Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard - Jonah Nolan (director & screenwriter)

Episode Date: April 4, 2024

Jonah Nolan (Fallout, Westworld, The Dark Knight) is a screenwriter, director, and producer. Jonah joins the Armchair Expert to discuss why he doesn’t have a British accent like his brother, what he... learned working on farm, and why he wrote his first script about amnesia. Jonah and Dax talk about how much research he does when taking on a project, how the perception of doing television has changed, and why humanizing the subject matter is so important in scriptwriting. Jonah explains how he finds himself crying more as a parent, how he approached adapting a video game to TV, and why biopics are so hard to make. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome, welcome, welcome to Armchair Expert, experts on expert, I'm Dan Shepard and I'm joined by Monica Padman. This was fun. Fuck yes, this was fun. Right out of the gates, he arrived in the coolest car in an Ariel Adam in the off-road setup. And I was like, what the fuck is this?
Starting point is 00:00:16 It was really cool. Yes, and I was in me like, okay, I see you Jonah Nolan. I didn't know, I think of you as a very clever writer. Auteur. Probably smarter than me. He was very smart. He is smarter than me, but we had the car thing, so that was helpful.
Starting point is 00:00:32 But Jonah Nolan is a director, producer, and Academy Award nominated screenwriter. He is famously brothers with Christopher Nolan, and they have done so many of your favorite things together. The Prestige, Interstellar, The Dark Knight, Memento. And then of course Jonah was the director of Westworld, which was one of my favorite shows ever. And he has a new series out now.
Starting point is 00:00:56 I hope people can tell when I'm truly, insanely passionate for a show. I hope they can't. Yeah. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. This is my show of 2024. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:01:07 Fallout. Holy smokes. This show is so fucking awesome. Based off the video game. Ew. Also, we talked about this when he left. This is like with Phineas and Billie Eilish. If I am the parents of these Nolan brothers.
Starting point is 00:01:21 I know. Why aren't you just so proud? Why don't they write a book? They gotta write a book. The parents? Yes, on what to do. We need to get some of these parents together. Some of these parents need to get off their ass
Starting point is 00:01:32 and write books. So please check out, I don't even have to tell you to, you're gonna hear about it so much, but Fallout, which premieres on April 11th on Prime Video. Please enjoy Jonah Nolan. This NHL season, get more excitement out of every slap shot with FanDuel, North America's number one sportsbook.
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Starting point is 00:02:49 He's an old children's man. That has to be for my benefit, is it? How are you? That's great to meet you, brother. But I thought you would appreciate it. Oh my god, of course! I walked out and was like, well, he's clearly here. Is it a nomad? What's it called? It's a nomad, yeah. There was just one on Bring a Trailer. This week.
Starting point is 00:03:08 Do you go on Bring a Trailer and sniff around? I bought a car on Bring a Trailer two weeks ago. Oh, you did? I did. What'd you buy? I bought a 991-911 GTP Twohm. Oh, baby. What year?
Starting point is 00:03:21 2018. Oh, fuck. Slightly softer suspension. I bought it in Colorado. I paid too much money for it. Sure. And then I blew out and drove it home on summer tires, which is a very bad idea. Did they even make it? I was gonna say. Now when I had to wake up every day and kind of look to see I found an app that will tell you how cold it's gonna be along your route. There's an app already for that. It's cool, it's called How to Get There,
Starting point is 00:03:46 something like that. So you first get the car, and you get in it, and you're so excited to drive it, and then it's a long drive. I've done that drive a hundred times. It's 1,100 miles. Add a little bit, because I went down through the Raton Pass,
Starting point is 00:04:00 which I'd never done before. I didn't have the guts to take it on summer tires over the Rockies. Okay, okay. I went through have the guts to take it on summer tires over the Rockies. Okay, okay. I went through Santa Fe, Los Alamos, down across the top of Northern New Mexico, Flagstaff, and back that way. Oh wow, so this is perfect,
Starting point is 00:04:14 because you're already hitting where this sounds reminiscent of. I did a movie in New Mexico. I had been wanting to get a Cobra replica forever. I found one there that had the actual 68 FE Big Block. I buy this car. Which one? Lone Star.
Starting point is 00:04:27 Okay. So then I decide, well, well, not I decide. I have to drive it home from this movie in Albuquerque. But I'm quite excited about it. But again, I drive out of Albuquerque very excited. By the time I get into elevation, I'm like, huh, these cars are not tuned for elevation. Then I get down in the desert and it starts raining.
Starting point is 00:04:42 There's no roof, there's no wipers, there's no windows. And by the time I pulled it into my place in Santa Monica, I was like, this was the biggest mistake of my life. Why the fuck did I do this? Did you have any moments? Well, I guess the touring's probably not as bumpy. It's pretty bumpy, but it's steering is so dialed in, so perfect.
Starting point is 00:04:59 It's like driving a laser beam. Like you're enjoying the experience of driving it so much. Even though you're getting jostled around a fair bit, it's still great. And that manual transmission, six speed, one of the greatest engines ever made. I did not expect this from you. Okay. This is the point in the conversation and Monica, I know you're a good will hunting fan. Yes. Well, that made its way to you.
Starting point is 00:05:18 I listened to you guys talking to Damon. Oh, okay. It's the moment where Ben Affleck goes in his place to the job interview, and they're kind of like, this is the moment where people start texting and they're like, who the fuck is this guy? Sure. And why doesn't he have an English accent? That's right, that's right. How did this imposter, they're like,
Starting point is 00:05:35 he's supposed to be posh. That has been this great allure of you guys, because I've never met either of you. I'm friends with Downey, obviously, he just worked with your brother. So I got to hear Downey's impersonation. I think he might even have done it when we interviewed him. Didn't he do his Christopher?
Starting point is 00:05:51 Oh dear. But I've heard that these two are brothers, but one grew up more in Chicago, one grew up more in England, one has an American, like you're so fucking Chicagoan, it's hysterical. That's what happens when you move to Chicago, 11 years old with an English accent.
Starting point is 00:06:06 If I've been 18, fantastic. Girls would have loved it, guys would have thought you were intriguing. Amazing, yeah. 11 years old, that's not how it works out. Yeah, that's fifth grade in your prior. 100%, two years, my social interactions consisted of, say my name is Bond James Bond.
Starting point is 00:06:23 Oh. Oh my God. And now go away. Now go away. So he's shaking and not stirred for us and then get the fuck out of here. Just get out of here. But what's the age difference?
Starting point is 00:06:32 Chris is way older than I. He's six years older. We have some similarities. So my brother is five years older than me. We're reversed though. He's a righty, I'm a lefty. Oh. Christopher's a lefty, you're a righty.
Starting point is 00:06:42 That's right. And by the way, Jonah or Jonathan? Everyone calls me Jonah. I was traveling when Memento came out. Chris doesn't're a righty. That's right. And by the way, Jonah or Jonathan? Everyone calls me Jonah. I was traveling when Memento came out. Chris doesn't like nicknames. I came back. I was like, oh, okay, birth names. No one ever called that dude Christopher.
Starting point is 00:06:53 Like, okay, we're going with legal names. Like, I see, okay. Okay, then they published a short story in Esquire, which was super cool. And I said, can I go by Jonah in Esquire? And then the copy editor called me back two weeks later and we were like, we'd really rather that it matched the credits of, and there it goes.
Starting point is 00:07:09 Okay, when did you adopt Jonah? God, I don't even know where to start in this story. It's so twisty-tirty. Also, I'm so distracted by how cute you look, Monica. This is quite a yellow ensemble. I am wearing a new outfit, and I was thinking, I was going off on my own journey when you were talking about cars
Starting point is 00:07:25 because I can't follow at all. But I thought, man, what they're talking about is the way I feel about new outfits. There you go. Like I can't wait to wear it. They're identical in that they become your identity. You infuse this thing and it helps your self esteem. You now feel like a laser beam driving suit.
Starting point is 00:07:44 You're like, you have athleticism that you in your real life don't have. 100%. Right. Yeah, it's a superpower. Armor, it's all armor. I feel a little judged there, Dax. Yeah, you apply that to myself.
Starting point is 00:07:54 Let's just say an RS3 is a world class car, and even if you're athletic, you didn't play in the NFL. That's exactly right. It's funny, as you say, Monica, because my daughter was asking me the other day, I was getting dressed up to go to the Oscars. She said, daddy, guys never get to wear anything interesting. And I was like, it's true, it's getting a little better,
Starting point is 00:08:10 but for the most part we don't. So a car is like an outfit. It's true. So you get to be a little flamboyant, you get to be a little fun. Shows your personality. Also, you can be cool. I saved up when I got a 1984 Mustang GT in high school.
Starting point is 00:08:23 And I'm a year older than you. I'm 75 or 76. Is that Fox Body? Fox Body. Sorry Monica, one more thing. I'm building a Fox Body wagon right now. And 1980 Zephyr with all the Coyote motors, six speed independent rear suspension.
Starting point is 00:08:36 Okay, but that car, I fucking would peel out leaving high school. And Monica, you can't imagine what my self image was. It was delusional, but it worked for me. That was it. Dorky kid, English accent, trying as fast as I could to get rid of it. And I think the Chicago accent,
Starting point is 00:08:53 Southern would have been tough, but Chicago is about as far a distance as you can travel. If you just look at the vowels, right? Like an English A to a Chicago A. It's so different. So years of that and my dad at one point threatened to send me back to England for high school. He said, you go to Catholic school or you go to, you know,
Starting point is 00:09:12 and I was like, I am not going back to England. I'm not doing this all over again. And then I got my driver's license and that was it. New Jonas. 100%. And what was your first machine? First one was my grandmother's 79 Buick Skyhawk. It's a terrible car. Rear wheel drive, massive economy V6 in the front.
Starting point is 00:09:30 Okay, so it's shitty. But when it snowed, you're in the dukes of hazard. Didn't even have to snow. In Chicago in the summer, so summer after sophomore year, I spend the whole summer waiting for my driver's license to come, and then it turns out the driving school guy just hadn't filled in the paperwork. And it didn't show up until the end. So then I've got all this pent up energy.
Starting point is 00:09:45 I'm like, I'm going driving. And Chicago in the summer, when it rains, if it hasn't rained in a while, the oil, it's ice skating. And so I'm coming home, I got a buddy in the car, I'm cool, rear wheel drive, getting the rear end out a tiny little bit, as much as you can with that engine. And I come around a corner and I start to lose it. And I remember to steer in the direction of this kid.
Starting point is 00:10:03 But I don't remember that you've got to unsteer. So I just fly off the road. Oh my God. Into a ditch. Bunch of choked cherry trees. I think I hit eight or nine trees. Oh boy. This is a seminal moment for every young aspiring
Starting point is 00:10:15 Steve McQueen. It was a learning moment. You learn to overseer. I never forgot. You learn quick when you throw a car into the ditch. You do. My parents made me dig it out. They're like, okay, you can get it back out.
Starting point is 00:10:25 You guys don't look dissimilar. I know. Are you realizing this? Yeah, yeah. Is everyone seeing this? This is crazy. I think we're the exact same size as well. Whoa, Sim.
Starting point is 00:10:36 Our mutual friend was like, you guys are out to get along or it's gonna be terrible. Pete. Lovely to hear. Love Peter. I've told you about Peter in the past. He's living down in Austin, but they're moving back. They're coming back.
Starting point is 00:10:46 So his wife, you work with his wife somehow. Yeah, we're partners, Athena. Okay, wonderful. I've not ever met her. Really? Weirdly, and I've known Peter for, I guess, almost 20 years now. No, you would remember, Athena is amazing.
Starting point is 00:10:56 Okay, great. And she is one of your producers? Yeah, we worked together since I started working in television. She was a bad robot, and then Athena myself and my wife Lisa started her own. Headhunter. It's okay, Dak stole me.
Starting point is 00:11:09 I stole her from my wife. I mean, I jeopardized everything. We started our own company and we've been working together ever since. And you're at Amazon, you guys have a deal at Amazon? 12 years, we do. Okay, great. Let's start at the beginning.
Starting point is 00:11:19 You're a little boy in England. Yeah. So at one time you did have a cute little English accent. Adorable. And you're one of three, did have a cute little English accent. Adorable. And you're one of three. Who's the second? Chris is our middle brother. I'm the baby.
Starting point is 00:11:29 I was a happy accident. The whistle stop version of it is my dad's an English guy. He's a mad man. He's a copywriter. Ad executive. Wins a competition. I think, and I'll get this all wrong, my mom would be so mad at me. I think he winds up at Ogilvy in New York and he hates it because it's the show.
Starting point is 00:11:43 Before he passed away, I got him to watch two episodes and he's like, it wasn't like that. But I'm like, well, it was enough like that. It was enough like that that he hated it and everyone in New York hated Chicago. And he was like, well, I hate you and you hate Chicago. Yeah, an enemy of my enemy is a friend of mine. I'm going to try Chicago where there was a healthy ad business,
Starting point is 00:11:59 still a healthy ad business there. So he moved there, somehow goes to play beach volleyball, which is a thing in Chicago. Not super English. This is out of his comfort zone for sure. The one time he ever went to play beach volleyball and the one time my mom ever went to play beach volleyball and they happened to pick the same random day to go play beach volleyball and they met each other.
Starting point is 00:12:16 Okay, great. And she was at the time of flight attendant? You got it. For what, Delta? United. United. Okay, we just flew it days ago. I still only fly United.
Starting point is 00:12:26 Loyalty. This is adorable. Okay, so they meet in Chicago. I would have assumed the other way around. They met in Chicago and about a month after they got married, he's like, we're going to move back to Ingram. This was in the 60s. Late 60s, swing in London.
Starting point is 00:12:42 And my mom, who's from Ohio, moves to London and has three kids. And London was very different. You couldn't go shopping on the weekends. She'd go to the supermarket and get a bunch of stuff. The guy at the end is like, have you bought any bags, madam? Very, very drunk.
Starting point is 00:12:56 Bring your own shopping cart. Kind of. They still haven't invented shopping carts. So it wasn't for her. Well known. After my dad passed away, we were joking that she would move right back. And she's spent more of her life now,
Starting point is 00:13:07 I think in the UK than she has here. They argued for 42 happy years about where to live. And periodically, my mom would be like, I needed a cheeseburger. Oh, so they didn't divorce? No. Wait a minute. Halfway married the whole way through.
Starting point is 00:13:18 So when you were living in Chicago, dad was still in England. So they would just have these long periods away? We'd move together. Cause he worked in the ad business. He had his own company. He could dance around. So when you were 11 and your brother is now 17 or 18,
Starting point is 00:13:30 you moved to Chicago, the whole family. Well, the whole family, at this point, being the three of us. Chris is at boarding school. And I sort of had that weird thing of kind of being a younger brother, but also kind of an only kid for a while. Right. Because of the boarding school things. Chris started going to boarding school when he was like 10.
Starting point is 00:13:44 My mom had gotten fed up with England when I was like four years old. We moved to Chicago for like a year. And then Chris started going to boarding school. Which is this weird thing where we grew up together, but I think it's one of the reasons our relationship works is we had almost no points of comparison. We didn't go to the same schools.
Starting point is 00:13:58 He didn't take the SATs. I didn't take the O levels. He didn't apply to the college as I applied to. It was only when we got here that there was a sudden point of comparison. Well, that the world is putting on you guys for sure. So then I guess you probably wouldn't have all of the isms I have from being a younger brother, five years younger.
Starting point is 00:14:15 I would describe them as this, an insatiable hurry to prove I'm adult at all times. I wanted to show him I was worthy of hanging out, some weird complex that I'm bad at everything, and then I get around my peers and I'm like, oh wait, I am kinda strong. I've just been wrestling him my whole life. 100%. Or skateboarding with him, and I sucked, but then I got to sixth grade, I'm like, they think I'm the greatest skateboarder.
Starting point is 00:14:36 All these weird juxtapositions of my experience in life, did you have that stuff? I still have it, because with directing, watching what he does, I'm like, I don't know if I can do what he does, and then I start working with other directors, I'm like, I don't know if I can do what he does. And then I started working with other directors. I'm like, I know what I can do with that guy.
Starting point is 00:14:47 Right, right. But 100%. The little brother thing, even with him out of the house for a while, all the more maybe, you come back, you'd be like, no, no, no, I wanna hang out. I wanna be part of the. Yes.
Starting point is 00:14:58 Is it trippy to you that he is so English? Yes. Because you're so fucking American, it's hilarious. On Memento, we worked together. I had written a story. What was it called? Memento Mori was the short story. I was still in college.
Starting point is 00:15:11 I take some time off college because my mom had tried to convince me to get a real job. She's like, I got one shot left. Some of this family is going to have a real job. Dad at that point is self-employed. Chris always wanted to be a film director. And she's like, I got this guy, he's it. You got into Georgetown.
Starting point is 00:15:25 I did. It was very promising. Very good school. Catholic high school's a bit of a feeder, I had a bit of a boost. Earmark Cooper was there when you were there, I'm sure. Bradley Cooper and I rode together on the men's heavyweight crew team.
Starting point is 00:15:35 No way! Yes, no. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh my goodness, there's too many things to talk about. What an attractive team. Okay, I'm gonna try to keep this linear. We were the smallest guys on the boat. You were not GT3 RSs.
Starting point is 00:15:45 Exactly, the rest of the boat. You guys are Camaros. Yes, I'll take that. You guys are doing just fine. In the space of a Fox boat. Good in a straight line. Yes, entry level speed. Bradley and I met walking into the cafeteria
Starting point is 00:15:56 first week of Georgetown. The coach, Dan Lyons, was recruiting. He'd come from Annapolis and he wanted to build a good team. So he's literally just picking big guys. You have wide shoulders, come this way. Come on down, I never rode in a boat in my life. And we wound up becoming friends and it's been amazing to watch.
