Bachelor Happy Hour - Fan Questions and a Galentine’s Getaway! | Golden Hour

Episode Date: February 14, 2025

Today on a very special “Golden Hour” episode, we’re answering all your V-Day questions! You asked, and we’re here to save the day — Kathy and Susan are offering Bachelor Nation their wisdom from the beaches of their St. Martin Galentine’s Day getaway. We kick off the episode with their vacation highlights and thoughts on Monday’s “Bachelor” episode. Then, we get into our question of the day: What do you do if your partner isn’t the romantic type? And, of course, we’re answering your questions! If you’re stressing today, don’t sweat it —we’ve got all the advice you need. Whether you’re 12 V-Days in with your partner and or you’re in the “Will they or won’t they?” phase of a new relationship, we’re here for you! Tune in now, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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This place is amazing. We'll add it to that a minute. Absolutely. You know, we'll be answering more of your fan questions, which we love doing. And you remember the routine. Send your comments, your questions, and your responses to backtornation.com slash golden hour. submit away because that's what we're here for we love your questions your comments your

updates we got a lot of old updates on our own today but if you want to reach out all you have to do is go to balser nation dot com or d m that's hard for me to say on vacation the fifth of dm us on instagram at bachelor happy hour so before we get into today's episode the first we get into today's episode First thing we want to do is wish everybody a happy V-Day, a happy... Galentine's Day and a happy... What else? Galentine. Oh, okay.

And Valentine's stuff. That, Galentine, whatever you're celebrating, you know, but today. But, Susan, can we clue this? We're celebrating life. Can you tell we're a little bit on Island time? We're a little bit. We all have Island fever. But can I just say?

It's amazing. It's absolutely. What's your favorite drinking? Oh, my Chinatollados, of course. Pinacoladas, I'm drinking tequila soda in line. We've been at the beach. We've been at St. Barts. What else?

Wait, I have to tell you, two risplice she had on plus dramamine. I was so proud of her because we had to take this giant ferry boat over St. Bar, yesterday, and she did it get, we got wet, but not sick. Let me just tell you, I never used to get C-Sect. Literally, I was praying. I would have done anything. I had the wristbands, like she said, the drama mean. But on the way home, we met some great people.

That's the thing about Island, like when you're on vacation. We met these people the other day. What are we doing today? We're going to dinner with them. They're taking us to the best French restaurant on the island. So we're here for 12 days this time, and we're booking before we leave. I think we need three weeks here. I mean, I'm thinking about really a month.

That'll work. That'll work. And then, yeah, I hope everybody's enjoying their Valentine's Day. And you know what? It's not just about having a man in your life. It's about having friends. And we are having the time of our life. Yeah, yes.

Anyway, I highly recommend vacation. Highly recommend vacation. And if you can find a beach like the beaches here, the water, the turquoise. Also, I had to ask you one question, one moment that stands out the most during this vacation so far, what would it be? It would be looking out at the beautiful water. You too? Amen. Oh, and the food is delicious.

In fact, Susan I have a great. I said one thing. Wait, I guess you're going to go. I said one thing. I have a great idea. We should work for the St. Martin Chamber of Commerce. Until I'm about to pay us about. How about we talk about that show the other night?

Okay. Here we're going to get into the Bachelor this week. It's happened right now. Oh, so God, that first date, you're killing me. You're killing. I would have cried. I would have. The only thing I liked about.

it was the money machine that was it okay first of all wait before before we get into anything who was a role and you know me I'm terrible on names particularly on vacation who went home with i think appendicitis oh no no no no no oh my gosh okay so whoever had um had the leave that is sad because you know what you work up a lot to going on this trip so you know it reminds me of generally yeah exactly but let's get back to the finance date. What did I have here? Do we have Italy? So here's the thing, guys. Oh, it is Beverly. I'm sorry. Beverly. Yes. Okay, Beverly, we hope you're feeling better. We truly do. Back to finance or finance. Depends where you're from, how you say it. I don't understand.

I mean, I get it. Grant's in finance. I get it. Grant money. Grant. I get it. But why is it? Like, let me teach you. I'll pitch you some of those women know a lot about Finnex OZ. Yeah, I let him, you know, I just think they're so well. Like I said, the money machine was my favorite part, but then they get to buy the date to whoever won. Yeah. Now let's talk about the next date. The dog grooming seriously. I mean, Susan, I don't about you, and I don't about you vaccination, that I can tell you, the next guy I date, it's going to be totally based on how he washes a dog.

