Bachelor Happy Hour - Bachelorette Tayshia Adams: Part One

Episode Date: November 11, 2020

In part one of this podcast exclusive, Rachel and Becca talk to new Bachelorette Tayshia Adams about when she was asked to step into the role and why she almost turned it down. Tayshia also opens up about the fear and apprehension she felt as she took over as the Bachelorette. The second part of this interview with Tayshia will air tomorrow on "Click Bait." Be sure to subscribe to "Click Bait with Bachelor Nation" so you don't miss it! Click Bait with Bachelor Nation: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/click-bait-with-bachelor-nation/id1532110113 "Bachelor Happy Hour" has exclusive interviews every week. Watch "The Bachelorette" on ABC and listen to "Bachelor Happy Hour" the next morning. Don't forget to rate and subscribe so you never miss an episode. See omny.fm/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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And exciting, that might be an adjective that is a little bit of an understatement because last week, like we do, we brought to you, Claire and Dale. Dale. Do you watch for Our Housewives? of New York. It's been a while, but I tried to catch up when I can. Okay, the reason I say that is because Tinsley's mom is named Dale. And she says Dale. And if anybody listens to Danny Pellegrino, shout out to Danny Pellegrino,

who we all know and love, he covers Bravo, and he always says Dale. And because people have teased the way that I say his name because I say Dell, like Microsoft Dell, I am emphasizing the Dale in all of them. this and and I and I stole that from Danny Pellegrino. So as you know, we talked to Claire and Dale and we celebrated their love and their happiness. So today we are bringing on another Bachelorette and we're not going to pit them against each other. Not one is better than the other. This isn't number one and this isn't number two. This isn't the OG and this isn't the new. This is just two bachelorettes, two beautiful, strong women who we are so excited to

see carry the torch as the next basteret. And so today we have Tasha Adams on the podcast. And this is a pretty significant moment. And this is a significant moment because this is a season, not just a year, but this is a season like no other, where we have seen Claire come in, do exactly what it is that we want, find the happy ending, even if it's been in an unprecedented amount of time. And now we have someone else stepping into those shoes. Tasia is going to carry on the torch and get her own journey of love in all of this and we're so excited for it because one we haven't seen it before and two these bachelorette's are so different and the viewers are going to get to get so much in this season it's a jam-pack season for all the right reasons dare I say yeah no jam-packed is

is definitely the way the is definitely the way to put it because I mean last week we were finally able to introduce tasha as our new official bachelor and you know like you said we kept saying allegedly or like, oh, I don't know. And the fact that we can finally just admit it and be like, yeah, we were there. We like held host dates and met with her. It feels so good. So I can only imagine how good it finally feels to be Tasha. So this week, we have our first full Tasha Adams episode. And to be honest, even though some of the guys are the same, it feels like we're watching a completely different season. And Rachel, like you said, since this is something totally new and foreign to the bachelor world. We naturally have a lot of questions. I'm sure

our followers and listeners have a ton of questions as well. And so we see your DMs and your comments. And so hopefully we can get through as many as we can today because there is quite a lot. And I can't wait to talk to the woman herself, Tasha Adams. Yes. And this is what's so great about this podcast, you guys, is because there is so much to unpack in this podcast that we're not going to take all your your your entire day right we could talk on and on for hours and hours and hours but let's be honest who has time for all of that even we don't have time for all of that so what's great about this episode is that with tasha there's so much to talk about so today we're going to do an interview and we're going to talk to tasha and we're going to talk about

all the things that come with her being the next bachelorette but we're not going to end it there we're going to we're going to pass the baton as if this is a relay race And we're going to pass that the time to clickbait because we all know that Tasia is a host on a podcast called Clickbait. And so we're going to carry this conversation over to clickbait. And so today you're getting one part of this interview, but it's a two-part interview, you guys. And so you're going to get the rest of it on Clickbait, where you're going to get to hear Tasha recap the episode, but also give us a little bit of tea on her, what her DMs are doing, and some of the men on her seasons. So we can't wait for you guys to celebrate, or I should say celebrate it is a bit of a celebration,

but to discuss this with us today. But then you also get the bonus episode on ClickBate tomorrow. Double whammy. Yep. So like Becca said, we do have so many questions. Let's not wait any longer. Let's not keep talking about it. We know you're sick of hearing from us.

So let's just get right to the newest Bachelorette, Tasha Adams. Tasha, welcome to Bachelor Happy Hour. Now, like, having you on again, I think we had you on before I was ever even announced as co-hosts for Happy Hour last year. Like, you had just gotten out of your breakup with JPJ and we had you on. And it was my first episode. So I feel like we've come full circle. So welcome. Thank you.

I know that podcast was so long ago. We were talking about the possibility of Bachelor. That's insane. Oh, my gosh. So, yeah. Should you say thank you to us? us that we manifested this habit? I didn't even realize we did that. Honestly, yeah, y'all put it in the universe. So I will say, thank you. So it is definitely a full circle now. Absolutely.

