Bachelor Happy Hour - A Line in the Sand | Golden Hour

Episode Date: November 11, 2024

Today on Golden Hour, we're back answering your fan questions! We kick off today recapping The Golden Bachelorette's Men Tell All. Then, we get into our question of the day: can an ultimatum ever work? And then, your questions; how do you ask your smoker parents to quit when they babysit? When you're the last to get married and your friends are out of energy, where do you go from there? We have the answers you won't wanna miss out on! Tune in now and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics and on the latest episode of Spolitics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives. We continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents.

and there's life after Congress. Make sure to listen to this episode of Politics on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Yumanzoor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes,

we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD, oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, Psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app.

Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. Welcome back to Bachelor. Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Thanks so much for joining us again. We are always excited to come and talk. Always, always, always. How are you doing today, Susan? I'm good.

I'm good. How about you? I'm great. Okay, we are going to get into more of your fan questions, but first, I mean, who can resist? We've got to talk about the Golden Bachelor at Men Tell All. I don't know where to begin, but let me just say, it was incredible. First of all, how cool is it? I felt the whole love again. I felt the hope last night, the camaraderie. Did you love how they brought everyone up, many of them on stage, and they shared their families. kids were there. That was so awesome. As a matter of fact, I text Mark. I said, I'm feeling the love. When he wrote that note. Yes. Oh, my gosh. That was so sweet. So I thought, you know, when you see them crying in the camarader, we know women get together and we cry and we hold each other's hands, but seeing the men do that. And their friendships are real, too. And I just loved. How about Jack and his hamburgers for all? I thought great.

Jets making hamburger. Susan's giving me and they're making meatballs. I agree with him. You do not put barbecue sauce on a hamburger and you don't overcook it. I agree with him 100%. And never hit the spatula and squeeze the juice at. Okay. I loved that they looked back at the season.

It just gave context to the whole season. But Kathy, you are right by saying they brought up so many different people. They didn't do that for us. I know, well, you know, when we get our second turn at it, Susan, they're going to get it right. I think because Faith talked really long that night. And I was still explaining why I said zip it. So, you know, it just goes on and on. But wait, I want to ask you, Michael, when he said that he had a diagnosis of cancer, do we just learn that last night? No, no. No, he just had the name of his disease, whatever it was. No, no, no, no. Michael is a cancer survivor. He talked about it last night.

Yes, Kathy. No, that's a different guy. Who's Michael? Different guy. Did you watch the show last night? Ha, ha. Dan has the- I love it when she gets fresh with me.

You know, it's going to happen when I see her. I love you. I love you. She's going to shave my hair off. Dan is the one with the tremor. Dan, I'm so sorry. Who is Michael? I don't know how to help you here if you haven't been watching the season.

Could you just answer the question right there? He's a good-looking guy on the show who, last night talked about he was diagnosed with cancer right before he came on the show and and he was talking about how great the show was it was just what he needed and the support he got from the guys and his family that's the guy from florida his name is not michael honey okay it was dan that was talking about susan just can you just work with me here is michael ha ha ha michael is the guy with cancer, we're using up all our time arguing, just say, Kathy, you're right so we can move on.

Okay, Kathy, you're always right. I'm not always right. But I love that Dan, speaking of Dan, who's the guy with the tremor, talking, you know, they were having a bromance, the emotional, you know, how much they loved each other. I mean, how perfect it was for his year that it could have been really, really bad. I know. That's who I'm thinking of when we're talking about this. I'm just, I give up.

I'm stuck here. You're stuck. Get unstuck. But the other thing, I wanted to say, Katie Bigger. Katie Bigger. And there magically is a picture of Michael for you. And there's Michael and I thought his name was Dan. No, there's a Dan.

I remember. I remember. But my question 20 minutes ago when we started this whole thing was, did Michael talk about having cancer? I didn't know that until last. night. I don't believe we heard it to last night. And I don't think he did, but I'm sure you'll take issue with that. But I don't think he did on the season. I think you're right, Kathy, because what I was thinking was Dan and how he said hello, good year. Yeah. Yeah. So Katie Bigger,

who is she and her fiance, Zach, live in Austin. And Katie came over to watch the show with me last night. Susan, I swear, she sat there. She had, she's watched, you know, many of the episodes, but she started crying and I said oh she goes Kathy this is so sad we're both sitting there tearing up how we felt the love and how those sadness and but they're finding love again and she goes Kathy how are you dealing with this I said I don't know I'm hoping we get all the tears out and then if I get to meet her guys one of them works out she was just dying laughing but she no I I did it was so beautiful and how oh my God Charles L wait the world loves you Charles, how about the woman standing?