That's it. If you can wash a dog, I'm your woman. I just say, why? Why? Why? I don't know. I have no words. They like dogs.

No, but seriously, why? I mean, is it like you want, here's the thing. You got your checklist of men, right, Susan? Yeah. You wanted to be generous, right? You wanted to be chivalrous, right? Yes. You would dress well.

Be a gentleman. Take good care of you. You know what number five is on your list? That'd be a dog. Wash your dog and bring it. I didn't get it. I didn't get it. Sorry to whoever called that one, but you were at.

We're not a dog for a lover that. And I just talk about the girl in the hot red dress. What is her name? Carolina? Her body. Oh, I was getting sick. I mean, that by her waistline. I don't think when I was born, I had that waistline.

She looks so freaking amazing. So here we are the old women, like all the girls and guys, they're talking about futures. Can we talk about that for a minute? Every girl with Grant is, they're all talking about the future husband. He's talking about she'd make a great mother. What, do people know each other 10 minutes? I don't know, but that's the name of the show. Like, that's how you, that's what.

And there's to be looking into the housework. You know, it was your bachelor? They're going together and then they could figure that's a lot. No, well, let's change the name of the show. Dog, Brooming and a 10-minute marriage. We're in. All right, let's get to Latia. I think her name is.

That touched me. That was a good moment. Oh, my God. So they are doing in common. Let's talk about stats, something in common. that was heartbreak that her dad passed and her mom struggled and raised her. And when he reached out and called the mother, I was so, so, so impressed. Yeah, that was a beautiful no man.

What? Here's my thing. I did see a tear. He was genuinely feeling it. I couldn't tell if he had, I saw it later that he had her hand, but I wasn't sure the whole time. I couldn't believe that he didn't react and go and hold her something as she told As that's what you and I were saying,

so here's my thing. On the golden group, like, we're touchy-feely, oh, Susan, are you feeling okay? Oh, Guy, are you? This, with Grant, I feel like he's not physically, other than the guy can sup face better than any guy I've ever seen in my life. But other than that, like, I don't feel like he's feeling touching, care boring, hairy.

He did cry, though, so that I think he'd be. Maybe Kathy on the opposite end of that. what our thoughts are. Yeah. He was giving her that moment to get it out before. Then he did hand her a rose, which was beautiful. But that was a touching moment. But do you feel like there's a, I don't know,

Susan and I keep comparing this to the Golden Bachelor show. And I feel like they're in such a rush to call Grant their husband. They're in such a rush. You should know the name of the game, though. It's like not a competition, but it is a competition. That's where they want to get. But do you feel that they're making the connection? I don't think it's there yet.

I don't either. That's the right point. But they're all talking about future husband. You talk about Zoe and Rose. And that state. Drama, drama, drama. Why would Rose share that? And that said, I'm sorry that he was thinking about her while dancing with somebody.

Who would do that? You know what? I don't care if you're 20, 30, 40, 50. if you need to smack upside your head because that is ugly. That is not nice. Can I just tell you? If I'd been in the house,

I would have missed that. You know why? I would have been really busy lining up the dog to the jury. Then out of nowhere, here comes our golden guy. What a soprano. Just a minute.

They're scary and keep the jack. They're great. I wonder how they picked who was coming. I don't know, but can I just say? It's smart. First of all, who could ever get enough of looking at Jonathan's body? Let that be honored. Jack can cook for anybody.

Yeah. Keith is a mile of fun. And, well, what are you missing? Gary. Gary's heart, though. Harry's got six tart and he hugs like no other. They were great. They did a good job.

They did a good job and I think they had so funny. You know what I love, Susan? Again, we look at these shows a little bit differently because we've been on it. I love that you can see that all. But older bachelors and older bacheloreps can make connections with the other people. And it's always like us. We do. But I love it that.

I love Bachelor Nation figuring that out. So that's super. Okay. How do you feel, Kathy? Grant seems to be developing feelings for everyone that he goes out with. That's what I was saying. He does that every step. And that bothers me a little bit, which I think gives hope to these women or girls.

Again, that's the name of the game. Yes. but you're getting hopeful and make up, is he? That's what I just said to him. You said, that's the name's the way. He's calling all the. And I could see a future with her. I see, I could see her being the mother of my children.

He's saying it to so many that as a viewer, I begin to question his veracity. I begin to question, is he really falling? I hope he does. And I told you, Juliana from Newton, she's got to be in the final gruel. But I didn't know. I agree with you. I'm concerned that he's feeling or says he's feeling too much for too many. Do you feel like there was any connection?

