Bachelor Happy Hour - Gerry & Theresa Tell All: Part 2

Episode Date: December 2, 2023

Today on Bachelor Happy Hour, the celebrations continue as Joe and Serena chat with Gerry and Theresa about their Golden journey. As they look back on everything that led them to each other, they share never-before-heard details about their iconic first date and reveal the moment they knew they were in love. They also share some exciting details about their upcoming wedding, give advice to future Golden Bachelors and Bachelorettes and chat with Theresa's daughter about her excitement for Gerry and Theresa-themed signature cocktails at the wedding!  Be sure to follow so you never miss an episode.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, host of the Psychology Podcast. Here's a clip from an upcoming conversation about how to be a better you. When you think about emotion regulation, you're not going to choose an adaptive strategy which is more effortful to use unless you think there's a good outcome. Avoidance is easier.

Ignoring is easier. Denials is easier. Complex problem solving. Takes effort. Listen to the psychology podcast on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. So in the last month, the Midas Touch Network beat Rogan, Tucker Carlson, Candice Owens, Charlie Kirk, and Ben Shapiro all combined. What happens when three brothers take on right-wing media and start winning? I find out on the latest episode of Next Question with me, Katie Couric.

We just want people to live their lives and be happy and be able to enjoy it without some, you know, lunatic. tick screaming in their face every three seconds listen to next question with me katie currick on the iHeart radio app apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts hey everyone welcome back to happy hour i'm joe and i'm serena and this is part two with gary and teresa's daughters on the line they're figuring out some wedding details and we're finding out gary has a shellfish allergy we have to make some decisions Oh my goodness It's blowing my mind

I know it's long I'm like She's on here My daughter I mean Literally in five minutes We with her help We wind out the entire menu

I know she's really killing it On the wedding planning front Yeah pretty good That's so great Like we just said to her We got five minutes I said yes to this Yes to this

Yes to this What are the specialty Cocktail name options again Yes So we've got We have Turn her into Mrs turn her into Mrs.

Turn her into Mrs. We've got one headlight. One headlight. Is that a reference back to your first date? Yes, to the Cardette. And we've got the final rose. Love it. And then the birthday suit. Which is a reference back to your entrance out of the limo. I love that.

Are you going to have four cocktails? Are those the four options? So we get to have four? Deb said yes. Well, I was just asking for four. I don't know. Yeah, asking you should I receive. Can I ask Jen a question?

Yes. Okay. I don't want to ask you. She said, hi, Jen. Hi, Jen. Quick question for you. What are you most excited about for this wedding? I mean, the wedding is just like unreal. We just keep saying, like, you can't even wrap our clients around what's happening. Like, I'm so excited for it. Yeah. Jen's. It's incredible. It really is incredible because it's just something that I'm assuming none of you would have ever expected this a few years ago. Yeah. Like, oh my God. Yeah. You told us it to a year ago that this is what we'd be worth, like, doing right now. You know, planning the wedding. We feel the same way, Jen. Just so you know. Well, give it a few weeks, Jen, and your answer to that question is going to be. I'm excited to not be planning a wedding anymore. I don't know. Go so fast, though. Yeah, I guess. Yeah. It's going to be like a whirlwind plan here. That's so true. I'm really blessed to have an incredible daughter, just the way Gary's blessed with his two incredible daughters.

I was like, we have a really good support system, right? Really amazing. Yeah. So Jen's picked out every dress for me. I'd have a million dresses come to the house and then try it on. Yes, no. No, it's gone back. It's gone.

Yeah. Yeah. It's been amazing. So, that's it. It's so fun. I just don't want to say, you know, you guys have a good rest of your chat. Thank you, Jen. It was very nice meeting you.

