Bachelor Happy Hour - Kendall’s Adventures Abroad

Episode Date: December 21, 2022

This week on “Bachelor Happy Hour,” Kendall Long joins us all the way from Germany! She’s catching up with Becca and Michelle and sharing all the exciting details of her recent move abroad with her fiancé Mitch, how she plans to adjust to her new life in Europe, and how it feels to officially be engaged! Don’t forget to rate and subscribe so you never miss an episode.See omny.fm/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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And I'm Michelle Young. And we're excited to be back with you this week because today we're catching up with one of my girlfriends, one of the most lovely women I have ever met. Thanks to the show. And that is Kendall Long. We have so many questions for her. I've never met her in person before, but I've only heard great things. And we have her move to Germany that we'll be talking about and her new fiancé. She's an engaged woman.

Oh, I'm so happy for her and her new fiancé, Mitch. But before we bring her on, Michelle, it's a big week because the holidays are here. Do you have any fun plans for them? Are you going to be going back to Minnesota for them? Yes, I will be back to. in Minnesota for the holidays. I'm so excited just because last year at this time, it was so crazy. I feel like things are finally slowing down a little bit during the holidays.

So just spending time with family. I have two nephews now. So one of them, it'll be his first Christmas. So that's going to be amazing. And just, I don't know, the usual, the food, the cookies. I'm looking forward to it. about you. What are you and Thomas doing now? Now that you're engaged, this is your first like holiday together engaged. Yes. Yeah, we had, well, yes, we spent the holidays last year

together. Obviously, we weren't engaged at that point. So, um, we're taking it pretty easy last year. We went back to Minnesota. So this year, we're going to stay here and celebrate with his family. And then I'm planning on going to Minnesota and we'll celebrate with my family in January. So it's going to be pushed back a little bit. But I'm so excited. Thomas's mom is the most incredible woman. And I truly don't know how she does it, but she goes all out for the holidays. We were just there last night watching her set up the house.

And she has seven Christmas trees. Seven? Seven. All around the house. She put one. So like Thomas and I will spend, I mean, she only lives a half hour from us. But she put a, so we'll spend a couple of nights. there around Christmas

but she has a tree in every room she has a tree in our bedroom in the guest house like she goes all up because so this is something that I have yet to experience this will be my first time experiencing the Jolly Jacobs Jamboree apparently it's this

massive holiday party that they've had for years but because of COVID and then last year their house actually flooded and was under construction so they couldn't host it so This is the first year that I will be able to witness it for the first time. This is one of the things. I kid you not.

I think on Thomas and my, our first date that we had, he told me about this party. So it has been a long time coming. I'm so excited. I just, I can't wait. Just to eat, drink, be merry. I already have the dog's ugly Christmas sweaters too to wear so they can match us. But yeah, it's just going to be fun. I mean, his family is so, so, so.

incredible. I already feel like I'm part of their family. So I'm thrilled to be spending it with them. Yeah. And then no plans for New Year's Eve. I'm like, whatever happens happens. I don't want to plan anything big this year because I feel like, do you ever feel like this were if you plan too much or like hype up something too much? It never lives up to the expectation? Always. I just had this conversation with one of my friends about New Year's Eve. And it's just from as far back as I can remember, it's always been like the stress of what are we going to do? Like you feel like you have to do something special. It's almost like if you don't do something big and that's how you start your year, then that's how your year is going to go. I don't know if that's where the pressure comes from, but it's so, so much. And so it's like, it's like, no i'm going to plan to not plan to do anything i coming from coming from the girl me um i had a panic attack on new year's eve last year i had such a bad anxiety attack that i literally cried in thomas's arms for like two hours as the ball was dropping because i was like convinced something bad was going to happen i was like something bad and terrible is going to happen in 2022 and so far it's been like one of the best years I've ever experienced knock on one we still

have a few days left but I'm like this year like no plans as long as I'm with Thomas and our dogs or friends or family like it's just going to be low key so I'm looking forward to not worrying about that and then hopefully it just exceeds expectations exactly all of my new years is like well last year last year was all right yeah I guess you were cool Or so I thought. But you were going through so much at this time last year. It was her finale. I was so exhausted.

And then I remember I got COVID right after. I like rang in the new year, like the two days after I had COVID, I swear. Me too. Yeah. Same. And then the like I also remember, well, back in like the year after college, I got cheated on on New Year's by my boyfriend at that time. Like New Year's is like, everyone's like New Year's. I'm like,

you're like, oh, let's just another day. Like board up the house. Yeah, board up the house. Talk to nobody. I will treat this night like any other night.

I will eat a big thing of pasta and be in bed at 9 p.m. That sounds perfect. Like all I got to remember is to write 2023 as my date instead. Yeah. Like that's my biggest worry. But no. I think this year we, Rachel and I might go to Mexico and just like Cabo and just like unplug.