I don't think there was ever a big connection with Allie Joe who left, Bailey, who left. I thought there was a little connection with Bailey. And Chloe, so I think Chloe is a love place. She's a mom. Yes, a plus my senior. I love Chloe. Let me ask you this.

What do you think the statement Grant was trying to make keeping Rose after the drama? I think there's more to that story. I think as always, we only see the edit that we see. I think there's more to the story, some of the girls that went home. Either he didn't form a connection with them or he didn't like what he saw. There was more to it. But I really feel like in the beginning, and this is like what, week three? No, it's week three.

So I do know this, that we chitchat it. We liked the show. We enjoyed the show, but we didn't agree with everything that happened. I still want Grant to find love. And I'm starting to get to know some of the women. And we'll see what happens next. And can I say my hope for the, and remember, it's still early, my hope is that Grant starts not saying to every woman,

you'd make a great mother, you would make a great wife. You know, I hope that he starts to differentiate between them so that we as viewers can get really invested in a few of the ways. And same with the women. Don't just throw yourself on. Yeah. Talk about these. Yeah.

That's that moment. It's heard of their age suits and they haven't had the experiences we've had. The drama. Oh, can we just say? In them, she went and said to him that everybody's mean and that started that friction in the house when he said, Oh, yeah. So, you know, there's always going to be a little bit of drama.

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Listen to Family Secrets Season 12 on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. All right. It's time to move into today's episode and all things Valentine's Day. So I really want to start us off with this. If you don't have someone, you know what? You do. You have yourself. Love yourself. Happy Valentine's Day, Kathy. That's what I'm saying today. And I couldn't ask for a better day because we are in St. Martin enjoying Valentine's Day. No one took us here. This is Kathy and I's vacation. And you know what?

Some people wake up really disappointed today when they don't have somebody in their life. You know, Valentine's Day is only a day. Sometimes you wake up feeling disappointed. Same on Christmas Day. In any holiday that you don't have somebody special in your life, it's okay. It's okay, but here are two things I want to say. You know, it doesn't have to be Valentine's Day. We can also call it Galentine's Day. For all of us gals out there, happy Valentine's Day. But the other thing I want to say is that to me, I call them Hallmark holidays. You know, yes, Valentine's Day is a special day, Galentine's Day, to remember yourself, if that's who you're with, remember who you love, the people you love. In my case, I send valentines to my kids and my grandchildren because I love them all. But you know what?

I still say it's not just the day. It's who do you love the rest of the year? Do you take care of yourself? Do you have self-love? Do you take care of your friends and your family the rest of the year? So I try not to put too much importance on this one day. Having said that, would I have loved to have gotten a dozen, in my case, yellow roses from someone? Sure. Who doesn't want to be remembered?

And a box of chocolate. Seriously, Susan? And a box of chocolate. Remember last year I had the Galentine's Day? We had that big party. It was so fun with the girls. I know. And do you eat the box of chocolates?

I bet you're the girl that opens up one, takes a bite, puts it back, takes another bite, puts it back. No, I like the kind to come. They tell you what it is, so you don't have to guess. Seriously? Yeah. What? It's got a diagram. I like the little candy hearts. What are they called? Conversation hearts. Wait, can I just say, Susan, you shouldn't bring these things up because you know I'm going to get. Because she caught me eating them last night. Susan is always has to have blood work done and occasionally her sugar levels, you know, they might be a little too high. And I said to us last time on the podcast, oh, you know, they want to redo it. It's going to be Easter and I'm going to be eating candy.

So we're talking on the phone list and she facetimes me. And what does she have? What did you eat, Susan? Conversation hearts. What are they made of? I love them. I love pure sugar. But you know what?

Today's Valentine's Day, we're going to the beach today because it's nice and warm. And do you know at home right now, it is snowing? Not at my home. So that is my Valentine's gift right there being somewhere warm. So let's get into today. One more quick question. Yeah. If you were dating someone, be honest, would you expect, and be honest, a gift, flowers and chocolate or a gift?

Like, would you expect something? On Valentine's Day, what I always told anyone who's in the relationship with, don't waste your money. Get them the day before or a couple days before. Okay, but what do you want is what I'm saying. Do you want the traditional chocolate and flowers? No, I don't need chocolate. I need flowers. She needs chocolate.

people she's lying or a night out or you know so would you rather a night out what would what would your ideal valentine's gift be a single rose in a night out nice yeah okay well how about you um will you take me out tonight cath i'll take you out i'm not giving you a rose that's weird it is not weird but i'll drink a glass of wine with all right we'll split the bottle all right All right, it's time you get into the episode. And we're going to start with the question of the day. So, Kathy, what advice would you give to women who feel their boyfriends or husbands aren't the romantic type? To me, this is so easy.