Starting point is 00:16:09 Oh, how do I not know this either? Yeah. You don't know anything. I really am astounded with what little I know. Okay, so you're at Georgetown and then you decide you're gonna bail out of there for a year to get a job? I started at Georgetown in School of Foreign Service,
Starting point is 00:16:24 which at the time it had been Bill Clinton's alma mater. I thought I would work for the state department. I think I was motivated to some degree. I had all the Isms, the younger brother stuff, but I had this thing for my mom who's lovely and has supported my career the whole way through. But in the beginning it was like, how about you get a real job? So I thought what's a more stable salary than the government's salary.
Starting point is 00:16:43 Yeah. You can even do a bad job and stick around forever. 100%. You're like 10 years from the second you signed your employment contract. 100%. So I was like, I'm going to work for the State Department, maybe I'll work for the CIA. I'll do the Marine Corps for a couple of years after this. I went to a Marine Corps recruiting office.
Starting point is 00:16:56 They knew. They're like, you're not a Marine. You're too artistic. I had long hair. They're like, no. And they let me sit there for a while. I lived in DC for five years in the end. One of the requirements for getting that degree was competency in a foreign language.
Starting point is 00:17:08 I like to describe my relationship with the English language as monogamous. Failed Japanese, failed Spanish. Okay. Now we're really similar. It's hard. Not my wife's version of failure, which is a B plus, like an actual F. I was like, this isn't working. I'm not doing well.
Starting point is 00:17:22 I'm flunking out of classes. I had a scholarship. I lost it. What was the scholarship for? National Merit Scholarship through United. No wonder you're flying United. Yeah, you got it. They brought you to the dance. You got to dance with them. I was fighting. I felt like the English degree was the family curse. And I'm like, I think I'm... The one thing I always had, the one thing that always bailed me out of not doing my homework, not reading the book,
Starting point is 00:17:46 was I could make it look pretty. I could dress up my bullshit. This is like perfect training for Hollywood. Yeah, yeah, of course. Director, dress up my bullshit in pretty language and do okay. And I thought, well, maybe it's the actual writing of the thing, is the thing that I'm actually talented at.
Starting point is 00:18:00 At what age? 20. So two years in. And I just wanna relate to you so much. Multiple choice, we're fucked. You give me any opportunity to answer a question in writing, I've got talented actor. At what age? 20. So two years in. And I just want to relate to you so much. Multiple choice were fucked. You give me any opportunity to answer a question in writing, I've got a shot. Exactly.
Starting point is 00:18:10 I'm gonna dress it up with, look over here, silly bullshit, and maybe I got a shot. So I realized I was not heading in the right direction. It wasn't working. A lot of folks that I knew took a semester off. The girl I was dating took a semester abroad. My grades were not good enough for a semester abroad, so I took a sabbatical.
Starting point is 00:18:24 We had recently gotten back in touch with the whole side of the family that had left the UK after World War II and settled in New Zealand. So I went down to New Zealand. Oh, wonderful. What part? The Northland. So North of Auckland.
Starting point is 00:18:37 Do you know it? Well, I shot a movie down there, my very first movie. We were based in Wellington, but we traveled for half of the movie through like Rotorua. The rotten egg smell. Yes, yes. From the sulfur coming out of the geothermal pools.
Starting point is 00:18:47 First time I ever hitchhiked anywhere was out of Rotorua. Great country to do that in. It was. This is 20 plus years ago. But I worked on, my cousins had a dairy farm north of Auckland. 800 head of dairy cattle, thousand acres, grass fed. We had gone down with my dad and kind of reconnected with them the previous year. And so I reached out and I was like can I just come live on
Starting point is 00:19:06 the farm and help out and so I did that for four months and it was amazing a lot of time to think and on a farm every day you wake up and it's a different job so you'd be a cowboy one day you're digging ditches the next day right all the regulations are different this is one of the craziest things I remember from the time there but you will come to the farm in a white coat with a mobile butchery in the States you can't do any of this come to the farm in a white coat with a mobile butchery in the states You can't do any of this stuff. They show up in a truck and I swear to God hide behind the barn with a gun The farmer would lead the cow over the hill and the guy steps out and shoots the cleaner cuz this feels more humane
Starting point is 00:19:39 Or something that they're not scared before they get killed exactly sort of makes a certain amount of sense When a guy steps out with a lab coat from behind a van, I'd rather have a guy in a hockey mask with a chainsaw because some twisted shit's about to happen if a guy had a lab coat. Getting some genocide vibes. Yes. I'm still not a fan of drinking milk. In the farmhouse, they have one of those great classic libraries, like one where you send off and they send you a different book every month.
Starting point is 00:20:05 And every time I pulled a book out, the spine would crack. Like no one had ever read any of these things. And one of them was Moby Dick. And I'm like, that's a book that you're supposed to read. And I actually was so bored. Pre-internet, pre-smartphone, you're just literally in the middle of nowhere, northern New Zealand. And I read it.
Starting point is 00:20:19 And it was unbelievably cinematic. The other thing that occurred to me reading it, because I'm not a real American, I'm kind of a fake American, I always feel like imposters, I'm like not a real American, and trying to understand what America is, and it occurred to me reading the Moby Dick, one of our favorite stories is Americans,
Starting point is 00:20:33 one of the kind of essential stories is revenge. There's a country kind of like, we stuck it to the British. There's also that Scottish, Irish, culture of pride, way of life, herder, all that shit is in the mix. It started kicking around in my head. That book is so filled with incredibly indelible images.
Starting point is 00:20:50 I'm so embarrassed I haven't read Moby Dick of you. I even wear a shirt. I think I tried it in school. It's one of my favorite shirts. I couldn't do it. I did read Old Man in the Sea. That made me get through that. I hated Old Man in the Sea.
Starting point is 00:20:59 Yeah, I bet you did. Oh my God. Gals don't love Hemingway as much as boys do. Yeah, I wonder if there's. It's a pretty gendered author. Yeah. It's like Bukowski. A little bit. It feels indulgent or something. I don't love Hemingway as much as boys do. Yeah, I wonder if it's her. It's a pretty gendered author. Yeah, obviously. Like Bukowski. A little bit.
Starting point is 00:21:07 It feels indulgent or something, I don't know. Too masculine. Yeah, a little bit. My daughter is a very percussive reader and has been reading ahead a little bit. So at least he gave her a copy of The Great Gatsby. That's a great book. She's 10, it's a little early,
Starting point is 00:21:18 but you're reading it in high school. Oh my God, we both have 10 year olds. Yeah. Wow. It's getting weird. It's a rip in the spice. We might as well set the microphones aside and just walk away. No, God, we both have 10 year olds. Yeah. Wow. It's getting weird happening. It's a ripping the spice. We might as well set the microphones aside and just walk away.
Starting point is 00:21:27 No, I actually want to walk towards you and fuse. I feel like maybe we could walk at each other and just fuse. Imagine how powerful we could be. Do you have any tattoos? Sadly, no. I was going to get one during memento. My sister-in-law and I were going to get one.
Starting point is 00:21:39 And then we just kind of chickened out. Leave them to me. I've got that covered. I actually think we got to be greater than the sum of our parts. I like that. Okay, so you read Moby Dick. Okay, Moby Dick.
Starting point is 00:21:49 And you become obsessed with revenge. Yeah, and so I started writing a short story. I wrote the first draft of a mental on an airplane vomit bag, because I just got it stuck in my head. I was like, well, what if memory kind of serves as a bomb for everything? And time, rather.
Starting point is 00:22:00 Like, you spend enough time, you can kind of deal with anything. You can forgive anything, you can move on from it. And I had taken a psych class the last semester before I took my little time off. And I'd gotten stuck on this idea of enter grade amnesia. I'd gotten stuck on this idea of not the amnesia that works backwards, but the amnesia
Starting point is 00:22:15 that essentially sticks with you. You can't hold on to anything forever. Sometimes- People have that? One of the crazy experiences of that movie was that we go to festivals, eventually we managed to get it out into the world. And almost every time we went to a festival, I would meet someone who knew someone or had had a motorcycle accident or could dramatic device so many different things can cause
Starting point is 00:22:32 it. Oh yeah. I've had like 19 different script ideas based on starting with amnesia. Someone gave me a book once and I was just sort of vaguely offended, but it made a lot of sense. Like first time writers start with amnesia because it reflects their blank page. Where do I start? Oh, interesting.
Starting point is 00:22:46 Interesting. They don't have any experience drawn, i.e. they have no memory. Exactly. I had it for 14 hours from a head injury. Oh wow. I mean it is the most memorable kind of experience in my life, ironically.
Starting point is 00:22:57 Ironically, yeah. What did it feel like? Well, I'll try to do the four second version because this is your interview and other people have heard it, but I had already fucked up my shoulder. I was waiting to get surgery, so I'm wakeboarding with one arm.
Starting point is 00:23:06 I'm in Michigan. I fall pretty hard, but nothing crazy. My friend Dean pulls the boat around. He goes, well, that was a big hit. I go, yeah, I just feel like I got punched in the face really hard. He's like, okay, so I get in the boat. He has brought another dude that I had met that morning.
Starting point is 00:23:19 Dean starts wakeboarding. The buddy's now driving. And at some point I say to the guy, where am I? Oh wow. Because I live in California, but I'm visiting Michigan. He's like, what do you mean? I'm like, what fucking lake am I? There's no lakes in California.
Starting point is 00:23:32 Who are you? And he realizes quickly, like oh shit, so he stops the boat, Dean gets in the boat, he realizes this is bad, he takes me to shore, my mother and my then girlfriend, Bree, are there. They say he hit his head, They take me to the hospital. On the ride to the hospital, I said, why am I in Michigan?
Starting point is 00:23:48 And my mom goes, well, it's my birthday. You came home for my birthday. I said, why can't I remember that? Well, you were wakeboarding and you hit your head, but we're on the way to the hospital. And then I say, okay, so it's just like that episode of Gail Gunz Island, I just need to get hit in the head with a coconut again.
Starting point is 00:24:02 I make this joke, right? And then it's crickets. And I'm like, that's worthy of a chuckle. I knew intuitively that was worthy of a chuckle. At least a sympathy chuckle while you're hurting. And it was just dead silent. And then there's a long beat and I go, have I said that before?
Starting point is 00:24:20 And my mom goes, yes, honey, about 20 times. And I was like, and then I just started bawling because I'm like, oh, I broke my brain. Fuck, that's the thing you can't break. I'm crying and I go, I'm just so glad the two people that love me the most are taking care of me. Bawling, bawling, bawling.
Starting point is 00:24:41 Look up, see another lake and go, why am I in Michigan? And I was on this fucking two minute loop for 14 hours. Oh my God. But you remember that? Once my brain unswelled, I think a lot of that short term memory's on the outside, so it's just pressure on there. This surprised me.
Starting point is 00:24:57 I was recording all that. So once the brain unswelled, I remembered all these loops. I have to tell you just one funny punchline of it. This happened exactly in 2002 or three. And when we were checking into the hospital, the nurse said to us three, where do you work? And I go, oh, I don't have a job. And my mom goes, no, no, he works at MTV.
Starting point is 00:25:19 And I go, I work at MTV? And she goes, yeah, you have a show on MTV called Punk. And I turn to Bree and I go, I have a fucking show on MTV. And then I go, what happened at the Groundlings? And my girlfriend goes, you're in the Sunday Company. And I'm like, I'm in the Sunday Company? And then I asked about UCLA and found out.
Starting point is 00:25:39 So I got to learn the three best things that had ever happened to me all in a minute. And I was ecstatic. But how'd you know Brie? Because I'd been with her for eight years. It kind of washed two years back. Weird. Wow, that's very weird.
Starting point is 00:25:53 We're so fragile. Like what we are is so. Oh my God, you're right. It's absolutely terrifying. What we are is so fucking fragile. It's just this tiny little hallucination and anything can kind of knock it out. And that was my experience writing on that movie
Starting point is 00:26:07 was talking to people that had an experience like yours and starting to understand that whether something is coming from the limbic system, it could be cancer, it could be alcohol withdrawal, it could be a head injury. There's so many different things that can basically knock you off of the little tiny construct.
Starting point is 00:26:22 The precarious identity, yeah, yeah, yeah. You've got your blanket and you've got your food and you're sitting there and that's you. And then the wind comes and blows it away and it's like, wait, what am I again? I know, we think it's so concrete and foundational and then you end up in a different group of people as a social animal and all of a sudden
Starting point is 00:26:36 you're not that person. 100%. Or you can no longer be that person. Yeah, it's so fragile. Well, if you're a showrunner, director, and you're outside of your milieu, no one laughs at your jokes. They're like, maybe I'm not that funny. We talk about this all the time.
Starting point is 00:26:48 We talk about that all the time. We're gonna run like billionaires. Yeah, people's. Not Bill. I just wanna add, not Bill. Bill is great. But we've been around some billionaires, tech founders. And people obviously around them inflate their egos. It's not their fault.
Starting point is 00:27:00 They have no way of knowing. You kind of can't help yourself. There's no way. How are they supposed to correct for this? Oh, it's so corrosive and weird. I think this is one of the key things that you can do as a brother. Chris is having a good run.
Starting point is 00:27:11 He just wants some of your life. Who remembers you when your shit did stink and can call you on it. And you need a partner probably who's not too blown away with you. 100%. Yeah, very helpful. Critical. Okay, so what shocks me about your story
Starting point is 00:27:25 is that you give this short story and or pitch it to Christopher, you're six years younger, you're a fucking cow herder. I don't know that my brother would have read the thing. That's to me the big first shocker in your story is that he actually took you seriously. What was interesting is because we had all this time apart,
Starting point is 00:27:44 being in different countries, boarding school, all of it, I remember quite distinctly at one point, and it was when I was fairly young, it was before high school, he came back and he realized that I was funny. We shared a sense of humor. Oh, that's so lovely. We shared this kind of sharp,
Starting point is 00:27:57 slightly rascally sense of humor, and a little bit of a bond formed there, which was great. You weren't around enough to have annoyed him, that's helpful. A little bit. I was pretty annoying. You didn't steal his shit, though. I got annoying fast enough to have annoyed him. That's helpful. A little bit. I was pretty annoying. You didn't steal his shit though. I got annoying fast enough.
Starting point is 00:28:07 You caught up. I watch this with my kids now where I'm like, you're gonna understand later, you're gonna think he's great. Yeah. Yeah. But I think there was just enough distance that he would actually listen to my shit. So I get to the end of my run, I get to this summer,
Starting point is 00:28:19 I know I'm gonna go back to school, I transfer colleges within Georgetown, family curse, English degree, here we go. I don't know what I'm gonna do with it. I don't know why I fought this, but let's go. Why did I fight? You didn't embrace it, the hell with it. And I write up my notes for the story.
Starting point is 00:28:31 And then I've got our dad's old Honda Prelude, favorite, favorite car. Yeah, lovely car. And it's completely destroyed at this point. I've had it in DC. It gets towed once every two weeks. But it'll never stop running. Never.
Starting point is 00:28:43 It's still running somewhere. Sadly it did. And that was my fault. Was running. Never. It's still running somewhere. Sadly it did. That was my fault. Okay, okay. It was an interference four cylinder. I never changed the timing. Timing belt and it blew all the valves out. But we got it to California first. So Chris grew up dual national,
Starting point is 00:28:54 so America was always an option for him as well. And him and his girlfriend, now wife Emma, were trying to figure out, we want to do this movie thing. And he's directed one feature. Self-financed tiny feature that I was a grip on, friends and family coming in. I think he made it for about 5,000 bucks. And Chris and I were trying to figure out
Starting point is 00:29:09 if they could make a go of it in LA. She was working in an assistant at a production company that had offices in LA and trying to make the leap. And I was saying to Chris, I'm like, look, if you're going to do it, one, you should do it. Two, you got to take dad's car. Cause I keep getting parking tickets with this thing and I don't need it in DC.
Starting point is 00:29:23 And I think you're going to need, I've heard that you need a car to get around LA. Cars come in handy in LA. Quite important. Jonah, the only advice I give to young actors when they ask me is I say buy a Honda so that it'll run forever. You don't have to pour money into it.
Starting point is 00:29:36 We still have the same mechanic, Stacy, down on Melrose, affordable care. They only work on Hondas. It was not only the car, but the mechanic. That's a good tip. You know Stacy, get a Honda, you'll be okay. You'll be okay. You'll be okay. You can weather the storm.
Starting point is 00:29:47 Chris still has a Honda. He has this 85 white Honda Civic DX. Sadly not the prelude, because I didn't change the tire belt. And he still drives it, everywhere. Oh, that's great. He's kind of filling my fantasy. I had a 91 DX that I have thought about
Starting point is 00:30:00 chasing down and buying. It was so reliable through the lean years, which there were eight of. You can't help but bond with that car. It's the horse that never leaves your side, especially in LA, all the PA jobs, all the craziness. I had a cord that wasn't quite as reliable, but they're amazing.
Starting point is 00:30:16 And we did so much driving together back when I was an addict and it was such a boring car, I never got pulled over. Kept you alive. 100%. My God. Okay, so Chris eventually decides to make the leap and I drive from DC, pick him up in Chicago and we drive from Chicago to LA and we go the northern way.
Starting point is 00:30:31 We went out Black Hills, South Dakota. Did you stop at Mount Rushmore? Mount Rushmore, we did. Got a couple pictures there and then looped down through Salt Lake City and across. It was my first time at Bonneville. I made Chris stop. He's like, what is this place?
Starting point is 00:30:44 I'm like, it's important. All the speed records exist here. Everything. and across, it was my first time at Bonneville. I made Chris stop, he's like, what is this place? I'm like, it's important. All the wrong speed records exist here. Everything, Mecca, we got to Minnesota, pulling out of Chicago, and as brothers do, ran out of shit to say. I had a Chris Isaac cassette tape that got stuck. Honda's are great, but it got stuck,
Starting point is 00:30:58 so we're listening to Wicked Game. I think it was a single, it was like 2,000 miles with Wicked Game playing. That's a great song, though. I still love it. A few hundred miles, yeah. Well, sure, yeah. I think it was a single, it was like 2000 miles with Wicked Game playing over and over and over. I still love it. A few hundred miles, yeah. Well, sure, yeah. And I was like, well, I have this idea.
