Bachelor Happy Hour - Give It More Energy with Sandra Mason | Golden Hour

Episode Date: May 29, 2024

Today on Golden Hour, Kathy and Susan are sitting down with fellow Golden gal Sandra Mason! We kick off today's episode on a hot note: Sandra is clearing the air on missing her daughter's wedding, and she is giving us the whole story. Then, we get an update on Sandra's dating life and she is getting REAL. And of course, we get into some Sandra advice; what would she tell Joan's eligible Golden bachelors? Tune in now to hear all this and more and be sure to follow so you never miss an episode! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics and on the latest episode of Spolitics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives. We continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents. and there's life after Congress. Make sure to listen to this episode of Politics

on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD...

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with you today, Sandra. I want to know you live in Atlanta, hotlanta. Tell me what's going on there. Well, not a lot. It's not hot. It's very pleasant. Yeah, the weather is perfect. Not hot, not cold, no wind. It's just perfect. It's time for people to visit hot Atlanta. April May, best time of the year. Yes. Okay, Sandra, we got to claw up the elephant in the room. You know I'm going to do it because that's what I do. Okay, which elephant cat? Well, here she goes.

I mean, we can talk about your F-bombs. But I know. I'm not going to do that to you. I'm going to make it worse. I'm going to ask you about your daughter's wedding. Please settle this once and for all. You've got two fabulous daughters. Settle it for us about the marriage of your daughter

that took place why we were on a golden bickle-batchel. Go ahead, do it. Okay, not a problem. I got to tell you guys, I got so much flak from people, but no one knows really the backstory. So let me, first of all, give you a little bit of backstory. My daughter is 51 years old. Her hubby is 53 or 54. He's a grandfather. This is for each of them, their second marriage. So hopefully that helps to let people know. It's not like she was 20-something and she had a white gown and six bridesmaids and all the hoopla. No, it was a very, very small affair. But here's the thing.

As you know, because it was set on air that my daughter said to me, Mom, I've got my guy. You go get yours. Number one. What America didn't hear is that my son-in-law, because he's such a great guy. He said, Mom. he said our marriage no he said our ceremony is eight minutes our marriage is a lifetime he said celebrate the marriage go and he practically shoved me another hallmark card here okay yeah he said and and he said they were both like if you don't go we're going to be pretty upset with you so guess what i did i went and they were so

proud of me for doing that for making the decision for going ahead and going and so wait just to be clear Sandra, this was not like an expensive church wedding, mom being there. It was, it really was a very small affair that your daughter insisted that you go on the Golden Bachelor. This wasn't your decision as much of it was your daughters. Is that correct? Daughter and son-in-law. Can I chime in? This guy sounds great. Oh, God, you guys just don't know. I mean, she was on a trip here recently. He called a check on me and he was he misses her and so he thought he'd call me and see he's can i just say bachelor nation for all you listen to this podcast to me the what is your daughter's name sandra the name is evany e v evany you're a n y evan she's supposed to be a boy named evan okay

i love it evan girl how cute is that so you know what evany sounds like she found her perfect match i don't know about you guys but i'm envious Who cares? A wedding ceremony is like 10 minutes. It's like the life together. Eight minutes. Eight minutes. Let me correct you. And you're right, Kathy. It was such a quick thing with, I think, her dad and a couple of people. It was so fast. It was hardly worth, let's put it this way. If I weren't even on the Golden Bachelor, I probably wouldn't have flown for it. It wasn't that big a deal. Sandra, what was faster, your relationship with Gary or your? daughter's wedding. That's a toss-up here. I don't know.

Sandra hung out for quite some time. I'm just saying. So envious. You and I both, Sandra, we left together. Yeah. You guys got to, can I just say? Wait, can I just say? Yeah.

I got to go on the fancy extravaganza trip. Oh, no, wait. That was you guys. You went to the Santa Monica Pier. That was fun. Oh, yeah. It was real fun with the hair wind

blown and the water, milking the makeup. Did you go on? Did you go on the Ferris wheel? Did you go on the, what's it called the roller coaster? The roller coaster. My hands were straight up in the average square. I love rides.

Did you go, Sandra? Did you go? You know, that roller coaster was not what you called death riding. I know. It was kind of a. All right. That's a bumper cars. Remember the bumper cards?

