Bachelor Happy Hour - Just Do It! | Golden Hour

Episode Date: December 11, 2024

Today on “Golden Hour,” Kathy and Susan are back answering your write-ins! We kick off today’s episode with our question of the day: What things should you be asking on the first few dates? Then, we get into your questions. We’re covering budding romance with a co-worker, dating after a big breakup, compromising on wedding expectations, and so much more. Tune in now, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

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We're so excited to be here. What's new with you? My stitches are almost all melting here. so melting how are you feeling i'm i'm kind of with you on the stitches they're almost coming out for those of you who don't know and i can't imagine there's one of you who don't uh susan and i had some minimal plastic surgery done to make us feel better about ourselves no judgment if you don't do it that's okay but we love doing it and we feel better that's right so and i know everybody you're following our podcast because you got to know these things that's right that's right

they know how to do it do you get tired of saying that's right you get tired of saying that not every week. Do we need to say this every week? You know, I don't. Here's my thing. What do you think? If they're listening, the only thing that they have left to do is hit the follow button. And the reason to hit the follow button is you don't have to search for us every week. And you'll get notified. You'll get notified. So if you haven't hit the follow button, go find it. It's a little plus sign up there. Go hit it. And then you will know every time there's a new podcast. And you can hear the silliness of Susan and me.

Yeah, we just have fun doing this. We love all you guys. And this week has been great because people are sending back what they did with our advice and how it came out positive. I know, don't you love that? We have like a new career ahead of us. I know. I mean, it's not that we're giving, we're not therapists for sure, but we've lived a lot of life.

We've lived a lot of advice. And so we've, you know, we got some answers here. Exactly. In a case you forget how to submit the questions. to us right it's that part i can say bachelornation.com slash golden hour there you go all you have to do let's it all right before we get into some of those great questions let's do our our topic of the day all right you ready what questions should you be asking on the first few dates when you're seeing someone and what should i know about someone before making them my official boyfriend or girlfriend

Recently, I've shared this with you about how to get to know somebody within the first few minutes. So, Kathy, you go ahead and answer first. And then I'm going to read these five power quote. No, I have them. Okay. Go ahead. Go ahead. I haven't used it yet. Okay. I just wrote them down. All right. And I really want to do this. All right. Five powerful questions so that you kind of know somebody. Number one, what makes you feel most alive? How about if we pretend we're the first one, Kathy, I'm going to ask you these questions. And then at the end, we'll see how much we know. So if someone would ask you, what makes you think? Come on. What makes you feel most alive? Like, I would have to think about that, right? No, what makes me most alive is being

outside, walking, hiking, seeing sites that I've never seen before. Okay. What's the best compliment you ever received? That the best compliment? Oh, I don't know. I can't answer that. Okay. What's your idea of a perfect day?

Perfect day for me, alone or with someone? If I were with someone, it would be getting up, sharing coffee together, chatting about the day and then do it from together. Perfect day, having someone to do that with, right? What's the best piece of advice you've ever received? Live your life and do the things you love, and the right people will come into your life. What's one thing that you wish people could understand about you better? That my sense of humor is often just to cover for a sensitive thing.

But if you were to ask somebody knew those five questions. I think they've run for the hills. Well, I would share, like, I just got this. Let's play this game and we'll get to know each other. Make it fun. But I think you would know somebody a little bit how they think and what they think a fun day is. Right? I mean, how else are you going to figure those things out?

Yeah, no, I think those are actually very good questions. Yeah. How much would you need to know about someone before you made them your official boyfriend? Enough. Do you say enough? Yes. I mean, how much can you know? You know, the outward signs, you know, what kind of a job he has, what kind of a family life he has.

They're all no-brainers. But you don't really know somebody until you are the girlfriend or the boyfriend. You know, if you get into the little things. Because, like, we just talked about not too long ago, all the fun, fuzzy stuff, the girl that doesn't have enough sex or they don't make out, you know what I mean? as you lose things when you get too comfortable with one another. So, yeah, how about you? I think I'd have to know for me

if he's my boyfriend, which at my age sounds so weird to say that, but if he's my boyfriend that means my person, I like that better, that we're committing to each other. That means we're only sleeping with each other. To make you know, we're on the same page.

Yeah, we're on the same page on. Absolutely. I mean, that, that's, that was it. Yeah, that was an easy one. Yeah. Tell me. All right. How about we give some advice here?

Okay, I love this. All right. Anonymous asks, hi, Kathy and Susan. I've been loving your podcast and I'm hoping you are able to offer me some advice. I don't know, Susan, you think we can offer some advice? I think so. All right. I am 28 and developed a close friendship with a co-worker this year who is 29.

