Bachelor Happy Hour - Finding Your Joy Again | Golden Hour

Episode Date: July 12, 2024

Today on Golden Hour, Kathy and Susan are back for another round of Friday Fan Questions! We kick off today's episode helping a fan sever ties with a frozen relationship; how do you know when it's time for a breakup? Then, Kathy and Susan help some of Bachelor Nation with some much-needed advice, including navigate life after experiencing impactful loss. Plus, Susan shares some of her hilarious mishaps with past connections that you won't wanna miss!  Tune in now to hear all this and more and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. How serious is youth vaping? Irreversible lung damage serious. One in ten kids vape serious, which warrants a serious conversation from a serious parental figure like yourself. Not the seriously know-it-all sports dad or the seriously smart podcaster. It requires a serious conversation that is best had by you. No, seriously.

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Listen to Culture raises us on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Thanks so much for coming back and joining us. Kathy, you excited about today? Oh, my gosh. If you did not listen to Wednesday's episode, we could have gone on for us. hours. We had Braden and Christina on, and they are amazing. So if you haven't listened to it yet, get on and listen. And wait, how about the good head on their shoulders? They're in their 20s.

I mean, they really spoke well. They learned how to communicate. I really think this one's going to last. I do. Susan, all the ones, all the ones in the recent past from Bachelor Nation, they're all Kelsey and Doughton and I'm in all those couples. What about us? What about us? Hey. Oh, but, yeah. That's coming.

That's coming. I may have a thing. I love what Brayden had to say about the stepdaughter. Can I just tell you, we touched on that. You know, my parents were divorced and the fact that he is, you know, you didn't hear him say, oh, you know, we go to Target and I buy her whatever she wants. He gives the gift of time. And that is always there.

Right. Yeah. And you know what? Kids, as I said during the episode, it's not what you say. It's the trust that he'll be there. And he's giving her the time and attention that she needs. That's so much more valuable. Yeah.

They're amazing. I wish them the best. And you know what? You and I played it right because you know what? You may be marrying them officiating the wedding. And I'm definitely going to be there. and we did offer to be a matrons of honor. So, Christina, don't forget us.

Don't forget us. Here we come, Christina. We're coming. And Braden, I'll buy a really special pair of earrings for the special day. So, Kath, we're going to get started on today's fan questions episode with our topic of the day. But this time, with a little twist. Ooh, okay. So today's topic of the day is inspired by a listener who wrote in,

Shelby asks, I'm in a long-term relationship and I'm reaching the point where I'm just not happy anymore. And I'm seeing more red flags from my partner. A part of me wants to break up with him, but I know I'm going to regret it. How do you think I should proceed? So, Kathy, our question of the day is, how do you figure out when to break up and how do you go about a break? up. Oh, my gosh. Oh, you know what? I quit. You know, y'all, I love Susan. I love Susan, and we talk a lot about, she and I are very different. So, Susan, you go first. Tell everybody, how do you manage your breakup? I don't. I stay way too long because I always feel bad. Oh, my God. Did we not just have this conversation? She said she was going to regret it. now if you're going to break up why are you going to regret it well let me just say listen to what she said shelby says i'm reaching the point where i'm just not happy happy anymore i really it doesn't

really matter why right i mean you're not happy you're not you're not happy you're not happy if he doesn't fold his socks or you know a red flag is a red flag but wait she did say she was been in a long-term relationship now she decides she's not happy It's better that you didn't get married yet, right? So how do you figure it? She wants to know how you do it, Kath. How you figure out when to break up? Think twice.

We're done here. That's exactly, Susan, that's why I love you. How do you figure out when to break up? Shelby, if you are done, you're done. Don't be a jerk about it, but you tell the person kindly. And I'm being serious now. you tell the person your feelings have changed you're just not that into them i think there was a move you called that you know he's just not that into you you're just not that into him and you just

not that into him and you just tell him and you're really sorry and you wish him the best and you know what he may have a broken heart he may not when is the right time to break up it's when you feel it is and you're i'm about to say something that i'm going to take a lot of heat for it's like when you say when is the right time to put a dog down or a cap down when you feel it's the right right time, right? So when you know it's time, it's time. Do it. Why do people struggle? Susan, why do you struggle? Because I feel like I'm going to make them sad and I don't like hurting people's feelings. Great. So let's stay with the guy another six months. And maybe the martyr. No, listen to what I'm saying. So you're going to stay with a guy another six months. He's going to be more

