Bachelor Happy Hour - Girl Talk with Lexi Young | 'Golden Hour'

Episode Date: September 11, 2024

Today on “Golden Hour,” Kathy and Susan sit down with Lexi Young from Joey’s season of “The Bachelor.” Lexi is giving us all her updates, from her ongoing battle with endometriosis to her dating life post-show and everything in between! Plus, we get her take on some of your questions. How do you get past troubles in the bedroom? How do you handle the fallout of a canceled wedding? Lexi has lots of insights that she’s ready to share and you won’t wanna miss it!  Tune in now to hear all this and more, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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I love you guys. Thank you. I'm so glad you're here. Tell us what's going on with you besides blondes do have more fun and you are absolutely gorgeous. Tell us what's going on in your life. Give us an update. It's been crazy. I mean, I'm sure as you guys know, like coming off the show and getting back into life is an adjustment to say the least. I feel like now I'm, you know, kind of out of it enough that I'm back into the day to day. So I'm still working my job. So I am, you know, pretty busy nine to six during the week and then trying to date, which I'm sure we'll get to. Oh, I can't wait to hear this. So, Lexi, you talked on Joey's season about your health issues with endometriosis. Can you, and by the way, that was incredibly brave of you to do

that. So, kudos to you. And, you know, it's an ongoing journey for you. So could you kind of share your updates on that? Definitely can. I appreciate you guys asking. So yeah, endo is, you know, it's a disease that is so unpredictable and it progressively gets worse over time. I was actually in New York a couple weeks ago and I saw my surgeon and I'm at the point, it's tough, right? So I'm at the point where they want to do another surgery. So they want to go in and they want to take out all that tissue that shouldn't be there. But I just turned 31 years old. And so my doctor said the ideal scenario is I would have one more surgery right before I want to conceive. And so that's a pretty hard thing to hear when you're

same, right? Like, I'm like, well, how do I time that up? Like, I'm not even dating someone, let alone having patients about having a child. So I'm kind of in this waiting game right now where like the pain has gotten worse. But I can't, I'm not really a candidate for surgery given my age. They don't want you to have too many surgeries because it creates like a lot of scar tissue. So it's been kind of tough. So wait, I'm a little confused, Lexi. You're saying they would go in and take out the tissue and then expect an immediate try to get you immediately to conceive before the tissue has a chance to regrow. Is that it?

Exactly. Because when they go in, they clean you up so you're like in your optimal state, like all of that. And then it's because the tissue grows back immediately. It's ready to conceive. Yeah. Yeah. So that was a hard conversation.

Lexi, is it painful? It is. Yeah. And it's like it's the type of endo is the type of disease where it hits you at any point, right? and that's also tough during dating because I can be getting ready for a date feeling fine and then just get hit with a flare where like I'm debilitated and cramps and like how do you explain that to someone you just met you know I know so like it's it's tough for sure do you explain do you when you're on a date do you tell I mean I we saw you do it on national TV not the first date

no but typically I mean how is that received like because a lot of people just don't know much about endometriosis They don't. And it's a fine line. I think I do try to disclose it now more early on because it's a part of my life. And I want to be with someone that's like, no worries. Like, we'll figure it out together. But I don't want to do it on the first date because I have trauma from my past where it was, it was, you know, my ex had an issue with that. And so he saw it as like a negative to me as a person. And so like, Joey gave me the confidence to feel like I can have those conversations. But it doesn't for me. Are you committed to having your own children? Would you adopt? How do you feel about that? Because you have, did I read somewhere or someone tell me that you have frozen your eggs? I did.

I froze them like eight days before I walked through the limbo to meet Joey, which is. Oh, that's so sweet. I was like, it was sweet, but I was so, like, you're on so many hormones during that. Like, I was not myself, I feel like, but that's okay. I mean, it all worked out. Wait, can we use that excuse, Susan? We had frozen our eggs so we weren't ourselves on the show. She was absolutely fabulous on that show.

I mean, hands down, more class and more strength. We really admire you. Thank you. So, yeah, I have my eggs and, you know, they're frozen right now down the street. And so that is reassuring. But I am to answer your question 100% open to adoption. I'd love to have one of my own. Like, I've always wanted to be a mom.

I feel a calling towards that. but adoption is something with the right person I would absolutely love to adopt. I love it. So I have a question. Yeah, go ahead. Do you believe in soulmates? That's a good question.

