Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard - Synced: Ross's Hot Dogs

Episode Date: May 15, 2024

In this episode of Synced Monica and Liz dig into the man versus bear debate, they check in about last week's date, and share important sidewalk rules. They answer listener questions on the pressures get plastic surgery while aging and if/when one should pee in a pool. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Hi! I love this sweater. Thanks. Is it really like an OG? I think so. I got it at the Rose Bowl Food Market. Ooh. We were just talking about the man versus bear. The man versus bear. I was like, do you think Monica hasn't seen it? Well, I saw you did a newsletter. OK, so you know about it. What were you saying? But do you know what the thing is, like the prompt? No.
Starting point is 00:00:38 It was like an internet trend. Oh, what was it? Where this guy made this video and he asked these women on the street, would you rather be alone in the forest with a bear or a man? Oh, what was it? Where this guy made this video and he asked these women on the street, would you rather be alone in the forest with a bear or a man? Oh, fuck. That's a hard question. Right? You would think it's an easy one and then you start thinking. It should be an easy one.
Starting point is 00:00:56 It should. What would be your answer? I guess I'd probably rather have a man in the forest, because I could at least use manipulative tactics. But on a bear, they're just going to maul you. You can't manipulate a bear into... Exactly. ...submission.
Starting point is 00:01:16 Respect. Interesting. What would you pick or what did you pick? I think it's a great question. And first you want to say, of course, a man, but then you think through the options. And I was oh no like 100% a bear because at least with a bear I'll die and with the man it's like who knows what's gonna happen. You'd rather definitely die than be kidnapped and put into someone's basement. So we're first certain this is a bad dude.
Starting point is 00:01:42 Well I think it's the unknown. Like it might be. But exactly. So you think it's a strong enough possibility that it's a bad dude that you would pick that? Or that he turns into a bad dude. We're alone for an unlimited amount of time. I think it's not just like an afternoon. If I'm stuck there, I think the bear. I think the bear would be less of a threat.
Starting point is 00:02:05 Interesting. So do you think all men will turn evil? I don't think all men. But all bears will? No, a lot of bears... Okay, I love that you didn't even know about it. This is how much I love your brain. It's been like a whole internet discourse, right?
Starting point is 00:02:21 And there's been like many levels of it. So the first level was sort of this conversation. Then there was another level from women who work with bears or like, and women being like, I've encountered, you know, hundreds of bears in my life and I've only been attacked once by a man. Stuff like that of just acknowledging sort of the difference in the likelihood and bear experts
Starting point is 00:02:40 or natural wildlife experts speaking to that there are people who are attacked by bears every year, but it's not actually that frequent. That's because the encounters aren't frequent. No, but even proportionally speaking, like the fact that one in four women will be assaulted, it's not one in four people who interact with a bear will be assaulted.
Starting point is 00:03:00 But I don't think that's exactly an appropriate analogy because the women are interacting with a ton of men and one bear Yeah, but it's the same proportion with the amount of I mean it's not the same proportion because the quantity is actually different Yeah, yeah, I think if it was pure numbers, then I think you're right, but it's proportionally speaking So you have four guys and four bears? There's one of the guys that's gonna assault you and it's not one in four bears. It's gonna assault you it's like lower I can know that I mean, lower. How can they know that? I mean, according to wild life.
Starting point is 00:03:27 There's no way to know that. Well, just so far, in the same way that we examine and observe men and like, you know, human beings, the likelihood of it happening. But again, to me, that's actually less important. What's really important is sort of the idea that like, I'd rather die at the hands of a bear because then it'll just be done rather than like whatever unknown I'm facing with a man and sort of just like how omnipresent the threat of sexual assault is I think for women. Yeah, it's everywhere. Right.
Starting point is 00:03:55 It is funny because often when we'd have these conversations, I do think it's an interesting role reversal because I don't invite very many like strange men into my life. But you do. So it's kind of funny that you'll say you'll rather die when you kind of spend a life putting yourself in this forest all the time. That's true. And I don't. So I should be more on the side of the bear.
Starting point is 00:04:16 You should be more on the side of the bear. Also, so many men have been upset about this. I would be. Of course. I feel that this is a little extreme, personally. It's so interesting. Don't get me wrong. Right. been upset about this? I would be. Of course. I feel that this is a little extreme personally. It's so interesting. Don't get me wrong.
Starting point is 00:04:27 Right. So a lot of men are upset and saying, you know, women hate men. And I was like, no, we actually love men. Like the fact that we are willing to still, again, I'll meet up with strange men all the time in an attempt to connect and to be in a relationship with a man, despite a lot of negative experiences with men and the sort of threat that's over all of us. So to me, it's like, this shows how much women believe in men and love men, that we're willing to do it, regardless.
Starting point is 00:04:52 Does that make sense? Yeah, I think so. So I'm afraid of men, but I still will, like, take a risk with them because I love them. Yeah. So I think the truth is you would pick the man. No, I would pick the bear, but I'll still... I'm willing to put up with the risk of being hurt by a man to connect with a man.
Starting point is 00:05:13 Women have been asking their husbands if they have a daughter, like, who would you rather be in for us be alone with our daughter? A man or a bear. And that's when you see a lot of men again do the like actual calculation. Yeah. Anyway, I love this kind of stuff. You don't think you could just, like, manipulate him? The man? How would you manipulate...
Starting point is 00:05:31 I mean, also, I guess, like, are we trying to get out? Or are we just, like, there? Because if we're just there, I feel like we'd just be like, I guess we're together now. Oh, you would... Your chances of survival are higher with another person, in general. So I think you could sort of logically be like,
Starting point is 00:05:50 time to team up now. Like if you're stranded on an island. Do you mean sexually? I guess probably. Okay. I'd probably be like, if I'm literally here forever, this is the person. This is it, wow. And then they probably wouldn't be assaulting me
Starting point is 00:06:06 because I've just like, we'll be together now. You're my would-see husband. A lot of people were in relationships assaulting each other. But you would be consenting. Yeah, I would just like be like, I'm consenting now to this scenario. Okay, so you would force yourself to like him. I think. Yes.
Starting point is 00:06:22 That's a strategy. It's like a self-manipulation a little bit too. It is to like survive. I mean, a lot of people self-manipulate to survive. Pretty much all of us do. I mean, come on. In 100%. That's a way to do it.
Starting point is 00:06:34 And what would be a non-starter? What would you not be able to force yourself to like? Like if he was... What if he has a smell? Ugh. God. You'd probably like start has the smell? Ugh. God. You'd probably like start liking the smell. That's what I bet. I do wonder that if you made a full decision, like this is who it's going to be, there's
Starting point is 00:06:55 no other options in this life. At that point, you don't even want to be with someone you have to. So it is different than like our life, obviously. So I bet you would start liking the smell. I bet the pheromones would start just smelting together. Wow. We could probably do that in life. Just make a hard decision.
Starting point is 00:07:17 Should we pretend like we're in the woods when we're on date? It's just hard because there's much more than just that one person. It's true. I mean, I've really tried. You know this. I really put in the effort to try and like people that I don't like.
Starting point is 00:07:31 Yeah. Well, it's hard when you can be without someone. Like we don't need people for survival. I mean, we need people, but we don't need a partner for survival in 2024 Los Feliz. Yes. But 2024 would. Yeah. What? 2024 Woods. Yeah. Only one other being.
