Bachelor Happy Hour - Clean Breaks and Messy Starts with Spencer! | Golden Hour

Episode Date: November 13, 2024

Today on “Golden Hour,” we have Spencer from Jenn’s season of “The Bachelorette.” Spencer is here to give us all his post-show updates, including what his dating life is like and whether “Paradise” is on the table for him. Then, we get into some of your questions, and they are messy! From cheating to dog custody post-breakups, we’re here to help, and Spencer has some great advice to give. Tune in now to hear all of this and more, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime Podcasts and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, Politics. On this week's episode, I'm joined by all-time great Hooper and basketball analyst Candace Parker, who gives insight into her candid new book, including why she waited two years into marriage to come out.

I never envisioned being with a woman. I'll just be honest. Like, when I close my eyes at night, every night, I was like, I need to find my prince charming. Like it was never a princess. Make sure you listen to this episode is politics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Emanzor.

And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, Psychobabble.

Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. Welcome back. It's time for Bachelor. Happy Hour's Golden Hour. It's our Golden Hour.

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you want the honors. Oh, today. And he's so handsome. They're all handsome. I'll tell you. Fan favorite from Jen season of the Bachelor. Spencer, how are you doing? Welcome, welcome.

Hi, Spencer. How are y'all? I'm doing better now. You weren't nervous coming on to talk to us? Oh, extremely, extremely nervous. Yeah, I'm getting night one PTSD right now. Oh, come, come on. Okay, wait, wait, real quick. Did you get that night one?

Were you, like, really nervous? No, so night one, actually, I was very lucky. I was the second one out of our limo and when the door opened for the first person to leave, I actually saw Jen and I made eye contact with her and that kind of helped and everything. I was like and

they do such a good job of hiding all the cameras, crew, anything like that. So it was just a girl standing out from a building and just a girl looking for a guy. You got to see everybody else's entrance, right? Watched everybody else come. I was one of the last, second

to the last one to get. there. I was number two out. So I was, it was really nice. On a scale of one to ten, Spencer, how nervous were you? I wasn't nervous initially. I wasn't nervous until we started having a few of our like when I was going into one-on-one conversations. That's why I was like, okay, but when it was just introductions meeting someone, I can usually, I do a pretty good job of filling any dead space if there's ever any on, I thrive at first dates. So I was, I was, I was excited for night one. And then all the guys,

like you were just bonding and getting to know everybody else that was coming. Yeah. That was so fun. Because for the first few days that you're there, it's just you and you don't really have any contact with anyone. And then you are tossed into limos and you meet all these great guys. It sounds like his season was like our season.

Okay, I have a question. Before we get anything else, you said I was reading about you because, you know, I like to read about the people I'm going to talk to you. You said something that really stuck out to me. You said you can't compete for someone's heart. It's not a competition on a show because it's a two-way street. Tell me how you came to that.

Like how that just blew my mind when I read that. Like has that been in past relationships? Tell me. Yeah. So growing up throughout high school, college, I played sports. And that's obviously a very competitive space to be in. And when I was younger, I kind of viewed love the same as I viewed, you know, work, sports, anything like that. Win in the football game, like, yeah, that you can, if you work hard enough, you can get the prize, got it.

Exactly. And if you put in, put in the work, if you do the right things, it just comes. And in my age now of 31, having been through a lot of longer-term relationships, love is really, really unique. It's a two-way street. There are two parties involved, and you can want someone to love you as much as you can love someone to love you to your heart's extent, but it doesn't mean that they're going to. And during my time on the show, there were a lot of people that would reference to, oh, this is a competition, this is a competition. And there were aspects of everything that were competitive, right? It was getting one-on-one time, making sure that you got across

parts of you that make yourself who you are to Jen and so you could compete to do a lot of those things but as far as competing to win someone's hard it wasn't a competition it's love's never competition I love that it has to happen so you also said in that same article that you approach relationships differently after the show how I want to tell us how it changed what changed you coming from that

and how you approach relationships differently. It's kind of two pronged. Yes, ma'am. Yeah. So going into the show, I was lucky to have been in a relationship that I thought was going to result in marriage. So I knew what was important for me to know about someone and what was important for someone to know about me going into this experience.