Susan, wait, we need to stop everything here right now. Well, I would like you to take a second, go inhale something that will calm you down and get your head back in the game. I swear to about it. I'm fucked up today. Charles, the girl stood up and said, we want you to be the next golden bachelor. Did you say? Wait, can we talk about his hair dye? Oh, my God.

Can we talk about, I thought, I need to ask you about this, Susan. I thought it was a little dark, but he's such a sweet guy. And what about Pascal? Wow, wait, Pascal with the face mask and the meditation. He was hysterical and the two frying pan. Joan, Joan. I mean, this show should win an award last night. It had something for everyone.

There was laughter, there were tears, there was hope. How about when Joan was trying to say her, whatever she was saying, and the animals, the birds in the background, she couldn't get it out. The bloopers are always good. Okay, we have got to talk the biggest thing. So, you know, we've talked about this. My husband was an officer in the Navy, not a captain, as Kim was, or commander. I think he was a captain.

It was amazing. The song, the song, having, wait, the LA gay men's choir. Because I'm sitting with Katie, and I'm like, oh, my God, wait, they're bringing a lot of single guys out. Maybe I can pick one of them. And at the end, we burst out. laughing when he said the L.A. men's gay choir. I was like, yep, shot down again. And they were really talented. They said that song, they did some justice to that song. I know. But how cute. Wasn't he? He was smiling. But the show just, I don't know, I left that show last night.

This was so good. And the letter you touched on it from Mark. That was just beautiful. That was something. I related to that like no other. And then he left him the sticky note to put on the mirror because he really. men typically doing that? I don't. There are good people, good men out there just like women, but they don't always show it. It takes a show where you're locked up in a place where no contact with the outside world for those things to come out. They don't show those things on an every day. And I will tell you, no, they don't. And one of the other things, I just, I love the show.

I just, I left last night feeling great. I loved that they re-showed, you know, how they were showing bits and bobs of the season with each guy. And when they showed a guy talking to Charles Al about his guy, I started tear up again. In fact, I said he bit her tongue. I know. I messaged him last night and I said, I'm so glad they played that. It reminded me that was such a kind gesture for you to do. I mean, I know.

It was good. It was really good. What do you think Jonathan's met someone? I know. Who else? There's a few people. I heard Mark is dating someone. Yes.

Yes, there's pictures of her on the internet. Well, I don't believe everything I read, but yeah. I just hope they all find somebody and they're happy, you know. What about you and me? Yeah, well, not yet. Just saying. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam.

her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate.

Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jamil Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcast Politics.

And on the latest episode of Politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't? say publicly. Many of them are in fear of their political lives, and that's been part of the challenge. But we continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents, to stand up for your constituents. And there's life after Congress. And you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your time in the House of Representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years. But their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know

it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD...

Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. And what about Pascal saying? I mean, look, we're just jumping from guy to guy

because it was such a great episode. What did you think about Pascal, um, saying you want to say? wanted to be friends with Joan. I thought Joan, by the way, let's talk about Joan for a minute. I thought she handled herself really well because with Pascal, we left her crying that he had self-eliminated. She clearly was upset by that. You know, now we're down to chalk. I think she was shocked by it. Yeah. Shocked or chocked by it. No, she was definitely surprised when he said. But I just thought she handled it so.

honest. I mean, he was being real, true to himself. I know, but didn't you love the way she said last night, it's okay. He said, I want to be friends. It's just like, those are the kinds of happy endings that you want. Well, you know why, Kathy, because she is happy. It's a lot of aplomb. It's graceful. It is, I think she's handled herself with dignity and was so genuinely happy to see the guys. Did you hear her say that? Like she missed them. I think she's handled herself. incredibly well do you want to borrow the dress she had on last night we are going to see them all that's right we are i just oh not too long from now like less than a week um i want to know do you want to borrow the dress that joan had on i couldn't do that dress i couldn't wear that i could ever fall off no with that i don't think it's the problem with that she she looks i don't know that the dress who's getting a lot of uh talk on on social see yeah not well people have opinions you know you know listen let me just say carrie who is the stylist who i adore i have a thing for him um i think he has styled her

beautifully throughout the season and she's got the body you can dress i text him last night as well he's like oh thank you yeah he's he keeps telling me if i get married he's going to dress me yeah that's not a bad thing kathy that's something to look forward to thing. We'll take care any day. Any day. But all in all, I give the show a 10 list. I give it 11 out of 10. Wait, one more thing. Do you see our girl, Nancy? Yeah,

she looks so cute. She's so pretty, isn't she? And she's so genuine. I just love those cheeks and that face and that smile. And her advice was beautiful. Nancy is truly, like we've talked about this. You and I sometimes

