Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard - Malcolm Gladwell #4

Episode Date: October 21, 2026

Malcolm Gladwell (The American Way of Killing, Outliers, Revisionist History) is a bestselling author, journalist, and podcast host. Malcolm returns to Armchair Expert to discuss growing up a...mong Canadian pacifists, discovering America through magazines, and making his home in the country that fascinated him as a kid. Malcolm and Dax talk about what Law & Order gets wrong about murder, how a surgeon’s 3,000 gunshot cases challenge the crime statistics, and what assault weapons bans actually ban. Malcolm explains why crime and violence are not the same problem, a mind-blowing statistic comparing the police forces of Los Angeles and Berlin, and how fear puts people on opposite sides of the gun debate.Start your 2 month free trial today: https://youtube.com/premium . Terms Apply. Cancel Anytime.Check Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds: https://www.allstate.com/  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome, welcome, welcome to armchair, expert, experts, on expert. I'm Buck Rogers and I'm joined by Lily Padman. Hi. Hello. Today we have our friend Malcolm Gladwell. Yes. Five-time New York Times bestselling author, journalist podcaster. Revisionist History, our favorite podcast.
Starting point is 00:00:19 That's so good. His books, outliers, blink, the tipping point, what the dog saw, David and Goliath. His new book, which I would argue is his most important today. is called the American Way of Killing, an invention of an epidemic. He brings to light some elements of this debate we've never even heard or thought of. And they're so. Fascinating. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:00:44 Mind-blowing, really. He said something that has changed an opinion of mine for good. Which was? I don't think I should say. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. There was several for me where I was like, oh, wow, that's the opposite of what I thought. and I need to recalibrate. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:01:00 It's so, so good. Please enjoy Malcolm Gladwell. Oh, also, I've been zapping my face if you're watching this. I don't want to pretend I haven't. Okay. Enjoy. We get support by Peloton. You know that feeling when you're spiraling over a problem and you just can't figure it out?
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Starting point is 00:02:22 We love the heat. We really do. I mean, look what she's wearing. And I could use a jacket. I'm always cold. I could easily have another layer on right now. Yeah, it's freezing. here. We'd be a terrible married couple
Starting point is 00:02:34 of you and I. We come from hot environments. I know. That's what I would say. My people are, you know, and your people. Exactly. So I think it all. You love a hot, humid day, y'all. Really love it. I mean, humid is getting less comfortable. I don't mind humid. Really? Bring it on. Bring it on.
Starting point is 00:02:50 No issues with me. Now, do you have ideal running conditions, though? You must. Like, you're not dying at jogging humidity, are you? I don't mind. I'm indifferent. No, I feel like you're just being disagreeable. This morning was perfect, I thought. Did you run this morning? I ran in Griffith Park, yeah.
Starting point is 00:03:04 Nice. Oh, right across the street. Oh, do you run up to the observatory? No, well, I didn't feel like this morning there's a towpath that goes around the perimeter. By the zoo. There's the freeways right there. Yeah, yeah. You run along the freeway for a while.
Starting point is 00:03:18 Yeah, and then on the left eventually it's the zoo. And around the golf course. There's a loop. Yeah, I did that. You're running by the zoo and you maybe just don't know it. Oh, really? That enormous park. Do you see the Gene Autry Museum on the right?
Starting point is 00:03:29 The, like, Western Museum? Another thing we have in common. we're not observant, clearly. I'm not observing. I just want to say right out of the gates, this is really, really, really up there for me, this book. I loved it so much. I mean, it's really kind of rivaling tipping point that joy I got when I first was exposed to the way your brain works. This is really an incredible book.
Starting point is 00:03:51 I can't wait for people to read it or preferably listen to it as I did. Do you have any reservation about starting a book about guns in America? Why would I have reservations? Because... I love that answer. Yeah, I can think of a bunch of reasons. It's a very polarizing topic right out of the gates. People are scared to talk about it.
Starting point is 00:04:11 You know if you do your job right, you're going to offend both sides, which I would argue you've done in a very satisfying Malcolm Gladwell, why I like you weigh. There must be some level, I don't know, maybe you do or don't wrestle with it. I have my opinions about guns. I also have this terrible understanding. of two-thirds of our house would have to agree to get rid of an amendment. So part of me has this, is this a Pyrrhic pursuit? Can anything really be accomplished?
Starting point is 00:04:39 Is it worthwhile? I mean, just feeling more, you know, like these things come to mind or no? You just go, I have a point of view on this and I want to share that one. I see what you're saying. And maybe when I was younger, I might have, maybe not. It seems like censorship, self-censorship to do that. And that makes me uncomfortable. And also, I have a certain amount of confidence.
Starting point is 00:05:01 I think it's fine to say controversial things if your reader or your listener understands your intentions. If they believe you're acting in good faith, I think it's fine. I think what is upsetting to someone is the feeling they're being played or led or... Manipulated. Manipated or condescended to. But if your intentions are clear and honest, I think it's fine.
Starting point is 00:05:24 I have warm feelings towards lots of people who disagree with me profoundly because I perceive their intentions to be pure. Yes. I guess maybe a better way for me to phrase it is, you have limited time and resources. I would presume your preference would be that the things you contribute change things. Is that fair? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:05:46 Maybe not. One thing I've been conscious of, because I've written about crime and violence in almost every book I read, is a topic I keep coming back to. And I'm very much aware of the extent to which my own views have evolved. Every time I write about it, I learned something I didn't know. So what was driving this book in part was I began to uncover things I'd never thought of about crime,
Starting point is 00:06:07 even though I thought I've been thinking about crime in a sophisticated way for 30 years. But it's a bunch of stuff that I was just like, wait, what? And when that happens to me, I'm like, okay, it's fine. Let's just explore this. And after, we can talk about this later, but since writing the book, I've now been doing this big project on Baltimore, because Baltimore is the American city that's seen the same. steepest decline in gun violence in the last couple of years.
Starting point is 00:06:30 They're doing really interesting things. And everything they're doing is new to me. It's fascinating. I'm so kind of consumed with this right now that all those other considerations I just pushed aside. And I feel like I'm on this ride to learn more about this thing. And anyone who wants to climb on, and if you want to argue with me, fine. I'm arguing with myself half the time.
Starting point is 00:06:51 Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, so let's start with a really important fact, which is you're from Canada. I think a lot of us inside of the bubble, it's the water we're in. It's like I've never turned on the news in my life and not heard about shooting. It's so standard. We interviewed a woman yesterday. The prompt was told us about the time you're on the news. This young lady's 24, she's at a fucking...
Starting point is 00:07:13 We're not supposed to... She's at a big restaurant chain. I mean, I don't know if she wanted to keep it... She wanted to, but it's in the article she sent. Anyways, all right. She's at a big restaurant chain. A friendly family chain restaurant in a middle of... rural America, and she thinks she hears fireworks and she stands up to look out the window and she
Starting point is 00:07:30 get shot. And, you know, there's 20 guys in the parking lot that are firing 60 rounds off in, like a neighborhood. College town. College town. We're hearing that. We're like, yeah, that's standard. Like, you live here, you know, you might get shot at some point or you'll know someone that get shot. So just, it starts with perhaps, how aware of our gun madness were you in Canada? As a kid, Time magazine would come every week. We had no TV. We read books and we got Time magazine. We didn't even get a newspaper. That's my child. Go to the library with my mom once a week.
Starting point is 00:07:59 Come back with a big arm full of books. And then Time Magazine would arrive, and I would read Time Magazine from beginning to end, the whole thing. That had to be a very exciting publication versus the books. It was glossy pictures and stuff. The pictures. This is like the Marvel movie coming out. To this day, there are pictures that were in time that if I see them,
Starting point is 00:08:16 like in some archive, I'm like, oh, yeah, I remember that. Like, it just burned in my memory. So I'm, whatever I am, eight years old, in rural Ontario, and in the mail every week comes this little thing about this country that I've never visited, which is only 100 miles away, and which I'm completely fascinated by.
Starting point is 00:08:32 As I got a little older, I did nothing, I read enormous amounts of books on America, American politics, I was obsessed with America, and I couldn't get over this fact. I'd read time it, and very much all these articles
Starting point is 00:08:44 about people getting shot, people getting murder, crime, this, crime, that. And I had no experience with crime, none. My town had one police, officer and we knew him. He was the husband of my mom's friend.
Starting point is 00:08:57 And he would like stop you and tell you, I'll tell your parents. Like Mayberry police. I'd never seen a gun. I'd never heard of anyone getting shot. Nobody ever broke into our house. It's like, remember once my mom had a, this is a parallel thing,
Starting point is 00:09:13 but my mom is the kind of person who people come and they just sit and talk to my mom still happening now at 95 in her nursing home. If I called her, she was like, well, I have, There's people coming over. Can you call it? Kind of a line building,
Starting point is 00:09:25 I got to wrap this up. I remember once she had a friend from Jamaica who came who was living in Atlanta and I was eavesdropping on the conversation. I just remember her friend and just a fellow Jamaican just talking about the experience. This is the 70s, living in presumably a poor neighborhood in Atlanta in the 70s.
Starting point is 00:09:44 You're from Atlanta, I'm right? And I just remember thinking, oh, my God. Just talking about the racism and the violence. and with tones of kind of horror. She came from Jamaica where, you know, racism wouldn't be an issue and there was violence in Jamaica, but not of the kind she was describing. Did it sound scary here?
Starting point is 00:10:01 It sounded foreign and it sounded mysterious. Just so different. And I was beyond fascinated. And the minute I got my driver's license, my friend Terry and I, we drove to America. We had won some one summer. We got in his mom's car and we took a four-day road trip. Were you like, that place is crazy?
Starting point is 00:10:17 Or were you just anthropologically just in? interested. I don't know if I got that far. The community I grew up in was a Mennonite community in South West Ontario, so everyone was a pacifist. And so we were on the extreme other end of the continuum. So hearing about America, I was like, oh my, yeah, because in many ways it's so similar, right? It looks the same, same TV, same food, same God, same everything. Yeah, that's what I like about the book. You're like, we're eating at the same restaurants. We're wearing the exact same clothes. We're watching the same exact TV shows. And yet this country has three X, the amount of homicides that Canada does.
Starting point is 00:10:53 And we have four times the amount of homicides that the UK has. Again, I don't think we're so aware of it inside of it, right? Yeah. Like you have a great episode on Paw Patrol that is saying kind of this same thing, that Canada just has a little bit of a different way of being. And you can't really tell when you're here in America until you start picking apart these teeny tiny differences. but they mean everything.
Starting point is 00:11:20 They mean everything about the structure of how we live. And I got to say just even reading that in the book, like we watch the same shows, we eat the same food. Y'all are immigrants too. Because I push back a little bit sometimes when America gets criticized. Let's just take the pandemic, right? It's like we did not cooperate. You know, if you charted us against the rest of the countries in the world,
Starting point is 00:11:40 we did not cooperate. But additionally, we also came up with four of the five vaccines and manufactured them and got them all. And so my argument's always like, yeah, man, you don't get it all. You don't get cooperation and then these streaks of, you know, like you got to take it all. We're a very high dopamine country with a bunch of immigrants that have high dopamine where they lived and came here. Right.
Starting point is 00:12:04 And you can trace that across the West and the even higher dopamine people went to the West. But that breaks down when I think of Canada because you too are the products of people with high dopamine who came from somewhere else. And then I go, huh, well, that is curious. Why aren't you as crazy as we are? There's a different. I mean, I should say, this book is not a hate America book. Oh, no, not at all. I'm not paying it that way. I have chosen to live in this country. I love it for how many years now? 30 years?
Starting point is 00:12:30 Okay, so the first fun test in the book is we take five cities, Chicago, New York, Toronto, Paris, and London. And so, Monica, have you had to rank those five cities. Okay. Highest to lowest homicides between Chicago, New York, Toronto, Paris, and London, what would you guess the order is? Chicago. Paris. Oh, wow.
Starting point is 00:12:55 New York, London, Toronto. You're a little bit out of order. New York's higher than Paris. Oh, it is. I thought that was so obvious. I was trying to... You're trying to be smart?
Starting point is 00:13:06 I'm always trying to be too smart. Well, there's a second part to this, which is really fun. I would argue in the book argues, it's a pretty obvious list. At least most people are going to definitely say Chicago, New York, and you know the American cities are going to be the high. And then you're going to probably assume Paris is a little dicier than, say, London.
Starting point is 00:13:23 I don't know. Now, rank those five cities for robberies. Oh. Okay. Paris. Yeah. Oh. Damn it.
Starting point is 00:13:36 I love Paris. It's unraveling the whole book. Right out of the gates. There's more petty crime, I think, in Europe. Maybe London next, maybe even. Or Toronto, maybe. New York, Chicago. I have to say, Monica's in a class by herself.
Starting point is 00:13:52 I feel like she secretly read the book. She's not supposed to be the audience. I didn't. I've been wanting to so badly because he keeps talking about it. And I'm like, I'm not allowed until he comes. But no, I didn't. No, you're right. So this is a super interesting distinction.
Starting point is 00:14:05 There's all kinds of misperceptions I'm trying to correct in the book. We start with this one. Crime and violence are two completely separate things. They involve different people. They have different roots, different causes, different cures. America is not a high crime society. So by crime, I mean robbery, car thefts, your house broken into, what have you. In fact, I was talking to someone who's going to Montreal recently.
Starting point is 00:14:31 Your car is far more likely to be stolen or broken into in Montreal than New York City. Not even close. You're much more likely to have your home broken into in Paris or London than you are in Chicago. America, by the standards of the Western world, is a medium to low crime place. What's different about America is violence. That's what's distinctive. It seems like a pedantic point, but when politicians go around and say they're going to get tough on crime, you have to stop them and say, wait a second, what do you mean?
Starting point is 00:15:00 Yeah. Because if you want to get tough on crime as it's understood by criminologists, you don't need to. We're fine. The particular American problem is violence. Yes, that's so right. That's what we over-index in preposterously, right? So I like you immediately in this book, we introduced kind of a framing, which I like, which is there are many specific issues within this broad debate about gun violence. And the framing you introduce is it gives them all this unifying theme, which is the concept of a dishonest conversation.