invested in you. And then you're like, yeah, sorry, I wanted to do it six months ago, but I didn't. Like, I don't understand. So, okay, let me see. share this. And it's a bad habit, but I do do it. I end up feeling so guilty and not wanting to break anybody's heart that I do things that will annoy them, that get him to not like me anymore, self-sabotized. I mean, what do you call that? It's stupid. I called stupid. That's what I call it. But through the history of Susan. I just, I don't know, Susan. You and I are very similar. I I've broken up, I mean, that guy that I dated before I came on The Bachelor, who was, you know, a nice guy. And I knew he wasn't the guy, but I kept thinking, you know, Kathy, just give it some time because that's what everyone told me.

Give it time, give it time. Literally, when was the right time? I literally said, he said something that I won't repeat, ask me a question. And I said, you know what? I think we're done here. and he just looked at me and it was like I I it didn't matter I just knew and and you know what you can hurt him now or you can hurt him six months from now but the sooner you move on the sooner you your heart can open for someone else so Shelby move along be nice about it yeah be nice about it but tell him don't take forever like me yeah don't be a Susan it's torture all right let's do some of our questions of the day okay I'm not of the day, our fan questions. Victoria asks,

Hi, Kathy and Susan. I'm 27 years old and currently engaged. I'll actually be getting married in May next year, but it's been a bittersweet experience. It'll be a year since I lost my dad unexpectedly this June, and I've been struggling with celebrating these milestones, but I know my mom is struggling in her own way,

experiencing this time without my dad. do you have any advice or words of encouragement for us as we continue to navigate milestones like this? Okay, I'm trying not to cry. I know. That's a break in my heart. Yes, absolutely. Keep your mom so in the loop. Have your mom walk you down the aisle and talk about you wish your dad was here.

But make her the center and the focus and need her and let her know she's needed. And you're so grateful that at least she's here for you. it's okay to mourn your dad and wish you was there but make your mom both your mom and your dad on that day that's yeah i would say victoria my daughter got married two and a half years ago um and her dad passed away by suicide and so they the marriage was really a year later than it would have been and i will tell you sweetie it's really hard it's really hard your dad should be there to walk you down the aisle um it's it's hard but i would encourage you my words of encouragement to you is you love this guy you're starting your life together try to focus on that and that's your happiest

yeah if you're if you want your mom you know my daughter didn't want me to walk her down the aisle i wanted to but she didn't and remember victoria it's your day so love your mom and talk to her about things but this is your day and my advice to you is love the moment be sad that your dad's not there but your dad would want you to be happy on your wedding day he would want and you know what he'll be there he'll be watching over you and have a big picture of him there that he's there you know and you know what there's going to be tough milestones when you have your first child or you know a career move or something that you wish you could celebrate with him but just be patient with yourself and your mom and your family.

And Victoria, I wish you a lifetime of happiness. Absolutely. And include your mommy because she's sad too. That's, yeah. Yeah. God bless you. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam.

Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast. So we'll find out soon. This person writes, has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now hold up, isn't that against school policy?

That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

I never envision being with a woman. I'll just be honest. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, Politics. On this week's episode, I'm joined by basketball legend Candice Parker, who stops by to discuss her candid new book, The Can Do Mindset, in which she shares why she waited two years into marriage to come out. Like when I close my eyes at night, every night, I was like, I need to find my prince charming. Like, it was never a princess. Like, that never entered into my mind.

But, you know, as I learned, sometimes life gives you things wrapped in a package that you didn't expect it. And that was just, you know, and honestly, it took me a long time to be okay with myself. Make sure to listen to this week's episode of Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. How serious is youth vaping? Irreversible lung damage serious. One in ten kids vape serious, which warrants a serious conversation from a serious parental figure, like yourself. Not the seriously know-at-all sports dad or the seriously smart podcaster. It requires a serious conversation that is best had by you.

