Bachelor Happy Hour - Her Story: Sylvia & Maria

Episode Date: November 24, 2023

Today on “Bachelor Happy Hour,” we’re getting to know a few women who might not have romantically connected with Gerry but still managed to steal America’s hearts.   This is “Her Story,” with Sylvia and Maria.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, host of the Psychology Podcast. Here's a clip from an upcoming conversation about how to be a better you. When you think about emotion regulation, you're not going to choose an adaptive strategy which is more effortful to use unless you think there's a good outcome. Avoidance is easier. Ignoring is easier. Denials is easier.

Complex problem solving. Takes effort. Listen to the psychology podcast on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. On the latest episode of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, I sat down with Jasmine Crockett, Democratic Representative of Texas. She's holding out the fork for her party in one of the most conservative states in the Union. I think that ultimately, who will become the Democratic nominee for president will be someone that has been out there and has shown that they won't allow themselves. to be punched and just say thank you. Like, they will punch back.

Listen to next question with me, Katie Couric on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, everyone. Welcome back to Bachelor. Happy Hour. I'm Joe. And I'm Serena. And we hope that you had a wonderful Thanksgiving yesterday if you did celebrate.

And we are so excited to be here today to bring you a very special episode. As you know, we didn't have any episodes this week. We took the week off for the holiday. So no recaps, but we do have a treat for you all. We know you all absolutely have fallen in love with the Golden Bachelor and specifically the women we've gotten to know. But what about the women we haven't gotten to know? Well, we have them on here today for a special episode of Happy Hour with some of the wonderful

Golden Bachelor women. Joe, how are you feeling? I mean, I feel great. I actually am very excited to talk to these women. How about you? I'm excited too. We've got, I think, five women today. Yeah, they were, they unfortunately were not at the women tell all.

So here's their shot to tell us all, maybe to talk a little shit about Gary, find some more things out. So we are going to get all the drama from these women. Yeah, some behind the scenes on night one, how they got on the show and just their stories overall. I feel like all the women have had such incredible life stories. So we'll be learning about these wonderful five women today. You think any of them are currently dating right now? Oh, I hope so. That'd be so fun. Yeah, I hope so, too.

All right, should we just get into it? Let's do it. Let's bring our first guest in. All right, everyone, please welcome Sylvia, Sylvia, to the podcast. How are you? Welcome. I'm excited to be here. I'm a big fan, and congratulations.

I know you're newlywed, so you're still glowing. We'll see what happens in 10 years, but you look at it. Oh, just 10? You're only given us 10 years, Sylvia. No, to be glowing, to be glowing. Okay, all right, that's fair. Okay, so for our listeners, when did you go home? Unfortunately, I went home the first night, and I know that you did too, Joe, so you can relate with me.

I know. It was heartbreaking, but it was overall a wonderful transformational experience. So I enjoyed every single minute of it. Yeah, I know how it feels to go home night one. It is not. It is disastrous. Why do you think it is? you just don't think you got enough time with Gary that first night?

I think it's because, in all honesty, I had an allergic reaction to something I ate the night before and I didn't sleep all night. And I was extremely tired. And I was in the very last limo and I was almost the second to the last person to speak to him. I barely had any energy, let alone spark with myself, let alone spark with him and with the other ladies. You know, one of the biggest regrets I have is that I didn't really get to mingle that

much with the other women because I was so exhausted, I was kind of just saving my energy and trying to stay awake. I was so tired. So the stars were aligned for me to be on the show, but the stars were not aligned for me to stay on. So what did you eat? Yeah, that was me my question. What did you have an allergic action to? I have, I'm allergic to citrus and vinegar. So I think it was the salad dressing to the salad that I had. And I, I, I blow up or something. Sometimes I get hives and I blew up and I had, you know, a really running nose and I just wasn't able to sleep all night. And as you know, that's the longest night of the whole show.

So it just wasn't in the cards for me, unfortunately. And usually I'm very talkative. I'm very outgoing. I'm in politics. I can work a room like nobody. But unfortunately, the only thing I was trying to do is stay awake that night. That's seriously bad luck and bad timing. Serena has a severe nut allergy, so she can relate to that.

