Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard - Synced: Manscraping

Episode Date: March 20, 2024

In this episode of Synced, Monica and Liz share childhood food traumas, a special guest joins to discuss manscaping, and Liz regales another plane event. They answer listener questions on how to stomach "baby talk" in a relationship, learning to orgasm in your twenties, and whether to match outfits with a significant other. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning. Hi. How are you? I'm a little sleepy. Me too. I knew it. I'm so tired. Yeah.

It's the last time we're saving daylight. No, this is the good kind. It's the good kind, but it's over. This is the last time we're doing it in our lifetime. Well, this is the last time we're going back to, like, we're keeping this. Right. Although I think you're wrong. We voted for it.

I think it starts next year. We looked it up on a fact check and it has to pass like federally. We passed it here some years ago and it like had some stipulation on it. But we were like, why hasn't it happened yet? Didn't we all vote for this? I'm so confused. And then we looked it up and really it's like the first step of many steps. Okay.

I heard something different, but I also don't remember who said it, where I was, and the context, but someone over the weekend was like, this is the last time. And then I just believed them. Okay, let me look it up. Okay, only to end in November 2024, but that won't be permanent. Time ran out for a proposal that cleared a major hurdle in Congress in 2022 to end the decades old practice of making Americans change their clocks biannually. And a new version for the new Congress that took office the following January has been

languishing in committees for a year. Under the 2022 measure, daylight savings time would have been made permanent, and if the bill was signed into law, most Americans have shifted their clocks one hour forward last March and left them that way. As it stands now, those clocks will need to be shifted forward an hour on Sunday when standard time ends and then will fall back again in November. But then that's it?

No. It's about this proposal. Like it hasn't passed. Like every other thing in Congress. Great. Exactly. So we're still in it for now. Okay. So we have to just it for now. Okay.

So we have to just embrace it because this is, I'm so much happier. Yesterday at seven, it was light out. It was light out. Oh, and I loved it. I loved it. I am very tired, but I don't think that has to do with daylight savings. I think that is so much travel and period hormones. Hormones. So much travel and period hormones. Speaking of hours and sleep, you need an extra hour of sleep when you're on your menstrual

cycle. And they just did some groundbreaking research that shows that the whole like you need eight hours a night is based on obviously male bodies. And the actual number for women is nine. 12 hours. 12 is the preference. Nine. That's where I feel best.

Me too. So you need 10 when you're on your menstrual cycle, which honestly checks out. It does check out. To be normal, not to be like great. Because we're making stuff. Our bodies are shedding. Bleeding. I mean bleeding.

We're losing so much iron. Yes. Your iron could also be low. It could. It's normally not, like when I get it checked and I'm on vitamins. But wait. Okay. Hold on.

So I'm trying to do some math because on Saturday night, we got home from Austin. We'll talk about Austin. I was in bed at 9 and I was fully asleep by 10. And then I woke up at, I want to say 10, but was 9. So 11, which is a lot. It's a narrower more than the minimum you need. It's not funny. It's true. It's normal. more than the minimum you need. It's not funny.

It's true. It's normal. What if we say like 15 hours? 15 is only like three hours more. I mean, but it's just like a lot of things. It's like when I learned about the temperature thing that they were basing all the temperatures of all the offices based on men's body temperature. You don't know this? No, tell me.

Monica! What? This felt like a peak 2017 article. No, maybe 2015. It was pre-Trump. What they did is they were testing people without realizing that people were just dudes. And then they started testing women and realized that our body temperatures are I think 1.5 or 2 degrees lower than men.

And so we need a different temperature. We need it to be warmer, but it's set to men's body temperatures. So that's why if you are cold at work, if you had, like me, needed your own, like, not only Snuggie, but my own heater, which was illegal, whatever, I would only turn it on when I was there and I would unplug it every night. But I needed both of those things just to be regulated. Oh my God. And so, like our bodies are always right.

Yeah, they are. They tell us the truth. Yes. Okay. Did you ever accidentally leave the heater on? Tell me the truth. Not at work. Are you sure? I was not allowed. Whatever, it's too late.

You can't arrest me. Yeah, it's way too late. But I would kind of have to hide it every night. So there was a whole ritual. But you didn't ever forget? No. You were home and you were like, oh fuck.

No, no, because those little heaters, most people don't even buy those, but I love them. I love just having like warm heat on my, like on me. Like it's, I have a little fireplace here in my room. And I- What's that mean? It looks like a fireplace?

It looks like a fireplace. Cute. And I use it, it's bad, but I use it sometimes even in the summer, cause I'll just get like, I just get cold. And then I really need that, but you don't get cold. No, I do. I run very cold. It's never been too cold here.

It gets cold in here. Dax runs hot, but I normally am wearing sweaters and stuff. I'm normally okay. It's been a conversation that I'm always cold and he's hot. So that, wow. And it's a thing, like even I worked in a media company where me and the CEO would constantly get, like, it was a smaller startup. So like I would go and like put up the heat and he would go and put it down.

And it fights. It fights. Silent fights. Over the, you know, and it's such a dad thing, right? Your dad sets the temperature super low and then it's just terrible. But that feels more like, like my parents always leave it so cold in the winter and so hot in the summer. Me too! Oh my god, me too!

Why? Because money, it's a frugal thing. It is a frugal thing. Exactly. It's so annoying. But now they know, like now they're scared of me. So when I'm home, they adjust it. Oh my god, we're like tyrants.

Temperature tyrants. Well, I think they're more like, I don't want to hear this complain. When did it start? Because they, my dad would still really get mad. And then I think two years ago, it's like when they also realized like, we got to make sure she's having a good time. We got to make sure she'll come back.

Yeah, exactly. And one time, okay, there's something about my room and my parents' house, where it's positioned or something, it's frigid in there. It is so cold and they don't know that because they're never in there. It's a guest room. And so one time I think someone was in there and they were like, oh yeah, it's freezing. Sometimes I think there's a problem with me because I'm worse than other women.

This is absurd, but when I got to my hotel room in Austin, immediately I come in. I've never set foot in a hotel room where I've felt that it's not icy cold, and I set it to 80. 80? I know, but even when I set it to 80, it's not even warm enough. I think hotel rooms have a thing where they don't really set it to 80, but 80 is the max, and that's where I go. I'm always, no matter what.

Anyway, it's... Okay, Austin. We went to brunch as we promised. Twice. True. Both were delicious. Laundrette. So good.