Starting point is 00:31:10 He'd made one movie and he was talking about his ideas for the next movie, which I can't describe in case he ever wants to get back to them. They were very different. One of them was a comedy. Unexpected. Well, this thing about the guy, his public persona is so kind of this,
Starting point is 00:31:21 but he's such a goofball. Odd for me to resolve the public version with the guy. Of course, yeah. I can only imagine my brother was in public and I had to watch and put on his show. Erudite. Yeah, there's a persona for sure. He'd get very mad at this.
Starting point is 00:31:33 I used to get fed up with having to answer why my accent was different. I'm like, we're in America. I'm not the unusual sounding one. It's true. So I would say we'd both grown up in Fort Wayne, Indiana, but he knew that he'd get more work as a director if he affected, sure.
Starting point is 00:31:47 And he would get mad, because that's the kind of thing that sticks. People hold onto it. Like, did you know that he actually, it's a fake? No. It's a totally real accent. Even I am like, ooh, it sounds so good. Yeah, yeah.
Starting point is 00:31:58 Like when the argument is 50-50, moral high ground, logic wise, and he's got that accent, it's gonna tip. It's smarter. So you pitch him, I'm assuming. To this day, I'll read his stuff, he reads mine, and you just get that unvarnished feedback. He knows if it's like, and I know. And I knew I had him, because he got really quiet.
Starting point is 00:32:17 I was like, hey, he's got this guy, and he can't remember anything, but he's figured out you can tattoo the information on, and that was when I was like, oh, I got him. Well, he has such a visual component. I think that's why it's so sticky. That was the thing I'm like this idea came to the wrong brother is gonna make a good short story And I think it is a good short story, but I knew it would make a great movie
Starting point is 00:32:32 Yeah, so I was like I gotta kind of pass this along that's big of you. I mean, it would be hard It worked out. Okay in the end. He did a good job. He called me at one point He's like I figured out cuz one of the challenges was how the hell do you tell that story? His audition was going backwards, right? He calls me up He says I figured out it's going backwards and I was like, I figured out, because one of the challenges was, how the hell do you tell that story? His addition was going backwards, right? He calls me up and he says, I figured out it's going backwards. And I was like, that's the dumbest idea I've heard. I wanted to tell the story as a deck of cards.
Starting point is 00:32:51 You shuffle it and you just get fragments. But you can't do that with a movie. It's linear, that's it, left to right. And I thought it was a terrible idea. And then I read the script that he wrote and I was like, no, that works. Uh-huh. It just might.
Starting point is 00:33:03 First of all, the movies, I don't need to tell you, it's so mind blowing. There's a the movies, I don't need to tell you, it's so mind-blowing. There's a handful of movies I don't ever forget seeing and just going like, yeah, that broke all of my previous. Broke the paradigm. Paradigms, yeah, yeah. Oh, thank you. This is so out there.
Starting point is 00:33:14 And he's so great in it too. Guy, wow. Amazing. Stay tuned for more Armchair Expert, if you dare. or armchair expert if you dare. But then this starts a partnership. You guys go on to write, and I'm not saying this because you're here. If you were to go through all of the 700 episodes,
Starting point is 00:33:40 I've probably said this on here a dozen times. Prestige for me, it's kind of tied with Michael Clayton. It's my favorite movie post 90s. You wrote Prestige? I did, that was my first paid gig. Oh my God, I love that movie. It's so good. Thank you.
Starting point is 00:33:54 I never read the book. Is the book similar? The book is super cool. You know, it's one of these books, we've tried a couple of them, that's sort of unadaptable. It had made the rounds. Oh right.
Starting point is 00:34:03 People could see that there was a potential there. It's a terrific book. It's sort of unadaptable. It had made the rounds. Oh, right. People could see that there was a potential there. It's a terrific book. It's quite different from the movie. It's wrapped in this contemporary framing mechanism, grandchildren of the magicians trying to piece together what happened, which is super cool.
Starting point is 00:34:14 And for a while I tried to hold onto it. So we made Memento, we put it out. At first, no one wanted to release it. We got six months into it. I graduated school, worked slinging barbecue in DC for a summer, moved to California. We shot the movie. I worked as a PA on the movie.
Starting point is 00:34:28 No one knew we were related for the first two weeks. Of course not. If you guys were sitting here, I don't think I would know what you told me. When I showed up late to work one day with the entire cruise radios and I didn't get fired, people were like, wait a second. We make the movie, Chris cuts the movie,
Starting point is 00:34:41 and we're like, oh, it was easy. We showed up, we had a good script, we cast good people. Why do people complain about this being hard? And then we tried to sell it. It turns out great. And no one wanted to buy it. Everyone was like, this is great. We love this movie, it's terrific.
Starting point is 00:34:52 We have no clue how to market this. The line was maybe more angry than that. People are too dumb. We get it, bingo. That was it, that was a preventable rule. Oh, people won't get it. Your audience won't get it. I don't wanna think to myself,
Starting point is 00:35:01 well, I'm talking to you, you're pretty dumb. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. That is the hilarious thing about that note, is like everyone excuses themselves from that. Well I get it, but I can't imagine. And I was like, why do you guys consistently underestimate the audience? Our whole career at first was based on the premise
Starting point is 00:35:17 that it was a part of the audience that was bored and that wanted more complicated, weirder, challenging stuff. This thread carries through to fall out, by the way. It's gonna be one of the compliments I give you. Truly, you're almost uniquely comfortable letting us ask a bazillion questions and giving us other stuff that is satisfying story-wise,
Starting point is 00:35:37 but just really dropping questions all over. I love it as a viewer. It's so stimulating. Thank you. So this starts at the beginning basically. I'm not sure we set out, but once that became the challenge, once that was like, no, your movie's good,
Starting point is 00:35:49 but we're never gonna release it because we think the audience is dumb. At that point, we'd made one movie. We were fans. We were the audience. We're like, no, we're not dumb. And then when it worked, it kind of felt like we found a niche.
Starting point is 00:35:59 Yeah, they made it for $4.5 million and made $40 million. Yeah. It's nice. On video, those are the halcyon days of DVD. Were you at 2X your box office? Yeah. There was a year in which we'd made a movie and no one released the movie
Starting point is 00:36:11 and I was like, I gotta get a job. And then it worked. And then Chris started talking to me about this book that someone had sent him about these magicians. So that was my first paid gig. I wrote it for Guild Minimum, took two years. So I got paid $14,000 a year for two years. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Starting point is 00:36:24 Eating Jack in the Box the whole time. Yummy tacos. The tacos. Oh, they're so nice, with the buttermilk dipping sauce. You could read the newspaper through the tacos. They're like deep fried or something. It's just ridiculous. They're great when you're drunk.
Starting point is 00:36:36 That Honda Civic had thousands of those in there. We might be the same person. Same nutritional composition. What a movie, though, I love that movie. Yeah, so that's 2005. So you're right. So you guys make Memento in 2000. The prestige doesn't get made till 2005.
Starting point is 00:36:51 Five years in a 20 something year old's life is an eternity. It was a stress. So we were gonna make it in 2003 with Jude Law. I think it was the original cast. And then Warner's had hired Chris to reboot the Batman franchise. And the stories that led to that were the most crazy kind of Hollywood stories ever but it works out at the end so he's on the Batman franchise. You're not gonna
Starting point is 00:37:11 like that I bring this up but I think it's so amusing when they cast Jude Law David O Russell was mad because Jude dropped out of another thing and put Chris in a headlock. I wasn't there I owed David a headlock at some point. Don't mess with my brother. By the way, as the younger brother, you're living to protect your older brother. This is like the dream of all dreams. Oh, if I'd been, it was like a dinner party. Journalists there the whole day was crazy.
Starting point is 00:37:34 One of many David or Russell dust ups. If I'd been there, it would have been the end of my career. Do you like to fight? In general? Well, Dax wants to beat people up who hurt people in his life. Do you have that same instinct? Complex. That impulse is there. I grew up in Chicago. I his life. Do you have that same instinct? Complex.
Starting point is 00:37:45 That impulse is there. I grew up in Chicago. I'm presuming there were a lot of fights in school. I learned how to talk like a Yankee and I learned how to defend myself a little bit, but two older brothers too, you know, you're gonna figure this out. You're scrapping all the time.
Starting point is 00:37:55 Suffice to say, David would have got, probably knocked out that night if Jonah was there. Good thing you weren't there. I'm not very good at fighting. You're probably better than David. Potentially. We don't know, we're not gonna start anything. I love're probably better than David. Potentially. We don't know, we're not going to start anything. I love David.
Starting point is 00:38:08 Brilliant filmmaker. I don't know if he's much of a wrestler. Exactly. In a history of these hilarious dust-ups. All this leaked footage of him screaming at actors and them screaming at him. I mean, it's wonderful. Hollywood's gotten so boring. It has gotten a little boring.
Starting point is 00:38:20 Yeah. I kind of love Tarantino punched out Don Simpson or Murphy, one of the Don, you know, all this crazy shit that happened, I love it. They're good old days. So in that five years though. Supposed to be Jude. We're gonna make the Prestige, I'm like, here we go, amazing, and then Warner's got nervous about Batman, and they thought it's not just a movie,
Starting point is 00:38:37 you've gotta build the car, the suit, the cave, there's all this stuff that comes along. Jeff Robinoff was running Warner's at the time, and he was right. He was the best there was in that role, don't you think? Incredible. The formative part of our career was his belief. I didn't realize until later
Starting point is 00:38:51 I learned more about Warner Brothers. I was 20 something, I had no idea what the hell I was doing. That there was sort of an ancestral philosophy at Warner's that you would hire filmmakers and trust them and let them do things. And keep them forever. Clint Eastwood. When I finally got a parking spot on the Warner's lot,
Starting point is 00:39:04 it came out of Eastwood's allotment. Oh wow. And it took five years. I had to write a billion dollar grossing movie before I was like, give the kid a parking spot. So Chris starts doing, Batman Begins, and at a certain point in there, Robinoff said, well, you like writing with your brother. Why don't we put him on the picture too?
Starting point is 00:39:20 And he can help. I had just moved to Boston with my girlfriend, now wife, who was getting a law degree, and we moved into the apartment, and I took a phone call and I was like, I'm gonna go away, I didn't come back for like six more months. Moved to England and I was gone.
Starting point is 00:39:31 So we got pulled into the bat universe and stayed there for 10 years. Wow. Yes, so the first one's great, and it makes a great deal of money, totally resets the tone of all those movies. Do you have writing credit on the first one? I know you do on the second one.
Starting point is 00:39:44 I don't, I was a consultant. Okay, and the second one you do, and that one hits a billion dollars and it becomes the biggest superhero movie ever, only to be surpassed by Dark Knight Rising. You have to acknowledge this happens to 20 writers in the history of Hollywood. Like this kind of franchise with the critical response,
Starting point is 00:40:04 all of it, it's very story booky. I don't know where we go from here. Television. Yes, yeah. I worked on Batman Begins in this kind of slightly arm's length capacity, but it was the one comic book my brother had ever given me as a kid,
Starting point is 00:40:16 Batman Year One for my 14th birthday. He was also on TV when we were kids. Oh, 100%. And 10 years later, I was on the set working with him. I was like, this is nuts. You have a good role in the Sim. Yeah. Congratulations.
Starting point is 00:40:28 Well, we try to curry favor with AI as much as possible. Okay. If it's AI running the Sim, then that's one. You want me on their good side. 100%. They have a good side. It's most of my career is just trying to make sure that when they take over.
Starting point is 00:40:38 Yeah, you're picked. Unless they have already taken over, to your point. Oh, really quick. What is the mechanical process when you guys write something together? Is it basically you write a draft and he looks at it and he makes changes and then it goes back to you? Or do you guys ever sit together?
Starting point is 00:40:52 This period, it felt slow as hell because I was in my 20s. We look back at it now, it was this incredibly productive period for us. It was kind of a movie every couple of years. Batman Begins 2005, The Prestige 2006, The Dark Knight 2008,. He made Inception, 2010, pulled this old script out of a drawer and I was like, well, it'd be better if I had co-written it, but it's pretty good. And then The Dark Knight Rises and then Interstellar. And it was just kind of like boom, boom, boom, boom.
Starting point is 00:41:15 To me that felt normal, right? I was like, oh, this is what we're doing, but it's Chris's incredible ability. The way it worked in that time was with some of these movies, I was able to write the next one while he was shooting the last one right and it worked really nicely so we would sit and talk about the story and Figure things out and then he would go away and go shoot the last one and I would be stuck alone with this thing on
Starting point is 00:41:35 The Warner's lot and I felt like the ghost that haunted Warner Brothers, you know I'd go and talk for an inappropriate amount of time with the folks at Starbucks Please talk to me. I'm trapped in this tiny I know I don't understand. It's just me and Batman. And I'm a fraud and I'm not good at this. I would crack away at it and it was good, but I missed being on set. Both Batman Begins The Dark Knight we shot in Chicago. The Dark Knight, Chris was on the fence about making another one. I think he didn't want to become a superhero movie director. He was very proud
Starting point is 00:42:00 of Batman Begins. To me, it was like we built a Fox body wagon. We built this amazing sports car, and I'm like, let's take it for a drive. Don't you wanna make one more? Like, we made all this stuff. You did all the hard work. You've established everything, you got the tone. He's been an hour doing the origin story, and it's great, but it's like, what can we do with this?
Starting point is 00:42:17 And can we take the same characters and shift ever so slightly into a different genre? Can we go from an adventure film to a crime film, to a mob movie? Bring that feeling into it. So I was literally sitting with Chuck Rovin and Chris and being like, dude, don't be a chicken shit. Let's do this.
Starting point is 00:42:31 And I knew with the script, and he developed the story with David Goyer with a little bit of input from me. And it was like, first act pretty detailed, second act somewhat detailed, third act, he rides away at the end. Okay. Once we had the script on, I was like,
Starting point is 00:42:43 this is gonna be great. This is exciting. We've gotta make this movie. And eventually he came around. He did manage to avoid being pigeonholed, but we went to go make that movie in Chicago and they were there all summer. And this was the moment in my life
Starting point is 00:42:55 I started to realize as a screenwriter, great job, and I'm lucky to be here, but it's a little like being a chef where you have to write the recipe in a bubble and they never let you touch the ingredients and you never actually get to cook the meal. Yeah, yeah, yeah. With Chris and with Emma, they're such a unit,
Starting point is 00:43:08 they do their thing, there was nothing for me to do. I didn't need to go back to set. It's a very solitary endeavor. Painful. And I'm a little more extroverted than Chris. I was about to say, you don't seem like the type that's just super happy being. Really bad fit.
Starting point is 00:43:20 I wanna crawl out of my skin. And then if I do three days of that, then I start to work. Do you collect funny sayings about writing? I like to collect them. One is Lawrence Kasdan's. Writers are people who have agreed to do homework for the rest of their lives. There's so many times where I have like three different
Starting point is 00:43:34 things that were sold, places that I owed rewrites. When we have vacation, I'm like, yes, she's on vacation. I'm never free. Oh, I'm kidding, Anjana, just thinking about it. Yes. Remember going to a high school buddy's wedding in wine country. I was running my first TV show.
Starting point is 00:43:46 So basically we get through a series of different things. Spielberg hired me to write Interstellar. I'm writing The Dark Knight Rises at the same time. And then Steven leaves Paramount and the script was a Paramount. And I'd spent three years going to Caltech trying to learn relativity. With Kip Thorne.
Starting point is 00:44:02 One of the greatest human beings. He won the Nobel after all this. He did, he wins the Nobel after it's all said and done. But he basically invented the field of gravitational astronomy. So me and Kip go up to Hanford, Washington and fly in a tiny Cessna and he shows me this crazy thing he's built on the desert,
Starting point is 00:44:16 the two vacuum tubes that measure vibrations in space time itself. Wow. This is how we look at black holes. Amazing project, but Spielberg leaves and I'm holding the bag, I do the script that I've spent three years on. I'm sort of sitting there saying,
Starting point is 00:44:28 I can't put three years of my life into this thing and not make it. Well, I know a director, so I'm gonna get going on that. But do you think that's gonna be a hard pitch because no one really loves taking over a project that another director had worked on. Especially if the person's Spielberg. I don't think that helps.
Starting point is 00:44:42 100%, but I was in Chicago tech scouting with Chris on the dark night when I got the call that I had the gig with Steven and we had a glass of champagne together. It was like, that's a big deal. I would try out some of the ideas with him. So he was kind of with me through the development of it. I would like pitch it to Chris before pitching it to Steven
Starting point is 00:44:57 just get a sense for like the sound. So he was super familiar with it. You know, that was the process. We pitch each other stuff. So I started trying to in vagal Chris into the script because I'm like, no, I want to make this movie. But at the same time, I was the process. We pitch each other stuff. So I started trying to in-vego Chris into the script, because I'm like, no, I wanna make this movie. But at the same time, I was watching my wife's experience in television.
Starting point is 00:45:09 Back in the early 2000s, there was this kind of TV versus movie, this kind of snobbery about like, well, if you're writing movies. Yeah, I didn't have cache quite yet. We only had Sopranos at that point. That was it, just the one thing. I remember it was so,
Starting point is 00:45:20 one of the executives at Warner's was like, why are you working in television? I was like, cause it's good and it's fun and it's immediate. And you can tell much longer stories. There's so many things. And you're not going to spend three years learning relativity and then have nothing to show for. Yes.
Starting point is 00:45:32 You might make a pilot and have nothing to show for it. And that was terrifying. But I got lucky there too. I went in to meet with JJ Abrams. We were at the same agency for about four minutes and they put us together and we had one of those conversations where you just immediately like, oh, building and building and building, immediately got along with each other.