I do. I do. And honestly, being up all night because you had an allergic reaction, it's not just like you're up all night with excitement. Like you're uncomfortable, your body's recovering the next day. So I just feel like it wasn't meant to be. It wasn't. Ay, yeah, yeah.

It wasn't. Sylvia, you just mentioned that you are in politics. What do you do? I work in local politics. I've worked for elected officials. I'm a media spokesperson at times. I do research and policy or community outreach. And when I'm not working for an elected official,

I do government relations in the private or public sector. Nice. And where do you live? I live in Highland Park in Los Angeles. Oh, nice. Nice. So it wasn't that far of a truck for you. It was exciting.

I mean, I'm a big fan of the show. I saw it from the first episode. I saw when Trista got married. So I was in the limo. I felt like I was an alien, you know, being, I felt like I was abducted by aliens or in the limo watching, you know, me and the in the limo and the other ladies and the mansion and Jesse Palmer, there's there's a mansion. So it was, it was exciting and it was a fun experience. So how did you, how did you get on the show in the first place? Well, my niece told me about it. She nominated me and then I went through the whole process of the interview process.

And as you all know, it's very extensive. and everything worked well in that sense. I kept interviewing and going up and moving up and talking to the casting directors and the producers. So it was a fun experience. It took about a year and a half, I think, because of COVID, they put a halt to it. So that process was fun and exciting.

So I'm certainly glad I made it to that mansion night. Nice. It's so funny because I think I've said this on the podcast before, but I don't know if you know this, Sylvia. I have not ever been to the mansion because I was a COVID season and we were, and Joe and I, then obviously to Paradise, which is not at the mansion. So we're going soon for an event. Yeah. You're a match.

That means you're a match. Neither of you spend a night at the beach. Yeah. Neither of us have ever spent the night. Joe's been there for a few hours. We're all a match. But now I'm your new best friend. There we go.

We can start a. love, but I'm excited, I'm excited to go see it because everyone describes, especially, you know, people like you that are huge fans, lifelong fans of the show, is it just being so magical to be there? Yes, it definitely was. It definitely was. And the women were beautiful and they were gracious and they were nice. And I've actually become friends with the women here in L.A. So Edith, Marina and Christine, we hang out together. Yesterday I went with the hike with the Marina and Edith in Eagle Rock, which is she lives like five minutes from my house. house. We all live really close to each other. So we become fast friends. That's amazing. I feel like

that's one of the best things to come out of the show. If you don't find love, you are hopefully going to find friendship. Yes, and I have so. There's always benefits to life. You have to look at life with optimism and gratitude. And I'm certainly grateful for the opportunity. To either of those women tell you you're lucky for going home early when you did? No. No, they just said, oh, it's too bad because I wanted to stay longer and you know it was just it was just the stars weren't a line it was just my destiny no they they had a great experiences did they had a great experience both of them did you know sometimes when people go home like middle of the pack they're really like uh I wish I would have just got eliminated right away is that what you tell yourself Joe because you got eliminated

right away I don't never hear anyone say that you and I are speaking to that story you guys start spreading that rumor you know it's better to go home night one no I can say that I wanted to stay on long I actually think it's almost like you're almost better off going home night one. I think it depends on your experience if you have if you get heartbroken maybe I don't think anyone ever regrets any part of their experience going on the show though. Whether you go home night one or you go home

you know get your heartbroken at the end because it is such a unique journey you always end up learning so much. It worked out for Joe I mean I want to be in Bachelor in Palm Springs whatever they call whatever they knew what. Bachelor in Paradise. I know I'm saying Palm Springs for the older genera. You think that you think you think they'll ever have that? I do. I think they'll have something I hope and I'd love to be considered.