And the bumper cars. The pirate ship or whatever it's called, you know. Yeah, our bellies were, whoa, whoa. But it was fun. It was fun. I had more fun throwing balls at the targets and winning a, a doll than I did This is, y'all, this is

old, this is what old folks do. We like to go to amusement parks and throw stuffy animals. I mean, really? It was a boardwalk and we were playing games. It is fun. I take the grandkids. I always have fun doing that. That was fun. Sandra, are you dating?

Are you dating? Or did Shiland from the Chippendale's ruined Katie for you? No. He was hot. He was a nice young man. You guys just don't know because I had time to talk with him and he's, he's going places. He's no, he's not just a body. No. He's a smart. Would you

rather date him or Steve Harvey? Well, Steve's married, so. They weren't married, of course. Oh, well, what do you think? I mean, Steve's more age appropriate. I love Steve. He's a character. Did you have fun on Family feud? Family feud.

Yes, we had fun. I struggled with a couple of the questions and I was a little bit embarrassed, but I had the time of my life, just being with all you guys, you know? Yeah, it was fun. The before and the after the show, that was, you know, getting to some folks I hadn't seen in a while. Oh, yeah. I was a feeling that this might be our last charade, at least for a long while. Never, Sandra, never say the last row. I know, I know, but for a while anyway. Edith reached out to me yesterday and said she's feeling the same way. She goes, Susan, there's no date in the future. I'm hoping for the

Golden Bachelorette that we all get to come back. And I said, we're all going to be Bachelors. right? Maybe judge a contest. Yes, something. Something, you know, something to support. Listen, you all go and judge the contest. You know what I'm doing? Looking at the men. I'm getting the names and the numbers of the rejects, and they're all going to be mine.

You know, speaking of which, I know a guy who might be, he's gone through the casting process. He hasn't been given the final. I don't know if I should tell the producers that I know him or not. I don't know if it's critical, but. Do you remember us, though? we had to wait such a long time, you don't know. They don't like to tell you too far in advance.

Susan, forget that. Let's get this guy's name a number. What's wrong with you? But he lives in Atlanta, y'all. I'll move. Yeah. Yeah, we're not those people that say we'll never move. Or say we're gone and not. He's six foot five, Kathy. Ooh.

What do you mean Kathy? What about Susan? You're shorter. I thought we were friends. Kathy's tall and I just, yeah. There you go. I love you, Sandra. Thank you very much. You can girl. Sandra, since you've gotten home, yes. Do you feel the same way about what you're looking for in a man or a partner?

Yeah, pretty much. Absolutely. You know, being on the show didn't change my desires. It just, you know, maybe a little more motivated. Oh, you're more motivated? Oh, yeah. I mean, in other words, I got a taste of what it might be like to date and meet a man. And so, you know, my radar is a little stronger than it was before we went on this show.

She's ready, guys. She is ready. But wait, can I just say, as the world now knows, they all know our age because it was plastered on the TV screen every week. Sandra is 75. She will be 76. I think in July is your birthday. She looks amazing. You look fabulous, may I say?

Thank you. But I want to know, you were one of the old. older women on The Bachelor, you know, they went as young as 60 and you're 70, you at the time was 75. That's a 15 year age difference. Talk to me just a little bit about how that felt you because you look fabulous, you're fit. I'm just curious how you felt being a 75 year old on the show. Okay, well, let me just correct you. I wasn't just one of the oldest. I was the oldest. I was older than she rolls her eyes. I was older than anyone in. at the mansion, the crew, the producers, the caterers.

I was the oldest person walking the soil there, okay? How did I feel? No big deal. No, first of all, I knew my age, so, you know, it was not a big deal. And it's good to feel young and to be in shape and all that. So no one questions me, you know. No one even knew. I think it was Edith who asked me about my daughters one day.

you know, ask me about my kids and I told her two daughters. She said, how old are they? And I said, they're 51 and 39. And she said, what? She said, well, how old are you? And that's when I told her, I was 75. She said, what? I remember when you told me, I thought you were a lion. Who, Susan, who would possibly lie about their age? I'm 60. I'm 60. Well, I just think it's interesting. I didn't feel any kind of way, Kath. It's, it is what it is. And I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm glad to be walking this earth. Amen. Well, and you're an amen. But I guess, you know, I've said this many times before. Ageism is alive and well. And do people say, oh, Sandra, you look so great for 75. You know, do they say that to you? Yes. Well, those who know my age say that. Otherwise,

people say, God, you're a good looking lady. Oh, you are, Sandra. I like that. I like that more than, you know, 475, but that's a, that's a cherry on top. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her.

Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them.

I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

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But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. I have a question for you.

Yeah. Say you fell in love with Gary or whoever your show was with. Would you move away from home? It depends. You know, that's also circumstantial. So where he lives, where his home is, you know, what's his family life like? What is he, you know, is he a city guy or is he a country guy? Does he work?

Does he not work? I mean, there's so many variables that I can't. just blanketly say, yes, I would move. Wait, but, wait a minute. Susan, are you saying move permanently or split time? What are you saying? Well, I think the split in time is the answer. I absolutely do. And think about it. We're women of our age, so we don't work anymore.

Well, I still do, believe it or not. But it's not about work. It's more about what you just said depends on where he lives. That, for me, would have a lot to do with it. I would prefer to do part-time here, part-time there. I mean, you have to negotiate at this point. Some women, well, they're not crazy about where they live. They're up and leave.

Maybe he lives in a great spot. Sandra, maybe he thinks you do. Wait a minute. I'm a little confused. Sandra, are you saying you would not, you, you're sure or you're not sure that you would consider spending time, splitting time with someone? I'm, which are you saying? Well, I think that's an ideal situation.

Okay. Because like Susan said, we're each, what's the word, we each have families and extended families and hobbies and friends and clubs or whatever we're into. So splitting time to me sounds like the ideal thing. Now, who knows, maybe he lives in Hawaii or might live in a place that I would love to move to. And he might love Atlanta. Who knows? I got to say, I got to say, you know, if Gary and I, clearly, you know, we were in the friend zone as well, and God knows, I don't, you know, I don't want to be in a cornfield. But if I had loved Gary, I would have spent, you know, back and forth, Austin to Pudson, Indiana.

I mean. I would go for a week? I'm saying, but I'm saying, wouldn't you have split time? I would have split time. I would do. I would too. You know what? It's hard to answer because there wasn't that love for me. No, but I'm saying any guy, Susan.

Yeah, it would depend, yeah. I mean, my kids are scattered. Two of my boys are here, but my daughter's three and a half hours away. So I still have to drive to visit her, but to move across the United States. I didn't say move. I didn't say move. I said split time. And you've said that, Susan.

You would do it. I absolutely would. But my question was, would you refuse to go. I mean, is that like a deal breaker? No, are you asking me or Kathy? Yes, yes, I was. No, I would not refuse. Absolutely would not.

I mean, if he's ideal otherwise, it's something that we could just work through. I, you know, it's not like, like you say, it's not like I have a job or I'm taking care of grandkids or kids or dogs or what. I'm free to navigate. To live your life. We actually talked to Joan about it and we were all like, we have to have two houses. He has one. we have one, and then we need a guest house, a beach house. Yeah, Joe, can you believe Joan wants three houses, so, you know, we're all going,

we're all going to surface at her third, you know, vacation house. He's going to dust-stead houses. Okay, anyway, that's another subject. All right, I have a question. Man, are you dating, seriously, are you dating at all? No, well, I've had a few dates, but nothing. Did they come from your DMs? Where did you meet them? Oh, let's see.

Two from my DMs. Really? Damn, what are we doing? in wrongsons. Nobody likes us, Kathy. I don't know what. And then one was a bumped into at a grocery store. The other was an introduction from a friend.

So various situations. But you actually got DM'd and you liked them and started chatting and how did that enough? And you met them? Can I tell you guys, though, how disappointed I was with the one that I thought was ideal. Now, this is going to sound really crummy. Okay. Now, don't speak.

Sandra Goat, no one's listening for us to. Should I whisper? Good, good looking guy, articulate, financially secure, granddad. You know, he had all the parts of, but you guys, I don't know how to say this. Just say it. I found myself talking and over talking because I didn't want to hear him talk. I didn't know what, but let me tell you why. Because get ready for this thing.

His breath was so foul. You guys, you can't imagine. And it wasn't garlic. It was something that's, wasn't onion from yesterday. This was something wrong. This is called, okay, I'm sorry, can I just do a public service announcement? PSA, brush your teeth, floss, and go to the dentist at least twice a year. Thank you so much.