are misread because we're silly and we make jokes, but we both have a loving, you know, side to us that we just have to feel very comfortable let that out. Nancy's exactly the opposite. She just can't be anything other than sweet and genuine and, right? I agree with you. I agree, but I don't have a problem letting that out. I don't have to be comfortable to let that out. Well, you and I just make a lot of jokes, I'm saying. We're known as the funny, crazy girls, you know? Yeah, but I have a serious side. And I think, everybody knows that though from our show you think yeah yeah we're not the same cap no matter what you say we're not the same no we're both well you know why i know the difference between michael and dan we could start with that

well there you go i give you that if there's the finale susan i'm going to introduce you no michael in my brain none i'm going to introduce you michael this is susan he left her always this is dan look at them very carefully they look nothing to leave kathy what do i look i come about walking And you know everything else, obviously. Geez. We'll take a selfie. I really did forget. I take it back.

I apologize. Everybody, ladies and gentlemen, I know you're listening. I am wrong. She loves when I say this. She's rarely wrong. I will say that. Rarely, rarely. Oh, God.

Well, I can't wait until next week's it. It's it, though. I can't believe it's over. And we're going to be there in person. Yes, we are. Live in person. I'll probably cry then, too. Because whoever doesn't get picked, oh my gosh, my empathy goes over.

Well, whoever doesn't get picked has had a few months to deal with it, right? Well, yeah, they're better now, sure. I keep toying the idea of going back on the dating site. Oh, Kathy. Oh, I don't think Susan, we talked about this. I just don't think. Katie was saying to me last night, she goes, Kathy, you just need, you're so fun. You just need a really special guy.

And I said, are you offering Zach? Are you going to share them? I mean, it's hard to find. I know. I know. And they weren't our guys. I like them all. I really do.

I can't wait to meet them. I can't, because you know what? You can't judge, as you and I both know, you can't judge by what you see on TV. That's just a little snippet of who they are. Exactly. But all in all, great show looking forward to the finale. Yeah. I can't believe the season's coming to an end.

But here it is. final rose maybe there'll be a few roses laying around someone will give us one i don't know susan i'll grab one for you right after i introduce you to michael and dan it's all dan to me oh all right we got it's all right listen we got to get into today's episode let's do this all right it's time for our question of the day kathy oh boy ready i'm ready all right can an ultimatum ever work or be justified in any kind of relationship, whether it be friendships, romance, can an ultimatum ever work or be justified? Could you be okay with someone giving you an ultimatum? I actually, I was going to say no, but I actually gave a friend an ultimatum because

She did something to me twice. And it caused, trust me, a lot of issues in my family. And I said to her, if you can't commit to never doing that again, then I can't be your friend because it causes too much havoc with my family. It had to do with me since my husband passed away and where I was and what I was doing. and set my kids into a complete tizzy. And she said, you know, Kathy, I can't promise you. And I said, then we can't be friends anymore.

But I felt justified because of what it had done to my family. What about you? Relationships, never, no. Yeah, well, that's my first thought. If I was given an ultimatum, excuse me, don't let the door hit you in the ass. On a relationship.

Yes, yes. Like it depends on what is said, honestly. I mean, I'd need a specific to really, All right, let me give you a specific. Susan, if you don't commit to cutting my hair once every eight weeks, our friendship is over. It would be like an ultimatum, like you can't hang out with that girlfriend of yours. I don't want you to ever see her again.

Wow. Yeah, no. No. Who are you to judge? Yeah. That's all righty. Here we go. We got questions.

I love. We're going to get into our fan questions. So that's our favorite time. Here we go. I know. Okay. First one is from Matt. Maggie, who's 51 from Orange, California.

Hi, Golden Hour, girls. I love your podcast and wanted to reach out for some advice because I'm struggling. I lost my husband around 10 years ago, and since then, I found a lot of my joy, socializing, et cetera, through my work. Ever since the beginning of the pandemic, my company has transitioned to completely remote working from home. They have no intention of returning to the office, and while I've looked for other jobs, None of them have the pay benefits of my current job. I've been struggling with my mental health ever since working from home full-time and working at coffee shops and libraries isn't the same socially.

I try to do activities after work, but I just really loved the office culture, and it has been such a help to me over the past decade. I'd love to hear if you have any thoughts on this or ways I can socialize more because being at home alone all day isn't working for me. Thank you for your advice. You know what? That does suck. It really does. I can't imagine I put myself there a few times thinking if I had that kind of job and I never left the house. I know we're going to say you've got to join meetups and do activities. But when you're home all day, a lot of times you don't even get dressed the way you used to to get out and work, that is a really tough, tough thing to go through. And I feel for you. I do. And she even looked for other jobs. God bless her. So, Maggie, I would say Susan's exactly right. It's hard if you've been home, you know, in your pajamas or whatever.