I mean, I didn't get an opportunity for the whole experience, but I think they will and I think they should. I think there's a lot of interest in it. What's great about the show, for me, you know, I've been single all my life. I'm the batch, the real bachelor's ret in the show. And I've always dated. I've always been hopeful. I'm always looking for love. So for me, that was not unique. However, I do feel it was a great opportunity to educate America and the viewers and to see us as sexual people that it's important for any age to have physical, emotional intimacy, that love, companionship is a human need. It's a human trait, just like we drink water, need the same. And companionship is a very important part of humanity. You know, in fact, people live longer because of social networking.

So I think it was, I found it very interesting that people were shot that when people were kissing on the show, that it was like they were taken aback. And I thought it was very odd. You know, my parents are still alive. My dad's 92. My mom's 90. And they've been married for 70 years. Wow.

So I always grew up with a healthy, attitude about relationships, intimacy. And so I understand that that's just a part of life. And I'm glad that the show was able to enlighten the world and the country about how important to have love and intimacy at any age. I love that. Were you actively dating prior to going on? Yes, I was.

And how does that look? Are you dating? on apps, like, how are you dating? I have done, well, right before the show, I think the three years prior, because of Coa, was the first time I had experienced the dating apps. And I was scared for years about doing it. But, you know, my eldest brother had passed away in 2019 and then, you know, really unexpectedly. And then one of my good friends died two months after him.

I said, you know what? I have to take risk in life. And that's why I also did The Bachelor. I wanted to do things outside my comfort level. So I forced myself to go on the dating absence. And what's good about it is you're able to have a pool of candidates that are your age. But the same experiences, a woman, a 20-year-old is experiencing the same things with a man if he's 60, 50, or whatever. I mean, men are men.

Have you ever been ghosted before? Oh, yes. I've had everything, you know. And, you know, and our days it was just called shining you on. you know or or ignoring you i mean in all honesty i would rather have a guy ghost me than to dump me so if he's really interesting a guy's not interested in me so long goodbye i don't need i don't need him to tell me that's so funny you know i don't like telling anybody you know i have a whole little speech well it was such a pleasure meeting you unfortunately we're not a match

but i wish you the best of like i do the little sandwich yeah yeah i like that one of my girlfriends was actively dating she's now in a very serious relationship but and she had her little like yeah she would never go to anyone like if one day five days if it didn't work she had her like little hey not interested message and that was that that was that so i don't care about ghosting it doesn't bother me if then i just know the person's not interested and and you know it's time to move on i don't want anybody who's not interested in me they're saving me time and energy you know i've had those dating dating periods when I was younger, where I was stupid, where you're into a guy that's not into you. And every time he calls you, you get all excited and think this is it. Oh, he can't live

without me. He's calling me back. And that's not the case. He's just, he's just bored or who knows why. He just calls you back because he just needs someone to date or be with. So that is worse to keep you. It's so funny. Like at any age, any generation, like any year, men do the same thing. They're just balder with bigger bellies. It ain't pretty serene. It's just, it's just the... And women do the same thing, too, to an extent. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious.

Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy?

That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the Iheart Radio app,

Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, host of the Psychology Podcast. Here's a clip from an upcoming conversation about exploring human potential. I was going to schools to try to teach kids these skills and I get eye rolling from teachers or I get students who would be like, it's easier to punch someone in the face. When you think about emotion regulation, like you're not going to choose an adaptive strategy which is more effortful to use unless you think there's a good outcome as a reason. of it if it's going to be beneficial to you because it's easy to say like like go you go blank

yourself right it's easy it's easy to just drink the extra beer it's easy to ignore to suppress seeing a colleague who's bothering you and just like walk the other way avoidance is easier ignoring is easier denial is easier drinking is easier yelling screaming is easy complex problem solving meditating you know takes effort listen to the psychology podcast on the iHeart radio app Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. So in the last month, the Midas Touch Network beat Rogan, Tucker Carlson, Candice Owens, Charlie Kirk, and Ben Shapiro all combined. Conservative podcasts can have a major political impact, but the Myceles Brothers, three siblings with a serious media strategy, are building an alternative to that. On the latest episode of Next Question with Katie Couric, I sat down with the brothers behind the Midas Touch Network to talk.

