Bachelor Happy Hour - Always Keep the Faith | Golden Hour

Episode Date: June 5, 2024

Today on Golden Hour, Kathy and Susan are sitting down with the Golden Bachelor's very own Faith Martin! Faith is here to chat all about relationships, dating post-show, and so much more! We kick off today's episode catching up with Faith; dating updates, thoughts on Joan's upcoming Golden Bachelorette journey, and of course horses! Then, we get into the realities of dating in your Golden years as Faith opens up to us about navigating the loss of her ex-husband. You won't want to miss this incredible episode; tune in now to hear all this and more and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics and on the latest episode of Spolitics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives. We continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents.

and there's life after Congress. Make sure to listen to this episode of Politics on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes,

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Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. Welcome back, Bachelor, Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Thank you again for joining us. We're so excited to be back. And once again, if you haven't done it yet, now is the time to follow our podcast so that you never miss an episode. Just search for Bachelor Happy Hour in the podcast app and hit the follow button. Yes, it's super important that you follow the podcast. You know why? Because you're going to

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Oh, I love her. Our dear friend, Faith. Faith, thank you for joining us today. Hi. I'm so excited to talk to you. We've got to catch up. It's been a while. We get all busy in our lives and, you know, it's hard.

It is hard. So I have a question right off the bat. You know, Faith, you and I've talked about this a little bit. The most fun thing, other than, you know, Gary proposing to me, oh, wait, he didn't. The most fun thing for me was doing the live wedding and having a microphone in my hand on live TV. I loved it. So tell me what it's like for you as a radio host. I mean, you do live.

I know you tape some of them, but you've done a lot of live gigs, your music. Tell me about it. I've always done live since I was 18 years old. It was always live up until last year when I said, I really want to do it from home, you know. And part of the reason why I was doing it from home is because I host three radio shows every day. And I was a full-time musician.

So I was playing music like three days a week. So I literally couldn't do live shows or I'd be on from five in the morning until 11 at night. You know, I was always. So it's just really hard. But yeah, you know, that was our MO because we always had do live broadcast, you know. I can't stand it, but the remotes, but, you know, you're like doing live. Oh, well, no, it's not that. I mean, radio live, but, you know, we were like, I'm on the

street corner, you know, hey, I'm live at blah, blah, blah. And then I was also a news anchor. So I was always doing a live report from blah, blah, blah. So my whole life has been like that and on live. So it's not necessarily fun. It was just work. You know, it's just what we did always. Since I was 18 years old, We kind of live out loud, and, you know, we're just always live, you know, chaotic moments, live on the air. You know, some of them were hilarious. I remember, you know, the funniest times of my life have been when it was live TV or live radio and something funny happens, you know. So, yeah, good times. What about your dating life?

Did that interfere because you were out in public all the time? Like, did you? Yeah, at some times it did, honestly. You know, I live in a in a Tri-City area. We have about 315,000 people. I hide out on the outskirts in a little Benton City. But, you know, the metro area in which I work is about 315,000 people. And I swear I know every single one of them.

So you, when you're riding horses and riding motorcycles and on three radio stations and as a newsperson and we broadcasts international. Well, I mean, you know a lot of people because you have a lot of circles. So you bring a guy in your life. And I remember one guy would say, how am I supposed to feel special to you? Everyone loves you and you happen to love everyone. And I was like, but you don't love one kid more than another. And so I was like, yeah, you're not the guy from me. He just didn't get it.

It was like, has nothing to do with how special you are to me. Of course, my listeners, my viewers are special to me. They just are, always will be. So I want to know, how did your family and your viewers, since you know so many people, What was everyone's thought in your town? What about your family, your kids? What did everyone think about? Yeah, well, my kids were always 100% supportive.

You know, if I'm happy, they're happy. My viewers, I knew that they would be amazing. And they are, they are just so amazing. This community, I've been here since, well, let's see, I've done radio. I started in Salt Lake City, but I've done radio here since 1990. And they've watched me kind of grow up in TV and in radio. And I've always been a huge advocate for a nonprofit or organizations that I've, you know, powered for, you know, and instigated fundraising efforts.

