Bachelor Happy Hour - Love Locked In with Abigail & Noah | Golden Hour

Episode Date: September 25, 2024

Today on “Golden Hour,” we have guests Abigail and Noah from “Bachelor in Paradise.” We kick off the episode with our question of the day: What’s something you would hate to be asked on a first date? Then, we ask the “Paradise” lovebirds questions about things all couples should know before getting married — you won’t want to miss their amazing answers! Plus, we get Abigail and Noah’s take on some of your fan questions. Tune in now to hear all this and more, and be sure to subscribe. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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your comments coming and just go to bachelornation.com slash golden hour and we have some great questions today with our special guest oh we do today we have bachelor nation fan favorite couple and soon to be newlyweds and i hope not oklahoma sooner fan since i'm a texas fan we have noah herb and abigail herringer oh he's doing the upside down horn oh oh with them fighting words, Noah. We're so glad you guys are here. How are you doing? Welcome.

Hello, Kathy and Susan. We've been very excited to hop on. We think you guys are hilarious. I'm excited to talk to somebody other than Joe. And I just get right into it. Yeah, let's do. Well, first of all, do you need an officiate because you know that's what I do. I did not receive a phone call, Abigail.

You did such a great job with the Golden wedding. And just to be clear, I come with her. So if she goes, I was down in Austin, Texas at Kathy's marrying her son and his wife. But one more thing, I just loved viewing your engagement pictures. It was so pretty. And the way you pick her up, oh, it was just. Are you guys ready? She said, are we ready.

Are you ready for the wedding? Are you ready for the wedding? I think we're like planning wise, everything's pretty much planned. And then in terms of like mentally very ready. Yes. We're ready to get to the honeymoon and be married already. But very excited for the wedding and the life we're trying to create out here. Where are you going on your honeymoon?

So that's in my department. It was a little shocking two nights ago looking at flights. But the goal is go to Japan, go to Kyoto, Tokyo. some of the culture, busy city, and then go to Philippines. I've worked myself for a month. I love it.

I would love to try to go back to some of these places, you know, with her. But that's the goal. Well, if it doesn't work out, you're getting married this fall. So if none of that works out, why don't you come down to Austin and I will treat you to sweet seats

at a U of Texas football game. I know you love it. You've got to tell me twice. Don't trust us. Hey, tell me something. Are you guys doing something to the home? Are you renovating? And how is that going? We are in the middle of renovating our home. I feel like we're fixing more problems than actually renovating and creating something cool out of it. But it's a bit about a year. We moved here about a year ago. And we're pretty much done with our downstairs. We did our kitchen. We came here with no furniture. So it was just a lot of shopping for that. And then right now it's going to be 90 degrees outside and our AC decided to stop working.

So that's Noah's project for today. So Noah, no, tell us how are you what's, you started before we came on air. You started to tell us, but tell everyone else what's going on with this air conditioner. And you're the Mr. Fixit man, I hear. Yeah, something fuzzy flying there or what? So long story short, yes, we are renovating our house. Abby has turned into a phenomenal architect designer. She changes her mind a lot, which is unfortunate, but she's getting weird.

It's a woman's prerogative. It's a woman's prerogative. And I'll, I love you, Abby. I've been kind of leaning into half of the stuff is honestly so expensive. So honestly, I'm doing a lot of it myself. And I have some other rental properties. But I'm kind of leaning into just the Noah and Allie. stage of the notebook except for she's not you know cheating and acting like it's okay do you guys

want to stay there like we are a little two-man team that totally leaned into it and last night a bat flew up into my air conditioning so it's like 85 degrees in this house I'm tired of paying each guys to fix it so I'm fixing it myself today I want to keep crockin we want to know what was in the air conditioner? You said a bat? I'll take you back. I'm thinking to myself, why does this air conditioner sound like a 1989 Oldsmobile? Shut it

off. Took it all apart. You know, spent thousands of dollars in the last month paying for H-FAC stuff to be fixed. So this one I wanted to do myself. And I reached my little grubby hands in there and I felt something fuzzy. And chills down my