But I've never been in a relationship where there's a finite amount of time before you have to get from point A to point B. It's always been, especially as a man, you date someone and you get engaged when you're ready to get engaged. And you learn about them, right? Yeah, you learn about them and there's no set deadline. So going into filming, it was a really, really interesting experience because there's this finite amount of time

and having been in a very serious relationship and engagement before I knew what I needed to know about someone and what I wanted someone to know about me and with that time, it forces you to prioritize, okay, what's most important? What's the least important?

Because, yeah, I want my person to know my favorite food or favorite color. That comes in time. Yeah, more than that, I want them to know the foundational parts that make me the person I am and I want to know. Those are not things that are going to be over the long haul,

the really important thing. Your love language. I love that. How you received love. Yeah, I asked the love language question night one, actually. Uh-huh. Yeah. But, yeah, so it kind of, I didn't foresee this changing the way I approached relationships

outside of a romantic relationship. But with the time I spent with the rest of the guys with production, it all kind of just cascaded into other relationships. and changed, you know, the conversations that we're having at the level we were having them wasn't a standard, hey, I just met you a couple nights ago. Yeah, right. We've got four more minutes. Let's get to know each other.

Yeah, it was. And talk fast. Right. Can you share with me that I noticed that you do a journal on gratitude? Yes, ma'am. Okay. So I have a five-minute journal that I do every morning that's just things that. you're grateful for, things that you would have changed from the day before, things are trying to

work on. Yeah. It's about writing it down. And I'm going to tell you that is, I have started, I don't write it down, but I wake up every morning and just sort of review what I'm grateful for because it really doesn't it change your whole perspective on the upcoming day? Yeah, it does. And it changes the way that you kind of react to different situations, I think. And there's just so much, I think, we have to be grateful for that can get lost in the day-to-day. I scream it to the universe every day.

It just gives you a more positive outlook on life. It just does. It does. Thankful for things that haven't even come yet. That's right. Exactly. That's called manifesting. I think one of the things, too, that took me a while to really grasp is being thankful

for the things you wanted and didn't receive because you didn't receive them for a reason. Yes, yeah. And that's just, it comes down to trusting and just believing that the path your life is going is that way for a reason. Or haven't received them as a bit. The time is not right.

They still may come. But that's all, in my mind, that's all a positive outlook. It's having that positive outlook. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon.

This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating.

He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jamil Hill, host of the Sports and Politics. And on the latest episode of politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party.

What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives, and that's been part of the challenge. But we continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents, to stand up for your constituents. And there's life after Congress. And you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your. your time in the House of Representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years. But their legacy or their

failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Anya Emanzor. And I'm Drew. Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD, oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now.

Have you been on any dates since the show? I've been on one date. Oh, okay. Really? Yeah, I haven't really... Did she reach out to you? It was someone I knew before the show, actually. And we were just friends, acquaintances, and we went on one date, and it was an awesome date.

She doesn't live in Dallas, so that didn't really pan out. When did you break off your engagement? How long before you went on the show? Oh, that was four years before the show. So that was four, four and a half years. Yeah. Yeah. So I had dated after that relationship.

But, yeah, since the show, it's just kind of been a whirlwind. So I, obviously, I had my business. And when I left it, we want to know about this. We want to know all about. I have two cats. What can you do for me? Oh, do you photograph them? What do you do?

Do you, is it photo? Oh, wow. So we. After the show, a lot of people thought that I was either a pet photographer or I was painting pets. Yeah. Oh, we didn't know. So, unfortunately, I'm not that artistically gifted. We have 82 employees on staff.

Now, they're all artists. And we take photos of people's pets that they submit, like your favorite photo. And they use, yeah, well, they use Adobe Illustrator. So it's actually a digital kind of rendering. And then we'll put it on portraits and, blankets and mugs and we're actually about to launch puzzles and stuff. Wait, can I tell you, I gave, this wasn't my pet, I gave, I didn't, clearly didn't think it through.

Last year I gave my son-in-law, my daughter and son-in-law had their first child 17 months ago. So for the first, thank you. So for the Christmas, the baby, you know, for the baby's first Christmas, my son-in-law loves to play golf and I ordered golf balls with the baby's face on it. Ouch, you don't want to hit the baby. I know. I didn't think it through.

And he goes, Kathy. I can't use these. I can't use this. Remember my face on the milk carton. You know what? You could have come up with a really good solution, though, for wives that don't want their husbands to play golf anymore. There you go. That's a business in and of itself.

