Bachelor Happy Hour - Flashing Red Flags with Hakeem | Golden Hour!

Episode Date: November 20, 2024

Today on “Golden Hour,” we have fan favorite from Jenn's season and future “Paradise” star Hakeem with us! Hakeem is here to spill the tea on his life post-show. We get into what he's most excited about for “Paradise” and who he has his eye on. Then, we discuss our question of the day: What is your idea of romance? Plus, he offers advice as we dive into your listener write-ins! What do you do when you suspect your boyfriend is jealous of your bestie? Is a cross-country move a romantic gesture or a red flag? We get into it all! Tune in now, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, and on the latest episode of Spolitics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives. We continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents. and there's life after Congress. Make sure to listen to this episode of Politics

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Susan. We're here together. And in the same room. It's Bachelor Happy, Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Done right here in L.A. We get to stare at each other instead of a square. I'm telling you. like this. I like this set up a lot. I know. And I think the people are going to like it as well because

we roll off each other. You know that. So should we move to LA so we can do this all the time? I might be in our future. I don't know. But you people out there, if you haven't had time to follow us, you're going to miss all of it. If you follow Bachelor Happy Hour, you'll be notified every time we come out with something new. And it's not hard to find. Just go to Bachelor Happy Hour in your podcast app and click the follow button. That's simple. We're right there. I'm right.

All of them. Yep. And, oh, there's a voice. Do you hear that voice? I can't wait. I can't wait. It's so freaking cute. Okay.

We're getting ahead of ourselves. We're getting ahead. Okay. Please write us more questions because that's what we do here. We give advice and our guest help give advice. Susan, how do they write questions? Where do they go? What do they do?

They don't know that yet. Come on, Kathy. Bachelornation. com slash golden hour. Okay, y'all just heard that in unison. Next time we're going to have blaring trumpets so you can find us. We have some great questions today too. Oh, no, but today, our special guest. Our fan favorite from Jen's season of the Bachelorette and another future and handsome, handsome, how many times can we say it? Paradise star, Hakeem. Hi. Thanks so much for joining us. We are so

excited to be chatting with you. We're both looking for dates and we're thinking you might be able to help us out. I mean, I would love to take both you on dates. You guys would make me look good. What's your idea of romance or a perfect date?

Yeah, we want to know before we decided if we're going with you. Yeah, I mean, so I would have a little, you know, a little, what I would say, mattress, not a mattress, a little rough. We are not going to bed on the first date. Hold on. Hold on. You guys got me flushed. Hold on. No, no. Not with us. Not with us. For real. Like your idea, if you wanted to impress someone and take someone on a romantic date. What does that look like? The most romantic date I've ever taken a woman on was going to the beach. At late at night, kind of looking at the stars, you know, when she's on the beach. And also with the more wine.

You're not trying to get her to the lifeguard stand or anything, right? You know why, Hakeem, you know why Susan knows that? When I was 18. She knows every life, she knows every lifeguard stand on the East Coast, apparently. That was love. That was really love. Even for you, that was love. Okay, bachelorset.

It was Kathy joking. Susan is a nun. Somewhere in between. I don't know the generation today probably don't even do things like that, but that's the first thing that came to mind. It's romantic. Uh-oh. We're going to.

All right. So wait, we got to go. Since we're talking about dating. And Paradise, congrats to you on getting a ticket to paradise. Whoa, you already know. What are your thoughts? What do you think about this, your journey? What are you thinking?

Honestly, I'm so excited. Like, when I say so excited, I don't know what to anticipate because I thought I knew what I was going to anticipate going into, you know, Jen's journey. And let me tell you, I did not know what I was getting by myself into. So I'm really just trying to have no expectations going there with an open mind. How would you feel, Susan, and I show up? We already asked them now. Do you have anybody that you know you wish that?

You want there. Who do you want? You would like to be there. Okay. Yeah. Because we can help you out with that. And no one's listening. This is not going public, so just spill your guts to us.

No, no. There's no big deal at all. So there was this lady by the name of Olivia. She was on the last season of Bachelor in Paradise, actually. Yeah, she's the light skin, curly hair. Are you chatting with her? No, I have not chat with her because I don't know if I'm able to chat with them or if I'm not supposed to or if I'm supposed to just wait.

