Bachelor Happy Hour - Getting Honest | Golden Hour

Episode Date: February 26, 2025

Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re back answering your questions! We kick off today’s episode with the question of the day: Is there ever a “right” amount of jealousy in a relationship? Then, we dive into your questions! What do you do when your boyfriend’s dad asks your mom out? How do you tackle your mother wanting her grandkids to call her “Mama”? We’re getting into all this and so much more! Tune in now, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode. Have a question for Kathy and Susan? Go to `BachelorNation.com/GoldenHour and submit yours now! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Hey, Susan. How are you doing today? Good, good, Kat. I got to say, I'm struggling again. And everyone who knows me knows I've had two bouts of bronchitis. Now I'm fighting what we lovingly refer to in Austin as Cedar Fever. I cannot cut a break. I just think I need to move to Tahiti.

You want to go? That's winter, Tath. Okay, but we are going pretty soon. In a few weeks, we're going to go play golf in Carmel. I got to tell you, I was talking with Guy from Jones season last night. We've decided I'm his big sister. you know he calls me for advice he's telling me he's like a girl susan he's asking me what i'm wearing oh wait wait you know he's been taking lessons got new clubs then photo shoots god bless you guys

guy said to me well you know what are you wearing i said i don't know i'm figuring out yet i've got you know 18 million golf office golf attire let me tell you and he went through this whole thing guy if you're listening i warned you i was going to tell it he was talking about how his dad his favorite golf player was Gary Player who is if he's even alive you know way old guy

but Gary's player's signature thing he always dressed in black so in honor of Gary player guy went out and bought an entire no wait you need to hear this entire new black outfit he's telling me I got new black shoes and black pants

and black shirt and I said guy you're a girl this is what girls talk about and he goes and I bought new clubs. So, Kathy, let me ask you something. Did you get a new outfit for Carmel? No. That's why I was laughing. I said, Guy, you got to be kidding me. And then, and then we're talking about golf handicaps. Because remember on one of our recent episodes, we had Keith and he, and he was saying he's got like a seven or a ten. I don't know. I can't. I personally cannot count that low. But he was talking about his head. And so I told Guy that and Guy starts panicking. I

guy it doesn't matter have a couple of drinks that'll all be fine he goes i don't drink i said perfect time to start it's all about playing the game it doesn't matter what your school is yeah anyway guy if you're listening can't wait to see you can't wait to play against you guy susan and i will i told him i was hooking up playing with um keith because i needed that low handicapped offset by he was dying that's so fun it will be fun it will be fun it's going to be great fun but today While I'm sniffling, we're going to answer some more of your fan questions. And guys, you know the drill, but if you don't, one more time, make sure you're submitting them to bachelornation.com slash golden hour.

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start kathy with the question of today okay all right susan is it here we go it's not moral quandary i just want an answer thank you lord it healthy to be any amount of jealous in a relationship? And oh, I'm so glad you're answering this first. Oh, God. So I think I know in my brain that you shouldn't be jealous, but a little bit. Okay, you know what I'm going. Tell me what that means. Define jealous. To me, it would mean like you really care, like you know, you care. I hate the word jealous. Like non-trusting, is that what you mean by? jealous? I'm just, to me, jealousy means it's symptomatic in my mind of not trust. Yes,

for me it is. And it's, you know, if a guy is asking me, well, who are you on the phone with? Or why can't I come over tonight? Or, you know, what are you doing? Why can't you take my phone call? That's jealousy and that means a lack of trust. So, yeah, I don't like it. Yeah. But no, to answer the question, no, it is not healthy. I agree. If there's no trust. It's going to be a great day. We're a green right off the bat.

Yay. We agreed. You said we're a green. I'm like, what's green? Oh, that's just my voice because I can't talk with all the cedar fever might throw here. Oh, goodness. I think that you're right. And I don't like jealousy.

