Bachelor Happy Hour - EXCLUSIVE: Joe & Serena’s Wedding Celebration — Part 1

Episode Date: September 5, 2023

Joe and Serena are back from their incredible wedding weekend in Charleston, and today on “Bachelor Happy Hour,” Mr. and Mrs. Amabile are discussing all the moments that made their celebration so memorable. As they reminisce, the bride and groom take listeners behind the scenes of their rehearsal dinner, share which ceremony moments made them the most nervous, and reveal their secret for making sure dance parties go all night long. Plus, Serena shares the first half of her vows that she accidentally forgot to read while standing at the altar. Be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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that's because we just got back from our wedding. And this is a wedding special episode. It is. A special wedding episode. A special wedding episode. A wedding special. episode both work how do you feel about that i feel great mr amovalee how do you feel i feel wonderful mrs amobly and yeah that's so crazy it's the first time i said it that is crazy on all of our

photo booth photos it says the immovelies and like when they introduced us for the reception they said the immovelies which just feels so crazy FYI just to clarify i have not changed my name yet I'm still technically Serena Pitt, but I will be... Not in my eyes, you're not. Mrs. Amavoli. And in Joe's eyes and heart, I am already Mrs. Amavoli. And legally, I am your wife. Yeah.

We also, later this week, second part of this episode, we have our Reverend Wals Adams coming on. Reverend Wells. So it's going to be a full episode of talking about our wedding, which couldn't be better for us. We are very excited. We love talking about ourselves. We are excited to recap our wedding with you guys and tell you everything that went down.

And if you were sick of hearing about our wedding, well, this week's episodes are not for you. But hopefully you're not because we are going to walk you through all the best and worst moments of the weekend. Tell you our favorite moments. Talk to Wells about his favorite moments. And I'm excited. You ready to get into it? Let's go. Okay.

So I'm going to kick this thing off with, been watching the weather, tracking the weather. So when we booked Charleston, we knew September is hurricane season in the south. Yes. And just a little background. Four years ago, I was in Hilton Head, which is very, very close to Charleston. And we actually had to, like, flee in the middle of the night because there was a hurricane coming. So I was, like, very paranoid that I was going to have a full circle moment for our wedding with another hurricane. coming in but like we'd booked it we were willing to take the wrist so like there's nothing to do really but like wait yeah we were supposed to fly out on the wednesday before our wedding august 31st yeah and what day did we start hearing about the hurricane so we started hearing about

the hurricane i want to say about five days prior to us having to leave yeah that sounds about right we at least knew there was like going to be some rain coming and then all of a sudden Joe's friends who were in Florida started mentioning that there was an incoming hurricane to the Florida area which is not in Charleston Charleston's obviously not in Florida but near enough that we were worried it was going to impact our wedding weekend and we did have outdoor components we had backup plans but that wasn't the issue so if if when we were watching it it was going to be nice for the weekend. The issue was everyone was flying out on those days.

Yeah. And if people can't get to your wedding, well... That's a big problem. Yeah. So we were supposed to fly out on the Wednesday, and then a lot of our guests were supposed to fly out on the Thursday and the Friday. So on Monday night, it's about 6 p.m.

We're just chilling. We've kind of done most of our errands. We're going to pack the next day for the wedding. We had a call from our wedding planner, Christine. and she very calmly, very gently tells us that she thinks it would be a good idea for us to bump up our flight to Tuesday and fly out the next morning instead

because the worst of the weather was supposed to be on Wednesday and there was a very low probability we were going to get out on Wednesday. And if we didn't, then who knows when we're getting to Charleston. Yeah, which, FYI, I have all my friends at this point are just blowing up my phone of like, are you seeing this storm up? And then I'm like, at one point, I'm like, how old are we?

That all my friends are just watching the weather at all the time. They're all tracking this storm. Yeah, but they're doing it because they care. They want to be at your wedding. Yeah. And so we're kind of like, so I get on the laptop. I switch the flights to leave Tuesday. Yes.

