Bachelor Happy Hour - Hakeem & Monica Part 2: Getting Real About Parenting and Answering Your Questions

Episode Date: April 24, 2026

Today on “Golden Hour,” Joan and Kathy are back for part two with Hakeem and Monica! First, Hakeem asks for some very beautiful advice: What did they need from their partners when they were pregnant? Then, we dive into your questions. From public scrutiny over single parenthood to husbands who are disappointed by their child’s gender reveal, we’re helping you get through it all. Plus, we get a closer look at what Hakeem and Monica will be like as parents. Tune in now and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Golden Hour, everyone. We are back with Part 2 with Hakeem and Monica. So let's just get right into it. Now we have to get down to business because, you know, this is not just about hearing about your fabulous love life and baby, although it really is. We have some fan questions. You know, listeners write in and we like to answer them

and give our expert golden advice. And so we want to couple that with. your fabulous young in love advice. Okay, are you in? Yeah. Can I ask you a quick question before you guys? You certainly may. Yeah.

If you guys could go. I am not pregnant, no. No. Oh my God. No, I mean, if you could go back in time and you would say it was crucial for my, my partner to help me out while I was pregnant, what was that? Oh, I think I'm going to cry. You're already so perfect.

I can't even tell you. The fact that you're asking that is like this sweetest thing in the world. Kathy, what do you think? I feel like foot rubs are a definite. I think you're already doing it, Hakeem, honestly, listening to your partner, showing her that you love her, she's going to feel big and fat and all that stuff as time goes on. You know what? Just telling her how much you love her and how excited you are to be together, it's all she needs is that love and affirmation. All the rest, all the rest footrubs, those are great. She'll love that too. But you're just, just building and keeping the love.

love between you two. That's the best advice I can give you. Yep. We'll appreciate that. Don't? Would you say second that too? I second that. You know, I feel like pregnancy for me was like super joyous. I just loved every bit of it. I loved having

this little baby growing inside of me. I felt like the hardest time was like the first month after the baby is born. You have all this joy. You also have all these crazy hormones. You're not feeling great. You have a lot of pressure. You don't know how to be a mom. You don't know how to be a dad. I think that's when maybe the most tension occurred. So

like to be knowledgeable, like to know that and to be really patient with each other and respect like all these crazy things that are going to your head and how inadequate you feel. I remember they handed me this baby and they're like, take him home. And I was like, he could die. I don't know how to take him. And I was like, look at my husband. I'm like, I can't believe they're linnaeus. Take him. Yeah.

It's like we're not prepared. It's like we won it in the lottery. Monica, my advice that you're not asking for is once the baby is born, once Marley Marie arrives. don't worry about cooking or cleaning. You can do that the rest of your life. Spend time with her. Sleep as much as you can. All those things.

Do not worry. Hopefully, you know, I'll be flying out to take care of the baby and help you out. But really, sleep when you can and just take it slow because these is some of the most joyous times. It makes me cry. And also like for like the whole future, like I'm now going to like go 10 years down the road. make sure that your couple relationship stays intact. Because you tend to become parents and no longer a couple. Make sure you have date nights.

My husband and I had a Saturday night date night for our entire life. I always had a babysitter. I always had a date night on Saturday night. It gives you a chance to reconnect. And so, like, being parents is great, but it can't be your only relationship. Because then, like, they all grow up. And then you look at each other and you go, who are you? And the dates don't have to be expensive.

You know, my husband and I, one of our favorite things to do on our date nights, were to go to a local bookstore that had like a wine bar, and we'd go and just shop for books and have a glass of wine. I mean, literally, it doesn't have to be a fancy. It can be a walk. It can be anything. But, yeah, Jones, right, spend time together. You'll be better parents.

Be a couple instead of parents. Yeah. We've talked about that, but that's great advice. Thank you. All right. Now we're getting into advice. It's a perfect segue. Perfect.