Starting point is 00:45:45 He was trying to get me to write a movie and at the end of it I was like, well you're a terrific TV producer, I have an idea for a show, person of interest, and away we went. Well let's also add, in film the writer is the redheaded stepchild. They're the shitty dog you kick and then you send away,
Starting point is 00:45:59 and this sucks, no one said that a month ago. In television the writer decides everything. The directors are guests that come in and execute the writer's vision down to the letter of the law. So there's also a humongous power shift as a writer in television. I like to say it's irrational
Starting point is 00:46:15 because if you think of movies, big screen, short story. TV, small screen, big story, right? So it makes sense. Okay, my career plan, brilliant. I was a writer in a director's medium and. I was a writer in a director's medium and now I'm a director in a media medium. Very curious.
Starting point is 00:46:29 I enjoy the directing. Dirty television, no one cares. I love it. But yeah, that was it. I was like, I want to be back on set. I missed set. Chris and Emma would be like, come hang out on set if you want to.
Starting point is 00:46:38 I'm like, I have nothing to do. The Dark Knight was a script where I wrote what I was like, this is what I think a Batman movie should be. Chris took a pass and we went and shot it. And I kept waiting for them to be like, you can't put a bomb in a guy's stomach. You get all these things. And I was like, they were not gonna let us do any
Starting point is 00:46:52 of these things. And it gave us no notes. As a movie that has no notes. They were like, it's cool, go. Which is incredible. It never happens. Now you must acknowledge your brother is part of a lot of maybe even apocryphal stories,
Starting point is 00:47:05 Hollywood stories. Like I remember I was doing chips at Warner Brothers and I was going through a process that is what I deserve to go through. Endless, you gotta get Brad Pitt as the bad guy or we won't green light, you know, just preposterous hurdles. And at that time he had brought in,
Starting point is 00:47:20 oh fuck, what movie would it have been? But basically he told them, I'm bringing the script down, you guys have three hours to sit in a room and read it, and then I'm taking the script away. Everyone showed up, and then at the end of the meeting, again, this is all rumored, what I've heard, they've read it, he goes, I need this budget, I'll take the scripts now, and then he leaves,
Starting point is 00:47:41 and that's how it is. Now, I'm not talented enough to do that, I don't deserve that, but wow, what a fantasy. That's still how it is now. I'm not talented enough to do that. I don't deserve that but wow What a fantasy that's still how he does it What was cool about it was even before here and that's how he did it I look at this like is it the accident Yeah, how's it going away with I'm not getting away with the shit that happened while I was fighting to get a green light Yeah, I was just like god. This couldn't be a more more different experience. Now we're going in with him at one point, we went in to do, I can't remember which project it was.
Starting point is 00:48:08 We go in and it was a studio head assorted Muckety Mucks and someone starts asking a question. He's like, let's just be clear, we're not pitching you here. We're just gonna explain what we're gonna do. Here's the product you have an opportunity to make. I was like, my butt's tightening. I was like, you can't say that. And you can, it turns out.
Starting point is 00:48:23 You can. Okay, Interstellar, let's stop in on it for a second. What a movie. It's so, I mean, talking about the audience isn't gonna understand. I don't know that there's a better example of a movie that like, God bless everyone for taking the leap. It's so complicated.
Starting point is 00:48:38 I think of myself as pretty savvy in this space. Like, astronomy was one of my favorite classes in college. I really think I understand how it's going. And of course, even with what I already think is a pretty good grasp of it, there's a good 30 minutes of the movie where I just have to tell myself, this will somehow through osmosis start making sense, and I have to let go of chasing down every logic twist. But what makes the movie work, what's so powerful about it, why I ended up crying in that movie,
Starting point is 00:49:08 is it's anchored to the notion of a father missing his child's entire life. And I just had these little girls. And then I was like, oh fuck, now forget all the Xs and Ys of it all. That's the notion I need to give the stakes in an emotional resonance. And it's so powerful. I'm just curious at what point that was a part of the story.
Starting point is 00:49:31 Right out of the gate, it was part of the first pitch to Spielberg. And here's why, I got fascinated by Einstein. One of the things about Einstein is he didn't use any instruments. He didn't even do a lot of math. He had a chalkboard. He would sit and think about things.
Starting point is 00:49:41 And so it would take years. I remember they had to wait because of World War I to prove the theory of special relativity because they needed to go out and observe the transit of Mercury, the transit of a planet in front of another astral body. They watched gravity warp light. Bingo.
Starting point is 00:49:56 There were limited opportunities. Yeah, they were gonna go up to the North Polish area. They went down to Sub-Saharan Africa. They had to wait for hostilities to end. So there's this amazing newspaper, 1918, that's like, he was right, you know. They just hostilated the state. But one of the things I loved about Einstein
Starting point is 00:50:10 is in a lot of his thought experiments, there would be twin brothers, weird family relationship. You'd send one twin off around the sun at the speed of light and come back. Maybe three minutes older. There's this human drama at the center of all these thought experiments. Yeah, he was very smart at anchoring these analogies.
Starting point is 00:50:27 There's a woman on a train and she's looking backwards on the train. Exactly. And I kept thinking about the woman on the train. I kept thinking of the brother in space. I was like, no, that's it. It's about the distance between these people. It only matters if it's affecting humans.
Starting point is 00:50:37 That's it. That's the only lens we have in these events. So I write the movie and the kid is called Murph because in my version was a son. Chris is first born his daughter. He goes off and takes the script, starts doing his thing with it. I'm in TV land and in the interim we have our first child and it's a daughter. And he changes the kid to a little girl and I watched the movie and I'm crying in my own movie and I'm so angry.
Starting point is 00:50:59 That was embarrassing. How could you do this to me? You ambushed me. It feels indulgent, right? To cry at your own movie. I did this to myself. Oh, this to me? You ambushed me. It feels indulgent, right? To cry at your own movie. I did this to myself. Oh, what a movie.
Starting point is 00:51:08 What a fucking movie. Okay, so you do Person of Interest, and you do that for five seasons. Now, I did not see that, but the first directing of yours I see is Westworld. And I can't tell you, I wish my wife was here to confirm this, I bet you once a month, sincerely,
Starting point is 00:51:27 I say out loud, I wish we could watch the first season of Westworld for the first time. I miss the world so much. I miss the tone. I miss that show more than any other. Or I just want to have that experience again. Me too. The experience of making the show.
Starting point is 00:51:43 We've had so much fun. I've been so lucky and worked on so many amazing projects. That one was very special. It was the first collaboration that my wife and I did together. We wrote the pilot together, we produced it. I directed the pilot, she directed on subsequent seasons and the cast that we put together.
Starting point is 00:51:57 Oh, it's preposterous. I had to like write it down today. Ed Harris, all of these actors, Evan, Hopkins, James, Taniway, Jeffrey, Ed, we got our first choice with every role and it was that moment, we cast the pilot in 2014 and it was the point where TV was at its absolute most powerful.
Starting point is 00:52:16 Breaking Bad was already out, Mad Men was already out. Game of Thrones, we're very close to Dan and Dave, lovely guys, the reason why we felt comfortable trying to make Westworld was Game of Thrones and they were shooting in all the same places that we had shot things like Batman Begins. I was like, oh, HBO is going for it. They're not just doing complicated storytelling,
Starting point is 00:52:32 they're doing filmmaking. They're doing the real thing. Yeah, they have 200 million on their budgets. Not at first. Dan and Dave very wisely from the beginning fought for on location, practical photography. They knew how to make these things really well. And I think in 2014, when we look back at it,
Starting point is 00:52:47 all of my friends in TV will always joke about all the golden ages of television. There's been like six of them. Yeah, yeah, yeah. There was the ER golden age of television. There was the Hill Street Blues golden age of television. It's like a durable medium that's been around for a while. But 2014 was probably the moment in which it's powers.
Starting point is 00:53:01 They eclipsed movies at that point, in my opinion. For a couple of years, and my brother was pissed about it. We'd have these arguments. Sure, sure, sure. We'd go into television. And when we went out to Hopkins, people literally were like, why even bother? Let's move on.
Starting point is 00:53:12 And I was like, no, no, no, he's gonna say yes. Because I've been watching interviews with him. We talk about being on these movies where they'd make him sit in his trailer for 14 hours because they were doing green screenshots and they weren't ready for him. And I'm like, that is an actor who is being wasted in movies right now.
Starting point is 00:53:24 He loved Breaking Bad. And I said, we're gonna go out who is being wasted in movies right now. He loved Breaking Bad. And I said, we're gonna go out to him. He's gonna say yes. In a show like Westworld, you're making 10 movies in the time span of two features. Totally bonkers. Yeah, so if you like to act, you're doing it at probably five X.
Starting point is 00:53:37 First day with Hopkins was him and Jeffrey on set. And these are two actors that I absolutely adored. These are two greats. We had to put them on set together, give a six-page scene where they're talking about how coding is kind of like an incantation How it's summoning things to life with words and here's all this stuff that Lisa and I have written and here are these two Masters just crushing it with a bunch of crazy robots in the background moving around Yeah, I had a programmer trying to keep up with the acting the experience of making that show We knew we were blessed in the moment Sometimes you have this feeling and I don't to keep up with the acting. The experience of making that show,
Starting point is 00:54:05 we knew we were blessed in the moment. Sometimes you have this feeling, and I don't know if you ever had this feeling, when you're doing a project, you're like, oh, the stars are all aligning right here. It's going my way. Now, it wasn't always the case. That show got extremely difficult.
Starting point is 00:54:15 The rest of the first season was an absolute combat. It was insane. What were the challenges? HBO had never made science fiction before, and they lost faith. We're about halfway through the season. They started getting scared. Well, they started giving notes.
Starting point is 00:54:28 Giving a note is hard, but the best notes are the ones where they figure out what's the movie that the filmmaker is trying to make and let's give them notes in line with that. Let's not try to make the movie I would make as a producer, as an executive. That's a key distinction to be able to look past the movie you would make.
Starting point is 00:54:42 By the way, when you pitched it, what was your comp? Did you use some comps? It's a very good question. It's a Western. Yeah, well the Western part, JJ called us about the project. And it's a Crichton book? Weirdly, it was an original screenplay
Starting point is 00:54:53 that he directed himself. It was the first thing he ever directed. And the original movie is bonkers, it's great. I've never seen it. It's got some flaws. Namely, Crichton was brilliant. The guy understood everything. And he's trying to cram all of that into 92 minutes.
Starting point is 00:55:06 Everything he knows. Breathless. Yeah. But there's a couple moments in there that haunted me that we tried to weave into the show that I still hold onto. So there's one moment where the robots start to malfunction in the movie. The head scientist became the sort of the Hopkins character in the show. He's trying to figure out what's going on.
Starting point is 00:55:20 He's looking at them and he's like, it's spreading from one to the other, almost like a sickness or an illness or like a virus. It's one of those clunky moments where like a computer virus. Then I got curious and I looked it up. The first computer virus appeared in the wild the year after the movie came out. So he had predicted it. He had intuited it. And in that same scene, he goes on to say, in some cases, these machines have been designed
Starting point is 00:55:37 by other machines and we don't really know how they work. And that's the moment we're in right now. Yes, AI building coding. GPT code, LLM based coding. We're fully there. We'll never understand our world. From this point on. Ever again.
Starting point is 00:55:50 Exactly. They talk about like who's the last man in history who fully understood his world. In what year did humans become the second smartest thing on planet earth is a fascinating time. Six months from now. We're it. We're the generation in history.
Starting point is 00:56:02 Yeah, we'll watch it. That will be the last of the smartest primates to occupy. It's so fucking wild. It's a wild moment. I wind up kind of obsessed with it. And a lot of the projects then start Westworld and Person of Interest and Interstellar the AI is there's sort of more in the Star Wars role
Starting point is 00:56:17 of kind of supporting figures. But that's where it kind of started for me. I was like, this is the story of our age. You know, if you're around during the 15th century of the age of exploration, this is the story of our age. If you're around during the 15th century of the age of exploration, this is the story of our age. This is what we're gonna witness that is distinct and different from everything else at any other generation, this is an inflection point.
Starting point is 00:56:33 With Hopkins, they took too long to make his deal and he started to get cold feet about it and I'd write him a letter. Can I ask you a quick question as a sidebar? Do you fear that you present not as smart as you are because I think this is another thing that you might share in common. I'm kind of picturing Hopkins looking at you and going,
Starting point is 00:56:48 can this guy have really written Interstellar? Who is this guy? Why does he not have an English accent? He's not wearing a suit. Yeah, where's his three piece suit? Do you feel like that at all? Little bit. I was telling Monica this the other day.
Starting point is 00:56:58 I even wrote under a pen name Darren Wolf because I thought, well, that'll shake this Dax Shepard dumb comedian and idiocracy. Big dude. I mean, 100%. that'll shake this Dax Shepard dumb comedian and idiocracy. Big dude. I mean, 100%. Big dum dum. Big dum dum.
Starting point is 00:57:08 You've played. A lot of dum dums. Right, and so that gets confusing. You're not in that same position. But also, he just looks like a regular old dude. You do, you look like a handsome, regular guy. You play softball on the weekends. But then it's much better when you show that you're smart
Starting point is 00:57:26 when you also seem regular. A little bit of the Will Hunting vibe. Exactly. Mixed messages. I think it's a good combination. I just got restruck by the outfit, by the way. Oh, thank you. Yeah, I was listening, listening,
Starting point is 00:57:36 and I was like, it really is a dynamite outfit. Thank you. There's like a banana in here. It's a terrific outfit. I'm struggling a little with the color, because like my brother, I'm color blind. Oh, you are? Oh, you are? Red, green color blinds. What do you think she's in? Like if I'm struggling a little with the color because like my brother, I'm color blind. Oh, you are?
Starting point is 00:57:45 Red green color blinds. What do you think she's in? Like if I hadn't said yellow banana, what do you see over here? Chartreuse. You're reading more green than it is. Is Chartreuse green? It's like a yellowy green.
Starting point is 00:57:55 Halfway between yellow and green. How about this, does she match that chair right there? Oh, that's a salmon. That's, oh my God. Oh my God. I do think there's something there. I don't wanna make too much of a meal of this, but I do think there's something there, I don't wanna make too much of a meal of this, but I do think me being dyslexic is helpful.
Starting point is 00:58:10 It does something. It's actually out of the- No, I'm obsessed with color. The main, yes. And I think if you're seeing everything wrong, you're in a different reality than other people, and it kind of opens up a whole different point of view. Yeah, I had therapy this morning.
Starting point is 00:58:24 We were talking about India. We've just gone to India with Bill Gates. I'm going tonight. No. Oh my God. I'm going tonight. What? I'm going to Delhi tonight and Mumbai next week. What?
Starting point is 00:58:33 I haven't been in 20 years. I'm excited and I'm also a little nervous. Are you staying at the Oberon? Oberoi. Oberoi. I don't think so. Meeting a buddy in Delhi who's an architect and he's very specific about where we stay. Oh my God. Oh, I bet you'll say something great.
Starting point is 00:58:45 I hope. Something like that. You already have a guide? No, not yet. And if you have a recommendation, please. Listen, this is the guide the Gates team uses for anyone who comes. This woman is Indian.
Starting point is 00:58:55 She's a historian, has a master's in history, and we learned so. And she's so fun. She's so cool. Wait, we'll definitely give you her information. She's phenomenal. No, my last trip to Delhi, I was in my mid twenties, airline bread.
Starting point is 00:59:09 And I was gonna lose my tickets when I turned 25. United at the time had flight number one, which went this way, and flight number two, which went this way. All the way around the world. And you're doing counterclockwise and clockwise. Exactly. So I went to Delhi in the middle of the summer by myself.
Starting point is 00:59:23 Don't recommend it. They're 110 degrees and humid. And 20 years ago, which is also a different Delhi. I've heard, my wife went last year. She heard for years my stories about my brief time in India. I was like, you gotta take a friend. You need to be able to talk to someone about the experience you're having.
Starting point is 00:59:37 She gets there and she's like, I'm at the Starbucks. I was like, oh, it's gone. I was stuck in a traffic jam because there was a monkey riding an ox. And I was like, and no one's going anywhere. We stumbled upon a monkey. I was stuck in a traffic jam because there was a monkey riding an ox. And I was like, and no one's going anywhere. We stumbled upon a monkey. We're like in a shopping district and we turn a corner and there's this monkey.
Starting point is 00:59:51 And we're kinda like, is this thing gonna jump up at us and scratch us? That's exciting to me though, because it means there's still a little bit. Sure, there's some activity, especially you'll go to Old Delhi on this tour and you get in a rickshaw, like there's dudes cleaning each other's ears out.
Starting point is 01:00:04 Yeah, there's still like a ton of poverty, a ton of stuff, but it's vibrant. It's very, very cool. But anyway, we went and we were discussing on the trip, Dax and I, we were having different experiences, obviously. I'm an Indian person going to India for essentially the first time. Oh, wow.
Starting point is 01:00:21 And I have a lot of baggage with my- Growing up in a white world. Yes, I have a lot of stuff with it. So of course it's gonna be different. And my therapist was like, yeah, you guys obviously are gonna have different experiences like you do always. Every, she's like, it was just extra apparent
Starting point is 01:00:37 when you're there, cause it's so heightened and you can really see it. She's like, that's always, always you two are having different experiences, everyone is. That's astute. It was so smart. Very true. Yeah, it was very on display in India. Yeah, we couldn't ignore it.
Starting point is 01:00:53 We had such tangible things. How was it? It was incredible. I feel like it was so helpful for me. It was life-changing for me. I'll tell you the moment I cried. It was a very privileged trip because we were with Bill Gates.
Starting point is 01:01:03 We're going to meetings with billionaires and presidents of states and all this stuff. And we're there and we don't know why we're there. And we're podcasters. It says podcasters on our name placard and we're like, oh my God, it's so embarrassing. We left this meeting and Monica goes, you know, that's the first time I've ever been in a room
Starting point is 01:01:20 with the majority were brown people and they had the power. And she goes, I'm so proud to be from India. That's cool. I was like, oh buddy, I want that for you so bad. That's so cool. Oh, it was the first time I've ever felt it. Growing up here, it's always reversed.
