Bachelor Happy Hour - Foolish Mistakes | Golden Hour

Episode Date: September 2, 2025

Today on Golden Hour we're getting into more of your questions! We kick things off getting into the question of the day: have you ever seen someone ruin a relationship solely from how they handled a situation? Then, we get into your questions! This week, our fans are flirting with bosses for revenge and getting all the laughs in the group chat - but at what cost? We're dishing out advice all about relationship damage control and jokes that rub your friends the wrong way. Plus, we end things off with another Golden Spotlight: retirement! Tune in now to hear all this and more and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Thanks so much for joining us again. We're so excited to be back. How are you, Kathy? I am fabulous. I am sitting cooling my heroes on vacation, loving the cool weather. But today, we are going to be answering more of your fan questions. Make sure you're submitting them. We love reading them. Just go to bachelornation.com slash golden hour and submit away. Send us everything, your questions, your updates, and your opinions. We want all of it. And you can also DM us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour. Okay. So before we get into the episode, we're going to start with the question of the day, but can I just say to you, my favorite part, but I just want to say, you know, I'm on vacation. I'm in Canada. Do you just love the cool weather, even in summer? Yes. It's like September. It gets real cool at night, and then the mornings are chilly, and then it's really nice all day.

I mean, this is such a tree for me because I'm wearing sweaters and long pants. In Texas, like I won't get weather like this. till like November. But you're lucky because when I was in Canada last year, it was 105. Well, you know, Susan, stay away from Canada. You're ruining this country. All right. And by the way, I'll bring you some maple syrup because I know you like to cook. All right.

Here we go. Question of the day. Have you ever seen someone ruin a friendship or relationship just by how they handled something? What do you think? it's hard for me to remember but yes people do stupid things I mean I have I haven't personally done this but I have seen people let their mouth run away with them and they'll say something that really offends the other person

and like I'm watching this going really did you just say that Right? And they regret it after. Well, some regret it afterwards. But, yeah. I mean, I think, I think it's unfortunate, though. I mean, I think sometimes, you know, your mouth gets away with you. Were you ever in a situation where two of your friends and one of them was being a dick to the other one and you're trying not to pass judgment? I open my big mouth. It's none of my business, but I was in the same car and I'm like, yo, don't talk to him like that. Wait. And then did their friendship deteriorate? No, they're married.

No, I've had, I mean, look at Theresa N. I told her to zip it and how long did it take for us? But how long did it take, right? I think people sometimes don't think, and again, we're older, so we think first. And that's something I learned in my

golden years. We think first before we speak. And so I will say, I I've been guilty, this I have been guilty of. I don't think it's ever ruined a relationship, but I have been guilty of saying something. My sister will often say to me, Kathy, you are an English major, you're a wordsmith.

You correct everybody. No, no, no, no, not grammar. Be precise with your words so that you mean what you say and you say what you mean. Sometimes I will say something, and it's like, well, I didn't mean it that way. So I think sometimes people have to remember that what you say, what comes out of your mouth is what people hear. And that goes hand in hand with the delivery.

That's right. You soften things up, even though you're saying something that's not a positive thing, but the way you say it, some people can accept it a little easier sometimes. But if you say it, like harshly, it's an immediate defense. You and I just talked about this. I met a woman recently in Bachelor World who reminded me of me. And her delivery, I was like, wow. It was like holding the mirror up. Because you noticed it, right?

I liked her a lot, but I could see where what she was saying was right. But I've never lost a friendship over it, then I'm aware of. I've never lost a relationship. Today, when I said earlier about the recap on Bachelor in Paradise how I related to Parisa and I'm so glad that I saw it

because I used to be a lot like that like pull back Susan don't give it all because it could be a turnoff it's smothering Oh wait a minute Well we don't have time to get back into that today but

I thought you were saying earlier that you thought it was great that Parisa complimented him I did because I used to do the same things smother them with good, good, good, good. I don't think it's, so basically what that means is it's all about to chase with men. And if you're too available, you lose. Whoa.

We just changed the question of the day. We did. We're talking to talk about this. I'm taking control there like this. You're telling me if you're too available, the relationship isn't going to work out. A lot of times, like they enjoy the chase when you're, and I'm not good at it when you're playing a little. a little hard to get, if you will. You know, you read the books that says be busy when they call.