It was either 10 a.m. or like 9 p.m. So we went with the 10 a.m. flight meaning we had like just over 12 hours until we flew out so we get there and it's beautiful literally beautiful the night Monday day was hectic we packed we got everything organized we were like all right it was like a little stressful and kind of like this sucks but we're like whatever we're doing this it's it's probably going to be for the best we show up and it's literally gorgeous it's sunny it's warm like not a cloud in the sky we're like where the heck is this hurricane Also, do you want to tell them what happened in the Uber when we landed in Charleston?

I don't remember. On the radio? Oh, yes. So, yeah. So we land in Charleston. And we're like, woo, it's our wedding weekend. Yeah, get in the Uber. And then song number two, the Uber Jarvis plays our wedding, the song we picked for our wedding song, which was Chris Stapleton, Joy of My Life, which isn't like a popular.

it's not like, I never hear it on the radio. You know, like Tennessee whiskey, you hear all the time. So that wouldn't have been shocking. And like I hadn't heard the song before until we found it for our wedding. Like we're not huge like country music people. So we were like, what are the odds? We land in Charleston and this song is playing on the radio. And we had the hardest time just to be clear picking our first dance on.

Like we went back and forth on it for months. We finally settle on this one. And I'm like, we're looking at you're like, what a crazy sign. Like this has to be a good sign that the song is playing. So what do I do? I switched it. I switched it. Joe text me.

I don't know why you didn't say it out loud. Joe texts me. We're sitting next to each other in Uber and goes, it just didn't hit like I thought it would. Yeah. But it kind of worked out because we were between two songs and one of them I loved. I've been holding out hope for a while. And we ended up going with that one,

which was the song, Take My Heart by the Teske brothers. and it was perfect. It was. It was beautiful. And honestly, I'm happy we switch. So, yes. That's what we started. We started our weekend with a hurricane and emailing our DJ for a new wedding song.

Well, very, I mean, honestly, Tuesday was really nice. My friend Pat, who's so much fun and so crazy, he was there with his wife because they came Tuesday. So Tuesday night, we had a chilled dinner. It was very, like, Charleston was like shut down because everyone was getting ready for the storm. Yeah. I got my nails.

done because I missed my nail appointment in New York, but they turned out great. I went for a workout. It was a really nice day. I got a haircut. It was a really nice day. Wednesday I woke up and decided to run while the hurricane was going on. Well, we woke up and went for a little walk. Yeah.

And it was very, a little bit like eerie because so the main streets of Charleston will flood, I guess, if there's too much rain just because they're old and that's the way the city is set up, that it's like prone to flooding, I guess. And so we went for a little. little walk everything is closed we're like running into people being like where did you get that coffee like nothing is open yeah so we go back to the hotel and but it was like it felt like it was going to rain but it wasn't really raining joe's like i'm gonna go for a quick run outside and if you saw my instagram story the minute he left it was torrential downpour well that's what it was doing you

would downpour and then 15 minutes later it would stop and that's and that we went to lunch we went to this place um if you're ever in charleston i highly recommend called Leon's oyster shop. It was great. And we went there for lunch. They were closing early, but we got there just in time. I think we got there at two

and they were closing at like 3.30. And yeah, when we left, it was perfect and then middle of lunch just started pouring again. And then when we left, it was fine. It was doing that all day, just on and off. Yeah. And that's what it kept doing.

So we get through this storm. And Thursday morning, it's sunny, it's beautiful out. And all our friends, your parents my parents everyone's starting to get there sort of like no one's flight was delayed like i had friends that were leaving at 5 a.m that were like hey we're off no delays no problem so that is the story of the hurricane we all survived going in on tuesday was the right decision and it didn't affect anything if anything it got rid of all the humidity so we had even better weather for our

wedding yeah so maybe it was like a blessing in disguise so then Thursday night we just do a small little intimate dinner with our families and then we met all of our friends out at like some random bar henries at the market or something which was actually a ton of fun that was a lot of fun too it was like three floor bar live music there was a bunch of people abigail and noah were there that's the first time we saw abigail noah they were sitting in there they were there andrew which i was surprised i didn't know what when andrew was getting in so we saw him and then I think those were the only batch of people there Thursday night, right? I think so as well.

Yeah, because Kenny and Maori weren't there yet. That was it. And then just a lot of Joe's friends and a decent amount of my friends were there as well. Some of our family members. It was like a very fun way to kick off the weekend. Everyone was just excited to be there, drinking, having fun. Yeah. So then we go to rehearsal dinner day, which, I mean, I had a blast.