And so I've always been all over the area. So they were so incredibly supportive. And you're so comfortable in front of an audience, right? And live. Well, a little too comfortable. When you came to the mansion, you were all. Well, you know, I didn't care really what I, I wasn't on the show to do anything but make their connection with Gary. So I really, I didn't care about dressing up. I didn't care what the world thought of me. I really didn't care. It wasn't like I needed to make a big splash for TV because I could care less. I really, my main and only focus was, is this going to be the man I marry? I knew this was a decision that could mean a whole change in my life. And I wanted to know if he is

the guy for me. And likewise, I wanted to know if, you know, if we were asking the right questions, my focus was totally that now looking back i'm like wow i wish i would have cared a little more about those ugly dresses i bought oh you did not you look beautiful don't know and i was like you remember we'd get ready and i'd be like i'll be ready in 10 minutes and everybody was like it's going to take me two and a half hours i'm like you know i don't know why i felt that way i guess i felt like the people that will love me are going to love me for who i am i didn't feel like i needed to impress the populace all right i have a good question for you think okay you ever consider going back and dating an ex?

You know, no, I don't really have any exes that I have pine for or would want to be with again. Not that I can think of any. Is there any circumstance that you could imagine that you would change your mind on that? Now, if you would have asked me this maybe eight years ago or six years ago, I would say yes. But not now. And that's because she dated the ex again. and it didn't work out. No, no, it's because, you know how when you, oh, that X.

He is available. Would you take Gary again? No. No, I don't, I don't think I would. And, you know, you want to know why? Well, yeah. The world wants to know faith. We all want to know faith.

No, I think, you know, I love Gary. I thought there was something so different about him that I totally appreciated. And honestly speaking, we were pretty darn compatible in a lot of ways. but yeah you know I've just decided in this moment that ship has sailed as much as I felt for him my intuition would lead me to believe that you still talk to him you know we'll text every now and then you know so yeah I mean I'll always be there we had that shared experience right all of us did right so we're bonding for life yeah I still text them I still talk yeah yeah and I think that's important that we all do that because wasn't it

honestly quite an adventure and and for leslie and me and teresa too i think it was even so much more intense that yeah he listen we just got to talk you know you feel as if you got caught up in the moment if i did or he did if you did if you did uh no it wasn't like that at all um i feel like i really was there for that purpose i probably could have married gary and we'd probably be, you know, pretty darn happy. I guess knowing that what I know now, that I think he really comes from an analytical side instead of reading his heart with, I mean, his life with his heart, that just doesn't work for me. You know, like, I feel like he made a decision out of the logical choice and not his heart. And I lead my whole life with my heart. My heart is what gets me

through everything. I think for Joan, it's going to be a whole different thing when you're the lead. And I I think, you know, you've got to cut them some slack. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah, definitely. You know, people want reality TV. Well, that is the truth. Reality happens. Everything can be beautiful.

It can be magic and be fairy land. And you know what? Sometimes it just doesn't work out. And that is reality. And that doesn't mean you give up. That means you, you know, you learn from it. You understand it. You give it grace and you move forward with something different.

But here's the reason why I think Joan will be great is because she's coming in fresh. She didn't go through heartache. She didn't go through being on the show for so long. She was out, you know. It's all fresh and new and she'll be fine, you know, where I think, you know, both Leslie and I and anybody else that had been there to the end almost, you know, would be, you know, and we feel the weight. Or at least I'm speaking for myself. I feel the weight of the show. I feel the weight of the turmoil of the emotional.

Sure. Yeah. So with that in mind, faith, with that in mind that, you know, you're. moving forward, are you dating anyone? Are you on dating apps? Wait, is it harder since you've been on reality TV? Do you think dating is harder? No, it's the same. I know everybody in this town. I, you know, the people that get a hold of me tend to be in their 30s and they've obviously got mommy issues or something because they're good, good-looking 30-year-olds and I'm like, what is wrong with you? But aside from that, no, nobody DMs me.

You know, I'm still waiting for Daryl Hall or Lenny Kravitz. So you're not on any daddy naps, John? I can call you Joan. Sorry, I know. My best friend is named Joe. You're both beautiful women. Well, here's the funny thing. So I hate to say this.