What do you mean? I'm not busy. I want to go out with them. Why would I do that? Susan's like, wait a minute, I need 10 minutes to put on my eye liner. I'll be right there. Did you ever do that? Did you ever say you were busy and you weren't?

Do you think I play games? No, I forgot. She didn't date. She got married and went to Berlin. No. No, Scotland. Scotland. Scotland.

Scotland. Okay, we, with Susan, we'll just have a little test here. Berlin is in what country? Berlin is Teresa. Scotland is Kathy. And we just had a tiny little bit of a technical difficulty that I had to take a picture of your face that was frozen. Kathy, it was adorable. And with that being said, we're going to move along. All right.

We'll get into our fan questions for today. I'm going to start us off with the first one. You ready? Ready? Ready? Let's count. Hey ladies, I think I messed up and I need some help. I was at my boyfriend's company party this past Friday. It was fun at first until I looked over and saw my boyfriend chatting with one of his co-workers. Let's call her Mia. To me, their conversation seemed super flirty and it was really pissing me off. He has a tendency to be a social butterfly and bounce around the room while I'm feeling awkward. I don't usually clam up in social situations, but being

around your partner's coworkers that you don't know is really intimidating. When I went over to grab him, he said, one sec. I'm telling Mia about X, Y, and Z. I was really annoyed. And in the moment, felt like he was picking her over me. And my jealousy got the best of me. So I started passively flirting with his boss. Nothing inappropriate, just being a little flirty and friendly. Well, apparently one of my boyfriend's work friends noticed and asked him if I was cool with that. He politely asked if we could head home because he was tired. I thought nothing of it. So I said, sure. And we said our goodbyes. The car ride home was completely silent. He told me he needed some space and was really hurt and embarrassed.

How do I fix this? Was I really in the wrong for what I did? I'm really confused right now. Thanks, ladies. Can I go first? Hell yeah, you were really wrong? You don't ever flirt with the boss. I don't care if it's your boss, your boyfriend's boss, your sister's boss, your grandmother's boss.

You do not flirt with the boss. That's what is wrong with you. Oh, come on. Why couldn't she, Kathy, why couldn't she when he said, wait, just one second, I'm telling her about X, Y, and Z, chime right in and be a part of it. Oh, my gosh, yes, wait, you hear this part, like, and be a part of that conversation instead of feeling insecure. Well, so let me just tell you, you and I, Shocker, are both outgoing.

We can walk in, it's one of my strongest suits, and I know it's one of yours. We can walk into a cocktail party with no one we know and leave with a hundred best friends. because you and I can enter, we have that capability. My husband was the guy who would stand around while I was talking and then get angry with me that I didn't stand by his side because he was not outgoing. But did you ever feel like he left you to talk to somebody? I would feel. No, but he felt that I left him to talk to people and he would get very angry.

Now, I wasn't flirting. I was just having conversations. Here's where you went wrong anonymous. your boyfriend your Susan's right your jealousy got in the way your boyfriend is your boyfriend if you don't have the faith and the trust in your relationship and you see a red flag because he's chit-chatting with a workmate who happens to be emailed it sounds like that's his personality like she said I'm saying if that is your worry that you cannot trust your boyfriend because he's chatting with a work make, you have bigger issues in your relationship. That's what I think. You need

to get at the heart of why you don't trust your boyfriend. That's what I would say. What do you think? And the only way out of it, and it's not even out of it, is tell the truth. Just say I was a little jealous. I saw you, to me, it looked like you were flirting with Mia and I felt uncomfortable, so I decided to do the same. So I decided to flirt with your boss? I got to tell you. I'm going to tell you Susan, if the roles reversed, I'd have to rethink that relationship. I hate to sound harsh. But if I were digging a guy and he started flirting with my boss, I don't want that. Would you? I mean, I wouldn't want to deal with the aftermath. I understood where she was coming from about he leaves her at his work party. But of course, you're going to his people. So he's going to

do that. Go shit chat. Go find someone to chat with. Don't hit on his boss. You got a room full of people, friend. Go sit and talk. We don't know what she did, though. No. She said she was flirty. I don't care what she did. I don't care. The point here is she thought it was flirting. You beg for forgiveness. But no, she can't let go with the fact that how it was making her feel that he didn't have the decency to include her in a conversation with Mia. Do you know what I mean? She's standing there by herself. She don't know these people. I get it. Susan, are we talk, no, I'm sorry. You and I shocker are going to disagree yet. again. Okay. We are not talking about a 10-year-old. We're talking about adults who are in adult relationships. If your boyfriend is talking with someone else, be it male or female, you know what you do? Strike up a conversation with the guy or gal next to you. Find something to talk about