Starting point is 00:07:48 That's a different scenario. I mean, it's sort of like how it used to be in the olden days. You just couldn't divorce. Like, you were stuck with a person you hated. What you had. And you're like, all right, let's do this. Have you thought any more about our dates since we've been on it? So much.
Starting point is 00:08:04 Do you have updates? Do you have updated thoughts? A lot of people were excited about it. I feel like a lot of people were texting. I got annoyed after a while. I was like, I don't really want to... I've already told that story. I agree. So many texts in the morning. How was it? How was it? How was it? I just wanted to like send everyone a video.
Starting point is 00:08:20 But no, it was sweet. Okay, so I did learn new Intel. Ooh. Which I thought was sweet or like funny. Which is that the LinkedIn guy, the main guy, not the main guy, but the guy who, you know, found the other. He went to dinner a few days before our double date with my friend who set us up. And he said that he was like nervous. Like basically my friend was like, did you think the other guy was good looking?
Starting point is 00:08:46 Like were you into the other guy? And I was like, no, like I was so into LinkedIn guy. And she was like, oh, because he said that he was nervous that you would like his friend more. Oh, interesting. So, okay, that answers a question a little bit because we were wondering like, what have they thought about?
Starting point is 00:09:03 And it also is sort of similar to how we felt, which we were like, are we gonna be competing? Is there gonna be this weird energy? And so that's funny. I just never think that guys... I don't know. I know, you don't give them very much credit. And in some ways, you give them way too much credit. 100% accurate.
Starting point is 00:09:21 I never do it when it's right. I do it... And it's ruining my life. But it's good because now we learned that piece. That's good. Yes, so I thought that was funny. And then he's traveling. He's like, I'll text you when I get back from my trip.
Starting point is 00:09:36 Would love to hang out again. Great. So I'm waiting for the text, but I'm confident. No, that's great. So that's great. That's where we are. That's where we're at. And what do you have updated thoughts?
Starting point is 00:09:51 I have updated thoughts in the sense where I've been like, is Monica gonna want to see the other guy? Are we all hanging out again? Right. These are great questions. What are we doing? What are your updated thoughts? I don't have that many. I mean, I did the next day think,
Starting point is 00:10:07 do I want to see that other guy again? And I'm kind of neutral on it. Yeah. And because of the way this all was arranged, I don't have access to that person. So I'd have to, like, we'd have to go through some channels to do it. That hurdle alone, because I don't really want to jump it, to me is sort of telling.
Starting point is 00:10:30 But if we're all hanging out again, I'll be happy to chat with him more. I just am not like, oh my gosh, I really want to keep talking. But he was great. But yeah. Yeah. That was that update. And just that I think I really liked that that is how I was perceiving all of it.
Starting point is 00:10:50 At no point was I like, could I partner up with this person? Because I do really think that's the best way to go on a first date, is not have that ruminating thought the whole time, which is what we all do. But this allowed, and again, specifically this, where I was like, I was coming as your friend and he was coming as his friend.
Starting point is 00:11:11 If I was in your position, it would have been a little harder or different. Exactly, a little more pressure. But for me, it was zero and that was really nice. Oh, I see. You already had the sort of setup-y thing happen. So there was a little bit more pressure on the two of you to sort of, like, see if you liked each other.
Starting point is 00:11:33 And it was like, it will just, like, bring our buddies. Which is less. It's like great if for some reason we just really hit it off like crazy. But other than that, it's just fun. Oh, okay. Because, yeah, afterwards I was like, when we recorded, you were like, I didn't even think about it.
Starting point is 00:11:47 And I was like, wait, how did you not think about it? But you're right. We have different roles. Like, there's different... Yeah, a little bit different. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Wow. And so being...
Starting point is 00:11:56 Would you prefer being in the role of the set-uppy or the set-upper? I liked the position, but also if I was getting set up, I think I would maybe also like this. It's different. It's different. One thing I did not bring up in the episode, but I think is huge about what we did, is you could have things said about yourself that you would normally not say about yourself
Starting point is 00:12:20 that are like braggy, but the other person says it. And that is such a hack. Because obviously there are things that like, would be cringy to bring up about yourself, but it's kind of nice for the other people to know it. You have a hype woman. Yeah, like built in. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:12:39 Because there was a couple times, like, well, they had said that they had been to India. That's how it kind of started. They had said they'd been to India, and then Liz said, oh, Monica just went to India. And then they said, where did you go? And I was like, well, it wasn't, it was for work and so it wasn't very luxurious. We went to, and I was like listening to cities. And then you were just like, she went to India with Bill Gates.
Starting point is 00:13:06 And they're like, oh, whoa. And like that is obviously I wouldn't have said that. Right. But I was kind of glad you did because it did clarify some of what I was like when I felt. Yeah. So, so like little things like that. And then I think you had said something and I was like, oh, Liz like wrote a book.
Starting point is 00:13:26 That part's nice. And they were doing that for each other as well. Were they? Yes. LinkedIn guy was doing it for his friend. Okay, got it. I noticed it a couple of times. Oh, that's sweet.
Starting point is 00:13:35 I was like, this is nice. Yeah, it's friends. Friends, but things you are self-conscious about saying, you don't have to say. Right. I think it's the best way to do it. That was the best date I've been on in all of a sudden. Do you want me to stop by your second date?
Starting point is 00:13:50 Yes. I just pop my head in. I'll be sad when you're not there. But I also know it's like, it would be weird if I was like. I'm bringing Monica again. I mean, I think we could all hang out again. But if you're interested, you should do a couple dates solo at this point. Okay.
Starting point is 00:14:07 What are you guys gonna do, do you think? I don't know. Tennis? I hope so. He likes to do yoga. And then I thought like, we should go to yoga. And I was like, no, because like sweaty yoga, hot yoga. Hot yoga is too hot.
Starting point is 00:14:18 And you're like spreading like, guys, I've done it. And as soon as I am in it, I'm like, why did I do this? Like you can go to yoga with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Husband or wife, really. I think you kind of need to be at that level. Molly and Eric go to hot yoga, it's really cute. And it's adorable. I think that's so sweet. But not when you're trying to court is not the best.
Starting point is 00:14:38 But I don't know, I'll see. He lives on the West Side, so that's like the big question. It's like, where do we go? We did have to drive far away for our date. We did. And they did too. But still. I know.
Starting point is 00:14:49 Anywho, okay, yeah, so those are sort of updated thoughts. So I dropped you off after we recorded, and I got home, and I was about to start my period. I was starting it, I started it since then. But, you know, it was coming, it was like the next day. So I did feel a little... Maybe it's just because our adrenaline was so high... It was.
Starting point is 00:15:10 ...that I did feel a little down. Oh. And I was trying to sit with why. And I really think it was probably just mainly chemical. Like, again, we were like, on all this adrenaline, it's over. And it was over, and then I was kind of like, it's over, and there's nothing. like, it's over and there's nothing.
Starting point is 00:15:26 A little bit. Not that there was nothing, we had like a great night, but I don't know. I would see why that would happen. Because now I get to, I mean, I got to continue. Continue. Yeah. And unless you take the step and do it and wanna do it,
Starting point is 00:15:41 it is like, oh, that happened and then now it's over. It's like the morning after Christmas. Yeah. But we can go on another double date. We can. I would do it again. Are you going to hang out with that guy again? I could.
