Bachelor Happy Hour - A Look Back: Peter Weber on Night One and His ‘Biggest Fear’

Episode Date: May 11, 2023

We’re looking back at one of our favorite episodes of Bachelor Happy Hour. Listen back as Bachelor Peter Weber sits down with Rachel Lindsay and new co-host Becca Kufrin about his first night handing out the roses. He discusses why Hannah Ann received the First Impression Rose, how he felt about Hannah Brown’s cameo, and his “biggest fear” about being the Bachelor.Plus, Peter reveals how he really felt about Hannah Brown revealing the intimate details from their night in the Fantasy Suite.See omny.fm/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. What's up, everybody? Welcome to another episode of Bachelor Happy Hour. Got my girl Becca here, my new co-hosts. We're very happy right now. We are happy because I feel like the people have been asking, right? We may have heard from him just a little bit on the podcast.

He called from a distance, but we have him in studio today. Would you like to tell them who him is? We have him in the flesh, everybody, and we know that he's taken time out of probably the busiest schedule of his life. But we needed to hear from the man himself. So, of course, we have Bachelor Peter. What did your mom call you, bud? Bud. Oh, Bud.

We got Bud. We got Bylet P, whatever you want to call him. He is here with us today. And we are so excited because, you know, everyone and their mom. have been talking about night one, all of the girls, all of the drama that went down. So we are going to hear from him. We have a million questions, but we have to hear it from the man himself. Yeah.

So thank you, Peter, for being here. Thank you, guys. Yeah. Thank you so much. We're ready. I am very excited to be here. I don't know. And I feel like we've been catching up a little bit behind the scene.

So I'm sorry, you didn't get it at all. But we have so much to cover. Yeah. A lot that we unfortunately cannot get to today. because... I'm going there. No, we're getting there. We're getting there.

We're getting there. We're getting there. We're getting there. We've got to have my mom bring some Cuban food here, right? For some dinner, yeah. Well, we've been just waiting for you to come back to us, right? Like, you've finished your season. You've been in the sky.

We've been waiting for you to come back here so we can not grill you, but just question you. We've kind of feel like two big sisters because we've gone through this before. I can feel that. Yeah. And we know what it's like this time is so exciting, but so scary. It's a very weird phase. This time, I mean, your life is literally going to change. It's going to be rocked upside down.

I can't, I mean, we can tell you from experience what to expect, but it's going to be so different for you. And this is the time when it's exciting and the show's just starting and you probably can't wait to share with the world. Everything that happens, but you can't. You have to stay silent. So I will say this is probably, you should hopefully enjoy this time because it's about to get crazy. It's about to get pretty crazy. You need your U time. I mean, I know from my experience, I just wanted to hole up and be with my family and that, you know, at my point with Garrett.

So we're hoping, fingers crossed, you have someone special to share this quiet time with until the finale. Yeah, now I'm excited for you guys all to see it. It was honestly, it was the two most amazing months, insane months, hardest months of my life. But I'm so happy I did. You look happy. You do. You do. I feel like you're always smiling.

I am. I'm always happy. It's a little brighter. Give me your top three words to describe your overall experience. Top three words. Let's see here. I'd say surprising, emotional, and love.

Oh, is that a little tini- Three positive words. What else do we expect from Mr. Weber? I don't have some exhausting. I like the way that your brain works. It was extremely exhausting, but it was so worth it. 100% worth it. So coming in, I mean, it's such an exciting time, you know, to find out that you're the Bachelor.

It's huge. And you're humbled. You're honored. You're scared. You kind of don't know what to do with yourself because it's such a surreal experience. But coming in, what was your biggest fear to start this whole thing? yeah i so i was obviously yeah i'm just extremely humbled to have this opportunity and um i just remember when i actually found out that it was going to happen just all this excitement just completely

just over was overflown with excitement and just in my head trying to have all these expectations of what it was going to go like and if this was going to work and i always knew it was going to work i had that mindset going into it just that's the way i've always been but i think i my biggest fear about it was possibly just falling for someone that for whatever reason wasn't into it for that that's obviously that exact reason that I was or didn't fall for me as strong as I fell for them because when I was going to do this and I decided to do it, I was going to give everything to it. And I remember that first night, you know, with all ladies in that first toast, like that's what I told them. And I said, you know, I know this works. Believe me. Like I just finished, you know, an amazing journey. Yes,

it didn't work for me the way I wanted it to. But I'm here to tell you it 100% works. If you give yourself to this and I just ask for you to do that right now tonight make a promise to yourselves and to me that you're going to do that because I'm going to give you everything and um I guess my biggest fear was maybe that ended up with someone that didn't do that but I would say it's a valid fear you know didn't you have that fear because you know you know you know what you're giving but you're kind of in a room full of strangers you know beautiful strangers I might add but you don't know if their intentions are the same and it's so scary and you're alone you know You can't phone a friend, phone family.

You can't do a Google search, background search. You really just have to trust your gut. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. And, you know, you went through Hannah's season. You lived with however many guys, and you saw firsthand. Some guys were there, quote, unquote, for the right reasons, and some guys who weren't. And, of course, I'm sure you knew some women were going to be the same.

Like, some would be there for you. Some probably necessarily wouldn't. Right. So it's a very scary thing, giving all of yourself to say. something and just like hoping for the best but you have no idea what to expect because you don't know these women yet no you don't that's a very real fear and and on top of that as the as the season went on you know obviously stuff inevitably comes up and you hear stuff you know certain people start talking about certain people but one thing that I didn't necessarily realize was going to be

so hard being on this side of it side of it is you know obviously you're not in the house and you're not with them every day when the cameras are rolling, when they're not rolling. You only see that person putting their best foot forward and their best face and telling you pretty much what you want to hear, especially in the beginning before you really get to know them. And then stuff started coming up. And that was one of my biggest struggles having to deal with how to kind of like weed through that and who I could truly trust and who I couldn't. And I'm hearing one thing from one person and the exact opposite from the other person. And I'm not in the house actually do my own due diligence and own kind of like just feeling it out um that was very difficult for me how

did that make you feel when people would come up to you and tell you what was going on in the house yeah i absolutely hated that or complain to you it's like you've got a few minutes with me can we make the most of it yeah i i know that i could not say and i will say so there's there's so much you don't see being the lead i mean you're only going off of what people are telling you or what other people are telling you about someone else. And I will warn you, even watching your season back, you're going to see so much more that you missed. I had no idea was even going on.