But you don't know if she's on the show yet, right? Is she going on there? No, I have no clue. It's called a DM. Yeah. So you're going to find a DM. You know, you just said how hip is and aren't. We know it's called slide into her DM.

Because they told us that was going to happen, however it has. If you're waiting, listen, if you're waiting for the girls to come not, as handsome as you are, if you're waiting for the lovely ladies to come knocking in your door and say, Hakeem, where have you been on my life? That's not happening. So get your computer tablet out and start doing what you need to do. All right, fill us in on your life. I'm a shooter. I'm a straight shooter. I'm not a person that's going to sit around a week. That's why I like it. Ditto. I didn't want to rush the process because I feel like it's a process. I really want everyone to see if I do have compatibility with her that they can see from the foundation.

Listen, I'm more than competitive. Why would you want to risk Olivia meeting 10 other guys? Go grab her now. Take, you know, go for the win now. Go for the win now? But you don't know her yet. Should I follow her right now?

I'll follow her right now. Right now. Follow her. Hakeem. We're going to rewind this whole thing. Hakeem. Three, two, what? Hakeem, do not reach out to her.

Go to Paradise. Let what's going to happen. Happen. Disagree. Let her. Fall in love or don't fall in love. But we all know the process works. You know, fall in love under the stars and a beautiful...

Blah, blah, blah. Reach out, babe. Reach out. Let her know. Well, now you've seen it. All right. Tell me about your life. What's happening now?

Besides looking for Olivia. I'm very much focusing it on myself right now. I'm not really dating, really traditionally, would you say? You know, the process of getting to know Jen and just getting to know all these producers and all that and my castmates it really allowed me to find out more about myself or where I lack if that makes any sense.

What did you find out? What do you lack about that? I put a, I think I put everybody above myself like my mother, my best friends, my family, my anybody, like really I put their needs and their wants above my own. So you're a giver. An extreme, yeah, big giver, big giver.

So, like, it's... To a fault. Exactly, me as well. To a fault. Well, you know what? I'm a taker so you can bring it all in. I'll give you all you want. I don't think we'll ever change.

That's our nature. However, what I've gotten out of it, like you're saying, I fell in love with who I am. I'm good people as you fell in love with yourself. We're worth it. Let people. do you know you don't have to put everybody else higher than you you're good i appreciate that no it's uh yeah it's been a it's been an interesting journey for myself in journaling um you know talking to getting close with my family because my family's not very emotional you know we don't

have those little deep talks you can't suppress your feelings do you come from a large family hakeem yes yes i would say i have uh i have six siblings i would say that's a large family You hesitated. What do we need a baker's dozen here to consider it a large family? Yeah, it's just complicated. Where do you come in on the family? I'm in the middle. In the middle.

Oh, a middle child. Middle child. Yeah. So I've got no love. Always eager to please. Well, on. So wait, I want to know, I was the youngest, so, you know, different, different play there. I was the oldest.

But I was not spoiled. Okay. I have a question. We heard that. you had went to a dating coach, $5,000 dating coach. I want to, first of all, we got to talk. We got to talk. I did it too.

Clearly it didn't work. My girl's doing good. My girl, Susie. You're hilarious. I spent so much damn money and look at me now. You're beautiful. I'm looking at you. God bless you.

But tell me, what did it do for you? What was your experience like? It didn't do, excuse my friends, a damn thing for me. So for me, I was so heartbroken because my ex-girlfriend at the time broke up with me over text next to that. But I take for responsibility of why we ended. Why? I didn't see things in other people's point of view, right? So you kind of communicate with somebody and then you deliver it how you think is the best way,

but not thinking how she might be receptive to that. How she hears it. Exactly. And, you know, at that time, I was young. a little boy in my, if I look at it now. And yeah, so I think she did the absolute right thing. I wish she would have broke up with you in person, but she broke up with me over. How long had you dated her?

Just about a year. Well, see, I think that's... That's a long time in my morals. I know you, at 30, I mean, you learned something from every relationship, right? Absolutely. And that's the value. Even a year of her heart's broken, you learned something. So tell me, you've paid all this money for some dating advice or a site that's...