I think it's not a good look on a man or a woman. I don't even like the word jealous. Sometimes you can be envy. of someone or something you know what I mean like but that's different you know what you say that people confuse the meaning of not to be an English teacher here but jealousy as you just pointed out is not envy I don't think either one are particularly attractive but we're human all right so we're going to move on we are we've settled that question of the day we're going to get going with our question I love so let's get into

them and I'm going to go ahead and read the first one we'll see you. It's from Anonymous. And just to remind everyone, if you're uncomfortable using your name, please write us anyway. You can just say Anonymous. We will still answer your question. Absolutely. Okay. Here we go. Kathy and Susan, help me please. I'm freaking out right now. My boyfriend and I have been together for six months and we just found out our parents went on a first date. They sat us down and told us the other night. They're saying that after they met due to dating quote one thing led to another and they just started connecting i'm starting to think it's more than just one date but according to them it was just the one is this totally weird and incestual or should

we support them i really really like my boyfriend but this is just so strange he and i haven't talked about it yet because we're taking space to think on things oh susan go my goodness i think This is awesome. So do I. Just think you let two people meet each other organically, which is everything we always dreamed of. What's wrong with it? Stop freaking out. And let me say, I want to say to everyone, it's only incestual anonymous if your mother is sleeping with your brother or you.

That is what incest is. if she is dating your boyfriend's father that's called a date how fun would that be when they're getting together though you wouldn't have to do two different visits he could all do it at once i love this um it is not incessional it you may feel it's weird but you know what anonymous i would encourage you to think about i don't know if it's your mom or your dad and whether it's his mom and dad or whether the mom's dating the mom and the dad just dating the dad i don't care whatever it is try to celebrate love try to celebrate dating

try to celebrate the fact that we're all looking for someone to care about and love and if this is as Susan said how they've organically met try to try to accept it it may feel a little weird at first but you know focus on your boyfriend

and you never mind about them let them do them you know I think it's wonderful but thank you so much for that's a good one I love I know we've never had a question like that anonymous let us know what happens and as i always plug for susan if they decide to get married susan is a wedding officiant so give her a call or you or you i'll be the maid of honor all right thanks again for writing it and good luck and just try to accept like kathy said

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All right, question number two is from Aaron. hey ladies i need your help because i'm concerned i'm being harsh the other day my mom told me she wants my kids to call her mama as her grandma name that's what i want them to call me as i'm their actual mom she was asking me if it was okay she told me i didn't know how to react oh god so i sort of was speechless she seemed upset when I didn't immediately say yes with excitement. But she's also been talking to my kids, four years old and one year old, and referring to herself as Mama.

Mama loves you and so on. What do I do about this? Is this weird, or am I being too sensitive? Can I take the first crack at this one? Sure you can. Is this synonymous? Let me look back. It's weird.

It's Erin. Let me say to you, Aaron, these are your children. When I have two grandchildren and Susan has several, I don't know about you, Susan, but when I had, when my oldest son, my only son who has a child, asked me what my grandmother name, what I wanted to be called, I said, I wanted to be called Kiki. And they looked at me and they said, Kiki, that was my nickname as a child. And they said, you don't want to be grandma? I said, no. And I don't want to be granny. And I said, if it's okay with you, I'd like to be. Kiki and that's how my

kids and actually a guy I dated for 10 minutes. So how do you feel about Mama? I think it is up to Aaron to say mom Mama. You know what I would say? Mama? This mama isn't comfortable with calling you mama. Kids

are confused easily. We're not going there. Literally Aaron just say to her no. That's a mom's name. That's a mom's name. I'm their mom. You can be grandma. You can be Kiki. You can be me. me. You can be Gigi. You can be any other name you want, but you cannot be Mama. Do you agree or not? I certainly do. Mama is a Mama's name. I don't know why your mother's thinking this way,

but she said, is it weird? I think it is weird. Yeah, it's very weird. The mother wants to be called Mama. I did. So don't allow it, Aaron. She'll get over it. Grandma, Granny will be just fine when you're four-year-old and one-year-old. start calling her whatever the name is. Can I just say, Aaron, it's weird. Yes, you're right. It is very weird. You're not being overly sensitive.

So nip it in the butt before it gets too far. Okay, Aaron, let us know, though. Before we move on here, Aaron, let us know. You need me to call your mother. I could do that. Yeah. And trust me, when Susan tells her the way it's going to be, trust me,

Aaron, that's the way it's going. All right, here's our next question. You're getting all the anonymous. It's okay. We don't care because, you know what? The questions, and we've said this before, if you want to write in anonymously, feel free because the questions you're asking, don't pertain to your name. Whatever you're thinking, lots of other people are thinking too.

So just keep writing away. And you can help other people without even realizing. That's right. Okay. Anonymous writes, hey, Susan and Kathy, I need your help. My oldest is at the age where it's time to have the sex talk. But we have a big problem. My husband is hell-bent on going the abstinence route, and I'm incredibly frustrated.