And then you're tired. You've been home all day. You're lonely. The hardest thing is to then get up, put makeup on go out and do something at night. But I would encourage you a few nights a week to do just that or on the weekend, get out and join some activities where you'll have, you'll be with like-minded people, you know, who will enjoy it. The other thing I would say to you is don't give up looking for a new job. because you know it's just it's like men just takes one so you know keep keep looking for jobs and you don't know that something good may not may not come about and who knows maybe maybe this is an

opportunity knocking on your door to relocate you know let your life imagine what your life could be and and maybe something good will as susan always has envision it and make it happen or what about the people that you did hang out with at the office have you given them a call are they kind of in the same rut if you will as you are maybe they're you know we'll get together go to the movies or out to dinner once a month something yeah it's hard it's hard and you know what the bigger the rut you get into of not getting together with friends the worst the harder it is to break that cycle so try to try to break it try to look for new job try to get involved in activities I know it's hard but or you can do it like a singles road trip

You know, they have travel, just go and do you. But we wish you a lot of luck. You know the problem with those, Susan. Usually those people come from all over the country. I know, and you're not really friends, friends. Yeah, you're just friends in that 10-day bike trip. But thank you for writing in, Maggie. Let us know, Maggie.

We're rooting for you. You can do it. You can do it. Just have some positivity there. You can do it. Our next one is from Sally, who was 35 from Salt Lake City, Utah. Hi, Kathy and Susan. I'm going to get right to it.

I am the last of my friend group to get married. I live in Utah and everyone gets married and has kids super young here. But I waited to find my person and I'm so glad I did. We are getting married next year and I couldn't be more excited. I am just feeling really disappointed in my friends. Over the years, I have been the only single gal at all of their bachelorette. parties, bridal showers, baby showers, et cetera. And now it's finally my turn. When I brought up dates for my bachelorette party or bridal shower to my bridesmaids, they have excuses why they

can't be there due to their kids or husbands or whatever. I understand they all have different priorities now, but I just feel really sad that literally none of them are able to make a date work for my bachelorette weekend. And we've all done that for each other. I feel like I'm being robbed of the experiences they had just because I am older and am getting married later. What would you do in this situation? Should I just not have a bachelorette party or a bridal shower? I always imagine my girl surrounding me leading up to my special day and I'm just sad. Thank you for any advice.

Oh my God, my heart's bleeding. That is horrible. Horrible. I can't even. You know what? I get it. Those people's lives, they have kids, things going, but you've got to make an exception. She was there for all of them. That's not fair. Sally, that's her name. Sally, here's what I would do. I couldn't agree with Susan Moore. Let's say there's six of them. You know, if you can get even half of them. And you know what I would do? Honestly, I would sit and write a handwritten note. to each one of them and explain. For the guilt? Well, no, I would say, I understand, you know, you have families and husbands, but we've always been together and we were.

I've been there for you guys. I was always a few and I feel like you guys don't really care about me. And, you know, if that's the case, okay, she's gotta be willing though to maybe let well, that's throwing the guilt trip. You're right. You're right. What else could you do?

Yes, you deserve a bridal shower. You absolutely positively. A bridal shower and a bachelor. You put out money all those years for all those couples. Should we go to a bachelor party? Call us. We'll come. And then they'll all want to come.

Watch. That's right. We'll come to your bachelor's party. And you know what? We'll do a bachelorette party with you where you want to go. Let us know. We'll do it with you and we will have fun. Trust me.

Susan and I create fun wherever we go. But don't think for one second thing. you don't deserve it you do and if not all of them can come at least some can and i'm sure you have other friends and family will be there as well but you know what you're right for feeling yucky about this i would too and shame on those women this is one of the few questions we've had where it's it's very black and white yeah for me and for you i think yes she was there for them and listen guys if you're listening sally's friends i have grandchildren see if you can find someone to take care, even if it's just overnight to make Sally feel special.

I don't even care if it's the shower and you have to bring your child, okay? There you go. Get a babysitter. Work it out ladies. It's a couple hours. Make an appearance. You don't even have to stay. Sally's been a good friend to you. It's time to pay back. It's payback time. And that's what you do for friends. That's right. Kathy, the next one's from a man. Oh, wait. And you know where he's from? Rochester, New York. Notice how I say that. people from how do you say it you would probably say Rochester but if you are from Rochester you might think there was a D in it I'd say Rochester and my dad was from Rochester and my husband was from Rochester so I know how to say it okay Ed is 44 and from Rochester New York hello Susan and

Kathy sorry for such a sad question but I'm curious if either of you have any advice for caretaking for a sick, elderly parent. While I'm in my 40s, most of my friend's parents are still pretty healthy, so I don't really know who to turn to. My dad passed away years ago, and my mom is really struggling with dementia. I visit her and spend time with her daily at her nursing home,

but the whole experience of being a caretaker for someone you love, and watching them struggle is so lonely and isolating. I see firsthand every day how much she is suffering, or my heart is just broken. Being a caretaker to her has also put a pause on my dating life, social life, and has even taken a toll on my work. This disease is so horrible and can go on for years and years. If either of you have any words of encouragement or advice, I would really appreciate it.