And we're like, hmm, is there anything else in your future? I don't even, how did you answer at that point? I said, I don't know. And honestly, it's so funny, because I remember you guys were asking, like, so if you got the phone call, would you take it? And I took like maybe 15 seconds instead of eight and Rachel's like no no no you got to answer that shit real quick and I was like okay yeah I would take it and obviously yeah you got to take it anybody who says they don't know is absolutely lying like you have to take this opportunity if it happens for you and I think that's a good place to start because there's a lot of speculation out there when it comes to bachelination and I like I like that on this podcast we clear things up so I don't want like dates and times

But in that sense, but I think it's important to know when did, not when did you get the call, but how long before you got the call and before you said yes and you were on your way to Palm Springs? Like how much time did you have basically to get ready? One night. I mean, in a perfect bachelor world, according to them, it would have been I was on, like I would be in the car an hour. after my conversation with them. They were hoping I would leave that day, but I actually said I needed to think about it

and I needed to talk to my parents, and I need to take a minute. Just because the way I was entering the Bachelorette space was very unconventional. Very true to 2020. But I was taking on a little bit more than I think previous Bachelorette's have in the sense that there was somebody before me.

and I was going to ask the guys to not only remove themselves from that headspace, but then take me on and see if they were willing to be open. So to answer your question, it was probably about 48 hours. Really? That's quicker than I thought. I mean, that's giving it a little bit of time. So, yeah, 48 hours. And that includes, like, sleep and all that kind of stuff. And that was only because I'm like, you guys, I need to go to CVS and you get my little necessity.

I'm like, I need to run. I got to do some errands. I got to go charge. When you got to call, when they called you up and they're like, hey, we had a switcheroo. Can you do this? We need you. Like, what was running through your brain? Because I'm sure you didn't expect to see Chris or whoever's calling you at night being like,

hi, can we have you as a bachelorette? So what was going through? What was your thought process? It's so funny because that exact day, I was literally on the phone call. my best friend and I was like you know what screw it I'm over this year I'm over quarantining I'm over everything like I have nothing tying me down I'm literally going to go to John Wayne airport tomorrow get a first flight out to anywhere because I can no one can stop me and I'm like I'm just over everything and I actually um postmated some donuts straight to my bed I read a book

ate donuts in bed and the next thing you know I got a phone call from an EP and um every time I see that name pop up on my phone. I'm like, oh, God, here we go. You know, because it's never anything good, you know? Yeah, so he called and I knew something was up because he calls to check in, but usually there's something. And he's like, I just want to catch up. I just want to talk to you a little bit. And I said, okay. And he started out this conversation as, okay, so I know we had this conversation last time and you said, I cannot bring this up over the phone. I had to be there in person and as soon as he said that really i knew what he was about to ask me because i well because i told him like after my last bachelor um interview which was um this past year before claire was

announced i was doing my own thing i was happy i was in my own world i was living my life i had finally like found my ground i wasn't in the headspace of going back on TV doing all that stuff and like i got that phone call and it kind of like uprooted me put my life on hold you know how it goes. You can't really make any plans, decisions, nothing, because you don't know what's going to happen. And it kind of mess with me, quite a bit, actually. And I told him, I'm like, that's not, that's not fair to me. I know there's other girls in the conversation, but I was fine. I was fine. And next time you do it, you better come to my house and tell me in person, because at this point, I don't want a phone call. I'm not going to Paradise. I'm not going to do the

bachelor again. I don't want anything to do. I'm like, I'm done. And so when he started the sentence with that, I basically knew what was coming. That's so exciting. I mean, it really is. Normally we get to have this talk before you start your season, but obviously, this is like, we've never seen this happen before. And normally, like, Becca and I are like, oh my gosh, we're so excited for you. This is amazing. Your whole life is about to change. Like, the first night is the most exciting night ever. Like, no one can, I just, no one can prep you for it. And I just, there's just so much joy because then there's so much, you just have no idea

what to expect. But for you, obviously, we know that this was the absolute worst kept secret that you were going to be the Bachelorette. I mean, people were hosting self-included on Instagram if the rumors are true. Oh my God, I'm so excited for Tasia. Like, like, it was just like, I'm just going to embrace it. Like, fuck it. It's out, you know, like, it's, we know what's up.

But now that people actually know it's you. How does it feel that the franchise is acknowledging you now? We can talk to you. We can talk about it. We've seen you on our screen. What does that feel like for you? Surreal, just because I feel like I've been keeping a secret for so long. You're the only one.

Yeah. And I haven't really been able to talk to anybody, except for my family and it's a lot. I don't think people realize actually how hard of a time I've had personally, like internally just because when you're announced The Bachelor, you have so much time to get into that headspace and like get excited for what's to come. And for me, it was just like I got a phone call and I went into quarantine and, you know, went straight into filming.

And all the excitement that you guys experienced, like I didn't, wasn't a part of that. I had no idea that was even going on. And I just came out of the bubble and or I came out of my journey and I was just processing what just happened. So for so long I've kind of just been in this like what's going on phase. That it's exciting to now. I go, yeah, I did that thing. Yeah. It's pretty exciting. I'm not going to lie. It just is going to take me a minute, I want to know, going into night one because very on trend with 2020 nothing is going as planned and so even as we've said this whole season has been mixed up and it's not the normal bachelor season that people are knowing and loving so of course like even your night one felt different because you you basically