I never thought he would want to do this, but he refuses to have us tell our daughter anything other than don't have sex. I wanted to have this conversation with just her and me, but he's insisting on being in the room. How do I go about talking to him about this? Is he right? Any advice would be great. Thanks, ladies. well can I just tell you my husband and I had the same issue really oh he was all about abstinence until you are married and I said it is 2000 and whatever it was okay absolutely not I don't know

if you're going to love this advice cath but obviously he's held bent and it's her daughter you have a private one-on-one with her between you and her okay you need to talk are you okay we're really getting into this everybody you're gonna love this conversation i um let me let me first let me finish let me finish wait would you supply birth control to her it depends on her age well that's that's so but okay i mean if she's only just having the talk you're not ready for birth control i dear god so that's that is so funny you said that susan because the first thing I was going to say is anonymous. I'm guessing you have waited like many people do until your daughter in this case is a teenager.

If you haven't had the talk about sex and what it means to be a mom at a young age or a dad, the responsibility, the cause, if you haven't done that before they're a teenager, the hormones have taken over and, you know, I don't think personally abstinence were. I think I love the saying abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. It's absence. I know. He's making a joke. Come on, work with me here.

I just think he's like he's hiding behind a rock somewhere. Well, I think I would have the conversation. Anonymous, I would have, my husband and I were in agreement. So, you know, we got our daughter birth control. And, you know, some people are going to say, oh, you're just inviting your child to have sex. No. What I'm inviting. is to disinvite, uninvited, unwanted pregnancy.

I talk to my children about safe sex. You know, beat on the pill is not the solution here either. No, doesn't keep you from getting dead, right? There's a lot of communicable diseases. Anonymous, there's a whole lot more at stake than when, unfortunately, I was young, and STDs were few and far between. But that's not the case anymore. So it's a bigger conversation with your husband

than pregnancy, it's about STDs, it's about respect, it's about love, it's about how do you want to remember your first time? Those are the conversations I had with my daughter. Did you have those with yours? No, absolutely did. And my sons, and it was funny because the things I'd say to my son, they were like, Mom, seriously, I go, boys, you know, you got to learn. You know what? No means. Yes, Mom. We know no means No. Even if she's going, no, and while you're doing something and you're thinking, no, she's just like, no, no means no. You don't want to go to jail. You don't want to rape. But that's what I'm saying. There's so much more, you know, the sex talk is not just about should my, you know, approve of my daughter having sex or my son. It's so much more than that. It's where the

respect comes in. I was trying to sort of put it under an umbrella. And boys are the worst because they're like, seriously. Mom, I go, listen, Daddy says you wait until you get married. Mommy says. And then I just said, one more question, guys. They go, what? I said, are you comfortable buying a condom? They're like, oh, my, Mom, they have them in the men's room at the mall. I go, what? You already know this? I was a little late. Susan's boys were eight. They went from the Lego store. They went from the Lego store to the boys room at the mall. I'm kidding. Anonymous also. It's a bigger conversation. Also, she asked, how do I go about talking to him about this?

You need to go privately with your husband and say, babe. It's not just about saying it's okay to have sex. It's about educating your child. I have a better idea, Susan. Anonymous. Play this podcast for him. Let him hear what we say. Because Anonymous's husband, we are two women who have raised children.

We both have daughters. Girls and boys, yeah. But as I'm saying, we have girls, we have boys. We've had the talk. We have grandchildren. We've seen it all. And so you're on the new frontier here. And it's daddy's little girl.

I understand where he's coming from. I do. However, get with the times. Be upfront with your kids. Don't wait too long. Yeah, I love that. All right. So, Kat.

Let us know. Wait, Anonymous, just let us know how it goes. And if she does end up pregnant, I'd love her to be named after Susan. I never envision being with a woman. I'll just be honest. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, Politics. On this week's episode, I'm joined by basketball legend, Candice Parker, who stops by to discuss her candid new book, The Can Do Mindset, in which she shares why she waited

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And that was just, you know, and honestly, it took me a long time to be okay with myself. Make sure to listen to this week's episode of Spolitics on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Yumanzoor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom.