Yeah. Because it's been a year for both of us. Yes. Okay. As you should, go relax, get off the grid for a little bit. And when I talk to you next, I can't wait until you hear about this trip. No, there's no expectations. No, what trip? What trip? Watch, it's going to blow everything out of the water. You're going to make this is the best trip I've ever had. That'll be fun, though. That sounds like a perfect way to bring in another year. And speaking of bringing in something, I think it's time to welcome our guest, Kendall, to Happy Hour. Let's do it We got my girl Kendall All the way from Germany And before we even ask how you're doing

Show us that rock, please Oh He is good For anyone listening I'm looking at a massive stunning oval With two side diamonds She's beautiful Wow

Okay so now I'm going to ask How the hell are you I'm doing very good A little chaotic. There's a lot going on currently. This is our first week in Germany. But overall, it's been an adventure. Yeah, it's been great. Okay. We have so much to catch up on. I know you and Michelle have never met. So welcome, Michelle and Kendall meeting for the first time. Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you as well. I know, I feel like being in this family, like you kind of know everybody. So it feels like we've met before, but we actually have not. I know, right? I think I saw you at an event one time, and I was like, oh, I have to say hi, but you know how those are. It was like, all. Yeah. So many things going on. Yeah. Well, Michelle, for a little refresher for you, Kendall and I were on already season of the Bachelor back in the day. We also did Paradise together last year.

Kendall, you're the reason why I said yes. You're one of the reasons. Like, what I mean you're the reasons why I said yes, too, actually. It's a terrifying thing to go on again. So Kendall and I were out to dinner. We were at sushi with one of our friends, just drinking wine. I think we had some sake. And we were like, okay, are we going to do this? And it was literally like the day before we were supposed to fly down. We're like, do we say yes? Like, do we sign the contracts?

Do we do this? I was like, I'm in if you're in. And so we did it together. Yeah, we cheers sake to it. So it was good. Yeah. Wild times. It feels like lifetimes ago.

Okay. So much has changed in your world within the past couple. weeks. You recently got engaged. So, so, so happy for you. Mitch is such a gem. You are both so cute together. But catch us up just on your life. You're not living in Germany. How is that transition? It's really crazy. It's a crazy transition. Germany does things a lot differently. So it's just adjusting to that. Learning the language, I know how to say, I don't know how to speak much German. So that's helped me and yeah it's been it's definitely been an adjustment but it's been really cool I decided to come here during winter which is a great idea because it's like snowing and freezing and I've

never lived in the snow before but it's just so beautiful here during the holidays and and yeah it's just been a whirlwind and I'm excited to fully get to know more about the German culture and really immerse myself into it and I'm with Mitch so it's been a fun little intro to being engaged like this is the first time we've been living together it's in a completely different country yeah he's just throwing itself right into it yeah what would you see right there the honestly home is where the heart is that is that how it goes I think amen what would you say is like the biggest difference you said that there's so many things that are different in Germany that you learned or that you've noticed so far um everything is paper bay based so we've been doing a lot of

paperwork um we have to change our phones and in order to get a place here you have to or in order to get a license here you have to have your landlords sign off and say that you officially live here so everything's by the book very structured and so that's been interesting to get used to because i'm very much like all over the place and i'm not used to having to reset my life because I've just grew up in L.A. my entire life and they take uh they take holidays very seriously like Christmas is so festive here um and the weather is very different so we're just dressing for that preparing for that and uh having to put on a parka and thick boots well I didn't know that warm socks are a thing like I've never had to really dress incredibly warm I've been to New York during

snowstorms but living here is a lot different than um visiting or like a vacation so you got to get those cozy cabin socks going i've seen people literally with jackets that look like uh sleeping bags their whole body just is covered and like they have these thick socks and you know i'm just i'm like taking notes like these are things i must ask sounds like a minnesota winter yeah yeah honestly you're talking to the two exactly they have these coats nowadays that They actually, like, they're not electric. They're safe, but they heat up. Like a heating pad.

It's like the heated blankets, but the park is. But it's probably. I got one of those, actually. So, but it's, so we're shipping. So I shipped all of my clothes. Well, a lot of my clothes. I sold basically everything. And so I'm shipping things here.

And so I will get that probably in a month or two. It takes a while to ship everything here. So I'm kind of living out of a couple of suitcases until they, but I did see, I got that coat and my mom was the one that suggests to get that to me. She's like, you're going to need it. I'm like, now that I'm here, I'm like, yes, this is perfect. Mama knows best.

So it was Mitch's job that brought you both there, correct? Mm-hmm. Yeah. Okay. Okay. And you'll be there for two, about two years. That's the plan right now. Do you think there's a chance you'll stay longer or do you already have plans? Like, you'll do the two years and then come back to California.

It's such a crazy adjustment to move to a different country. Um, but I think after we do it, we're already talking about different places we might live after this. Um, but our goal is to go back to where our family is in California. Our families, families live so close together. Um, and so that's the ultimate goal. This is more so like an adventure before we settle down, have kids and do all that. So yeah, knock it off, check it off the bucket list. Oh, yeah. What does Mitch do that brought you to Germany? Um, so he's an aerospace engineer and so he is working for yeah so he's working um here in all the things i'm not exactly

not to know you picked a smart one oh yeah he's uh incredibly intelligent the one thing that i fell in love with him is like his mind like his mind is just a he's a beautiful brain so well and you also have a beautiful brain it's so creative and unique that i feel like you needed somebody that was going to be able to stimulate you you know it's like you i feel like you i feel like you both are very even for each other. I was telling, I think I maybe just mentioned this to Michelle before you popped on. Weirdly enough, so we met Mitch, well, I met Mitch at Thomas's 30th birthday. That's where you brought him.