Did you lose that? I mean, did you believe in it prior to the show? And do you feel any differently now? Yeah, I think, you know, if you had asked me that at 26, I would have been like, yes, 100%. Like, you know, but it's so funny as you date and you get older while you're dating like you realize you can have multiple soulmates you realize you can fall in love multiple times and i always say that to my friends that are going through a hard time because

your first love like it's so meaningful and powerful but i look back to the person i thought i was going to marry the person that i broke up with before i went on the show and i'm so grateful that we did not right and you see all those things afterwards it takes time yes it takes time to realize that yeah lexie how long were you with your past your ex that you that you broke up with. Yeah, about two and a half, three years. So it was substantial. We were talking about marriage, engagement, you know, the house, the whole thing. I live in Atlanta. People here are married at 22. Oh, yeah. No, I'm, me, I was like, okay, when is it going to happen? And everything happens for a reason. I'm so grateful it didn't work out. But it does make you reevaluate how you think about soulmates,

at least me. I'm sure you guys feel the same, right? I still believe in soulmates. And I believe there's more than one out there. Yeah. I think for me, it's, I agree with Susan. I agree with you, Lexia. I feel like, you know, I would love to find my partner, my next partner, but I'm not going to try to replace my husband. It would just be someone different. But yeah, I think you're going to have more than one soulmate. I just have to, one of the quick question about your ex, because we talk about this a lot on the show. Would you ever consider dating him again? Well, absolutely not. No. Oh, wow. Okay. Never in a million worlds. I think I was very disrespected in that relationship towards my health. And I wish the confidence I have now. And

you know, it's funny, like I, my whole life have always kind of been in the background. I never saw myself as like this confident person. But watching the show back, I saw this person I didn't even know existed in me. And I was like, why would I tolerate that? And so I don't regret anything. Everything happens for a reason. You learn. So that's a great segue into my next question, which is given your experience with your ex and given your experience with Joey and just what you learned from the show, tell me what you're looking for now. How are your expectations different and what are you looking for now that you weren't before? They're so different. It's funny, and I don't want to be that person because I'm only 31. I'm not, you know, sometimes I talk to

my friend who are like 26 and I'm acts like this elder. I'm not, but it has changed. I used to be, I have to be with this tall. I had this whole hyperfixation on top. I don't care. They could be five, four. I want someone who has a good soul who is smart and driven and very empathetic and has the same long-term goals as me in terms of like having a family and, you know, building something together. And I don't care really about the physical anymore. It's about them being emotionally ready too.

It's about them being emotionally ready, having maturity to them. And I think physical can grow. I've also learned that as I've dated. I've gone on dates with people that. I was not excited about looking at their pictures. And then I got to talk to them and I was so attracted to them. They're nice. How is the dating going right now?

Like what's going on? It's tough out there. I gave up. But you know, I look at you, Lexi. You are absolutely, truly, I'm not just saying this. You are absolutely stunningly beautiful. Do you think that maybe men are intimidated by your beauty? Have you ever thought about that?

I mean, like they look at you and they go, oh, she wouldn't talk to me. I'm not even going to try. I think maybe you need to make the first move. I think my intimidation for me is like in my career because I've poured myself into my work probably to a bit of an extreme and I'm a bit of a workaholic. And I go on dates with people and they're like, oh my gosh, I look up to you so much. Like you're so you're so driven. And I don't really want to hear that.

I want to be like I'm also driven, you know, like I think a lot of the time. So like I've been alone now for a while. I'm 31. I'm extremely comfortable in my own life. I'm financially stable. Like, I don't need you. So, like, what are you going to? I want you. There's a difference in need and one. Yeah. And I love hearing that because so many women, younger women, they say, I just need the guy to complete me. No, no, no, friends. You need to be complete by yourself. And then let the right person compliment you. That is just brilliant, Lexi. You're so right. I mean, you are complete. Do you have conversations, not only. the first few dates, of course, about having children what you want. Yes. I'm pretty open about it. I mean, I don't see why you shouldn't be. Why not?

And that's the other thing now. I used to hold things back or give people a chance. Not that I don't not give people chances. But if I see red flags, I kind of just keep it moving now. And I'd rather say, yeah, I do. Yeah, right? Like, I do want kids soon. I mean, I'm not trying to.