To talk about how they built a progressive media powerhouse from the ground up, why audience interaction is the key to political influence and what it takes to fight disinformation at scale, one download at a time. We should be focusing on the issues that actually occupy a lot of the mental space in Americans' minds but are filled with conspiracies, and we should fill it with the truth and solutions. Listen to next question with me, Katie Couric on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast. or wherever you get your podcasts. If you could give advice to single people out there who are in the dating world and want to settle down, what advice would you give?

Well, the best advice I give is the one I give myself because I didn't keep my options open. I was closed to opportunities that were good. you know, I should have dated certain men that were interested in me, that I didn't give an opportunity. I would do things like even, I'm not dating anybody in the San Fernando Valley. It's too hot. I don't want to drive over there. You know, or, you know, when I was brought up in a very strict Catholic family home, you know, for my generation, unfortunately, and I talked up a little bit earlier about my elder brother dying, but I had a sister that died in my early 20s and then another brother that died in my late 20s. So I spent my 20s, grieving, so I didn't really date as much. And then by the time I was 30, everybody was divorce or married. And I was brought up not to marry or date a divorced man, you know, Catholic family, Mexican Catholic family. And so I didn't have very many options. And I closed my opportunities. Of course, as I got older, I thought differently. But during that time, you know,

everybody was married in their 20s. It was a pretty unwise decision. But, you know, you're upbringing and sometimes religion curtails your opportunity. So you have to learn to broaden your mind. And that's what those are the mistakes I made that I wasn't open minded and giving people opportunities that I should have. Would you go on it like, so let's say when you were in your 30s, would you in someone and a guy was divorced?

Would you instantly write him off? Would you go on like a few dates and just be like, I just, I instantly write them off. Interesting. Instantly riding off. Yes. You know, it was now the Catholic Church has different attitudes about divorce. You know, people even divorce can take communion and, you know, was a point where you couldn't do that. So, you know, times have changed, culture has changed.

And I really, and I saw I have friends of mine that would marry someone that was divorced with kids, but I didn't do it. And that was one, that was my biggest, biggest mistake. And as I got older than in my 40s and 50s, then I did start doing that. I think that's great advice to just be open-minded and not close the door and people. Yeah. I don't know. Joe, Joe's different than what I maybe would have ended up with if I didn't. I don't know where.

I don't know. We live in different places. We're like, you know, a bigger age gap. Like there's just things. Yeah. I think we can't those either. I know. Too old.

Oh, no, it lives too far away. All those things. I'm talking about those things. And that's why here I am. But I've had a great life. I've had, I'm very independent. I'm financially secure. I have a wonderful social network.

I have a large, I had six siblings. I still have my parents. I have 12 nieces and nephews. And I do a lot of volunteer work. I raise money for Latino kids to go to college. I'm the first in my family to graduate from college. and of all my siblings, definitely my nieces and nephews. So I really make a commitment to mentor young people to raise money

so that low-income people can have the opportunity of a college education. And I've always been dedicated to getting women elected to political office. So, you know, my life is varied and my life is fulfilled. But, you know, I decided, like I said, that now is the time that I'm going to concentrate on my personal life and do things outside my comfort. level, push myself, date, be open-minded, make mistakes and keep going. So that's my attitude. For me to prioritize my love life is something totally new. I've always been a career-driven woman

and financial, you know, I grew up, you know, was not that much economically. And my parents were immigrants. And so money was really important to me. So I always wanted financial security. And I didn't want to depend on a man for financial security. I wanted to, you know, buy my house and my income properties and do my things on my own. So I have a beautiful beach house in Baha. I'd love to be able to share it with someone. Nice. All right. There you go. That's your pitch. Sylvia, how old are you? I'm 65. Okay. So the 65 year old Sylvia, what are you looking for right now in a man? How should a man get your attention? Well, I'm looking for a partnership. And this is something I was always looking for, which also was difficult for me because men were looking