Great meeting you. Good luck with wedding planning and congrats on everything. Okay. Great. Thank you. I love you, Jen. Actually, I want to bring up a point now that we're talking about family members. We're going to get back into the beginning of the season and how it all began for you,

Teresa, and how everything started. But I do want to bring up, Gary, your family was actually at the engagement. And that was the first time in like Bachelor history. I think that that's ever happened. How special of a moment was that for you, having them there? Oh, it's incredible. I remember specifically when I was talking to Teresa, I'm giving the will you marry me speech. And then I see my daughters and my granddaughters running across the grassy area.

And you could look on their face. You could see the excitement and the joy they had. And I know in talking to them since that day, their feelings about what was going on. It was, I mean, there's no replacing the joy you have with family when you get a little bit older. And we both kind of enjoy that same thing with our families. Did you not know that they were going to be there? Was that a surprise? I did not know.

I knew that they had been there, you know, the days before interviewing the two women. And I kind of hoped that maybe they'd stayed over. but I had no indication that they were there. So, yes, I was completely surprised and thrilled. Oh, that's so nice. Yeah, that's so fun. Well, should we run it back, Joe, all the way to night one? We'd love to just go through the season with you guys now

and talk about all the amazing moments that we saw between the two of you, if that's all right? Sure. Yeah. All right. Well, I think we should start with night one. Yeah, night one. So, Trisa, you step out of that limo and you see.

see Gary, what are you feeling? Is it love at first sight? Like, what's going on in your head? I really went in, I stepped out of that limo and I was just thinking, okay, don't let me fall, don't let me trip. And as soon as I got up next to Gary, go, oh my God, I'm really attracted to him. I am so attracted to him. I said, what the heck? Like, what are the chances? I didn't think that was going to happen. I really, I didn't expect it. So you see, at the end of it, I actually voluntarily kiss him on the lips and it was just like a peck you would give to your husband of 20 years like because I remembered it back as you kissed me and then I go oh no really I did it wow what's I do remember that I remember that because I was like whoa Teresa came out kind of naked and just

wedding for a kiss this is a wild entrance I love it and I and I tell you about the entrance was it was when I was interviewing with the producers and so said you know we're going to start fill me on August 3rd and he said oh my birthday's August 4th he goes oh that's great maybe you can walk out with a birthday cake and then in my head I'm going or maybe I've walked out my birthday suit I said do I really say this I said well maybe I can walk out on my birthday suit he goes that's it you're hired but you're just kidding and he goes and then they stuck with it I was so nervous and then you could see this is smile plastered on my face and I just couldn't wait to get to the end of that sentence like I can't do that I've got I don't know if anyone

heard this I couldn't do that I got six grandsons I don't know if you even have a vague And I said, oh, I did it. I got through it. But, yeah, I was immediately attacked. Gary, would you say Trisa was a big standout for you night one? She was one of several standouts. I'm not going to say I was signaling someone out that quickly because I was trying to stay so open-minded.

So, yeah, she was definitely one. And it was because of, you know, like after her exit from the limo and we did the little cupcake thing. And she just gives me this look. I mean, it's like right now. And it was there right from the beginning. And then Gary, going into Night 1 and, Tracy, you can answer this as well. Did you have any, like, rules for yourself about how many women you were going to kiss or if you wanted to kiss anyone, Teresa, were you like, you know, I'm not going to kiss him on the first night or I definitely want to kiss him.

What was the attitude there? Yeah. So I clearly came in. into the first night with an edict from my daughters and granddaughters, do not kiss anyone on the first night. And if you count, I failed four times. That's how it usually works. I'm perfectly fine with it. Yeah, I came into it with open to the experience and I didn't expect to be kissing him that first night. I didn't, you know, expect on the bench to do that. And I said, you know what, time is bleeding. Like, do it, go for it.

So, I mean, it's here. He's asking me to do this. Why not? So, yeah, I wasn't expecting to do it, but went wholeheartening into it. Teresa, did you watch the show before coming on it? Do you watch? That's a good question. I used to watch with my husband from 2012 to 2014.

I took him kicking and screaming like he didn't really want to watch it. But then he was so interested in and he had opinions about all the women and we really enjoyed it then. But after he passed away, I started, you know, I kind of shied away from things. we did together because it was too sad. So I hadn't watched it in a long, long time. But I did start watching it. This is really funny. Just before I came on, I watched some seasons.