Starting point is 01:01:35 It's always, I'm the only brown person at the table and to have Dax be the only white person. Like it was so bizarre. It was so interesting. And I didn't have the power. I mean, I could have beat anyone's ass in there, let's make no mistakes. I know, I watched some Bollywood movies,
Starting point is 01:01:49 they got moves. I had appointed myself Bill's security, because I'm like, this is the only thing that justifies me sitting here, I'm in a suit. What am I doing next to him? I do this with Chris sometimes, when I'm out and about, I'm like, I'll take the picture. Oh, that's great.
Starting point is 01:02:01 It's good, you feel useful, you feel useful. Yeah, sure. Anyway, sorry we went out on a tangent. What a sidebar. It's gonna get me every fucking time, Monica. It's good, you feel useful. You feel useful. Yeah, sure. Anyway, sorry we went off on a tangent. What a sidebar. It's gonna get me every fucking time, Monica. It's gonna get me every time. Stay tuned for more Armchair Expert, if you dare. Do you cry a lot more now that you're getting older?
Starting point is 01:02:24 Oh God, it's terrible. And you have children? I know. Especially watching bad movies on planes. Like too much oxygen, I think about my kids. Is the line that we gave Damon in Interstellar, where it's the last thing you see before you die is your children. You know, and I'm just like.
Starting point is 01:02:37 I've held onto that more than anything. Oh God. Yeah, your life is a total success if you get to look at your kids as you die. But they've enfeebled me. I'm now an emotional wreck. They're wonderful. They're the best thing that ever happened to me, but. Yeah, you guys needed it.
Starting point is 01:02:50 I'm glad it happened to both of you. It's bonkers. We just had Cooper on too, who I've known forever. And now we know you know him as well. And yeah, half the interviews I was talking about, like how frequently we're crying now and how we're crying differently. It's getting embarrassing.
Starting point is 01:03:04 Like I'm not able to do the job a lot of the time. Like you're doing it on purpose, but you're not. And I hate sentimentality. I can't stand it. Like I'm all about irreverence. And now here I am. I'm like so sentimental. Oh, embarrassingly publicly crying.
Starting point is 01:03:17 Oscar Sunday night and the director of 20 days in Mario poll says, I'm the first Ukrainian to ever get an Oscar. And I wish I didn't get it. And I, you could hear, I just really tear up. I do the thing where you hit audible choke. I go, like that. And the seat filters next to me turn like,
Starting point is 01:03:34 what's going on? Okay. And my mom was next to me and she felt it too. And it was like, I know exactly what he's about to say. And I cannot handle this right now. Like I cannot do this right now. And I just had to summon all of my, you know. I didn't watch it, what are you saying?
Starting point is 01:03:45 His documentary is about the siege of Mariupol and it's rough, but it's incredible. And he's like, I wish I'd never had to make this movie. I wish I wasn't here accepting this award. Cause I wish this had never happened. Tough moment, amazing movie. Wow. Okay, fallout.
Starting point is 01:04:02 So full, full transparency disclosure. I often have to watch stuff before I interview somebody. And my wife and I are on a viewing schedule. So what am I interrupting? I'm interrupting something that we're kind of into right now. That's hard. Love on the spectrum. We're watching that with the kids.
Starting point is 01:04:19 I was gonna say if it's Love Island, I might have a shot. If it's something great. Oh, I know. Murder at the end of the earth. We're supposed to be terrific. It's really good. And we're only two in and we're like, we're pretty smitten with it.
Starting point is 01:04:29 So Monday night I go, I gotta watch something. And she's like, okay. I go, but it's Nolan, so this could be good. And she's like, okay, I was looking forward to murder at the end of the earth. And this is the honest to God's truth. Seven minutes in, she goes, holy fuck. And I go, I know this might be the best pilot
Starting point is 01:04:51 I've ever seen in my life. I wish she was here. The fucking superlatives we've been using the last three days, A, all day Tuesday, I got a text from her. I'm like, cannot wait to get home and watch episode two. Me too, I gotta get through this day so I can watch episode two. It's so fucking good.
Starting point is 01:05:06 It's insane how much stuff is going on in this show. A, I didn't know it was a video game. I've never seen the video game. But weirdly, Goggin's character does trigger some image I've had without the nose. Ghouls, yeah, they're characters in all the games. These are the folks who are super irradiated. It's the game's way of dealing with otherness
Starting point is 01:05:23 and the idea that you have this community, sort of post-human and they don't get along very well with the normies, with the smoothies as they call them. So I was having a hard time parsing now what's you and what's this video game, but what I love immediately is, and I don't think I'm spoiling too much,
Starting point is 01:05:37 but the show opens and we're at a birthday party and we're at a house and we're at a very prototypical Hollywood house and the city's in the background, we're up high, and inside, they're watching like a 50s TV, and the little boys are all obsessed with cowboys. It's all 50s, but in the deep background, we can see LA is a super futuristic city. And I loved it immediately.
Starting point is 01:06:00 I loved the juxtaposition, and then the music is 50s. To me, it felt very similar to the Westworld tone. I felt that weird mix of futuristic and retro-ness, which then I assumed, oh this is kind of Jonah's vibe. But then I learned the game also had some retro futuristic vibe. Very much, it makes me so happy, because we're now in a place where we're just starting
Starting point is 01:06:24 to show it to people and we've been working on this for a couple of years. I mean there were 4, so happy because we're now in a place where we're just starting to show it to people and we've been working on this for a couple of years. I mean, there were 4,000 Vizifix shots in the season. We've been sitting on it for a minute trying to get it all done. So it's super exciting to be talking to you about it. No, it's gonna be a fucking blockbuster. This show's gonna make Amazon.
Starting point is 01:06:38 We're super excited. So the tone, that was my experience of the game. So it was right around, I think, Fallout 3. Fallout had been a series, six or seven games. When did it start? In the late 90s. From the beginning, the game could have been written by adbusters.
Starting point is 01:06:51 It's so political, it has such a point of view. And I started to notice in the late 2000s that games were getting a little braver than film, especially politically. And you don't expect that from games at all. You play something like BioShock, or you play something like Fallout, you're like, oh, this is doing things
Starting point is 01:07:05 that movies are scared to do. Interesting. Lisa was not a gamer, so when we were researching Westworld, we played a lot of games. Gaming mechanic is a big part of how the park works. You gotta figure out how does this work. So we played a bunch of games as research.
Starting point is 01:07:16 She'd be like, oh, we're doing research. Yeah, yeah. Seller's of Catan? Oh, love it. What a game. Oh, ruin the best friendships ever. It's true. Oh, it's almost, oh yeah.
Starting point is 01:07:23 No friendships strong enough to withstand. We just stop playing with the kids because I'm like, it's going to fracture the family. We need to be careful though. We just taught ours. But somewhere in the late 2000s, I think I was in between the Dark Knight, Dark Knight Rises. Video games for a while before I had kids would be like the brain cleanse.
Starting point is 01:07:35 I'm going to get the whole movie out of my head. I'm going to play Halo for four days. And someone recommended Fallout 3, which is the first one under the supervision of Todd Howard, who is the creative director, essentially the show runner of all of these games, an incredible, lovely, lovely human being. And it was the first game that Todd had worked on and I knew nothing about it other than
Starting point is 01:07:55 it was highly recommended by people I like. And I put it in and I started playing it. I'm like, what is this? What is the tone of this thing? What is happening here? It's dark, it's emotional, it's funny, it's subversive, it's political. Right out of the gate, this is all about not our America,
Starting point is 01:08:09 but a version of America that's kind of this Eisenhower-era America that never has a Watergate, never has a Vietnam, never has a moment of national reflection, just swagger's on for another hundred years. That opening scene is in 2077, but it looks like the 1950s. Nuclear power toasters,
Starting point is 01:08:23 it was like the dream, the jet Sony in America, and then it ends. Yeah, we gotta say it's a bummer because it's such an impactful scene, but I think it's prerequisite to then talk about all the different dynamics of the show. But at this birthday party, they're looking out over the city and just one after another atomic bomb starts falling.
Starting point is 01:08:41 Yeah, I would hasten to point out that I had a conversation with Todd Howard in 2019. We started developing the show in 2019. My brother started developing Oppenheimer the next year. Oh! But he worked quickly. And so I got to watch his movie where you have this moment.
Starting point is 01:08:55 It was one of the things I was struck by looking at all the testing footage. Cause we knew we had to show the world beforehand and we knew we had to show the bombs dropping. And we looked at all the test footage and the thing I was struck by, most of them don't have sound. And we eventually found a couple that do have sound.
Starting point is 01:09:05 And the shocking thing about it is, this whole thing plays out and you hear nothing. Of course, because speed of light is 86,000 miles per second and speed of sound is 700 miles per hour. And so you get, we timed it, we watched the footage, two minutes to watch the world end. This is now my deepest horror, is that I'm with my kids in this app.
Starting point is 01:09:23 So we wrote it in. Also kind of maybe a blessing because you get to turn and say, I love you so much. That's right. This is now my deepest horror is that I'm with my kids and this happens. So we wrote it in. Also kind of maybe a blessing because you get to turn and say, I love you so much. That's right. Your kids would hear you as you explained to them how you felt before it's over. And you'd watch the blast wave come towards you.
Starting point is 01:09:33 So then Chris gets to put in his movie first, but. Yours is better. I'm sorry. Oh boy. I said it. That moment is much more emotional. It's emotional in Oppenheimer. It's a brilliant moment in Oppenheimer,
Starting point is 01:09:44 but it's emotional in ours because it's again. Family. But here's what you're uniquely great at. You pack in, because things come really rapid in this show. So it's like we meet this guy with his daughter. We already know he's somehow been besmirched by his peers. He's got a history. We don't really know what.
Starting point is 01:10:01 I love it again, leave a lot of questions. But when that goes off, within the first two minute opening, I'm heartbroken this is happening to this man and his daughter. We fast forward 200 years, and now we meet a whole new group of people, and they're living subterranean. And this now becomes the metaphor
Starting point is 01:10:16 between the wealth and income inequality. We started in 2019, and then every year the project got more relevant. And then when Russia invaded Ukraine, I was like, okay, you can be less relevant. Right. This is helpful to a point. Enough relevance.
Starting point is 01:10:28 But yeah, we meet these people and they're kind of in an idyllic situation. It's 200 years later. They're waiting up the radiation that's above ground. And then again, we meet another hero. We meet another father daughter relationship. We establish all this stuff so quickly and then there's upheaval there.
Starting point is 01:10:44 And now we go and we go do this military base. No one's ever happy in any of the projects at work. I wanna do one project with you. Yeah. No, no, keep going. Keep killing all the people we just met. I think that was Game of Thrones' big proprietary thing is like just getting you to fall in love with people
Starting point is 01:10:59 and then fucking murdering them. And you watch with such unease forever because you know everyone's fair game. Everyone is fair game. That was what was revelatory about that. It really was because you can say as a writer, the hardest thing to do really is to establish people to get you to care about them.
Starting point is 01:11:15 Interstellar, I love the movie, but when I watch first hour, I'm struggling because it was the three year struggle of how on earth am I packing all this in, always feels too long. Yes. Not in Chris's finished movie, I think he did a masterful job pulling it all together,
Starting point is 01:11:27 but I just feel the three years of how are we gonna build this world and how these relationships matter. But what's titanic about what you tackled is we're in three completely different shows. Our new bit is how we're gonna explain this show to people. It's kinda like Westworld and The Last of Us, and it's all happening. You could live in any one of them as their own show.
Starting point is 01:11:46 You quickly establish these different groups of people. They all need the same thing, and we're off to the races. I mean, it's an incredible, I mean, again, I'm gonna get in big trouble for this. If I had to pick- You don't have to pick. I want to. Oh.
Starting point is 01:12:01 Because I need to make it relative to something. If on my deathbed they said you either have to erase your memory of seeing Oppenheimer, erase your memory of seeing the first episode of Fallout, I'm picking Fallout. Wow. I'm picking Fallout. You don't have to comment.
Starting point is 01:12:15 And I read American Prometheus, I'm obsessed. I'm gonna sit here as quiet as I'm just. Yeah, you're not allowed to say a thing, it could be a headline. No, forget that, I'm the younger brother. Exactly. Come on. Yeah, you're allowed to enjoy that.
Starting point is 01:12:25 Crushed it. I'm so excited to see it. I actively didn't see it. I was saying to Jonah before, I was like, I'm waiting till this is over. But you can tell him I was raving to you yesterday, right? So on fire for it. Yeah, and last night I was like,
Starting point is 01:12:35 oh, I wanna watch that, but I shouldn't. I have seen Oppenheimer at this point, like four or five times. It's your new. Because I watched it on the plane. I'd already seen it, then I watched it on the plane a couple of times. It's such a good movie.
Starting point is 01:12:46 It's a masterpiece. And I was sort of like, I don't think I'm gonna like it in this Barbenheimer world. Oh my gosh, there's this feminist movie and then there's this movie about men making bombs. I'm probably not gonna like that. And then I love it. It's so good.
Starting point is 01:13:01 You have now watched Barbenheimer as many times as I have watched Barbie. This is a really funny reversal. I'm in like viewing four of Barbie. I cannot get enough of that movie. As the Barbenheimer thing was happening last summer, I was excited because I knew that it would help. That movie was a big risk for Chris.
Starting point is 01:13:14 It's physicists talking about physics, but it's made like an action movie and he puts it out in the summer. My sole contribution to that movie was just encouraging Chris to the degree he needed encouragement. Looking at that, looking at other projects, I was like, that, that, that.
Starting point is 01:13:25 Had you read American Prometheus? No, but sort of obsessed with Oppenheimer and the mythos of it and Los Alamos and that Promethean moment and referenced it in other projects. How many two or three year periods in groups of people can you point to and say they changed the whole world?
Starting point is 01:13:37 And with a gun to their head, it's very uniquely biblical. That's where we're at with AI. I mean, we're also at that juncture. We don't have the option to set this out. There's a lot to the analogy there in terms of the thoughtfulness with which we've approached nuclear fission
Starting point is 01:13:49 and the recklessness with which we've approached AI, frankly. But you have to redefine what big commercial movie means. Oppenheimer made a billion dollars. You're like, what can a big commercial movie do? But it was more that, there's a lot of smaller mode of storytelling. And I just wanted him to see it make it because I didn't imagine Chris would ever make a biopic
Starting point is 01:14:06 but he'd written a script about Howard Hughes 20 years ago. Yes, that he was gonna make and then Aviator. I think he said publicly that he just took too long to write. That script's one of the best scripts I've ever written. We're due, there's been enough time. Well, some of the storytelling Brio went into Oppenheimer.
Starting point is 01:14:22 Frankly, Howard Hughes is a fascinating subject but Oppenheimer's life was more consequential and just as fascinating as Hughes' and I think more of an impact on history. Although here's a deep irony. So I was obsessed with Howard Hughes in college. I wrote a paper on him. What he was accused of is he had tried to sell
Starting point is 01:14:36 a certain airplane to the Air Force that they rejected. Rumor has it the Mitsubishis that bombed Pearl Harbor wore his design that he sold it to the Japanese. So weirdly the bombing is a result as is history. It's all traceable. I never thought Chris would make a movie about a person because real people's lives don't tend to be dramatic. They don't tend to have that satisfying arc.
Starting point is 01:14:58 It's hard to find someone whose life is worthy of that treatment or will be entertaining that way. Summer Blockbuster and I thought with Oppenheimer, Chris plus that subject. Now Chris is, and I thought with Oppenheimer, Chris plus that subject. Now Chris is occupying a space that nobody occupies, which is he doesn't do existing IP, and yet he has blockbusters. We did it with Batman a little bit,
Starting point is 01:15:15 that was as close as we got to it. Post-Batman to do Inception, that's a huge blockbuster, that shouldn't work. Interstellar should not work. We tended to do for a while sort of 50-50, from my career. Adaptation can be fun, but making original things is really fun too.
Starting point is 01:15:30 The ability to kind of bounce back and forth, it's a different kind of writing. He's just one of the few people that a studio's gonna give a couple hundred million dollars to do that doesn't have an existing IP. We all need to treasure the fact that your brother is on Planet Earth, because without him, yeah,
Starting point is 01:15:42 I don't know who they'd trust that to. It's one of the reasons I was drawn to television, is that when I started in television, there was very little IP. I'm very proud of what we've made with Fallout. I love the games, it's exciting, but one of the things I loved about TV from the beginning was all the broadcasts,
Starting point is 01:15:54 but I was doing very seldom based on anything. You had a pitch, Person of Interest was a pitch, it was about AI, and it was about a vigilante, and I was sort of not quite done with the Dark Knight stuff, so we found a venue to do that, and I miss those days. So this show is tackling, there's some metaphors there. Obviously the one I just mentioned,
Starting point is 01:16:10 which is there's these underground dwellers, and people pretty much hate them, the vault people. Yes. Because they're uppity, they're me, they're in a gated community. By the time we were done with the pandemic, and Geneva and Graham are showrunners, amazing, thoughtful, brilliant.
Starting point is 01:16:24 He is from the comedy world. He cut his teeth in American television on The Office, worked on Silicon Valley, Portlandia. She wrote Marvel movies, the combination of the two of them, incredible. And they were able to capture this gonzo tone of, and one of the things we liked from the beginning, it's hilarious to watch people now arguing online about,
Starting point is 01:16:38 like they made it woke. And then someone who actually knows the game is like, are you a fucking idiot? From the beginning, it was woke. Like, what are you talking about? The politics were seeded into this thing from the beginning. But in a way that I love, it's less about being didactic
Starting point is 01:16:51 about the things that I believe. This is a circular firing squad. Everyone comes in for a beating on this one, whether it's the blue state in essential folks who sat home and had other people deliver their food, us, or whether it's the red state folks, everyone. Who are harkening back to a knighthood and a brotherhood whether people deliver their food, us, or whether it's the red state folks, everyone. Who are harkening back to a knighthood and a brotherhood
Starting point is 01:17:07 and some of these kind of relic concepts that no one really knows how they worked. This is what I loved about the project is that playing the game the first time, they're post-apocalyptic. I love the George Miller, Mad Max songs, I think they're brilliant. Not a world I wanna live in.