No, seriously. The best person to talk to your child about vaping is you. To start the conversation, visit talk about vaping.org. Brought to you by the American Lung Association and the Ad Council. Okay, this one is anonymous. My father-in-law passed away from lung cancer in December. Since then, my mother-in-law has spent her time planning a memorial party for him. The party is in a couple of weeks, but I'm really worried about her after it happens

because she doesn't have much to pass her time. is in her late 60s, doesn't drive more than a couple miles, and can't walk for more than a mile or so at a time. Her daughter lives with her, but otherwise she may go days with her only social interaction coming from social media. Do you have any tips for activities we might suggest and the ideas of how to meet friends in your golden years? I do. That's so sweet that They're worried about her, though, first and foremost. There are so many senior groups out there. It takes a little bit of time anonymous, but research online.

When my husband died, my daughter researched, I didn't even know the word meetup groups, but my daughter did it, and I joined some walking groups. I know your mom can't do that. Your mother-in-law can't do that, but look for some meetup groups. They do things like go out for me. or go to movies or things like that. And it's a great way for your mother-in-law to have social interaction and meet some new people. She may reject it at first because she's going to have to mourn.

She's keeping herself very occupied planning this thing. She's got to go through all the steps of mourning, you know, and you can't make her find a friend. You know what I mean? That has to happen, but put yourself out there. Yes. Exactly. Maybe church. Maybe, you know. Yeah. Do you have any tips for activities we might suggest? So, you know, meetup groups, that kind of thing. And our senior centers, a knitting group. I mean, there's all kinds of things. A book club. A book club. Exactly. Bowling. You get the lightest ball in the alley. And get a gutter ball. But it's going to be tough for a little while. And I don't know. I was lucky enough to make some great friends going on the. golden bachelor maybe you suggest that to her next year she's sitting right there but i wish she luck and god bless you for worrying about her yeah isn't that nice that she cares about her mother-in-law so much

absolutely absolutely all righty jeff asks hey ladies how goes it jeff here i'm 65 work in washington dc and i'm a major league fan of the golden bachelor where are you jeff I enjoy your show and all your IG posts. Here's a question I have. And I actually thought of it after the second episode of the Golden Bachelor. Both of you are consistently upbeat and funny. I know it's not insincere because I've worked in politics most of my life and can spot posers rather quickly. You know those individuals who are always forcing a happy disposition.

I know there's a lot of men and women our age who want to have your kind of loose approach to everyday life. Hence, my question is, do you girls have any pointers or advice on how people can adopt being happy, go lucky, and authentic? Is there a mindset you carry within you that makes you just roll with it all and with a good attitude? Is there something daily someone can do to be this way. Thanks for taking my question again. Love you ladies and the show. Wow. Susan, you're not going to believe. Wait, you are not going to believe this. Why, you know them? I do. Nuh. Sorry. Are you kidding me? I think I know who this is. We have talked online. We've talked about meeting at some point. I think this is who it is, but I'm not going to say this last time. So she gets two,

I get none? You know what? I was very good in math. two minus zero is still two two to nothing Kathy um Jeff if this is the Jeff that I know um that is his name too I that is his name and I didn't see it when you I didn't read and I'm thinking why aren't you sharing your DMM with me you said now I got crickets crickets that's what you say you're hiding them tell the truth Kathy I we have just chatted a few times he's he does work in the DC area if this is the same guy so let me let me address the question though um i don't think susan and i have a loose approach to life um we're definitely not loose um i think that we just enjoy life because we have seen some of the

sadness and the hard times in life and susan stop me if i'm wrong or if you disagree but we have lived some tough times and we know that there is a you know that the salt's going to run out of the or whatever that metaphor is at some point. And you need to enjoy life. And so adopting being happy, go lucky, or authentic, I think being authentic, you either are or you aren't. And we are, and I think you are. Being happy go lucky is a choice, Jeff.

It is a choice. Some people don't have happy in them. The happy. Oh, you know what? You've said that to me before. They don't. I don't surround myself with people like that, that I had really good friends that were gloom and doom and miserable most of the time.