And I have a really good one for you guys. Okay. So I don't know who this is from. Oh, it's from Anonymous. Okay. It said, hey, we just found out we're having a girl and I was over the moon. But my husband was visibly disappointed. He made a few, I guess I'll try again for a boy jokes that didn't sit right with me.

How do I address this? Who do you want to go first? Either one of the guys. I think we might have two different answers. Let's let's hear him. I'm going to say for that whole situation, I mean, having a. boy, I don't know why men want to have boys so much because more joy to have a daughter. That daughter father relationship is like you can never, you can never separate that, right?

So like when I see like girls with their dads, it's like a different type of like relationship. But I also just to say like you want it just a healthy baby. That's the most important thing. You just want a healthy baby. So girl, boy, it doesn't matter. Like you have a healthy child and able to have a child together. So what do you think? Yeah, I was going to say.

like be thankful that you're having just a healthy baby. Yeah. But I can understand just that like as a man, like having that son or as a woman having that daughter and just having that kind of mini me. So I can see where his not, you know, disappointment may be if he was really hoping for a son, but give him, you know, like let him settle in. Yeah, he'll settle in. And then, you know, just be like you can have another kid.

And if you don't have another boy, like it is what it is. You're thankful to have kids. Like, not everyone can do it. So just to have a healthy baby is a blessing. And also to piggyback off of that is we usually want boys to live out the dreams that we never got to live out. So we try to make sure that they can be, for instance, I want my kid to go to the Olympics, right? Because I didn't get to go to Olympics.

I want my child to run for Jamaica. But like, what if they don't want to do that? So, like, you have a boy. What if they don't want to do anything that you have planned for them? then what? You know what I mean? That will definitely happen. That will, I was going to say, Hakeem,

your kids will have their own plans. Exactly. They will have their own identity. Exactly. And I feel like you're so right about that. I think that's what men, we always want boys because we're like, oh, we're going to make them the best athlete in the world.

We're going to do all of this. But what if they want to just play the trumpet? Yeah. Like, what are you going to do then? Like, you're going to say you can't play the trumpet and you're going to play sports? Like, you're going to reject you. My husband, I mean, he grew up in a very rural thing.

So his high school had like no, you know, how many, 20 people, whatever. Yeah. He was the star basketball player and the star baseball player. He was quite a good athlete. And the Navy, you know, he played. He was a good athlete. And when we had our first son, he did exactly what you're saying. He put my son into every, you know, little league and soccer.

My son was five years old and we're going to a soccer game. And every, you know, it's her ball, right? Little kids, everybody's running down the field. And we looked at him. go run after the ball literally he was picking daisies he turns around he turns around and looks at us

and goes mommy daddy why I'm just going to wait here the ball's going to come back up here so I'm just going to wait for it's smart and I said this athletic career is over yeah over but that's okay yeah I feel like a lot

of like the parent responsibilities or the parents not even responsibilities, but the mother takes over. And I think when a man has a boy, they see their place in the like parenting relationship more than when they have a girl. I think they evolve really quickly once that girl is born and they see that they are as needed as much as the mom is needed. But it's, I think it's just in their head in the beginning until they actually start to

experiencing it. And I know that's my son found out he was having a girl and was like, I'm not having a boy. And, you know, he really wanted to carry on. my late husband's legacy. He wanted to name him John and he had all these dreams for his boy and he found out how he was having a girl. And we had the shower this weekend and he came with his t-shirt that said, uh, uh, girl dad on it. So it took a little while, took a few months for him to kind to come to terms with it. But once he did, he's all in. So I think it just takes a little time. And I think that, that Anonymous's husband's reaction was like kind of knee jerk a little bit.

Yeah. All right. Well, anonymous, let us know. Congratulations on, on your baby, let us know. We wish you a happy, healthy baby. That's what we're all wishing. Yes, that's important. All right, let's move on to our next one. This is from court. I am about to become a single mom by choice using a donor. And while I feel really empowered, I keep getting comments like, don't you want a full family?