for a wife and I was looking for a partner. I want, you know, someone, you know, to share chores and duties and I'll also contribute financially. But what I'm looking for is companionship and kindness and respect. Kindness is just so important. And I want someone who treats me kindly, treats other kind, other people with kindness. But a partner, you know, I'm not, and look, for anyone to take care of me. I'm looking for someone that will travel with me, you know, teach me new things. I mean, they don't have to do, have the same interests as I do. I like somebody that has different interests and I can learn something new. So I'm looking for someone that has, is ready to be a companion, to travel, to treat me with respect, to treat me with kindness,

and someone that's fun and adventurous. So, and accepts me for who I am. So those are the things I'm looking for. Nice. Would you say Gary was your type? No. No. Okay. Will you be watching? No. I think he's a great guy and I think he's charming and smart and definitely attractive. But, you know, I'm a city of ballet girl. I'm a city woman and I like, I like, I have varied interests. I do very things. I like, I like access to restaurants and. and concerts and have, you know, I'm near the mountains. I'm near the beach. I'm near everything.

And I like the city of Los Angeles because it's ethnically diverse. You know, you can eat food. And I have friends of all different kinds of cultural backgrounds. So I, I, this city is very unique in that it offers that. Yeah, I love, I love L.A. Okay, real quick, will you be watching the finale? Oh, yes. I've watched every.

I've watched all the shows before and I'm definitely going to watch the finale. Have you watched every single season, like, since the show started? You know, I'm going to be honest. I wish I could say yes, but I didn't. I missed the, I missed both of your seasons. I miss kind of, I've, I've been seen it like the last ones. And I've got most of the, you know, all the ones even in the middle. But I've kind of missed like the last quarter.

Okay. And before we let you go, the two women left, who you're rooting for? Leslie or Teresa? Well, okay. I'm going to say that I think they're both excellent choices, and I think that whoever he picks does well. However, I have to say that I have a closer bond with Teresa. I got along with her very well that night at the mansion.

I've kept in touch with her. And when I was eliminated, she took care of me. She came over to me. She was kind to me. I wanted to get the hell out of there. And I kept saying, can I leave now? And she kept saying, no, they have to call your name. And no, they have to call your name.

And she kept saying, look it, there was 30,000 people that applied. You're one of 22. Don't feel bad. So she was so kind and sweet. And I really remember that. And so I really am rooting for her in terms of her being the choice because of that. And I've contacted her and we're friends. So I appreciate her act of kindness.

And like I said, kindness and extending yourself and friendship is really important. But I think Leslie is fantastic as well. And Gary has a lot of good choices. So the last two are good choices for it. Thank you so much for coming on Happy Hour. We really appreciate it. Thank you. I'm a big fan of the show.

I wish you both love and success and lots of children. Thank you. Thank you. Have a nice one. Adios. Bye-bye. Maria, welcome to Bachelor Happy Hour. How are you?

Well, thank you. I'm great. I'm happy to be here, Serena. I'm happy to have you. Thank you. Thank you. So, pleasure. Let's start off.

Where do you live? I live in New Jersey, right across the bridge. I can see the George Washington Bridge off of my roof. Oh, great. What part of New Jersey? What is? That's Burden County. So that's, it's in Teenik.

Okay. So we're in, we live in Manhattan right now. So we're pretty close. Well, do you know? You know. How often you come into the city? As often as I can, depending on the episodes or the escapades I'm getting into and the people I'm hanging out with or whatever I'm doing,

if I'm going to a play or if I'm going out to dinner or if I'm just going to meet friends. Got it. Nice, nice. Okay, so how did you get on The Golden Bachelor? Oh, that's a good question. I, um, my sister, who is in a wonderful relationship, sent me a link to apply. She said, Ria, you would be great in this show. You would light it up.

Apply. So I said, okay, I'll apply. And then she said, you know, wait, wait, wait, I'm going to stop you right there, though. Did you watch the show beforehand, before you applied or anything? No, I hadn't. I kind of, I had seen some shows, but the people just look beautiful and sweet. but it just looked like a show of young people kissing and loving each other. And it was fine, but, you know, I'm kind of a busy woman, so I had a lot to do.