spine. It was a bat. Was where? were you, Abby? Where were you? Were you screaming? I was inside and joined the AC decorating the looking room. No idea. I just took a video of this that I'm going to post. I spend half my time trying to find Abby because she doesn't wear her cochlear implant half the day and walks around. It's just this game of cat and mouse. Where are you Abby? Or bat or bat and mouse? You know what that means, right? She doesn't want to be disturbed. She's doing her own thing. Meanwhile, I'm in my little Batmobile running around

and trying to fix random stuff all over. Wait, was the bat dead? For a long time. So I was gaslit by everyone I knew, everybody, because I knew I smelled something dead. And I was like, it's a mouse or something. I went crazy.

Then a week later, the smell went away. I'm like, okay, I am crazy. There's nothing dead. But a month later, it came back. The air condition was working the whole time and then all of a sudden it stopped. That's the thing. I hate to, I wasn't there, personally,

but I'm assuming he was just kind of banging around in there for a while. Oh, yes. Loved that. Well, Susan and I just got back, not just, but we were in California. We were playing golf and the weather was incredible. That's another story we can get into if we have time. That's where I was going.

Well, I live in Austin, Texas, with the heat index tape, I think it's supposed to be 110. So, you know, you've got nothing. on me. The difference is I'm chilling in air conditioning right now. I'm going to say the difference is you have a working air conditioner. Well, you know, I'm really. Well, hopefully you'll get to the bottom of that. Thank you. I'll make sure to keep you updated. All right. So we do a topic of the day and we want you guys to join in with us on this. Okay. So we ask a couple of questions and we're just going to discuss it. The first one is, what's one question you never want to be asked on a

first date? Susan, we don't even know what a first date is anymore, but you guys, what's one question you don't want to be asked? For strangers, a stranger asked me on a first date. Oh, I mean, it's a first date, so. Are you Noah from the Bachelor? That one. I don't love that one. That one's weird. Would they ask you if you're known from the Bachelor? Well, they asked me if I am Noah from the Bachelor. That one's strange to me. That's one. She might know. She might not. This one never did it. So I was. But we were on the show. We started dating. So I knew you were Noah for the Bachelor. Well, what about what's one question you wish you could ask on a first date, but never would?

What's your credit score? Pretty high. or you know that goes right along with open your mouth and and show me your teeth that is a dribble I like that any of those I think just the stuff we're all thinking but you don't want to ask it but too soon yeah it's a first date might as well get it out of the way you know find out if it's too much how about you Abby I think I would ask something just to save myself time down the road you know what's your most toxic trait or what's your breadfly?

Like, what do you look at the way? And I can decide that in there. That is perfect, Abby. That is, I think that's what I would do. What about you, Susan? Same. Oh, my gosh, I always do it. I pay for my own meal and get out of there.

You know what else I'd want to ask if they were divorced? I'd want to say, listen, let's just cut to the chase here. Did you cheat? Did she cheat? Did she, you know, like what? I didn't go down. Yeah, how to go down. And I don't want to.

want your life story. So give it to me in 30 seconds. Well, that's the good thing about you ladies is I'm very careful not to say old because you're not old, right? But you've lived life. You know, you've lived life. You're done with the BS. Let's just get down to the bottom of it. Did you cheat on him? Did you cheat on her? You know, yeah. I mean, what did you look like? Some people think we are old. Well, it's, it's, they're fools. They're just fools. You know, you know, it's funny. I say myself all the time oh i'm old but i could still kick your butt that's part of it though with the whole life experience you know you're not old but you know you you've got age and it's just another you know who cares i mean do you feel i don't feel old i mean that's like some

mornings i do abby do you does anyone ever say to you gosh you look good for your age does Does anyone ever say that to you? I know. She's too young. It's a weird thing to say, I think. But that's exactly where I was going, Noah. To Susan and me, people will stop and go, oh, you guys look so great for your age.

And I'm like, you know, screw you. Like, what does that mean? They don't say it to young people. How about this one? Oh, you can pull that off. What does that mean? I think they're talking about your, Susan, that's the guy. I can tell you that's the guy that wants a day we do

that wants you to take your shirt off. That's a whole different conversation. Women say it all that. Oh, you could pull that off. I could never. I go, is that? What is that? I've heard people say to Abby, you sound really good for a deaf girl. I'm like, that's really bizarre. Oh, my goodness. You cannot be serious.