It's starting to get in my head. How do you tune out other people's opinions and trust your own path? What says you guys? Well, I'm going to sit here and say the best. family I had was with a single mother. Let me tell you that when my dad was present, it was awful, awful family. So I don't think having a single parent or not having or having a, you know, a couple, I don't think it matters truthfully because sometimes it's the best thing for the child to just have that single thing. So I'm just saying from an example, baby, I'm sorry to go ahead. No,

no, no. Keep going. You have that like, the experience. It's just like, you don't, there's no such thing is the full experience, right? Because you're going to have your best friends who might be men. You might have your brother who can be the uncle. There's just so many different places that that can be taken care of, like the man to be there for their child. But I don't think it's necessary you need a father in there. You know what I mean?

Because it's not about just having a father. It's having a good man raised. A good parent. Exactly. And that's why when people say, you know, it's my, in my case, my stepmother was much more of a mother to me than my real mother ever was. And you're absolutely, I love that, Hakeem, that spot on. What about you, Monica?

Do you have any thoughts? Yeah, I was just going to say, sometimes having two parents isn't always the healthiest, you know, situation being a teacher in like lower economic, like lower socioeconomic areas. Some of those, you know, two parent households were some of the worst, you know, situations for those kids. It's just because you have a mother and a father doesn't mean it's going to be a loving household. Exactly. That single mother, she's going to, you know, cherish, court she's going to cherish that baby and give her so much love and they can like hakeem said get

other people like it's not going to be just her and baby there's going to be other people around in her life you know that it's the family you choose kind of thing yeah exactly and i mean that's i can say that i my chosen family our baby marley marie's chosen family is going to be amazing you know she may not have any of my blood family in her life but she's going to have my best friends who I've known since middle school. You know, those are going to be her aunties. She will have some of your family because she has some of her family as well, her cousin and she's dating a black man as well.

Well, married. I'm sorry. Not dating. Dating married. They should marry them. Yeah. See, Hakeem, this is what happens. You date, you get married.

Yeah. They have a job. They're, their sons are in college. Like, one is a sophomore in college and one is a senior in high school. Okay. This has happened a long time ago. Yes. Yeah, that's my bad. That's my bad. That's my bad.

Yeah. Or you're going to, she's going to be a phenomenal mother. She's going to be a great mother. The thing is is that, like, yeah, she's going to be a phenomenal mother. And the best mother I had was my mother. So, like, at the end of the day, you can be that for your child because you know what you don't want for your child. And trust me, you don't want a toxic man. So if you take your time, you have that baby and you're going to have a beautiful stepdad.

I was just going to say that. You never know. And you know, down the road. Yeah, what's going to happen. Yeah. Yeah. She could very well meet a man and have a beautiful stepdad in their life. And that's a big thing these days.

I mean, women are freezing their eggs. They're using a donor if they don't find somebody. Just because they don't find somebody in their childbearing years, doesn't mean they're never going to find somebody. So I think that, you know, that just keeps a door open. They still get to be a mom and still get to find a meat, possibly. And I think you've just got to do what's right for yourself. And like, people are going to have opinions about anything. You could have a hair.

You know, I could buy my hair color and someone would have an opinion about it. That's for sure. You know what it is. I just had a dirty thought. Opinions are like blank. Everyone has one. Yeah, that's right. I'm confused. What does that mean?

Yeah, you're so full that. I can you know. I don't know what you mean. Monaco explained it to you later. Let me just say, I just want to say, court, you asked your simple question was, how do you tune out other people's opinions and trust your own path by trust in your own path? It's exactly what you said. Trust your own path.

