Bachelor Happy Hour - East Coast Girls with Alli Jo | Golden Hour

Episode Date: April 2, 2025

Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re sitting down with Alli Jo from Grant's season of “The Bachelor”! We kick off the episode by getting her thoughts on the finale, the deets behind her friendship with Juliana, the season’s drama, and more. Then, we kick off our advice portion with our question of the day: What qualities are you looking for in a potential partner? Next, Alli Jo helps give some advice to a listener whose boyfriend is making her uncomfortable with his jokes; what would she do? Tune in now to hear all this and more and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics and on the latest episode of Spolitics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives. We continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents. and there's life after Congress. Make sure to listen to this episode of Politics

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He said, you are a number, a New York State number, and we own you. Listen to shock incarceration on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Thanks for joining us. We're so excited to be back yet again this week. Susan, how are you doing? I can't wait. Bachelor Nation fans, wait, do you hear about? today and make sure you've checked out all our episodes because we are having fun we are having so much fun but i want to know susan real quickly the arm getting better the wrist getting better healing um actually the pain is less now we're under a four however yesterday you know when it starts feeling better you tend to use it and then set me back a little bit but yeah yeah just remember your four is somebody

else is 10 so take those drugs you prescribed okay today we have a really special guest from Grant's season. She is gorgeous. She's fabulous. Welcome Allie Joe to Golden Hour. How are you doing today? Hey, Allie.

Thank you so much. Hi, I'm doing great. How are you ladies? We're fabulous. Well, I'm here. I'm mending. She's medding. Yes, I see that.

Boxing. It was not boxing, I promise. Okay, well, I'm glad to hear that. So you live in Fort Lauderdale, but you're a Jersey girl. Susan from Philly. I'm from New. in Massachusetts. So we've got the New England Atlantic Coast covered here today.

We do. Yeah, we love it. I love it. And you're a you teach boxing. Yes, I do. I teach rumble boxing. So it's a... What's rumble? So rumble boxing is a 45-minute workout. You have strength

training and boxing. It's 10 rounds. Every round is three minutes. It started in New York City. I've been with the company for a couple of years. I'm the head trainer in Fort Lauderdale. But I do work for the company. on the corporate side. So I don't just, I'm not just the trainer. Um, I do a lot of the back end stuff for the company as well. I help open studios a lot in the South Florida market right now. I did a lot in North Jersey when I was living there. And, um, yeah, I love what I do. I really do. I have a trainer

one time doing boxing. Kathy. My, my knuckles would be swollen and I get to the salon and my boss would say, what are you doing? That's your moneymaker. Allie, that's my question. I'm a, I'm a crazy girl. I work out in the gym a lot. And my trainer. or also teaches boxing. So I got boxing gloves and I loved it. I did like, but my hands were like knuckles were swell hurting. What's the deal? Is that just a thing?

Well, are you wrapping your hands, first of all? Oh, hell no. We're probably doing it wrong. Oh, of course I worked. Your hands and then we'll chat and make sure you have like good gloves. Like there's 12 ounces, 14 ounces, 16 ounces. I don't know, but my guy told me what to get. And I loved it.

Like I was a, I could, I had the quick move. But it was killing my hand. So wrapping. All right, maybe I'll try it again. I'll have the hand. The left talk coming in. You know what? I didn't need boxing lessons for that, Susan.

That came naturally. Don't mess with the Northeast. That's all. That's right. All right. So, Allie, we want to get to know you a little bit better. And you're going to give us some advice to Bachelor Nation. We're going to ask you all kinds of questions about the show.

We have so many questions. I'm so excited to answer them. I love them. All right. First, we're dying to know. What was it like being in person at AFR and senior Bachelor, Bestie, get engaged to Grant? Which, by the way, was also, if we're being technical here, your ex. Yeah, we're getting technical.

Honestly, it was a great time. I'm so happy I got the opportunity to go because I wasn't sure if I was going to be able to. But I was so happy to support Juliana. And I'm so happy for her in Grant. And it was exciting. It was really cool to watch live because I've been watching the show since I was a little kid. I'm 31 so to like see it live like obviously I did the tell all but it's just different like the energy is different it is eating the alumni that like I've watched on TV I see on social

media it was a really cool experience yeah yeah yes yes oh my god so first and foremost have you talk to juliana yes I talked to juliana of course she's so happy she is so happy you know I think also like overwhelmed like it's such a whirlwind you're dealing with so many emotions and you know media. Social media. Yeah, you know, I definitely feel like I always tell her like if you need somebody to lean on like I'm here. She's very, very close with her sister. I'm very close with my sister as well.

And that's kind of how we also like linked up Juliana and I because we're very, very tight with our family. But yeah, I saw her right after. She had a little after party and it was really fun. It was great. It was both East Coast as well. You have to know, though, as soon as I found out where you were from and your eyes and your beauty, I was brutal for you. I really was.