That was a place we went last time, so we revisited. Which is fun. That's our place now. Do we say we had a PEN event? We had a PEN event, and if you want to know about it, you should watch our social video. And then we went to Josephine House the next day, which was also, oh my god, so good. I was thinking about, I had a croissant breakfast sandwich.

I was thinking about it again later that day. I wanted more. It looked good. Also when you walk in, there were an array of pastries welcoming you. I had a Nutella morning bun. Okay, I have a question. What's your protocol?

Cause this ranges for people across the board. If you're generally like eating healthy or you're actively trying to eat healthy, if you're on vacation, do you keep that up or do you abandon ship? I definitely abandon ship. I mean, I had a coffee, I had a cappuccino. You had a coffee. Which I haven't done in a long time.

I also drank. Yeah. But it was boy related as you already told us last week. It's a protocol. Yeah. That's how I have to if I'm around a crush. And even I've heard, I don't know, I was reading about this, people are getting off Ozempic for holidays because they want to like take advantage. Because it's kind of part of the whole thing, right?

Like eating, you know, even indulging. Exactly. And it's the first thing you kind of ask people like, oh, what restaurants did you go to? Exactly. And even when I think back at vacations or the first thing I told Rob was like, we went to this amazing brunch place. We had these amazing chips. It's a memory that really stays.

Since memory, I'm fully abandoned ship. I don't even think twice. I want everything if I'm on vacation or if I'm in a different city because it's limited to a dish How many times are you gonna be able to eat this food? You gotta eat it while you can that's true And when it's especially like something that's native to that place like Nutella Morning, but that's just I want that yeah, I want it to I want it right now now. I'm upset I think maybe that we could find an alternative. There's no alternatives.

It was so good. Do you feel like guilty when you eat things that aren't unhealthy if you're breaking? Like a pattern? Yeah. I don't feel guilty, but when I get back, I'm like, oh boy, like now it feels like a restart of being healthy.

Although I don't do that very often. I'm not on a strict regimen very often. Every now and then I'll like slip into that and I can feel myself slipping in and feeling like obsessive. I try to adjust that. Like that's not healthy for me to be hyper obsessive about being perfectly clean or so healthy. So that's not my standard operation mode. It's just every now and then I can find myself

slipping into that. But yeah, right now I'm just like generally healthy. So then going on vacation didn't feel like such a major deal. I mean, we were with Dax, right? And he tries hard. Sometimes he slips on purpose, but he sticks pretty much to his diet. And he was working out.

Yeah, and he works out. That's hard to keep up all of those things when you're traveling. I feel like you have such a healthy relationship with food that I don't even think I've ever seen you try to be careful or try to be... It's really rare. Yeah, I think it's great. I've also never seen you like indulge in it, right? Like I feel like you're just even killed.

I can be pretty moderate with food. I don't know why. I think actually, okay, two things. One, I don't have a scarcity mentality at all with food. As you just said, I got a croissant sandwich, I got a morning bun, I got bacon, like, oh, and we've talked about this before and this is controversial. I am okay wasting.

So I don't order a thing and then feel like, oh my God, if I don't eat at all, I am either a bad person or I didn't have a childhood where you had to like clean plate club I didn't have that so I'm not obsessed with finishing my food and I think that's helpful for me because I still order what I want and I'm not like oh god I want three things so bad and I can't decide and what am I gonna do because I really want three things and I'll order it and then I'll have like a little really want three things and I'll order it and then

I'll have like a little bit of each thing and I'll feel satisfied. So it's because I like am willy-nilly, I think that I'm actually able to be moderate in the eating practice. Does that make any sense? No, it like genuinely does. And before you came in, Rob and I were just talking about like you're at a restaurant and the waiter brings you like an extra dessert or like, and then you're, you can't eat it.

You're not hungry or you're just full or, and I get so much anxiety over it that I'll move the food around. I'll be like, let's put some in my purse. So they don't. Oh my God. So codependent. It's so weird.

So I have like the opposite. I am on a not daily basis, but weekly basis worry about I'll be there and I won't be able to eat or like when I travel for example, but it's not Factual it's definitely an anxiety about being hungry and not having access to food And so I'll eat a lot if I have it or I'll eat more than I need because I'm like in case I do Yeah, so even though it's rare that there's a place where you literally can't get like a, you know, a granola bar. But I get nervous about, I feel like I'm on a plane and there's like a delay and I don't

know how long it's going to last. I'm like, what if I get really, I don't know. It's like, how am I going to get anxious about it? You think about it. Your brain goes there. Yes. Is that from childhood? I don't know.

Did you have clean plate club? Oh, for sure. Yeah. Well, your parents, yeah, like are against waste. I mean, against is not even their position. It's like, like it is your do you think your parents will think I'm a bad person if I meet them? No, no. Because what if we go to a restaurant? No, no, no, no, no. No. Look, if you were at their house, if you didn't finish your plate, that's no one will ever be mad. But if you like throw away a big thing in front of them, they'd be like, wait, no, no, no. No, look, if you were at their house, if you didn't finish your plate, no one will ever be mad. But if you like throw away a big thing in front of them, they'd be like, wait, why are you throwing that out?

But they would never know. No, no, no, no. But what about your parents? Well, I was so picky as a kid. I was so picky. So I think for them, it was a win if I just ate like some amount. Clean Play Club wasn't even on the table for them because it was just not going to happen.

And have I talked about this on here that one time, I have like this very specific memory of one time my mom made jambalaya. Whoa! God! And I hated it. I didn't want it. I didn't like it. I didn't like it. I'm sure it was like hard to make and a big deal.

And we, I sat at that table for like three hours because she was wanting me to eat. I don't even think finish it, but maybe eat like so many bites or something. And we just sat there for so long. And I hate Jambalaya. Like a stare down. I hate it. Can you imagine knowing me now what it was like for her to just like have this stubborn little child? She knew she couldn't win.

She tried. Did she give up? Yeah. They wouldn't make me stay, because I refuse to eat meat. And that was before being a vegetarian was like unacceptable. She knew she couldn't win. She tried. Did she give up? Yeah. They wouldn't make me stay, because I refused to eat meat. And that was before being a vegetarian was like an acceptable lifestyle. And so they would make me stay at the table for out. Like my mom would eventually kind of, but if my mom was out of town or working or whatever.

And I think that's when I became a little bit manipulative. I was like, how do I get out of this? And so I developed like, you know, I need to get what I want. Like I can't just tell the truth. It doesn't work. And so I would create all these like, yeah. I mean, at the beginning I would throw some of the food under the table, but I wouldn't throw it under my seat.