There you go. There you go. How did you get into that just from, I mean, How? Yeah. So I have always been pretty entrepreneurial when I was really young back when I was a big backstreet boys kid. I don't know if you remember. Yeah, we're not that old. We're not that old. Come on. No, no, I'm just saying I don't know if it was your taste in music. You know, it was. Boy bands. Yeah, whatever. Boy bands. Yeah, it was a boy band craze. And I remember when my whole family would come over for the holidays, I, I would host a backstreet boys concert where I would charge for tickets. I'd make money off the family.

Yeah, and they would come into my room, which was our venue. And I would lip sync backstreet boys with my brothers. So I've always kind of been entrepreneurial. Yeah. Yeah. And this was the business that kind of took off. I've always had little side businesses prior to this one. Are your brothers in it with you?

one of them works for me but no not all of them so i have three little brothers actually so you're the oldest in the family yes ma'am nice wow nice all right good question here if you were invited to paradise would you go i if i were single and invited to paradise are you not single i am single right now So if I was still saying, I'm actively, actively looking to find my person. Like, that's the whole reason I'm on the show. That's kind of my North Star right now. And that's cool.

And starting my family. But if, you know, the time rolls around and I am still single. And there are some fantastic women that have been through the franchise. I'm not super familiar with anyone outside of everyone on Joey's season. Who would you want? Who would you want there, Spencer? Do you have somebody special from there? There was a lot of good ones on there. Don't you laugh. We want an answer.

There's some great options. Oh, I like it. Look at his eyes are twinkling. Look at cute. He's blushing. You're blushing. Ladies, you've got to see this man right now. You got to get to know Spencer's score. Absolutely.

I would, you know, I can think of worse places to find love than a beach of Mexico. So it would be such an awesome opportunity if I had the opportunity to, and like the growth that I left with from the show, it honestly has altered the way that I approach relationships. You just answered our next question. What have you changed your approach? Well, that's what we talked about. He gets to the bigger topics. Well, yeah.

I want to know the biggest lesson you learned. Yeah. So I've always been really, really intentional in my relationships. I'm a long-term relationship guy. I've been in three relationships now that I've been longer than three years. So I'm very much a relationship guy. And luckily, I have been in different relationships that have given me a little bit of information to what works for me, what doesn't work for me.

and now even more so leaving the show I'm really dialed in on what I'm looking for in a person and pretty quickly did you learn more about yourself then right coming off yourself yeah yeah and I learn more about myself what I deal well with what I don't deal well with and you know people are always evolving but I feel like now in my 30s I'm pretty solidified

in who I am this person and not a lot is hopefully going to change from here I feel like I'm pretty set in what's important to me. What is the top, what is the top one or two things you're looking for in a woman? So number one and two really, really high up there is someone with a positive outlook on things. I've dated Google that have a very morose, negative outlook. And it's draining every day. And it's not, it's not fun.

It's not, there's nothing good. You feel like you're always trying to convince them. No, it's not that bad. Right. It's like, this is a job. Oh, my gosh. And obviously, I'm a big problem. I'm in a relationship very, very comfortable with being the rock that someone can lean on.

And I'm always there to offer a solution. But I've learned through relationships that sometimes people just want to be able to vent. And with those super negative people, after they vent two, three, four times, I start offering solutions. And you know what? It drains us. and they, it's like a tornado, you know, they just come through and they take all the energy with them and we're left exhausted and they just go on to the next, you know, negative I'm telling you.

Exactly. And it's always, and it's nothing can just be good and you can't be happy where you are. It's always something else. And then the number two that would be very high up there, as I mentioned, like 85, 90% of the time, I'm so, I love being that, that rock, that person that you can lean on that's there that has your back, always, but life can kick you. And no matter who you are, it'll knock you down. And when I've been in those moments where life has knocked me down, I need to have that partner that can stand up, yeah, can stand up and be there for me to lean on. And I've been in relationships where when I get

knocked down, everything goes to hell in the hand basket because-bloom and doom even worse. Yeah, exactly. It's nice to have that mutual support. Yes, ma'am. It's a two-way street. Yeah, it's a two-way street. So, Spencer, we're going to ask you. We get a lot of questions and stories and they want some advice. Will you be willing to help us out with some advice? I love that, yes. All right. We're going to start with question one as soon as here it comes.