Yes. She broke up with me up her text message And I wanted to get this woman back And I was so desperate Because I felt like I screwed up So bad, I need help So then I looked up on YouTube How to get my ex back

And then it was like, if you want to get your ex Got suckered in Five installments of $1,000 And I'll get your girl back And I'm like, I'm crying, I'm crying I need her back I need her back from my credit card at I love him.

I'd like me by credit card. I couldn't even be 50 years older. We'd be fighting over you, Akeem. We would be fighting over you. So what did they tell you? Anything?

Well, apparently they didn't tell them the right thing. Oh, come on. Well, first of all, I didn't get this woman back. But he literally told me, he said, give her 30 days of radio silence and make her miss you. I'm like, dude, I don't think she's going to miss me. She broke up with me.

Exactly. So nonetheless, I took his advice. I gave her 30 days and then he's like, reach out to her and ask her about a special moment that you had together. Oh, my God. She's trying to go to like a restaurant that you guys went on to like a real night. Man, I could be making money right now. I could tell you.

This is cringing. Go on, go on. But I did it and it kind of did work. So right, I get her to reach back out. She's like, yeah, it was at this cafe, blah, blah, blah. So I was like, cool. So I got her for a little bit. Got her attention.

Potential. intentionally. No, she said you got our attention. Attention. Oh, attention. Yes, yes. Okay. So then I asked her on a date.

He's like just trying to make her fall back in love with you. Go back to the roots. Okay. So then I, you know, I take her on a date. And then she didn't wish me a happy birthday. So I was like, there's no way. Like, there's no way I'm going to be chasing somebody that doesn't care about me to the point that they're not going to wish me a happy birthday, guys.

Wait, I got to ask the obvious question. Did she, I mean, I thought where you're going with the story, you called her a month later and she said, Hakeem, who? What? No. How would you, wait a minute. Wait, she knew when you were, she knew, did she know what was your birthday? Um, I mean, if you're dating me for a year, I would know what, that would have went in my phone with a reminder yearly. I know, I know, I love you.

That's what I'm feeling about. Okay. You know what? I'm just going to go out. Can I just do this? I'm leaving here. You two can have your little kumbaya moment. Now, she's not going anywhere.

My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up.

Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not?

To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jamil Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, Politics. And on the latest episode of politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives. And that's been part of the challenge. But we continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents, to stand up for your constituents. And there's life after Congress.

And you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your thoughts. time in the House of Representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years. But their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Imagine that you're on an airplane and all of a sudden you hear this. Attention passengers. The pilot is having an emergency and we need someone, anyone, to land this plane. Think you could do it? It turns out that nearly 50% of men think that they could

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I'm looking at this thing. See? Listen to no such thing on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. So listen, I paid quite a bit of money, okay? And it was on all those free sites. The first date. Now, I specified what I wanted and the background checks and the whole bit. The very first date.

You ready? I'm ready. I'm locked in. Hell, I can't wait. At that time, it had to be a certain height. I didn't want a man with small young children, you know, blah, blah, blah. blah, blah, he was, not that bald does mean anything. I like a shaved hat, but he was bald.

He was three inches shorter than me. He had seven children and lived on a farm. Damn. And from great school, middle school, I was like, this is my, I mean, and I shared with him my expectation, and we laughed about it. And I said, I'm sorry, I don't want to waste your time. Second date, and then I'll stop. Second date, I had already gone out with that guy from a free sight.

go and I pay $5,000, I want to blow up this place. I went in that place and I was going. I wouldn't even tell you the words, but seriously, it's a rip off. Oh, I'm dead. Shout out to that farmer, though. He's holding it down. God bless. He was a nice guy.

He was really nice guy. Shout out to the guy. Not my guy. I mean, gosh, I can't even compete with this. I only thing I've even come close to is a. a dating expert called me after I was on the show and wanted me to sign up. And you got a bargain because guess what she wanted me to pay? And I'm not joking.

35,000. And you know what I told her? Well, I can't say in play company, but you can imagine what I said. What you say? No, I can't. You won't say it. You won't say it. You won't say it.