I don't like to be near those kind of people. I think he said, is there something daily? You know, honestly, every morning I wake up and I thank God for this day. And I just, I literally say a prayer of being grateful for the day. And then I try to find during the day just any little thing to be grateful. grateful for. I mean, like today, it was, my garage door is broken. That's a whole other story. You know, $1,000 spring is coming my way. And it's 100 degrees here. And I'm just grateful that there was an open space in the shade to park my car. I'm grateful for that. It makes me happy. Which brings me

to, you can't make people have a positive attitude. I'd suggest some books that I've read along the way that help me about the universe and what you're putting out there the vibe that you're putting if you're feeling negative thoughts and asking for these positive things it's not going to blend you've got to be one in the same you've got to believe i wake up every morning grateful as well i also ask god please let me walk straight to the bathroom and nothing hurt some days i go oh wait a minute if you're waking up and nothing's hurt hurting you you're bionic this point. I mean, literally, I was at my daughter's the other night and I got up on, you know, I walk five miles every day and I, if I don't stretch, it catches up to me later than a day.

You got to remember, God, stretch. I got off the sofa and Caitlin looks at me. She goes, Mom, what's wrong with you? I said, I walk five miles and I'm old and I'm stiff. What's wrong with you? She started laughing. The point is, Jeff, the point is the, the happy is getting up and walking the five miles the good attitude is yeah i didn't stretch it you know you don't focus on the not stretching and the hurting when you wake up in the morning you focus on the good stuff you'll focus on the friendships your children all the good things in life look for the positives not the negatives they dwell on the negatives not and if this is the jeff that i know reach back out to me yeah call me why is she getting everything thanks jeff thanks jeff for your

for your for your question we love hearing from you all right we've got time for another one here this is from anonymous there are a lot of anonymous why are you not telling your names or where you live no no no if you feel you know what i want to say that people if you're not comfortable we are fine with you being anonymous because whatever question you're asked me out if you want to ask me out i need a name well and and he's asking me first so there's that but the point is if you're asking the question if you're asking a question somebody else has the same question so okay here we go anonymous says hi kathy and susan i need some advice i'm really confused right now i've been dating my boyfriend jack for about two years everything has been going great and i really thought i knew everything about

him yeah no we're part of a close-knit friend group a mix of his friends from college and mine and we all hang out together a lot there's this girl in our group lisa She was part of the sorority that mixed with my boyfriend's frat when they were in college. I've always gotten along with Lisa really well. She's fun, smart, and we've become pretty close friends. Last weekend, a few of us went out for drinks, and after a couple of hours, the conversation turned to past relationships and flings. I wasn't really paying attention until one of Jack's friends, clearly tipsy, blurted out. Remember when you and Lisa used to hook up?

everyone went silent and jack looked really uncomfortable lisa turned bright red and awkwardly laughed it off saying it was a long time ago and not a big deal i was stunned jack had never mentioned anything about having a past with lisa and it hit me out of nowhere i didn't really want to make a scene so i didn't say anything but now i can't stop thinking about it why didn't either of them tell me jack tried to talk to me about it later that night but i was too upset and asked him to give me some space. I don't know what to do. Should I confront Jack and Lisa about this again? Should I just let it go since it happened before we were together? I'm worried this might change the dynamic of our friend group or make things really awkward. Any advice on how to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated. First of all, how long ago was college?

And damn, that's his past. You didn't even know him then. You have no right to judge. I get it'll get in your head a little bit, but no, don't make a big deal out of this. No, I think you're missing this. Why? She said we're a part of a close-knit friend group, a mix of his friends from college and mine. Yeah.

So Lisa was his friend. They've all been in this friend group. Yes. Theoretically for a while, she's dated the guy for two years. Susan, I am going to say I wholeheartedly disagree with you on this. If we have a close friend group, you and I are in a close friend group, and you have slept with the guy that I am dating. They didn't say slept with.

They said hook up. Is that hook up? Wait, honey. It could have been a makeout session. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Listen, you are 67 hookup in this parlance means getting it on. Having sex, doing the deed, sticking it, whatever you got it now? Great.

Okay, let's move on. All right. So they did the dance day. So they did the deed. And I got to say, I find that very suspect that he or Lisa. Saying it was a long time ago, right? I don't care. A small friend group, I'm saying you got to, you got to bring that one up.

I mean, hooking up is different from having an emotional relationship. Well, she says here that he tried to talk to her about it that night. that oh come on susan i would say give me some space like i i feel for her shocked awkward all of the above and you know what lisa turned red because she probably was really embarrassed that sure she was that this is how it came out that they agreed not to tell this girl and yeah so okay so my advice anonymous and again i'm you're not the only one in this boat sweetie so my advice to you is take a breath think about what what you really want to ask him.