It took 60 years for me to figure that out. No, Susan, we're going to discuss. this at a later date. Susan sees red flags and goes, hey, you know, let me give them a couple of years and see if I can change those right flags to what. Let's see. Would you guys agree that they never go away? Never, ever, ever. Either with mine. Once a red flag is there, it's, it's red, it's crimson. Call it any color you want, but it's not white. We are who we are. We believe and feel the way we do. Nobody can change that. I never envisioned being with a woman. I'll just be honest.

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And stick to your guns. I'm even more proud of her than I was on the show. Yeah, I'm very, yeah, I agree. I want to know, Lexi, because. you do seem so confident now. And I think, I'm asking you, do you think men out there want women at your age, because at my age, you know, we're talking about dust. But at your age, do you think that men want a woman who is dependent on them? What's going on in your age range? Do they want that dependency and you're too independent? Because you seem independent. Yeah, I do think so. I've run into that

in the dating world where I think guys they're like we almost want you to lean on them more so they can feel that power of masculinity like where I'm like I again I don't need you I want you you're in addition to my life and bringing you kind of as a let's how can you enhance what I already have and so yeah I think guys are threatened by that not everyone you're absolutely 100% correct

and it's a little bit I dare say game as independent as all three of us are whether it's financially, I don't mind being alone. I want to share my life with someone. But you need them to think you need them at certain times. Just like you always have to say, thank you. Oh, baby, you did that for me where we don't think anything of it. You know, yeah, you took out the trash.

Well, that's your job. You're supposed to take out. That's your duty, my duty of the dishes or whatever. But when they get gratitude for it, that makes them feel. I know. I learned that the hard way, trust me. Yeah, you can accept it, right? Like, I think I'm so much like, like, a lot of guys will be like,

you want me to pick you off or call you an Uber and I'm like, what do you mean? Like, I can get there on my own. What do you mean? Sure, call me an Uber. Like, you know. No, Lexi, that's when you say, yes, please send me your jet. Yeah, literally. Forget the Uber.

So what is your favorite thing and least favorite about being single? That's a great question. I don't think anyone's asked me that. It's always the narrative is now like, well, when are you going to meet someone? It's not about that. Yeah. My, I guess my least favorite thing is life events. So I think, yeah, have all these things like the Fourth of July, your birthday, Christmas, Thanksgiving.

A wedding, yes. Like, I want to start building memories. I want to be like, oh, last year for the Fourth of July, we went to the beach and we saw the fireworks and, like, building traditions. Like, I feel like I go through the minutia of these, you know, these big, like, big holidays. and I'm with all my friends and I love them and they're amazing. But sometimes it's like I wish I could share that with someone else. So that's probably my least favorite thing. And my favorite thing about being single is being able to like pour a lot of energy into

myself in a way that you can't necessarily always do when you're in a relationship. You can be a little selfish, right? Like you can, you know, I'm working on a side project right now outside of work. And, you know, I can take the trip and go visit a friend. I maybe can do whatever you want. I think that's why I'm still single because I will always do whatever I want, which is why. Susan, that's why you're still single because you will always.

Yeah, I heard that before because I'm like, shoot, okay, it is it, it's about being a team, right? And I'm super aware of that. So let me just explain to you. In my opinion, you're right. You can do whatever you want now. When you get married, then you have to consider your partner, or not get married, but when you get with someone, you have to consider your partner. and then when you have children, game over. No more sleep, no more, you know, it's a whole different, you know, a whole different world.

So, you know, I'm glad that you're enjoying while it's a mixed bag, right? It's never perfect because when you're your age, you want children and you want a partner. But, you know, once you have them, you have them. And so it's hard to get that mix. Yeah, really. I'm a second baby right now and I go to all the baby showers. I'm the fun aunt. So I see what it does to a relationship, though.

I'm not a hate to that. Like my friends who have had the strongest marriages have had rough days, right? Because having a newborn baby is hard. So you really have a strong foundation to bring in children. Yeah. So how do I want to know, Lexia, how do you stay so positive then? Because you are clearly how she's living her best life. Look at her.

She looks in the mirror and feels thankful, grateful, look at me. Hey, Susan, you and I do too. But that, you know, some days we all wake up. Come on. We all wake up. Well, I'm about to go down the beach this weekend as the fifth wheel again. I'm kind of getting used to it. I mean, yes.

I'm sorry. Where's my invitation? But I know what you're saying. Lexi, you do get used to it. You still go and you're not disappointed, but it would have been nice. Yeah. Like, I definitely have my days where especially, like, it will hit me. Like, I go behind.