Thank you. I appreciate that. We've got to get into your dating life, but we have some more questions on this. Of course, you know we're going to hit you on Zoe. We're going to hit you. But here's the thing. I have to say before you, we all know edits, right? We all know that the way it's portrayed.

And, you know, people stand up for you saying you're a lovely person and you are clearly nothing but a lovely person. So tell us about that. Like, are you friends now? Because you know, I was the villain with Teresa, or maybe you don't know, on our show. And we're fine. So tell us about that. Her and I are good. Like, we squashed it the next day.

It wasn't shown. Like, there was instances where you can see her and I sitting on the couch. I saw her at AFR the other day. We FaceTime last week. We took a photo the other day. Good, good. Her and I are good. Like, I always say, like, yeah, I can, in the moment, I'm not looking back on it.

It wasn't the best thing. But I always am true to myself. And I'm not saying yelling is true to. me but like I didn't think about I just something was bothering me and I said it and I would have not reacted I don't know I think she is me how many years ago I mean I'm exactly yeah I'm exactly I have to speak up if not you end up resenting them right and I never I always my favorite quote I've had have held this with me for like the last 10 years um especially my career closed mouth don't get fed and I always always say that and I live by that quote

it's one of my favorite ones it is also about the deliver correct yes yeah and it wasn't not good it was not a big delivery but i wasn't that bad it was not that bad it really wasn't kathy zip it took all you know what teresa zip it my favorite but teresa and i are over it it's you know we're friends it's i so i get i empathize with you i also love the fact um alley joe that you say you on one of the one of the shows you said you know i believe in fighting for yourself. I love that. It just shows such confidence that you have great. I mean, not only are you

beautiful, but you clearly are a woman who has confidence and, you know, I love that. I love to see women empowered and doing your thing. Alley Joe, do you feel you built even more confidence being on the show or were you like this prior? But it brought up.

Yeah, I've always been, like, listen, I think there was definitely growing up. I had a lot of insecurities with things that I dealt with personally, family, my body image, like I danced my whole life. And from a young age, I always remember, like, looking at myself in the mirror and I was bigger than the other girls. And that kind of messed up my head.

And I was like eight years old. And that kind of stayed with me. And I really got into the whole fitness background, honestly, when I was in middle school. But even before that, my dad would train my sister and I would go on runs. We'd run up and down the stairs in our house. We would have a deck of cards. He would flip it over.

If it said eight, he'd make us do eight sit-ups, eight push-ups. So, like, I learned that at a really young age. But I think my confidence has come from just me being independent. My mom raised me really independent and just like, you know, I don't like to kiss anybody's ass. I'm me. I can be in a room full of people if we don't like each other or you don't like me. I can still be in the room with you and sit there. And I like to go to sleep at night with my head of my pillow knowing like I'm true to me.

So you do yourself. Someone will love that. Okay. So let me ask a question. If you, so many questions. You got into boxing. I don't know. Just how did you get into boxing?

boxing because fitness, I'm stunned by you saying that you're bigger than the other girls. I could blow you away with a, you know, you're gone. So you're tiny. So I don't know where that came from. When I was little, I felt that way, though. And like growing up, I always had just like some bad body image issues. Yeah. But I've grown from it.

Well, that's not your error. I was going to say our, everybody was twiggy. He had to be this big, you know. Yeah. Nowadays, people with a full figure is awesome. I love it. Yeah. So how did you get into boxing?

Obviously, you're a fitness person, but boxing, I mean, that's not a typical thing for women becoming more. Of course. So I went through some things in high school. I kind of have a similar background to Grant. I haven't really been able to talk about this on the show and other, you know, podcasts and stuff. But I do have a very, very similar upbringing with my dad, who did have some abuse issues, substance abuse with pills and pills and stuff like that. And he was my coach growing up. I played soccer.

I did sports and I always idolized him. And I wanted to make him proud and my mom. Like I danced. I was very, very active. But then in high school, I went to a high school for dance. And I just, I fell out of love with it. I loved it. And then I was like 15, 16, 17.

And I just hated it. I didn't like myself. I was going through like really bad things mentally. And my cousin was like, come to like a kickboxing class. So I did and I fell in love with it. And I picked it up through. dance I feel like you have to have like tempo and rhythm so that's where a small part of it started for me wow I love it so dating dating would you date um yeah Susan and I talk about this all the time

I'm a fitness freak I mean for I really I'm ridiculous I got to work out together I would love it I work out a lot I lift weights I do heavy stuff um man I love it you know date somebody that does it though would I would know that is that important to you to have a guy that's into that kind of fitness I actually just had a conversation about this the other day so it's not like the end-all be-all for me like I really worked on myself the last couple of years and especially living in Florida like I really learned balance like I wouldn't go out in Jersey because I didn't want to go out at night because I had to wake up and go to the gym or I had to wake up and teach a 6 a.m. 7 a.m. class but now being like 31 that's there's more to life than you're what you look like and

waking up. I want to have a cocktail at night. I want to sometimes stay out until 3 a.m. You want to have a life. Yeah, I want to have a life. So for me, I don't need the person that I'm dating to be obsessed with the gym. But, like, if you want to go take a class or go on a walk with me, amazing. A lot of peak times, I feel like guys approach me talking about the gym because they think that's what I want to hear. But that's my career.