Starting point is 00:15:53 It wasn't like sparks. Yeah. Which sometimes is good. Which sometimes it's not. But I don't know. I hate that part of like when people are like, you're not supposed to feel sparks. It's confusing. Like, how many sparks? Can you feel like...
Starting point is 00:16:09 About like two and a half. Yes. Because I felt some little sparks, and I was like a little high off of that. And then I was like, is that bad? Little sparks I think is good. It's fine. But I do think it can, depending on our tendencies, I don't think it's great when it's like, oh my gosh, I'm dead, I'm head it can, depending on our tendencies, I don't think it's great when it's like,
Starting point is 00:16:25 oh my gosh, I'm dead, I'm head over heels after two hours of generic talking. But it's like, yes. But like a little, I get, like I get this sense of, yeah, like he's great, I definitely wanna see him again, he seems really, really cool, that's great. And ooh, like this is exciting. But, full, like, I really like him is... I think, where to dial back a tiny bit.
Starting point is 00:16:51 But then I will, like, sober up and believe that, and then I'll watch, like, The Idea of You. And then I'm like, I can have this. This insane... No, Liz. Did you watch the whole movie? I surprisingly did. I watched it too.
Starting point is 00:17:06 I could not stop. It was late, but I couldn't turn it off. They shouted it out all the time, which I loved. It's huge. After I started hearing your story, I decided to watch it. Oh, yeah. What did you think? I'm so curious. Well, you know, I'm such a rom-com girl. That's my bread and butter.
Starting point is 00:17:19 Same. I love them. It was like very Notting Hill vibes. So I enjoyed it. Like, I'm pretty much gonna generally enjoy a romantic comedy. I mean, I didn't feel... So you watched it and you were like... You were excited by it. Because I watched it and I was sad after. Oh my god!
Starting point is 00:17:41 How are you sad? I was sad. To? I was sad. To me it was sad. It ends so well. Well, it ends with them being together. I know, but that's very convenient writing. Yeah, and apparently they made it better than the book. So it's based off this person's real story, but I think the book is still an imagination,
Starting point is 00:18:03 and then this is an extra level on top of that. Yes, exactly. Yeah, I think this woman had an encounter at Coachella, and then that was it. But then she created this book about it. Yeah. And then the movie. But for me, yeah.
Starting point is 00:18:18 For me, the takeaway is like, sometimes you just can't have what you want. But she literally can't what she wants. Five years later, and I mean, I'm not saying... Because I'm not watching that and then I'm not taking that as literal. I'm just like feeling the vibe of the whole thing. And my takeaway in general after seeing something like that is life is hard. Sometimes things just don't work out.
Starting point is 00:18:41 Or you can't have what you want, or timing is bad. Ageism, and if the genders were reversed, there would be no... Problem. Yeah, they would have no obstacle. Yeah, less. But, well, the... Okay, if people don't know, the premise is a woman ends up taking her daughter to Coachella. She's 40, or 39, and she goes to the bathroom and she accidentally goes into someone's trailer
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Starting point is 00:22:28 This whole idea that I will do anything for you, everything I've ever done is about you, you are my everything. That is such a... Yeah, that's bad. And it's often not gonna happen. No, that is not gonna happen. And I've dated a musician, and like,
Starting point is 00:22:43 there were parts of it that I just was like, that would never, or maybe not never, but in my case, it was like the opposite experience of like feeling like the least important, where he like sings a lyric about her and then like, so I was a little bit rolling my eyes or even the fact that he clearly has never stopped thinking, like five years later, he's singing this song about her. And it's... Yeah, that's not reality.
Starting point is 00:23:05 No. No, but it's a movie. Exactly, but I love the fantasy, and I 100% for most of my life believed in the fantasy. And it still fills me with a lot of like, giddyness. That's why I couldn't stop watching. I was like, oh my God, this is my, not kryptonite, but like my crack maybe.
Starting point is 00:23:21 Like, I love this kind of stuff. But I know it's not, it's not real. I legitimately used to think that that was possible. Yeah, that's dangerous. Six months ago. Okay, I was going to say, you're right. If I was susceptible to that feeling, that would be probably a hard movie. But I guess that's sort of what I mean when I turn it off. I'm not thinking about the specifics of the movie. When you're saying, it ended happy, yeah, sure, the movie ended happy, but my takeaway
Starting point is 00:23:53 about life and relationships is it's hard. Okay, I see that. So is your takeaway, I could have it? No, for me it's like... I can have this 24... It's like watching Ocean's Eleven, where I'm like, oh my God, this is so exciting. Like, oh, if I was in this, this would be... But I know that that's not gonna happen.
Starting point is 00:24:11 To me it's like that. Or watching reality TV show about a super rich family and it's like fun to see. I mean, I don't even... It's kind of a weird thing for me. Like wish fulfillment. Yeah, wish fulfillment, but not, oh, this is possible for me. Or something I should try and achieve. Well, that's the other thing is it was sexy.
Starting point is 00:24:27 Like, he's so sexy, and she is too. Yes. And they had good chemistry. But I wasn't wanting what she had. In no world, sorry. Sorry, 24-year-old, you're great. You're going to have a great life. But I'm not interested at all
Starting point is 00:24:48 in getting swept off my feet by a 24-year-old. I couldn't really click into that, other than like, ooh, this is like sexy and sweet, and oh, God, it's hard, and ah. I mean, I've been exploring with younger men. 24 is intense, but there are scenes where she's like hanging out with his friends and like that palpable, and I, you know, have definitely been there you're and again I felt that that was well expressed of just you can be super connected with someone but then you're in their life and their environment and suddenly you're like
Starting point is 00:25:15 right this is these are children yes well that's another reason the double date thing is helpful you immediately get to see them with people they're actually interacting with. That's such a good point. And they probably got way more information about us from like who I'm, you know, that we're friends and how we are friends. Like I loved how they were friends.
Starting point is 00:25:37 Yeah, me too. Their backstory was cool. It was sweet. There was like something pretty deep about their friendship which I felt like was attractive. Yeah. Okay, also there's a part in the movie, during the movie, she's wearing this blue bikini, and then she's at the pool with him and his friends.
Starting point is 00:25:55 And so she like gets out her blue bikini, and then she looks out the window, and she sees all these young girls in pop bathing suits, and so she puts the blue bikini away and puts on a one-piece. And I don't know, maybe this is why I was sad, because I'm like, I'm old as fuck because I want that one-piece. So bad, and it's so much cuter than the two-piece blue thing. I agree.
Starting point is 00:26:20 It was so cute. I was like Googling, trying to find this bathing suit. I found it Obviously I found it. How did you find it? It's on screen for 35 seconds I know I took like so many pictures of it and I was googling and I was like and Hathaway one piece the idea of you Nothing was coming up. But then I texted Nicole our Silas friend. I sent her the picture and I was like, I want this, do you know what brand it is? And she texted me this morning with the brand.
Starting point is 00:26:51 Wow. That is some expert investigating. They don't have that style print combo though. They have the print in a different style and the style in a different print. So I haven't taken action yet, because I want the one she has. It doesn't exist. They probably made it for her. But anywho, so I was like, fuck.
Starting point is 00:27:12 And again, I don't know if this is age or probably not age. This is just life. I was like, she's hotter. So much hotter. I don't want to compare hotness, but it was sort of weird that she was looking and feeling like less than, although ageism is a thing and I get it. I think this happens a lot when you get older. You look at younger people
Starting point is 00:27:33 and you just immediately think they're hotter. But objectively no, because she comes out in this like big shawl or something, like jean shawl. Which was also kind of cute. It was cute. Again, she was more stylish and cooler. Oh, my God, her outfits in the whole movie, she's wearing like the real...