I throw it under my sister's seat. If it was found, she didn't want to eat the food. I ate it. Oh my's seat. If it was found, she didn't want to eat the food. I ate it. Which is evil. So this is like why you're still putting stuff in your purse. It's like so unacceptable to put food, open food in your purse and on the floor and stuff. But I guess since you've been doing it since you were little. We've traced it.

We've traced it. Yeah. It's like it's my go-to and like I have to hide the food. Wow. Wow. We traced it. Yeah, it's like, it's my go-to, and like I have to hide the food. Wow. Wow, wow, wow. It's deep. So I was trying to this, I was whatever, on this, not on date, but like talking to this guy.

And I always like to find out like what their thing is early on. What do you mean? Like their cork? No, what's their wound? Oh, trauma. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, me too. Just because I want to, I want to know if we have compatible wounds, okay?

Yeah, I get it, and I'll usually bring up mine first, and he was like oh, I don't know I guess like he was like I never had like really deep conversations with my parents He kind of grew up not feeling like he could share his feelings wait. Is this your gate boyfriend? No, no, we never even met it was like voice notes on an app But I would obviously refer to my gate boyfriend as my gay boyfriend. That's what I thought. But this sounds like a similar thing that the gay boyfriend said. That's true. Oh, interesting. This is common.

Yeah, it is. I mean, with men. And then he's like, we talked about a lot of stuff. I don't even think it was that bad. But then he goes into this story later about how every Christmas his mom would make this oyster soup. Okay. Like...

Feast of the Seven Fishes. What's that? What's that? That's common for, I think Christmas Eve for Italian families. And each dish has like fish of some sort. I want to host it one day. I'll go and I will eat before. Eat around the fish.

Okay. Sidebar, pin. I think we should get you a tiny bit into fish. I would like to get into fish. Or like salmon. Because you need the protein. I know. I've tried. We're a tiny bit into fish. I would like to get into fish or like salmon Let's cuz you need my protein. I know we're gonna figure it out. Okay. Anyway back. Okay, so it's an oyster stew situation Like it just was slimy and gross for him as a kid and he was like, yeah and then every year I just would eat it and I was like what and he was like, yeah cuz I knew my mom like

Really put a lot of effort into it. So I would eat this thing that was just, but like, okay, it's one thing to eat it anyways, but that your parent knows that you don't like it. But to hide that you don't like something to your own parent, I think is like, I was like, wow, that's interesting. That's a revealing story. Cause I just never, my parents knew exactly how I felt about everything.

I was not trying to protect their feelings at all. If you're like a teenager and you're doing that, I think that's one thing, but if you're like a kid kid, you're thinking about your parents' feelings above your own. You're right. That's a problem. You shouldn't be prioritizing your parents' feelings

when you're a kid. That's very codependent. Exactly. To fully psychoanalyze him based on one story, I think it's like because he couldn't be honest and himself with his parents, he was like, oh, there's certain things, like I don't know how she's gonna receive them

that I don't like it. Like it might break her, she might be too fragile for this. That's rough. And so she thought he liked it so she would make it every year. Oh, sick. Did he learn to love it? No, I don't, that's not.

That didn't seem. Come on. It's his favorite dish now. Well yeah, it's like the jambalaya. Like you're never gonna like it. Even if your taste buds like it, you just can't like it emotionally. I think that's right.

Some people say you don't like olives, you eat 10 olives. I think there's a number. I don't like olives. And then you'll like it. I don't like olives. I don't need to. They taste so bad to me. Me too, but I don't understand because everyone who likes them says they just taste like a salt little salt bomb.

Like really salty. And I love salt. Me too. I love salty foods. I love capers, which is essentially a small olive. But I there's something about it. No, olives taste like diarrhea. Eww! Yeah, it does. That's what I imagine. It's like it has a... Ew, have you tried it?

I haven't. You've had diarrhea? I've had diarrhea many times because Yeah, it does. That's what I imagine. It's like it has a... Ew, have you tried it? I haven't. You've had diarrhea? I've had diarrhea many times because my mom would make it every time. But no... You don't want to hurt her feelings. I don't want to hurt her feelings.

But olives, like, there'll be one little tiny piece in the salad. The whole thing is ruined. I know. Whole thing tastes like it. I agree. But I love olive oil and I love olive oil cake. We love that. Same. I agree. But I love olive oil. And I love olive oil cake. We love that. Same. I really want olive oil cake.

I'll make it. Can you eat it? Gluten-free. Okay, I'll look into it. I think there's actually some good gluten-free olive oil cakes. Like it's kind of one of those that's like still good. So moist. We are supported by Quince. Okay.

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we had to do our thing and you were deciding what to do. And I was like, maybe you should get a massage. And then you're like, maybe I'll get a wax. Oh yeah. So you got to wax. And then that made me think that we should talk about waxing. What do you get done? I get the whole, I don't want any,

if I'm going in there, I don't actually understand why you wouldn't just get the because it's so painful and like, it just, you're all you're spreading. You go like, why just leave a little sliver Just take it all off. But some people don't like the feeling they don't like the look or they feel like it's like a baby Right, but I also get everything. Did you ever not get everything? No same once I started I was done So we're on the same page. I think God There was a really funny poster in the waxing place.

I get the most interesting information of anyone I've ever talked to from people who are waxing me. It's fascinating. So first of all, there was a poster and it said... Wait, my mom's calling me. Don't tell her about me wasting food. I won't, I promise. But I also know she'll love you anyways. Wait, I took a photo of it. I want to read it. Okay, so there's a photo of the back of a man drawn and it says,

yes, manscraping is a thing. Manscaping, you mean? What did I say? Scraping. Oh, scraping. Speaking of manscaping. Hi, you. I didn't think you would have these.

Oh yeah, we got them. We got them good. Hi. Yeah, we're talking about manscaping. Wow, that was the simding binding. Just as you walked in. Yeah. Yeah, if you'd like.

We'll get closer. Get a little closer. Do you manscape? Yeah. And do you do the full thing? I shave my testicle sack, my scrotum, and then I keep the bush at a trim down level. Like a number two on the clippers. And would you ever get it waxed? The, um, the bush at a trim down level. Okay. Like a number two on the clippers.

And would you ever get it waxed? No. Because you're too scared it would hurt so bad? Well just... Too thin? I don't wear a tiny bathing suit and I don't even know that Kristin cares. I don't even know she knows I do that or even cares. Well is it for her or is it for you?