Yeah, totally. And it's like, yeah, sure, somebody will mention something here and there. But you'll watch it back and you'll be like, oh, my gosh, I wish I would have known this sooner or how did I miss this? And that was one of the things for me personally watching the season back. I loved it and I hated it at the same time because there was a lot of funny parts that I was like, dang it, I missed that. And then there were parts where like, I was like, shoot.

I wish I would have known that, like, three weeks prior to this. So it'll be, you know, as much as you lived your side of things, it's going to be very eye-opening watching the next couple weeks go on because I will say, going into whenever you have your woman to all, you'll have some new points to probably talk about. I'm sure I will. For sure. So that first night happens, which I think is one of the most fun nights, right? Like, you never know who's going to pop out of the limo or whatever or whatever they come out of. You get to meet all these new people, fill all this new energy, and they're there for you. And it's exciting, and it's wild.

There's nothing like that night. But the rose ceremony, your first rose ceremony, you're on the other side. You see the secrets behind the closed doors of how everything is laid out and how you call names and all that good stuff. It's very technical. You get it all. And it's like, oh, this is what it's like you're finally on the other side and you see back rooms in the mansion that you've never seen before. Now I'm forgetting my question, because I'm so into talking.

With the Roe Ceremony? Going into the Roe Ceremony, was that, oh, sorry. No, no, go ahead. Go ahead. I was going to see, was that the first night, was that what you were most nervous about? Or were you more nervous to meet the girls, to have the conversations, to get to know them, to kind of see the ins and the outs of how it's all run? Like, what was the part that was most nerve-wracking and that stood out to you the most?

I definitely had a fear of letting go of someone that first night that, I really could have clicked with and like it could have just been fireworks with because obviously you only get yes first impressions are huge and then you know you get maybe a 10 15 minute conversation and you have to really kind of be sold on that person to at least give them a chance to really get to know them you know in that quick bit of time that was a fear I remember like leaving that first night or I guess morning because it goes so late just really hoping I shoot I hope I didn't let go of anyone that you know really could. been my person. So did you go off of gut instinct then? I did. Yeah. And I, and I trusted myself that first night, just like I did the whole time. And I felt good about my decisions, but, you know, I thought sending people home the first night was the easiest thing. Because I was like, I don't know you. But you didn't think, you didn't wonder maybe what if with, there were too many other people there. That's true. You can, yeah, you're right. So it was, after that, it became extremely hard because I had more conversations. But I do want to know. And Becca, chime, because I don't even think

I've asked you this question either, but they come out there. for you, did you think you already knew who you wanted, or like, who was your top person? Yeah. Same. Did you think that? I had, I will say, I wrote in my journal that night, and I had

three or four guys that I wrote. No, no. Oh, when you just met them out the limo, did you already kind of have it? Not, I'm talking before any conversations. Oh, because I'm going to more of this. When they're just, when they're just walking towards you. Yes. Before. I still, answer to still yes. Yes. Okay.

No, I didn't. I literally blacked out that entire time. I blacked out, but I didn't black out on the one that I was really into. Let me take my answer back because, well, I will say this, because Garrett stood out because he didn't come out of a limo. He came out of a minivan and he was just like wild and crazy. So he did stick out, and then he's one of the guys that going into that night, I wanted to talk to. I was excited to see again. And then I just liked him more after that. Did you give him your first impression rules?

Yeah. One thing for first nights that I personally got a lot of. a flack for was sending Joe home grocery store Joe I heard about that yeah okay I have my reasons I mean he's a great guy but since see that's why I kind of had a fear right there yeah so since we're now into you know we've seen the first episode do you think there's going to be any female versions of Mr. grocery store Joe I honestly think like I said I'm going to get a lot of Flack, obviously, being the pilot, one of the flight attendants, she came

in a full-on flight attendant get-up, had the most amazing, no, but I loved it. Like, I'm really surprised I kind of said her home. Obviously not, but you stood her home. But at least, like, the opening, I was, like, eating it up. I'm like, this is freaking awesome. And she's, like, doing her whole spiel and, like, welcome aboard, like, flight Bachelor 24 or something like that, like,

did her whole thing. Yeah, she did no work. She does that every day. I guess, I guess, yeah. But did she were through a Biscop cookie, because then you should have kept her. No, she didn't. That's why. She did not. So that was my reason. I mean, honestly, I think I would want to stand out. If I was coming, I get the windmill stuff.

That's going to happen. I'm sure we'll have heard it one too many times. But a flight attendant's like, I see this all day, every day. You know, like, at least put on like a Halloween version of it where it's sexy or something. I mean, I'm going to take the scarf off and wrap it around his neck, spank them with it. Like something to spice it off. If Rachel's ever on the show again, we know what she wants, guys. I'm just saying it's something you see every day.

You're right. I don't know. I still appreciated it, but... So did you feel like you had to get rid of the flight attendants? Did you have to get rid of those girls, the flight attendants, to not live up to a stereotype? Are you sick of being pilot, Pete, first of all? I should ask that. I'm not, no, because as much as people, everyone else is probably sick of it, but I love flying. That's just, that's me, and that's always going to be me. That's just my number one passion, my first love for sure.

But when that's all people know you ask. Right. That, and there's so much more to me, obviously, than just being a pilot. And hopefully, and a windmill. And I, hopefully, yeah, and a windmill. That stuff, you know, everyone will be able to hopefully learn a little bit more about me throughout this season. But, no, I didn't do it to kind of get away from that stereotype. And it's kind of funny because a little bit later on in the season, I get a surprise that I didn't know about.