I didn't realize how much of a pleasure it was for all types of people and how, you know, maybe they didn't talk about it to others or certain groups of people wouldn't talk about it, but it was their guilty pleasure or their way to relax or their way to just explore a whole new way of living. So once I applied and I talked to a producer, I said, let me watch the show. So I started watching the show and I said, oh, this is fun. This is exciting. This is really something. I could definitely do this because not for nothing.

You know, senior people have a lot more life to explore and share with people. Yeah, definitely. And I think the show has done a pretty good job of showcasing that. What you mentioned, you are a busy woman. What do you do for a living? I have a foundation that focuses on helping. families with autism. I have three children, two boys with autism. They're adults and trying to really, you know, create a life that is full of love and an inclusive life and safe, you know,

a bubble where they can explore who they are and really live happy. That's what any parent wants to do. But when you have children and now young adults on the spectrum, you want to, you really, really have to, you know, figure. it up you know it's not it's not a world that is as accepting as it could be so yeah yeah definitely well good for you um thank you okay so then how what it was dating life like before you went on the show well you know i had been married for 20 years and then i was divorced and then dating was such an episode until i met my last husband who i fell madly in love with and he was my he was my dude his name happened to be gary spelled g-a-r-r-y yeah and he the right way to spell it yeah so i thought right yeah he was my he was my heart he was a hip-hop attorney so i got to meet all kinds of exciting

people and you know it was a different life and once he when he passed it was very traumatic because it was in pandemic so dating was not existed you know there are different people you know trying to see how it was doing but then they wanted to make sure i was okay and maybe me out, that kind of thing. But nothing really started happening until pandemic kind of eased up. And I just got tired of people saying one thing and really being something else. And when my sister sent me the application, and I said, you know, this would really be an exciting opportunity to not only be a part of history, you know, a legendary experience, but in one shot, you get exposed to a lot of people as opposed to having to be on dating sites and, you know, that kind

of thing. So it really was appealing to be on Golden Bachelor for so many reasons. I mean, the best thing that can happen is I find somebody that I really, really vibe with. And he was that dude for me. The other side would have been, you know, hey, I could, you know, just giving a language, giving a visual to the world that women that, you know, are of a certain age, can thrive through all kinds of challenges and really live their best life regardless of where they are in their life, you know. And I think that that message has been told and should be reinforced because it teaches our daughters how to, how to, how to, how to live their best life. Yeah. Yeah. Well, I'm sorry, sorry to hear about your husband passing. I do want to ask,

though, who's the most exciting person that you've met in hip hop? Oh, wow. the most exciting. My husband was pretty exciting too because he was an attorney and he always had stories. Who is the most exciting person I met on the phone? He was talking to Snoop on the phone once

and he was talking to Drake on the phone once and Feddy Wap once. Nice. Those are super exciting. Whoever Snoop just did. I was just known as MCAT. I don't know if they'd remember me at all. But, you know, he was

talking business you know that kind of thing yeah yeah snoop just i just saw snoop just did um a pretty brilliant ad yeah i saw this the smoke the smokeless one said he was gonna like quit smoking he's gonna quit smoking and he's really promoting like a smokeless uh fire pit or whatever it is but it was genius whoever the agency marketing team behind that it was genius it was everywhere it was like snoop dogs says he's no longer smoking he's gonna stop smoking and then the ad came out that it obviously was referring to something different, which is so funny. It was huge. It was really well done.

I was very well done. I was very well done. I was very well done. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot.

He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't. trust her now he's insisting we get to know each other but i just want her gone now hold up isn't that against school policy that sounds totally inappropriate well according to this person this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age it's even more likely that they're cheating he insists there's nothing between them i mean do you believe him well he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet so do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not to hear the explosive finale listen to the okay Storytime Podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