Yeah. Yeah. And that's my career. So, like, you know, I'm training people. I'm teaching classes. I'm working out. So sometimes I don't really want to talk about the gym. Like, I live it all day.

Yeah. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's form. former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him?

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are you a like you know how they say you wear a heart on your sleeve are you that person I think you have the tough exterior and you keep it all in to protect yourself a little bit of both I've been told that I'm pretty tough or intimidating which is crazy to me because I don't think I am I just think raise your hand if you are intimidating or men think that's all we hear I'm swear which I feel like is a good thing kind of because that means I feel like you're just like strong and you know who you are do I wear my heart in my sleeve not all the time. I am sensitive and if something is bothering me or if you're doing something I love, I will tell you. But it takes me a minute. You know, I like to take my time. I don't like

to rush it to anything. So, so what, okay, so, um, you said you'll date a guy with a big punch and out of shape. That's a joke. What, what, what polis? What are you looking for in a date? And are you dating? Let's just stop right there. Are you dating? Do tell. Do tell. It's been soon. So it's been a while. yeah like dating here and there um you know i feel like it's really hard right now at my age everybody is so like hyper focused on social media and like that's just not what i'm really looking for like even like in a partner i don't care how many followers you have just be a good person and like i just want somebody who's you know keeps it real and could be my best friend have i been dating here and there i've gone on a couple of dates but um i'm just kind of riding the wave and

I don't want to force anything. I want it to happen on its own. I feel like when you're not looking, that's when it happens. It does. I am truth to that. But how about your DMs? Like, remember Kathy and I talked about this a hundred times? Everybody said, oh, my gosh, you're going to be getting millions of them.

We didn't, okay? You did or you didn't? We did not. We got DMs from 30-year-old guys from 80. Well, yeah, a couple of those. But I think the problem was the social media thing. A lot of people our age do not get on. They don't even know what Instagram is.

Yeah, I know. I imagine your box is full. First of all, my mom is probably like your age too, and she, like, looks at a picture. I'm like, don't like it. And she's like moving in. I'm like, please don't like the photo. Mom, I'm just showing you what the guy looks like.

My DMs, I don't know. I have, like, a bunch of requests. I'm lazy. Like, I have, like, a lot of notifications. But honestly, a lot of college kids have messaged me, like, guys and girls, and they're like, can you come to our frat party? Can you come to do this?

Oh, my goodness. But, yeah, I mean, Consider dating somebody that you read a message from? Would you give that? Would you be out? I don't know. I need to see them in person. I'm so about personality.

It's not just about listening. Okay, so that's back to my question. What are the qualities? Tell me what you're looking for in a guy. I'm looking for somebody who is very close to their family. Family oriented is something that's huge for me. If you're not close with your family, that's okay. But I'm super close with mine.

So if you're dating me, you're like also dating my mom and my sister. where we, like, my sister was going on a date the other day. She was, like, sending us photos. Like, I'm really close with my mom and my sister. So somebody who's family oriented, but also just somebody that could be my best friend and that I can rely on. I feel like I'm a very reliable person and I don't always get that in return from relationships, friendships, so I just want, I want to be able to have somebody like do

something for me without me asking. Yes, they know. And that's hard to find. Yeah. And somebody that just can, like, sit on the couch and show with me, have a glass of wine and be goofier, like go out to dinner, have a coffee. couple of drinks. I want to be able to do everything with somebody. Are you dead set on dating

a Jewish man? Excuse me, Kat. No, I'm not dead set on dating just a Jewish man. I am Jewish. I am not very religious. I do believe in the traditions. I've had two serious relationships in my life. One of the guys was Jewish, the other one was Italian. My stepdad's Italian. I feel like Jewish and Italian people are very similar.

But yeah, religion isn't like the end all deal for me. Because listen, both my parents are Jewish they're divorced. So I don't necessarily believing that if you marry your religion And it's a fair way though. It happens. Exactly. Well, what I was going to say is it's, I'm hearing, which I don't know if it's a good thing

or a bad thing, but I'm hearing the same thing out of your mouth, you're very articulate, you're beautiful, you have a successful career, and what she's looking for, what you're looking for, Allie Joe, it sounds like the younger version of what Susan and Iro was saying. So in some ways, the generations just. are the same we're looking for the same thing yeah and they're out there they i i gotta believe that they're out there i want to be challenged i want to be challenged too like i want somebody to grow with me not grow apart like where whoever i marry or date whatever like i just want to be able to grow with that person and and be on the same page but i love a challenge so someone who can keep me

in my toes is very good i said that i said that's a grand because he was really tall but like literally i do want me to keep me on my toes and like how tall are you how tall are you how tall are you Oh, jeez, Louise. You're a teeny girl. She's a teeny girl. Mighty, small and mighty. How about Paradise? How about Paradise?