Starting point is 00:27:50 She was so much cooler really than those young girls, and so it was kind of hard to get on board with her feeling bad. But you know what's so funny about that is they subtly do that the entire movie where, well, not to spoil her, but like, well, not to spoiler, but like... Well, I know at this point. I mean, her ex-husband is older and like, just comes off as like less attract... Like, he's an attractive actor, he's hot.
Starting point is 00:28:17 But in the movie, like, they just dress him older and then he cheats on her with this younger woman. Basically, I think they do it a little bit on purpose where she is older but hotter, like more stylish. Like she is defeating that sort of stereotype of what you would expect of that hierarchy. And that's kind of part of it. But I agree with you that then in those moments,
Starting point is 00:28:37 you're like, dude, you look cooler than them, which is again, probably true in many cases. We just make those assumptions because of the way that we think as a society. And to be fair, what's cute and cool to me is maybe not cute and cool to like a young 24-year-old guy. Sure. Like the Roe and this really cute one-piece bathing suit. That was so flattering.
Starting point is 00:29:01 I agree. I mean, I didn't Google the bathing suit, but I agreed that she was so... I mean, she's stunning in the movie. Every scene. She's stunning. She's also my style icon. She is? Mm-hmm.
Starting point is 00:29:13 She's been my style icon for the last year and a half. Oh, recently. Not full, because obviously Mary-Kate and Ashley are my style icons, but she is a style icon for me. She's had like a renaissance. She has. She got us a new stylist a couple of years ago, Aaron Walsh, and she's been killing it ever since. Wow.
Starting point is 00:29:33 Killing it. I mean, she kills it in this movie. The Met Gala's today. It is. I know. I wanted to ask you about it. What do you do? I don't have plans. I didn't plan it. I didn't plan a party. Should we watch it together?
Starting point is 00:29:44 How do we watch it? I think on the internet. I didn't plan a party. Should we watch it together? How do we watch it? I don't, I think like on the internet. There's nothing to watch. I think it's just pictures. Oh, you don't watch it? I tried to watch it and it didn't really work out. And so I just looked at pictures. Wow, for someone who's too obsessed with the Met Gala,
Starting point is 00:29:56 I would think you're... I know, but I don't know how to watch it in a good way. Well, there's live streams, but then you have to listen to all the conversations. I don't know, I like hate watch it a little bit. Look, I think it's hard. Live shit is hard. I've never done it, so I can't sit on anyone who's doing it, because there's a lot of moving parts that are happening on a red carpet, and I think it can get discombobulated quick.
Starting point is 00:30:20 So, you know, God, now I'm excited, but I have a lot to do. I mean, what time does that start? I think on the early... I think it's at 5 Eastern or something like that. So for us... 5.30 Eastern time. So it's 2.30? The red carpet, yeah.
Starting point is 00:30:35 Oh, God, okay. Because the actual gala is not happening. Right, exactly. That's true. Or it's not a thing. Well, what do you mean? There's no cameras inside. Oh, right, exactly, yeah. I did put a story out asking people
Starting point is 00:30:47 for first date questions before our date. You did. And people gave great questions. Really good ones. We didn't really ask any, unfortunately, because it got loud. I think that's why. It was loud.
Starting point is 00:31:00 Okay, it was a little too loud, because I don't remember a lot. Me too. Okay, I was going to say, was it because I was, because I don't remember a lot. Me too. Okay, I was going to say, like, was it because I was nervous? I couldn't hear a lot. I couldn't hear a lot, too. I know. Because I was like, have fun on your dad's trip.
Starting point is 00:31:15 It's like, maybe that's not happening. Like maybe I didn't. Yeah, a few people said, like, asked me questions about them, and I was like, I know we talked about that, but I don't know the answer because it was loud. It was loud. The acoustics were not ideal. Okay, but I do want to read a few of the first day questions
Starting point is 00:31:34 that people said. They were great, yeah. Well, Kristen sent one. She said, craft or Velveeta, which I thought was funny. Okay, this is from Nobody's Listening, right? My favorite podcast. I really do like this one. If you could go on a two-week vacation anywhere, unlimited budget, where are you going? I love that.
Starting point is 00:31:51 What would you pick? I would go to Tokyo. I've always wanted to go and it's so far and so expensive, but I think I would go to Tokyo. Or like a super, like full, luxurious resort beach kind of thing. Like I think those luxurious... Resort. Resort beach kind of thing. Like, I think those would be the two. What about you? I want to go to Winamon. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:32:12 I've never been to one... I don't know which one, but yeah, somewhere like, like, remote and cool. Or Paris. Oh, fun. I love Paris. I also love London, and I love New York. Oh. Like, an all-expensive trip in New York could also be really fun. I love Paris. I also love London and I love New York. Oh, like that all expensive trip in New York could also be really fun.
Starting point is 00:32:29 So fun. Okay, let's see. Oh my God, I didn't even see this. What? Eric, what is wrong with him? Oh my God. He wrote various questions on theme of poop eating. If you had to eat someone's poop on the show Friends,
Starting point is 00:32:48 whose shit would you eat? Also definitely ask if they had to, would they? Oh, oh, this is like within the pod, this like horrific question that we have all discussed and it's disgusting, it's awful. I can hardly, I don't even know if I should even bring it up. What is it? It's if you had to, and not in a trauma way,
Starting point is 00:33:10 we have to separate this out. Okay. Would you either suck your dad's... Oh, God! Or eat your mom's? Oh. Yeah. This is a conversation that, unfortunately, we've had many times in the group.
Starting point is 00:33:30 Where do you fall? It's horrific. I mean, it's all so bad. But, like... But, mom. 100%. Yeah. Because it's not sexual.
Starting point is 00:33:43 Right. And mostly, it breaks down this way, right? Where the genders kind of break down like that. Oh, interesting. Yeah. Like the guys end up picking their dads. Because same thing. Even though nothing's sexual about...
Starting point is 00:33:57 Oh, the guys have to go down on the mom. Right. Exactly. Oh, okay. I see. Exactly. Okay, got it. I thought the guys wanted to... Okay, I was like, wow. No, they do what we just did. Like, reluctantly pick their same gender.
Starting point is 00:34:10 Right. And then what's the poop eating? Oh, just various. Just talking about eating poop. Well, no, he's saying, What if I had asked that? I mean, that would have just been like a hard pivot. It's funny. It is funny. Okay, no, the poop eating is if you had to eat someone's poop on the show Friends Whose
Starting point is 00:34:34 Shit Would You Eat. It's kind of a good question. That's a really good question. Maybe Monica's because it would be the most like clean. But she's a chef. She is a chef. So she has to try a lot of food. After she eats the mocklet.
Starting point is 00:34:50 But then, like, probably Jennifer An... Yeah, I know. It's so annoying that we're all just picking Rachel because she's so perfect. But I bet hers is, like, too vegetarian. Yeah, it'll... Yeah. It'll be, like, soft and... Yeah, ew! I might pick Ross. Wow I like that. Well cuz you know in my as I get older he's the hottest one to me.