I struggle and I don't like spending my time with my face in a phone. So I get overwhelmed. There's, you know, 50 messages. I'm like, I'm in it for five minutes and I go, oh, for God's sake. I can't remember. Did you hear that, Kathy? Excuse me, Faith, 50 messages. We didn't get any.

Susan, I'm texting you have 49 right now while we're off doing this. I've texted you, you got 49 to choose from. Good for you, Faith. You can't remember. Did we have this conversation? Did we talk about this? And then I went to try to go make a profile, and I had just texted my sister a picture of my dogs making a mess on the front yard.

They chewed up a dog toy. And I had texted her a picture. When I went to make my profile, somehow the app grabbed a picture from my phone and so on my profile was a chewed up dog toy next to some dog poop on my lawn and I

couldn't get it back off that is price. It just shows the guys you got a good chunks of humor fate you got a good sense of humor. I like back out of the app I just went I can't do this and my friend goes no you have to change it and I'm like no no I don't want to touch it I just don't even want to go back on

no I'm not good at them I don't like them I what are you looking for, come on, spill, Faith. Did anything change, like, what you used to look for since you've been on the show? Are you looking for any, did anything change? I think I kind of got clarified on really what I do want, you know, I've always said, so people automatically think, oh, because she rides a horse, she needs a cowboy, you know. No, that's not what I want.

Come to Texas. I would not, I would not be unhappy if somebody that I fell in love with happened to be a good rider and appreciated that I can, you know, be into horses. But no, what I find really, really appealing, for one is intelligence. For two, is people that are not so set in their ways that they can't think outside the box. You know, I love people that are entrepreneurial. I love people that are inventors, that are producers, filmmakers, people that are creators, people that are doing something with a purpose, and people that have passion and innovation and are interesting.

and also somebody that is okay with me having a big life too because I have a lot of hobbies and interests and things that I love and people that I love and I'm okay with us not being attached at the hip you know I think we need to have our own autonomy so wow yeah my boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious oh wait a minute Sam maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit well Dakota it's back to school a week on the okay story time podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes,

my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now hold up, isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not?

To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jamil Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcast Politics. And on the latest episode of Politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? many of them are in fear of their political lives and that's been part of the challenge but we continue to say to them you were elected to defend your constituents to stand up for your constituents and

there's life after Congress and you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your time in the House of Representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years but their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD...

Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. I have a question for you. And if you're not comfortable answering it,

but you know, you were... divorced, but your ex-husband tragically passed away and my husband tragically passed away. Are you at all willing to share sort of how that changed your life? Oh, my gosh. Yeah, I mean, I had no idea. First of all, I'll say that my 21-year marriage to the love of my life was complex. it was not always good there were times that you know i mean i loved him with my whole heart and soul and i think he did me as well but he was kind of plagued with some addictions that made it really

difficult for him to be his best self and his authentic self was the most amazing generous loving incredible man ever but as we all know addiction is huge right so we had some really really difficult times. And I paid for the divorce. I gave him everything. I left just because I felt like I couldn't do it any longer. But as it turned out, we ended up to be really close friends and we grandparented really well together. So, you know, I was always the naggy wife kind of, you need to quit smoking. You need to quit drinking. You need to lose weight. You need to exercise more. You know, we went and got our COVID shot together. We were just always very, very close. But what was really difficult and the way that he died um was tragic but i had no idea the impact that that would

have on my life and i think um and of course when i was on the show it was the year anniversary and i knew my kids were really really suffering you know but um i had no idea that i would then begin to start grieving the marriage i don't think i ever really grieved my marriage after to divorce. You know, it was such a painful thing for me to do. I jumped 100% into music. So I was singing in a band. I was playing music three to four days a week. I was working a morning show on the news or radio. I was just busy, busy. And it wasn't until after he passed that I really began to process and grieve our marriage at 21 years. You lost your friend at that point. Yeah. And not grieving the grandpa and the best friend that I had there, but grieving the years that we

spent that once we divorced i didn't say all those things and um and then the PTSD of finding him you know um it was just you and i share that yeah yeah oh gosh kathy i i feel for you because yeah you know and it is you know i just now think yeah i think that um i'm in a better place now but that that time on the show i just thought i was going to lose it i don't yeah you know i think because you're thinking about love you're thinking about relationships you're clued into your heart and it was a one-year anniversary. It was just a really hard time for me to be on the show. I think that one of the things you just said, Susan and I've talked about it, Susan is divorced and obviously you and I are both widows. And I think there's something different. Loss is