And it had something to do with, you know, pain. Are you fucking kidding me? Well, no. I didn't say that. Say it. Hey, Kathy. Come on, Kathy. We want to hear it.

I'm cleaning up my image. Oh, God's sake. But she then called me like six months later and said she had this guy in Florida that she really wanted me to meet. And how did I feel about that? I said, I feel great about it. Let's go. She goes, well, there is the matter of pain. Oh, my God.

And I said, are you for real? I said, I am not paying to meet a guy. If he's that hot to meet me, he can pay. And she goes, well, I'll have to see if he's willing. And I said, you know what? I just, I mean, we're done here. We're done here. Period.

With an exclamation mark. All right. On behalf of the dating sites, I can't shoot them all down. I marry people. Can I ask a question? Yes. Susan, I heard you're dating somebody. I heard somebody was like a fan who wanted to take a picture with him.

You started liking him. Like, what's going on with that? We go to dinner from time to time. He doesn't want serious. He's not my man. But we're friends. Yes. So what's dating look like for y'all?

Like y'all dating like It sucks right now Hakeem it sucks Huckim you want to hear what my dating life is like Hell yeah Listen Crickets Oh I'm dead

I'm dead Girl I'm with you though I'm rocking with you I'm I'm crickets too I get I don't However we live in our best life We are living our best life And that's the thing for both of us

We are happy We are in love with ourselves Who we are And you seem like you are too It's gonna happen Hakeem when the time is right It'll happen I did get a little chit-chat phone call.

We'll see where that goes. I haven't met them yet, but yeah. Okay. All right. So, wait, a random call? Hold on, wait. I'm so sorry, Kathy. I'm somebody that's been in the same business.

Bachelor world. Yeah, so we'll say, I can't tell you out loud. Yeah. Okay. And you're from the Golden Bachelorette? Hold on, we got to dive into that. Okay, so as we're moving along here. Okay, okay.

So we do these things and we read these questions from our fans, and we give advice. Would you be willing to do that with us? Absolutely. Let me go here. Go ahead. Hi, Kathy and Susan and Hakeem. I'm not sure what to do, and I really need your help. I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over eight months, and I really, really like him. We're thinking of moving in together when my lease is up in a couple of months. Everything between us is really great except for one thing.

He really doesn't like my best friend, Rob. I've been friends with Rob since kindergarten. we've grown up together and he's basically family. I really don't understand why he doesn't like Rob. Rob and I have never in the entirety of knowing each other had any kind of romantic connection. And trust me, I asked our mutual friends once my boyfriend started acting weird about Rob. Rob was in a long-term relationship when my boyfriend and I started dating. They broke up about four months ago because Rob's girlfriend was cheating. Ever since they broke up, Rob's been burying himself in work to avoid dealing with it. So, needless to say, it's not like he started cleaning to me quite the opposite. My boyfriend hasn't outwardly said he dislikes Rob, but I can tell. When I name people that are coming to something or I talk about my friends, his mood visibly shifts when I mention Rob. I've asked if anything happened, but my boyfriend says it's fine, it's nothing, he likes Rob, etc.

I'm starting to feel crazy. I really want to know what the big deal is, but I feel like I'm about to reach the point of pestering. Do I just put my suspicions aside and keep inviting Rob's to things? Do I mention this to Rob to see if he knows anything? Anything helps. Thanks, ladies. Love you. What do you think? What do you think? To be honest with you, it seems like Rob is her best friend, correct? Yes. And then her boyfriend is kind of... Rob was in a long-term relationship when she and her boyfriend started dating,

but they broke up four months ago because Rob's girlfriend was cheating. Right. Her boyfriend's jealous, I'm jealous. That's what it seems like here, because I'm just, I think she should absolutely be there for, you know, for Rob because I have best friends that are women as well, and I think... And you have two new best friends right here.

And we're women. We are. You know? So I think with Rob, I think she absolutely needs to be there for Rob. In my opinion, if it's known in kindergarten, like, that's your ride or guy. Like, that's your home for life. He goes with and without the lovers, you know? He's there forever.

You're sure. I mean, do you think she should say something to her boyfriend? Like, is something up your butt? I mean, what's your problem with Rob? Yes. Absolutely. I think it's communicate. It's trust.