All right. Anonymous asks, Kathy and Susan, I'm in a big mess and I need your help. So I've been sleeping with my married boss on and off for about six months. I know it's terrible. He has a shitty mess. marriage and his wife has also been an absolute nightmare to every woman in this office. She even made his pregnant secretary cry at our last holiday party. Here's the problem. I live next to this very sweet old woman. She bakes me cookies for my birthday. I drive and

pick up her groceries twice a month. We even sometimes get lunch at one of the nearby restaurants. I've opened up to her a little bit about dating a married man. She's disappointed and always tells me, it'll never last but she does it in a way that feels motherly not judgy i couldn't break her heart more so i never told her it was my boss just a guy that's like 18 years older than i am that's rich and married to someone awful well i am so relieved i never gave her more details oh boy never gave her more details than that because yesterday i found out she's my boss's mother-in-law oh my god i knew that's this was going. Okay, basically, I was in my friend's car and we saw my boss walk into my neighbor's house. I later found out the next time I saw my neighbor that he's her son-in-law. From what she told me,

I guess my boss's wife was getting pissed that they never see her outside of holidays. So they're going to start coming over a lot more. I haven't spoken to my neighbor since because she's been out of town and still hasn't mentioned, and still, and I still haven't mentioned it to my boss. What do I do? This is crazy and all I got to say, you think that's your biggest problem? Right? Holy shit. I feel like the

answer is really, really glaringly obvious. I love you. I love you, Spencer. Go ahead. Speak it, babe. Tell us. Tell the world. Cut off everything with this guy instantly. Do it now? Do you think

she enjoys being the other woman? Like, who wants to be the other woman? There's so many things. You don't want to be the other woman. You don't shit where you eat. It's Jesus. I mean, it's your job. It's so bad. You live next door to his mother-in-law.

You know what I got to say, though, that to me, I, anonymous. That's the universe telling you, shame on you. Anonymous, I got to say, that's what I said, that's the least of your problems. The fact that you are sleeping with you, I don't care what kind of shitty marriage he has, you are not a smart, making a smart move. No, honey. Also, not your place to make that judgment. You don't have insides in a marriage or relationship.

Just to be fair, like that's wild. He might go home and have it happy at home, you know. Maybe he's just telling her he's got a shitty marriage. Or she's assuming. And what do we know about that? Do not assume. Do not assume. The word ass is an assume for a reason.

Make an ass out of you and me when you assume. Amen. Okay. I'm glad it was anonymous because I don't even want to call you by name, but that's crazy. You need to rethink that whole player. Redo you. Start over. Yep. Wow.

Yeah. That's the 18 year difference, age difference sounds like a Dallas thing. Anonymous might live in Dallas. Oh, good. She's just young and dumb. I know, Spencer, we got plenty of that in Austin, too. Let me just. Okay.

Yeah. It's a state thing. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her.

Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him?

Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jamil Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcast Politics. And on the latest episode of Politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't? say publicly. Many of them are in fear of their political lives, and that's been part of the challenge. But we continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents, to stand up for your

constituents. And there's life after Congress. And you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your time in the House of Representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years. But their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom.

If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not. the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. Moving on to number two and this is from Nina. Hi, Kathy and Susan. I need your help. My boyfriend of four years and I recently broke up. Long story short, it was mutual, but the catalyst was essentially my fault. We have a dog that we adopted together three years ago, and he's my absolute world.

His name is Nikki, and I just can't picture my life without him. My boyfriend also really, really loves this dog, and I know Nikki has been really helping him through this breakup. He's been taking it really hard. I really can't see myself going without Nikki forever. So how do I go about asking my ex to share Nikki with me? Can I ask now or should I wait? The breakup is still really fresh.

But I don't want my ex to assume Nikki is his and then have to beg to share him. What should I do? Thank you so much. Love you both. Wait, can I, I've got the solution before, Spencer. I've got it. Oh, wow. It's going to bring you business.

call Spencer call Spencer send him a picture of the dog oh frame it on the coffee mug put it on the coffee mugs put it on a 8 by 10 on your wall talk to Nikki and

okay Susan are you looking for another job we might be hiring that was Kathy that was me wait wait I can't see who's talking right now you can't see

the screens are really small right now because of the documents we're in the studio today we have each other all the big room And Spencer, if you hire me, it's just a hop, skipping a jump from Austin. That's perfect. What do you think?