Like, I think it's meant intentionally good, but it's all of those things are weird. Like, if you break it down, it sounds weird. But you can say, you look good. You look good. speak well you're hot well yeah any of those will work and noa really is hot right now how's that how's that temperature going to get in getting hotter like with age just is the hat on to absorb here it'll be 95 soon your hats absorbing your sweat is that it I'm wearing black for a reason I'm just

I'm just telling you if you rooted for UT if you said right now on air I love the university of Texas, your air conditioner would come right back on magically. Hey, don't tell me yet again. I know, she'll say it for anything. I don't hate UT. It's just, I want to be convinced, all right? I mean, fair enough. I'm not from Austin, but, you know, you can't live here and not support UT.

You just can't. No, you've got to have some home roots. I had that same issue when I lived in Texas coming back to being an Eagles girl. because that's my hometown. But I was with the Dallas Cowboys for nine years. I paid taxes there. I root it for the home team until they played the Eagles, of course. But up here, you might get shot.

I mean, I can't even look like I'm excited. Is paying property taxes kind of the indicator of when that's your home team? Yes. Yeah, that's what I think. When you paid property taxes, you're in bed with them. I'm in it. A minute to win it. We did Bible studies with them.

We did a lot of things with the Cowboys. I was a fan, you know, until I was, so I'm originally from Massachusetts, and I was a fan of the New England Patriots until Bill Belichick, he's 72 dating a 24-year-old. I'm so over it. She says that a lot. You like the Venetary era, the dynasty era. Darn right. Darn right.

Listen, I used to go to the games because I am old back when they played. they were the Boston Patriots and they played at Harvard Stadium from Harvard University's college stadium. Now we're showing the age. I think you're just into it. Yeah. And now it's in Foxborough, the Foxborough Follies. Okay.

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Like, that never entered into my mind. But, you know, as I learned, sometimes life gives you things wrapped in a package that you didn't expect it. And that was just, you know, and honestly, it took me a long time to be okay with myself. Make sure to listen to this week's episode of Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Yumanzoor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast.

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And this is going to be fun, guys. Way to hear this one. All right, here we go. So for our questions today with you guys, we thought it'd be fun to answer five of the top questions you and your partner should have answered or talked about before getting married to see if you guys are on the same page. And you don't have a lot of time since your big day is soon approaching. So both of you can answer, and Susan and I will chime in if you have any words of wisdom or in short, Susan and I will chime in. As you know, as we all know, Susan's a wedding efficient, so we've got an expert here if we need help.

All right, let's get going with the first one. Why do you want to get married and what does marriage mean to you? Why don't you start, Abby? I'm dating. So I want to get married just because I lived my life in my early 20 single. And that was a very fun time figuring out who I was. But there's just something about going through life with somebody, with the best friend and just doing everything together. And I just feel like that's what marriage means to me is going through the good times and the bad times. And it's been my favorite part. So I am just super excited to keep doing what we're doing. But. marry instead of engaged and did I answer good no that's a great you are I'm almost crying over here she gets an A yeah you get an A you come on you got Noah you got you got you got a lot to measure up to okay okay um why would get why would I want to get married um not why would you because that suggests that there you go it's happening Noah let's get the tense right I love this

woman um I grew up very traditional my view of marriage is, you know, kind of a covenant and you work on it just like you work on yourself and your relationship with God and your family. It's all kind of a bundle for me. I don't plan on us ever separating. We're locked in forever. Marriage is a great way to, for me, for us to kind of symbolize that and stick to it, you know. Awesome.

I got to say they both get, you both get A's. Honestly, those are two of the best answers I've ever heard. Susan, wait a minute. Susan, one more quickly. Why do you want to get married? 30 seconds or less? Why or how? Next question, please.