loss and it's all tragic. All loss is tragic. But I think, you know, Susan talks to her ex-husband all the time and they're good friends and they can talk about whatever, when, wrong in the marriage. But you and I, we don't have that opportunity. It is a hard stop. And I think you alluded to that, that, you know, when you have to grieve literally the loss of the life and the loss of the communication, it's not just the divorce. Yeah. It's really tough. When did you realize that you were ready to move on, like to date again after losing him? Well, I mean, I think all along I tried to date. Wait, I'm sorry, I have to interrupt.

You were divorced, Faith. How long before he died? Oh, plenty of time. But this is odd because you guys are going to think I'm crazy. So we divorced in 2005. I didn't really find anyone to care about until 2009. In 2009, I had a boyfriend for close to three years who I really fell in love with. And we were together for three years.

And then when we ended, I just really, will say I didn't never find anybody I cared deeply for after that. So I dated a little bit, you know, I dabbled. There was one guy that I really thought I could fall in love with and that he cheated on me two weeks later after we decided to be together. So

that was like really the last time, you know, I don't... Until the show? Until the show is like a big coming out for you. Good for you. Yeah, it was. Well, I mean, here's the thing is I quit the band because I was going to find love. And see, I've gigged, played music every weekend for 30 years. So

I was like, okay, if I really do want to find love, I have to show the universe, I'm ready, right? I got to take action. So I quit the band, so I wouldn't be gigging every weekend. And then I started thinking about it, and boom, all of a sudden, I'm on The Bachelor. So the person in me kind of thought, okay, there must be a reason why this happened. Could he really be my guy? So that's why I was so serious about it.

And I'm a little envious. You gals had so much fun and had such a light of, you know, fun going on. And I was just so dang serious about everything. But I just was like, oh, my God. We had fun because we had fun because Susan and I were in Gary's friend zone so quickly. I mean, we both went there to find love just like you. Yeah. But it wasn't in the cards.

You had the best date, I'll tell you that. I had the best date. And I had some fun and I had some great times. What the show, what the takeaway from the show for me was all the self-reflection and learning and those aha moments. where I went, wow, things became so clear. It was on the show when I went, I need to quit one of my jobs. I need to be less busy. I remember you and I talked about it.

Yeah, I remember her. We talked about that on the show. You said you were going to go home and quit your teaching job. Yeah, and I did. I did. Well, and I was a basket case when I got home anyway. So I called them. I was like, I'm no longer good for this job.

I really need to quit. Yeah, I couldn't see the students not being distracted. You know, I could just hear him. We saw you make it out with a guy on a yacht, you know. it wouldn't it wouldn't have been good i mean it's a little humiliating to think you get your heart broke on national tv and um but you know i got to tell you i i i kind of knew that i sealed my fate in that way but i felt like my intuition was leading me as much as i was in love with gary i don't know that i could have said no and yet i wasn't absolutely sure it was right you know

because i i was all in and then when i thought about leaving well when i thought about leaving. Did you talk to him about leaving? A little bit. Yeah. And on my hometown, I said, you need to know how important it is for me to be near my community, my family, my kids, my grandkids. And the dead horse in the backyard. Yes. But I needed, I needed to have him know that I'm not a person that can see their kids like twice a year, you know. But what's weird is that I think that if I was truly in love with someone, there is no amount of distance that would keep me away, right so it was an intuitive sense that maybe maybe it's not all what i think you know right right it was something no denying there was love but not yes well but wait but we've but we've had this

conversation faith that doesn't have to be all or none um you know if i'd fall in love with gary i have two kids here and two grandkids here in austin but i would have gone and spent a week in the cornfield oh i would have spent i would have shared time i would have would have spent six months whatever you know i would have done that i just needed him to know and i i felt compelled at the time to tell him i'm not going to be the play pickleball with you every weekend and i'm going to be riding my horse and singing in my band and that well you both have likes all those things hobbies yeah and and i and i didn't want to just pick up and and leave and live in indiana the rest of my life that's what i was trying to tell him so that he would have to share i don't think anyone so i mean serious

I don't think there's one of us who would have picked up our lives and moved to anywhere. I'm being serious, to any state and not have time with our families and our friends. I don't think that would happen. Yeah. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast.