Starting point is 01:17:19 You can live in those movies. That's the difference between a movie and a TV show. Movie is like a one night stand, right? You can do anything for two hours. TV shows are like an extended family. I'd have these conversations with the DPs. I've been lucky to work with some incredibly talented people. Often come in and we try out a look
Starting point is 01:17:33 and they'd go for like a skip bleach look. It's beautiful. But the reason why Westworld wasn't skip bleach, it was saturated, beautiful color. And this is me and Paul Cameron going back and forth about how this thing should look is because you want to live in it. You're gonna spend a lot of time there.
Starting point is 01:17:45 I wanted desperately to go to Westworld. Yeah, me too. Totally. A little bit of a love affair with film because we shot Fallout on film, Westworld on film. I didn't know that. Yeah, we have actors who sometimes would come on set and after a take be like, what's wrong with the camera?
Starting point is 01:17:59 It's a real camera. Like it's making a funny noise. It's mechanical. You slap the mag, you're like, it's a real camera. Yeah, yeah, this thing. When they hit both sides of the mag to get it to shut up. Oh, all the time. It's a bit of a secret weapon for us.
Starting point is 01:18:11 I mean, Chris is out there talking about it all the time. When we shot the pilot for Westworld, that was the year when the factory in New York was gonna close. Chris and Spielberg and JJ and Tarantino had to get all the studios to commit to buy the film because it was gonna be done. And we were the only pilot that year that shot on film.
Starting point is 01:18:26 And you're still shooting on film? Still shooting on film. Does that complicate your digital stuff? No, everyone loves our set. Like Chris, everyone leaves their cell phone in the trailer. For me, it's a safety thing. I'm obsessed with the safety of the crew. This is where we differ.
Starting point is 01:18:39 So we found it, one thing. My motto is safety third. If I can do the stunts, you can do the stunts. Well, we wanna do wild shit. The scene in Philly in episode two, I don't know if you got there yet, where the power armor flies down. I remember saying to the line producer, he laughed,
Starting point is 01:18:53 and I was like, no, I'm dead serious. We got a guy with a jet pack to come out and do the stunt. Because I'm like, well, the CG, the suit, it's hard metal shiny surface, that's easy. But the particulate dust blowing off the ground. The physics. That's super hard. The contact points, where it touches the ground, where it interacts with, that's easy. But the particulate dust blowing off the ground, that's super hard. The contact points, where it touches the ground,
Starting point is 01:19:08 where it interacts with, it's hard. And when shit's gotta move in the laws of physics, we actually intuitively know that's where it breaks down. Exactly, so I'd seen this guy demonstrate this jet pack, new design, very Iron Man, it's on the arm instead of the back. And a few tense conversations with the line producer, figured out how to get him there,
Starting point is 01:19:23 and we dangled him from a crane so there's no way he could fall on our set. He's like, I'm gonna jet pack. I'm like, yeah, just bear with me. You're in a prototype jet pack. Good point. They wanted to make this thing. Yeah, exactly.
Starting point is 01:19:32 Something I learned with Chris coming up was, if you can do it for real, with a video game adaptation, I was saying to Todd, I'm like, most adaptations you're adding things, with a video game, you're removing things. You're removing freedom, interactivity, moral choices, all these things that games can do that are incredible. What I felt like we could add is reality.
Starting point is 01:19:48 So from the beginning, we said, we're gonna do the stunts for real. We're gonna go down to Namibia. I'd seen this incredible location when we were doing Westworld, this mining town on the skeleton coast of Namibia. And we'd set the pictures aside because Mason reconstruction, which didn't fit in the West.
Starting point is 01:20:04 There's no brick construction in the West until the 20th century. So I just filed it away. And I had this lunch with Todd, and we decided we were going to make the show. And on the drive home, I was like, well, I got nothing, but I got one location. So we dragged the crew down to Luteritz. And so you always feel like a bit of a chump when you've asked people to fly 30 hours, fly to Johannesburg and then back to Luteritz. And then we went down to this abandoned diamond factory. It was one of those places where they don't want you to film there. We had to consent to a body cavity search
Starting point is 01:20:32 on behalf of the entire crew, because there were still loose diamonds on the sand. Wow. Talk about getting the intimacy coach involved. Yeah, no, 100%. There's this weird shed that you had to walk in and out of. Carol, are you ready? They need to check your rectum here after this shot.
Starting point is 01:20:46 As these things do, it made its way to the crew that there were loose diamonds on the set. So I would call action and turn around and you'd just see everyone else in the crew is bent over and looking at the rocks. Of course. Don't do it, guys. Don't do it, trust me.
Starting point is 01:20:57 You don't want to walk back through that shed on the way out. But we had this moment the second day we were shooting down there. You feel like a bit of an asshole dragging everyone out there. And then you get there, as with Castle Valley in Utah
Starting point is 01:21:06 for Westworld, gets the Skeleton Coast and the actor show. And these are great actors. Walton and Ella and Erin, and you can put them in front of green screen and they do just great. But if you can bring them somewhere spectacular, you're making their lives easier. The awe is real. We do this kind of slightly asshole thing
Starting point is 01:21:21 of leaving them in the trailer and they haven't seen it yet. And we'd roll the camera and bring them out. The look in her face when she gets the outside world, you know, it's pretty real. It's very real. I said out loud, oh, she's enjoying being outside. You can feel that. Yeah, you're remembering she's not been outside.
Starting point is 01:21:34 We've brought them to set with the bags over their head. Not quite that level of sadism, but we went and scattered for the first time. I'm looking at it, I'm like, it's the Santa Monica Harbor. It's exactly the same. That drone shot of the outside of the vault is 90% real. The only thing we've added is the Ferris wheel for the Santa Monica Harbor. It's exactly the same. That drone shot of the outside of the vault is 90% real. The only thing we've added is the Ferris wheel
Starting point is 01:21:47 for the Santa Monica Pier and the mountains in the background. We were shooting there for the second day and someone wandered over to me, an experience I'd never had. They wandered over and said, no one's ever shot here. Oh wow. Ever. Yeah, that's rare.
Starting point is 01:21:57 We shoot in New York. I literally one day accidentally ate in the Gossip Girl Commissary. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I walked the wrong direction coming out of set. To be in a place where no one had ever shot and they resumed diamond mining operations the day after we left.
Starting point is 01:22:08 No one will ever shoot there again. Yeah. That's cool. Yes, it's so lucky. Oh, well Jonah, this has been a goddamn blast. Yeah, thanks for joining us. I mean, I could not be more excited for you about this show. It's just gonna be so massive.
Starting point is 01:22:21 It's so fucking good. Cannot wait for today to be over so I can watch episode three. Go home, go away. I'm already panicked, I think they only sent four. We can fix that. Well this has been a blast. I hope you had a good time.
Starting point is 01:22:32 Likewise, I had a fantastic time. Thank you guys so much. Fallout is on Prime Video April 11th and all eight come out at once. First time we're binging, I'm a little scared. Oh, that would be great. No, it's so the way to do it. I would have shot myself if I had seen that first episode
Starting point is 01:22:46 and didn't think I could watch another one the following night. There was no hell to pay in our house. All right, well thanks for coming. This was a blast and good luck with everything. Thank you so much. Stay tuned for the fact check so you can hear all the facts that were wrong.
Starting point is 01:23:04 Welcome home. Thank you. You were on vacation. Welcome home. Thank you. You were on vacation. I was. How was it? It was great. We went to Nashville for three days and looked at the progress on the house, which was outrageously exciting.
Starting point is 01:23:21 Oh, so fun. Had dinner at my favorite Sparys, on Friday night. Home of my favorite. Salad bar. Salad bar. And it's that blue cheese dressing with the red oil all over it. I don't know what's going on with it.
Starting point is 01:23:35 Wow. But it's so good. In fact, I bumped into a guy at the salad bar who lives in Nashville, and he said, oh my God, I can't believe you're here. I've heard you talk about Sparys on the podcast. And I said, oh, is this your favorite? And he goes, no, this is my first time.
Starting point is 01:23:47 And I go, where are you visiting from? And he said, no, I live here. And then I told him, let me give you the shortcut, that's the dressing. Ignore all those other dressings. He never did report back whether or not he enjoyed it as much as, but I basically forced him to use that.
Starting point is 01:24:02 Which is risky. But I swear by it. Not everyone's a blue cheese person. In fact, I'd say it's fairly polarizing. Well, I think if you hate blue cheese, you'd be like, well, I hate blue cheese. There's two different blue cheeses there. If you're open to blue cheese,
Starting point is 01:24:17 then you must go with this red oily one. I think if he is there because you recommended to come and then you're there and you're saying you have to eat this, he's gonna, even if he hates blue cheese. Yeah, I'm surprised you didn't think me. That's on him. I mean, that's on him if he doesn't listen to his heart. I like to think more that he was like,
Starting point is 01:24:37 oh man, this is the greatest blue cheese and I probably wouldn't have picked it unless he was standing there. I'm so grateful. I'd way rather that be the outcome. Well, sure, we want what we want. Yeah, that's what I hope happened. And then had a cookout at Huey and Hayes' house
Starting point is 01:24:50 Saturday night. Huey and I teamed up on that grill. I did the rib-eyes, he did the filets. Really good, their whole family came over. And then Sunday morning, we went over to Huey and Hayes, well, Hayes' mother Rhonda and Doug. And again, we did this two years ago, as you may remember. Oh yeah, Egg Hunt.
Starting point is 01:25:10 Egg Hunt, beautiful spread, plates made with people's names on them. It's the nicest Southern Easter you can imagine. Southern Christian gals. Yeah, and once again, we thank the Lord for bringing these wayward heathens into their fold so they can educate us. That was, again, he had another spin on it,
Starting point is 01:25:32 but it was great. And how do I say this without hurting my family's feelings? Family's so fun when you're not triggered. Sure. Does that make sense? Yeah, of course. Like, Chris and I were enjoying ourselves so much at this family Easter and it was so much fun
Starting point is 01:25:50 and gaiety and inside jokes and laughing and just having a blast and I'm like, yeah, these family holidays are so lovely. But I know I would be like, I'd be rubbed the wrong way by this, I'd be nervous about that interaction. Of course. So maybe every once you just kinda hopscotch,
Starting point is 01:26:09 you should rotate through other families on the big day. I mean, that's what a lot of kids do, that's why they go to sleepovers. Right, and they love the family dinner at their sleepover, and then their own family dinner, they're like, ah, dad, stop. Well, that's good. Did Kristen get the golden egg again?
Starting point is 01:26:28 She did not. Did you? I did not. I barely collect them. I myself came away with $11 though, which I was delighted about. Yeah, that's great. What is the Scrooge equivalent to Easter?
Starting point is 01:26:43 Devil, cause it's a Jesus holiday. It's the ultimate. Right. I don't know what the, like a bah humbug Easter person is. Yeah. I don't know. I'm that. You're that.
Starting point is 01:26:54 You've never had a good time at an Easter party. I wore this outfit yesterday. All black. I'm wearing all black. Okay. You're mad at Easter. I'm not mad at it at all. I love anything that people are happy in, you're mad at Easter. I'm not mad at it at all. I love anything that people are happy in, you know?
Starting point is 01:27:08 But you know how I get around holidays. I love holidays. I love events. Yeah. I love- Halloween, Christmas. Halloween, Thanksgiving, I love. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:27:19 Pig Day, Christmas. What's Pig Day? Pig Day is the Friday after Thanksgiving where Jess and I get my tree. Oh, that's your own holiday, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I made it. Yep. All of it, but sorry guys, I don't get Easter.
Starting point is 01:27:32 It's because I didn't grow up with it. My parents didn't do it. They didn't know about it, I guess, early. And then they kept up that. Like there was no Easter baskets. Right. You never went to an egg hunt or anything? No, I mean at my like daycare.
Starting point is 01:27:49 Yeah. There was eggs. Little light egg hunting. Yeah, but it never- Your parents never got you an Easter basket or your grandparents? No. We got one.
Starting point is 01:27:59 My mother got us an Easter basket. It was very fun. It was only the second time in the year. You got candy at Halloween, like candy bar chocolate. You got it at Halloween and then sayonara suck ass all the way till April. What about Valentine's Day? She didn't get you all.
Starting point is 01:28:15 Oh, she did, you're right. Good, good, good. You've definitely poked a hole in it. And what am I talking about? It's not like we never had chocolate, but let's just say this is a chocolate holiday. It's like Halloween. Interesting had chocolate. But let's just say this is a chocolate holiday. It's like Halloween. Interesting.
Starting point is 01:28:26 Very fun, very colorful. Coloring eggs is really fun. My mom was just here right before we left for Nashville and she colored eggs with the girls, brought a little machine. You can do like a lathe. What's that mean? You know, a lathe is what you put a chunk of wood on.
Starting point is 01:28:41 It spins and then you carve it into like a leg of a table. This is you put the egg on a spinner and then you can take like a marker and make very specific. Oh, that's cool. They're in the, I think they're on the island inside. You should take a look. They're very beautiful.
Starting point is 01:28:56 Wow. And it's a whole contraption and that was fun for them. I like contraptions. Listen, Easter egg hunts, it's second to trick or treating in that it's an activity where you're on the prowl, you're looking everywhere, it's active, kids are running around, I got to help her.
Starting point is 01:29:12 Yeah, maybe the competition actually, now that you're saying that. You can find your way in. No, well, actually you're right, that seems more like my personality, but I bet as a kid, that stressed me out. One time I went to a girl's birthday party, it was a sleepover fifth grade, I think,
Starting point is 01:29:34 so the girls were kinda, you know, at that like- Starting to get catty? Yeah, and the mom had set up a little store in the basement, which was really my dream, she set up like a little store in the basement, which was really my dream. Like she set up a little mall. And then we got to like take a couple things. Oh my God. And so I took this necklace
Starting point is 01:29:53 and then the necklace became a devil necklace. Like it- Everyone wanted it? Yes. And then I was bad. Okay. Because I got it. Okay. This is a theme.
Starting point is 01:30:05 This is like the White Elephant Party. I know. This resurfaces. The White Elephant, though, is different. At that age, I didn't have a leg up. No, but it is a pattern of I'm gonna get myself excluded by picking a thing that I should pick. I know.
Starting point is 01:30:23 Yeah. I just picked it, cause I liked it. Turns out everyone liked it. Now, do you believe we manifest patterns to confirm our narrative? In some ways, yes, but I don't think in this case. Right, right, right. I mean, yeah, I think emotionally we do.
Starting point is 01:30:38 Well, this could be the inciting incident. This could be the genesis of the whole story. Narratives, you just kinda, you can kinda get stuck in something that happens. You can. I'm not suggesting that's what's going, well, I am suggesting it, but it's a 1%. It could be.
Starting point is 01:30:53 I mean, I don't think in general though, well, okay, so with the necklace, it blew up. I was like in a group of four or five girls, they turned on me and they were really mean. Like then I couldn't sit with them at lunch. Like very- They carried on way past the sleepover. Yes.
Starting point is 01:31:12 And they would look at me and talk to each other on per, like stare at me so that I would know they were talking about like really- Mean girls stuff. Mean girls shit. And I was so distraught because the new thing was that the birthday girl wanted it, but she didn't,
Starting point is 01:31:28 but then she did, I guess, once they decided that that's what had happened. So then I tried to give it to her. Okay, she refused it? Didn't work, I don't know, didn't work. They were still all mad. I wrote individual letters to all these bitches. Oh no, Monnie. Like. They were still on med. I wrote individual letters to all these bitches. Oh no, Monnie.
Starting point is 01:31:46 Like really had to get them back. You had to apologize. Oh yeah, and I'm so bad and I can't believe I did that. No wonder you have a fucking chip on your shoulder, just like me. Yeah, and it worked. Like they eventually let me back in. Is that Callie was the birthday girl?
Starting point is 01:32:03 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. This was so bad and it did scar me. It was like, you have to let everyone else have what they want. Like you can't take from anyone. You're not entitled to any of this stuff. But then I got over that, I guess, and I took the money at White Elephant.
Starting point is 01:32:21 Look, it, yeah. Beautiful black outfit on. But Easter, you hate it. You hate it. I don't want to say that. I don't want to say I hate it. I'm just the Scrooge of it. I'm the Easter devil.
Starting point is 01:32:34 Right, right. Easter devil. Well, maybe we should pick something that eats rabbits, like Easter fox. Oh. Because it's not as blatant. I like that because foxes are sexy. Well, and they're witty and clever.
Starting point is 01:32:46 They're known for their cleverness. And I was supposed to go to an Easter thing yesterday, and I was feeling antisocial, so I didn't go. Oh no, who had an Easter thing? The Hansons. Oh, okay. And you skipped it. And he was making yummy food,
Starting point is 01:32:56 and in theory, it would have been so fun. It was sunny out yesterday, it was nice, kind of. Didn't it rain yesterday? Yeah, I just remembered that. When I landed, the ground was pretty wet. It my God. Kind of. Didn't it rain yesterday? Yeah, I just remembered that. When I landed the ground was pretty wet. It was cloudy. Uh, but I just couldn't, I couldn't do it. I talked about this in therapy.
Starting point is 01:33:13 I'm keeping an eye out. I'm wondering if I'm like a tiny bit depressed. Mm-hmm. Oh my God. So I'm just, I'm just keeping an eye out. And right now I'm about to start my period now. Oh Jesus Christ, this thing's gonna blow. Listen, you're wearing all black,
Starting point is 01:33:32 you didn't go to the Easter party. I'm feeling a little reclusive. Uh-huh. Yeah, sweetie, you're a little depressed, I think. Well, wait, I should never have told you. Why? Because now you're gonna think everything is that. No, just you're wearing black eyeshadow
Starting point is 01:33:51 and you're in a full black outfit and you didn't go to the Easter party as any of you. I'm not wearing black eyeshadow, I'm wearing mascara regular. Okay, what's your goth era? Oh, what if I'm becoming goth? It looks like you're into screamo a little bit right now. I also look like a role model.