And I know that's so dumb to say. But like, I think, oh, my gosh. my friends are on their second kid, like by the time I have kids, their kids will be in middle school. I mean, that's so dramatic. But like, you know, you get in your head. But it's natural. Yeah, it is natural. Is there something you do, though, like every day? Like I wake up every day, and I know Susan does too. We just say thank you. We're so grateful to, you know, wake up and have the energy is do you have something you do that keeps you positive. I feel a sense of hope because I do believe after going through a few traumatic relationships that ended and I've been through a lot

like with my health. I've been through a lot of seasons for being 31. I think there's hope that it will happen when it's supposed to happen. I know that's so like lame to say. It is not. Don't say that. Leave that sentence out. But I do feel that he's out there right now and it's we just haven't crossed past for a reason and we will soon. And when it happens, I feel like it'll probably happen quickly for me because my life set up to bring someone in and I would hopefully meet someone that matches that. But I mean, I can't. Would you date someone older?

I would. With children? With someone who has children? I thought about that. I can't answer that. I don't know. I think I... It would depend on the man, I guess.

How you felt, yeah. Yeah, I never saw that for myself. So that would be something new for the right person I would, as long as they would want more children. So that's really important to me. But I would date someone older for sure. I've always dated younger. Me too. You've always dated guys younger than you?

Okay, Lexi, Lexi, this I think we may have just hit, before we move on to the next topic, I think we may have just hit the jackpot as to why you're not dating guys who meet your standard because guys do not mature until they're, oh, I don't know, what do you say, Susan 50? They're five years behind us. They're five good years behind us. Five to ten. I mean, that's what I'm saying you might want to look at guys a little bit older. because you have your ducks in a row.

I'll go older. I'll go younger. I'll go the same age. A lot of the times they have a lot of trauma baggage. But who doesn't? Everyone does. I know, but if you find someone who's like, and I have no business dating a 26-year-old,

but a lot of the times the younger guys are more moldable, this is terrible. I don't know. It's not terrible. I should probably. I want to hook her up with Nick, I swear. I just want to get married. Listen, I got married when I was 20.

and I trained my husband and I'm not doing, yeah, that's, you, in so ways. They don't do that anymore, Kath, that's done. Really? Forget. Another reason I'm single. We can't compare that. But we're going to have some advice with Lexi. Lexi, will you join us with this one?

Good. So we read some questions and then we give some advice and we want you to weigh in on this, okay? All right, here's our first one. This one is from Anonymous, age 32, from Cleveland, Ohio. Hi, Golden Girls. I'm curious if you have ever known anyone to cancel a wedding after so much

has already been paid for. I have just been having this gut-wrenching feeling recently that my fiance and I are not meant to be. We have been together for five years and I didn't see this coming. But as the day is approaching, I am realizing, for a lot of reasons, like him recently deciding he doesn't want to have

kids after we previously discussed. Otherwise, that I should not marry this man. If you know anyone who has been through this, how did their family, friends, bridal party react? I haven't told anyone besides my therapist that I'm thinking about this and we are four months out. I feel so guilty because we have all spent a lot of time and money on this, but I know if we get married, it will end in divorce. Any words of wisdom are appreciated. Thank you, besties. Well, anonymous. What do you What do you think? I know someone that this happened to. I won't say who because someone's life, but it was a similar timeline.

And was it hard while it was happening? They had already had the Bachelorette party. Everything was planned. Everyone's flights were booked. Yes, it was hard. But here's the thing that people in your life who love you and support you do not want you to get a marriage that is going to end in divorce. If you're thinking about that before walking down the aisle, it's only going to get more

challenging. And so, yes, it might be like a season, a little bit. period of really something you don't want to deal with. But at the end, I have to say, you can't, you can't. Yeah, it'll hurt like hell, but I think she should up front talk to him and tell him what she's thinking and feeling. You know, sometimes men will say, oh, I don't think I want to have kids. Yet they do.

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Everyone say, hello, Ed. Hello, Ed. I'm from a very rural background myself. My dad is a farmer and my mom is a cousin. What do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? I know it sounds like the start of a bad joke, but that really was my reality nine years ago. I just normally do straight stand-up, but this is a bit different. On stage stood a comedian with a story that no one expected to hear.