So how do you guys handle disagreements? And is there anything you could be doing differently? What happens when you disagree or have an argument? This was I'm learning for us because we are very different. I think naturally I'm somebody that I need space. Like if something happens, I need to kind of step away and take some time and just really think through the situation and my answer, whereas he's somebody where he wants to address it right away and talk through it, conversation, figure it out. So it was something that we both have had to work on. So I kind of

had to compromise and say, okay, I can't just leave you hanging. Like that's not fair to you, to, you know, leave you for a day or a couple hours or so forth. So I feel like I've been working on trying to talk through it the minute something starts bothering me instead of, like, waiting for it to build up. And then... That's good. You can't take the implant out and just go. That was actually one rule.

Don't just throw my cochlear across the wall and say... That was a rule growing up. I was never looking enough during conflict, so I carried off this relationship. I love that. okay um and i think we put a lot of effort into it i kind of had the privilege and honor i guess working in the ICU i got to see a lot of old very i mean older than you guys much older to hear that susan really the way he just said that old i mean even older than you guys like like dust almost dust i'm still my 60s just dialed in their dinosaur age and at the prime of their life

And I've watched, you know, the couple, somebody die, and you get to see the family and you're the spouse talk after and whatnot. And almost all of it, they boil down to like the little things really don't matter. When you've been married this long, when you're committed to each other this long, you don't really care about little things, especially when it's in comparison to death and life. So for us, it's like, if it bothers me enough that I keep thinking about it, then I stop what I. I'm doing, we tackle it. We don't go to bed angry. But if it's something that I'm like, maybe I just need it. That's where I take from her.

Maybe I should just think about it more. Like do I actually even care about this thing, you know, like the argument or whatever. But sometimes in the heat of the moment, people react. Of course. This is all the best case scenario. One thing we try to do is let her have her space, especially because I found sometimes some of our arguments literally come down to miscommunication. And I don't mean like, oh, we didn't communicate well.

I mean, literally there was a gap of communication. And we worked better if we have our conversation, she gets space. And then I text out kind of what I'm saying. So there's no, I didn't say this. I got to say you two guys, Susan and I, you know, we get a lot of people asking us advice because, as you've pointed out four times already, Noah, we are older than dirt. And so people ask us questions. and Susan and I often say it's communication and cooperation and what's the other one that I'm

you said it you got to listen to each other compromise that's the word compromise and you both used those terms so you both said you're on it you're on it like I have high hopes for this for this marriage, which makes me not want to even ask the next question. But wait, wait, before you go on, Kathy, I've been told I over-communicate. Like, I don't need to know everything you're thinking. Same. You too? Well, you know.

This relationship is over-you-can't go wrong over-communicating. It's only under-community. But this is for the guys out there. If there's guys that listen to this podcast, you know, you don't do yourself a favor by over- communicating details that she doesn't care about and or doesn't care to learn but women don't get that we want you to know every detail speak for yourself I don't exactly there's a point where it's like all right I just need to convey an emotion the details do not matter and move on all right so here's one I know this doesn't apply to you but I'm just going to torture

you for 30 seconds what does cheating mean to you and when is it a deal breaker and is cheating how do you define it kissing texting liking posts sex i mean i i'm going to go out on a limb and say that i personally consider having sex with someone cheating if it's not my partner i'm just going to go out on that limb but what do you guys consider cheating so we both said cheating was a non-negotiable um if that line gets crossed. I think just naturally I have a really hard time building trust so that that trust is gone. It's just long-reparable for me. And what cheating looks like for me is obviously anything physical, whether that's kissing, having sex. But I would say mine is almost a little bit further than that

just because I think we have a really strong, I think, emotional attachment to each other. And I think if somebody were to come in and, like, be like the emotional cheating side, I would consider that cheating just because, like, I should be the priority. Like, I should be the one you're signing to confining everything in. And once you open that up to a third party, that only opens the door up to more and more issues. So I would consider that a form of cheating. I like this kids. I love her. I think both of them, are you kidding me? I'm not kidding. You two seem to have all the answers. And I will tell you. Can I say this? You got their shit together. And I will tell you I was married almost 46 years. And I will tell you, Abby, the one thing when we were

your age back in the 1700s, we were, and talking about getting married, that was the one thing that you used exactly the word that we did. Cheating was non-negotiable. Now, we didn't have texting, you know, but exactly what you said. You know, in a fair of the- Mind, a pair of the heart. I mean, social, we didn't have social media. I mean, is that a thing for you? Because cheating for me was sort of how you just described it. What about liking posts, you know, liking someone's social Instagram or whatever?