No, sometimes it's a condition and they can't even help it. This was more than brushing, flossing. This was a systemic. There was something wrong. Either some periodontal issues, you know, come to sea or something worse. A dentist. No, it's more than a dentist. What's sad is you couldn't.

Oh, geez. It's sad that you couldn't have that conversation because you didn't know them well enough. And it's not my piece. I'm sorry. Here's how this rolls, guys. Hi, I'm Sandra. Something died inside of you. I'm sorry.

I mean, seriously, people. I'm sorry. But you know what? I agree. I have a nickname for you, too. Well, uh-oh. Anne Landers and Dear Abby. Because I listen to your podcast, you know, when you're answering questions, you guys are hilarious.

And that's all I can think of was the two sisters who have those advice columns. I'm still feeling sorry for this perfect guy. I just want to call the doctor and say, Look, I can help you. You are perfect in every way, but I can't come near you. You need to fix it so I can come near you. And I'm telling you guys, you're sitting across the table, not next to each other. And all I can do is lean back and turn my head to the side and keep talking so he wouldn't.

Okay, Sondra, that's clearly your worst date. Can we get off that subject? Give me your best date story, please. Oh, gosh, guys. The best date was just a guy that we had a great conversation. I don't know. He just wasn't for me. Well, I think he won.

He was a little bit too young. And he was kind of, what's your young, Sandra? Yeah, what's your young Sandra? Tell us, how many. Okay. Okay, we discuss my age. Okay. So if you're five something, it ain't going to work.

You mean 50 something? 50 something? Come on, that's 20 years. I'm sorry, that's your daughter's older brother is what that is. Thank you. You might be good for rolling the hay. I was just going to say he'd be fun for a minute. A minute? That's all?

You're easy, Susan. No, I get it. I get it. You know what I'm saying? I'm sorry. You know what? We all have our limits, our preferences, and we've got to cut it off somewhere, you know. I'm not a cougar, never was, and don't want to be called that or considered that. So I really want to date age appropriately, which for me is maybe 64, 65, and above. Wait a minute.

What's a cougar? Why do you think you're not a cougar? You're older, you're hot, you're self-sufficient, you're financially stable. Isn't that a cougar? No, a cougar is someone who dates men younger than she. Not just younger, but extremely, you know, different, two or three, you know. Cougar, when you're 50 and you're dating a 30-year-old. Hell, I'm 70. I think I'm a cougar if I date a 69-year-old. Well, here's the deal. Sandra, we're happy, at least you got out there a few times. I mean, look at us.

We have a podcast. We had each other, huh, Ann, hi, Abby? That's right. That's right, Abby. How you doing tonight, Abby? So wait, I want to know, God knows your ideal date was not kissing that guy. What is your ideal date? Tell me, what would it be like drinks, dinner, Netflix, fire, you know, a roll in the hay.

But we do. I was going to say ideal. date was that guy with good breath. But going somewhere, you know what? You guys, I'm real easy. You know, I don't drink as you know that. I'm not a foodie. So I'm open and we could go. Activity, pickleball, you know. Pickle ball. We could. Something as simple and stupid as taking a walk. Literally, you guys. I like that. Dancing. I love to dance. Watching a ball game. You know, I'm not, I'm not a woman that has to be whined and dined. and treasured and all that.

Just, let's just... Wait, you don't need three houses? Not yet. No, again, I don't want to have to clean three houses or manage three houses. Honey, if you can afford three houses, you're not cleaning any of them. Let's be clear. I hear you. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious.

Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast. So we'll find out soon. This person writes, My boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem,

but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor

and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we feel? find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not.

To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jamil Hill, host to the Sports and Politics Podcasts Politics. And on the latest episode of Politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives, and that's been part of the the challenge. But we continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents,

to stand up for your constituents. And there's life after Congress. And you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your time in the House of Representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years. But their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it, will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor.

And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you.

Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. I have a good question for you. What advice do you have for contestants going on the Golden Bachelorette? Okay, that's a million dollar question. Wait, wait. Do you mean the men going on or the woman? Yeah, if it's The Bachelorette show, what advice would she give the men?

The men, okay. When you say going on or trying out for, what are you? Going on. Going on this show. What advice would you give them? Well, I would say, act like you're extremely happy to be there, happy to meet the Bachelorette. Please, you know, look into her eyes when you speak with her, pay her, and only her attention doesn't make a difference.