We work together and hit it off right away with mutual interests, similar senses of humor and values. Up until recently we saw each other just as friends, but started chatting more outside of work. Feeling grew, and we both admitted that we like each other as more than friends. The only problem is that we are both healing from past relationships, and that neither of us are ready to pursue one another and give 100% to a relationship right now. He was engaged, and his fiance cheated on him right before their wedding last year, and I'm coming out of a toxic relationship. So there's a lot to unpack on both ends. I am planning to start therapy as is he, and we have already taken positive steps forward from our past. We have put boundaries in place

regarding how often we chat, text, et cetera, though I've struggled to maintain this as we both really like each other and have a strong attraction. We have discussed focusing on our friendship right now while trying to put our feelings for one another aside. I really like him and want to continue talking and just spend time together as friends, but I don't know if this would help or hurt things between us and any potential relationship. While I'm not holding out hope on a relationship, I truly do hope this is just a right person wrong timing kind of thing. If anything, I do not want to lose our friendship. You two always share such great advice and I'm hoping you can help me out with this. Love you both.

I think you and I are going to come up with the same answer. What do you say, Susan? Well, first of all, I'm still stuck on. We have put boundaries in place regarding how often we chat. I told you we were going to agree. You don't do that. Hey, listen, I love you, Susan. I knew we were going to agree on this.

I was like, there's no way. Not only that. Somebody might be the right one. Who knows? I love you, Susan. You're going to do all this work about it. You're going to ruin it. Anonymous, if you have strong feelings from him and he does for you, it could be, it could be

right guy, right time. Yeah. Why do you insist on do, you can do the work while you're still seeing him? She's saying, you and I would kill for this opportunity. They actually discussed focusing on our friendship right now. That's, you know what, Anonymous? You're going to end up with a friend, not a boyfriend. I think you should go down the road.

Yes, get the therapy. Wouldn't you go down the road, Susan? Well, what we don't know is how long ago the breakup was. I mean, I'll give her that. She said her fiancé was a year last, you know, in the last year. Okay. And he's planning on going to therapy and it's already been a year. Yeah.

So that's a little red flag. I see like red things all over the place. Yeah. I mean, if you are struggling inside, only you know that, then you need therapy for yourself that's great but if you've found somebody that you're attracted so she's just coming out of the toxic though yeah so i think you know you're you take a chance you take a chance but susan's absolutely right if there's there's the only red flag i see in this is he broke up a year ago and he hasn't done any work yet so i'd pay attention to that might be okay might be her with all this

focusing stuff like you need to chill out but and you know what if it doesn't work out Yeah, you tried, and you enjoyed the moment. I mean, don't read into everything. Lighten up. Enjoy this person. Listen, Anonymous, we love you. We love that you have this opportunity with this guy. You know, too many boundaries.

You know what too many boundaries cause? More. A wall. Yeah, a wall that you just can't get over. A brick wall. So try, try. Just go for it. Go for it.

And please, right back and let us know. Oh, no, we want to know this. Yeah, we definitely want to know how this goes. But I don't think it's the right, I think it could be the right person. I just disagree with you. It sounds like the chemistry is there. It sounds as if like they're both attracted. Maybe she could hand them off to us.

Whoa, wait, we don't want to get ahead of ourselves. And then you kiss them and it's like, forget about. I don't know. You and I just, you and I believe in love. And if she's into the sky and he says into her, take a chance get your therapy while you're dating the word toxic is scary and I hear where she's coming from but let things go a little bit heal yourself all right the next question is wait you said let it go you're past oh let go you pass yes yeah the toxic thing and I'm glad

you're going to therapy and hopefully he does too my boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam, maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy?

That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not?

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Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. So we have another anonymous. Hi, Susan and Kathy. I need some advice on how to help my in-laws with their finances. Here's a little background. My father-in-law's business fell apart 15 years ago and the family lost everything. The business, their house, their cars. My husband and his parents were in and out of hotels during this time and they racked up a lot of debt. Over the past 15 years, my mother-in-law has worked multiple jobs to support the family while my father-in-law refused to go back to work after this because he was depressed. Now, in the present, my husband and I are 30 years old with a two-year-old and hopefully another on the way soon. Congratulations. My in-laws recently informed us of several debts that they have that they are adding up. My husband and I do well for ourselves, but by no means are raking in