And there was a season where this girl, they were asking her, well, how was the date? And she wouldn't tell them. And they thought she was a total bitch. I said, well, I don't want to be thought of as a bitch. So I'm going to share. Kiss of death. Bad choice. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious.

Well, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy?

That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend. former professor and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet.

So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, host of the Psychology Podcast. Here's a clip from an upcoming conversation about exploring human potential. I was going to schools to try to teach kids these skills and I get eye rolling from teachers or I get students who would be like, it's easier to punch someone in the face.

When you think about emotion regulation, like you're not going to choose an adapted strategy which is more effortful to use unless you think there's a good outcome as a result of it if it's going to be beneficial to you. Because it's easy to say like go you go blank yourself, right? It's easy. It's easy to just drink the extra beer. It's easy to ignore to suppress. seeing a colleague who's bothering you and just like walk the other way avoidance is easier ignoring is

easier denials is easier drinking is easier yelling screaming is easy complex problem solving meditating you know takes effort listen to the psychology podcast on the iHeart radio app apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts so in the last month the Midas touch network beat rogan Tucker carlson candace owens charlie kirk and ben and Shapiro, all combined. Conservative podcast can have a major political impact, but the Myceles brothers, three siblings, with a serious media strategy, are building an alternative to that.

On the latest episode of Next Question with Katie Couric, I sat down with the brothers behind the Midas Touch Network to talk about how they built a progressive media powerhouse from the ground up, why audience interaction is the key to political influence and what it takes to fight disinformation at scale, one download at a time. We should be focusing on the issues that actually occupy a lot of the mental space in Americans' minds but are filled with conspiracies, and we should fill it with the truth and solutions. Listen to next question with me, Katie Couric on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Gary, how comfortable would you be if you came home to your home in South Carolina and Teresa had five or six of the girls from your season over having drinks? Are you fine with that? Oh, are you kidding? I'd be elated at that. There's so many of those women who are just big personalities that you. love to be around. They're entertaining. Yeah, I'd be 100% fine if there was a dozen. Yeah, the more the merrier. This would be amazing. And I keep in touch with many of them by phone.

Yeah, we're talking a lot. Yeah, we had a few on the podcast recently. And they all mentioned your name, Trisa. How about how lovely you are? They all did. They all said, Trisa. We got to talk about. Diner date. Diner date. You read my mind. Oh, wow. So first day of the season, Teresa, it goes Tio. Were you expecting that or did that surprise you? No, I had no idea at worst. I just said, I didn't even know how to dress.

So it's amazing. We were wearing the same color, although he wore blue a lot. But, you know, I said, well, I have this dress and how about this? And I didn't. So Susan was so generous, did my hair. Had no idea I was getting into a car where the wind was going to be ripping through my hair. It's convertible.

Yeah, that's right. And that we were going on a highway or that we were. going to be on the road for so long and just seeing him like so uncomfortable the steering is like so loose the headlights are flashing on and off we've got 18 wheelers call on and I said I kept saying I want to reach out and touch his shoulder I really want to reach out and then finally I said okay I'm doing it and I went like that and what did that mean to you Gary I know you talked about you know that calmness on the show but you know Teresa was your first one-on-one day ever you know it's your first time on this show she's there you're kind of in a stressful situation

what did that mean to you well so it was really a physical reaction it wasn't as much emotional I literally felt the stress and and the nervousness drain out of me and it's like just that little touch on the shoulder it's like hey I'm your partner here I'm with you you know you've got this we're good um you know I as time went by in the throughout the other episodes I tried to not think about that too much because I didn't want to lock in on the very first person. It's okay. That's fine, yeah. Okay.