It has a little bit to do with this. And it was actually really well done. I definitely appreciated it. A little bit to do with the flight attendant, didn't you? No, I got rid of the three. No, I know, but in the future With the flight attendant With the one that you sent home

No, none of the three that I sent home So there was three flight attendants that I knew about The first night And I sent all three of them home But later on Somebody disguised them so I like her already There's another pilot

See that's what I'm talking about Some originality Somebody owns a jet plane She's already my favorite I don't care who she is Definitely appreciated that See? That was cool

That was cool And the way she does it And delivers what she does is just so perfect and has me on the edge of my seat, I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa, what? Peter, I will say you're getting me very excited to watch the season. No, it's good. It's definitely very entertaining.

Okay. Do you feel like after the first, because the first rose ceremony is exhausting, you're up all night, it's the morning, people cry, you know, people are shocked and all. And did you feel emotional, though? Like, did you get emotional sitting anybody home after that? The only time I got emotional was at the beginning.

I got emotional on my toast. I remember walking in and, you know, all the ladies are there. They all stand up. They raise their glasses. And I just, I mean, that's like the first real, for me, at least the first real moment. Like, oh, my God, this is real. It's humbling because you have all these girls here for you. Exactly.

And just like, it was just, I'm getting like goosebumps right now, even thinking about it. I was just so much gratefulness. Just my entire body, that's what it was. And just so appreciative to have this moment and to realize that I remember saying, like, I hope this is, you know, the start of the greatest. love story ever like and I really believe that and just knowing that we were all on this together and about to embark on it and I was so excited for it and just so happy to be in that position and so thankful that I got emotional there um I didn't get emotional at the end though

I could see you having all that emotion like yeah you're all on like you're pouring your heart out you're being so vulnerable and then some little bitch says can I still you for a second and then the whole thing just starts and then it begins no yeah it was And it begins. So we know, obviously, you were nervous. I think we've, I was shaking in my little heels. I was so nervous. And I'm sure you could sense the girl's nerves, too.

How did you help them throughout the night, you know, feel at ease so they could kind of give you a glimpse of who they are? Because that was like, you know, you have to be making these quick decisions. You know, obviously you only have a few minutes with everyone. So it's like, you want to try to get to know them as best. you can without this front on. So how did you kind of put them at ease and help them out throughout the night? Honestly, for me, so I'm, I've just always been kind of a physical person. Like, physical touch has always been a love language in my mind.

Oh, we know, but no, I, because I remember I was just, you know, just as nervous as them. But I think just, it was like a small thing. I remember, like, I tried to, like, at least, you know, touch her leg or grab her hand and just, like, hold it and just, like, kind of just, like, give her, you know, that confidence that I want her to feel to be able to just be herself and kind of relax and just, you know, I remember multiple times I just like would talk to them like, like, guys, how cool is this? Like, this is a crazy first night we'll never forget. Like, this is just so amazing.

I'm so happy that you're here. Just, I don't know, just not trying to make the moment too big. Obviously, it's very nerve-wracking for them because they kind of have this pressure. But I don't know. I think, yeah, in regards to like just the small little physical touches and just trying to not make it too big of a moment. How should you pick a bow tie? You know, you said a little carry into a tizzy.

I had a fight for that. I know you did. You made Carrie upset probably trying to make that bow tie fan. He wasn't too mad about it. There's some other people that had to kind of get the approval on to sign off on it. But I don't know. I kind of just, I've always loved James Bond and like the whole like that whole suit. I've never worn a tuxedo like that.

Like the whole slim fit, custom fit tuxedo. I was like, I remember the last time I wore a tuxedo was at prom. And I wore my dad's like tuxedo was just really big and never fit me well. And I was like, I just want to wear a tuxedo and, like, go all the way. And I fought for that bowette. And I loved it. I'm not normally the dude. And I remember going into it.

I'm like, there's a chance of me I don't even kiss anyone this first thing. Peter, you threw Hannah all over the place on her season. You were definitely going to be kissing some girls that night. Yes, but, okay, to be real, this actually is to my point. With Hannah, I waited a while to kiss her. And it was a long time. So it was pint up aggression. Yeah, so for me, I've always been to person that when I'm really into someone,

I think it just comes from me being, you know, I was really shy when I was younger and it was, I didn't talk to girls for a long, it was really hard for me to. I had just always been that way and I, I've always waited a while to kind of make that first move. It's like with kissing. And so I kind of had this, like, okay, I'm going to do this for the first night and see how it goes. But then Savannah comes up to me and, you know, she does this little act with me and puts his blindfold on and like you know does this you know thing like starts like massaging my body or something and then goes in for the kiss and she did it and I was like all right there we go like I kind of got the

whole mindset. The seal is broken yeah seals broken and here we go like I didn't have fuck her up I wasn't waiting for that first kiss again so I kind of I don't know like I was feeling it with them so I went for it first impression rose because we've all been there having to give your first impression rose yeah now you give your first impression rose to Hannah Ann yeah and Hannah-Anna-Han Hannah-Anne Not just Hannah-Anna-Anne Hannah-Anne

Okay Why did you decide to give it to her Because I know this is going to be a little bit Controversy Because you gave it to somebody who Stole you three times What's up with that I know you like physical touch

That's honestly part of the reason I love that So Hannah-Anne was someone that She That girl knew exactly what she wanted coming into this and never let me question that and I literally mean that from the beginning

she was the first person to steal me away for the first conversation she was the first kind of normal kiss not from like the first you know first you know entrances and just I mean we clicked immediately just our yeah I'm going to say something

don't get mad at me okay I know exactly what you're saying we've only seen one episode but you know who Hannah Ann reminds me of and the way you talk about her? Everybody say it with me now. One, two, three. Luke P. No, not even close.

Not even close. Don't even go there. I'm just saying. No. Listen, he took initiative. She was intentional, but not like, no, that's different. She was maybe intentional, not manipulative. You know him outside of all of that.