The 22nd of July 2015, a 23-year-old man had killed his family. And then he came to my house. So what do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? A new podcast called Wisecrack, where stand-up comedy and murder takes center stage. Available now. Listen to Wisecrack on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

I don't write songs. God write songs. I take dictation. I didn't even know you've been a pastor for over 10 years. I think culture is any space that you live in that develops you. On a recent episode of Culture Raises Us podcast, I sat down with Warren Campbell, Grammy-winning producer, pastor, and music executive

to talk about the beats, the business, and the legacy behind some of the biggest names in gospel, R&B, and hip-hop. This is like watching Michael Jackson talk about thoroughly before it happened. Was there a particular moment where you realize just how instrumental music culture was to shaping all of our global ecosystem. I was eight years old, and the Motown 25 special came on. And all the great Motown artists, Marvin, Stevie Wonder, Temptations, Diana Ross. From Mary Mary to Jennifer Hudson, we get into the soul of the music and the purpose that drives it.

Listen to Culture raises us on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Or they don't even know they do. Not that she should stay and try it and end up in a divorce, but you're exactly right. people that love you will be there. Yeah, I think people initially would say, oh, you're just having cold feet or that's what people would start to say. But anonymous, what I hear you saying is you're very thoughtful about this. You've talked about it with your therapist. And what I'm hearing is he has changed his mind about children. And you know what? That's just not okay to do it. And frankly that's what engagements are for you know it's better to break it off now in my opinion you know

send back the silver send back the honeymoon money send it all back and next when you find the right guy go a lope and you know what even you've made it even you haven't spent too much money i think that's really sad but i think she's got to do the right thing i think it hurts a lot and you're going to feel guilty but don't just just be you and be true to yourself because if not you'll regret at this. Yeah. And I think it's important to talk to him too. Like I do, yeah. I understand that you can get these thoughts in your head and they can ruminate and they can start to spiral. Like I think sitting down having a conversation, maybe he feels the same way. Like, oh, that's good point. That's why I said. Like, she's really considering stopping this. Yeah, but you know what? She's also, she's also very

concerned about what her family and friends in the bridal party will say. They're her family and friends. They're going to get over it. yeah and if they don't you know not their life they're not signing agreement they're not living with him for the next 60 years like at the end of the day like they might have thoughts feelings emotions but it's not their life and so she's the only at the pen to her story and lexie you're so wise she is we wish you lots of luck anonymous from cleveland okay the next one is from robin and she's 48 and from fort lauderdale florida hey ladies i have been running into an issue in the bedroom with my husband.

We are on very different pages when it comes to sex, like how often we want it, how often each one wants it. He has a high libido and wants to have sex every day, sometimes even two times a day. Not only do I not have that sex drive, but a few years ago, my back got injured in a car accident. So having sex that frequently isn't sustainable for me. Some days, I'm in pain and cannot have sex at all. I don't know what to do or how to get on the same page about this.

We are great partners otherwise and have been together for 15 years. But I fear he is going to want to leave me over this because we've been fighting about it recently. Let me know your thoughts. And if you have any advice, thank you and love your podcast. Oh, me. Okay, Lexi, what do you say? That's a tough one. I think as someone who has a lot of pelvic pain, I can understand to a degree of, you know,

maybe someone wanting it more and being in pain and not being able to necessarily do that all the time. But I think with the right person, if you had an open line of communication, there's other things that you can do. My words. That maybe you guys can find other things that can, like, spark that romantic vibe, what they're looking for in a different way that's not as, like, impactful to her physical health and well-y. Right. I mean, when I first hear it, I feel bad. But then I also know women like she's 48. So you kind of, the libido goes like this. It's going to start. And the next 10 years are even worse when you start losing hormones and start menopause and such. I don't think that's true for every woman. I don't think that's true. I think can some women, yes, some women, their libido increases over age. I think that. Yeah, I was that girl. Yeah. I think that this, Robin, what I'm hearing, maybe part of this is, and I think you can agree with this, Lexi, if you're in pain and you know something, some sexual act is going to cause you pain, you're probably not saying, hey, let's go do that because you know what's going to ensue, right? So she's probably fearful of the pain and that decreases her sexual appetite. I mean, I get that. But there has other things that you could play. So keep them satisfied, so to speak, but in a way that you could enjoy it as well.

Exactly. Yep. Do you not think, I'm curious, again, Lexi, Susan and I are, you know, on the other end of the spectrum here. But do you think that not having sex twice a day, like can you see that ruining a marriage? No. Twice a day is a lot. I think, yeah. I think that, you know, everyone-

Or once a day, whatever, I'm saying, could you see that? I think not after 15 years. I think everyone has their expectations of what they need from a physical perspective, but there has to be something outside of that physical relationship that's keeping you together, right? Like, it's not, their whole relationship isn't writing on this. And I hope not. And it sounds like it's not because she said they have a great marriage. But yeah, I think, you know, it's all about communication, especially when it comes.