Starting point is 00:15:36 So what is a dishonest conversation and what different forms can they take? So there's one sense of dishonesty which is people are just lying. Right. I don't think we're lying. I mean in a broader sense, I feel like conversations are dishonest when we pretend something's important when it's not, or vice versa. Or when we know what the right answer is, what the appropriate response is, but we just can't bring ourselves to do it. Or we ignore some very obvious truth. Or we ignore some very, like what I'm getting at with dishonesty is it's when the conversation is filled with cowardice and with laziness.
Starting point is 00:16:12 When we know there's an answer out there, but we just can't be bothered to try and find it. I find that as a common element in a lot of the way that Americans talk about violence. There's that kind of dishonesty. We're not engaging with the problem, and we're not trying to understand the problem. So that distinction between crime and violence
Starting point is 00:16:31 will be a small example of this larger thing. Like, wait, be specific here. Yeah. You don't mean what you're saying. We mean immediately this young medical professional from Chicago, a black guy. that, Brad. Who personally, you ask him if he could count the number of folks he knows that have been shot.
Starting point is 00:16:49 They still think about it, and it nearly brings me into tears. He's a ER doc at the University of Chicago Hospital. Young guy in his 30s, grew up in the south side of Chicago, decides to stay there to practice medicine. Could have gone anywhere. So he's practicing medicine in the neighborhood he grew up. And I ask him, so how many people do you know from growing up who've been killed? And he says, you mean that are in my phone?
Starting point is 00:17:15 Oh, my God. Meaning, there's a universe of guys I know. Like, that's in the 30s. From the neighborhood. From the neighborhood. He said, but people that I knew well enough that I would be texting with them on a regular basis, and he says 15.
Starting point is 00:17:27 This is a guy who's probably 35 years old. Yeah. So he has been, over the course of his adult life, including his own brother, 15 funerals. Every other year, someone he knows in his lifetime. I had been to like... Murdered. One funeral, two funerals of young people, children are friends of mine.
Starting point is 00:17:47 And that was the most devastating thing. Of course. This guy's done it 15 times. And these are personal friends of his... I feel like that experience is something that is so specific. First of all, you could not find another ER physician in any country in the Western world who had that experience. Right? Can't. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:18:08 Totally, yeah. That is America, man. That is very specific. And the idea that there would be somebody who was performing a serious, important professional job on day-to-day basis who is carrying that burden around with him is just overwhelming to me. And then he talks to me, it's like, where are you going next? He goes, we go out to the elementary schools on the south side and we teach the kids how to be first responders if someone gets shot. Fifth graders, right? Or fourth graders or fourth graders? Fourth graders. I was like, what? There's this one school he was going to. He says, I always ask the kids to raise their hand if someone.
Starting point is 00:18:41 someone they know has been shot. And like in this particular school, basically every hand goes up, fourth graders. So he gives them little kits. They teach them the ABCs, like alert, call 911, how to apply pressure. Oh, my. One of the kids got to do it. Just asked for a new kit because she just used it. It's crazy.
Starting point is 00:19:00 It's absolutely madness. It is crazy. And I feel like one of the problems with the way we discuss this problem is that there's too much distance between the kind of middle class experience with violence. and the kind of violence that occurs at places like the south side of Chicago. And the majority doesn't understand what's going on there because it's too inconceivable. And then frankly, kind of too painful to really take on. It's very similar to like the homeless crisis.
Starting point is 00:19:25 It's like at some point you've got to go, well, I've got to learn to ignore this or I can't exist here. Blame starts coming in like, oh, well, they live there for this reason, X, Y, and Z, or they're homeless for this reason. It's more comforting. That's why I'm not over there. If you can blame them, it's a little more comfort. Yeah. And then we kind of get right into the first very dishonest thing. And this might anger the liberals. The assault weapon ban bills. Tell us about those. I'm curious. Assault weapons bans have been a kind of hallmark of the gun control movement for 25 years.
Starting point is 00:19:57 Always been curious about them. So I call up a guy named Greg Wallace. He's a law professor in North Carolina. He says, come down, see me. I got an AR-50. We'll go and shoot it. And I'll tell you all about the gun. And so I go and see him and go to a range. And I have pictures of my. myself, you know, with the goggles on and like, gets this thing, I'm firing away. And then we have a long conversation about this particular gun. And I realize in talking to him that the problem with assault rifle bans is they don't ban assault rifles. And then I go back and I read the bans. And sure enough, they're very short. You can read this legislation, these bills, we had one in place for a while, and now we have people every year put forth bills in Congress. All they have to do is read them and you realize, oh, they're not banning assault weapons. An assault weapon is a, a
Starting point is 00:20:40 platform, it's modular. It's Lego. It's Lego. You can just buy bits on the internet and replace them. Yeah, they are as a platform, upon which you could put sites, you could put a suppressor, you could put a different stock, you could put a different magazine, a different trigger.
Starting point is 00:20:56 And what assault rifles ban is the kind of cosmetic adjustments you can make to your assault rifle. They limit the number of those add-ons you can buy on the internet. They want to outlaw packaging. They don't want it to look ugly. Or look like a military weapon.
Starting point is 00:21:13 Nothing to do whatsoever with the underlying gun. The thing that will blow your mind if you read an assault rifle ban is the actual language of the bill is usually like three, four pages. Real simple. And you see, oh, my God, they're just banning which pieces you can order online. Then there's the appendix, which goes on for like dozens of pages. And it lists all the guns not covered by the ban. There's a paragraph of the ones that are banned.
Starting point is 00:21:37 And then there's four pages of exemptions from this. More than four. Pages upon pages of like every gun. So it's like, wait, this is what we're doing? That's dishonest. Yes. Pretending that you're doing something. It's pageantry.
Starting point is 00:21:50 Pretending you're doing something meaningful when you're actually not. And then also we are hung up on assault rifles, period. Once you dig into the data, right? This is another crazy revealing part. People, I think the Gunnar Movement has taken advantage of this, mistakenly believe that an assault rifle is a machine gun, that you just hold down the trigger and it fires, it's not, it's a gun like any
Starting point is 00:22:13 others. It fires one bullet for every pull of the trigger. There's nothing magical about it. It just happens to look different. It's a little lighter and it uses a smaller caliber of ammunition. It is favored by people who do mass shootings, although the majority of people who die in mass shootings die because they're shot by handguns.
Starting point is 00:22:30 Handguns are the most lethal thing in mass shootings, not assault weapons. And as you're interviewing someone, they're pointing out like an assault weapon is actually back because it's quite visible. So you You cannot be acting with any discretion when you have an assault rifle. It's very visible. You might start running, whereas the handgun can be concealed into the moment I'm next to you.
Starting point is 00:22:47 I can fire just as many bullets with it. They're just as lethal. The absurdity is trying to distinguish a class of weapons and saying, well, this one's worse than... Yeah. No. Problem is guns. Just like be honest about it. Look, we don't think it's a good idea for people to be carrying around guns, so let's play some limitations on them.
Starting point is 00:23:04 That's the right conversation. Yeah. I don't think that is rude towards liberals. Well, they're always the ones behind the assault rifle. Well, I think most liberals are just like, get rid of them all. I don't want them, but it seems like that's impossible. So how do we find a compromise? I feel like that's their compromise, even though, as you're saying, it's not a compromise because it's nothing.
Starting point is 00:23:23 But I can't really blame them. They are violating this thing. It's a dishonest. It's not going to impact anything. It's pageantry. It's not really addressing the issue. It allows the gun rights people a free pass because they know it's horseshit. They pretend to get all of it.
Starting point is 00:23:39 upset about it and secretly are saying, this is a joke. And this is a number from the book, which is wild. Again, mass shootings are so horrific, obviously, and often who's targeted is the biggest fear we would all have. Yet we are inflating its impact a little bit. So in the last 57 years
Starting point is 00:23:59 in the country, 1,342 people have died in mass shootings, which is outrageous. It's terrible. But 2 million people, have been killed by guns in general. Again, to have this obsession on this thing, and in particular the weapon of choice for this thing, we're worrying about the leak upstairs in the faucet
Starting point is 00:24:21 and the kitchens fully engulfed in flames. If you were thinking rationally about what part of the problem to attack first, that's not the part you would. It's a thousand people over 50 years. It's not the two million who are otherwise dying in the streets. It's like, let's get our priorities straight here. Yes.
Starting point is 00:24:36 But you know why. And all the capital, you're using, it's a waste of time. It's not going to be effective. It's not going to address our problem, which is gun violence. Monica said, you know why. It is every parent's nightmare. It's every parent's nightmare about this might annoy people,
Starting point is 00:24:53 but the reason people don't really care about the two million is because they don't think that will happen to them. The mass shooting at the school could happen to them. But again, statistically, that is incorrect. statistically that they are worrying about getting struck by lightning when they drive cars. I fully agree with you. I just think they're like, that happens in that neighborhood. That doesn't happen in my neighborhood.
Starting point is 00:25:19 But it's one of the many things that has to change for this thing to move forward. The audiobook, and the book itself, but in the audiobook version, I call up a friend of mine Drew Holcomb, who's a singer in Nashville. Jacks is adopted. He read the book and I said, do you have any music that you think? might work because I like to have music in my audiobooks. And he sent me a song he wrote. It was one morning he was driving his kids to school and he hears about a mass shooting at a school
Starting point is 00:25:47 and he goes back and he writes a song and it's called Troubles. And it's this completely haunting beautiful song. And that's how the audiobook begins with Drew singing Troubles. And even though I say in the book, mass shootings are a tiny part of the problem, I wanted to have that sign
Starting point is 00:26:04 because I did understand that it is one of those rare moments where the reality of gun violence in this country hits home to the majority of people. When I listened to me, I started crying because all I could think about was I understood what he meant. He just dropped his kids off at school and then he heard that like whatever, 25 kids were shot in Yuvaldi. There is something about that that is so profane.
Starting point is 00:26:28 Yeah, yeah. Right? And you can't, I mean, I totally get it. There's an emotional response we have that is in some ways distinct. from the kind of rational response. Yeah, it's a by. I would argue it really threatens your understanding of where we live. You have a real hard time with the dissonance of like, wait, is that our society?
Starting point is 00:26:49 We have a place where adults go in and shoot the children. That's hard to reconcile that that's where you live and that's the society you're participating. Or just that people are capable of that. Stay tuned for more armchair expert, if you dare. We are supported by Allstate. Checking Allstate first could save you hundreds on car insurance. Not checking the weather forecast before you walk out the door. You looked outside, saw blue sky, felt great about your outfit choice. No jacket, no umbrella. Pass forward two hours. You're sprinting through a parking lot and a downpour, holding a notebook over your head like that's going to help. Yeah. Checking first is a brilliant idea. So check Allstate first for an auto quote. It could save you hundreds. You're in good hands with Allstate. Potential savings varies subject to terms, conditions, and availability, all state North American insurance company and affiliates Northbrook, Illinois. In the song, which is a gorgeous song, which anyone listening should just look up on the internet,
Starting point is 00:27:54 the reason I was so moved by it, and it perfectly captures the tone of this book, which was he was expressing the kind of fatigue, not just the kind of horror, but like, I want this to be over. I can't bear to hear about another one of these cases. It was like the accumulation of year upon year upon year of these kinds of things. And its song is all about like, I just wanted to go away. It's a very, very, very, very moving. And that's the kind of thing I'm trying to get at in the American Way of killing, which is, it's too much.
Starting point is 00:28:25 Can't keep going down this path. Yeah, the depth of the powerlessness is arresting. Okay, then we get into, because again, there's all these different debates raging. And all of them ultimately, all roads lead back to the Second Amendment. I found this to be the most fascinating chapter in the book. So let's start. Just tell me about the stoner rebellion. A guy named Carl Bogus writes this book on the Second Amendment, which is so genius.
Starting point is 00:28:51 He wrote it like 25 years ago. I read it, called him up. And I was like, basically, Carl, this book is genius. Why did this book not change our entire understanding of the Second Amendment? He was like, I don't know. But basically what he does is, so when the Constitution is proposed, in the 1780s, all the states have to ratify it. And the most important state,
Starting point is 00:29:17 unless Virginia wants to do this, it's not happening. Well, that's why they had to have George Washington be the president. It's like they had to constantly appease Virginia. Virginia is a big, big deal. So Virginia has a ratifying convention in Richmond with a debate whether they should join this thing called the American Union. And we have perfect transcripts of their debates. What are they arguing about the whole time?
Starting point is 00:29:38 They're arguing about malicious. The Virginians are really worried that this new thing called the U.S., the federal government, will take away militias from the states. Why does this concern them? Because when they talk about militias, they're talking about slave patrols. In many parts of Virginia and South Carolina, a slave owner would be greatly outnumbered by his slaves. Sometimes the ratio is 20 to one of slaves to white people.
Starting point is 00:30:03 You go to bed every night and you're terrified. You're going to get killed in your bed. And so what you do is you have armed white men with guns on horseback who volunteer and they ride around putting the fear of God into slaves. What they're terrified of is that when the United States starts, the federal government is going to take away the right of states to have slave patrols. So they go to James Madison, fellow Virginian, founding father, son of a plantation owner, and they say, James, write us an amendment that ensures we can still have our slave patrols. And so he does. So the best way to understand the Second Amendment is the actual language is a well-regulated militia being necessary to the security of free state, comma, the right to bear arms should not be infringed. The right of the people to keep him bear arms shall not be infringed.
Starting point is 00:30:50 Now, you do an incredible section on just this sentence. This sentence deserves its own book. Again, I'm going to read it out loud. A well-regulated militia, comma, being necessary to the security of a free state, comma, the right of the people to keep and bear arms. comma shall not be infringed. This is a particular grammatical device. What's it called? It's an initial being clause, something that we haven't used with any regularity in our speech
Starting point is 00:31:16 for 200 years. It was waning by the time this was written, right? Yeah, yeah. But then there's this insane database of everything James Madison has written, and this scholar you're talking to who's gone through all this, and we come to find out that James Madison loves this grammatical device. He uses it all the time. All the time.