You know him past the first. I'm only talking about first episode. We didn't know he was like that First episode, it was like, wow, he's really into this girl He knows exactly what he wants He is very intentional and exactly what he wants to do And she fills it as well That's the same way

I'm just saying we've only seen one episode Disagree, but that's fine And but like she like Hannah and she brought me up We went to like the couch She had drawn out this beautiful painting for me She had drawn with her dad Immediately starts going into like about her family And how important her family was to her

And it just like it was She's so not like that I believe you. I'm just saying there's a lot of similar I'm talking only first night. Yeah. Please everybody don't judge me.

I'm just talking about the first. I have no idea anything else about Hannah. And I get that. And maybe you know you saw Hannah Brown you know really take a liking to him.

Right. That first night. You didn't know anything else. You didn't? You saw him on a date. I did see him on the date first. I'm not just only keep it in context like just that first night.

There's nothing wrong with that you know being that kind of forward and showing that person. It wasn't. Just the first night is all I'm talking about. about nothing past that, because I had a lot to say about him. I'm just saying. I just say it.

I hope she's not like that. We'll have to see how it all plays out. I'll have to see. Hannah Ann. So I know for Bacheloretts, well, the streak is now broken, but we were very good at choosing our final person who would give first impression rows to. So who knows maybe Peter will follow in our footsteps again. We will have to wait to find out. Did you?

Oh, you mean with, like, choosing the... Who did you choose? Did you choose your first? Well, so at the very end of it, I ended up on it. You might as well practice with us before you have to go sell somebody else, you know? I'm just saying. No, I, um, yeah, I don't think it's going to get out and, um, hope when it doesn't. So...

I hope it doesn't, too. I want to be surprised. I don't want to know, again, I think I said this to your parents last week, but I want to be very unspoiled this season. I will probably be wrong because I'm always wrong. Yeah. in most things but yeah

I wanted to be very surprised at the end and see it all unfold I'm all like that I think that at the end of the day that's what everyone wants to like I hate this whole spoiled now type world that we live in and everything just wants to like enjoy it

I'm only going to be upset if you don't pick anybody like I have I'm like Peter's gonna find it if anybody does Peter does this is only reason I'm gonna be upset if I don't pick anybody I'm going to be upset I would not be upset because as long as you're happy

and if no one was there as your perfect fit, then that's okay. I can't, no, I cannot imagine that Peter doesn't find his personal. I think he will. I think he will. Yeah, I can't. And then we now have someone to triple date with us. Yeah, yeah.

We're coming over to your mom's side. Well, if I like her, okay? If I like her, let's just be clear. Then she can come over to my mom's house for Cuban dinner. Okay, our family dinners can get very intense. She doesn't like you, whoever it is. This could be weird. The first night is so wild.

It's so crazy. It's so long. Do you think there's anything you would have done differently? If you could. Maybe not kiss so many women. But no, honestly, I made a point to talk to every single one. And I didn't want, because I know sometimes that doesn't happen just because of straight up time. So I was really happy I was able to do that.

Honestly, no. I really wouldn't change anything about that first night. I really wouldn't. I will say I did hear from some of the producers. who I still stay in touch with, that they really appreciated the fact that you pushed to talk to all the girls. And I think that's a testament to you.

I did it too that night. Good for you. It's hard. It's not easy. At least you know who you're sending home. I did not. I was so tired by the end that I was like, I'm fine. I was a zombie at the end of that.

Well, do you know what? And I want to know if you guys thought this too. When I was going through it, I thought never forget what it feels like to be a contestant, to be on the other side. The sacrifice that you're making to be there. Yeah. Yeah, and it's like, even if you're exhausted as the lead and you're so, you're just like, oh, again, and you've had all these conversations, that person's been waiting five, you know, hours, days at sometimes to have a conversation with you.

And I always remember thinking, just put yourself, remember what it was like, just muster up enough energy just to give them something. It's not easy, but totally worth it. No, it's not. How many did you not talk to? Well, okay, I talked to most people. I think there was four guys that I didn't talk to you. I will say the one I did not care to talk to. Who, and I won't say his name, but he...

We won't remember. He gave me, he came out of the limo and he's like, I want a relationship, or he's like, how do you feel about a 50-50 relationship? And I was like, great, that's what I want? And then he's like, what about 60, 40? And then he like took a step away for me, making me do more of the work. Did they air this? Yeah.

And so I actually said I didn't feel the need to. talk to him, but... Well, if he wasn't memorable, I have no... I watched your season, obviously. I have no idea who this person is. You send him home the first night? Yeah.

So I want to backtrack a little bit. So, your night one, you meet all these amazing women, well, hopefully amazing. Yeah. And then Hannah comes out, and she's the last girl

out of the limos. What is going through your mind in that moment? Like, I feel like my stomach would have fallen out of my butt. Yeah. I would have been... I would honestly probably

don't know what I would have said. Yeah. So I remember she's the, so the last girl will come through what I thought was the last girl. And then one moral limo comes. Didn't know it was her though. And then I like look a little closer and I realize it's actually Hannah. I was like, you've got to be kidding me.

Like I really honestly, I didn't. I did not expect for her to show up that first night. Maybe sometime throughout the season, but not that first night. That was a complete shock to me. And then I mean, yeah, I get, I can be honest. Like, it's all good. whether I should have or I shouldn't have, I probably started getting a little more excited.

I'm like, I thought maybe, you know, she was coming for... To be part of out. What else are you going to think in that moment when she's walking up? So, yeah, and I would feel, and Rachel's saying, we would feel the exact same way. You'd get that, like, the little butterflies of excitement. Yeah. So then, obviously, she gives you the wings back.

Right. Says Sianara. And then the group date, you know she's going to be... Hosting it. Okay, you guys have to realize. Like, she, I went in because she was, like, very emotional. I didn't just go to catch up with her. She was, like, crying, like, crazy.