The rehearsal dinner was really nice. What did we do during the day that day? I think because people started like that's when everyone was in. So I think we just started, that's what we just started making our rounds and talking everyone. Went by the pool. Went by the pool. Yeah. Get a nice tan and then rehearsal dinner.

I think it was pretty traditional. Like food was really good. We had our rehearsal dinner at Cannon Green. And I think that's the. event space name like there's a restaurant in there called wild commons i think which you should check it out because the food was so delicious yeah and i think they've i think they've won a i think they have a james beard award yeah um but i wore a uh traditional indian dress which is called alanga for our rehearsal dinner it was kind of my way of bringing in my indian

side my indian culture to the wedding because for those you that don't know my mom is Indian and her and my sister wore saris and that was super special it was just it was just a nice little nod to to my Indian side and I was super excited to get to wear that dress it was custom made by fashion by Rohingy and they did an amazing amazing job but I will say if you've never worn one before so when I had them custom make it I had them put as little tool in it as possible because usually the skirts are very, very full. And it is so freaking heavy. It's not even funny.

Like, I've had Joe, like, lift up the skirt. I was going around to everyone there being, like, feel how heavy this skirt is. It was another level. So that was kind of the motivation between me wearing it for the rehearsal dinner, but then changing into something lighter. I changed into, like, a little mini Galehav white dress for the welcome party. And I felt so free and so much more comfortable.

I felt like an Indian princess for the rehearsal. dinner but like it was heavy it weighed as much as I did yeah yeah it was very very heavy and then your outfit you picked out all by yourself you did a great job I know I know I got what could I say I got great style I love the my jacket I got yeah my jacket was was really nice it was beautiful I'm dr Scott Barry Kaufman host of the psychology podcast here's a clip from an upcoming conversation about exploring human potential I was going to school to try to teach kids these skills, and I get eye rolling from teachers or I get students who would be like, it's easier to punch someone in the face.

When you think about emotion regulation, like, you're not going to choose an adapted strategy which is more effortful to use unless you think there's a good outcome as a result of it if it's going to be beneficial to you. Because it's easy to say, like, go you go blank yourself, right? It's easy. It's easy to just drink the extra beer. It's easy to ignore, to suppress, seeing a colleague who's bothering you and just like walk the other way. Avoidance is easier. Ignoring is easier. Denial is easier. Drinking is easier.

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Because once you start to address the problem, you can go so much further. The Huntsman Mental Health Institute and the Ad Council have resources available for you at loveyourmindtay.org. So at the rehearsal dinner, there was about 30 people, and we just had Joe and myself give, like, a toast. We wanted to keep speeches over the course of the weekend, like, pretty limited. The toast, honestly, that was out of all the times I spoke during the wedding weekend. That toast was the worst because... You were really nervous. I was, A, nervous.

We didn't have anything written down. We just had something, like, roughly prepared. I didn't have anything planned, and I had something roughly prepared. Then Wells told me what he said. It was beautiful. Yeah. And the way he said, I was like, wow, that's great. I'm just going to literally say that.

And I just, yeah, it was not my best. No, it was good. We just wanted to say a little thank you to everyone for coming and kicking off the weekend. Obviously, the rehearsal dinner is an intimate group of our, some of our closest people. So you did a good job. Thank you. You did good. Thank you.

I had salmon. What did you have? I had sirloin, which was so good. I don't think I tried yours. I think I was just... We went and took photos and came back and I think our food was caught. Yeah, they just took it from us.

And I don't remember any of... I know I picked out all the late night snacks for the welcome party. Yeah. I don't think I ate one of them. I didn't see that. I miss most of the food at our wedding weekend, which I think is a common theme amongst people.

You're just so busy. Yeah. Even at our wedding, not that we'll get into the wedding, but just like the dinner portion of the wedding, the food was great. Everyone's talking about how great the food was and I barely touched my food.

Yeah. You're just anxious, excited, nervous, distracted, overwhelmed. It's hard to eat. Yeah. So welcome party, we, we, everyone goes out after. The welcome party was very fun. Yeah. Welcome party was so much fun.