I view it like a cup. I do a lot of things like a cup, right? If I'm wanting to say I'm going to get married to her, if not, I'll just stay dating around girls my whole life. But I'm going to say I'm going to get married to her, one person, lock it down the rest of my life. and I want everything in my cup to go towards that relationship. And if I'm throwing water out at the likes and responding to the DMs, and me personally, I have a lot of friends that are girls. I'm probably a pretty flirty person in general.

I saw the way Susan smiled when I was talking. I do too. I like everything. I just don't like. But I don't mean any harm. There's no room for error. You know, if I got one cup with one quantity of water, I want to put as much water as I can where I want it to go.

And it's just the rest of the stuff. I do the same thing, but I fill my cup with wine. Either or. Okay. So do you guys find a balance financially the way you spend your habits? And how do you stay on the same page? Is one a bigger spender than the other? So I think we were really lucky that we grew up pretty similar.

Like we whenever big spenders going into the relationship, we're both pretty frugal when it comes to our money we work really hard and i think we just have a lot of value around that um so for the most part we've actually been really on the same pace with funny habits um i would say we've probably spent equal amounts we're not going through like line by line you can't get better than this man i grew up too poor to spend a lot that's all i got to say and she's a finance background frugal you should meet her mom and her dad they're all similar the way they think. So we got fortunate with that. Wow.

It makes it easy that we have some of the same goals of what we want. So joint, are you going to have joint checking accounts? Are you going to have solo check? Because today, a lot of young married couples have his account, her account, and then a joint household account. And I think that's fine. I think however people want to do it, we're going to have a joint. You know, we're working on building together.

So a business we make will have a joint in our daily. spending and things like that um you know the old saying shared because we pretty much we're do everything together we split everything you know and then for house stuff because we're doing house things i do a lot of the work but obviously we want it it's both of us win to spend money on that stuff it's like yeah we're both kind of lined with where like if you want to splurred the random carpet or whatever some stupid purse sure but overall it's mostly just geared towards like yeah so like right now we have like a joint credit cards or anything that we do together we just put on at the end of the month and then for when we're married kind of what you said

probably like a joint checking account um it just gets so complicated with influencing the home stuff all the LLC so we're kind of navigating how to figure that out um that's a question for our i can help you with that one abby this is what you look no way in the eyes and say this to him what's mine is mine and what's yours is mine problem solved what about picking out furniture and stuff do you have an eye for furniture and do you have to ask him if he likes it prior to buying it or just get what you want so when this started it was kind of like okay I want her to just do design and be good at it and like it that's the perfect world and it did kind of turn out like that So it started, like, showing the options and stuff, and I'd just be like, that's terrible, or that's very hard to pull off.

Like, you don't know the details behind. That's hard to pull off. Now it's like, I don't think she really checks. She might get one or two options, but no. Because you like everything. They're still plenty of asking. I'm like, listen, if all of it can be congruent and come together and you like it, it's your house, I know it'll look good, do it. But don't you find it.

Noah, do you cook? Who cooks in your, who cooks in your partnership here? Who's the cook? I probably cook more often. He's a really good cook, but I think just day to day. I really enjoy cooking, so I kind of just hate that on. You're not going to do like this. If I work a lot, she'll drop off lunch that she cooks.

There's a little famine and a little, I didn't get, yeah, but we trade off. I love you too. We trade off. Wait, I want your father, your uncle. I mean, any time. Yeah, Susan, the line forms here. Get behind me. Well, he only has one brother that's single.

Too young. Oh, excuse me, wait a minute. I thought age was only a number, no. I thought age was only a number. You see how fast the worm turns there, Susan? We're back to being old as dirt. We're moving on here. I never envision being with a woman.