go in there's a group of what 16 men just sitting there and like you can tell it's like you're nervous rightfully so the men are nervous if you know But I found it kind of endearing, like this cute, quirky moment where you guys like all see each other and you're like, hi, okay. So like, how do we do this now? It wasn't the proper limo engines, which I will say. I'm so glad that they did give you that later on in the evening. Like at least to stand there and have the men come out of the limo and wow you and go back in. Like that, you needed that. You deserved that. But overall, you know, you because you did come halfway through his season, you didn't get a lot of the pomp and circumstance that any lead. has gotten in the past, so how does that feel knowing, like, were you okay with that? Like, knowing, you know what, as long as I have this opportunity, I'm going to make it as worthwhile as possible, or were you kind of bummed about that, about just, you know, like, feeling like, I don't know if these guys are over Claire. It's this weird way to get in here. As silly as, as it, as crazy as it sounds, I think this introduction to being the bachelor was

the best way possible for me. I'm sure it would have been fun to be in and now it's like the way everybody else has and all that kind of stuff. But I think the way that I entered and I met all of these guys was perfect because I feel like if I had too much time, I might have done what Claire would have done, like, looked up all these guys on Instagram and kind of had like an idea on who I wanted to talk to. You know what I mean? And I just went into it just like, honestly, just giving it my all leaning into the process and just honestly being me. Like I couldn't do anything at that point except for just be like, hi. Well, yeah, take it or leave it. Hi. And I, I loved that I didn't know anything about them.

They knew nothing about me. They didn't know who was coming through those doors. I loved it all. Even though they didn't know who was coming, their reaction to seeing you is everything. I mean, I don't know about you, Becca, but I was a tad bit jealous. Their jaws literally hit the floor.

My God. I mean, easy goes, oh, my God. when you walk through and let's just have a moment to talk about how phenomenal you looked coming out of the limo you're the dress first of all and i and i and i did talk to carry about this okay so like no legit last night before before we were podcasting so it's like oh we're podcasting tasha i have to compliment you on how fantastic that dress was i've never seen him dress someone in that color and with your complexion you were just I mean glowing glowing it oh Tasha it was

oh dare I say it the best looking bachelorette I have seen step out of the limo like truly from head to toe the way you looked was like the whole look was was great and so I get it if I was a man I'm a woman and I was like oh my god No, I'm really. Tasha, I've literally said this. I think, well, I said it at one point, maybe after you came on our last podcast. I was like, I just look at Tisha and I feel like I'm sucked into her eyes. Like, stunning. And especially night one, like your old Hollywood glam with the hair and the makeup. I was like, oh my gosh. I like, I seriously got chills all over watching you step out. And it was just so sweet because you literally, you were like, what do I do? What do I do? Where do I go? It was great. It was refreshing. It was really refreshing to just watch you and like the way backup pointed it out. Just, you know, like no one knew what to do. Even when you have the rose ceremony, where there was supposed to be a rose ceremony,

you're like, I think there's a rose ceremony, but we're not going to have one. It was like, yeah, like, let's just sit in this room and get to know each other. And it just, I don't, the whole thing was so great. And it was exciting to watch you. And we're just so happy for you and happy that we can have this moment to talk to you. But what I also loved is that we saw you talk a lot about what you were fearful of. Obviously, it's exciting. I don't even need to ask you the question about what you're excited about.

You're walking into a room full of men that are for you. Right. You put a period after it. That's exciting. You're on the driver's seat. That's exciting. Oh, and Luma is going to pull up with four more guys. That's exciting.

We got that. But to see you talk about, and I don't know if I don't even know if I realized it as a viewer until you set it because we know how exciting it is. But to hear you say, these men might not be here for me. They might have feelings that are invested. And maybe we're a little bit jaded because we watch clear seasons play out. You really weren't privy to all of that in the moment. So talk about what it was that you were most fearful of

and how you were able to overcome that to step into the bachelor bubble and be the bachelorette. I mean, that's one of the first questions I asked. the producer when he calls me. I was like, okay, but how is this going to work? Like, the guys clearly knew, like, Claire was announced with the men knowing what they were walking into. And then guys were recasted knowing that Claire was going to be the Bachelorette. I mean, if I'm one of those guys, you bet you're asked, I'm going to see, like, who's going to be there and, like, see if I'm even attracted to her or what's going to happen. So I was like, hold on a second, but all these guys are there for her.

And, like, how much have they actually grown? I know how big a one-on-one is. is. I know how quickly feelings develop. And so, yeah, I was fearful that they all had her in mind. She was more their type than me being their type. Which they correct. Which they corrected you. Whatever that may be. Just FYI. Real quick. I think like Ivan, Ivan fell in love with you the moment you walked into the room. Like, he could not stop talking about like, she's more my speed and she's this and that. I'm like, okay, Ivan's in love.

Brendan, too. Brendan was like, you're my vibe, you're my energy, and I was like, well, well, damn, what the fuck react to the with Claire? You know what I mean? We'll go bad for Claire in that instance, but yeah. But it's just, it's just funny. Like, that's a huge fear. Let me think about it, you know?