the cumulus clouds overhead. Find something to speak up. Not everybody has to get the gab like you, though, Kathy. Well, she had the gift to gab with his boss. I think she should have stayed in the conversation with the X, Y, and Z with Mia. That's where my butt would be. If I thought he was flirting with her, I'd be right center. So great answer. Hang out with Mia and your boyfriend and chit-chat or talk to the male or female next to you about what color socks the waiter has on or anything but don't flirt with the boss.

Do not ever. It is a axiom of life. That was the wrong thing to do. So I'm sorry that your boyfriends need space. I don't blame, no. Do I sound harsh? Is my delivery harsh, Susan? If I felt, yes.

But she was wrong for doing that with the boss. I get it. Because he didn't even notice. Somebody had to tell him, that's the best part. Maybe he isn't the one for you. Well, she said nothing inappropriate. Do share with him that you felt uncomfortable that he was flirting. It seemed like he was flirting.

that didn't give you the right to do what you did. You admit fault. However, if you feel that way, then go be a part of it and you still feel uncomfortable, then freaking leave. Yeah, I'm just saying in the future, do anything anonymous, anything, go hang up in the lady's room, do anything. Pick dust off the carpet, you know,

asking there's a vacuum cleaner because you want to vacuum the drapes, do anything. But do not flirt. with your boyfriend's boss. Ever. That was dumb. That was dumb. That was dumb.

My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up.

Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not?

To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. All right, Wes, Wes, Wes. hood politics with prop podcasts you already know our get-down if you grew up in our urban areas a comfort of struggle you understand politics much more than you giving credit for feds taking over american cities government hop-out boys hopping out the van snatching up your theo in them two wars that was supposed to be solved in 24 hours jerry just out here mandering all over the place the turfs and of course the epstein of it all well this week we decided to shoot our shot and boy did we pull up from the logo to see if we could get somebody to come tap in with us. And the one and only Jamil Hill

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wherever you get your podcast. All right. We're moving on now that I've tortured her. And I'm really sorry. And I hope, I hope you guys get back together anonymous, but I really would encourage you to look in the mirror and evaluate why you don't trust your boyfriend. Because that's really what is a part of this. It's really not. You know, it's funny, Kathy, it brings to mine. Frederick is very friendly and we're all French people. Nobody speak in my language. And he knows everybody and everybody loves them. And I felt a little weird a couple times. Not that I thought he was flirting, but just like, hey, I'm over here.

And I did. I tried to strike up a conversation and can't speak the language. So what do you do then? I mean, listen, when in doubt, go to the bar and get a drink. I ate. Or in your case, when in doubt, go to one of the boutiques and go buy yourself something. All right, let's move on. Moving right.

The next one. Hi, Kathy and Susan. I need to know if I'm the bad guy here. the other day what can i just say before we get to this question when people write in and say i need to know if i'm in the wrong i need to know if i'm the bad guy i need to know if i made a mistake they know the rule of thumb is if you think you did you did you probably did let's just say you know let's just cut it there okay i need to know if i'm the bad guy here the other day i poked fun there you go at my friend Lila in our group chap.

She's always sending us updates about her really shitty first dates, usually live texting and all in good fun. So yesterday when she said, ugh, another one bites the dust, I replied, sis, I'm starting to think it's you, crying emoji. Everyone in the group chap laughed, reacted to it, and we all quickly followed up with questions and jokes as usual. Well, she didn't respond after I sent that and left the group chat at the end of the night. When I texted her after she left the chat to see if she was upset with me, she didn't answer.

It's been almost two days and I still haven't heard from her. What should I do? My friends are all staying out of it, but reassured me that it wasn't a big deal and to just give her time to cool off. I'm honestly really annoyed with her. Am I justified in feeling that way? Thanks, ladies. Yes, you are justified because if she does this repeatedly and you're joking and say, maybe it's you, babe, there's nothing wrong with that.