It's your daughter. No. More wedding questions. Yeah. I just didn't want to lock in on the very first person at risk of missing something with all of the other women involved. Would you say out of everything on that first date between the two of you, that shoulder touch was the thing that stood out the most or stuck with you the most? Yeah, that and one other

thing. When we were sharing the milkshake and I look back on this more than in the moment realizing it, we both talked nonstop like a couple of giggly high school kids, but the interesting thing was we were still hearing each other. She was talking about Billy and I was talking about Tony. We were talking about past experiences and we were talking about future hopes and dreams. And we still heard everything the other person said. It was really awesome. Yeah. And he knew that the song was coming on, but I knew nothing. So like, I remember in the show, it goes, what's this? And then they were dancing and I did say, well, let's get up and dance. And I thought we were just going to dance in the diner. But you, wait, I have to tell you this, though, when you finally get to the diner,

in my head, I'm going, a diner. Like, we have a thousand diners in a day. That's a diner. A diner is a Tuesday. You're like, you're going to take me anywhere. You're taking me to a diner? And then I see a jukebox and we weren't able to listen to music. I go, I said to him, oh, a jukebox. Can we play music?

And he just completely ignores me. And then the song comes on. And I go, and he keeps telling me the name of the song. I said, I know the name of the song. Like, and then we're dancing. And then all of a sudden they're taking us out in my mind. I'm saying, oh, my God, this is the coolest thing ever. I cannot wait to show my daughter.

I can't wait to show it my entire family. Like, wow, we're in the middle of the flesh, mom. How incredible it was. It was amazing. It was adorable. It was like a movie moment, truly. It felt like I was watching a rom-com. Yeah, okay, did you see the funny things about me?

Like, we're in the car and going, Gary. I loved all the funny things that people did because it was a lot of, lots to make fun of. Yeah, there was. Yeah, how dare they not tell you to put your hair in a ponytail before you got in that car? The funny thing is he gave me a scarf as a gift and he was on the floor and I kept going to reach for it and I'm going this thing's going to wick right out the window if I picked this up

I put me out of the back so I didn't I never put it on my headscarf. When you guys both look back at your season what moment together stands out the most for you Gary, you go first. The moment that most stands out for me is the dinner before the fantasy suite. I actually watched that episode by myself. And I remember calling Teresa and saying, Teresa, I just watched the episode and watched the moment that I fell in love with you. Because in that moment we started talking about more meaningful things.

And I watched my body language go forward. And I watched the cadence of my conversation quicken. And there was more and more excitement. And then that just quickly led into the conversations that we had in the fantasy suite. So it was right then that I go, yep, this is my girl. This is the one. Yeah. For me, it was two moments.

It was the car ride to the diner. And it was in that dinner and in the fantasy suites, which you didn't say. so they were the biggest moments and I think that on the dinner I finally said Teresa just be yourself like just be yourself what are you doing like you're holding back you're pretty much surface level here

and just and when he said I want to ask you more about your career I said yeah ask me about my career you should ask me about my career yes ask me and so yeah no that was a great conversation and I think what you both just described we saw it when we were watching

like Gary I think we saw you you leaned in, your eyes were like really engaged in what she was saying and, you know, your enthusiasm with your questions just started flowing and you really locked in on her and Trisa, I feel like Joe and I both said you seemed the most relaxed and just confident and yourself in that conversation, just very self-assure. It was definitely a standout for me having watched your relationship of just like, wow, these two are really connecting in this moment. Thank you. I have to say this, we both weren't happy. with the horseback riding

because as soon as I saw it I said oh we're not going to be able to talk or be near each other or interact and yeah and so it was it was difficult to have a moment together I said oh you got to be under a waterfall that's what I wanted

like you got no riding I go oh there's a waterfall let's just get right there let's get off the horses and go out of the horses well Joe and I's first date in paradise was a what was it a wrestling date I think Oh, yeah, it was horrible.

We had to put on like Nacho Libre costumes and run around this ring. And I had been, I had been throwing up. I'd been so sick that day. So you know what? The date activity doesn't always dictate the romance and the relationship. Oh, my God. That's amazing. I have to go see that.