There's obviously a trust issue here. Absolutely. There's a trust issue. Or could it be? You know, some guys, you just don't rub right with another guy. I'm sure there's people in your life are like, eh, I'm not really crazy about him. He's fine, but I'm not going to choose to hang out with him. Like, there's no bad blood, but there's bad blood.

Like, nothing happened, but you just don't feel a certain way. It's like love, hate, and the worst one is indifference, you know? It could be. I don't know. What advice would you have? Communicate. Or let it go. Or let it go and move on.

Go to a beach and go swimming. Look, Connie, if we ever get married, Rob is my best man, so get the fuck over it. Right. You know? I mean, I agree. Yeah. I mean, if you ask me, it depends on their age, too, because, like, you'll think, like, a man and a woman can never be friends without them being, like, something going on with each other. But that's, like, an immature mindset, you know, so I'm with you ladies.

He needs to get over himself, honestly, but she should have a communication, excuse me, a conversation with him. kind of to, like, figure out what's the disconnected to her, him and Rob. Yeah. And if he says nothing, so bad, it's nothing. Move on. Right? Yeah, I think this is like Shakespeare,

much to do about nothing. All right. We have another one. This one's from Mary. Okay. Hi, all three of us. I have a problem with one of my best friends and I can't tell anyone.

So I need your help. Her name is and I found out that she's recently been seeing someone who is planning to file for a divorce. The guy is her dad's employee. He's been married for seven years and I have no idea why they're breaking up. Apparently, she started fooling around with him six or seven months ago. She told me that they were already separated by then, but the timeline feels so sketchy. Oh boy. No one but me knows about them and the guy doesn't even know that I know. What makes me,

It makes it even worse is that he's 36 and we're 22. That's a crazy age gap, if you ask me. I feel like her dad will absolutely flip out if he finds out. I recently went to A.S. Parents Anniversary Party and the guy was there. Apparently, her dad invited a bunch of his employees. It was so awkward being there and being the only person that knew. I just feel like dating him is a really bad idea. Isn't it like the biggest red flag in the world that he's 14 years older than us and not even filed for a divorce?

Am I crazy? I can't tell if I'm just too young for this stuff, but to me this seems insane. What do I do? Thank you. I love you. Wait, I just before Huckkeep, I just got to say, the 14 years pales in comparison to the guy is stepping out of his marriage. what she thinks oh he's found the right one if he's come on like really hello no what do you think hakeem no i'm so against this mary you are in a very awkward situation and i feel you on this first of all

i'm not a big person that's like oh in 14 years so like if you're 35 you're dating a 49 year old that's all right but if you're 22 fresh out of college dating a 36 year old man that's called daddy That's called daddy. That law doesn't go into effect until you're 30 or not allowed to. No, wait, listen, Hakeem, here's the truth. When you are 22 and the other person, 36, that's 14 years, you have a lot of growing to do. Yes. But at my age, you know, I would date some, I would date someone 10 or 12 years younger, not older because they'd be six feet under.

But I'm saying it's different at that young age. It's very different. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam, maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet.

So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jamil Hill, host of the Sports and Politics. And on the latest episode of politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives, and that's been part of the challenge. But we continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents, to stand up

for your constituents. And there's life after Congress. And you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your. your time in the House of Representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years. But their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Anya Yumanzoor. And I'm Drew.

Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. Unfortunately, I feel like this girl is going to get hurt because he's banging her, and that's about what it is. He's not getting a divorce, and she's going to be the ones to cry. He's filed. Are you sure?

Yeah. I got to be honest. What she who's been messing with him before he filed for that divorce. That's what I'm telling you. So she thinks he won't necessarily do it again on top of everything else? Come on. Come on now. A cheater is always a cheater.

I'm not hearing that. You think a cheater is always a cheater? Wait a minute. You think a cheater is always a cheater. Absolutely. If they cheated once, absolutely. I don't, I agree with that. Not when the right, if you fall hard in love, you're never cheating.

I think 90% of the time you're right, Hakeem. But I think there are a few exceptions. I think there's a few exceptions. What? Where's the other 10% going? They cheated once and they're never cheating again. Mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm. I think you're right, for the most part.