Everyone got there. And then they all went out after because I think we ended it at like 10.30 or 11. And Serena and I were kind of like, no. Yeah. Well, originally I was like, yeah, let's go out. Woo. And my cousin, Andrea, was like, girlfriend. don't do that tomorrow is your wedding day you're you don't want to feel like shit you don't want to

be hung over you don't want to be super tired just go to bed and she was right that was the right she's like that's the biggest mistake and I was like yes I actually really agree so we went went back went to sleep um you woke up at like 730 and left the room I went to your suite and started getting ready yeah Joe and I did spend the night together I know like there's the tradition of like sleeping in separate rooms on your wedding night but one we're already married yeah we broke that tradition a year ago yeah two i'm not a great sleeper and you're not really a great sleeper either and i was just like why would i go sleep by myself in a different room the night before our wedding i'm like guaranteed to have a bad sleep if i do that yeah so yeah i'm glad we slept in the

same bed the night before but then we separated at like 7.38 a.m and didn't see each other until the first luck yeah i don't even oh so then oh i had so when i got you that gift so i got um i gave serena the first note she ever gave me i i had a frame that because we had to leave early for the hurricane i couldn't get it because it wasn't ready till the day we were leaving so then i had to text natasha because she lives here and she picked it up for me so day of the wedding i went and got that from her um i think i just i think i had coffee with my friends i had lunch i hung up by the pool a little bit and then by noon i had to get all the guys in my room and we started playing cards and it got out of control like usual uh and we took some photos i can't wait to see those photos

isn't it nice to be the groom what a chill lovely morning you had yeah yeah i play i went to the pool I played card with my friends. Yeah, we had some drinks. And then, yeah, just chilled and waited. Honestly, I was waiting for you. Yeah. And then my morning, actually, I shouldn't say it's nice to be the groom. My morning was super nice and very chill.

It's just a lot of getting ready. It's just more getting ready. Yeah, like I was getting ready all morning. But basically I had myself, my sister, my mom, and then six of my best friends, three of them from high school, three from university. We all did hair and makeup together and got ready.

I got them these really cute little lounge wear sets from set active. I know bridal robes are like the go-to or like the little silk PJs, but if you know me, you know I'm a lounge wear girl and I just wanted to be comfy the morning of. And that's what I went with. I thought they turned out really cute for photos and stuff. And we just had a really nice chill morning. Were you nervous in the morning? Because I feel like I was fine until like an hour.

or two before I went to see you and then I was like okay I'm getting anxious the most nervous I think I was the entire wedding trip was the toast at the at the rehearsal dinner and then the first look because it was such a buildup and I know the first look is just you and I but it was such a buildup to that and then I was like it was getting hot I was in my head I'm like I don't want my my shirt to get wrinkled um and yeah i just i was like i know it's going to be the first time i i'm going to see you in your wedding dress and it's going to be intimate and kind of emotional so i was like i was nervous for that that was the most nervous i was yeah i also yeah i i that wasn't the most nervous i was but i feel like it's more nerve-wracking for you because you don't know

what you're going to see when you turn around i was like when i turned around i was so thrown off because I was expecting you to be walking towards me and you're just standing right there behind you. You were standing right there that one tear came down your eye and I was like, oh my God, what's happening? What did you expect my wedding dress to look like? I truly... Like if you could have guessed.

If I could have guessed, I thought it was just going to have a little more like texture to it. Like a little more design. Yeah, yeah. So when I saw how simple it was, I was like, oh, that's really elegant. Like, I was really pretty, yeah.

Because you showed me one that I said I liked and you're like, I almost went with that one. Yes, yeah, from Superior Bridal. It was like one of the first dresses I tried on. I think it's in, it might be in the vlog that I posted when I was trying on dressing. And I thought I was going to be similar to that. Yes, yes.

which it wasn't actually. No. It's quite different. Yeah. Like similar cut, but different material design. Yeah. Okay, before we go into the first look at all of that,

I want to backtrack really quick because I did get a lot of questions on Instagram about what I gifted my bridesmaids for the morning of. I don't think you got your groomsmen anything, but you didn't do groomsmen. I didn't have groomsmen. You did. Yeah. I mean, you had bridesmaids. Yeah. But I got them little tote bags that said resets on.

it for those of you that don't know reset the label is my travel accessory line and I gave them each the jet setter bundle which includes a fanny pack a passport holder and a little accessories case I like to use it for like my technology and chargers and stuff so I gave them each of those and then I gave them a bunch of little aveda hair samples and a few Mario bandescu products yeah and then these set active sets, which a lot of them were on the plane home, which I love. Nice, nice. Fun. Okay.

