer, llamas, koalas, orangutans, gorillas, hyenas. I have fucked you up for life on orangutan. It's hard. Because you're like, what am I going to do? Am I going to do that? You did.

You did. Mess me up. 27. Raccoons, honey badgers, giraffes, Portia spiders. Whoa. I didn't know there are any smart insects. Yeah.

It says they have to do serious problem solving. They need to plan ahead and recall information based on the best escape and trap roots. Okay, well, anyhow, squirrels was on there, so you're right. What is Sedaris holding at the top of the Empire State Building in that story? He says, I'm pretty sure I could tumble down all the stairs in the Empire State Building naked with a greased up rolling pin or pepper grinder in each hand in a box of candles around my neck and still end up in the lobby with an empty rectum. With an empty rectum.

So good. Listen to him last night. That's it. That's that? Yeah. Oh, I love him. I love him so much. Great.

So we're so lucky. We are so lucky that we get to have him come through this attic. Almost every time he's in L.A.? Oh, man. And I can't wait for him to come back in September. Remember, I committed to being his helper. That's right. Yeah, I can't wait.

Great. So get tickets to that show if you want me to show you to your seat. Okay. I love you.