Starting point is 00:31:34 Because every debate that centers around this is people are trying to figure out, does the second sentence support the first? Is the first is set up for the main point of the second? Are we talking about malicious here when we talk about guns? Or are these just two thoughts that happen to reside in the same sentence? There's no period. Yeah, there should have been a period. No.
Starting point is 00:31:55 Well, we find out quite conclusively, no. We know exactly how he uses these. He uses them all of the time. and in fact the second part is just a support of the first. So what we learned through this study of how he writes is we know what he was saying. He was saying the slave patrols that we call malicious are so important to the security of my home state of Virginia and other slave-owning states that we cannot possibly in any way limit the ability of our citizens to hold guns. And I have to say until reading this, my personal understanding was,
Starting point is 00:32:31 oh, the Second Amendment was about our rights who have militias in the event of a tyrannical government. I thought this was a direct response to just having fought against the Brits. I think most people think that. The problem with that is that the militias during the Revolutionary War performed so terribly. They were, like, badly trained.
Starting point is 00:32:53 They were drunk all the time. And George Washington himself gets really upset. He's like, I can't do this. I need a standing army. These guys are incompetent. No one is banging the drum for militias in 1780. We knew they were a disaster. We're talking about slave patrols,
Starting point is 00:33:07 and it's of relevance to a handful of slave voting states whose votes are necessary for the ratification of the U.S. Constitution. That's what this is. It's 100% an amendment for slave control. They call this chapter the slave owners lament. They're just terrified. They're these terrified white guys. When they're having this argument, they're in Richmond.
Starting point is 00:33:28 They're there for like three weeks. the whole time they're away from their family and kids. And the whole time, they're terrified. They're like, what happens if the slaves? I thought it was so fascinating, this idea that at the core of the institution of slavery was anxiety. Even as these white men were owning and trading in the lives of black people, they were terrified. As they should have been. As they should have.
Starting point is 00:33:54 Well, and you talk about this stone or rebellion, which is uniquely, if that can be said, cruel task, They have all these men trying to dig a levy, basically. There's an impossible heat. And finally, they have enough. How many of them are there? Well, it grows. It's like 100 people or something. And they do.
Starting point is 00:34:10 They go door to door. They've had enough and they start killing people. I know. I'm surprised that didn't happen all the time. It happened more than we think, but there were a variety of very, very high-profile rebellions in the South during the period of slavery. The stoner rebellion that I write about is the one that kind of terrified the southerners the most. because it was like, these guys go on a rampage.
Starting point is 00:34:31 And I think it's a relevant detail because I think otherwise you might not understand the severity of their fear. To know that they really happened and that they were sometimes bloody and terrifying really helps you understand their point of view in a way that makes the whole thing seem quite believable and rational in their weird worldview.
Starting point is 00:34:53 The kind of Gone with the Wind lie was that there was this kind of peaceful coexistence. between the loving slave and their kindly paternal owner. And you realize, this is always going on there. There's like anger and anxiety and fear, and this is a deeply problematic relationship. And it's expressed in all kinds of different ways, and one of the ways this is expressed
Starting point is 00:35:17 is the Second Amendment to the U.S. Constitution. This truthbending of what it's really about made me think of another parallel truth bending, which is when they try to argue that the Civil War was about state's rights. This is like a common thing on the far right to say. Well, no, it was about state's rights. Well, it was about a state right, not rights, a single right,
Starting point is 00:35:41 the right to own people. It's such a marital spat, by the way. It's the kind of thing you do when you're arguing with your wife. It's like you pretend there's some kind of broader principle. You just want to leave the party. It's not about like I got all this. You've had it talking to this boring person. You're uncomfortable.
Starting point is 00:35:59 I want to go home. So to find out that the bedrock is solely to prevent slaves from an uprising and we no longer have slaves. It's deeply embarrassing. It's so bad. People who want to fetishize the Second Amendment. It is. Another dishonest thing.
Starting point is 00:36:20 The court does not own up to that history of the Second Amendment. They pretend it never happened. I would be fine if the court said, we understand the Second Amendment was born out of slavery, but we think there is a contemporary rationale. I would be happy if they did that. I want to say that that intention comes through throughout the book, which is I don't think you're saying you now need the verdict
Starting point is 00:36:42 after we acknowledge all these things to be this or that, or that this has to happen. All you're asking for is like, let us start with an honest conversation. Yeah. This is what the amendment was about, controlling slave rebellions. Just own up to it. Okay, now another very dishonest conversation that happens is these drops in gun deaths. So I think a lot of us believe we've had some reduction in gun deaths, which we would conclude means less people are shooting each other.
Starting point is 00:37:14 But that's not at all the case, is it? First of all, you reveal this thing that the federal government has no fucking clue how many people have been shot. They only know how many people have been killed. Walk us through that a little bit. This is like this thing, which is sort of obvious when you think about it, but for some reason, I certainly never thought about the problem this way. A homicide rate is a function of two things. The underlying level of violence, how many people are getting shot,
Starting point is 00:37:37 and how quickly you get to the hospital and how good the care is once you get there, right? I live in Hudson Valley, two hours of New York, an hour from a trauma center. If you shoot me, it's going to take the ambulance, half an hour to get there, and another hour to get to the hospital, even a relatively modest wound is going to result in my death.
Starting point is 00:37:58 And we have the data. We know this. We know how many minutes. You're talking to doctors, and they're basically, you have 26 minutes, pretty much. If you get shot in the lungs, it's easy to survive it, but you absolutely need to have immediate medical attention within 20 minutes or you're dead. Yeah, and they know it down to the minutes, right? So it's like 30 minutes you have X percentage of surviving.
Starting point is 00:38:18 Pretty high, actually, nowadays. An hour, you're dead. Don't even drive to the hospital, basically. dramatically. And then a shocking pattern, which is where are the level one trauma center? But I was going to say that same shooting that takes place like in downtown LA, where I'm really close to USC Medical Center, the same shooting that is a homicide in the Hudson Valley is aggravated assault in downtown L.A. I can get to trauma center in 10 minutes, right? So when you realize that, you're like, oh, so it really matters how good the doctors are, and it really matters how close you are to a hospital.
Starting point is 00:38:52 So 100 years ago, when the doctors are terrible, you're going to have a lot of things that would today be aggravated assaults be homicides. And then also, if you live a long way from a trauma center, as typically poor people do in this country, you're going to have an elevated homicide rate. And when you get much better at treating gunshot wounds, your homicide rate's going to go down, but not because your community is safer,
Starting point is 00:39:14 because your doctors are better. I'd spent an entire chapter talking with this guy. It's a fascinating afternoon. I went to see the greatest gunshot trauma surgeon in the world. Got him, Eddie Cornwell. You ask him, how many career gunshot wounds is he think he's had? And he says he is a pretty solid ballpark. He thinks 3,000.
Starting point is 00:39:32 No. And where is he again? I don't think there's anyone in history who's treated as many gunshot wounds as he has because he starts his career at USC. And so in South Central, at the height of the gang crack 80s. Then he goes to Baltimore, to Hopkins. Murder capital of the world. And then he goes to Howard University in Washington, D.C.
Starting point is 00:39:55 He knows more about what it means to treat a gunshot than anybody else. The specificity of he said, okay, if you get shot in the spleen, this is going to happen. I can't get rid of that. No, I can. Who cares? You don't need a spleen. You get shot in the liver. That thing bleeds.
Starting point is 00:40:07 I can't get it stopped. Each organ, he'll tell you, if you get shot here, you got this many minutes. The caliber, the weapon. Yeah. He's just an encyclical. This is this weird thing about America is that we have developed this paradoxical expertise in treating gunshot wounds. We have a Michael Jordan of gunshot wounds.
Starting point is 00:40:23 We shouldn't have to have that. I give the example of there was a mass shooting in Scotland, one of the only ones they've ever had. It's in the 90s. You know who's in the classroom during the mass shooting? Andy Murray, you know the tennis player? Oh, really? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:40:38 He never talks about it. He was hiding under a desk. Those people would have been taken to a local hospital and it's quite possible that trauma surgeons would never have treated a gunshot wound before. Imagine getting shot here and you go to USC. I mean, they've all seen hundreds. It might be the second that day, yeah. As you said, fourth graders know how at this point to some extent.
Starting point is 00:40:56 Yeah. Yeah, 3,000. So I want you to define moral hazard. And I love the insurance example. Yeah. Moral hazard is where someone else steps in and takes responsibility for some problem, which allows you to kind of go on with life as normal. So if you live on the coast and does a hurricane every two years and the government always gives you money to rebuild, you're never going to move.
Starting point is 00:41:27 Classic moral hazard. Someone else is paying the price for you taking the risk. So why would you bother? You can just continue living there. You're going to predictably act irrationally and probably a bit of morally. And I think that we have a little bit of a moral hazard problem because our trauma surgeons are so good, they hide the severity of the problem. They're shouldering the whole epidemic in a way. Once, as I was saying, the federal government has no idea, but this group of folks
Starting point is 00:41:53 sets out to figure this out. And what they do figure out is that it's probably four to one. So for every one homicide death, there are three other people who have been shot. The problem's massive. So four to one, three of which we just generally don't even hear about, but another crazy figure is that without these medical advances that have happened over the last 30 years or so, we would have 45 to 70,000 gun deaths over the past five years instead of the 15 to 20 we normally have.
Starting point is 00:42:23 This guy Eddie Cornwall, I went to say, did this really fun thing where he went through every president who's been shot and talked about whether they would have lived if they were shot in the same way today, all the way up to Reagan. And it was fascinating. Most of the presidents who'd been shot in America who died would be alive if they had been shot.
Starting point is 00:42:39 Kenny and Lincoln would be dead because it was shots to the head. But everybody else probably would have made it. Wow. Reagan, who makes it, would probably have died if he'd been shot prior to 1940 because he's an older man. He gets a gunshot wound to the chest. Back then, it probably would have been lethal. Okay, so just to remind him, everyone, so far, we've learned that, A, violence and crime are not the same thing.
Starting point is 00:43:01 We still have a massive gun shooting problem that's kind of been hidden by medicine. The Constitution, the Second Amendment, isn't about what we thought it was about. And now, to me, the second most fascinating revelation of this is now within this violent crime category, there are two distinctly different types of violent crime. And first we have to acknowledge is what we all think of as violent crime and why we think of it that way. Most people get their understanding of homicide from TV shows. My old assistant, I said, I need you to watch two seasons of Law and Order. I need you to make a spreadsheet of every single homicide
Starting point is 00:43:43 and describe the nature of that homicide. So she does that. What you discover is on law and order, almost every homicide is what we call instrumental. That is to say it was carefully planned and executed in a comm rational way because the killer is in pursuit of some other end. I want something from you.
Starting point is 00:44:06 I'm resolving my problem by... That's called instrumental. I want money. I want to take your thing. It turns out then I went and re-read or flipped through every Agatha Christie, Hercquil Poirot book, and discovered that every single homicide in Agatha Christie is instrumental. Someone calmly plotting the death of another in pursuit of some other end. So if all you do, like most of us, our understanding of homicide comes from television shows and pop culture and whatever.
Starting point is 00:44:33 Then you think that's what homicide is. And our lawmakers do. They're not immune to this. Not immune. In actual fact, there's another thing. kind of homicide, which is called expressive violence, which is, I shoot you in a jealous rage. Crime of passion. Crime of passion.
Starting point is 00:44:46 We get in a fight at Taco Bell and I pull a gun. Or more commonly would be, Dax shoots my brother, and I am really upset, and I shoot Dax, and then Dax's brother comes after my cousin, and then my cousin comes after. The Culture of Honor, one of your books. That's called Expressive Violence. And the question is, what kind of violence do we have in America? expressive. Our entire legal system is set up to deal with instrumental violence. Because we know that if we have a deterrent on the table, when you're plotting and you're considering the consequences,
Starting point is 00:45:21 if you think you'll get prosecuted, and then it turns out when you get prosecuted, you're going to rot in a prison for 30 years, we hope that'll be a deterrent. Our entire investment, all of our resources are set up to deal with just that, really, instrumental homicides. But in fact, overwhelmingly, America's lethal violence is expressive. It's people having fights and settling feuds and getting caught up in a moment and doing things they regret and not thinking straight and not being able to resolve their conflicts in a peaceful manner. It's 18-year-olds who are drunk and waving a gun around in a bar.
Starting point is 00:45:56 To Dex's point, these are not people who are thinking rationing through the consequences of their actions. No, they're not plotting and weighing out the pros and cons or the risk-reward. And the numbers are insane. So the number of instrumental homicides is 18%. Is that including mass shootings? Because that is intentional, right? Well, they're so, to our earlier point, there's such a trivial small number that doesn't move.
Starting point is 00:46:21 It wouldn't even move it even if we included it or didn't include it. A mass shooting would be an instrumental. Okay. But 18% of the total number of homicides in our entire legal system in law enforcement is set up to deal with. So even if we were perfect, if we created the deterrent that stopped all instrumental murders, we would reduce the total number by 18%. That is an absurdity.
Starting point is 00:46:46 I can't think of another thing that we're spending more money on. That's another example of a version of dishonesty that you've completely misperceived the nature of your problem. You're trying to solve a problem you don't have. That's what I'm trying to get at in the book is that kind of silliness. Yes, you say murders are old. overwhelmingly driven by arguments, and Americans resolve their arguments with guns. That is what's unique about us. Yes. It feels like it should be easy to fix that.
Starting point is 00:47:15 Okay, now here's a fucking juicy one. And again, this one, the liberals aren't going to like hearing this. He always looks at me when... I noticed that. Yeah, have you noticed that? Monica, you like to... Love the two, she's more liberal than I am. When I bring up a sentress, I go, the sentries are going to hate this.