Starting point is 00:35:13 Interesting. He's become hot. He's always been hot. No Ross as like a general when you're young no one liked Ross. I was like a whole thing and again the irony that really he's the most put together. I mean, he's a dork, but dorks are cool. Dorks are cool. He's older. Yeah, he has his own apartment. Yeah. He has a good job.
Starting point is 00:35:35 And he's tall and smart and hot. I mean, they're all hot. That was the thing too, of like Chandler being like not hot and like being a loser. You're like, Chandler was so funny and adorable. Yeah, exactly. I would have totally dated Chandler. Yeah, I wouldn't have dated Joey.
Starting point is 00:35:51 Me neither. Me neither. I don't feel safe around Joey. I would have been best friends with him. Yeah, of course. Let's see if there's any... Oh, I liked this one. Last cry.
Starting point is 00:36:02 That's a really good one. We asked that one on, I don't know if... Oh, you do? We do, and it's just a good... These questions, what I like about it is that they're not related to your job or like what you do, you know. Exactly. They're not boring. You're getting to know a person. Yeah. Okay.
Starting point is 00:36:19 Oh, have you ever wondered if this is all just a simulation? That's a good one. That would have been a good one as well. Yeah, people, we got a lot of great first day questions. Yeah, that was a popular post. Well, people have insight to help us. They're here to help us. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:36:34 And I appreciate that. Me too. Okay, my friend Ashley texted and she said, what stresses you out or what ruffles you? That gets into the territory that I'm into, which is what your trauma, which I try not to do anymore. Exactly, I know. But it is what your trauma, which I try not to do anymore. I know. But it is a good way to like...
Starting point is 00:36:47 Stresses you out can be less than our traumas. It could be like when people take too long in line, or like when people are on the sidewalk. That's my current... What? They're on the side. Oh my God, during my runs right now. You're going on runs?
Starting point is 00:37:03 Yeah, I'm back on my wogs. Wow. My wogs are a mix of walking and running. Like, I run a couple laps and then I walk a long lap and I run a couple laps. I love it. Anyway, there is a group of dogs and people who take up a big huge chunk corner of the sidewalk
Starting point is 00:37:21 and it is literally infuriating and they don't move. No. And I don't move. No. And I get rage in a very specific way about it. So that's what I would say. And it's not my trauma so much, but it is a pet peeve, ruffles, stress. Do you feel as infuriated if you're just walking?
Starting point is 00:37:41 Because I get that way, if they're coming in opposite directions, you're taking up the whole sidewalk and you don't move, I get... Infuriated. Infuriated. Yes, I have, this is like years long beef with the world. I don't understand why people don't understand etiquette at all.
Starting point is 00:37:57 Sidewalk etiquette, just take up your space. Like not noticing that someone else is here in this world with you, I can't. That's how I feel about, I was on, uh, hiking on Runyon. Did we say on? In? On, that's interesting, yeah. I was on the Runyon. At? At the Runyon.
Starting point is 00:38:17 At Runyon Canyon. At Runyon. God, everything I say sounds weird. We were going downhill. We were not even on the path anymore. We were talking. And I see this motorcycle going down. At Runyon? At Runyon. And I almost lost my mind. Which is a mountain.
Starting point is 00:38:35 A hiking trail. And I've gone into, I've told you these stories probably, where on bike paths in New York, when I came back from COVID, all of a sudden there were just motorcycles on the Williamsburg Bridge, fully going like, and I got into a lot of scary. Yes, because it's like a physically, I get so angry. And then once this guy turned around,
Starting point is 00:39:01 like I yelled at him and then he turned around and started, he was like, you are gonna get punched in the face if you do it. And then we got into this whole thing, and I was like, I'm gonna die. Like, this is how I die. Oh. But it makes me very, very upset. Any kind of bike-related crimes,
Starting point is 00:39:18 or not respecting the norms, the rules of the road, and just social norms of like, this is so much. Was this when I was listening to one of your episodes? I feel like I was listening to you guys talk about how like, so much of society is not actually based on laws. It's all unofficial and we're all doing it. And yeah, it's relying on our own individual desire to work with each other and be in community and cooperate. And so when people don't do it, it makes me so mad. Support for Sync'd comes from Rocket Money.
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Starting point is 00:42:38 I'm like, I gesture. You're doing a gesture with your hand to move. Yeah. I've done it a lot on the bike when people are in, and I'll just literally do it. You could run with a little whistle in your mouth and just whistle at people. God, that was like Erin Aronson get like a blow,
Starting point is 00:42:59 like one of those like, yeah, blow horn. Oh my God. It's like, I am, I shouldn't take this. The least monica thing ever. Exactly. I just say, excuse me, The least monica thing ever. It shouldn't take this. Exactly. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I just say, excuse me, but they're not moving.
Starting point is 00:43:09 They don't? No. They like kind of look at me every now and they like take a little step out barely, but not enough. And then I'm just trying to maneuver in and out of it. It's so annoying. I'm going to say something controversial. Say it.
Starting point is 00:43:21 I don't run as much now, but I've been a runner for most of my life. I think runners have to adapt to people who are walking not the other way around. I know, I'm sorry. But not walking. If you're walking, no. If you're both walking, you're on equal footing. No, no, no, no, no. They're not walking. They're running? They're standing. They're just standing there for an hour. They've decided that that's their
Starting point is 00:43:41 hangout spot, is the sidewalk. They're not walking together in a group. They're planted there for the hour. Literally, I bet they say like, from six to seven, let's hang out on the corner. That's what it is. No, you're in the way. Exactly. Okay, no, illegal.
Starting point is 00:43:56 Yeah, and I agree about, well, I'm half agree with you about the walking and the running. I still think like, why are you walking in the middle? Walk on the side so other people can go. I don't understand the idea that you can take up the entire sidewalk. When people are walking on the sidewalk, they shouldn't walk in the middle of the sidewalk?
Starting point is 00:44:16 I don't think so. I think you should walk on the right or left side, whatever side you're on. You shouldn't just be like strolling about with no awareness, just like we do cars. You walk on the right side of the sidewalk. But are there lanes on the sidewalk? I didn't know that there were lanes.
Starting point is 00:44:30 Well, again, like you just said, there's lanes unofficially. And when people are walking opposite directions, you should create lanes. Yes, if they see you coming. But if they're behind you, how are they? That's why in general, I think you just take up a... You take a lane. Exactly, because you don't know who's behind you.
Starting point is 00:44:46 Right. It's just a way to be conscientious in the world. Yeah. So don't walk in the middle of the sidewalk. Do you not walk in the middle of the sidewalk? I stay to a side, normally. Oh my God, I didn't know this was a thing. I'm probably ruining everyone's life. You're probably doing what I hate.
Starting point is 00:44:59 But I walk really fast, so no one's ever passing me. But anyway, stick to a side if you can. There are always scenarios, of course. But anyway, stick to a side if you can. There are always scenarios, of course. You don't have to beat yourself up, but it's a good way to be. And don't just have a party in the middle of the sidewalk. And if you are going to, go ahead,
Starting point is 00:45:16 but you have to move when people are coming. You don't own the sidewalk. No. It just, I can't. Okay. All right, just, I can't. I am bored. I don't like it. Okay. All right, let's do some questions. Ooh, okay, this is timely. Okay, great.
Starting point is 00:45:32 Feeling the pressure of tweakments at 30. This is from Rhee. I hope I pronounced that right. Hi Liz and Monica, love Synced and your wonderful and honest conversations. Thank you for the work you do. I'm turning 30 this summer. I'm mostly excited to enter this new chapter in my life.