Well, no, no, we met him before, I guess, on the tour, but. Oh, yeah, but not really getting to know him before. Yeah. Yeah. And such a small world, Mitch is cousins with one of Thomas's good friends from high school. And so he kind of like already, I felt like he was like already part of the group and like, welcomed and he's not only smart he's obviously very handsome but just such a nice fun guy like very down to earth um so okay i want to talk a little bit about germany and then i want to get

into obviously the engagement but you mentioned that germany takes the holidays very seriously and i have seen the holiday markets that you have attended in these past few days talk more for any of our listeners who maybe didn't see your stories on Instagram talk more about these holiday markets but also please elaborate on I think you posted it yesterday of like this scary

Christmas man The Crompice Fest like he had like sticks that he was like spanking someone with yeah so those are birch branches so the Crompice is kind of like a Christmas demon he works with St. Nicholas

and he'll capture bad naughty children and take them back to his layer while he'll torture them, they're hitting them with like birch branches or like eat them. It's like very much a nightmare. I'm really curious about because I'm like teacher everything. And so in the education, you can't, I mean, you don't really celebrate, you celebrate winter, but you can't really celebrate Christmas and just different things. You kind of keep those out of it. But in family, I just know that there's so many families that use like elf on the shelf and, um, and what else? it and just like coal and like oh you're not going to get any gifts like as a threat for

the innocent version but like in germany do they threaten like this person's going to come and take you if you don't eat your vegetables if you don't eat your vegetables i don't think it's everywhere in germany i think it's certain districts in germany because um so the guy who owns the air bambi that we're staying in currently he didn't even know about the crompus festival and he was raised in Stuttgart so I think it might be just to certain areas but the kids seemed to love it

when we were at the festival they were all like all the kids that were in the front was getting picked on and they were just laughing and it was scary this crumpus is that his name yeah the crampus her name but like I saw this video

and I was like I would be traumatized as a child to see this oh their masks are so cool like they so they hands make or home make their masks. And it looks like they carve them out of wood and they get these crazy wigs. It's just, it's so elaborate. And I thought they were really beautifully done. Terrifying, yeah. But I think each area might have had their own, I guess, type of crampus that they were representing because they'd have these signs that would say like a town or a location.

And they would be like a group of them together. Oh, interesting. And it was in the middle of the Christmas festival. So these really pretty gingerbread looking houses with glue vine and all this pretzels and everything. And then it's crazy. What a fun time to move to a new country. I feel like that's like the best way to immerse yourself in the culture is just like being here around the people, around the food, around their festivities and the traditions. Speaking of food, because you mentioned the pretzels, talk a little bit more about. Talk a little bit more about. the food do you like the german food better than american food like what's been your favorite thing i'm such a foodie so i need to know everything well at first i was worried that i wouldn't

really like the german food food because you don't really he i never really personally heard about germany's like food culture um i knew there was a lot of potatoes and pretzels and stuff but their food is really good um they have a big italian community here so italian food's great um they have there's a sushi place around the corner from where we are. Yeah, so they have a big Asian influence here. So we've tried, like the first week we were here, we had to go out to eat all the time just because, you know, we didn't have anywhere else to go. And yeah, it didn't disappoint.

It was very interesting. Like certain things were like, I've never tried it before. But yeah. I love this. I feel like that's my favorite part of traveling. Yeah. Oh, 100%. But now that y'all are in Germany,

do you have like what are your plans for the holidays do you plan to combine your like holiday traditions make new ones i'm definitely already planning to get a christmas tree and to decorate things um it's it's sad it's hard because i'm so close with my family Mitch is so close with his family so being away from family during the holidays is going to be incredibly difficult um Mitch's birthday is actually the 19th so we're going to be celebrating his birthday first and then Christmas is shortly after um but i'm excited i'm excited to have my first christmas with like with mitch and you know we're newly engaged and it's going to be really cute and get like a little tree um but because last year we our first date was the day after christmas really yeah oh my gosh

this is a real special circle full circle look at that Does any of your family have plans yet to come out there and visit you two? Yeah, so I have a girlfriend who already booked her ticket for, I think, March. And then my parents were thinking of coming probably around April, May, like around springtime. There's a spring festival that looks really fun. So my brother's also going to be coming around that time. He's visiting friends in London. So they have no options but to come visit.

Right. They have to. getting a place at the couple rooms so we're hoping that that'll like entice people to come yeah how close are you this is totally up topic how close are you to the rhine river um is that the river that's in munich i believe i think so so i'm pretty sure actually i might be there at the beginning of june so if you are in town i'll we'll talk obviously after this but yes oh my gosh yeah i'm doing a river cruise with my mom and sister and i need to see you if i'm there. I need to see you. If it's in Munich, I think it's in Munich, that's only about

two hours away, but you can cut it with the Audubon. So it's about like an hour and hour. Okay. Okay. Well, we'll talk after this. I definitely want to see you. Yeah. That'd be it's so cool. Catch up and eat all the German pretzels. Oh, yeah, definitely. I've yet to eat a German pretzel. I haven't had one yet. Really? Okay, that's your homework. Homework. You got to do it. And you got to report back. there's been so many cool things to try I've tried a pretzel before

obviously I haven't had a German one or beer I haven't had beer here either so it's I feel like I'm not doing it yeah you got time you got time and you gotta have them together yes you're gonna dip the pretzel and beer no I don't know were you the one okay I think I learned this about you

when we were traveling me I wanted to say to Paris season because that was the first international area we went to were you the one who said and correct me if I'm wrong you would only eat meat when you would travel correct yeah yeah okay yes and so now that you're traveling for two years are you able to eat all the meat there I've actually already started eating meat okay okay so whenever I post about eating meat I thought

you were vegetarian I don't know I mean I feel like there's so many interesting things to try And it was a cool part of my life to be able to. I was vegan, then vegetarian, then pescatarian. And I just really am really paying attention to where I get my meat from. And in Germany, they are just so much better with food in general. You can see that things are a lot fresher. There's a lot more regulations on what they can serve, what they can sell. So you're getting really good quality stuff.