That was I was going to say, drum roll, drum roll together, Susan. Would you do Paradise? And who do you want? You go, I'll go. Well, we heard the announcement that they were both like they better call. If you're good ladies go, I don't know. I'll go. Here's the thing, Susan.

I am not standing next to her. I'm going to be her best friend because she's going to protect me and my boo-boo. Yeah, we'll work out and then we'll like have like a glass of rosette or something or it's keel. I love this. Okay, all we've got to do is get the invitation, Susan. Make it happen, Aligh, Joe. Make it happen now. Who do you want to see their Alley Joe besides us?

Who else would you like to see there? Is there anybody in particular, do you'd like to be or a few? I'm not sure because like there. I did take us off some watching of some of the season. So I kind of if I do go, I would like to just like go in with a kind of like, a clean slate. I don't necessarily need to know everything about somebody. I think that's what like the part of the journey and the process is. And I feel like also if I know something about that person, I might feel intimidated like, oh, this person does this or this person does this.

Like I, that might intimidate me. So I kind of just want to like if I do go because it's not a hundred percent. So you're not going to give us names of guys you would like to be that you would like to see there, which I think makes sense. But Allie Joe, what guys would you like to see there? I'm not sure I have to if I was to go I kind of again like want just a clean slate I don't want to walk into there being I know every single thing about this person do I find some people attractive yeah absolutely of course but to me it's personality is what makes you attractive so you can be the hottest person on the block but like your personality could not be and new people new faces people you've never seen before

You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Would you be open to- You never mean a stranger. Yeah. Or you meet lots of strangers and they become your besties. Great. Would you consider an engagement?

Would you, do you want kids? I mean, tell me what, like, what's your two, three-year game plan here? Yeah. I mean, I don't like to put a timeline because if I was in my head, I would have already been married with, like, a kid or two. And it's so crazy because I've always had like a plan for myself. and I feel like right now, 31, I'm actually a little nervous because I don't necessarily have, like, a five-year plan. I'm very goal-oriented, and I like to set goals and there's no ceilings.

But, you know, in the next three years, at least, I would first want to be married, own a house. I would like to live, you know, somewhere warm. That's kind of why I moved out of Jersey. And I definitely do want a family, probably two kids. And I just want to be happy and be able to either from my kids. Did you hear all this? She has no plan at all. No plan.

It sounds to me like she's just going with the flow. Right now, for once. in my life I'm going with the flow, which is not normal for me. But that's a good thing. That keeps you healthy. That keeps you alive. And like you just said, when you least expect it. Oh, it's true. All right, guys. So before we get into our listeners, what they wrote in, we're going to start with Kathy and I call the question of the day. You want to read you, Kat? All right. Here we go, Allie, Joe. What do you think are the most important qualities to look for in a potential partner.

You sort of answered it a little bit, but I want more specifics here. Okay. I'm drilling. Yeah, someone that's trustworthy. Again, I said before somebody that is reliable, someone that's outgoing, doesn't take things like too seriously and has like a fun side, but like not too fun. There are parts of life that you need to take seriously, someone that can support me, you know, not like emotionally.

And someone that allows me to be independent because I am independent. And I think that's what I struggle with of finding someone is that I am sometimes too independent, which isn't a bad thing. But I want somebody to be able to kind of crack that for me. I'm used to doing everything for myself. Like somebody who loves it and is involved with this family because you had said that earlier as well. So I don't think we're different, Kathy. Well, I was just going to say, Allie, Joe, many of what you just said.

So I'm looking not, I'm not looking to start a family. Let's start there. I'm not looking. Thank God. Thank God. I have three and I'm taking it at that. But I am also looking, and Susan, you're about to get the same question here. I'm also looking for the guy who is kind. I am just like you. I'm, I'm smart. I'm outspoken. Sometimes I say what I think. But like you, I can tell. I have a kind heart too. So I'm looking for a guy that recognizes that in me and isn't put off by my, you know, my mouth that just

sometimes runs away with me and a kind man and a man I want to spoil him you want to spoil me we're looking for the same things what about you susan just about the same it's got to have a sense of humor oh such a huge but and a kind heart just somebody that loves me for me but who i am and accepts the big personality and the type a yeah somebody just said yeah someone just said to you and me susan yes someone just said to you and me susan And I don't know, but Allie Joe, I bet you're exactly the same. When you meet a guy and they say to you, you know, wow, you're a lot, which I get that from men. You're a lot.