And shut out other people's opinions. Tune them out. And you're well on your way. And we wish you all let us know. Again, to you, happy, happy baby, you're about to embark on the most wonderful journey that life can offer you. You can't take opinions from people that's never been in her shoes too. So like, those people's opinions and what they say,

it doesn't matter because they don't know how to be in your shoes, how to walk five feet in your shoes because they couldn't, right? I think what he's doing is brave. And I think she's going what she wants. And I think she should absolutely go for it. Absolutely. totally agree with you totally agree with you we want to hear we want to hear what happens we want to yeah yeah yeah you know you know kathie going to show up to the baby shop so you

and i give and ikeem i give good gifts so you know you just want to keep that in mind me too don't invite her without inviting me oh i everybody's invited okay well we have one more and this is from tyla this is hi kathy and susan is it unreasonable that i don't want to spend my third tribe driving around a car full, a drunk 30-year-old man. I feel like I'm already sacrificing so much, and this just feels inconsiderate. I'm trying not to freak out on him, but I can't help it. Guys, what do you think?

Driving around a car full of drunk guys? Who's the 30-year-old? Is that her husband? I believe it's her husband and his friends. That is... Husband, partner, you know, somebody. She shouldn't need to be doing that. She should never be doing that.

I don't know why. I'm like, don't you want to know what she's sacrificing? Right. I mean, that concerns me more than the drunk guys. Yeah, I just, I feel like the drunk guys, what are you doing? Why are you, what, why are you not at home? Why is his father to be out with a bunch of drunk guys? It sounds like he does it fairly often.

It's not like, she's spending her entire third trimester driving around. Like he do. It's time. But again, why is Tyler saying she's. She's sacrificing, like sacrifices having a baby? What is she sacrificing? I don't know. Maybe because she can't drink or sleep time at home, like resting.

I don't know. That just. I think there's two things I want to say about this. So I think the first one is probably there's something deeper going on in that situation, getting drunk and all of those things. Because when I first found out she was pregnant, I was going through it emotionally because I'm like, I don't want to be like my father. I don't want to do this.

I got to be better and all of those things. I don't know what he may be going through. But I think on the second side is that like, you know, you got to start manning up, bro. Like you're not in your 20s. We're not in college anymore. You're getting drunk and having your girlfriend who's pregnant. The wife or whatever.

Excuse me. You're right. I keep saying girlfriend. But we don't know. We're engaged. We don't actually know what they're married. She's with this guy. But they're engaged because they did it on our podcast.

I just want to reiterate that. Go ahead. Yeah. No, I just, I think, I think she needs to put her foot down. I think it's a sign of her. I think it's really disrespectful that this woman is going through nine months of, from my point of view, what I see for the first three months is it's hard. And she's doing that specifically for Marley, but she's also doing it for us, right? Because I want this baby. She wants the baby and all of those things as well. So I think it's quite very, very, very, very selfish of that person to be doing that. And I think if he wants to raise a child, that whole scenario needs to be changed because do you want your daughter to? to pick up after what you're doing and drunk and driving around and all those things. Exactly.

Does it make any sense? Yeah, living that party life. And let me say before we close this part out. Yeah. You bring up something really interesting, Hakeem, that I hope you both remember more free advice from Kathy. Kids will never. Yeah. Well, we'll take it.

Listen, Hakeem. Listen up. Because Monica already has. Kids never listen to what you say. They watch what you do. That's what you're modeling. Your behavior is going to be the model for your children. Not the words you tell them.

The words reinforce your behavior. But you want to be a good role model? He's a father to be and is going out, getting drunk. It sounds like fairly often is a little disturbing. I have to say, I think that conversation needs to be more not about you driving them, but why is he doing it? So I think there's a deeper problem here. We wish you luck, Tyler.

We wish you luck. I'm sure. I'm sure, Tyler, that you deserve better. Respect, please. All right, I just, we have one little extra thing here before we get into a little game with you, too. This is from someone in Kansas. It says, hi, this is not a question, but more of a thank you to both of you. I listen to your podcast on the way to work every morning, and it has helped me tremendously.