And I just walked in like, okay, well, I'm going to have the conversation. It was really, really, really important to me. And there was a little bit more of a conversation that happened than what they showed. I was like honestly please give me the opportunity just I might not be the one you came here for but just give me a chance like I'm going to give every single one of you a chance and um if it's not me that's totally fine like I I wanted them to know like doors right there and I'm not stopping you because I don't want you to um string me along because I'm not going to do that to you so yeah it was um something I had to constantly work with in my mind and with my producer even just to be like but they're here for me right because you don't see what they're saying behind the scenes you know what I mean so you just kind of have to like trust it before you came in I mean the moment when Chris Harrison was like okay guys you have 24 hours basically make up your mind if you want to stay or go and we saw I mean we saw

most of the men being like now we finally have a chance like we want to stay and do this because they felt like they didn't have that fighting chance before. There were a couple guys like Blake and Jason who were struggling more because they obviously had developed some sort of feeling and relationship for Claire. So in talking to them that night, I mean, because we saw, especially 9-1, we saw most of them reassure you, like, we're here for you. Like, we want this opportunity. We want to get to know you just like you're giving us this opportunity to get to know

us. And so did you ever feel like they were being totally honest or that they were kind of just around to stick around, to do the show for all the things that could come from it? Or did you feel like they were very open and honest? And then now, I guess, knowing what you went through in the entire season and watching it back now and watching what they were saying prior to you coming in. Like, where's your head out with that? Like, how are you feeling in your heart about what they were telling you?

I think that one of the qualities that I have is, like, I'm really good at reading people. and I will say every single conversation I have that night on the first night with the guys they were all so genuine and every single guy I mean except for it was Jason and Blake that really had feelings invested in Claire

and they did share that with me that night they're like honestly I don't even I know more about you than I know about Claire and this is not to talk about about Claire but it's just to show like where their headspace was and they were just like I know more about you

and like I actually feel like I'm having a good conversation like something's going somewhere and every single guy kind of kept saying that in their own words so I know it wasn't something that was rehearsed collectively

so to hear that really reassured me and for the guys that did have feelings I was like I want you to be in that I want you to feel that and I want you to figure it out I think that's what I think it's a case so funny to watch the transition and you know people have been really hard on claire and then to see

how the guys responded to you it was like things work out the way they're supposed to because to see so many men say that you were more their type it made what claire did even that more special because she took a risk and trusted in what she did and made the best decision for her and dealt and it's worked out and then those guys had a new opportunity to meet someone that they were more interested in and it worked like it all worked it's all part of god's greater plan i do have a question with you because it's not just about the switch that you had with claire that was such a big deal it's also being the bachelorette in 2020 and all of it's crazy it's like the way you were the bachelorette you already said it totally fits 2020 but you left a reality

that has just been crazy, with all the sadness and the suffering and the sickness, with a pandemic going on in regards to our health, but also a pandemic going on socially and economically, racially, you know, there's just so much that you left to then come into a bubble where you're protected. And, I mean, it's no secret that I was on your season. And even when I talked to you, I even said, I was like, hey, there's a lot going on out there even more than when you left. Yeah, when you left to come into the bubble. Right. And knowing going into the bubble that there was so much division,

there's so many conversations that have to be had, were you at all scared or nervous about the discussions that you were going to have with the men going once you became The Bachelorette? No, absolutely not, because I feel like, I mean, that I'm looking for is willing to have those conversations and has an opinion. and has a feeling about everything. If it's someone that's trying to run away from it

because they're, I don't know, they have no feelings about it or they don't even know how to like vocalize that. Okay. I don't know if that's necessarily a person for me. To be honest with you, I'm here to have intelligent conversations and I'm sorry, but like I'm also half black

and half Mexican. So those issues are going to arise in our relationship. So it's more so a person that is, willing to have that is definitely a person I'm willing to date. If they weren't ready for all that, then maybe we're not ready for each other. I don't know. It's, I mean, 2020 is what it is. You can't hide. And if you are hiding, then it's going to come to lie at some point. You know what I mean? I want to add on to that. So for you, I mean, because now you are the second person of color, well, I guess after Matt, but the second Bachelorette of color. So what does that mean to you?

I mean, I know when watching Rachel's season back, she felt that weight. Like she, I think in so many of your interviews, Rachel, you felt that pressure so much more immensely than any other lead can ever feel. And so, Tasia, did you feel that too going in and being like, I'm not just a second Bachelorette on the same season. I'm the second Bachelorette of color here. Like, how do I go about this? Like, what was, what was entering that and knowing, like, did you feel like the weight was on your shoulders? It's funny because I actually remember having it all hit me in an interview and vocalizing that. But to be honest with you, yes, I did feel it.

And it's more so just because I didn't want to disappoint. But also it's just because I'm aware of the opportunity and the platform that I now have. And connecting with women that identify with me, girls that look like me, me can now see themselves represented by me, and that means everything to me. So I'm just excited for that part of the journey as a Bachelorette, and I don't know, just being a role model for people. Yeah, yeah, yeah. In general.

No, absolutely. Yeah, that's why, you know, that's why it's just, it's just interesting because there's so many issues and factors floating around, whether you're Claire, who's now in an interracial relationship, you or Matt James. Every single lead this year, I guess technically Peter's in this year and he doesn't count. So I'm not counting Peter. After Peter, and that's no shade. I'm just like, I'm not counting Peter.