How many cameras, what crew, whatever's there, really focus on her, make her feel so special at that moment. I'm sorry, Sandra, can I interrupt for one second? How do you do that with three minutes of time? Well, whatever time you have, if it's three and a half minutes, you do, you give them you're undivided. And you smile and you act happy to be there. And just, you know, just give it all plus.

make it just be yourself no be true to yourself with more energy just give it more energy than you have on a normal date you know in your hometown Susan what would you do I'm curious what your advice is exactly what I did I just am who I am yeah just be me and I am a pretty positive you got it like that you're you've got charisma coming out of your well but you know what I noticed that Gary gave each of us on on our three minutes his undivided attention He did. He's paid attention, and I think that was really important. He did. And do you know who else did that? Joey?

Mm-hmm. Joey was very good at that. But when you're vying, when you're in a pool of people, and you're vying for that woman's attention in this case, you got to make her feel like she is... Oh, this you. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Right. I'm sorry. I'm back on Joey.

When you look like Joey, you can say and do whatever the hell you want. It's going to go well for you. Let's be honest. Well, okay, you're right. But, you know, these guys buying for one lady and having to, you know, work around the other guys that, you know, that might give you the edge for the first one-on-one date or the something, something, whatever, you know. Do you think it's going to be as easy for the men as it was for us? You know, see how we all bond it. We were happy for the next person to have a date. We were excited for them.

Do you think the men are going to be as? Yes, with limits. One, they're older gentlemen. So, yes, they're going to be a little more sophisticated and not ready to bump chests and thump each other. And I think they started at, what it was it, 57? But they're not 20s and 30s. Oh, true.

And two, I just think that the men are just going to have a little more respect for one another. I would like to think that that's what they're going to do. In their 50s and 60s and maybe older, come on. They have to have their shit together by then, right? Wait, I have a question. Saunders had dates and Susan, you and I, well, Susan, you've had a couple, but I've had no dates. So I'm curious, Sando, give me some dating advice, what you got for me?

Seriously, because it's not working for me. Blue Ribbon question. Well, one, you guys are working two doggone hard. Okay. I'm just saying. You're working. Susan's West Coast, East Coast, Alaska, Antarctica. Susan's every doggone weird.

So she doesn't have time for dating. But, you know, I think, Kathy, you just got to be in the right place at the right time. You just got to keep living life, keep going, whatever your interest and hobbies are, Kathy. Just keep doing it because you'll bump into somebody. And again, I know you've put out the feelings. Your friends know you want a guy. So something will happen. You know, your friends will think of someone or your relative.

I'm not really worried. I'm really not worried. I just, it was more like, Susan, I were talking. We're both strong personality. and that's not everybody's cup of tea. So we answer questions all the time from our fans that send them in, and we want you to be a part of this. Will you be okay with that?

Oh, right now? Sure, absolutely. Yeah. Kathy, you want to read the first one? All right. So, okay, Sondra, here we go. Hello there. Olivia here.

I am a mom to an adorable little two-year-old boy, and being a mom has been the best thing in the world. The not-so-fun part has been the relationship. relationship with my husband. Since we had the baby, we have been so disconnected and we hardly ever have any intimate time or alone time anymore. We haven't had a date night in years, and it feels like he doesn't really put in any effort. When we're on the couch, just as to when the baby is sleeping, he's just on his phone or not really engaging with me. I know people say the first year is tough, but we're two years in and it's not getting any better. I recommend therapy.

but he doesn't want to go. I'd love any advice you gals have for me on how to get my marriage back on track after having a kid and how to spice it up. We want more kids, so we're going to have to have sex again eventually. Thank you for any help you can provide. What do you think, Sandra? Well, I think there's a lot unsaid there, but I mean, maybe she needs to spice it up, come in the room, sit on the couch with him with some pasties on or some,

I don't know. Dress it up, baby. Dress it up and get his attention. Wake him up and he'll say, whoa. You know, and if you've got to be aggressive, touch him, love him, stroke him, do whatever you've got to do to make it happen. You've got to bring out of that slump of, you know,

he may be tired because the kid wore him out, like the kid wears you out, but wears her out, I should say. But make it happen. If he's not making it happen, someone has to so let it be you let it be you we we all heard her say she mentioned counseling so that's telling me that they've talked about this that she obviously complained about it a little bit like why are we not could it be that he's in another place i mean there's that what do you mean

in another place what is not interested anymore oh could be hey guys we're like the pasty part myself but throw along some stilettos. Oh, Jesus, girlfriend. How about some negligees with the stilettos? I think you're both overlooking. We both have been parents a long time. I remember what it was like. A two-year-old kids are exhausting.