Over the last year, I've had two miscarriages, six failed IUI treatments, and now going on my second round of IVF, hoping for my second child to complete our family. During all those ups and downs, I'm going to cry. These podcasts have helped me to keep me distracted and most of all to see what loving parents and grandparents you guys are. And just praying for the chance to have another child so that I can use all your parenting tips to make our family the best I can be. It can be. I was hoping to be on the Bachelor of Cruise at the end of this year.

But with the family treatment now and at second year, I don't. know what the future holds but want to share my appreciation and admiration for both of you. I'm originally from New York but lived in Boston. Yay, Boston. And Philly. Yay for Susan and Philly. If I recall one of you was from Boston. Yes, that is I. And she now lives in Kansas. Lots of love to both of you always. And whoever you are, that's made my day. Thank you. That's very, very kind of you. And I'll pass it along to Susan for sure when she gets back. I say something too just like you're extremely strong and to be able to just present that to everybody. It just shows like, yeah, I just I yeah, truthfully.

Yeah, really. I know that's that's so, obviously I can't speak on it because I'm not a woman, but it's just like she's so strong for being able to just put herself out there and tell her story that way as well. So yeah. I mean, there's a lot of women who are probably going through the same thing and they. So many. You know, so. Yeah.

So many. That's, you're absolutely right, Hakeem. So kudos to you. sorry you can't be on the Bachelor cruise with us but we will definitely think about you. And good luck. Yeah, let us know. Let us know. We hope that this next IBF works out and that you have a beautiful baby coming for her.

She sounds like she'll be a great caring mother. She sounds like a pretty incredible person. Yeah, we need you to have some babies. Yeah, we need more moms like you. Okay. You can submit your burning questions to us by going to bachelor nation.com. slash golden hour. Come back each week and see if we answer yours. We love hearing from you. We love that you love our advice or not either way. We love to hear from you. So please, please keep those

letters, comments and questions coming. Okay. So I think we have a few more minutes with you and you know we love our games. So if it's okay with you, we're going to play a game called Would You Rather? but this time it's for new parents. Hakeena and Monica will each give us their answers. Okay, are you ready? Here's the first one. Never sleep through the night again or always step on Legos. And if you stepped on Legos ever in your life, they hurt like crap.

Listen, I would always step on Legos. I can walk on woodchips barefoot, so I would rather always step on Lego. Amen, Monica. What about you, Hakeem? I mean, I wear socks, so I'd rather step all Legos for sure. Sleep, guys. That four-letter word, sleep. So you're sleeping through the night.

It's not going to happen. I'm just letting you know, but okay. Can I just say I said sleep is a four-letter word? I was an English major. Apparently, I failed. She could not spell. It's five letters. But you know what?

S-L-E-P-E-S-P-T-E-L-E-T-E-L-T-E-Lept. Oh, my. I didn't say slept. I said, slept. There is no slept. That is not a word, girl. I'm making it up. Oh, my.

Oh, man. Hey, if Fetch can be a word, so can sleep. There you know. I'm with you. Okay, here's the next one. It's fetch from, never mind. Okay. Yeah.

Every, here's, this one actually occurred in my family, so I want to know. Would you rather change every diaper or handle every 3M wake-up call? 3am wake-up call. What do you think? What do you think, guys? Yeah. I'm going to keep it a buck with you. I have never changed a diaper before, so I can't.

I know, I know, I know, I know, I know. You will. You will. So I can't say which one I'd rather do, you know? So, but I'm going to say, like, truthfully, I'd rather change the diaper. If it's 3 a.m. wake-up calls. Come on now. I'm trying to do the diaper changing over the...

What about you, Monica? Um, probably every diaper change. Again, is very... Are you thinking about nursing? Because that's a note of your... I know. If you're nursing, baby, you're going to be up at 3-A-all-all-the-time. So let him do the diapers.

Actually, let him do the diapers because those blowouts... Ooh. He's never changed the blowouts. So we can handle those. Oh, you wait, Hakeem. Wait to you see. It goes up the back. Up their back.