It's a lot of it. Sorry, you know, we've been, we've been going pretty hard for four days. For many days. Yeah. But, okay, first look. First look was great. I love, I love the location we were at. Oh, my God.

Our photographer found, like, the best location. The street was so beautiful. It was quiet, too, which was crazy because it was a Saturday in Charleston. Our videographers were so professional and so easy to work with. Like it was just all so seamless. Yeah. And I feel like it was the perfect length. Like we were just starting to be like, okay, I'm overtaking photos when they were like, all right,

we're done. We're wrapping up. But I did love that location. Did I, did Kristen tell you? So Kristen's my hair makeup artist. And she was on site with us all day as well. And she told me that the photographer and videographer assistants asked her because Kristen's worked with me many times and knows both Joe and my son.

and they asked her like hey how much longer do you think we have before they're over this like how many more photos you think we can get and she goes well jo's already over it he's been over it but he's fine but he's kind of done and serena you've got like maybe one more spot and they're like okay and that's when they moved us to the the way house oh really yeah yeah which was I was like christin you were bang on because I was just about to be like all right guys can we do one last spot. Yeah, I was over it. Because I was like, I know, I already know that we have what I want. Yeah. When I know that like what I got the shot, what I want, like, I'm like, okay, I don't need anymore. Yeah, but they were very good. We went back to the venue then and did photos with our

families. We had to see our altar for the first time. And I feel like Joe had said multiple times, like you were like, um, sorry, my brain just went completely blank for a second. No. You were saying, leading up to the wedding, um, I, um, I, don't know how the venue is going to look. We've looked at so many inspo photos and design decks from our planners and layouts of the table arrangements. But it's hard to really picture how it's going to look. And I was like, no, I know how it's going to look. I feel like I know exactly how it's going to look. But when you see it in person for the first time after a year of trying to imagine it, like it was so much more extraordinary than I had imagined. It was going

to be. It was beautiful. What was more impressive to you, the ceremony setup or the actual wedding oh oh gosh i don't know when i walked in for the actual wedding so after the because our cocktail hour was outside in the in the front courtyard and when we walked in for the the actual wedding i was like wow yeah this came together because i wasn't sure about the dance floor being one of the first things when you walk in because we got we had a black and white checker dance lore um and it just made the whole room pop yeah yeah and And also, like, we had twinkly lights and all this stuff, and the sun was going down during dinner. So, like, once dinner was over, it just felt so warm and romantic in there with all the greenery and the flowers.

The ground florals and the florals above our head at the altar, though, I was, like, blown away with. Yeah. I will say. They were so beautiful. It was great. Honestly, it was great. And then, like, we do our vows before. That's during the ceremony.

There was a lot of pressure there because you're just nervous. and I had a joke and it landed Joe I will say I wanted to cut you off by the way I wanted to go first

oh but you had told me to go first you wanted to go first yeah and then you seemed so nervous I was like I hope she just lets me go first oh really yeah but then I wasn't gonna force it

I wanted to go first because I was so walking down the aisle and doing our vows like the actual ceremony of the wedding I've never been so nervous in my entire life I literally was like, I'm going to have a heart attack and drop down on the floor. Like, I'm freaking out.

And I felt nervous the whole ceremony. But I was just, honestly, I felt a lot better when I got up to the end of the aisle because I was standing there with you and Wells and your brother and my sister. And like, you look out and it's all your friends and family. So you feel like very comforted. But I was like, I need to get these vows done first because I'm so nervous. I was literally so nervous, guys, that I accidentally started my vows on page two. And I only read page two on.

I looked at my sister at the end. I was like, I missed a whole page. Are you going to read? Do you want to read page one right now? I could read page one right now. Do you want to? I know you said you were thinking about it. Well, I could.