You're smart. You're funny, but, you know, you're a little intimidating. I never had an answer for that. Nobody says it though, Kathy. Nobody actually says. I've had a couple of men say to me. The intimidating word to you? I've had some things.

Yeah. But you know what the answer to that is? Then I guess you're not the guy for me. If you're intimidated by me, it's how simple is. that that's good and somebody else will love you for who you are i always say that when like one door closes guess what then there's another one i don't you there i don't i don't ever want to settle in my life in my relationships friendships friendships anything i will never settle so i'll know when i find that person that that's my first okay and here's the line if you're too much they're not enough

i love that you know i just made that up in my head i just came to me i'm going to steal that i'm I'm going to put it in my Instagram file. I may or may not have stolen it, Allie, Joe. I'm just kidding. Okay, so we're going to give some advice. And this, our listeners writing questions, and we're going to ask you to help us. Yes, we want you to give advice. Okay, I'll read the first one.

And this is from Anonymous. Hi, ladies, I need your help. I really need help. Lately, my boyfriend of three years has been making a ton of jokes about wanting to hook up with his best friend's sister. He says it all the time, and he's done so many times right in front of me and my friends. He makes crude jokes a lot, so that's not the issue.

I just feel like this is crossing a line. I started to tear up one time, and he apologized and said, it's just a joke. Relax. Am I overreacting? Thank you so much. Love you, ladies. Whoa. Okay, Allie Joe, what says you?

Okay, Alie Joe, you're first. That is a joke that's not funny, first of all. So, like, go read a book or a comedy book and find other jokes because that's not funny. Number one, number two, if it was me in that position, I wouldn't mean, I wouldn't hopefully be that. But, like, I would go to the girl that he's talking about

and say, like, hey. Something going on here? No. Yeah, I would just go straight to her and be like, what's going on? Because once you say something multiple times, it's kind of like, okay, you said it so many times. it's, like, believable at this point.

So, like, I would go right to her, the girl. What, but wait, he doesn't say, yeah. He doesn't say, he doesn't, this. I don't know the best friend's even there. No, right? Oh, like, she doesn't know. She doesn't know the girl that we're, in question here, we're not sure if she knows.

Well, I would pull her aside or pick up the phone and say, hey, just have like a question, you know, and it's okay if this has happened. Have you ever hooked up with my boyfriend, whatever his name is? So you think he's already done it? And you want to question, oh, okay. So I read it to, he's in front of friends.

They're all together all the time. And he constantly says, yeah, I want to hook up with such and such as girlfriend. Okay. Can I be the elephant in the room here? Yes, go. Allie Joe, you hinted at it. I don't think I'd be with a guy who made those kinds of, when she said he makes crude jokes and that's not the issue. Did you see me nod?

For me, that would be an issue. I don't want a man who's crude. I don't want a man who's making jokes about hooking up with anybody. I don't think it's funny. So I probably wouldn't be with him. disrespectful to me. It's like fool me one, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.

My mom always, like, taught me if you're starting to see things in the beginning that you don't like, it's not really going to change. And there's some things that as a woman you could, I feel like changing a guy, like the clothes you wear sometimes, but like a certain personality things. You are so smart to know. that people can i tell you how many uh i'm i'm honestly amazed that you're only 31 because your wisdom no i'm serious your wisdom belies your years so many women my daughter's friends um they think that they're going to change a guy and you're right you can get maybe on a good day

to put his socks in the hamper but if you think you're going to change his basic characteristics that is not you're barking up the wrong tree and like like you said, a red flag is a red flag. They're not changing. You can alter some things. And I would definitely, to Anonymous who wrote into us, thank you so much, what I would do is nip it in the butt. He cannot do that anymore.

That's a deal breaker. For you, I'm not concerned. That's a deal breaker. If he continues, seriously. It's a deal breaker for me too. Plus, like, also, why are you, like, keep saying this about the girl? Like, are you thinking about her? like you should be thinking about me if I'm your significant other right it's not funny people say

things all the time you know and then they think if they add on the tagline it's just a joke it's just that that right there piss me all it's not okay it's not okay it's not like go find new jokes yeah all right and you don't get to have me then that's all right and that's their loss and then some people would say anonymous then you You do what he does and see how it feels that I don't believe. I don't believe in being spiteful. No. It doesn't make you feel better, right?

No. It's not a game either. I feel like a lot of people play games, whether they've been with somebody for like a year or like before they're seriously dating. Like I hate the games. Like some people are like, oh, he just texted me. I need to wait an hour before I answer. Me, I'm like, I'm going to answer right now.

I don't have time to wait an hour. We are all. I'm multitasking all day long. I don't have time to, like, go back and be like, oh, because then I'll forget to answer you. Wait, that's even worse. Yes. Can I answer now? I don't care.

I'm like, I'm going to answer you right now. I'll do it first, too. I don't care. Me too. I don't care. My either. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam, maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit.