I'm sorry, Ed, and it is very sad. I remember my grandmother going through it, and right now a neighbor up the street is. But I couldn't help but notice she's in a facility. Yeah. Right? So you don't have to be the full-time caretaker. You've got to excuse yourself. Not that you shouldn't visit, you definitely should, but you still have to keep a life, Ed. Yeah, Ed, just because if she's in a facility and you have a job, you have to be responsible to all aspects of your life. You can pay honor and respect to your mom by visiting her, but you need to take care of yourself, which means. showing up for work and giving it your best. It means taking time for your friends and dating

life. Sitting with your mom all day, all weekend is not going to bring her back. It's not going to, you're not, you can't really live those years. And it sounds to me a little bit, not that I'm a therapist, but that you're mourning.

It's sad, I don't know if she's at the point where she doesn't recognize. Sometimes they don't know who you are or and sometimes people might feel the more they go the better it is for her you know what i mean yeah i don't know the situation but you can't forget about you yeah you and i love that you love your mom you love your mom that much it shows but you can't do it all you can't do it all and you know what i think if your mom were of saying mine and wasn't struggling with dementia she would probably say ed don't be silly

go out meet friends for dinner have a date live your life that doesn't mean not to come see your mom at all it just means get a little more balance in your life at yeah we wish you all the best we hope that your mom just i don't know just can and we agree ed this disease is horrible it's it's really sad and it could go on for a long time but don't forget about you because if you're not healthy and you don't do you good you're not going to be any good to her that's right but we do wish you love and love yeah okay the next one's from lulu and she's 30 from denver colorado hi hi susan and kathy so fun to be writing into you i just had my first baby and wanted to know your thoughts on an issue i'm having with my in-laws they are unbelievably kind and generous

and help us a ton with the baby but they are both smokers and have been for decades. I wouldn't tell them how to live their life or to stop. But whenever they hold our baby, she is handed back to me smelling like smoke. I have been very clear that they can't smoke around her and they respect that. But I can't stand that every time they hold on my newborn baby, she reeks of smoke. I don't want to tell them they can't hold her or come over because they really are so helpful and have been really amazing at helping us get set up for our first child. Do you think there is anything I can do about the smoke smell? We've tried wrapping her in a blanket, but it seems to permeate everything. Let me know if you have any advice on this and thank

you so much and I adore you too. Oh, Lulu. Congratulations. First of all, yeah, first of all, congratulations. But here's the thing. Your in-laws, you can't make them quit smoking if they're smokers they're smokers you by your own admissions said they've been great help to you with the baby here's the deal when they leave put the baby in the bathtub or or say something like mom could you wash your hands first because i can smell it on her it's on her clothes i'm sure it's all over their clothes smokers clothes smell it's in their hair it's in their fingertips it's everywhere and i don't blame you here's the good news lulu while it's smells bad, it's not going to permeate your daughters or so, I can't know if it's

where it goes. Anyway, your baby's lungs. So at least you got that going for you. That sucks. Just, just, you know, do the best you can. And when they leave, bathe the baby because they're not going to quit smoking. Wash their clothes, yeah, because they are good grandparents. They love your, they just unfortunately have a horrible. I think it grosses her out more than it does. The baby doesn't know. And the baby's not being affected. like you said, that's a tough one, babe. Although don't you love the smell of a baby's head right after it? I know.

So, you know, I get it, Lulu, but here's the thing. Smoking is a terrible addiction. That is. I did it for 100 years. Yeah. And they would, I'm sure, I could. But I never smoked around the child or anything like that. So at least she's doing that.

Or both parents, both grandparents, right? Smoke at least is not going into the baby's logs. Yeah, yeah. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam, maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her.

Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her. boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them.

I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jamil Hill, host of the Sports and Politics, and on the latest episode of politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the

state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately, that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives, and that's been part of the challenge. But we continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents, to stand up for your constituents. And there's life after Congress. And you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your time in the House of Representatives. knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years. But their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever.

Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble.

Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. Wow, these are some hard questions today, Susan. I know today it's making me sad, but it's game time, so. All right, it is game time, and we're not, oh, again. Yay.