And you can feel it. Like, people who have gluten intolerance, of course, not everyone, like people with celiac or whatnot, but people who have gluten tolerances in America usually won't have them in Germany. I've seen that, actually, all over recently about, like, them eating pasta, anything like that can eat straight up bread when they can't tolerate in the U.S. And Germany takes bread so seriously. Yeah, and in Europe, I feel like, just from like the couple countries that I've been to, everything, like you said, is homemade, fresh, like minimal ingredients, which I appreciate. It's like just the basics. You don't need all these add-ons, additives, whatever you call it. So I guess that makes sense. Yeah. I'm, look at me talking like I'm a doctor like I know or like a nutritionist. I have no fucking idea. Don't listen to me. I'll report back and see how I feel after a couple of years. I cannot wait to see you visit you out there. That's going to be so fun. Okay, Rebecca, have you, you've met Mitch before, Becca?

Yes, yes. Okay, I just know him from social media on your page. That's it. Oh, yeah. That is totally it. How did you guys meet? So we met through a mutual friend, one of his volleyball buddies. And we met at a, it was kind of like a,

pregame before going out together and yeah I think the first thing that I really enjoyed about him was that he was very into science like myself so that's kind of how he first really connected but yeah from there we just kind of

clicked and he pretty much knew quickly that we were going to well that was my next question and like you were you immediately drawn and interested in him or did it take a little bit I was immediately So when I first met him, I thought he actually came with a girl.

And so I was more so telling myself, I was like, oh, I think he's very cute. I was like, oh, my gosh, he's like really into science. He's like, but don't look at him. You can't? Like, no. And then I found out later on that night that he was not spoken for. And so, you know, and it was, and we met the day before his birthday. So at midnight, we had our first kiss on his birthday.

So, yeah. So would you say? there was a lot of chemistry between you, too. That was very much a lot of chemistry. We got my two science joke.

Who made the first move then for that kiss? Was it you or him? Yes, please tell me. Mitch is the kind of guy that makes the first move. So he was very much the more dominant one

in that regard. Take in charge, Mitchie. Yes, I loved it. Okay, when you guys met, did he know that you had been on a TV show? Did he know that you'd been on like Paradise?

He knew elements of it, just because his friend that introduced us, he was supposed to be on Claire's season of The Bachelorette. And so he was in that kind of bachelor world. So because of that, he knew that we had met through that. And so, yeah, he kind of had, he knew a little bit of it. He has still never seen it. And I encourage him not to watch it.

Yeah, tell him he's not missing anything. Yeah, I mean, we might one day, but it's just weird to watch yourself. Like, and just other people or stuff. I will say that. I would say if he's going to watch anything, he should do The Bachelor. Yeah. And you're so fun. I remember the first, I want to say it was either the first site or the first, like, big official rose ceremony after night one. Well, you were one of the very first people I ever talked to. We hit it off right away. We sat down. You had this beautiful necklace. I remember that that your mom had made you. And we started talking about her jewelry. But then one of these rose ceremonies, you brought, you started to bring it out. the taxidermy and I remember being like I love this girl she's so unique like you just were so fun just like such a breath of fresh year you kind of reminded me of some of my friends back in

Minnesota um and so we just hit it off and I don't even know where I'm going with this other than like how much I love you but I was going to say he should watch if he's going to watch any season of you watch the bachelor because I feel like you just see more of you too you know you were on for basically the entire season um yeah And, yeah, I just, gosh. Those were fun times. Yeah, that was when they, I mean, it was definitely very much taxidermy focus, which is just hilarious. I made taxidermere me for the first time on that, on that season, which was fun.

So, yeah. I remember you would walk it around with a little chick on your shoulder. Oh, Ping, my little dog. Yeah. Oh, yeah, the duck. Yeah, he like traveled everywhere with me. Wait, do you still have them? I do, yeah.

Well, ping. and pongs have two little ducks um i left them back um back home because bringing animals across you know lines of countries is very difficult so um i got away with it surprisingly when i was on the show but we and you took him everywhere we were in paris we went to italy oh wow yeah has has has Mitch met ping and pong he has yeah Mitch has met all my tax for me and they all have names as as you know scary as that sounds um has he made any taxidermy with you he has not so we've discussed the taxidermy we're both very interested in having a study in our future home and we're like a study with

like bookshel a bunch of books we've collected and like taxidermil around so like it will reside in a cool area i love that i feel like that's cool with it like you're describing how my house was when my dad was still around like because he would hunt and fish and so we had like the fish and the ducks and the deer antlers and the geese and all the things and I love it. It's a good vibe. You were thriving when we went to Tahoe because I remember the house that we stayed at had some taxidermy and you were so excited to be there. There was some insane taxidermy there. Oh my gosh. Didn't they have like some kind of like lion on the wall or something? I think it was in the room that you slept in, right?