extra money that we don't know what to do with. That being said, we have come to the realization that we will likely have to help financially when my mother-in-law retires in four years. My in-laws are hesitant to discuss these debts and their finances further. But my husband and I feel like we deserve to know what their money is going towards if we are likely going to be funding their retirement. We have explained to them that we would need them to move closer to us. Currently, they are a 12-hour drive away, oh, God, as my husband is the only child, and we won't be able to do a hop-skip and jump away. If something medically happens to one of them, they can't just fly over there. Okay, this conversation never goes over well as they are reluctant, reluctant to

move down south. How would you address this conversation with them? And do you think we are being unreasonable for wanting clarity into their finances and them to move closer to us. Thank you. Oh, kill. I'm speechless. They're not changing. They're not changing. And unfortunately, the only child's going to be stuck.

I mean, that's why you never want to be an only child. First of all, I have so many problems with this. First of all, Anonymous, I think you are lovely, you and your husband, that you, you are willing to consider supporting them, given that your father-in-law never got another job, doesn't sound like he got therapy, doesn't sound like he did any group work to get him out of his depression. I don't know if he took medication, but, you know, it's sort of like he's going to do his thing and now you're going to take care of him. So I struggle with that a little bit. I think you absolutely, I don't know, Susan, you know me. I think you absolutely can say, look, guys, if you

you need money from us, money comes at a cost. And the cost is you have to share your finances with us and where the money's going. You have to move closer to us because we can't get there to you. But did they ask them for money yet? No, they're just telling them the debt that's growing. Well, they didn't ask for it. Because they want them to, you know, buy a box of chocolates. They're telling them because they need help.

And but that is a good point, Susan. Maybe they should wait until they ask for help. Maybe you do that anonymous. It's not going to change a damn thing. They are who they are. I'm a little concerned with the father, never going back to work. Depression is real. I get it.

I'm not excusing it. And there's medication. But he sounds like he gave up. Yeah. And that's not fair to his only child. That's what I'm saying. That he's supposed to pick up the pieces. Yeah.

And they have a young family. And, you know, it says my in-laws recently informed us. Well, like I said, they weren't informing you because they were about to tell you they won the lottery. They're informing you because they want help. And I believe them who has the gold makes the rules, right? So if you, Anonymous and your husband are going to be supporting them and funding their life, guess what? You get to make the rules. And I don't mean to sound harsh.

No, I know, but I still want to know what the father's doing. What is he doing? He's probably sitting around reading the newspapers or, you know. And the mother's out working and she's not going to retire for four more years? Right. is there a pension is there a she just working odd jobs i don't i need more details but i also think they need to yes you we need more details and guess who else need more details they do they so anonymous you need to have this hard conversation your husband does your husband needs to say okay

look you know she is a saint this woman like that's what i said you're a saint anonymous oh well let us know what happens good luck it's a very hard situation to be in it really and i'm sorry and i and i hope you do have that second child and I would start stashing some money that nobody knows about because if you guys go broke at least you'll be able to survive well you know you know what happens Kathy they end up moving in with you because you can't just afford to play yes it's like I see a nightmare I see a nightmare don't let that happen anonymous don't move them up too soon you did not make these bad choices they did and don't move them don't move them close right away no no no no no no keep it well it depends how old they are what are they going to do they don't

don't have any other family and they have health issues, that's a no-brainer. Yeah, God bless you. But I think you, I really, we're beating a dead horse here, but I really think if you guys are going to be supporting them, you get to set the allowance, you get to set the rules. And it's really hard because you're switching roles. You're becoming the parents and they're becoming the kids. And they'll resist it. I can tell you that. All right, let's move on. All right. Another anonymous. Another anonymous. How do you compromise on wedding expectations? I come from a small family that I am not close to, and I have had to work really hard for my savings and everything I have. My significant other comes from a large family that is used to grand, get-togethers, weddings, etc.

My family will not help me pay for a wedding, and I do not want to disappoint my significant other when the time comes because I want to use my savings on a home rather than paying to provide food and alcohol to hundreds. Love you, ladies, and I listen every week. you definitely do have a conversation and if his family loves all that a lot of times his family will help pay that's the only way they're going to have the kind of wedding that they expect they're going to have to help pay for it because you have a great brain and you're right use that money for a down payment on a yes exactly and you know what i thought you were going to say our favorite word susan you need to communicate communicate compromise and what are the three Cs i don't know collaborate, communicate.

Collaborate? I don't know what. Compromise. Compromise. Communicate. Compromise. Create. I was going to say consider it.