Yeah, we have never watched it again. I will never watch it again. It made for some very funny photos. Teresa, what type of day, are you still a day trader? No, I'm not a day trader anymore because I work in compliance. Okay. But I still love stocks so much. Joe was, Joe worked at the merch.

I was a, yeah, I was a day trader at the Chicago Mercantile Exchange. I did open outcry, yeah, for in the NASDAQ pit for almost, almost five years. Yeah, when I was, I got my badge when I was 19 years. sold, so. Wow. That's impressive. I mean, it just excites me so much the soft market. Like, you know, just just trying to figure everything out and get all the puzzle pieces together and figure out what the answer is. But I don't said, what? Have you taken a look at Gary's portfolio yet? What are you going to do with it? Wow. I said, just stick with it. Whatever it is. Fine. I hope. Yeah. Yeah. J-trading is not for the faint-hearted. No, I go nowhere near it.

I let someone else do it for me. Okay, so now that we're stepping into the real world, what is an ideal? Like, where do you guys plan on first date? Where are you going? Food shopping. No. Food shopping. Or just a nice dinner.

Oh, yeah. Where, you know, we've held each other as a secret for weeks and weeks now. Just to go out to dinner, sit down, have like, what every other couple in America has and just enjoy each other's company and just casual conversation and a glass of wine and good food and take a walk like to go outside and take a walk no it's it's a great day like I really remember our joy yeah like we watched our finale and then we had to do like interviews the next day so we didn't really get out until like 3 p.m. the day after the finale and we did exactly that we went for a walk we sat on a patio we had a beach

year. We went and met up with a friend of mine. We went for dinner and just kind of walked around the city. And it's so exciting. So yeah, really take that in because it's an awesome moment. Yeah. Thank you for that. Yeah. Of course. Having been through it, I get so excited for the couples at the end when they're about to have it all be over because I know how good of a feeling it's going to be. Yeah. We can't wait. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly. And now I'm I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam.

Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate.

Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast

on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, host of the Psychology Podcast. Here's a clip from an upcoming conversation about exploring human potential. I was going to schools to try to teach kids these skills, and I get eye rolling from teachers or I get students who would be like it's easier to punch someone in the face. When you think about emotion regulation, like you're not going to choose an adaptive strategy which is more effortful to use unless you think there's a good outcome as a result of it if it's going to be beneficial to you. Because it's easy to say like go you go blank yourself, right? It's easy.

It's easy to just drink the extra beer. It's easy to ignore to suppress seeing a colleague who's bothering you and just like walk the other way. Avoidance is easier. Ignoring is easier. Denials is easier. Drinking is easier. Yelling, screaming is easy. Complex problem solving, meditating, you know, takes effort. Listen to the psychology podcast on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. So in the last month, the Midas Touch Network beat Rogan, Tucker Carlson, Candice Owens, Charlie Kirk, and Ben Shapiro all combined. conservative podcast can have a major political impact, but the Micellis brothers, three siblings with a serious media strategy, are building an alternative to that. On the latest episode of Next Question with Katie Couric, I sat down with the brothers behind the Midas Touch Network to talk about how they built a progressive media powerhouse from the ground up, why audience interaction is the key to political influence and what it takes to fight disinformation at scale, one downwinded.

load at a time. We should be focusing on the issues that actually occupy a lot of the mental space in Americans' minds, but are filled with conspiracies, and we should fill it with the truth and solutions. Listen to next question with me, Katie Couric on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Any women from your season, will they be invited, what women will be invited to the wedding? I would invite every single one of them. If you were to name a few names, just draw, maybe a few names that you would, you would love to be there. Faith.

Faith. I would indict Leslie. I don't know. She would come. Edith. Ellen. Sandra. Anna.

Anna. Yes. I go to Anna all the time. We just interviewed Anna. Peggy, Pamela, Renee, Sylvia. Did you ever try Edith's guacamole? Trisa? No, I didn't.