She steals my words. I love you. You're exactly right. I was just going to say that's our C word coming into play. It is. Once again, it is so important that you have a conversation. Let them know how you're feeling. I agree with that.

What I was trying to say is even if you can communicate, I'm asking you as a younger person, even if you communicate if that, if her husband is, that's his jam. You know, I want to have sex once a day, sometimes twice a day. and that's it, I hate to say it, has become a deal breaker for him. Marriage has ended on a lot less. But it's not yet. She's worried that it could. They've been fighting about it.

Yeah. She's overthinking it. She's feeling a little bit of guilt. I have the solution. She hurts. Susan. Get him a playmate? No, Robin, send your husband to Susan and me. We'll take care of them.

You just rest your back. We'll take care of them. Oh, my goodness, Robin. we wish you luck but talk to your man and then discover other things yeah exactly that's even coming from a 31 year old and a 71 year old and a 67 year old wow I know I'll meet him now I think we've we've hit the hit the so wait Lex what if it were you um and they wanted you know to to be physical I mean twice a day every day is ridiculous come on That gets old after 15 years.

I'm going to be wrong with the right person. Like, I'm a very physical touch type of, type of gal and I think other things you can do. What is your love language, Lexi? My love language is quality time, for sure. I love being with the person that I care about doing nothing even. Like, you know, but I feel like, you know, you could probably, I could speak to all of them. But quality time is mine. What about you guys?

I'm physical touch. And I think I want all five. I want them all. But I want them all. I want them all. I have a question though, Lexi, before we leave here. Do you have any questions for us, any advice you want from us or do you have any advice for us? Yeah.

What do you think, Lex? Well, I guess the advice, like, I guess, you know, you said you got married to Kathy at 20. I did. How old you were? I was a little older. Okay. In my 20s, though. In your 20s?

Like, what do you like, there's all this pressure, right? I mean, I feel it a lot as I'm turning 31, like everyone says at 35, your fertility goes down. And I have a, you know, my girlfriend just had a baby. She's 42. And it's she gorgeous. And then you hear narratives. I hear this all the time. Oh, you're single and 31. What's wrong with you? Oh, yeah. So I will tell you, Lexi, my daughter moved back. She's as beautiful as you are and very successful. And she moved back to Austin. And this is the advice I give everyone who, if you're asking for advice, who's your age. And you seem to. who really have adopted it. Do the things that you love. Whatever those activities are, whatever brings you joy, get out and do those things and the right people will come into your life because they're not going to come knock at your front door, right? But if you're out

doing the things that you love and meeting people, you're going to meet that person that connects with you and that you connect with. And I do believe that to a point, Kathy, because the times are so different with the dating apps and the people with their head down and they think oh that one's next who's next and there are multiple dating sites it's not always that easy well i wasn't but but the most important part of the statement that you just made was do the things that you like that make you happy and if that happens great yeah yeah yeah for sure i and just trying to stay positive like you guys said but it's that it needs to stop like i think Kathy has to keep me positive because I bitch you all the time.

That's hard. No one's perfect, obviously. I think he said if you get out. I'm sorry, wait. Excuse me. Who's not perfect? Oh, God. Don't go there, Lex.

Oh, too. We would love to be in your company again. And you're in Atlanta? I am for now. Yeah, I'm trying to figure out what that looks like for me. Because dating in Atlanta's hard, but I don't want to move. Every city. Every city.

And that's what everyone tells me. They're like, you're not going to move to New York and be like. Come to Austin. There's tons of single guys in Austin. Austin's great. have you ever been? I've been for a work trip. I've never been for fun,

but they had great restaurants. Like, it's, yeah, it's a great city. It's hot, hot, hot, but it's a beautiful, beautiful city. And you know what? You have given us such good advice, giving everybody good advice. I just thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. And Katz, maybe we could take the show on the road

and go down to Atlanta and hang and we'll do a podcast from her house. I love that. I have great friends in Atlanta. I'm going to see if they've got any, they've got kids your age. So I'm going to see if they know anybody single Lexi. back down that you just keep doing you stay beautiful thank you that's the best well that does it for

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