Do you just want to know if they hooked up? Because they did. That's what you heard. So if you want to know, you know, I always say to my kids, don't ask a question that you don't want the answer to or you already know the answer to. So we already know we hooked up with her and Susan just learned what hooking up means. I really thought it was makeout session. Yeah, my daughter made fun of me. I've got to be honest, I didn't know we didn't know my daughter from schoolmate.

But any who, so she already know that. I might even have been said, yeah, I hooked up with him. I didn't sleep with them. Oh, my God. Yeah, well, now you know. Okay, she says, should I let it go since it happened before we were together? Of course not, because it's already. Why happened long?

Wait a minute. You can let it go in terms of not being angry. But you can have the conversation with Jack, anonymous, and say, hey, we've been together two years and we've had this close friend group and you know it was just a horrible way to find out it's not that i judge you for it it's not i didn't even know you that she she should be able to say that's fun that's fun and he and he better say how much more she likes her yeah exactly and jack may i make a suggestion buy her some beautiful flowers or diamond earrings or let's go for it diamond ring if she's the one make something happen here jack make some music i feel bad for her

that sucks to find out like that she probably had a pit in the bottom of her stomach she wanted to throw up well you know the odd thing is the odd thing is they're all that's the red flag for me they're all really good everybody knew but me yeah well i don't know if anybody i don't know if everyone knew oh yes obviously yeah i mean and i would i would probably tell the whole thanks guys thanks you all of you MFers knew this and nobody tried to tell me Susan I love you that's a lot of bravado I think you would be heartbroken and and upset you pissed off I would tell them all you know me for all of you who have been listening to our podcasts and love Susan she has a stash of baseball bats and I think one would come out here am I right yes

My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam, maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same

And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the Iheart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, and on the latest episode of Politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party.

What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives, and that's been part of the challenge. But we continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents, to stand up for your constituents. And there's life after Congress. And you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your time in the House of Representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years,

but their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. How serious is youth vaping? Irreversible lung damage serious. One in ten kids vape serious, which warrants a serious conversation from a serious parental figure, like yourself.

Not the seriously know-it-all sports dad, or the seriously smart podcaster. It requires a serious conversation that is best had by you. No, seriously. The best person to talk to your child about vaping is you. To start the conversation, visit talk about vaping.org. Brought to you by the American Lung Association and the Ad Council. Are you ready to play some moral quandary? All right, go for it.

All right, here we go. I'll start us off and let's see where this goes. You use your friend's phone to take pictures of her and you see a notification from a group chat of all your friends that you're not in. Do you confront her? Do you snoop? Do you ignore it? I go, hey, what is this about?

Why didn't anybody tell me? I don't know. Wait, Susan, you blew it again. I am supposed to say. Oh, I'm supposed to guess what cat? This game should be different. No, you need to learn the rules of the game. I don't follow the rules, Kathy.

To the world, Susan does not follow rules. So what do you think I would do? I know you would confront her. You, for sure. Confront her, I would snoop. You wouldn't ignore it. You would confront her. Yeah, you're right.

But I wouldn't do it in a mean way. I would just say, hey, why. Why do you and Joan and Nancy have this thing going, why didn't you include me? I would, I'd probably have my feelings hurt if it were, you know, friends and I knew. Absolutely. I'm going to have to erase the one that we have all going that you're not in, Susan. Great. You know, some things are better left on them.

That's all I'm going to say. But don't ask me to use your phone, you dumb head. No. Yeah. You know what? That one's also at my age. I don't know that I'd be as upset. like as a teenager when I asked people to go to the mall and found out they went without me

and told me they couldn't go. That hurts. They've done it to my daughter. Like kids can be mean. But as an adult, maybe it was a surprise for me. I think I'd still be hurt. If y'all went out for drinks and didn't invite me, I'd be hurt. Oh, God. Yeah. Okay. During a double date with your best friend and your boyfriends, her boyfriend puts his hand on your knee for a brief moment. He's always been really nice to you, and this action makes you rethink everything. Your friend seems oblivious, but your boyfriend clocks it immediately. What do you do? Okay.

I think you would say something to the girl or the guy. Like, what are you doing? You'd make a joke of it. Like, you would just make it light and air. Hey, you're trying to rub my leggings. So I got my boyfriend here. You better watch out. Exactly.