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And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend, really cheated with his professor or not. To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

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and we didn't know what to expect in the morning. Nobody tells you anything. Listen to shock incarceration on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Have you asked a guy out? No. So I do a draw line. I won't approach a man first. I won't ask a guy first.

The first, like, date, two dates, I will have him, like, reach out. Well, I won't have him. I would like for him to reach out to me. But I have no problem texting somebody being, like, Like, how's it going? Yeah, I don't think that's weird. But I won't ask a guy out the first couple of times. Do you pay?

Wait, do you pay on a first date? Do you offer to pay? I have before, yes, and I've been told from men that they really appreciate that, especially down here in Florida. I don't know why. I'm silly. I just think it's a respectful thing. It is.

I don't ever want to come across a certain type of way. So I just think it's, I feel comfortable doing it. I would feel uncomfortable sometimes if I didn't. Have I done it on every? First date I've been on absolutely not, but there have been instances probably when I was a little bit younger that I did it. Now that I'm older, I really, I haven't done it. Okay, Susan, I'm depressed now. I'm depressed because look at her. She's beautiful. She's smart. She's wise. And where's the line of guys? I have a son. I don't know what the age

thing is. How old is he? He's 36 and beautiful. Oh, okay. Beautiful. Well, you're beautiful. So we got it from his mama. Oh, look at her. Thank you. We're going to, we're just having so much fun with it. We're going to do this thing where we're going to just, you know, get a little deeper, right? Take a little deeper. Here we go.

So what, what musician, because we probably don't know who they are anyway because we're old, but what musician would you love to see perform live? Oh, I would love to see Morgan Wallen. I really want to. Oh, I love Morgan Wallet. You're a country fan? Yeah, I like all kinds of music, honestly. old music. Like, I like the Dewey Brothers. I like Earthwind and Fire. Like, oh, my God. I like Whitney Houston.

I love 90s music. Like, I really do. I am an old soul. I've always been told that. I friggin love 80s, 70s, dance music, like all that stuff. I still do. I still do. I do too. I have a 90s playlist, but I would, I am into a country. So I would love to see Morgan Wall and in concerts. And pop country. In the more modern country. Yes, yes, yes. Okay. So how do you unwind after a long day. What is your thing? I like to bake banana bread, which I actually just did.

And I did it in the mansion and I gave it to all the girls and the cameramen. But after a long day, I will sit on the couch and I watched reality television, mainly the Real Housewives. I watched all them. I just watched Beverly Hills last night.

I just love the Real Housewives, honestly. My God, do you know Kim Zoliac, right? I just did a show that's coming out in April and I got to be in the same place. with Kemp. She was so fun. I love that. A lot of people in Jersey a lot of people in Jersey that I know a lot of makeup artists that are friends and stuff

have done some of their makeup and stuff. I've never met the Jersey housewives. And not even because I'm from Jersey, that's just my favorite franchise is the Jersey one. I love it. Okay, so what is something, because you seem like you've done a lot in your life.

What's something you've always wanted to do, but you haven't done yet? And frankly, why haven't you done it? You know, what is that thing that you haven't done yet? What comes to my first? But you want to do. The first thing that has come to mind is travel to Italy with my partner. Like, I just really want to go to sisterly and travel all of Italy with somebody.

I went with my mom and my sister. But I was like, when I come back, I wanted to be, like, romantic and be with my person. Like, that is. I love that. I can't. This. So I went, I took my family last year for my birthday to celebrate. And we had the best time.

My son-in-law is Italian, his family's from Sicily. So we had a great time, but not the whole time, because I loved being with my family, but I was like, this would be so romantic if I had a partner here with me.

Absolutely. I love my family. I said the same thing. I went on an E.Prey love solo trip to Italy for 15 days. When I got off the plane, I was thinking, what the hell did I just do? And just like both of you were saying,

every couple hours I had a moment. This would be so special. if I had my person with me. I still enjoyed every minute of it. Of course, how could you not? Yeah. I agree. Have you done solo traveling?

No, I haven't. That's something I haven't done. I haven't either. Yeah, like, people are even like, you can go sit at a bar, like at a nice golf course, and I go have a drink and a guy will pick you up. But like, I don't feel comfortable doing that. That's so not true. People tell me to do that.

Like, go bring your laptop and go do work and like a guy will find you. And I'm like, no, I'm going to. No, that was good. Wait, are your friends? Wait, do you not a friend setting you up, Allie Joe? I mean, I'm really not blowing hot air, you know where. You are absolutely stunning. Do you feel like men are afraid to ask you out?

Or what's, you know, do you have friends? Listen, I don't know. Like, my family, like me and my sister are the only ones who are not married, engaged, have kids. And they're like, why? I'm like, I don't know if I knew I would not be single. And I've been on a television show to find a man because I didn't even find one there. I don't know.

it's me. And it's not like I have these crazy requirements. Like somebody did say it to me. They're like, you must have crazy. You must have a list. You must have a list. They're like, high expectations. And I'm like, I actually really don't. You're repeating what we've said.