I'm Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, host of the Psychology Podcast. Here's a clip from an upcoming conversation about exploring human potential. I was going to schools to try to teach kids these skills, and I get eye rolling from teachers or I get students who would be like, it's easier to punch someone in the face. When you think about emotion regulation, like you're not going to choose an adaptive strategy, which is more effortful to use unless you think there's a good outcome as a result of it if it's going to be beneficial to you because it's easy to say like go you go blank yourself right it's easy it's easy to just drink the extra beer it's easy to ignore to suppress seeing a colleague

who's bothering you and just like walk the other way avoidance is easier ignoring is easier denial is easier drinking is easier yelling screaming is easy complex problem solving meditating, you know, takes effort. Listen to the psychology podcast on the IHartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. So in the last month, the Midas Touch Network beat Rogan, Tucker Carlson, Candice Owens, Charlie Kirk, and Ben Shapiro all combined. Conservative podcasts can have a major political impact, but the Myceles brothers, three siblings with a serious media strategy, are building an alternative. alternative to that. On the latest episode of Next Question with Katie Couric, I sat down with the brothers behind the Midas Touch Network to talk about how they built a progressive media

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Yes, well, that was my night. Yeah, yeah, unfortunately, yeah, it's, you know, Um, it was, you know, the, you know, getting out of the limo, you know, it was a little wet. It was slippery. And once getting the footing, it was one of the last limos to come. So it was later. And, um, you know, Gary was standing up there looking so handsome and kind of excited. And, um, you know, I walked up over to him.

And when I looked at him, I realized, uh, is this, I realized what I was really doing. You know what I mean? It hit me. That this is serious. You know, we're thinking about possibly, you know, having a life with someone and really pursuing getting to know you, getting to know all about, you know, that kind of thing. And so I was a little taken aback because his name is Gary and the only Gary I'll ever know is my husband.

So, you know, that exchange wasn't as dramatic as the exchanges that had passed or that he had earlier. But when I got in and I saw the, you know, the room full of so many beautiful women, everybody ready to bring their A game and which was exciting for me because being in a room full of women like that is something I enjoy and I'm used to. And it was just, it was just fun to watch the dynamic. And then, um, then sitting with him and talking with him. I chose to be a little bit more um and because it wasn't as um i guess um i don't know gary gary gary gary gary gary gary gary gary gary gary i you know i remember when he got up from our our talk he kind of opened his arms and i just kind of like went like that to him as opposed to maybe later kind of thing and that wasn't

something that worked yeah but you know it's it's okay was it odd to date another gary it was it was strange yeah and and and you know from my background in terms of the kind of music we like the kind of life i was living you know i you know he you know would he be even exposed to that kind of you know he was from the midwest he lived a really quiet peaceful life he was kind and gentle you know i i didn't want to be a little um i mean we came from extremely two different worlds yeah you know you know which could have been exciting to some degree, but I don't know how much it would have been a love connection at all.

So what's a night out for you now? Like if you go out with your girlfriends, what do you guys get into? Oh, wow. It depends on which team of women I'm with, you know. The A team. Let's go with the team that's looking to go out. That's the little fire, you know, because, you know,

unfortunately I recently lost two of my 18 women and they were supermoder with all kinds of stuff because that's what happens as we age, we lose people we love. But what a typical night out would be would be getting dressed having the car come, limo come and we go into the city and you know, you had special entrances

because you were with certain people and, you know, that kind of thing. And then you would just go and have, and just party in the back and, you know, hang out and have dinner or, you know, all night, you know, where you would sit at, you know, special tables with people and people sending you, you know, drinks over, you know, that kind of stuff, you know. I want to be on your A team. How do I get on this A team? That sounds so fun. So how has dating been after the show now? Are you dating? Are you dating? Are you dating? looking for love still? Oh, I know love will find me. And, you know, you get interesting characters in your DMs and stuff. Or meeting you in the airport. And, you know, some people recognizing you or some people just, you know, I mean, I wasn't on the show a long enough time, but there are people

that, you know, wait a minute, wait a minute, that kind of thing. What's it like? It's still you have to kind of decide, you know, what is it that people want? Do they really want to spend time with you? Are they really campaigning for the ultimate vote? Or are they just want a minute? You know, just to say they were with you. And right now, I just, I trust that if God could bring me the love of my life once, he can bring me new love and something in my life for now to go forward. And I know that'll happen. And so the best thing that being on this show has done for me has helped me really kind of tune into my vibe even more and appreciate even more at this stage. I think I always know I had my own kind of vibe. But now I have it and I'm enjoying it even more. And that in itself

is attractive. And most women need to find their vibe and be comfortable with it, not compare it to anybody else, not expect anything from anybody else. Just do them honestly. and not need approval from anyone. And when that happens, look out. Yeah. It gets pretty popping. Are you close with any of the women from your season? Were you able to make friends with anyone?