I forgot my three words. We'll come back with it. This is what happens when you're 67. Anybody else out there forget things? Yeah, just a little. But listen to what I'm saying. I really do think that you have to talk to your significant other. Communicate with him or her about.

out your expectations, huh? And her mother-in-law to be, just be sad puppy face and go talk to the mother-in-law and say, I know you guys. You don't have to talk to mother-in-law. Yes, because that's who's going to pay. No, excuse me, I did not read that anywhere. They're used to grand. I'm just picturing the whole thing and sit there.

You don't, I disagree, Susan, you don't go to the mother-in-law. If the in-laws want to step up and say, listen, guys, we know you don't have a lot of money. We'd like to throw you the wedding and provide food and alcohol for 100. then you can do that. But Anonymous, here's, I just said this in the last question. Them who has the gold makes the rules. If they pay for your wedding, they're going to have a lot of expectations about how it should be. So if you want the wedding you want, then you talk to your partner, you guys work it among

yourselves, and then if they come to you and say, well, we want this, we want that. You can say, well, you know what, it's our wedding and this is what we've decided to do. No? And then mom comes in with a checkbook, yeah. Just how it is. I wish you luck. I know. But don't spend your house money on it.

No, do not. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast. So we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem.

but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor

and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not?

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Wait, what? Oh, that's the run right. I'm looking at this thing. See? Listen to No Such Thing on the I Heart Radio. Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. All right, question number four, another anonymous. Hi, Kathy and Susan.

I am loving the podcast. I really look forward to hearing your podcast each week, especially the fan questions Friday episodes. I have a question for you all about job, happiness, and what is normal. I recently graduated school in May of this year. and have been working since the middle of June. I got a job in what I went to school for. So it would seem like I am right where I want it,

except I am unhappy in my job. It is hard to put every single thing that I am unhappy about into words here, but it basically stems from me feeling like my boss doesn't fully appreciate me and what I do for him. and I have an hour-long commute one way, which I also don't like. I do like the majority of my co-workers, so it isn't all bad. I guess my question is, how do you know that it is time to leave a job? And when is it too soon to leave a job? How do you discern being unhappy because this is my first real job and work is work

versus being unhappy because it is actually not a good job. I have asked my family and friends' opinions, but I'd love an unbiased opinion. Thank you in advance if you choose to answer my question. Well, of course we are. Oh, an hour each way is a lot. It's your first one. You definitely want to have something good on the resume

so you don't want to leave too soon. Am I right, Kathy, there? Yeah, I mean, she says that she graduated school in May, and she's been working since the middle of June. So she's been working five, what, five months? Give it a year. Well, here's the thing. I think she can start, you're looking. Your boss, when you say he doesn't fully appreciate you, sweetie, I don't mean to sound awful, but you're working for him.

Maybe he doesn't show it. Yeah. Yeah, and he doesn't have to, you know, he has to provide a civil, good work environment, but he doesn't have to. to, you know, comment how much he appreciates you. That may be your age a little bit that, do you know what I'm saying? Yes, I do. I'm curious about what kind of job it was. She said she got a job that she went to school for.

There's a lot of people that train and go to school and get degrees and something that they just don't love. And my advice is do something you enjoy doing. Well, two things here. She took the job knowing it was a narrow commute each way. So that to me is, you know, that's not much you can do about that. I think that you haven't been in the workforce long enough to know. Susan's absolutely right.

If you've decided, you know, you went to school to be a nurse and you hate nursing because you pass out at the side of blood, then, you know, maybe you have to backtrack and rethink the whole thing. But understand, I don't mean to be a naysayer here, but, you know, we've lived a long time here. If you are trained for that field and there aren't jobs in your neighborhood, clearly you would have taken one there if it was. Kathy, let me ask you something. What do you get from? I feel like it basically stems from me feeling like my boss doesn't fully appreciate me and what I do for him. I think that's her.

Yes. That's you. That's what I'm saying. That's why I started by saying I don't want to sound mean. But, you know, you're young and not everyone appreciates or has to. It's not like being coddled anymore. Yeah, you're not being coddled. You know, they're not giving you extra credit for passing an extra credit assignment in college.

You're not getting any stars. This is the real workforce where, we're sweetie or sir, whoever I'm speaking with here, you have to earn your stripes. And we've all had first jobs. I don't want to tell you about my first job. and I worked my tail off and I never felt appreciated either. That's kind of the nature of a first job. So I think you've got to stick it out.

I'm curious as to what she's doing. But like we said, you definitely want, and you're in the corporate or professional world now, something that looks good on your resume so you don't want to quit too soon. And you do like your coworkers.