Oh, how come? I need romance. Wait, here's the deal. Yeah. The first part of my answer is very simple. accept the person you have because you don't change people. That's my first bit. My second answer to that second part of my answer is help them.

Say to them, tomorrow's Valentine's Day, today's Valentine's, you know, whatever it is. Give them a little one and say, you know, I know you're not the romantic type, but can I tell you what it would mean to me? It's communicating. Again, Susan, that word we're going to have to have. inscribe it in our foreheads. Tell them, say, I know. Admit the obvious. I know you're not really into that.

But, you know, I would love a bouquet in my case of, I love sunflowers. I would love a bouquet of sunflowers. Or I would love to go out for dinner and just share an appetizer. Or I would love to sit in front of the fire. Give them the direction. Men oftentimes need direction. What do you think? They're not the romantic type.

They never were. So you knew that going in. That's what I said, except them for who they are. Right. You have to. And if it's that big of a deal to you, then don't go that far with them because it's something you're always going to be disappointed about. Or perhaps, like, in my case, when I was with people that weren't romantic, I was the romantic one.

I would do the things that I would like to have received. So you bought yourself flowers and chocolate? No, I would say exciting. I bought men a box of chocolates and stuff like that. Yeah, absolutely. But didn't you feel, did you feel badly that they didn't have any romance? And the answer is yes, because I know you. Yes, of course you do.

But you feel good giving too. And you hope that they're getting it. You know, I went out and did this. This is something you should be doing. But see, I, the difference between you and me in this case, we said the same thing. It's just I would verbalize it. I would say, you know, Ms. to write. I would have loved, if it's past tense, I would have loved to get a bouquet of flowers.

My birthday's in May. You know, will you put a note in your whatever or put a note on their pillow? Tomorrow's my birthday. You know, help them, help them be romantic. And sometimes men are so good to them every other way. They're just not that romantic, but your life is perfect. No life is perfect. They're having a good time in their marriage or with their men and he's just not romantic i mean sometimes men aren't i would have a difficult time with i was just going to say if you do not admit that you would have a difficult time definitely would have a difficult time i mean we all like to be romance courted i mean what else all right we're going to move into our fan questions today um and um let's go the first one is from ashley she says hi kathy and susan i need your advice i've been dating my boyfriend for

just about two months and we've been official exclusive for like three weeks now. I'm literally already thinking about Valentine's Day and I'm stressed out. Do I get him something? What do I get a boy for Valentine's Day? What if he doesn't get me anything? Is that weird? Should he? I haven't had a serious boyfriend ever during Valentine's Day except when I was in high school. So I clearly don't know how to navigate this. Please help me get out of my own head. man. Let me just say, Ashley, you really are in your own head. Do what feels right. You want to get them a gift, get them a gift. If you want a gift, like we just talked about in the question of the day, if you're worried he's not going to get you one, talk about it. Say, hey, Valentine's Day is coming. How do you want to celebrate? What would you do? That's a good one, too. I used to run the Walmart and buy boxers with big Valentine's all over and something silly, but I did have something. Yeah, I did too. I did too. I did too. Yeah. That's funny. I think I bought my husband boxer shorts too. But they were two months dating, okay? And three weeks is official. So I'm sure he knows what Valentine's Day. And if he doesn't run.

Wait, Susan, wait, let me do the math for you here. They met two months ago. And they've been a fish. I've been dating my boyfriend for about two months. About two months. I'm going to be generous and say it's probably under two months. But the point is they've been official. They're barely. exclusive and know each other do not buy him a promise ring oh god no no but be cute about it be cute about it do some fun and cute keep it light and entertaining and if you if you want something you know do not ask for a trip to tahiti but you know say don't overthink it sweetie don't don't overthink it else to get out of your head if you feel like you'd be embarrassed if you didn't have anything for him and he had something for you buy something that you could use to that you didn't have to give it oh no that way in a second but i would definitely

definitely get them so wait a second that brings up a whole different thing susan are you saying if you bought a little gift you're just a little gifty for your boyfriend of six minutes um three weeks are you telling your exclusive boyfriend for three weeks are you saying that if he didn't give you the gift you wouldn't give him yours because you bought something that was unisex well maybe it was candy but i'm saying probably would because i want to prove a point but i would because I like to give somebody something on that day. See, that's me. And that would make them feel bad, though.