But everyone after, it really is affected or has to have certain conversations. Because of how they're going to step out into the world once they step outside the bubble. It's interesting, but it's also very exciting, which is why I was so excited when I heard that you were announced because all I've ever wanted to see in this franchise is diversity. And in 2020, I'm seeing the show really step up and cast leads and people of color within the franchise. And so I just want people to feel more comfortable to be the lead, to be a contestant, to be able to open up to producers, but then also see producers that look like them on

the other side. And so I find it interesting, too, that you had a breakdown when talking to a producer. because that, I had the same thing happen to me and it does hit you. You're having these conversations. You're starting to open up. And then for me, and I'm curious if this is what happened with you, I was having a conversation and I looked around the room and nobody looked like me. And I was like, so you're not getting what I'm saying. And my breakdown was frustration. And then, you know, they brought Chris Harrison in the room. God love him. But I was like, what the hell is he going to say to me right now? Like I'm crying about being a black woman and you

a white melon here you know like I love my fairy godfather but now it's not the moment we're missing it you're proving exactly what I'm saying but I'm curious with you if you felt that I I got frustrated not because I was mad I adore my producer and I wasn't mad at her I was just like nobody understands the pressure that it is to sit in this chair and and to be in this role Um, you know, okay, well, first of all that kind of stuff is a little different now because of COVID, um, so no one's actually in the room with you anymore because there's just automated cameras. Even your producer's not really asking me the questions. Yeah. My, it's just my producer. There's no one to allow you when you say something to do. So I'm just in a room. No, no. And it's just, it's kind of nice, but it's also like, okay. So was that funny? So everything's automated, but um, um, no. I will say that it was a thought that came across my mind, but it's something that I also vocalized with saying, like, you know, I don't know if I'm going to identify with the person

that is going to be asking me questions all the time. And it's easier for me to maybe have someone that has a struggle that I've had. And that's, my producer that was on The Bachelor. He was actually black and we identified a lot with each other and I think he was able to really bring me out of my shell and just hear me and just like feel me and I expressed that concern but it was also heard and if I wanted to have a different person interview me just so in case the situation arise or anything like that like everybody was very accommodating to that so it's I definitely felt supported in that aspect which was nice I didn't ever feel like I can't identify

with anyone and I'm kind of just like that means there's improvement because I felt that in moments and to be honest with you Rachel like maybe well once again what what way didn't you pave in this you know franchise but for this aspect

it's just like maybe they needed to hear that from you in order for that to be an opportunity for me you what I mean I don't know if like if I was the first it's like I'm happy that you felt that that That makes me so happy. I'm so happy you felt that. Truly.

Truly. Yeah. No, because it does come across your mind. I mean, like, how are you to navigate it? I don't have, I don't know, the people usually call on. And I want to ask this, and I don't want details because obviously we have to watch your entire season. But were those conversations, like, put your first aside, like with the men, are we going to see those types of conversations, you know, like, what would hometowns look like? How would your families embrace me?

you know like how would your family embrace them do we see that come later yeah there's a lot of really good conversations around all these topics which i'm excited for y'all to see but you'll just have to watch and um i can't just talk about one because there's many so that's an exciting part about it all as well you're just going to see some good deep that's the one thing about these men everybody has depth, which I love. And I'm allowed, I feel comfortable to have those conversations. We think that this is one of the best group of guys we've seen. By far, they're all a little bit older, more mature.

It seems like they have great careers. Jobs, yes. You got a good bunch, which actually leads me to my next question. So this is a conversation that, well, prior to me starting my night when I thankfully had Rachel, Jojo, and Caitlin come and give me some advice and ask questions. But we always talk about this. between us about charrettes is did you know night one after leaving

those men who your top kind of couple guys would be no it's different for her that doesn't surprise me no yeah I guess it's totally different going in to be honest with you guys I felt like I had so much pressure with that

damn first impression rose because all of you guys and I'm not giving anything away but all of you guys gave your first impression rose the person you left with. So I was like, oh my God, I hope my intuition is one point because Spencer is coming out as an asshole. I'm just going to go ahead and put that out there. But it's so funny because I did not see that side of him. He was always so sweet to me. And very easy on the eyes. Um, it's cute.

Well, you guys, I'm not going to lie when I saw you when I, well, I've talked about this how I've hosted that date with you. There were a couple of guys that you talked about quite a bit. So I So leaving her, I was like, oh, I know who her top three are for sure going to be. Like in true fashion, true Becca fashion, I think I was probably wrong too. I don't know. But honestly, I think it's great. And I love that no one really knows because I feel like I really just allowed myself to give everybody a chance and date people that I normally wouldn't and to just see where it went. And I'm very proud of myself for that.

That's what I love. One thing that you did very, very well in all of your conversations that we saw with the guys is you asked them the questions of like, why are you here? What brought you here? Like, tell me more about you. And I felt like maybe it was just night one for me or that like maybe the first week I felt like it was all about me. And I was like, I don't want you to ask about me. Like I need, I'm juggling 30 plus men. So like tell me about you. And you did such a good job about digging. And I think making them feel like they actually had somebody. who cared now and like listened to them. Oh, well, I also think of it's like, it also kind of helped because they were like kind of warmed up a little. Like they were definitely nervous. It's so funny. Like I'm sure you guys all experienced this, but then they would all hold your hands like their hands were shaking.

And super sweaty. And it's the cute. Oh, there is one. I won't even talk about it. But they're all super shaking. It's really endearing. It's just really sweet. but like I just maybe their nerves wasn't I don't know like you usually ask questions about other people when you're nervous I feel like tell me about yourself I don't even know if it was that they were warmed up or that it was that they hadn't had the opportunity to talk about themselves and so I think that was also what was so great I think that's what's so interesting about the the way that you came in because the men haven't had an opportunity to talk to talk about

talk about themselves. They haven't been asked certain questions. It's all been very Claire Dell. And so I think for you, it's so great because they are so eager. They're obviously interested to you, but they're also so eager to talk to you, which I love. It's very refreshing, like, the way that you came in. It's great that we didn't have a whole season of Claire. And that is no shade to Claire. People know Claire is my girl, but she obviously found her love quickly. Why make us watch five, six more weeks of that when she found love. That's the point of the show. But my question to you is, one, are you watching Claire season? Well, it's over now. Did you watch past tense? Did you watch Claire season? You have to. I wasn't going to. Because here's a second question.