That was funny. Kathy's face is telling me different. Yeah, I'm like kind of stunned that you said that. I think what, if it had been me, you know, I don't like texting because there's no emotion in texting. You can't read the emojis, right? you don't that's the problem in texting but had i done that and said something like maybe it's you maybe she feels like there is something wrong with her so what i would have done later is i would

have texts lila and said hey girlfriend or him you know hey friend i was kidding i didn't mean it i hope you didn't take offense at it no no no he said that she uh she left the group chat and yells She texted her, and she left the chat to see if she was upset. She didn't answer. It's been two days. Oh, you mean just a one-on-one text? She left the chat to see. Yeah, she texted her.

I wouldn't text her. I wouldn't have texted to see if she was upset. I would have said, hey, I'm really sorry. I don't think it's you. I don't, you know, I didn't mean to offend you. Babe, I was just teasing. I was teasing, and I'm sorry. I understand you probably didn't find it funny.

Obviously, you didn't think it was funny. I was just busting them a little bit. Just don't be that. And I'm sorry, and I won't do it again. But the fact that... But Kathy, for a girl not to join back in the text for two days over that... Well, maybe something else is going on. That's why the dates are bad.

I'm saying maybe she feels badly. Maybe she feels like there is something wrong with her, and that's why things don't work out. It could have hurt her feelings. Another one bites to us. Maybe she's feeling... But it sounds to me like she can put it out there. Another one bites a dust, but she can't take it. You know what I mean?

Maybe that's the case, Susan. Yeah. Well, maybe she can't take it. Oh, look at you. Really? Mm-hmm. If they're going to get bent out of shape. I can't take it.

I'm crying in the corner. What are you going to do? What happened? I said, now I can't take it. I'm crying in a corner. You're going to say, see you later, Kathy? I'm pulling you by your hair and say, snap the freak out of it, Kat. Let's go.

I'll give you a stupid. And the tequila and I'll have a pizza. And I will drink the tequila and Susan will have two slices of pizza. I don't know. I don't think this person has the, whoever it is, I don't think, I don't think this person has the right to be annoyed. So she's asking us, am I in the wrong? Is that how she started this one? Yeah, I think you're in the wrong, not for what you did.

I think you're in the wrong for not reaching back out and again and saying, hey, girlfriend, let's talk about it. let's talk about your friendship is valued to me i care about you i love you let's not let this come between us come on let's talk i know then then anonymous go buy a life i would say if you make an honest effort to talk with her get it out the open what's really bothering her and she still doesn't talk to you then that's her problem not yours but right now i think you owe it do you agree yeah i wouldn't want to hurt anybody feelings and i don't think she was intending to hurt her feelings because this no i don't either every time and she just everybody laughed but some people are sensitive susan especially if she's always getting broken up she didn't sound sensitive when she

goes another one bites a dust that's not being real sensitive no that she said about herself i know i know but maybe she's sensitive that guys break up with her who knows no she's saying the date sucks she said she constantly always sends updates about her really shitty first dates, usually live texting and all in good fun. So yesterday, she says, oh, another one bites the dust. Yes, but Susan, if you're starting to think it's you crying emoji, that's funny. It is funny, but here's the thing, if, you know, you and I make jokes all the time, but sometimes people make jokes when they're really hurting inside.

And maybe she's hurting. That's true. So I'm just saying maybe she's hurting that none of these dates ever go well. And if it were me, I would be thinking what's wrong with me. So for someone to voice that, I could see where she would feel bad. So I would try it again, long and short of this is before we move on. I would try again to reach out to her, apologize, make sure she understands how she's valuable to you. you value your friendship with her and try to make amends.

And like Susan said, if she's still, then that's her problem. You've got to move on and let her cool off. All right. Are you ready? We are going to do a golden spotlight, Susan, where we talk about something that impacts the golden community. Okay. Today we're talking about my favorite topic, retirement. Okay.

So the things I want to talk about, I'm interested in other people's opinion, you know, I am retired. You're not really retired yet, but I don't want to date a guy who's not retired because then he can't travel. He's limited to two or three weeks here. Look at what Joan and Chalk are going through. She's retired.

I mean, she's doing stuff to Batchel, but she doesn't have a full-time job. Chalk does. Not by choice, though. I don't care, but it's by choice. He's not retired. She is. I am retired.

I don't want to date a guy who's not retired. How do you feel about that? That is a big issue, I am dating a guy that's not retired, and I have more free time than he, I mean, then, yeah. But you're not really retired either, so you guys balance the balance. Yeah, I guess so. No, that would suck because you have to wait for him to be able to do things.