You're going to love it. Yeah, change to close at 3 a.m. you're going to love it. Oh, yeah. All right. We have shifts. We said we're going to do shifts. Not if she's nursing.

Yeah. Well, can't you guys? I'm sorry. Can't you pump? And then I'll be able to just look. Obviously, I'm sorry. I'm very like, I'm still trying to learn. You can pump.

I love that you're learning and you're trying to figure it out. Because why do you want to wake up and. Why do you want to wake up and pump? You might as well just feed the baby. Yeah. No, I'm saying she's just going to pump throughout the day so then I can use her pump. Yeah, so he has some bombs. Well, I couldn't do that because I had so much milk I could feed the neighborhood.

So I couldn't miss a feeding. I did not. I pumped and I sometimes got a little extra sleep. So that's a great idea. Hakeem. I was a Guernsey cow, Hakeem. I donated, I donated milk to the, I'm not kidding. I donated a lot of milk to the preemie.

Oh my God. Yo, Kathy, you funny as hell. Wait, can I just tell you? No. Watch Hakeem turn red, Hakeem. Also, my neighbor had a baby about the same time I had my first child, and she couldn't feed an aunt. She didn't have enough milk, but she tried.

She brought her son down to me, and I nursed him, and he slept for six hours. No, you did not. Yes, I did. You nursed him. Oh, I'm dying. What's wrong with that, Joe? Ain't nothing wrong with that. I'm going to say this right now.

I love that. She came down with me. She was so sleep deprived because the baby is. screaming and she came down i i don't know what she came down for i said give me that baby i said do you want me to nurse him she said would you and i said yeah and that kid she took him home he's set for six hours oh my gosh that's crazy the milk shop now is closed but yeah i pumped i had i had so much fat content in my milk it was crazy oh good for you i'm gonna drink her breast milk too for sure i got to see what it are you going to do it my husband did love that i've never knew my husband did you of course

Your husband never, never, ever, ever. And I'm dying to hear what it tastes like. So please, when you do that, will you please do an Instagram post? Oh, yeah, hell you. I got a know. I don't know. Listen, you could do a taste test. Yeah.

Monica's milk and, you know, cream. Oat milk. Oat milk, cream, Monica's milk, MM's milk. It's, you know, you can throw a whole thing, Hakeem. Yeah, we'll try it out. That's a good idea. Okay. I'm going to try it, though.

You got to try it. But let's go. superficial now. Expensive stroller or luxury? Expensive stroller. I was going to say and they are by the way. And they are really...

The nursery, I would say the expensive nursery. That's a whole room. Isn't that a whole room a nursery? Yeah. Yeah. What are you going to do is throw your kid in a box with wheels, Hakeem? I mean, or I can just wait, it depends, right? Because if you have a stroller, you don't have to have an expensive stroller. Why would you need an expensive stroller? I can tell you why

you want one that converts where the baby, you can hook it right into the car, right? Monica knows these things. Just look at her nod. So you'd rather have your kid in the ghetto is basically what you're saying. You don't have you wanted, you want it, you want it. No, you're not just to have a loz in the walls, holes in the walls. That's you know, no, no, no, no. Okay, Hakeem. Why can we just have a regular strolling? Hakeem, let me just explain something to you right now. Yes, ma'am, go ahead. The woman that you just got engaged to is always right. Turn to Monica and say, darling, whatever you want. You want for this for marley you will have for marley marly marly marie you will have there you got marley marley marie's

going to have a beautiful luxury she's going to have a great stroller and a beautiful nursery and monica if you need help on strollers joan and i don't know which one to get so oh my gosh i just want one yep as a matter of fact for my all right how about this one how about this one yeah overshare baby content online or not post them at all because look before you answer like my daughter who's whose daughter's three today, I am not allowed to post her face on Instagram, except a story because it's gone in 24 hours. So are you going to overpost or not post at all? Which would you rather do? Yeah, I have friends who do both. My one friend, her son is not on, like his face is not on it, but my other friend, her daughter is whatever. Probably overshare. Yeah, I'm going to be

the same. I'm like to, as you know, I show my people, I show you all of my, like, I'm going to show was mine and like yeah. My trophies. Like, you know what I mean? I'm a show what I got. Like I got a child. We hope you over share. We hope you share like all the like down and dirty content with like spit up on your

shoulders and exhausted and the baby is finally asleep and we're, our house is a mess. And we love that because it makes you real people and people need to see that. Exactly. It's okay. It won't be picture perfect. That's. That's for damn.