Yeah. That's why you got that room. Yeah. Because I came later and like, okay, you're like, you reserve the room for you because there was like a dead tiger's. Yeah. I was like, that's insane. weren't people having nightmares in that in that lodge or wherever we were like because of all the taxes are me like oh i don't know oh wow i loved it i loved it yeah i thought it was great but some people were saying they were scared to sleep there it was oh no it was perfect it was like such a little secluded big cabin in the mountains it was lovely um okay can we get into the whole proposal engagement did you have any idea that it was coming um i mean I think when you're in a relationship for a while and you kind of feel like you're the one, you know that you want that with, you know, with each other.

So I knew that we were eventually going to get engaged. I didn't know when, but yeah. So it happened to be like right before we left for Germany. And it was great because our families were there and we can celebrate it together with them. And I love that he chose that moment. Like before we were going to be leaving for two years. So it was nice that it was right before. Yeah.

You have two years. Okay, you just had this big move. You're going to be there for two years, but you're still getting settled. Is wedding planning taking like a back seat for a little bit? Do you want a long engagement? Do you want to, is it going to be a super small wedding? Like, what are your thoughts with how fast this is going to go? Well, I want to have it back home just with family.

So either we can plan something where we'll come back. It seems kind of difficult. to do that while we're abroad. So we're thinking probably around the time we get back maybe in a couple years. Also because his grandparents, like I really want them to be able to join as well, like our grandparents. So yeah, we're thinking maybe like a couple of year engagement. I'm sorry, yeah, until we tie them out officially.

Okay, okay. And what does Kylie, for anyone listening, Kylie is Kendall's twin sister, not to be confused with Kendall and Kylie from their current house. Joshians. Does she approve of Mitch? She definitely approves with Mitch. Okay, good. It was funny, though, in the beginning, like, with our first date, at first, she was like, who's this guy that's taking you away from Christmas, like, day after Christmas?

But then she has grown to, like, love him. And Mitch gets in to, like, all the drama and conversations, and he loves, like, giving advice and, like, listening and interacting with everyone, which is another. the reason why i'm like this guy's great um so he he loves just kind of getting to the conversations with my friends and family yeah yeah he's he's great at asking questions he's very is he i want to meet him everyone has to meet him thanks yeah she'll come to germany with us i will come i'll be there so honestly i'll be there honestly please do please do i would love to show you around Um, yeah, he's, I mean, obviously I'm very biased.

He's like the best man in the world. I don't know if he knew that, but. For anyone listening, okay, I just have to off shoot this story really quick. So Mitch and Kendall came to Thomas's 30th birthday. And most of the people that were there, like lived in San Diego. They were Thomas's longtime friends from high school or college. And I'm so happy you and Mitch came. It was such a blast.

But it was supposed to be a pool party. The pool wasn't finished at Thomas's parents else. So I was like, shit. But, like, it's in the middle of the summer and it's going to be so hot. We want something to do. So I ended up buying two big slip-inslides for the front yard. And, like, no one really wanted to do them besides Thomas, Kendall, and Mitch. And so these three were just zipping down the slip-ins slide.

Like, they had, like, drinks in their hands. They're, like, having us feed them pizza as they're going down on the slip-inslides. But, like, you two were just down for the count, in for anything. it was so fun to see and he just fitted perfectly like he's that type of person that I think can converse with anyone feel comfortable

it's not like you had to be right there with him the entire time like he was very much just so outgoing and so friendly and so yeah we we all are huge fans of Mitch now thank you yeah he's an adventurer definitely like I found that out really quick

he very much just likes to throw himself into things and just he was like a kid he likes to have fun and play around and um it just makes it so we have a very like playful element to our relationship and whenever we've traveled like he's gotten me to do things i wouldn't probably normally do my own so that's but i will say that's as i am that's you too yeah like i'm sure you both kind of balance each other out and push each other and are so so adventurous um okay i need to go back to this ring though because when you showed it off at the beginning it was stunning

did you kind of tell him what you wanted or did he just going blind and he's just picked out the star of the show so i gave him like my sister more so is the one that kind of geared him into like a direction um but and i kind of like you know it was like said little things that i was interested in but he actually went to a jeweler that was a family jeweler um called anderson jeweler his his mom's wedding ring like they worked on her wedding ring as well so it was in the family which is really nice and so he worked with them to create it so he did he It was so funny after he proposed, and we were talking, like, later that night. He, like, knew all the facts about different cuts and, like, how the diamonds worked and everything.

Aw. Yeah. He likes to gather. Very much so. He loves to, he, like, does research and gathers information. He was just, like, a professional on it. He's not going to be a jeweler. Exactly, right?