And so I walked over, and I see her, and she's, like, mascara everywhere. Just, like, crying. I, like, try to go comfort her and talk. And then I get emotional. And just, stuff just floods back to me. Of course. At that point, I felt like a jerk doing it. But at that point, I didn't have any feelings for any of the girls yet.

She was just honestly there to host a date. I believe that. It was going to be surprised for me. I didn't know what the date entailed. I just knew she was going to host it. And so I told the girls that. But as a lead, and you can vouch for me on this, when it gets down to those final people,

they pull on your heartstrings in a certain way. Yeah. And in our talk, I call her out on that because I was prepared at AFR to, like, give it a shot, and I knew there was a chance for The Bachelor, and I was going to say no to the show. Anyways, what I was saying, yeah, how that whole conversation kind of ends

or why I even give it another chance was I called her out because at AFR when I saw her for the first time after the show, and then we kind of like had a brief like just saying goodbye to each other off camera just like caught up that she said that she had actually moved out to close to where I was living I was like no way like let's let's yeah let's meet up we had agreed I honestly got excited at that point I was like you know what this maybe this isn't over yet yeah I had felt like some cameras you went there on stage to be completely honest and I remember my family and we flew out to New York that night we were going to go for this for a couple weeks just for

vacation and um i was really excited like pursue something and then that that next night i remember watching the second episode of afr with her and tyler and she asked tyler out and i was like what the hell yeah and so then i was just like right there i'm like done all right over it i'm moving on and like because it hurt like i was not expecting that i get that and so then i called her out on that i was like why the hell did you do that um and so then we just kind of everything just came out and uh to answer your question yeah it obviously broke my heart to see her in that way um i had never kind of, I didn't know that she still felt that way for me. I'm completely honest.

And I wasn't DMing her. Like apparently she said that, you know, her and Tyler had been DMing that summer before, or that summer. So, yeah. When she cried, what did she say her tears were based on? Like, what was the emotion behind her tears? She just was pretty much expressing to me that obviously she had been through an, like, very difficult time, obviously, with how her relationship ended with Jed and just how difficult being in that position it is. And now I've seen it going through a whole season. It's insanely

difficult, as both of you know. And she just was being very honest with me that, you know, she wishes, she admitted to me that she made the wrong decision. Like, she told me that. And... With Jed or with Tyler? Um Do you get why I'm asking? Yeah We know with Jed But then she essentially chose

From the story you're telling me She essentially chose Tyler as well Right So did she explain Was it just a general statement? She explained to me The whole Tyler thing was apparently They had been DMing a little bit

They had been talking a little bit And I just hadn't I never reached out to her I was waiting to see her at AFR And that was the first time because you followed the rules I mean yeah And you see the good in people

No that's what I did But again I know that she had something really real It's really real with Tyler as well And so I can't get mad at her For pursuing a relationship there I just the part that pissed me off And that hurt me was we had talked about

And maybe I shouldn't have gotten excited about No you should have gotten excited No you should have It makes all the sense in the world That you would get excited over that like honestly it does and it's flattering too you know like I will say we're all human and there's a point when I'm sure we've all felt an X at some point comes back and you feel like it's kind of an ego boost so I get that you know of course I think that's a natural human feeling and emotion okay oh I guess I am just like I am listen we we met before and I told you that I explained to you I was like listen you're going to see in the that I was a big advocate for Mike for Bachelor and explained to you why I was doing it and I wanted to get ahead of it before I sat down and I talked to you because I wanted you to know where I was coming from and that it wasn't anything personal. It has nothing to do with you. I have said, you know, you read the clickbait. You don't see that. If you dive into the article, I have spoken very highly about you being a great Bachelor and I really think that you are. And having talked to your parents last week about you and learning who you are and even sitting in here now, like now I am a huge advocate for you. So I feel. protective over you. So I'm, I am getting, I'm, I'm getting, I can feel it. I was not expecting

this. I love this. You deserve somebody who wants to give you exactly what you want to give them. And I'm, well, I guess we know, I guess we'll have to see what happens. Yeah. But I hope that, you know, you realize that through your journey. I did. You know, whether that's, whether Hannah joins or not. So obviously we, uh, left. the first episode knowing you know Hannah came out of the limo Hannah came back for the first group date to host it

are you and I don't want you to give anything away I obviously I feel like the next episode is going to be very juicy but were you able to kind of bounce back from that emotional conversation with her yes I was yeah I won't give anything away

of how that whole conversation ends or what happens after that but obviously everyone, you know, can assume that I had to go confront the other women that I was on a group date with at that point. And I'm not going to say it was comfortable. It was definitely uncomfortable. There was definitely some anger coming from them, and rightfully so. But what I will say is going into that after party from that date, while I was really uncomfortable and they were just being really honest with me, I appreciated them calling me out on what they did and expressing their feelings to me and not holding back.

And in a way, I think, allowed me to almost get closer to some of the women really early on, just with them being able to be so open and just raw and honest with me. That's got to suck, though, because I think my first couple of group dates that I had, I mean, you're still getting to know people. You still get nervous. It's just kind of an uncomfortable situation and to add this tension on top. I feel like I would have been dreading it. Yeah, and I didn't, again, I didn't intend to, that was never the intention.

Right. There was supposed to be a full-on date that day. We obviously didn't get to do and stuff just happened. But just for anyone that maybe thinks that, I don't know what they're thinking about, Han and I, but that was a really real relationship and those are real feelings and stuff came up and, you know, feelings came back when I saw her there. And I don't know, I just, we both kind of just followed our heart in that conversation. But you guys will see what happens. I know it was tough for the girls on the group date to be there, to witness all of that.

And, you know, it's tough. You know, you're in this place where you don't really know what's going on. You don't trust anything, anything. And to see that on the first date, that's a lot. Yeah. But I would have loved to have been the girls that weren't on the date. And I'm at home. And all those girls come back, just angry little birds.

and are just like, let me tell you who was on the date. And I'm just like sitting back with popcorn like, oh, I'm so glad I wasn't there. Because, you know, you're upset when you find out you're not on the date, then you hear about that date. That's like a great day or not to be on that one. Yeah, yeah. Do you feel you leave us hanging. So we have no idea what happens next week. But do you feel you got the closure that you needed out of that, out of that conversation with Hannah?