Starting point is 00:45:47 However, I've started to notice some early signs of aging on my face. I love wrinkles and I think they're beautiful, but I've started to notice that I'm developing a double chin and I'm really struggling with it. I've known I'm probably predisposed genetically to a double chin since my mom's side has it and it gets worse as they age,
Starting point is 00:46:01 despite weight being quite consistent. I started going down a massive rabbit hole of plastic surgery procedures to tweakments with Botox and fillers. It's all made me quite anxious. I really don't love the idea of going under the knife, and I'm scared of ending up pursuing a face style that so many women seem to have on social media.
Starting point is 00:46:17 I love my face, but I also feel like I don't look like myself with my double chin. This has made me realize the pressures and standards women face as they age. I think part of it is also knowing how my mom has aged and knowing I wanna do something to combat losing my jawline in such a noticeable way. Did you guys ever deal with this pressure as you hit 30?
Starting point is 00:46:33 Do you deal with it now? Do you have any tips on how to deal with the pressure? Be proactive about problem areas. There's a side of me that wants to age naturally, but I also know that I wanna keep the integrity of my face on my looks. I know a lot of people get treatment or work done to age more gracefully and naturally and it shouldn't feel like a huge stigma. Still, I also feel like it's a thin line to
Starting point is 00:46:51 tread to aging gracefully and looking like a completely different version of yourself. Also when someone ages beautifully and has work done, it's impossible to know because women feel so much shame in telling people, I wish it could all be more transparent. P.S. Monica, your skin looks absolutely stunning in your recent New York trip pics. I hope you drop a Vogue skincare routine one day. Aw! I also hope I drop a Vogue skincare routine,
Starting point is 00:47:12 and I appreciate that comment. Am I, I'm in not a great skincare place, so I feel very happy about that comment. And I will say that I'm using Kevyn Aucoin makeup currently, and it's nice. Love it. So that's the answer to that.
Starting point is 00:47:28 Your skin does look glowing. Thank you. Well, and I'm on a new regimen. TBD on if I like it. A skincare regimen. Yeah, it's new and I'm trying it. Anywho, okay. I feel like I wrote this question.
Starting point is 00:47:40 This is 100% me. You know, I almost got Kybella. If anyone's listening to Armchair Expert also, everyone knows I almost got Kybella. If anyone's listening to Armchair Expert also, everyone knows I almost got Kybella. I didn't get it, but now I might get chin filler. And I feel all of this. I don't want to really, but I do want to. And I agree.
Starting point is 00:47:59 I want to just like keep my face, my face. Ugh, it's complicated. What do you think? I think you can do whatever you want. Of course you can do whatever you want. But it's like maintaining the balance of you, because I'm with her, like I know what she means. There's a style of face that a lot of women get,
Starting point is 00:48:22 and great, like there's no judgment on those people. I think awesome. Everyone do what you want to do. But I don't want that. And I do think it's a slippery slope. Like anything. The best advice I got... So when I was turning 30, I was 31 or 32, and my makeup artist was like, yeah, brought up for me was like my frown line. Is that what that's called? Like this.
Starting point is 00:48:42 In your unibrow, but without a... Like there's a crease? Yeah, there was just like a significant crease. And because again, I was just seeing myself on camera a lot. I was like, oh, I like, I'm seeing that a lot and I don't like it. And she was like, yeah, you can get Botox. She was like, get Botox, don't get filler. Which was her advice, which I like to just transmit. It's a subjective perspective, but I do think Botox is not a big deal.
Starting point is 00:49:06 And again, I'm not like an expert in any way, but fillers are just more noticeable. More can go wrong. I'm sure there are, and there are many risks to all of these things, but a bad Botox story, like you don't really hear a bad filler story. There are many. I mean... And there are many good ones. Oh, sure, sure.
Starting point is 00:49:21 No, but I mean, bad Botox, you can have too much, then you just can't move your face at all. And that looks weird. It looks weird, and the first time I got it, I was like, I want the least amount, and you communicate that, and you go to someone that you feel also reflects that and understands that, and usually they are, like they know what they're doing, and especially for me, she was like,
Starting point is 00:49:40 I want you to still be able to like, you're expressing yourself on camera and stuff like that. And so I went to someone who literally like, I knew was doing kind of the genre that I was looking for, which is very subtle. Like do your research on the people. Yes, and start small and you can stop doing it with Botox. But you can also dissolve filler. That's why I'm scared of Kybella,
Starting point is 00:50:01 because you can't dissolve it. It's just like it is what it is, and if it goes wrong, it goes wrong. But with the filler, at this point, you can dissolve. So that's something to also keep in mind. If you try something and you're like, oh fuck, you can dissolve it. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:50:15 And I think that can be a little painful, but it's like worth it, obviously. I think you're going into it with all of the right thoughts. And I think the judgment part, to me though, it is like, yeah, who cares? We had that conversation about everything. We had that conversation about, remember when it was like, can you be a feminist
Starting point is 00:50:31 if you wear lipstick, if you wear makeup, right? And so modern technologies, when it comes to what you can do have progressed. And so I think we still need to be careful about shaming women who care about their appearance in a society that literally values our appearance and rewards us or punishes us if we don't. And again, that's not to say that you have to do it and that you should keep up with those standards.
Starting point is 00:50:55 But I think it's so weird to then punish women for like participating in it. And I think the best way to do it is in the way that's balanced where you're like, am I doing this for myself? Why am I doing this? Exactly. How far am I willing to go? I'm not going to put myself into debt to do it is in the way that's balanced, where you're like, am I doing this for myself? Why am I doing this? How far am I willing to go? I'm not gonna put myself into debt to do this. And I think about this part too, where we were talking about it the other day, and I was like, there's this other thing, and I was like, oh, I could do this,
Starting point is 00:51:15 and you were like, this part of your body is so great. Like, you don't have to... And that's when I realized, oh, this is where maybe it's a slippery slope, and I need to stop. Because I don't really need to do anything to that part. And that's just enhancing, enhancing, enhancing, and that's how you end up. Not just going too far, I think, financially and in other ways, but also it looks worse.
Starting point is 00:51:36 Or it just doesn't look like you anymore. Yeah, at all. And I think last thing is thirties is a good time to do it. I think what's a little worrying is younger teenagers. They don't even have their face yet. Exactly. There's a whole trend of like Gen Z look older than millennials and part of the hypothesis
Starting point is 00:51:55 is that they're getting work done. And yeah, work done still looks like work done. It has a look. It does. And so if you're doing it too young, so that's where I would not draw a line, but I think that's where it gets, okay, this is not necessary and even kind of an intrusive thing. And if you start that early, then that's where you get to a point where you're doing so much
Starting point is 00:52:14 by the time that you're, you know, balanced. I think that's right. And I definitely understand looking in the mirror or seeing a picture or video, whatever, and just really not liking what you see. And more than that, knowing what she said here, that doesn't look like me anymore. Like, this is changing on me, and I want it to just go back to what it was. Not change something completely about myself.
Starting point is 00:52:36 So yeah, I think maybe I would start with Botox, if you're already looking into Botox. That does seem to be a good way to start. And 95% of my friends have Botox. It's not a big deal. Start small if you want to. If you want to. And your face will change.