It's a no-brainer. Tell them now. It is also kind of, so I guess the one thing that sticks out to me is when she says that it was essentially her fault that they broke up. She broke up. If you're going to want, yeah, that's what it sounds like. And I'm taking the friggin' dog. No, he's got the dog. He's got the dog.

We want visitation, right? So, that's all. Thank God they didn't have kids. I know. I was dating. I got my dog with someone that I was dating. She didn't want them? It ended, it ended mutually.

But she ended up saying, hey, she's happier with you. She likes you more, essentially. And she was really, really mature and saying that. And I'm grateful for that because dealing with this would be rough. Yeah, if you're going to ask, the split time. You got to do it now. Yeah. By the way, babe, I hate that I ruined your world. And I love Nikki as much as you do. So I'm going to take them every other weekend or, you know.

But you know what's hard about that? Guys, here's what's hard about that. The elephant in the room, or in this case, the dog in the room, is that he's taking the breakup really. It's difficult for him. So do you really think he wants to see her at his front door? No, no, but she loves the dog too. So how do you fix that? I mean, I love my cats, but I'd get another dog. But she's going to be punished because she ended a relationship and can't see the puppy. No, I mean, in a perfect world, right?

In a perfect world, they would, you know, meet at, you know, McDonald's and share the, you know, hand off the dog every week. But I just, I think it's really hard when your heart's broken and you have to see that person. Best case scenario is give them the dog and go get in the level. That's what I said. That would be best case scenario because for her, if she's the one that decided to cut it off, obviously emotions aren't really involved for her anymore. But having been on the side of the party that's kind of caught off guard, that would be really, really rough, especially because he'd probably keep thinking there's still a chance.

They get back together because they have this thing tying them. I think the best thing, you broke his heart. And that's okay. You know, that's part of falling in love is you might fall out of love. That's okay. But I think the guy's suffering and I think, I hope this woman puts the pain that he's in a little bit ahead of her want and need for the dog. Preach, Kathy.

That's why I think too. Yes. All right. Yes. Yeah, one more. One more. Here we go. Anonymous ass.

Kathy and Susan, I'm just going to get right to it. This is so mortifying for me, but I have to do it. I just moved in with my boyfriend. He lives with three other boys. That's the first problem. First mistake. He lists with three other boys that are his best friends. We're going to be staying with them until his lease ends in about three months.

And then we're going to move into our own place. Our bathroom is connected to our bedroom. He works from home. I have IBS. Otherwise, you're his irritable bowel syndrome. What the hell do I do? I just can't do it. I'm too nervous.

He's right there. He's always right there. I can't go in my office. I can't go in the shared bathroom. This is a nightmare. I didn't even think about this. We're not even close to a decent bathroom in our area that I could escape to. Just a gas station bathroom that's a far walk away.

I'm so nervous to be human around him. How do I get over the fear? Please help. Well, I have IBS. So go ahead, Spencer. What do you think? Okay. I'm thinking you make a little investment in something called pooper ree.

It's a spray that goes to the bathroom. I love it. Everybody should. I think you make a little investment and maybe when you're in there, either watch TikToks or something with loud audio or run the water or something. Courtesy plus. Courtesy plush. There we go.

You know what I got to say. Wait a minute, wait a minute. She's embarrassed in front of her boyfriend. If he doesn't know she has, like isn't that something your boyfriend should be aware of? Listen, I was very, when I was. dating my husband, I, um, it was really hard for me. Um, and when it came on, it came on very quickly. It does. And I was embarrassed and I, I didn't know. So I can only imagine with all these guys, it's, you know, it's not just go and be done. It's painful. It's, it's not good. And I, I,

but here's my question, anonymous. And I feel your pain, no pun intended. I feel your pain. However, I have to ask, why didn't you wait until the lease ended in three months? Like, why did you make your life so difficult? Forget the IBS. You know what he's going to be up three? The roommates. Who wants to live with four guys? Not I said the little red hand.

Does she have to clean up after these people? Who cares? Wait the three months. Go get your family. You know what? I will say, so I was in a relationship. It was like eight months that I was dating someone. And for the first six months, if I'd ever go stay at her place, she was in an apartment complex with just like, she was an apartment room with one bedroom, one bath.