You know what I mean? I mean, whether it did or didn't, to me, it's an expression of love or care or just the joy of giving to someone. Showing somebody you were thinking of them. That's what all it is. It doesn't matter the dollar amount. It really doesn't. Well, it does for me, Susan.

And I'm waiting for a really nice gift. So cough it off. Oh, gosh. Thanks for asking. Good luck, Ashley. Let us know. Wait, Ashley, write us back. We want to know if you've got a gift, what you got him, write us back.

We'll need the update. But get out of your own head. It's all good. And this is the beginning. So it's only three weeks. This is going to show you what it's going to be like every Valentine's Day. So I'm hoping he surprises you. Susan, it's like the wedding.

You know, the first anniversary, I think is paper. When my daughter's first anniversary came, she goes, paper, hell with that. I don't want anything on paper. Paper? I said, no, it could be really good. It could be plain tickets to Europe for six months. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She thinks big, Kathy. You think big. All right, next question is from Anonymous. Anonymous asks, Hi, Golden Hour. I need some Valentine's Day help. This is going to be my 12th Valentine's Day with my fiancé and my brain is out of ideas.

We've been dating since college and have always had a great date ideas for V-Day. But now I am tapped out of ideas. I really don't want to start giving up on making moments like these special, but I feel like I've run out of things to do. What do you suggest? And what am I going to do next year and on and on? Please help. I love you guys so much. I can tell you, an ultimatum. Don't stop stressing. What about him coming up with ideas? Doesn't that happen? Here's the thing. This is why I'm old-fashioned. When I read fiancé, a lot of of people just get engaged with no intentions of getting married but I'm reading this 12 years a fiancee how about surprising with a match set of wedding rings how about if I come to marry you

guys calendar with a date circled a wedding dress and an ultimatum you want a 13th Valentine's day you're going to marry I mean I do have an idea actually what I do have an idea when you run out of ideas so you go away for a few days and every year you go somewhere can be somewhere different it doesn't have to be an airline ticket i don't know where you live but you can go to a wine thing for the weekend or if it's during the week take two days or it doesn't you have to be overnight i love your idea it could just be take a picnic somewhere or you know do a fun activity go bowling do something you've never done i would not want to go bowling on my romantic V-day.

You know what? Again, the difference between you and me, if I'm spending it with the person I love, I don't care where I am or what I'm new. Well, Anonymous, I hope that helps, but I would plan a little getaway. That's what I would do. I think that's a great idea.

Or, you know, put ideas in a bowl and let him pick one out. That's a fun thing. I like that. You know, let him pick something out. Cook a meal together. And do it together. The idea is he gets the throw in a few.

And that'll buy you the next five years for six years if he's put in three. It doesn't have to be something big. I think that we all sometimes fall into that trap and every year has to be bigger and better. Anonymous, it doesn't. Just do something. But let us know what you just write him a note and tell him how much you love him and how much you're looking forward to your wedding day. Did he? That was a joke.

He proposed, obviously, if it's a fiancee, Yeah, plan a day. Do that on Valentine's. I know a lot of people who are fianced, as they say in gay parry, but they have no intentions of getting married. I would do that. I would be a fiancé forever. Well, I'll see if I can dig up a fiance for you.

Here I am on this beautiful island and no one's asked yet. Yeah, all right. We're going to go looking. All right. Question three is another anonymous question. Hi, ladies. I've gotten myself into a bit of a situation. and I really need your help.

I got divorced from my husband, who was also the father of my 10-year-old daughter, about six years ago, and it wasn't a pretty split. He's a great father, but he was honestly a shitty husband and an even shittier ex. Wow.

That clearly is something that gets under my skin, so it's made me pretty cynical when it comes to romance. So, the other day, I was at the store with my daughter, and I asked her what candy she wanted me to buy for the Valentine's Day treats we're making for her class. She scoffed and said, this love crap is a lie.

I've literally said that on the phone to my girlfriends. When we got home and talked about it, I realized she's absolutely starting to absorb the pessimism. I unknowingly spew about love. How do I fix this? I want to talk to her about the wonders of love and finding your person, but I'm still so hurt that I don't know where to start. Thanks, ladies. Wait, can I just say before, you're going to take the first wrap on this. But this is what we were just talking about on another podcast.