Starting point is 00:52:53 That's a thing like, I don't remember which celebrity was talking about this, but she was like, your face does also change with age. That's also normal. Yeah, it is. And beautiful. It'll evolve and look. Like, I look different than I did in my 20s. I look at photos and I'm like, wow like there are definitely things that are different about my face
Starting point is 00:53:08 But you know we have to embrace that and that's fun. That's the fun part too. Yeah Okay, do you pee in pools? This is from Beatrice I need to know do you guys pee in pools? Please discuss all types of pools, backyard, public, gym, pool party, pools, etc. Please help me settle this debate with my friends. Love you both. This is great. So good.
Starting point is 00:53:34 I've done it, but I don't make a habit of it. It's like some people, every time they're in a pool, they pee. Is that you? I used to. Yeah. And then I became a lifeguard. And then I learned more about, you know. What'd you learn? So I lived in pool. You know, I was synchron. Yeah. And then became a lifeguard. And then I learned more about, you know. What'd you learn?
Starting point is 00:53:47 So I lived in, you know, I was synchronized swimming, so I was always in the water. So I would do it. And again, I think when you're young, I don't know, you just do it. But yeah, becoming a lifeguard, I just learned more about the chemical importance of like water cleaning, like just how important it is for the water to be clean and how things can be really transmitted in water like even when it's not pee when it's just like sunscreen or a lot of people have been sweating like you see the water we often had to close the pool in afternoons because the water would get so
Starting point is 00:54:16 clouded with sweat and pee and you can see the bottom because there's a test there's no chlorine in yours? Fully chlorine. But the chlorine can't kill everything. Like that's the thing. And the more chlorine is killing things, the more cloudy again. So that means the more things there are. And so there's a test. There's a 12 foot section of the pool where people can dive and stuff like that.
Starting point is 00:54:37 And the test to know if you keep it open or not is that there's a big black drain at the bottom. And if you don't see the drain, you have to close that part. And very often we had to close it, because people would pee. So that's when I was like, a little bit more... Aware. Aware, but I'll pee in the ocean every time. Okay. Almost.
Starting point is 00:54:56 Because I don't know where I'm going to find a bathroom again. Right. So I actually, I came to peeing in the pool later in life. I never peed in the pool. That was like, not a thing I would have ever done. And then, I guess I felt uptight. I'm like, everyone peeing in the pool later in life. I never peed in the pool. That was like not a thing I would have ever done. And then I guess I felt uptight. I'm like everyone pees in the pool, so I tried it. So I've done it, but again...
Starting point is 00:55:11 Did you like it? I liked not having to go get out of the pool. Yeah. But I didn't enjoy like the sensation necessarily. But I did like the convenience. Pfft. But I'm never doing it again after I heard that. That's disgusting.
Starting point is 00:55:28 Ew. It made me just realize, like, and I don't want people to, well, maybe I shouldn't say it, but when there's a lot of kids in a pool, I just... It was like, don't get in the pool. A public pool, like, don't. Like, I don't. Fuck. Or, like, I don't put my head in.
Starting point is 00:55:44 Well, I never put my head in. You don't? No, because I don't like swimming. Right like I don't put my head in. Well I never put my head in. You don't? No, because I don't like swimming. Right. Well then you're fine. Because like whatever. It's kind of bigger. Maybe I could get in my vagina.
Starting point is 00:55:52 Yeah, that's true. Ew. I mean no, things don't get in your vagina. They're around it. But it doesn't go in. Well how do you know? Because that's why we don't get our periods. Like it stops.
Starting point is 00:56:02 Like there's nothing. What do you mean we don't get our periods? You know that your period stops when you're swimming, right? What? You did not know this? What do you mean? You're so cute. What?
Starting point is 00:56:12 Don't act like everyone knows this. Everyone knows this. I bet Rob knows this. No, I don't know what you're talking about. No, we don't know this. Text any woman you know. Okay, I'm going to. Or call.
Starting point is 00:56:22 She knows it. Who should I call? I'm going to... Oh, how does it work? Should I call Laura again? She knows a lot of stuff, actually. She might be a good person. Can we find out if it's true first? It's one hundred...
Starting point is 00:56:36 I couldn't put it on tampon, and I had to go on synchronized swimming meets, and I would just go with my period, because I knew I won't have it in the water. Ew! No. Damn it. Yeah, it says it can be enough. Water pressure of a leg or pool can be enough to prevent menstrual flow. It doesn't go.
Starting point is 00:56:54 It stops. No. I swear to God. I can't believe you don't know this. Hi. Hi. That was so weird. I just went away.
Starting point is 00:57:02 Oh, no. You're on air again. And I have a question because Liz thinks everyone knows this piece of information, and I want to know if you know it. And you know a lot of stuff. So do you know that if you're in a pool or like a lake, a water environment that your period stops? No. Thank you. What? Thank you.
Starting point is 00:57:29 But what do you mean it stops? Exactly. I guess the pressure makes it not flow out. Oh, okay. It doesn't stop your cycle, but it stops the flow? You won't bleed in water. You won't bleed in water, she says. If you're submerged.
Starting point is 00:57:43 If you're submerged. Yes. Oh, isn't that funny? Because I feel like so many people are like, I can't swim in the ocean. I. If you're submerged. If you're submerged. Yes. Oh, it's not funny because I feel like so many people are like, I can't swim in the ocean. I'm going to attract sharks. Right. No. Well, again, one drop can attract a shark and so people are worried about that, but
Starting point is 00:57:57 you're not going to get fully, like your flow stops. Whoa. Would it happen to like an open wound? No, because that's on a flow, right? I see. I did not know that. New information. Okay. Wow. Oh, when it happens to like an open wound? No, because that's on a flow, right? I see. I did not know that. New information.
Starting point is 00:58:07 Okay, same. This is great new information, but I appreciate that I, cause Liz was like, everybody knows this. And you know more than most people. So I feel pretty good about this. Is it possible that it's regional information? From Canada?
Starting point is 00:58:24 Should we ask the Canadian person? Is Matt there? He's regional information? From Canada? Should we ask the Canadian person? Is Matt there? He's on a panel, but I guarantee he has no idea. Exactly. He's a dude. But he's also a man. Yes.
Starting point is 00:58:36 Okay. This was fantastic. I think we should call two more people and get a good- Call someone who's from where Liz is from. Yeah, a Canadian woman. Oh, that's a good question. Let's call Emma. No, she's not Canadian, that's a good question.
Starting point is 00:58:45 Let's call Emma. No, she's not Canadian, but we'll call her. Oh, okay. Goodbye. Thank you. Bye. Godspeed. Bye.
Starting point is 00:58:54 Okay, I'm going to try her. She's not Canadian, but... And we can't have it be a synchronized swimmer because that could be why you know it. Because that kind of makes sense, like that you... But I'm... Hi. What's up? You're on air for Synced. Okay, great, I'm walking my dog outside right now.
Starting point is 00:59:10 That's okay. Okay. It'll still work. I have a question for you. Oh, because you were a swimmer, right? I was. Okay. Now, do you know this piece of information?
Starting point is 00:59:23 Liz thinks everyone knows it, and I didn't know it, so I just want to know if you know it. Do you know or not know that your period stops when you're submerged in water? I do know that, yeah. You do? Yeah, like you can get away with, you should always, I guess, wear a tampon in the water, but like it's not as dangerous. Like you're okay in the water. What? Okay. So do you're okay in the water. What?