When you watch the men on Claire season, did your, and then we obviously haven't seen your entire season yet, but you went through it. Watching the men on Claire season versus how you, experienced them, oh my gosh, maybe the wine's hitting me, versus how you experienced them on your season, did your opinion change at all of any of the men? To be honest with you, watching Claire's season, I feel like you didn't really see any of the guys. You didn't see their personality. You didn't, half of them didn't even speak. I mean, there was really like maybe three or four people on the show, I feel like, it was

Claire Dale and maybe a couple commentators like Kenny talked quite a bit Jay you know what I mean you didn't see any of the guys which is why like I'm so excited for everyone to watch this season because the guys open up

and they are phenomenal everyone's kind of like well not everyone but I've talked to a few people and they're like the guys are like okay and I'm just like first of all rude second of all you haven't seen them yet just wait because you will see different sides them they're actually amazing um but to be honest with you i there is some yeah you're like giving

your first you haven't seen the guys yet one-on-one to brandon i'm like flipping through page is like okay brenden who is brenden who is brenden never seen him before well there's like i feel like even when you walked in there's so many guys you're like hi i'm tation every guy's like hi i'm so-and-so i'm so-and-so i'm like who is this guy like i never know is it is he new here like i had no idea because yeah again playing back to it you just didn't see him it was the the clarendale show um played off of rachel's question before you went in to meet the men did you have a chance to talk to claire or were you in contact with her at all or did she share any advice with you before going in to be honest no but i think it's just because it was it was kind of quick but also i think

everyone wanted to allow us to have our own experiences and it would have been nice to be like, hi, like pass the torch kind of thing but I also I don't know if it was necessarily necessary at the time I kind of just like went in and did my thing

What about since the show? Yeah Mm-hmm She's reached out and I've responded but you know we just have like a lot going on right now too. I know like the craziness of the show. I'm sure we'll connect soon. But yeah, we've like had a little bit of correspondence. Um, I'm sure after all this kind of like

blows over, we'll be able to like really like laugh at everything and ever see everything. But at the same time, I'm just getting started, you know? We can officially add Tasha to the bachelor at group chat now. We should. We should in the group chat. The fact that you guys have a bachelor at group chat is amazing. I shouldn't admit this for everyone, but a couple weeks ago, I was like, when do we add Tasia here? And some of the girls were like, wait, what? It's like, shit. I didn't even see you say that. I probably got buried by like 37 more texts, but, but yeah, welcome to the club. You'll ask you. It's like, you will wake up some mornings and your phones, you'll have 240 missed texts from all of us. I have them on mute, so don't feel ashamed to put them on mute because

For a little, like, follow up with them. Yeah, don't. And to be honest, you guys, with this starting, I feel like I'm starting to like get a little stress and just to have like you guys there to know that you guys experience the same thing. I'm sure it's just going to like put myself out of ease because I don't know. I feel like my whole stuff has been so different and I just need help. I'm trying to freak out. I'm not going to lie.

Go ahead. I'm sorry. Oh, no, I was going to say, well, this is a strange time to. the time when it's airing you obviously can't talk about it really like with people you know you have to just take it week by week so i remember like when i was in your shoes at this point i was just really anxious like i didn't want to go out in public i didn't want to like talk to people and have them ask questions it's just it's it's just like a bubble outside of the bubble it's strange but also too um it's nice because you still like depending on what happens i truly don't know like you have

hopefully some special secrets and memories that like this is the quiet time before everything like really changes by the end of your season so but we're always here to talk I mean you're so close to us we'll have some girls nights I know honestly that's a good thing I've been I've been down in town for the last couple of weeks but and I'll still be gone for a little while but soon when I get back I haven't even watched an episode at home with I met my family like nobody so once I get how we'll have to have a little wine night or something. What? No, it takes you to.

You have to. I do, but I will tell you, like, I, like, usually run out of the room when I see myself, and this is going to be different because I'm, like, it's not, it's not cute. It's not enjoyable, but you have to watch. You have to look at it, like, for research purposes, okay? I don't know how your season is, but you have to know once because you have to know how to address the media when they come at you. Like, we'll meet again in a different setting.

and it'll be on extra. And like, if I'm asking you particulars, you have to understand what it is, you know, that I'm talking about. Also, if you chose someone at the end of this, they're going to go through their own journey of watching it back and watching you have relationships with other men. And that's tough.