Have it ready. I could read page one. I'm kind of nervous again, though, to read it if I'm being honest. I heard it already. Okay. Do you want me to read it? No, I'll read it. I'll read it.

Read your words. I just want to cry on this podcast right now. I'm Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman. of the psychology podcast. Here's a clip from an upcoming conversation about exploring human potential. I was going to schools to try to teach kids these skills and I get eye rolling from teachers or I get students who would be like, it's easier to punch someone in the face. When you think about emotion regulation, like you're not going to choose an adaptive strategy which is more effortful to use unless you think there's a good outcome as a result of it if it's going to be

beneficial to you. Because it's easy to say like go you go blank yourself, right? It's easy. It's easy to just drink the extra beer. It's easy to ignore, to suppress, seeing a colleague who's bothering you and just, like, walk the other way. Avoidance is easier. Ignoring is easier. Denial is easier. Drinking is easier. Yelling, screaming is easy.

Complex problem solving, meditating, you know, takes effort. Listen to the psychology podcast on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I think Democrats have, for a very very important. long time, allow Republicans to play them. So essentially, Republicans came up with a narrative and Democrats decided to play into that. And that only hurt the Democrats. I'm Kitty Couric. Jasmine Crockett, Democratic Representative of Texas, is not known for holding back. And our recent chat on next question is no exception. But when you hear how she got to where she is, her intensity makes perfect sense.

It's just hard to imagine a world where you don't have enough people that care to do right by people. And so that same passion that carried me through as a public defender that led me to want to change laws and thinking about the harm that will happen,

not just to my constituents, but just generally, like, I carry that weight with me because you've seen it up close. Yeah. Listen to next question with me, Katie Couric on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Don't let biased algorithms or degree screens or exclusive professional networks or stereotypes.

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had the small fear of the unknown ahead that I know you felt as well standing here today over two years later I don't feel that fear anymore looking at you right now all I feel is peace and happiness and love in my heart I feel like the luckiest girl in the whole world looking at you my husband knowing I have to spend the rest of my life with you so sweet yeah no those those are really good. I was so proud of that first page. And the whole time I'm reading the ballot, I'm like, you started off with, tapping the notebook being like, something's wrong, something's wrong. I'm missing something. And you start off with when I think back to us meeting on the beach, I think about all the little tiny decisions. Yeah, that is how you started.

Yeah. And the whole time, I was just like what, like, I feel like I missed the first page, but I just kept going and kept going because I was like, I was so emotional. I was like, if I stopped myself, I'm going to really throw myself off. And then, I was right. I missed the first page. I thought your vows were incredible. Thank you. Truly.

I feel like our vows reflected our personality as well. Like mine were like I'd been thinking about my vows for like months and like thinking about little things to say and yours like you threw together last minute but we're still like so funny and like effortless. Yeah. It was. Then after that once we do the vows, it's kind of like all right. All we have to do now is our toast and say thank you to everyone.

on um and it was just the wedding was just a blast everyone had a lot of fun everyone was dancing drinking yeah the cocktail hour we got a bunch of our photos had a lot of fun i like missed all of our apps they actually brought a board they were so thoughtful they brought a board of all of our apps into our little like sweet room yeah that we had like put all of our stuff and i did my change and stuff in and i had the fried chicken biscuit yeah that one i that looked really good that was good you had a bite of that? I had a bite. No, I had like the skewer. Um, but honestly, I'm so happy with how well the food turned out. Like everyone, the first thing they've been saying is, oh my God, the food at your wedding was so good, which I just feel like you just, look, the food can be perfect at the tasting,

but when you're serving 130 people at the same time, like, it's hard. And they just did such a good job. But shout out to the venue. Dinner was great. I feel like we didn't need anything because we were so nervous gave our speech we had speeches from my parents joe's brother his best man and then my sister my maid of honor and then us and then us which i feel like that that was kind of our goal we didn't want a lot of speeches no so that was kind of perfect and i think yeah like dinner was a perfect length and then yeah then everyone just started drinking and walk around a big a big like tip that every most couples gave us was like don't leave each other side um we're did not do that but we were still able I felt like we were able to see each other whenever we

wanted it was never like I was like like we were lost like it was never like I was like looking for you and like couldn't find you you know yeah no and I feel like something good that we did was we had a sweetheart table at dinner and we didn't get up and walk around to everyone's tables and try to talk to them throughout dinner we just stayed at the sweetheart table and then if people wanted to come up and chat with us we were like happy to have them do that but that was really the only time that we stayed next to each other for like a good hour and a bit. And that was like really nice, chill quality time. That was like a good decompress moment because I remember like the cocktail hour. I remember flying. It was hectic. It was hectic because it was such a smaller space.