It's for me. I'll give you, give you too much information. So if I don't trim down the top portion, sometimes when I'm like buttoning my pants or I... Oh, ow. I don't want to, you know, I don't want to have an entanglement. Ah, yeah. And...

Like zipping up, ah! Yeah, and why do I do my testicles? I just think it's like... Testicle hair is just not that gorgeous. It looks a little sparse and scraggly. I feel like also it would trap smells. Oh, sure. I just feel cleaner and better about myself if things are shorn. More self-esteem.

Yeah, I have a little more of a spring in my stuff. Okay. A little shorn. Is that off-putting to you gals? Does it trend to Metro or Overly? No. It doesn't bother me. No. I think people should do whatever they want.

I think a big hairy set of balls in the right situation might also seem really attractive. Yeah. I guess it's like women ask men all the time, like, what's your preference? What's your preference? I probably don't have a preference as long as... They have a spring in their stuff? Yeah, as long as they have self-esteem. Then it's fine with me.

But I am a little nervous for you, because that's a lot... You're afraid of cutting? Yes, that's a lot of moving around of stuff and thin skin. I'm gonna be honest with you, I'm constantly shocked that wrinkly, Skin. Stretchy sack can be shaved

and I never ever have a cut. Wow. I think that bodes well to razor technology, disposable razor technology with the four and five blades and the little. Yeah, Venus, shout out. I hope they sponsor us. Yeah, I think that's why it's come a long way

in the head pivots and I think if I were in the 80s with a single blade bic that didn't move, I probably wouldn't do it. But again, I agree with you. I have a routine. It's only in the shower, lots of suds, and I'm just zip, zip, zip, zip, zip, zip, zip, and then I'm like, yeah, no nicks, no nothing. And it's smooth like I had shaved my face. Would you ever consider getting it lasered? If you said down in the gym right now,

there's a laser petition and they're ready to go, sure. But I would not make an effort to drive somewhere and then be in public, splayed out with a stranger, zapping what I would imagine hours and hours of zapping. Right, lots of zaps. Testicles. Did you start doing it as the shaving technology got better? Since when have men been doing this?

Well, look, what also happens is you get older as a man, you just get hairier and hairier and I fucking hate it. Really? I hate it because it's not me. I never had any hair in my chest. Not that that's better or worse, just that's who I was and am. That's my identity. I don't have hair on my shoulders. I was looking in the mirror in Austin. I was like, I have a fucking hair growing out of this. My scar from my surgery. And you know, ultimately the grandpas will get hair

cascading out of the ears and the nose. And I don't know why it just keeps going up and up. So I think I just have a deeper anger towards hair in general now than I ever did. But I imagine, yeah, in my 20s, it was just whatever God gave me. You'd think the opposite though, because your hair dies, that's why it turns gray. So it's weird that it is growing, but you're right.

It's growing out of their ears and stuff. But women, I don't think do. I think it like fins, it like stops. What about facial hair on women? I feel like I see a lot more grannies with a like ear than I do. I think there's a hormonal thing that happens for women. Yeah, after menopause.

But do you think maybe they're just, they don't care to groom it anymore? Well, I think there's like so many variables, right? A, they might not care to groom it, they're not trying to impress on it. B, their eyesight might not be what it was. C, less time in front of the mirror. D, post-menopausal hormone shift.

E, they're maybe more anemic as they get older and the body knows to make them warmer and get more insulation. I mean, they could be a biological component. Wow, wow, wow, wow. Lots of options. Yeah. All right, well this is. Well, thanks for weighing in on the man escaping hope I didn't lose anyone or turn anyone off Any of the methods I'm using, you know, all you can be is honest. Yeah. Yeah. All right. Love you guys. Bye

Yeah, okay. So but you were reading this this That was faster. Yes. I mean a poster and I was like, cause I'm always interested in like, what's going on with men and the trends? Cause she told me more men are coming in and sorry, I didn't even finish reading the poster. It said, yes, manscaping is a thing. Book your partner's appointment today. So clearly they're trying to get women to it, right? Oh God.

Well, they're trying to make money, right? I know, but that would be so uncomfortable. If you booked an appointment for your boyfriend or husband or partner, and then you went home and you're like, guess what? I have a surprise for you. I booked you an appointment at my waxing studio. They get offended. What's crazy is that she said, also the reverse happens, where men book appointments for their

girlfriend. No, no. That's unacceptable. I think that never should happen ever. Ever. That is so bad. Unless I ask you to take it off my plate. Right. Exactly. But it has to be directed by the woman.

And what was really funny is she said that men were far more likely to stop the treatment in the middle of it. Like... Oh, not shocked. Because it's too painful. It fucking hurts like hell. The first time I made my friend come in with me, because I was like 18 or something, and she had to hold my cheeks open.

Like, because I physically couldn't listen to what the waxing lady was even telling me. Wait, wait, stop. Yeah, yeah. Hold on. Your friend had to hold your butt cheeks even telling me. Wait, wait, stop. Hold on. Your friend had to hold your butt cheeks? No, those cheeks, my butt cheeks. You know when you like go on your stomach at the end? I mean, depending on how they do it,

you have to kind of like spread them wide. And my friend had to like literally... No, Liz! And I screamed so much uncontrollably. Like I did... And there was men literally getting their haircuts. It was like in one of these cheap places in Montreal. My friend and I walked out I screamed so much uncontrollably. Like I did. And there was men literally getting their haircuts. It was like in one of these cheap places in Montreal.

My friend and I walked out and like all these people. Oh, this is... Oh my God. I thought I was dying. Do you remember the first time? Like the first time you're like, I didn't know that pain like this was possible. You think it's going to rip off. Yeah. Or you don't know. Maybe it did. Like you don't know until after and you're like this was possible. You think it's gonna rip off. Or you don't know, maybe it did.

Like you don't know until after and you're like looking at it and you're like, oh wow, all the skin's still there, but I'm shocked. Cause it just feels like they're just ripping it. Every, literally every time I go, I think why haven't I lasered yet? Why? But we know why.

Cause I asked her about it and I got confirmation that if you haven't had kids yet, it's better to wait. Because I asked her, I was like, do you laser? She was like, in her early 30s. And she was like, no, no, I want to wait. And like, that's, I recommend. So it's not, it's not that. So where are our inclinations right?