Starting point is 00:47:28 I stare in that mirror right there. Yeah, he'll, yeah. We'll move on, but go, yeah. Okay, I just want to set this up, and then I want you to ask her the question, okay? Berlin and L.A. are perfect comps for one another, in that they both have 3.9 million people. They're both incredibly wealthy cities. They're very educated cities. They are great comps.
Starting point is 00:47:49 The LAPD employs 8,000 officers. How many officers do you think Berlin employs? A thousand. 750. Kristen guessed 800. Now that I've learned this in your book, I've asked like 12 people. This is like the funnest thing to ask people. Oh, no, is it like 200?
Starting point is 00:48:08 18,000. What? Yeah. By the way, I did some more research on that. If you add in their trainees, their technical staff, their civilian staff, they have 26,400. Wait. Isn't that a mind scrambler? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:48:25 Huh. You could do that for every American city. Just do a simple comp with a similarly sub-UB. Amsterdam and... the city and Dallas and what have you. As a general principle, Western European cities have twice as many cops per capita as American cities.
Starting point is 00:48:43 We are dramatically, jaw-droppingly under-policed in this country. When foreign police chiefs come here, they're like, what are you guys doing? Where are the cops? Wow. Are they getting paid more there? I don't know about that.
Starting point is 00:48:56 The larger context, the thing that's important to understand is that as a share of GDP, European countries in America spend exactly the same amount of money on public safety. Exactly the same. There's no difference. We spend all of our money on prisons and we scrimp on police. They spend all their money on police and they scrimp on prisons.
Starting point is 00:49:18 The simple question is, if you had to choose between those two strategies, what would you rather do? Have lots of police and try and prevent crime or lots of prisons and just punish people after they've done the crime. It's a no-brainer. We should add the expenditures of our police. departments are also different. We have tons of paramilitary equipment that gobbles up a ton of the budget. But we have that because the police are undermanned, they feel they have to project a certain kind of aggression and force. It's a response to the fact is not enough of them. Yeah, that's interesting. They're completely understaffed and overwhelmed and they have to have dramatic shows of force.
Starting point is 00:49:55 there's this crazy comp, which is it's maybe more interesting to look at police shootings per capita to measure the stress of this being understaffed and overwhelmed. And the only countries that have a similar rate of police killing civilians, here's the group we're in. Pakistan, Iran, Brazil, in South Africa or something. That's our compadres in this. They all share a significant thing with the United States is they are all countries that are also under-policed. Police violence is the thing that the police do
Starting point is 00:50:32 when there's not enough of them. And when you look at the countries in the world that have the most police per capita, they have the best-behaved police, the lowest levels of police violence. After George Floyd, we got this completely backwards. We should never have concluded that we need to defund the police
Starting point is 00:50:48 because the police were behaving badly. No, you have to refund the police if they're behaving badly. A better way of putting it is, I had this fantastic conversation with this guy called Dan Oates, who's a very, very interesting, very progressive police chief. He's in Denver now, is that where he's saying? He was in Aurora, Colorado for a lot. That was his last big job.
Starting point is 00:51:08 And I simply asked him, if I gave you European levels of police, if I essentially doubled the size of your department, what would you have done differently? It's like he'd never been asked this question for you. And he went on, he just talked. He knew immediately what he would do. He was like, I could have real engagement with the community. I could have liaison with the schools, because the schools are where you spot the troubled kids first,
Starting point is 00:51:29 and you could intervene and help them before they get in trouble. I could get to a bar fight in five minutes as opposed to 10 minutes or 15 minutes. He went on and on and on all these things. And you realize he knew what he had to do to be an effective and much more friendly police department. But he couldn't do it because he didn't have enough cops. And the result was that his cops, you stay in your car, and you race from one emergency to the next.
Starting point is 00:51:54 And then when you get there, you have to project force because... You're overwhelmed. You're by yourself. The real job of a police officer is to know the people in the community they're policing, right? To have personal relationships. Like you're a neighbor, to have people trust you, tell you stuff, share with you their problems, be willing to come to you. And the only way you can do that is with time and direct face-to-face contact.
Starting point is 00:52:19 You can't do that when you've got half a... many cops as you need. Also, when the citizens are picking up the phone calling 911 and the people arrive 40 minutes later, that sends a crazy clear signal to them. They're not there to help you or protect you, right? So the trust is gone because of the response time. He gives this really poignant example, too, of an officer who sees a guy getting hot with a girl. They're outside of a bar. He's starting to yell and we're leading towards probably violence. And again, we know, that the vast majority of murders are this exact situation. And the police officer intervenes and he tells the guy,
Starting point is 00:52:58 go fucking take a walk. And they drive the woman home. And they probably prevented something. There's no one's arrested. Just having them present as a pressure gauge for what we know is the vast majority of these murders. These situations where by the time anyone gets there, everyone's escalated to a point where someone's dead. The important point is, and this is a place.
Starting point is 00:53:21 where I think people who, liberals who are upset at this line of argument, will come around. You don't add cops to do more of the same. You add cops to do something different. Yes, I think that's right. If all you're doing is just having a couple hundred more squad cars and a couple more hundred guys driving around in ride gear, that's not helping. What you need to do is to use these extra people to do something you're not doing now.
Starting point is 00:53:48 That's the kind of opportunity here. Yeah, and also even in this city, right, it's like the scope of problems they have to deal with is preposterous. They're dealing with an enormous mental health crisis. Half their calls are dealing with that. I mean, they're not psychologists. They're not trained for that. And then the next call is like enter this home where we've heard a gunshot and shit breaking. It's like, you know, a date with violence.
Starting point is 00:54:14 No one's really specialized. You're just asked to deal with all this crazy stuff. This city is actually a chronically under-policed city, and it's no surprise that the LAPD is one of the worst reputations for police violence. Because, I mean, place is vast. Yeah, exactly. And I'm like, how do you police a place this vast with a small number of people? The only way you can do it is to behave like an occupying army,
Starting point is 00:54:36 which is what they did for years. Yeah. Right? Whenever I come to L.A., because I come from New York, which is one of the few cities that POPI does have a reasonably adequate number of officers. I'm always like, where are the – I'm driving along, like, the 405 at 10 o'clock at night, and everyone's going 90 miles and out.
Starting point is 00:54:49 I'm like, where's the cops? Yeah. This is like, what? Well, let's not put them there. I'm signing off on me to my neighborhood. Let's keep them off the highways. That's my favorite part of Los Angeles. You're one of those guys going 90 on a Friday night
Starting point is 00:55:03 and one of your speedy cars? Oh, yeah, I'm guilty. I'm very guilty. They're putting up cameras, though. That's the new thing. I think the parties. The party is doing that. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:55:11 And I'm trying to figure out when will I get the first one in the mail? Flock comes for Dax. I'm still waiting for my invitation. to the All Cars podcast of Jack Shepard. Alienate your audience in one fell swoop. That could be its own show, All Cars. All that happens is Monica just cuts it right out. I'll do it.
Starting point is 00:55:32 Sometimes I'll get carried away with a game. There was one up. I think the first time you came that, there was a lot of cars. I can keep like two minutes max. Yeah, and then you're out. Which I don't think is fair because my appetite for her clothing talk in her shopping is I would say pretty. deep on all ears.
Starting point is 00:55:49 I don't know that I've ever gone over two minutes talking about with a guest. Okay, with a guest. Maybe on a fact check. Yeah, you've done five to ten on astrology about three dozen times. And again, I'll- Guess what? The audience likes that. Okay?
Starting point is 00:56:05 They love it. I have a quick question for you, Monica. Yeah. You're a big into astrologer? Not really. See, I get painted. I get painted as a crazy liberal. I get painted as a crazy astrologist.
Starting point is 00:56:16 No, I like it. I think it's fun. Can you guess what son I am? Okay, this is fun. I think... Let's be honest right out of the gate. You only have an 8% chance at succeeding. I don't believe in astrology, but I am astonished at how many people who believe in astronomy
Starting point is 00:56:31 always know what son am. They get years. Are you cancer? Are you Pisces? Cute Malcolm's smile. I'm! You're not a Virgo. Yeah, I am.
Starting point is 00:56:42 You are? So am I? I'm a double Virgo. What's your birthday? August 24th. Yeah. When's yours? September 3rd.
Starting point is 00:56:50 Okay, September Virgos are different from August Virgos. That's why you didn't get it. Me and my mom are both verbos. I should have known that. I mean, it does make sense. You're very reasonable, logical. It's the best sign, so it makes sense. If I was drawing a comparison, my conclusion, I think, would be just as scientific as I would go,
Starting point is 00:57:09 oh, Virgoes have very expressive in inviting eyes. That's what you guys have in common more than probably anything else. My kids are both Leo's. Oh, nice. And my wife has strong feelings about Leo's. Uh-oh. And she's constantly pointing out the Leo's. On this, I have to say, something seems to be going on with Leo's.
Starting point is 00:57:29 They're really fun, right? The number of kind of high, strong personality types who are Leo's is kind of epic. Oh, interesting. Do you think? Like Obama's a Leo. My wife always says, of course, he's a Leo. But I didn't notice that about being high-strung. I thought that's-
Starting point is 00:57:45 No, high-strong. Strong personality. Oh, yeah, yes. Forward. Yes. Dominate the room. Extroverted. You're probably a Leo rising.
Starting point is 00:57:54 I think that's. He's a cab or phone. I would bet my life on it, Monica. I would bet my life on it. You should. The best is, you know, we had Adam Grant on recently, and, you know, he wrote a whole piece, a whole takedown of astrology. He hates it.
Starting point is 00:58:07 He hates it. It was just a hilarious fight to pick. I think he hates it because he just doesn't like his sign. But I can tell you, I heard a female comedian make the most astute observation I've ever heard, which is the stock market is men's astrology. Oh, that's so true. Yeah, because none of it's real. It's spot on.
Starting point is 00:58:25 It's total bullshit. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, one thing I wanted to talk about, this is kind of back to what's causing all these gun deaths, and it is these arguments. And you have a little section about this BAM program, which is kind of training kids to deescalate.
Starting point is 00:58:43 It's one of these things that you would easily write off as like, this is, again, pageantry. It's like, yeah, in a classroom, this and that. But then the data was pretty shocking. It gets something that I've been exploring since writing the book a lot about what does homicide prevention look like. Yeah. And homicide prevention flows from that insight.
Starting point is 00:59:02 A lot of what homicide is is like basically young men settling beasts with violence. So then what you should be doing is trying to intervene or train them to resolve their conflicts in a more peaceable manner. So one thing I talk about in the book is this program in Chicago where you teach conflict resolution to teenage boys, a year-long class. They've done studies on it, and it's shown dramatic decreases down the line. The more interesting one is the one I've been looking at recently in Baltimore.
Starting point is 00:59:30 Baltimore's had this dramatic decline in homicides. And they've taken this idea even further. They have a meeting every week. They sit in a room with 25 people. They go through a slide deck of all of the crimes that week. And they'll say, okay, so Joey got. shot on Wednesday at 8 p.m. on this block, who knows Joey? And someone will say, I know Joey's family. Can you go and see Joey's dad and get him to go with you to Joey's brother? Because we're really
Starting point is 01:00:00 worried that Joey's brother's going to retaliate. They go right away. And they go and they bring a pastor and they bring a crisis counselor and they sit down with Joey's brother and they say, dude, I know you posted on social media that you're going after this guy. No, please don't do it. Can we help you? They're not arresting anyone. They're not doing anything about guns. They're not bringing in the National Guard. They're not using any kind of show of force. They're literally showing up at Joey's house on an afternoon with someone of Joey trusts and saying,
Starting point is 01:00:28 you've got to chill. And that works. Have you seen that great front line called The Interruptors? And there's a group in Chicago that does a very similar thing, the interruptors. And the dude who goes up and just knocks on these door. And he's not with the police. That is homicide prevention. That's what we should be doing.
Starting point is 01:00:44 the police give you the intelligence. They say, here's the social circle of the shooter and the social circle of the guy you got shot. Here's who we think in that social circle is most likely to commit an act of violence. Come with me and the pastor. We'll go and try and interrupt the chain. Yeah, this dude knocks on the room, he's like,
Starting point is 01:01:03 hey, can I take you to breakfast? He's like, you want to take me to breakfast? He's like, yeah. He's like, when? He's like, right now. He goes, let me put my pistol up. And he goes inside and puts his gun. Let me go off to breakfast.
Starting point is 01:01:13 And you're like, fuck. That was incredible. Yeah. There's a guy named David Kennedy. It was a kind of pioneer inside these ideas about homicide prevention. One of the insides that drove it was something that he was doing all his work in Boston in the 90s. And he just was sort of new to this area. He was talking to the gang unit of the Boston PD.
Starting point is 01:01:31 And someone says to him, you know, everyone says these kids are predators. They're not. They're scared. And that insight has never left him. He's like, if you think they're predators, you think all you could do is lock them up. put them away forever. They're not. They're carrying guns because they're terrified. And because they've lost 15 friends and they're traumatized and they're really worried that they're going to be next. That is a very different problem than someone who is profoundly evil and is out to inflict as much
Starting point is 01:01:59 pain as possible in their environment. Look, I own guns. They'll be very clear. I own guns out of fear. I'm married to a very famous woman and there are people that are mentally unwell that think they're married to her. And so that is something that's in my mind, right, that I need to be ready for the day someone comes in the house. So I don't have one out of recreation or a desire to do anything other than I have a fear. This is a solution. That's what most people love guns thing. It's there for my protection. It's there for the protection of my family. But then everyone has a gun. Stay tuned for more armchair expert, if you dare. I've been saying this is Now everywhere I go, because it's so profound.
Starting point is 01:02:52 I have this very, very smart friend, Charles, who's from the South. And he said, the thing that people don't understand is that the reason liberals hate guns and conservatives like them is the same. It's fear in both cases. Yeah. One case, it's the fear of the other with the gun. And I'm so scared I need the gun myself. It's all fear of guns. It's exactly right.