And it makes me believe, once again, Kathy, just like I was told and you were told, men are intimidated by your beauty, by your strength, by, they're just a thank you, Susan. Oh, you meant Ali Joe.

both of you thank you i appreciate it i really do you guys are serious okay now i have one what's one piece of advice that you've always kept within you someone gave you a piece of advice and you've never forgotten it you can't make someone else happy until you're happy i learned that like with my parents and you don't know what happens behind closed doors because when i was little i would compare like my family dynamic or my body like to other people people and people seem perfect and, you know, 20 years later, now that social media is a big thing. Like, you know, not everything is always what it seems and you can't make anybody happy until you feel fulfilled and you feel good in your life.

And then I feel like if you radiate positivity and good energy, you get that in return. And I feel like a lot of people don't think that for me. If they don't know me, if they've only seen me on social media or television, but like my real people, my clients, like I love to give good energy and I like to surround myself with positive people and i won't surround myself with negativity absolutely not i mean i'll exit yeah it just it just sucks the literally sucks the air out of the room yeah okay one of my favorite questions that i i i love to ask is i guess because i was a writer um i knew you were going to take that my degree is my my degree from college is english and i love me too me too there you i'm telling you i just if i just

for your height and your weight and your beauty, I'd have it all. Okay. What would the title of your autobiography be? A cup of Joe. That's me. Oh, that's a great title. You must have thought that through. That didn't just come to you. Well, it's my Instagram handle, but it did start by, I had a blog called a cup of Joe. I have a mug called a cup of Joe of a jacket. It was kind of like, it's kind of like my brand. It's a thing. Yeah. And I'll tell you a little bit about it. So, Basically, where a cup of Joe comes from is my name is Allie Joe. A lot of people call me Jojo. Coffee's really expensive.

I love coffee. And I'm loud, energetic. So I'm like a cup of Joe. But what originally transpired from that was I used to rate boutique fitness gyms in New York City, Philly, and New Jersey. And I would rate them one to five cups of Joe. Like the trainer, the workout, the lobby, this, anything, the front desk is out. Because like coffee. I love cookies, but like coffee.

It's expensive once you get all those add-ons. Like, I'll walk out of a coffee place and spend $10. So people are intimidated to go try fitness classes, and they're expensive. So I was like, there's really nobody reviewing classes. So I started to do that. And then COVID hit a couple of months later, and I was doing it for, like, online classes. And then I just kind of stopped, and it, Cup of Joe just always stuck. Wow.

And then you went to Bachelor. Yeah. So what, that's so, that is an amazing accomplishment. That's good. What is your greatest accomplishment so far? because you are accomplished woman. Thank you. I think moving to Florida by myself,

I didn't know anybody in Fort Lauderdale. I took a leap of faith. I literally moved everything. Like, I found a sublease, figured it out. Where did I want to move? And I went back to Jersey, packed all my stuff up.

My mom did help me. But like my furniture, I came down here, did it by myself. Why Fort Lauderdale? Why Fort Lauderdale? I mean, I love Fort Lauderdale. Yeah, I love it here.

I was originally actually like thinking of like Boka, Del Wright area, and then this opportunity came about and I pivoted because I was like it's new and I like I said earlier I like to be challenged it's a young area I was about to be 30 years old it's I like a city because I used to live in Jersey City and work in New York City but it's not too big of a city where you're like overwhelmed it doesn't walk down there hey Susan we can cross Fort Lauderdale off our list did you hear what Ali Joe said it's a really young city with young people young it's mixed young has become a four-letter

word to me it's mixed but I'm three miles from the beach beach. I'm not even a mile away from where all the bars and restaurants are. So I love it. It makes me happy. Yeah. It's a beautiful area. It really is. Yeah. Wow. Okay. How about do you, if any, what advice would you give to someone younger that's dating? What could you tell them? What bit of advice? I would say don't overthink every little thing that you do or overthink every little comment that the man says. I'm sorry, Allie, Joe, could you repeat that to Susan? Would you repeat that to Susan?

Just repeat that. Say Susan and then say it again. Susan, don't rethink everything. I do. I can't help it. I mean, listen, I used to do the same thing. And I do to a certain extent, but I feel you get so caught up in that and you get nervous.

And what I've realized is because I have dated, you know, people the last couple of years is that if I can't be myself around you and you give me anxiety, like this is not going to go anywhere in justifying. in a behavior that's not justifiable. So just be you and someone's going to love that. Is it not work not to be yourself? You're trying to be your best person for that. No, I can't.

You can't. And I've been there and done that and that's what I've learned from. I always like to learn from the same. Absolutely. And it was the same thing on the show, you know, be yourself. And Susan, I used to look at each other on the golden batch and go, well, how else are we going to be? What do you mean?