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don't get roses. Well, you don't get many more than I do either. So it's a toss up here, folks. I got one more. Let's go. Let's go. All right. So today we're going to be playing red flag or red rose. We'll switch off naming different dating app tactics men use and deciding if we give it a red flag or a red rose. And I'll start us off. Are you ready? Knock yourself out. Their profile says, not looking for a long-term partner. Well, that depends on what you're looking for. If you're looking for a long-term partner... Is it a red flag or a red rose?

I just said, it depends. I'm looking for a long-term partner, so for me, it would be a red flag. What about you? So, you know, it's funny that that question came up because when I was on the dating sites, I struggled because your choices, you can't write something,

but your choices were long-term, serious relationship, what were the other ones like? Friends. Friends. It didn't say friends with benefits or casual relationship. So it's tough to, but you have to accept what it says. He's not looking for a long-term partner. So that's a red rose because he's being honest. Oh, I'm misunderstanding. A red flag to me means, I'm sorry, I give him kudos for, I give him a red rose for being honest for me i wouldn't i'd scroll on by so maybe i'm not understanding um we're talking about dating app tactics and what we think okay i would give him or i'm sorry i would give him a red rose because he's being honest okay the their pictures are strictly mirror selfies wait Kathy i want to open a business

and show a man how to pick a selfie no guys we have talked about this in fact we're going to talk to our producers, we want to do an episode about teaching men how to write the profiles, what pictures to put up, and which one's not. Sir, gentlemen, available men out there, do not take pictures of yourself in a bathroom. And please keep your shirt on. Contact us. If we get enough of you, we'll do a whole session towards it. Really?

The prompt says, all I ask is that you don't take yourself too seriously. I don't even, that's kind of a red flag. Let's get that one. The prompt says, the way to win me over is if you're able to sit through a football game, even if you don't know what's going on. I'd be insulted because I understand the game of football. So I would give that a red rose. I mean, I think what these questions are is sort of honest reactions, right?

They're just being honest. But I would, to that guy, if I were interested in him, I would write a text and say, not only while I sit through the football game with you, we will discuss the plays and what they could or should or would have done. Do you give them a rose or a flag? A rose. Okay. Go ahead. Do the next one. All right. They keep DMing you on the platform. Oh, instead of asking for your number. Red flag. Yeah.

Red flag. They call themselves a mama boy in their bio. That guy doesn't get a flag or a rose. He's out of there. He should just give it up. That's a red flag to me. Red flag. Okay.

Okay. They like you, swipe on you first, but they don't send you a DM when you match, not including Bumble. It means they're not interested. It's a red rose. Well, they swipe because they like the picture, and I guess they'll go back later.

mean. Oh, I think a lot of guys, and you and I've done the same thing. Oh, that guy looks interesting. You, you know, you go back later and look and go. And then you'll get the profile and go, what the hell was I breaking last night? But I wouldn't give that a red flag. No, I'd give it a red rose. Yeah, I'd give it a red rose. Like, oh, he thought better of it or she thought better of it. Yeah. Okay. They match with you on every dating app, but they never DM you. Red flag. Red flag, yeah. God, Susan, what, did we have our weedies this morning? Like, what the hell?

We're agreeing on everything. Okay, they have a picture, oh, God, I can't even read this. They have a picture with an animal or fish they've hunted. Red flag, red flag, red flag, red flag, red flag, red flag, red flag. Wait, can I just wait, can I just say, let me just say, I am from Boston, you know, I live in Texas, I know I'm going to take heat for this, if I never see a guy again with a shirt undone, with a cracked open beer in one hand and a dead fish hanging from a fishing line ever again, it will not be too soon.

Wait a minute, I didn't even finish, I didn't even hear the rest of it with an animal or fish they hunted. I don't care if it's their pet. Red flag. Unless you're into that, of course. Look at me. Look at me. Repeat with me. Red flag. Okay, moving along. As your first messaging, they ask what you think the reason is that you haven't found someone yet. Oh, God, they ask that all the time. They do. I don't think that's a red flag, though. You do. Oh, I do. Oh, I do. You do? Why? I'll tell you. They're curious. Yeah. I think the question, the prompt here, says as your first messaging.

I think that's a conversation. You and I've talked about, you know, when is it appropriate to talk about this, that or the other. That's a conversation for later down the road, in my opinion. So to me, a guy, that's a pushy guy. And, you know, I don't know if we have time here,

but I'm just going to quickly tell you, I met a guy. He actually reached out to me on Facebook because we have mutual friends. And he jumped in. Susan already knows this, all of this that I'm telling, but I just want the audience here. He jumped in very quickly.