Starting point is 01:03:13 That framing is what broke my own polarization. There was one of the elections. and it just hit me, oh, people aren't voting for what they want. They're actually voting to address the things they're terrified about. So for liberals, it's global warming. It's this and that. And then for conservatives, it's this. And I'm like, oh, you just have two groups that are very afraid of some things.
Starting point is 01:03:34 And that's what's driving it. But both people are scared of some things. That makes me a lot more compassionate to people I disagree with because I see that they're afraid too. A hundred percent. And it also makes it clear to you that confrontation and anger is the worst strategy whatsoever for dealing with those who disagree with you.
Starting point is 01:03:53 If someone's scared and you're yelling at them, that's not solving the problem. They just ratchet up higher into fight or flight. Okay, so this isn't a criticism, but I'll say this chapter had me begging for you to inquire about, under all of that, when you hear these examples of the arguments that go south, almost all of them start as the same thing.
Starting point is 01:04:15 It's a respect issue. and I think in these poor communities when you have absolutely nothing other than that, it cannot be taken from you. I want to acknowledge as well, this level of being disrespected isn't happening in the upper income families where a kid's got innumerable ways to have status. But when everyone has nothing and there are no resources and no opportunities, all you have is your respect. So you're being threatened for the one thing you have.
Starting point is 01:04:50 So of course the stakes are higher. And it's like that needs to come into these analysis as well. It's like, why are these people willing to die over this notion of respect, which sounds preposterous to someone who's privileged, but not if you're poor. That's a big undercurrent of all this. Yeah, I think you're right. I mean, the subject is bleak, and I didn't want to write a bleak book.
Starting point is 01:05:09 I wanted to find a way to tell stories around this. That was my one goal. My second goal was I didn't want it to be a long book because I feel like you can get overwhelmed. Yeah, that's even even bigger problem to bring. Yeah, it's like, well, how don't we deal of poverty? What you just said is a class example of 100% I could have explored that more. I wanted to tell very specific narratives about this. Yeah, I don't think it would have been right.
Starting point is 01:05:34 I guess I wanted to ask you that because I was almost more curious if you did and then got rid of it. Like, I just wondered what. I thought about it. Perhaps there were things that you were like, this is really important. it needs to be thinned out. It's a very famous guy who I don't mention the book called Marvin Wolfgang, who's one of the most famous criminologists of the 20th century. All of this thinking starts with Marvin Wolfgang.
Starting point is 01:05:54 And he was at the University of Pennsylvania, and he does this thing where, which at the time was very unusual. He's a brand new young academic. And he decides, first of all, he wants to go through the homicide records of the Philadelphia Police Department, all of them. So he goes there and introduces himself. and every day after work, from eight, sometimes until two in the morning, he's in the basement in the archives, just reading through these cases.
Starting point is 01:06:22 Then he decides he wants to ride around with them, and now ride-alongs are common. This is the 50s. And he spends three years every Friday and Saturday night, riding around with Philadelphia police officers. And then he decides, it's the first study of its kind. He gets the record on every single kid born in Philadelphia, Philadelphia in 1945 and then follows their entire criminal history.
Starting point is 01:06:48 Because he wants to know, so there's 10,000 kids born in Philadelphia, boys, born in Philadelphia in 1945, and he follows all 10,000 until they're like 25. Oh, my God. And to see who gets in trouble with the law, what percentage? What he discovers is this incredibly essential fact, which is the group of kids who end up on the wrong side of the law is tiny. This problem that seems to affect all of society and that got us all terrified is, in his case, it was like 675 kids out of 10,000
Starting point is 01:07:21 basically did all the violence. And then this has been replicated. There's a famous study on the west side of Chicago, an area of 50,000 people. The number of people at any given time who are at risk for being shot or shooting someone is 400. That's the size of an elementary school. You could totally know those people.
Starting point is 01:07:40 Yeah, exactly. Yeah, you had something in one of your other where there was a pocket, it was about a block, right? There's like there are blocks in America where if you only contain that block, it would wipe out. When you realize that, you realize, oh, we don't have to engage in this kind of really like lofty conceptual rhetoric about, no, no, no, just find out who those forwarded people are. Give them some help, talk to them. It goes back to the, why does that interrupt her stuff you was talking about? What does that work? Because they know who it is.
Starting point is 01:08:07 Yeah. It's not a mystery, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. You can see who has a criminal record, who's resorted to violence in the past, whose friend just got shot. Yeah. And who's grieving. There's very obvious patterns to be observed.
Starting point is 01:08:18 Okay, the last part is part three, which is moral absurdity. And I want to go through a little bit of what have been the historic challenges to the Second Amendment. And I think we need to talk about the Sullivan Act because I think suicide. Again, another shield the gun advocates of people like to hide behind us. It's all suicides. Yeah. That's fine. This comes up in one of the most distressing Supreme Court cases of recent years.
Starting point is 01:08:46 It's a case called the Bruin case, in which the court decided to throw out a law that had been in place in New York State for 100 years, which basically made it very, very difficult for anyone to own a handgun in New York State. You had to get a license, and the license was really hard to get. Like I said, New Yorkers had lived with this law very happily for 100 years, was put in place because of a famous murder in downtown Manhattan. Prominent writer was murdered by a kind of crazed fan, and it was so upsetting to people at the time that they were like, that's enough.
Starting point is 01:09:18 So we've been living with this law for 100 years. What was discovered was the existence of this law didn't really affect the homicide rate because most homicides are illegal guns smuggled in from out of state. But it really did affect the suicide rate because most people who attempt to commit suicide, I'd regret if they have a second chance they would take it. It is an expressive act of self-violence. And if there is a handgun lying around and accessible,
Starting point is 01:09:44 people are likely to shoot themselves and die. And if there's no handgun around, they're more likely to either not try or try a less lethal means. This parallels your town gas story, no? Yes, it does, exactly. From how many books ago, I can't remember. England used to have a form of gas that they used in their ovens, and it was highly poisonous.
Starting point is 01:10:06 People committed suicide that way. At crazy rates, and the second they got, what, they put it smell in it or they got rid of it, it drops. Yeah. So New York State historically has had a suicide rate
Starting point is 01:10:17 that's half the national average. Given the fact that there are more suicide deaths in this country than there are homicide deaths is a very, very big deal. The court throws out in this case called Bruin, uses this FACTA interpretation of the Second Amendment
Starting point is 01:10:33 to throw out, this New York law of a hundred years standing and never once mentions suicide. So like the justification for this law, the fact that it saves thousands of lives was of no interest whatsoever to the court.
Starting point is 01:10:48 All they cared about was that this was a technical violation of this strange historical interpretation they'd put on the Second Amendment. I just thought like, this is pretty much the nadir. That's something that's working. It was working. There wasn't any huge controversy.
Starting point is 01:11:04 see over it. A couple of guys wanted to have handguns and couldn't get them. I don't even understand why it was necessary. I'm fine if other states don't want to do this. I think this is something that should be handled by the states. New York's a liberal. If New Yorkers want to make it hard to get a handgun, God bless. That was an example of the kind of thing. There are times when the kind of necessary and truce between different sides of the political spectrum gets violated unnecessarily. We can actually live together if we respect it. But every one again, someone's like goes too far. This is an example of going too far. You didn't have to do that. Yeah. Yeah, let them have that. But it was this kind of indifference to the fact that handguns
Starting point is 01:11:51 play a really, really huge role in suicide. That was so upsetting to me. And also, So anytime you start poking around and find out these decisions, what foundation it's all stacked upon, we come to Sir John Knight. Oh, my God. I didn't even know. This is like a fairy tale. The chapter is intended to be kind of hilarious. It is sort of hilarious if it were not so tragic. But one of the foundational figures in the gun rights movement's constitutional argument is this crazy 17th century English knight.
Starting point is 01:12:26 called Sir John Knight, who's like a racist, a slave owner, who has some legal tussle with the king, which was discovered by gun rights people in the 80s, and they have contrived to make it into this seminal landmark case that ought to alter our interpretation of the Second Amendment today. The whole thing is made up. I talked to all these English historians, by which I mean historians in England, who studied their own history.
Starting point is 01:12:54 And they're like, what do you guys do you guys? doing. You've completely misunderstood what this was about. Yeah, the version they like to use is that Sir John Knight took some guns to a church, raised hell with all of his guns, then was tried and found innocent. So because he was acquitted, come to find out through all this research, A, he didn't bring his guns into the church. The issue here is the court's really interested in the historical antecedents of the Second Amendment. And their argument is we need to understand the way
Starting point is 01:13:26 the founders were thinking when they drafted that sentence. And so the significance of Sir John Knight is, hey, wait a minute, this is a case from England from the 17th century in which a man was accused of carrying guns illegally and got acquitted. And the court says, look, even the English were in favor of gun rights back in the 17th century. We have a rich history of defending this right.
Starting point is 01:13:49 Going back to Sir John Knight, 1786, this is like used as justification that when they did the Second Amendment, they were drawing on hundreds of years of precedent in respecting the rights of people to carry guns. But it turns out the case they're using and pointing to is completely made up. That's not what it was about at all.
Starting point is 01:14:07 He wasn't even carrying a gun into the church. He thought there was a Catholic conspiracy afoot. He was delusional. Well, first of all, I just loved it. In your textbook's signature way, there were so many counterintuitive things I learned in the book. and to your earlier point, it's so fun. The stories, if you listen, all these interviews with these experts, it's them speaking.
Starting point is 01:14:32 You're getting so much. You're feeling the fatigue of them. You're feeling what they've been through. You know, it's not just the words. You really get a sense of these people who have dedicated their lives to dealing with this fucking mess we refuse to confront. I guess my last question to you is, I'm so pessimistic. I don't know how we would get two-thirds votes on anything. literally, like should we outlaw water that couldn't be accomplishing.
Starting point is 01:14:57 The only thing I thought of you just kind of said, I was like, could we minimally make this a state's rights issue? Let's let the states that want it have it. And then guys, you just live with all the violence. That's fine. Do you think there's any way out of this? I think it's time to turn our back on Washington. And what I was describing about, like what's happening in Baltimore and the Chicago thing I talk
Starting point is 01:15:18 about, I think we got to do just grassroots stuff. I think that states and cities have to kind of rearrange their priorities between prisons and police. We've got to pursue a lot more of this direct homicide intervention stuff and then just leave the debates. If it happens at all, it's going to happen 50 years from now, and that doesn't help on the ground right now. Maybe this is a wake-up call that we spend too much time and attention trying to solve every problem through legislation. And maybe you should just be looking at other ways of addressing this stuff. I agree. And then there's like even strata of that.
Starting point is 01:15:54 It's like we're waiting on the national level for everything to be solved. And then we're ignoring the state level. We're ignoring the city level. You know, we're ignoring everything we have impact on and hoping that, you know, one person we all annoying is going to solve all these problems for us. The book is not intended to be depressing. It's supposed to kind of illuminate. I think it's incredibly optimistic because it would,
Starting point is 01:16:17 it tells me is like it's not a mystery. We know that we're trying to solve the wrong murders. They're not a significant percentage of what's going on. Like there's so much of it, I think, is incredibly encouraging. To me, this book outlines many ways in which this, which felt unsolvable, feels solvable. I feel like it's very optimistic. I also think it's weirdly probably your most important book. Oh, wow. I mean, truly, just potential impact on our world. This is, I think, your most important book. And I just love it, man. I love it. It's so good. I'm grateful that you do what you do sincerely. And I said it publicly, but I'll say it to your face, we were embarrassed to be nominated for a Golden Globe and not sharing that with you. That was ridiculous. And we used every interview
Starting point is 01:17:04 to say, well, this is ridiculous. I think I know why. I think it's because only shows that were every week were nominated. I don't think it was a limited series. Otherwise, you would have won, you would have swept it. There was no reason to diminish your own considerable contributions to society in order to uplift me. That's fair, but if we have to lose... Still true. Yeah, unfortunately, it's still true. Did you guys go?
Starting point is 01:17:30 We went, yeah. Did you dress up on everything? Yeah, it was fun. Would a Dax wear? He dressed up. An Italian dinner jacket in shorts. He wore a full suit and nice shoes. No, did you wear...
Starting point is 01:17:42 Do you own a... I can't even imagine. Imagine Dax in a suit. I wear tucks like probably eight times a year. I have to wear a tux all the time. Really? I mean, enough so that I own a couple. I think actually Dax would look good dressed up.
Starting point is 01:17:55 He does. He looks very handsome and it is not what you're used to seeing. So it's nice, nice change. Sometimes he wears converse because you just can't let himself wear the nice shoes. My new thing and my wife is signed off on it is now I wear a nice black t-shirt under my tux. So that's kind of my new move. And it still works. It still works.
Starting point is 01:18:14 You're on your feet, though. That depends. I think... I do draw the converse thing. No, there's lots of nice shoes. You don't... You like the conference. You're out on the covers.
Starting point is 01:18:23 I think you can deviate from... You can non-conform in other ways. Okay. You're drawing a hard line on the shoes. I'm drawing on the shoes. For you, that's like putting four spares on this beautiful BMW. I saw you arrive in, by the way. Thank you, thanks.
Starting point is 01:18:37 Six. Go sixth, baby. Can I do a shout out to my favorite car rental agency? Okay. We can keep that in. What is it? It's a M240. What is it?
Starting point is 01:18:48 M240. What do you love about it so much? Is it got a four-cylinder? Six. Oh, that's a lot of motor for that tiny car. Straight six. Adequate. It would be better if it was manual, but it's not.
Starting point is 01:18:59 Can't rent a manual, sadly. Does it have a dual clutch trans, though? Is it a proper? I don't even know. This is the first time I've driven it. It's delightful. It's the best BMW. Other ones are bloated now.
Starting point is 01:19:10 Okay. I have a car question, actually. I have a car question, actually. Oh, my God. That's what I want. Would you ever... First of all, do you know the car I bought her? Yeah.
Starting point is 01:19:18 I bought her to C-43. Oh. Very nice. Very nice. Appropriate. Thank you. I like it. Right.