Get your hand off me. But you would make a joke of it. You wouldn't say, what the hell are you doing? Because I'd be uncomfortable. What do you think I would do? You'd get excited. You got two now. No.

No, you know what I would do? I don't know what you do that. I can tell you what I would do. I would take, nicely take his hand off of my thing. And I would turn to my boyfriend. I put, no, yeah, I would take his hand and put it back on. Because she said it made me rethink everything. even know what that means but i would like lean over and give my boyfriend a kiss and say you know

your mind i just like i would just i wouldn't make a big thing of it i would just end it quickly i mean was it just for a second or was he really like did he squeeze it or i might ask him to move his hand up and massage my whatever i mean he just might you know like i'd do that like yeah oh you know people are very sensitive they are too sensitive i am harmless so people think i'm the biggest flirt in the world i want everybody's boyfriend i'm just flirty i don't mean any excuse me to the world out there bachelor nation and anyone else who's tuning in and i'm available susan's available and she's only flirty unless she wants the guy and then you're toast she's going in for the kill all right here's the next one you see your current partner out at lunch with their ex that you

didn't realize they still talk to do you go over to them bring it up later or try to forget about it I forget trying to forget about it. You don't forget about it. Me, me. Oh, my God, Susan. I'm saying you wouldn't forget about it. Nobody would. That's, that part don't count.

Okay. So what would I do? You'd probably go up to them. Oh, my God, no. No. Oh, are you kidding? I do not like confrontation. No, what is ex-white?

My current partner. Wait, the guy I'm dating is out to lunch. He's out to lunch with his ex. And I didn't realize they still, there's an issue right there that I didn't know they're still talking together. I'm thinking my current boyfriend's about to be my ex, but that's a whole nother story. But I would never go over to them. I would ditch the place so quickly. You would go up to them.

I don't know in the moment that I would. Really? Yeah. It would depend if it's his ex-girlfriend or his ex-wife. I don't know, like if it's ex-girlfriend, I'm not going to be seen. I'm going to hide somewhere and watch. I'm going to stake it out. But if it's his ex-wife, it could be anything.

And if she knew about me, then, yeah, I'd make my presence known. Yeah, I guess it depends on the ex, but I certainly would not go up to them. All right, your neighbor is constantly flirting with your husband. Oh, this is, she bakes him, his favorite cookies for his birthday, and will always say things like how they need to go on a golf trip together. She's nice to you, but only ever. brings up topics you can't participate in. What do you do? Okay, Susan, I'm your neighbor and I'm constantly flirting with your husband that you don't have. What do you think? What do you

think I would do if the tables were reversed? You're coming over to my house. What would I do? You'd say something to her. No, you're flirting with my husband. What would I say? Why am I doing it now? What would you say to me? You want them? Can I just say, we're going to have to come up with the, new game because Susan's really stuck. I always think I'm reading the question and I'm feeling the answers of what I do. You, I don't know what anybody would do. I mean, I know you, but it just said your neighbor. No, I would go to my husband and say, do you see what I see? Is there something wrong with this picture? And then maybe at the right time, I'd say, you know, I, he's taken.

Your fucking cookies aren't that good. Since I bake, he's eating my cookies first. Let me just tell you. Because you know what? I send my next door neighbor chicken cutlets all the time and his wife's there. Your wife is over at your house hanging with you all the time. There's nothing going on there.

I will tell you, I would not like it. I would not like it. I would not like it. Unless she was like, you know, 40 years older. No, were you, Susan, you were flirting with my husband. It wouldn't bother me because I know the bond. But, you know, all right. Your friend that went through a tough break...

Why don't you get to read them all? Oh, sorry, go read. No, go ahead. I like when you read. I'm a reader. All right. Your friend that went through a tough breakup shows you the profile of the guy on Hinge, who she's going on her first post-breakup date with.

You realize it's a guy you casually dated last year that you were super into, but he ghosted you. You don't say anything, assuming it won't last. fast forward they've been dating for a few weeks and he didn't remember you when she quote introduced you unquote what do you do okay what would i do i need to read it again okay well while you're reading that i'm going to tell you she goes on her first but okay you realize a guy you casually dated you were super but he ghosted you are you going to tell you don't you don't Don't say anything assuming it won't last.