I'm not going to do moral quandary today, Susan. I'm having such a good day. Those of you please write in, Kathy loves moral quandary. Let's bring it back. But today, instead, we're going to let our listeners get to know us. I think the listeners will be happy about this. So we're going to switch off reading. each of the questions, and we'll both give our answers.

All right, are you ready? Yes, I am. All right. When you were a kid, what was your dream job? Wow. Okay, I know mine. What? I wanted to be a model and a flight attendant when I was young.

And I did both, actually. You know what I wanted to be when I was a kid? What? A broadcast journalist. I wanted to have, you know, that. When you were a little kid, you knew that? Yeah, I just always just. just really wanted to have that microphone in my hand and doing it.

I did. And you were made for it, Kathy. You really were. Okay. What hour slash time of your life do you remember fondly, but you're glad you're past? An answer could be like college. It was really fun, but you're so glad that you're not stressed out 19-year-old anymore. Or grade school, middle school, high school.

what error of your life do you remember fondly but you're glad you're past I know what mine is well I can tell what mine is and then you can I love being a mom and I can't believe you're studying this

mine was parenting oh my gosh we are alike I love I love raising gifts but I now I don't like giving my grandchildren back but it's not my response you know it's a heavy responsibility to raise children and now i just get to give them cookies that not really i don't do that but i agree with that yes although come on susan

you and i both are still parents to our children oh always always but you know in the back to school night and filling out the papers and all that ever what gosh and making sure the homework was done and do you remember signing the homework packing the lunches yes have you practiced your piano you yet today. Have you done your math over? Did you do the corrections on your spelling test? Oh, gosh. Okay. Next one. What is something about you

that has changed the most since your 20s? My attitude. My body, my attitude. Tell me more. I was going to say my body, but tell me about your attitude. Oh, totally different attitude.

although some of it is still quite the same though well you know I always thought I'm invincible you know it's I believe in the dream and that part of the attitude is still the same yeah um I was more carefree and now I'm more careful oh the hell you are I believe it or not I was way worse than this oh dear God you're lucky you're alive and breathing if this is you If this is you more controlled, oh, how about you?

There's two things. My body, because I was a lot bigger girl back in the day. But I also think I'm a lot more confident now than I was. Even though I was married in my 20s. I got married folks when I, 10 days after I turned 20, I walked down the aisle. So I was very young. I didn't feel young at the time. I chose well, but I was very young.

So, but I just think I'm more confident now. But so much changes from your 20s, you mature. I mean, that's, your brain expands, you know, you learn so many things. How old were you, when you got married? I was late, I admit, 27, 27, yeah. I mean, if we're being honest, who remember. I don't remember everything, I know. But the confidence part came later in life, yeah.

I always had some, but second-guessed everything, you know. Yeah, we don't second-guesses. We don't have time, Susan. We don't have time to second-guess. Take it, go with it, and run. Okay. All right. What's a hobby you've always wanted to try but never got into?

A hobby? A hobby. Do you have hobbies? Yeah, I need a little point. All right. There's a hobby. You don't have a hobby? I don't know.

Like a hobby? is playing golf. That's a sport that I like to do. That's a hobby playing golf. But I did get into it. So what would when I think of a hobby, I think of people go into like ceramic classes. That can be a hobby. But I never wanted to do it. I took a ceramic class

once. Oh my God, I couldn't believe when you put it in the kiln that didn't come out anything looking like I did. Yeah, right. I would want to make like the stuff I saw in Venice, you know. The blown glass. Yeah, not happening. I don't think it's called a hobby,

but something I always wanted to do and was really hoping, hope the producers are listening from the Goldman Bachelor. Do you know what I really wanted to do? What? Host a show. Skydiving. I would love that too. I really want to.

That's not a hobby either. Well, it is if you do it regularly. Well, I guess it could be. I mean, why not, right? I think I'd be scared to death, but it's one of those things I'd love to do, conquer my fear. And do it in tandem. I would love to do it.

All right. Oh, boy. Who was your favorite band or artist when you were in high school? Did I have a favorite? Led Zeppelin. I was a rocker in high school. Did you like the Beatles? Yeah, I liked all kinds. I liked Simon Garfunkel.

I tended, I didn't like the hard rock stuff as much. Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin, yes. You know who else? The Alman Brothers. The Moody Blues. Blues, I love the blues. No, the moody. Oh, no. Oh, dear Lord. Susan, the group, the moody blues. Do you remember them? Yes.