Starting point is 01:19:24 Perfect car for her. Thank you. I like it. I love it. A little bit of Rasmataz, too. Like, it's got some... I hear her leaving her house. She lives across the street, and I always know when Monica leaves, and I'm like, that's
Starting point is 01:19:33 what it should be. People should be warned she's coming. It should be a heads-up. Well, do you eat in your car? Do I eat in my car? Yeah. I do not, but my wife does. I object.
Starting point is 01:19:47 Oh, okay. I simmer. Sure. And she looks at me with hostility. And then she will say things like, she's talking about her own mother. My own mother never let me eat in the car. I'm like, what do I? Yeah.
Starting point is 01:19:58 What are you supposed to do with that? What are you doing? What are you doing your mother's on my side? Yeah. Yeah. You were taught. I do a lot. She stopped in and out the other day.
Starting point is 01:20:06 Well, fucking, she left a tuna fish sandwich in that car. And then she went to in an accident. It was on accident. It was on accident. And Monica, you have this beautiful German. Masterpiece with this gorgeous leather and it smells like a inside of a fucking hamburger joint? You did that? That's hungry.
Starting point is 01:20:19 They go inside and eat. No, I don't want to go inside. I need to be efficient. I need to be wrapped in leather when I eat. I can't do that. I can't do that. I'm in the car, fast. I'm in a tuna fish sandwich you left in your brand new C-43?
Starting point is 01:20:32 It's not brand new. When did I get 20-20? It's old. Is it that old? Yeah. There's very little miles on it. It runs great. It's super nice.
Starting point is 01:20:39 But no. I plug the tires on it probably every, what, 18 months? The tires are bad on that car. I don't know what's going on with those tires, but there's always issues. It's definitely the car's problem, not mine. But, okay, so you're no one eating. That's where I'll stop. Okay, yeah.
Starting point is 01:20:57 I mean, you want to eat something that doesn't have a ton of fragrance to it? Sure, you want to pound some rice cakes in there or something? No. Then you get all the bits. That's at least solvable with a vacuum. Once you get that deep hamburger smell in there, oh my God. It smells great. I think you'd love to.
Starting point is 01:21:13 the lengths of which they go to to make that interior or they're sourcing that leather to drip animal-style fries on it. I said it's not like I made the seat a plate. I wasn't like putting the burger on the leather. I'm going to spare you to tell him everything that's happened in that car. Don't. Don't do it. Malcolm, I adore you. Thank you so much for coming.
Starting point is 01:21:34 And people, please, please, please read or listen to the American way of killing an invention of an epidemic. Out now. Now. Oh my God. Right now. When you finish this, I promise you, this is in my top 10 books of all time already. Listen to it immediately, the American way of killing. Be well. He is an armchair expert, but he makes mistakes all the time. Thank God Monica's here. She's got to let them have the facts. I want to start. Is baby tired? Tite tight. Well, a little, but for good reason, because I had breakfast this morning with Callie, my best friend. At what time? 915.
Starting point is 01:22:19 Okay. Well, this might coordinate beautifully with my first question for you. Great. Which is I was driving Lincoln to play rehearsal last night. Uh-huh. And we drove through the neighborhood, which we never do. Yes. And there were so many cars in front of us.
Starting point is 01:22:33 And was one of them, Simone's? Did I recognize? Correct. I'm good with these cars. You're very good. You're very good. What was happening at Casa Day Padman? I was getting ready for another event.
Starting point is 01:22:48 Oh, my God. Do you have back-to-back events? I did. Did they lose your car this time? No, I Ubered. There we go. Yes, I did think about bringing my car and I was like, I learned my lesson. We'll never do it again.
Starting point is 01:23:01 Not doing that. What was the event last night? It was for the Who-Wat-Ware 20th anniversary celebration. Who It Wear is a really cool, started out as a little website and kind of turned into this whole. Media Empire? Yes. By my friend Hillary Kerr, she started that. And 20 years ago.
Starting point is 01:23:23 What is it? Well, again, it's like a website, but then there's a podcast. It's a whole thing. It's a web. It's a web. It's an empire, as you said. It's a content machine. Yeah, about style.
Starting point is 01:23:35 Style? Yes. Fashion. Fresh shirt. Oh, trust me. I know. What did you wear? Do you post any pics?
Starting point is 01:23:41 Yeah, you do not check my Insta. I wasn't on all day because I was researching. I wore a very, in my opinion, cute outfit. Okay. I was a leather skirt. Oh, my goodness. But it had a very, a really flowy top on top that kind of looked like a dress, but it's actually a shirt top. But it's long.
Starting point is 01:24:08 So, like, there's only a little bit of the skirt poking out the bottom. The leather skirt. Mm-hmm. Okay. Both items from the row. Oh, okay. And so you were excited to put this on. Yeah, very.
Starting point is 01:24:20 But I had, I did have a, this is just like people will be mad. But what are we going to do? This is my life. I had some outfits I was going to wear for, I had, like, put aside to maybe wear for this. Yeah. But I never got anything altered in time. Uh-huh. So then yesterday morning, I did have a panic.
Starting point is 01:24:39 I was like, I didn't, I had all these events. What am I? I don't know what. Nothing fits. Nothing fits. What am I going to do? And so I, whether we say this is fortunate or unfortunate, have a direct line to the row. Oh, my goodness.
Starting point is 01:24:56 Yeah. How could you label it anything but fortunate? Well, because it's going to be a cash drain. Exactly. Yes. Because I texted my friend. It was like me having an accountant. bring a trailer that would be dangerous that's the auction website for cars yeah context clues um yes so max
Starting point is 01:25:13 who works at the row l.A and is your best friend he is he is yes i adore him um yeah i just texted him i said i have this event and is there anything in the store that that looks cute and he sent me a bunch of pictures, a bunch of things, and we picked this, and he just had it messenger to ride on him. Oh, my God. It is really, because, you know, they have my credit cards. Oh, boy, you don't even have to. I don't need to. Oh, yeah, that's bad.
Starting point is 01:25:46 It's bad. It's bad. It's bad. It's bad. You basically have an Amazon account at the row. That's dangerous. Yeah, prime. I'm trying to think what would be the most dangerous place for me.
Starting point is 01:25:56 You said, rent a trailer. Rent or trailer. I love renting trailers. I would rent more trailer. than I could tow. What is it called? I do have more trailers than I could tow. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:26:07 I think for you it would be like high factors or like. Medical equipment. Yeah, that would be not good if I was dialed there. Newly, I've been really, I've been into shopping a little bit lately. Yeah, you have a cute outfit on. Well, I have like, you know, I love the God's true cashmere. Those are my favorite shirts. They're too hot for me.
Starting point is 01:26:27 I run too hot and they're cashmere. But my double R. Ralph. It's time. Okay. Let me look at your Instagram. We pause this for... We pause because we have stuff to do. A normal broadcast for this.
Starting point is 01:26:40 Oh, yeah, so cute. It hangs out a lot, that skirt, I would say. Not a little bit. Certain, depending on certain angles. It's past your knees in this photo, unless that's your purse. The skirts past my knees? Yeah. Yeah, it is a little past, but the top, see where the top ends?
Starting point is 01:26:58 Top ends mid thigh. Right, exactly. below the knee. Correct. I was happy. I was very happy with it. It hasn't come through yet. Oh, my God.
Starting point is 01:27:07 It's crazy. Is that Erica in that photo? Anna. Oh, I see Anna. Oh, no, that's Mara. Mara Rozac. Whoa, she kind of looks, with my glasses, looks like Erica.
Starting point is 01:27:16 I could see that. I could see that. Mara Rozac was one of the cars you saw at my house. Mara is one of the best hairstylists to live. In America, USA. You know, there's just so many ways to be talented in this world. Like I, it's, it's wild. What she does is unbash. Voodoo. And then like, Anna came and, um, she wasn't getting her hair done, but then Mara just kind of like looked at it.
Starting point is 01:27:43 And she just like, she kind of like blew on it. And the whole thing just transformed. Came to life. It's a talent. It's a real talent. Okay. Well, I'm like, this sucks because you just not. It hasn't come through yet. I'm just going to keep it. They're two minutes late. Oh, you should send someone a text. Oh, I have. a funny update speaking of late. Okay. Do you remember my E&T story? Did I even tell it?
Starting point is 01:28:06 Yeah. Yeah, that I sat in the room for an hour. Yes. Okay. And then I've been having way too many ruminations about, is it up? I'm waiting. Sorry. I don't really know what I can tell you this story.
Starting point is 01:28:16 Hold on. I'm going to send a text. Yeah, send a text and double check. I'm in the middle of a very important recording. Oh, my God. You can really hammer on it when you want to. Oh, my God. Oh, yeah, you're going to break the screen.
Starting point is 01:28:30 Oh, fuck. You have slash marks all over. the lower part of your. Oh, my God. You look like a little gremlin. Oh, my God. There's a chimp texting. No wonder you replace your phone every 18 months.
Starting point is 01:28:48 Oh, by the way, my brand new phone sucks. Okay. I want to say something about my brand new phone. No, we can't because it would be like Kelly Clarkson. Isn't that such a fun? I don't even know it. I just know that I don't want to do that. Let me tell you something.
Starting point is 01:29:04 Yeah. It's not like Kelly Clarkson because my beef is not with a teeny store. It is with one of our largest corporations in America. But when people use their big platform to go after. Well, it's not going after. I'm just saying that I don't, it's probably me, but like I still have, I'm still having issues. It could be a lemon.
Starting point is 01:29:25 Okay. You know you wouldn't have got a lemon at Toyota of Orange. All right. I really think we should just move on. on and then I'll get a text saying it's up. Yeah, okay, great. Okay, great. Anyways, the E&T.
Starting point is 01:29:39 So, you know, I was waking up ruminating. So I took a sleep test. That takes three days. Then they tell you it's going to be seven days for the results to go to your doctor. Well, of course, seven days goes by. The doctor doesn't reach out. Yeah. 10 days and 12 days.
Starting point is 01:29:51 All the while I'm having these ruminating dreams where I wake up. And for 45 minutes, I think about the fact that, like, I refuse to go back to this place, yet I have to get the results. Like, what was the point of taking the? Of course. The test if I'm not going to get the results, but I'm also not going to go back there and spend two hours at the place to hear either I do or do not have sleep apnea. Yeah. So I have my general practitioner call and get the results.
Starting point is 01:30:15 Of course the results have been there. Let's just start there. They never called to say the results for there. But when I have my GP call, they have them. Yeah. But my GP is not a sleep expert. So he's like, I don't know. I'm looking at the results.
Starting point is 01:30:27 It seems like you don't have it. And I'm like, I mean you to know from the actual E&T. Okay. So then I call up the E&T. And they're like, okay, yeah, let's schedule time for you to come in and get the results. And I go, well, I said, listen, I'd rather not come in. I live in Los Phyllis. Also, last time I was there, it was a couple hours.
Starting point is 01:30:43 And so if there's a way we could do it over the phone, I would prefer that. And then they're like, well, you know, I can ask and really hem-hon about that. But they commit to that. Okay. So we commit to them calling me for a telehealth appointment at 2.45 p.m. on Wednesday. Okay. 245 comes around, wait for my call. I got my focus on, I got my ringer on, blah, blah, blah.
Starting point is 01:31:06 They called it 354. Oh, my God. They were an hour and nine minutes late. Gosh. For the fucking telehealth thing. Very, very frustrating. So then I start talking and then, oh, I'm sorry, we're late. And I, you know, blah.
Starting point is 01:31:21 And I'm like, okay, but is it still an option? Can I get on the phone with him? Yeah, let me see, blah, blah, blah. So then the guy gets on the phone. He's like, hey, yeah, I'm looking at this. and, you know, you don't have sleep apnea. And I go, okay, great. I said, look, I want to say this with love and respect.
Starting point is 01:31:38 And I saw your waiting room. It's totally full. You don't need to worry about me. But I need to point out, I came to your office and sat in an exam room for an hour before you came in. And then you took an hour to give me a five-minute thing. I said, today you were supposed to call it 245. You called it 354. I said, I'm just going to suggest that your scheduling department probably needs a little work.
Starting point is 01:32:00 Okay. And he goes, you're right. You should be mad. I'm mad. Oh. Yeah, you shouldn't have to wait for two hours and we shouldn't be an hour. I'm mad at, you know what, I'm mad at myself. I kept saying, don't I have something at two, no, one and he went anything.
Starting point is 01:32:19 I kept saying, don't I have a. Oh, he's turning on everyone else. He says it was his fault, but then he immediately says that he had been saying, don't I have a 245. I don't believe at all he ever said. Well, sure, we don't know. If he's the doctor there. And then it became this hilarious thing where like now I'm comforting him. I go, look, it's fine.
Starting point is 01:32:37 Everything's fine. I love you. I'm coming back. I love you. I got, but I'm taking this FedEx package right now. It was definitely in that situation. We're just stuck on the phone with him while he said it was his fault. But then also said he tried to talk to me at 245 and no one would let him.
Starting point is 01:32:52 It was so crazy. I wanted why I would never have said is like, it's time to retire. Oh, my. Lord, okay. He is very, very old. Okay. In the nonsensical loop about him being at fault, but also he tried to call me, which is, it was wild. I want to say something, but I'm nervous you're going to make it.
Starting point is 01:33:11 I don't want to fight. Okay. I don't either. I really don't want to fight. I don't like to fight. Me either. And we're not going to. But I do want to bring something.
Starting point is 01:33:19 Yeah, yeah. Like three minutes ago. Yeah. Before you told this story that I want to hear. I loved it. Yeah. you were like, don't complain about a business. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:33:31 A business. Yeah. So I didn't say his name. That's the huge distinction. I am not outing anybody and I'm not trying to get anyone's business to go under. It's totally different. This is just an anonymous E&T. I've been so conscious of not doing that because I won't do it.
Starting point is 01:33:48 Look, I have flights sometimes that make me so angry. Right. And I want to come on here. Yeah. And say it. I don't ever do it. Well, I didn't ever bless the company, and I'm really mad at a lot of companies a lot of the time. Okay.