How long has it been, so you've had a relationship? He jumped in. 20 questions, yeah. Yeah, 20, and 20 deep questions. And I was telling my daughter, Caitlin, and, you know, and Caitlin said, mom, that is a red flag. She literally used that word. And I said, tell me why.

She said, it's too much, too fast. Can I just tell you? after one date with the guy and at several phone conversations she was absolutely right this guy was running at warp speed so I think it's a red flag I didn't too much

first one we're going to disagree on because I've been asked several times and I've even asked men not many but I mean when you're looking at a picture and reading a few words about somebody and now you're chatting not on the phone just by

DMs. You say, what's a good looking guy like you? Why are you still alone? And my answer was, I'm really picky. You know, I know what I want. You asked. I deliver. I just think it's a weird question when you're first messaging. But, you know, we're agreeing mostly today, so I'll take it. All right. Their first DM is telling you that they're a personality guy. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Yeah, there's nothing wrong. They asked to see you immediately upon matching. I give that a rose, too, because that's how I am. Well, I'm a little different from you, Susan.

We've talked about this, too. I would rather talk on the phone first before meeting someone. I kind of want to get a little vibe before I meet them. It can just be one phone call. And for those of you out there who don't, and I've told Susan to get this, you know, safety first. You don't want to give somebody your I don't anyway. my phone number first off I give them my

Google phone number and those of you who don't know what that is look it up you can get a Google phone number you have two lines huh you have two lines you told me yeah you shared that with me but the reason I give the guy the Google number is it's not traceable he cannot find out where I live with a cell phone number you would be amazed what you can find out so those of you are

dating my PSA today is get a Google number you can't be traced okay you're talking about How about the only message? They only message you at odd hours of the evening, 11 p.m. or later. Fla. Red. How dare you. And that has happened as well.

Season, would you answer it? No, hell no. Well, I have to people that I was really curious or interested in, and it was a mistake. So, there you go. No, I don't even. Well, first I turn my phone on silent when I go to bed. The only thing, phone time, my phone is ringing. is if my kids call me, because I have them on a special thing.

If they call me in the middle and not, my phone rings. I don't know, Susan, we have had, I don't know what to say. We've had so much fun today answering questions. We're agreeing too much. What does this mean? Are we morphing into each other? This doesn't mean anything. Wait, did we get to a different game, you'll say.

But it was fun. I like that game. I'm really serious. I do, don't you think we should do something about helping guys? Please. So I don't know if enough men are actually in. listening, but women out there, I know you have friends, and your friends have friends, tell the guys about us. I'm serious. And we could help them. We could tell them to tune in or

reach out anonymously. I was asking me about dating last night. And, you know, it's like, he goes, oh, you know, you have some good thoughts. I'm like, yeah, because I'm a woman and I've been there. But, you know, here's the thing that I'm, you know, I've been single. It's coming up on, I can't believe it, almost six years since my husband passed away, I'm realizing that things don't really change that much in the dating world. You said it yourself on another episode. We're all looking for someone to love and to be loved. I mean, that's kind of universal at this point. You know, it just, it looks a little different at our age. But it's about the dating apps that we were talking about today. I mean, at one point, I was opposed to ever go on them again. And

And then you sit and you're by yourself for a while and you're going, let's check it out. And then only to find the same people on there, why haven't they found anybody, you get discouraged. But then again, it is the way of the world. Well, but I think it really is. Well, it is and it isn't. I mean, I read something recently that said people, they're going back to more organic ways, you know, meeting and clubs or somebody introducing you. Yeah. Who is saying that to us when we interviewed.

was a Keith, I want to say, and he said he was on. He went back on. Yeah. But yeah, but he said most of his dates come from friends. Friends and friends. But you know what the problem for women is? It's, there's more single women than men. There's more women in the world than men when you think about it. So we're growing older and I truly believe men kind of go first. So that makes it even the odds are even worse. And what's the other, what is the other fact that, you know, is always, been a hot button for me, but I've had to accept it. Men usually are looking for younger women. I don't think we should put our ages down,

not until you have to get to know somebody should they know how old you are. On the dating app, Susan, you have to put your age to. In fact, a friend said to me, I should lie, but I'm not going to. I know. Oh, boy. You know, like I said, this goes so fast. But again, anybody that's listening,

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