Starting point is 01:34:09 This is what they look like. Yes, yes, heroin chic, depressed. I think there is a type of guy who wants a sexy girl who's always crying. Are you sure they do? Yeah, I think that, well, look, you know, I don't know the percentage, but men wanna fix a broken bird just like women wanna fix a broken bird. I mean, I think that, well, look, you know, I don't know the percentage, but men wanna fix a broken bird
Starting point is 01:34:26 just like women wanna fix a broken bird. I mean, I think it's natural. I think especially if you had a mom who needed a lot of caretaking and stuff. Yeah, I've had lots of friends. They are deeply attracted to people who clearly are very sad and depressed a lot. No, everything's great.
Starting point is 01:34:44 I am, like I have depression. So I take an antidepressant. I know who I am when I'm depressed. And I can just feel small pieces of it. Mainly the feeling sort of reclusive and not the makeup. That's a fun hobby. Oh good. Do you find, cause again, I don't have depression.
Starting point is 01:35:06 I have had it, but I don't have it. But I get sad. Yeah, that's different. And I get moody and I have spells where I'm really pessimistic and I have a lot of anxiety. But A, there's generally things, real material things surrounding those. The not being able to enjoy anything,
Starting point is 01:35:26 that to me is what depression is. For me, that's when I've been like, huh, this is really weird. I'm watching my children play, that's the example I always give. I'm watching them play very kindly to one another. That generally makes me so happy and I don't care. Ooh, that's so scary to me.
Starting point is 01:35:42 So how do you delineate between when I'm in a bad mood or I have anxiety about this thing versus I am in a depressive phase right now? Or? Yeah. For me, everything's a bit dulled. Are you a little disassociated? Because that was the thing my mom's last spell, where she, I observed it, it was very clear to me,
Starting point is 01:36:02 and she didn't tell me. She feels like she's at places with people, but she's in a bubble. They're all participating and she's watching it, but it's having none of the mirror neuronic effects for her. It's, right? Sure, I think that's common. I think that's very common.
Starting point is 01:36:19 And I, yeah, I can relate to that a little bit as probably being part of mine. Also, mine manifests a lot, and I just stop caring at all about anything. Something like good is happening, and I understand it's good. Right, we don't care. But I don't feel it.
Starting point is 01:36:38 Yeah. And there's been some overwhelm, you know, my therapist was saying, you've also been really, maybe you're just recharging. I think, okay, so I am sick. Oh no. Delta got me. We snuggle like crazy snuggle bugs,
Starting point is 01:36:53 which is totally worth it. It did occur to me this last week, so this last week I too have been kind of just a little under the weather, a little sad, a little anxiety ridden, And I did have to acknowledge, you and I were on this incredible tornado of stimuli. We were, yeah. Like fucking India straight into Austin, like so fun.
Starting point is 01:37:15 Yes. Part of me was like, you were up for like two weeks. Totally. And the body is like searching for homeostasis. Yeah. So it's dropped you a bit, and you're just gonna have to weather this and then it'll level off.
Starting point is 01:37:27 So part of me thinks that's what's going on with me. Yeah, that probably is right. And there's stressors, there's real stressors right now. So, you know, I, yeah. So I fucking skipped Easter, okay? Sue me. Yeah, so sue me. So sue me.
Starting point is 01:37:42 I also, I don't think I wanna say. I don't wanna say, cause everyone jumps on this when I say, and I don't like it. Okay. I do feel like I'm self-medicating a little bit. With booze. Yes.
Starting point is 01:38:02 Uh-huh. So. Yeah. So yeah. Yeah. So yeah. Yeah. So it's probably time for me to like, I am going to New York, I planned that trip, and I kind of feel like when I get back from that,
Starting point is 01:38:13 I need like, yeah, I need a break. Okay, so similarly, I've been having way more caffeine than I should. Oh. Which of course then fucks up my sleep even worse. Yeah. So then it becomes the same probably cycle urine just on the opposite.
Starting point is 01:38:28 Exactly. Yeah. Then I'm tired so then I drink more caffeine. Yeah. I drink it later. And then I wake up 12 times in the night. Yeah. And then the next day, yes. So I weirdly flying home yesterday, I was like, okay, you're gonna have one diet coke on that airplane and then we're done for the day.
Starting point is 01:38:46 Did you do it? Yeah, I succeeded at that, but then today I went, I've already gone nuts. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's hard. It's hard.
Starting point is 01:38:56 Oh, God. What if this whole thing was an April Fool's joke? Oh, that'd be great. And what if we were like, no, just kidding, we're so happy. We're so happy. Anyway, so Moni was at the Easter party. She found the golden egg. No one got mad.
Starting point is 01:39:10 No, yeah, it's fine. It's life. There's ups and downs. Yeah. That's the way it is. Nothing bad is happening. We had some highs. When you get some highs, you get some lows.
Starting point is 01:39:22 Anywho. So I, this weekend, went,, went to Anthony and Allison's. Well, and then this is why I don't think I'm that depressed because I did not really wanna go because I was feeling reclusive. Grouchy? I wasn't grouchy, I was just like. Lethargic?
Starting point is 01:39:42 What it is is it takes so much mental energy for me to do a thing that normally I want just like. Lethargic? What it is is it takes so much mental energy for me to do a thing that normally I want to do. Right, right. So, and yeah, Anthony, Alison, Rachel, our friend Brooks, it was so fun. We were laughing so hard. We played this game, new game. Well, I don't think it's new,
Starting point is 01:40:05 but it's called like MTV something. And you have cards with artists on them, song artists, musical artists, yeah, musicians. And you have to like put them in categories and get your team to guess. Kind of like Humdinger on the Allen game, on that game. But one of them is like one word, one is you say the lyrics.
Starting point is 01:40:29 And then the other is humming. Anyway, it was so funny. I did an actual spit take. You did. But it wasn't really a spit take. It was more like I had to just spit the water on the floor. Okay. Cause it was, I mean it was.
Starting point is 01:40:45 It was gonna be a big spray. Yes, it was like happening, but I just like opened my mouth and the water flew out. It was more of a spit drool. Yeah. Or a drool take. But. What was the joke?
Starting point is 01:40:55 It was. Someone's performance? Yes. Mm-hmm. But it was so, what a weird sensation to know you can't swallow the water. Have you ever peed your pants laughing? No. I know, I envy that. So what a weird sensation to know you can't swallow the water. Have you ever peed your pants laughing?
Starting point is 01:41:07 No. I know, I envy that. Yeah, I bet it's a similar thing where you're shocked it's happening. My mom will pee her pants once or twice a year laughing. And how much pee? Boy, I didn't ask. Yeah, I don't know if it's some spotting
Starting point is 01:41:21 or if it's a full. Is it just like incontinence, like a little comes out. Or a full urination, like a pint glass. I bet it's more like a full, because you have no control, so it's just flooding. Look, and I've pooped my pants a hundred times at this point in my life, and for whatever reason that feels so familiar to me,
Starting point is 01:41:42 the notion of peeing like a pint glass in my pants seems crazy. I think I'd rather poop my pants. How about you, Rob? No, I don't pee. No, what would you rather do? Is he in public? He's mowing the grass.
Starting point is 01:41:56 Oh. I think I'd rather pee still. Okay, yeah. Yeah, it's less toxins. Actually, probably not. But it's just, everyone knows it's less gross. It's less of a clean up. But kinda not really.
Starting point is 01:42:10 You can wash your pants. You can change your pants either way. But you don't have to throw out the underwear. Right, it's so visible though. That's why it's. The whole front is just. I feel like I might pick. Pootie.
Starting point is 01:42:22 Although you got smell to contend with. Smell, yeah. Absolutely not. Full pint is a lot contend with. Smell, yeah. Absolutely not. Full pint is a lot though. It's a lot, yeah. But I don't pee a full pint. Oh my God. I hate to put her on blast,
Starting point is 01:42:34 but I sat next to Lincoln on the airplane. Something, the moon, Aries is in Pisces, something. This started going to Disneyland on her birthday on Wednesday. She has been spilling water several times a day on herself and not intentionally. She's just become butterfingers. But she is Pisces and that is a water sign. Oh, okay.
Starting point is 01:42:54 I don't know how it was. Mercury is about to be in retrograde or is, I forget. Okay. Wow. She spilled on the plane ride yesterday. She spilled the Diet Coke all over me, of the brand new one, ice everything. I'm wearing seersucker pants and a white shirt.
Starting point is 01:43:11 So I'm just covered in brown Diet Coke. She then spilled three waters on herself. What? She also went to the bathroom nine times. I think she's doing Coke. No, no, you know what it is. Hormones. Hormones. I was like, what is going on?
Starting point is 01:43:28 I had to get up so many times, let her out to the bathroom, plus all the spilling. Oh my God. It was a wild ride home. It was wild. It is that, because clumsiness can happen before periods. Oh boy. Maybe she's about to start a period.
Starting point is 01:43:43 Don't. You hate that? I feel like it's early. I'm not weirded out by her having her period, obviously. But from what I can hear from every woman I know, they don't enjoy their period. So I would, of course, wish for her for it to happen as late as possible.
Starting point is 01:44:01 But you also don't wanna be, I mean, you can be wherever you want. You can, well, you can't actually, you can't pick this. But whenever it happens is great. I do think people who start so late, they have a ton of anxiety. They get self-conscious. Yes.
Starting point is 01:44:15 Yeah. So then the middle for her. You want 12? Or 13? Yeah, eighth grade maybe. Yeah, 13, 14. Obviously when you go into high school, I feel like that would be the bigger deal socially.
Starting point is 01:44:27 She'll be going to an all-girls school. So I don't- Even more. You think? Yeah. Okay. Cause then it's like all you have are the girls and their periods and you have to be like-
Starting point is 01:44:36 And everyone's talking about it. And you bring your tampon even though you don't need it. You have people have their tampons on their desk, they're changing tampons in the classroom. Yeah, at all girls school they do that. It's the freedom of it. they're changing tampons in the classroom. All girls. Yeah, at all girls' school they do that.
Starting point is 01:44:43 It's the freedom of it. I would say I think something's brewing. Yeah, yeah. That's fun. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. She did give me a tiny bit of attitude in there. I actually thought it. You clocked it.
Starting point is 01:45:01 Uh-huh, and I was like, oh, Lincoln has a little bit of an attitude today. But I met her with a little bit of a two back, so it was fine. Okay, great. She and I were in an interesting phase. It's really challenging. Oh, because.
Starting point is 01:45:14 Because we're so similar. And maybe this though. She's probably getting angsty. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, so. It's so heartbreaking. It really bums me out.
Starting point is 01:45:25 Like when it's just so easy for so long, you're best friends and then, and I get it. I was so unforgiving of my dad because we were so similar. And when you put two people whose reaction to being overwhelmed by emotions the same, like a retreat, I just wanna get out of here, it's just a bad combo.
Starting point is 01:45:42 And I'm like, how do I not be my dad in this situation? But I get, I actually get hurt. It's getting to it. It hurts your feelings. Which is new. I know. I didn't have that when they were little, but I'm starting to have it where I'm hurt.
Starting point is 01:45:56 I know. And I understand. Like I really, really do understand. And you gotta be an adult. I think you are gonna have to adjust your expectation. I know, I know. I know by day three of this, I'm starting to really consider,
Starting point is 01:46:15 fuck man, she's gonna write me off just like I wrote my dad off. Like that, we're gonna have this unavoidable thing my dad and I had, and I guess are getting really depressed about that. And then after three days of thinking that way, I, to your point, I was like, you're gonna have to grow. One of you's gonna have to do something miraculous
Starting point is 01:46:36 in this situation in your 49, so it's gonna be you. And in a weird way that's one. And she's not doing anything that everyone else isn't doing. She's doing exactly what everyone her age is doing. I'm not at all angry at her. No, no, I'm saying for hell. I'm just hurt by the dynamic.
Starting point is 01:46:53 I think I'm just trying to ease your, it's not like. I shouldn't take it personal. Exactly, it's not that she's gonna write you off at all. She's just being a normal pre-teen. Yes, and it just so happens that she and Kristen have a very good symbiotic geometry to their personality types that really- Works.
Starting point is 01:47:14 Kristen's the perfect fit for that. As Kristen is so good with me when I'm starting to retreat, because my reaction is when I get overwhelmed, I just will disappear. I'll be like, you know what? I'll be happier sitting by myself in a room. Sound canceling headphones. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:47:32 So two people that that's their nature is just, it's tricky. It is, but also can you try to reframe it in that you know sometimes you have to wear sound canceling headphones and two days later, you're fine. Maybe just let her do that because she'll come out of it the way you do. Yeah, yeah, so I'm gonna have to,
Starting point is 01:47:53 I guess maybe you get to an age where, and I don't think this, I don't think I'm perfect. I think I have a lot of stuff to work on. But the same time you do get to 49, I'm like, I figured out most of my big demons. I know how to be at peace with most people pretty easily now and I'm not having to call and apologize when I leave parties the next day, you know, whatever.
Starting point is 01:48:16 I had not anticipated we still have another big, we're gonna have to change yet again pretty profoundly. And I'm going to have to do that and I have to learn how to do that and it's interesting. And I will do it for her just like you would do it for anyone you love. Yeah, you will. So it's probably a good thing.
Starting point is 01:48:36 Yeah, I also think it's made me go back and play out some of these things I had with my dad over the years, big blowouts we had, because he and I had periods where we didn't talk for a year when I was an adult. And even like, I lived with him in ninth and 10th grade, and then we got in this huge fight midway through 10th grade, and then I moved out and I didn't talk to him
Starting point is 01:48:58 for maybe a year in 10th grade. But going back in my mind, I'm starting to imagine, well, A, I'm starting to imagine, well, A, I'm starting to realize I was way more difficult than I think I acknowledged, and that he was way more patient for some duration. I think he was kind of patient with me. And then he just reached a point like I do
Starting point is 01:49:21 where I get so hurt that I go, well, then fuck you and fuck everyone. Like you're hurting me too much, so now I'm gonna go protect myself. Interesting. And I just, it's interesting. I'm now kind of replaying a lot of these memories I have that were so cut and dry, clear for me
Starting point is 01:49:37 that he was an asshole and I was in the right. And now I think, no, he and I are both very sensitive. Yeah. And the way we would feel hurt was very similar. And in so many ways we- But you do wish, I mean, maybe you don't, but I do when I hear this story. It's sad that his feelings are hurt
Starting point is 01:49:54 and that he is hypersensitive, but I wish he could have been a dad then. And like, being a dad is not just being fun. It's, well, I don't care if you're mad. I'm your dad. I'm not like, that's it. And I'm not gonna speak for her, but for me, I think the reality, this is terrible.
Starting point is 01:50:16 The reality of how hard it is for me to not get my way or do things the way I think they're supposed to be done is so embarrassing. You mean you think it's embarrassing to her? For me, I'm just saying when I go through my life, she's just showing me a lot about myself. Oh, oh, okay. It's really important to me
Starting point is 01:50:42 that people think my ideas are good. And that I'm adult and I'm grown up. And then I'm not thinking back on all the times. And I think like, yeah, I think when I didn't get my way or things didn't, I think I was like. Tough. Yeah. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:50:58 Yeah, and I think I still am. Yeah. Yeah. We all have our things. I know you just think you do the four step in the program and you think you get a handle on all your character defects and oh here they are and always gotta work on these and then no, as life goes on you're like no I have more.
Starting point is 01:51:16 Yeah. Yeah. I mean it's good to be aware of it and not give up on it not like I'm old, so who cares? Right. Also, I got in horrific fights with my mom. And I have no, I've like, we were just talking about one on Sync'd
Starting point is 01:51:35 that I like just sort of barely remembered. Like you don't remember. Yeah. Unless, I mean, I think the parent is the defining factor in whether or not that's lasting. Yep, yes, I agree. As we just said, like, I'm going to have to figure this out. I can't do what my dad didn't allow years to go by
Starting point is 01:51:59 sometimes without talking to Lincoln, that would be. But also there's just like, it's so weird to be a grownup and know that grownups are just actually just kids. Like it's so scary. I know. But all to say, I think you guys are gonna be just fine. We had a beautiful heart to heart in the middle of the trip. Also yeah, you guys are such good communicators.
Starting point is 01:52:20 I don't think anyone is gonna have big problems. What does Chris do? Well, she's got a lot on her plate. Well, I know, that's what I'm saying. How does she handle it? Oh my God, I feel so bad for her. Yeah, she's got these two people that like, they've hurt each other's feelings and they both are the type to then just retreat for good.
Starting point is 01:52:41 And we're both so defensive and sensitive that she's gotta gently tell Lincoln how to do better that she's gotta gently tell Lincoln how to do better and she's gotta gently tell me how to do better. And not make everyone do the fence. Oh. Yeah, she's pretty masterful at that. God bless her. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:52:57 So yeah, she comes in at some point, she's like, I talked to Lincoln and this and this and I think perhaps you should both, she just kind of gently lays out and then I get defensive and then she leaves and then about a half hour later I hear what she said. And then I acknowledge that yeah, that's true. And then I've got to like,
Starting point is 01:53:19 but it's back to that super communicators book. Duhigg, I'm in a zone of my brain that has nothing to do with logic. I'm like in an emotionally hurt. I know, it's hard. I struggle with how to think about this because I think like you want your kids to understand that their words, actions have repercussions.
Starting point is 01:53:45 You want them to know that when they are saying something, doing something horrible to you, that it hurts. So they shouldn't do that. But also I'm a very strong believer in kids should never, ever, ever have to regulate their parents' emotions. Agreed. So it's strange. I don't even know how, I don't know.
Starting point is 01:54:06 Well, I think it is the tightrope that all these things are, which is they're not black or white. It's not that the parent has to be stoic and not human. I don't know that that's either great. I know. And you're right, children shouldn't be regulating adults. So there's some zone in there that you're aiming for,
Starting point is 01:54:24 and you fuck up. You go on one side of the line and then, you know. Yeah, it's hard. It is. Okay, couple facts for Jonah. Jonah Nolan, my favorite show. So fun. Favorite show, truly.