And he didn't remember you when I would, what would I do? You would tell me in a heartbeat. Absolutely. What would I do? Oh, don't overthink this, Susan. I overthink everything. Oh, my God, girlfriend. I would tell you in a heartbeat.

You're going to tell. If it's me. If it's me, you're going to tell. Hell no. Hell no. Let me, let me phrase this for you. Louise. You know, Johnny, we just met.

guess what he didn't remember meeting me i remember him he had bad breath and stepped on my toes we had a day three weeks ago to him you were very into him and he ghosted at you hey i want to give you a fair share here that guy ghosted me i was really into him maybe i wasn't for him but i'm just telling you what happened that's exactly okay and then i would say he had bad breath and stepped on my feet because he's not right and he didn't dress in his shoes were weird and you know what you can have them. He's all yours, sweetheart. Let me come on the first date.

No, seriously, though, would that, no, but seriously. So wait, this is kind of funny, Kathy, listen to this. So my cousin Donna and I were both on dating site, da, da, da, da, and she used to come to me and say, wait, I'm talking to this guy. Tell me first. Did you already meet him? And the answer probably was yes. Yep, I'm out of you can have.

Oh, that's funny. It was a story. I have a really funny story. I'm sorry. Okay. No, go, go, go. So an ex-boyfriend, okay, I'm friends with all these people down there. There's couples getting married and I'm invited to the wedding. So I'm on the phone with his daughter and we have to include him for something, for his charge card, whatever. I'm helping her get the place, blah, blah, blah, blah. Long story short, I go, okay, I'm going to add your dad. So I add him to the call. And this man insists the phone. I know. and this man answers the phone and I don't recognize the voice and I'm saying his name and he goes yeah and I go no I go say your dad he goes who is this and I said Susan he goes wait a minute wait a minute

Susan from the golden bachelor I was like uh yeah he goes we went on a date five years ago I go oh my god did you dial the wrong number it was the wrong it was the same name but one had an initial after it and I was, you know, I wanted to die. That is going to teach you. It's called culling your phone book. Cull? I see. If you're not dating them anymore, take them off the roster.

Do you know what a roster is? Take them off. You can only have 20. 11 on a side on a soccer team. You can't have 15. I have like 9,000 numbers in my phone. Well, you deserve everything you get. But wait, I used to put fake names and try to remember who they were.

I'd say that Donna, I don't, I'm going on a date and I don't remember the guy's name. Can I tell you? Wait, can I just tell you? Trust me, I haven't dated very much. I'm so glad that's over though. I went on a date with a guy. There was a time for a little bit there when I sort of was really trying to date just to, you know, to meet people. Yeah.

And I had like three dates in a week and I called the guy by the wrong name. Have you ever done that? Mm-hmm. Oh, it's so embarrassing. so embarrassing it sure is and I admit it to one guy you were my second date today this ain't working either I'm out of you no wonder I'm alone I'm honest to a fault you and I wonder why we're single I know I can't you're not now Papa Lou I just saying Papa Lou listen

Kathy for those of you listening in this today I got to surprise Kathy some gentleman seems like a charm. This is what you're missing. You are missing these things. Wrote in. Asking Kathy out pretty much. Describe himself.

I mean, he was such a general. I got to be there when they meet. I'm just saying I'm a little jealous. Susan's already fast forwarding to officiate the wedding. I know this where this is going. Depends on where he lives. I'm going to tell you all, it really wasn't surprised. I had no idea.

I'm trying to wrap up the thing. You had to see her face. She's looking through her papers. she don't have this copy. We had to try to surprise her. And I'm like, Kathy, just work with me here. Shut up. Zip it.

Popaloo, I promise. I was totally surprised. I love it. You know what, though? That does it. It went so fast. That does it for today's episode of Happy Hour. Golden Hour.

Thanks so much for joining us. And be sure to submit your questions to us at bachelornation.com slash golden hour. We love, really truly love getting to connect with all. all of you. We love hearing what's on your mind and giving you some advice. And in my case, I love getting suggestions for dates. So keep those coming to. And you know what, Susan's great too. So send her some invites as well. You can pretend. I mean, just like make me feel good, you know, but don't ghost me. Listen to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour on the Iheart Radio app or wherever you listen to your podcast. Until next time. See you then. Bye.

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