I mean, it's a big thing. It's a big thing. I can agree with that. Okay. If you're married, if you're married, it's a different level. It's just different level. You literally said till death, there was part. Like, you know what I mean?

So, like, if you're cheating while you married, that is like, yo, like. That's cool, love that. I love, I love. You respect the marriage valve. Yeah, I love your honesty and your respect for marriage. Do you want to get married? Yeah, my, my goals to get married. I think, like, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I,

really look forward to marriage. I mean, like, unfortunately, my older brother is divorced, my older sister's divorce, my mother's divorce. So it's like, uh, I'm, I really have a lot of pressure on my shoulders and I got to get this right. If that makes any sense, because I don't want to just fall into another category. Exactly. And then just like with my father, like, you probably like, like, why is he so like against cheating? But my dad was a serial cheered. So like for me, like, for me like cheating is a no go, especially if you have like a family and if you have like, um, you know, a whole marriage. That's like something that's like a big, like a big like no no for me.

That's beautiful. That's beautiful. Yeah. So that being said, like for me, it's just I need to, you know, make sure whoever I'm going to get down on one need for is that she's locked in with me as well. Like she seems as being together forever. So like I think this so seriously, hence why I'm still single in trying to find my forever

person because, you know, my time's right, you will. Absolutely. Absolutely. You got to kiss a lot of frogs, that whole thing. Like, you know, it's going to hit you when you least expect it. Kiss a lot of frogs. I don't know about all that, but I don't know about all that. Frog rats, a frog ant, you know.

Because a lot of them don't let a kiss. Oh, please. That's a big red flag. All right. We're moving on. We are moving on. Serena asks, hi, ladies, I need you to tell me if I need to come back down to, huh? Oh, I'm sorry.

He likes the name, Serena. Oh, Serena, okay. I mean, grocery store Joe's wife is named That's right. Okay, Serena, if you're single, we've got Hakeem here, but let's go back. Okay, hi, ladies. I need you to tell me if I need to come back down to Earth. I've been with my boyfriend for about seven months now.

Hakeem, you're out. Which is a hot minute. We're both 26 and I really love him. Everything has been perfect, but the other day, my world turned upside down. I found out he got his dream job with a crazy pay raise, and it's halfway across. the world. I was absolutely devastated. He has to take it. It's a non-negotiable. But what do we do now? It just happened. So we haven't even gotten to the point of talking about us. Is it crazy if I want to

move with him? Is it too soon? I just really feel like he's the one and I love him. Should I ask him or wait for him to bring it up? I just want to get this figured out because if we end up breaking up, I'm going to be totally crushed. What do you think I should do? Thank you. And I really appreciate you ladies. What do you think, Hakeem? That's a no-brainer for me. Me too. Yeah, for me, I'm going to say send it. I think you've got to just go with it. I mean, time is

very, very precious. If you love the man and you want to go, have that conversation with him, don't hold back. So you don't think she should wait and see if he brings it up? Well, what I hear, what I'm reading and hearing you say, she's really, really in love with him. She

says nothing about how he feels about that's where I was going. That's That's where I was going. Let's find that out. We don't. Let's find out how hot and heavy he is. They've been dating seven months. He might be like, oh, hell yeah. I'll see you later. Wait, Hakeem, you put yourself in this position. You're dating. Oh, I don't know. Susan or me.

And we're in love. And we're in love. And we've been dating seven months. You're going to quit your job, leave your family, whatever, your surroundings and go move with this person halfway around the world? I wouldn't say that's crazy in my opinion because like, okay, what happens if you don't do it and you regret. No, but what if the woman hasn't said to you, please, you know, she's got the job transfer.

Please come, I love you. I can't imagine life for that. If she hasn't said that. It just happened. So we haven't even gotten to the point of talking about it. And she's already trying to figure out how to broach the subject. She's a lot. I think she's freaking out.

You know what I think? I think she's very insecure and afraid of. That's big, Kat. That's big. I don't know about that. She feels like she loves him. She's anxious. You know what?