Like our venue, the inside was so large. Our room fit 500 people. We had 133 there. Yes. But and the biggest thing, I was so, so nervous that our venue was going to feel empty because the last thing you want us to feel like the space is half empty and our planners did such a good job of making it feel like spacious but still full yeah you know what I mean for sure and my biggest thing for the wedding we did we served espresso martinis after dinner to like and we did a quick dinner I think it was like an hour and a half to maybe just under two hours four speeches like we wanted to keep momentum going espresso martinis right after dinner was it was the move people then were like super awake ready to party and I was like I want people on the dance floor like I don't want people sitting and hanging out like I want them dancing around all night and that's literally what we got and I was so happy because you can't like force people on the dance floor like it either happens or it doesn't I was dancing for like three hours straight yeah and then yeah this is this is a bachelor podcast though any bachelor any so who is there we had Tia Tia and Taylor and Taylor which was their first trip away from baby Tatum

Which was exciting for them. Nick and Natalie, Natalie's pregnant, obviously Wells and Sarah, Noah and Abigail, Kenny and Mari, Chris and Anna, Andrew Spencer, and his girl, Natasha, Bree. And then I think that's it. Shabby, which is one of the producers. Yeah. I hope we're not missing anyone. I'll feel like really terrible. No, I'm pretty.

I feel like that's everyone. Yeah, and then like, you know, certain people invite it, couldn't make it. But, yeah, a lot of fun. I think they were all in the lobby to, like, 2 a.m. arguing about where to go. Yeah. And no one ended up going anywhere because they waited for so long to try to figure it out. Yeah, we had like a party bus and some shuttles pick us up after the venue and take us back to the main hotel. that a lot of people were staying at,

which was so much fun and the perfect way to end the night. I have a photo of Wells blessing the bus because he's Reverend Wells. He took his job very seriously. Yeah. And it was just perfect. We went to bed. It was so fun.

Like truly, I'm sure everyone says this about their wedding because it's like a personal experience, but like best day in my life. Yeah. Best day in my life. It was perfect. Like I wouldn't have changed one thing other than I wish I remembered to read page one of my vows.

One thing I'm so happy we did, and I would suggest this to anyone, is a destination wedding. Yes. Because then you're with your friends and family for an extended period of time. It's not like it's just one night. And then because like there were certain people I didn't get to talk to as much, but then I was with them the day prior or so we had a big pool day at a hotel, the day after the wedding. So we had like a lot of quality time with people that we maybe didn't get without the wedding or the rehearsals in there.

So I get that. like when people say like oh i you know i didn't it was hard to like make rounds or or even see my my wife or whatever um because it's just that one day but having those you know a five day thing yeah so nice i agree and i actually am glad that we went in like two days before to charleston even if we just got in on the wednesday it would have been good but the tuesday just added like just time for joe and i to like really take it all in chill relax settle into the hotel and just get like I feel like we spent a lot of quality time together in Charleston. And I don't know if I would have felt that way if we flew in on like the Thursday afternoon.

Yeah. Because obviously it's like a big social event. But destination wedding was the best decision for us. I felt like kind of a jerk because there was no direct flights from Charleston to Toronto or Toronto to Charleston. So that kind of sucked. But I am obsessed with Charleston even more than I was before. And I think we will definitely go back for our one year wedding anniversary. Absolutely. Yeah. And then I think that wraps this episode. Next thing we'll probably be talking about will be our honeymoon, which is in Italy. And yeah. Before we go, we do just want to thank all of Bachelor Nation for the support. You guys showered us with so much love and kind messages on social and anyone that we popped into in Charleston just had nothing but kind things to say. We are so grateful and appreciative for all of them.

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