Starting point is 01:34:02 Well, I didn't say the company. You inferred the company. As you held the phone up to the camera. I didn't say. Okay. And I don't think it's the company's fault necessarily. I just think the device I currently am holding, something's wrong with it. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:34:21 Because I went with another friend to get her phone at the same time and she's not having these issues. No problems. So it could be a lemon. Uh-huh. And it's an unnamed company that made my phone. But you were holding the products. Listen. I was holding the auntie's business card up to the camera and I go, I never said his name.
Starting point is 01:34:43 I'm never going to, by the way, I'm never stopping buying these phones or these companies' products. unnamed company. Yeah, yeah. So, yeah. Okay. What happened with Kelly Clarkson? Okay. Can you, do you know all the deeds?
Starting point is 01:34:57 I do. I don't. I saw that there was a video I could watch. I know. I didn't have time to do that. I haven't actually watched the vid, but I have heard about it. I, I for some reason kind of love this story. And I think it's because the world, my, I need to clean out my algorithm.
Starting point is 01:35:16 I need to cleanse. It is so depressing. right now and not even just like the world is depressing, right? Like, yes, like geopolitically, politically it's a mess. Yes, everything. It's a fucking, yes. Inflations through the goddamn roof. Everything's bad.
Starting point is 01:35:30 But really, I'm getting like this, it's a horrible story about the man that fell off the roller coaster, was a dad. Then, like, I just like, I'm getting, like, personal stories that really feel heavy on my heart. Yeah, yeah. So this story was light. Feels light to me. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:35:50 Yeah, it's inconsistent. Well, it could be consequences of the proprietor. Right. If I know the details at all. Yeah. Well, exactly. That seems to be. I don't even know.
Starting point is 01:35:58 Okay. So this is what happened from what I glean. Okay. Kelly Clarkson went into a store in Brooklyn, like a small. Trinkets show? Small business. Yeah, there was trinkets, but I think they do like kid shows there. And it's like a fun part of Brooklyn.
Starting point is 01:36:14 Yeah. And she went in and she wanted to purchase a, an animatronic owl or something yeah bird oh wow Rob's got an actual photo named Molly that bird is named Molly
Starting point is 01:36:29 wow you really know this story inside now okay so that was hanging on the wall at this Brooklyn joint yes and she it's not for sale or it's for sale well okay pause so she wanted to buy it and according to her she was pretty womaned there like it was
Starting point is 01:36:46 $15,000 you can't have like you wouldn't not be able to buy it. It's $15,000. But we can help you look for something similar or like something cheaper or something, according to her. And then she's pretty woman, big mistake, huge. Yeah. And then, um, huge. And she called them out, the name of the.
Starting point is 01:37:05 On her, on her daytime show. Twitter. Oh, it was on Twitter. Okay. Interesting. Yeah. So, okay. So. So. So. That's still, that's still. Exactly.
Starting point is 01:37:13 Yeah. Interesting that she's still using that platform. But that's beside. A little bit incriminating, but continue. That's what's at the point. She basically says if you want to feel pretty woman, go to. Mm. And then they responded. Great. What they said.
Starting point is 01:37:29 And they basically said, Molly is a fixture in this store. She is not for sale. Boom. And we said this. But, and then she responded. She said no. That is not what happened. So it is a fear.
Starting point is 01:37:43 She said. It is. She said, she said. It is. She said. She said. And listen, overall, I agree with you that if you're someone of means... If you have an enormous megaphone.
Starting point is 01:37:57 Yes. You should not call out this small business. Specifically, I do think you're entitled to complain. You're entitled to tell that story. I do think saying specifically the stores may be a bridge too far. Really quick. You also are trusting your perspective a little too much. There's a little bit of lack of humility.
Starting point is 01:38:15 Well, that's why there's a video. certainty of what happened to the degree that you'll, you know, attack. But that's also why it's like, I don't, she's not someone who gets into these things. So it's not like, I think she really remembers it that way. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I think probably did happen that way, maybe. I don't know. I don't know.
Starting point is 01:38:36 I wasn't there. Okay. And I did watch the video. But. What do we think happens in the video? I think you see them talking. Exactly. I don't even know.
Starting point is 01:38:46 Is there audio? I don't know. Rob it, find out if there's audio. Okay. But I, you know, of course it made me do some introspection. Uh-huh, sure. Because I've done this. I've done this a few times.
Starting point is 01:38:59 I've done this a few times. Not a lot. Twice. I've talked about it twice. Okay. Okay. And one time was a small business and I did not name it. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:39:09 So I feel good about that. Okay. The other time was Chanel. Uh-huh. And I feel fine about that. I do. I feel fine about calling that out because actually my beef was not with Chanel. It was with a person.
Starting point is 01:39:26 And I did not name him. Okay. And I don't know his name. So I can't name him. Right. Unfortunately. But it did make me think. I was like, yeah, I mean, are you allowed to complain?
Starting point is 01:39:36 Are you not? And then I was like, I mean, on your podcast, you can kind of complain. You can do what you want. As long as- I think you should complain, but I don't think you should ever hurt anyone. I agree. I think that has to be a principle you have. I agree.
Starting point is 01:39:49 Even if the guy was an asshole, he might have been an asshole that day and he's a great guy otherwise. The one at the store. Yeah, like if you catch someone in the worst moment in your life and then you broadcast on a very large megaphone, this assessment of a person and this one interaction, also doesn't feel terribly fair. Sure. But these are experiences people have in life and they want to share them.
Starting point is 01:40:10 Excluding you, I have a few people in my life or almost every interaction I hear about with them. Yeah. Someone's always dismissing them. Right. No, I know. That's bad. And so.
Starting point is 01:40:22 I don't feel that way. I don't think we can trust ourselves so much. I know. You remember that when I went to the C-word store, I was with a friend who I was ready to write that experience off. Yeah, she was the one who was on your defense. She was like, nope. That was bad.
Starting point is 01:40:41 She was like, that was bad. But mainly that story was to indicate like, you can't. tell who has money anymore. That's true. And so you just should be careful. It's a cautionary tale. Yeah. You should be careful if you're working in a biz to, it is definitely one thing if something's
Starting point is 01:40:57 not for sale. Like, I think. Exactly. Yeah. That's it. That's why. If you come to my house and you say you like my TV and then I don't sell to you, like I don't know.
Starting point is 01:41:07 But maybe this guy who she was talking to or woman, I don't know, forgot that part. Maybe they just said, oh, what? And then the store is like, oh, it's not for sale. And she's like, well, no one told me that. Yeah. Who knows? It's security footage, so there's no audio.
Starting point is 01:41:24 So, yeah, so what are we going to get from that? But they released it, so they must feel pretty confident it exonerates them, right? I mean, she didn't release the security footage. I know, but like it doesn't do anything if we can't hear. Also kind of a win for them. I bet they're huge now. Well, that's the thing. I bet everyone went in there and bought every trinket.
Starting point is 01:41:40 But they are saying, like, people are mad. But then I do think they're getting a lot of business. So, I mean, ultimately, she probably didn't have a favor. Could be a net win. Yeah. Apparently the bird is up for sale for $15 million now. 15 million? Yeah, they off the price.
Starting point is 01:41:57 Don't tell Monica that. Wait, now they put it up for sale now? Yeah, for $15 million. That's, okay, but now I think that's rude. What if she bought it? Yeah, she should. And she goes, big mistake, but they're like, okay. No, now I'm on her side.
Starting point is 01:42:15 Stay tuned for more armchair expert, if you dare. There was also one that was viral that was like Sandler's daughter, but then he went in there and bought everything for her, and I'm like, didn't they get rewarded? I haven't heard that one. You don't remember that one? It was so popular, like a summer ago or something. Oh.
Starting point is 01:42:42 It's really funny, too, if you break down the pretty woman thing. Yeah, let's do it. I mean, this is dangerous. Let's do it. She was a broke prostitute. I mean. But in that. moment she had the means she had his credit card she wasn't walking in the store and and as someone
Starting point is 01:42:58 who couldn't afford yeah she was there to buy stuff and but it's just funny what it represents to us it's like well in truth just the reality was she can't go to that store and buy stuff you don't know that's the whole that's literally the whole point is classic don't judge a book by its cover you have no idea you have no idea and they didn't have any idea that she had met this They didn't know that she was flush with cash. Yeah, so if a homeless dude rolls in, holding his sleeping bag, he has no money to buy anything in the store. Are they obligated to take everything out of inventory and let them try every single thing on
Starting point is 01:43:37 so that he then at the end of it can be like, all right, peace, I have no money. We've got to be somewhat realistic about life. If he doesn't have mental health issues, he should be able. I think he has to be. So there's no. How about this? Is there any responsibility? on the person who cannot afford the shit
Starting point is 01:43:55 to be in there making people work around them and accommodate them when they can't buy anything? Is that a right human beings have? I, no. I think you're allowed to walk in, no, I think you are allowed to walk in any store you want. And have the people spend all their energy and time and accommodating you when you can't buy anything.
Starting point is 01:44:13 It's not their time. It's their job. That's literally their job to do that. So when I was 18, I had no money. And I went to the Ferrari dealership. Should they have let me do a test drive? Yeah, they don't know. They don't know, Dax.
Starting point is 01:44:26 And by the way, they really don't know. You in the future could and did have the means to do that. So you have no idea what you're putting. I'm just saying your own personal responsibility. I would be a shithead to go waste a salesman's hour of their life, take on the liability of having me drive this expensive car that I can't replace if I smash it on the ride. Like, I'm asking all these people to do all this shit because I want. want to experience this Ferrari for an half hour, but I can't buy one, where's my personal
Starting point is 01:44:57 responsibility? I mean, I guess. I'm just entitled to drive a Ferrari because I want to. Well, if it's, if it is the rule that you can, I don't know about car dealerships. I don't know if you can walk in and do that or if you have to make an appointment. I know if I walk in, if I walk in right now and ask a test drive a Ferrari, they'll let me. Yeah, but can anyone? Because I can buy one, all right? And I can replace it if I destroy it on the test drive. But can you, can anyone like do that? I mean, erase you because there's so many elements to that. But like normally for a test drive, don't you have to kind of like make an appointment or something?
Starting point is 01:45:31 No. You can just walk in. No, you can walk into a dealer right now and go to Toyota and say, I like this car. Can I test drive it? Yeah, then I think personally, I think some personal decency would be if you can't buy the car, you shouldn't make these people whose job it is to spend their limited eight hours and trying to sell them. that's, I don't think that's cool of you. But how do we get onto this? Because the whole point is that you can.
Starting point is 01:45:57 I'm saying this whole thing we have, the pretty woman thing, is based on this thing that it would be so offensive that they didn't assume she had money. Well, I guess yes, but based on exactly, I kind of think what you're saying, which is for the other person who's being pretty woman,
Starting point is 01:46:14 they're going into the start. First of all, I totally disagree that you can't go if you don't have maybe the means to buy a Celine purse that you can't go into Celine and go look at that. You should be able to. I think you can look at them. I think when you're asking the employees there to give you their time and resources to go pull merchandise and let you try on different things, no. Well, also no, because like there are times I go into a store, I mean, rarely and unfortunately, that I go into a store and I pick out a lot of things to try on and then I don't get anything. Yeah, but you could and would have.
Starting point is 01:46:50 I know, but you- It wasn't a waste of their time. It was. They didn't get anything from that. They got zero. There was a potential for a sale. If you don't have any money, there is no potential. You're just entertaining a human being who wants to try on pretty close.
Starting point is 01:47:04 And I don't think someone's just entitled. But you don't know anything about their life. They might have a rich mom who might buy them that for Christmas. Like, you don't know. And so you just have to- No, I'm trying to give you an example. We know. is it ethical for someone who cannot buy the thing
Starting point is 01:47:19 to make a bunch of people run around and grab samples for them and try stuff on if they can't buy it? I mean... I'd say no. I personally... It's the same as going into a restaurant and having the chef make you a huge meal
Starting point is 01:47:34 and then you go, oh, I can't pay for it. That's not that at all. You cannot go to a restaurant and not pay. Well, the labor of a salesperson is getting you the things and watching you try them on getting you different sizes, like that's the chef. But you, no, you can't go into a restaurant and not pay. That's illegal.
Starting point is 01:47:53 It's not illegal. You order and then it comes and then you go, oh, you know what? I don't have any money. You can't do that. I know you can't do it. I know you can't do it. This is very analogous because you've just gobbled up people's time. That's not why you can't do it.
Starting point is 01:48:08 You're not, you can't not do it because you just wasted people's time. I'm saying that's why it's morally wrong. Well, it's morally wrong because, no, I don't, I don't, I don't, I don't, agree. As also someone who, like... Used to go trying a lot of stuff they couldn't afford? Yeah. First of all, I wasn't even going to say that.
Starting point is 01:48:24 But yes, like, also when I worked at SoulCycle, people come in all the time. They're trying on the clothes. They're asking for sizes. I do that. Yeah. That they're not obligated to buy anything. That's not the point. If they couldn't possibly have bought anything.
Starting point is 01:48:38 I don't know what they can. It's my whole point. I know. I'm asking you to give a verdict on whether you think it's morally right. to go make somebody waste all that time when you know, you know you can't buy it. I just don't think it's a waste. So I do, I do, I do not think it's morally wrong. Okay.
Starting point is 01:48:58 Yeah, I don't. Because you might buy that later or someone might buy it for you or you might come across $20,000 on the street and go right back. I don't think it's a waste. And I definitely, as just some, as someone who works, I'm just like, If you work in retail, that is your job, regardless of if it's a quote waste of your time. It's not a waste of time. You have to be there for five hours.
Starting point is 01:49:24 There is an unwritten premise, though, that they could buy it. You're not helping them to make them have a good day. You're helping them because the ideas they might buy it. Yeah, but. But if there's zero way they can buy it, then I do think you're kind of using up someone's time. Well, their job is not, that's not their job. Their job isn't to... To sell merchandise.