So we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age.

And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend, really cheated with his professor or not. To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

I never envision being with a woman. I'll just be honest. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, Politics. On this week's episode, I'm joined by Basketball Legend, Candice Parker, who stops by to discuss her candid new book, The Can Do Mindset, in which she shares why she waited two years into marriage to come out. Like, when I close my eyes at night, every night, I was like, I need to find my prince charming. Like, it was never a princess.

Like, that never entered into my mind. But, you know, as I learned, sometimes life gives you things wrapped in a package that you didn't expect it. And that was just, you know, and honestly, it took me a long time to be okay with myself. Make sure to listen to this week's episode of Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast. or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Eumanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom.

If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercoms the podcast. for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app, search emergency intercom, and listen now. I have a question since you clearly have great advice. What advice would you give the guys that are

about to date Joan? You know, the advice, honestly, that I would give them is that you've got one chance to be as transparent as possible. Tell them the bad things about you. Tell them the things that you think could be barriers like like really this is it i mean get it all out there find out if you're yeah like there is i'm just unapologetically myself i really don't know how to be any different nor do i want to be um i just think it's important to be completely transparent so that you know they get to know the real you why if you're not but you're let's be honest guys it's not like it's not like a typical dating experience where you have hours You know, it's like, okay, here's your 10 minutes go.

I mean, you don't, so it's, I think to be your authentic, anyone's authentic transparent self, you know, is, it would be, would be hard. Good question. Okay, but let me just really quickly address that because I do think that, even though there is a little bit of a time, you're kind of, it's not like you're casually dating some guy for a year. You're getting into the nitty gritty. I mean, you're really honing in. So you've already jumped past all these little superficial things if you play your cards right. But if you're not yourself and you're not really transferring, you're not really searching and you're just worried about how you look on TV, you're going to waste all that time. You know, it's like if you're one chance to be yourself, be it, or you will regret it, I think.

Okay, what was your question, Susan? So if they decide to have a golden paradise, would you be in? you know I don't know it depends on where it is because I hate the heat I had heat exhaustion I love the warm but if it's super hot I don't think if I can handle because I really have had she will not be moving to Florida with Natasha if it's in the winter I might I'm the winter I might yeah but I mean I think um I I don't know you know something's got to have purpose and meaning for me so unless there's a really good chance that maybe I'm going to find the man of my dreams. I really, I've got

this full life. Well, isn't that what the show is about? Meaning several men, you'll have several to choose from. But again, Susan, stop trying to talk her into it. If she doesn't go, it's one more for you and me. Stop already. Don't you wish we could go on Jones' season to

check out the men that might be on that show? There is one. I've had business cards printed. I'm going to drop them all over if I get to go. They're going to be in the kitchen, you know, on the golf course, wherever in the bathroom, because that's where the guys will be. I'm going to, seriously, I got it all planned,

you know, for a good time. Well, what they should do is they should take all the rejects, you know, from both seasons, and let us at least share the phone numbers for heaven's sake. Or like, let us have our own. That's called Golden Paradise. Well, is it? But I mean, even without having it being on TV,

can't we just all like have a little dating network, like share phone numbers? Remember, Kathy? We said, give us the list of the applicants. Let us leave you. And you know what, Faith, we're still waiting. We're still waiting. I don't know. I don't know what I think about.

Faith, what's the best piece of dating advice you ever received? Think about it for a minute. The best advice you've ever received. Now that you're... Well, I don't know that it's anything that I received, but I would... How about what I wish I would have known a long time ago? What? Nobody told you?