It's scary to put a laser. That close. Yeah. To your reproductive organs. Yeah. Okay. So that's waxing. Now you have been waiting to tell me, because we were supposed to talk about this at brunch, but you said you wanted

to wait till the podcast. You had some plane events. I had a plane. Yes. I had a major plane event and I didn't want to tell you. So on my way to Austin, I am at the airport. I don't know about you, but I look at people who are like organized at airports. I'm like all over the place. I'm late. I have literally four minutes before they close the, cause there was just a lot of traffic.

And then I'm also realizing like, oh, I have to take my medication and it's in my carry-on. So I have to like take it out. And so I put my phone next to me and I'm fumbling around, taking my medication out. And then I check my luggage on time. And then I walk away from the checking and I'm like, can't find my phone next to me and I'm fumbling around taking my medication out. And then I check my luggage on time and then I walk away from the checking and I'm like, can't find my phone. And I'm like, okay, don't panic.

It's definitely somewhere. I'm like looking at it, I'm like, it's definitely not in my bag. Oh my god, this is stressful. And my flight is leaving in 40 minutes or whatever. I'm like, okay, stay calm. Go back to where you went when you were moving your stuff around and moving the medication like that you probably just left it there. And then I go and it was this outdoor check-in

and the guy was like, I was like, did you find a phone? Like, did you? And he's like, no, if I'd found it, I would have returned it already. And then I'm like, okay. So then I'm starting to like really panic. And so I go to the Delta Lounge. Your favorite place.

Grab a martini. Look for a boyfriend. Oh my God. So as the Delta woman, I'm like, I have lost my phone and she was like, well, there's a loss and found another. But then she also was like, do you have the find my phone app on your, you do still have your computer? And I was like, oh yeah, okay, great.

I'll do that. And so then I like set up my laptop, I'm like connecting to the wifi, and then I'm seeing my phone moving around. And I'm like, and I, because I don't know the layout of the airport, I go back to the woman, and I'm like, where's this? And she was like, oh, that's like, it was all like all the restaurants, something like that.

And they were clearly like at the gate and moving around with my phone. And so then she goes, go to the police there and tell them someone has my phone and they're moving with it. Oh my God. And I'm freaking out. Then I still have access to texts on my laptop.

And so Simone had been texting with me. And so I'm like, can you call my phone? And then she's like, it's not even ringing. And I'm like, this person, like they've stolen my phone. And so then I'm like at the police station or whatever. There is no police. No one is there. And I'm just waiting and waiting and minutes go by, but it feels like hours. I email my bank because also all my credit cards were on my phone.

Oh, like in all of them. And so then I'm canceling my credit cards. I'm talking to my assistant. I'm like, yes. Oh my god. So then I'm canceling my credit cards. I'm talking to my sister. I'm like, can you cancel this card? Like, and then I'm also like, I'm going to South by, I'm not going to have any credit cards or phone. So I'm just definitely having a horrible day. And so then I'm go through TSA. And then I'm like, okay, I'm going to try and find these people because I can again, still see that they're where they are. And so then I'm walking and they're at my gate. And so I go to my gate, I'm like walking around with my laptop, you can make a sound like ding ding. And so I'm doing the sound and

I'm like looking at people so suspiciously like everyone's like, what? And I'm not hearing the ding. Like I can't hear the ding. And then as I'm sitting there in my gate, totally defeated and dinging, I see my nemesis standing at my gate who's going to be on my flight. Like this is like a friend. Wait, you have a nemesis? And I'm like, of course she's here. Like she's probably going to South by and I don't even have a phone I can look at. Like, you know, at this point, I'm just, it's just so sweaty and crazy. I get on my flight, I'll just have to buy a new phone

when I get to Austin and like use Venmo or like borrow money from Monica. So I can eat. Oh my God, but how are you gonna get to the, I guess you get in the cab or something? Well, everything was like up in the air. Like I was like, I don't even know how I'm gonna, you know. And so then I land.

Oh my God, you do this whole fight without the phone. I do this whole fight without my phone. I'm reading Charles Duhigg's book. Thank you, Charles, and your episode was so interesting. I have the book. And so I read the book. I just had kind of accepted my and I was in a middle seat too, which it was just one of those.

And so then I land. I grabbed my check luggage and I stole my own phone. Like my phone was in my check luggage the entire time. And that's why it was moving from terminal to terminal. Stop. Stop. Are you? Oh my gosh.

Oh my god. For nothing. Oh my gosh. Oh my god. No. For nothing. And now none of my credit cards work. But I'm gonna get them all, you know, reset. Oh my god. It's like one of those weird... Because you're so grateful, actually.

Yes. But also you feel like an idiot. Yeah. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. You stole your own phone. You're tracking your fact. It's moving from terminal to terminal.

Somebody definitely stole. They're at my gate. Did you think maybe your nemesis stole it? Did you have that thought? It didn't go through my mind. At that point, it just was like, there was so much happening that I was just trying to just avoid one more. How did you find, do you open?

Oh yeah, and by the way, my nemesis wasn't on my flight. It was someone that looked exactly like her, but, but, but. She's kind of a known person in her field. And there was a friend of mine that was on the flight. I was telling her the story, not knowing that she would know who that is. And she was like, oh, I know who you're talking about. And I thought that was her too. There was a person, when I'm telling you, not even double, like same clothes, same style

and like a very distinct body type and ethnicity. Like every week. Really? It was insane. How do you know it wasn't her? Because when we were getting off the flight, she was so close to me, which again, I was like, she's going to come and talk to me. Then I was like, no, that's not like from the side.

I could be, she also had a mask. And then once I saw like her eye profile, I was like, oh no, that's, but it was the same person. Wow. Maybe that was a rip in the space time continuum. Maybe it was. Okay. So how do you know you opened your luggage as soon as you got it?

Well, I was texting with my other friend, Liran, from my computer. I think I was trying to get people to help me, right? Like, I was like, what do you do? Like, is there another program I don't know about? And so I text him, I can't find my phone and like, it's moving from terminal to terminal. And then he was like, regime. Stop. It's so weird. It says it's on my flight. Like I can't, but there's no dings. But okay. Can I say something that is important

if this ever happens to anybody? The map is a little off. So it really showed that they were literally at PF Chang's or whatever. Like it shows that they were like having a drink. Like it didn't show that they were outside Which is probably where my luggage actually was so sometimes it can be a little off But then the dead giveaway was like it'll show you the path that the person took it Didn't show that they went it from the inside it showed that they went from the outside so that Should have been an indicator you weren't thinking like couldn't have been underground Often there are like tunnels and stuff that they move the luggage through.