You've got to let things happen in due course. You can't rush things. Oh, look who's talking, Mrs. Pation over here. Hurry up, Susan. Hurry up, hurry up, hurry up, see this, hurry up. I'm talking about dating, not getting dressed to go out. So, Kathy, okay, put yourself there. At my age?

Wait, you fell in love with this guy. It's been about seven months. Things are going great. At my age? It's different. At my age, I would move and keep my house and go back and forth. Okay.

But not at 30. But you would go. Why? What does she have? What does she have? There's nothing holding her back to go with this man that she's so in love with. And he's going to have a crazy pay raise. Wait.

What is her career? What is she? She's not telling us. Yeah. See, I don't like this. I would want an independent woman not a hangar on. It's just me. I don't.

She sounds needy. I would go with him, rock that new place, get a job there, maybe start a new career. I mean, this is why Susan. I love each other. We can never agree. I think she just has to have a conversation. I think she doesn't keep out for sure have to leave with him. I think she has that conversation to see where he's at. I agree with that. I can't ask where he's at. But she's saying, you know, I don't think I can, I'll be crushed if he leaves. I can't understand it. That to me sounds like a desperate girl who, I mean, the words my world turned up.

Side down when I found out. I will be crushed. I mean, these are. He found his dream job. I'd be like breaking champagne. Yes, let's celebrate. Oh, no, no, no. Ms. Kathy.

Every person is subject to have their own feelings. And I feel like if she feels like her world's going to be crushed, I feel like she has every audacity to say my world's going to be crushed, no matter what. Because that's how she feels. No, no, no. She isn't. So no matter what, like, even though, even. know, it might seem asinine to you, but like, oh, my goodness, but if she really loves this guy,

then let her absolutely go and see where this is going to take here. So wait, wait, I'm not disagreeing with you. I think you're misreading what I'm saying. If he has not brought up the subject, if he, I know it just happened, if he does not bring up the subject, if he's just like, you know, Susie Q, I think you're great, you know, let's plan for you to come over next month. Well, that's a whole different thing. saying if he is not saying come with me and she doesn't have a career and she doesn't have anything

but wanting to be with this guy i think and they've only been dating for seven months i think is a red if i were the guy i would see it as a red flag here's the question i have since we disagree is it over between us oh i think you could always agree to disagree why can we be home you and not agree on something right What were you born? Are you a March baby? I'm a June baby. A June baby, okay. My mom's a March baby, actually. Is she? March what?

March 1st. I'm the second. Oh, really? Good people right there. You know, right? When is your birthday, Hakeem? He's a June, maybe. Oh, that's my birthday.

But I got him interested for a minute. Oh, I was like, wait, what? You might find this surprising, Arkeem, I am Torres the Bull. May 9. Are you surprised? May night. I know. I don't know my sister.

I don't even. I just know Pisces. That's all. Oh, wow. That was so much fun. I don't know, but I, Serena, I, I'm just going to say one more time. wait and see if the feeling's mutual see if he feels crushed just give it some time when's he leaving halfway across the world she says again we don't know because she says

I want to move in with him I'll be crushed I want to know how he feels do we need more information here how he came or not I mean I think I mean there's a lot of things that she probably could tell us. Yeah, because she did not tell you her situation when he's leaving, all that and third, because you're not going to have to get up and leave right away. All right. You know what else? You know what else?

You know what else? We have to agree to disagree. Yeah, we do. But what really suck, though, if she does present us to him and he's not wanting her to come, that's going to hurt. Yeah, well, better to find out now than moving how far around the world. Well, we wish you a ton of luck arena. Let us know.

Let us know. And in the meantime, that is going to do it, unfortunately. Already. I know it's over. But for Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour with our fabulous new friend, Hakeem, thank you. Thank you for joining us. And your advice is great except for Serena. I didn't agree.

But we're excited, very excited to see you in paradise. I appreciate that. At least we'll know somebody when we get there. And bring your uncles with you. you know bring your older friends with you okay thank everybody for joining us and i hope you all enjoyed hakeem as much as we did as you know there's new episodes coming out every week just follow us on bachelor happy hour and we are golden hour and make sure because if you love the questions that we talked about today submit your own it's really easy to do just go to bachelor nation

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