Children listen to our behavior. In this case, she listened to what she said, but I'll bet you, Anonymous is so negative about her ex-husband and her daughter's father. And maybe rightfully so, but she's not realizing. absorbing the behavior. So Anonymous, when you say that you want her to believe in the wonders of love, you haven't taught her that lesson. But what do you say, Susan? It's a shame because what's done is done. But when you sit down with your daughter, tell her about the happy times when you married her father. And it was good. It was great. People do change. Things do happen.

There's no guarantees, but don't give up on love because it is a special beautiful. beautiful, beautiful thing. I love that. I love that. Yeah, and I think also she can explain to her daughter that just because her marriage didn't work out and it's been bad for her, she can apologize. I would encourage you in honest to apologize and say, you know, I did the wrong thing. I did the wrong thing just because your dad and I don't love each other anymore doesn't mean that either one of us can't find love again.

And I think that's a point she needs to make to her daughter. And maybe share with her that you're open to find love again. Yeah. And you know what? And on us, be the bigger person. If he's a shitty ex and a shitty husband, be the bigger person. Because your daughter, as she grows older, she's going to see him for what he was. It's not about turning her against men or her father.

Just let. And do yourself a favor. Stop with being so cynical about romance. Open yourself up again. no you had a bad ride okay it's over put it behind you and well that's easier said than done susan she said she's still so hurt it's six years ago six so let it go why hold on to that negativity he might be a shitty ex you know what don't let him be important she said she's hurt she's sad we don't know the circumstances around him right no the anonymous says i'm still so

hurt. So we don't know the circumstances around it. We don't know what happened. And maybe she's just really hurt by what he did or what transpired in their relationship. So I think there's no, we've said it before, there's no time limit on grief. I think there should be a time limit on anger. I agree with you on that. But I don't think there's a time limit on grief for a lost relationship. I know. Yeah. I know. There isn't. There isn't. But do your daughter a favor and share with her the good parts because there are good parts. And I hope for her, Kathy, that she can let it go and open herself up to trust again. You know, like us, Susan, I hope she finds love again. I hope her daughter learns how to love and can change her opinion. But let us know, Anonymous, please let us know

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Of course, it's V-Day or Gal Day, you know, G-Day edition. So what we're going to do is we're going to be playing. It's called in and out, in or out. We'll switch off reading the prompts about dating relationships and more. We're going to give our thoughts on it if it's in or out. Susan, go ahead and start us off. Okay. Expensive preset dinners that are Valentine's Day themed.

Out. Out. And the reason I say out, I do not like a preset dinner. I want to go order what I want to order. I would definitely move to the next restaurant. Well, and when it says Valentine's Day theme, you know what came into my head? Yeah, there's a piece of meatloaf shaped, shaped into a heart or, you know, potatoes with red food dye in it. Oh, dear God.

No, ooh, two else. All right. Getting your partner household appliances as a present like a blender or a vacuum. Now, to me, I got to qualify that. If they want it one. I've got to qualify that. If my husband is going to use the blender to make me a drink or he's going to vacuum the rugs for me, that's what he, and he wants it, man, that's what he's getting from Valentine's State. Other than that, it's out.

Yeah, I would say out, but unless, of course, you've had a conversation and there's a gift involved and he says, that's what you really want, then you tell him what you really want, if that's the case. All right. Yeah. All right. Okay. Coffee dates. Coffee dates. with my partner or a date or doesn't say that just a coffee date.

Well, I'm asking you. How do you feel about it? A coffee date? I think for a first meet or something, I say in. Me too. For a first date. Actually, I got to be honest, when my husband was alive. It's a first meet.

It's a first meet. But can I just say when my husband was alive, he didn't drink coffee, but I do. But every once in a while, he would call me up and he would say, hey, what are you doing? You know, I'm buying you a vacuum. cleaner so you can clean the house next week and he would say why don't we meet literally you want to go meet and have coffee or do you want to meet for an early lunch he sounds like a good guy he was he was a good guy but i'm just saying i loved those times like it was it wasn't expensive it was just you know we met in a salad place had lunch at 11 30 i loved just about meeting and being together for a few

minutes yeah yeah during the day not after work when we're you know we were both so tired anyway okay dating apps well it's a personal thing right now Al but I say in because it's it works for some people yeah I'm I wholeheartedly concur okay candy as a Valentine's Day present

out for me for me I don't want it I don't want candy I want to go to the winery says the girl who eats conversation hearts and night wash But it's not the chocolate candy that I want.

Okay. Talking stages. Okay. If I were to say talking stages, I would assume that means you haven't met yet and you're just talking. I think that's necessary. Yeah. I don't want to do it too many times before we meet. Yeah.