Well, he, the one, I just love that he's curious as well, because we could just teach each other things. all the time you know things we've researched are like we're curious about so um so yeah i enjoyed hearing the behind the scene story on how the ring came to be it's beautiful and it's perfect for you i feel like it has this like slight antique vintage vibe with the two side diamonds and it's i feel like it's so fitting for you oh thanks i i think it's so crazy like i never it's weird because i never really pictured what kind of engagement ring i would have like let alone being engaged it just wasn't something that I had ever really thought about but as soon as like Mitch and I were together it just seemed like I was like oh it just almost like it was kind of like awkward like talking about it like

oh yes like engagement you know I don't know it's just something that I had never really dove into before so it was yeah but it was fun yeah you were you were top three on REs season you were so close to that finish line I was gonna say oh no I'm never asked about engagement rings so i wasn't either no worry yeah shit well well damn okay so are you the person to like pick out exactly what you want for a wedding then even though when it's in the future like do you have must have not really i mean i feel like the most important thing to me is having a fun time having friends and family there and um yeah just make it close like I don't want to I used to actually be a wedding photographer like an assistant

wedding photographer so I've been to a lot of weddings and what I've noticed is that a lot of the time it gets so caught up in like capturing little moments you know and I almost feel like the bride and groom are like pulled from one place to another where there's like a photo off you just have to take it do this this I don't really want it to be like that as structured I more so want it to be flowing in it you know so that's the only thing that I kind of uh have have in mind for a wedding well i i um i just started like very tentatively like dipping my toes in the water for wedding planning so we can we can chat about this like once you're closer to it too because i'm like i don't know where to begin i don't know what to do um have you okay so sorry we're all

over the place right now um but obviously the last time we did see you was on paradise two years ago And then you were also on it, what, your 2019, the year before COVID, right? Was that season? So season six and seven, technically, even then there was like the break in between. Did you happen to watch, like, the most recent season of Paradise? I have not taught up with it, no. Okay. I feel like I haven't, I just don't know the characters anymore, you know?

You're used to seeing everybody in Bachelor and then Bachelorette. And then Paradise, you have more of like a background as to who they are. So I don't even know too much about, but it's a great adventure. I mean, there's probably having a great time. Yeah, I'm sure. What about German bachelor? Is there a German? Is there a German bachelor?

There is a German bachelor. There is. Is there really? Yeah. I believe so. That would be a good way to learn the language. Yeah. Isn't there an Australian?

There is. One, two, right? I have a couple friends who did Australia's. Yeah. Quite a few countries. There's a lot. It's a Japanese one. one. Yes. I think we're in Japan. I'd be so curious to compare, like, compare how it is. And, like, I would

just talking to somebody who's been in that experience to compare just like the Americanized experience. Well, no, that's true. I was talking to Yuki who did, I think she was the one that was chosen for the Japanese bachelor. And she said that there was like no kissing or anything until, like, she was chosen at the end, and that's when there was a kiss. Oh, really? So it was very reserved. I never watched it, but the way that she presented it made it seem like it was very polite. And I'm not surprised because Japan is very polite country, and I love, that's why I loved

visiting there, because everyone was so kind. Yeah. And then the Australian, I know I have a friend, Lily, who was the Bachelorette, actually, in Australia. Oh, wow. Well, she's kind of like a crazy personality, so it was fun. Her and you, they were both on winter games, correct? They were.

Okay. I remember really like you, Lily. That's how I met. Yeah. Okay, okay. It's all coming together now. Yeah, there's quite a few offshoots. It would be interesting to see how they differ.

But I will say, like I said, a little bit ago, a great way to learn the language. Do you have any plans on, like, taking a German language course or, like, what is your mindset in trying to learn this language? If you want to. Yeah. I actually I 100% want to learn the language. My mind works in a way where I like learning phrases that I can actually implement into the real world. So I'm listening to this podcast.

I think it's called like German One podcast. And I'm listening to 90s German pop music. Oh, hell yeah. So that helps. And I learned like little phrases. So I've learned how to say, Exculiglunk, which is like, sorry. Um, so, um, I, uh, what is it called?

I can not, uh, we'll doge speak in. And it's, I can only speak a little bit of German. Look at you. Wow. Yeah. And then say, and then I can say like, uh, speak in English and like, you speak English. Yeah. We're going to need you on in like three months to see where we're at. I, man, that'll be good because it'll hold me accountable. And so I'll actually have to learn more German.

well i love that you said you're listening to 90s german songs that's so i took french back in the day and that's actually how our teacher helped us learn the language is she would start class every day with she would print out the lyrics and she'd have missing uh words in the lyrics and then we would have to listen to the song like two or three times and write in to see like what words we were missing so it's so cool because you can have like the cadence of the music it's a fun way to memorize things like i'll think of lyrics in my head um so like there's a song that it's like it's like a nursery rhyme but it teaches you how to count so it's like uh so it goes like ein's five bullet that or i don't know how i'm gonna butcher it now but it counts like one two like like i don't know wait is it the isnish here isnish da is full in america that one oh no it's not that oh it goes uh yeah yeah yeah vasis glouz yeah yeah I'm going to look it up.

I love it. I want to learn German with you now. I'm invested in this. Becca, we should do it. We should do babel rose at a stone. I'm going to be over here, bop into the German alphabet as soon as we get off now. Yes. It's a difficult, they have the same alphabet, the same letters as English, the English language.

The English language has like Germanic and Latin roots. So a lot of. the words are actually similar. Oh, that makes it a little bit easier than for you. I have no idea. What has been the hardest cultural barrier? Like, have you found it difficult to get around? Do most people have some foundational English that they can kind of help direct you if you need it?