If I had to go to the bathroom, I would go down to the lobby and say that I forgot something in my car. I'd go down to the lobby bathroom. Yeah, I think a lot of people do that. I would say, honey, excuse me, it's that time. Stay clear. Just don't go in for sure it's something that happens everybody goes it is but ibs is a whole I've had it I know thank god I don't so I anonymous I feel sorry for you I would say you know get a out for six weeks get a hotel room for three months and you know that's what the hell you did

oh that's why Airbnbs are for yeah there you go Airbnb and Airbnb and and um on that on that happy note, Spencer. I hate to tell you this, but this is going to do it for our episode with you on Bachelor Happy Hourskold. Would you come back? We had so much fun talking with you. I would love to come back and I can I flip the script on you for one moment? I'd ask a question. Sure. You know what? Absolutely. It'll be very quick. Take a time. We'll just extend that, you know, we'll just block, but we'll just push somebody else off of Bachelor and a Happy Hour. I'll be quick. I don't know who's next. Tell them I apologize.

No, you're good. You're good. I happen to have a woman in my life that I care very, very deeply about who is single after some not great relationships, excluding the relationship with my father. And there's- Oh, your dad's available. Wait a minute. Is your father available?

He's, no, he's, father's remarried, unfortunately. I would have told you guys that instantly. Okay, wait, I'm lost. What does this woman have to do? with your father. We'll be quiet. This is my mother and she has been looking for her person. She's lost hope a little bit and there happens to be some fantastic men on a TV show that's airing right now. I think she should fill out that application and get on it herself. How old is your mom? She is 56 right now. So that's a little young for the show. But I will give you some advice that you're,

Well, you did ask for it. My advice is tell your mom to get up, get out, join some clubs, learn how to play tennis, learn how to kayak, you know, learn, join groups to do stuff. Because if you put yourself in situations where... She's not saying she's sitting at home, though. She's looking for love. I'm saying love does not come and knock on your door. And so if she will get out and do things, the thing is you meet people.

When you're doing things you love and you meet someone who has the same interests, you have a much better shot at having a good date. And coming from her right side here, the right side of the brain, if there's someone in particular that she's interested in from the show, send a little note in his messages. You know, it's called the DMs. Yeah. Yeah, she, unfortunately.

Just introduce herself, you know, something nice. With the unfortunate track record that's taken place, I think she's almost. given up hope. So I might have to take action into my own. You know what? If you know who it is, you write them. Tell her to reach out. Tell her to come to Austin. I'll take her to coffee. I'll teach her. Or DM Joan and have Joan.

There you go. There you go. How long is your mom been single? She has been single now for a little over three years. And she was in a 10-year relationship prior. Oh. That sucks. That's heartbreaking. Yeah.

And that one, that one was, that guy stopped. But I love that you're looking out for your mom. I really, really do. Does she live in Dallas? Does she live in Dallas? She is in Dallas, yes, ma'am. Oh, wow. Cool.

Well, I would say to her, I don't know, is she active? Does she do a lot of stuff? Yes, yeah. And she has friends that keep her really active too, which is good. I mean, look how busy we are. We don't meet people. Again, it's keeping a positive attitude like we were talking about earlier. Or she just, you know, get up every day and put it out there that you're happy and life's good.

And who knows what will come her way. It's killing me not to ask who it is. Oh, is there somebody on the show? Yeah, from the show. There is someone on the show she's interested in? I know that. So she has been watching the show and she said that there are men on the show that she's interested in. Yeah, do a little work for her, honey.

Yeah. Yes, ma'am. You know what? If she just waits a couple more years, She can apply and be on it. I just wanted to know if you guys had it. It seems like you had a fantastic experience. We did.

We did. And this has been such a pleasure. And thank you all so much. It's our pleasure. We're going to have you back again. Trust me. I would love to. You let me know when. And maybe I just need to drive down to Austin.

Who knows? Hey, Spencer. Let me know. Let me know. Do you play golf? We like to play golf. Do you golf? Oh my gosh.

You guys would want me at golf. I'm not that talented. Well, that would make us feel really good. so you're invited. Perfect. Okay, just give me like a six-swing handicap and we're good. A lot. Oh, no, who's counting scores?

By the way, I have a foot wedge. Do you know what that is? No, what's a foot wedge? You kick the ball where you want it to go. I like that. I can do that. That I can do. Not me, I'll probably break a toe or something.

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