That's why Juliana and I, like, that's why Juliana and I, like, got along. I feel like so well because we would have these conversations, like, I'm just going to be me take it or leave it. Like, that's just how. And we got along the first night, we like literally said that to each other. But yeah, younger people, I think just be yourself. Somebody is going to absolutely love it. And if they don't, then it's a blessing in disguise and you'll find your person.

Then they're not enough for you. If you were stranded on a deserted island and you could only bring three girls from your season, and I think we already know Juliana's going to be one of them. Yeah. Who would they be? Juliana, Parisa, and Vicki. Oh, interesting. Tell me why.

We just became like super close. We had a super tight bond. Vicky is an NFL cheerleader and she's danced her whole life. I danced so we bonded on that and she was just very like, I'm me. Like I remember her and I were sitting down one time. Like, yeah, we need to see if we like Grant. Like, yes, he has to like us, but like we need to see if we like him as well. Thank you.

And we had this whole conversation about it. And Prisa is like me. she's just like her happy self and take it or leave it happy go lucky like no drama and i i love being around people that are like that like they're just that that's what makes you yeah i love it okay do you have any questions or advice for us because i keep saying you're you're smart and you're intelligent well she told us you have any questions or advice for us i'd be dying to hear it well i want how's like you're dating life like are you because like my mom was single she she's with somebody i call her where did she need him where

at a restaurant or like a bar that is like popular in Jersey and they were together and then September off but now they're together again and I always had an issue that I hated every single guy. My mom dated after my dad. I was mean as held to them.

I was like very overprotected. But the person she's with now, I absolutely adore him. I love him. I want what my mom and her partner have. Like I truly do. Me and my sister always say that. So for you ladies like do you date are you on apps or you just go out susan can give her answer my answer is very short my answer is very short alley joe crickets do you hear it it's crickets do you hear it's crickets

do you ladies feel that like the show changed anything in your lives like in this chapter of your lives i can say for me it just made me and susan i agree on this it it just affirmed that we are enough that we're good people and we're happy and we live life to the fullest and we're doing the right thing because that's for me and that my just like her cup of joe my motto and my book would be called enjoy who you are and i've done that all my life i mean i make my own roles it's my world and not everybody agrees with that but being on that show confirmed that i love myself i have days that, you know, you doubt and you overthink, but it's

about no contact with the outside world, remember? All you have are the ladies to wake up to every single morning. I wasn't jealous. I was encouraging and happy for somebody that got a one-on-one as

you were. Although Susan, although, and I'm not going to put you on the spider alley, Joe, if you were interested in Grant, but Susan and I have gone on the record so I'm not giving anything away here. We knew pretty early on that I was about to say, Grant. We were in a friend zone. I was about to say Grant, not Grant.

I was about to say that Susan and I figured out really quickly that we were just friends with Gary. Nice guy, but not our guy. So for us, it made it a lot easier. Easier. You know, to. I agree with that. I can relate to that, I feel. Yeah.

Remember, Kathy, you made a statement. You said to me, what if he was your person that you really were into him? And what was my response? She said, I'll never forget it. I'll never forget it. Susan said she would have behaved very differently, acted very differently. If she'd want him, she would have gone after him.

Absolutely. You didn't see that side of me because if there's something I want, I usually go after it. Yeah, I'm the same right. On all these happy notes, everyone's going after the guy they want. I don't know if we're going to be in paradise, but if you go, we got to go. We want to go. We're putting out the positive vibe that we get invited.

And if we go and you go, we will see you there. Oh, my God, we'll be besties. If I do go and you guys are there, I kind of love this. Like, I don't know what the dynamic is going to be, but I love it because, like I said, I'm so close to my mom and I love hanging out with people that are older. And, like, it'll be going out with her mother. Yeah, it gives me that sense of, like, home and, like, warmness. We have kids your age, Charlie, Joe. Yeah, like, I love that.

I'll be hanging out of you guys. So, Ellie Joe, you have watched past seasons of Paradise, correct? Yeah, I tried to catch up on it and see what it's all about. It is way different. Yeah, it's wild. Totally different than our experience. Well, you know what, Susan? No one's going to spill what goes on in Paradise.

If we get to go, we're going to find out by ourselves, as well, Ali Joe. And we just know that we're not dating the younger guys and they're not dating us. That's what we know. But we got a wrap here. That's going to do it for this episode of Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Thank you so much for you. Thank you. You are a lovely person, truly inside and out.

And you are incredible with the great advice. So thank you. Yes, you are. Thank you for having me. Very wise. And I am looking forward to staying with you, keeping company with you and having some fun with you for sure. Yes. Stay in touch.

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Listen to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour on the Iheart radio app or wherever you listen to podcasts. Until next time, have a great week. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her.

Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Oh, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems. It seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, and on the latest episode of Spolitics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party.

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