Yeah. Most Germans speak at least two to three different languages, which is, like, amazing. But the most difficult thing has been driving because all the streets, are different so and it's also really difficult to read like the names of the exits because they're very long germanic names and it's you know it's just difficult to kind of like figure out um and the way that the roads are like structured it's like turning is difficult like we went down the wrong side of the road like twice uh there's a lot of construction oh wow yeah that's probably the most difficult part about moving

here so far. Cudos to you though for you to already taking the what is it the wheel the bull by the horns the steering by the wheel and like driving it already I would be way too nervous I think

I have not driven yet Mitch has driven he is more gutsy than I am in that regard I would probably run into something I'm not saying I'm a great driver to not but uh you know so i no i've driven with you before no you were a good driver we drove in your convertible that one time that's true that was really fun yeah i mean such a blast i feel confident driving in

america um and usually i try to drive like my sister calls me a grandma driver but she is an insane driver so um all right kendall um i know it's very late where you are so we won't keep you too much longer. Before we get into this whole last part, I want to ask you, do you have any big goals for this next year? We talked a little bit last week on Happy Hour about resolutions. So I'm not going to ask about New Year's resolutions, but goals

for 2023 for you. Definitely. Just kind of ingraining myself in the culture here has been a big goal. And I'm really excited to learn the language and to really fully take advantage of the opportunity that is living abroad and learn as much as I can.

And yeah, work-wise definitely doing certain things I'm excited about so there's always that yeah um and yeah so mainly it's like trying to embody being german you know i got a little bit of it in my blood so that's such a fun goal though yeah it's it's a it's a germany is a difficult place to i guess integrate into but it's because of that that makes it so much worth it i have a friend who lives here and so that really helps. Oh, good. He's,

oh, wow. Yeah, he's German, so he has taught Mitch and I so much. And so, yeah, I have help, you know, so I'm not doing it alone. Oh, that makes it better. Yeah. It'll be, I'm sure, as you said, worthwhile,

it'll be a thing. Like, keep you on your toes for sure, but you can definitely, I think, do something with it each and every day for sure. Oh, yeah. I mean, that's what makes life fun and interesting, like always having a different challenge and kind of just a little etchusketch, you know?

You thought you knew how life was? Now, it's just going to shake it up a little bit. Yeah, we start over, though, from scratch. Well, I can't wait to be watching your stories. Oh, sorry, Bex. I will say this, Kendall. We have not met in person, but our first time that we're going to be meeting might be when I tag along with Becca to Germany. Yeah, whenever she comes.

You love Germany. And I'm not a beer drinker, but I feel like when you go to Germany, you have to try the beer. I will definitely be trying the pretzels with you and then we can talk to axiermy all day long. Oh, that'd be awesome. Yeah. Oh, yeah. It's beautiful here during summer, I've heard. People will jump into the river and just kind of like go to work

through there. I don't know. There's a lot of really fun. It's a fun commute. Yeah. Like swims? They'll swim. Yeah, the swim on the river to get to work. Well, okay, they must have really good, like...

Clean water system. Yeah, or just waterproof phone cases. Yeah, they'll have like waterproof bags or something. Do they like... I think they'll just have like a waterproof bag. There's also like a volleyball court inside one of the rivers that Mitch wants to play on. Yeah, it's like kind of partially submerged in the river. Okay.

They're living over there. They really are. So much fun. exploring. I cannot wait to follow this new chapter along on Instagram with you and come come see you one day. So before we let you go, we got to get into our little resource section. We always love to keep our listeners informed and share important resources. So Michelle, do you want to start this week? Sure. I will start. During my time when I was not feeling so Great. I watched, there's this docus series. It's called Profiled and there's more than one season. But season one is like specifically like profile that cuts down on how black men are profiled. Everything like tunes into special cases gives like the background really breaks everything down in a way that can be well received is what I would say about it. And your can you remember how many episodes it was.

but it like it throws you into it it jumps to it right away you can kind of watch each of the seasons separately if you want to or sorry each of the episodes differently if you want to it's kind of like a little bit like black mirror I don't know why I'm comparing these too but like it's a little bit like that where it's like it doesn't matter you can just jump into whatever episode so they're all kind of like separate but like still the same concept yeah and I know that there was one that just came back came back in it like viewed uh viewed into George Floyd I know that there's one that went into, shoot, a different murder also that was all about, like, racial profiling and goes in and, you know, like the mother breaks it all down. It was just so, so interesting.

And it's on Netflix? This one, I watched on Amazon Prime, but I did check. It's also on Discovery Plus. But if you have Prime, yeah, Amazon Prime, like, you'll be able to watch it for free. Otherwise, like, you can rent it. You're profiled. Oh, right. Profiled. Yep. Good to know. I'll link it. Cool. Thanks, Michelle. Yeah. So the one that I'm going to share today is a little outside the box. So bear with me. But this past week, Thomas and I started the Megan Markle and Prince Harry documentary. And it obviously like just gets into the timeline of their relationship, right? But also, especially within episode two and three, it gets more into

the history of great Britain and the roots and how slavery was a huge part of creating that country and how it's still pretty prevalent today. But it also touches on two things that stuck out to me. One, like just the way Megan Markle was profiled within, especially the British press, there was a lot of racist undertones in the headlines talking about her background, turn her upbringing and a lot of it was like also very factually incorrect um the media didn't always fact check everything um which it's not a good look for the media but um but also it talks about and this is prince harry actually touches on this i think in episode three um touches on the different unconscious bias that he dealt with growing up and how he didn't even realize

he had these biases until later in life and especially after media Megan and dating Megan and seeing the headlines out there about him about her so it really it's a very interesting documentary there's so many components to it but those are my main takeaways from especially episode two and three and if prince harry can emit his implicit bias or his unconscious bias that he had growing up i think we all can and just learn from it and get to the root of maybe where it stems from or the ones that we all carry internally um but it was a a Again, kind of off the beaten path for a resource here, but I think it's still something that everyone can learn from and have takeaways from. So that is going to be my resource of the week.