You didn't? I didn't. You know, I should have because that's, you know. Did you try Susan's meatballs? I don't eat, but they look so good and they smell so good. And everybody in the house is so grateful for them. So I don't think, I don't think that was an issue. I don't know if you heard me, but I said Marina as well.

Yes, Marina. So everyone. Teresa is like, I love everyone. Yes, every single one of them. They were all really wonderful, wonderful women. Yeah. Gary, would you, this is a little tougher of a question, but would you feel comfortable with Leslie at your wedding?

I think that would be more up to Leslie. I would be comfortable because I had such deep feelings for her and a lot of respect. And if she were comfortable being there, I certainly would be comfortable having her there. Yeah. Yeah. Well, I feel like, you know, we've got the finale that's just happened. We've got the wedding.

But there's a lot of time in between your proposal to now that's been going on. And it has been filmed and you've been hiding. So it might seem like, you know, there's not a lot to talk about there. But I really want to know what have you guys been doing to keep that spark alive, to keep growing and furthering your relationship between the proposal and where we are today. Great question. And we talk every single night for hours. I usually lie down on the floor and just really concentrate on him.

And just talking, we've laughed so much. We've had such a great time. So it's been, you know, getting to know each other more and more and more every single night on the phone. We only got to see each other once in person, one weekend. That was it. So it's been really hard. And he said, oh, God damn it, this is too long. And I said, come on, it's going to get here before you know it.

It'll be here, see? It's here. Yeah. So it's... So now it's almost the opposite. We have so much on our plate. You know, wedding, planning, getting families together for holiday meals and getting them together for other activities and so forth.

There's just so much going on now that we're immersed in each other's interests and families and stuff. So it's paying off. Yeah. But thankfully, we have family to help us so that you can see that. Is there anything that you guys learned about each other that surprised you? I know, Trisa, you just learned Gary's allergic to show it. So there's that, but anything in addition?

Hmm. Anything about you. Like out of the show. Trisa, is there anything that you know about Gary that you wish the audience knew that maybe didn't come across on the show? Yeah, that he's, well, I don't know if it came across on the show, but that he's just such a strong person and really stands up for what he'd be. leaves in and that he's yeah he's very not only just goodhearted and kind and sensitive it's more him being this strong leader of a man yeah yeah really what about you Gary is there anything about Teresa that you want the world to know that maybe they didn't get to learn from watching her

on the show I think that people didn't see the level of unselfishness and her ability to not be jealous in situations that I think the vast majority of women would have been jealous in. Those are qualities that are easily recognized when you see them one-on-one, but maybe through the show they weren't recognized as much. Gary, if you could give advice to the next golden lead, whether that be a woman or a man, what advice would you give? be open-minded. Don't lock in on one person. Don't set your heart in one place because you may miss something that's critically important with one of the other people that's there. So I tried

to, you know, compartmentalize as much as I possibly could. And I think that helped me so much in learning about everyone. And then, Teresa, how about you for And when I was going. Yeah, contestants, the, you know, the next batch of women vying for the Golden Bachelor or vice versa, what would be your advice to them? I would say, really try to be yourself as much as possible. Something I wasn't able to do fully the entire time, but to be yourself, to be open to the process and to really say how you feel. Like, don't hold back. This is, this is a process where it's.

it's not dragged out in a normal time frame so you can't let opportunities pass you by so if you feel something to say something because you never know when's the last opportunity you're going to get to say that and so to be vulnerable and to be open yeah just don't don't hold back if you yes if you because otherwise yes you might miss it you may miss it yeah yeah i think that to me i've always said that's like one of the most important things about this show is realizing it's not a normal timeline. Like, if you want this to work, you're going to have to speed it up. Put it all out there all times.

Fast. Yeah. We said that about you, too, Trisa, about halfway through the season, I think. We were like, Teresa is moving at the pace. She's got to move out. Well, yeah, that's why I said. It's great. Like, she's feeling things fast and she's opening up about it.