Starting point is 01:49:48 Well, not depends, I guess, on the store, right? Like, most stores you go into, they're not like, ooh, look at this. They're not selling you, you know? Everyone theirs job is to sell the products in the retail store that they work out. No one's job is there to be like a social liaison to the community or be friends with people. No, but they're normally at these places getting paid a fixed amount of money hourly. They're not getting commission. Commission potentially different, okay?
Starting point is 01:50:15 I could see that. If someone's getting paid on commission and you go in and you are wasting their time completely, when somebody else could also comment. There's someone else standing there that can buy it. That they could then make money, though. Well, even if for this business, there's five people walk in and you got to spend 35 minutes in someone that has no intention of buying anything. Well, there's other.
Starting point is 01:50:35 And there's four other people that we're going to buy stuff. I think that's a problem. I think normally, though, there's other people. Like, you rarely see someone just like standing and not being helped. in any of these circumstances. I want to know. I don't go shopping, so I'm going to have to defer to your expertise. Yeah, Norm, I've rarely seen that.
Starting point is 01:50:53 I just think it's a funny thing that everyone thinks that they are entitled to have people go get them a bunch of stuff that they, if they can't buy it. Yeah, that's just called shopping. You should be able to have to buy it. No. Looking is one thing. Yeah, of course you can look. Yeah, but looking also.
Starting point is 01:51:07 I'm not saying you're not allowed in a store, but it's when you're gobbling up someone's resources. It always, but gobbling up is, is a tricky thing to say because, Either way, it's gobbling up if you don't buy it. It is. You just took someone's time. The employee doesn't have to allocate any of their attention or resources to you to be looking around the store. If you're making them get you sizes and run stuff to addressing them, they can't be helping someone who would buy it.
Starting point is 01:51:34 I know, but I'm saying this happens 90% of the time people go shopping. You try on a bunch of things. You don't like any of it. And you leave. Yes, but you could have. But that's the part that we like... That's a huge difference. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:51:48 You could have never anyways. So you know you're wasting this person's time. Like you enter going, yeah, I'm going to make this person run around the store. And I don't feel bad at all because I saw a pretty woman. I don't know. It's not because you saw a pretty woman. It's because you wanted to try on the things and you want... Some people, I mean, people go try on wedding dresses and stuff.
Starting point is 01:52:08 And they're not necessarily going to buy it. Like, single people. I don't know if anyone does that. I actually, I do think some people do that, I'm going to do that. I'm going to do that. No. Some of them just want, I want to just go try some on. Okay.
Starting point is 01:52:24 I think you should pay that person that helps you. If you're going to take two hours of someone's time. I think you are kind of paying for those things. So those are appointments. You should. If you takes two hours someone's time to give you wedding dresses. Whatever. Oh, I never finished my thing.
Starting point is 01:52:36 I've recently really got addicted to getting the Ralph Lauren double R shirts. Oh, that's what you're wearing right now. Yeah. And I noticed, you know, I'm like, wow, I like their shirts. Maybe I should look at their pants. And then I got some pants. Shopping. And then I got two sweaters, not from them, but somewhere else.
Starting point is 01:52:52 And I'm like, oh, I'm in a little phase. This is what I do. I'll shop for like two months and then not for two years. Yeah, that's. So I'm acquiring some stuff you'll be seen for the next two solid years. Yeah. I like what you're picking. Okay.
Starting point is 01:53:07 And you should be able to go wherever you want and try on whatever you want and leave it there. You know, actually, I will say sometimes I have the opposite problem. I'll go in, I'll ask for a lot of things to try on, and then I do feel guilty. I'm like, I guess I got to kind of buy something. I've been in here like that. And that's bad. No, you should not spend money for no reason. Yeah, I don't think you should.
Starting point is 01:53:31 You go in there with good faith if I'm trying to find something I'm going to buy. And then if that doesn't work out, that's fine. That's good faith. You go in there and you're like, I owe $15,000. I can't buy a stick. gum and I'm going to make this person run around the store for two hours, I think is a little... I understand what you're saying. I don't think that happens.
Starting point is 01:53:48 Okay. I just don't think that happens because in pretty woman, that's not what was happening. She was there to buy something for her event. Yeah. I mean, the reason it is an urban, like, it has the stickiness of an urban legend. Mm-hmm. Is because it triggers our fear, yeah, that people are dismissing us. Yes.
Starting point is 01:54:09 They did. And that we're invisible. Yeah. But I think we've, we have channeled that fear of being invisible or living in a class society into this event. And I think it brought a lot of like power to this one event. And I think if you really start poking at it. Which event?
Starting point is 01:54:28 Kelly Clark says? No, the pretty woman. Oh. No, it was perfect. I know. It was perfect because it felt emblematic of a very universal fear. Yeah. we will not be taken seriously.
Starting point is 01:54:43 Yeah, that people will dismiss you based on non-realities. Like, that's what, it's like being misunderstood is really what it is. Because big mistake huge is not like, oh, they think, it's, they think this thing that's wrong about me. Well, hold on, though. They're right about her. No. Monica. They were wrong about this extraordinary, never happens in real life scenario where the sex worker met up with a super wealthy guy.
Starting point is 01:55:10 who gave her the credit card to go shopping. One cannot account for the probability of that being the case. Well, you must. That's the whole point. You must. You have no idea. It's funny how much sense it makes to everybody. Yeah, you'd have no idea.
Starting point is 01:55:27 Again, back to what Maddie said. Back to what Maddie said. You have no idea who just met a very wealthy John. No. You have no idea anything about a person. You have no idea. You got to treat people like... Well, they were right up to the point where they didn't know she had met a John that was rich.
Starting point is 01:55:46 Dax, you're missing. You are missing the point. Like so deeply. It's crazy. Okay. It was so insane that happened last night. I returned home with Lincoln. I picked her up for a rehearsal.
Starting point is 01:55:56 And there is a man that's pulling into my driveway right as we're pulling in. And so we can't slash maybe I could have gone around him to get in the gate. But also there's just a dude in a car and I don't want to open the gate so some dude can drive in. So I rolled down the window and I go, hey, can I help you? And I'm in there with Lincoln. And he goes, I'm looking for an address. And I go, oh, what's the address? He said, 200.
Starting point is 01:56:19 And I go, that's not this address. And he goes, uh, you rolls up his window. And he just sits there. Now we're sitting there. We're all sitting there sitting there. Oh, God. And I roll on, you know, I roll on the one I roll down. I go, hey man, you're in my driveway.
Starting point is 01:56:32 Yeah. And he goes, I don't care. And I am. Oh, no. You can you imagine, I mean, it's at my home. Yeah. It's like triggering. Of course.
Starting point is 01:56:43 It is triggering. And I am with Lincoln. Oh. And I'm just like, I can't do anything. Okay. You know, I'm also not going to open the gate. This guy already seems fucking nuts. There's no address anywhere in L.A. that's 200.
Starting point is 01:56:57 No. What does that even mean? The streets are in the thousands. Like, what is he fucking talking about? Yeah. This goes on for so long. I fucking signal him again, roll on the way. He won't roll on his one.
Starting point is 01:57:06 He's sitting there, sitting there, sitting there. And then I get him somehow to roll down the window again. And I go, hey man, you got to go somewhere else and wait because we got to get inside. And he goes, I don't care. And he rolls up the window. And so I was holding my phone up, but I wasn't filming him. I was just, I don't know what I was. They might have been looking at the doorbird or some shit.
Starting point is 01:57:26 And then he rolls on his window. He goes, don't film me. And then he's clearly about to leave now. Okay. And I said, you are so lucky. I'm with my daughter. Yeah. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:57:36 And he goes, oh. Oh, what are you going to do, grandpa? This guy, Monica, this guy looked at least five years older than me. He goes, oh, what are you going to do, grandpa? And I go, what the fuck are you talking about? And then finally, no, Lincoln's never on my side, right? If there's any dust up, she hates it, of course, but I've been playing it. So cool.
Starting point is 01:57:57 Yeah. And Lincoln goes, how old do you think he is? You're not younger than him. She now gets him out. Okay, good. He goes, oh, he is 60 years old. Oh, my God. This is insane.
Starting point is 01:58:07 This is insane. He was 60 years old. And Lincoln goes, how old are you? And he goes, 27. Monica, this guy was at least 50. He goes, 27. And I go, then you need to go to a fucking doctor. And then he goes, you have cancer.
Starting point is 01:58:23 What? What is it? This is all with Lincoln. It was all. And now what I love is now Lincoln is like with me kind of right. Yeah. He's on your side. It was insane.
Starting point is 01:58:35 He was calling me grandpa. And I said my daughter, I'm like, what, how do you, what do you think this is my granddaughter? He's calling me grandpa. He said he was 27. I can't. It was insane. And he said he was 27. Wow.
Starting point is 01:58:46 You can't. The fuck? The amount I wanted to drop Lincoln in the driveway and go out. It was the most amount of restraint. I've had you apply in a very, very long time. Oh my God. And we went inside and it took me about 12 minutes to just handle that I didn't get to. I'm proud.
Starting point is 01:59:06 How do you? And about an hour later, when I was out in jail, and I hadn't broken my hand. Yes. And I wasn't getting sued. Yes. And I was thinking of Malcolm Gladwell. And talking about how murders, we think are crime related. They're not.
Starting point is 01:59:24 They're arguments. Crimes of passion. And I was like, oh, good. When I hear about how stupid people are that they escalate, escalate, I'm judgmental of it. I know it's wrong. But then when I found myself in the situation, I was like, I cannot exist. except that this guy's, he's been calling me grandpa. He claims he's 27.
Starting point is 01:59:40 He would not leave my driveway. Yeah, he just got the best of the situation. I mean, he's obviously an insane person. Yo. Oh. But anyways, I was happy. I don't think that guy should go in to be in the Ferrari store and be able to drive it. I'm sure he would.
Starting point is 01:59:57 Hmm. Oh, you're not letting me drive because I'm 27, grandpa. Oh, my God. He said you have cancer. Did you consider, remember that? You have cancer. is the craziest. The enthusiasm, though Lincoln had retelling
Starting point is 02:00:10 Mom and Delta once we got in the house, you know, it was an eventful. Oh, that's fine. Malcolm Gladwell. I love him so much. Yeah, just the very best. One fact I caught that I never would have looked up. So I started listening to his book immediately, of course.
Starting point is 02:00:25 I had been waiting and waiting. Yeah. And it's great, obviously. But when he talks about the magazine that he would get. Life? It's like. but he said time. Oh, really?
Starting point is 02:00:39 Yeah. Interesting. Yeah. That's comforting. That he messed up. Because his recall is so daunting. I know. That's quite comforting.
Starting point is 02:00:48 Uh-oh. No. It's not the same magazine, but they are created by the same person and published by the same company. Time Warner. Probably, yeah. But time is a news magazine and life is a general interest photojournalism magazine. Mm-hmm. Anywho.
Starting point is 02:01:05 Yeah, I remember from his book. it was life, right? But he was saying time. In the book, life, in the interview time. We'll never know which one it was. Well, I bet it's life. Should I ask him? Yeah. He might be mad that he's getting called out. This is time sensitive, so I doubt you'll get back to me in time, but we're recording the fact check. And interestingly, in your book, you got Life magazine and you read it. But in the interview, you said it was Time magazine. And I'm inclined to think it was really life. now we realize we don't know whether we should believe the book or you or was it both. I have to reissue the book if it's wrong in the book.
Starting point is 02:01:43 You know what he needs to say, whether, whatever the truth is, he needs to say life is. Because it's in the book. Yeah. You know, get sued. Yep. By us. Okay, I looked up how much American cops get paid versus other countries. Mm-hmm.
Starting point is 02:02:01 That made pretty good money. Yeah, it says American police officers are among the highest paid. law enforcement professionals in the world with a national median-based salary of $76,210 per year, though total compensation frequently crosses $100,000 and above. I think the name of the game in policing, much like union employment, is overtime. Right. So what's interesting is then we get into another conundrum that could have come up in this conversation, which is like, we refuse to acknowledge how much policing we're going to need.
Starting point is 02:02:33 So we end up having far too few officers that we end up having to pay overtime to. So we're paying a time and a half of what if we would just hire the right amount of people. Yeah. So it's another way that we're seemingly fiscally responsible, but really irresponsible. Yeah, that makes sense. But it was confusing to me because I thought, well, maybe these other places have more because maybe they're paying them more and it like draws more people. Yeah. But not the case.
Starting point is 02:03:01 Not the case. Except Switzerland and Luxembourg do have a higher average. Sure. Luxembourg. Okay. Ooh, which writer's death in Manhattan prompted the Sullivan Act? It was David Graham Phillips, an investigative journalist, shot and killed outside the Princeton Club in New York City by a mentally ill man named Fitzhue Coyle Goldsboro, who mistakenly believed the author had based a novel on his family. Yeah, he got convinced, because he would often write about high society in the scruples or the, you know, folly of that.
Starting point is 02:03:39 Yeah. And he got convinced one was about his sister. And he was from a very well-to-do family. Yeah, and bought an apartment directly across the street from him so he could watch him through the window. And then what's interesting about the Sullivan Act, which we didn't talk about, which is in the book, is he then killed himself after he shot the novelist. And the point of this all of an act was twofold in that It would have prevented a suicide and a murder Yeah
Starting point is 02:04:08 Oof, oof, oof, oof. Oh, which of his books references the drop, Ding, ding, ding, ding, God, horrible ding, ding, ding. And suicide rates in England because of the oven gas. Town gas. Uh-huh. And that's talking to strangers, what we should know about the people we don't know.
Starting point is 02:04:26 Uh-huh. And that's it for fact. That's it for facts Yeah Incredible book Really really great I wasn't just saying that Because he was in front of us
Starting point is 02:04:36 It's one of my faves And it's really guys It's short as hell Yeah it's very entertaining But it like It moves really fast But also it's five hours Yeah
Starting point is 02:04:46 On audiobook I decided to listen audio Because that was You know What he prefers Yeah And he has music And stuff like that
Starting point is 02:04:53 And the real interviews As opposed to reading It's really good audio Yes Yeah All right All right. Love you.

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