Nobody gave you the advice. No, just something that I realized that when you're looking for a relationship, instead of looking for what can this person be to me, how much am I in love with them, I think creating an environment where you think so highly and have so much respect, admiration, genuine care and love for this person, that you want to, support them in their life journey. Like, I just think that in relationships in general, people start

going, well, this person has this and she'll do this and he'll do this and da-da-da. Or, you know, we've got that spark, that chemistry, but when you're really willing to, because what is this union really about? It's really about supporting that other person in their life journey and helping

them to be happy and grow and develop and be all they can be. And how they make you feel when you're with them? And just wondering if they can really be do that for you as well so it's really like a partnership where you're trying to help each other through life and it's more about that than just the you know whisk me off my feet and you know right yeah that's that's called that's called lust well it's just that's we're at a certain age where we know we know the value more important yeah yeah instead of in my

past I always went for the chemistry and that's because and and you know well we know what it's because but I mean in that for that reason I always had you know very chemistry oriented type relationships that really had very right very little of anything else you know no no real good substance except for my husband I would say that was more but okay as our friend do you have any specific dating advice for us oh my goodness I heard your dating too by the way Susan, do you know? I went on a few days. Yeah.

Okay. Well, any dating advice for you, yeah. Have the utmost enough respect for yourself that you're willing to walk away from anyone that doesn't give you the respect that you deserve. That's, I think that's fabulous advice for both of us. But it's getting too serious here, Faith. You want to play a game? Let's play a game. Let's have a fun.

All right. It's a game. It's a game. You're going to love it. It's a relationship. Chip, would you rather game, okay? Oh, God. So I'm going to do fine faith.

I promise. I was a teacher. Everyone gets an A. No eating ice cream. No eating ice cream. No, no, no. None of those. None of that.

None of that. All right. Would you rather tell your partner what you want and get the gift you want or have them surprise you with something of their choosing? What would you rather? That's a hard one. If it were my husband, I would definitely tell them what I want. But if it was a day...

Oh, let's say, yeah, it kind of depends on how clued in the guy is or if he's just, you know, absolutely doesn't know. Yeah. But I do. I like surprises. So I think when you get a surprise, it kind of tells a little bit about how they perceive you. So it's interesting to find that part out. Very good point. I love that.

Okay. Your date be late, but look great. or on time and look disheveled and exhausted. If the other person, if that date was, okay. If my guy, okay, yeah, just shoveled whatever is fine. Be on time. Don't make me wait on you. I don't let anybody wait on me ever.

Well, again, these are all levels of lateness. If the guy's an hour late because he had to wash and fluff his hair and starch his shirt, no thank you. But, you know, if he's 10 minutes late because he would. is out playing golf and he ran late and getting home, getting in the shower. I mean, you've got to be a little flexible here. It depends on the circumstance, exactly. Yeah, yeah.

All right. How about this one? Faith, would you rather be able to read your date's mind or have your date be able to read your mind? I think I'd rather be able to read there, isn't it? Ding, dig. I don't have to read my mind either. No way. Well, you know, the funny thing is I am so readable.

I cannot lie. I mean, stuff is written so well on my face. I, you know, I'll be in a situation. Somebody will immediately look at me and go, what were you, what just crossed your face? I can, you know, I can't hide anything. I don't. I can't. So, yeah, it's a problem.

I have like a neon sign. Yeah, me too. Well, I think I have to close my eyes because my eyes are all. I want to be able to read my dates mind because I want to know what's going on besides, you know, air between the airs. I want to know what they're thinking. and I want to be able to have my thoughts, like my thoughts. Yeah, it feels so good to be understood.

So it would be nice to see that they understood us, you know, and to read their mind. Okay, how about this one? Be with someone who likes going out more or someone who likes staying in more. Staying in. I spend too much of my life in public. I just really am not a going out person. What about you, Susan? I'd have to say a little bit of both.

You know me. I like to go out, but I like staying home. Yeah. I like to go out a lot. I love live music and going to great restaurants or going for a great hike. But why can't you do both on the same date? Yeah. Yeah.

I think if I wasn't out so much doing music and playing, you know, it's like when I get a weekend there are time to stay home, I really want to stay home. I don't get to do it a lot. All right. So you're going to cozy up on the couch. All right. Here's the next one for you. Do you want to celebrate lots of. lots of little relationship milestones or one anniversary a year.

Lots of little ones. Lots of little ones. Wait, we didn't say present, Susan, for every little anniversary. You celebrate. Tell me why. You still like each other. It's like, I don't know, for me, it's like I used to love when I was in love. I didn't have to be doing anything.