Starting point is 00:59:46 Okay, so do you think you know that from swim team? I think I probably do know that from swim team, yes. Because Liz was synchronized swimmer, so I think this is like if you're in the field. Yeah. Yeah, because I also remember when I was around 13, being like nervous about first periods. And I think I remember like the girls on the swim team being like,
Starting point is 01:00:05 you don't have to worry about it here, because you're wearing so little in a bathing suit. Right. Yeah, I think it might have been swim team lore. That's where I learned swim team lore. Wow. Okay, this makes tons of sense. Wow. Okay. Oh, I really appreciate you weighing in and helping clear this up.
Starting point is 01:00:22 Of course, anytime you guys. Thanks. Bye. Bye! Bye. Okay, so it's not Canadian, it's field specific. Yeah, which makes sense. If you're an expert in the field, you know that. But most people aren't. Got it.
Starting point is 01:00:36 Should we do one more of someone who just like swims, but isn't in the field? Yeah. Callie was on swim team. So she might know it. Okay, that doesn't work. So she might know it. Kristen, I can ask Kristen. Let me call her. I bet she knows.
Starting point is 01:00:51 Your call has been forwarded to voicemail. Oh, why? It's off? Oh, maybe she's on a call. Yeah, they're on dialysis. That's weird. What's dialysis? It says dialysis.
Starting point is 01:01:04 Yeah. She never picks it. I bet Dax would know. Why? Because he has daughters. I don't know. We're going to try Molly. She has a pool.
Starting point is 01:01:13 She does. But she's not a swimmer and she's Ecuadorian. Why are my friends answering? I could be dead. You could be dead. Hi, you've reached smaller... Damn it. We could call Hannah. Okay, do you think she is a pool?
Starting point is 01:01:33 She's not a swimmer. We should just do a game of like whoever friends answers their calls. We should call Amy. Amy. She has a lot of cool time. Your call has been forwarded to voicemail. The person you're trying to... Okay, I'm calling her.
Starting point is 01:01:53 Hi, Lily. Hi, buddy. You're on air for sync. Oh, hi. We're settling something here. Okay. Okay. So Liz thinks that everyone knows this piece of information. Oh, hi. Hi. We're settling something here. Okay.
Starting point is 01:02:05 Okay. So Liz thinks that everyone knows this piece of information and I didn't know it. And so I want to see if you know it. Okay. Do you know or not know that your period stops in the pool? I have been told that and I've always believed it. Okay. Someone told you that. Yeah. And. Okay, someone told you that.
Starting point is 01:02:25 And what age did someone tell you that? Ooh, good question. Like you've known it for a long time? Yeah, as long as I can remember that when you get in water, it kind of is like a barrier and it won't leak out. And then I think some people said that's not true, but it's always worked in my case. Okay, wow, wow.
Starting point is 01:02:43 We have two out of three people we've called who do know, but you spent a lot of time in the pool. Yes. Did you spend a lot of time in the pool as a kid? Oh, yeah. But I think I would still wear a tampon when I would go in the pool because I was nervous. Right.
Starting point is 01:03:01 But there's been plenty of times that I did it, because I was like, I've been told, but as soon as you get out, it could flow. Right. That's why it's so tricky depending on your flow. Okay. That's smart. That's some important piece of information here.
Starting point is 01:03:13 Yeah. You got to go. Yeah. So it kind of depends on like where you're at. Okay. Wow. This was helpful. Okay.
Starting point is 01:03:21 Good. This is part of a big study. A big sync study. Exactly. Thank you for big study. Of course. A big think study. Exactly. Thank you for weighing in. Thank you. Love you.
Starting point is 01:03:31 Love you. Okay, wow. All right, well... I mean, we have to now do a poll. One more? Oh, a poll on social. 100%. So we find out the truth. Now we really know. Okay.
Starting point is 01:03:44 Love that. Did we... I mean, we definitely... Okay, when you would, which pools would you pee in? The bigger the pool, the less the connection to whoever owns the pool, the more I'll pee in it. Okay, so probably not pool party pool. Pool party pool is risky. Yeah, because are you worried people will feel the heat?
Starting point is 01:04:06 Feel the heat, it's a little disrespectful. Yeah. I'm in it now too. Because there's something about a public pool where you feel like you can swim away from it, which you don't. But if you're in a smaller pool with like, it's like now we're all in my pool. Like, and some people might get off of that.
Starting point is 01:04:18 Get off on it? Yeah. What do you mean? Like everyone's in my pee and they don't know. Oh. Yeah, I bet. I bet someone out there. Many people. Do I like that?
Starting point is 01:04:30 Do you like that? You know something that other people don't know? I can see myself kind of liking it, but I also think my embarrassment outweighs that. So I wouldn't like it because I'd be too scared that people would know and then I'd be embarrassed. It would stop that. Got it. But there's a little piece of me that might like it because I'd be too scared that people would know and then I'd be embarrassed. It would stop that. Got it.
Starting point is 01:04:46 But there's a little piece of me that might like it. Wow. But I don't know, I've never experienced that. Yeah. Now I'm never ever peeing in a pool after what you told me. I don't even want to get in a pool. I know, being a lifeguard makes you, I don't want to ruin it for everybody.
Starting point is 01:05:01 And maybe technologies are better now, but it's not a foolproof And I've seen it all we've closed the pool for many bodily fluids All of them And we had to clean them up no yes my first year working at a kiddie pool I was 16 and I showed up at the park at 8 a.m. And there was a human Turd in the middle of the pool. And then I was like, what do I do?
Starting point is 01:05:29 And who do I call? And they're like, no, it's you. You have to do it. With like a net? I don't, I think, I don't even, wow, I blacked it out. I don't remember what I did. Did you swim up and grab it? No, no, it was before, you have to show up and you're the one who's filling up the pool.
Starting point is 01:05:42 So I couldn't fill up the pool because there was turds. Oh, you're filling it up? Yes. Holy shit. That's a lot of things to do. Yes. And then you put on a whole hazmat suit and you're dropping the chlorine yourself in it. It's crazy.
Starting point is 01:05:54 Oh my god. That's okay. I don't know if that's Canadian or not. Because I don't... I've never heard this. Maybe again, the system is better now, but 15 years ago, it was hand-held chlorine. In a kiddie pool, not in the main pool. So you just like jumped into this like empty basin and there was poop there. Yeah, oh I saw it, I started seeing it from far away, you notice it.
Starting point is 01:06:18 Oh my god. It was gross. And then like once this boy threw up, and you could see the hot dogs. I still remember. Stop it, Liz. Why'd you say that? I'm sorry. I'm done. This is a horrible way to end.
Starting point is 01:06:35 Oh, my God. No, I can't get out of... I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Okay. Think of the idea of you. Think of... Oh, no, you didn't like it. It makes you feel good. What makes you feel good? Eating Ross's shit.
Starting point is 01:06:48 Eating Ross's shit. Okay, that's better. Maybe I'll think of it as Ross's. It was Ross's turd. Hot dogs. Yeah, hot dogs. Ew! Okay, okay, enough.
Starting point is 01:06:59 That's it for today. We've gone off the rails. Oh wait, Kelly just texted me. Weird, just texted me. Weird, weird. She just texted me, what do you think of the new skincare routine, Sim? Sim. Wow, it's all connected.
Starting point is 01:07:14 All right, well, love you. Don't be fools. Or do it, but don't swim in it. Just know what you're getting yourself into. Know what you're getting into. And we'll see you next week. Yeah, bye.

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