That's probably right. So it was under the PFT. Yeah, probably. Oh, I see. Anyway. Wait a minute. So, okay, wait, what did he say to do? He just said, it might be in your check luggage.

Regina does that all the time. But I've never done anything like that. How did that even happen? So I, now looking back, I think that actually it was smart because I didn't put my phone to the side. I think I was like, oh, don't put it down to the side because you might forget it or someone will take it. I put it in with my meds. I like put it in the bag and then took out the meds

and then just closed the bag. Oh, okay. I think that's what happened. Yeah, I could see that. Do you have a purse? I do. You've lost your phone before. No.

Oh, I mean in my house all the time. But not in the world. Have I lost it in the world? I'm sure I have. Well, my phone was stolen in London. Right. I don't think I've lost it, lost it in the world? I'm sure I have. Well, my phone was stolen in London. I don't think I've lost it, lost it. But I've definitely had to ding it. And it's like in my car, like that'll happen.

Okay, in your car. Yeah. It's just I have to be... My dad would say this all the time, like when I was young, because when I was young, it was a nightmare. We used to lose things all the time. Every bus pass, every wallet, every key. Once I just left my purse, literally, like, I was taking the subway

and I just put my purse down on a bench and I walked in and took the subway without my purse. Liz! ADHD, everyone has it now, but I really did before. It sounds like you had it pre-everyone having it. Yeah, and my dad would be like, you have to create mental checklists. Every time you go from one place to the other,

you have to say, do I have my keys? My, you know, before then we didn't have phones, but like, and that's what I need to do. I should have like, before moving from one, from the, you know, baggage thing location, or again, never put it in my luggage ever again. I mean, that was... You know what's funny is everyone's brains are so different.

Like everyone loses stuff and everyone can be absent minded and feel rushed and frazzled and shit happens, I mean, that was... You know what's funny is everyone's brains are so different. Everyone loses stuff and everyone can be absent minded and feel rushed and frazzled and shit happens all the time. But the idea that I would need a mental checklist, like I would need to tell myself to do it, I'm automatically doing that all the time. Too much. It's like every five minutes I'm doing the checklist. Wow.

Like double checking and triple checking and to the other extreme, right? Where it's like, do I have my boarding pass? Five minutes later, do I still have my boarding pass? Do I still have it? Like it's, so it's so funny. People are just so different. I would love if I could be inside your brain.

Just for like- Me too, for one day if we could swap, that would be so interesting. It would be fun. It would be such a cool device. I would swim. You could swim. And I would like eat three bites of a donut and then leave it there.

Wouldn't that be like such a great tool to also have empathy? Yeah, just like... Sure. And having ADHD, again, everyone has it now, so it's fine. And sorry, not to diminish anyone who has it. But yeah, it can impact has it now, so it's fine. And sorry, not to diminish anyone who has it, and it's a, but yeah, it can impact your relationships basically, right? Like I see it with my parents.

Like my mom has very advanced ADHD where, I mean, the tomato juice story, right? That will happen. Booby traps, that's what my dad calls our house, a house full of booby traps. They're just waiting for him to like, you know, walk into. It's the biggest issue in their relationship. That would drive me.

Of course. Absolutely. What is your mom's sign? She's Pisces too. She is. Yeah. She's such a Pisces. Yeah.

Oh my gosh. She's also almost your birthday. Are you excited? I am. I am. I'm excited for your party. I'm excited too. It's my first day party.

That'll be fun. I prefer a day party. Me too. I actually, I was so inspired by you doing for your party. I'm excited too. It's my first day party. That'll be fun. I prefer a day party. Me too. I actually, I was so inspired by you doing a day party. Oh yeah. I really liked your party and I was like, this is great. Day parties feel mature. Oh, tell me more.

Night parties feel young and day parties feel mature because you can still have like tons of fun. You can drink, you can do whatever. But then you're like home at a reasonable hour and it just feels adult. You can sleep, you can get your 10 to 15 hours and you're not like completely dead the next day. It's evolved.

35 and over, it's day parties. I love it. Cause I had, my 36 was like a rager and I was like, I don't know. You grew out of it. I think I did. Support for Zynqt comes from ZocDoc. I feel like there's a cold going around.

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Zocdoc.com slash synced. Okay. Well, that was a great update. It was a great plan event. I'm really glad you had it. Okay. Can I ask you maybe to not keep your credit cards in your phone? I mean, I understand the convenience or do you have multiple credit cards? Keep one out.

You have to. Yeah, I used to and I need to go back to that because one of them I only need for the lounge but because I'm in the lounge so often. No, but honestly it was just like annoying every time. Or sometimes I would forget it at home. So that's why I like started keeping it with my phone. But yeah, I need a better-

I need to keep one extra like safety credit card just in your purse. Like just have it in your purse always. That one doesn't move. Okay. Now let's do some questions. We're going to do some questions. Oh, when we tease some of these.

Okay. My husband baby talks and I really don't like it. We're going to do some questions. Oh, when we tease some of these, okay. My husband baby talks and I really don't like it. This is from Eliza. Hi Monica and Liz, love the show. I have a question about baby talk and relationships. My husband and I have been together for three years and more recently I have begun to find when he speaks in baby talk annoying and a huge turnoff.

I have told him before that I do not like it, but sometimes it seems like he doesn't know he's even doing it because after he's like, Oh, was I, I can't tell if it's some kind of defense mechanism or just something some people tend to do more of, but is this a deal breaker? I can't tell help. No, it's not. It's not a deal breaker. I don't think your husband, you think she should get a divorce. I, I don't think. Your husband, you think she should get a divorce? I don't think she should get a divorce over baby talk necessarily. But I think probably most married people

and anyone in any kind of relationship can relate to once something annoys you, it gets ramped up to 100 and you can't unsee it, unhear it. It can get out of control how bad it feels. But don't you think that's like on her to figure out? I mean, I think she can say, it makes me feel. Make it about you. Like it makes me feel like a baby or something

or not equal. Even if that's not true, that's just how you should present it. Right, creating a wider political reason. I like that. Well, cause if you say, I don't like that you're doing this, or I don't like this tick of yours,

like that's just gonna make him upset. So you have to make it about you and you can say that. And then he will probably slip up because people do, they have these ticks and then they don't know they're doing it. But I think you have to sit with, that's something he does. I'm going to try to minimize it as much as possible, but it is going to come up and I have to figure out anger tools. Or amp it up.

If he starts talking in baby talk, just go like, like do it like really caricature. No, you do it like, but like caricature it. No. Oh. Cause then he'll notice that he's doing it and then it's still a joke. You are very passive aggressive.