But I agree. I like talking stages because I'm, I for one, if, you know, when I've been on dating naps, and somebody reaches out to me and says, hey, let's meet right away. That kind of gives me the ick. I don't want to talk. So I would give you the ick because I say that. I don't want to talk forever.

I want to just. No, I'm saying it gives me the ick if they say they want to meet right away. Yeah, that's what I do. I want to. Oh, that's what I mean. I don't want to. I see that. I want to talk a couple of times. I want to have those talking stages. I know because you have to ask all the questions and get to know them

and I get you. Then I feel safe. Okay. Texting all day, every day, in or out, Susan. I like attention, Kathy. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Not all day, every day, but a couple times. Yeah, I like it.

Well, since it says all day, every day, I'm going to stay out. Out. Okay. Because you know what? I think that I question whether that's about what she doing. You know, where is she? If I text her and she doesn't answer what she. doing i don't like that i you know i don't like that well i like text thinking of you or you know

how's your day things like that that's where my mind goes okay but that's okay okay singles events i guess in i don't really go to them wait i want you to know you just said with the most like you were smelling vomit you made a face like in like single events well you know what That's how you go meet people, I guess. I don't think there's anything wrong with them. There's something wrong with them, but I don't like them. I feel they're very contrived. You feel like you're going to get hooked up.

I just feel like it's contrived. It's a meat market. I don't like them. Okay. So a singles event, like for instance, Kathy, if we hosted a singles event. Who are you inviting, Susan? Well, I would have very upper crust people that are very interested in meeting people. it would be a very high end.

Well, I'm laughing. Can I just say I'm laughing? Because if you knew those quote unquote upper crust people, you'd have already been on a date with every one of them. Well, I'm hosting this trying to get people together. I know, but how are you going to find the guys? I don't know. I don't know.

I put it out. They're going to pay. I mean, they're going to pay. She's, yeah, you have to pay to get to there. I think if I, if I were doing it, I would want it to be, you're going to laugh. I don't know why bowling's on my mind today. What's the bowl?

This one on Bell? I don't know. I used to bowl. What do I know? I'm just saying I would want to be something where people weren't standing around going, oh, did you see him? He just looked at me. Oh, Susan, he's looking at you.

Have you ever been one of those, not it's just lunch, like a speed dating thing. You sit with one person and you go around the, I've never done it, but it sounds interesting. I have never done speed dating. No, either. But I kind of feel like, I kind of feel like if you're, that really, and having been on the Golden Bachelor, doing what you just said, feels like a competition. Like, okay, ready, set, go. I think the idea behind it is to write, you're writing down scores or whatever when you talk

to each person and at the end you tally up who it is that you'd like to have an in-depth conversation with. I can only have one. I don't know. I've never done it, but yeah. We'd have to look into that. Listen, I got a great idea. Yeah.

First, we're going to set up a primer for guys going on dating sites, what to do and what not to do. And we'll have to take a picture. Then we're going to put out an advertisement or advertisement if you're from across the pond. And we're going to say, who wants to come to our singles event that we're hosting? There will be lots of champagne. Susan's going to cook everyone dinner. I'm not going. cooking. See, I just knew what you're going to happen. How about working out on the first date?

Oh, hell no. Well, just it depends how you do. I mean, if it's in a gym, I think younger people might do that. I work out in a gym first, you know. You what? I would want to meet them before my first date were going to the gym. Well, I think younger people that might be appropriate. I think I work out at the gym all the time, but I don't want to meet a guy for the first date. I'm going to the first time he's never seen me in sweat clothes with my hair pulled back and no makeup on i'm a little more vain than that all right double dates in the beginning of the relationship i'm okay with that i'm okay with that too it's kind of comfortable yeah i'm in with that i have no problem with that what but susan what happens what happens i'm i'm fantasizing what happens

She sounds so serious. I'm waiting like with breath over here. I just want you to hear this. You and I go on a double date. I'm with you know some great guy from Joan's season.