I'll just be honest. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, Spolitic. On this week's episode, I'm joined by basketball legend, Candice Parker, who stops by to discuss her candid new book, The Can Do Mindset, in which she shares why she waited two years into marriage to come out. Like when I close my eyes at night, every night, I was like, I need to find my prince charming. Like, it was never a princess. Like, that never entered into my mind.

But, you know, as I learned, sometimes life gives you things wrapped in the package that you didn't expect it. And that was just, you know, and honestly, it took me a long time to be okay with myself. Make sure to listen to this week's episode of Spolitics on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Yumanzoor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, We're not the podcast for you But if you have unmedicated ADHD

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A small lab in Texas is cracking the code on DNA. Using new scientific tools, they're finding clues in evidence so tiny you might just miss it. He never thought he was going to get caught, and I just looked at my computer screen. I was just like, ah, gotcha. On America's Crime Lab, we'll learn about victims and survivors, and you'll meet the team behind the scenes at Othrum, the Houston Lab that takes on the most hopeless cases to finally solve the unsolvable.

Listen to America's Crime Lab on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Okay, this is going to be fun. I put the readers on and that read. So we have some fan questions, and we want you guys to help give some advice to these questions. You go with that? Okay. Okay, guys, this is from Isabella, which is my granddaughter's name.

Isabella is 24, and she's from Round Rock, Texas. Whoa, that's right around the corner. Hi, gals. I am a bridesmaid in my friend's upcoming wedding, and I need some advice. being a bridesmaid is already an expensive ask as we're paying for our dresses the bachelorette party etc and now the bride just did something i think is a bit strange she just memo requested us all for our getting ready pajamas snacks of the day and for our hair and makeup for the day of her wedding I think I assumed she would be covering some of that, especially since she is requiring us to get all our hair done

and makeup done by her stylist. I really don't think I can afford all these additional costs. So I'm curious what you think I should do. The wedding is coming up next month and the bride is already very on edge. So I am not sure how to bring this up delicately. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks, y'all. Yeah, go.

What do you think, Abby? That one's tricky. And this is the exact reason why I didn't want any bridesmaids. It's become very common, kind of in the wedding world. It's tricky. I get both sides just because it is the prize day, and she wants a certain vision. And that's why she's getting the hair, makeup done,

or having all her bridesmaids get it done. Do I think she'd be unreasonable? Yes. I just think, I'm sorry, who, I'm sorry, who is being unreasonable? The bride. Okay, just want to make sure. Okay. I just think if you require anything from your bridesmaid. So like if you want a very specific dress, hair, makeup, you're not giving people another option. But like, Bachelor of Rec Party, like if it's an Airbnb and you're getting some use out of it, then I would think you would pitch him for that or like the snacks up, the day up, the wedding when they're,

getting ready. If you're consuming the snack, I think that's fine to pitch them for. But if you're a bride and telling brides, hey, you need to do X, Y, and Z exactly how I want it, that should be on the bride personally. Forever, the bride's family takes care of the snacks, the day of the wedding. I mean, come on. That's really. And you give them an option. Do you want your hair and makeup done? I would at least, you don't want to, you know, cause extra stress. If they're actually friends and she wants her in the wedding,

and she's happy for her to get married, I would have a conversation and say, you know, she knows her situation or she might not, but hey, some of this stuff, it's not that embarrassing. It's more embarrassing for you guys to burn her bridge. I love that. I love that.

No, I'm with you. I'm with you. We don't need match. I'll bring my own PJs. Whatever. I have white PJs. Like, if it's that big of a deal, there's ways around it.

That should be the gift from the bride, the pajamas and the snacks. Yeah. It's a bride, it's a bride really. somebody talked to her, and I hope she hears this, if somebody talks to you and you realize what you're asking, not everyone can do. You might be able to, but you're asking something that not everyone can do. And if you actually want them there. She might only be asking all this stuff because all the girls keep saying yes, because I mean, they're afraid to say no. And so she just