Yes, I do. Good. Yeah. And everything that happens from that point on, I think. feel really good about. Good. Okay. So night one is over.

You now know that you have your entire exciting season to look forward to. Is there one thing that you wanted to make sure you avoided throughout your season? Something that you wanted to maybe do differently from Hannah's season or that you just knew going into you did not want personally for yourself to happen? well i i guess because i was asked a lot before the whole show started or season started um like what do you want to be remembered for like you have you know coltson with the wall and then hannah with the windmill and you know so what's peter going to be and i remember like taking offense to that and i was like i i swear to got like i hate to gain that question like i don't want

to be remembered for any of that stuff all that i care about is i want to hopefully hopefully at the of this, be able to give everyone that watches this show and has fallen in love with this show an opportunity to live, you know, for these two months vicariously through my journey and my love story and kind of fall in love and throughout watching that. That's all that I cared about being remembered for.

Good answer. Who the fuck wants to be remembered for an inanimate object? A windmill and a fucking fix. But I got asked that all the time. I was like, what do you want? I'm like, I don't care about that. I just want, you know? And I will say, I think there's such a split now for people. They're like, do you want to watch for a love story or do you want to watch for the drama and I think I feel like I follow

you and I'm sure Rachel you can attest to this I went in being like this is my life I want to find a partner to share it with like I'm taking this so seriously like I'm all in to find my person if he's here I didn't care about the drama and yes people can say I had a boring season but I didn't care about all the BS like I wanted to find my person right and so now it's like of course it's a TV show you want people to have their moments and you want to rope people in and the drama but like for me it was about the love

which I love that you said that but now it's such a split vote I think for people it's like yeah I get you need the drama and it's at the end of day it's a TV show and it's entertainment of course but also yeah this is our lives and I think all three of us went into it with the same mindset and yeah and I think people

forget that along the way like yes to them it's a TV show and it's like an object for them at times but it's like we're also human and at the end of the day we have to live with our decisions and we want it's a big thing to say yes to be in the Bachelor and Bachelorette

and so we want to find what we were looking for and that's not the drama but that's the love and that's what I everyone listening please keep that in mind all the future people

so that being said we saw episode one and a lot goes down so what can we expect for the next upcoming episodes what is it going to show us drama love give me a next

I never got a break. I never got a break. Honestly, something happens every single week. And it got to the point, like, it was very exhausting. And it was, like, I was, okay, this week something. It's going to be okay. Smooth sailing, nope. Then I split my forehead open. And then it's just like, just something every single week.

So we're going to get good TV is what you're saying. Yeah. Yeah, I think so. I want to just know one thing throughout your season. Did you ever forget someone's name to their face? The first night. So this girl, oh, yeah. But after that.

What's the most, okay, let me backtrack. What's the most embarrassing thing that happened? Good question. On your season. Oh, boy. Besides your forehead. Besides the forehead. That's pretty embarrassing.

Let me see here. Shoot, I'm on the spot now. I got to think of this. I'm making some of the dates. I mean, I had, I don't know if it was embarrassing. It was, like, awkward. A lot of exes come back that, like, not even just my exes, come back. Oh, wow.

They always get the exes in somehow. But then also my exes. I had multiple exes come back on this season. Come on. Come on, Bachelor do you have? Yopana, how many more are there? Another one that I hadn't seen in, like, years. Peter, according to your parents, you didn't break out of your shell, tell what, your senior year of high school.

Yeah. And you didn't really talk to girls. Well, I shouldn't say not talk to them. So how many exes are we talking here? I mean, yeah, I broke out my show at senior year. I got my first girlfriend because she came up to me and talked to me first. And I don't know. I guess I've had like four or five.

Okay. Sounds like they're all on the show. No, you're going on the show. I have 29 on top of that. That's true. Yeah, 29 more. Or me or I don't know. Or maybe 30.

Who knows? But let me think about that. the embarrassing one, embarrassing story. I want something juicy that you can talk about that will give anything away. I have a question, and maybe this can be that, it's not embarrassing, but maybe juicy. I've been saying that, you know,

of course we had to talk about the windmill, blah, blah, blah, blah, whatever. I've been saying, if I was a girl on Peter's season and I make it to the fantasy suite, if he doesn't do it at least four times with me, we have an issue. So my question is, surely we know your season is ended,

I don't know. Did we set another record? Okay, so... Does anything beat the windmill? Nothing is going to come out. I was not the person that vocalized any of that last season. Okay, I said nothing, and I am not going to say anything about this season either in regards to intimate stuff in a bedroom. Okay.

Oh, well, who said a bedroom? Shit, last time it wasn't. It wasn't. Or just fantasy sweet in general. I just want to know, were you embarrassed when she said that four times? The truth now. I was not expecting it But back in the summer

I was hanging out with Demi and And Luke I remember Luke S And Connor Put an initial after that No No no no And it's funny

Because I just It was the first time I actually met Demi And she just was like You know I love Demi She just brought it up She's like man

Hannah was like Talking about you And like talking you up And I was like Yeah I don't know why though She like she said twice or something Like I don't know where that came from Because it wasn't twice

I was like a lot more than that And that was that, had that conversation. And then when she said it to me on the air, on AFR, when it was all live, I was like, holy shit, she actually, like, corrected herself. Like, yeah, that's the truth. Like, I didn't know why she had just said, you know, the twice before. But I wasn't, I don't know. Honestly, for whatever reason, I've never been someone that, like, can get embarrassed about,

like, sex or talking about sex. And even, I know my parents were there, and that's, I guess, kind of weird. But, um, I don't know. I think it did you a favor. Like, I think a lot of people are kind of. of like, when they see you, they're like, okay, he's kind of Ben Higgins-esque, who's this straight-lined person. Yeah.