That's for sure. That's for damn. Here's one that happens all the time. So I'm going to give you your choice, but you'll, it'll, happen for both, both these things will happen. Forget the diaper bag once a week or always run out of wipes at the worst time. It will happen. Both will happen. Yep. That's a hard one. Yeah. Honestly, I'm going to say the wipes, the diaper bags, you can always just grab some from, you know, grab some, go to Target or go to Walmart. I'm with you, Hakeem. Yeah. So is she pooping and you don't

got no wipes and you, that's tough. All right. Now, now. I'm with you guys. I'm with you. Yeah, I think for getting the diaper bag, because yeah, you can just run to the store. You need to wait a little bit longer. Yeah. I mean, so what the poop runs up their back.

You know, you're in the same position you were before. Yeah. Well, honestly, I mean, if you have the diaper bag and you're like in, like the bathroom and you're on the changing table and you realize you don't have a wipes in it, you can grab like a paper towel. You can do something. There are ways out of that.

Just hold the baby foot upside down in the shower. Yeah. I mean, done all these things. There are ways to get up. I think the diaper bag, honestly, chances are you have formula in there. You have the diapers. You have the baby wipe.

Like running to a store when you're at the, when you just sat down at the restaurant and the baby poops and you forgot the diaper bag is an issue. I have to say. The truth is you guys are never going to forget a diaper bag. Believe me, you'll forget Hakim before you'll forget the diaper bag. I'm dead. I'm dead.

Okay, I got a funny one. I've got a funny one. because you know, I love you, Hakeem. And this actually, it wasn't my son's first word, but would you rather have your baby's first word be a curse word like shit or your first name? It's not a trick question, guys. Yeah.

I mean, I think me and her might have different answers. I would say probably our first name because they're going to hear that often. Yeah, I would say the first name too. I think, I mean, I'm going to try my best to not curse around my kids. Yeah. You know, I mean, they're going to hear it regardless. Yeah. Yeah.

I think it's just with my household that I grew up in. You just respect. What? I don't want that. Oh, I'm a lot of the house. Y'all family be, oh. I don't want that. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

No, you don't. My 14, though, my second child, who, you know, has kept me on my toes this whole life, my husband backed out of the garage into, like, there was like a post that, you know, in the corner of the house. And he drove into it. And my husband said, I, always said to my husband, you cannot swear because our children will repeat. That's what they do. Like I said, they model after you, right? So my husband drives into this post and literally

knocks it loose and says, son of a bitch. And my 14 month old in the back goes, son forbid, son forbid, like ran it all together. And I looked at my husband, I said, are you proud? Are you proud of yourself now? And literally for like the next month, every time anything happened. That was my 14 month old saying. I could have. Oh my God. That is actually, I'm sorry,

that's not funny. Sorry. No, it's funny now. It was not funny at the time. Yeah. I would much rather just be our names

because, I mean, that is our first names. Like, it's okay. But she's not going to call me by my first name. Oh,

but if that's what she hears, like me saying Hakeem, like she's going to know. Yeah, yeah, for sure. You're going to start calling each other Mommy and Daddy. Yeah.

Yeah. That's how they learn it kind of. Daddy. Like, Marley Marie is looking for you. Mommy. Yeah. That's the way it rolls.

Okay, let's do one last one because this is actually an important one, and you'll probably be both these people at one point. Be the only one who can calm the baby or the baby only calms for your partner. Which would you rather? Oh, I'd rather be the only one that can calm the baby. I'd rather be the only one that can calm the baby too. Well, you can two fight over. Here's the baby. You're the only one they can calm her.