No. I don't think that's gonna work. What if he's been like, oh, it's cute. Oh, if he likes it. And you can't say, I don't like it, if then you do it. Like you have to be direct. Yeah. Okay.

Wait, you're saying just mock him back? No, not mock him, but be like, because I don't think he's realizing what it sounds like. And so maybe he just needs to know, hear what it sounds like. But he obviously doesn't mind it. Also, this is a problem. It's been so many years and this I think is common, where you don't hear, something doesn't start bothering you until it's deep in and then they'll be like I've always done

We always talk like yeah, like what's going on? You don't like me anymore You're not attracted to like it becomes right even though it's a small thing It takes on a meaning for the other person Which is why I think just presented like this is starting to bother me and I know it's my issue. I feel like this, when that happens, I'm wondering if we can like not do that anymore. I like that. Cause then if he does it, you can be like, ugh.

And then he'll be like, oh, I did it. He'll start to dial it back if he knows he's not supposed to do it. But I definitely don't think you should get divorced over it. Do you think she should get divorced over it? That's insane. To your point, sometimes in relationships, I feel like there's the big values and the big things that are important, but those small things can add up and grow in like, I dated someone who just the way he said water, like he said water. He would say water.

And I didn't break up with him because of that, but like it was a main... Okay, what is... You just didn't like the sound of it. What bothered you about it? If you really get deep into it, like what was upsetting? Because we all say words differently. I mean, you do.

But... You say a lot of words weird. I mean that in a kind way, like we're all doing that. So what about that? But see, like you don't, well, maybe it is, but it's not annoying to you when I say things the wrong way. But if it did, it would be because there's a bigger thing here.

Exactly, so that's what I'm asking. What's the bigger thing? Is it for be because there's a bigger thing here. Exactly, so that's what I'm asking. What's the bigger thing? Is it for you because you also do it? Is it that you feel embarrassed for them? I think there was a little bit of that, but no, it was, I'm an, I, you're annoying. What we find annoying is not changeable. Like it's, well, but it is though.

I think you have to figure out what is happening that I'm so annoyed. Sure, because it's exactly what you just said. I think you have to figure out what is happening that I'm so annoyed. Sure. Because it's exactly what you just said. I'm not annoyed by that. So it's not a universal. Annoyances are not universal.

They're specific. 100%. So there's a reason. Yeah. Things that you think are cute that I do, other people are like, that's so annoying. And so it's all in the eye of the beholder. It is. It is. But if you want to make your marriage work,

like she's already in our marriage. And remember that everyone has annoying things. Somebody else is going to have another annoying thing. But if it's a symptom of a bigger thing, again, I'm just trying to find the note behind the note. Is it just a baby talk or is it symptomatic of a wider difference between the both of you? And if it's not, then yeah, it'll be fine.

But if it is, maybe divorce. Oh my God. No, no, no, no, no, no. Or again, what you're saying, which is think about why it's annoying to you. Yeah, figure that out. Because that might cure it for one, or then you'll be able to communicate it better.

First of all, personally, I hate being annoyed. I'm annoyed all the time. I have such a quick trigger for annoyance. And I always end up feeling like, what's wrong with me? Like, why can't I just fucking be fine with it? No one else is doing this. Why am I so critical? So that's for me to figure out, not on other people.

That's true. Okay, well anyway not on other people. That's true. Okay, well anyway, that was great. That was a good question. Okay, here's a doozy. 25 year old female hasn't orgasmed yet. This is from Anonymous. Hi, Liz and Monica. I'm a 25 year old female

and I've never experienced an orgasm. I've been sexually active since I was 15, but never really prioritized my pleasure in my heterosexual relationships. I'm an anxious person and constant over-thinker and find myself in my head most of the time when I'm having sex. When I was younger, I feel like I would try to act

like what I see in movies, but I've been able to be more authentic in the moment with my fiance. Even though I really want to, I just don't know how to get there. Am I broken? I know it's not in the cards for a lot of women, but I just want more out of my sex life.

I wanted to ask this question in case other women are also struggling to find empowerment in their own sexuality. That's a great question. I think a lot of people are in this position. One million percent. One, I'm going to recommend Vanessa Marin. Follow her.

She does great, great work in this space and she knows so much more about it than we do. So, I mean, it's her life. So, I would look into her and, like, read some of her stuff, because I think she has tips and tricks, and she would probably say, it's not that you can't have an orgasm. It's the way in which, you know,

you're engaging in this relationship, or also, are you masturbating? Like, you need to be doing that. Don't rely on the sex with your fiance to be the way you get pleasure. Yeah. Cause that might never happen, I don't know. I mean, I've never had an orgasm just with sex.

Right, that's really common. Most women don't. Exactly. And they say it's the golden trio, right? Like orgasm is most likely to happen with women if you have three things, which is vaginal penetration, clitoral stimulation, and deep kissing is one of them too. And those three things combined, right?

So it's very different from men, right? Vanessa on our episode said a really, you know, it seems obvious thing, but it's not. Our clitoris is the equivalent to the penis. So intercourse is stimulating their clitoris, which is why it always works for them. So if we're ignoring our version of that, it's highly unlikely that we're going to orgasm. So that has to get stimulated. It's equivalent to the male's penis gonna orgasm. So that has to get stimulated. It's equivalent to the male's penis getting stimulated. So make sure that part is getting tended to.

And I was saying about this last night. I don't know if I should say it. Say it. It's like really extreme. Not extreme, but okay. I don't know why I got shy all of a sudden. Oh my God. No, I was using my toy, my vibrator last night.

Me too. Oh my God. So synced. And I, well, I am on my period and I do feel like I'm always more horny on my period and around it. And obviously that's hormonal. But I was like, I feel like when I'm using this, I can just never stop orgasming. That's a weird thing to say, but I feel like I can just like go on and on and on and on and on and on and on and it won't it won't stop. Unless I stop it.

Yeah, but that's how our bodies work. Right. We can just go on and on and on and on and on. I know. I believe that going down on women, if you are a straight man, should be mandatory because that's how most women come. So if you're not doing that or you're not good at it

or you're not like trying to figure out how to be good at it and what she likes, right? If she's not good at it or you're not like trying to figure out how to be good at it and what she likes right, or even good at it, just being in touch. You're not a good sexual partner. Like you're not having sex right. And there's a really good book that every guy should read. And I know if a guy has read this book based on how he is in bed. Oh, is this Emily Nagoski's book?