You give that same vibe as well. That's a compliment. I'm just saying that. But then to hear that you got all rowdy and wild, and I'm sure there's some things we don't even know about. I got the Cuban space. Listen, I'm married to a Columbia and I get the Latin. Listen, we have a great old, a whole time.

Yeah. I'm just saying. You know what's up? I just, I do. I do, Peter. But I think that it, like, kind of. gave you a little credibility like kind of like street cred to hear

that oh he's a lover I think it did you... I'm very passionate. I'm sure some girls came on being like... Well, 12 times. I think it gave you like a boost because it was like oh there's this other side

of Peter. I think it was... At first it was like, whoa. But then it was like, okay, Peter, four times. Like I said, if I had been one of the girls, that's one. All right.

Tell me we're ready for two. Three. you want to take a nap Rachel's keeping tally on her hand I'm not kidding I would have been like that You guys gonna dish your fantasy sweet secrets at all What you want to talk about?

I broke a headboard I've talked about that like multiple times My mom was not pleased that I told that on TV But you didn't tell it The headboard was broken away from it And I remember this was the one like in the tree house stuff Yeah in Thailand It was a great time

You know during the time I didn't really talk about mine I don't, like, out of respect, like, once you end up, I am a guy, yeah. When you end up with a person out of respect, you don't talk about a lot, but I mean, I have. Yeah. Gosh, I was going to say something else, though, about the credibility that it gave you. Oh, no, I know. I was going to turn into something else.

So I think a lot of times, and we, when we talked to your parents, we talked about this, too, they're watching from afar, you go off and you do this journey, but they're also having to hear family members and friends come at them. Did you see this? Did you hear this happen? And we, Becca and I both talk about how our moms are in the comment section. We're like, Mom, please just stop. You know, don't read the comments.

But there is, you know, if you're going to accept the good, you have to accept the bad. And there are all these negative things. And I just want to wonder how you took some of the things that came out before your season. You know, I already threw myself out there. You know, I was one of the people who was a proponent for someone else. Right. And, you know, we talked about that. But once you were chosen, how did you feel and how did you overcome here and getting some of that negative attention or just negative media about the franchise choosing you as the next league?

Yeah, I mean, that's a really good question. To be 100% honest, and this may really be a boring answer, I was just way too distracted with being the most excited, grateful dude on this entire planet and just really. realizing what was awaiting me in the next couple months that it didn't matter what came out what negative thing came out how many people thought i'd be the most boring bachelor in the world and had didn't want me and wanted it didn't matter all i cared about was exactly how like excited and how ready i was to start that middle of september and just get it going like that truly was the only thing that mattered and that's all that should matter you shut me up no i'm just being Should we move on?

No, should we move on? One more thing. Speaking of comments, I was given, I have a gift for you. I was given this when I became the Bachelorette from one of my producer friends. I'm going to pass the torch and give this to you. What? Read what it says. Never read the comments. It goes on your keychain.

That's some good advice right there. It's a good reminder. So you keep it for yourself. Maybe give it to a special lady, who knows. Yeah, that's awesome. Thank you. I will take this advice for you. really never read the comments.

Never read the comments. They're not healthy. I mean, I get it. Everyone has an opinion. Yeah. And you will read them. Okay, like, you'll, you will. It's, it's, I mean, sometimes I still even do it at times.

It just happens, but just, like, don't let it consume you or define you. To be completely honest, so, like, I, I have, I mean, I'm not going to have read comments, too. I kind of like getting, like, the really bad ones. I actually, like, I don't know, get some type of even drum, like, wow, like, you really dislike me that much. Yeah, that's crazy. The really, really terrible ones, I will say, like, they kind of. of get me going a little bit where they're so funny in the sense where it's like how are you as a person even typing this right now it's like i always say you know how jimmy kimmel has this

mean tweet mean tweets i was like i want to get everyone from from bachelor a contestant to like give me their worst tweet or comment and like make like a bathroom book over it no you don't want mine oh yeah mine are way too personal but honestly do you guys know this too like all it has just been keyboard keyboard warriors I have not once not once had one person

in real life come up to me and say something negative like that everyone will come up to me like oh my God

you're my favorite bachelor I love you so much and no one's going to say to your face you were just

mediocre dude like no one will say anything like that to your face so all that stuff is just like have you ever called

so sometimes I'll write them back like if it's just something like so off the wall like usually if it's something

racist right because I get a lot of that I'll write them back and then they'll say Oh my God My sister got a hold of my Instagram Are you kidding?

That has happened more times than I can count I really love you I think you're so great So many times So if you Like from time to time I'm like oh really you wrote that Let me let you know that I saw it

And then they'll back down Yeah He thugs You could be Jesus Christ And people would be like you're a terrible human. Exactly. Yeah.

But you have the right attitude. I mean, like we all need to have a little bit of Peter in our lives as far as just having, you know, like, who, while you're over there, I'm talking to me, wasting your time talking about something else and worried about that, I just became the bachelor. I'm just too excited about that. I'm about the time of my life. Meet 30, or you didn't know how many women at the time, but meet all these women who are here for me where I'm in the cockpit and I get to take control of all this. That's the way you should be. Like, why are you mad? How could anything get you down at that point?

You're over there mad. Yeah. Peter, I will say, if being a pilot doesn't work out, you could be a motivational speaker. Really? Mm-hmm. All right, Peter, from time to time on Bachelor Happy Hour, we like to play a little game. Okay. So we're not going to let you leave here without playing a game with you.

Ooh. Okay. So we're going to play Word Association, which I love. So we're going to take turns saying a word, and we want to hear the first thing that pops into your mind, okay? You don't get time to think about it. It's just, bam, right? Like, Becca. Bachelorette.

Rachel. Beautiful. Oh. You started off with that B, and I thought you were going to say, bitch. Beautiful. Okay, okay, here we go. That was just to give you a taste. Okay.