keep thinking, wow, everyone's on board. Okay, let me just add more to the list because no one's told her no or kind of express how, you know, difficult that is to kind of pull off financial. Once again, communicate. I do think that. weddings though my daughter got married um a few years ago and my son susan married their their wedding was in march and i kind of agree with you abby these weddings have gotten so crazy out of hand and and the pajamas noa what you don't get is you know the the bride's pictures now start you know 10 years before the wedding we've got to have what i you know what i look like at 10 what i looked at 11 and then right up to the wedding day when everyone's in there getting ready pajamas it's a thing if i want everyone to

have matching all my bros to have matching tjs i want to be there if you're i'm gonna buy because i'm the one that's going to look a specific way so i'm going to do it and what about the what is it called bachelorette parties they travel now it used to be went to dinner in a strip club or something and now they're i'm sorry i'm sorry i'm sorry for the week i mean on coronading outfits and They look so fun. All I can think about is like financially, that has to be so expensive. Wait. No reaction from you to?

A strip club? That was old school, yes. Okay, you really are older than dirt. Nobody does strip clubs. And the guys go to Vegas and get a stripper. What's a difference? I want to play golf, pickleball. Yes.

Yes. Golf and dinner. Can I come? Can I come to your bro party? Can I come to your bro party? I can play pickleball. I'll play golf. hey we need to plan a date let's do it i'll wear pajamas you know i'll bring the snacks i'll bring the snacks

the pajamas whatever all right let's move on you ready for the next one the next question is from anonymous uh 64 from green bay wisconsin hello kathy and susan i'm feeling a little embarrassed writing in but i thought i would ask for some help my late husband passed away over 10 years ago and I've struggled to get back out into dating. I feel a bit more ready now, but it has been 10 years since I've been kissed and certainly haven't done anything else intimate. I'm craving that intimacy and connection again, but I truly don't even remember how to hold someone's hand in that way.

How do you get back into that part of dating after over a decade off? I'm worried I won't be good at it anymore or that it will just make me miss my late husband all over again but I also don't want to go the rest of my life without kiss and get curious if you have any thoughts on this well I mean I do it's like riding a bike it's just like riding a bike if you're feeling something for this guy and he goes to hold your hand your handle automatically it's it's I agree I agree you guys I'm I pulled the unlucky chain here my husband passed away about five and a half years ago. And I would say to you anonymous, you will always miss your husband. He's always going to be a part of your life. But hopefully if you find this new

person, it will bring new joy into your life. And you walk hand in hand figuratively and literally with that new person, never forgetting the past and the joy you had before, but building a new life with someone else. And I think you're right, Susan. It's sort of like getting back on a bicycle. If you feel the vibe for this guy, it's going to work out fine. And don't feel like it's you when you don't feel a vibe. Just know, that's not the right one. Right. Kathy, I think you hit it on the head. The only thing I would add is you maybe bring it back to the basics. Go back to playfulness, just companionship, friendship, and then, you know, other memories can start to not replace, but fill in some of the gaps. But you got to just kind of go back to the basics,

what's comfortable, what's your idea of what you think it would be like. You kind of got to let off all those. So I have a quick question for you too. When you first met eyes, did you feel that spark? Did you know that chemistry was there? I mean, I was. say was like love at first sight like oh my gosh I just met my husband because I think we definitely grew but I would say I definitely got like we called it Fannie Flutters on Paradise but I definitely had that feeling so I felt a sort of attraction to you but I wouldn't say like oh I found my my I can't live without him but Abby don't I mean I think if you had said that without knowing him at all

the only fool I know who's ever said that was me when I met my husband at a fraternity party across room I pointed to my girlfriend that I was with and I said you see that guy over there I'm going to marry him so I'm I literally did that but in a more rational state now that I'm over the age of 20 I think that you're right you have to get you can be

physically attracted to someone but you got to get to know them to see if it's going to be your husband Well, for a little bit more context, he was the villain on his season. I knew I loved you, Noah. So was I. So that's why I was trying to navigate a little bit, was trying to get to know Noah on Paradise and our relationship and kind of separating that from what I saw on Tasia season. So I think that was my little hesitation at first. So that's why I wasn't like, oh, that's my husband. I'm going to marry him because I wasn't sure. She just said zip it. I just said zip it. And speaking,