No, it's called She Comes First. Oh. By David... is in bed. Oh, is this Emily Nagoski's book? No, it's called She Comes First by David Alan Grayer. Sure. That sounds right. No, that's not it. Ian Kerner. Ian Kerner. That book is a seminal book that every man, again, if we lived in a world where healthy masculinity was the norm, maybe not dads buying it for their sons, but like some male role model would buy it for every guy, which is like the way he says sex is dessert. Cunninglingus is the main act. So I also started orgasming in my late 20s.

I dated men who knew this. First I'm going to make her cum, and then we have sex. And sex is just like the sprinkles and then the guy comes. But when guys don't treat it that way, that's when we don't want to do it Oh, wait a minute. So you weren't using a vibrator before that. I wasn't I Only started using vibrators like in my 30s Wow It's crazy and I would very much recommend she also use vibrator with her fiance exactly Yeah, cuz that's also like the easiest way to help with that. Again, clitoral stimulation while you're having intercourse.

But like intercourse is not the main thing. It's the main thing for men. It is. It just has become the main thing for all of us. But it's like, no, like it's so rare. And again, in movies, like we're talking about poor things, like it's great. But the fact that she's coming from sex and intercourse to me is so unrealistic.

Yeah, except I do think like when you're first having sex, there's also this emotional component and like an excitement level that I think your brain does release some chemicals during these like first times that fade out. And then it's not as exciting and you aren't as stimulated. And intercourse is great. Sex is great. When it's not great is when you're doing it in order to achieve orgasm.

I mean, like that's the way, like I just find that that's hard. Yes, okay. I think vibrator, start reading some books and stuff on some of this and then talk to your fiance about paying more attention to your clit. Yeah.

And buying that book. I think that's a good book to buy for a guy. Just order it on Amazon and anonymous. And you can say, you can say like, okay, I heard on a podcast. So it doesn't have to be like, I'm intervening. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Cool. This is funny. Husband bought a belt bag for himself. This is from anonymous. Belt bag? This is from anonymous.

Hello. Love my Wednesdays listening to Sync'd. I think this is just a quick question. I'm a cis female and I've had a belt bag for years and love it. My husband, a cis male, just bought one online for himself. Gray color. Weird or not, we would definitely be matching one out in public. LOL."

A belt bag. What is that? Is that like a fanny pack? Yeah, it's a fanny pack. It's a fancy name for a fanny pack. Maybe she's British. Yeah, maybe. This fanny pack means something else.

I don't think it's weird. I actually think it's cute and fun. I think it's British. Yeah, maybe. Or standing back and something else. I don't think it's weird. I actually think it's cute and fun. I think it's fun. Yeah. And I also think if in your head it leans a little feminine, I think it's awesome that he's wearing one and like doesn't give a fuck. I'm pro men wearing fanny packs. Because also it means that we don't have to carry all the stuff.

Exactly. So he has the gum. He has the Kleenex. It shows a level of confidence. I like it. Yeah. Me too. And matching, whatever.

I love matching. That's cute. I think it's so fun. Would you want to do it with your boyfriend? All I want to do is match. I would die. Really? I love...

Out at dinner? Wherever. We're going out for coffee. Do you mean compliments or do you mean wearing the exact same outfit? Wearing the exact same outfit or like similar slash comp, you're complimentary but you're becoming each other a little bit.

Oh, no. I'm not for becoming each other. I think that's dangerous. But stylistically, there's something like a synchronization that happens, a syncing of sorts. Oh, a syncing. Of styles. Well, okay, here's what I'll say.

Some people are so anti-matching. It's like if someone comes down the stairs, it's like, oh, fuck, you gotta change, or I gotta change because we can't match. I'm not like that. But I'm not actively trying to match anyone. Got it. Well, you're one of a kind.

You don't. No, everyone's one of a kind. You're limited a dish. You want to be your own. But I don't care. Like, if me and you are going to coffee later, if we're meeting at three and then you show up in this outfit, I'll laugh. I won't be upset by that.

But I'm also not going to say, Liz, okay, at three, wear this outfit. So before a night out, you don't ever like text, like, what are you gonna wear? Like, what are you gonna wear happens, but that's more of like, what tier, what are we wearing? Like, are we being casual? Are we being fancy? But it's not like, tell me what you wear,

and then I'm in a replicate. Well, not replicate, but compliment. So that it goes... Oh, yeah, no. No. Honestly, I just haven't thought about it that much. I haven't thought about matching that much. Maybe because I have a sister, older sister.

Our parents did that a little bit. Not often. They weren't like psychotic, but it was probably because I wanted whatever she had and they would buy a smaller size. I mean, I think it's cute. We have matching robes that's for our cover art and that's so cute.

I feel like if we went to the pool or something and we wore those, that's cute. I'm fine with that. Am I? Yeah. Yeah, I'm fine with that. Also, you're fine with that is not this, like I would be excited.

Exactly. That's, you are like dying to do that. And I'm like, sure. I guess, I guess it's fine. Yeah, I think sometimes you've even texted like, let's wear matching to this. Oh, probably. And I'm like, I don't want to. With every...

I want to wear this today. Yeah. Okay. Well, anyway, we think it's fine. We think it's cute. So cute. If it bothers you enough, I would say you have to change up your bag, unfortunately. Because if he likes his fanny pack, then he likes his fanny pack.

I think we're probably out of time, but we have some other good ones. We have a lot of anonymous ones, which are fun, because those are like... Spicy. Spiced. Okay, well, we'll be back next week with more fun questions. Hopefully no more plain events. No. You've had two plain events in a row.

Oh, what I was going to say is what I was really, really hoping would happen with the story is you're tracking, where's the phone? You're at the gate. You're looking around. Your gate boyfriend's there holding your phone. where's the phone? You're at the gate, you're looking around, your gate boyfriend's there holding your phone. That's the meet queue that I'm looking for. That's what I'm telling you. There's multiple parts of this meet queue

and this could have been one, it's not. That's okay. But it was close. It was an opportunity. I cog blocked myself. Okay, but I love that. TBD, it's gonna be something else. It's gonna be something else. It's going to be something else.

It's going to come out from left field. Next week we should probably talk about Adam Grant has an article that is about how astrology is defunct or whatever. I haven't read it yet. He sent it to me. Apparently, a lot of people told him to send it to me. So I'm going to read it in between now and then in you as well. I read it and we will chat about it next week. Stay tuned. Stay tuned. Bye!