And for me, when I retired, I did have a bit of an adjustment. You know, I didn't have the rigid structure of the schedule. anymore. I could kind of do what I want when I want. And so when guys have asked me out, I've had some guys in their 50s and early 60s asked me out, I don't really want to do it. Remember that guy we met in California at the hotel? The guy was 58. And he was really interested in me. And I said, yeah, but you work full time. He goes, we can make it work. He would buy coastal and he works full time. I mean, what do you think about that? But even just adjusting to retirement, like I over the years, had many, many clients that one was retiring, but the other one wasn't.

And that adjustment, you know, that he's home all the time. And she was like, oh, my gosh, you know, he needs a hobby or whatever. It is an adjustment. And if you don't plan on what activities or what you want to do, you just got to think about it as it comes. Yeah. And how do you prepare for that? You have to, it's like dating again almost. Like re-kindling her friendship, a relationship.

I definitely would give him more chores since he was the one at home and I'm still working. Susan had him down with a mop and sponge on the kitchen floor. Got to clean the bathroom. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit.

Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, My boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy?

That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his boyfriend? professor or not. To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart

Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. All right, West West, prop here from Hood Politics with Prop Podcasts. You already know our get-down. If you grew up in our urban areas of comfort of struggle, you understand politics much more than you giving credit for. Feds taking over American cities, government hop-out boys, hopping out out the van, snatching up your Theo and them, two wars that was supposed to be solved in 24 hours. Jerry just out here mandarin all over the place. The turfs. And of course, the Epstein of it all. Well, this week, we decided to shoot our shot and boy, did we pull up from the logo to see if we could get somebody to come tap in with us. And the one and only Jamil Hill pulled up

from this politics podcast to keep it a whole century. In America, what sells in politics are narratives and storylines. It's like we treat politics like we treat sports, which is part of the reason why we're in the situation we're in right now. Hood Politics with Prop Podcasts on the IHard Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Humanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you.

But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. Imagine that you're on an airplane and all of a sudden you hear this.

Attention passengers. The pilot is having an emergency and we need someone, anyone to land this plane. Think you could do it? It turns out that nearly 50% of men think that they could land the plane with the help of air traffic control. And they're saying like, okay, pull this until this. Pull that, turn this. It's just... I can do my eyes close.

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politics on the iHeart radio app apple podcast or wherever you get your podcast okay so there's there are those things the adjustment of of time like everyone has more time when you're retired dating um you know i just said i want to date somebody who's retired what about i hit the elephant in the room finances when you're retired and you didn't prepare well some people don't prepare well, but again, it's you have the time and you want to balance the resources. Like, do you think Goldens, I don't know, do you think Golden's spend enough time thinking about what retirement's going to be like to finance what they want to do? Well, Goldens are in that. You think younger people, I think younger people should focus more on what it's going to be to retire and

start saving now. I did it backwards and I regret it because I always. thought, oh, he's making a ton of money. I don't have to worry. You thought we were going to get a divorce. You know what I mean? Right. But also, but I mean, I'm not saying my question right.

Let's try this again. When Goldens, when we're retired, now we're golden, whether you're 60, whatever it is, we're retired. I think that Golden's, I've dated some guys who are like, hey, I'm retired, I can do anything I want. Come to find out, they can't because we're living longer.

And I don't think Goldens think enough about once they're retired. Do you mean financially? Like they didn't. I think that's one of the things that I have noticed. That would keep somebody from traveling like crazy or spending money. They have to be on a budget because they know what's left and how they have to live. But I'm saying I have met a lot of Goldens who don't get any thought. It's not, I'm not talking about what I agree with what you're saying.