I'm not kidding. I was like, okay. I'll do the first one. Co-pilot. I don't know. I want to say solely. He's not a co-pilot, but... Captain, Sully.

Yeah, he's a captain. He's not a co-pilot. My brother loves him. That was the first thing that went into my mind. I like it. Okay, I know what I would say for this one, but Barb and Peter, Sr. Um... Quick.

Dancing. Dancing? Yeah. That's a nice one. Yeah. Okay. Chris Harrison. Father.

Best friend. Dom. Well, don't tell you any of your other friends. They probably don't listen to the bachelor back. They're fine out watching this. Limmo. First night. Celebrity crush.

Jessica Alba. Okay. Rose. Not going to say it. I was going to say Titanic. The first thing that came to my mind was possibly the person at the very end. That's so sweet. That's actually so sweet.

You'll learn to hate red roses. Okay. Let's tell you again. Rose. Titanic That was good That was really good Flight school

Camarillo Airport that's where I learned to fly Oh Neil Lane Beautiful Diamond That's technically two words But we'll let it slide Because you edit in the beautiful

Okay Instagram Um Social media I don't know What would you say Instagram sucks Sucks

I'm not the biggest Instagram fans I kind of... Yeah, a little birdie told us that... You don't want to be verified. Yeah, I'm not about that. That's, like, not me. And I just... It's my last, like, hold on not being taken over by this stuff.

I'm giving you the slow clap. I'm just being real. All right, listen up. At this point, I'm not speaking to Bachelor Nation. I'm speaking to the Bachelor franchise. Find more Peters. Seriously. Like, I don't know how you're going to do it, but you got to find more Peters.

People who don't care about this stuff. Everyone, like, how is this not me? No. You got to find more. I wish Peter was like, I don't have an Instagram. I have a nice face. Seriously. My gosh, after your first night, they're not going to talk about any other bachelors.

Oh. Oh, precious. Okay, next one. Final rose. Chris Harrison. I don't know why that just popped up. Did you actually pull the switch and give your final rose to you? You guys on the most dramatic season ever.

I would love it. I'd support it. 2020 Dateline? Yes! Yes, Peter. It's a fun game. It is 2020.

Oh, the year. No, no. Even better. Even better. The fact that you said, Dayline makes me love you so much more. I love Dateline. Yes.

That's funny. Oh, my gosh. What a good year to me. It's 20-20. I feel like somebody else would have been like, I don't know, 40. Like 20 plus 20-20. You know what I mean?

Like, I just, oh. I just love you said daylight. Okay, sorry. Okay. Last one. Mansion. Amazing. Dirty.

I would have said stinky. Stinky. It has such a, okay, it has a unique scent to it that, like, when you walk in, you know, someone's either going to cry, someone's going to come at you for some kind of drama. Chris Harrison's going to come in and, like, give some bad news. Did you guys ever do the pool party at the mansion? No. We didn't have.

one. It was very cold and rainy when we were living, when my guys were living in the mansion. I didn't want to get my hair wet. Did you? That's why we didn't have one. Yeah, but I never got to go swin. Like, just a bunch of stuff happened. Hey, was the hot tub still broken when you were there? Um, I never got to go on this one, but on the Bachelorette, we got to go in it. Did you? Yeah. You know, they have two hot tubs. That's for people that don't know. Isn't that crazy? There's two hot tub. Yeah. Oh, yeah. It's kind of random, but not many people know that. Correct. We stand corrected. Yes. I just consider that in a bird bath. Or a bird bath. Okay, one last rose.

One last rose. Wait, you did rose. I'm kidding. I'm trying to get it out. Oh, shoot. We all, I didn't get it either. I'm sorry. Damn it, it's good, though.

It's good. It's good. You guys aren't going to get it. So the real question of the day is, how do we get freedlights and Biscoff cookies? I have a lot of buddy passes, so just hit me up. Okay. It was nice, though, flying first everywhere. Right?

Oh, I'm sure. Okay, you have to tell people that because you get treated like an A-list celebrity when you're in the lead. I was so scared to come back and have to dress myself now after every single day. Yeah, you're ready for the real world, Peter. Okay, we could keep going on and on and on. We obviously tried to get you to spill some secrets, which you want, won't, which I'm sure they're happy. Obviously, you've been through media training at this point. So you passed.

You're doing a great job. But we just want to thank you so much for being here. It's been such a pleasure. Your positivity, your energy, your light. It's infectious. Like, even for the pessimist in the room, okay? You've touched me. Can I hear you back?

There we go. Amen. So I've just excited for you. I'm excited to continue to watch your journey. I know you are too. I can't wait. Honestly, again, like I know I'm trying to get all the spoilers out of you. I truly don't want to know.

I want to be surprised. I want to be shocked. But I'm just excited for you. And again, you just look happy. And I hope that's the case. whatever, however this ends up, but I just can't wait. Yeah, no, I can definitely say I am very happy, and I'm super excited for everyone to watch this. I think they're going to enjoy it.

One last important question before you have to skedaddle. All right. Who did you pick? You're just not going to stop. Ward Association, so Rose. No. What if that was her name? What if it was?

I don't know. We have no idea. You never know. Well, we're wishing you the best. We hope you find the love that your parents have, Because now that we've talked to them, we can't get enough of old Barb and Pete. Barb and Pete. You guys are stuck with us.

I'm sorry to say. We're coming over for many Cuban dinners. Can you cook? I can't. Thank God we found something wrong with him. No, I cannot cook. He can't cook. Great.

I can make cereal and toast and waffles, but that's not there. Finally, one flock. No, I got many, but that's, yeah. I need someone that can help me with that. Especially after getting used to my mom's cooking grown up. Did you maybe find someone that can help you with that? Possibly. Yeah.

Okay, Peter, thank you so much for coming on. Becca, so happy to have you here permanently. Thanks, Rich. And Bachelor Nation, thank you always for listening. Love you guys. Ditto. Love you too, Peter. God, damn it!

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