I was just excited to get home from work and sit out on the patio and cook dinner together and have a glass of wine. You know, that's special to me. You know, it's just fun. Like I get excited to spend time with the person and I love. It's just like, we didn't have to be anywhere. We could be doing nothing. And that's the feeling that I miss is like just that companion.

It's like, just jump in the car and go get a coffee. Let's, you know, let's go take a high. Just being together with somebody you love is such a magical feeling, right? So you're saying, if I'm hearing you correctly, just celebrating day to day life as opposed. to the contractual, it's our first anniversary. Do we want to sign up for a second year? Yeah, I don't do those things. How about would you like to date someone who's older than you or date someone who's younger?

Done both. And I usually tend to go with older, but not too older. Nowadays, maybe just a few years younger. But, you know, I've done my old boyfriend was eight years younger than me. And he looked older. Don't tell him I said that. But, you know, I think at this age, I would, I would. might feel pretty insecure. I don't think I could date a younger guy and know that they could

have someone who's in. Faith, you're absolutely gorgeous. You could date a younger guy and you're just fine girlfriend. I don't know. I don't think I'd like that. Susan, what do you, what would you, would you date a guy younger? It would depend on the guy. It doesn't matter to me. And it depends on how young. Yeah. That's true. That's true. Yeah. I would love to date a guy, you know, who is four or five years younger than I just because of my energy level and the things I like to do. But you know what, girls, I like a man similar to my age because we come from the same error. We have histories, similar family things. What do you think?

Five years is a generation for God's age? No, five years. Five years is easy. Yeah. Five years is doable. I mean, we're not talking black and white TV to color here. I had a black. Five years is doable.

Five years either way is good. All right. Last one for you. Your date, do you want your date be someone who only texts or who only calls? Oh, we have to choose one or the other. I would say, well, if I am I in love with them, then they call, then call. But if I'm not so sure, then text. Oh, interesting.

Once again, I'm in the middle of the road. I need both. Well, you know, Susan, you know what's going to happen? She's going to be texting and calling while you and I are in paradise. looking for love that's what's happening I'll be laughing my ass off you're coming babe you guys this

this podcast we are generation where we are it's all about positivity do not say those things faith you are lovely you are wonderful you have a great life this is our best chapter baby it's our last and best and longest chapter she's a little longer

Is it good? Actually, I'll be, I'll be 62 in August. Whoa. Oh, my gosh. Stop the press. Okay. We don't feel for you. We don't.

By the way, you both look absolutely tremendous. So you look really fabulous. Oh, thank you. So is it my turn to ask a few questions? Sure. Go ahead. Shoot, Luke. You guys, y'all have been so busy.

How are you handling it? Because it's always that thing where, you know, the more energy you expend, the more you get. And if you have a little free time, you start to get kind of lazy, right? I think. So you guys have been going gangbusters. How are you holding up? It's a lot, but I'm loving every minute of it. Yeah.

I feel like this all my life, though. Yeah, I have a lot of energy. I'm loving it. Yeah. And because this is new to you doing a podcast, something that I've kind of done that whole my whole life thing. Isn't it great? Have you loved it?

I mean, because you guys are at the new, the newness part of it, where it's so fun. And yeah, that's awesome. I mean, talking to people, that's like a no-brainer. Listen, I would consider moving to the Tri-City area if you could get me a live news anchor gig. It's never too late. I want a microphone in my hand again. Jesse Palmer, move over.

That's hilarious. It's funny that, you know, that you guys, because I remember the early years of radio, oh my gosh, where we would just have so much fun. It was a blast, you know. So, yeah, I'm glad. I'm glad you guys are experiencing the good parts of life. It's fun.

I'm so happy for you both. Life is a mix of ups and downs. And it's fun. I can't thank you enough for coming on here today and share them with us. We really appreciate. Thank you for having me. No, I love you. We see you in paradise, hint, hint, bachelor world.

Are we going to have a paradise? I don't know, but I'm sure going to miss her that she's not going to be there. I'm taking her first word. Probably won't. But if they have. I'll bring you home. I'll bring home a little trinket, Faith. I'll bring home a little trinket. We'll get you a couple phone numbers. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Okay. But again, thank you for joining us. And that does it for today's episode of Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. And thanks again. We just love having you.

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