Young people need to think back. you know, think, hey, I'm going to be retired someday. I'm talking about the people I've met who are retired, who are spending like it's Christmas every day, and they're like, yeah, I'll worry about that later. I'm like, I don't think they've figured out that we're living longer, we're healthier. I find that amazing. You haven't come across that? One of the things that I've always said to people, everybody, back when, like this is

our parents and our grandparents. and they would not they would do without they wouldn't go on trips because they were saving it to their golden years i totally disagree with that i think go while you're healthy and young and you work for it and you go and take your holiday and then you pay for it and you save up for the next time when it's finally retirement a lot of times kathy who needs a knee replacement who I know my dad, bless him, he retired a week later, he got a knee replacement and six weeks later he passed. So he never got to enjoy his retirement. So it just depends. But that's what I'm saying. Retirement looks so different today. People who are retired still want to, some people

who are retired want to volunteer full time because they want things to do. They would like to keep busy. I will be honest to you, most of my friends, in fact, I would say 95% of my friends are not retired. They're between age 40 and 60. And that's frustrating for us because we want to go do things and they can't because they're still working or their budget doesn't allow. And so I find that I find having as much energy as I have, as much time as I have and the desire to do. things. I think sometimes people think retirement is going to be this opportunity to do everything you want to do. But you know what I find? I have to find people to do it with me. And it's like a whole new set of friends sometimes because you got to find people who can do those things with you. And I think

retirement is not, I mean, in my parents' generation, our parents didn't live length that we're living our grandparents, right? Right, right. And everybody's different. Like they're not healthy enough to go enjoy things. Like, they can't do it because their health has been altered somehow. Yeah. That's why I say. I think my advice to Golden's, not that anyone was asking me today, but hey, what the hell? I think Golden should spend more time concerned about their health so that they can live active years.

Can I say something else, Kathy? Something that I didn't realize. Okay, some people live on Medicare and they take out. No, no, no. You mean Social Security. Social Security. And they take out for Medicare and they take out for this and then they own a home. They have to pay tax it.

There's nothing left for them. And I don't think people think about that. You don't realize I've never had to pay for insurance. I think you and I are doing a free advertisement for AARP today. I swear, sign it up. But I do think that retirement looks very different today. And I think that's a good thing. But I will say I have had some challenges finding people active enough to date,

finding girlfriends who can afford to travel or even want to travel. Retirement looks very different in 2025 than it did for our parents. And our kids and our grandkids that are learning, you know, I can't tell them and not put them away. Put away for a rainy day. I'm telling you, I'm not telling you to stop living. Do you tell your kids, because I know we have young grandchildren, I tell my kids all the time, first of all, you know, you and I travel a lot. We're doing different things. And our kids are like, wait a minute, we need you to babysit. Yeah, sorry, I won't be on. But I always say to my kids how energetic we are. Do you think our kids appreciate how much energy we have in our retirement? Yeah, I do. My kids just worry about me spending their inheritance. Well, that is actually another question for retirement. Do you think we should be saving for to give money to our kids?

Or should we be spending every time in our retirement? Well, nobody spends every dime. But yes, you're hoping something's left for them. But I'm not going to go without because I want to leave more. You're not. I'm not selfish. I worked all my life, you know. I want to be able to enjoy it with them, though.

I like to go with them. vacation. Like I just came back from the Outer Banks with my son Christopher's family and a bunch of other people. So I brought my whole family to Canada. Yes, yes, yes. But in retirement, again, it's very different. My retirement is very different from my parents when they retired. But that is another thing. I want, when you talk about dating in retirement, I know you have Frederick, but I still talk about in retirement, I want someone who wants, who where family is important. I love spending time with my family in retirement. I think, to me, it's almost a red flag if I go out on a date with a guy and he's like, oh, my kids, that's their problem. I'm here to have fun. Do you, I mean,

that's a red flag for me because retirement is about having. My kids will say they wish I was around even more because I'm always going somewhere. Yeah. I don't know. I just think that, you know, people talk about being invisible once they retire once they hurt 60 being invisible. I just think retirement today looks very different. We're as active, we travel, we do things and I love that and I hope all the people out there who are listening today who are retired, realize that misconceptions, you know, you're retired, you you curl up on a sofa and read a book and go to sleep. I hope people realize that that is not what retirement is anymore. still being alive and enjoying your life and your families, you know?

Getting out enjoying life. I mean, I want retirement for me. Well, first of all, I plan on living another account and tell my kids that 30 more years. Oh, God. I'll be long gone, Kath. I'll save you a spot. And that was fun. You're leaving me, Susan, though?

Yes, darling, I'm going before you. But everybody, let us know what you thought about this conversation and where you're at in life. You know, my listeners, some of you are retired, some not. Those of you that haven't looked into retirement savings, get busy. That is Susan's PSA for today. Thank you so much for joining us today. Yeah, it's really great. I think these topics are all interesting.

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