Honestly, that's not even, that's not, I don't see that off the beaten path whatsoever because I binged it this past weekend. And it is, it is really well done in the sense of like, for example, the whole profiling, like, people are saying that Megan Markle came from like Compton. Compton and like these like rough areas which even if she had so what but that's not even true it's not even true yeah but that's what's crazy and just like

all of like the racist artists that were you know paintings and stuff that that were the statues and all this stuff and and then like the conversation that her mom had to have with her about just the different language that's being used to describe her

is just wow so yeah it was it's done really well it was and it was so interesting because they they'll touch on for instance like the British press and different headlines and they won't even like read headlines word for word but like they'll pull them all up on the screens you can kind of see and there are certain words that like on their own you know if they're if it's just on their own you probably wouldn't think about but in the context of talking about Megan Markle who is a biracial woman it's I'm like how did half of this should go to print like it's it's And again, you know, like, I remember, like, watching on the news and, like, on social media when they got together and, like, knowing kind of just, like, the gist of everything. I never really got into them as a couple just because I was like, whatever. But, yeah, it's a really well-done documentary. So, everyone, please, if you have time, I don't know. How many episodes is it total? Is it three?

I'm, I just finished. Oh, it's six. So I'm halfway through. Oh. Wow. Okay, so I watched a lot this weekend. You were very sick. It just flew by. It just flew by.

Oh, the next three or, oh, next week. Okay. I need to catch up. I haven't seen so many things. I feel like I've been like a, yeah. It's, yeah. So great, great watch. And with that, Kendall, girlfriend, you are up.

So one of my favorite influencers that I follow is Black Forger. I have been forging for like I don't know too much about it yet foraging for a couple years but she has just so much knowledge about the culture behind it the indigenous people who have been forging in America since way before we even got here and I just love her knowledge that she brings to the table not only with like different plants you can utilize but just also what it's like to be a black woman in a foraging space

and yeah i just think she's very well she just is extremely like has a wealth of knowledge and so i've just really enjoyed following her for like a number of years so that is and it's just i'm assuming at black forager that's her yes yeah at black forager all right yeah check her out thank you um okay so we're going to close it out on a fun high note you've done this before but the thorn and the rose and usually we'll do this like first specific season or episode but because um there is not one and so many fun things are going on in your life um we want it to just go into your world so the thorn maybe like the messiest most awkward moment that you've experienced lately and then obviously the rose which is a top

highlight i think um the most awkward experience that i've gone through recently was um going to a grocery store and then trying to talk to the women at the register, like trying to say, oh, I don't speak much German, and her just kind of looking at me like, what? Like, obviously the way I'm pronouncing it, like, isn't correct. I'm probably saying something really weird and abstract. So that was probably the most uncomfortable situation that I've, that I've been in recently, just like not knowing what I'm saying, what I'm trying to say things. And the rose would be just starting. something completely new and scary with somebody that I love and yeah it just makes it makes it that much more exciting and better being able to experience it with Mitch like together so

yeah um I feel like there's going to be a lot of growth these next few years and um I'm really I'm so excited for that so yeah oh I love that well I you have such a support system with both Thomas and I, and I'm sure Michelle now, for you two. So anything you need from afar, yes. Oh, we would love to. Anything from afar that you need, please let us know. But also, like, we're really going to try to make it out there to see you and celebrate your love because I couldn't see you off before you left me. But, but. Everything was so fast. I know, I know. And it was like also Thanksgiving week. And there was, I mean, so much was going on in your, in your world. So I wish I could have given you. you will hug goodbye, but one day very soon. Yes. But again, I know it's so late there. So thank you for calling in from Germany. Hopefully you'll acclimate to the time more in the next couple weeks.

But again, we can't wait to see your adventures. We love you. Love you guys. Give me a big hug. I'm a fun catching up. I will. Yeah. Okay.

Tell them I say hi. Tell them to say hi too. I will. I will. I will. Wait, what did he say? Good talk. Good talk.

Yeah, and Elvita Zane. Alvita Zang! Always so fun catching up with her. You really do need to meet her in person. She seems so sweet. No, it's always so fun catching up with Kendall. So many fun things in store for her and Mitch. Again, like I obviously follow her and I love watching her stories.

She's just so informative, so educational. But it's been fun to watch this new German chapter for them. So Kendall, thank you so much. congratulations to you and Mitch. Michelle, thanks for being here again this week. And of course, thank you to all of our bachelor happy hour listeners. We hope you enjoy your holidays. I hope that you have a lot of fun. Be safe if you are out celebrating for Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza, the new year, whatever it might be. Enjoy them. But again, be safe because we want you to still tune in next year. And I can't forget to before we go, we are still casting right now for

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