Starting point is 01:54:39 I only got four and I'm dying to get the other four. He told me he was gonna get me the other four and then he went to India. He got busy. I liked like dying to get the other four. He told me he was gonna get me the other four and then he went to India. He got busy. Yeah. He was, I liked him so much. Me too.
Starting point is 01:54:49 So funny how different. Well, we don't know Chris, so maybe they aren't different, but their personas are so different. Yes, their exteriors. Okay, let's see. So the Mitsubishi that bombed Pearl Harbor, the Zero Fighter? There is, as you said, there's a rumor
Starting point is 01:55:08 that it's Howard Hughes' design. There's a lot saying that's not true. Oh, really? Yeah. Okay. But it is a rumor. Okay. I read it in a Howard Hughes book. I'm seeing a lot that says that's not true.
Starting point is 01:55:22 And that there's also a English plane that also says was the zero. Oh, okay. There's a few that take credit for it. Okay. Anywho. So, okay, we were talking about when you had short-term amnesia. And you said you think short-term
Starting point is 01:55:40 is in a different area than long-term. I think the short-term is in the hippocampus, I'm pretty sure. And then, wait, now this says short-term working memory relies mostly on the prefrontal cortex. Which to me would make sense, because my theory was just like the brain swells, that's part of the concussion,
Starting point is 01:56:00 and now it's pushing up against your cranium. And so my thought is just like whatever's on the exterior, the posterior most part of your brain is getting like pushed and manipulated. So maybe, as opposed to if your short term was like in the middle of your brain. Right, now this is the emotional aspects of memories are stored separately in the amygdala.
Starting point is 01:56:22 That's the problem, memories are like, they're drawing from a bunch of different locations, I think. I should know this inside now because that book I'm reading. Oh yeah. They're talking about it. It's just so fascinating why and how we're intelligent. I know, I do wanna read it.
Starting point is 01:56:38 That wasn't great factually. But the prefrontal cortex is at the front, so I guess that would make sense. And I hit the front of my face is where the concussion stemmed from. Yeah, it's just so weird that it was only, that it was like long enough. A few years.
Starting point is 01:56:57 Yeah. I know, it's really weird. And yet I knew some things that may go to the point of like the memories are emotional. So like the weird part of that story to me, the most inexplicable part is that I didn't know I had graduated UCL, like got into the Sunday company or was unpunct.
Starting point is 01:57:16 But I knew that I was supposed to be sober. Oh really? Yeah, like I had at that point had quit drinking for a year, but I was doing drugs, but I knew I shouldn't drink. So I had this big thing I shouldn't drink. And I kept trying to get Bree's attention separately from my mom who was driving.
Starting point is 01:57:31 And I'm like, did I drink? I'm trying to find out if I drank. And that's why my brain's fucked up. So I don't, isn't that weird? Like I knew I wasn't supposed to drink. And my assumption was this was drinking related, yet I hadn't tried isn't that weird? Like I knew I wasn't supposed to drink and my assumption was this was drinking related, yet I hadn't tried to quit drinking back. Two years before or whatever.
Starting point is 01:57:53 Yeah, although I guess I started really trying to quit drinking my senior year of college in 2000. I didn't drink my last semester and then I drank just when I went to Italy with Aaron and those guys. Well, also maybe just because drinking had been in your life. I already knew it was no good for me. Right, you knew you were drinking excessively.
Starting point is 01:58:16 Yeah, and I got hurt a lot when I drank. But I knew I wasn't, like I knew I had quit. It's so weird. But one time, are you sure you knew you had quit? Because Jess tells a story of you guys, early days, where you told him, like, well no, I'm gonna have to quit this at some point. Like you had already known for a long time,
Starting point is 01:58:40 but way before you decided to get sober, that sobriety was gonna be in your future. For sure, but what I'm saying is I knew in that amnesia that I was sober, not that I was going to get sober. I knew I, like when I was asking, I was like, did I drink again? Like, did I break my sobriety? It's weird.
Starting point is 01:59:00 It's very weird. Okay, one thing I thought was fun is that Christopher Nolan has said the line in The Dark Knight, you either die a hero or you live long enough to see yourself become the villain. He says he's plagued by that because he didn't write it because Jonah wrote it.
Starting point is 01:59:18 Oh really? Yeah. Oh, that's cute that he gives him credit for that. Yeah. I guess he gets enough credit, doesn't he? I mean, he should get credit if he wrote the big line from the movie. Oh yeah, yeah.
Starting point is 01:59:30 I'm just saying, I was saying it was very generous to go out in public and just clear that up. But then I was remembering that Christopher Nolan gets quite a bit of praise. He does, yeah. His cup's probably full. That's true. I've certainly gotten more generous
Starting point is 01:59:44 as my cup has gotten fuller. Yeah, me too. Okay, Oppenheimer, we said changed the world, then I was looking at who else, who else could we say changed the world? And there's a list of a hundred. Oh wow. I don't know if-
Starting point is 01:59:59 Wanna do the top 10? Sure, but I don't think they're in order. Are they alphabetical? They're just random. But, Johann Gutenberg. Oh, the Bible, printing the Bible. Printing, Newton. Isaac Newton.
Starting point is 02:00:15 Physics. Martin Luther. Which one? Martin Luther. Protestant Reformation. Darwin. Shakespeare. Okay, sure. Bill. Protestant Reformation, Darwin, Shakespeare, Columbus, Christopher Columbus.
Starting point is 02:00:30 Discovering the New World, asterisks. Exactly. Karl Marx, which that's interesting that he's on here. I mean, he did. Big time, the whole Cold War is a result of one book. Yeah, that's nuts. Did you watch the octopus murders conspiracy show on Netflix, anyone watch that?
Starting point is 02:00:52 My octopus teacher? Nope, but that is also on Netflix. This is, I think there's maybe even a series called American Conspiracies, and this is the octopus murders. No, what is it? It's four parts, and it's a great demonstration of how tricky this stuff is
Starting point is 02:01:10 because some of it's true and some of it's not. Like these really complex conspiracy theories where there is a lot of it that's true and then figuring out what parts are not true. It's driven a couple different journalists mad, this case. What is it? So it starts with a man, journalists mad, this case. What is it? So it starts with a man build something who created software and he was going to digitize.
Starting point is 02:01:31 Build something that created software. Not gates. He created this software that was gonna allow some law enforcement agency to digitize all their records and then they were gonna be able to cross reference stuff. Okay. And it was a three year contract. And a year into it, the Department of Defense stopped paying him.
Starting point is 02:01:51 So they owed him like $3 million. He sued to get the money. They would not pay. There were many court cases. Then some conspiracy theories. Then some people came out and said that software that he created was actually stolen by the Department of Defense,
Starting point is 02:02:08 given to this other company because it was great software and they figured out how to make a back door to it and they sold it to all the people around the world, the governments. Now again, this stuff is totally substantiated and there's records of Israel running this software, both allies and enemies, so that when they digitized everything,
Starting point is 02:02:31 the CIA would be able to go in through this back door and read all of their records. So that makes total sense why they stopped paying him. And then they actually won the court case. The judge awarded them $6.8 million. Then that's just the, that's like episode one. And then you come to find out the person who ended up owning that software was with good friends with Ronald Reagan.
Starting point is 02:02:59 And they were trying to get this back door into all their cold war enemies. And then, well well then it was called an Indian Reservation Cabezon here in California, where because they have immunity, the CIA was running all these programs out of there with gangsters, with drugs, the Contra affair, selling guns to fighters against all these communist regimes.
Starting point is 02:03:21 And then so this thing that starts with just this software thing grows into this enormous octopus theory and all these different people that were killed and all these different things that were happening in the 80s for the Cold War. As a result of that. Yes, but of course some of it is bullshit
Starting point is 02:03:37 and some of it's real. And the journalist ends up dying. Spoiler. That's right away, you find that out. And really you're trying to figure out throughout the whole thing, did this person really kill themselves as the police said, or were they murdered as they were getting close?
Starting point is 02:03:57 It's so wild. And I was thinking how tricky these things are when you get really into them, they do change your worldview. So like for some of them on the outside, I'm looking at it going like, that's completely implausible. Then the other stuff, I'm like, wow, wow, yeah,
Starting point is 02:04:10 they definitely did that. And of course they did it. When they thought that the future depended on them beating the communists, of course they would do anything. And in some weird way they should. No, not anything. There was so much panic around communism.
Starting point is 02:04:27 Well, I don't think it was panic. If you look at all these regimes, the Khmer Rouge, Stalin, Stalin killed 80 million people. A lot of it's real and it was obviously, like McCarthyism and all that, that was so crazy. Even in Oppenheimer, ding, ding, ding. Yeah. The problem is- That was insane.
Starting point is 02:04:43 Inherent in a Marxist system or a communist system, you have centralized control of all things. Yeah. Right, and when you have centralized control of all things, you have people with enormous power. Sure. They control the media. And just unfortunately, we don't have a successful example
Starting point is 02:04:59 of a communist experiment that's been running. Yeah, I'm not saying we should adopt that, but I think the fear around it. Well, I just think we were righteous in fighting that, because all it did is empower very few people, and they became increasingly less democratic, and most of them all became totalitarian regimes. So I think we were right to fight it,
Starting point is 02:05:18 and it was an existential threat. And so when you're talking about, like, someone has a decision to kill 10 people, let's just say, to prevent this thing that's spreading around the world and will end in a totalitarian regime, like I can see where you're like, yeah, some nasty work has to be done for the greater good.
Starting point is 02:05:43 But you don't think that about preventing Trump from becoming president. Well, what I think is that, yeah, this is where you and I disagree a little bit, which is like, I believe in democracy. That's my highest principle. And I can also acknowledge that I'm not always gonna be in the majority of a democracy,
Starting point is 02:06:02 but I think a democracy is the best option and it has to be pure. So I think, unfortunate for me, if the majority of the country wants a president, I don't want, I don't think I should be able to cheat to prevent that from happening. I think it's a democracy. You can't say that- Even if there's a full loan, there is an existential crisis when it's him. Well, we had him for four years and it didn't end. And do you wanna go back to that?
Starting point is 02:06:27 It was a fucking nightmare every day, every day. And this would be worse. All I'm saying is I believe in democracy above all my own personal things. And unfortunately, if the majority of the people want a certain person to be president, I respect that. I don't like it, but I respect it, and I don't think you can dismantle a democracy
Starting point is 02:06:50 because you disagree with the outcome. That's where you and I differ a little bit, because I remember last election, I said, if you can cheat, would you? And you said, yeah, which I'm not judgmental of, you and I have different priorities of our principles. I would never cheat the election. I would respect what the majority of people think.
Starting point is 02:07:09 I think that's how a democracy has to work. Even if that person is a threat to the democracy, you still. Yeah, I think if the majority of the people vote for somebody, that has to be honored. We also don't have a system where it's about the majority. I'm just saying, forget the specifics that we're mired in. I'm saying I believe in democracy and I believe when the majority votes
Starting point is 02:07:31 that that has to be honored, whether I hate the person or not. But the specifics matter here. It's not the majority of people voting that will create the outcome. So cheating, quote, cheating, if it mirrors the actual majority of people, is that a problem?
Starting point is 02:07:48 Well, we're getting into the electoral college versus the popular vote. So do I think that system's flawed? Absolutely. I don't think we had the technology at the beginning of the formation of this country to do a direct vote, but we do now. So I think it should be a direct vote.
Starting point is 02:08:02 But what I'm saying is that in come November, if 65% of the people who live in America vote for a person, I honor that. Right. And it might not be my person, but I believe in democracy more than I believe in any of my other principles. I know, I hear you.
Starting point is 02:08:23 And then it's on me. If I want to live somewhere where I'm a part of the majority, then I got to go there. Because the people that were storming the Capitol, they were saying what you're saying, which is like, I don't really care about that vote. I reject it. I don't believe it because I know that he's chosen for him to not win would be an existential threat to the country.
Starting point is 02:08:49 And so they have the exact same principle at work. And what I'm saying is that those people need to move to a country that's not a democracy. No, but that's when the popular vote and the electoral college, that's when this is an actual problem. Because Biden won the popular vote and the electoral college. that's when this is an actual problem. Because Biden won the popular vote and the electoral college.
Starting point is 02:09:06 He did, yeah, yeah, yeah. But Hillary won the popular vote. And not the electoral college. So we ended up with a president who did not reflect the majority of this country. Right. When I'm saying we should cheat in order to represent the actual majority,
Starting point is 02:09:21 I'm not saying, if, if, let's say, if, and this might happen, the popular vote goes to Trump, I'm with you. It's like, look, this is the way the country is right now. Yeah, we live in a democracy. And whether I wanna live in a place where this is the majority of the country, that's on me to decide. But that wasn't the case in 2016.
Starting point is 02:09:42 With Hillary. And in 2020, it was both. I'm only pointing out that there were some people that thought it was time to reject the popular vote on January 6th. Those people were rejecting the popular vote. But I'm not saying that. Right.
Starting point is 02:10:01 So it's, I don't like the comparison is not the same. If we won, let's just say that your candidate won the Electoral College and not the Pop Roll vote, you'd be totally fine with that. Yeah. So I'm only asking that everyone play it the same way on both sides. Like we have to grant our opponent
Starting point is 02:10:17 the same rules we play by. So if we would have no reservation in accepting an Electoral College victory, even though we lost the popular vote, which we wouldn't have a problem with. I don't think we can be critical of them for doing the same thing. But they lost both.
Starting point is 02:10:32 And I know, we're talking, we're dipping in and out of a lot of stuff. So your first issue is with Hillary. Yeah. And so I'm addressing that one. But I didn't. Which is she won the popular vote and not the electoral college. Yeah, which I think is a big problem.
Starting point is 02:10:46 It is a problem. But again, if the reverse was true and she had won the electoral college and not the popular, we would be delighted that she had become president. So because we're not outraged when it happens and benefits us, we can't be outraged when it benefits them.
Starting point is 02:11:00 I just think it's a little murky. Which has never happened. It hasn't happened, you're right. But we wouldn't care. We can acknowledge we wouldn't care. that benefits them. I just think it's a little murky. Which never happened. It hasn't happened, you're right. But we wouldn't care, we can acknowledge we wouldn't care. So I don't think we can be holier than now and say that they somehow lack morals because they won the electoral college vote
Starting point is 02:11:15 and not the popular vote. No, I'm not saying they lack morals because they're upset or not upset about the president. You lack morals when you storm a Capitol. So tabling Hillary and Trump 16, now going to rewind to the conversation of would you cheat or would you reject something? And you said if it poses an existential threat
Starting point is 02:11:35 to democracy itself, you would reject it. I don't think killing people to prevent him is appropriate. I'm not for that. Yes, I'm only saying that you said, which is fine, I totally respected that, if the person who won poses an existential threat to democracy in and of itself, you would have no problem cheating. Yeah.
Starting point is 02:11:58 And so those people on January 6th, I just wanna acknowledge that they had that exact same feeling. But do you think cheating and killing people are the same thing? No, I don't think anyone should kill anyone. I'm only trying to latch on to the conviction. But my conviction is not the same as theirs.
Starting point is 02:12:17 But you would betray fairness if you thought the person posed an existential threat to democracy. And human life. Sure, you would betray fairness. And human life. Sure, you would betray fairness. Yes, so those people too decided to betray fairness. We're gonna reject these results,
Starting point is 02:12:36 we're not gonna accept these results, and I think what they did is completely wrong, but I also think it'd be completely wrong for our side to cheat in any manner whatsoever because we decided that person was an existential threat. I don't think anyone has the right to determine who's an existential threat and then circumnavigate the system
Starting point is 02:12:53 that's been working for 300 years. Well, do you think it's cheating to gerrymander and do you think it's cheating to prevent black people from voting? I mean, they're doing all of it. Yeah, and we fight those. We try. and do you think it's cheating to prevent black people from voting? I mean, they're doing all of it. Yeah, and we fight those. We try.
Starting point is 02:13:09 And we're on total moral high ground to do so because it's actually cheating the laws of our democracy. I guess when I say- It's above my left-rightness. I get it, but when I say I would cheat in a practical example of this person, it's in context, it's not theory, right? It's a very real question about a specific person
Starting point is 02:13:31 and the world we live in where they are cheating. They are cheating. So yeah, I'm okay to cheat in an environment where I feel like maybe we have no shot because other people are cheating. It's like the stero steroids, Lance Armstrong. If everyone is doping, I'm gonna have to. Right.
Starting point is 02:13:51 Yeah, I don't know. It's very depressing. Anyway, okay, back to the list. Einstein, Copernicus, and Galileo. Those were, and Da Vinci's honorable mention 11, but there's a hundred on here. There's some good ones. People can look it up.
Starting point is 02:14:10 Oh, the Beatles are on here. This is from, I think Western Michigan University, but it's A&E Biographies, 100 most influential people of the millennium. Of the millennium. Oh, so I guess it's not up to date. 1000 to 2000? Yeah, not up to date.
Starting point is 02:14:29 In the last 20 years, has there been anyone, I would say, changed the world? Obama? I think you'd have to say Mark Zuckerberg. Yeah, because I think the Facebook is a foundational beginning to the polarization of the country. And just social, 100% he is.
Starting point is 02:14:46 Yeah. Bills on it, obviously. Oh, he is. Yeah. Okay, I'm gonna see Dune too now. Oh, you are? Are you gonna see it today? Mm-hmm.
Starting point is 02:14:56 IMAX? I think regs. I think regs, but good sound. David said it has good sound. Where are you seeing it at? Americana. Why not? Man's Chinese, you just don't like the area. David said it has good sound. Where are you seeing it at? Americana. Why not? Man's Chinese, you just don't like the area.
Starting point is 02:15:08 I don't like the area. The area's rough. Yeah. The Americana's so cozy. Yeah, and there's other shopping to do. You can go to Sephora. Yeah. Okay, well, have a blast.
Starting point is 02:15:19 It's such a good movie. I'm so excited for you. I'm excited. All right, love you. Bye, for you. I'm excited. I love you. I love you. Bye.

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