And you have to be very understanding of it and let them go through their own feelings and working it out. So you have to, but like think of it as like, this is work and I have to watch this for research. I don't enjoy it. I don't like it. I never want to see it again. again, but I've got to do this for this one time. Now, I do want to ask you this because we talked

about this on the podcast. And, you know, we're opinionated on the podcast. We're not one to hold back our thoughts. At the end of episode three, you were introduced to the world. Finally, they acknowledge you, which it's just been, I like, I literally get so sick of having to say, allegedly, when people are like, okay, so Tasia's an ex-bats right, and I'm like, allegedly. So now we know that you are Yes, now we're And you see for the first time The franchise acknowledges you

Coming out of a pool Very Hallie Berry-esque In the orange bathing suit You know, drenched, wet, assets out. I want to know though How did you feel about the first time You saw yourself on camera

with The Bachelorette? Well, first I will say that was actually obviously you've seen the first episode now like it was filmed at a date so did I think that that was with my intro as a bachelor's no

which I wouldn't either I get that yeah we know you didn't say hey guys make sure this is how you introduced me to the world this is my teaser well some people actually asked you like so your intro I'm like my intro like that was just

a date. Like, I didn't think that was going to be my thing. I would have tried a little bit harder. I'm like flopping around or whatever. But I will tell you, I've actually, that's not the first time I've done that. So, this is actually kind of like this thing. I actually did it back in Singapore on Colton's season. And we had so much fun doing it. And it was kind of fun just to like remake it. But the way that I felt with that being my first introduction as The Bachelor, I didn't really think about it any type of way in particular. I guess it's funny because like once I heard your opinion on it, Rachel, it was like, I guess I never thought about how it might make other people feel.

Just being like, hey, like she deserves an introduction before like her body comes out. In my, in my opinion, I was just like, you've seen me on Bachelor, you've actually seen me on Paradise. My introduction to Paradise was somewhat similar in the bikini and whatnot. on. I didn't really feel like it was out of the norm, but I do feel uncomfortable in a bathing suit in general. So it was just kind of like, it was a lot for me. I was like, okay, that's my shot. All right. It would have been nice to be like, so it's Tasia and then I come out of the pool. I think that, and you'll realize this too, because like you're, you're just now publicly being able to talk about being the Bachelorette. There are levels in this Bachelor franchise.

And I don't think that that's cocky to say. It's the truth. You know, elite is different from a contest it. Being on Paradise is different from being the Bachelorette, which is why you said, don't call me again for Paradise unless it's the real deal. It's Bachelorette. So to be in a bathing suit in paradise is not the same thing to being introduced as the Bachelorette, first thing, as a swimsuit. And so like for me, it was like, let me just acknowledge how amazing she looks, first of all. Obviously, you look amazing. And we get that. But you didn't choose her simply because she's beautiful. A lot of beautiful girls come through this franchise.

You were chosen because you're more than that. And I just felt personally, also in addition to what I feel about how black women are stereotyped in this country, in the world, really. But I was just like, oh, I felt like it was a robbed moment. Now they quickly make it up in the next episode, quickly. We talked about how amazing you look, truly. And then you see the context behind you coming out of the pool, which makes all the sense in the world. If I had watched it that way, I would have had nothing to say.

But I just, you know, like, and maybe we can say things. Like Becca can speak on this as well, but maybe we can say things that you necessarily can't because we ain't under the same contract you are. But I just, it was more like I stepped in big sister mode. And Becca did too, because we kind of had the same thought about it. we feel protective over you we've been through this we've gone through this and it was like could we do something else because tasha is so much more than just being beautiful you are beautiful but you're there's depth to you you don't get to be the bachelorette um just by simply

being beautiful and i just wish that we had seen that but thank god there's another week and then they make that up very quickly no but i honestly I do appreciate that just because, again, I think this whole thing has just been so different than any other announcement or anything. And it did suck to have me come out of the pool and not even be able to be like, yeah, I am The Bachelor. It's just like, no, I was swimming in a pool and looking to California, you know? So that kind of sucked.

And that's why I'm telling you, like, even when you're saying, like, it's nice to kind to kind of say it now. It is nice, but I for so, honestly, for so long, I've been. been like, I can't say anything. So I'm still adjusting to it. I don't know. I wish it would have been introduced a little differently. I'm not going to lie.

But I'm still happy with the way I did everything. I don't think I have any regrets on my seasons, which is nice. But I just wish, yeah, if you see me in a little dress. They already will forget about it because they've seen you in a different way. Yeah. Yeah. And also, too, like, you know, Claire had the graduate as her. promo shot. And so

it's like, 2020's just dropping the ball a little bit here. You guys. I can't. I'm the Bachelorette. What? Who? Honestly, which would you like better? Okay, I'm not trying to do any of that. A foot?

I do. No. My grandmother's always like, I know, what size are you? I'm always like, baby, where the rest of your toes. That's what she says off the time. I wish everyone listening, please tune in. You can watch our videos. I don't know where. But Rachel is just... I'll see that damn foot one more time.

But you're right. You're right, Tasia. Period. Fun fact, though. Becca, you're tall. Rachel, you were tiny. And I never knew that. How many guys did you kiss one? You guys, I didn't kiss one. Not even Spencer?

I did not. Oh, I lied. I get it. I kissed Spencer. After I gave him the rose, I kissed Spencer. But I will tell you, nobody me night one and I even went back and I was like like I wasn't expecting to like be a little hot mess but I was just like nobody actually kissed me I'm like that's kind of weird don't speak on it if you don't want it to have the next night I kissed so many people I was like whoopsies I shouldn't have said that because I kiss probably 10 people the next night I didn't

I only kissed Brian the first night it's like the guys can get kind of like it's weird I think yeah thank me it's not weird but you guys at the same time I feel like when I was looking at back my little kiss with Spencer was so sweet it was a little pecky you made up for it was a little sweet little kiss you made up for it. They were both nervous

that dude was itching to kiss you I've never seen somebody hates Chris Harrison so much wait you guys how funny was that when Chris stole him away him breaking off and a I was laughing so hard I was like look at Chris go

it was great oh my god he was having the time of his life on that damn little scooter it was the best one thing i want to ask you because obviously when you say yes to the bachelette and and for you tasha and you and you expressed this on your date with brendan it's it's nice that you guys have something in common that we don't really see talked about on the show and it was really great to see you know you talk about the this isn't a game for me i've been through this before on another level. I've been married. You're obviously looking for a husband. You wouldn't have said yes to this if you weren't taking this seriously because of what you've been through.