a zip it. I want to ask you, Abby, other than picking out your snacks and your pajamas that everyone's going to chip in and pay for because you're not doing it. I know you're busy girl with this wedding, but tell me briefly, I heard you have a book coming out that you have written with your mom. Tell us a little bit about it. Yes. So The Duck Girl is a book that I worked on with my mom over the last three years. And it really kind of just details are combined experiences. hers as a parent kind of navigating, you know, getting the diagnosis that your child has a disability and kind of just all the emotions and everything on a personal level outside of kind of a doctor's appointments and audiologists. I think that was something we locked growing up. And so that was kind of a bit of motivation in writing. And then the second half is kind of my journey with hearing loss. So going up with it, navigating school, dating, dating, friendships, the show and everything. As someone that has a hearing loss, and our goal is just hopefully to support families that are going through a very similar situation that we are. I will send you guys some copies, and I really hope you guys enjoy it.

The perspective her mom has is very unique, something I can imagine. Yeah, I would love. Where does your mom live, Abby? She's in Oregon right now, and we're working on getting her out to Oklahoma with my dad. So we're getting the whole family out here. We're not working on it. they bought a house here. You're not building an addition, are you?

Yeah, really. I mean, did you grow up in Oregon? I did. Yeah. And you grew up, Noah, in Oklahoma. Yep. Wow. Wow.

Really now. Never thought I. You know, we have just a couple of seconds left. I just find it interesting that so many people in Bachelor Nation, both male and female are traveling nurses. Are you still a traveling nurse? Once always. I did the last eight years, and I love it.

Right now, I'm so focused on real estate in our house and other stuff. It's hard for me to do both, to be honest. Yeah. So I'm on a break right now. I've had to use my nursing skills, oddly enough, randomly back in Tulsa, but right now it's all home, home stuff. It's taking up all this time right now. Did it ready?

guys plan to have babies? Yes. I think ideally we want to wait just a couple of years get this house. We want to travel around with each other. Listen, I'm, you're not asking my, how old are you guys? 29. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So, you know, you have, you have plenty of good years. And I will say to you, not that you're asking, but as I said, Susan, are full of advice. You, you have, you have kids when you want them but you understand something you have them the rest of your life and this is the only time that you guys

can enjoy each other and do the things you want to do because once you have Golden bachelorette wisdom we agree that's enjoy each other yeah enjoy each other but when you do have babies

Susan I'll come and help you take care of them we're good you know we have you know I have 10 brothers and sisters now, or not now, I always have. 10? And they've got... What number were you? I'm a twin. My twin was just on the show. We're number

7 and 8. That's right. I have a twin. I have a twin. I don't have a two. But I would love a Susie Kathy babysitter. Because I'm Uncle No-No, I feel like you guys are being good a lot. We'll come for the weekend. You can have the weekend. I want pajamas snacks.

I want pajamas snacks. Yeah, exactly. My grandfather name is Kiki. There you go. My grandmother's name is Kiki, and let me just tell you, I deserve an award. I was at my daughter's house this morning. My daughter is the flu. Her baby had the flu. Her husband had to leave very early this morning.

Again, yeah, she had COVID three weeks ago, and so did the baby. I was over at her house in my car, at her house at 6.30 this morning to be there with the baby's bottle when she woke up, change her diaper, make her breakfast, feed the daughter. the dog, let the dog out. She's a good, me, me. You're hired. I love babies. I love babies.

All right. Well, this does it. We've had so much fun, but this is going to do it for this episode of Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour. Thank you, truly thank you guys. Abigail and Noah for joining us. Your advice, your relationship with each other. Your marriage is going to be wonderful.

I know it. I feel it. And I know Susan and I, along with everyone else, wish you a lifetime of joy and happiness and your upcoming marriage. What is the date? It is beginning of October. We're kind of a specific date. Okay. Okay.

Just a few more weeks. It's all good. I wish you all the very best. We love you guys. Thank you guys for having us on. Thank you. I knew we would. I wasn't sure what you'd be like here exactly if not better than thought.

Do we look younger in person? Noah, do we look younger in person? Do what? Do we look younger in person? Yeah, you guys look so good for your age. I knew that was coming. You asked for that. Thank you again, guys.

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