I didn't make any heavy-duty friendships or anything like that. It's difficult after night. It was difficult the first night. You know, people were kind of sharing kind of interesting stories. But I'm sure. maybe down the line, you know, we'll run into each other on maybe social media or somewhere. It would be nice to reconnect. Have you, have you, have you, have you been watching the show?

I sure have. Who have you been rooting for? Any of the women you've been rooting for? I'm rooting for Gary to find who he really loves because I think, I think, I think the attention and all the drama that's associated with this outside of the show has been a lot. So even outside the show, I'm sure he's getting attention now. So whoever he's, you know, between the last two, I mean, I think he generally cares for them deeply. But it'll be interesting to see if it's something that's, you know, made in heaven and lasts forever.

Or if it, you know, it was just a beginning of something bigger and better than he ever dreamed. Yeah, yeah. If they are to do a golden bachelorette and they approach to. I would be up the line and said I would kill it. You would kill it. You would kill it. After this interview, I feel confident you would do great. And casting would have to get a whole mixture of men, you know, and I would just rock that show.

Nice. I love the confidence. So what right now, let's hear what you are currently looking for in a man? I want a man that is independent in every way possible. I want him to be funny, a really good sense of humor, likes to do a few push-ups every now and then. He finds that he needs some health integrity. Yeah.

But he doesn't have to be crazy about it, you know. But it has to be on his radar and important to him. him not necessarily anybody else and he's and he wants to just really really really have a love adventure you know go travel experience things we had we've never experienced before and at this stage of the game we might have to get pretty creative which would require a certain type of personality and intellect and definitely a sense of humor and most of all you know really love me I like that I like that that's a great answer Do you have, like, a certain age gap you won't go past?

I'm not, I'm not interesting. Oh, yeah. Yeah. I don't really. I'm a young golden bachelorette. Yeah. You know, I, you know, I've been blessed in highly favor, you know, so I don't really have, I mean, the only thing I take are vitamins. Yeah.

Yeah. So, I'm, and I'm relatively fit. And I enjoy a lot of my friends are at least 10, 15 years younger, you know, in terms of some of the places I go, things I do. So even though I might walk in a room and say, wow, I know I'm older. Everybody else doesn't know that, you know. Yeah. So that's fine.

But I want a man that's definitely happy with where he is in his life and ready for something really exciting to happen to him. in his heart and in his soul, you know? So if he's doing anything, it's more on a philanthropic level or doing things that really kind of, you know, have the world in mind, you know, make some differences with that. I want him to know who he is, be powerful and enjoy being powerful

and enjoy having a woman that will support him and be that too. Nice. All right, well, I mean, that all sounds lovely. Maria, thank you. So much for taking the time and coming on our podcast. Thank you. Oh, thank you for having me.

Thank you for having me. What a pleasure. Of course. And to our listeners, make sure you stay tuned to next week because we're going to have more fabulous women from Golden Bachelor coming on. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit.

Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back. to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate.

Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast on the Iheart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, host of the Psychology Podcast. Here's a clip from an upcoming conversation about how to be a better you. When you think about emotion regulation, we're not going to choose an adaptive strategy which is more effortful to use unless you think there's a good outcome. Avoidance is easier. Ignoring is easier.

Denials is easier. Complex problem solving. Takes effort. Listen to the psychology podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. On the latest episode of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, sat down with Jasmine Crockett, Democratic representative of Texas. She's holding out the fork for her party in one of the most conservative states in the union. I think that ultimately, who will become the Democratic nominee for president will be someone that has been out there and has shown that they won't allow themselves to be punched and just say thank you.

Like, they will punch back. Listen to next question with me, Katie Couric on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. This is an IHeart podcast.