You're from some great guy from Jones season. I told you I'm fantasizing. And then they both want to date me or they both want to date you. That's my nightmare. I mean, how uncomfortable would that be? Well, how would you know?

how would you know you're not going to know he leans over to me he leans over to me and says kathy i know i'm here with susan but could i get your phone number oh god that would be uncomfortable yeah a little bit and that they'd be uncomfortable until i scribbled my number in capital numbers with my name and address and how about pda yeah i was just going to say i'm off on a tangent here yeah i'm in yeah i'm in too there's nothing wrong with it to a point like yeah you know it's the point where you're grossed out, get a room, but there's nothing wrong with it. I agree. Asking cute guys for their numbers. It absolutely out. I will never do it. Yeah, I don't think I could do it. No, I don't know that there's anything wrong with it, but I just don't think I could

do it. Ghosting. Gee, that just happened to me, Susan. What? Ghosting. Oh, ghosting. Oh, absolutely out. It is just, you're an ass. You're a complete ass. Capital T. Capital T. ghosting is never okay. Not ever. I'm going to tell everybody, since I brought it up, I'm going to tell everybody a little bit about what happened. I met this, this guy reached out to me on Facebook dating, a very, very, very, very wealthy guy, probably the wealthiest guy I've ever met.

But you know what? Money doesn't talk to me. I'm not wealthy, but I got enough money to pay my bills and, you know, travel. occasionally I'm good but this guy had been married and had gotten burned and then he had had a girlfriend and he'd gotten burned both

financially and so he would but he was he said you're beautiful you're smart you know he said all the right things said all the right things took me out for dinner to the whole nine yards talked on the phone a lot and I alluded to this before I was telling my daughter and she goes mom whoa he needs to slow down I said I know

it's a little uncomfortable for me And so I kind of told him that it was a little uncomfortable. And then there were a couple of the things that I won't go into that he said that I thought, ew. And I guess I guess I wasn't as subtle as I thought I was about. No, Kathy. Thanks a lot, Susan. And he ghosted me. And here's the commander.

In fact, I would like some people to write in. I actually, I've already asked Susan's advice. do I, I've never been ghosted before and this guy what does he love bomb me I mean he loved bomb me so I'm actually because I'm a smart girl here

I don't care I actually was already trying to figure I had to extricate myself I was going to extricate myself anyway it was just I just thought it was going to be too much with him but to ghost never to call again but never but he ghosted me so here's the question bachelor nation

what do you think? I'm serious. I want to hear your opinion. Should I reach out to him and say what? WTF? Like, why did you ghost me? Just tell me that Susan said not to do it. I'm just stunned because we had so many deep conversations about so many. He told me things. I wouldn't say something, but I wouldn't ask you why. He told me things that he said he had never told anyone in his life and of course I won't repeat them here but we had these deep conversations and in some ways it was great and in some ways it was too much too fast but but so let me know guys should I reach out and say why did you ghost me or or perhaps bachelor nation and all of our listeners should she say not classy like that's that's what susan's suggestion was susan said

I should text him and say, that was so not classy. Never ask why. You're not going to get a real answer. Obviously, he has no class to do something like that, you know. It's a simple text. You don't have to look people in the eye anymore and just say, I'm sorry, I'm just not feeling it. Good luck to you. That's so simple.

Well, as you said, it sounds simple, but I, you know, I didn't want to end. I wanted to give him a chance. Because, you know, as we get older, as we get older, as we. get older um sometimes we make snap judgments and go he's out and that's why you and i've talked susan we're trying to give people a chance right so that's what i was trying to do and we'd expect them to give us a chance yeah but you know what in my heart of hearts cathay's old intuition knew it wasn't him okay how about no sex until a certain date you put a date on it well i think it means i think they mean a certain amount of time is elapsed when you've been seeing someone i would say that's

out i think it depends on the relationship the person how you're feeling all that how about letting a guy fly you out absolutely yes in i wanted you to do it in unison but wait wait let me ask you if you've never met him before now that would be a little different i'd still let him pay for the flight but i probably want my own place have you talked to him on the phone well yeah if he's going to fly you out obviously but you're going to go stay with him or oh well that's what susan that was my next in daring question to you if a guy flies you out which I would let a guy do that

you know what else he'd be paying for my hotel room I will not stay with a guy because you haven't met him it could be a serial I don't care if I met him let's keep it PG here if I go to meet a guy

and I'm staying at his home I know I'm probably going to get flack but I think the expectation would be that I was going to sleep with him I flew you out here. Yeah, I know. Well, I'm not sleeping with a guy until I'm comfortable sleeping with him. Well, everybody listening, please help us with Kathy's answer.

I really want to know what you think because this does it for this episode of Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. I'm interrupting. Would you let a guy fly you out and would you stay with him? No. You wouldn't let him fly you up? Yeah, I'd let him fly me out, but he'd have to get me a hotel room. Oh, good. So we're in agreement.

I love you, Susan. Absolutely not. I love you. I've seen him before, yeah. He can fly me out and I'll stay with them. That's if we've been together. Just with checking that we were on the same page. Okay.

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