You know what? It's like she rushed from marriage and having the child to therapy. How about this, Olivia? get a babysitter surprise your husband go to the motel six down the road not motel six at least go to the marriott whatever the point is leave the child

with your parents a babysitter somebody go have a night with your husband this is the thing people never want to say a good marriage takes work and children are as much as we love of our children. They do put, you know, a fracture, not fracture, but, you know, there are a lot of work and they can make a marriage a little bit tougher. So. Absolutely. Take some time for your spouse. When do you think that a counselor worth their salt would have suggested that already? I mean,

literally. Well, the husband, Olivia's husband doesn't want to go to counseling. And you know what? Oh, I'm sorry. I missed that. Okay. Yeah. And he probably doesn't want to go to counseling because it's like, you know, I'm hungry. Let's go buy out the grocery store. I mean, let's start with first things first. Give the guy some attention. She is, and it's two years, and he's not paying attention back. So one, you can try to spice it up, but if that doesn't work,

and I got what you were saying, that kids exhaust you, he's at work all day. She's the one that is exhausted. And she finally gets some time, yes, with her husband. been, and he's not paying attention. That's a problem for me. You know what Susan's saying? He's got a little bit on the side. No, I'm not saying that.

Do you think he does? I didn't hear that. No. Well, she says her marriage is not on track. And she said, you know what's interesting here? She said, we want more children. We're going to have to have sex again. It doesn't sound like she's so interested in having sex either, which maybe that's the problem.

Maybe she wasn't. No, no, no, no, Kathy. she wants it. He's not paying attention to her. He's sitting beside her. What a great time to touch each other. And he's not interested. He's on his phone. He's doing other things. I know. But I'm just going by, again, guys, all we know is by what Olivia's writing. She said, we want more kids. So we're going to have to have sex again eventually. Maybe she's not as forward with him as maybe she's saying she is. I don't know. We don't know. I wouldn't bring any more kids in there. No, heck no. Well, yeah, I think they got a, you know, I think people. I'm sorry, Olivia. I know, but don't you think people think marriage is going to, they jump in and think marriage is going to be easy?

I think it's hard. I mean, my daughter just had her first child. She and her husband, and that child just had, she's adorable, she's had her first birthday. I can see where they don't have as much time for each other right now because all their waking hours are spent, both of them work full time, they come home, there's groceries, shopping, you know, work to finish houses to clean. The first year is hard.

It's hard. There's two years in. He should come around. Maybe he just doesn't like you know affection. Maybe he's that guy. We don't know. We just don't know. What would you do, Sandra? You know, maybe Olivia needs to go to counseling by herself at first. Point. Oh. Good point. And maybe her GYN

or I don't know. I just Susan, I thought someone was going to say got out some sex toys here. Well, the sexy outfit was the start. I mean, or, you know me, I would take it the womanizer and sit next to him and do me. I mean, hello. You don't want to help? In other words, he needs stimulation somehow, some way. She knows him best.

So she would know, Olivia, hopefully you would know the way that, the best way to tantalize him to get him off the couch, get him off the phone, get him off the... Or get him on the couch, if you know what I mean. Whatever you got to do, Olivia. But it sounds like you, you, Olivia, have to take the phone. first step here. Yeah. Take charge, girlfriend. Take charge. You know, I just, I got to just say, I know, you know what I hate, I hate sound, it sounds like this marriage is in trouble and I just keep thinking, you know, you have a two-year-old who need mommy and daddy and come on, people, figure out a way. I hope they will. Olivia, I wish you and your husband the very best. I hope you guys figure it out.

Get the sexy outfit and the babysitter. Start there. Absolutely. The babysitter, yes. Get the baby away from now. Don't do the babysitter, though. All right, Anne and Abby, you too. Sandra, we love you. We're so glad that you joined us, and we have to make some plans for all of us to see each other. Well, that does it for this episode

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