Well, even in the part one episode of Happy Hour, we said she has. she has the correct mindset for the show. Like, you do need that. Yeah. Wow. Thank you. No, of course. And I think it's great that you did because I think it allowed you to really connect and find each other.

It was just an incredible experience, you know. Like, what it's an experience that's so different from anything that's ever happened in your life. And so I was so excited about the process and so, well, incredibly glad that they did it. Like, who would have thought this? You wouldn't think this that this is going to happen. That this, how does it happen? It really did. It actually happened.

Yes. So you don't think, I don't know, it happened for you guys. It's crazy. We still can't believe it either. And we're married, so it works. I know. Right. That's wonderful.

All right. We're going to play a little game with you guys. You ready? No, it's fun. It's like the newlyweds game, but we're going to do the newly engaged game. We're going to fail. The newly engaged. You want to do it?

Sure. Okay, so we're going to throw a question at you, and you both have to answer at the same time, and you'll say either Gary or you'll say Teresa, depending on who fits the question. Oh, okay. Does that make sense? Yeah. Okay. But make sure you say it and don't point because it's a podcast.

Okay, ready? So who is more romantic? Gary. Yeah, Gary. I'm sorry. same time, Gary. Gary, okay. Who is more organized?

Teresa. Who is more stubborn? A Teresa, I think. Oh, wait a more stubborn. We're both stubborn. Teresa is more stubborn. I'm stubborn. Okay.

Who spends more time on social media? Teresa. I was going to say, it must be, Teresa. She's responding to everyone's messages. Who is the pickier eater? Teresa. Who is the better driver? Oh, Gary.

Only, but I am. No. Who is better in pickleball? Gary. Have you guys been playing? Have you played it at all? Not together. That'll have to be on the to-do list once you're out in public.

Who is funnier? Oh, God. I think Gary is. Okay. Gary. You don't think so? I got to say that could be a talk to laugh.

Okay, you're both funny. Do you? Yeah, we're so funny. This isn't part of the game, but what an all-time favorite movie? Trisa, what's your favorite movie of all-time? You're just hijacking the game to ask a random question that you want to know?

Well, that's how I get to know somebody's sets of humor. The Big Chill. Interesting. Gary, how about you? Tides Fanny. I don't find either of those to be comedies A true romantic though It would have been winning crashes

Oh that's a great one That's a good one For you Airplane Airplane that's a good one too We just watched planes, trains and automobiles That's a good one I was so frustrated the whole movie

I was like I couldn't relax Who is the better cook Teresa. Yeah, probably. Although he cooks. Yeah. I mean, that's TBD. Yeah, that's right.

You know, I, right. Gary's good at ordering at a restaurant. And Gary doesn't go to many restaurants, and that's what's going to change. Yeah, I cook, but I cook for efficiency rather than elegance. Okay. That's fair. Honestly, I get that. I said, so do you want an omelet?

And he said, no, he just had a hard-boiled egg. And then I have the omelette with spinach instead of cheese in it. And he's going to have one, could you make me that same one? Because that was good. Well, there you go. Maybe things are going to change with your time in the kitchen, Gary. Teresa, do you mind me asking, so you don't eat sugar, you don't eat meat? Are you on like a paleo diet?

Like, or are you just kind of like? I would say that anything if you had to put a label on it, it's Mediterranean diet. Okay. So you like like vegetables, fish. Yeah, big, I eat an enormous salad every day with grilled. I do eat grilled chicken, fish. I eat turkey. I eat a lot of salmon.

Yeah, so it's, it's, you know, I try to savory and sugar. I'm not a complete saint. So I do eat dark chocolate and walnuts is my snack and I'm going to try to get him to think that. There's nothing wrong. There's nothing wrong with that. Instead of a donut. All right. You know what?

We'll let you guys, we'll let you guys go get some dinner because it's getting late and I know you got to go. but Gary and Teresa, thank you so much for coming on the podcast. We really appreciate it. Thank you so much. You guys are wonderful. I wish we were there in the studio with you. I know. We're looking forward to hopefully eventually meeting you both in person and we're so, so happy

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