Great course I did. I was a big, big music person, though. I was too. What were you like as a kid, Kathy? Well, let's start. Tell what do you remember that you were like as a kid. I was a kid who was the last of five until my parents were divorced and then I gained a nine-year younger brother you know he was born nine years after i was uh around and then i gained a step-sister so i was kind of the kid vine for attention because i wasn't the oldest i wasn't the prettiest you know i was just i was just trying to get something to notice me i was the oldest the first of five

oh you're the princess and my i was the first girl and my grandmother had all brothers and then three sons. So I was the first grandchild and I was a girl need I say more. I was very active. Oh, I was put on a show for my family. Were you athletic? I was a gymnast, yes, and a dancer.

But I was, I liked attention. I would make people laugh even young. I put on little shows in my house. I forgot about that. I was an athlete. I was always, like I played varsity tennis my sophomore year in high school which nobody made varsity um i played i was always in grade school in middle school i was a cheerleader and i was picked always one of the first girls to be picked for you know for the kickball team or the softball i loved athletics but in school i got good grades

and i would fail conduct i because i was always they used to say to my mother susan likes to talk I was the class clown. I won most humorous, you know, at the Halloween party, funniest. Do you think I got good conduct grades? Uh-uh. You don't? No, because you like to talk. You like to tell people how to do it.

Not in school, honey. No? I had E for excellent. Oh, I know. Excuse me, Ms. Perth. My mother, my real mother, would have taken a board and whacked me if I'd come home with that. Oh, no.

I was very, I think that's why at home I was so. Chattie Kathy Onry. Ornery. Yeah, well. All right. All right. Go ahead.

Who was someone that really inspired you when you were young? Inspired me. I mean, this is, you know what this sounds like? What? It sounds like the question you get on a college. I know. Who inspired me? Everyone always says the grandmother or the grandfather or the father of their mother.

It's my dad, but it wasn't inspired. I just listen. I think one of my mom's, friends. Really? Yeah. I used to love how she dressed. My aunt chicky, my mother's sister.

Do you know I have a cousin chicky? She had like a 12 inch waist her whole life, you know. You know cousin Donna. Well, her mom, chicky. Okay. And she inspired me. I have a cousin chicky. Oh, yeah.

You've told me that before, I think. But I think she inspired me because she was a single parent, number one. She worked and she always dressed so cool. when she would come over, and I was very inspired by her. Interesting. I think aside from my grandparents and my dad, I would have to say it was a college counselor that I met when I was eight years old. I still talked to them.

She made me believe in myself. She made me believe I could do anything. She taught me how to swim. She taught me about poetry. she taught me about books and reading she just that's awesome yeah she's she's a very cool one mary okay if you could go back to any age for one week what age would it be and why who cares it's only a week i think it would be my late 30s right hitting 40 yeah You know what my week would be?

I want to know why, but it just really hit me hard. I would go back to the week of my wedding. And I would love to relive it and see it all from the perspective I have now. Why would you go back to your 30s? Because I would have done something that I didn't do for 20 plus more years, not 20. Yeah. I would have made a decision. I would have made a decision, a big decision in my life because at that age I knew I wasn't happy in my marriage, but I stayed for my children, which, and I think things could have been different. So if I got to do it over again, that's the week I would change, I guess. Wow. Yeah. Well, that's big, you know, that takes a lot to admit that. Okay, what's a memory from your teens that still makes you laugh to this day? I was such an idiot.

What did you do? It makes me laugh. Oh, gosh, I made everybody laugh. But a memory from my teens thinking I could get away with shit, Kathy. Like I was forbidden near Billy Patterson and he had a big Harley and he was four years older than. me. So at that, I was a teenager. My mother was like, you are forbidden. And I would go out with him and sneak. Of course, he'd pick me up somewhere else. And he would drop me off like across the street behind the houses, like that an alleyway that we walked through. And I'd run through the little

alley into my front door like nobody knows. And he would come down my street and ram up the Harley. And my father and mother would just look at me like, you dumb, stupid girl. And they go, you were with him. No, I wasn't. No, I wasn't. So, Bachelor Nation, Susan has a tendency to lie. We hope we have grown it. I don't know. My teens were not my bestest time. I struggled a bit.

I really can't. I mean, I love to laugh, and I did laugh a lot, but picking out one thing. I can name 100. Well, I can name one. I can name one. I think I've told you the story before. My parents took us to the Bahamas and there were, you know, you imagine there were five of us, whatever. And my dad said, hey, let's sneak you into the casino.

And remember, Miss Little Do Right, me was like, Dad, I was 16. I had a 17-year-old sister, an 18-year-old step-sister, and a 19-year-old sister. So the four of us were going into the casino. Do you know we all allowed? We weren't allowed. The age was 18, to be fair, it was not. Oh, no. No, I think it was 18. Anyway, guess who was the only one who didn't get thrown out? You? Uh-huh. And I was the youngest. I don't know. I had on a bar. They didn't see you. That's why.