Yeah, the baby's going to be, you know what's going to happen, Joan? Marley Marie is going to be a lion there. Her head's going to be going back and forth like an owl while the two of them fight over which one's going to calm her down. I can do it. I can do it better. There's going to be times in the middle of the night that you're going to be like, Hakeem, I can't calm her even though maybe you can.

And you're going to say you're the only one that can calm her, sweetie. Take the baby. Yeah. No, for sure. Yeah. I mean, I don't mind taking care of the baby at all. Like for me. Yeah.

Because I just want to make your life easier too because I know you have to breast and all that stuff. So, like, if I can try to calm the baby down so you can chill for a little. little bit, then cool. I love this. I have to say, Hakeem, I always knew that there was a side of you. Monica, you are lovely. You two make a wonderful couple. We are really cute together. A Bachelor Nation, we cannot wait for Marlene and Marie to enter this world and become the newest, if only for a day or two, until the next one pops out. Yeah. The newest, youngest member of Bachelor Nation. We really, we want to keep hearing from you, let us know about your journey. We're so excited for you, really.

I'm going to Turkey to get my hairline fix, too, if y'all wanted to know about that. You know, because I'm receding a little bit. Yo, yeah, because you know, people you know, when you got that mop head? All right, talk to me now. When they see me in nine months, I'm like, what's up? I got a first game.

What's up? Trust me, Hakeem. Hakeem, you're not going to, you're not going to be worried about your hairline. You're going to be wondering when you got your last shower, you know? Where is the clean underwear? There's no clean underwear left. because your darling, beautiful, engaged, fiance, bride,

whatever we are at the time this baby comes, is going to be sleeping and saying, I don't know, honey, go find something. And you know what? You're gonna go find something. You're not gonna be worried about your hairline, trust me. Can't you take a shower every day? Uh, two.

What? Two showers a day? One in the morning. Girl, those things gonna be dry. You lose you? You take two showers a day, John? No, one a day. I take one in the morning when I wake up,

and I take one, before I go to bed so that I can put on clean pajamas and snuggle down in my bed. Because, you know, it's only me in my bed, Hakeem. I got to be warm and cuddly. Somebody's got to, you know what I mean? You know, some days, you know, on the weekends, if I would go out, I'll sometimes miss a day. You know what I mean?

It's all right. I'm going to be honest. Hey, listen, no judgment. It's all right. You know. How do you get it? I'm like, damn, it's been two days. Let me stop playing.

You know, let me just say with Monica says, darling, I love you, but, you know, you can go sleep in another room, you know, just, just, you might want to think about that. Oh. already had that. When I snore, I can boot it. Oh, yeah. Well, that's, that's right. You see you later. You know, let's see you later. Get a sleep apnea test done, do something. Don't get that's not. Listen. Girl, it's so, I have a CPAP. He has a CPAP. It's so, it feels, don't feel good on my face. And I got the note. Get an inspire. I'm doing a commercial for him. Get an inspire implant. Chuck has it. What the heck? What's that?

It's a look it. They put it in your chest. It goes up. Just read about it. And Chuck has it and he never snores. Can I ask you a question? Yeah. Is that for old folks or is it for young folks? It's for anyone. Hey, Hakeem, you're the one with receding hairline buddy. Welcome to the old folks club. Okay.

So that's just so Hakeem just passed that there. I want to thank everyone. Yo! I'm sorry, Hakeem, that's it's truth, the truth hurt. I'm lying. Yo, Kathy. I love you. I love you.

I'm sorry. Go ahead. Okay, well, while Hakeem gets control of himself, I want to thank the rest of you for joining us on Golden Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour today. And make sure you rate, review, and subscribe wherever you listen to podcast. And you can follow us on social media at Bachelor Happy Hour and at Bachelor Nation. Until next week. See you next time.