The hour commute, that's a lot. Yeah. But Susan, think positively. you know what if you have an hour in the car take up reading books on tape learn a foreign language you know make the best of that hour yeah make use of that hour it's not the worst thing you know make use of that hour um and i would what kind of relationship does she have with her boss maybe you know you say i hope you appreciate everything i do am i doing a good job you know like well if she i'm guessing she's entry level i'm guessing she's entry level she could be yeah you're right so so i know

it's hard it's a tough transition from school to the workforce i wouldn't i'm guessing your family and friends have said you cannot quit this job yet you know you and i i'm going to get jump on that bandwagon and say you need to stick it out at least a year at least a year and decide if that's the business you want to be in that right and if that's the business you want to be in then that's really easy look for jobs closer to your home and you can say the commute became that can be your reason for leaving. I love my job. I love my boss. I want to continue this, but the commute was just too long and see if you can find a job closer to home. But give this guy a chance, you know, work hard for you anonymous. It sounds like it is a good job though. Yeah. Yeah,

she must need to. All right. Good luck. Kathy, you're ready? Yes, I am. It's my turn to say we're going to play a game. Oh, yes. Wait, moral quandary? No. We're going to play, would you rather? So we'll switch on reading the questions and we will both give our thoughts. I'll start us off. All right. Okay. Would you rather win a lifetime supply of skincare products or high-end shoes? Okay.

Susan, I want you to guess and I'll guess yours. What do you think I would rather have? Skin care. Yes. And you would rather have the shoes. I want both. Well, here she is, back with both. all right would you rather be able to instantly do your makeup perfectly or have perfect hair every day

instantly being able to do my makeup perfectly that's because you have perfect hair i want hair and makeup i want per no but your own hair i'm talking about i know i listen guys i visited susan where i'm literally with the round brush blowing my hair like you can you can you could read the Bible from front to back by the time I get my hair dry. Susan's like, just 10 seconds, I just need the hair. And not, she's not kidding. In 10 seconds, her hair is dry and looks perfect. Okay, would you rather have a time machine for one night or a chance to redo one day in your past?

Oh. What do you want? I want to redo one day in my past. Are you going to tell me what day? No, I am not. I'll get you later. You know what? I don't really have a preference on that.

You want a time machine? You want to go forward or backward? I don't, oh, I don't want to ever go forward. I like to see life as it unfolds. Element of surprise. Thank you very much. All right. Would you rather be known?

Oh, God. Wait a minute. You are going to laugh at my answer. Wait, ladies and gentlemen, this is like so. unbelievably a question for not me well all right would you rather be known for your cooking skill and you cannot say both would you rather be known for your cooking skills or your party hosting skills Susan you said I can't say both so I'm not going to answer so pick one I'm already known for my cooking skills and my party skills so you know what I'm known for if I have to answer cooking

you know what I'm party you're the party you're the party you don't cook I'm known for my party Because you know what I learned a long time ago? Make everyone feel when they come in like the party's not complete until you're there. So I'm so glad you made it. I don't think that was a good question for us. Okay, would you rather give up wine or cheese forever? How dare they? I mean, I'd rather give up cheese.

I have high cholesterol. I love wine. I don't know. I'm a cheese girl. I can't. I can interview. You'd give up. I'm going to be punished. I'm failing this test again.

All right. You know what? We could go on and on, but unfortunately, our time has come to an end here. It is? I know. Okay, one more. Just one quick one, okay? All right, you pick it. Okay. While you're on your first date, would you rather accidentally spill your drink on your date or have the waiter accidentally spill in your lap? What's your answer? You wanted this question. What's your answer? oh my god i would like the waiter to spill my dinner in my lap so would i because you know what i'd get a clear a full i'm fanativen i'd love to see what my date did to make me feel better oh my god i know we have to go i'm so sorry but would you rather accidentally text your ex boss oh your ex or your boss

after a few glasses of wine which would you rather i don't know i don't work anymore what do you think oh god i don't know okay well that doesn't for today's episode yeah really Okay, well, Susan would like to play this game all day. I can't get her to do moral quandary for 30 seconds, but she'd play, would you rather, forever? Anyway, this was a great episode. We had so much fun on Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour today, and we're so glad you all joined us.

Yes, and keep those questions coming back. They were really good ones. You know how to do it, right? Bachelornation.com slash Golden Hour. Or hit us up at Social at Bachelor Happy Hour. Listen to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. On the I Heart Radio. You're supposed to say it with me, Kat.

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