Oh, no. I was plenty large. No, I think it was just that I, you know, acted like so stiff. I wasn't, I laughed after the fact, but I was very serious. Like, I have to pretend I'm old here. one another good memory and I was a teenager we were I went to an all girls Catholic high school and we were cheerleaders for the all boys Catholic high school we were going out for the homecoming queen and I was only a junior and I remember having to stand on the stage and that they would question us that give us questions and they said to me how does the Catholic high school influence you and I stood there dumb and I went uh it keeps me away from the boys well the nuns the priest everybody went crazy i didn't know what to think and and not only that i was homecoming queen that year first junior ever yeah i think that question was a good one for she

knows not what she says there's no way in hell season that was hysterical you can't make this shit up god i can't i just can't all right moving along the next one is what's a fashion or beauty trend you fall in the past that you regret looking back i've got that one so easily. Okay, what is it? My hair, you know, I've got this fluffy hair. Yeah. And, and it's really hard to control, right? I mean, it's straight because it's flatter. I know about your hair. I know you do. But when I was in the 80s, I thought it would be a really cute look to have perm. Oh, everybody had purse. Oh, no. But my perm with my fluffy hair, I looked like Shirley Temple rolled out of bed on a bad hair. I used to give Dickie perms. That was an error. Yeah. It was so.

such a bad look and I look back on pictures now and my daughter, you know, in the family, my daughter says, mom, what the hell were you thinking? I said, Caitlin, in 20 years, you're going to look back at your pictures and I'm going to say to you, what the hell were you thinking? It's called time. But oh, it was a bad look. It was a bad look. All right. Culturally, what was your favorite decade that you lived through and why? hippies i like being a hippie loved being a hippie did you wear the bellbott i didn't live through woodstock i i mean i was too young to go but that was like my favorite would your parents have let you go to woodstock no hell no of course not they would have they probably wanted to go but they were

pinned down with the bottom of the church singing row row row your boat with a bunch of girls roasting marshmallows. What was your favorite decade? Well, culturally got me. You word culturally. I would have to say the decade probably in my 20s, believe it or not, because I lived in, when I was first married, I lived in Scotland for two years, and I loved trying the food and meeting the people and just all the, you know, driving on the wrong side of the street, all the things I learned about living in a foreign country. And then later, or in my 20s, we moved back to Boston so my husband could go to graduate school. And I was close to...

You were awfully young to do all that travel. That's pretty cool. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. It was fun. And we got to travel to the continent when we lived in Scotland. But then we moved back to Boston. I loved all the museums and the, you know, just the city life of Boston. It was kind of cool.

I got to do a lot of things. Even though I grew up in Boston, I didn't go into the city that much. I grew up in the suburbs. so that was i don't know that's what i think cool all right what's something that exists today that you wish you had as a teenager for example netflix cell phones what's something i wish we had computers because that encyclopedia would drive me crazy when i had to look up stuff you know what i didn't know how i was going to answer that but because i'm sort of with you all the technology that we have but i think my favorite well you know i can't live without my phones that's a

given but i you know what else i i love to read as you know and um i used to walk around with books like heavy books because i you know if i had 10 minutes spare i would sit and read um so i my kindle my reading you know that i can yeah that would have been good i love it just pop it in my person i can good i read but all of technology would be tough and of course you know i grew up with black I'm not kidding. We got colored TV. I don't know how old. I remember when the color TV came. We had black and white for a while. Yeah. So, I mean, just think about how far we've come. What's one thing about you, Kathy? That's never changed and reminds you of your younger self. Easy. My sense of humor. My sense of humor. My gift of gab. My silliness. Yeah. I always have that.

My talk, my propensity to talk all the time, but also just laughing and making a other people laugh. Well, I hope everybody did get to know a little bit more about us. Do you think we shared enough with them? They know I'm a class clown. You're funny. I mean, if you want more information about us. Don't do a perm. Don't know. Do not do a firm. Write in and if there's other things you want to know about us, go to bachelornation.com. Yeah, ask us. Write your questions, right? And we'll answer them honestly. Even if it's embarrassing, we'll definitely ask, I mean, answer them. All right, well, now that you know everything about us, that is going to do it for this episode of Happy Hour.

Thanks so much for joining us. And listen to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. That's us on the IHeart Radio or wherever you listen to your podcast. Thanks for listening, guys, and I hope you enjoy this as much as we do. Have a great week, everybody. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly,

and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just, looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her.

Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Jamel Hill, host to the Sports and Politics Podcasts Spolitics. And on the latest episode of Spolitics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me

for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives. We continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents. And there's life after Congress. Make sure to listen to this episode of Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Humanzor.

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