So what did being the Bachelorette mean to you? And what qualities did you most want to convey as the Bachelorette? What did it mean to me? I mean, to be honest with you, it was more so a reflection as to where I am in life. I'm very confident in myself. I know that I have a lot to offer. I've worked very hard to get to be the woman that I am today, and I'm very self-sufficient, but I'm honestly just looking for a partner in life. And I think that me saying yes, the opportunity means that I'm actually there.

Sorry, what was the other question? What qualities did you want to convey as the bachelor's? Oh, I wanted to just convey that I'm a strong, woman just someone that honestly it's just something that's looking for a partner in life

like I it's funny because like I tell to everybody like I don't need anybody because I don't but it's nice to have someone to take over the world with I was looking for someone to build an empire with that's at the end of the day what I kept telling the guys be yourself I'm going to be myself my vulnerable

honest self if you give me that and I expect that in return. And I feel like if you do that, we're going to create something amazing. And like for me to just be there and just have confidence and not try to be somebody else, I feel like for so long,

like at a young age, you just try to be what that guy wants you to be. For so long you want to like try to be the cool chick or like be this way, be that way. Like no, like this is who I am. And that's why when I didn't have the opportunity to have like so much time to think about who these guys were in the,

the fact that the guys didn't know who I was. It's just like, it's very organic. Either we like each other, we don't. It works out or it doesn't. Like, we have something common or it doesn't. And I think that, yeah, I think that was really portrayed in my season. Once you, like, keep watching, you'll see that we just kind of like, it works. If it doesn't, we have a really mature conversation about it and we kind of move on.

Okay, one thing I want to ask is because anyone going on the show, any lead or contestant, knows that this is a very amplified timeline. Two months is not a long time before you fall in love and potentially get engaged. And you had half of that time. So when you went in, obviously, I'm assuming you were hopeful, but going in knowing that your time was already cut in half, were you skeptical at all about being like, could this actually work for me this time around on such a short time frame? I just truly feel like I had enough time. I feel like the guys really showed who they were and what they had to offer and I did the same and um no when you know you know you know I think like either haven't attracted to someone or you don't and I feel like that's kind of

I just kept leaning into I don't only think I had too short of a time that was a fear that I had and I told them that and I told them I don't think I'm going to get engaged at the end of this I think I might just leave with a boyfriend or whatever and they honestly said we're not going to pressure you to do anything you do what your heart wants and so I didn't really ever feel that pressure to be like, oh my God, I need to find a husband, like right now. So I just kind of like lived my journey how I wanted to. You probably got in there at the perfect time too where the guys, well, most of the guys besides four of them, had enough time to kind of like get into the headspace and like get used to the interviews and the schedule and how

things operate where most people it takes them so long to really, I think, find their groove and to get into it and feel comfortable. So you probably, I didn't even think about this until no, you probably got them, like, when they were already warmed up and ready and ready to open up and talk about their feelings and their emotions and not be so closed off. At that point, they were, I feel like a little comfortable with, like, all the camera people around, like the lights and all the kind of stuff, which is something to adjust to you on night one, as you guys know. And yeah, I feel like they kind of weren't being attention to any of that stuff.

They were like, somebody listening to us. Thank God. You know what I mean? Like, yes, they got warmed up. But at the same time, they were like, thank good. This is what it's like to be on a season. And listen, again, this is no shade to Claire. Claire did absolutely what she should have done. And that's why I'm so grateful that they brought to my head. Then he was like, okay, this person found her person and this person is going to explore these relationships with these 20 men. Great. That's how it should be. can you like and those poor men too when they had no idea that you were coming in they were like we're getting the boot we've been in this 115 degree heat not talking to anyone besides these other dudes for the most part like you were probably like this most beautiful savior coming in oh my god to be honest i didn't know what i was walking into it could have been like i don't even know i just walked in and honestly you guys can speak on that feeling of walking into your room

and having 30 men in suits like turning around and looking at you. I almost died. I was living by curiously for you. A man in suit is everything. This is so nice. It's great. It's so nice.

And they're there for you. Right reasons, wrong reasons. It doesn't matter. It's your season. So they are on your season and you're in the privacy, ready to navigate all these men. It's great.

You know, normally I'm a bad driver, but when it came to the Bachelorette, I mean, I was in the right lane the entire freaking time. And it seems like you are too. Like it's, it's really, really great. Okay, Becca, you know how we do it. Obviously, we like to talk a lot. And we've asked Tasha so many questions. And we haven't even gotten into the episode. We're going to get a little bit into that. But if you want to hear the entire breakdown of Tasia talking about what went down, her first episode is Bachelorette, group date, one-on-one date, all the inside details. You got to head over to Clickbait.

And I feel like we're going to crash that, Becca, because we're two pit bulls in a China cabinet. We're two pit bulls in the skirt. Is that how that's saying goes? Yeah. Come on over. Asking permission, Tasha. We're in this thing. We're coming on over to Clickbait to get all the details.

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